When someone says "The issue is about this. Which side are you on?"
No matter which side you pick, you're still agreeing that the issue is about "this".
If there's a deeper cause that both sides are ignoring, then no matter which side you pick, you're still part of the problem.
From the course Unlearning: For Change Agents, offered in the spirit of the gift at CharlesEisenstein.org/unlearning