Flirt with Tawni Blake: Recent Episodes
Tawni Blake
Don't you think it's time for you to find love? Then it's time for Flirt with Tawni Blake, the podcast that will let you unleash the full power of flirting! I'm Tawni, and I'm a dating coach, entrepreneur, relationship guru, and world-class flirt! I've heard every story, studied every scenario, and know all the do's and don'ts when it comes to attracting the partner of your dreams. And that journey starts with discovering your inner flirt. Join me each week where my special guests and I will share it all - the funny, the tragic, the embarrassing, and the hopeful - in a podcast that is super honest, flirty as hell, direct and to the point, and always hilarious. I'll reveal everything to you - all my favorite tips, tricks, resources, and results - and we will discover our best lives, our true selves, and our new loves - together!
First dates should not be boring. Up your game. Shift your energy. Be more fun, more playful. Be curious. Ask great questions. Be memorable.
Women are taught from a young age that their only real purpose & goal in life is to get married & procreate. I find this antiquated expectation ridiculous of course and I share my point of view on it all.
I tell stories about past loves…. Love lost. Nostalgia. How I deal with all the memories that haunt me a bit. And the adventures I had moving to new cities all on my own.
To meet someone in real life, you have to get out! Let’s face it, dating apps are hit or miss. They take up a lot of time without a lot of real tangible results. It is way more effective (and fun, in my opinion) to meet in person and see if there’s chemistry immediately. Let’s get off our phones (& the apps) this summer and fully engage with the world full of people around us!
I discuss the pros and cons of this idea, and share my own personal experience through the years.
In this episode, I share 3 success stories of clients who had given up hope on ever finding lasting love. Was it timing? Was it geography? Was it the work they did on themselves? We all need a little HOPE.
Your insecurity will inevitably manifest in your relationship. How you deal with it, and how you & your partner communicate about it will be the deciding factor if your relationship will last. Create a safer space for your person to talk about their issues with you.
In this episode, I talk about dating after therapy....How you might feel really ready! You've talked it all out. You may feel you have it all figured out now. All the sh#t from your childhood....But then you meet someone you really like, and all that you think you know flies right out the window....
The stress affecting your mental & physical health and therefore your relationships--your ability to date, connect and attract. Finding joy in the middle of it all. Self care. Taking care of each other. It all matters!
That glimpse at insecurity that causes you to stay stuck. Are you spending way too much time in your head? Are you happy with your current partner? Or do you stay for all the wrong reasons?
Being single during the holidays can be rough! Newly single parents experiencing their first holiday without their kids, the family split apart. You are not the only one! Focus on yourself and self care and maybe do the unexpected.
Perfect, beautiful date nights. And realizing my susceptibility to fear in a new relationship. The key to getting past it....and not messing it all up.
1992 was the year I fell in love for the first time with the most amazing human I have ever met...I am so grateful to him for setting the bar high for all the men that followed.
Cold weather is here....time to find someone to cuddle with to stay warm. I am also celebrating another successful singles gathering and feeling beyond grateful!
How does a relationship get started? From the first date to the exclusivity conversation. How do you make that decision to choose that one person to try and make something work?
"During dark times, gratitude matters more than ever." This quote is from an article from a college on ethical leadership. Expressing gratitude can be a valuable tool when it comes to healing from grief. This week has been devastating for so many people. I have had few words to express my feelings, but I have remained in gratitude for every single thing that I have. Taking nothing for granted. Sending you all a little extra love....
My take on how to get a relationship to develop after your first date. The happy medium of communication, expressing your genuine interest, and curiosity. Flirting, fun, and some directness!
In your dating life, you are the common denominator. Your energy and your thoughts dictate how your dates will go. If you think all the good ones are taken.... If you think dating sucks...then this will be true for you. What do you bring to the table? Drama or healthy fun? Negativity or positive vibes? Get your sh#t together, people. :)
I keep the theme of going down memory lane and read some of my love letters from the 6th and 7th grades. The intensity. The drama. So passionately in love for two 12 year olds. And this is who I have always been. Makes me smile.
A "dear diary" episode about my 7th grade love affair who has recently shown up in my life, making us revisit our past moments together. This is the song by Chicago (the band) that takes us both back to me breaking his 13 year old heart back then. (Ouch!) So we have reconnected....now what? :)
Coaching dilemma for the dating coach...ignoring my own logical advice. I'm smitten! And all rational throught is thrown out the window...
You have to choose it. To work at it. To celebrate it. You must start with having hope that they exist!
The excitement in the beginning of a new relationship can also mean fear and insecurities popping up for you, perhaps causing you to subconsciously self-sabotage to keep yourself from getting hurt. Try to stay in the moment.
Words matter. Be more intentional. Be a better listener. It can improve your dating life!
I describe my yummy feelings and energy of a new crush! Heady like a drug. Losing all logic. Feeling silly. ALL the fun!
Yes, I have decided to be single again....here we go....my first date adventures...."dear diary" episodes to follow. Stay tuned. I'm excited.
Confidence is key. But the superficial gets you your chance. How you present yourself. Clothing often matters. Body language. A smile....Someone has to like what they see first so you get the chance to share who you are.
The beginning of a new relationship can be terrifying. Our fears make us act out and do stupid stuff to test the other human. The answer = true vulnerability and some blatant truth. First to ourselves.
I talk about how you can assume you know someone, never having asked the tough questions. And for people going on first dates, get that chip off your shoulder.
I tell a story of a super negative experience this week. Why do people lash out at strangers? Again, hurt people hurting people, I guess. Does it make them feel better? Make sure you aren't one of these people.
Figure out your insecurities and what your addictions are and try to heal them. Work on loving yourself more and not always seeking external validation.
We must remember in relationships that actions speak louder than words. People can tell you who they WANT to be with you, but how they treat you on a daily basis is the key. Pay attention.
But keep trying. Do it better. More effectively. And also try more to meet in the wild! It's a numbers game. Be your own matchmaker. And don't wear an ugly sweater on a date! :)
Courage to do the deep dive to build your confidence. Examining your past so you can move forward in a more healthy way. Shifting your energy so you can draw more to you.
Limiting beliefs. Narrow minded views. Your attitude around dating needs to be more positive.
I talk about the evolution of my incredibly BOY CRAZY dating life... A walk down memory lane. And I include advice on how YOU can get it right this time around...
If flirting could be so easy....Just engage and be curious. Friendly. Open. It's not rocket science, people!
In this episode, I talk about my week of coaching several pain in the ass clients. :) And I discuss attachment styles and how it affects your dating behavior.
Deliberate deception to woo you into a commitment based on lies. How to avoid this trap. Ask direct questions! Pay attention to the red flags!
Do you find the idea of a singles event terrifying? :) I recap the success of my event, and my new clients who are already transforming seemingly overnight. And all the other different personalities coming together for a night of flirting.
Do more shit outside your comfort zone! Stop being boring! Talk to people. Flirt more! Be more fearless! Find more joy in your life! No risk=no reward.
Pining after a lost love...Did you learn anything the first time? And happy birthday to me! My gratitude for my joy filled life.
The dating advice you never seem to take...honoring yourself. Why you keep making other people more important than you are!
The Lost Art - do you know how to FLIRT? Without being too sexual too soon? Have we all forgotten how to talk to people? Has technology ruined us?
And other stories of people being stuck. Random emails I get from total strangers..... Another day in the life of a dating coach.
- Stop feeling lonely on this commercialized, arbitrary day designed to shame you for being single. 2. Try to incorporate your cool "on vacation" energy in your own town to date better. 3. Get off your couch and off the apps and back into the "wild".
If he's afraid to label your relationship.... And if he drives a luxury car.... Pay attention, ladies.
In this episode I talk about what keeps a long term relationship romantic, fresh, healthy, and fun.
Beware of the beginning signs of abuse...control and isolation. Love bombing in the beginning - followed by emotional and verbal abuse. Don't lose yourself.
I celebrate a milestone with my company, FLIRT. The joy of bringing people together and helping them stay there. And how I am still flirting, as a way of life. :)
I talk with Nick Pollard, one of my favorite people and my favorite coach! Confidence is the key to successful dating. You must figure yourself out first. It takes some commitment and time working on yourself to get really clear so you can be a better date!
The age old question--why are you still single? And one answer may be that sometimes you choose way out of your league! When you do not offer the same traits or characteristics that you are demanding.
A story about a group of women warning other women about a dangerous predator. Advice on how to avoid being susceptible to the charms of the narcissist while dating.
The emotional rollercoaster of holding onto your romantic memories. The frequent trips down memory lane....are they good for you?
Dear Diary episode. The demise of my fun spring fling. The lesson of the red flags! Pay attention.
Relationships are so fun in the beginning! How to keep that chemistry and yummy energy going....I also ask the question, why do relationships have to last till "death do us part"? Feels like a lot of pressure especially in the beginning.
Blindsided. Caught off guard. Betrayal by someone you love is the hardest thing! Here is how and why I have stayed a bit stuck, and I'm hoping you can move forward if it happens to you.
- Authenticity! Be more transparent. Less fearful. 2. How to have a relationship that thrives. 3. I also pose the question: Is chivalry dead?
What to avoid when you meet someone new. The danger of becoming emotionally attached too soon. How to Deal with Ghosting.
Why does dating have to be so complicated!?!? Stop looking for the red flags and start finding things you like in the new people you meet. More optimism. Less frustration! Like attracts like. You need to find your own joy before you invite someone into your life!
Sometimes the stars align, and you have a first date with someone where things just click - on every level - and it feels magical. It can bring back your hope for dating.
Get out of your monotony! Do something different to shake things up! Move to a new city. Explore more. Change up your routine. Life is too short! And maybe you will find love (if you've been looking).
In this episode, I discuss the importance of communication and boundaries. Life is short! Speak up for yourself. But beware of people's potential reactions to your new found voice.
Don't judge a book by its cover. There is almost always a soft gooey center under the hard candy shell of a human.
A story of love bombing, a first date, and an intense 5 day relationship. It was filled with optimism and hope. Then the quick crashing and burning. What not to do dating advice.
Don't let this arbitrary, made up, Hallmark holiday make you feel bad about being single. But if you want to change something in your life, do it. Stop letting fear keep you stuck.
The topic of online dating continues. I go on another first date from a dating app - while still in the South. And it goes horribly wrong after an auspicious beginning. (What not to do. Too much too soon.)
I am happy, dammit. For reals. :) Yes. Pretty much every damn day.
Let me tell you why.... Self love revolution. It is the key to happy dating, and your ultimate relationship success. It all starts with you!
I continue to reveal my adventures, observations, prospects, and hopes for dating in the south!
How to master the dating app. Dating app advice/Dating in the South Dear Diary. :) I have some big life changes. :) Here's how it's affecting my dating life.
My current dating life has involved lots of recycling. The question is: Do people change? Do they learn? Can love be better the second time around? J-Lo and Ben seem to be having success!
Let's talk about sex.
Can women have it all? Safety and security with a long term partner while still having mind blowing sex? Do we end up settling in our relationships?
The warning signs of domestic abuse. In this episode, I give advice on how to get out of unhealthy relationships.
A little advice on how to date better, and where (and how) to find more quality people to date!
I tackle the question of futility and complacency. I offer advice on how to evoke change and start living in your best life.
I tackle this question, and talk about happiness and how to find it first so you can attract more positivity in your dating life!
This episode has a surprising reveal from a matchmaker! I share my feelings on marriage...is it an obsolete institution?
This episode is about the pitfalls of dating a narcissist and how to see the behavior patterns and the red flags. How to avoid getting sucked in. I also share my own personal experience and how I will try to never repeat that kind of yucky experience in my own life again. Learn from my mistakes! :)
This episode is about the magic power of ROMANCE - I share all my yummy personal experiences and stories through the years, plus give advice on how you can create more romance in your own life!
In this episode I discuss how people are dating during this crazy time, my personal experience, and the downside of online dating/dating apps. Plus, I include a little extra dash of dating advice!
In this episode, I reveal the fun story of how FLIRT was born and how it evolved....from a sweet date I met online. And how you need to throw away your long list of what you want in a match!
My guest, Jim Sharp, gives me his perspective on marriage, dating, and engaging with women who are not open to being vulnerable or sharing who they really are. We talk about the "rules" people tend to try to follow instead of bravely sharing who they are without fear of judgment. We urge people to "wake up" and date in a more conscious way. To stay present in the moment. And share your authentic self.
Here we go! A little history, and I answer..."Who the hell is Tawni Blake?" My story from the beginning - where I first started flirting at age 4. Polyamory at age 7(!). How Flirt, my company, started, and my general LIVE OUT LOUD flirting and dating philosophy. Plus, how I am a big FLIRT…with some fun stories about silly, awkward, fearful, yet going for it anyway, flirting and, yes, dating!