Hey Gen X ladies, we’ve all had those dreaded moments when we knew we needed to have a conversation that wasn’t going to be easy whether it’s with a co-worker, employee, friend, child, or spouse.
Difficult conversations are necessary for healthy relationships and personal growth and we’re here to help you through them.
In this episode, we will be helping you reframe conversations and prepare for them so you can take your communication skills to the next level.
Before having the conversation here are three questions to ask yourself.
- What will be different in a month/ three months/12 months if the issue is resolved?
- What will things be like in a month/three months/12 months if the issue isn’t resolved?
- What is the worst thing that could happen if you have the conversation?
Head into having a difficult conversation differently:
- Reframe the interaction
- Be curious versus having blame
- Prepare
Have better results of a difficult conversation by doing keeping the following in mind during the conversion:
- Ask questions using how and not why. Asking how to approach with curiosity versus asking why to approach with blame.
- Be succinct and specific. Don’t go on and on, being overly wordy and never landing the plane. Instead, make sure you’re getting your point across with clarity.
- Listen. This is a dialogue, a conversation, a discussion.
- Buffer the conversation with what is working.
- Try to refrain from using the word YOU.
**After having the conversation:
1. Analyze your emotions. Did you come to the solution you were hoping for? Were your assumptions about the situation misinterpreted?
- Follow up, acknowledge and thank the person for having the conversation.**
INTRODUCTION FREEBIE:
How to Say No When Your Inner Gen Xer Wants Always Says Yes.
EPISODE RESOURCES:
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Articles + Podcasts:
The Changed Podcast (podcast)
How to Have a Reasonable Conversation with Someone You Disagree With(article)
Episode 23: The Importance of Saying No (podcast)
What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage(article)
I’m so freaking angry I could scream! (article)Five Ways to Say No and Mean It (article)
Other Stuff:
Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Stakes are High (book)Toughskins
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