Less Drama More Mama: Recent Episodes
Pam Howard
Less Drama More Mama is the podcast for moms who want to feel calm, in control, and confident about how to handle anything life throws their way. As a Certified Life Coach, LCSW, School Counselor, and blogger, Pam Howard has been helping empower parents for years. In her podcast, she shares personal stories, case studies, and life coaching tools to help you go from feeling frazzled and disrespected to feeling calm and connected. Learn more at http://LessDramaMoreMama.com.
This year, Dalia went straight from school to camp with no break, and the stress of that transition came out in some pretty big emotions.
Two nights before she left, she came into my room crying, saying how much she was going to miss me and didn’t want to go.
Hearing her say those words tugged at every protective instinct I have.
So I pressed play on this old episode to remind myself exactly why giving her this experience is so important — and how to stay steady, even when her anxiety made me question whether I was doing the right thing.
If you’ve ever struggled when your child feels anxious or says “I want my mommy!” (whether they’re four or twenty-four), this replay will help you trust their resilience (and yours!) and keep the long view in mind.
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If you’ve ever thought that fully allowing a big emotion like anger, fear, or grief might swallow you whole…
...or that if you let yourself really go there, you’d lose control, fall apart, or not be able to come back…
...this episode will offer a fresh perspective.
In this week’s summer playback, I’m sharing a practical and powerful tool I teach moms to help them manage their emotions in a healthy way: the 90-second rule.
When you understand what’s really happening in your body during those intense emotional moments, you stop bracing against them. You stop resisting and start expanding your ability to be with what you feel without being overtaken by it.
That’s what helps you build emotional resilience and helps you stay calm and present with your kids when they’re having big feelings, too.
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What if every emotion—anxiety, anger, overwhelm—was like an unexpected guest knocking at your front door?
You could pretend you’re not home and hope it goes away (that’s avoiding). You could yank the door open and yell at it to leave (that’s reacting). Or you could open the door just a crack and try to hold it shut while the guest pushes to get in (that’s resisting).
But there’s another option that most moms were never taught.
You could simply let the emotion in. Offer it a seat. Sit with it for a little while and give it a chance to be seen and heard.
When it’s had that moment of recognition, it’ll get up, say “Thanks for seeing me,” and leave on its own.
Being able to allow emotions is one of the most powerful skills you can learn, not just for your own emotional well-being, but so you can model and teach it to your kids, too.
This episode walks you through four common ways people manage emotions and the one that actually helps you stay calm, present, and in control. It’s the first in my 2025 Summer Playback Series, and it’s just as relevant now as when it first aired.
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You’ve done the thought work. You’ve challenged old beliefs. You know your child isn’t trying to make your life harder, but you still lose it, shut down, and spiral into guilt.
This week’s podcast episode explains why that happens, and what you can do when mindset work isn’t enough on its own.
I’m introducing something I’ve been studying and integrating into my coaching lately: Somatic Experiencing, a body-based approach that helps you understand and work with your nervous system.
It’s making a noticeable difference for my clients—and for me.
If you’ve ever felt like there’s a gap between what you know and how you actually react, this episode will help you bridge it.
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Summer often means more sibling fights, which can mean more stress for you.
With school out and everyone under the same roof, it’s easy to get pulled into constant squabbles and feel like you’re always playing referee.
In this episode, I’m talking about why kids tend to fight more in summer, what’s really going on beneath the surface, and how to stay grounded when the tension rises.
You’ll learn how to respond in ways that support your kids’ emotional development and your own peace of mind.
If you’re craving fewer power struggles and more calm this summer, this is for you.
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There’s a pattern I see every year around this time.
Kids feel stressed about the upcoming shift from school to summer, but they don’t always say they’re stressed. Instead, they act it out. The clinginess, meltdowns, and defiance are signs that their nervous systems are trying to manage a big internal shift.
And moms often take that stress on as their own, trying to prevent problems before they happen and keep everyone happy. They feel like they’re already running on empty before summer even begins.
In this week’s episode, I’m sharing how to shift from school to summer without spinning out, and how I'm handling things in my own home, too.
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On Mother’s Day (and really, any day), it’s easy to get caught up in how everyone else sees you as a mom.
What if, this year, you took a few minutes to see yourself?
In today’s episode, I’m sharing five simple, meaningful questions to help you reflect on how you’re showing up, what’s working in your parenting, and what you want more of.
It’s a chance to reconnect with the kind of mom you want to be.
Whether Mother’s Day feels joyful, complicated, or somewhere in between, these questions offer a way to see yourself—and your motherhood—with more clarity and compassion.
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Remember rolling your eyes when your parents complained about your music or fashion choices?
Now you find yourself sighing about your child's screen time or social media habits.
The "kids today" worry is as old as parenting itself, and every generation has been convinced the next one is somehow falling short or headed for disaster.
In this episode, I'll show you why reframing this historical perspective might completely change how you view your own children's generation and your parenting, too.
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We don't often hear people say, “I adapted well to harsh discipline as a child. I learned how to stay small, quiet, and agreeable.”
Instead, they say, "I turned out fine."
But what does "fine" really mean?
In this episode, I’m unpacking the myth of “I turned out fine”—the phrase so many parents lean on to justify repeating what was done to them when they were kids.
This episode might challenge you. And that’s the point.
Because we’re not here to settle for raising kids who turn out “fine.”
We’re here to raise adults who thrive.
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After her separation, my client Victoria felt lost in her parenting.
She didn't trust her parenting decisions and second-guessed everything.
She thought she needed to learn parenting "rules." What she really needed was to connect with her own wisdom.
In this week’s episode, Victoria opens up about her experience in the Damn Good Mama program and how it helped her find her footing again.
If you’ve ever felt stuck between “I think I’m a good mom” and “Why do I still feel so unsure?” — this is an episode you’ll want to hear.
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I recently sat in the back of a church watching two young girls say goodbye to their mother.
As I listened to the stories shared about her life, I was struck by what people remembered most - the small gestures, the everyday presence, and the little ways she showed up consistently for those she loved.
It made me think about how I'm showing up for my own children, and what they'll remember years from now.
Today’s episode isn't about adding more to your already full plate, but a reminder to stop rushing through the moments you’ll later wish you’d slowed down for.
I don’t know how many bedtime stories, school lunches, or "watch this, Mom!" moments you'll get. But I do know that you have the chance to be present today and show up fully for the ones you love.
Not because you should, but simply because you can.
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I love a good laugh.
The right kind of joke at the right time can shift the energy in a room, lighten a heavy moment, and bring families closer.
But there’s another side to humor that doesn’t get talked about as much.
Like when your kid suddenly goes quiet after you make a joke. Or when someone laughs at them instead of with them.
This week’s episode is one I think every parent should hear—especially today, on April Fools' Day.
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Every Spring, moms turn their attention to their closets and drawers, sorting through clothes that no longer fit and items that have lost their purpose.
But the heaviest clutter you carry isn't in your home at all. It's in your mind!
In this week's episode, inspired by the first signs of Spring during my recent trip to Connecticut, I'm sharing why now is the perfect time to de-clutter not just your home, but your entire approach to motherhood.
I'll help you toss out your old, outdated thoughts and beliefs to create more mental space for patience, joy, and connection.
And if you'd like to tackle some of your mental clutter together, join me this Friday at noon Eastern for an open coaching call on Zoom at the link in the show notes.
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A few years ago, I thought I was doing everything right for my health. I took Barre classes several times a week, ate little to no sugar or flour, and practiced intermittent fasting daily. But my stomach growled every night, and I felt exhausted much of the time, which wasn't ideal for keeping up with my kids.
Then I joined Couture Fitness & Lifestyle Coaching and was shocked when Coach Jo told me I had been severely under-eating. I gradually increased my calories to nearly 2100 a day (far more than the 1200-1300 I had been consuming), focused on getting a minimum of 130g of protein daily, and introduced real strength training with weights that actually challenged me.
To my amazement, I lost weight while eating MORE food and gaining muscle. But more importantly, I felt stronger, more confident, more energetic, and better able to be fully present with my kids. I've even started to enjoy the challenge of lifting heavy and the satisfaction of getting stronger each week.
In this episode, I chat with Coach Jo, who transformed her own body in her 40's and now helps women optimize their metabolism and improve their overall health.
As she shares in our conversation, "It's not too late, and you're NEVER too old." Her story proves that with the right approach to nutrition and exercise, you can stop "running on fumes" and start feeling truly strong as a mother—at any age.
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You might be familiar with the story I've shared on my podcast and in my book about the morning my 3-year-old refused to get dressed for camp. It became a turning point in my life.
As she hid under the dining room table, something in me snapped. With my sister watching in stunned silence, I lost complete control—yelling, threatening, and eventually spanking my daughter in a rage I didn't recognize. The shame and guilt that followed were overwhelming, but they became the catalyst for profound change.
That rock-bottom moment led me through therapy, coaching, countless parenting books, and additional professional training that transformed not just how I parent, but my entire approach to life.
I'm sharing this because in today's episode, I reveal the three biggest mistakes that make power struggles worse and what to do instead.
If you're locked in daily battles with your kids, this might be exactly what you need to hear right now.
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Parenting isn’t a puzzle you can solve.
There’s no secret formula that guarantees everything will go smoothly no matter how many parenting books you read, how much patience you practice, or how hard you try.
When things don’t go as planned, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It just means you’re a human raising other humans.
And that can be pretty messy!
Tune into this episode to find out what every parent needs to hear—especially on the days when nothing seems to go right.
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You ask your child to turn off their iPad and get ready to leave the house, but instead of action, you get a heavy, dramatic exhale that says, “Do I have to?”
You ask again, this time firmer. Nothing.
And just like that, what should’ve been a simple request turns into a full-blown power struggle.
In this week’s episode, I’m breaking down what’s really going on beneath those exhausting battles and sharing simple strategies to help you shift the dynamic without losing your authority (or your sanity).
Because it's not about the shoes, the iPad, or leaving the house. And it’s definitely not just about defiance.
Something deeper is happening in these moments, and once you understand it, you can stop getting stuck in the same frustrating cycle.
If you’re done with endless back-and-forth arguments, and ready for less resistance and more connection, this episode will show you how to break the cycle without yelling, nagging, or frustration.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/342
"It wasn't me!"
"He started it!"
"She made me do it!"
Have your kids ever said these blame-shifting phrases?
While hearing them might drive you crazy, they actually reveal important things about your child's developing mind and emotional world.
In this episode, I explore why kids blame others and how to help them develop the skills to take responsibility more often.
It's packed with practical strategies you can start using today.
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What if some of the most important lessons about love aren’t the ones we think to teach our kids?
In this episode, I’m sharing seven essential truths about love—lessons that will shape the way your kids understand relationships, connection, and even their own self-worth.
Oh, and these lessons aren’t only for them. You might take away something meaningful, too!
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Wait-and-see parenting can feel risky.
You see your child struggling—whether it’s with a tricky friendship, a frustrating homework assignment, or a new routine—and every instinct tells you to step in.
But sometimes, doing nothing is actually the best move.
Recently, my home phone stopped working for a couple of weeks and my home alarm system kept glitching. I figured I’d need to call someone to fix it, but...I just never got around to it.
Then, out of nowhere, everything started working again. No explanation. No intervention.
It made me realize how often we rush to fix things in our kids' lives when sometimes, things just need a little time to sort themselves out.
But how do you know when to step in and when to let things unfold? Tune in to this episode to find out!
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Motherhood can feel surprisingly lonely sometimes, even when you’re constantly surrounded by people.
You might exchange smiles with other moms at school drop-off, make small talk at soccer practice, and keep up with the endless group texts.
But when you're having a hard day, who’s your go-to? Who do you turn to when you need someone who truly gets you—no judgment, no pretense, just real support?
In this episode, I’m diving into why so many moms feel isolated and what it takes to find the kind of friendships that make life better.
By the way, if there’s a mom you’ve been wanting to get to know better, why not forward this to her? It could be the perfect conversation starter—and maybe even the beginning of a deeper connection.
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Sometimes the hardest part of parenting is stepping back and letting your child's path unfold naturally.
This week's episode dives into those moments when your kids surprise you - whether it's quitting a beloved sport, choosing an unexpected career path, or exploring their identity in ways you never anticipated.
Through real stories (including my own), we explore how to really be there for your kids as they figure out who they are.
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Do you ever wonder, “Is this just how it is for moms?”
The endless juggling act, the invisible load, the constant pressure to hold it all together without ever asking for help.
What if it didn’t have to feel so hard?
In this week’s podcast, I’m shining a light on on the silent struggles so many moms experience and how you can start to lighten your load.
Listen now and discover what’s possible when you stop struggling in silence.
January is here, and with it, the endless push for big, bold resolutions: de-cluttering half your house, cutting out every "bad" food, swearing off yelling forever.
It all sounds so promising, doesn’t it?
Unfortunately, most of these massive changes don’t last. In fact, the research shows they almost never do.
In this week’s episode, I’m sharing why your brain resists those dramatic overhauls and what actually works to create lasting change.
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Welcome to the final episode of Less Drama More Mama for 2024!
In today’s episode, we’re doing something special by counting down the top 10 episodes of the year, based on the ones that resonated most with you, my amazing listeners.
These are the episodes you downloaded and loved the most, and I’m excited to take a look back at them as we head into the new year.
If you missed any of these impactful episodes (or want to listen to them again), you'll find the links in today's show notes.
Thank you for listening to the show this year. I'd be so grateful if you'd leave an honest review in Apple Podcasts and share your favorite episode with a mama friend.
Wishing you a happy and healthy start to 2025!
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/334
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How do you feel about your parenting as you look back on 2024?
Are there changes you've been wanting to make but haven't known where to start?
What if this was the year you actually made those parenting changes stick?
What would it mean to look back on 2025 and feel like you had your best mom year yet?
In this week's episode, I'm sharing the year-end reflection ritual that's helping moms in my group program recognize their progress and set meaningful intentions for the new year.
Listen to episode 333 (an angel number that represents growth!) and start 2025 off right!
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/333
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Your to-do list is growing, the calendar is filling up, and that familiar holiday anxiety is starting to creep in.
You want this season to be special for your family, but somehow it always ends up feeling more exhausting than magical.
In this week's podcast episode, I share a different approach to the holidays - one that lets you create meaningful moments without running yourself ragged.
Because what your family really wants is you, present and enjoying the season alongside them.
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/332
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It’s easy to assume a quick apology will fix things after a relationship rupture with your child, but real repair requires more.
In today’s episode, I’m walking you through a powerful tool I created to help you repair your relationships and turn them into even stronger bonds. It's called the LOVE formula and it's simple + effective.
If you’ve ever felt like your relationship with your child needs healing, this episode is for you.
Tune in to hear how you can apply this simple tool to create lasting, meaningful relationship with your kids.
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/331
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Between ChatGPT doing homework and AI-generated videos everywhere, it's tempting to see AI as just another parenting worry.
But after testing it on three common family challenges, I discovered it might actually help us focus on what matters most: connecting with our kids.
In this week's episode, I'm sharing my real-world experiment with AI as a parenting tool.
Tune in to learn how it can handle the logistics while you create meaningful moments with your family.
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/327
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What if the key to deepening your mother-daughter relationship begins with you?
When Ashleigh Sinclaire became her mother's sole caregiver overnight, she discovered that our most fundamental relationship can heal through an unexpected path.
In this week's deeply moving episode, she shares how four extraordinary years caring for her mother revealed that the mother-daughter relationship lives within us, not between us.
This episode will touch your heart and possibly transform how you see your relationship with your mother - or your daughter.
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/326
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You know that gut-wrenching feeling when your child is scared?
Whether it's a toddler crying about monsters under the bed or a teenager having a panic attack about their future - seeing our kids afraid triggers something primal in us.
We want to fix it, protect them, make the scary thing go away.
But sometimes our own "stuff" gets in the way of truly supporting them.
In this week's episode, we explore how parents' own experiences and beliefs about fear can cloud their judgment when helping scared kids.
Through real examples, we'll look at what actually helps kids develop a healthy relationship with fear.
Tune in, as these insights might transform your next challenging moment with your scared child.
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/325
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Balancing motherhood and dating after divorce is a challenge many moms face.
It's an experience that often leaves women with more questions than answers, which is why I'm so excited about today’s episode.
Certified life and relationship coach, Paige Dempsey, and I talk about what she calls “slow dating” after divorce. This approach is about more than just taking things slow; it's about being intentional and self-aware in your dating journey.
We discuss the importance of defining standards and knowing the qualities you want in a partner before you start dating, where to meet potential partners, how to talk to your kids about dating, and lots more.
Grab your favorite beverage, pop in your earbuds, and tune in now!
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/324
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As I celebrate half a century of life, I'm amazed at how much parenting has changed since I first became a mom.
The tiny hands I once held now belong to young adults, and our conversations have evolved from "eat your vegetables" to discussions about their hopes and dreams for the future.
This milestone birthday got me thinking: How do we stay connected with our kids as we all grow older?
This week, I'm sharing insights that have deepened my relationships with my daughters over the years.
Whether you're juggling sippy cups and planning play dates or teaching your teen to drive and fill out college applications, there's something in this episode for you.
Listen now and let's celebrate growing older and closer to our kids together!
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/323
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Holding onto resentment towards your parents is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
In this week's episode, we explore how forgiving your parents might be the self-care you never knew you needed.
Join me as I draw from my own experience, present scientific research, and offer practical strategies for navigating the process of forgiveness.
You'll discover how forgiving your parents can liberate you from emotional burdens, enhance your health, and even improve your own parenting.
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/322
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That knot in your stomach when facing a life-changing decision? It's universal.
This week, I sit down with life coach Amanda Kingsley for a raw and honest conversation about navigating life's toughest choices.
Amanda opens up about her personal abortion experience and shares powerful insights on making difficult decisions while minimizing suffering.
Regardless of your political stance, this episode offers valuable insights on decision-making and personal growth that can benefit everyone.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/321
Mistakes in parenting don't define you. How you handle them does.
We've all had moments as parents when we wish we could hit rewind and try again.
That's why in this week's episode, we're unpacking the often-overlooked superpower of second chances and do-overs in parenting.
Join me to transform those "I wish I hadn't said that" moments into opportunities for growth and deeper connection with your kids.
You'll learn practical strategies to create your own parenting rewind button and use it effectively.
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/320
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Are you repeating unhelpful patterns in your parenting and can't understand why?
In this episode, we're talking about something that's been influencing your parenting since long before you became a mama: attachment styles.
We'll explore how your early experiences shape your parenting instincts, and more importantly, how you can use this knowledge to build stronger, more positive relationships with your kids.
Get ready to rewrite your family's story and become the secure base your kids need to thrive.
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/319
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Wouldn't it be great to have a magic wand to stop your tween from freaking out?
Well, while I can't offer magic, I've got the next best thing – wisdom from parenting expert and author Carla Naumburg.
In this podcast episode, Carla dishes on her new book "How to Stop Freaking Out" -- a guide designed specifically for 8-12 year olds.
It's jam-packed with practical strategies to help your tween navigate stress and anxiety like a pro.
Ready to empower your tween with life-changing emotional skills? Tune in now!
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/318
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Have you ever wondered why your parents raised you the way they did? Or why you parent the way you do?
In today’s episode, we take a trip through the decades, exploring how parenting styles have evolved from the 1950s to today.
You'll learn about the four main parenting styles and how they came to be, plus some insights into how world events and societal changes have influenced more recent parenting trends.
Tune in and discover how your parenting style fits into the bigger picture!
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From playground drama to lunchroom cliques, childhood friendships can feel like a roller-coaster ride. As moms, we often worry about our kids' social lives, but we aren't always sure how to help.
In this week's episode, I chat with Alex Alexander of the Friendship IRL podcast about navigating the complex world of kids' friendships. We talk about everything from teaching social skills to handling friend drama.
Tune in to hear our full conversation and gain practical strategies you can start using today.
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Have you ever thought that a simple Post-it note could revolutionize your parenting?
In today's episode, I explore how these humble sticky squares can become powerful allies in raising happy, organized, and well-adjusted kids.
From boosting communication to managing behavior, we'll explore how these small squares can solve big parenting challenges in surprisingly effective ways.
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The kids are cranky, the house is a mess, and you're wondering how you'll ever get back into the school groove.
Sound familiar?
This week's episode tackles seven of the common challenges families face when trying to reset their routines after a break.
We're talking practical tips to help you dodge those pitfalls and start the school year strong with more ease and flow!
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Imagine stepping away from your daily grind and coming back with a whole new perspective.
That's exactly what happened for me during my 12-week summer sabbatical, and I can't wait to share my experience with you.
In this episode, I'm spilling the details about my break. From my daughter's high school graduation to my own personal growth journey, it's been quite a summer.
And the best part is that I'm coming back with fresh insights and renewed energy to help YOU on your motherhood journey.
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New pencils, fresh notebooks, and...knots in your stomach?
The back-to-school season isn't just about shopping - it's an emotional roller coaster for many kids (and parents, too!).
In today’s episode, I address the challenges of transitioning from summer to school and share practical tips to help you support your kids, whether they're excited, anxious, or somewhere in between.
Give this episode a listen and equip yourself with strategies to support your family through this transition.
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Do you or someone you know overreact to minor problems?
Or always seems to be in the middle of a crisis?
There's a fascinating reason behind this - and it all starts in the brain.
In this episode, I pull back the curtain on why our minds love to make mountains out of molehills.
We'll explore the brain science behind dramatic thinking and uncover some surprising truths about why some people seem to attract drama like a magnet.
If you're ready to change the channel on your internal soap opera and embrace a calmer, more realistic view of life, this episode is a must-listen.
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Words matter, especially when it comes to our kids.
And sometimes, we use certain phrases without realizing their potential negative impact.
Today’s summer playback reveals three common expressions that might be quietly undermining your parenting efforts, damaging your relationship with your kids, and hindering their emotional growth.
But don't worry - I share alternatives that can help strengthen your bond and foster emotional maturity.
This episode is packed with real talk and practical tips you can start using right away. No fancy parenting theories here - just straightforward advice to help you and your kids communicate better.
Ready to upgrade your communication with just a few simple tweaks? Pop in your earbuds and give this episode a listen. Your future family interactions might just get a whole lot smoother!
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Two episodes ago, we explored four psychological defense mechanisms I often encounter in my work with moms.
Today, we're zooming in on one of them even more – projection – the sneaky way your mind casts your own insecurities, fears, and past experiences onto others, especially your kids.
This episode sheds light on how these unconscious thoughts shape your parenting and might just be the lens you need to see yourself - and your children - more clearly.
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Are you stuck in a cycle of conflict and drama?
Today's episode reveals the roles we unconsciously play in conflict that keep us entangled in a loop of blame, helplessness, and over-responsibility.
By understanding how you and others might be caught in the roles of Persecutor, Victim, or Rescuer, you can learn to step out of these roles and into a more empowered life.
Tune in and unlock the keys to exiting the Mama Drama Triangle once and for all.
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Have you ever had one of those days where you find yourself making excuses or snapping at your kids for no real reason? It might be your defense mechanisms at play, protecting you from uncomfortable truths and emotions.
In this episode, we'll take a look at some of these hidden forces and how they show up in our everyday lives, especially as moms.
I share personal stories and practical tips on how to catch yourself using these defenses, what to do about them, and why opening up to discomfort can be a game-changer for your personal growth.
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Are sibling rivalry and constant bickering driving you up the wall?
I know firsthand how stressful it can be when your kids' fighting seems endless, and you end up screaming even louder than them to make it stop.
In this week’s episode, I’m sharing some practical insights and tools that helped me and can help you, too.
Discover how to shift your perspective and handle sibling squabbles in a more effective way to bring more calm to your home.
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/306
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Are sibling rivalry and constant bickering driving you up the wall?
I know firsthand how stressful it can be when your kids' fighting seems endless, and you end up screaming even louder than them to make it stop.
In this week’s episode, I’m sharing some practical insights and tools that helped me and can help you, too.
Discover how to shift your perspective and handle sibling squabbles in a more effective way to bring more calm to your home.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/306
Today's episode addresses a common question many parents face: "How do I get my partner on the same parenting page?"
Parenting is tough, and it gets even trickier when you and your partner have different approaches. These differences can lead to frustration, conflict, and even strain the relationship.
If you find yourself in this situation, you’re not alone.
Tune in to discover how you and your partner can work together effectively, even when your parenting styles differ.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/305
Are you ready to take control of your thoughts and bring more positivity into your daily life?
In today's episode, I'll share a simple tool to help you build new, positive beliefs and explain how to collect proof of them.
Get ready to shift your mindset and improve your experience of parenting!
https://lessdramamoremama.com/304
Are you finding it challenging to guide your kids through the end-of-school-year transitions and the emotional ups and downs that come with it?
In this episode, I discuss why transitions can be so difficult for kids and how you can support them during these times.
Whether school just ended in your area, you still have a few more weeks to go, or you're listening to this at another time of year altogether, this episode is packed with insights and practical advice to help you guide your kids through change and difficult emotions.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/303
Feeling the pressure of juggling a whirlwind of end-of-school activities and expectations? You're not alone.
This time of year can be packed with class parties, recitals, assemblies, proms, graduations, and final exams. It's enough to leave anyone feeling overwhelmed!
In this week's episode, I revisit how to tackle the end-of-school stress with grace and composure.
Summer is very close, mama, so take a deep breath, and let’s finish this school year strong!
https://lessdramamoremama.com/302
Welcome to the first edition of the Summer Playback Series, dedicated to Mental Health Awareness Month.
The primary goal of this month is raise awareness about mental health issues, reduce stigma surrounding mental illnesses, and advocate for better mental health care resources and support.
In today's episode, we're revisiting two earlier episodes that discuss seven signs of good mental health and how poor mental health affects parenting.
Tune in to explore these important topics with me.
For full information and show notes, visit www.lessdramamoremama.com/301
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Welcome to the first edition of the Summer Playback Series, dedicated to Mental Health Awareness Month.
The primary goal of this month is raise awareness about mental health issues, reduce stigma surrounding mental illnesses, and advocate for better mental health care resources and support.
In today's episode, we're revisiting two earlier episodes that discuss seven signs of good mental health and how poor mental health affects parenting.
Tune in to explore these important topics with me.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/301
Happy 300th episode! 🎉
In celebration of reaching this incredible milestone, I have something extra special for you: a podcast episode directory! This directory is your ultimate tool to navigate through the 300 episodes with ease. Whether you're seeking tips on managing your mama meltdowns, strategies for self-care, or insights on raising resilient, self-sufficient adults, this directory has got you covered.
But that's not all—today's episode is dedicated to something every mom deserves: a much-needed, well-deserved break. Join me as I explore the importance of giving yourself a break, share practical tips to make it happen, and make an important personal announcement.
For full show notes and information, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/300
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Not all teens are glued to their screens!
In this episode, my daughter, Dalia, talks about a choice she made that totally surprised me—she deleted TikTok from her phone.
Join me as I chat with Dalia about why she made this bold move, how it's going, and what she wants you to know to help your kids spend less time on screens and more time connecting with you!
For more information and full show notes, visit https://lessdramamoremama.com/299
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Not all teens are glued to their screens!
In this episode, my daughter, Dalia, talks about a choice she made that totally surprised me—she deleted TikTok from her phone.
Join me as I chat with Dalia about why she made this bold move, how it's going, and what she wants you to know to help your kids spend less time on screens and more time connecting with you!
https://lessdramamoremama.com/299
Are you looking for new ways to support your child's social and emotional development?
Look no further! In this week's episode, I discuss the transformative power of books for teaching kids about emotions, relationships, and resilience.
Based on my experience as a school counselor for kids in kindergarten through 8th grade and reading TONS of books, I've curated a list of my favorites to save you time and money researching them all yourself.
Tune in to hear my picks for kids of all ages.
Happy listening (and reading)!
Get full show notes and information at https://lessdramamoremama.com/298
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Do you wish you felt better, like, yesterday?
Being in a hurry to feel better often backfires, prolonging suffering rather than alleviating it.
In this week's podcast episode, you'll discover why rushing to feel better can be counterproductive, and how slowing down can actually help you feel better sooner.
If you're feeling frustrated, discouraged, or helpless in your parenting and are looking for a quick fix, this episode is for you.
Get full show notes and information at https://lessdramamoremama.com/297
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My guest on today’s show is Jessica Bryant, a representative of the Better Sleep Council, an internationally recognized pediatric sleep strategist, keynote speaker, and the founder of Sleep Happy Consulting.
Jessica's mission is to underscore the importance of rest, ensuring that more families experience the benefits of a well-rested and harmonious home. By doing so, she aims to reduce the number of children who grow up feeling drained, anxious, overwhelmed, and pressured to perform at their peak every day.
After listening to this interview, I know you’ll find at least one new idea to incorporate into your routine or your child’s routine for a better night’s rest.
Get full show notes and information at https://lessdramamoremama.com/296
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Are you tired of feeling like your kids constantly walk all over you? Do you sacrifice your own needs for the sake of keeping the peace at home? In today's episode, I describe what I call a "Doormat Mom" and how to reclaim your power by putting an end to the Doormat Mom mentality. Get full show notes and information at https://lessdramamoremama.com/295
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This week, I am thrilled to welcome Laura Conley to the podcast. As a certified life and weight loss coach, Laura specializes in guiding moms to lasting weight loss and self-acceptance. Her approach focuses on empowering her clients to balance their hunger hormones, rewire their brains, handle challenging emotions, take daily accountability, and become their own besties. Through this work, Laura's clients are able to create positive legacies for their kids that are rooted in self-love, confidence, and freedom from food, weight, and body image drama. Laura and I discuss how to talk with kids about food and body image, the importance of healing our own relationships with food and self-image, and how our self-talk directly influences our kids' perceptions of themselves. Laura's passion for helping moms radiates throughout the interview. Her infectious energy and expertise makes our conversation both enjoyable and incredibly valuable. It's an episode you definitely won't want to miss! Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/293
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This week, I am thrilled to welcome Laura Conley to the podcast. As a certified life and weight loss coach, Laura specializes in guiding moms to lasting weight loss and self-acceptance. Her approach focuses on empowering her clients to balance their hunger hormones, rewire their brains, handle challenging emotions, take daily accountability, and become their own besties. Through this work, Laura's clients are able to create positive legacies for their kids that are rooted in self-love, confidence, and freedom from food, weight, and body image drama. Laura and I discuss how to talk with kids about food and body image, the importance of healing our own relationships with food and self-image, and how our self-talk directly influences our kids' perceptions of themselves. Laura's passion for helping moms radiates throughout the interview. Her infectious energy and expertise makes our conversation both enjoyable and incredibly valuable. It's an episode you definitely won't want to miss! Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/293
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In his book ScreamFree Parenting, author and parenting expert Hal Runkel wrote, "Kids need parents who don't need them." Tune in to this episode of the podcast, where I delve deeper into this thought-provoking statement and explore the topic of 'needy' moms. You'll learn the characteristics of needy moms, the roots of their neediness, its impact on kids, and strategies for overcoming parental neediness for healthier parent-child relationships. Even if you don't identify with being needy, there's still plenty of valuable information in this episode for every mom. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/292
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Are you sabotaging your own happiness without even realizing it? My guest today is Tanja Shaw, a Functional Health Coach, Kinesiologist, and weight loss coach for women who want to end their struggles with food so they can get to their happy, healthy weight without obsession, and feel free in their bodies and lives. Tanja and I discuss the three layers of self-sabotage and how to break the patterns that keep us stuck. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/291
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Embracing discomfort could be your secret weapon for thriving as a mom. Yes, you read that right! With Leap Day approaching, I'm diving into this topic and sharing some insights that might surprise you. Tune in for ideas to shake things up and step out of your comfort zone. For full information and show notes, visit www.lessdramamoremama.com/290
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This week, I’m excited to have Rhonda Farr back on the podcast. Rhonda is a certified Life Coach who specializes in connecting men and women through the practice of emotional intelligence and emotional intimacy. She teaches high-achieving men how to become aware of emotions and communicate with vulnerability, so they can enjoy more intimacy with the people they love. Rhonda is a woman in a man’s world. She has four sons, was raised with only brothers, and now operates a full time coaching practice with the most amazing men who are ready to stop chasing external validation and start creating the life that truly makes them happy. Tune in to hear Rhonda pull back the curtain on how men are conditioned, the role shame plays in their interactions, and how to communicate with them in helpful ways. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/266
This week, I’m excited to have Rhonda Farr back on the podcast.
Rhonda is a certified Life Coach who specializes in connecting men and women through the practice of emotional intelligence and emotional intimacy.
She teaches high-achieving men how to become aware of emotions and communicate with vulnerability, so they can enjoy more intimacy with the people they love.
Rhonda is a woman in a man’s world. She has four sons, was raised with only brothers, and now operates a full time coaching practice with the most amazing men who are ready to stop chasing external validation and start creating the life that truly makes them happy.
Tune in to hear Rhonda pull back the curtain on how men are conditioned, the role shame plays in their interactions, and how to communicate with them in helpful ways.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/266
Grandparents' Day is coming up this Sunday and sadly, for some kids, it may not be a very enjoyable holiday because they don’t get along with, or even like, one or more of their grandparents.
As moms, we can feel a number of emotions about this from hurt and heartbreak to frustration, disappointment, and guilt.
So, do we try to convince our kids that grandma and grandpa are great, act as a mediator between them, or force them to spend time together?
While there’s no one right answer, in this episode I'll talk about my own experiences, both as a granddaughter and as a mom, and then offer some thoughts about how to deal with the issue overall.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/265
LISTEN TO THE SHOW:It’s finally here!
Today is the official launch day for my new book Less Drama More Mama: How to Go from Frazzled and Disrespected to Calm and Connected! I almost can’t believe this is actually happening, and I am so excited to share it with you!
This book is something I’ve dreamed about for a long time, and I believe it can and will do so much good. I hope that every mom who needs it, finds it. Motherhood is one of the best blessings I’ve ever experienced and it’s really cool that I get to show my daughters what’s possible and build a legacy for them.
And that’s what I touch on in this week’s episode. It’s a little different than you might expect – full of thank-yous, acknowledgments, and an exercise for you to do to help you feel grateful and abundant in your own life.
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Buy the Less Drama More Mama book HERE. * Episode 97 – Creating Your Legacy * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Apply for your FREE consultation for private coaching with Pam HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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It’s finally here!
Today is the official launch day for my new book Less Drama More Mama: How to Go from Frazzled and Disrespected to Calm and Connected! I almost can’t believe this is actually happening, and I am so excited to share it with you!
This book is something I’ve dreamed about for a long time, and I believe it can and will do so much good. I hope that every mom who needs it, finds it. Motherhood is one of the best blessings I’ve ever experienced and it's really cool that I get to show my daughters what’s possible and build a legacy for them.
And that's what I touch on in this week’s episode. It’s a little different than you might expect – full of thank-yous, acknowledgments, and an exercise for you to do to help you feel grateful and abundant in your own life.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/264
If you haven't heard yet, my book, Less Drama More Mama: How to Go from Frazzled and Disrespected to Calm and Connected, is releasing next Tuesday, August 29th at 9AM PST (10AM MST/11AM CST/12PM EST)! 🎉🎉
I’ve been working on it for over a year, and I'm thrilled to finally share it with you.
This week’s episode of the podcast is a flip of the script. Instead of interviewing, I'm being interviewed! My friend and copywriter, Hannah Fleace, took over hosting and interviewed me about what it was like to write the book, where the ideas came from, and so much more.
I'm excited to share a little of my heart about why I wrote this book. Spoiler: it’s for YOU.
It’s for all the moms looking to find relief from feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, or guilt. It’s for the moms still figuring things out and making their way. It’s for the moms who believe deep down that things can be better and they're not alone.
My deepest wish is that you’ll find relief in its pages and know how supported and loved you are.
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The transition from summer to school can be tricky for everyone, so getting clear about expectations and goals for the upcoming year can help everyone feel more prepared and at ease. By involving everyone in setting goals around family, home, and school responsibilities, you can foster a sense of ownership and teamwork within the family, which not only helps lighten the load for you, but also teaches your kids valuable life skills. Tune in to this episode to find out how to ensure a smooth transition and create a sense of shared purpose as you start the new school year. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/262
The transition from summer to school can be tricky for everyone, so getting clear about expectations and goals for the upcoming year can help everyone feel more prepared and at ease.
By involving everyone in setting goals around family, home, and school responsibilities, you can foster a sense of ownership and teamwork within the family, which not only helps lighten the load for you, but also teaches your kids valuable life skills.
Tune in to this episode to find out how to ensure a smooth transition and create a sense of shared purpose as you start the new school year.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/262
Throughout the month of July, my Damn Good Mama group and I embarked on a 30-day challenge based on the bestselling book How to Break Up with Your Phone by Catherine Price. We took steps to reshape our relationships with our smartphones, and the results were truly remarkable. Tune in to hear about what the challenge entailed, what we noticed about ourselves, and how you can break up with your phone, too. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/261
Today I'm joined for the second time by Hunter Clarke-Fields, a mindfulness mentor, the host of the Mindful Mama Podcast, #1 Bestselling Author of Raising Good Humans, a mindfulness meditation teacher, and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. We’re talking about her brand new book, Raising Good Humans Every Day: 50 Simple Ways to Press Pause, Stay Present & Connect with Your Kids that hits bookstores on August 1st. The book has 50 super short chapters that each offer actionable advice you can incorporate into your life right away, and is fantastic for parents with kids of all ages. Hunter guides us through some tools and strategies, and I can't wait for you to listen! Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/260
Today I'm joined for the second time by Hunter Clarke-Fields, a mindfulness mentor, the host of the Mindful Mama Podcast, #1 Bestselling Author of Raising Good Humans, a mindfulness meditation teacher, and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training.
We’re talking about her brand new book, Raising Good Humans Every Day: 50 Simple Ways to Press Pause, Stay Present & Connect with Your Kids that hits bookstores on August 1st.
The book has 50 super short chapters that each offer actionable advice you can incorporate into your life right away, and is fantastic for parents with kids of all ages.
Hunter guides us through some tools and strategies, and I can't wait for you to listen!
https://lessdramamoremama.com/260
After decades of working with families, and as a mom myself, I can tell you that one of the biggest “hacks” to parenting is letting kids learn through their own mistakes. As simple as that sounds, it can be extremely challenging for parents (especially moms) to allow mistakes and consequences to occur. So in this episode, I’m talking about the benefits of letting your kids learn through natural consequences. You'll realize how much more effective it is than nagging, lecturing, and getting into power struggles for raising responsible and resilient kids/adults. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/259
After decades of working with families, and as a mom myself, I can tell you that one of the biggest “hacks” to parenting is letting kids learn through their own mistakes.
As simple as that sounds, it can be extremely challenging for parents (especially moms) to allow mistakes and consequences to occur.
So in this episode, I’m talking about the benefits of letting your kids learn through natural consequences.
You'll realize how much more effective it is than nagging, lecturing, and getting into power struggles for raising responsible and resilient kids/adults.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/259
Do you wish you could connect more with your kids, but have trouble finding the time?
Would you like ideas for screen-free family fun?
If so, this episode is for you!
I've compiled a list of 31 ways to connect with your kids in ten minutes or less that don't involve screens, are mom-tested, and kid-approved.
Tune in to get fresh ideas and spark some more of your own.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/258
Today's guest is my good friend and Certified Teen Coach, Kendra Huffman.
Kendra helps teenagers find relief from anxiety, stress, and pressure from trying to feel "enough."
She helps them release the need to be perfect, and replace it with more self-confidence and self-compassion.
This episode is packed with great wisdom and tools for dealing with your own anxiety and helping your teens with theirs, too.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/257
After working with hundreds of moms, I know I’m not alone in feeling anxious about the decisions our kids make. I’m not alone in tightening my grip when I can’t control my kids, their decisions, or their behavior, either. So today, when America celebrates Independence Day, consider this episode your invitation to release some control and allow your children the freedom to take more risks and make more mistakes. In the long run, those experiences will help pave the way to their successes and deepen your relationships! For full show notes and information, visit www.lessdramamoremama.com/256
I’ve had lots of experience disciplining other people’s kids in my role as clinician in an adolescent day treatment program, as a religious school teacher, a camp counselor, and a school counselor. But when it comes to disciplining other people’s kids in my role as a mom, it feels a bit tricky because I don’t want my behavior to impact my kids' friendships in a negative way. In this episode, I'm talking about the three most important things to focus on when it comes to dealing with other people’s kids so you can handle situations with confidence, compassion, and respect. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/255
I’ve had lots of experience disciplining other people’s kids in my role as clinician in an adolescent day treatment program, as a religious school teacher, a camp counselor, and a school counselor.
But when it comes to disciplining other people’s kids in my role as a mom, it feels a bit tricky because I don’t want my behavior to impact my kids' friendships in a negative way.
In this episode, I'm talking about the three most important things to focus on when it comes to dealing with other people’s kids so you can handle situations with confidence, compassion, and respect.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/255
Fun fact: Today (June 20th) is World Productivity Day. I'd never heard of this holiday, but since productivity is a common struggle among moms, I thought I'd take the opportunity to share some hands-on, practical strategies you can start using today to help you get the important things done in less time, so you can spend more time doing what you enjoy with people you love. Whether you want to feel more productive or less overwhelmed and bombarded by your to-do list, this episode is for you. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/254
Fun fact: Today (June 20th) is World Productivity Day.
I'd never heard of this holiday, but since productivity is a common struggle among moms, I thought I'd take the opportunity to share some hands-on, practical strategies you can start using today to help you get the important things done in less time, so you can spend more time doing what you enjoy with people you love.
Whether you want to feel more productive or less overwhelmed and bombarded by your to-do list, this episode is for you.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/254
If you had to guess, what do you think dads struggle with the most?
That's the very first question I asked today's podcast guest, Tommy Geary, and his answer might surprise you.
Tommy is a life coach who helps take the pressure off high-performing men so they can be better leaders, husbands, and dads, and I asked him to come on the podcast in honor of Father's Day (which is this Sunday!).
We talked about a number of topics, and his perspective was so refreshing. So, grab your guy, jump in the car for a short drive, and give this a listen.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/253
This week, I’m hosting Christine Bongiovanni, a love and relationship coach with 30+ years of experience guiding women to loving relationships with themselves and their lives. After considering a divorce from her second husband, Christine discovered a process that allowed her to turn her marriage around, which she now uses to help other couples (and individuals) go from co-existence to interactive, loving partnerships. Tune in to hear Christine's best tips for prioritizing your partnership and keeping your marriage strong after having kids. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/252
This week, I’m hosting Christine Bongiovanni, a love and relationship coach with 30+ years of experience guiding women to loving relationships with themselves and their lives.
After considering a divorce from her second husband, Christine discovered a process that allowed her to turn her marriage around, which she now uses to help other couples (and individuals) go from co-existence to interactive, loving partnerships.
Tune in to hear Christine's best tips for prioritizing your partnership and keeping your marriage strong after having kids.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/252
Are you on Team Structure or Team Spontaneity when it comes to summer schedules?
In today's episode, I'm discussing the benefits of both, so you can find the perfect balance for you and your family.
Tune in to soak up some ideas and ensure yours is a summer to remember (for all the right reasons)!
https://lessdramamoremama.com/251
LISTEN TO THE SHOW:Do you feel stressed at this time of year?
The last weeks of school can involve many activities, including class parties, recitals, assemblies, proms, graduations, and final exams.
Summer is very close, mama, so hang tight and check out this episode for a few moments of inspiration and sanity.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* What’s actually causing stress this time of year (hint: it’s not all those activities I mentioned above) * One quick shift you can make to feel better and show up the way you want * The family dynamics at play when mom is stressed (and how to create positive momentum)
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Apply for your FREE consultation for private coaching with Pam HERE. * Sign up for Summer Serenity: Get Your Plan Done, So You Can Have Fun workshop * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day this past Sunday!
If not, you’re not alone…and this is the episode for you.
Maybe you didn’t get the things you wanted, everyone completely forgot, there was conflict, or it didn’t feel as special as you would have liked it to feel.
Tune into this episode to hear how to handle when celebrations are a letdown. You can also come back and listen to this episode when you feel disappointed after a celebration of any kind.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* What to do as soon as you feel let down (that most people tell you NOT to do) * The crucial thing YOU can control that will make a huge difference in your experience * What you can do to enjoy your celebration no matter what
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Episode 011 – How to Feel a Feeling * Episode 039 – Feeling Appreciated on Mother’s Day (and every day) * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Apply for your FREE consultation for private coaching with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:Today’s episode was inspired by a friend of mine who wanted to know how to navigate Mother’s Day when she doesn’t feel loving towards her mother-in-law.
Perhaps you can relate when it comes to celebrating your own mother or mother-in-law.
While these relationships can feel challenging at times, it’s possible to start feeling better about them and change your future interactions with them, starting today.
Tune in and have a drama-free Mother’s Day this year!
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* The MOST important thing to know about ALL relationships that will change your understanding of them forever * One powerful question to ask yourself so you can change your relationships for the better * How to feel loving toward your mother/MIL even when she’s not acting lovingly towards you
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Episode 237 – Your Kids Are a Mirror of Your Mind * Episode 031 – What’s Your Story? * Episode 018 – Your Relationship Manual * Episode 161 – Grandparent Expectations * Episode 015 – How to Set Boundaries * Apply for your FREE consultation for private coaching with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:If you had to pick ONE word to describe parenting, what would it be?
I recently saw this question on Facebook, and while there were many positive words in the comments (rewarding, humbling, blessed, to name a few), the most common answer was challenging.
Ain’t it the truth? Parenting can be SO challenging!
But sometimes we can make it harder on ourselves than it needs to be. So, on today’s episode of the podcast, I’m sharing 7 of my most powerful strategies for making parenting easier and more fun.
If you’re feeling stuck in a rut with your parenting, dread heading home after work, or are at your wit’s end getting your kids to listen to you, there’s AT LEAST one strategy here that will be a game-changer for you.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* A strategy for getting your kids to do what you want the first time you ask with a smile on their faces (yes, for real!). * My best strategy for getting through tough days as a parent without losing your cool and yelling at your kids. * The strategy that takes the most effort (but yields the greatest reward) and how you can get started with it for success. * Four more strategies for staying connected with your kids, growing them into capable people, and creating a home life you love.
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Episode 195 – This is Hard * Episode 038 – The Power of Play * Apply for your FREE consultation for private coaching with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:With nearly 250 episodes of the podcast, it’s unlikely that you’ve heard or remember them all.
That’s why I’ve taken clips about different parenting tools I’ve discussed and compiled them into one episode for you today.
I’d love it if you’d let me know which tools you’ve utilized and what your experience was like. You can email me at pam@lessdramamoremama.com or DM me on Instagram @lessdramamama.
Also, please refer to each episode’s show notes for additional information and helpful links.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* How asking certain questions can help your kids develop skills, open up to you, and take responsibility * How family meetings can help meet your kids’ needs for connection, control, and competence * How a phone timer can help manage your kids’ behavior and let you take some much needed time for yourself * A tool to help you de-escalate family conflict
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Episode 171 – Parenting Tool: Great Questions * Episode 131 – Parenting Tool: The Family Meeting * Episode 111 – The Parenting Tool You Have on Your Phone * Episode 165 – The Conflict Escalator * Apply for your FREE consultation for private coaching with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:For a reason you’ll hear about in this episode, I decided to go to my barre class last week without a T-shirt.
It was a nerve-wracking experience, to say the least.
And it’s tied directly to this week’s podcast episode all about self-confidence.
Tune in to find out exactly what happened and how to generate more self-confidence as a mom.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* What self-confidence actually is (it’s probably not what you think) * Where self-confidence comes from (and how you can get more of it) * A fun (scary, amazing) challenge for you to build self-confidence in a way you never have before * Exactly what happened at my barre class and what it made me realize
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Apply for your FREE consultation for private coaching with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:The way I write in my journal has evolved over time, but one thing remains the same: journaling is one of the simplest, most effective practices in my life for understanding my feelings, manifesting what I want, and building stronger relationships.
In this episode, I’m sharing some ways you can start feeling better and growing closer to your kids just by making a habit of writing every day.
If you’re a little skeptical about journaling, have no clue how to get started, or aren’t even exactly sure what it means, pop in your headphones, mama, and listen in. This is one of those small things that can be a catalyst for creating big change in your life.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* How writing in a journal can benefit you * 3 common reasons moms resist journaling and what you can do to get started * 4 techniques to help you make the most of journaling and see ACTUAL changes in your life because of it * My best tips for using a journal to get closer with your kids
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Episode 004 – Questions for Self-Reflection * 50 Powerful Questions download * Apply for your FREE consultation for private coaching with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:One of the keys to creating a good relationship with your kids is taking care of the other important relationships in your life – like the one with your spouse.
And since it’s Spring – the season of love – I’ve rounded up my best tips and advice about handling marital issues from previous episodes and put them into a new one to help you create the loving and peaceful home you dream about.
Even if you’re a single mom like me, this episode can help you navigate other important relationships in your life, so be sure to tune in.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* The biggest misconception people have about relationships and how it causes problems * Game-changing questions to ask yourself that can immediately shift your attitude towards your partner * How different styles of parenting can actually benefit your kids
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Apply for your FREE consultation for private coaching with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:For 16 years, my mom drove the same car until it literally wouldn’t drive anymore.
Despite knowing it was time to get a new one, she just kept putting it on hold.
And when her car finally did go kaput, she ended up spending a lot of money on a car she didn’t really love.
We often think that taking action early will be MORE costly than waiting it out.
But that’s rarely ever true.
In today’s episode of the podcast, I’m getting really real with you about taking action to improve your family situation and what’s likely to happen if you continue to wait.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* What happens when you wait to address family issues (and how it can actually make things much worse) * The best gift you can give your family and the best time to prioritize your parenting * What you can do right now to stop feeling so overwhelmed, frustrated, and anxious as a mom
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Enroll in Damn Good Mama HERE. * Apply for your FREE consultation for private coaching with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:This week, I’m chatting with three incredible moms who are wrapping up the inaugural round of Damn Good Mama.
First you’ll meet Katie, who sometimes felt discouraged about the dynamics in her home with three kids, and wanted to be more intentional about the way she parented them.
Next, you’ll meet Amanda, who dreaded going home after work in the evenings. With two teenage daughters, she knew there would always be some kind of conflict when she walked in the door.
And finally, you’ll meet Jessica, who realized she needed help bringing peace and happiness back into her home after becoming a widow two years ago.
Tune in to this episode to hear the incredible transformations of these three amazing mamas.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* Why these moms decided to join Damn Good Mama and the successes they’ve experienced so far. * Their favorite parts about being in the Damn Good Mama group. * What they wished they had known that they want to share with YOU.
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Enroll in Damn Good Mama HERE. * Listen to Pam’s interview on The Widowed Mom podcast HERE. * Apply for your FREE coaching consultation with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:In January, I committed to going to Barre classes three times a week and hip hop every Thursday night. Then I got COVID, and two weeks went by without me going to any classes.
When I started to feel better, I had to decide: do I keep my commitment to myself to exercise four times a week? Or do I continue resting and relaxing?
In this episode, I share my perspective on commitment and what I chose to do.
If keeping commitments to yourself is something you struggle with, this episode will give you a giant dose of inspiration and determination.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* What commitment actually is (without all the guilt and shame you might feel around it) * How your commitments shape the life you currently have (whether you think of yourself as someone who keeps her commitments or not) * The MOST important commitment to keep no matter what
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Register for How to Get Your Kids to Listen Without Yelling at Them * Apply for your FREE coaching consultation with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:We’re more than halfway through my group coaching program, Damn Good Mama, and two of our moms recently shared that they felt things were getting worse in their homes…not better.
While that might sound frustrating, it’s actually a very common occurrence.
And surprisingly, it means they’re doing something right.
In this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m sharing why you might feel like things get more chaotic or out of control in your home, especially after implementing the tools and techniques that I share on this podcast, and what you can do about it.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* The common (and often frustrating) thing your brain does when you try to create change, even if the change is positive. * Why your kids’ behavior may seem to worsen when you feel calmer. * A highly actionable strategy to use when things feel hard.
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Register for How to Get Your Kids to Listen Without Yelling at Them * Apply for your FREE coaching consultation with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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Your imagination is a very powerful tool that you can use to create your ideal relationships.
In today's podcast episode, I’m revealing how you can become the mom you want to be just by “acting as if” you're already her now.
This is truly one of the simplest and most effective tools you can use to start seeing changes in your family. I can't wait to share it with you!
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Relationships don't happen by accident.
And that is really good news.
Even if you don’t love your relationships with your kids right now or wish your interactions with them were different – it’s good news because those things can change.
This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a concept that has the power to transform your relationships into the beautiful, loving, and joyful ones they can be.
And it starts by understanding that your kids are a mirror of the thoughts and assumptions you carry about yourself, your kids, and your relationships with them.
It might sound a little "out there," but this is one of the most powerful things any mom can learn.
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Recently, I had an experience with my daughter where my initial reaction was to get scared and then so angry I wanted to yell at her.
But I didn't.
In today’s episode, I'm sharing exactly what I did to stay calm, connected, and confident in my parenting, and how you can learn to do the same in three really simple steps.
This works at EVERY age and stage of parenting, so if your first reactions are usually like mine, make sure you listen in!
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Have you ever noticed how quick people are to assume the worst in others?
Maybe you’ve even recognized this tendency in yourself.
When we assume the worst in others, it negatively impacts our experience of life, our mood, and especially our relationships.
How often are you assuming the worst intentions from your own kids?
This episode is full of examples that every mom can relate to – from kids not doing their chores to teens who come home late.
If you’re ready to instantly improve your relationship with your kids, this is one episode you don’t want to miss!
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Today's guest is my friend and colleague, Jamie Berman. She's a Master Certified Coach with a background in Spiritual Psychology, and specializes in all things money, mindset, and manifestation!
Jamie helps her clients go from underearning to making 6-figures and beyond in their businesses without overworking or hustling.
In this interview, Jamie shares how her views on money have changed over time. She also talks about issues specifically related to stay-at-home moms and working moms, and spills the tea on how she chooses to spend her money to get the most out of life.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/234
LISTEN TO THE SHOW:I’m a big believer in the power of affirmations. Not only have they made a huge difference in my own life, but my clients use them all the time to achieve incredible results.
This week on the podcast, I’m sharing all about affirmations – what they are, how to use them, and how they can specifically help you achieve your parenting and relationship goals.
If you’re looking for a really simple way to start getting more of what you want, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* What affirmations are and how I recently used them in my own life to create the results I wanted * How to know what makes an effective affirmation (so you don’t accidentally sabotage your success) * 6 tips for creating affirmations that help you get what you want much faster than you thought possible (#5 is a game-changer!)
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Episode 232 – Change Your State * Episode 058 – Bridging the Belief Gap * 25 Affirmations for Moms download * Affirmation Reminder App – Android | Apple * Parrot app | ThinkUp app * Apply for your FREE coaching consultation with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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Today’s episode is about changing your state; not in the sense of shifting where you physically live, but where you mentally live.
Your "state" refers to your dominant way of being in the world and consists of your attitudes, perceptions, assumptions, beliefs, feelings, and actions.
If you don't like the results you're creating in your life, it may be time to change your state. Tune into this episode to learn more.
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When presented with an opportunity to make a change for the better or go after a goal, many moms don’t take it. They choose to stay stuck.
But why?
In today’s episode, I’m sharing my thoughts about what stops us from doing the things we KNOW will benefit us and move us forward in life, and how to get unstuck.
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Happy New Year, mama!
I hope you're having an amazing start to 2023. Did you set a resolution or goal yet?
I recently read that 54% of American parents make New Year’s resolutions, and while I think setting goals is amazing, why we set them and how we think about them ultimately determines whether or not we will attain them.
Most of the time, I see parents set goals with the idea that they’ll be happier on the other side of achieving them.
And it’s exactly that kind of thinking that prevents them from getting the happiness they want.
This seems totally counterintuitive, I know, but it's true. And on today's first episode of the new year, I'm sharing why.
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This week's episode is a twist on self-care that you probably haven't heard.
When they think about self-care, many moms imagine bubble baths, a few minutes of quiet time (locked in the bathroom), or a warm cup of coffee before a hectic day begins.
Today I'm sharing a strategy that's been a huge mood-lifter for me, and I know it can do the same for you. Plus, it’s not a run-of-the-mill idea you’d find on a Pinterest list of "25 self-care activities for moms."
Take care of yourself, mama, and have a Happy New Year!
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LISTEN TO THE SHOW:We’ve already talked about the first two pillars of the More Mama Method – Control and Connection, and this week we’re talking about Competence.
Do you know what to do when your kids have totally different temperaments and don’t respond to the same parenting approach? Or what to do when kids are uncooperative? Or when you feel totally overwhelmed by life?
This episode addresses all those things from the lens of competence, and I can’t wait to share them with you!
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:* What competence is and what role it plays in your life as a mom * How to use competence to get more of what you desire (kids who behave, confidence in your actions as a mother, and so much more) * How focusing on competence improves one specific area of your life that makes a huge difference in day-to-day parenting
FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE: Damn Good Mama – Group Coaching program * Episode 225 – More Mama Method, Pillar One: Connection * Episode 226 – More Mama Method, Pillar Two: Competence * Apply for your FREE coaching consultation with Pam HERE. * Subscribe to get email updates on webinars, workshops, and special offers HERE. * Leave a review of the show in Apple Podcasts * Follow Less Drama More Mama on Facebook and Instagram. * Send a mama friend links to the Less Drama More Mama podcast HERE*.
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In today's podcast episode, I'm sharing a really personal story about an argument I had with my ex-husband and some of the derogatory things he said to me.
The reason I'm sharing this with you is because I know almost every mom deals with disparaging remarks at some point -- whether they come from someone else or, more likely, their own mental narrative.
But the story doesn't end the way you probably think it does, and my reaction might surprise you.
Tune in to hear what happened and how my experience can benefit you!
Last week, I shared the first pillar of my signature framework The More Mama Method, which is the process I take my clients through to help them create happier lives and better relationships with their kids.
This week, I’m sharing the second pillar. It’s a word we use often in parenting, but it has a totally different definition in my method: Control.
When you hear that word, you might think about controlling your kids or their behavior, or something you feel flew out the window a long time ago. In this episode, I’m sharing what control really means and what it looks like in a thriving family.
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Since coaching so many clients over the past ten years, I’ve identified several common themes and obstacles moms face that I address again and again.
With the help of my business coach, I thought through the exact steps I take to help moms overcome these obstacles and mapped out my unique process that I'm now referring to as "The More Mama Method."
In this episode of the podcast, I'm delving into the first of three pillars that make up my signature framework. Understanding this pillar is the foundation for creating strong, safe, trusting, and loving relationships when it comes to parenting.
I can't wait to share it with you!
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Do you feel overwhelmed just thinking about the amount of "stuff" your kids will get during the holidays and where to put it all? We’ve been conditioned (here in the U.S. especially) to believe that more is better. But where there is too much stuff, fewer things are truly valued. Attention spans are shorter. Anxiety, overwhelm, and boredom are greater. And there’s a need to fill every void with – you guessed it – more stuff! With holiday shopping about to be in full swing, I wanted to share a few ideas for how you can limit the amount of clutter that enters your home this year and still give your kids an unforgettable experience filled with meaningful gifts. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/224
Do you feel overwhelmed just thinking about the amount of "stuff" your kids will get during the holidays and where to put it all?
We’ve been conditioned (here in the U.S. especially) to believe that more is better.
But where there is too much stuff, fewer things are truly valued. Attention spans are shorter. Anxiety, overwhelm, and boredom are greater. And there’s a need to fill every void with – you guessed it – more stuff!
With holiday shopping about to be in full swing, I wanted to share a few ideas for how you can limit the amount of clutter that enters your home this year and still give your kids an unforgettable experience filled with meaningful gifts.
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The holidays are approaching, and your social media accounts are about to be flooded with photos and quotes about gratitude.
This year, I wanted to talk about gratitude in a way you might not have heard before.
Most of us are used to expressing gratitude after we receive a gift or achieve a goal (which is an excellent practice!), but today I’m sharing how you can practice feeling gratitude in advance of getting a result to attract the things you want into your life. I also discuss how to experience gratitude for the things you don't want, too.
This episode could be the one that changes everything for you and your family, so don't miss it!
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My guest on today's episode is Master Coach instructor, Molly Claire. She was my very first life coach back in 2018.
She’s a 7-figure business builder with a blended family of 10 (yes, 10!).
Molly has dedicated her life and business to helping women overcome their own limits, make the money they want, and have the time, freedom and flexibility to be with the people in their lives that matter the most (especially the little ones).
I’m always learning so much from Molly and I’m excited for you to meet her, too.
If you're curious about what coaching can REALLY do for you as a mom (and how it changed my life and Molly's for the better!), you'll want to tune in.
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Do you often worry about what others think of you? If so, you're not alone. Many of the moms I speak with give more weight and attention to other people's opinions than to their own, causing themselves unnecessary drama and suffering. In this episode, I explain why other people's opinions aren't as relevant as you think they are, and how to stop caring as much about what others think of you. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/221
Do you often worry about what others think of you?
If so, you're not alone.
Many of the moms I speak with give more weight and attention to other people's opinions than to their own, causing themselves unnecessary drama and suffering.
In this episode, I explain why other people's opinions aren't as relevant as you think they are, and how to stop caring as much about what others think of you.
https://lessdramamoremama.com/221
Whatever you think about yourself gets reflected back to you as your external reality. So, if you want to know the quality of your thoughts about yourself, just look at your life right now. Are you satisfied with it? Does it reflect who you want to be? If not, tune in to this episode to learn how to change your self-concept, become the person you want to be, and create the life you want. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/220
Whatever you think about yourself gets reflected back to you as your external reality.
So, if you want to know the quality of your thoughts about yourself, just look at your life right now.
Are you satisfied with it? Does it reflect who you want to be?
If not, tune in to this episode to learn how to change your self-concept, become the person you want to be, and create the life you want.
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Sex and pleasure are often taboo topics for moms because they can bring up a lot of embarrassment, shame, and awkwardness. And yet, when you can learn to be more in touch with your sexuality, you can develop a better relationship with yourself and a more enjoyable experience of life. My guest today is Tilly Storm, a holistic sex and intimacy coach for elite leaders seeking to prioritize their pleasure and relationships. She’s the host of The Multiorgasmic Mama Podcast and has been recognized as one of the top 20 sex coaches in the world by the Coach Foundation. Tilly is on a mission to re-imagine how society views sexuality, merging ancient sexuality practices with modern healing and integration modalities to support leaders in having the best sex of their lives and manifesting the life of their dreams. As a certified sex and intimacy coach, Tilly uses deep transformational tools and techniques inspired from the Taoist and Tantric arts, somatic healing, psychotherapy and a variety of coaching modalities to support high achieving men and women to experience epic sex and pleasure in the bedroom and beyond. In this interview, we talk about pleasure as a feminine superpower, and how getting in touch with your sexual side can give you more energy and even make you a better mom! Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/219
Sex and pleasure are often taboo topics for moms because they can bring up a lot of embarrassment, shame, and awkwardness. And yet, when you can learn to be more in touch with your sexuality, you can develop a better relationship with yourself and a more enjoyable experience of life.
My guest today is Tilly Storm, a holistic sex and intimacy coach for elite leaders seeking to prioritize their pleasure and relationships. She’s the host of The Multiorgasmic Mama Podcast and has been recognized as one of the top 20 sex coaches in the world by the Coach Foundation.
Tilly is on a mission to re-imagine how society views sexuality, merging ancient sexuality practices with modern healing and integration modalities to support leaders in having the best sex of their lives and manifesting the life of their dreams.
As a certified sex and intimacy coach, Tilly uses deep transformational tools and techniques inspired from the Taoist and Tantric arts, somatic healing, psychotherapy and a variety of coaching modalities to support high achieving men and women to experience epic sex and pleasure in the bedroom and beyond.
In this interview, we talk about pleasure as a feminine superpower, and how getting in touch with your sexual side can give you more energy and even make you a better mom!
https://lessdramamoremama.com/219
Last week, I ran a workshop called The Secret to Raising Respectful Kids (That No One Else is Talking About) and it was amazing!
Prior to the workshop, I sent an email asking those who signed up to tell me ONE THING they most wanted to know, ask, or understand by the end of the workshop. They asked some incredible questions like . . .
“I'd like to understand what respectful behavior exactly means, especially in the context of teenagers. What behavior is considered normal, and what should I address?" and “Why do my kids love to push buttons just for the sake of pushing buttons? When they see I'm upset and I've asked them 100 times to stop, why must they continue on?”
Nodding your head yet?
In today's podcast episode, I'm answering these (and several more!) questions about kids and respect.
If you've been a parent for more than .5 seconds, I know this will resonate and maybe give you a new perspective on respect in your own home.
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The word "investment" probably makes you think about money and the stock market.
But you also make investments in your time, your energy, your growth and your well-being.
Investing in yourself means gaining more knowledge, experience, and skills that will benefit you personally and/or professionally in the future.
So, why do moms have such a hard time investing in themselves?
Tune into this episode to find out why and how you can start investing in your future self today!
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Today’s guest on the podcast is Jen Lumanlan, the host of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, a reference guide for parents of young children based on scientific research and the principles of respectful parenting. In this interview, Jen and I talk about the impact of different types of trauma on parenting and what she calls the "trauma of unmet needs." We discuss how understanding our own needs and the needs of our children can help us problem-solve in situations when we feel triggered. And you'll hear Jen answer an email I received from a mom wanting to help her son struggling with ADHD and ODD. Tune in for this information-packed episode that's sure to give you several insights and ideas to help you with your parenting. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/216
International bestselling author Carla Naumburg, PhD, is back on the show with me to talk about her fifth and latest book, You Are Not a Shtty Parent: How to Practice Self-Compassion and Give Yourself a Break. In her unique down-to-earth, warm, and humorous way, Carla helps us understand the importance of self-compassion and gives us practical strategies to prevent and manage what she calls, “Shtty Parent Syndrome.” If you’ve ever thought to yourself, “I’m such a shitty parent” (and who among us hasn’t at some point?), get ready to change your mind. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/215
Did you know I used to be a K-8 School Counselor? That experience has helped me SO MUCH in my work with parents. Last week, I got curious and asked my Instagram followers what questions they had for a former K-8 school counselor. And they delivered! If your child is in elementary or middle school, you’ll definitely want to give this episode a listen and share it with others! Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/214
Join me for this special Grandparents' Day episode to learn seven things your child’s grandparents wish you'd say to them. These seven statements will not only help them feel great, they'll also help position you as equals in adulthood and enhance your relationships! Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/213
My guest today is Abbi Perets, a mom of five who didn’t want to choose between spending time with her kids and having a successful career, so she figured out a way to do both. Abbi started freelance writing when her oldest child was born. When her third child (who had special needs) was diagnosed with cancer, Abbi joined an online community for moms of kids with cancer and began sharing freelance writing tips. The moms who implemented her suggestions began making money to be able to afford healthcare and other basic necessities. As a result, Abbi founded Successful Freelance Mom to support and encourage women and mothers to create profitable freelance businesses that fit into their busy lives. Tune into today's episode to hear her incredible story and learn how you can create money while working from home and spending more time with your kids, too. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/212
Moms don’t give themselves enough credit for the impressive things they do every day. Tune in for this brief, but powerful episode about noticing and appreciating the amazing person you are now, AND setting goals you to impress yourself even more in the future. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/211
Growing up, the first day of school was always a big deal in my house. But along with the excitement of getting new school supplies and shoes were feelings of nervousness, stress, and worry, too. In today’s episode, I’m talking about the transition back to school and how you can make it easier on everyone. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/210
I just returned from a week-long camp for kids who have experienced the death of a parent, sibling or primary caregiver. It was my fourth summer there as a Grief Specialist, and every year I'm amazed by how transformative it is -- both for me and for the kids. Tune in to today's episode, where I share my top recommendations for how to support grieving kids, whether they’re grieving the loss of a parent, a sibling, a grandparent, other family members, pets, or peers. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/209
I love books. I love to read them, recommend them, share them, and give them as gifts. In this episode, I'm sharing six books that have had the biggest impact on me so far when it comes to parenting and life, and why I think they'd have a positive impact on you, too. Get full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/208
If you've ever promised yourself that you would learn from your past choices only to find yourself repeating them, this episode is for you. I'm sharing a five-step process to help you learn from your past choices and actually change your behavior to create more peace and calm in your home. Join me as I walk you through each of the five steps and share insights from my own life and coaching practice. Full show notes and information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/207
Co-parenting after divorce gets a bad rap, but my guest today is proof that it's possible to have a good relationship with your ex and co-parent peacefully. Mikki Gardner is a Certified Life Coach and Conscious Parenting Coach. She's a mom to three boys (her son and two bonus sons) and a dog. She co-parents with her ex husband and his wife, her partner and his ex-wife. Mikki is the host of the Co-Parenting with Confidence podcast and has a private one-on-one coaching practice, helping moms ditch the conflict and frustration of divorce and become strong, loving, confident co-parents without the other co-parent's participation. Get full show notes at www.lessdramamoremama.com/206
Most parents assume the absolute worst when their kids are upset and won't share why. Their brains automatically make up the craziest stories about what might be going on. They also tend to take things personally, get defensive, and act in ways that reinforce their child's belief that it’s better to keep things to themselves when they’re upset. Tune in for this episode to learn how to respond to your kids when they won't talk with you about why they're upset. Get full show notes at www.lessdramamoremama.com/205
This episode was inspired by several factors that all seemed to converge at once: the Fourth of July, the Roe v Wade decision last week, and a session with one of my newest clients. All had themes of freedom, independence, and choice. And those three things make a huge impact on your relationship with your kids. Tune into today's episode to learn more about the importance of encouraging your child to make decisions and tips on how to do it. Get more information and show notes at www.lessdramamoremama.com/204
Today we're wrapping up my greatest hits series of guest interviews with four amazing women. Claire Lerner offers help for parents of young children, Amy Kelly supports parents and teachers of middle school kids, Stephanie Haynes guides parents and kids through options after high school, and Alison Cady coaches women who want to lose weight and stop emotional eating. Don't forget to leave a review of the podcast before the end of June for your chance to win a book of your choice written by one of my guests. Two winners will be announced in early July. Get show notes and more information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/203
We’re almost halfway through the year and halfway through the greatest hits guest edition of the Less Drama More Mama podcast. Each week in June I’m rounding up some of the best clips from my guest interviews over the last 200 episodes. Today, you'll hear from several Master Life Coaches, including Erin Aquin, Krista St.-Germain, and Aimée Gianni about relationships, grief, and the mind-body connection. You'll also hear from writer Andrea Askowitz about the power of personal stories. All of their episodes shared themes related to vulnerability and empowerment. To win a book of your choice written by one of my guests, be sure to leave a review of the podcast during the month of June. Two lucky winners will be announced in July. www.lessdramamoremama.com/202
In case you missed it, I’m dedicating the whole month of June on the Less Drama More Mama podcast to greatest hits from my guest interviews. And, to say thank you for listening to and supporting the podcast, two lucky listeners will win a book of their choice written by one of my guests. All you have to do to enter is leave a review of the podcast during the month of June. This week, you'll hear from Carla Naumburg, PhD, mindfulness mentor Hunter Clarke-Fields, emotional well-being coach Shira Gura, and elementary ESE instructor Lauren Adler. Get show notes and more information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/201
I’ve decided to do something really special to celebrate the 200th episode of the Less Drama More Mama podcast. The entire month of June, I’m sharing the greatest hits from guest speakers I’ve had on the show. And, when you leave a review of the podcast during the month of June, you’ll be entered to win a book of your choice written by one of my guests. It’s my way of saying thank you to my guests for their partnership and to YOU for listening and supporting the podcast. Tune in to hear wisdom from Master Coach Rachel Hart, Life Coach Shira Gill, Broadway and Disney star Susan Egan, one of Australia's leading digital wellness experts Dr. Kristy Goodwin, and my kids, Marissa and Dalia. Get show notes and more information at www.lessdramamoremama.com/200
I can't believe it's been four years since I started the Less Drama More Mama podcast. It's one of my favorite ways to connect with you, and I appreciate your support so much. I'm really proud of the fact that I haven't missed a single Tuesday episode since I started. So, it's only fitting that the 199th episode is all about parenting with consistency. Tune in to learn why this is an important topic and how to create consistency in your words and actions. www.lessdramamoremama.com/199
From small transitions, like waking up in the morning, to bigger ones like going back and forth between two parents' homes, kids deal with lots of changes every day. While change can be difficult for adults, it can be even more stressful for kids because they haven't yet developed the cognitive, emotional, and executive functioning skills required to handle it. Even though we often resist it, change is inevitable. Tune into this episode and find out how you can help your kids learn the skills needed to get through it, and maybe even embrace it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/198
It's still Mental Health Awareness month and this week, we're getting a little more personal about how mental health affects the way you parent. In this podcast episode, I'm sharing my own mental health journey, and why my mental well-being is my top priority as a mom. If you’ve ever struggled (or are currently struggling) with your mental health, please know you’re not alone. There's no shame in recognizing and facing it, and there are lots of ways to get the support you need. You deserve to have a life you love and show up as the mom you want to be. www.lessdramamoremama.com/197
Did you know May is Mental Health Awareness Month? I think it’s great that we have an entire month dedicated to mental health, but it seems like most of the conversations focus on mental illness. And while that's definitely a crucial part of the conversation, it’s not the whole picture. No one really talks about what good mental health means or how to cultivate it. Good mental health isn’t simply the absence of mental illness, and it isn’t feeling happy all the time. So what is it? And how can we tell if we have it? Join me for this episode, where I answer these questions and more. www.lessdramamoremama.com/196
Last week I had five coaching sessions back to back, and in four of those sessions, the moms all cried and expressed the same sentiment: This is hard.
One mom said she felt defeated. Another said she felt judged. Another felt guilty, like she was doing everything wrong because she often got pushback on her boundaries.
Maybe you’ve been there, too.
With Mother’s Day around the corner here in the U.S., there are a lot of beautiful and fun parts of motherhood to celebrate. AND I hope you celebrate that you are doing the hard thing.
You're showing up the best you can even when it feels challenging and unmanageable. And that's worth celebrating!
If you’ve ever felt defeated, overwhelmed, or like everything just feels hard, this episode is for you.
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Last week I had five coaching sessions back to back, and in four of those sessions, the moms all cried and expressed the same sentiment: This is hard. One mom said she felt defeated. Another said she felt judged. Another felt guilty, like she was doing everything wrong because she often got pushback on her boundaries. Maybe you’ve been there, too. With Mother’s Day around the corner here in the U.S., there are a lot of beautiful and fun parts of motherhood to celebrate. AND I hope you celebrate that you are doing the hard thing. You're showing up the best you can even when it feels challenging and unmanageable. And that's worth celebrating! If you’ve ever felt defeated, overwhelmed, or like everything just feels hard, this episode is for you. www.lessdramamoremama.com/195
Do you resist emotions like grief and sadness for fear that you might be unable to function for days? Does simply thinking about being embarrassed or rejected make you sweat? Do you shield yourself from being too happy now to avoid disappointment later? Well, I've got great news for you. Emotions are temporary (probably more so than you think). And when you understand how they work, you can actually create more happiness in your life. Tune into this episode to learn a concept that will help you handle any emotion starting today. www.lessdramamoremama.com/194
Over the past two years, I've had the privilege of witnessing one of my clients transform herself and her relationships. When Lindsey reached out to me for support, she had hit her "rock bottom." She was yelling at everyone in her family, finding reasons to be angry with them, and not liking herself as a result. I'm thrilled to report that everything has changed for Lindsey since we started working together back in 2020. Tune into this episode to hear Lindsey talk about how she went from struggling with resentment, guilt, and unworthiness to having a strong sense of self-worth and self-confidence. www.lessdramamoremama.com/193
One thing I often hear from parents who want to start coaching with me and feel like it could change everything for their family is, “I don’t think my spouse will go for this.” Usually, it's the wife who finds me through the podcast and she's had me in her ear for a while. She feels a pull inside her to reach out to me, but her spouse, who has never heard the podcast and doesn’t understand the concepts I teach says, "You want to do what? And with who? Who's Pam Howard? Do you really need coaching? Can’t you just read a book?" This interview answers all of those questions from a spouse’s perspective. Mike, who's married to my client, Lindsey, graciously agreed to come chat with me about his experience since I started working with Lindsey two years ago. We don’t often get to hear from a spouse’s perspective, and I couldn’t wait to get this into your ears and heart. Grab your spouse and listen together (and come back next week to hear my interview with Lindsey)! www.lessdramamoremama.com/192
Have you ever wondered how two kids growing up under the same roof (even twins) could be so different? Or why you seem to connect well with one child and are "triggered" by another? Do you sometimes feel like no matter what you say or how you say it, you can't seem to communicate effectively with your child? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you. Tune into this episode to learn what temperament is, why it matters, and how understanding your kids' unique temperaments can help you improve your relationships with them immediately! www.lessdramamoremama.com/191
My guest on today's show is Amy Kelly. She's the creator and host of the In the Middle of It podcast where she provides fresh ideas, strategies and resources for middle school teachers and parents. Amy is a Mom, a writer, a former 8th grade teacher, and a voracious reader dedicated to supporting those on the front lines with teens. When she’s not working on her podcast, you can find her listening to U2, watching Gilmore Girls for the millionth time, or hanging out on the patio with her husband and two teens. In this interview, we discuss managing expectations of middle school kids, developmental appropriateness, ways to connect with your middle school child, and much more. Don't miss it! www.lessdramamoremama.com/190
Does hearing "But Mommy! I waaaaaaaaaant it!" send shivers down your spine? Many people associate wanting more with selfishness, entitlement, and ingratitude. In today's episode, I share how wanting more is actually healthy and even necessary to living a fuller, more meaningful life. Tune in to hear how to give your kids (and yourself) permission to want more. www.lessdramamoremama.com/189
Just before the pandemic hit, Susan started her own event planning business. So, when no one was traveling or planning events anymore, she found herself stuck in a victim mentality and no longer feeling good about herself and her life. When she reached out to me, she was feeling angry, resentful, out of control, and powerless. She hesitantly, but bravely made the decision to invest in herself and give coaching a try. Tune in to hear how that decision helped her get unstuck and what she was able to achieve. www.lessdramamoremama.com/188
Katie reached out to me last summer, right before returning to her job as a Kindergarten teacher. She was in the middle of a divorce after 16 years of marriage, had 3 young kids, and felt completely stuck when it came to rebuilding her life as a single mom. Katie started referring to herself as "Katie 2.0" about three months into our coaching because her transformation was so striking. Tune into this episode to hear about all about it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/187
This episode is a bit more personal than most. I share about two experiences of mine when I've had what I refer to as "Mama Meltdowns." My hope in sharing these experiences with you is that you'll feel less alone/ashamed/defeated, you'll stop judging yourself so harshly, and you'll have ideas for how to move on after a Mama Meltdown of your own. www.lessdramamoremama.com/186
A strong connection is the foundation of a great parent-child relationship. So, how do you stay connected when you sense your kids emotionally distancing themselves from you? When they physically move away from you? What do you do when they show little to no interest in spending time with you because they'd rather be with their friends or on their devices? In this episode, I share about my own efforts to stay connected to my teenager and offer ways to help you answer the above questions for yourself. www.lessdramamoremama.com/185
As moms, we’re very familiar with the importance of physical safety for our kids. Even before they’re born, we make sure to buy the safest car seats, high chairs, and cribs we can afford, we baby proof our homes as soon as they’re able to crawl, and we attend to every scrape, rash, and fever vigilantly. But what about emotional safety? There’s far too little information and training for parents when it comes to that. Despite what it sounds like, emotional safety isn’t about protecting our kids from emotional hurt or the “negative” emotions of life. Rather, emotional safety is about creating a safe space for kids' emotions to be accepted, heard, and valued. Tune into this episode to learn more about creating emotional safety for your child. www.lessdramamoremama.com/184
If you’re anything like me, connecting with your kids feels effortless when things are going well – when your kids are following your expectations, everyone’s in a good mood, and everyone wants to be together. It’s all those other times in the day or week when connection can feel challenging: when they don’t cooperate, when they talk back, when you’re trying to get that project for work finished by the deadline and they keep interrupting you, or you just want to relax in peace and quiet and they won't seem to leave you alone. Join me for this episode where I identify the barriers to connection, so you can break down the barriers and pave the way for better relationships. www.lessdramamoremama.com/183
You might think of unconditional love as a gift you give your kids. But in reality, it's a gift you give yourself. When you choose to feel unconditional love, you're the one who benefits. Your kids don't feel your love, only you do. But when you show up in a loving way, they'll be more likely to experience love, too. Tune into today's episode to learn more about loving your child unconditionally. www.lessdramamoremama.com/182
You’ve probably heard the advice to make family dinners a priority. In my experience, moms either run themselves ragged living up to a perfectionist standard, or they feel guilty and defeated when they don’t. Tune in to today's episode to get practical advice and lots of resources to help you make family mealtimes easier and more enjoyable for everyone. www.lessdramamoremama.com/181
Are you an emotional eater?
Do you use food to numb out so you don't have to deal with feelings of stress, overwhelm, boredom, or frustration? My guest on today's episode lost 85 pounds, but she did it through shaming herself and restricting her diet. Through life coaching, Alison Cady learned how maintain her goal weight without beating herself up, cutting out her favorite foods, or following a strict regimen. Tune into this episode to hear how she changed her relationships with food and her body and how you can, too. www.lessdramamoremama.com/180
When I was a little girl, my mother told me, “Mommies don’t get sick.” And I believed her. Little did I know, my mother did get sick, but she just kept going no matter how miserable she felt. Can you relate? If you've ever felt guilty for slowing down to take care of yourself, this episode is for you. www.lessdramamoremama.com/179
Do you expect your kids to follow rules that you're not willing to follow yourself? Do you sometimes have a "do as I say, not as I do" attitude? Yeah, me too. 😕 In this episode, I shine a light on some areas where I've engage in hypocritical parenting and where you might be, too. Then, I encourage you to choose one of those areas and commit to being an example of the kind of person you want your kids to be. Are you in? www.lessdramamoremama.com/178
How do you want to feel a year from now, at the end of 2022? Why do you imagine you'd feel that way? What will be different? In this episode, I'll share the key to getting what you want sooner, so you don't have to wait a whole year to feel the way you want. www.lessdramamoremama.com/177
It's that time of year when people are thinking about New Year’s resolutions and how they want next year to be different. But before you start looking to the future and where you want to go, it's important to look at the past year and see how far you’ve come. Not many moms take the time to do this. They spend their energy focused on what isn't working and what they still have left to do to achieve their goals. In today's episode, I offer five questions to help you stop and acknowledge what’s going well in your life, what you've accomplished in 2021, and how to create momentum heading into 2022. www.lessdramamoremama.com/176
If you want to do better in the new year -- to stop yelling so much, be more present with your kids, and get more done in less time and with less stress, you need a plan and you need support. Many moms have a practice for maintaining or improving their physical health. They understand the importance of taking care of their bodies and strengthening their muscles so they can stay in physical shape and be more efficient at things like climbing and lifting. But not many moms have a practice for maintaining or improving their mental and emotional health and strengthening their mental muscles so they can be more efficient at things like staying calm, connecting with other people, focusing, taking action, and problem-solving. My new, 12-week group program will help you do that. Not only will you learn how to build your mental muscles, you’ll practice strengthening them every day. As a result, you'll break through years of old habits and start feeling the results immediately. Applications are open now through Tuesday, December 21, so don’t wait. I promise you won't regret it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/group
Do you know the Saboteurs who live in the survival region of your brain? They're the ones who lie to you and tell you something's wrong with you and/or your kids. They keep you from doing what you say you want to do, like sticking to your limits and staying calm. They convince you that you can't handle life's challenges, and you shouldn't bother trying. In this episode, I'll introduce you to the ten Saboteurs that reside in your mind, and tell you how you can put an end to their tyranny in the new year. www.lessdramamoremama.com/175
The New Year is often a time when people set goals related to their physical fitness. But what about their mental fitness? Is there even such a thing? The answer is YES! In this episode, I share what mental fitness is, why it's vital for living a better life, and how to strengthen your mental muscles in 2022. www.lessdramamoremama.com/174
Every parent – whether they realize it or not – has ideas about the kinds of adults they hope their kids will become. And although we can't control the choices our kids make as they get older, we can certainly try to influence them. In this episode, I share how to identify which values to teach your kids, different ways of teaching them, and the most challenging (but probably the most important) step of teaching values to your kids. www.lessdramamoremama.com/173
Knowing and understanding your personal values is the first step in passing them along to your kids. In this episode, I walk you through a series of five questions to help you get clear about your values and turn them into action. When your actions align with your values, you’ll feel grounded, centered, and connected to yourself, because you’ll be living with a sense of meaning and purpose based on what matters most to you. www.lessdramamoremama.com/172
As moms, we often think we're supposed to have all the answers. We're supposed to tell our kids what to do because we know better as adults. But what if that's not true? What if, instead, we're supposed to ask our kids great questions to help them figure out their own answers? Join me for this episode, where I give examples of great questions you can ask your kids...starting today! www.lessdramamoremama.com/171
It has long been believed that college is the best option after high school to prepare kids and set them up for career success and financial security. Now, the rising cost of college tuition is forcing many families to reconsider this belief and question whether a four-year degree makes sense for their teens. My guest on this episode is Education Coach and Consultant, Stephanie Haynes. She provides custom educational consulting and coaching for high school students, educators, and schools to build a pathway to a successful future teens are excited to pursue. Her new book titled, College Is Not Mandatory, guides parents through navigating all the options available to kids after high school and provides strategies and specific open-ended questions to use in conversations with teens about their futures. You don't want to miss this information-packed episode! www.lessdramamoremama.com/170
Courage isn't the ability to do something without fear. It's the ability to do something despite fear. Courageous people feel fear, but they don't let it stop them from taking action. As moms, we experience a lot of fear that holds us back from doing what we know is effective. When we can accept that fear is just part of our job description and doesn’t necessarily signal danger, we can feel it and still take action. Tune into this episode for more about parenting with courage. www.lessdramamoremama.com/169
I believe that kids have a better chance of school success when parents and teachers work together as a team. After all, kids probably spend more of their waking hours involved with school than they spend at home, so it's important to build positive relationships with the people who are with them all of those hours every day. Several years ago, and then again this year, I asked my teacher friends to answer the following questions: What do you really want parents to know? What do you wish they'd do or not do? What advice do you have for them when it comes to supporting their kids, supporting you, and parent-teacher conferences? This episode is a compilation of their answers, in their own words, with my thoughts and suggestions sprinkled in. If you have suggestions from your own experiences that would help parents and teachers become better partners, please leave a comment in the show notes. www.lessdramamoremama.com/168
While it’s normal for every child to struggle socially from time to time, it can be difficult when it's your own kids who feels left out. You might feel compelled to protect them and take immediate action by calling the school or the offending child’s parents. You might be quick to assume your kids are at fault, and ask how they brought on the problem themselves. As always, the best course of action is to respond thoughtfully, rather than react emotionally. In this episode, I give suggestions for how to support kids when they say they feel excluded at school, while staying calm yourself and teaching them important social and emotional skills. www.lessdramamoremama.com/167
According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, an estimated 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. experienced mental illness in 2019 (pre-pandemic!) and approximately 48 million adults in the U.S. are diagnosed annually with anxiety disorders. The most common treatment for anxiety focuses on uncovering unhealthy thought patterns and understanding how they relate to feelings and behavior. Sound familiar? 😉 In this episode, I reveal what I believe to be the biggest unhealthy thought pattern there is, and my "treatment plan" to manage the diagnosis we all share. www.lessdramamoremama.com/166
Conflict with your kids is inevitable. But the way you handle conflict either helps or hinders your relationships with them. In this episode, I introduce the concept of the Conflict Escalator to help you become more aware of what actions (or reactions) make a conflict better or worse, and whether you’re contributing to, or contaminating, your relationships. www.lessdramamoremama.com/165
There are two types of responses to the circumstances in your life: proactive and reactive. When you’re proactive, you make decisions ahead of time to solve potential problems before they occur, leaving you feeling calm and in control. When you're reactive, feelings of fear and powerlessness often bring about the very outcome you’re hoping to avoid. While reactive parenting is common and sometimes unavoidable, you can learn how to become a less reactive and more proactive mom. Tune into this episode to empower yourself and learn the basics of proactive parenting. www.lessdramamoremama.com/164
The late philosopher and psychiatrist Alfred Adler believed that “a misbehaving child is a discouraged child.” In so many subtle ways, and without realizing it, we discourage our kids all the time. In this episode, I talk about the ways we unknowingly discourage our kids and offer some tips for encouraging them more. www.lessdramamoremama.com/163
Does your child struggle to do homework? Do you get into regular battles over it and question how much to get involved? In this episode, I offer my thoughts to get you in a calm and empowered frame of mind when it comes to your child's homework, so you know exactly how to help. www.lessdramamoremama.com/162
Do you wish your kids' grandparents acted differently? When you think about them, do you feel frustrated, resentful, hurt, or guilty? If you answered "yes," this episode is for you. Learn the secret to improve your relationships with your parents or in-laws, take back your power, and feel more at peace. www.lessdramamoremama.com/161
You have every intention of sticking to your limits, staying calm, and helping your kids through their difficult emotions. But in the heat of the moment, you find yourself giving into their demands, yelling, punishing them, or trying to fix their feelings. While counseling families with children ages six and under, today's guest sought to get to the root of what prevents moms from being the parents they want to be. Join me and Claire Lerner as we talk about making important mindset shifts to be able to respond to our kids more effectively. www.lessdramamoremama.com/160
You've got questions, I've got answers. In this Back-to-School episode, I'm answering questions submitted by moms when I asked, "What would be the most useful podcast for you right now about back-to-school issues?" Tune in to hear their concerns and questions, and how I addressed each one. If you have a question you'd like answered in a future episode, email me at pam@lessdramamoremama.com www.lessdramamoremama.com/159
I recently spent an unforgettable week working as a clinician at a grief camp for kids. While I'm sure I helped the campers learn and grow in many ways, they taught and inspired me a great deal, too. In this episode, I share my biggest takeaway from being at grief camp this summer and how it applies to you. www.lessdramamoremama.com/158
The start of the school year isn't how we imagined it would be last May when COVID cases were declining and vaccines became available to kids over 12. It's natural and normal to feel disappointed when your expectations aren’t met or your plans change, but how good are you at actually allowing yourself to feel disappointed? In this episode, I talk about why it's important to allow disappointment and how resisting it can lead to greater suffering. www.lessdramamoremama.com/187
Sometimes, families run like well-oiled machines. And other times, they don't operate as effectively. With summer schedules ending and school fast approaching, many families are all out of whack. In this episode, I share how you can do a 'reset' and get yours running smoothly again. www.lessdramamoremama.com/156
Back in episode 79, I talked about four of the main psychological defense mechanisms I see in my work with moms. In today's show, I'm diving deeper into one of those defense mechanisms: projection. Tune in to learn what parental projection is, how it impacts you and your kids, and what you can do about it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/155
When you know your child misses you and feels sad or scared, you might feel guilty or anxious about being apart. In today's episode, I share a recent personal story in which I was able to quickly turn my guilt-inducing thoughts into ones that caused me to feel calm and confident instead. Join me as I share this experience with you and offer some useful ways to think about when your kids want their mommy. www.lessdramamoremama.com/154
It may sound like a bunch of self-help "fluff," but today's episode is anything but. The relationship you have with yourself is at the root of all of your successes and all of your problems. When you understand this, and take an honest look at yourself, you start to see where you can strengthen that relationship and develop a deeper connection with yourself. Tune in to hear how you can incorporate the seven qualities of a best friend into your life and become your own best friend. www.lessdramamoremama.com/153
In last week's episode, I shared five faulty thought patterns that keep moms stuck feeling anxious, guilty, disappointed, and discouraged. This week, I'm sharing another five thought patterns that, if unchecked, can lead to feelings of shame, inadequacy, anger, and depression. Tune in to find out what these patterns are, how they impact you, and how to break them. www.lessdramamoremama.com/152
Identifying our own thought patterns isn't easy. Most of the time, we don't even recognize that our thoughts are thoughts at all...we just believe they're facts! To help you figure out why you might be feeling stuck when it comes to a situation in your life, today's episode reveals five common unhelpful thought patterns, how they impact moms, and how to begin changing them. www.lessdramamoremama.com/151
Physical pain is a part of life. Often, the way we think about our physical pain compounds our suffering by adding emotional pain on top of it. In this information-packed episode, I interview Marriage and Family Therapist and Master Coach Instructor, Aimée Gianni, about the mind-body connection and how life coaching not only helps with emotional pain, but can reduce symptoms of physical pain as well. www.lessdramamoremama.com/150
Do you and your child's father parent differently? If so, you're in the same boat as most of the moms I know. In honor of Father’s Day, I'm addressing the issue of parents "getting on the same page." www.lessdramamoremama.com/149
One of the main things the moms in the Chill Out Challenge are saying is that they don’t have enough time to devote to self-care. In today's episode, I'll share a time-saving strategy used by the most productive and successful people in the world. There's also a free download to go along with the episode to help you figure out how to make time for the things that truly matter to you. www.lessdramamoremama.com/148
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Do you have a network of supportive relationships in your life? Having a strong support system in place before you actually need it can help you feel more confident about handling life's ups and downs. Tune in to this episode to learn about the different kinds of support you may need and how to start creating your own support system. www.lessdramamoremama.com/147
How much do you trust yourself? Trust is one of the most fundamental aspects of any relationship. You want to be able to trust your partner, kids, parents, friends, and coworkers. You want to be able to rely on them and know that they'll do what they say they'll do. Without that foundation of trust, it can be hard to have a good relationship. And so it’s even more important to have that kind of relationship with yourself and know you can count on yourself no matter what. I’ve identified three main categories where moms lack self-trust. Tune into this episode to learn what they are and how to start building more self-trust as a mom. www.lessdramamoremama.com/146
Do you feel frustrated when your kids disobey your limits? Do you feel guilty because you often give in to avoid a meltdown or a power struggle? Do you feel confused and powerless about how to follow through on consequences? If you answered "yes" to any of these, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn about the importance of setting limits with your kids and how to think about them in a way that makes them easier to enforce. www.lessdramamoremama.com/145
Before I was a mom, I worked as a clinician at an adolescent day treatment facility near Boston. Time and time again, I witnessed teens enter the program with symptoms of major mental illness and leave thriving emotionally and socially. So, what was so special about the program? I’ve identified seven key elements that the program provided to help kids and their families go from hopeless to optimistic within just a few months. If they could help families with severe dysfunction, they can definitely help yours, too. Tune in to this episode to find out what they are! www.lessdramamoremama.com/144
Do you sometimes find it difficult to let yourself feel good? Often when we think about the emotions we don't want to feel, we think of the negative ones. But I've noticed a number of my clients resisting their positive emotions, too. Tune in for this episode where I talk about giving yourself permission to feel good any time you want. www.lessdramamoremama.com/143
Do you struggle to have fun now that you're a mom? Do you feel like your partner is the "fun" one and you're not? Do you feel resentful that those around you seem to be having more fun than you? Join me for this episode to learn how you can start creating more fun in your life today! www.lessdramamoremama.com/142
Calling all people pleasers! This is especially for you. The majority of my clients self-identify as people pleasers. And while they seem to recognize on some level that it's a problem, they don't seem to understand exactly why. After all, isn't pleasing people a good thing? Tune into this episode to learn what people pleasing really is, why so many moms do it, why it’s a problem, and most importantly, how to break the habit. www.lessdramamoremama.com/141
Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. In 2016, when Krista was 40, her life was completely flipped upside down when her husband died unexpectedly. While it would have been easy to believe her best days were behind her, thankfully Krista discovered life coaching and was able to move forward and create an exciting future even better than the past. She now coaches and teaches other widows to love life again, too. Tune in to today's episode where Krista and I talk about grief and loss, not only as it relates to the death of a loved one, but to life and motherhood in general -- especially after the year we’ve just had. We also talk about how Krista thinks about grief, how she talks to her kids about loss, and the concept of Post-Traumatic Growth. This is an episode you won't want to miss! www.lessdramamoremama.com/140
Sometimes when I ask a client to tell me how she feels, she'll say, "I feel like a failure." But failure isn't a feeling. In fact, failure doesn't cause any feelings at all until you have a thought about it. If you've ever "felt" like a failure, be sure to join me for this episode, where I share what failure really is, why it's necessary, and how to think about it in a way that serves you in your motherhood. www.lessdramamoremama.com/139
Do you get frustrated when your kids fight with each other? Do you feel like a failure when they don't get along? Are you confused or overwhelmed about how to help them solve problems peacefully? If you answered "yes" to any of those questions, this episode is for you. Join me as I share what to do when the kids are fighting, so you can feel better and show up as the mom you most want to be. www.lessdramamoremama.com/138
Many moms are either too embarrassed or too ashamed to admit that they feel trapped in motherhood because they think it means there's something wrong with them. They don't realize that thinking this way only reinforces the idea that they need to escape. In this episode, I'll show you why feeling trapped doesn't have to be a problem and how you can free yourself whenever you choose. www.lessdramamoremama.com/137
There's been a significant rise in the number of kids and teens struggling with things like social isolation, grief, anxiety, and depression over the past year. As I've shared in many of my episodes, these emotions are part of the human experience and not problems in and of themselves. So how do you determine when your child needs therapy? In this episode, I share some of the signs and symptoms to look for when deciding whether to pursue therapy for your child, where to find a therapist, the different kinds of mental health providers, and the most common therapeutic approaches for kids. www.lessdramamoremama.com/136
If we looked at all of the thoughts inside your mind right now, what do you suppose we would we find in there? Are they thoughts that cause you to feel energized and confident or overwhelmed and exhausted? Tune in to this episode to learn how to start clearing your mental clutter and creating the feelings and life you want. www.lessdramamoremama.com/135
The act of validating your child's emotions can be a powerful parenting tool. Since every action begins with a thought, this episode explores different thoughts that can lead to validating and invalidating kids' feelings. I also discuss the importance of learning to allow and validate your own emotions so you feel better about yourself and show up as the mom you most want to be. www.lessdramamoremama.com/134
Do you want to know the #1 complaint I hear from moms? "My child doesn't listen." Fortunately, good listening is a skill that can be learned. In today's episode, I share some tips on how to feel better about your child's behavior, how to model good listening yourself, and how to teach your child listening skills. Remember, building these skills takes time and practice. The best thing you can do is to learn to manage your own mind so that you can show up for your child with more patience and love. www.lessdramamoremama.com/133
Do you love yourself? Why or why not? According to Brené Brown, we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. So it stands to reason that loving yourself benefits everyone around you. In today's episode, I discuss what keeps people from loving themselves and steps to increasing your own self-love. www.lessdramamoremama.com/132
You are the CEO of your family. And just like in a corporate business, there are times when it’s beneficial to bring everyone together to talk about company policies, goals, schedules, expectations, changes in routine, and any issue or obstacle that's hindering business success so that everyone is on the same page and working toward the same goals. In this episode, I'm sharing when and why to use family meetings, and how to execute them effectively. Tune in to learn how to make these meetings purposeful, meaningful, and even fun! www.lessdramamoremama.com/131
My guest on today's podcast is the one and only Andrea Askowitz. She's a dear family friend and the executive producer and co-host of the Writing Class Radio podcast. As a writing teacher and mom of 2, Andrea knows firsthand how powerful writing and storytelling can be for moms. Tune in to this episode to hear us talk about the benefits of writing and storytelling for moms, and the unique writing/coaching workshop we're only offering this month. www.lessdramamoremama.com/130
Does your life ever resemble a soap opera that's filled with drama? The drama triangle is a tool designed to help you understand the roles people play in conflict and drama-laden relationships. Tune in to this episode to learn more about the drama triangle and how it can help you have less mama drama in your life. www.lessdramamoremama.com/129
Do you dream of a time when life is easy and you'll finally feel happy? When your kids sleep through the night? When they stop bickering and throwing tantrums? When you can hand over the car keys and send your child to the grocery store? Tune in to today's episode, and learn how thinking about the future in this way delays your happiness and keeps you from enjoying the present. www.lessdramamoremama.com/128
Every challenge we face as moms is like another level of parenting we can learn to conquer. What do you think would need to happen for you to take your parenting to the next level, and what would that look like for you? What's the thing that, if you could just figure out how to overcome it, your life would improve and you would show up as an even better version of yourself? Today's episode is meant to inspire and motivate you to take action that will bring you closer to your next level of parenting and life. www.lessdramamoremama.com/127
Have you ever been super excited to start a new habit or achieve a new goal only to find your energy and motivation fizzles out before you reach it? We've all been there. But why does this happen? And how can you prevent it from happening again? In this episode, I answer both of these questions and share the secret to achieving success. www.lessdramamoremama.com/126
Do you feel like you can't create the future you want because you don't know how, or you think you don't have what it takes? I have good news for you. Knowing HOW to create your future isn't as important as believing that it's possible. Join me for today's episode as I explain this concept in more detail and offer some questions for you to consider. www.lessdramamoremama.com/125
Is there an argument or problem that occurs in your relationship with your child again and again, in exactly the same way, with a predictable outcome? Many of us think that if we just keep doing what we're doing and repeat ourselves enough times, eventually our kids will see the light and change their behavior. Unfortunately, that rarely works. Tune in to today's episode and learn how to change the patterns in your relationships to create different outcomes by doing something different. www.lessdramamoremama.com/124
Do you have a Word of the Year? I jumped on the Word of the Year bandwagon back in 2014 and haven't looked back. Join me for this episode as I explain what it is and why it's useful, review my past words, and reveal my new one for 2021. I'll also give you tips for choosing your own Word of the Year and tell you where you can share it with other mamas who listen to the podcast. www.lessdramamoremama.com/123
With the New Year approaching, now is the perfect time to introduce your kids to the value of setting goals and what it takes to achieve them. The process of setting goals, learning to handle setbacks, tolerate frustration, and cultivate a growth mindset will serve your kids well throughout their lives. As moms, we can help them do this, while modeling how we set and achieve our own goals, too. Join me in this episode as I walk you through the steps to setting goals with your kids and for yourself. www.lessdramamoremama.com/122
My grandmother would have been 112 years old today. But she didn’t just exist to be 101 — she really lived and enjoyed life. Whenever I tell people how long she lived, they want to know: “What was her secret?” Tune in to today's episode to hear eight of my grandmother’s “secrets” for longevity revealed. My hope is that we can all learn from her wisdom and live long, prosperous lives, while also modeling healthy habits for our kids. www.lessdramamoremama.com/121
My guest today is Master Certified Life Coach Erin Aquin, author of the new book, Revitalize Your Relationship. Erin works with clients to help them fall back in love with their partners, realize their own self-worth, and improve their relationships in every way. Tune in to hear all about how Erin got into life coaching, some of the main issues couples bring to her, and helpful tips to get on the same page as your spouse, work as a team, and become a Relationship CEO. www.lessdramamoremama.com/120
Thanksgiving is almost here in the U.S., and for many it can feel hard to be in the holiday spirit when 2020 has been filled with so much pain and suffering. If you’re finding it difficult to feel gratitude this year, this episode is for you. Join me as I talk about gratitude, guilt, and 2020 blessings. www.lessdramamoremama.com/119
You (hopefully) already know that you should avoid saying things to your kids like, "You're so stupid," "You're so fat," or "You should be more like your brother or sister." You may have also heard the advice to avoid giving empty praise such as, "Good job!" and "You're so smart!" In today's episode, I share three things to avoid saying to your kids that are much less obvious, though moms say them all the time. When you can learn to stop saying these three things, you’ll feel so much better about how you show up as a mom and your kids will feel better, too. www.lessdramamoremama.com/118
Do you worry yourself sick imagining the worst thing that can happen to you or your kids? Tune in to hear me talk about the worst that can happen (it's not what you think it is) and how best to handle it. You won't want to miss this game-changing episode! www.lessdramamoremama.com/117
Life is full of challenges. As moms, we want to equip our kids with the self-confidence and courage to be able to handle those challenges without scaring them in the process. But how do we do that? Join me in this episode where I share my thoughts on the matter and offer some practical tips. www.lessdramamoremama.com/116
Do you think your kid is lazy? In today's episode, I talk about my idea that lazy kids don't exist. In fact, chances are high that your child has a perfectly normal, functioning, and healthy brain. Tune in as I share some of the reasons kids lack motivation and how to help them increase it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/115
Sometimes a thought sounds positive, even noble. But just because it sounds good, doesn't mean it feels good or produces positive results. Join me for today's episode, as I share an example of a thought that kept me stuck in marital drama for years. I also share examples of other thoughts that seem innocent, but often cause moms distress. www.lessdramamoremama.com/114
What do parents and Janet Jackson have in common? They want to be in control. Yet many parents are under the illusion that they can somehow control their kids. Join me for this episode as I explain this illusion, and how breaking free from it can help you have an even greater influence on your kids. www.lessdramamoremama.com/113
You want more cooperation from your kids. More love and connection. More proof that you're doing a good job raising good kids. Tune in to today's episode, where I share the secret to getting all of that, and more of anything you want! www.lessdramamoremama.com/112
Did you know there's a free parenting tool already on your phone? This tool allows you to set and enforce limits without being perceived by your kids as the “bad guy.” It can help you be more productive and give you some much needed time for yourself, too. What is this amazing tool? Tune into today's episode to find out! www.lessdramamoremama.com/111
While the Coronavirus continues to spread, many students are returning to virtual school this Fall. And while distance learning has its challenges, there are many ways parents and teachers can work together to help kids be successful. Join me and my guest, Lauren Adler, as we chat about the role of parents in virtual school, and how to best facilitate your child's learning from home. www.lessdramamoremama.com/110
Last week, Kellyanne Conway made headlines with her announcement that she was leaving the White House as Trump's advisor, saying that she needed to spend more time with her four children. In her resignation letter, she wrote, "For now, and for my beloved children, it will be less drama, more mama." That phrase quickly spread through the media, giving my podcast and website some free publicity in the process. As the woman who named her business Less Drama More Mama eight years ago, I'd like to explain what that phrase means to me, why I named my business that, and what I do to help bring less drama and more mama into the world. Tune into this episode to find out. www.lessdramamoremama.com/109
Humans are social creatures who crave connection. With so many kids going back to school virtually, making and keeping friends can be a real challenge now. Tune in to this episode for some ideas about how you can help your kids develop and maintain their social relationships during the pandemic. www.lessdramamoremama.com/108
Conflict is a normal part of being a human. And sometimes the conversations we have about our conflicts can evoke strong emotions. Learning how to navigate those conversations in an effective way can actually bring people closer together and strengthen relationships. Join me for today's episode where I share steps to making "hard" conversations easier. www.lessdramamoremama.com/107
This episode is dedicated to my amazing clients (past, present, and future). Join me to hear about the kinds of moms I serve, what they struggle with, what makes them so special, and why I love them. Also, find out how to get started with me as your life coach now. www.lessdramamoremama.com/106
It's natural -- from the time our kids are born, we compare ourselves (and them) to others. But often our comparisons cause us to feel inadequate, embarrassed, and envious. Join me for today's episode as I share how we can think about our differences in ways that lift each other up, show us what's possible for our lives, and help us feel good about ourselves. www.lessdramamoremama.com/105
We've all been conditioned to believe that we should feel happy most of the time. So when we or our kids are unhappy, we think something's gone terribly wrong. But what if that's not true? Tune in for today's episode to learn why "negative" emotions are nothing to fix. www.lessdramamoremama.com/104
Usually around this time of year, I'm talking to parents about back-to-school routines, transitions, and schedules. But this year, the conversations are about whether to go back to school at all. With so much changing day-to-day regarding COVID-19 and schools giving parents the option of whether and how to return to school, parents are struggling to make their decisions. Join me for this episode to learn my 3-step process for making the best decision for you and your family. www.lessdramamoremama.com/103
Do you feel like there's a dark cloud hanging over you? Do you feel unmotivated, uninspired, despondent, lonely, or sad? If so, you might be in a "funk." Tune in to today's episode to learn how to get out of it. Please note: If you’re feeling anxious, depressed, or are considering suicide, please get professional help. This podcast is not a substitute for personal treatment by a mental health care provider. Remember — you are not alone. Others are here to help you get through this difficult time. www.lessdramamoremama.com/102
We all know this year's been one heck of a doozy. But what if THIS is the summer that you turn everything around and finally find yourself again? What if THIS summer you learn the secrets to feeling more calm and patient? More energized and inspired? More energized, organized, and productive? More free? Tune into today's episode where I share about an exciting new opportunity to make that a reality and make this one of the BEST summers of your life! www.lessdramamoremama.com/101
It's episode 100!!! To celebrate, I decided to feature my podcast listeners as guests, so they could share how they've taken ideas and concepts from the show and applied them to their own lives. Tune in for this very special episode to hear moms just like you talk about how listening to the podcast has helped them feel better about themselves, their kids, and their parenting. www.lessdramamoremama.com/100
In last week's episode, I talked about what self-care is, what it isn't, and the role of pleasure when it comes to self-care. This week, I discuss the excuses (a.k.a. LIES) moms use that prevent them from taking better care of themselves. Tune in to hear what they are, and which ones you're using that hold you back from living your best life. www.lessdramamoremama.com/099
Summer has officially begun. And while things are super HOT outside, my goal as a life coach is to help you keep your cool on the inside. Over the past 3.5 months, you've likely taken care of everyone else and put your own needs last. Now it's time to start taking care of YOU and your own well-being. I'm declaring this the Summer of Self-Care and invite you to join me for a free online self-care challenge for moms, starting Monday, July 6.
When I was a sophomore in college, I took a course called, The Psychology of Death and Dying. One particular homework assignment taught me more about living than it did about dying. Join me for today's episode where I tell you about the assignment and what I've since learned from it. I also suggest an assignment for you to complete so that you can create the legacy and life you want, starting today. www.lessdramamoremama.com/097
While I don’t go around making racist remarks or consciously thinking racists thoughts, I know that just by being a white person in America, I’m unwittingly contributing to the racism that exists. And I now know that being non-racist isn’t the same as being anti-racist. Over the past week, I did a lot of reading, listening, and thinking about my own beliefs and thoughts about race. In today's episode, I share some of what I've discovered so far. www.lessdramamoremama.com/096
Even though the number of Coronavirus cases keeps rising, many states have started to re-open and lift their lockdown restrictions. As moms, we have a lot of decisions to make in the coming months, not only for ourselves, but for our kids. Join me for today's episode, where I talk about how to make those decisions from a feeling of empowerment, rather than from a victim mentality. www.lessdramamoremama.com/095
You want your kids to see you as an authority figure -- as someone who’s strong and brave and infallible. You fear that if you show your flaws and fears and mistakes, they'll lose their trust in you and you’ll lose your connection with them. But what if the opposite is true? Join me for today's episode, where I talk about how being vulnerable with your kids can actually create more connection, trust, and influence, not less. www.lessdramamoremama.com/094
Do you sometimes feel afraid of your own child? In today's podcast episode, you'll learn the secret to taking back your power and feeling UNafraid. This show is a must-listen, especially if you consider your child to be challenging, defiant, or oppositional. www.lessdramamoremama.com/093
Working from home is a challenge for many moms right now. Are you trying to balance being a good mom with being a good employee, boss, or colleague? Do you feel like you can't be as productive at work or as attentive to your kids as you want to be -- and you're losing at both? Tune in for today's episode to shift your mindset around working from home with kids and feel more in control of your time and productivity. www.lessdramamoremama.com/092
Is it just me, or is everyone using the word 'pivot' lately? Well, I decided to join them and talk about how we can pivot our parenting right now. I even came up with a clever acronym and free download to help you remember how to do it. Be sure to listen til the end to find out how to get personalized help from me with your Parenting Pivot Plan. www.lessdramamoremama.com/091
Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Who are those people in your life? Do they lift you up and inspire you to become the best version of yourself? Today on the podcast, I interview the members of the Unstoppable Six Mastermind: the five people I know I can turn to in any situation. Tune in to hear them share about how the Mastermind has benefited them both personally and professionally, what to consider when starting a Mom Mastermind of your own, and the incredible work they do to help other moms like you. So many good takeaways from this episode...a must-listen! www.lessdramamoremama.com/090
The novel Coronavirus doesn't feel so novel anymore. Being quarantined at home no longer feels new or different. And now that you've gotten used to homeschooling the kids, wearing a mask when you go outside, and attending virtual birthday parties via Zoom, you might be left feeling a bit...bored. Join me for today's episode, where I talk about feeling bored and what you can do about it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/089
There's no problem that coaching can't solve. If you believed this (like I do), you'd be crazy not to have a life coach of your own. In part two of Real Client Stories, Cici talks about how coaching improved her relationships with her husband, her two adult children, and herself. She also gives you the low-down on what's it's really like to work with me as a coach. You don't want to miss this one! www.lessdramamoremama.com/088
If there was ever a time to hire a Life Coach, this is it. With so much happening in the world right now, and so many heightened emotions, life coaching not only helps you GO through your challenges, but GROW through them, too. My former client, Jacki, joins me on today's episode to share about how coaching transformed her experience as a mother and a wife. If you need support right now to help you be the mom you most want to be, sign up for a free mini-session with me. As Jacki says, "you have nothing to lose!" www.lessdramamoremama.com/087
With the number of confirmed Coronavirus cases in the United States surpassing China and Italy last week, more and more families are being told to shelter in place. But what are you supposed to do with all of your time now that everyone's at home? Tune into this episode, where I share my thoughts about how to structure your days so that everyone can get their needs met during this time of social distancing, isolation, and quarantine. www.lessdramamoremama.com/086
The reality of Coronavirus is sinking in. And while it’s normal to feel sad, scared, and stressed at a time like this, you also have an amazing opportunity before you. Now, more than ever, is the perfect time to become more conscious and intentional about the way you think, feel, and act. Imagine being able to say that this moment in history was the turning point for your mental and emotional health, relationships, and personal achievements. When you can learn to manage your mind in a situation like this, there will be nothing you can’t handle moving forward. Tune into today's episode to hear about how others are turning obstacles into opportunities and how you can, too. www.lessdramamoremama.com/085
It always bothers me when people refer to kids as "bad." When kids believe they're bad, they act in ways to prove their belief true. Tune in to this episode as I explain why there's no such thing as a "bad" kid and how to help kids break out of their self-fulfilling prophecies. www.lessdramamoremama.com/084
I'm excited to bring you this special edition of the Less Drama More Mama podcast.
Due to the widespread panic over COVID-19, there's no better time to get a handle on your emotional and mental health. Just because other people around you may be in a panic doesn't mean you need to be. You get to decide exactly how you want to think and feel about Coronavirus and how you want to show up as a mom now. Tune into this bonus episode to learn how to stay calm in the chaos and get support from me on an open coaching call.
How many times do you answer the question, "How's it going?" with "I'm having a really bad day." You think you're just sharing the news, when in fact, "bad days" don't actually exist. If you're wondering, "What the heck is Pam even talking about?" tune in to today's episode to find out. www.lessdramamoremama.com/083
Did you know that you're supposed to experience negative emotions? Most likely, you were raised to believe that negative emotions are to be avoided at all costs. Join me for this episode as I explain why this is untrue, and discuss the importance of negative emotions for you and your child. www.lessdramamoremama.com/082
This week, I'm doing something different. I'm sharing the questions and answers from my recent webinars, so everyone can benefit from them. If you have a question I didn't answer on this episode, send it to me at pam@lessdramamoremama.com. And don't forget to sign up for your free mini-session with me at www.lessdramamoremama.com/mini to discover how coaching can change your life forever.
My guest today is Shira Gura, a well-being coach who's on a mission to create an emotionally healthy world. She talks about her first client -- herself -- and how she learned to recognize when she was "stuck." Eventually, her awareness and consistent daily journal practice led her to create a tool to help her get unstuck. Shira walks us through examples from her own life and how she's used her unSTUCK Method to get out of feeling negative emotions, such as resentment, disappointment, anger, and guilt. www.lessdramamoremama.com/080
Your brain is designed to protect you from painful thoughts and emotions by keeping them out of your conscious awareness. Sigmund Freud first identified nine psychological defense mechanisms, also called ego defenses, and many psychoanalysts have added more over time. Tune in to today's episode, where I talk about four common defense mechanisms that can impact your relationships, how to become more aware of them in your own life, and what to do the next time you feel defensive. www.lessdramamoremama.com/079
If you're wondering what Life Coaching can do for you or how it works, you're in the right place. Every mom could benefit from working with a Life Coach to help her reach her fullest potential. Join me for today's episode, where I share what life coaching is, how it’s different from therapy, and why it’s so valuable for moms. www.lessdramamoremama.com/078
Do you ever wonder how much more joy you'd experience if you just got out of your own way? As humans, we're actually wired to self-sabotage. But when we learn to recognize the signs, we have the ability to change our patterns. Tune in to today's episode to learn 3 common ways moms self-sabotage. www.lessdramamoremama.com/077
If I asked you to choose the top three emotions you'd want to feel on a daily basis, what would they be? Happiness? Patience? Excitement? I'd like to suggest Curiosity. Curiosity is open and inviting. It doesn't judge or evaluate. It just notices what is. When you're curious, you have a genuine interest in the who, what, when, where, why, and how of things. And being curious often leads to other emotions, including happiness, patience, and excitement ;) Join me for today's episode where I share how to generate more curiosity in your parenting and in your life. www.lessdramamoremama.com/076
Do you have a favorite child? According to research, nearly 75% of moms do. Whether you think you do or don't have a favorite, join me for this episode as I explore the concepts of favoritism and fairness, as well as the importance of examining your thoughts about your kids. www.lessdramamoremama.com/075
You've tried changing your habits and behavior many times, but the changes never seem to stick. You reason that there must be something wrong with you or that change is just impossible. But neither of those conclusions is true. Change is hard, and requires you to reinvent yourself from the inside out. Join me for today's episode, where I talk about practical steps to help you do that, as well as a new opportunity for you to work with me in the new year. www.lessdramamoremama.com/074
If you've ever looked at your child and thought, "I love you, but I don't like you," you're not alone. Thoughts like this are common, and yet no one ever talks about them. Join me for today's episode to learn how to feel better about yourself and your child when these types of thoughts appear. www.lessdramamoremama.com/073
Is your life full of drama? Do you sometimes feel like you could be on reality TV? Join me for today's episode, where I talk about what drama is, why you have it, and how to have less of it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/072
How many times have you thought, “My kids really know how to push my buttons” or “My kids always trigger me?" In today's episode, I share why believing those lies will always make you feel powerless as a mom. I'll also discuss 5 steps to taking your power back and disabling your "buttons." www.lessdramamoremama.com/071
You want your kids to be good students. You want them to be good friends. But at the end of the day, you just want them to be good humans. My guest on today's podcast is Hunter Clarke-Fields, aka The Mindful Mama Mentor. Join us as we talk about her new book, Raising Good Humans, and what it takes to do it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/070
Is there someone in your family you consider to be difficult? If so, this episode is a must. Family can bring out the worst in people, but with these tips, you can be at your very best. www.lessdramamoremama.com/069
We can train our kids to say "thank you" and act grateful. But what we really want is for them to feel grateful, so their expression of gratitude is authentic. Join me for this episode as I share some of the ways I cultivate gratitude in my own family, and offer suggestions for how to do it in yours. www.lessdramamoremama.com/068
No one loves your kids as much as you do. And you want to shout from the rooftops how special and amazing they are. You want them to feel good about themselves and proud of their accomplishments. But too much praise can actually cause problems you might not have considered. Tune in to today's episode to better understand the problems with praise and how to avoid them. www.lessdramamoremama.com/067
Rewards. Kids love them. Adults love them. How could there possibly be a problem with them? Join me for this episode, where I share how rewards, like punishments, are not only ineffective, but counterproductive when it comes to solving behavior problems and motivating kids. www.lessdramamoremama.com/066
How did people describe you as a kid? Were you "the shy one,” “the sensitive one” or “the wild one?” Were you "athletic," "nerdy," or "gifted?" Now your kids are being labeled, too -- by you, their teachers, and their peers. Join me for this episode, as I share how labels impact kids, and how they shape the way you (and others) interact with them. www.lessdramamoremama.com/065
“We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.” -- Anais Nin I find the human brain fascinating. When we think a negative thought, our brains go to work looking for (and creating) evidence to prove it true. When we think a positive thought, our brains go to work looking for (and creating) evidence to prove that true, too. When we give ourselves evidence to prove a thought, the neural pathways in the brain get stronger and the thought becomes more ingrained in our minds. If you want to think new thoughts, you need to seek new evidence. Join me for this episode as I explain how to create your own Evidence File and deliberately program new thoughts. www.lessdramamoremama.com/064
Do you have quiet moments throughout your day? Or are you always filling your head with the sounds of podcasts, music, news, and energetic kids? Turn off your notifications and tune in for today's episode to learn about the benefits of quiet time and how to incorporate more of it into your day. www.lessdramamoremama.com/063
As people get older, they tend to look back at where they’ve been, rather than ahead to where they’re going. They just ride out their lives re-creating their past over and over again. Living from the past is a very predictable, safe, and comfortable way to live. But if you're yearning for more and wish to create a future that's different from your past, this episode is for you. Join me as I share tools to help you create your 2020 Vision. www.lessdramamoremama.com/062
If you want your kids to take responsibility for their actions, handle mistakes with grace, and apologize with sincerity, this episode is for you. Many parents force their kids to apologize when they've made a mistake, rather than help them learn from it and understand another person's point of view. Join me for this episode, where I talk about how to help your kids make amends after they've made a mistake, and how to model a genuine apology. www.lessdramamoremama.com/061
Are you ready to stop losing your sh*t with your kids? Today on the podcast, I interview Carla Naumburg, PhD. about her most recent book on that very topic. Carla is funny, relatable, and knowledgeable about helping moms learn how to feel better about themselves, get the support they need, and manage the hardships of motherhood. Join us for this fun conversation, in which Carla shares some highlights from her book and gives valuable advice. www.lessdramamoremama.com/060
I've coached so many moms who harbor resentment toward their husbands that I wanted to dedicate an entire episode to it. If you don’t have a husband or you don’t feel resentment toward yours, feel free to substitute someone else. All of the concepts will apply if you're feeling resentful towards anyone. Join me as I talk about what resentment is, what causes it, and how to let it go. www.lessdramamoremama.com/059
Today, we're wrapping up the three-part series about your child's core emotional needs. In part one, I talked about your kids' need for connection. Part two was all about giving your kids more control over their lives and why it's so challenging to do. Part three is about the third need, competence; the ability to do things successfully or efficiently. When all three of these core needs (connection, control, and competence) are being satisfied, you have the recipe for a well-adjusted, intrinsically motivated, and resilient child. You don't want to miss this one! www.lessdramamoremama.com/058
Last week I talked about your child's need for connection and how to support that need through involvement, warmth, empathy, and responsiveness. In this second part of the three-part series on core emotional needs, I discuss your child's need for control over his or her own life. Join me as I talk about how to help your child satisfy this need and why it can be so challenging to do. Remember to tune in next week for the final part of this series where I'll talk about the third core emotional need and why it's important. www.lessdramamoremama.com/057
According to the Self-Determination Theory of Motivation, all humans have three innate psychological needs. Over the next three episodes, I'll explain each of these core needs and why they’re important. I'll also address how to know when your child's needs aren’t being met and share strategies for how to nurture and support them. Join me for today's episode where I talk about the first core need: Connection. www.lessdramamoremama.com/056
Every day, you make a promise to yourself to stop yelling at your kids. And every day, you break that promise. You feel guilty and ashamed, and decide there must be something wrong with you. Why else would you feel so out of control and keep doing something you don't want to do? Join me in this episode to learn why it's so hard to stop yelling and what you can do about it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/055
Do you wish you could stop feeling so overwhelmed all the time? As moms, we take on a lot of responsibilities -- housework, meal prep, shopping, driving, helping with homework, and cleaning up messes. There never seems to be enough money to deal with all the home repairs, after school activities, family vacations, and car payments. Keeping up with health goals and friendships seems impossible. Who has the time? There are so many decisions to make every day and so many options from which to choose. Work-life balance? What's that? If you're feeling overwhelmed in your life, be sure to tune into today's podcast to learn how to feel less overwhelmed and more confident, capable, and productive. www.lessdramamoremama.com/054
How are you feeling about the new school year? Are you relieved? Overwhelmed? A nervous wreck? Don't miss this episode, where I'll share my tips for feeling calm and confident about the year ahead, and how to help your kids through their transition back to school. www.lessdramamoremama.com/053
The majority of my clients come to me believing that they’re bad moms. They feel like failures. They feel guilty, ashamed, and inadequate. They tell me they just want to be good moms. But what does that even mean? Who decides what makes a good mom, anyway? Join me for today's episode, where I talk about how I define being a good mom for myself and how you can define it for yourself, too. www.lessdramamoremama.com/052
I-Statements are a technique often recommended by counselors and therapists to help with communication. They're supposed to reduce defensiveness when trying to resolve conflicts by focusing on how you feel, rather than attacking the other person's behavior. As a school counselor, I used to teach I-Statements to my students until I realized that they were mostly ineffective and dis-empowering. Join me for this episode as I explain my thoughts about I-Statements and a more useful way to go about solving problems. www.lessdramamoremama.com/051
Today on the podcast, I interview two VERY special guests. They're the ones who call me "Mommy." Marissa (13) and Dalia (almost 10!), share what they know and understand about what I teach as a life coach. They offer their advice to moms about parenting and self-talk. They discuss making mistakes, siblings, growing up, girl drama, their relationships with me, and more. Please enjoy these conversations with my most FAVORITE people in the world. www.lessdramamoremama.com/050
When my clients first learn that they're in control of their thoughts and feelings, they’re blown away. They feel like they've just unlocked the secret of the Universe...which, of course, they have. They want to start changing all of their negative thoughts right away, but often, they get stuck. The thoughts they’ve been thinking up until that point feel TRUE. Join me for this episode to learn a powerful tool that will help you change your beliefs -- even the ones that you think are true. www.lessdramamoremama.com/049
When you hear the term “separation anxiety,” you probably think of a toddler clinging to his mother’s leg and crying while she’s trying to leave the house or the preschool. I wanted to do an episode about separation anxiety for moms who become excessively anxious when separated from their kids. It’s a lot more common than you think. And so this is for you, whether your kids are going off to Kindergarten, camp, or college. www.lessdramamoremama.com/048
As of today, there are more than 50,000 parenting books on Amazon. These books are filled with different techniques, strategies, theories, and opinions related to parenting that often contradict one another, which can leave parents feeling confused, frustrated, and even hopeless. Of course, reading parenting books can be very helpful to learn about topics such as child development and effective parenting strategies. But in today's episode, I share about when reading parenting books isn’t helpful and how you can get the most out of the ones you do read. www.lessdramamoremama.com/047
Nothing seems to upset parents more than when their child lies to them. But since lying is a normal and natural part of child development, every parent deals with it at some point. While you may not have control over whether or not your kids lie to you, you do have control over how you think, feel, and act when they do. Join me in this episode as I talk about why kids lie, and how to think about lying and trust in ways that serve you and your family. www.lessdramamoremama.com/046
We’re taught to believe that the quality of a friendship depends on how people behave toward each other. But that's not true. The quality of a friendship really depends on how people think about each other. If you're feeling dissatisfied with a friendship or want to know how to enhance the ones you've got, join me in this episode as I go into depth about what friendship actually is, and how to keep yours going strong. www.lessdramamoremama.com/045
From an early age, friendships are a vital part of our social development and emotional well-being. As we grow older, and especially after having kids, we tend to get so caught up in our responsibilities at home and at work that we sometimes neglect to foster our connections with people other than our kids, spouses, and immediate family members. But before you go start looking for new friends, it's important to make sure you have the right mindset. Join me for today's episode, where I share some of the most common thoughts moms have about making friends, and then offer some more useful ones to think instead. www.lessdramamoremama.com/044
I've coached many moms who struggle with loneliness. Their husbands travel for work. Their families live far away. They've been through a divorce. And yet, I've also worked with moms in these same exact situations who don't feel lonely at all. How is that possible? Join me for this episode where I talk about what actually causes loneliness (it's not what you might think!) and how to overcome it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/042
Most of us would never speak to our best friends the way we speak to ourselves. When we make a mistake or act in a way we regret, we mentally beat ourselves up with harsh, negative self-talk. Our brains think that this kind of self-punishment is somehow protective and helpful. In this episode, I explain why we beat ourselves up, why it's counterproductive, and the process for how to stop doing it. www.lessdramamoremama.com/042
Entitled kids believe the world revolves around them. They want what they want, when they want it, and they don’t know when enough is enough. The rules don’t apply to them. They will resort to whining, negotiating, begging, pleading, guilt-tripping, arguing, and tantruming to get their way. They're not born with a sense of entitlement; they learn it from well-intentioned parents who unwittingly teach it to them by giving in to their demands. If you have kids who act entitled, today's episode will help you identify and curb the entitlement that exists in them (and in you), and will teach you how to foster patience, responsibility, motivation, and gratitude. www.lessdramamoremama.com/041
With technology constantly changing and evolving, it can feel overwhelming to parent in the digital age. There are so many decisions to make when it comes to setting appropriate screen-time limits for our kids and for ourselves. Join me for today's interview with Dr. Kristy Goodwin, one of Australia's leading digital wellness experts, as we discuss guilt-free parenting strategies for raising kids who thrive both online and off. www.lessdramamoremama.com/040
Mother's Day is the one day of the year specifically dedicated to appreciating moms. But not every mom feels appreciated on Mother's Day. In fact, many of the moms I coach tell me that they feel unappreciated, or taken for granted, on most days. Don't miss this important episode where I talk about how to feel appreciated on Mother's Day and every day -- no matter what anyone else says or does. Happy Mother's Day! https://lessdramamoremama.com/039
Long before kids speak their first words, they learn the language of Play. As they get older, play continues to be their main way of communicating and learning. But play isn't only necessary for kids. It's essential for adults, too. Join me for this episode, where I talk about the importance of play and how to bring more fun, laughter, and connection into your life. www.lessdramamoremama.com/038
Are you raising a people-pleaser? Do you suffer from the "disease to please?" While it may seem easier to have a child who’s always agreeable, has a strong desire to be liked, and goes out of his or her way to please you, the long-term consequences of people pleasing can be detrimental. Join me for today's episode, where I talk about the damaging effects of people-pleasing, how you can help your child avoid the habit, and how to break it for yourself. www.lessdramamoremama.com/037
Most people go through life living in a state of emotional childhood, blaming external circumstances for their feelings. When you combine kids who have no ability to manage their minds with parents who don't manage their own, it can spell trouble. Join me for today's episode, where I talk about the concept of emotional adulthood and why you should strive to attain it.www.lessdramamoremama.com/036
Did you know that you can set and enforce consequences with love? It’s not only possible, it’s also much more effective. Tune into today's episode where I talk about the differences between consequences and punishments, the different types of consequences, and how to feel calm, loving, empowered, and confident when helping your kids experience and learn from the consequences of their actions. www.lessdramamoremama.com/035
Do you ever get frustrated with your child and wonder, "What's wrong with my kid? Is this behavior NORMAL?" If you answered, "yes," you're not alone.Parents feel agitated, worried, or confused by their kids' behavior all the time. But with a better understanding of the stages of child development, you can feel calmer and more confident about what's considered "normal" and what's cause for concern. Join me for today's podcast episode, where I talk about child development and how you can support your child (and yourself) during each stage. www.lessdramamoremama.com/034
Do you ever feel stuck when it comes to helping your kids manage big emotions? Do you have a hard time helping them because your own emotions and reactions get in the way? In today's episode, I share why it can be so challenging to help your kids when they experience negative emotions, how you can connect with them when emotions run high, and how to help increase their EQ (emotional quotient). www.lessdramamoremama.com/033
You've probably heard it said that "mindset is everything." But what does that really mean? What is a mindset? And more specifically, what's a Growth Mindset? In today's episode, I explain exactly what a Growth Mindset is, how it can help you as a parent, and how to cultivate it in your life. www.lessdramamoremama.com/032
As humans, we love stories. Storytelling is one of the main ways we connect with other people. We tell stories all the time without even realizing it -- about our daily experiences and about our relationships and our past. The way we tell these stories is important because it determines how we feel and behave. If you notice anything in your life that's causing you pain, it’s because of the story you’re telling about it. Join me in this episode to learn how you can re-write your story and retell it in a way that serves you. Everyone has a story...what’s yours? www.lessdramamoremama.com/031
Susan Egan is a Tony Award nominee for Best Actress as Broadway’s original “Belle” in Disney’s Beauty and the Beast. She's best known to animation fans as “Rose Quartz/Pink Diamond” on Cartoon Network’s Steven Universe and the sassy “Megara” in Disney’s Hercules. She has over 400 solo concert credits with symphonies worldwide, including concerts at Carnegie Hall, Lincoln Center and the Hollywood Bowl, and she has more than 40 recordings credits with seven solo CDs. In 2018, Susan formed a company with fellow Broadway stars Laura Osnes and Courtney Reed, and musical director Benjamin Rauhala – and they’re currently touring their award-winning concert, Broadway Princess Party, worldwide. She's an accomplished master teacher in music performance, an obsessive gardener, happy wife, and leader to her daughters’ two Girl Scout troops.Join me and Susan as we talk about juggling career and motherhood, how parenting requires us to check our egos at the door, and the importance of taking care of ourselves so we can show up more fully for our kids. www.lessdramamoremama.com/030
Regret is the feeling you experience when you wish you had done things differently in the past. While we all feel regret from time to time, some people use it to punish themselves and others use it to bring about change. On this episode, I'm sharing how to think about your past and your future in a way that you'll be able to say you lived a life of "no regrets." www.lessdramamoremama.com/029
The eye roll. The "Whatever, Mom." Completely ignoring your requests. How can you stop taking these things personally when they're clearly about you? Tune into this episode where I explain why even though it feels like it, other people's behavior isn't about you at all. Learn the secret to stop taking things so personally so you can feel calmer and more in control. www.lessdramamoremama.com/028
Be honest. How often do you think thoughts like these? “This shouldn’t be happening.” “Nobody appreciates me.” “I have to do everything.” “My life is so hard.” Many people aren't even aware that they're thinking these thoughts on a regular basis, but they could be a sign of a victim mentality. In today's episode, we explore the victim mentality: how it holds us back in life, and how we may be raising a generation of victims. www.lessdramamoremama.com/027
How would you describe mornings in your home? Do you rush around trying to make sandwiches and sign field trip forms before the bus arrives? Do you yell because your kids dawdle or whine that they don't want to wear the outfit they picked out the night before? Do you feel stressed, exhausted, anxious, or irritable? Many moms struggle with some form of morning madness, but you don't need to be one of them. Tune in for today's episode as I share how to make your mornings calm, peaceful, and predictable. www.lessdramamoremama.com/026
Do you struggle with indecision? There was a time (not too long ago) when I felt overcome with anxiety about making even the smallest decisions. Then, one single thought helped me feel more confident about making both big and small decisions in my life. Tune in to today's episode to find out what it was, and to learn five strategies to help decision-making easier for you. www.lessdramamoremama.com/025
Our culture is obsessed with perfection.
There’s pressure all around us to have the perfect body, the perfect house, the perfect baby stroller, the perfect kids with the perfect grades.
Even those of us who know that striving for perfection is unrealistic and unattainable still sometimes buy into the idea of a perfect standard, and then feel bad about ourselves when we don’t measure up.
In today's episode, I talk about how perfectionism holds us back from achieving success and how to overcome it.
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Whether or not you like to admit it, judging others is something we all do. I’ve found that the more curious and open I’ve been about examining my judgmental thoughts, the better I’ve been able to understand myself and those thoughts, and ultimately change them. Judgement, negativity, and hate don't feel good -- and they don't drive behavior that serves us well. Releasing our judgment of others (and of ourselves) is some of the most powerful thought work we can do to help us become better moms. Join me for today's episode as I explain exactly how to do it. https://www.lessdramamoremama.com/023
Do you struggle with feeling impatient and irritable?
Do you wish you could feel more tolerant and patient with your kids?
Tune into this episode to learn about why moms find it so challenging to be patient, and how to feel patience more often.
Most of us have been taught to believe that being busy is a good thing.
We think that being busy means we’re important, valuable, successful, and productive.
But what if that isn't true?
What if being busy leads to feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, and less productive?
Today's episode explores the concept of being busy in a whole new way and will help you quit being so busy in the new year.
Is your home a hot mess? I believe that an organized mind creates an organized life. That's why I invited Shira Gill to be today's guest. She's a Professional Organizer and a Certified Life Coach who has transformed the lives and homes of hundreds of women all over the world.
Listen in on today's interview, as Shira shares the foundation of all of her work and her organization tips for moms.
Many of my clients and podcast listeners intellectually understand the idea that their thoughts create their feelings, actions, and results. But they have a hard time applying the concept in their own lives. They know they want to change their thoughts and beliefs, but they don't know HOW. In today's episode, I share the process of how to change your beliefs.
In all relationships, we have rules and expectations of how we think other people should operate. These make up our "manuals" (or instruction guides) for our relationships.
Usually, we don't tell other people what's in our manuals. We think they should just “know” how we want them to behave.
Often, we're not even aware ourselves that we have manuals or that they're causing us to suffer.
Join me for today's episode to explore the relationship manuals in your life and what to do with them.
Do you know what your kids want more than anything? They might tell you it's the latest iPhone or a trip to Disney World. But that's not what they really want. What they really want is so much better than that. Listen in to today's episode and find out what it is and how you can get it in time for the New Year.
This week we're wrapping up our month-long series in NO-vember with an episode about how to say "no" to your kids. Many parents are so afraid of tantrums and power struggles that they’ll do just about anything to avoid them -- including giving in and saying yes when they want to say no. If you or someone you know struggles with this, tune in to today's episode and learn why it's important for kids to hear "no" and how to say it with love.
Setting boundaries is an important part of establishing your identity and defining who you are.
Most people are confused and misinformed about what boundaries are, when they’re appropriate, and how to set them. They think of setting boundaries as a way to control someone else's behavior, rather than a way to protect themselves.
Join me on today's episode of the podcast as I discuss exactly what boundaries are as well as when and how to set them effectively.
We're in our second week of NO-vember and we're talking about priorities. Getting clear on your priorities will help you when it comes to saying no and spending your time in a much more deliberate way.
Tune in to learn what I recommend you make your #1 priority, the difference between what's urgent and what's important, questions to ask yourself to figure out whether you're living in line with your priorities, and recommendations for things to stop doing that will free up more time.
Have you ever agreed to do something without really thinking about it and ended up feeling resentful?
Do you feel like you’re always busy, but not very productive?
Do you agree to things you don’t want to do because it just seems easier than dealing with conflict?
Do you say yes because you want someone else’s approval?
Do you feel guilty when you say no or scared of the other person’s reaction?
If you answered yes to any of these, you’re not alone. Today's episode is about saying NO with confidence and grace -- and without the guilt.
Do you ever worry that you’ll be exposed as a fraud when it comes to motherhood? Do you feel like everyone around you is doing a better job than you when it comes to raising kids? Do you find yourself acting one way in private and another way in public? Do you fear being "found out" that you don't have it all together (like it appears on social media)? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you might be hiding behind a social mask. In this episode, I discuss the reasons moms wear social masks and why these masks can be damaging to self-esteem and relationships. I talk about the benefits of vulnerability and authenticity, and how embracing them can lead to greater connection with yourself and others.
Most of us were never taught how to feel our feelings. We learned to deal with our emotions by watching how others deal with theirs -- by resisting, reacting, and avoiding. On today's episode, I share a fourth option that most people don’t even know about, and take you through a 4-step process to truly experience any emotion.
Are you ready to take a break from drinking? Today on the podcast, I interview Master Coach Rachel Hart. Rachel coaches women who want to change their drinking habit and reduce their desire for alcohol once and for all. Rachel is poised, personable, and has a great sense of humor. She really understands the minds of women who turn to alcohol as a way to feel more relaxed, confident, and happy, but who want to feel that way without a drink. Join us today as we talk about how she was able to change her own drinking habit with life coaching tools.
Many people misunderstand the goal of coaching; they think it's to feel happy all of the time. But that's not the goal. The goal of coaching is to become more aware of the thoughts causing your feelings, and more intentional about the thoughts you choose to think. Creating what you want in your life requires a willingness to experience a balance of emotions, both positive and negative. In today's episode, I talk about the importance of your so-called negative emotions, and how to embrace them.
In this episode, I talk about the reasons it can be challenging to accept parenting help, and I explain all the reasons why signing up for a mini-session with me is a smart decision. Will you accept?
Are you a worrier? I have good news for you: worrying is a habit that can be broken! In today's episode, I discuss what worrying is, why it's not useful, and what to do instead.
In today's episode, I introduce you to the Self Coaching Model, a tool you can use to solve any problem in your life. Knowing and understanding the model is seriously life changing.
In this episode, I share some stories about my own experiences with guilt and how I was able to let it go.
In this episode, I share why the process of self-reflection is so important, and give examples of some questions to ask yourself.
Every morning you wake up with the intention of keeping your cool, but somehow by dinnertime, all bets are off. You've lost all control of yourself and your kids, and you can't seem to get it back.
When Marissa was a toddler, I started yelling a lot because it seemed to be the only that “worked.” It got me the short-term results I wanted, and it helped me feel powerful and in control. But I hated myself.
When Marissa was a toddler, I started yelling a lot because it seemed to be the only that “worked.” It got me the short-term results I wanted, and it helped me feel powerful and in control.
But I hated myself.
I knew intellectually that I wasn’t being the kind of mom I wanted to be. I knew that Marissa didn’t deserve to be yelled at, but at the time I didn’t know how to stop.
In today's podcast, I share a little bit about my story and the insight that helped me regain my self-control and inner calm.
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Welcome to the very first episode of Less Drama More Mama, the podcast for moms who want to feel calm, in control, and confident about how to handle anything life throws their way!