Human Up: Recent Episodes
Victor Ung
An emotionally-stunted dude's exploration of what it means to be emotionally intelligent. Raised between Asian and American culture, and in the tech world, where mental and emotional health was not prioritized enough, this nerd aims to demystify what it means to not only be a man, but a human. As society progresses faster than humans were meant to keep up with, how do we adapt to an ever-changing world while strengthening our brittle emotions for resiliency? Follow Human Up on Instagram: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast.
I’m trying something new here and recording my podcasts all in one-take and on video! You can watch it on Youtube, “Human Up” (https://youtu.be/OoHzVBZbhi4 (https://youtu.be/OoHzVBZbhi4)). Coming up on 2 years since leaving my corporate job now, I’m struggling with sustaining my creative endeavors here in this podcast, in my writing, in my life coaching. I don’t have answers for you in this episode. But smoke up some of that green and chill with me as I process this transitional time for me right now.
I guide 420-friendly meditations every 1st and 3rd Tuesday at 5pm Pacific. Register free at http://bit.ly/cannaconnections (http://bit.ly/cannaconnections). Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast (http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast) Join the Emotion Dojo for Asian men to improve your creativity and decision-making skills: https://bit.ly/emotiondojo (https://bit.ly/emotiondojo). Download the “9 Ways To Become A Fulfilled, Badass Asian Dude”: http://badassasiandudes.com/subscribe (http://badassasiandudes.com/subscribe). If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation). Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining). If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium: http://victorung.medium.com (http://victorung.medium.com). Support this podcast
This is a recording of a live meditation "sesh-in" (no script) that I host twice a month on Tuesdays at http://bit.ly/cannaconnections (http://bit.ly/cannaconnections). For maximum effect, you can use cannabis consciously to deepen your experience in reconnecting to your body.
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This week, I’m sharing a recording of a FB live I was invited to by Clover Lam, creator of the community, Unconventional Asians. With her community, her mission is to encourage Asians to think and act outside of the box and breaking free from the stereotypes that's limiting us from our fullest potential. In her weekly FB lives, she offers herself up as “a client” for other coaches, experts, and therapists to help her through a personal struggle of hers. I figured this would be a good opportunity to share that session with you here as well to get a sense of what coaching could look like for you, as well as my coaching style. You can watch the video version in her FB group: https://fb.watch/1vjYvrFJOq (https://fb.watch/1vjYvrFJOq). Connect with Clover: https://www.facebook.com/cloverlam (https://www.facebook.com/cloverlam)
Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast (http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast) Become a member of the Emotion Dojo for Asian men to improve your creativity and decision-making skills: https://bit.ly/emotiondojo (https://bit.ly/emotiondojo). Download the “9 Ways To Become A Fulfilled, Badass Asian Dude”: http://badassasiandudes.com/subscribe (http://badassasiandudes.com/subscribe). If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation). Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining). If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium: http://victorung.medium.com (http://victorung.medium.com). Support this podcast
This week, I read the blog post I wrote under the same title. You can read and follow along at http://victorung.medium.com.
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This week, I bring on Jeff Harry, a Positive Psychology and Play Coach. He helps individuals, schools, and businesses invite more play into their lives and work. Personally, in my “adulting” process, I left behind so much of my own sense of play, my child-like sense of wonder. I became super serious, responsible, and the “Model Minority”. And I lost access to joy. Here’s how we can get that back. Connect with Jeff on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jeffharryplays/ (https://www.instagram.com/jeffharryplays/) Learn more about Jeff and his work: https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/media (https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/media)
Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast (http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast) Join the Facebook community: http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections (http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections). Become a member of the Emotion Dojo for Asian men to improve your creativity and decision-making skills: https://bit.ly/emotionalgymmembership (https://victorung.com/membership). Take this 10-min survey to get a complimentary cannabis coaching session with me: https://bit.ly/CannabisMeditationSurvey (https://bit.ly/CannabisMeditationSurvey). If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation). Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining). Connect with other Badass Asian Dudes, say I sent you! http://bit.ly/BADFBGROUP (http://facebook.com/groups/badassasiandudes). If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium:https://bit.ly/victorungmedium ( http://medium.com/@victorung). Support this podcast
This week, I bring on Abby Stoddard, pharmacist and founder of Client Centered Network, a platform that connects medical marijuana patients and dispensaries to the right education, resources, and coaching. Join her network: https://www.clientcn.com/ (https://www.clientcn.com). Connect on Instagram: http://instagram.com/clientcenterednewtork (http://instagram.com/clientcenterednewtork)
Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast (http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast) Join the Facebook community: http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections (http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections). Sign up for the 4-Week Cannabis Mediation Course + goodies! http://bit.ly/cannabismeditationcourse (http://bit.ly/cannabismeditationcourse). Take this 10-min survey to get a complimentary cannabis coaching session with me: https://bit.ly/CannabisMeditationSurvey (https://bit.ly/CannabisMeditationSurvey). If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation). Become a member of the Emotion Dojo for Asian men to improve your creativity and decision-making skills: https://bit.ly/emotionalgymmembership (https://victorung.com/membership). Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining). Connect with other Badass Asian Dudes, say I sent you! http://bit.ly/BADFBGROUP (http://facebook.com/groups/badassasiandudes). If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium:https://bit.ly/victorungmedium ( http://medium.com/@victorung). Support this podcast
Believe it or not, I used to judge people for smoking weed. I thought of them as having lower intelligence, lazy, and irresponsible. I used to also judge the more creative kids in my school for pursuing something I thought was vain and unstable. But after trying to be “cool” by giving up my own quirks and creative joys, I realized I was leaving behind so much of my own life. And after a lonely high school and college freshmen experience, still never even so far as had my first kiss, I finally decided to try weed when my trusted friend invited me.
Since then, I’ve even expanded into using cannabis in my meditation practice to help me deepen my focus and insight into myself, which has allowed me to learn what it actually means for me to love myself and be confident in myself. And I want to share that with you!
Join the FREE community of Conscious Cannabis users: http://bit.ly/cannabishumans (http://bit.ly/cannabishumans). Sign up for the 4-Week Cannabis Mediation Course/Challenge! http://bit.ly/cannabismeditation (http://bit.ly/cannabismeditation). Take this 10-min survey to get a complimentary cannabis coaching session with me: https://bit.ly/CannabisMeditationSurvey (https://bit.ly/CannabisMeditationSurvey). If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation). Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining). If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium:https://bit.ly/victorungmedium ( )http://medium.com/@victorung (http://medium.com/@victorung). Support this podcast
This week, I bring back my friend, Iran Thongdy (from episode 49), to talk about how he uses CBD to cope with anxiety. We talked about: 4:50 Iran opening up about his anxiety 14:14 CBD helps slow us down so we can think more rationally 16:35 Cannabis is not a panacea, but it is a powerful tool for mental and emotional health 22:35 How to combine personal development work with cannabis 29:50 Seeing a future using cannabis to improve our psychology 36:00 Using cannabis and emotional intelligence to learn to trust ourselves 46:09 Asian representation in media and mental health as role models Follow Iran on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iranthongdy (https://www.instagram.com/iranthongdy) Referenced links: Victor’s Ignite Seattle talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVU02Rz-NI4 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVU02Rz-NI4)
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This week, I bring on Chris Phillips, creator of Art Now Coding, an educational platform to learn how to use code to create generative art. After developing stress-induced chronic pain from burning out at NASA, Chris was able to transition into his new path by helping people with what he’s truly passionate about. And cannabis also played a crucial role in helping him do so. We talked about: 5:06 How Chris is using modern day technology to create art 10:33 How over stress can create chronic pain 15:56 How cannabis helped with burnout and chronic pain 18:32 How Chris got into cannabis 20:27 How meditation helped improve his emotional intelligence 24:06 How do we know we're burning out? 29:03 How to spark creativity through cannabis and meditation Learn how to create art with code: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeKpNQdw8jsvlq5jF8BOUrQ?sub_confirmation=1 (Art Now Coding) Follow him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artnowcoding (https://www.instagram.com/artnowcoding)
Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast (http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast) or join the Facebook community: http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections (http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections). Sign up for the 4-Week Cannabis Mediation Course + goodies! http://bit.ly/cannabismeditation (http://bit.ly/cannabismeditation). Take this 10-min survey to get a complimentary cannabis coaching session with me: https://bit.ly/CannabisMeditationSurvey (https://bit.ly/CannabisMeditationSurvey). If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation). Become a member of the Emotion Dojo for Asian men to improve your creativity and decision-making skills: https://bit.ly/emotionalgymmembership (https://victorung.com/membership). Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining). Connect with other Badass Asian Dudes, say I sent you! http://bit.ly/BADFBGROUP (http://facebook.com/groups/badassasiandudes). If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium:https://bit.ly/victorungmedium ( http://medium.com/@victorung).
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I talk to serial entrepreneur and CEO of 3 cannabis hardware companies, Seibo Shen about how he uses cannabis to stay focused and productive. We talked about: 08:11 Breaking the lazy stoner stigma with cannabis use 11:39 Cannabis helped Seibo self-reflect on his cocky ego 14:31 Why Seibo started cannabis vaporization companies 18:00 How cannabis helped him get past the resistance in feeling emotions rather than intellectualizing them 25:48 When did cannabis NOT work? 31:57 How to get past the initial dip in discomfort in the journey to self discovery Connect with him on IG at: http://instagram.com/seiboshen (http://instagram.com/seiboshen). Use my coupon code “humanup” to get 15% off Seibo’s new vape pen: https://brnrlab.com/product/brnr-test-4/ (https://brnrlab.com/product/brnr-test-4).
Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast (http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast) or join the Facebook community: http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections (http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections). Attend one of my semimonthly cannabis meditation sessions: http://bit.ly/cannaconnections (http://bit.ly/cannaconnections). Take this 10-min survey to get a complimentary cannabis coaching session with me: https://bit.ly/CannabisMeditationSurvey (https://bit.ly/CannabisMeditationSurvey). If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation). Become a member of the Emotion Dojo for Asian men to improve your creativity and decision-making skills: https://bit.ly/emotionalgymmembership (https://victorung.com/membership). Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining). Connect with other Badass Asian Dudes, say I sent you! http://bit.ly/BADFBGROUP (http://facebook.com/groups/badassasiandudes). If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium:https://bit.ly/victorungmedium ( http://medium.com/@victorung). Support this podcast
This is recording of a live group cannabis meditation session I hosted a few weeks ago. I decided to convert the recording into a podcast episode for you to come back to to help you meditate while elevated! Make sure to save or bookmark this episode! And share this episode with a friend who wants to meditate with cannabis as well! You can register for the next live session here: http://bit.ly/cannaconnections.
Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast (http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast) or join the Facebook community: http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections (http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections). Attend one of my semimonthly cannabis meditation sessions: http://bit.ly/cannaconnections (http://bit.ly/cannaconnections). If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation). Become a member of the Emotion Dojo for Asian men to improve your creativity and decision-making skills: https://bit.ly/emotionalgymmembership (https://victorung.com/membership). Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining). Connect with other Badass Asian Dudes, say I sent you! http://bit.ly/BADFBGROUP (http://facebook.com/groups/badassasiandudes). If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium:https://bit.ly/victorungmedium ( http://medium.com/@victorung). Support this podcast
I’m so excited to finally share this episode with the amazing, Collette Patricia from Balancing Cannabis, where we talked about the emotional and spiritual healing components of this plant. When combining our consumption with meditation, it’s like working out with ankle weights on, and it frees you up to a whole new source of energy within your biology. We talked about: 11:22 How Collette found cannabis as a spiritual tool 15:13 Holding spiritual experiences in a virtual space 17:22 What does Emotional Intelligence mean? 24:16 How Collette learned to use cannabis to manage anxiety and depression 36:57 How religion and spirituality plays a role in Collette's meditation 44:47 Cannabis is a gateway drug to self-love 59:13 How do we find our sense of purpose? Join one of Collette’s meditation sessions: https://www.instagram.com/balancingcannabis/ (https://www.instagram.com/balancingcannabis)
Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast (http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast) or join the Facebook community: http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections (http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections). Attend one of my semimonthly cannabis meditation sessions: http://bit.ly/cannaconnections (http://bit.ly/cannaconnections). If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation). Become a member of the Emotion Dojo for Asian men to improve your creativity and decision-making skills: https://bit.ly/emotionalgymmembership (https://victorung.com/membership). Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining). Connect with other Badass Asian Dudes, say I sent you! http://bit.ly/BADFBGROUP (http://facebook.com/groups/badassasiandudes). If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium:https://bit.ly/victorungmedium ( http://medium.com/@victorung). Support this podcast
In this episode, I demonstrate a powerful exercise I do in my men’s group (aka Emotion Dojo for Asian men) where each man starts with the prompt, “If you really knew me, you’d know that…” It does an amazing job at breaking down the barriers we have as Asian men and to be able to connect deeper with each other’s personal experiences. Please reach out if you’d like to experience this for yourself as well!
Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast (http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast). If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation). Get on the waitlist for the Emotion Dojo for Asian men: https://bit.ly/emotiondojo (https://victorung.com/membership). Register for the free EQ and cannabis meditation sessions I’m hosting every other Wednesday! It’s part smoke sesh, part life coaching: https://bit.ly/cannaconnections (https://bit.ly/cannaconnections), or join the Facebook community: http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections (http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections). Connect with other Badass Asian Dudes, say I sent you! http://bit.ly/BADFBGROUP (http://facebook.com/groups/badassasiandudes). Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining). If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium:https://bit.ly/victorungmedium ( http://medium.com/@victorung). Support this podcast
Before I finally started this podcast at the beginning of 2019, I was having deep conversations with friends about many of the topics I explore now, but was overthinking getting started with this podcast. I went through my archives and found this early recording 6 months before officially launching this podcast and thought it would be a great share for someone out there contemplating the same things I was 2 years ago.
We talked about:
9:51 Asking mentors the right questions
12:25 Beating ourselves up for lack of progress
14:05 Balancing humility vs celebrating wins
15:37 The privileged mind is susceptible to over-analysis
19:27 Contemplating vulnerability
22:48 Emotional Intelligence is learning how to healthily redirect negative energy
28:35 Finding that one thing that's bigger than ourselves
29:27 Comparing ourselves on social media makes it hard to love ourselves
32:48 The Internet is providing us an abundance mindset
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If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation).
Get on the waitlist for the Virtual Emotional Gym and Community for Asian men: https://bit.ly/emotionalgymmembership (https://victorung.com/membership).
Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining).
Register for the free EQ and cannabis wellness workshops I’m hosting every other Wednesday! It’s part smoke sesh, part life coaching: https://bit.ly/cannaconnections (https://bit.ly/cannaconnections), or join the Facebook community: http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections (http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections).
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In this episode, I take a break from the amazing guests I’ve had on the show recently to check-in with where I’m at with this podcast and my coaching practice. And I share some ways to identify why you might be feeling stuck right now and what you can do about it.
Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast. If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation. Get on the waitlist for the Virtual Emotional Gym and Community for Asian men: https://victorung.com/membership. Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at: http://victorung.com/eqtraining. Register for the free EQ and cannabis wellness workshops I’m hosting every other Wednesday! It’s part smoke sesh, part life coaching: https://bit.ly/cannaconnections, or join the Facebook community: http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections. Connect with other Badass Asian Dudes, say I sent you! http://facebook.com/groups/badassasiandudes. If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium: http://medium.com/@victorung.
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In this episode, I spoke with dating coach for Asian men, Rob Wang. We go into the deeper aspects of what creates genuine attraction as an Asian man and how you can develop confidence in not just your dating life, but life in general.
We talked about:
Rob burned out from corporate and spiraled into depression
Dating doesn't have to be complicated
Dating doesn't mean leaving behind your true self, your authentic self
Attraction comes from the emotional authenticity within
What Rob's current work is for himself in dating and relationships
Understanding your emotions also means understanding your body
Attraction is an emotion and requires awareness
Express emotions with "I feel" rather than "I feel like"
Being the "Nice guy" vs the "Kind guy"
This inner work is not about "fixing" yourself, but embracing yourself
Confidence comes from giving yourself permission to have
Connect With Rob:
Work with him to become a better guy to date: https://www.greatdateguy.com/ (https://www.greatdateguy.com)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rlwang (https://www.facebook.com/rlwang)
Books mentioned
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma - https://amzn.to/302jWIX (https://amzn.to/302jWIX)
No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life - https://amzn.to/3g3fiQd (https://amzn.to/3g3fiQd)
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If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation).
Get on the waitlist for the Virtual Emotional Gym and Community for Asian men: https://bit.ly/emotionalgymmembership (https://victorung.com/membership).
Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining).
Register for the free EQ and cannabis wellness workshops I’m hosting every other Wednesday! It’s part smoke sesh, part life coaching: https://bit.ly/cannaconnections (https://bit.ly/cannaconnections), or join the Facebook community: http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections (http://facebook.com/groups/cannaconnections).
Connect with other Badass Asian Dudes, say I sent you! http://bit.ly/BADFBGROUP (http://facebook.com/groups/badassasiandudes).
If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium:https://bit.ly/victorungmedium ( http://medium.com/@victorung).
This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/s/31bb658/podcast/sponsor/acugkf/url/https%3A%2F%2Fanchor.fm%2Fapp (https://anchor.fm/app)
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In this episode, I spoke with sports and success mindset coach, Justin Tsui. After coaching for 15 years and teaching for 20 years in physical education, he now wants to create a deeper impact in education as a whole from outside the school system. He’s now working with students and athletes in helping them answer the question for themselves, “What is it that you really want? How do you actually want to spend your time?”
We talked about:
How a trip to the hospital changed his life
Thought he was focused on what I want, but was really playing by other people's rules instead
Developing the emotional muscles through self-awareness
Combining physical alpha mentality with emotional frameworks
Emotional Intelligence can't be taught, it has to be experienced
Emotional Intelligence is learning to trust yourself
The winners in life make decisions quickly
Connect With Justin:
Join his Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/wineachday
Register for the complimentary EQ and cannabis wellness workshops I’m hosting every other Saturday! It’s part smoke sesh, part life coaching: https://bit.ly/cannaconnections (https://bit.ly/cannaconnections).
Follow the Instagram page for this podcast: http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast (http://instagram.com/humanuppodcast).
If you get value out of this podcast, consider supporting me to keep this show going: https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation (https://bit.ly/humanuppodcastdonation).
Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining).
Get on the waitlist for the Virtual Emotional Gym and Community for Asian men: https://bit.ly/emotionalgymmembership (https://victorung.com/membership).
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In this episode, I discuss mental health, PTSD, alcohol abuse, and cannabis with The Cannabis Coach, Bradley King. He’s a Certified Life Coach for over 6 years helping people achieve a new way of life. After being sexually abused and spiraling into alcohol and drug abuse, Bradley found the support he needed through 12-step recovery and life coaching. He also learned to properly use cannabis with meditation to help him cope with anxiety and PTSD and is now thriving with his husband and son. Currently, he’s helping others work through their own obstacles through life coaching, cannabis coaching, and public speaking while breaking the stigma of the “stupid stoner.”
We talked about:
Bradley's recovery from alcohol abuse and PTSD
Learning to properly consume cannabis to cope
Seeking emotional support from others
How combining cannabis with mindfulness helped reduce need for prescription pills
Connect With Bradley:
https://cclifecoaching.com
https://www.instagram.com/cannabis_coach
His feature in High Times: https://hightimes.com/culture/higher-profile-bradley-king-life-coach-higher-calling
Register for the free cannabis wellness education workshops I’m hosting every other Saturday! It’s part smoke sesh, part life coaching: https://bit.ly/cannaconnections (https://bit.ly/cannaconnections).
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In this episode, I have on as my guest, Sarah Gardner, Membership Director at Hemp Industries Association. She shares her struggle with anxiety, an eating disorder, and being miserable in her work, and how that manifested in her relationships. After a certain point, she realized she was the common denominator that was avoiding facing her demons and decided to make some internal changes.
We talked about:
How to find the right CBD product
How cannabis helped Sarah breathe through pressure
How Sarah was miserable selling technology
Her uncomfortable awakening to self-care
The opposing forces to cannabis education and legalization
The many health impacts of the Endocannabinoid System
The future for high THC cannabis and hemp
What consumers can do to support the hemp industry
Connect With Sarah:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-gardner-177095148/
Learn more about HIA and how to get involved: https://thehia.org
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In this episode, I talk with Dr. Vincent Ramos about his work with at-risk youth and veterans suffering from PTSD and addiction and how cannabis, specifically CBD, has played a huge role in their recovery.
We talked about:
Who do you help and how do you help them?
Mental health isn't talked about enough
Working with veterans and CBD
Cannabis and working with population at risk of addiction
Using cannabis for emotional intelligence
Coaching people's health at his CBD store
Who needs cannabis coaching?
Connect With Dr. Ramos:
https://naturzremedy.com
https://www.instagram.com/naturzremedy/ (https://www.instagram.com/naturzremedy)
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In this episode, I talked with Heather Dagley, budtender and writer at Bud and Blossom. Her work around the intersection of cannabis, mindfulness, and spirituality resonated with me after hearing her story dealing with burnout.
We talked about:
The grounded spirituality in cannabis.
Intentional cannabis use - why are you consuming cannabis?.=
Working with a coach to maximize the positive effects of cannabis.
Going into the medical side of cannabis.
Managing the emotions that cannabis brings up.
5 core emotions.
Resources:
Read her blog at https://budandblossom.blog/ (https://budandblossom.blog)
Connect with her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heatherdagley/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/heatherdagle)
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I found Erin Allan when searching for ganja yoga classes in Seattle. And boy was I stoked. If you’ve been following this podcast, you’ll know that I’ve been on an emotional health and spiritual journey the past two years, if not all my life. And cannabis and yoga, separately, has been a huge tool in helping me through it.
Erin calls herself a reformed marriage and family therapist after 10 years in the counselling field. In her desire to help however, she found herself burning out, became overweight and depressed, and taking many medications to reduce the physical and emotional pain.
At her low point, she decided to try cannabis, which became legal in the state of California, with the intention to escape. Instead, cannabis helped her drop right into the core of what she was feeling and everything became clear to her.
Now she runs HR for a local dispensary and teaches ganja yoga at Kula Movement in the Ballard neighborhood in Seattle, WA.
We talked about:
Her journey from a mental health professional to a budtender to a ganja yoga teacher
How cannabis helped with her depression, anxiety, pain, and emotional eating
How her transformation was possible through the combination of treating cannabis with high regard and utilizing wellness practices together
Disclaimer Cannabis can be used to enable better mental health, but it does not replace formal therapy for serious medical conditions. If you are experiencing disabling thoughts, emotions, or behaviors, please seek professional help. The wellness applications of cannabis are still being researched. Please proceed consciously.
Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/yogi_erin_allan/ (https://www.instagram.com/yogi_erin_allan)
Teaches ganja yoga at Kula Movement in Ballard
https://www.ganjayoga.com/ (https://www.ganjayoga.com/)
http://www.kulamovement.com/erin-allan (http://www.kulamovement.com/erin-allan)
https://www.facebook.com/ErinAllanYoga/ (https://www.facebook.com/ErinAllanYoga/)
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I went on a roadtrip this last week, all during a lockdown because of a global pandemic, as well as violent riots happening around the world because of yet another cold-blooded murder of an innocent black man by a white cop and other complicit cops of color. Seeing this brings up so many emotions from all different sides. And unfortunately, regardless of what side you’re on, those who can’t manage those emotions, even from a place of good intentions, end up behaving in very unproductive, unhealthy, even dangerous ways.
I missed releasing an episode last week because I was on this road trip, but also because I needed time to really process all of this for myself. I still am. And I’m starting to develop my voice around it, without having any expectations of saying the “right” thing, or what I’m supposed to say. Just expressing the truth in what we feel for ourselves right now, which could be good things, positive things, seemingly irrelevant things. You might think your feelings are alone, but that doesn’t make it less real or important, or that it doesn’t deserve an outlet either.
My outlet is to hop on here and let out a string of thoughts.
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In this episode, I talk to author, Katharine Chan about her new book, “How To Deal With Asian Parents.” I related to her stories about her parents (along with her research of the many other stories online) who were mostly unknowingly draining her mental and emotional health. Through the generational trauma, cultural gaps, and language barriers, it’s difficult for Asian parents and their children to properly communicate and really address the deeper emotions behind their words, which eventually takes a toll on the children’s wellbeing. If you struggle developing a relationship with your Asian parents, or want to be mindful about becoming a parent, this book and episode is for you.
Resources:
Read her book: https://amzn.to/3cUb7F1 (https://amzn.to/3cUb7F1)
Her website: https://sumonsleeve.com/ (https://sumonsleeve.com/)
Connect with Katharine: https://www.instagram.com/sumonsleeve/ (https://www.instagram.com/sumonsleeve/)
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In this episode, I talk with Amanda Tran after finding an interview she had with the Asian Americans for Cannabis Education. I became curious about her work with MedMen and in the operations side of the cannabis industry. And resonated with her mission for social justice and mental health with cannabis as an Asian American woman.
Disclaimer: Cannabis can be used to improve wellbeing in some consumers, but it does NOT replace formal therapy for serious medical conditions. I am not a medical professional. If you are experiencing disabling thoughts, emotions, or behaviors, please seek professional help. The wellness applications of cannabis are still being researched. Please proceed consciously.
We talked about:
How Amanda used cannabis to manage her stress and burnout
Weed is like many things, it can be used for both good and bad
“Weed is like therapy, you can have a bad therapist that might ruin what you think about therapy, but there are many different styles of therapy.”
There’s a lot of social justice to be had with cannabis
How cannabis affects culture at large, and within Asian American communities
How cannabis unblocks creativity by letting go of perfection
Resources:
Add https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandatranucla/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandatranucla)
Her interview with Asian Americans For Cannabis Education: http://www.asianamericansforcannabis.org/news/2019/11/17/aace-interview-amanda-tran (http://www.asianamericansforcannabis.org/news/2019/11/17/aace-interview-amanda-tran)
Watch the Culture High documentary: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PHPx0VlzZMc (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PHPx0VlzZMc)
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In this episode, I talk with the founder of Empowered In Color, and host of the podcast by the same name, Kriselle Gabriel. We connected over the common passions in maintaining our mental health after seeing how being limited in that education and language has limited us in living our best lives.
We talked about:
Her hesitation to open up to people about going to therapy because of stigma
The cultural and familial nuances in therapy and mental health
How to talk about mental health with Asian families
Being scared of disrespecting elders made her into a people pleaser
The struggle as a person of color to let go of toxic cultural values
Resources:
Listen to her podcast: https://www.empoweredincolor.co/podcast (https://www.empoweredincolor.co/podcast).
Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empoweredincolor/ (https://www.instagram.com/empoweredincolor).
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In this episode...
We talked about:
Leaving stability and developing grit to take the chance in living on his own terms
Why it takes a lot emotional intelligence to run a business
How the chase for stability can become too comfortable
Resources:
Learn more about his business: https://www.distribution-central.com/ (https://www.distribution-central.com)
Connect with Mike on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaeltuon/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaeltuon)
Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining).
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In this episode, I had a casual chat with an old friend after reconnecting on social media. It’s a super raw, candid conversation that I initially didn’t think about putting on the podcast, but I know many of you may be in a similar place, so I hope this could give you another perspective. We were both in a transitional phase in our lives when recording this and went for a drive to just talk.
We talked about:
Mental health
Asian American stigma
Passion
Entrepreneurship
Recency bias
Resources:
Add Iran on IG: https://www.instagram.com/iranthongdy/ (https://www.instagram.com/iranthongdy/)
Listen to his songs on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/2e5EWyNrzEyQ2sXDs2hHnd (https://open.spotify.com/artist/2e5EWyNrzEyQ2sXDs2hHnd)
Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at:http://bit.ly/eq101training ( http://victorung.com/eqtraining).
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In this episode I talk to Brandon Stover, a Startup Executive Coach, who’s aim is to help startup founders enhance leadership. He does this by focusing on a holistic approach to build clients emotional literacy in order to support their entrepreneurial goals.
Brandon explores how the quality of relationships, mental, and physical health directly impact how entrepreneurs show up in their businesses.
Brandon also shares his personal journey of leaving a career in architecture to pursue a career as a life coach. The value of having that support while starting a business and ways you can be your own coach regardless of where you are starting out.
Resources:
Learn more about Brandon and his resources at: https://www.instagram.com/brandonastover/ (https://www.instagram.com/brandonastover/)
Connect with him at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandonstover/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandonstover/)
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In this episode, I talk to Matthew Nadu, a multimedia Content Creator and Social Media Manager for Evryman men's group, as he shares His personal journey of growing up in Philly starting out as a sports columnist leaving mainstream news to pursue adventure in La. Exploring human emotion and connection through learning how to sit with heartbreak, fear, anger,and Vulnerability. By building community and taking on Leadership.
Get the full shownotes at http://victorung.com/podcast (http://victorung.com/podcast).
Resources:
Work or collab with Matt at: http://instagram.com/matthewnadu (http://instagram.com/matthewnadu)
Learn more about Evryman and their men's groups at https://evryman.com/ (https://evryman.com)
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In this episode, I talk to Anne Beaulieu, a financial emotional intelligence coach, about her journey going from managing millions of dollars in the financial world but still feeling unhappy to being an international speaker, author, and coach. She now combines her financial background with her coaching experience and helps people develop a deeper relationship with money so they can attract more of it in a way that is meaningful and still invokes happiness.
Resources:
Learn more about Anne and her resources at: http://walkinginside.com
Connect with her at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-beaulieu/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-beaulieu)
Get access to a free 90-min Emotional Intelligence 101 Training at: http://victorung.com/eqtraining (http://victorung.com/eqtraining).
Schedule a call with me 1-on-1 to develop your own emotional intelligence to create more life clarity and deeper relationships: http://victorung.com/ (http://victorung.com).
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I'm excited to be back!
After a few months of a break for me to zoom out and look at what I really want out of this podcast, the Human Up brand, and life overall, I realized that I love this podcast and podcasting in general. And I want to continue using this space to have the deeper, more long-form conversations where I get to nerd out with other emotional intelligence experts, mindset coaches, business/execute coaches, speakers, writers, and wait for it... cannabis educators!
If you've been following this podcast, you'll know I left the tech industry after burning out and hitting a quarter-life crisis, which led me into an exploration of myself and my own emotional intelligence. During it, I was using cannabis recreationally (legal in the state of Washington), and at the time, I thought it was for fun, but looking back, it was what got me through being lost and overwhelmed, healing me emotionally and spiritually. So I do see a huge connection between emotional intelligence and cannabis as tools to help us live better lives!
Join me every Monday morning as I talk to some cool people to pull out the emotional side of their stories so you can get the insight you need to prevent your own life crisis.
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If you’ve been listening to this podcast, first, thank you! I appreciate your loyal listenership and for caring about emotional intelligence. I hope it’s been valuable to you, if it has, I need that ego boost and would love to hear from you! But this is my official wrap up announcement of Season 1 of the Human Up podcast as I take time for myself to dive even deeper into myself, why I’m doing this, and how I could help. I'll continue creating content on my Youtube channel here: http://victorung.com/youtube. Thank you again for listening and I hope to catch you again in Season 2!
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In this episode, I read my blog post, https://medium.com/jrni/11-qualities-to-look-for-in-an-emotionally-intelligent-partner-df2018f3c5c8 (11 Qualities To Look For In An Emotionally Intelligent Partner).
I’m not one to tell you who you should date or what you should value in a partner. No one can. You have to find what it is you care about, both within yourself and with a partner.
But as I’ve observed, myself, others, and our relationships throughout my life, these are the qualities I find that people gravitate towards.
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This week, I geek out with Di Ye, Career and Leadership Coach, Trainer, and Founder of Zhennovate about emotional intelligence, leadership coaching, and continual transformation. After a few years realizing how her lack of confidence was holding her back from expressing her innovative ideas, she worked with her own coach to break out from her own limiting beliefs and took full responsibility of her own life.
There’s a lot of coaching concepts and constructive interpersonal skills being taught in this one!
In this second part of a 2-part series, we talk about:
Developing psychological safety to build trust with one another
Her experience and relationships with the 5 Core Emotions
Resources:
Connect with Di on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/di-ye-2b638922/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/di-ye-2b638922)
Learn more about her company at: https://zhennovate.com/ (https://zhennovate.com)
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This week, I geek out with Di Ye, Career and Leadership Coach, Trainer, and Founder of Zhennovate about emotional intelligence, leadership coaching, and continual transformation. After a few years realizing how her lack of confidence was holding her back from expressing her innovative ideas, she worked with her own coach to break out from her own limiting beliefs and took full responsibility of her own life.
There’s a lot of coaching concepts and constructive interpersonal skills being taught in this one!
In this first part of a 2-part series, we talk about:
Social-emotional intelligence is about shifting a negative emotion into something more constructive
Democratizing premium personal and professional coaching for lower levels
How coaching empowered her confidence
Transformation has no end, it's a lifestyle
Acknowledging progress is how transformation is sustained
How to increase self-awareness without a coach
Resources:
Connect with Di on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/di-ye-2b638922/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/di-ye-2b638922)
Learn more about her company at: https://zhennovate.com/ (https://zhennovate.com)
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The Japanese philosophy of ikigai says that your reason for being is at the intersection of what you love, what you’re good at, what the world needs, and what the world will pay you for.
If you’ve been feeling stuck recently, this framework is a good tool to use as a compass to get you back on track.
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I’m guilty of making decisions with a bias towards comfort. But when we prioritize the safety over everything else, it eventually leads to stagnation and apathy towards life. On this episode, I talk with life coach, author, speaker, and host of The San It Project podcast about her travels through life and the many transitions she’s made to get to where she is today. We talk about how being stuck in our lives is not because of our circumstances, it stems from the negative thought habits that keeps us in place. With just a slight shift in thinking, we can start to envision and design our lives for the better.
In this episode, we talk about:
Joanne's story of many transitions
Is emotional resilience given or built?
How to choose your own values
Designing your life vs learning as you go
How to push through failure
Fulfillment lives outside safety
Standing up for yourself comes from within
Joanne's experience with the 5 core emotions
Resources:
Learn more about Joanne Victoria’s coaching services and podcast at: http://askjoannevictoria.com
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Entrepreneurship requires a lot of emotional intelligence. Not only in being able to empathize and connect with your customers, but to push through the many internal emotions that come up in taking such large physical and emotional risks in putting yourself out there.
One emotion is the fear of failure, which needs to be embraced as a possibility if we were to move forward. Rather than debilitating ourselves in that fear, how we can stand up to it, be aware of it when it’s happening, and learn to respond to it productively instead?
In this episode, we talk about how:
Danylo's love for entrepreneurship
Failure is a necessary part of entrepreneurship
How to deal with failure
How culture affects personal freedom of expression
Emotional intelligence is about the small things
The importance of owning your weaknesses and honesty on what you don't know
Emotional Intelligence will be an important skill in the future
Danlyo's experiences with the 5 core emotions
Resources:
Learn more about Danylo’s consulting firm at: https://www.krebsandkurgan.com/ (https://www.krebsandkurgan.com).
Follow Danylo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danylokurgan/ (https://www.instagram.com/danylokurgan).
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On this journey to improve my own emotional intelligence, I've already been having so many great conversations with friends, family, and even strangers!
One of them shared such an important concept that I share not to force you to take on the belief whole-heartedly, but to ignite some thought and reflection that might help your life.
Live with authenticity, not positivity.
It hits on the idea that a lot of us might be putting up a front, or a mask of positivity, subconsciously or not. We try to keep our heads afloat, hide the negativity, tell people that "I'm doing great!" when in reality, you couldn't fall asleep until 4am last night because you were staring at your ceiling not knowing where your life is going.
Part of why we're feeling this way is because of how far we've strayed from who we are. We hear all of these messages to stay positive, the other side is greener, etc. Don't get me wrong, I still think positivity and optimism is a powerful tool to live a great life, but if it's at the expense of addressing how you're truly feeling, that's when we start losing ourselves.
https://theascent.pub/live-with-authenticity-not-just-positivity-1d4f4d993be5 (Read the full piece on Medium!)
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If you love traveling, this episode will help you travel with more intention for your personal wellbeing so that the next time you go somewhere, it’s not just an escape where you’ll come back to the same routine and patterns that you left. It’ll be an opportunity to grow.
Travel is a great way to boost emotional intelligence, which consists of self-awareness, emotional management, and empathy. When we force ourselves outside of our traditional environment, it automatically expands our perspectives in who we thought we were when we’re able to connect with those who are living very differently than us.
The issue is when we travel in a disconnected manner. Disconnected from yourself and your intentions, disconnected from the culture and people that you’re visiting, disconnected from the land and environment that have the privilege of walking on.
This is why I’m excited to share this conversation with travel coach, Sahara Rose, who helps people in the workplace travel with more intention in order to maximize the many wellness benefits that come from travel.
In this episode, we talk about how:
How Sahara created her ideal career
What is travel coaching?
How travel can be a key component in improving our emotional wellbeing
How to get past what holds us back from traveling
Resources:
Learn more about Sahara’s work and The Travel Coaching Network: https://sahararosetravels.com
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Emotional Intelligence is one of the missing skills from our education system. Rarely were we taught how to deal with conflict, how to make good decisions for the long-term, how to manage stress, and how to be comfortable expressing our deeper feelings and what we truly want.
I’ve noticed the lack thereof within my life and how it’s kept me complacent in my career, relationships, and hobbies. Learning about emotional intelligence has created a shift from me passively sitting in the backseat of my life to taking lead and being more assertive with how I want to live.
Resources:
https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/feelings-inventory (List of emotions to improve vocabulary)
https://www.ted.com/talks/lisa_feldman_barrett_you_aren_t_at_the_mercy_of_your_emotions_your_brain_creates_them (Psychologist Lisa Feldmen Barrett’s TED talk on what emotions are)
http://nautil.us/issue/51/limits/emotional-intelligence-needs-a-rewrite (Research study on cultural differences in emotion)
https://ahha.org/selfhelp-articles/ant-therapy/ (Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANT) Therapy)
https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/11/the-cook-and-the-chef-musks-secret-sauce.html (Wait But Why Article on becoming the chef of your life vs the cook)
http://victorung.com/subscribe (11 exercises to jumpstart emotional intelligence on your own)
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Emotions are hard to talk about. They’re hard to define. They’re hard to feel. They’re hard to manage.
Learning the neuropsychology behind emotional intelligence provides a framework to help us with all of that. It gives us the ability to better interpret our emotions as data that can help us think more clearly.
And when we better understand our emotions, it strengthens our roots so that we’ll become more resilient and adaptable with change.
In this episode, we talk about how:
Mieka's studies in political science, social impact, body trauma and neuroscience got her here
We are expected to be emotionally competent but weren't taught the skills
Our emotions serve as an antenna to provide us with more information for decision-making
Social and emotional capacity is the missing ingredient at both the societal and human level
Emotional resiliency is built by addressing the core needs
Resources:
Join her 6-week in-person workshop series in Seattle on how to apply the neuroscience of EQ to your workplace and relationships. Use discount code ‘REF101’: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/frankly-101-become-an-emotional-genius-tickets-64679873242
Learn more about Mieka’s company, FranklyEQ: http://franklyeq.com
Find Mieka on IG: https://www.instagram.com/mieka.be (https://www.instagram.com/mieka.be)
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How do you present yourself through your behaviors, words, and even fashion? Have you held back what is true and feels good to you in any of those three areas? If you have, I completely understand, having been influenced by so many cultural norms and perceptions that put pressure on me to blend in, rather than express myself.
Self-expression comes in many forms and in this episode we hit on what that means coming from the perspective of men in fashion and creativity.
In this episode, we talk about:
How Antonio started Seattle Gents
Building community for Seattle men
Identifying and sticking to why you're pursuing your creative projects rather than comparing yourself to others
Everyone is creative, you just have to train it like a muscle
Finding your own groove and style by unapologetically expressing your creativity
Resources:
Come out to Seattle Gent’s 3rd Anniversary Banquet celebration on November 14th: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dining-style-a-3-year-anniversary-celebration-tickets-73988332093
Learn more about Seattle Gents: http://seattlegents.com
Find Antonio on IG: https://www.instagram.com/antoniocdsmith/ (https://www.instagram.com/antoniocdsmith)
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Coming from an Asian immigrant family, raised in America’s masculine culture, emotions and feelings are the last thing we would talk about. But in that suppression we also push away the people around us. It’s why we end up in either stagnant relationships, or feeling lonely that no one can relate to us because we’ve been used to dealing with it on our own.
The first step to curbing this loneliness and connecting with others on a deeper level is to connect back to your own emotions. It’s to become aware of those sensations and situations that make us uncomfortable and to purposefully lean into it. When you can understand your own emotions better, what triggers them, and be confident enough to express them, it gives other people a better understanding of who you are and how to connect with you as well.
In this episode, we talk about:
Why men might struggle talking about emotions because of limited outside structures placed upon us
Steven's journey in starting his podcast
How it's easier to not connect with other humans because of the convenience of technology, and fear of taking emotional risks
Not admitting to and talking about emotions makes it that much easier to become stagnant in your life
How to create more connectedness by expressing your emotions
Resources:
Check out Steven’s podcast at https://www.bettermenpodcast.com/ (https://www.bettermenpodcast.com) or wherever you find your podcasts.
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Subconsciously, we have been trained to stick to one thing and it’s hard to break out of that, or explore a completely new path. You might even be telling yourself things like, “I’ve invested so much time, money, and energy into this already,” “I don’t want to waste all that I’ve learned,” “It’s too late for me to do something completely new and unrelated,” “I’ve come so far, might as well stick it through,” “I’m not a quitter.” That is the https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpnxd31y0Fo& (sunk costs fallacy).
We think that we only have one life. We think that once we’ve chosen that school, that major, that job, that career, that expertise that that’s what we have to stick with. It’s what we know, it’s what we’re good at.
Let’s challenge that. What if we don’t only live once? What if we can live multiple lives?
Check out the blog post for this episode here: https://medium.com/the-ascent/you-have-more-than-one-life-9b242c4b84c2?source=---------15------------------ (https://medium.com/the-ascent/you-have-more-than-one-life-9b242c4b84c2?source=---------15------------------)
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I love you, Technology.
I love the way you provide so much excitement in my life. I love how you do so many things for me, how you make my life so easy and convenient.
But...
I’m worried about who I’ve become with all this time with you. I know, it’s really self-centered for me to say this, but I’ve become too dependent on you.
Check out the blog post for this episode here: https://psiloveyou.xyz/technology-its-not-you-it-s-me-6c88f4bf5373 (https://psiloveyou.xyz/technology-its-not-you-it-s-me-6c88f4bf5373)
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“Adulting like a revolutionary is taking a self-loving, logical look at where you are fighting the battles that are unwinnable vs looking at where you might be ignoring the battles that you can win.”
Serving eight years as a psychotherapist, who now calls herself a Soul Medic, Rachel Alexandria is helping people “adult like a revolutionary” by helping them explore the rituals that are missing from their transition into adulthood.
Timestamps:
[6:00] Rachel's background
[7:54] Even adults need support in growth
[15:37] What is "Adulting like a Revolutionary?"
[22:49] The process in living with intentionality
[28:55] The importance of rituals
[32:44] How do you become an adult, separate from your family?
[39:23] Living on purpose vs flowing through necessary phases
[42:49] Learning about your own emotions makes you resilient to change
[45:32] 5 Core Emotions
Resources:
Visit https://rachelalexandria.com/ (https://rachelalexandria.com) to sign up for a free 10-day adulting sampler or text “adulting” to 314-665-1767 to get text messages straight to your phone.
Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s 3 stages of Non-Violent Communication: http://www.acsyl.co.uk/article/217/an-introduction-to-nonviolent-communication.html (http://www.acsyl.co.uk/article/217/an-introduction-to-nonviolent-communication.html)
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Are you the type of person that gives so much love, compassion, and encouragement to others, but forget to give to yourself?
I definitely do and it frustrates me.
I sometimes feel like a hypocrite or an imposter who can’t take his own advice. Then I would doubt my ability to give and help people because I was not good enough, smart enough, or wise enough.
Why is it so hard to love myself?
Turns out I'm not the only one who has this problem, according to University of Waterloo psychologist, Igor Grossman, who coined this phenomenon as Solomon’s Paradox.
Read the research paper here: https://uwaterloo.ca/wisdom-and-culture-lab/sites/ca.wisdom-and-culture-lab/files/uploads/files/grossmann_kross_-_exploring_solomons_paradox_-_article_proof.pdf (https://uwaterloo.ca/wisdom-and-culture-lab/sites/ca.wisdom-and-culture-lab/files/uploads/files/grossmann_kross_-_exploring_solomons_paradox_-_article_proof.pdf)
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We can’t control our emotions, but we can control how we respond to them. That’s the power of emotional intelligence, to be able to better manage what we do with how we feel in the moment in order to be productive rather than destructive. The issue is that so many of us haven’t been provided the education or tools to deal with our own emotions or those of others, which creates a lot of tension in many social issues today.
The process of becoming more emotionally intelligent is simple, but difficult to master:
Awareness
Acceptance
Action (or not)
It starts by slowing down so that you can become aware of your emotions and what it means for you. Then we can embrace how we’re feeling, to acknowledge its presence, so that we can start taking steps to do (or not to do) something with it.
In this episode, my guest Matt Perelstein of EQ4Peace shares his passion for emotional intelligence education as we nerd out about how to use this as a tool to train our emotional muscles for both internal and external peace.
Timestamps:
[5:53] We were never taught how to train the right-side of our brains
[11:25] The connection between the heart, mind, and body
[13:21] Decisions should be based on both thoughts and feelings
[14:57] How to develop the emotional muscle to better feel and communicate our emotions
[27:09] Emotional education in schools
[31:38] Example exercise to identify emotions
[34:22] How to sustain emotional intelligence
[42:58] We're getting closer to quantify EQ, but it still requires practice
[46:55] 5 Core emotions
Resources:
http://mattperelstein.com/ (http://mattperelstein.com/)
http://eq4peace.org/ (http://eq4peace.org/)
4,000 feeling words to increase emotional vocabulary: http://eqi.org/fw.htm (http://eqi.org/fw.htm)
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Emotional intelligence doesn’t come natural for many people, no matter the circumstances, but it’s especially missing in a lot of men. I’ve noticed this especially true for myself, where I was unwilling to be uncomfortable feeling my emotions. It made me feel weak, or childish, or “feminine.”
But why is something as natural as our emotions something we try to hide?
I talk to a good friend, Ryan Shirley, co-founder of Pursuit and Tie, about how important of a role EQ plays in business/client service, marriage, and friendships, as well as what it means for men to manage our emotions.
*Due to previous audio setup, there will be occasional background noise in the recording.
Timestamps:
[7:50] Does a person's value solely come from the ability to product outcomes?
[9:49] Men don't prioritize emotional growth
[12:38] Men's balance with power
[13:43] Yes, you can have too much EQ
[9:38] But lack of EQ creates stale relationships
[17:05] What we practice grows stronger
[19:04] Competition is great to push us forward, but hurts us when we compare self-worth
[20:2] EQ is the muscle needed to work better with others
[21:24] Ryan's advice on resume building
[25:23] EQ is important to make relationships work
[36:16] Men's struggle to swallow pride to fight for relationships
[39:36] The Mt Rushmore of Emotionally Intelligent people
Resources:
Resume consulting: http://pursuitandtie.com/ (http://pursuitandtie.com).
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I've grown up being scared of my emotions. I was told they were weak, "girly," so I suppressed them, especially the more heartfelt ones. Anger was OK though, since it was more fierce and powerful, but also dangerous.
But as we know, all human beings are social, emotional beings at the core. We are meant to feel emotions, whether we like it or not, we'll feel things. And like anything, when you try to silence that voice, there are many consequences that result from that, i.e. shallow relationships, stagnant life, burnout in career, loss in integrity and direction, low self-confidence.
Only when we identify what we're feeling specifically, get to the root cause of the issue, can we start developing the steps and strategies to know what to do with it. But if we leave our emotions clouded in vagueness, it will always feel overwhelming and difficult to deal with.
This is why I love this conversation with former professional MLB player, fellow life coach, and motivational speaker, Christian Lopez about society's limited perspective on what it means to be a man. We talk about his story through manhood and how he's working on not only becoming the best man he could be, but human as well.
Timestamps:
[6:43] Christian's story
[17:29] Get over fear by having bias towards action
[26:59] How to manage emotions as men in judgmental environments
[45:03] There are many definitions of a man
[49:52] Everyone needs role models
[57:00] How to take emotional risks without getting wounded
[1:11:29] The 5 Core Emotions
[1:21:46] What Christian's up to
Resources:
Christian's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/behind-the-mask-ulinity/id1474423662 (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/behind-the-mask-ulinity/id1474423662).
Join Christian's FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2523230051072858/ (https://www.facebook.com/groups/2523230051072858).
Find a local Toastmasters group to improve your communication skills: https://www.toastmasters.org/ (https://www.toastmasters.org).
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I used to be proud of calling myself a ‘perfectionist.’ It was like one of those things I would say in job interviews when they ask, “What is your biggest weakness?” And I would spin it to say that I just have really high standards and love delivering high quality work.
I didn’t realize what other effects perfectionism would have on my personal well-being. The fact that having impossible standards for myself added so much unnecessary weight and stress on me and my work. And how the self-criticism got worse the more I thought I had to be perfect.
I’m excited to share this episode with another recovering perfectionist, Kendra Lee, a writer and self-love coach who embraced the Japanese philosophy of Wabi Sabi to help her find relief and love for herself. We talk about how it’s helped her in her life personally, while finding the intersection of those ideas with the ideas of emotional intelligence.
Timestamps:
[1:32] Ad
[4:33] Kendra's recovery from perfectionism
[9:04] The 3 Truths to Wabi Sabi
[11:11] Showing up, with all of your cracks and imperfections, is good enough
[16:29] Become deattached from other people's reactions
[26:06] Blending Wabi Sabi with Emotional Intelligence
[31:36] How to learn more about Wabi Sabi
[37:36] Using Wabi Sabi to improve the relationship with ourselves
[43:52] 5 Core Emotions
[50:33] How to find Kendra
Resources:
Learn more about Kendra and Wabi Sabi: http://wabisabihappylife.com/ (http://wabisabihappylife.com).
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Excitement is a complicated emotion. When asked this question, many of us don’t know how to answer. And some of us might even avoid answering or to feel it too much out of fear of setting ourselves up for disappointment.
I was definitely a part of both of those groups. Growing up, anytime I did feel excitement towards something, it was usually met with something less than what I was expecting. So I trained myself to not get too excited anymore. But I’ve now realized, that is so limiting! It’s time to find that excitement, be excited, and stay excited! Do what you want to do!
This episode, I asked people to send in audio recordings of what gets them excited, either personally, professionally, or within the world. Here are there stories.
Timestamps:
[4:51] Laura, excited about a new career path
[8:31] Bob, http://metalandmortgages.com/ (Metal and Mortgages podcast), on exploring what excitement is
[12:46] Carolina, https://www.facebook.com/florezcarolina/?eid=ARCHVww26z2QQKRrFmvAn_l82JPww5bd_i4OXsDNj25lLnETcbSoHAfoA599qhH2gEsCFUZOIL_BUf5x (career coach), how to get back into excitement
[14:17] Christian, https://www.instagram.com/clopey/ (life coach and motivational speaker), growth is exciting
[16:17] William, clarity coach, excitement is contagious
[17:19] Steven, https://bettermenpodcast.com/ (Better Men podcast), excited about growing positivity
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Being raised in two different cultures is both a blessing and a curse. On one hand, I am grateful for the cultural values and traditions that come from my Asian background and to be able to compare and contrast that against American ideals that helped broaden my perspectives. On the other hand, being pulled in two different directions left me confused and stuck in who I wanted to be, which didn’t leave much room to build confidence within me. Do I follow the Asian traditions that have been passed down for generations, like family and sacrifice? Or do I embrace the American culture as an individual being born-and-raised in America and seek out personal passions and self-care? The short answer is that I don’t have to pick one or other, instead, I acknowledge that it’s actually a privilege of mine to be able to balance these two worlds so I can use that to create my own culture, traditions, and values.
I talk about all of this with Seibo Shen, one half of the duo from the Happy Asian Males podcast, where they talk about the traditionally taboo topics in Asian culture, like mental health, sex, drugs, gender roles and sexual identity and I was excited to jump on to do my part in breaking the social barriers we’ve put up that prevented us from having these difficult, but necessary conversations if we want to create a more cohesive society.
Timestamps:
[6:34] How Human Up met the Happy Asian Males
[7:59] The balance between Asian and American identity
[16:20] Self-actualization as an Asian male
[26:34] The vulnerable process in understanding our own emotions
[36:16] The beauty that comes from openly expressing ourselves
[44:52] We need more safe spaces to learn how to broaden our perspectives
[50:41] Perfection is a chase for external validation that you will never be able to internalize
[55:28] Actionable step: identify your core values
Resources:
Happy Asian Males podcast: http://www.happyasianmales.com/ (http://www.happyasianmales.com).
Worksheet to understand your core values: https://www.cmu.edu/career/documents/my-career-path-activities/values-exercise.pdf (https://www.cmu.edu/career/documents/my-career-path-activities/values-exercise.pdf).
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Paradoxically, chasing comfort in an effort to avoid the anxiety of discomfort might end up causing more anxiety. Comfort as an achievement is an illusion. We think we want it to become worry-free, but then we’re freer to worry when we finally have it. Rather than avoiding discomfort or numbing the suffering, accept that it is a necessary part of life, and in doing so, you'll find relief and peace.
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Our minds have been protecting us humans since the beginning. We were one of the most advanced, conscientious, and intelligent species because of our ability to survive. But the problem is, we didn’t do it as individuals. We banded together. That’s how we’ve always done it. Why is it that so many of think we now have to do it alone? Why is it so hard for some of us to ask for help? To really lean into our strengths and allow others to use their strengths against our weaknesses?
In this episode, I talk about that with my guest, Riah Gonzalez, CEO and Founder of Admin Prestige. We talk about her business that helps heart-centered businesses with the administrative work so that they can focus on what they do best by serving their customers.
Timestamps:
[4:51] Riah's background in insurance and healthcare
[9:47] We're the only ones holding ourselves back
[13:00] How to get over the Imposter Syndrome without needing external validation
[20:34] Confidence comes from being personable, a rare skill in the modern world
[32:32] Self-awareness accelerates growth by understanding how personal values and strengths play into what you do and how you do it
[35:46] Everyone struggles asking for help and letting go of control
[38:29] 5 Core emotions
[48:54] How to contact Riah
Resources:
Riah’s administrative business: https://adminprestige.com/ (https://adminprestige.com).
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adminprestige/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/adminprestige).
1MillionCups for early-stage entrepreneurs to get vulnerable: https://www.1millioncups.com/ (https://www.1millioncups.com).
Mindset course: https://thepacificinstitute.com/ (https://thepacificinstitute.com).
Extended DISC Profile - Behavior assessment: https://www.extendeddisc.org/ (https://www.extendeddisc.org).
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How do we become self-aware? How do we know who we are? How do we find our identity?
It may very well be that we’ll never find who we are because identity is fluid. It’s always changing based on our environment, culture, the people we surround ourselves with, the perceptions and beliefs you take in, the questions you ask and the answers you decide to listen to. So who we are today will likely be different than who we were even just last week, or who we will be 5 years from now.
So rather than spending time looking for our identity, what if we can create it instead? How can we design ourselves to do what we want to do, to be who we want to be?
I talk to a friend and mentor, John B. Johnson, about his entrepreneurship journey in creating his own identity in both his personal and business lives and how this self-awareness is a crucial part of emotional intelligence and understanding ourselves.
Timestamps:
[7:01] John's background
[10:45] The transition from architecture school to entrepreneurship
[13:08] Change frees you to explore an identity that's more true to who you are
[17:06] What is an Identity Architect?
[21:16] Similarities and differences between architecting business identity vs personal identity
[26:21] Good business requires deep personal introspection
[31:20] How emotional intelligence is used to reveal personal identity
[35:09] Developing emotional intelligence requires us to shed the external masks that cover up who we are
[42:53] Self-discovery comes from exploration
[47:55] 5 Core emotions
Resources:
John’s branding agency: http://asmallstudio.com/ (http://asmallstudio.com).
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnbcreating/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnbcreating).
1MillionCups for early-stage entrepreneurs to get vulnerable: https://www.1millioncups.com/ (https://www.1millioncups.com).
2-day Launch Camp in Seattle, Seed Spot: https://seedspot.org/ (https://seedspot.org).
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In my recent years, I’ve realized how much I’ve held myself back in my level of expression in my career, relationships, and even my hobbies. One of the contributing factors was the lack of the skill of emotional management and how to develop self-awareness in my upbringing. Not having the emotional support I needed, I was left on my own to develop it and it was definitely a struggle. I let outside perceptions affect how I view myself, which created limiting beliefs in who I was and was capable of being. Unfortunately, society and peer pressure is not completely avoidable, but we can at least control how we respond to it.
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When I reflect upon my upbringing in my early education, I realize how much I’ve been lacking in the skills to manage my own emotions and to communicate that with the other kids around me. I wasn’t taught how to be social and emotional and while I learned a lot on my own, I also became skilled at keeping to myself. Sure, that gave me independence and resourcefulness, but it also left me alone and that much less assertive in how I interact with people. In my journey through increasing my own emotional intelligence today, I’ve been curious as to why this education hasn’t been taught in schools until now. And after talking with Wendy Horng Brawer, a Leadership and Transformation Coach who’s been working in education for more than a decade, as well as starting a business to help adults unbind themselves from the mental and social barriers that have been placed upon us, I feel so much better about the future emotional health of our society.
Timestamps:
[4:33] Social and emotional intelligence in conflict management.
[10:44] Emotional intelligence improves assertiveness.
[15:01] Traditional Asian culture rarely provided space for emotional well-being.
[23:43] The inner critic in our mind is loud because we're not listening to our bodies.
[26:11] Connecting back to our intuition is an exercise.
[33:26] What a better intuitive sense and emotional intelligence can do for general well-being.
[36:46] What it means to be unbounded.
[42:21] What does the future hold in terms of mental and emotional health.
Resources that Wendy mentioned in this episode:
https://www.dovetaillearning.org/what-is-toolboxtrade.html (Dovetail Learning - Toolbox)
http://ei.yale.edu/ruler/ (RULER program from Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence)
https://www.steppingstonesproject.org/ (Stepping Stones Project)
https://www.unbound.productions/ (Unbound)
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I guess you could say I’ve had an epiphany, or an ‘aha’ moment in learning to accept myself.
I’ve realized that all throughout my life, I was always trying to be someone else. I would look up to those successful entrepreneurs, or famous celebrities, or even that popular kid in my high school and try to do everything they would do.
But I’m naturally a more quiet, shy, introverted kid, especially with those I’m not comfortable with. My friends would disagree, but I also love being alone.
So everytime I tried to be someone else, it felt unnatural, like I was stretching myself thin. And instead of inspiring or motivating me, putting these people on a pedestal just made me feel worse about myself and how they were everything I was not.
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Growing up, prioritizing my mental health was not something I explored with anyone. Our family rarely addressed our emotions. Sh*t would happen and we would all go to our respective corners of the house and either distract ourselves with other things or ruminate over it.
In school and in the workplace, I didn’t feel safe enough to talk about my feelings either. I got that sense that no one did, especially the other men around me, so I kept it all to myself. I played it off when I was hurt, or embarrassed, or angry.
Not only did I not have a male role model that was willing to be vulnerable and sit in humility, but I also haven’t seen many examples of men of color doing so, at least in mainstream media. I know there are many more voicing themselves now and I am so glad that they are, but for the most part, it’s still a missing avenue for a lot of us.
Representation is so important for young people. We want to follow someone we can identify with and relate to. To be able to model ourselves after someone we'd like to become. Without it, there's potential to feel lonely, like we don't belong anywhere, and that we have to do everything on our own.
But that's never the case. All throughout history, humans have survived by working together as a team. No one does it alone. And that's why we need to see more examples of people from diverse backgrounds represented in every industry, let alone the wellness industry.
Timestamps:
[8:14] There are all these young people looking for help, where are all the adults?
[15:05] How can we address the lack of diversity in wellness spaces
[18:29] Immigrant families didn't have the privilege and disposable income to prioritize mental wellness because there wasn’t a tangible benefit
[28:32] Culture plays both a positive and negative role in how we perceive our individual values
[33:57] Media has the power and responsibility with branding and representation to make it safe to be vulnerable
[39:48] Technology can be used as a force for positivity
[41:08] Respect your cultural and familial values, but know that they are also subjective, so you can choose what to believe in
[51:01] End segment: when were you last angry, sad, and excited in your life?
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After embarking on this journey to improve my own emotional intelligence, I’ve found that the lack thereof not only resulted in stagnation within my career, but in my romantic relationships as well. I didn’t know myself, I didn’t know what values to confidently stand behind, I wasn’t aware of, nor was I expressive with my emotions, and now I’ve realized, that was what was unattractive to everyone.
I’ve had many failed attempts at trying to “generate” attraction with women. Because women didn’t seem to be attracted to me, I thought I had to create a spark when meeting women. I tried to memorize the tactics, or lines, or ways to manipulate the interaction so that they would like me. Obviously, that didn’t work either.
I’m still trying to figure things out for myself, with the help from Ed Baxter, a men’s relationship coach I found on Facebook. We discuss how we should focus on ourselves first, and on how we think and feel about ourselves before focusing on others.
[5:31] How settling for someone creates gaps and insecurities in what you want and need from a relationship
[11:38] Create meaningful relationships by separating your identity as an introvert from the label of shyness
[13:40] Introversion and social anxiety are mutually exclusive
[16:28] How can introverts put ourselves out there more?
[19:29] Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness, but of courage
[24:52] The tactics rarely generate genuine attraction
[26:07] What can we do to develop deeper connections?
[30:42] If you want a more connected relationship, you have to connect back to your own emotions and intuition
[34:17] As long as you have faith in your authenticity, you can detach yourself from outside judgments
[39:03] Stand out from the crowd in dating by being open, calm, and present with her and the woman inside
[41:43] You can't feel the attraction when you're caught up in judgments
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When we lack direction and purpose, we lose all meaning in what we do and why we do it. Without our own sense of direction, we’re also that much more susceptible to other people’s influence. Finding clarity in how you want your future life to look like doesn’t mean setting high, unreachable expectations that will only disappoint you if you don’t hit them. It’s about having that target to aim for, something to work towards, a goal to stand behind. And feeling good getting even just a bit closer to it.
[6:33] What is clarity?
[8:16] How do you know you've chosen the right path?
[11:15] How do you deal with the fear of failure?
[13:52] We tell ourselves that we lack clarity, so we're susceptible to other people's wants
[14:56] We lack clarity because we don't make the time for it.
[17:17] Finding clarity means forgetting about the 'how'
[18:53] You don't have to be capable right now, you can become capable
[21:15] Finding clarity is an ongoing process
[23:07] Clarity is found by bringing together the past, present, and future
[23:53] Split the different Creative, Planning, and Judgment modes
[29:23] Develop your ideal day
[38:14] Your actions will start to reflect your beliefs
[39:57] Clarity means looking at other areas of your life
[44:22] Determine who you want to become
[45:09] What if who you want to become is not natural to you?
[47:34] Past identity is not the current identity, so let go of the fear of changing or leaving anything behind
[50:51] Defining your Clarity Manifesto will make it easier to make decisions for yourself
[55:23] Create a movie of your future self to envision how they would behave
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Have you've heard of the Lone Wolf mentality?
Being the oldest of the first-generation of kids from an immigrant family, I took on a lot of the pressure and responsibility to perform and to be independent. I found pride in my own ability to take care of myself and do everything on my own, but at the same time, that developed an insecurity of relinquishing control and perfectionism and it isolated me from asking for help and delegating appropriately.
If you can relate, I encourage you to identify your true strengths and find humility in yourself and your weaknesses so that you can find those to support you where you can't support yourself.
You don't have to do life alone.
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A year ago, I uploaded a video proclaiming that I am going through my own quarter-life crisis. Since then I've connected with so many others going through something similar of their own and learning so much about people, humanity, and life, but most importantly, myself.
If you've noticed yourself stuck somewhere, it might be because we've been taught so much on how to behave for everyone else except ourselves. We were given education on other people's values, but haven't spent enough time identifying our own.
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Have you heard of the happiness equation?
Happiness = reality - expectations.
My logical mind loved this simple formula to follow in order to be happy!
But what this did was contain me to a certain standard of what my reality was. I assumed that that was a constant variable and only thought I had control over my expectations. So in order to maintain a positive measure of happiness, I just lowered my expectations instead. And that slowly chipped away at my confidence and empowerment because I lost self-agency.
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When we find ourselves stuck in life it's usually because we either have been doing too much without thought, finding ourselves all of a sudden somewhere we don't like to be, or because we keep going in circles over-thinking our next steps, mostly out of fear of something happening or not happening from it.
How do we take consistent action without moving blindly and without over-complicating each step? A piece of it could be to start with knowing where you're at on the spectrum and then be comfortable bouncing back and forth.
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Slow down for a minute.
There's a rush that so many of us feel like we have to chase. It's face-paced and we praise it. We have to get somewhere as fast as possible, get promoted in the shortest number of years, find the perfect partner after just a couple dates, drive everywhere to save time from walking.
But in trying to save time, we lose what time could give us. Beauty, opportunity, adventure.
And when we're pressured to run too fast, it's difficult to see where you're going or what you're aiming at, and that's why we feel lost. Slow down, breathe, aim, fire.
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I found this song, "What Do You Love" by Seeb ft Jacob Banks, and it was one of those moments where the lyrics feel like they're speaking right to you.
It made me think about, what it is I do love, which helped me feel better about the direction I'm taking in this transitional point of my life right now.
If you're ever stuck, ask yourself, What do you love? What do you stand for? What do you fall for?
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One of my good friends decided he was tired of being angry at his coworker for no reason and took it upon himself to figure out why. He literally Googled, "What is annoyance" and found an awesome tool, the Negative Emotion Typology. It lists out the major human emotions and its description on when people would typically feel them. A lot of our issues are exaggerated solely because we let the ambiguity of our emotions spread into other facets of our lives. By putting a name to it, you're already one step closer to not letting the negative emotions consume you.
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Being the emotional beings we are, it's impossible to absolutely control what we feel, but we do have some control over how we emote them. The first step to gaining that control back is to define what we're feeling. If you are aware of the factors that trigger a specific feeling, you can then find the words to better communicate it both to yourself and to others, which will lessen the overwhelming, ambiguous feelings. From here, you can disarm the negative emotions and start thinking of calm, rational steps to address it.
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I never thought I would get to this point. Everything seemed fine, was going great, I genuinely enjoyed what I was doing with my life.
But something shifted where I realized that what I was enjoying really was complacency, disguised as comfort. I was working towards my ideal sense of familiarity which limited my growth in my career, love, and awareness.
So I guess this is what a quarter-life crisis feels like, when everything you thought you had been doing would prepare you for this moment, but you only realize how unprepared you really are.
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Whether we know it or not, our environments have a huge impact on ourselves, but the less believed perspective is that we have a huge impact on our environments as well. It sounds like common sense, but it's not common knowledge, that we do have more control over our lives than we think. It's not to ignore all the external circumstances and systemic issues that we are confined to. It's about shifting the perspectives to how we want to use that.
I've been using these external sources as an excuse to limit myself. I worry too much about what other people are going to think, or how I might be perceived. What that did was create more unawareness of both myself and others because I kept holding myself back.
I'm working on getting over that.
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As a kid, I was told to "man up" many times. I heard people say this to the boys around me, sometimes even some girls. As innocent as their intentions were, what this did was confuse me. What did that mean exactly?
So rather than telling others to "man up," why don't we "human up" instead? Can we find ways to be better men, women, and children for ourselves rather than how anyone else thinks we're supposed to behave?
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I talk about my journey in learning to become more emotionally intelligent after growing up in environments that didn't give me the safe space to express my thoughts and emotions. I didn't develop enough confidence in myself to create that space on my own and it's led me to a place of complacency. I wish I learned about these concepts before! Why weren't these taught in schools?
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