This class is dedicated Le'ilui Nishmat Chana Bat Gilsom, Mrs. Emy Missry ah. She went through many hardships and didn't complain. We continue with Rabbenu Yonah in Shaare Teshuva , who quotes our Midrash, “ Do not increase complaints, because it will stop you from sinning.” He continues and tells us that the complainer, quite often, is an ingrate, because he does not recognize the good that is going on around him. He only focuses on the bad. The complainer actually rewards good deeds with bad, because he only sees the bad. The punishment for such a person, who only sees and focuses on the bad is, as a pasuk in Mishleh (17,13) says, ״ Someone who rewards good with evil, evil will not leave his home. ״ The commentaries explain that God works Middah k’neged Middah/measure for measure. This man who does not appreciate the people around him, who finds only fault with others, measure for measure, when he goes home to his house, his family won’t see the good that he is doing. They won’t see how hard he works, or the amount of effort he puts in to bring home a livelihood. His family will not appreciate him. One who does not appreciate others, measure for measure does not get appreciated by those whom he does good for. This is a very powerful incentive. We all want to be appreciated. So middah k’neged middah , if I appreciate others, others will appreciate me. The way to start appreciating others, is to train ourselves, to see the good. It takes training because it doesn’t come naturally. Rabbi Ades once went to a Sheva Berachot and saw someone sniff the chopped liver and make a face. The next guy did the same thing, and then nobody ate the chopped liver or the entrée, and the whole Sheva Berachot had a bad flavor. Rabbi Ades noticed that rather than seeing all the good, the beautiful plates and the candles etc, this one person made one sniff and spread a negative feeling. So Rabbi Ades decided to do the opposite. At the next Sheva Berachot , he picked up the rolls and commented on how soft they were. He commented on and complemented everything, and he noticed that when he came home, his children were copying him. The more we focus on noticing the good and complementing, the more it spreads, and the opposite is true as well. So besides the Middah K’neged Middah factor, it becomes a natural occurrence. If we don’t appreciate things around us, our children will learn that trait as well, and then they won’t appreciate us either. Have a wonderful day.