In this episode, Laurel Holland and Laurel Boivin explore the connection between inner work and relationships. They discuss how many people begin their inner work hoping a relationship will change, only to discover that the real transformation happens when they begin changing how they show up. As we return to our true selves, relationships often change too.

Together, they explore what it means to come home to yourself, why authenticity can create both tension and freedom in relationships, and how the relationship you have with yourself becomes the foundation for every other relationship in your life.

This conversation is a reminder that inner work isn't about becoming someone new. It's about uncovering who you've always been and having the courage to live from that place.

Episode Highlights:

• Why inner work often begins with a desire for a relationship to change.
• The difference between changing yourself and trying to change someone else.
• What it means to "return to your true self."
• How authenticity can create tension—and deeper alignment—in relationships.
• Why the relationship you have with yourself shapes every other relationship in your life.

Journaling prompts are suggested to further your exploration.

1. Where in my life am I hoping someone else will change, and what might change if I focused instead on how I am showing up in the relationship?
2. What parts of myself have I hidden, minimized, or set aside in order to maintain a relationship, role, identity, or sense of belonging?
3. What does "coming home to myself" mean at this stage of my life, and what would it look like to honor that more fully?
4. Where am I experiencing tension between being true to myself and meeting the expectations of others? What am I afraid might happen if I were more authentic?
5. How would my relationships change if I trusted myself more deeply and spoke my truth with greater honesty and courage?
6. Which relationship in my life has taught me the most about myself, and what has it been trying to show me?

Host/Cohost/Guest Info

Guiding others to become effective leaders of their own lives, Laurel Holland has been on a journey of awakening and transformation throughout her life. Writing about inner work, Laurel has authored four books, including Crossroads and Love’s 8 Laws. Her books, Live Your Inner Power, the Journal, and Courageous Woman, introduce, share, and explore the eight foundational practices for creating transformation from the inside out. Through her books, programs, and innovative talks, Laurel’s great desire is to lift others up and courageously step into the life they came here to live. You can learn more about Laurel, her books, and work she does at www.liveyourinnerpower.com.

Laurel Boivin is a leadership coach, speaker, and workshop facilitator. Founder of Flux+Flow Professional Coaching, Laurel works with high-performing professionals and mission-driven organizations to shift from achievement to alignment — helping them connect deeply to purpose, lead with confidence, and create environments where people thrive. A Reiki master and yoga practitioner, collector of sea glass and antiques, she lives in New Hampshire and summers in Maine. You can learn more about Laurel and the work she does at www.fluxflowcoaching.com.

The email to send questions to Laurel Boivin is laurel@fluxflowcoaching.com and for Laurel Holland is laurel@liveyourinnerpower.com