Our society is based on instant gratification, which is enjoyable when it comes to streaming shows and music. It’s not so enjoyable when it impacts our interpersonal relationships and sometimes creates more conflict than necessary. In this episode, I discuss the importance of creating space between conflict and reaction so that you can respond in a way that feels good for you.

I’ve noticed a tendency in myself and my clients to want to rush through emotions, especially when these emotions are strong and what someone would typically label as negative. Tying this into attachment theory, this also feeds into the cycle of disconnect we begin to feel with our partners.

The way to avoid falling into the same old fights?

Take a moment to pause. WAIT before you respond until your emotional reaction isn’t running the show. It’s the only way to choose a new path, rather than to get sucked into the same track.

If you don’t like the experience you’re having in life, whether it be with other people, your habits, job, etc, the best thing you can do is take time to reflect and figure out what needs to change. I can give you all the coaching tools in the world, but if you aren’t creating space to put them to use, they don’t have as much power to change your life.

**Disclaimer: I do ask the permission of others (in this case my client and my previous partner) before I mention anything about them in my podcast. All consent was given before posting :)