Exit The Drinking Life: Recent Episodes
Debi Talbert Intentional Living and Alcohol Freedom Coach
Welcome to Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I’m thrilled that you’re here. I’m your host Debi Talbert, retired Flight Attendant, creator of the EXIT Methodology, advocate for living your best and most intentional life, plus an alcohol freedom coach.
I’ve been right where you are right now, feeling stuck and trapped in this drinking life. I never thought I’d find my way out. Alcohol first came into my life to help me feel comfortable fitting in. But as life went on, it grew into my #1 way of coping with life.
I started to fall into the belief that having a drink would rescue me and be the quick fix whenever I felt overwhelmed, anxious, or stressed. Sound familiar? I went from thinking I was broken and would never be fixed to discovering that the root of my struggles was not me… it was my approach!
That’s exactly why I’ve created this podcast. For those of you desiring a change. You’re aware of your drinking habits are something you want to change and you’re ready to put yourself back into the Captain's seat of your life and relationship with alcohol.
For more resources head over to JumpseatCoaching.com
Today, I’m sharing a new technique I learned from an unlikely source. No matter where it originated from, I truly believe it’s an easy and effective way to help facilitate more confidence and self-trust as you’re taking steps to facilitate your EXIT from drinking.
I am diving into this technique below because I want to help you gain confidence so that you can change your relationship with alcohol. I know what it’s like to have that inward battle, and any little thing that helps is actually a big thing – so embrace this technique as a useful tool!
Here is what we talk about:
- My Own EXIT Journey
- Introducing the Superhero Pose
Finding a way to build self-trust is so important, and I really believe this small exercise can make a world of difference in that department. I can’t wait to hear your feedback once you try it!
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Circle: https://jsc.circle.so/home
CONNECT WITH TERI:
Website: https://www.thesobernutritionist.com/
Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/teri.thesobernutritionist/
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/teri.thesobernutritionist
EPISODE RESOURCES:
Private Coaching: https://jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
Today, I’m sharing my conversation with Teri Patterson, host of The Sober Edge Podcast. This is part of her coaching series. She and I met in the This Naked Mind training and I’m actually her coach! I encouraged her to start her podcast, so it was so fun to be a guest of hers.
Teri and I really dive into the Tiny Habits concept and BJ Fogg’s Behavior Model, which I’ve spoken about on this podcast before. She asks me some thought-provoking questions about these topics and I really explain how his framework allows for deeper awareness and understanding, which are major players in an EXIT from drinking.
Here is what we talk about:
- Habits and Coaching
- What Do People Get Wrong About Habits?
- The Behavior Change Master Plan
- Tiny Habits & Tiny Habit Recipes
It was so great to share my thoughts and knowledge on Tiny Habits and the Behavior Model with Teri, and I hope she got just as much out of it as I did from learning about it originally!
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Circle: https://jsc.circle.so/home
CONNECT WITH TERI:
Website: https://www.thesobernutritionist.com/
Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/teri.thesobernutritionist/
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/teri.thesobernutritionist
EPISODE RESOURCES:
Private Coaching: https://jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
The Tiny Habits Book: https://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Habits-Changes-Change-Everything/dp/0358362776/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3NIJLAXIDGK04&keywords=bj+fogg+tiny+habits+book&qid=1644870035&s=books&sprefix=BJ+Fogg+%2Cstripbooks%2C67&sr=1-1
I’m wrapping up my series on the Tiny Habits book and process! Today’s episode is all about going through some activities that act as tools within this process. These tools will assist you in really diving into your EXIT and allowing you to identify the behaviors that hold the key to positive change.
While these activities are easy to do, they can have a significant impact on how you look at where you can make changes in order to pursue the life that you want to live. How exciting is that?
Here is what I cover in this episode:
- Defining Your Aspiration
- Exploring Behavior Options
- Focus Mapping
I’ve used these tools myself to facilitate my own EXIT, so I can tell you firsthand how useful they are in taking a step away from the drinking cycle. Now, all that’s left for you to do is to tap into them with me!
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Circle: https://jsc.circle.so/home
EPISODE RESOURCES:
Private Coaching: https://jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
The Tiny Habits Book: https://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Habits-Changes-Change-Everything/dp/0358362776/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3NIJLAXIDGK04&keywords=bj+fogg+tiny+habits+book&qid=1644870035&s=books&sprefix=BJ+Fogg+%2Cstripbooks%2C67&sr=1-1
As I continue my series on the Tiny Habits book and training by BJ Fogg, I’m covering a new topic today: ability. This episode is all about ability, the ability chain, and specific prompts you can ask yourself here.
I have a deep-seated belief in the Tiny Habits book and BJ Fogg’s behavior model, and the ability piece is just as important as the past elements I’ve covered! The ability chain is an interesting aspect of the model, and I dive into the different pieces of it in this episode.
Here is what I cover in this episode:
- Understanding the Ability Chain
- Prompts Surrounding Ability
Taking the time to uncover your thoughts through the prompts I provide on this episode will ignite your curiosity surrounding the way you currently operate and relate to alcohol. From there, you can start exploring how you can change your approach and - ultimately - make your EXIT.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Circle: https://jsc.circle.so/home
EPISODE RESOURCES:
Join the Alcohol Freedom Workshop, based upon self-compassion, self-care and celebrating the small changes that change everything: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/freedom
The Tiny Habits Book: https://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Habits-Changes-Change-Everything/dp/0358362776/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3NIJLAXIDGK04&keywords=bj+fogg+tiny+habits+book&qid=1644870035&s=books&sprefix=BJ+Fogg+%2Cstripbooks%2C67&sr=1-1
We hear the term motivation a lot, but what does it actually mean? And furthermore, can it help us reach our goals, particularly when it comes to making our EXIT from drinking?
Understanding motivation and how unreliable it is when used alone to achieve a goal is of paramount importance when it comes to understanding BJ Fogg’s behavior model. That’s what I talk about in today's episode, which dives further into the Tiny Habits book and training that I’m a strong believer in.
Here is what I cover in this episode:
- Motivation as an Unreliable Way of Helping Ourselves
- What I’ve Learned About Motivation
- Questions for You About Motivation
Gaining an understanding of motivations, competing motivations, and how they interact with our thoughts, prompts, and actions will help you to better pursue your EXIT from the drinking life. This is one small piece that makes a big difference in the way you approach your epic life!
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Circle: https://jsc.circle.so/home
EPISODE RESOURCES:
Join the Alcohol Freedom Workshop, based upon self-compassion, self-care and celebrating the small changes that change everything:
https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/freedom
So often, we have the urge to push away our emotions, especially when dealing with substance abuse issues. In fact, that could be a lot of the reason we decide to drink, because it’s a way to “take the edge off” of our emotions. But, I’ve come to learn that trusting myself to feel and experience my emotions has made a world of difference in living my epic life.
Understanding our behaviors is the first step in changing your approach to your emotions and beginning to unblock your EXIT. That’s what I talk about in today's episode, which focuses a lot on the Tiny Habits book and training that I’m a strong believer in.
Here is what I cover in this episode:
- Getting Rid of the Need to “Take the Edge Off”
- The Tiny Habits Behavior Model
- The Phases of the Behavior Change Master Plan
It’s really not about getting rid of any behaviors, but rather, untangling them to gain a better understanding of them. That’s what I want to help you to do in order to reach a better place in trusting yourself to feel and experience your emotions.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Circle: https://jsc.circle.so/home
EPISODE RESOURCES:
Private Coaching: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
The Tiny Habits Book: https://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Habits-Changes-Change-Everything/dp/0358362776/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3NIJLAXIDGK04&keywords=bj+fogg+tiny+habits+book&qid=1644870035&s=books&sprefix=BJ+Fogg+%2Cstripbooks%2C67&sr=1-1
I talk a lot about you making your EXIT and utilizing the EXIT methodology to do so. But, do you really understand what that means or what the strategy associated with it is? That’s what I want to fill you in on in today’s episode.
When we don’t have a strategy, that’s when we end up floundering in our efforts to stop drinking. But the EXIT strategy helps you unblock your exit and make the change you’ve been yearning for.
Here are the different components of the EXIT strategy that I go over:
- Examine, Explore, & Experiment
- X Out
- Ignite Curiosity
- Trust Yourself to Figure Things Out
- Move Your Body
- Help Your Brain Chill Out
These six components of the EXIT strategy are key in helping you take a new approach to your EXIT: an approach that works! Choosing even one of these steps can help you get started on your journey towards an alcohol-free lifestyle.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Circle: https://jsc.circle.so/home
EPISODE RESOURCES:
Private Coaching: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
Our beliefs are incredibly powerful, yet they’re something that silently guides us throughout life without much thought. Why is that? And how does that impact the way that we make our EXIT from drinking? In the episode, I tackle those very questions with my Power of Belief Training.
Our beliefs come from thoughts, and we have thousands of them every day running through our heads without us even realizing it. Changing a thought is the first step to changing our actions, and I want you to tap into that power to change your life for the better.
Here’s what I share in the episode:
- More on The EXIT Methodology
- What Is a Belief?
- Where Do Beliefs Come From?
- Your “Leave Everything Behind” Moment
- Using Questions to Uncover Your Beliefs
- Question Your Beliefs and Reflect
Really examining, exploring, and experimenting with your beliefs will help you unblock your EXIT in ways you never thought possible. Trust me - let’s work on it together!
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Circle: https://jsc.circle.so/home
EPISODE RESOURCES:
Private Coaching: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
Ep #87 - A Conversation on Rediscovering Yourself Without Alcohol with Scott Pinyard: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/blog?p=rediscovering-yourself-beyond-alcohol-87
Ep #88 - Three Valuable Lessons of 2021: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/blog?p=epic-life-lessons-88
While 2021 has been done for over a month, I’ve had some time to reflect on what the year itself taught me. Having come to a conclusion on that, I wanted to now share those thoughts with you. So, this episode is all about the top three lessons I learned in 2021.
Here’s what I share in the episode:
- Lesson #1: The Power of Celebration
- Lesson #2: The Power of Tiny
- Lesson #3: Slowing Down to Speed Up
Taking this time to reflect and learn is so important to the growing process. I believe that these lessons not only have an impact on me, but if you learn and apply them, they could be beneficial for you as well!
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Circle: https://jsc.circle.so/home
EPISODE RESOURCES:
Private Coaching: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
In this special episode of EXIT the Drinking Life, I join This Naked Mind head coach Scott Pinyard to answer some audience-sourced questions about leaving alcohol behind and living a sober life. Besides that, we talk about rediscovering yourself without alcohol and all about the services I offer through my coaching.
Some of the topics we cover are:
- Who I Serve Through My Coaching
- Who Am I Without Alcohol?
- Is This Feeling Normal?
- Reframing your mindset to transform your life
Answering these questions was not only interesting - it was really fun! I love sharing my experiences and knowledge with all of you and it was such a treat to get Scott’s input as well. I hope you have as much fun listening to this as I had recording it.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Circle: https://jsc.circle.so/home
CONNECT WITH SCOTT: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/scott-pinyard/
EPISODE RESOURCES
Private Coaching: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
Ready to help shift your mindset around your belief system surrounding alcohol?
A belief is a thought you just keep on thinking…it’s something you’ve thought so many times and so often you don’t even realize you’re thinking it.
I want to take a closer look at the layers of beliefs surrounding alcohol and how you can change your beliefs!
Ready to peel back the layers with me?
In this episode we’re going to be covering; Substance, Society, and Self.
Make sure to tune into episode 85 if you haven’t already to catch up on the power of beliefs, as we take a closer dive in on today’s episode.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Private Coaching: http://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
Ep 85 - You Can Choose to Believe Anything You Want: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/blog?p=power-of-belief-85
What is a belief?
We have thoughts all the time…
What happens when you’ve thought a thought so many times you don’t even recognize you’re thinking it?
This is when it becomes a belief system.
Did you know—belief systems are 100% optional.
My intent is to help you discover:
- The biggest issues with our belief systems
- Learn how beliefs are formed
- Why we so desperately hold onto our beliefs
- Gain an understanding that we can choose to believe anything we want
- Your oxygen mask tactic AKA Tiny Habit Recipes to help you uncover what you believe
We hold the power in our own hands to change our power of belief.
What do you believe?
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Private Coaching: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
You didn’t think it could happen in your own home, did you?
Or that it could be the child you know from across the street?
How about the boy or girl whose face gets lost in the crowd because they don’t have a family and a solidified place to call home?
Human trafficking is all around us, and it is not just an international battle that we’re facing. Right here, right in front of us, it’s prevalent and we need to be more aware, start having those conversations with our kids, and look out for signs.
January is National Slavery and Human Trafficking Prevention Month. Every year since 2010, the President has dedicated the month to raising awareness about the different forms of human trafficking, also known as modern slavery, and educating people about this crime and how to spot it.
I want to really bring this forward and remove the stigma surrounding human trafficking, so I invited this week's guest, Catharine Paterno, to join me in this conversation and provide her own knowledge and experience. She is dedicated to serving all the families and children she meets and is beyond thrilled to be working for Opportunity. Cat is devoted to providing families with the support and resources they need to create happy, healthy, and safe environments for their children.
With the right resources at our disposal and this newfound knowledge from this podcast episode, you will know what signs to look out for and to help prevent human trafficking. Listen to the full episode to hear my conversation with Caterine Paterno on Human Trafficking Prevention Month and the role that addiction & substance abuse play in these situations.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Private Coaching: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
EPISODE RESOURCES
Great Resource Website: https://polarisproject.org
Learn more about Cat & Opportunity: https://www.opportunitypbc.org/about-us-staff
Resource Phone Numbers:
State of Florida: Call 800-962-2873
Nationwide: Call 888-373-7888 or Text HELP to 233-733
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life podcast, I am talking about different ways in which you can look at your life and happiness. Through key shifts in how you pursue true joy, you can begin living the life you’ve always dreamed of. I want you to have an epic life and to stop numbing your emotions with alcohol, and these shifts are step one of harnessing that ability.
Some of the topics I discuss in this episode are:
- A Vital Shift in Focus
- What Society Tells Us About Life
- The Analogy of the Pitcher Bug
It’s sad but true that society tells us a lot about how we should act and pursue happiness. It can be hard to rewire our brains away from those messages and stories, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. And here’s what I can promise you - taking the time and putting in the work to change your own story is MORE than worth it.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Private Coaching: http://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I explain coaching and all of the benefits of working with a coach. I also dive into how you can start living your own epic life. I’m so grateful for all of the epicness that my life encompasses, and I want you to experience the same phenomenon for yourself!
Some of the topics I discuss in this episode are:
- All About Having a Coach
- What Coaching Helps With
- The Path to Your Epic Life
You can shed the tendency to numb your feelings and unlock the ability to feel everything and dive deep into different perspectives. These perspectives will afford you the ability to make beautiful connections and prompt a beautiful life you’ll love living.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Enroll in the 6-week Alcohol Interruption Workshop: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/freedom
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I talk about how your common thought patterns are sabotaging your success with getting out of the toxic drinking cycle. It’s easy to fall into negative thought patterns, but there’s one word to avoid that can help change that.
Some of the topics I discuss in this episode are:
- Symbolism of change
- Examining your thoughts
- The one word to avoid
- How I can help you
The way you think about yourself and talk to yourself dictates how you are. Sometimes, I know we find ourselves in a rut where it seems it’s impossible to change your thoughts. But it’s a practice pattern, meaning that when you do it so much, it becomes normal. Once you know the one word to change, your EXIT will become that much easier.
You’ve already embodied the EXIT mentality in other aspects of your life, and if you can do that with what you’ve already achieved, imagine how you can apply that to finally getting out of the cycle and knowing that you can achieve the impossible with exiting the drinking life.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Enroll in the 6-week Alcohol Interruption Workshop: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/freedom
It’s a hard fact to face, but the reality is that getting out of the cycle starts with changing the way you think. Once you’re able to do that, you can actually start achieving what you thought was impossible.
Some of the topics I discuss in this episode are:
- How my story revealed my “impossible” mindset
- You’ve already achieved the impossible in your past
- What the word “freedom” means to you
- My 6-week Alcohol Interruption Workshop
Think about the things that you have already overcome in your life, about all the changes and the transformations that you have navigated your way through. I’m sure you’ve experienced times when you created new routines and ways of living where you thought you’d never achieve the impossible.
You have already embodied the EXIT mentality in other aspects of your life, and if you can do that with what you’ve already achieved, imagine how you can apply that to finally getting out of the cycle! Know that you CAN achieve the impossible and exit the drinking life.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Enroll in the 6-week Alcohol Interruption Workshop:
https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/freedom
In this special episode of EXIT the drinking life, I talk with Pam Price, who has found her own EXIT out of the drinking life and has transformed her life into living purposefully as an alcohol coach and yoga instructor. We discuss how your mindset is tricking you into believing it’s impossible to let go of alcohol and what you can do to change that.
Some of the topics we cover are:
- Pam’s journey to transforming her life
- Losing the word “forever” in your vocabulary
- Accepting that failure is a part of the process
- Reframing your mindset to transform your life
Together, we talk about Pam’s key “oxygen mask tactics” she used to help her finally leave the drinking life behind. It truly does feel impossible to get out when you’re stuck in that cycle. But, we’re here to help shed light and hope that it is possible for you to change.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Ready to create a better future, transform your relationship with yourself, and EXIT the drinking life with confidence? Join the six-week Alcohol Interruption Workshop today: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/freedom
CONNECT WITH PAM
Website: https://www.truebluesoul.com
In this episode of EXIT the drinking life, I talk about how your conscious and subconscious beliefs are automating your behaviors around alcohol. I go over the ways you can start the conversation with your mind, yourself, and me, to finally EXIT the cycle.
Some of the topics I discuss in this episode are:
- Letting go of alcohol during the holidays
- The gift of giving
- Conscious vs. subconscious beliefs
- Falling in love with your flawesome self
I know this is the hardest time of the year to change your behaviors around letting go of alcohol, whether you want to have less or none at all. As you listen, my hope is that you’ll discover the ways you can overcome those behaviors, while also taking the opportunity to start the conversation with me, no obligations.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
Ready to create a better future, transform your relationship with yourself, and EXIT the drinking life with confidence? Join the six-week Alcohol Interruption Workshop today: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/freedom
EPISODE RESOURCES
Episode 72 - The One Thing You Need to Stop the Drinking Cycle of Shame & Regret: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/blog?p=drinking-cycle-72
Episode 73 - Taking Steps To Change Your Thinking in Order to Change Your Life: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/blog?p=change-your-thinking-change-your-life-73
Episode 74 - How to Embrace Discomfort in Your EXIT Journey (& Why It’s So Important): https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/blog?p=how-to-embrace-discomfort-74
I’ll Meet You books: https://illmeetyoubooks.com
In this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I talk about how you can stop self-sabotaging your EXIT journey throughout the most tempting time of the year -- the holidays.
I know how it feels to walk into family events with the fear of “what ifs.” Maybe this is your first time filling your cup with something other than alcohol, or you're already deep into your EXIT journey. No matter the case, I’m here to help you stay confident in your journey and learn how to stop self-sabotaging your own success.
Some of the topics I discuss in this episode are:
- Fears connected to the past
- Your inner-dialogue
- The power of your thoughts
- How to stop self-sabotage
I hope that this episode helps to give you confidence as you walk into your family events and continue down the road to your EXIT journey.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES:
Join the FREE 5-Day Mindset Shift Program: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/ignite
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I talk about how you can erase the all or nothing mentality and finally EXIT from the toxic cycles that are controlling your life.
Some of the topics I discuss in this episode are:
- Why the all-or-nothing mindset isn’t realistic
- Shifting your perspective
- Changing the way you think about alcohol
- Owning your story
I hope this episode encourages you to look at yourself through a different lens as you navigate through your EXIT journey.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Private Coaching: http://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
In this episode of the Exit the Drinking Life podcast, I’m joined by Pam McRae, who shares her EXIT story and her struggles with sobriety during times of high stress. We dive into the topic of staying sober over the holidays and how to deal with grief in relation to your EXIT during this time of year.
While this season is typically accompanied by some challenges for those dealing with substance addiction and grief, there are ways to make it more manageable and even enjoyable. Most of them revolve around a key shift in mindset.
Some topics we cover are:
- Pam’s EXIT Story
- Collecting Data on How Your Sober Life Makes You Feel
- How You Can Stay Sober During the Holidays
- How Grief Relates to Your EXIT and the Holidays
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
CONNECT WITH PAM
Official Website: https://www.forwardfreedom.one
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I’m concluding my three-part series on something I truly believe that everyone needs to practice in order to EXIT the drinking cycle: embracing discomfort.
I’m explaining why this is so important in your EXIT journey and how you can start practicing small habits that enable you to embrace discomfort effectively.
Some of the topics I discuss in this episode are:
- The Cycle of Figuring Things Out
- Habits to Help You Embrace Discomfort
- Embracing Discomfort as the Key to Your EXIT
I hope that this episode helps you to understand why it’s important to learn to embrace discomfort in your own EXIT journey.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I’m continuing my three-part series on something I truly believe that everyone needs to practice in order to EXIT the drinking cycle: believing on purpose.
I’m explaining what this concept is, why it’s important, and breaking down how you can put it into practice for your own benefit.
Some of the topics I discuss in this episode are:
- What Is “Believing on Purpose”?
- The Shine Effect
- Building Self-Confidence
- Determining Your Reality
- Oxygen Mask Tactic
I hope that this episode helps you to understand why it’s important to change the stories you tell yourself in your own EXIT journey.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Private Coaching: http://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/breakthrough
Ep #72 - The Key to Quitting Alcohol: Part 1:
https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/blog?p=drinking-cycle-72
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I’m starting a three-part series on something I truly believe that everyone needs in order to EXIT the drinking cycle: self-confidence.
I’m delving into what holds people back from having the self-confidence they need and how to begin to build yours so that you can put yourself on the road to your successful EXIT.
Some of the topics I discuss in this episode are:
- The Feeling of Missing Out
- Opening Yourself Up to the Possibility of Your EXIT
- The Self-Confidence Shift
- Deciphering Your Thoughts
I hope that this episode helps you start understanding the connection between self-confidence and a successful EXIT.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I’m connecting with my friend Tabbin Almond. Tabbin experienced her own EXIT from the drinking life and is a breast cancer survivor. She’s sharing all the details of her story with us today.
Tabbin not only shares her story but emphasizes the importance of following your gut and listening to your instincts, which is an important part of her journey.
Some of the topics Tabbin covers in this episode are:
- Her Early Years
- Her Journey with Alcohol
- Her Journey with Breast Cancer
- Undressing Her Underlying Beliefs
- The Freedom that Accompanied her EXIT
- What Tabbin Learned from Breast Cancer
I hope that you find it inspiring to hear Tabbin’s story and that it helps to shed light on why it’s so important to address your underlying beliefs about alcohol and follow your gut.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Alcohol Use & Cancer: https://www.cancer.org/cancer/cancer-causes/diet-physical-activity/alcohol-use-and-cancer.html
CONNECT WITH TABBIN
Website: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I’m conveying just how much the words we tell ourselves impact our ability to exit the drinking life.
The word “can’t” makes it into our vocabulary far too often, prompting us to feel deprived, restricted, and all out miserable. When we’re giving up drinking, we need to hack our brains and replace the “can’ts” with all of the positive reasons we’re looking to make a change.
Some of the topics and questions raised in this episode are:
- Words evoke certain emotions
- Post-Traumatic Restriction Disorder (PTRD)
- Changing the words inside your head
I hope that this episode ignites your curiosity around the way you’re talking to yourself and what the words you use mean for your attitude towards your own exit strategy. Sometimes, allowing yourself to feel less deprived and more empowered is as simple as deleting a “can’t” and reframing your own thoughts.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Speak Life by Toby Mac: https://myktis.com/songs/speak-life/
Maybe you’ve already experienced this:
• A deep knowing your relationship with alcohol is damaging.
• Several attempts at changing how you drink, but nothing sticks.
• Deep feelings of shame, guilt, and regret.
• A lack of simple day-to-day joy.
Maybe you’ve accepted this is just how life is.
I want you to know it doesn’t have to be.
To help you with a method that actually let's you interrupt your habits without feeling like you are missing out, I've put together a 6 week Sober October Experiment!
With a 100% 6-week money-back guarantee. YES, 100% money-back guarantee.
Are you willing to dedicate yourself to changing your thinking, and ending the control alcohol has over your life?
A study conducted by One Year No Beer found these results for people who gave up alcohol for 4 weeks:
• 73% were more productive
• 74% had reduced anxiety
• 82% had dramatically improved sleep
• 73% of participants lost weight
• 92% were much happier!! (did you get that!? Not just happier, but much happier)
Check out what I've put together for you....
.....imagine a life happier and more at peace.
I'd love to have you join me in this experiment.
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On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I’m sharing my revelations on how nothing outside of us actually creates the feelings that exist inside of us. The reality is that we create our feelings and the experiences of our lives through our own thoughts and actions.
There are so many feelings that society imposes on us, dictating that we “should” feel a certain way when XYZ happens. But what happens when the opposite is true? I explore that here, along with how you can change your thoughts around alcohol throughout your EXIT journey.
Some of the topics and questions raised in this episode are:
- The power of reframing our thoughts
- Reliance on alcohol to dictate feelings
- Challenging yourself to think differently
I hope that this episode ignites your curiosity around the way you’re approaching your feelings and how you alter them with the power of your thoughts and mindset. As you make your EXIT from drinking, it can be hard to imagine who you’ll be or how you’ll be happy without your beverage of choice. But approaching your feelings and thoughts differently can go a long way in easing these worries.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I’m diving into how important it is to imagine a future you, free of the hold alcohol has on you. Our brains are wired to either assume we can’t reach this new version of ourselves or to think we’ll wake up a completely different person through this change. However, if you go about imagining this future you with the right frame of mind, it can be a really powerful part of your journey.
Some of the topics and questions raised in this episode are:
- How I struggled during my EXIT journey to envision the “future me”
- The natural human tendencies that stand in the way of envisioning your journey to success
- The importance of this “future self” in your EXIT journey
I hope that this episode brings awareness to the fact that even when it feels like a complete impossibility that one day alcohol will be an irrelevant part of your life. Imagining a future you where that’s the case can help you come out the other side.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
CONNECT WITH DEBI
Official Website: https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/debitalbert
Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@debitalbert
EPISODE RESOURCES
Episode #66 The Key to Redefining Your Relationship with Alcohol: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-key-to-redefining-your-relationship-with-alcohol/id1342512942?i=1000534409968
Episode #67 What Happens When You Quit Alcohol? A Look Inside the EXIT Methodology: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-happens-when-you-quit-alcohol-a-look-inside/id1342512942?i=1000535122964
Doubt Island - Certain Island: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doubt-island-certain-island/id1342512942?i=1000505524048
Inside Out: https://youtu.be/yRUAzGQ3nSY
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I’m joined by Gayle, who is coming to us all the way from Australia. Gayle shares with us her EXIT story, as well as the fears she faced surrounding quitting alcohol and what came after alcohol was out of her life.
Some of the topics and questions raised in this episode are:
- Gayle’s story of recognizing she had an issue, deciding to stop drinking, and where that journey took her.
- Some of the common fears that accompany the idea of quitting alcohol.
- Addressing those fears and normalizing an alcohol-free life.
- The amazing benefits that come from exiting an alcohol addiction.
It’s my hope that hearing Gayle’s incredible story will do exactly for you what hearing the stories of others did for her: inspire you to continue on your EXIT journey, wherever in the process you may be.
Gayle’s story does a beautiful job showing the full evolution between having a problem, recognizing it, making a change, and embracing that new life.
If you’re ready to begin planning your own EXIT strategy, head over to the website to read more on theEXIT and Beyond Membership!
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
On this episode of Exit The Drinking Life Podcast, I’m questioning what you view as your drinking identity and whether it’s currently serving you. While many of us realize that we want alcohol to stop being so important to us, we fail to realize that the current drinking identity we harbor keeps us from attaining the freedom we desire.
Some of the topics and questions raised in this episode are:
- How does focusing on where you don’t want to be, rather than where you do want to be, impact the way you see yourself and approach your goals?
- Is taking your current identity into the future with you sabotaging your success?
- Recognizing the cycle of experimenting, acting out, igniting curiosity, and trusting yourself to achieve the ultimate goal: the exit.
- The importance of naming your current alcohol identity and questioning if you want to keep it.
I hope that this episode motivated you to really examine what your current drinking identity is and whether it’s something that can help prompt the permanent transformation that you seek. I believe that significant life changes come from applying the lessons you learn and discovering your own self-image, as you journey through your metamorphosis.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, please take a second to hit the follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more listeners just like you looking to break away from the toxic cycles of drinking and discover a healthier approach that leads to a life full of abundance and happiness.
If you want to take what you’ve learned here to the next level, head over to jumpseatcoaching.com for more resources and tools. See you back here in the next episode!
In this episode I want to talk you through a way to think about these moments and share tips to help you navigate them in a way that help you move towards the new relationship you want to have with alcohol.
For support taking what you are learning here head over to JumpseatCoaching.com
In today's episode Lorna, a fellow This Naked Mind Sr. Certified Coach, and I share her story. Her ups and downs with attempting to exit the cycle as well as how she exited the cycle.
Listen in to this story because it will help you. You'll learn you aren't alone. You'll discover possibility and hope.
Lorna believes that each of us has a yearning to be fulfilled, a desire to feel safe and strong in the decisions we make, and a right to find a ‘clarity of purpose’ as we move through our lives. Through her own life experiences Lorna learned first-hand what alcohol can do to your body, mind and spirit.
For support exiting the cycle of drinking, over drink shame or regret reach out to either one of us.
Connect with Lorna here: LornaWilsonCoaching.com
Connect with Debi here: JumpseatCoaching.com
When it comes to the impact alcohol has on our beautifully working human brains, there isn't a great deal of education. However what I've found work with my clients is this type of awareness brings them hope. A belief into the work of possibility for themselves. This simple shift helps them ease up on their internal shame and blame.
In today episode:
- Discover what's really happening after the 1st 20 minutes
- Why you feel this pull to consume more
- What to do to help you achieve what you are truly seeking
How coaching helped me: Hey there I’m Debi Talbert I’m so excited you are considering joining EXIT & Beyond Membership. I want to mention I’ve always had this passion for personal growth and development. I loved the things I was learning. The processes and applying them to my life, yet I found myself with this gap of how I wanted to live, yet not being able to do it consistently. Then I found Life Coaching and everything shifted. Coaching really closed the gap for me. The tools and processes helped me end my turbulent relationship with alcohol, find freedom, discover a joy for life I never that would be possible for me and help others do the same in their lives. My fellow flight attendant’s sitting next to me on the Jumpseat became some of my first clients. This is how I came up with my business name and the name for methodology.
My goal is to help you make alcohol a small and irrelevant part of your life. To discover more joy and happiness in life and your relationships. To have the tools and self confidence to navigate the salty parts of life while feeling empowered and capable. To openly experience all of your emotions. To relish the sweet parts of life. And to savior your entire experience of life.
If that sounds like something you want, I’d love to have you join. You’ll find all the details below. If you want all the tings I described but would rather have a private experience, then click the Start The Conversation button to book a Zoom chat with me.
There is a big gap between what people want and what people actually do when it comes to the topic of alcohol. Sadly, the big disconnect around this topic tends to blame the person. Most people stuck in the cycle of drinking and then over drinking end up blaming and shaming themselves.
Today I'm sharing with you the power of small.
What you will discover in this episode:
- How starting small leads to the feeling of success
- How this feeling leads to more success
- A tool to help you begin making small steps towards transforming your relationship with alcohol
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:
- EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership
When it comes to the topic of alcohol, drinking less of it or stopping, we have this great skill of beating ourselves up. Blaming ourselves for our inability to change.
The truth is, this only keeps us stuck in our unwanted pattern.
What you will discover in this episode:
- How to hack your brains built in pleasure center
- Why this skill will help you untangle the over drinking habit
- 3 tools to help you built this brain hack into your life
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:
- EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership
It’s all about balancing the comfortable with the uncomfortable.
If you want to create your own unique relationship with alcohol, with yourself in the Captains seat, then…this is your work.
The drinking rate has skyrocketed during the past 15 months. If your current relationship with alcohol is something you want to re-evaluate, then know....my specialty is helping you do just that while learning to savor the entire experience.
What you will discover in today's episode:
- One of the most important things to embrace while you change what you drink
- Why seeing your life only as your future self is a problem.
- What happens when you plan for the future without considering where you are now.
- How to become your future self while still regarding your current self.
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:
- EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership
In today's episode I'm going to teach you how to make decision from your future. It's a higher level of thinking. Remembering and repeating your past does not require as much of you as thinking from your future. I love the concept of thinking from our future. What would the you, that is already achieved, that has already become, that has already where you want to be, how would they make these decisions?
What you will discover:
- How your view of your own future impacts your current self
- The importance of a clear vision of your future
- Imagination is more important than knowledge
- Stop letting your past impact your current self and future self
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:
- EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership
How much of your time do you spend thinking about what your life with less alcohol in it would be like?
This week, I’m sharing how important it is to know what you actually do what.
If you find yourself arguing with reality, focusing on the past, making excuses, justifying your choices, or beating yourself up about it, I invite you to try on the questions I’m posing to you today.
There is so much power in observing and owning what you truly, deeply want.
What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
- Why knowing what you want is necessary
- A tool to help you easier discover exactly what you want
- The importance of observing things how you already have things you want
What you will discover:
- This is a journey - not a quick fix
- The stories you tell yourself matter
- It's possible to transform your relationship with alcohol AND remain your socializing, extraverted self.
- Where the "fun" actually comes from
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:
- EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership
- This Naked Mind Coaching
What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
- We don’t need to be a “better” person
- The perfect storm affect
- Why we choose to believe certain things are true without question.
- The power of asking “what if.”
This episode is brought to you by EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership.
If you want to design, claim and create your own unique relationship with alcohol. One based on how it fits in the life you want to live, then this is the place for you.
The lenses we see the world and ourselves through are completely optional and we can wear as many different lenses on this journey called life as we want. Did you know that?
Too many of us are comparing our “prescriptions” to other people’s, trying on their glasses, thinking, “My journey has to look like theirs" But friends, we are all unique and this journey is going to require your own unique prescription and I’m inviting you to try on some new ones.
Join me this week as I show you what the process of changing lenses has looked like for me over the journey of growing my own business, and how so many of you are wearing damaging lenses that make it impossible for you to see all the ways in which you are amazing and accomplished right now.
What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
- Why comparing your journey to other people’s and trying to do what they’re doing won’t work.
- What the process of changing lenses looked like for me on my business growth journey.
- The damaging kinds of lenses we wear on our EXIT journey making it hard to see where we really are.
This episode is brought to you by EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership. If you want to design, claim and create your own unique relationship with alcohol. One based on how it fits in the life you want to live, then this is the place for you.
Listen in as Christy and I chat all about integrative medicine, our nervous system, and the lies our brain tells us all day long. Ignite your curiosity and trust you'll get exactly what you need.
Referenced in the episode:
Jumpseat Coaching
Dance Yourself Clean Coaching
The Tapping Solution
My mission is to help every woman love what they see in the mirror with their own eyes. My dream is to rebrand the messaging around solving over drinking, updating the known methodology to match what current behavior change studies have proven to be more effective.
I know exactly what it's like to let the idea of forever along with the stigma and shame associated with even needing help drinking less does to a person's self-image.
What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
- What I've put together to help other women just like myself
- The why behind the EXIT Methodology
- A whole new approach to solving over drinking
- A special offer during the month of May.
Program referenced: EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership
Recourses and support available at JumpseatCoaching.com
What if there is more than one way to change what you drink? What if all your past attempts are learning you to create the exact relationship you want.
What You’ll Learn:
- Cycles of change
- Changing what you make failure mean
- The power of your belief
- About the brain negativity bias
- Retraining the brain
I've created brand new resources and options for help for you. Head over to JumpseatCoaching.com to check them out.
Because we have a human brain, we fly back and forth between these 2 islands a lot.
The moment you tell yourself you are done, making a change....
Your brain starts to send you all kinds of messages about how hard this is going to be.
On the same token, the brain loves to learn new things and wants to change.
You can catch yourself in the back and forth between
- I got this
- This is too hard
- I got this I'm a rock star
- Who are you kidding, you can't do this
I know, I've been there with my drinking......
I'm there all the time when it comes to building my business.
This gap flying is why I belong to my own coaching membership the tools, resources, and coaching in there help me to “mind the gap (put in the audio)
This gap flying is why I share a variety of tools, tactics, tips, and resources. Think of me as your Flight Attendant helping you navigate your way to your closest EXIT.
In this Episode You'll Learn:
What the Gap Is
How To Know When You Are Focusing on the gap
Why you end up back on Doubt Island
How to stay on Certain Island so you achieve your goal
Help created specifically to help you end the over drinking cycle
What you'll learn in this episode:
- The truth about alcohol and happiness
- 4 Neurochemicals of the brain's pleasure center
- Tips to help you practice activating the brain pleasure center on purpose
- Ways to boost your own natural high
Mentioned on the episode:
EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership
Opportunity to win an annual scholarship to EXIT & Beyond
DayBreaker DOSE program
In this episode, I want to talk to you about the main themes and topics that I teach and go into detail about why I teach them. Listen in as I cover the following areas that I think are crucial for everyone to understand:
- The importance of the words we use
- The concept of Self Coaching
- The power of knowing how to process your emotions
- Relationships (with yourself and others)
- Belief systems
I teach all of these topics in EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership, with my private clients, and throughout past podcast episodes. If you can get your head around these concepts and apply them, you’re going to be able to get unstuck from the drinking life cycle faster as well as live a much more accelerated and exciting life.
Completing these 3 things each morning will train your brain to see your future.
IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:* Key to long turn success * Skills you already have to bring along on the journey * Why this works
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:Podcast Giveaway and 2021 Annual Gift Package
It takes time and patience to really do this work. The space between awareness you are indeed drinking too much alcohol for your life and figuring out how to make alcohol small and irrelevant in your life requires the skills of delaying gratification, leaning into discomfort, being OK with trying new things, and be ok with going against the grain.
In order to navigate all the way to success, the journey requires resilience.
IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:* How to apply EXIT to help make the navigation less messy * Why more than 1 compelling reason is necessary * A simple process to create as many compelling reasons as you need.
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:The 2021 Annual Gift
Podcast review giveaway
First off, know that this happens to a lot of people. We wake up and feel terrible and think "that's it - no more hangovers. I'm done!" But, as the day goes on we start to feel better and the memory of how that hangover felt fades away. Then the usual cues hit and we start to falter. We start to think: "Maybe I can quit next week" or "One drink wouldn't be that bad" and we talk ourselves back into it.
This is very common and it has a lot to do with our perception of the cost vs the benefit of drinking. Early in the day we can feel the effects of drinking from the night before, and so the costs seem high and the benefits seem non-existent. However, as the day goes on the cost seems lower because we're feeling better and we're encountering all the things that trigger us to drink - stress, work, family - so the benefits of drinking seem higher. And when the benefits outweigh the costs, you guessed it, we decide to drink.
I’m talking about motivating ourselves by beating ourselves up. This is a huge issue because it not only hinders us from moving forward, but it’s also something that can be so insidious we don’t even see that it’s happening.
So in this episode, I’m sharing what beating yourself up can look like (it might not be what you think!) and why it’s actually detrimental to your success.
I’ll be giving you the low-down on why this behavior affects your journey and sharing tools to motivate yourself differently so you can quit the negative self-talk and feel better in all aspects of your life.
IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:
- What beating yourself up can look like.
- Why we beat ourselves up and how it creates a false belief on the path to success.
- The five components of the thought model.
- Five steps to stop beating yourself up as a form of motivation
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:
Podcast Giveaway
Holiday Gift
IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:* About my own personal blooper * Examples of how I applied the EXIT tools * How long it actually took me to exit the drinking life * What I'm discovering from other people * What alcohol actually is * Why I no longer put it into my body.
Mentioned in Today's Episode: The giveaway
Other free resources
Have you wanted to join EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership but you just don't have the money? Do you love the podcast and want others to get help from it too?
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Hey my friend, how are you? So glad to have you here, so glad to be recording this for you today.
Listen, if you want to get started exiting the drinking life and I’m pretty sure you do or you would not be listening to this podcast, I want to make sure that you get my Jumpstart Guide. This is a beautiful starting off point for you.
It’s a really quick easy read with some powerful tools you can start using right away to help you change what you drink.
Simply go to JumpseatCoaching.com
IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:
- How to get the EXIT Quick Start Guide
- What happens in our minds that gets us off course, even when we’re doing everything right.
- How to get past the discouragement.
- Why you should expect and embrace the “hard.”
- The benefits of getting through hard things.
- Why you should return to your breath
Today, I want to talk about when it’s really hard to choose something to drink other than alcohol. I believe all of us have been there at one time or another because if it was always easy, then we wouldn’t still be talking about it, we wouldn’t have all the sober curious books, the mindful drinks movement, the variety of podcasts about getting, staying, remaining sober or drinking less alcohol.
When it feels really hard to make a different choice, our primitive brains, that part of our brain that’s just wanting to keep us alive, just really starts to go into overdrive.
We can start to let it take over and run the show, and then it’s all drama, it’s all horror, it’s all, “This is terrible. It’s too hard, I can’t do it,” and then before we know it, we’re back in our old patterns of avoiding our emotions and numbing out of our life with alcohol.
I want to talk to you about what to do when the journey of change really feeling challenging.
When you’re doing all of the things: examining your thoughts and beliefs, processing your urges and your negative emotions, you’re doing the thought work, you’re deciding to drink from a conscious decision instead of an unconscious automatic one, you’re taking care of yourself personally by moving your body more, getting as much rest as you can and choosing healthier foods and it is still just hard.
We often think like, “I thought by this point, it should be easier.” We start thinking, “Something’s going wrong. It shouldn’t be this hard. It’s easier for other people. I wish it were that easy for me. Look at that girl, she’s drinking wine all the time and look how good she has it. It’s not fair. Why do I have to suck at making this easy? Everyone else seems to be thinking this is easy and it’s still not for me. I’ve been at this a long time. It shouldn’t require so much mental effort anymore. I shouldn’t have to work so hard at this. It’s really discouraging that this seems so challenging still. I don’t know if I can keep this up forever.”
These are the stories that our brain offers us. Oftentimes my clients will say, “I don’t want to have to live like this forever. I want to be able to just not want it. I want to be able to have a drink every once in a while and not go off the deep end.
And those are our thoughts about our experience of doing what it takes to exit the drinking life and make alcohol a small and irrelevant part of our lives.
We think we’re just telling it like it is, “Like it is hard. I’m just being real. I’m just telling the truth. I’m just sharing what it’s like for me,” but in actuality what we’re doing is we’re stacking the pain, we’re stacking the discomfort and the difficulty and the challenge. We’re stacking the resistance and making the experience of changing what you drink even more uncomfortable with the way that we’re thinking about it.
So many of us believe life with less or no alcohol in it is too hard or not something that we can sustain.
And if you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while or if you’ve known you needed to exit the life of drinking, over-drinking, shame, and regret for a while and you just haven’t been doing it, I’m talking to you.
We just have this idea of like, “It’s going to be too hard,” or “There’s going to be a right time to do it,” or “I just need to get through this difficult period, then I’m going to be able to focus on it.”
But what’s actually too hard to sustain is doing all of the things that help us change what we drink while thinking terrible feeling thoughts about ourselves our lives, our bodies, and the process of exiting the drinking.
Focusing on what we’re missing out on and how other people are responding to us making this change all of that.
It’s the way that we are choosing to interpret the journey that causing the true pain and suffering.
One way of approaching this is encouraging yourself to say yes to the process, to all of it.
It kind of reminds me of being pregnant. Saying yes to the entire experience.
The morning sickness, the tiredness, the extra weight, the mood swings, the moving growing human inside of us.
How about that? Say yes to the entire process saying yes to the process, especially the hard parts.
For those of you who’ve never been pregnant. Think of a time in your life when you signed on for something. Something you know would involve saying yes to the sucky parts as well as the wonderful parts.
This is how I like to think about doing hard things.
But….let’s just talk about it in the framework of exiting the drinking life. Ending that over-drinking cycle. I truly do get it. I’ve been on it, in it. I tried changing what I drank for 7 years. Trust me, I get it.”
But this is the way I believe committing to and saying yes to the entire process is a really great way to thinking about it. A way that can really serve you when it feels hard.
Imagine you’ve signed on to get your Masters. You’re there for the degrees. You know you’re going to have to take some classes that you really aren’t going to like it because it’s part of the program. It’s just how it is. You take a certain number of classes every semester or maybe you’re just taking it, one class, at a time…..
And your current class might be allowing urges. Last semester maybe you took Examining Your Beliefs and maybe you took Fully Dialing in on your emotions.
So if you were taking these classes to get your Master’s Degree would you expect it to be easy?
Most people wouldn’t go into this journey of getting their Master’s Degrees and believe or think things like “What do you mean this is challenging?
I thought this was just going to be something I was going to completely coast through.
Like I’m completely shocked. Why is this so hard? Why isn’t it getting easier? I mean, Gosh, now I’m doing this thing and this seems hard too. Now I’m in this class, this class seems even harder than the classes I took last semester.”
They get harder as you go along sometimes. Of course, we would expect it to be hard. We would, of course, expect ourselves to work hard.
Most people go into this thinking and believing “Okay, this is the real deal. Like I’m going to have to buckle down. I’m going to really have to make sure I focus and study.”
What if that was the way you approached your exit journey. As though nothing was going wrong when it was hard? When allowing urges is hard, you’re like, “Yes,” yes to this, because you know why? Because I want the results of being in control of alcohol instead of it being in control of me.
Yes, I really want to master trusting myself to figure this out. I want to untangle the beliefs and thoughts keeping me stuck. I want to achieve my goal of exiting the drinking life, ending the love-hate relationship I have with myself.
This journey is not one you can “cheat the system” with. You can’t sneak your way through the course or copy your neighbor to get the end results you want. In order to exit the drinking life for good, to make alcohol small and irrelevant, you have to say yes to the hard work. Yes to all of it.
You have to say yes to the days when your urges are pretty easy to process and they’re pretty mild and they’re really not that strong and yes to the days where they feel super intense.
You have to say yes to the days where you are so restless and all you want to do is drink wine to calm your body down and yes to the days where it was really a great day and it was really pretty easy and things were simple for you.
You have to say yes to having your thoughts totally dialed in and yes, to create a creatively constructed plan to attend an event in order to stay with your plan of not consuming alcohol. Probably extremely uncomfortable the first time, maybe even the 2nd, or 3rd time but you commit to making it work because of the end result you want.
You have to say yes to getting enough sleep when you can and yes to sleepless nights and exhaustion the next day. By saying yes to all of it, we’re dropping the resistance, we’re dropping the belief that something is going wrong and then it should be different than it is.
It shouldn’t be any different than it is.
The belief that it should be different, it should be easier, it shouldn’t be so challenging is what’s making it so much more challenging.
It’s the opposite of what we think.
We think we’re just telling the truth, but if it was supposed to be different, it would be different.
It’s not different, it is exactly how it should be.
In fact, the harder it is, the more of an amazing accomplishment it is on the other side when you’ve achieved it.
The more chances you have to evolve as a human being into your highest and best self.
This is how you really grow.
Think about how great it will feel when you’ve come through this class.
Like you’ve gone through this process, this program. You’re going to come out on the other end feeling so accomplished, but this opportunity is only there for you if you say yes to the experience.
What many of you do is you take a couple of classes or maybe you start your first class and then you’re just like, “This seems hard. I’m just going to back out of it. This isn’t a good time. I can’t focus on this.” And then you have to start again. Your credits don’t transfer. You have to start all over again.
Some of you make it to the second semester, senior year, and then you go, “You know what? Forget it,” and then you have to start at the beginning again, and that’s completely fine, but just recognize what you’re doing when it’s the second semester, senior year and you’re just going, “Yeah, screw it.” You’re not saying yes to the experience. The key is to make this journey feel “less hard” is to say yes to the easy and the hard, the wins and the losses, the failures upon failures, the mistakes upon mistakes. It’s all part of the process.
Besides saying yes, what else can we do to keep ourselves going forward in the face of incredible challenges?
Sometimes it’s really, really hard.
Things are happening in your life or you’re trucking along and now there are some significant challenges. Maybe you’ve had the loss of a close family member or friend, maybe it’s something really big that is happening. Maybe you’re having a big relationship change. Maybe there’s some big-time stuff happening at work and it’s so easy then to be like, “I can’t take on one more thing. I barely was holding it together with this drinking less thing anyway. I’m just going to have to take a break,” and you know what taking a break means, it means just getting in the way back.
Another tool you can use when you catch yourself wanting to break away and quit moving towards your desired outcome is to bring the focus back to just this one present moment. The easiest way to do that is to focus on your breath.
Truly focus on it. Bring your mind to your breath and let yourself notice right where you are right then. When we are in the “I can’t take it any long” mindset, we’ve taking our focus too far out into the future. We’re projecting the worst case in our heads, even if we aren’t saying it out loud.
By bringing yourself to your own breath, this brings you into the current, present moment.
Because when it’s hard we can tend to catastrophes about the challenge.
We think, “Well today was really hard, so there’s no way I’m going to be able to keep this up long term,” or “This whole week has been hard,” or “This whole month has been hard. There’s no way I’m going to be able to keep this up on going.” “I can’t see myself being able to do this month after month, week after week.” “I don’t know how I’m going to hold it together while I’m on vacation,” or through the holidays or over the summer or whatever is a challenge.
What I want to offer to you is that you don’t have to entertain any of those concerns in your head. They seem really important and necessary to think about, but I promise you, you really don’t. All you need to think about is what you’re going to do today.
And when your brain tells you it’s too hard and you’ll never be able to keep it up, you can just agree with this.
That’s again saying, yes, you’re not it, you’re not going, “Oh, I shouldn’t be thinking that I’m not going to be able to keep it up,” instead going, “Yeah, maybe I won’t be able to keep it up forever, but I will keep it up today.”
That is saying yes to the hardship and the difficulty. It’s acknowledging your experience and not asking yourself to think any differently about the future. You’re not saying that the way that you’re thinking about it as wrong or that it ought to be different. Instead, you’re just reminding yourself that you don’t have to make any of those decisions today.
Some people will say, “We'll wait, if I decide that I’m not going to really drink anymore, seriously, I’m not going to like have a champagne toast at my daughter’s wedding?” Well, considering that she’s three right now, we probably don’t need to worry about it. It’s probably not something that you have to decide on right now, but your brain is going to go to that. Like, “What about this? What about that? You’re never going to have this. What if you go to Italy, you’re not going to have any wine?” I don’t need to know. I don’t need to decide that today. When that opportunity and that experience arises, I will make the best decision for myself for that day.
Many of us talk about living in the present and all you have is the present moment. And there’s a lot of truth to that, and we can apply that to our experience of changing what we are drinking too.
because so much of what feels the most uncomfortable is when we’re looking into the future and creating a story of how awful it’s going to be and/or when we look to the past and we tell ourselves a story of how awful and horrible and difficult it was and uncomfortable. And then we project that into the future and go, “Well, that’s exactly how it’s going to be. I wasn’t able to keep it up then so I won’t be able to keep it up in the future as well.”
This way you don’t have to resist your experience so much. You say yes to today. Today is an unplanned day. The end. That is what you’re doing. Combine saying yes to all of it, the whole experience, to dropping the resistance and then to just committing to doing what you said you were going to do today and knowing that you don’t need to worry about the rest of that. When your brain offers up, “What about this? What about that? What am I going to do here? What am I going to have then?” Just remember, “I don’t need to decide that right now. I will decide when it’s necessary for me to decide that.”
This is huge, huge stuff. Really, really helpful.
Remember to get that Jumpstart your Exit Guide by heading to JumpseatCoaching.com/jumpstart.
Right now EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership is not accepting new members but we will be opening up again the first week of January. The best way to make sure you are notified when we are accepting members again is to get on my email list. By getting your own Jumpstart Guide you will be added to my email list. PLUS the Jumpstart Guide will get you going on your own unique exit journey.
Have a wonderful week and I will talk to you very soon. Take care of bye-bye.
Keep noticing the thoughts that come up for you when drinking shows up in your consciousness - they all point to your beliefs. You may notice it in the patterns of thoughts or how your moods shift throughout the day.
Make sure you are journaling and recording how you feel each day. If possible, record your thoughts and emotions around the parts of the day when you experience the most triggers. Being aware of how you're reacting mentally and emotionally can go a long way toward getting a sense of your beliefs.
- List your triggers and get very curious about them - what is it about that situation, that triggers you? The belief is underneath the trigger, and it’s driving the conscious thoughts of alcohol that are creating your urge to drink.
- Ignite curiosity while hanging out with friends. Notice their conversations, verbalize the thoughts you have about alcohol, discuss it all with someone.
Have questions - Bring them to me at here - https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/AskDebi
The idea for this episode came to me while attending a networking event this morning. As I record this it’s the Tuesday before Thanksgiving here in the United States. The episode will go live on Thanksgiving day. In addition to sharing what you do and who it is you help, the coordinate of the meeting asked people to share something they are grateful for.
For me, I’m actually grateful for all the changes 2020 has brought into my life. When I pause and truly think it through, COVID has forced me to re-decide a lot of things in my life. The company I’d worked for since 1983 offered an amazing retirement buyout package, this was actually offered in the exact same year they’d paid out 2 months of pay for a bonus. The highest bonus payout in the companies history.
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
- What a decision is
- The power of making decisions
- What happens when we prolong decisions or procrastinate.
- Why we leave decisions unmade.
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE
- Last week’s Episode - 6 Steps to Jumpstart Your EXIT from the Drinking Life
- Learn More About My Program
- Subscribe to the Show Over on YouTube
- Free Resources
If you think about how most people live their lives – most is not even an exaggeration either – most people live their life on default. They are living at the effect of decisions that were made by no conscious choice. They’re just defaulting into previously made decisions or un-thoughtful decisions.
People keep drinking as they have, they eating in ways that adversely affect their bodies, live in the same house, stay married to the same person, have the same job because it’s something they decided oh so long ago.
We aren’t taught to pause and rethink these things unless something forces us to.
2020 has forced many of us to rethink plenty of things in our lives.
I believe that decisions are where we can find the power to create the lives we want to create and evolve into the highest version of ourselves.
Unfortunately, and inexplicably, most of us stop making decisions on purpose as we get older.
We simply fall into patterns of living out the decisions we have made in the past or think if we don’t decide, then we can avoid the discomfort.
This pattern we allowed ourselves to fall into is part of the reason everything happening around us right now feels so darn hard.
A decision is simply a commitment to a thought, feeling, and action that creates a result.
First, everything is optional.
The longer I apply and coach using EXIT principles - uncovering my thoughts, bringing in awareness as to how the thoughts make me feel and how my feelings are affecting my actions, reactions or my nonaction, create the results in my life, the more I realize that the most painful trap we can fall into is the thought/belief that there is not a choice.
When we forget there is always a choice, we get stuck in suffering because we believe we have to live out the “negative” decisions of our past. We start to feel like our life is a list of “have to-dos”.
When I remind my clients there is nothing they have to do and that they have complete free will, they are often very confused.
Many of them have not considered that much of what they are currently doing is something they either really want to do (take care of their kids, work the job because of the paycheck, clean the house because they like how it looks and feels, cook the food because they like eating healthy) or that they could stop doing if they chose to (clean the house themselves, spend time with family they rather not, follow someone else’s manual for them)
The process of evaluating your life in a way that gives you your power back is imperative
What’s interesting is that it often doesn’t mean you will change what you are doing, but it will change how you feel about it and how you think about it.
This can be one of the most freeing exercises to take your power back in your life
When you understand that there is always a choice.
That you don’t have to continue the decisions of your past and you don’t have to follow anyone else’s idea of how you should live you change the question you ask yourself.
Your power question then becomes - Would I choose this again today?
When you understand that there's always a consequence to every thought you think (the result that comes from thinking the thought), you can take ownership of the results, desirable AND undesirable, that you currently have.
Then from that place, you can decide if you want to keep signing up for mandatory suffering, or if you want to take advantage of an opportunity that involves voluntary discomfort but also the promise of less suffering for the rest of your life.
Most of your first times with new experiences in your life alcohol free will bring up thoughts leading to uncomfortable emotions and feelings. Know this is an amazing opportunity to create new neural pathways in your brain.
The more you experience getting through events without drinking, the easier it gets. Eventually, even if you're surrounded by alcohol and people drinking, you'll notice the old thoughts leading to worry won't be there.
- Make a plan - set yourself up for success! Use the If than tactic. If this happens, then I will do this.
- Visualize yourself at the event and how you’ll respond - see yourself following through with how you want to behave. See yourself responding in a way that is comfortable for you.
- There will always be unknowns
- Have a committed listener on call - someone who knows what you’re doing, that you’re committed to being alcohol-free for the event, and who you can speak with (at the event or by phone). Sometimes we just need to say what we’re feeling and thinking, to someone who’s in our corner.
- Leave if you need to! Know where you can go and how you can get there - home, your hotel, a friend's place, etc. You are free to leave and it doesn’t mean anything about you if you choose to.
If you have a question you'd like me to help you with, then let me know here - https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/AskDebi
How often have you told yourself that your drinking isn’t “that bad”
How often have you talked about needing to get a handle on your over drinking but never make the decision to do what it requires to actually do it?
How often have you blown off your goals, telling yourself that you'll start again on Monday?
To me, this is locking yourself in your own prison from the inside because we want to avoid voluntary discomfort.
And by avoiding it, we're actually signing up for the mandatory suffering that's to going to come.
In today's episode, I’m going to share how igniting curiosity is the key to opening the prison door.
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:
Six steps to quick start your EXIT from the drinking life
Learn More about my Program
FREE Training: The Key to What's Been Making it So Hard
You'll learn about the growth of the industry. Why the growth is happening now and where you can find some gorgeous, delicious alcohol free options.
Referenced in the show today:
Martha's amazing resource over at Clear Power Coaching.
Debi's membership site
Lyre's Non-Alcoholic spirts
Gruvi - non-alcoholic beer and wine options
In this episode, I talk about how our thoughts can aid us with gradual improvement and the small steps we can take to ensure our minds don’t get the better of us.
I’ll recount a personal story of how I recently experienced the feeling of success and how you can, too, by simply changing the rules you have set up for yourself in your mind.
I’ll explain that completing small tasks, like hitting play to hear this podcast or persevering despite how many times you make a mistake, should be considered successes.
Listen in to find out how to stop feeling like a failure and how you can redefine what it means to succeed.
IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:
- How to redefine what success looks like to you.
- Small steps you can take to feel successful.
REFERENCED IN TODAY’S EPISODE:
- Reservations for 6 at Six - Get you 6PM brain back in alignment with you 6AM brain. - offered exclusively inside EXIT & Beyond
- Exit & Beyond Life Coaching Membership
What you'll discover is how planning helps with exiting the drinking life plus some new ideas to open up your mind to.
In today's episode you'll learn:
- What does creating time with your mind mean?
- What are some of the benefits to our brains when we plan?
- Examine beliefs
- X-out the beliefs keeping them stuck
- Ignite curiosity
- Trust themselves to figure it out.
- Tiny, baby steps and celebrating them.
- Your Daily Directive Process - It’s possible……
Mentioned on today episode:
Tyson Bradley Coaching
New YouTube Channel
Exit & Beyond Life Coaching Membership
One of my main goals of the show is to help you become an expert at applying the model, so you can use it to work past negative emotions and stay on track with your goals, whatever they may be.
You’ll hear me talk about why it’s so important to know the difference between your circumstances and your thoughts, and how this will help you be a more compassionate observer of your mind.
IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:
- The crucial difference between a circumstance and a thought.
- Why so many of us think our circumstances are our problem, and why we try so hard to change them.
- That you don’t have to change a difficult situation or person in your life – just your experience of them.
- How to speak to yourself compassionately and better understand your underlying emotions.
Mentioned on today episode:
New YouTube Channel
Exit & Beyond Life Coaching Membership
It hit me that Halloween is just a few days away. Which means the holiday season is about to begin.
Personally, I think the holiday season is the best, best time to get your ticket and board the transformation flight to alcohol freedom. I know, I know many of you are thinking I’m crazy right about now….
Let me just tell you why I think this is the ideal time to allow yourself to tackle exiting the drinking life inside a program like EXIT & Beyond. All times are actually a perfect time to do it, but I think this is a great time because of all of the holidays that are coming.
During this pandemic, most people are spending their days at home and many have found themselves over drinking, overeating, and gaining weight. Although more alcohol and food are normal during stressful and overwhelming times, “quarantine” should not be used as an excuse to put keep over drinking. So today I want to discuss how to overcome the defeatist attitude you may be facing and help you push through this coming year healthier and stronger than ever.
Listen in as I share four reasons why you should not wait for your current situation to be over before you tackle exiting the drinking life. You will learn how to combat negative thought patterns and take advantage of opportunities as they come into your life.
If you are ready to love yourself to a place where you no longer need food or alcohol to get through tough times, this is the episode for you.
Mentioned in the show - Exit & Beyond Life Coaching Membership
IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:
- Why now is the perfect time to end the drink, over drink, shame and regret cycle.
- How to overcome a defeatist attitude.
- Ways to battle your negative thoughts.
- Why self-love is important when coping with stress.
- Four reasons you should tackle exiting the drinking life now.
- The importance of listening to your body.
WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:
- The struggle wellness professionals have when it comes to addressing the topic of alcohol
- How the belief of "normal" vs "alcoholic" keeps the conversation from coming up
- The power of better questions
- How Teri's helping the wellness professional help their clients
MENTIONED IN THE SHOW:
Teri's program exclusively for wellness professionals - The Sober Edge
EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership
https://www.thesobernutritionist.com
WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:
- The #1 skill I use to get and remain alcohol free for over 4 years.
- How to point your brain in the direction you'd like to go
- The power of unconsciously thought patterns and how to change them.
- Questions you can ask yourself
MENTIONED IN THE SHOW:
Ask Debi
EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership
I want to give you 5 tips today to help you make achieving the goal of changing what you drink a little bit easier for yourself.
1 - Start now. Your brain will tell you that this isn’t the best time, this is the wrong time.
2 - Be willing to go through the messy middle.
3 - Become a part of the 1% club. It is the small, easy, consistent things you do that actually create the biggest results in life.
4 - Be Patient.
5 - Choose to have fun with the process. Tiny celebrations.
Referenced in the show - EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership
There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so ~ William Shakespeare.
We have neurons that are firing and wiring in our brains. When they’re firing and wiring they send off chemical reactions and we just call those things feelings. Our feelings are what drive our actions. Our feelings come from our thoughts.
How would life be different if we stopping thinking of our feelings as good or bad or right or wrong? Would this shift allow us to end the over drinking habit?
Listen is as I show my insight.
WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER in today Episode:
- The 2 things going on if you’re not where you want to be
- Why removing blame and shame is the only way to exit the cycle
- How allowing yourself to be present with your emotions can be life-changing
Mentioned in the show:
EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership
In today’s episode, I invite you to challenge the idea that actions are “good” “bad” "right" or "wrong". How would your life be different if you let go of assigning a good or bad right or wrong meaning to actions?
What you'll discover in today's episode:
- Why there is so much power is letting go of assigning good, bad, right, or wrong to action.
- How continuing to believe this lie fuels your drinking habit
- A better way to think of your action
Mentioned in today show:
Exit and Beyond Life Coaching Membership
The journey of living a life free from the influence of outside substances like alcohol is one that goes outside the norm. What is considered “normal behavior.” Because of this, you can sometimes feel isolated and alone. Especially when you are new at navigating this world.
Terri Hug decided to create something to help with getting to know yourself again and connecting with others who’ve also made the choice to live an alcohol-free lifestyle.
In this episode you’ll learn:
- The true meaning of the word sober
- How tiny steps make a big impact
- Bit more about Debi
- Why Terri created The Sober Box
- How The Sober Box can help you exiting the drinking life
Referenced in the show:
EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership
The Sober Box
What I wanted was to change my desire…..I just wished I could desire less of it. I remember so desperately wanting to not want alcohol.
I was unhappy, exhausted, and uncomfortable with the direction my life was headed and my drinking was getting in the way of me making the changes I
I kept finding myself going to get that drink again, and again knowing how it was going to turn out.
I was frightened about so many things. Would I sleep at night, what would I do with my time, how would I keep friends, how would I relieve stress, how would I celebrate something amazing, who would console me when I was down.
What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
- The most dangerous weapon we use against ourselves on our journey to exit the drinking life
- How to use your past failures as a tool.
- Why you have a choice in whether having a drink is a tool or a weapon.
- How taking action from a place of frustration or obligation makes it more painful than it needs to be.
- Why planning can be one of your most valuable tools.
Once we are down, we keep right on beating ourselves up when we are down. Then we drink even more.
Tools to help you EXIT
Examine your beliefs about alcohol & what life without it will be
X-out the ones holding you back
Ignite curiosity
Trust yourself to figure this out
If you want to take what you are learning in the podcast further, then I’d love to be your Life and Alcohol Freedom Coach. Come apply to join by going to JumpseatCoaching.com/membership
Yes, it's considered "normal" to drink alcohol. However, when we begin to appreciate that it’s interfering with how we want to show up in life, our brain starts to offer us up all kinds of stories pointing us away from changing.
This everyday childs play tool just might give you the shift you need to embrace the journey so you can change what you drink without judgment.
Small changes are much more realistic to incorporate into your life but they make a big impact.
These small change will make a big impact:
Examine yourbeliefs
X-out the ones holding you back
Ignite curiosity
Trust yourself to figure this out
Referenced in this episode:
- Grey's Anatomy clip
- Harvard Study
- Exit & Beyond Membership
I get questions like these a lot...."What is wrong with me? Why can't I figure this over drinking thing out?" "Why can I just cut back and stop thinking about alcohol?"
My short answer to all of these questions is BELIEF.
Today, I'm inviting you to listen in as I share what beliefs are. How belief affects our actions. Plus what you can do to start uncovering your beliefs.
As long as a belief exists for you that alcohol is benefiting you in some way, you won’t be able to take the actions to change your relationship with alcohol.
Listen in this week as I share some of the most common excuses and reasons people give me for why their situation is different or unique, and why your brain will always try to prove that to you.
I’m highlighting some of the lessons I teach here that are key to changing your relationship with alcohol, and from there, you’ll be able to start uncovering your own personal beliefs so you can see for yourself what's truly been holding you back.
FEATURED ON THE SHOW:
When you’re ready to exit the drinking life and take what you’re learning on the podcast to the next level, come check out my Exit & Beyond Membership Program.
Come hang out with me on YouTube - I've just begun a brand new channel
Visit JumpseatCoaching.com to find out how to claim your free Desire Dampener Program.
We can accept the pain that will inevitably come along in life and be more alive for it.
We don’t need to suffer.
When we argue with our pain or think that we shouldn’t be feeling it, we suffer.
We find all sorts of ways to create unnecessary emotional suffering.
But when we’re suffering, we’re not showing up fully for life.
We’re robbing ourselves of the life we could have.
In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into emotional suffering and why we create pain around our pain.
In our modern lives, we’re called on to evolve in this new way. We don’t need to just survive; we need to thrive. And learning to stop suffering is a huge part of that.
Leave a review and enter to win....click here to see detail in Episode 25....
Because we've used alcohol for so long to avoid feeling our feelings, we may not not how to actually allow ourselves to feel them.
This is the audio portion of a video training I did teaching a 7 step process for feeling your feelings.
In this episode, we'll dive deep into the idea of necessary darkness and crossing the river of misery. We're going to be uncomfortable on this journey of life and transforming our relationship with alcohol, no matter what we do.
We get to choose whether we want the discomfort of staying the same, or the discomfort of transformation.
What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
- The one skill that we need to exit the drinking life.
- Why drinking less is simple, but not easy.
- How our thinking about the process gets us into trouble when things get difficult.
- What the river of misery is and what's on the other side of it.
- Why we need to choose between the misery of now and the misery of growth.
The poem referenced in the Episode
To love ourselves long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the person we used to be. The person we are too exhausted to be any longer. The person we don’t recognize inside ourselves anymore. The person we grew out of. The person we never ended up growing into. We so badly want ourselves to get our spark back when it burns out, to become speedily found when we are lost. But it is not our job to hold ourselves accountable to the person we used to be. It’s our job to travel between each version and to honor what emerges along the way. Sometimes it will be an even more luminescent flame. Sometimes it will be a flicker that disappears and temporarily floods the room with a perfect and necessary darkness.
To celebrate (the 25th Episode and beyond), I’m giving away a few things I can’t live without to some lucky listeners: $50 Amazon gift cards, and a brand-new pair of AirPods.
Here’s what you want to do right now to sign up for your weekly, bite-sized coaching from Exit The Drinking Life:
Subscribing in Apple PodcastsStep 1
To subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Click here to visit the Exit The Drinking Life Apple Podcast Webpage - it will open in a new tab so these instructions will be accessible to you on the other tab.
Then click on the “Listen on Apple Podcasts” button. This will launch Apple Podcasts on your computer and bring up the podcast.
Step 2
Click on the “Subscribe” button and you’re all set!
You can also listen to the podcast via Spotify, Stitcher Radio, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Step 3 - Review the Podcast is necessary for you to then enter to Win!I’ll be giving away $50 Amazon gift card and a pair of Apple AirPods to a couple of lucky listeners who review the podcast in Apple Podcasts.
How to Enter: Once you’ve listened to an episode or two, click on the “Ratings and Reviews” link on the Exit The Drinking Life in Apple Podcasts to leave a review.
Any review qualifies you to win: I want you to be honest, tell me what you think, and how I can help you better.
Unfortunately, Apple Podcasts doesn’t release contact information for reviewers so please email me at Debi@JumpseatCoaching.com with the title of your review for your official entry.
You can also screen shot your review and email it to me to qualify.
Thanks for listening!
- Worry is always about something that might happen in the future.
- It’s not about what’s happening in the present.
- We can always handle the present moment.
- In the present we have real circumstances so even if it’s dangerous we can problem solve, think critically and begin finding solutions.
- The present is do-able.
- It’s just our thoughts about the future that are intolerable because the future is unknown.
- We can’t strategize and begin solving a problem that doesn’t even exist yet because we don’t know the parameters of the problem so the brain runs wild trying to solve for all possible scenarios.
- Which is, of course, impossible.
- Even in the middle of a challenge or trial, sometimes you can’t see the solution past today, and that’s ok.
- Sometimes you can’t even see the solution past the next 5 mintues, and you don’t need to.
- Worry is always your imagination running wild about a future moment.
- It’s a misuse of your imagination.
- Use your imagination to dream up beautiful amazing scenarios.
- Save the problem solving for present moment challenges when needed.
Many of you are struggle right now with all the change in our world, I can help you navigate the change without over-drinking, overeating, overspending and overshopping. Reach out to me at JumpsteadCoaching.com
Can you imagine loving yourself just as you are? Loving how you look in the mirror.
Loving every inch of your body.
Loving how much money you have.
Loving how much money you make.
Loving every part of your life—as is, without change.
When you love like this, you create new results in your life.
When you’re hard on yourself and beat yourself up, you spend your time resisting and fighting reality.
You lose when you fight reality.
Form many, the fight is what brings them over drinking. Turning to their friend alcohol to help numb away the pain of their reality and the fight.
I can show you how to stop beating yourself up so you can stop over drinking and love your life.
The most difficult and complicated part of exiting the drinking life is the decision to start.
During my 7 year struggle to drink less my thoughts about the process were all about relentless, unwavering willpower and deprivation. Basically, a horrible, turbulent trip of resist, deny, resist, deny, cave, resist, deny, resist day after day, week after week and never feeling happy about alcohol's role in my life.
It wasn't until I began to decided to go against the grain and explore how I was attempting to drink less did I make alcohol irrelevant in my life.
Understanding the way the brain is designed by default is key.
Discussed in today's episode:
The brain's natural programing to:
- Seeking pleasure
- Avoiding pain
- Proving ourself right
- Connecting with people
The skills to work around the brain's natural programing:
- Delay gratification
- Lean into discomfort
- Be OK with trying new things
- Be OK with going against the grain
You can find out how to work directly with me, Debi, at https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/ExitTribe
Life appeared, to the outside world, to be going really well for me.
I traveled the world as a flight attendant. With expenses paid, I enjoyed dinners with my military child stationed overseas and sipped wine in France, Germany, Spain and Italy.
I drank with coworkers on my layovers. At home, I enjoyed cocktails with friends and family. Weekends included brunch and mimosas. I attended networking events with free flowing alcohol. Date nights with my husband involved dinner and drinks. And of course, when I hosted family events, I proudly served a wide variety of alcoholic beverages.
Every event or gathering involved drinking. In my world this was “normal”.
I wasn’t the only one drinking this way; everyone I knew drank the same way. It was just part of life. I enjoyed this lifestyle for years, never wondering why I was always the one to finish the wine bottle or if other people went home from a party and helped themselves to another drink. On our flights back across the Atlantic, our crew laughed together as we tried to piece together the night.
We had a great time filling in the blanks for each other.
I didn’t learn until years later that my style of drinking is called Gray Area Drinking (GAD).
In this episode I share what GAD is and what to do if you discover you are in the messy middle.
Debi Talbert, Life & Wellness Coach For The 50+ Woman - Certified by The Life Coach School and This Naked Mind Institute. She coaches the 50 plus individual who is tired of trying to figure out how to end their dysfunctional relationship with alcohol. She helps people who in the Gray Area (messy middle) stop over drinking without labels, shame or judgment.
Find information about programs and resources at jumpseatcoaching.com
In today episode you'll learn:
- How to work with the mind instead of against it
- One of the Brains primary functions
- What failure is really
- About and Armless Archer - Yes and armless archer
Listen in as Laura and I chat all about making space for sober and first class experiences for all.
Links to items referenced in the show:
- The Club Soda Guide - https://www.clubsodaguide.com
- Club Soda Events - https://mindfuldrinkingfestival.com
- use #mindfuldrinkingfest
- The Mocktail Project on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/themocktailproject
Yes, me too. Listen in to this episode to discover how missing the rest of the story will affect the outcomes of your life.
This is a quick, easy to digest, yet powerful episode. Do tell me how the rest of the story goes for you over at Debi at Jumpseat Coaching dot com.
In case you missed it the discount code is ETDL for help with discovering the rest of your story, click here.
Listen in to todays episode as I help you explore how asking yourself this simple question "The Story I'm Telling Myself Is?" will help you make small subtle shifts so you can begin to exit the drinking life my drinking less alcohol.
A few of the things I hear from my clients (and I told myself) are:
- It (meaning alcohol) provides relief.
- It's Relaxing.
- It's sophisticated.
- Normal people who are in control can drink.
- It's fun.
- Its celebratory.
- It relieves stress.
- It turns off my brain.
The stories I hear (and told) about life without alcohol:
- It's boring not to drink
- It'll be dull
- It's unsophisticated.
- What am I going to order?
- It's not as fun
- It's hard
- It's not fair that I don't get to drink
- It must mean that I have a problem.
- It must mean that I'm an alcoholic
- It's a struggle that requires willpower, and I just don't have the energy for that.
- It's awkward, tedious, annoying, and embarrassing not to drink.
- Without it, I'll fee deprived.
- I'll be stigmatized and have to justify why I'm not drinking.
- I'll always feel like I want it, and I'll always have to fight against that desire.
The stories we tell ourselves affect how we feel. Our feelings/emotions cause us to act/react and not act. From those actions/reactions or lack of action is where the results of our lives come from.
In this episode you'll learn how a little talked about method to help you question those stores and turn them around into ones to help you exit the drinking life.
You can find out all about FLY - First Love Yourself Coaching Membership Program by clicking here.
I loved my time with Florence. So many things she shares about sugar pertains to our journey of exiting the drinking life. Yes, I did this interview while the Podcast was named "The Sober Curious". I feel this information is too valuable to leave archived.
In this episode you’ll learn:
- What goes on in the brain with sugar.
- There is loads of sugar in alcohol.
- How to apply Florence’s ninja mind trick to alcohol
This knowledge along with applying the observation cycle will help you drink less alcohol. Awareness, clarity and turning around our beliefs are key to regain control over alcohol.
Many of you will experience difficulty allowing the urge to just be. However, the more you practice allowing the urge, observing your thoughts and experiencing your feelings, the more you’ll reduce your desire for alcohol. Over time you will find yourself drinking less and less as you reduce your desire to drink.
To get help practicing allowing the urges so you can reduce the desire to drink, visit https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/
Plus stay tuned to the end because several of them have a shared a personal message with you. One which they hope will help you make the brave step to begin this transformation journey.
While attending This Naked Mind Live this year in Denver, I interviewed and chatted with loads of amazing people who have successfully let go of alcohol. This people have been able to find freedom around alcohol.
Struggling to exit the drinking life on your own? I can help you. Find out how over at JumpSeatCoaching.com
It's also the question I did not really want to know the answer to. Everytime I searched, I held my breathed and secretly begged God to save me from myself.
In this episode I answer this question. You are going to be surprised by the answer. You can get the resource referenced in this episode at JumpseatCoaching.com
Procrastination is the action of delaying something and knowing it's probably a bad idea. Proactivation is a made up word I heard from Brooke Castillo at The Life Coach School.
I love this term. Stay tuned because I share with you exactly how to flip the switch on procrastination when it comes to transforming your relationship with alcohol.
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The guilt is running behind the sense like white noise without many of us even noticing.
It's so comfortable to us we dive into on auto pilot. You know it has you in handcuffs because there is no traction, growth, or movement in the direction of your dreams.
If you are ready to exit the drinking life, learn more about EXIT over at JumpseatCoaching.com/Exit.
In order for you to exit the drinking life and transform your relationshi with alcohol, it is necessary to learn how to be unconfortable and do what needs to be done anyway.
Be uncomfortable on purpose.
The emotions which costs us are dreams are usually:
- Confusion
- Doubt
- Self Pity
- Fear
Why? Because this emotions/feelings lead to inaction instead of fueling massive action.
Topics Discussed:
Questions to ask yourself
- Why do I want to achieve this goal?
- Why will I do it no matter what?
- Who will I be accountable to?
- Notice the feelings/emotions coming up for you
- List all the actions you'll need to take to achieve the goal. Then ask yourself what will I need to think in order to feel committted, excited, empowered, disciplined and/or willing?
- Create strategies for the obstacles.
To find out more about EXIT - Your Flight Plan To Aclohol Freedom
Jolene coaches high achieving professionals who want to eliminate alcohol and sugar cravings as well as reduce anxiety using real food, high-quality nutrients and cutting-edge mind/body techniques.
In April of this year I complete Jolene’s Gray Area Drinkers Coach Certification program.
IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:
▪ Jolene’s Exit Story
▪ What Gray Area Drinking Is
▪ Amino Acids Which Can Reduce Cravings
- ⁃ Tryptophan or 5HTP if there are afternoon cravings for carbohydrates or gluten containing grains and/or feel depressed.
- ⁃ D-phenylalanine if comfort foods like cookies, bread, ice cream give an endorphin rush, “reward”.
- ⁃ GABA if overeating cereal, pasta, dairy in an attempt to calm down from anxiety
- ⁃ L-Glutamine for low blood sugar or intense sugar/alcohol cravings.
- ⁃ Tyrosine if eating sweets for a quick energy fix.
• Amino Acids That Can Support Quitting Alcohol:
- ⁃ Tyrosine if energy is low.
- ⁃ GABA if anxious.
- ⁃ Taurine can help alcohol withdrawal and depression.
- ⁃ 5HTP for attention deficient and sleep disorders.
- ⁃ Fish oil and zinc for low mood and the blues.
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:
• Jolene’s Site
• Click here to be notified when EXIT - Your Flight Plan To Alcohol Freedom opens up for registration.
• This will also get you notified when my free August training - How To Exit The Drinking Life For The Last Time goes live.
• The Braverman Personality Type Assessment to help you determine your deficient neurotransmitters
• The Kit Store - all things I love and use
• Interested in working with me? Book a breakthrough call to discover if I'm the person to help you exit the drinking life.
In this quick, short episode I'm joing you right after doing a Spin workout! I love all the insight which comes to me while on my spin bike.
The great benefit of coaching is some one else, an outsider who has been there done that, can help you see, notice, feel, hear the stories you are telling yourself. The stories keeping you stuck in the drinking life cycle. As you grow you time with the coach and the processes you begain to take the process with you every place you go.
A truly great coach will help you no longer need their help. If you are ready to have someone help you see, hear, notice and feel the stories keeping you stuck, then head of to https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/ExitDiscovery to book a free breakthrough discovery call.
I'm sharing these things with you in the hopes the knowledge and information will provide you a new lens through which to see, experience, observe, notice, feel and think about the great dare of experiencing life without alcohol.
What if one of these things is the one belief keeping you stuck? You can always connect with me here: JumpseatCoaching.com
When Sara & Lucy saw life via their sober lens, they observed society had a blind spot with alcohol.
They wanted people choosing to stop drinking know they where celebrated and seen. They are on a mission to make space for sober in the greet card and gifts market. You can support We Are In Good Company by checking out the cards. and connect with them on Instagram.
According to "siri" the definition of commitment is the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause. Listen in as I share how my thoughts around commitment had me believing a totally false story. Amazing how our brains work sometimes.
Reach out to me in iTunes with a review sharing your take a way from this episode. You can also tag me @debi.talbert in Instagram with the #ExitTheDrinkingLife.
The method taught in this episode works to resolve the conflict and get your conscious and subconscious minds on the same flight and in the same seat!
You can get a guide of power questions to help you end the conflict by joining the Exit Intensive notification list. Your confirmation email will include a PDF with a list of Power Questions.
Get started here: JumpseatCoaching.com/exit
The drinking life is a cycle which can spiral out of control. This out of control is unintentional, we may not ever know we are doing it until something terrible happens. Then one day we wake up an realize we've got to make a change. However, unless we address this #1 thing, change continually eludes us.
On this episode I interview Holly Scott, MBA, MS. LPC and founder of Uptown Dallas Counseling. We discuss what social anxiety is, how to recognize it and the best ways for treatment.
Sites Referenced in Episode:
National Socia lAnxiety Center
Anxiety and Depression Association of America
The Liebowitz Scale
For those of you interested in coaching opportunities, click here to book a discovery call so we can move forward from there.
This is an under 5 minute insight into the topic. I do a deep dive into this on the next episode.
You'll discover the process I'm using to help me deal with change and how you can apply this same process to your relationship with alcohol.
You can reach out to me with you name ideas here.
This is an episode on the flying from my hotel room in Houston, TX. To make alcohol irrelevant in your life, it requires being present, paying attention and moving forward from the space of interest and curiosity instead of shame and judgment.
Listen in as I share with how to know which one you are doing.