OneSharpSword: Recent Episodes
Dr. Wayne Pernell
Most people live their lives using a dull blade, hoping to make it through to another day. Even a thousand dull blades would be no match for One Sharp Sword! One Sharp Sword is about breaking free and cutting through the veil that holds us back from living fully into our own truth. Who would you be if you weren't listening to someone else's voice? What job or career path would you be on? Where might you be living? Who would you surround yourself with? What would you eat? What music would you listen to? Better still, what music would you play? Dr. Pernell (also known as "Dr. P") brings you his insights and interviews guests who have had their own significant breakthroughs. Here, you're certain to come away inspired, ready to sharpen your sword. Be sure to get your weekly breakthrough with Dr. P, Tuesdays and Thursdays right here! One Sharp Sword!
Manuj Aggarwal has a scary topic: Artificial Intelligence. Well, it seems scary until you get into it and
he addresses some key fears right away.
• No, AI won’t take away jobs.
• Yes, it’s here to stay.
• Yes, as with calculators, microwaves, and computers, you’ll need to learn to work with it.
• You need to learn to ask better and better questions
A.I. reflects your world of bias, based on the questions you as an individual pose to it. That said, if you think bigger and bigger and A.I. is harvesting global information in seconds, it could solve real world problems.
This was an awesome and mind-expanding interview.
Enjoy!
Find more about Manuj at:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/manujaggarwal/
www.Manuj.ca
www.ManujAggarwal.com
You might think the topic of Project Management would be boring. Ordinarily, you might be right. And yet, the people behind this disruptive technology are anything but boring!
What can you learn from a woman who’s a partner in the development and distribution of a start-up app that’s project-management based? A LOT.
Her journey is something as she doesn’t have a college degree, but she was playing in the big-kids’ sandbox at Proctor and Gamble and Starbucks.
Her app is something as it’s AI-based and streamlines the logistics timeline for builders. And her heart-centered giving is something, employing a company devoted to helping trafficked women.
April Moss is awesome and DigiBuild is a company to keep an eye out for!
April@DigiBuild.com
www.DigiBuild.com
What does a retired Marine Chief Warrant Officer know about having tough, sexy confidence? Well, Sandra Gonzalez lives it, speaks about it, and teaches it.
During our interview, Sandra shared how her father influenced her to go into the military and how she fell in love with the Marines. As a woman, she had to prove herself over and over. That got her to be tough, internally. During this interview, you wouldn’t be able to tell that she’s as much of a badass as she is.
Through some tough times of divorce, death, and debt (a bad divorce followed by the loss of her father each of which cost her dearly) she realized that internal resilience will see her through. She notes, there aren’t losses, only beautiful lessons.
She now teaches high-level entrepreneurs how to take command of any room they walk into.
Requisites: You have to want to grow.
You have to have a warrior’s mindset to shift past obstacles and open to
opportunities
Battle the inner critic and the voices of uncertainty
Give yourself compassion
She says, just believe, “I’m going to be okay.”
Find Sandra at
www.SandraGonzalez.com
www.SexyConfidenceTraining.com
And on IG @CoachSandraGonzalez
Byron Athene is a psychotherapist and a bit of a philosopher who believes we have some concepts wrong when it comes to emotions.
He backs into his theory by explaining that a lot of people think that we need to have bad to explain (or enjoy) the good and that if something good happens, something bad is likely to happen.
Personally, I’m more a fan of the law of polarity which says that both exist at the same time, so what is it we’re actually focusing on.
Byron says that some people believe that “bad” emotions exist to motivate you. And I have a different view around that type of motivation. We get ethics and morals when we’re younger, we also are given the good child/bad child constructs based on behavior for the sake of control.
And then there’s what Byron calls the inevitability theory. We’re bound to feel bad about certain things.
I’m not certain about any of this, but I’m willing to entertain it because I want ideas to percolate through here. For me, I learned early on that I could choose which emotions to feel. We, as adults with adult language, perception, and constructs, can choose what we experience and feel. Where Byron and I agree is on the point of what we believe creates our reality.
Well, Byron takes us to HIS theory, what he class the Baby Theory. In short: Babies cry to get their needs met. Babies learn that by feeling bad, they’re comforted. And therefore, they take the syllogistic tree (If/Then) to the emotional place of “If I feel bad, I’ll get the comfort I need.” He sees “bad” emotions as manipulative.
And I’m not so sure I agree with him. Still, he’s an agreeable person and it was an amazing conversation. I invite you to tune in.
For more from Byron, go to www.ByronAthene.com
And check his article here: https://www.brainzmagazine.com/post/why-do-we-feel-bad
Eli Halpern is a comedian rapper ninja entrepreneur who started www.GoldenCricket.com. Really, he’s a stand up comedian, a rap artist with two albums on Spotify, a take-no-sh** martial artist, and an entrepreneur who founded a company making protein bars that are gluten free, lactose free, and full of flavor with 19 grams of protein.
On today’s podcast, we spoke about Eli’s climb in the entrepreneurial world and we looked at where his struggles or decision points became leadership lessons that we can all learn from.
Key points we uncovered as we discussed his journey included:
- Every day starts anew; meaning that what you did yesterday was fine. What are you doing, focusing on today?
- As long as I’m me, I’ll be fine anywhere I go.
And yes, we learned about eating crickets!
You have GOT to check out www.GoldenCricket.com and plug in onesharpsword (lower case) for a 15% discount on your orders of Cricket Bars that are high protein, gluten free, lactose free, and the sugar comes from dates. (I’m not an affiliate and I’ve never tasted these things, they just sound good to me and I make no other claims about them.)
Find Eli Halpern out there on all of the social platforms and at IG: @CricketLordMMA And @GoldenCricketInc
Blair is all about Resilience.
Most people would find a cave to hide in if they experienced the sequential losses of family members that Blair endured. But her story is not one of retreat. Quite the opposite, in fact. Hers is one in which “bouncing forward” defines resilience. For someone who says that she lives with depression and anxiety, this interview is filled with energy and genuine smiles.
TheGlobalResilienceProject.com is both the name of her book and her passion project.
Like a muscle that you train, learning to bounce forward when the time is needed takes five easy “secret” steps:
- Practice Gratitude - one way to do that is to list (or share with someone) three things that you’re grateful for in the past 24 hours
- Fuel your body and your mind - What are you eating, drinking, and letting in mentally? From food to drama to media, get super aware of what’s in and what’s no longer allowed in.
- Forest Bathing or from the Japanese, Shinrin-Yoku, means to absorb the forest atmosphere. In short, just get outside!
- Sleep! Your body and your mind need sleep to integrate and restore. Plan your day around the sleep you need, not the other way around.
- Share your story! You’re not alone and the best way to bounce forward is to share your story and maybe listen as someone else
To find out more, go to: www.TheGlobalResilienceProject.com And www.BlairKaplan.ca (that’s ca, not com because Yayyy Canada!)
I’ve never done anything political on my show. But this is One Sharp Sword - cutting through to what matters most. So when I was introduced to a man who has been a U.S. Gov’t contractor (which he admits is a euphemism for spy) who found his moral compass wouldn’t let him act on the president’s orders, I wanted to learn more.
With Phillip Drake, there IS more. He’s also directly involved in rescuing girls and women from the sex trafficking industry. This is a huge issue, because it’s happening right here - no matter where you are - it’s happening around you. And, because of what he knows and because of what he believes, he’s put his hat in the ring to become the next U.S. President.
So, I’ve potentially interviewed the next president of the United States. Yes, a lot of things need to align for that to happen, but it’s possible. And I invite you to listen in to what Phillip Drake believes in and see if there’s anything you’d really push against. If nothing else, we’ve got some amazing leadership lessons woven throughout this content. I think this guy could actually bring people together over a conversation, not a shouting match. And look, you don't have to agree with everything he says. I don't agree with 100% of everything that my best friend says. But I listen. And if any other presidential candidate wants to be interviewed on my show, I’d entertain the idea.
Here’s Phillip Drake’s story:
After being involved in spying on U.S. Citizens under the Office of the Inspector General, he had his son five years ago and his perspective and values changed. He notes becoming a man of principles and integrity.
This interview takes place on his family farm in South Carolina and he notes that he was taught to do the right thing and noted that the world isn’t always fair.
In terms of politics, Phillip notes that we need to really work with people. Big companies and government organizations are entities. And entities have no feelings. Agents are extensions of entities and we need to ensure that agents can actually act on behalf of The Constitution.
Phillip makes no bones about some of the things that are wrong in this country: “The school system is a joke! We’re not taught history correctly. Nor were we taught about The Constitution correctly.” Separately he emphasizes, “The Constitution is the law of the land!” But who really knows what it says?
In terms of running for president, Mr. Drake notes that it’s not something he necessarily wants to do, but it’s something he feels he has to do!
Leadership lessons:
• Stay Curious - Phillip decided to run for president then decided to learn what it would
take to do that. He never stops learning.
• Go for your goals - there will be obstacles, but your passion for the outcome will help you
overcome the obstacles.
• Just communicate! So simple, yet so hard to do!
For more, go to:
www.PDrake4US.com
Team@PDrake4US.com
David Achata is a leadership coach and management consultant. He’s a soft-spoken, reflective extrovert who loves hiking and mountain biking.
Rather than traditional college, David pursued the path of spending a decade in pastoral ministry.
He found that saying YES to opportunities paved the way for him. As he’s opened to authenticity, he’s learning about and leading others in showing the True Self vs. The False Self (sometimes the one that’s more public if alignment and maturity aren’t present).
His history made him overly responsible and feeling like he needed to create control around everything and now he embodies being able to approach situations with open hands vs. those that grasp and end up with nothing.
His new book is Executive Retreats for Busy Business Leaders, though it’s relevant to everyone. A few concepts stand out -
- Go Away Alone
- Go Away with a Guide
- Go Away with Your Team
- Go Away with Your Family (to which I’d add, get time away with your partner)
Doing this - getting away - will help you find your Vision (and your shared vision).
David reminds us to create a life that you have energy for.
Find David Achata on all the social platforms and at www.AchataCoaching.com
Axel Meierhoefer still carries his accent with him, having come from a port town in Germany. He became fascinated with flying because of his Grandfather and Uncle’s involvement with the airlines. He passed the pilot’s test for Lufthansa just as they stopped hiring. Instead, he found the U.S. Airforce and moved up the ranks to become an instructor.
Following the path of learning what makes for success, looking for clues both within and outside of the military, especially focused on what makes for a good leader. Exploring what the wealthy do with their money to protect it and grow it, Axel found real estate.
While broad, Axel narrowed his scope to Residential Real Estate and now helps people on their path to Time and Money Freedom by showing how to become successful in owning property, even if you don’t have a lot of money to start with.
Axel offers a sound perspective in this interview and though there can never be promises about investing returns or offers of tax advice, much of what Axel talks about is worth looking into further.
He invites you to look at his website and arrange for a free consultation call with him and he’s very happy to offer his Mindset Manual to start goal setting the right way for free, here: https://idealwealthgrower.com/free/
Tyler moved through being in federal law enforcement to founding NuclearNetworking, a business growth company.
In this podcast you’ll get his insight and wisdom on what it takes to really own, and grow an organization. And you don’t have to be a business owner to learn something here.
Key takeaways and concepts worthy of consideration:
- Uncover and get clear about your USP - Unique Selling Proposition. It’s the “why you” out of the thousands of other people who have a thing.
- What is your “Scroll-Stopper?”
- Being online and mindlessly scrolling through stories, what makes someone stop and look at what you’re putting in front of them? What’s the image? What’s the language you’re using? And is it for the right person/target market?
- Don’t be afraid to Niche Down!!! You’re not everything to everyone!
- Go where your passion is and let that out! Let it out, follow it, and invite others to join you in that space.
Tyler is a great guy with a lot of wonderful insights. The interview time flew by. I think you’ll get a lot out of this.
Find Tyler at www.NuclearNetworking.com
Drop him a line at Tyler@NuclearNetworking.com
And get a free consult by sending an email of inquiry to Hello@NuclearNetworking.com
Peter Anthony helps us understand how to sell more without pushing a sale, but rather by simply being authentic. Recognizing that sales isn’t about foisting something on someone, but actually helping the other person by solving a problem for them, we enter the magical world of collaboration. Collabradabra!
When Peter joined IBM and was sent to sales training, he found that his curiosity overrode what he was taught. While his supervisors weren’t pleased with his style of selling by actually finding out about the other person, they couldn’t argue with his results.
Peter now helps organizations grow by helping them collaborate internally and externally.
As so many of my guests discuss, we touched on alignment as a topic. Spend time talking with team members, find out about them, tell them about yourself and your values. Peter notes that the quality of your relationships is based on the quality of your conversations. He also points out that conversations are like playing a game, which wouldn’t be any fun if only one person had a turn.
Meaning in your work is found when you think of the end user.
Find out more at www.PeterAnthonyConsulting.com and check out his book at https://www.amazon.com.au/Collabradabra-Peter-J-Anthony/dp/064681074X
Talking about owning a franchise isn’t sexy.
In fact, it made me, as the podcast host, wonder why I should have someone who does franchise stuff on the program. And then, I thought about what I teach - and I got curious. I went to a place of judgment, so I knew I must be missing something.
What was it about franchises that I was missing?
Stacey Marmolejo grew up being guided to stick to things that were safe and more secure. The military was a secure career route, but she didn’t want that. Corporate was secure, and it’s a path she took. Until she didn’t. She pivoted into franchising after watching her son come alive with energy in a music camp. Stacey found a music school where she could help her son and other kids find a way to be themselves and become more expressive, while belonging to a group.
Who knew that franchises could offer comfort like that?
There are over 4,000 franchise brands from which to select and they’re not all mainstream.
How do you now which one is for you, if any?
Stacey will walk you through a competency assessment, a motivation assessment, and review your finances. She advises, buy a franchise you can afford.
Later in the program she notes that you only need about 30% of the buy in costs because the Small Business Administration will help. Get your loan through an SBA Preferred Bank and you’ll be on a great path.
If this is your first business, it’s like a paid internship to learn how to run a business. You get the playbook. Yep, if you want to own your own business, consider a franchise.
There’s so much more! Listen in for great tidbits.
And for a free, no-obligation chat with Stacey, reach out to her at StaceyMarmolejo@gmail.com
Let’s PLAY!!! You know that I’m all about Exponential Success. Leveraging success happens when you actively promote (and leave room for) creativity. And the best way to get creative? PLAY!!!
Mike Montague is a master. He grew up with Creative Nerdery - a term from his family about the play they engaged in. Along Mike’s path, he was a DJ, a computer geek, and a radio host. These days, he’s a corporate speaker and occasional Karaoke DJ.
Here are some of the key insights from today’s podcast:
The pressure to have fun can suck the fun out of the situation (wedding, vacation, etc.) So relax a bit. Take the pressure off.
The benefits of play include:
- Creativity
- Where stress demands that you find that one right answer, play evokes a level of permission to play as a path to seeking alternative answers.
- Confidence
- Conditioning, both mentally and physically
- Communication
- Culture - be deliberate about the culture you’re building for yourself
Great memories are made in the dynamic movement between chaos and order
Get away from your usual confines of where you live or work. Get outside!
A.I. might be great. Humans can engage meaningfully with other humans. Play, laugh, build, and know when to break the rules.
Get to www.PlayfulHumans.com/Quiz
Find play in what you do!
Remember too, that as you look towards building a future that’s amazing and truly igniting your trajectory, get to www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
Every so often you meet people that are just darned impressive. Gary Garth is one of those people. He thinks I’m impressive. Perspective is everything I suppose.
He started a business in Denmark when he was 19 years old. He claims to have done everything wrong, but in talking with him, it turns out that he learned and pivoted. And that’s the real lesson here.
Don’t set out to fail, just know that you’ll run into obstacles. Learn and move forward.
Gary reminds us that “you’re always in sales” and to keep looking for opportunities. They’re right in front of you.
Focus on what moves you - dive in deep and invest in your purpose.
As with other successful guests, Gary notes, “look for patterns.”
Gary gives us important information about go to market strategies.
To overcome obstacles, know both your customer’s and your own pain points.
Constantly evolve yourself.
Where there’s uncertainty, there’s hesitation. Get clear. Lean in.
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It takes effort to inflate a balloon and only one bad or sharp edged experience to pop it. Having come off of a cruise not that long ago, I was reflecting on the exceptional customer service we had. And then, at the end, security called me out for having chosen to purchase a bunch while on my travels. The line stopped moving and I felt like a criminal as everyone wanted to see what the issue was. Who was the guy that security was asking to wait? I was the guy security needed to escort to CBP. It sounded so scary, but Customs and Border Patrol just needed to verify my receipts. For them, that’s a normal process. For me, especially because people were staring at me, I found that two weeks of goodwill was gone in an instant as I felt humiliated and angered. You and your team need to remember that everything you do represents your brand. It takes a long time to build a solid, happy, relationship-based experience and only one instant to blow it all. Spend some time here. Think about how you build good will with your family, your friends, and your customers. Don’t let on rogue person stuck in doing her job via a checklist be the reason that you lose customers or blow out a long-earned relationship. Want to learn more about building a Culture of Caring and Exponential Success? Check out www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
I’m not cynical. It’s just this time of year, gratitude seems to feel forced. Personally, I wake up annoyingly perky with “thank you” as the first two words to escape my lips. We don’t need a day for this. We need to decide what or who is in and what or who is out of our circle. Recognize the small stuff. Acknowledge yourself. Take a breath. Celebrate in your own way. I’m grateful for you! If you’re interested in exponential growth for yourself, personally and professionally, do yourself a favor and check out my signature small-group intensive - - http://ExponentialSuccessSummit.com Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
It used to be that at gas stations, you could get full service. You’d get your gas pumped and you’d learn about the fluid levels in your car. That doesn’t happen much any more and what’s true is that we don’t pay much attention until we get a service notice or until something goes wrong. Even then, we need to take action to get checked out or to get rejuvenated. And that means, drawing from that analogy, that you need to take action to take care of yourself. Put “get-away” days on your calendar every couple of months. Check in with yourself about your relationships, your finances, your career, and your philanthropy. What could use more attention and what distractions do you need to cut out? It’s time to check under the hood! It’s also time to invest in yourself and check out my signature small-group intensive: http://ExponentialSuccessSummit.com Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
Nicky Billou (pronounced like Baloo the bear) is a thought leader, business coach, and inspirational speaker. He’s a podcast host and international #1 best selling author. Ultimately, he helps people get out of their own way so that they can value themselves and the work that they do. On our call, you’ll hear him talk about being a Christian from Iran. He reframes sales to being about service and reminds us all to serve others out of suffering. His model is one of Problem - People - Profit and he notes that Business Is A People Game. Nicky challenges us to think about how badly we might want change (though change scares most people). The clients he works with are: Decisive Committed Coachable Resourceful He notes that to boost your earning power, you need to triple (yes triple) your investment in your own personal and professional development. (And I can tell you from personal experience as an elite mindstate coach that this advice is absolutely right. Work on yourself so that your growth allows you to serve more people at a higher level.) Remember to Value Yourself and to Value What You Offer. Beware of expectancy bias (or leverage it, too). Google or search Amazon for Nicky Billou Reach out to Nicky at www.ecircleadademy.com/appointment Nicky is awesome - be sure to listen in! And remember, if you want to join a great group of people looking to uplevel, you’ve got to check out http://ExponentialSuccessSummit.com Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
You may have recognized that you’re not the same person you were 20 years ago. What matters to you today is different from what mattered, even yesterday.
In this episode, one big question, one core observation, three core tenets, and one thing to repeat show up: Do you know what happens if you don’t step out of your comfort zone?
Absolutely Nothing
Most people spend more time planning their vacation than they do planning who they want to become to have the life they say they really desire.
The three key principles involved in Exponential Success are:
Values - what you had won’t be what’s needed for where you’re going
Vision - get real clarity about where you’re headed (sometimes people need coaches to gain that clarity)
Vitality - get grateful, get happy, and be that beacon of light for others
Life Is Working For Me - repeat that with the emphasis on a different word each time. Say it out loud and listen to yourself as you do!
And, it’s time to register for the next Exponential Success Summit. You do not want to miss out. Be among the 12 at the table (I keep the group small on purpose).
http://ExponentialSuccessSummit.com to check it out and to register. See you here next week! Stay curious and keep making your magic! = Wayne = Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!
Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
We all have so much on our plates and to-do lists, that it’s important to keep that question at the forefront of your mind as you take on something new. Will I Do It? Or, might it just feel like something fun to entertain? I have started so many programs and books with the best of intentions and, when it comes down to “will I do it,” the answer is no. No, I won’t actually do it. And when I make that decision, I cut myself free from something that began to feel like an obligation. If the answer is “yes!” then the next question is “when?” - and that means pulling out my calendar and putting THE thing on the calendar in a given time slot that doesn’t compete with anything else. Cool, right? If you’ve got something on your to-do list that’s rolled over multiple times, then either delegate it, do it, or take it off of your list. It’s just that simple! Keep making your magic. See you here next week. Check out http://ExponentialSuccessSummit.com = Wayne =
It’s important to redefine success. Winning seems to be about making someone else lose. The truth is, well, that happens. It’s also true that this is an abundant universe and we can support each other in getting better.
And that’s the key to this episode - How do you define success? Is it by doing or having more than someone else? Or is it that you got what you wanted and needed and you lifted others along the way?
You decide!
See you here next week and remember to check out http://ExponentialSuccessSummit.com to dive in deeper.
= Wayne =
You get more of what you focus on.
What are you focused on for yourself?
I’m not good enough!
OR
I’m so grateful that life is working for me!
What are you looking for from others? What are you looking for from yourself?
Focus there!
What’s the actual cost of “expensive?” Because you really have to ask yourself, compared to what?
That’s expensive…
You don’t need that…
That’s not who you are…
Who do you think you are, wanting to have or do that?
Those are other people’s voices that no longer need to haunt you. They taught you to keep in your “place.” Don’t be needy and don’t want for yourself. Don’t be selfish, for goodness sake.
The thing is, you can’t give or serve others more greatly if you’re not investing in yourself.
So who are you NOT to have or want nice things?
The question really is twofold:
- What’s the cost?
- Will it enhance your life now and/or in the future?
Rule out ego. You don’t need designer clothes so that you fit in. You might want designer clothes because they fit and feel better than some lesser brands. That’s excellence. And it’s a choice.
Filter for excellence.
Filter for enhancing your life now and in the future.
Step into new clothes, new meals, new books, and even new mentorship.
Invest in yourself for now and in the future.
And if you were thinking about taking a leap and coaching with me, DM me. And, be sure to check out my signature small-group program: www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
See you here next week.
Uplevel Your Excellence
= Wayne =
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
Every year on my birthday, I look for things to celebrate and recalibrate my values.
If I had things on my goal list that didn’t get completed, I had to evaluate whether I really wanted to do them or whether I couldn’t get them done. If I just didn’t want to, I decide whether it’s something I value or if the task itself was too hard. Usually, if I’m honest, what was on my list was a supposed-to-do vs a want-to-do.
Being honest with myself allows me to
focus on the things that really, truly matter to me.
Next steps:
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Celebrate the accomplishments.
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Plot new goals.
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Use journals, one is for personal reflection. The other is for ideas that could enhance the way I work.
And invest in yourself - read a book, learn a language, get a great coach.
And while you’re here, check out http://exponentialsuccesssummit.com
It’s not right for everyone. It’s a small group. And if it is right for you, then don’t hesitate. Jump in right now!
See you here next week!
= Wayne =
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
Every year on my birthday, I look for things to celebrate and recalibrate my values.
If I had things on my goal list that didn’t get completed, I had to evaluate whether I really wanted to do them or whether I couldn’t get them done. If I just didn’t want to, I decide whether it’s something I value or if the task itself was too hard. Usually, if I’m honest, what was on my list was a supposed-to-do vs a want-to-do.
Being honest with myself allows me to
focus on the things that really, truly matter to me.
Next steps:
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Celebrate the accomplishments.
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Plot new goals.
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Use journals, one is for personal reflection. The other is for ideas that could enhance the way I work.
And invest in yourself - read a book, learn a language, get a great coach.
And while you’re here, check out http://exponentialsuccesssummit.com
It’s not right for everyone. It’s a small group. And if it is right for you, then don’t hesitate. Jump in right now!
See you here next week!
= Wayne =
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
An apologetic leader isn’t followed for very long. Their trust level dips and their judgment of leadership qualities are natural.
Sure, if you’ve made a huge transgression, apologize for it in the context of violating your own values and make a vow to live into your values even more fully.
Instead of an apology, consider acknowledgment and appreciation.
Turn, “Oh so sorry I was late” into “Thank you so much for your patience.”
You’ve shifted the focus from you and your tardiness to the other and their positive trait of patience.
Try that.
Live in integrity.
And don’t forget to check out Dr P’s signature small group retreat at www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
Maybe, just maybe, it’s time for you to step into a bigger life.
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
An apologetic leader isn’t followed for very long. Their trust level dips and their judgment of leadership qualities are natural.
Sure, if you’ve made a huge transgression, apologize for it in the context of violating your own values and make a vow to live into your values even more fully.
Instead of an apology, consider acknowledgment and appreciation.
Turn, “Oh so sorry I was late” into “Thank you so much for your patience.”
You’ve shifted the focus from you and your tardiness to the other and their positive trait of patience.
Try that.
Live in integrity.
And don’t forget to check out Dr P’s signature small group retreat at www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
Maybe, just maybe, it’s time for you to step into a bigger life.
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
Jim’s job is unusual. He leads teams of innovators to continue to innovate. He has created an innovation ecosystem, nurturing ideas and building bridges.
In our interview, he highlights that entrepreneurship is about:
- Staying open-minded and continuing your lifelong learning
- Building and nurturing relationships, whether your team or your advisors
- Leading by being a good person with good values
He repeatedly advised that, as a leader, you need to get a coach.
Get a coach!
I underscored that to focus on the idea of, "who do I need to become to lead a company that is growing?"
The easiest part of an entrepreneur’s day: celebrate your team members!
Jim also advises over-communicating so that your message is received and focusing on your health, both physical and mental, as a role model.
Reach out to someone - on your team or beyond, just ask, “how are you doing?”
He invites you to connect with him on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesbarrood/
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
Jim’s job is unusual. He leads teams of innovators to continue to innovate. He has created an innovation ecosystem, nurturing ideas and building bridges.
In our interview, he highlights that entrepreneurship is about:
- Staying open-minded and continuing your lifelong learning
- Building and nurturing relationships, whether your team or your advisors
- Leading by being a good person with good values
He repeatedly advised that, as a leader, you need to get a coach.
Get a coach!
I underscored that to focus on the idea of, "who do I need to become to lead a company that is growing?"
The easiest part of an entrepreneur’s day: celebrate your team members!
Jim also advises over-communicating so that your message is received and focusing on your health, both physical and mental, as a role model.
Reach out to someone - on your team or beyond, just ask, “how are you doing?”
He invites you to connect with him on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesbarrood/
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
How much time do we spend thinking about what needs to get done?
Are you caught in the “getting ready to get ready” loop?
One of my 1:1 clients gave me a gem when she had the insight,
I spent more time thinking about doing something than the time it would take me to do it.
Amazing, right?
There’s no “someday” on your calendar.
You will be judged for whatever you put out there.
Perfect is always flawed.
You get the best lessons by actually putting something out there.
Perfection is a verb… it, whatever “it” is, needs to be presented before it can be perfected.
Block some time.
Stop thinking.
Go and do.
And while you’re doing, check out www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
How much time do we spend thinking about what needs to get done?
Are you caught in the “getting ready to get ready” loop?
One of my 1:1 clients gave me a gem when she had the insight,
I spent more time thinking about doing something than the time it would take me to do it.
Amazing, right?
There’s no “someday” on your calendar.
You will be judged for whatever you put out there.
Perfect is always flawed.
You get the best lessons by actually putting something out there.
Perfection is a verb… it, whatever “it” is, needs to be presented before it can be perfected.
Block some time.
Stop thinking.
Go and do.
And while you’re doing, check out www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
Where have you let judgment stop you from showing up as your authentic self?
We all do it. We all have rules in our heads that stop us from fully expressing who we are because, “what would other people think?”
The lesson here is simple:
If you want people to accept you and trust you,
then you need to accept and trust yourself first.
If you want to go deeper, take a look at www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
Where have you let judgment stop you from showing up as your authentic self?
We all do it. We all have rules in our heads that stop us from fully expressing who we are because, “what would other people think?”
The lesson here is simple:
If you want people to accept you and trust you,
then you need to accept and trust yourself first.
If you want to go deeper, take a look at www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
They’re not stupid, they just can’t read.
Colleen is a woman of service with a great heart. She grew up in Southern California and became a nurse. But she was called back to something closer to home as her father had revealed a deep secret. At 48 years old, John Corcoran let his family know that he couldn’t read.
Having grown up in what she thought was a “normal” home, she now sees how her father became angry when pressured to read documents and would have “lost” his glasses. His fear and anger was self protection. And this may be a clue for others.
Colleen describes her father’s path: he was told he was a winner at home, but at school, “the system told him something else.” The system will make you feel less valued.
Illiteracy affects a surprisingly huge percentage of the population. Surprisingly huge. And that’s why it’s a “hidden crisis.” People hide illiteracy in multiple ways and they’re not stupid, they just can’t read. They never learned and yes, they were passed onto the next grade in school.
There is help for anyone at any age -
There are 44 phonemes (sounds) in the English language.
There are numerous graphemes for each of those sounds.
But there’s only one name for each letter in the alphabet.
Humans are born to communicate. We do that vocally. The written language was made up. Think about making certain sounds. Then think about the different spellings for all of those sounds (eg: “oo” = threw, through, loop, soup, etc.)
Help is out there:
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www.JohnCorcoranFoundation.org
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1-760-445-0229
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Book recommendation: The Teacher Who Couldn’t Read
- And be sure to look out for The Truth About Reading film
You’d think that the president of a bank, of BofA in New York state, would be stuffy. You’d think he’d be all about the numbers. And you’d think he’d be hard to talk to. And, refreshingly, you’d be wrong on all counts!
Jeff Barker is the Market Segment Executive for Bank of America’s Metro Markets. Oh, and he’s also the President of Bank of America in New York State.
Growing up in a family business in New Haven, CT, he learned early on how much great customer service mattered. Individual interactions make all the difference in someone connecting to you, your store, and your brand.
Jeff tells his story from boyhood to college (Cornell and Wharton) to running department stores, packed goods, electronics retail, Barnes and Noble, and now Bank of America for New York.
In addition to all of those, he’s doing amazing philanthropic work in communities across America creating economic mobility through capital investments. From supporting Cheech Marin’s museum of Chicano Art in Riverside, CA to helping raise financial literacy across generations at www.BetterMoneyHabits.com his goal is to advocate for racial equality and to activate sustainability for the community.
He doesn’t see himself as some grand poo-bah, but rather a general manager and leader of teams. The leadership lessons here:
- Teamwork means listening to the team members first
- Allow for mistakes
- Success means that you’re better today than you were yesterday
And… my favorite - something ALL leaders need to remember:
- “My job is to create the right environment for you to do your job.”
Mr Barker can be reached on social on his LinkedIn account or on Twitter
Connect on LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffrey-barker-16715231/
And on Twitter @JeffBarkerNY https://twitter.com/JeffBarkerNY?s=20&t=E8UlxVzj_t3MxmYIg3_Jqg
Brandon Fong, founder of www.7figuremillennials.com shares valuable information and insights on building connections that leverage you to the next level.
He offered insights on the REAL framework to use when connecting with anyone.
Respectful
Effortless
Appreciative
Loving
That’s the opposite of being MAD:
Misaligned
Annoying
Draining
On the podcast we spoke of worthiness and how that affects your identity. And we agreed that it’s important to identify who you want to be and begin living into that person and that life.
In terms of making true connections, think about yourself, others, and the resources that are involved or needed (by you and the other person).
And don’t forget to Appreciate, Value, and End With A Question.
Glad you’re here! You’re going to get a lot out of this. You wouldn’t be opposed to leaving a comment, would you?
www.Brandon-Fong.com
Don’t forget to check out www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com while you’re here online.
You wouldn’t want to miss out being one of the 12 at the table, would you?
:-)
When you realize that YOU are the one responsible for the drama in your life, your life changes. There’s only one person who is giving meaning to any given situation that affects you. That’s you. Other people will give meaning to a situation in their own way. Their drama isn’t yours.
Stop making excuses.
Stop using drama to excuse why things didn’t happen in your life.
Choose.
Decide.
Take action based on that decision.
Poof… no drama!
Life Is Better!!!
Want to explore this further? Head to www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com Seats are extremely limited.
Your life isn’t static. When you stop moving or stop growing, you’re dying or… dead.
Success isn’t static. Success is very much Dynamic.
What you thought looked like success some time ago may not feel so monumentally amazing now. That’s because you’ve changed along the way. You’ve gained new skills and a new perspective. What felt like it’d be a huge accomplishment just isn’t. It was, but it isn’t.
Think about when you were learning to drive.
There were so many things to keep track of. Now, it all comes by instinct. Our big goals are like that. They’re dynamic in nature, ever changing as the horizon line shows us something new the further away from the safety of the shore we get.
And that’s the good news.
Success IS ever-changing. It needs to be. You’ve grown and what you think of as success must expand with you, your experiences, and your ever-expanding perspective in the world.
Want to explore this further? Head to www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com to check it out.
It wasn’t unkind. It wasn’t malicious. It was a simple statement - “You’re not doing these things you said were important to you because you just don’t want to do them.”
What?
You’re not doing the things on your to-do list because you don’t want to do them. It’s that simple.
It could be that your subconscious sees a change as a threat to your identity. Well, in order to grow, you get to shed a bit of who you’ve been.
It could be that the process of doing the thing is just hard.
Well, it might be. You might have to learn to like things that are hard.
Great leaders have coaches that’ll tell them hard things.
We have trusted advisors who can call out our blind spots. And “blind spots” are called that because we can’t see them (even if they seem obvious to others).
Think about what you’ve had on your to-do list and what has and hasn’t gotten done.
What you’ve done, you did to get accolades or approval from someone else or you’ve done them to make a difference to yourself.
And the things you haven’t done, you have put off because you’re afraid of being judged as being bad at something. Or, it’s hard. Or it’s so new you don’t know where to start. So you haven’t done them because you didn’t want to… didn’t want to feel bad about doing them wrong, perhaps?
Find some help to take the first step.
Do step into the desires that are calling you.
And do follow through with being honest with yourself.
To get help there, go to www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
See you here next time.
Keep making your magic!
= Wayne =
From Montreal to Toronto to Queens to Denver and back to New York City…! Morrison has had some amazing adventures, personally and professionally.
She works for the Warren Law Group, specializing in the cannabis industry.
Listen in as she shares her life path that includes being told she was supposed to be a lawyer to starting a family, and giving it up when, she so matter of factly states “I realized I was a lesbian.”
That must’ve been quite a revelation having grown up in the pentacostal church.
But we all change and we all have to follow our paths, our own unique path.
Having always fought for what’s right, she continues to do so living into serving truth, justice, health, and prosperity.
This one is a must listen!
Find her at Morrison@Warren.Law
On the show we also referenced the two-day intensive I run where people learn to step into listening to the whispers. Be sure to check out https://www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
We often put off what we want to do for the sake of doing what we “should” do.
Yes, be responsible.
AND
Listen to your desires. Listen to the subtle call that says, “over here!”
It is possible to do both - be responsible AND do/get/have/be what you want.
It all starts with a decision and the how sorts out.
What’s calling you?
What are you hoping for that you’ve put off?
What’s whispering, “Over Here…!”
The hard stuff is what gets you through to the next level. You’re the one that puts the hard stuff in your path. And if you approach it with gratitude, as something you get to do, and you take on the lessons that get you through it, you will breakthrough to Exponential Success.
This podcast is a reminder of who you are and what you’re capable of.
And be sure to check out www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
As with most everything new, it’s hard.
Learning to drive is hard.
Learning a new language is hard.
Letting go of old habits and stepping into an upleveled version of yourself is hard.
You leave something behind.
You learn a new skill.
You gain confidence.
You practice more.
It becomes a part of you.
It’s no longer hard.
From going to the dentist to taking on a new job, relationship, or new way of being… it’s hard, until it’s not.
Just do the thing.
Keep going.
You’ve got this.
And for help along the way, consider a deeper dive.
Check this out: www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
Leaders (that’s you because you’re influencing anyone in your circle) believe that they’re doing a good job, great job, or maybe even just fine job. Seldom will leaders evaluate themselves as less than. And that’s okay. If you’re leading, though, you need to know that there are blindspots and you’re missing something really important: each team member has different needs and every team member wants to feel like he/she/they belong.
Belonging
Flexibility
Freedom
How can you build those into your culture?
What is your next best step to build a true Culture of Caring?
Reflect, then start.
Even if you work for yourself… reflect, then start.
Let’s talk goal setting, for real. Not wishes, but getting stuff done.
Whether you’re guiding your team or guiding yourself, whether you’re managing up, managing down, or focused on your own accomplishments, you need to look at three key things:
- What were the expectations you have or had about a certain thing (or performance goal)?
- What outcomes are you getting?
- What support is needed in order to hit the expectations you have for yourself or others?
It’s just that simple.
Sometimes the support that’s needed is a break. Sometimes it’s a celebration. Sometimes it’s specific guidance from an outside person or coach. Sometimes it’s hiring the right people.
Reflect on those three things and then manage your calendar to allow for the appropriate amount of invested time you need for your goals to actually be met.
And… go!
Remember how good it feels to go through your closet and get rid of old clothes that you’ve been hanging onto for “someday.” You liked them, but they no longer serve you. Just as you would clear out old, expired food from your pantry, you need to do that with old, expired thinking patterns and styles.
What thoughts might you have to get rid of in order to let new thoughts in?
What is it you truly want to Do, to Have, or to Become?
How might a person who has that think and act? What do they let in? What do they let go of?
What will you let go of in order to let the new way of thinking in?
Are you “livin’ the dream” or maybe you’ve given up on your dreams? I know I’ve let go of a lot of dreams along my journey. They were entertaining. They served me at the time, and like a loved one’s passing, I’ve grieved the loss of what was. I don’t shoot photographs on film anymore.
I don’t do martial arts kicks quite as high or as quickly as I used to.
I’ve changed.
My body has changed.
My focus and desires have changed.
It doesn’t mean I don’t value the times that I had those things in my life. It means that I’m not the same person I was and that my experiences have given me a different perspective. In short, my values have changed.
You’ve changed and you can let go of the dreams you once had. You no longer need to drag them along, flogging yourself for what you didn’t do.
Rather, create new dreams. Live into those, with the age and wisdom you have that’s different from the age and wisdom you had a decade or more ago.
Listen for the inner voice that guides you, whispering “over here…!”
And if you want to dive into how to access that voice and set a plan for living further into a life of fulfillment, do yourself a favor and check out www.ExponentialSuccessSummit.com
Andrea T Edwards always knew who she was, even as a teen.
Strong and outspoken, she grew up in Australia and seemed to find a way of fighting for what’s right in the world. Or, perhaps, how to make the world a little more right.
She found herself in tech and in PR and Content Marketing, but that’s not what drives her. On today’s podcast, we dove into Freedom and we discussed social issues in a way I haven’t touched them here before.
Andrea shared her views on climate change and what we - all of us… each of us - need to do to make a difference for our children and children’s children.
Here, we explore Uncommon Courage - here we look at how an electric car might seem like a great idea until you realize that you must own it for seven years in order to have a zero basis for the footprint it took to actually create it. That’s one example Andrea T Edwards offered up.
Find her on all Social at @AndreaTEdwards and at www.AndreaTEdwards.com
Look up her work at www.Uncommon-Courage.com as well
It’s said that if you put a frog in cool to luke warm water and ever-so-slightly turn up the temperature, the frog won’t notice as it becomes acclimated to the higher temperature. When, at some point, the frog ends up in boiling water, it’s too late.
Kind of gross, I know.
And we do that to ourselves a bit, don’t we? We tolerate and tolerate and tolerate until we’re buried by something we would have never let into our lives if we were paying attention.
And that’s the bottom line.
What is it you’ve bargained with yourself about that “isn’t that bad” that really needs a major shift from you?
Look at what’s building up that you’ve let build up. That could be food or alcohol that you consume. It could be social media time. It could be the way you’ve let someone at home or at work speak to you.
If it’s not about love, abundance, or support, take another look. And maybe, take another action.
I just got back from a root canal. WooHooo!!! Such exciting news. No, not really. And no one should become an expert patient when it comes to having root canals done.
Still, practicing anything that isn’t something you look forward to makes it easier and builds expertise.
I’m an expert dish-doer. I can just get ‘em done. I don’t look forward to it and I also don’t run away from it. I’m an expert cat-box cleaner. I don’t look forward to it. It needs doing, and when it’s done, everyone is happier. Besides dishes and cat boxes, I’m an expert blogger. I’ve been blogging for years; every Wednesday, I produce a blog called Wednesdays With Wayne
(check out www.WaynePernell.com/blog).
Do I look forward to writing? Sometimes yes. Sometimes it’s just inconvenient. And yet, I get it done.
What about you?
What have you put off that you might become more of an expert at and can get done so much faster and easier now? Your bills? Your taxes? Your sales calls? Your content creation?
Or maybe it’s that tough conversation at work or at home you’ve been putting off.
Maybe it’s searching for that new job or partner or car or credit line or science article.
Maybe you need to get better at shutting down social media.
It all takes practice. And when you commit to it, you need to follow through.
Only in following through can you become trustworthy. Trustworthy with yourself and with those you made the promise to. You first. You’ve got to become trustworthy with yourself and not start bargaining about what you said you’d do and the follow through you told yourself you’d have and then when something comes up, you get side-tracked.
That stuff happens to everyone, even the most driven and most successful. The difference is the time spent in the sidetrack. Moments vs. minutes to hours.
Practice.
Commit.
Prove yourself trustworthy.
That’s how you’ll do the hard stuff till it gets easy!
Paul Glover calls himself a Recovering Scoundrel. He notes that he is a recovering trial attorney who is also a convicted felon.
He works in leadership and workforce development with an emphasis on legacy building and his story of incarceration parallels the human condition.
Having grown up in three different locations, with a mother who was married seven times and a father who was married four times, his childhood was unstable, to say the least. It’s no wonder that you hear him use the term Commitment multiple times through this interview.
He says that he doesn’t blame his childhood. In fact, his first admonition to us as his audience is, “It’s your obligation to overcome.”
At a trial lawyer, he was hanging out with union people, some of whom were what he describes as “dubious characters.” He notes that his desire to belong and to get that rush of adrenaline is what kept him coming back for more. The Labor Union Leaders took advantage of his hubris, offering him approval and acceptance.
He was ultimately convicted for taking kickbacks and bribes as well as threatening federal witnesses. So, yeah… that’s a thing.
Leadership Lessons:
- In prison he saw people coming back after they had gotten out. He realized then that it’s their own behavior, their choices, that keep them locked up.
- We need to create psychological safety for others to give us feedback about our behavior and the impact it makes.
- We need to look at the character we must develop to earn the life we truly desire.
- Embrace life - enjoy the good, learn from the bad. There will be both.
- Responsibility is a prerequisite for being an adult.
As a Legacy Coach, Paul notes again that psychological safety is essential, that commitment is required, and that change is hard. Commitment to the process matters.
Book: Work Quake - changing the way work is done
Contact: www.PaulGloverCoaching.com and on LinkedIn @PaulGloverCoaching
Relationships are tricky.
Growing through a dysfunctional attachment to and dependence on her sister, Amy was shaken awake when her big sister was killed in a car accident. She recreated the dependence in the relationship with her husband, a relationship that lasted 25 years, though both knew it was “fine” and really not quite right.
She grew into learning about BOUNDARIES. Such a key concept in gaining perspective and creating healthy relationships.
But what does that mean? As a coach, Amy focuses on helping couples recognize that they don’t have to agree with each other. In fact, each side can have their own beliefs and patterns for engagement. She gives permission for each person to have their own world views. The focus then is, “given that, what do you want your child to experience.”
Amy uses the acronym WTFY, meaning What’s True For You?
Key points:
- Stay in conversation even when it’s tough
- Create safety
- Create trust
- Recognize that as a human, you have feelings and that your feelings are real but don’t necessarily reflect reality. (This is tricky, but needs exploring.)
- Surround yourself with supportive people
- Be mindful about creating the life you want
Learn more about Amy Armstrong and her work at: www.CenterForFamilyResolution.com
Wait, what?
Yep - it’s this simple: Hope Is NOT A Strategy!
We wish for things.
We hope things will get better.
And that’s based in a MindState of fear and lack. What’s your state of mind when you wish or hope for things to work out? You’re basically afraid that they won’t. So you “hope for the best.”
What if you took charge of the EXCELLENCE in your life?
Think about leveling up to Exponential Excellence.
Allow yourself to DESIRE again and take the steps needed to fulfill that desire.
(Hint: Check out https://www.WaynePernell.com/PowerfulPresenceMasterclass)
Decide what’s IN and what’s OUT - what you will and will no longer tolerate.
Who’s responsible for the excellence in your life?
Yep! Now, what’s your next most amazing step towards it?
Go! Action, not hope!
Here’s a man who has been on stage in one of the most famous productions in the world and you’ve probably never noticed him. And that’s the point. No, he’s not some ninja or a camouflaged stage hand.
Antuan Magic Raimone is a Universal Swing, a dancer that can play the part of any of the dancers in any of the productions across the country. He’s been in In The Heights and he was among the first to join the company of Hamilton at the Richard Rodgers Theatre in NYC.
Antuan notes, “the key is not to be noticed.”
This might’ve come easily as the youngest of five growing up. He was the first to go to college and knew early on that he wanted to get into dance. The man who was to emerge as “Magic” was in the junior olympics in TaeKwonDo when he was 10 years old.
Antuan speaks vulnerably about the abuse he endured at multiple points while growing up and how, even as a black belt, he found himself in an abusive situation.
Now on the path to speaking from the platform as The Soldier of Love, Antuan says that mistakes exist, fear isn’t debilitating, and vulnerability isn’t a weakness.
He also notes that change only exists when we want it to and then he said something that made me stop and think: Sometimes people don’t have the capacity to put themselves first.
Start here, he advises - repeat these statements out loud each day:
I Am Love
I Am Loved
Contact Antuan Magic Raimone at www.TheSoldierOfLove.us
Based on my blog which got A LOT of great response, here are some key points to keep in mind as you watch/listen to this episode -
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It’s not only exhausting, it’s ridiculous to want to be liked by everyone.
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It’s important to be who you are, authentically. Trying to be something you’re not for the sake of trying to fit in is exhausting and delays the emergence of the real you.
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With seven BILLION people on the planet, how many people do you really need to like you or your work? Really?
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When I was writing, having just one person write back to tell me I had made a difference in her life was a true gift. I had, at least, an audience of one. And that was satisfying.
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Not part of this podcast, yet noteworthy, is that when I got my first hater, I celebrated. “Here’s a troll that hasn’t even read my books, but took the time to comment on what F’ing B.S. they were! I must’ve done something to get in this guy’s lane.”
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People get stuck and they’ll fight to stay there. Let them. They’re not your audience either.
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Choose you. Then, let others choose you. That’s how you get An Audience of Some!
Two race cars are finely tuned, side by side, they’re efficient and they are at the starting line.
One has been racing for days on end and has approached the starting line low on fuel.
The other has been pulled off the track, tuned up, fueled up, and has been readied for the new race.
Both are efficient. Only one will be effective.
You can burn the energy you have at an efficient pace, and unless you take time out, there’s no way to maintain efficiency. You certainly won’t be effective at work, at home, or in the community.
Quarantine your work time.
Quarantine your email.
Quarantine time for you… to sit, to read, to write, to exercise, or to engage with others meaningfully.
You are in charge of what the New Normal looks like for you.
Make that new normal fully yours.
March 1st was my mom’s birthday. She passed away 16 years ago. And, I miss her. Today I wanted to honor her by talking about some of the lessons I got from her while growing up. Pretty simply, they are: 1. Be Kind - it doesn’t take much to just be a good human. Don’t say anything that’ll make waves just for the sake of making waves. On the other hand, don’t hold things in, either. My mom did hold things in and taught me how to do that. Sometimes the lessons we learn are modeled in what not to do. Don’t hold things in. And certainly, say what needs to be said. Do so in a way that lifts others. Be kind. 2. Think About Others - this was a lesson in empathy. What might the other person be thinking or feeling? And when you can understand that, what might they want or need? How can you show up to fill that need? The caution here is that you needn’t give of yourself until there’s nothing left. Show up in service to others. Take time for yourself, too. You can’t give what you don’t have. So refuel and give of yourself. 3. Leave The Place Better Than You Found It - Now I think my mom meant to keep it tidy, and what I can say is that sometimes a place IS better because YOU were there! Show up, show up in full presence. If there’s a way you can lift and support another person because you’re attending to the space you’re in, that’s awesome. I’ve extrapolated this to mean my workspace, too. At the end of the day, is it in better shape than the way I came to it? Make that happen! 4. Use Your Intuition - My mom knew things. There wasn’t any reason she knew things, she just did. Some of that was the era she was raised - I mean, she lived through WWII. And in the way that we’re living though a pandemic and learning to read a person’s mask-covered face through their eyes, my mom had all kinds of political and social rules to live through. So by the time she had kids, she knew things. She knew how to listen to what was being said or presented and she knew how to pay attention to the gaps, as well. It’s a skill I’m proud to have learned. It serves me well. 5. Keep Learning - If you stop learning, you’ve stopped growing and really, you’ve stopped living. Keep growing. Keep learning. Remember, “you can’t give what you don’t have” is as much about refueling your body as it is about growing your knowledge and wisdom. You can only give from the level you’re at, so find a coach or mentor and step into your personal growth!
Six great lessons from a wonderful woman I’m proud to have called “mom.”
We tell ourselves and others to make “good” choices, but we really don’t know whether a choice is good or bad until we see what the outcome is. You might be thinking that of course there are good and bad choices. The reality is that a decision or choice is just that. It’s a decision. It’s neither good nor bad. The outcome is what we judge and even that isn’t good or bad. The question is, will heading down this path get me closer to my desired outcome?
Will sitting on the couch, binge-watching my favorite show, and ordering pizza get me my desired outcome? It might! The desired outcome might be that you want or need time to “just veg out.”
On the other hand, if your desired outcome was that you wanted to land that big client, then that choice of activity isn’t likely to get you closer to your goal.
Questions to consider: Is what you’re doing getting you closer to or further from what you said you wanted?
What do you think will happen if you head down this path?
Teaching our kids to think is wrapped into all of this. It does them no good to sit in judgement of their choices. “Make good choices” is a set up for condemnation. Teach them how to think. Explore possible outcomes with them.
And the same holds true for your family, your work team members, and even yourself.
Don’t condemn a “bad” choice unless you have a full perception of all of the possible outcomes that could happen. (Children don’t have the adult perspective yet.)
What outcome are you after?
Will this decision/choice get you closer to or further from that?
Choose - - experience - - learn - - choose again.
Jennifer Kem grew up in the plantation town of Wailea, HI. As the young descendent of Filipino immigrants, she was a studious introvert. Her grandmother, a great influence, had her reading the business section of the newspaper, giving her a very important lesson early on: “You can think beyond what’s around you.”
Jen generously shares her story, taking us from childhood, through her MBA at UC Berkeley to her work at the Ogilvy Company where she ran coffee and ached to do grander copy writing. She watched as ad execs created “Ad Duels” pitting Coke against Pepsi and found their use of architypes intriguing.
Diving deeper into the concepts of how people consume, Jen found that marketing really IS a science! She’s a lover of Values-Driven Leadership and notes that so much of a leader’s journey is based on Vision, Violation, and Voids.
Jen’s journey continued as she became a product manager at Oracle and went on to run Verizon’s B2B for the west coast. Known as “the fixer” even in her early 20s, Jen wanted to learn how to succeed more greatly.
She asked an important question of one of the senior leaders: What do I have to do to have your job in 10 years?
It wasn’t a wish, it was a foundational question for creating a plan. But when she took on some hard work and was passed over for a promotion, she began to wonder how to make it on her own.
- What will someone pay me for?
o Does the market want it?
o Will people really pay for it?
Seeing how big Victoria’s Secret became, she began an import and retail business in Hawaii, a biz that grew to $10M. She notes that she was betting on herself as the outlier.
But 2008 was cruel to so many in retail and her business was no exception.
She lost almost everything and fell into a depression.
She recalls sitting on the front porch, just watching cars pass by and her then-10-year-old daughter saying, “Mommy, you’re Jen Kem and it’s time to wake up.”
She notes, “I was the hardest project I had to take on.”
Returning to corporate to get back on her feet, she reentered as a consultant and created KemCom, now a multi-million-dollar company. She began to study how she had become a success and created a model for others, launching The MasterBrand Institute.
Here, she guides entrepreneurs back to Values-Driven Leadership and notes that most fail when it comes to managing systems (people, processes, and technology).
She notes that leaders must take on three roles, then let go of two.
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Visionizer – founder
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Strategizer – overseeing Sales and Marketing
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Mobilizer – the one to oversee operations, processes, and systems
Jen has a gift for the audience if you’d like to explore your architype and leadership style. It’s specifically for the One Sharp Sword audience. Go to www.confidently.me/sharp for an assessment valued at $250.
We sure do talk to ourselves an awful lot, don’t we?
For everything we do, all the chatter we allow, everything we eat, all of the relationships we engage in, ask this simple question: Is This Love?
You’re worthy of giving and receiving love.
You are worthy of filtering out of your life anything that doesn’t feel like love - from the clothes you wear to the food you eat to the self-talk you engage in to the relationships you’ve tolerated.
Build back a stronger you by taking care of the person that gets to decide how others treat you: YOU.
You let the world know how to treat you by how you treat yourself.
Is this love? I’m giving you a big virtual loving hug right now!
Most people know Chase Tucker as the soft-spoken beast who does treadmill and strength training on Peloton. He’s so much more than that!
Born from parents who struggled to make a life here, Chase recognizes a responsibility from his legacy. His mom was moved here from Haiti when she was four years old. And though she didn’t speak English and was ridiculed while growing up, she became a pediatrician and her focus is on giving care to the underserved. Chase’s father, having grown up in a pretty tough part of Chicago, struggled his way out and into med-school, also becoming a physician. He lovingly calls them “warriors who combined forces.”
One of the traits he took on was to be fueled by being pushed back on.
While he loved Chicago (who doesn’t, really), he moved to Florida when he was 11 and then to Tennessee a few years later. He was good in sports, and notes having played soccer since he was just 4 y/o.
Not only is Chase a good human, he and I found common ground in our discussion in several areas.
First, he’s a fan of curiosity and has a passion for learning.
- The level of achievement you have is in direct proportion to your curiosity.
He shared that books allowed him to escape while bringing the world to him. And this allowed him to leverage being able to tap into both curiosity and imagination, noting that as a gamer, play has always been important to him. And, he notes, movement is play.
In terms of curiosity, Chase reminds us to think beyond First Principles, moving from blockage to bridge. He encourages us, ala Tom Bilyeu, to take on the identity of a learner. Doing so allows you to be anti-fragile.
We found that we both are continuous learners and he points out to those consuming information that there’s a difference between input and learning.
Besides being influenced by Tom Bilyeu, Chase appreciates Gary V and Ido Portal, a movement practitioner whom Chase trained with in London.
As an enduring learner, Chase challenged himself (and us) to ask, “Am I being the student who is worthwhile pouring into?”
I have to say, that question shook me a bit and had me questioning how devoted I really was to the programs I’ve taken.
When Chase was in college, he realized that he didn’t belong on the med-school path. He earned his degree in biology, exercise science, and kinesiology. When he was working with the physically broken, he found that people’s fears and doubts amplified. We can handle everything in our lives until something makes us focus on just one thing - an injury, for example. And that led him to find purpose, helping people overcome barriers.
Introspection, even in his early 20s led him to question what he wanted to be known for.
He began working in the physical fitness fields, running a bootcamp, his own business, and more. Chase joined Peloton four years ago - they found him - and because of the alignment, he jumped in.
He sees a dare as a challenge to take on and encourages others to do the same.
Set a new standard for yourself and recognize that every experience has a different core (from which to build).
Chase Tucker’s current mission is to learn to become the person that improves 1 Billion lives. I stopped him there, since my mission is to teach, touch, and positively transform a billion lives. I’d never heard anyone else speak that way!
He’d like to create a VC fund and pour energy into people, businesses, and organizations who have typically lacked traditional access to personal and professional development. He sees this as the underestimated community.
Chase speaks affirmations at the end of each Peloton training. I read these back to him and he smiled his big smile, saying that he got an energy spike hearing them. “Is that what they sound like??!!”
Affirmations:
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I am becoming my best, strongest, and highest self with each day I choose to take consistent actions toward my goals and purpose.
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I am in competition with no one except the person I was yesterday, and I am exactly where I am supposed to be on the path I have specifically chosen and created.
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I am the master of my mind.
I am the master of my body.
I am the master of my life.
Chase can be reached @ChaseTucker on most social platforms.
What a joy!
“How much worse could it get?” I hear people ask that question as if it’s a cosmic challenge. And the Universe says, “here, hold my beer!” We can see the bad all over the place in the world.
We can get sucked into the bad, horrible news.
We could choose worse.
OR
You could choose to be a beacon of light in the darkness knowing that any amount of feeling bad for what’s going on in the world isn’t going to help fix the problem.
I feel so bad that there’s…
Covid
Racism
Hunger
Sex Traficking
And on and on…
You need to be aware that those things exist. They are horrible and unjust. And again, your feeling bad won’t fix them. So choose to be an agent of change. Pick something that matters to you. Pay attention to it. Bring your beacon of light to it. Make your difference in the world.
As you step into the world, choose to lift others around you. It’s by doing that, by lifting and enlightening, that we make ripples.
It’s the ripples of the accountable individual, you, that change the world for the better.
It all… Starts With OneⓇ
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You’ve got goals, that’s great. And, from the last podcast, you know I’m not a big fan of New Year’s Resolutions.
I am a fan of goals, though.
And I’m a fan of micro-goals. Moving toward your Desired Outcome (or what I call your EPO - Envisioned Positive Outcome) a little every day.
Here’s how to make that happen - it’s the same way that you’d set a GPS!
- You have to know where you’re going… specifically. What is your specific desired destination? You may change or include stops along the way. For now, identify (write in your journal) your specific desired destination.
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- Want more money? How much is more?
- Want to be healthier? What does real health look like and feel like?
- Want to be in a better relationship? What does “better” mean?
- The same questions go for where you live, work, or even the car you drive.
Knowing that you can’t change another person, what is it that you want for yourself that you’re willing to move towards?
- Get clear about where you are.
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- What’s your starting point in debt, in health status, in your career, or relationships?
You need to know your starting point so the GPS can chart an accurate road for you. Your brutal honesty with yourself makes all the difference in whether you achieve your goals or not.
- Move! The GPS requires you to get on the assigned road. Take action, any action, and then get feedback. You can’t get there if you don’t start taking action and really paying attention to the feedback.
Remember this key point: You do NOT need all of the step-by-step directions before you pull out of the parking lot. You need to have your outcome in mind and know that you’re moving closer to it. The more you move the more defined and refined the movement becomes.
You reach your goals by getting really clear about what they are and putting yourself in gear. Take your foot off the brake and give a little gas. Pay attention to road conditions and adapt.
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Resolutions don’t stick for three key reasons
- You have to give something up
- It’s hard; being consistent is hard
- Doubt creeps in and you wonder whether it’ll all be worth it. It’s a waste of imagination as you might as easily imagine it being worth it beyond your wildest dreams.
So, what to do instead?
Pick a word - what word will you live into, incrementally, every day?
- Health
- Abundance
- Loving
- Present
- Determined
- Etc.
Pick a word for yourself this year.
Say that word out loud at the beginning of each day.
Set reminders in your phone to see that word.
And at the end of each day, reflect on how you lived into that. A little at a time, you’re becoming Your Word.
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Happy New Year!
You have a choice - to get through another day, month, quarter, and year. Or, to choose to grow and lift those around you every single day.
How do you want to start your day?
How do you want to end each day?
Are you just getting through, living in fear and lack?
Or can you step into your day, knowing you’re making a difference and embracing growth and challenge while lifting those around you.
Your choice - to simply survive is Dis-Ease.
To thrive is about growth and expansion…!
This is your year. Go make a difference!
(Want to grow? My Powerful Presence ® Program is starting next month. It’s a six-week group program online every Friday. You’ll love it! Go to www.PowerfulPresence.com to check it out and to register.)
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Sarah is an actor and playwright out of New York, who started acting and dancing when she was nine years old, performing her whole life. In the past decade, she’s written four plays.
Sarah is compelled to write and then gives herself freedom to write simply with her message in mind. She notes that her belief in herself, without the attachment to outcome, is part of what’s made her successful. She writes because she must, not because she “should.”
With plays ranging from political to dark farce involving family relationships as well as a play for kids to offer them coping skills, Sarah brings her characters to life.
As leader Sarah just carries on, “doing the hard stuff,” and an observer and social commentator, Sarah’s nextis starting her own production company.
Key messages:
Give yourself permission to think and dream bigger!
Have bold trust in yourself!
Check out this episode and check out more about Sarah at www.SarahBierstock.com
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Felicia teaches us that the dash between the dates of birth and death is what we need to celebrate.
As an events planner and after seeing that funeral homes were simply templated, Felicia wanted to find a way to personalize each person’s life celebration.
In normalizing death as a part of life, she discovered the Death Positive Movement.
There are so many ways to celebrate the end of life and different types of funerals. When thinking about the end of life, it’s important to start with a plan!
PLAN:
- How do you want to be remembered?
- Set up legal paperwork including a revocable trust (though no legal counsel is intended here; seek your own legal guidance)
- Consider what type of funeral you want
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- Home?
- Green?
- Open Funeral Pyre?
- Cremation?
- Fireworks???
Death is a natural part of life.
It’s not morbid, it’s sacred (the same way birth is sacred).
Managing loss -
- remember that the stages of grief and loss are
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- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
- Grief becomes a part of who you are
- Focus on the person and their purpose for being here - each of us are touched differently by this person - what part of them changed us?
- Grief doesn’t have to be painful
- Grief doesn’t belong in your body
Don’t feel like it’s urgent to manage the funeral unless the body is being buried right away. Making decisions a few days after the passing and having planned ahead of time will help you. Pre-plan how you want to be remembered.
Check out: www.CelebratingTheDash.com
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The holidays can be stressful. Here are five M-A-G-I-C tips for successfully managing any gathering, whether it's with family at the holidays or a team meeting. Learn more https://waynepernell.com/
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What does the guy who used to be known as The Get-It-Done-Guy who happens to be an MIT engineer and Harvard MBA have to teach us about becoming extraordinary? A lot, naturally.
Stever Robbins was raised in a travelling commune. With such a different background, his approach to life, politics, and economics gives us a perspective worth pondering.
Stever and I couldn’t stop talking (okay, Stever couldn’t stop talking) so this podcast is divided in two parts. Be sure to listen to both parts and sign up for his newsletter and/or reach out to him at www.SteverRobbins.com
He can also be found on LinkedIn at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stever/
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
What does the guy who used to be known as The Get-It-Done-Guy who happens to be an MIT engineer and Harvard MBA have to teach us about becoming extraordinary? A lot, naturally.
Stever Robbins was raised in a travelling commune. With such a different background, his approach to life, politics, and economics gives us a perspective worth pondering.
Stever and I couldn’t stop talking (okay, Stever couldn’t stop talking) so this podcast is divided in two parts. Be sure to listen to both parts and sign up for his newsletter and/or reach out to him at www.SteverRobbins.com
He can also be found on LinkedIn at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stever/
Tune in next week for part 2!
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Rob Thomas is a networking hero - he teaches people how to make connections work. It’s a lost art and he’s got it.
The son of old-school communications parents, he learned the importance of crafting the way we engage. His commitment and integrity shine through as examples for any of us.
From the old-style fax toner salesman to the instructor he is now, he says, “don’t be that guy who tries to sell you.” Ask questions. Sales is about connection and whether you’re known, liked, and trusted.
Connections aren’t always about selling. And he notes that to get to know someone, plan your conversation. Find out about their Family, their Occupation, their Recreational activities and hobbies, and the Message they have. This is the FORM framework and part of the Rob Thomas Method™ (RTM).
Here’s another helpful tip. Ask for introductions.
Introductions is such a better word than referrals.
How can you be a hero for the other person? Keep that in mind the next time you’re networking.
Check out www.RobThomasUSA.com for more information about Rob or his great book, Who Do You Need To Meet?
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What can being punched in the face teach you about leadership?
From Vice-Champion fighter to success coach, Nico Veressen has taken some blows. And as someone used to winning, he knows how to dish it out, too.
Raised in Belgium and now living in Portugal, Nico says he was shy at 14 and that’s when he knew he wanted to get into competitive fighting. After winning his way up the ranks in championships, retinal detachments stopped him. He could take no more physical blows.
Layering his experience on his psych background, Nico has a lot to share that is relevant for us all. Some of the key take-aways are:
- Sometimes, even though you have success, you can feel empty.
- Personal success is just that - it’s something different to everyone.
- Stress is normal and can be enhancing.
- To get to the next level, engage in open conversations, recognize that you can move past your current level of psychological safety, and engage in co-creation
- Plan your pleasure - build that into your schedule
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- Engage in both entertainment AND pleasure
- There’s a difference between dopamine that comes when you’re striving and serotonin that you get when you’ve paused to enjoy. You need both.
- If a task is distasteful, keep the outcome/benefit in mind.
- Stress can be a pleasure enhancement and can be leveraged for a competitive advantage.
- On intimacy: loving deeply is healing.
- Sensual meditation is about going slowly and becoming more aware.
- Ecstasy is about being absorbed in the moment… it’s Flow.
Nico says, “I’m a champion; I get results.” And I’m thinking, what if we all lived that way!!!
Find Nico at www.PerformWithPleasure.com, download his free masterclass, and stay in touch with him. Look for Nico Veressen on all social platforms.
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Carolyn has almost two decades of business coaching coming from her experience in the corporate world and trying things out - what works and what doesn’t.
She says she’s been a bit of a risk taker, and the lesson here is to bet on yourself! Carolyn continues, noting that her strategy was based on the mistakes she’s made. So just know that you’ll make make your own mistakes and keep moving forward, believing in the way things could be and making that your reality.
Key point: to redefine yourself, let go of what is no longer (or never has been) fulfilling.
When you’re searching for a “me” - that new identity - you have to keep moving and stay open to being creative.
Find Carolyn at: www.CarolynHerfurth.com
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From high-school english teacher to broadway producer to founder of Small Pond Enterprises, Michael Roderick shares his amazing insights on How To Create A Referrable Brand!
Great lessons from this beautiful soul today include (and I’m paraphrasing what he actually said):
- When an opportunity that matches your dreams arises, don’t hold back. Step into it.
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- That’s how he met Broadway producers!
- Learn the ropes - move from contributor to producer!
- As a thoughtful giver, you have something that is brandable. What is your referability factor?
- What is your “IF” - your Integrative Framework?
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- How do you see the world uniquely?
- What can people do with it?
- BIG QUESTION: If your business were a Broadway Show, would anyone buy a ticket and be talking about it so much that you’d get automatic referrals?
- Build your network around what you’re delivering, don’t try to deliver to everyone.
- How are you helping?
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- Solve A Problem
- Alleviate Pain
- Reduce Friction
- Don’t underestimate the significance of making other people feel significant.
- Consider the WIIFM - How is what you’re offering of VALUE to them?
Check out Michael’s websites:
www.MyReferabilityRater.com
And
www.SmallPondEnterprises.com
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Working at 14, but forbidden from going to college… from drilling in a warehouse to becoming a fashion executive - What A Story!
Jill says that she just tried things. She took on the family label for her - Firecracker - and forged into the world.
Drawing on courage and tenacity, Jill embraced the New. And we can all learn from her.
She saw beyond the tradition of the industry and wanted to help create clothing for “real sized women” to inspire confidence. Her “I’ll show you” attitude led her to the top as she continues to focus on how to accentuate the positive.
Jill says that doing so inspires trust and that leads to shared stories and that creates true connection. That’s how she runs Frox, her specialty clothing shop.
On the podcast and in her book, Behind the Button, she talks about how putting cloth in a dye bath changes it and strengthens it. And it’s that process from which her strongest metaphors blossom.
Listen in! “It’s all about connection and empowerment!”
Search for Frox online.
Find Behind The Button at Amazon
And reach out to her at www.JillStricklandBrown.com
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SUCH GREAT GEMS on this show!
Marisa, from actress (and waitress) to educational psychologist and organizational change agent, she brings us concepts so useful in our everyday lives.
What a delight to find someone so aligned in our thinking yet so different in our world paths!
Marisa approaches the world and her clients, not from a place of “what’s wrong?” but from a place of exploration of what might be missing and therefore, what might be possible.
Some gems in no particular order of importance (they’re all good):
- Culture exists within a climate and that we can change both. Look at the overall climate first.
- Being joyful is a practice AND and outcome
- We need to bring our humanity into the workplace
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- It’s a mistake to want to separate it. Attending to humanity is NOT anti-efficiency and does not lower productivity. Quite the opposite!
- We need to attend to psychological safety
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- Start with strengths
- The role of human beings is to be better at being human
- We need to be Adaptive, Agile, and Aware of what we affect
- It’s important to discover what our role is in any conflict
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- This is essential for leaders who just want the other (person or department) fixed
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“How can I help you understand where you are in this constellation?”
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Triple Bottom Line - People/Planet/Profit
Find Marisa Zalabak at www.OpenChannelCulture.com
And on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/marisa-zalabak-4368482b/
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You are powerful. Noone else has had the experiences you’ve had. Noone else has lived your life.
Here’s the bottom line on this - you get to choose how you approach others. What comes out of you can serve to lift them. And in terms of the M-A-G-I-C formula, the “I” stands for Inspiration.
When you inspire someone else to act or even to think differently, you’ve demonstrated your influential power.
Use it for good!
And if you’d like to take advantage of the FREE MASTERCLASS that I mentioned, go to https://www.WaynePernell.com/PowerfulPresenceMasterclass. Get the steps you need to Dare to Desire and take that out to your Destination.
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It is SO easy to complain about all of the things going on and going wrong with the world right now. And that complaining does what?
It lowers your ability to be aware of, or receptive to, opportunities that may be right in front of you. Complaining might make you feel better… for a moment. And then, it’s almost like you have to do it again.
Instead, there’s another way to approach the world.
Gratitude!
Mindset
Accountability
Gratitude
Inspiration
Clarity
This is your MindsetMagic!
Check out www.MindsetMagic.com - cool, right?
Yes, GRATITUDE helps you manage your day.
It helps you adjust your mindset to take on the To-Do list and turn it into a ‘Get-To-Do” list.
This episode helps you wrap your head around how gratitude serves you, from the moment you wake up! Find the small things to be grateful for. The big ones will surprise you!
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We have a problem when a group of people (at work, at home, in the community, in politics) agree that we have a problem. Until one person takes the role of “shepherd” the problem will remain a problem.
You’ll discuss it over and over.
It’ll be the same stuff that comes up.
Until you get an accountable “I” - someone who will take responsibility for engaging others to help fix the problem.
A group of accountable “I” people, that’s when things begin to shift.
Oh, and you can nod agreement. Until you see that this starts with you, WE may still have a problem.
Be the first, be the leader, take charge and make a difference.
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Mindset matters more than anything else as it is the filter for everything… EVERYTHING.
From your relationship with your family or partner to your relationship with those at work and even your relationship with Spirit, your mindset allows you to open or shut out possibilities.
And that’s different from a Positive Mental Attitude.
It’s good to have that, and you need to adjust your mindset first.
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Oh my gawwwwwwddddd… the whining is unbearable!!!
Wahhh… i can’t do that, I’m not readyyyyyy.
It’s such bulls**t. No one is ever good at something the first time out. You’ve garnered skills in other areas that you’ll apply to whatever it is.
You wobble when you learn to ride a bike. And then, with practice, you get good at it. It’s the forward momentum that keeps you upright.
So that sales call, that coaching program you meant to join, learning French or guitar or both, the things you’ve been putting off… just do them.
It’s not about being ready, it’s about being willing.
Be deliberate.
I am going to do this thing OR I am not going to do this thing.
You can begin before you’re ready because you’re willing to begin.
Be willing and cut the bull around being ready.
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With so much going on and so many things you could say are important, how do you decide what to do first?
Think about all of the different things that could go into a picnic basket.
Only the essentials for a picnic actually make it in the basket.
Your day is your picnic basket and you’re the one in charge of what goes into it.
Be deliberate.
Eliminate unessential meetings.
Take time for you.
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What got you here won’t get you there.
It’s an old saying, and did you ever stop to think about that.
What got you here were all of your life’s experiences up to this point.
Now the questions are:
- Where is “there” - where are you heading and can you be deliberate about it?
- What do you need to do, to learn, or to obtain in order to get there? If you were packing for a vacation, you’d want to know where you were headed so you’d know what to pack.
Other questions -
What mindset do you need? What old stories might you need to let go of? How much more worthy do you need to become to have what you want? (Hint: you’re worthy already, so stop thinking it’s beyond you.)
What values might you need to live into?
Mull those over.
Get clear about where you want to be, really want to be in five years.
Look, in five years, you’ll be five years older whether you think about your direction or not. So, get deliberate about your trajectory. This is your life and you get to own it!
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What “should” you be doing?
What are you doing?
What do you really want to be doing?
We have 24 hours in each day.
And we have choice.
This is a gentle reminder that YOU are in control.
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Connie Jakab is a huge advocate for branching out and fighting against the status quo. I saw her speak and was enthralled as her message of mental health expands beyond the bounds of what people usually think when they hear that term.
She’s the director of community for Flourishing Life a global movement centered around wellness and she’s the senior manager of Wellness Innovate.
Connie has three books out there now, one of them called Bring Them Closer.
I’ve also seen her do a bit of hip-hop and talk about the trust and courage that comes from doing so!
From Calgary, Alberta Canada: Connie Jakab!
Key points from our amazing chat:
- Trust comes from listening
- Don’t try to change the person
- Never try to change their behavior before you try to understand it
- Courage comes from being able to trust self and others
- Curiosity is the key to thriving
- Bring Them Closer is her book on courage
- Information about her certification program can be found at: Certified Flourishing Coach | Flourish in every area of your life!
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We have work to do. Noone wants to hear that and yet the TRUTH is that we need to be paying attention on multiple levels. The first place to start is with ourselves.
I Am Bigger Than My Current Life - that’s the ache that most people feel.
What would happen if you decided that you were actually in charge of your life?
Awareness leads to Choice and Choice leads back to greater Awareness.
It’s the hermeneutic loop that I teach. The more awareness you have, the more choices you have. Keep expanding.
Ask, “what’s available to me now?”
Get clear about the direction you want to head.
Get clear about your outcomes.
Look for the support you might need and be aware of the obstacles you might hit. That will allow you to invoke the choices you do have.
A bigger life does await. And it needs some action steps to move into it.
Ready? Go!
https://www.StuckAtTheTop.com is the place to supercharge your forward momentum.
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One of my VIP clients recently asked me how to handle it when, in a social situation, the conversation turned to gossip and rumors about another mutual acquaintance who wasn’t present. He was uncomfortable and wanted to leave. His partner wanted to stay.
What would you do?
Upleveling IS hard. Staying where you are is comfortably uncomfortable.
I’m responsible for what I put into my day.
I’m responsible for what I give and for how I show up.
What is gossip or rumor mongering based on?
- Fear and Lack.
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- Really, you wouldn’t say something about someone if they didn’t somehow mean something to you and you weren’t judging yourself against them.
Give THAT some thought.
Uplevel.
Check your mindset.
Coming from a space of gratitude and abundance, feeling like you’re enough… that’s easy intellectually, and it’s harder to practice.
Practice.
Just… practice.
Want to focus on your mindset and create a focused future for yourself? Do yourself a favor and at least check out www.StuckAtTheTop.com
See you here next time!
= Wayne =
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I’m a fourth-degree blackbelt in the art of Bushido - The Way of The Warrior.
So many people who start out in the martial arts just want the coveted black belt. They don’t realize that the black belt is simply a symbol of competence, and that it’s also a starting place. It’s the place from which mastery is born.
In leading yourself and others, you need to find a way to dive in deep, to commit to yourself and to invest in yourself. You can only get better when you let go of the ego that throws you a parade for your title or the hard work you’ve done.
You’re not done, nor should you be. Mastery is an ongoing process. Leadership is not a one-and-done thing, it too is a process.
Invest and commit to becoming better.
Stopping because you have status is dangerous and it doesn’t serve anyone. At some point, it’ll bite you in the behind. Recognize that your competition is you, the you of yesterday and that by becoming a better version of yourself today, you’re living into lifting and serving others.
You’re not done. Other people need you. As a leader, you need to show up at your best.
This podcast will give you some further insights about all of this. Enjoy!
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Maybe you’re feeling a little overwhelmed right now. That’s normal, but the mountains of “stuff” that you’ve been carrying… you were meant to climb.
You need to be in control of your day, your week, your month, your quarter, and the rest of this year. Do that by looking at all of the “stuff” you’ve tried to carry from day to day. Look at where you’ve been putting your energy and recognize that your priorities are highlighted by where you’ve put your focus.
If something really, really mattered to you, everything else would fall away.
“Oh, I meant to…” is but an excuse.
Chunk up the projects.
Own your calendar.
And jump on the things that you said mattered to you.
These are but a few of the concepts we dive into on today’s podcast.
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It’s odd how people are uncomfortable with silence, isn’t it. What’s amazing is that when I work with teams and leaders, people start to squirm just a few seconds into a pause, a void of talking. By nine seconds, usually the leader has jumped in to say something.
That’s so unnecessary. Four seconds is enough to create safety, to show through your body language and your face that you’re listening. When someone makes a statement, acknowledge it, then… just hold space.
For fun, challenge yourself to pause for up to eighteen seconds. Do nothing, no fidgeting, just sit. Count to eighteen in your head very slowly. Notice, just notice what happens when you do that… at four seconds, at nine seconds, and at eighteen seconds.
Most people exhale deeply at eighteen seconds as if they’ve been holding their breath. Breathe normally, get quiet, and notice. Just notice. Create safety for yourself and others by holding space.
And that is how you build your Powerful Presence®, too!
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Yes, we all need a reminder - especially at this time of year: there are three “G” words that’ll make your days more powerful, effective, efficient and productive.
G is for Gratitude. Look at what you’ve come through. Look at where you’re headed! Look at the small pebbles that have paved the way, even the ones that have gotten in the way. There is so much to be grateful for. So very much to be grateful for. And living in that space, vs. the space of entitlement or being offended, living in gratitude opens so many doors for you.
G is for Grace. Look at what you’ve come through and don’t assume you know what anyone else is feeling or has come through. Grace is about giving yourself and others the breathing room to take on the next challenge, whether that’s simply getting up in the morning or whether it’s saving the world. Everyone needs a little more Grace.
G is for Generosity. Don’t judge whether someone “needs” something from you or not. Decide how you can make a positive impact. (I’ve been known to leave a $100 tip in hotel rooms. Something tells me that might make a positive impact on the housekeeper.) Where can you make a positive impact? Where might you step up your generosity game?
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We’ve stared at the same four walls for the past year and a half. We’ve organized the pantry. We’ve learned to work differently. We’ve extended our work hours and have gotten less done in more time (ahhhh - the new math). We thought we’d become more efficient, but when we check email first thing and then throughout the day and then last thing and then stay up longer as a revenge against work so as to get some “me” time… we’ve put ourselves on a collision course with BURNOUT.
Our roles blended and now everything is at home. Though we’re starting to find our way back into the world, we might also be wondering if it’s worth it.
Three steps to get you back out there and in touch with what matters most:
- Recognize that you have control over A LOT in your world. Use that control. Employ the choices you have. From what mask to wear to what food to eat, you have control. You also have control over when you check email and when you don’t.
- Get Out! Seriously, get outside.
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- Stare at one thing in nature: a leaf, a piece of tree bark, a flower petal. See how you feel after sitting with that one nature-laden thing for a minute.
- Stare off in the distance. Allow your eyes to unfocus. Engage with the infinite space. See how you feel after disconnecting from any one thing that’s right in front of you and connecting with the infinite beyond you.
- Ask for what you want and need. Others want things too. When you ask, you’re also able to be asked. Reciprocate in offering caring attention to others.
Start there. That’s how you bring a little joy back into your life.
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I’m eating sushi with a client when I ask him what he expects of me the following day as I engage with his team.
“Excellence,” came the one-word, very direct answer.
“Challenge Accepted,” I replied with a smile.
Inside I wondered how to bring him the excellence he expected. What I didn’t know was that he was endorsing me for the excellence he had always experienced in my work with him.
And that got me thinking - If he experienced excellence in my work and I had a sense that I could level up, why couldn’t I just level up that bit more anyway?
What can you do, in any area of your life, to level up just that bit more?
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From homeless street kid to Marine Corps Captain to Sage & Mentor - Solarzar works magic in there somewhere, too!
He notes that leadership is all about communication and relationships!
He believes in the continuum of relationships, how the teacher imparts to the scholar and at some point, the scholar offers to the teacher. Solarzar discussed The Hero’s Journey and notes that we’ve all been the reluctant hero, called to take charge. Most pull back multiple times until finally, we draw on the nuggets of knowledge we’ve collected on our path and realize that what we’ve been given along the way will help us to our next breakthrough.
These are magical moments that our path of the leader is paved with.
His other gems to think about:
- Dignity in the face of adversity
- Our goal is to connect and affirm
- External circumstances don’t define me - - what defines us is how we react (or respond)
Leadership Magic is Solarzar’s book available online.
We also referenced Outliers by Gladwell and Book of Five Rings by Mushashi
Also, for magic or for leadership, you can reach out to him at:
Solarzar@gmail.com
And www.MentalConnection.com
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What’s the difference between being “Nice” and being Kind?
When you’re nice, you’re likely to be giving yourself - a lot of yourself - away. And the cost to that? Personal identity.
Here I share some very personal stories and talk about how to be kind, to live in grace, compassion, and empathy without having to make everything okay for everyone else.
Being kind, sometimes means holding boundaries. That’s not always easy. And, it’s essential for your growth and for your true service to others.
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So many people think that they have to join in the conversation and even one-up what’s just been said that they miss the opportunity to truly connect.
“I can’t wait to get to Hawaii”
“Oh, me either! This pandemic is something! I just love the sand on Waikiki and the sun. Oh, and you can’t beat the food.” And on and on and on, leaving the other person out of the conversation.
Beware of hijacking the conversation in an effort to join in. When you make it about yourself, you’ve missed a HUGE opportunity to actually connect.
Take a listen and let me know what you think!
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We’re all leaders! If you’re being watched, you’re a leader - at home, at work, in the community. You’re a leader.
This episode doesn’t talk about the traits of good leaders. There are tons of books and articles on that. Each is, in my opinion, simply opinion. The best trait of a leader is someone who knows what he/she/they value and can live into that authentically.
And there are five steps to grow into that:
Expand your MINDSET
Hold yourself and others ACCOUNTABLE.
Be someone who is gracious and generous and lives in GRATITUDE.
Have visions for your future. Demand that of yourself. Let those visions serve to INSPIRE yourself and others.
And be clear. Get great CLARITY around who you are, what your values are, what your vision for your future is. Being clear and specific is the best way to grow that for yourself and others.
That’s magic!
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Having grown up in a household influenced by healthcare and business, Wendy Ryan shared multiple insights about Human Resources and Organization Development. She runs an interdisciplinary team of organizational change experts at her company, Kadabra.
Highlights of our interview include:
- Any future vision for changes in organizational culture requires time
- People get saturated with change!
- Leaders need to stay curious
- Leaders need to assess, “am I bringing people with me?”
- Assess all internal processes - look for inclusion starting from hiring and onboarding
- Now that most workforces are hybrid, we need to rely on two key traits:
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- Curiosity
- Kindness
- A growth mindset is predicated on the belief that we can grow!
- For each employee/team-member, identity matters. And that means that for some leaders and long-term employees, there might be some unlearning to do.
- Consider three buckets:
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- Mindset - How do you think?
- Skillset - What do you know?
- Behavior - How are you showing up to others?
- Remember that Human Systems are biological and therefore organic. It’s time to let go of mechanistic, non-human, models for managing any business.
Wendy’s new book is called Learn, Lead, Lift. Worksheets and other free resources are available at www.LearnLeadLift.com
Wendy can also be reached at www.WeAreKadabra.com
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We expect things to be as we left them. This is good news for us when we park a car or lay down our sunglasses. It’s not so great when we’re talking about relationships and noticing the growth in other people.
Whether in your team members, your family members, or your friends, allow for a shift in worldview. What has changed about them since you last saw them?
Most important, start with yourself: reflect on what’s changed in, for, or about you in the last few months, weeks, days, or even moments.
You’re not the same person you were.
It’s important to acknowledge that those we engage with, even daily, aren’t who they were either.
“Hey! What’s changed since I last saw you?”
Stay curious and have fun with that!!!
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You have a choice about how much “strength” you give the things that are bothering you. There are, in fact, only three types of trouble
You can choose to let go of - and learn from - each of them!
Troubles of the past -
Did you do the best you could with the knowledge and resources you had? Then stop cringing every time that memory comes up. You’re the only one who is remembering it that way. No one else is carrying the memory the same way. Make amends if you need to and most important, learn from what happened. You’re a different person now!
Troubles of the present -
If you recognize that today is just a snapshot on a timeline continuum, then you can acknowledge that the “today” of two years ago doesn’t really linger. Today’s troubles, two years down the road won’t feel quite as severe. So, do what needs to be done, learn, get the resources you need, and keep moving forward.
Troubles of the Future -
What a beautiful waste of great imagination… we catastrophize, thinking about the outcome being the worst possible scenario when we could be thinking about what it might be like if everything not only worked out okay, but worked out amazingly well!
Whatever trouble you’re carrying, you’re the only person carrying it. It’s your perspective that colors the situation as such. What if… what if you chose a different perspective and knew that things were going to be better than just okay?
They are, you know. Choice is power!
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No team member in any organization should ever feel like someone is out to get them. Yet so many leaders make a simple, yet monumental, mistake: they assume that because they’re clear about their expectations that they’ve made their expectations clear.
Explore the world of leadership and management here (and let’s scare off that imagined boogeyman).
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Do I need to do this?
It’s a great question to keep your focus.
In this episode we’ll explore how a shift in emphasis gives new meaning to a simple question.
Have some fun and listen in.
As your focus broadens and you ask questions differently, your world expands!
Enjoy!
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Author, podcaster, tv host, and life coach - Jocelyn talks about the journey of what it takes to Break Down To Wake Up (also the name of her book).
She had a “normal” life and was doing well.
She and her husband decided to make a big life upheaval and move across the county. She got the blessing from her job and off they went, as a family of three.
Something still nagged at her and she began a journey of true self-discovery.
She notes: THE DETOURS IN OUR LIFE LEAD US TO EXACTLY WHERE WE NEED TO BE.
Jocelyn found herself through outside coaching and took the path to become a coach, herself.
In this episode, we talk about her recognizing that she felt trapped in her old life and that she couldn’t breathe.
Here, I note that:
the sense of not being able to breathe isn’t about getting enough air, it’s about being able to exhale enough to express yourself fully.
And Jocelyn adds that we have seemingly grown up with the rules “If I can act in a certain way, I’ll receive love from this other person.”
Spring boarding on this thought, I note that this then, makes the relationship transactional and essentially not safe.
Jocelyn tells us to
- Get curious with ourselves
- Love ourselves
- Engage in Radical Responsibility (self-accountability)
- Take a big LEAP (the name of her program)
- Choose yourself first and use your voice - it’s why you have one!
www.JocelynBellows.com
Life Coaching and Writing Coaching
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PR professional, champion for girls and women in the entrepreneurial space, TEDx speaker, and so much more – Bobbie Carlton shares with us her journey into entrepreneurship and some of the surprises on her journey.
We talk about business and the championing of the heard, unheard, and underserved voices.
Our conversation took us to her early roots and what she learned while growing up how to be – and not be – an entrepreneur.
Bobbie shares lessons for those starting on the path.
- Find a partner who can support you – whether a life partner or a business partner or even an assistant, you need someone who can see the big picture with you and remind you of the details. Bobbie laughs, “Marry well.”
- Get trusted supporters around you, from a V.A., to your accounting team, you need people that you’ll allow deep inside of your business.
- Communicate – the more communication, and enjoyment, with your team members, the better!
- Get a PLAN!!!
- Know that you will exit and build that in. Who can take over for you in a few years or decades?
- Invest in and grow your team.
Key quotes from this episode:
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We need to make sure that everyone has the opportunity to bring innovations to market.
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There’s someone out there with the answers without access to the right community.
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We have to make sure that, in order to survive, we democratize entrepreneurship so that the best ideas have their ideas in the marketplace.
Bobbie invites you to Google her: Bobbie Carlton
Key Links:
Carlton PR & Marketing, Innovation Nights and Innovation Women
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Influenced by his entrepreneurial Marine father and his wife, and loving mother, Alan Kaye learned that relationships - helping others get what they want - was the key to success.
He ended up in insurance, which for most of us doesn’t sound so great. His story, his connections, and his life lessons along the way are phenomenal.
Alan Kaye was an animator, he did marketing for the NY Yankees, his world went into a tailspin with his daughter’s illness (and that led to massive charity work on his part), and then he landed in a space of protecting people. He and his partner Brian built eight offices with a large team where the company culture is like family.
The basics:
- Don’t lie, cheat, or steal
- Come with solutions, not excuses
- Build Trust (and do everything to keep it)
The bigger lessons:
- Be authentic
- Don’t burn a bridge; you never know
- Be solution-focused
- Empower others
- Learn from failure, that’s part of life
Alan@Fidens.com
www.Virtual5Oclock.com
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After seeing Amelia speak on a virtual stage, I invited her to join me here. She’s a speaker, actor, entrepreneur, and mom of two. She created the Be Happy Business as a way of infusing more happiness into all aspects of life.
Here, we talk about mindset and personal development through the eyes of an actor. The closing line of her speech was, “It doesn’t get more real than what an actor does.”
Fascinating, right?
Key points you’ll get from this interview:
- Life unfolds much differently from what you plan
- You must engage in personal development because your business will only grow as much as you do.
- An actor receives a story and then asks different questions to create the character that the story demands. You can do the same in your life. “We need to practice differently and not just accept the default.”
- Actors create a moment that changes that moment.
- Actors problem solve differently because their relationship with time is different.
- Find your energy, wield that energy, and fine-tune that energy. Amelia notes, “We’re always fine-tuning the stories in rehearsal.” She goes on, speaking about personal growth, “We’re often rehearsing unhelpful stories.”
- Changing the questions you ask will change the stories you have and the results you get. The answer is in the question.
- Humans thrive on being in discovery.
She has a couple of great concepts around De-adulting, noting that actors play!
Being in a playful state is where creativity lies.
@TheBeHappyBusiness
www.TheBeHappyBusiness.com
www.RealPeopleMagic.com
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Many parents have felt like selling their kids to the circus or letting the neighbors take care of them for a few minutes, days, or months.
Many employers have felt like pushing the ejector-seat button at meetings and having the “bad” employee launched into space. Somewhere else… anywhere but here.
Neither of those are the “correct” solution to “bad” behavior.
It’s important to remember that the person is not their behavior. You can love a person and not like their behavior.
And that’s the conversation to have - “What you’re doing right now isn’t what’s needed. The behavior you’re showing needs to stop.”
That’s so different from, “why are you being such a brat (or the other b-word)?”
Get the perspective that they’re not doing this TO you. The behavior is coming out as a sign of pain and they need acknowledgment and even to be contained. At work, “this behavior isn’t appropriate” is an okay thing to say.
HR Note: People are moved out of work engagements because their behavior isn’t appropriate. (You can document behavior; you can’t document “a bad attitude.”)
And if it’s you that’s having an “off” day, take note of that too. You can still love yourself and your life and not love that you’re feeling irritable because you ate the wrong thing or slept badly or have some other ache or pain.
- Change your perspective to notice that the person who is exhibiting the “bad” behavior isn’t a bad person.
- Find a place of compassion, recognizing that the other person might be in pain.
- Ask yourself what that person really needs at this moment.
- And remember these steps work for you when you’re having an “off” day.
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Finding the entrepreneurial spirit as a young girl, selling a home-made kite for $3.67, Zahara Joy has gone on to recreate herself living in more countries than most of us visit in our lifetimes.
She worked in high-fashion in New York, moved to Italy, and realized that her calling was to help women live a lifestyle that’s above average.
Having lost everything, Zahara’s perspective is that everything that looks like a disaster can be a blessing. She notes that there are two types of people: those who are average and those who go for it. She sees herself as a role model of the latter and encourages others to do the same.
Zahara coaches women who fear becoming their true selves as she enables them through a holistic approach to what success really is.
Though Z coaches women, this is a MUST LISTEN, even if you’re a guy!
Zahara talks about that “second of doubt” where everything is on the line. It’s a defining moment where you could stunt your own success path or move through it.
Zahara founded The Legendary Woman Society to focus on Mindset and Relationships.
She can be found at www.TheHighValueWoman.com and www.TheHighValueWomanLive.com
And on IG at @TheHighValueWoman
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Spiritually bankrupt to fit.
Kate MacKinnon, Former VP of JPMorgan Chase, also ran her own management tech company before answering her calling to help women to step into their power and greatness.
Now, as a certified Feng Shui practitioner, Kate creates spaces of elegance and beauty that transform lives.
Kate describes her journey from Artist to inadvertent feminist to becoming a coach and guide for women as well as becoming a certified Feng Shui practitioner.
In this episode, I pronounced Feng Shui incorrectly until the end (it’s Fung Schway, by the way).
Important points:
- Use mentors and guides!
- Listen to yourself and trust that inner knowingness.
- If you drink to drown your feelings, you might find out they can swim anyway.
- Our space reflects who we are.
- Space is space, whether that’s your desk, room, office, or home. Take a look at your environment.
- Clutter blocks energy flow. Things have energy and can block us from what we really want.
Create a way of being with your stuff.
- Again, listen to yourself.
- Do everything with intention.
RESOURCES:
https://www.kate-mackinnon.com/onesharpsword for a free download of 9-Tips about how you can use Feng Shui
Listeners can go to www.Bit.ly/FengShuiHomeReset and use the code SHARP for a discount.
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I met our guest, David Chemetzky, on the road to the TEDx stage. Through masks and over meals, we got to know each other and his message of rising up from the ashes speaks to us all. Dave has been through divorce and found his way back from what could have been a truly self-destructive path.
Now he offers us his P.A.T.H – a formula standing for Personal Attitudes Towards Happiness.
Dave shares his stories of rebound and how he came to the term Cluberty™ to define the transition people go through on the way to getting a bigger clue about their lives. Our past doesn’t define our present or future. We get to!
David is the founder of Peace, Love, and Bring a Bat – it’s his way of saying that you can find your passion AND take a stand for something.
He can be found on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn.
He’s offering a free copy of his interview in Success Profiles magazine where he gives tips on finding your passion and standing up for what you believe. He believes in the power of proximity, being around the right people, and he invites you to reach out!
OnThePathNY@gmail.com or at www.DavidChametzky.com
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Whether you’re in a relationship with someone or you’re a single who’s just getting through your day, every day, there’s one person who needs you a little more right now.
Personal growth is so important and how you treat yourself determines how you grow. And remember, if you’re not growing, you’re backsliding.
Who needs you the most right now? YOU!
What do you say to yourself when you step on a scale or see yourself in a mirror? What do you think when you get in your car or pay your bills? What language happens in your thought bubbles when you go to work? What are you thinking when you meet up with someone else?
Don’t say anything to yourself about yourself that you wouldn’t say to someone else about them. You’d never tell someone else that they’re too fat, too wrinkly, not smart enough, not wealthy enough… not enough.
What would you tell someone who is working on coming out of a hard time?
The fact is that you’re coming through a tough transition right now.
You Need You
Inspire Greatness in Yourself
Personal growth happens every day. It takes your intentionality and focus.
Investing in growing yourself pays off big time in your business and relationships. And again, the first relationship is with yourself.
What kind of thing can you remind yourself about today?
You ARE enough. And… every day, you’re getting a little bit better!
Be intentional and invest in yourself.
I had the pleasure and honor of interviewing my friend, a former Green Beret and retired Lt. Col., Scott Mann.
Today we spoke about Trust and his program of Rooftop Leadership. How do you lead during times of low trust? People don’t trust political leaders, but worse, people don’t even seem to trust each other.
- Defend RIGHT, even when no one follows
- Make a true Human Connection
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- Leadership is based on relationships (You’ve heard that from corporate leaders I’ve interviewed here at One Sharp Sword)
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- Human connection is the primary commodity
- Primal fears lead to insular grouping
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- We can build a deep bonding trust which only serves an immediate group OR we can BUILD WHAT’S CALLED BRIDGING TRUST, which serves to create greater unity.
- Each individual can be both an individual and a part of a greater community and it’s up to each one of us to stand up and do the right thing, bridging beyond the comfort of our own group.
That’s Leadership.
Scott Mann, his books, and trainings can be found at RooftopLeadership.com
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- Your mindset is based on what you repeat every day.
- Sometimes that’s subconscious
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- That means, your work is to really look at where you’re slowing down, distracted, or outright resisting taking that next step.
- Step into loving your day.
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- Create a new meaning. There’s no judgment of something until you give it judgment.
- Practice creating positive judgment and giving a new meaning to the things in your life… ALL of the things in your life.
- The key to mindset is as simple as deciding what mindset you want.
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- WHATTTTT??? Yep!!! The key to mindset is as simple as deciding on the mindset you want to have about something.
- What will you make of this moment, day, week, month, quarter, and year?
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- You decide!
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- It’s easy to lose track of where you said you wanted to go.
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- There are a lot of distractions out there and sometimes they’re meant to confuse you to the point of stopping you
- Focus
- Get CLEAR, super-clear on what you want
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- Use a Vision Board to keep your clear goals in front of you
- Think Big
- Break Your Goals Into Action Steps
- List Your Top Three Steps for your Top Three Goals
- Take Action On The First Step
- Repeat
- Be Consistent
- Clarity of Focus + Consistent Action = Success
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- I’m annoyingly perky. There’s an old joke about a kid who is romping around in a room full of horse manure, and someone stops her to find out why she’s so happy. Her reply is that “with all this poop, there must be a pony in here somewhere!”
- Think about the meaning you give to any situation… ANY situation. I just lost a dear friend, someone I thought of as a sister. And, as part of my grieving her loss, I found a way to celebrate two things: 1.) All the amazing times we had and the wonderful encouragement we gave each other, and 2.) her passing reminded me that I actually MUST get my message out. Also, the not so subtle reminder to share your love with others.
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- The point here is that I could choose to be devastated or I could choose to be uplifted. I have been enriched by my friend. I will miss her dearly. And I choose to focus on the good she brought to all she touched.
- Optimism is a reflexive, learned skill - you have to practice it to make it a part of you.
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- In any situation, ask yourself, what’s the lesson and what’s the good that can come from this.
- The truth about optimism is that it’s a choice you make every moment of every day!
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- If you look around, you’ve got some things to be happy about. And, if you’re honest, you’ve put up with some things in your life far longer than you should have. Whether that’s extra pounds, a pile of clutter, a squeaky hinge, or a partner. You deserve excellence.
- You need to practice receiving excellence and that means you have to stop tolerating the merely adequate.
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- It also means you’ll have to put in some energy to fix what was adequate or to cut it out of your life.
- I serve to inspire greatness and I expect excellence. It’s how I choose my clients. Those who are ready to step into the next great level of their lives and who are done putting up with what they’ve allowed. They’re ready to stop conceding and truly start winning in the game of their life.
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- Some people fear winning because they think they’ll be in a place of making someone else lose. This is the game of YOUR life, not anyone else’s. If you’ve been putting up with things that are less than excellent, it’s time to make a change or two!
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- Vision Boards Work - they work for you or against you, depending on what practice you put in place every time you see them. That is, you could be training yourself that you’ll never get there. Or, depending on the actions you’re taking, you could be celebrating that today, you’re that bit closer to your EPO.
- In my first book, Choosing Your Power, I talk about EPO.
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- Keep your EPO (Envisioned Positive Outcome) in mind every day.
- Take action steps toward your EPO every day.
- You really can Name It and Claim It!!!
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This time of year, we worry about a lot of things. It doesn’t matter that we’ve come through a heck of a year and that You Are Resilient and that You Are Courageous. Look at the uncertainty you’ve come through, day in and day out over the last nine months. Incredible, right?
So what are we worrying about now?
We worry that we will have enough. We worry that what we give to others will be enough. And we worry that these things are a reflection of who we are as people and we end up questioning whether we are enough.
What a great way to enter the winter holiday season, right? That’s not good for anyone any time of year. And people get into a trap of buying and then over-buying.
So the question here is, what gap are you trying to fill… what void in your life is so gaping that it needs more validation?
Relax… YOU ARE ENOUGH.
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Emily Williams, the founder of iHeartMyLife is an exceptional woman who now helps female entrepreneurs identify and realize their dreams.
In this One Sharp Sword™ episode, Emily shares her life trajectory. She had a bad gut reaction on her way to grad school. And, unlike so many, she followed her instinct and paid attention to her feelings.
This led her to a trans-Atlantic journey where she found her husband James.
She notes that you have to “allow yourself to dream.”
And she says that she turned jealousy of other successful women into gratitude for giving her the motivation to step up. Her mindset around money has changed significantly and her mindset around sales has changed, as well.
Emily notes that persistence is a quality she employed to keep going even when things got hard. It does take work to fulfill your dream. Start. Keep going.
Get past fear. Let go of safety. Get beyond “just enough,” and know that abundance is right there. www.iHeartMyLife.com
Fear, doubt, worry, guilt, and shame! Yep! Happy holidays!!!
This time of year is filled with all of that. And, somewhere in there, shines a glimmer of hope. None of that, not even the hope, truly serves you.
The bottom line is this: fear, doubt, worry, guilt, and shame are all paralyzers and lead you closer to death. People say that fear is a negative emotion. Others write that fear is necessary to keep you out of danger. The truth is that fear paralyzes you and doesn’t let you think straight.
That’s not good for your relationships - any of them - at home, at work, or in the community. You need awareness and choice.
As noted in my first book, Choosing Your Power, awareness leads to choice and choice leads to greater awareness. That’s an ever-expanding spiral, not a contracted or incapacitated dot.
And this thing about hope? Oh, it’s good to break through inertia. And, hope is not a plan. It’s not a substitute for a plan. I’ve watched people swing from fear and guilt to hope. It’s like they’re holding onto strands of smoke. And then, on their descent, they confirm what they knew: that they weren’t good enough.
Snap out of it. You ARE good enough.
It’s time to get real clarity and certainty. Will you earn what you desire this year? YES.
How? By being certain of it AND taking the steps needed to get there (a series of small steps gets you to the next level).
Your mindset shift affects how you show up. If you’re in a space of worry, your clients cannot buy from you. If you’re in a space of certainty, your relationships change (at home, at work, and in the world).
See the bright future? Get certain that it’s yours!
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NOW more than ever, we need to move beyond kindness. We need to create large ripples that go far beyond our engagement.
And we do that by being conscious. By being deliberate and intentional, we engage with others human-to-human. We lift them in ways that are subtle, yet powerful.
Being deliberate also means taking action. You can’t just think nice thoughts, you must do something… something as simple as looking someone in the eye or smiling from behind the mask.
And when you’re positive, you’re lifting others. You’re intentional about helping others have a good day.
Yes, be kind. Pick up some trash, move a shopping cart, hold the door. And beyond that, step into being Deliberately, Actively, Positively™ uplifting.
This #StartsWithOne and you can take a free, fun 21-day challenge at www.StartsWithOne.com
That’s: Starts With One dot com!!!
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Being sucked into drama is a choice.
The stories we have told ourselves, so many of them just aren’t true. We don’t need to play in the land of judgment or the need to be right.
The 2020 pandemic has given us the opportunity (and excuse) not to visit various family members. Well, what choices will you be making when the pandemic resolves?
Do you let the drama of others run (or ruin) your life? That’s a choice, too!
It’s a choice to believe the stories you’re running in your head. It’s a choice to live into your own truth of strength. And it’s a choice to find peace, compassion, and love this season.
Step into the holidays and the New Year by letting go of the drama and engaging with Love and Compassion. It’s there you’ll find your peace.
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This is pretty simple to think about but it’s a whole lot harder to practice consistently.
When I work with my elite 1:1 VIP clients, we focus on Values to begin with. Not only what you value now, but what you might need to aim towards to become who you wish to become.
Think about someone you admire. Do they have traits that you don’t yet express? Practice those.
Decide that you want to live into values that you don’t yet have. Get clear.
Clarity is the 1st C
While commitment is a “thing,” it’s not officially the second C. You do need to commit to practicing and expressing the values you now wish to live into.
In fact, it’s the expression of those new values that creates the second C. That’s Communication. It’s one thing to have values. It’s another for people around you to know what you stand for - at home, at work, and in the world.
And the third C is Curiosity. Staying curious and in wonder keeps you out of judgment, right-fighting, and drama.
Stay curious. And step into Compassion.
(Maybe I should call this the 5-C list!)
Rock your holidays and step into the New Year strong!
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James Williams is one of the best High-Performance coaches that I know. A longtime friend from the High-Performance community, James and I have been on Facebook Lives together as The Socially Ambitious Chatterboxes. His insights here guide us to new heights!
James reminds us not to believe the expectations that others have for us.
He noted that though he stayed in a job too long, staying shaped who he became and that our history serves us.
He noted that he got “average” because he was focused on average and that his life changed when he focused on more. He stepped into his purpose and began to build his legacy.
Your purpose directs your thoughts.
James challenges us to Live Consciously and notes that doing so can be exhausting. Letting go of judgment is important, especially if you choose to step into the life of the entrepreneur.
Remember that no matter the situation, you always have a choice in how you respond to that situation. Your responsibility is to recognize your response-ability.
Build “the business of me.”
James reflects on hiking as a metaphor noting that when things are the hardest is when you’re about to breakthrough!
Free guide on boosting mental and physical bandwidth at wwwTheGrowthEdge.com
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Trying to manage everything can be a struggle. Details slip through. Managing others too tightly can get you the opposite results. In relationships, the same is true.
You’ve got to be able to hold on with slightly open hands to be more flexible. Give the other people room. Give yourself a chance to not have to hold - or manage - everything.
When you hold on too tightly, you’re left with very little. Relax, engage authentically, and offer (offer, not impose) help.
7-tips to revitalize your relationships can be found at www.RelationshipRecharge.com
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Dr. Gottfredson is a leadership professor at California State University, Fullerton. He earned his doctorate in Organizational Behavior and Human Resources.
He notes that most people think in terms of what leaders need to DO. And that we need to be more focused on what leaders need to BE.
Key Points:
- Horizontal Development is broadening skills vs. Vertical Development is gaining altitude and perspective (which may or may not come through maturity)
- Our neural connections help us
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- Filter Information
- Interpret Information
- Activate a Behavioral Response based on the information that we’ve interpreted
- Failure can be interpreted in two different ways
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- From a fixed mindset, it’s personal and we’ll want to avoid similar challenges
- From a growth mindset, it’s external and seen as an opportunity to approach related challenges
- Mindset Types:
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- Fixed vs. Growth
- Closed vs. Open (to suggestions of others)
- Prevention vs. Promotion = the difference between Not Losing vs. Winning
- Inward vs. Outward which is about comparing yourself to others vs. lifting others
RyanGottfredson.com for a free Success Mindsets assessment.
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In a time where everyone seems to be drawing back and we might feel like we’re living in “lack” which is only fear-based, it’s still important to have redundancy.
Redundancy, especially in communication, is exceptionally important. In the IT world, having systems that duplicate is important in case one goes down.
What about at work. Do you need people that do the same things? No, but you need people who know about and know how to do the same things.
Like the understudy at a play, you have a backup.
And, in your communications, make sure you’re delivering your message in more than one way.
For more tips on that last part, check out this free 7-tip guide www.RelationshipRecharge.com
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Is it possible to be happy and dissatisfied at the same time?
Pause your life and look around. There’s a lot of bad stuff happening, and still, you have a lot for which you can be grateful.
If you think about it, your life is okay right now. You are doing okay. You can say that right now, at this moment, you’re happy with your life. AND WE DON’T PAUSE - We know we can Do More, Have More, and Be More! And because we know we can serve more greatly, we feel dissatisfied.
You can live a life of gratitude and still ache to do, have, and be more. Yes, that’s the magic of living Happily Dissatisfied.
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Do you have any idea how many people you actually encounter on any given day? It may be zero or it could be hundreds. Are you doing video calls? Did you go to a grocery store? Are you even noticing the people you live with?
I ran a company with 120 team members and my goal was to give just six compliments a day because I had seen people doing things that mattered.
I used six pennies as my tally check, and at the end of the day, the goal was to have moved six pennies from one pocket to the other. Having 120 people that I could potentially encounter, what I found was that I stopped focusing on finding the good.
Leading is about keeping the big picture in front of yourself and those on your team. Focus on the things that matter. Let your team members know they matter by acknowledging them - notice what they’ve done and how they’ve contributed. Keep your focus on what matters - your people and the delivery of service.
The challenge: give six compliments today to people at home, at work, or in the community. It sounds so easy… it takes a lot of practice!
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Stephanie Thoma focuses on helping others make connections; she helps introverts feel confident and she redefines networking.
Overcoming social anxiety, she fought broad limiting beliefs and brings her broad transformational journey to her work.
- We’re all a mix of introversion and extroversion
- Activate based on what you love
- The “solitude sandwich” is how some of us refuel (go out and give, withdraw to regain focus, go out and give)
- The “Big Light Secret” is the opposite of the downward spiraling big dark secret. As confidence builds, people shine.
- Networking should never be fake.
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- Stay away from openers like the weather and traffic. Those can set a potentially negative tone for the conversation. Instead, ask about lighter things while acknowledging the situation: “What’s your favorite thing about Shelter In Place?”
- Networking has expanded because we’re virtual. You can easily be at an event with people from all over the world!
- Stephanie believes in connection: Connection - Confidence - Consciousness
- Then she said something else akin to something I say all the time, “Stay Curious!” and she asks us to pay attention to how the external is affecting the internal.
Go to StephanieThoma.com/freebie for a free download of her Working Remotely Worksheet
Here to grab a copy of her book!
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089ZZ6T58?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420&fbclid=IwAR33ff1ygDJQdE5HNyy2brb1RCZYeWRiF-T361X3KjrfO2i3-YN0SgOnguQ
Final words? “Trust Yourself,” she says.
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We all have voices in our heads, those not ours, that still follow us.
We’ve been told what to do, wear, eat, and how to be.
I was told that I wasn’t living into my potential and I was laughed at by a teacher in high school who called me ridiculous for thinking I’d ever earn a PhD.
I was told that there are two types of audiences: those that want to see you make a mistake and those who hope you fail.
How horrible that those voices got in and stuck with me. Despite the influencers’ voices, I went on. I made it. I knew there was more for me.
And you know there’s more for you, too. The trick is that you have to start paying attention to the voices that are guiding you. Are They Yours?
Chances are, they’re from some authority that you adopted as your own. And, chances are, those voices really aren’t serving you.
It’s time to let go of realistic and embrace possibility, real possibility.
It’s time to break free from the shoulds and supposed to's and live into a life of being Unreasonable!
Look for Amazon Prime TV’s series SpeakUp!
I’m a featured speaker in Season Two and my segment is all about The Power of Being Unreasonable!
Want to break from the voices from the past and step into a more powerful future for yourself. Reach out to me to get in on the next Powerful Presence Program - a three-month online group program designed to get you to your next big next!
https://calendly.com/waynepernell/30-minute-power-call
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Moving from Influence through Success to true Significance is an art.
It’s a magical journey.
By my definition, an influencer is someone who makes the process about themselves. Whether through Social Media or a person in authority along your path (a parent, a teacher, etc.) you’ve been told things for the sake of fitting in.
I move beyond that to Outfluence™.
An Outfluencer™ is someone who Deliberately, Actively, Positively™ impacts, and uplifts the lives of others.
Success is about getting and having. It’s how you measure your progress. And, it’s not the only measure of progress.
Back to Outfluence™. When you lift others Deliberately, Actively, Positively™, you act in a way that leaves a more lasting legacy. THAT is Significance.
Be Deliberate
Be Active
Be Positive
...in all of your engagement with others.
That’s Significance
And you can get your own copy of the #1 Best Selling Book, The Significance Factor, by going to DynamicLeader.com and downloading it!
Are you lying to yourself about why you’re procrastinating?
Procrastination is the barometer of your commitment.
So how fully are you committed to doing the thing you say you want to do? Think about any challenges you’ve had in the past. The things you’ve followed through on were the ones you had a full commitment to.
Almost doing something isn’t the same as doing it.
Do you see your taxes being filed every year? Yes, because you’re committed to doing them. You don’t always have to like what you’re committed to. You’ll follow through, though.
So what about the things you DO like?
Are you committed to following your dreams? The process will be hard. You will fail along the way. And as long as you’re learning, you’re going to make it happen… IF your commitment is stronger than the obstacles.
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So many high-level executives are disillusioned with being “at the top.”
The thing is, if you’re lonely at the top, you’re doing it wrong.
The other thing to remember is that YOU are a leader, no matter where you are in an organization, family, or community. YOU. You’re a model for someone. If you’re around people, you’re being observed.
So, you owe it to yourself to be your best self.
Key points in this episode:
- Push
- Serve Greatly
- Excel
How? Five key things you need to be valuing. Then, leading (and being in the state of leading = leadership) won’t suck.
- Value your time. No one else will if you don’t. Be willing to delegate (not abdicate).
- Value your health, energy, and vitality. Invest in your sleep, what you eat, and how much you smile. Breathe in deeply and exhale fully.
- Value the people around you. Everyone wants to know that what they’re doing makes a difference and they want to be acknowledged for contributing. Can you make sure that the people around you in your organization AND at home know that?
- Value your financial resources. Are you obsessing or checking and tracking? Or, do you have your head in the sand instead of checking and tracking? Yeah, it’s that check and track thing. Do that.
- Value your growth and development. The most elite and highest performing athletes have coaches that help them get better. Not because the coaches are better athletes, but because the coaches can see things that the players can’t. You NEED an outside perspective if you’re going to move to your next level. If you’ve had a coach, you know that’s true. If you’ve never had a coach, it’s time to find one.
If you’d like to know more about getting elite-level coaching to get you to your next step, or to find out what program might be the best fit, schedule a complimentary call with me!
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Are you sick of being shut in and fed up with the rules, especially the rules that are changing?
You’re not alone. And even with all of the rules, imagine what would happen if all of a sudden it were announced that we could “go back to normal.” There would be chaos!
Most of us have found things we like in the past six months. Personally, my commute is shorter. My trips to the gas station are infrequent. And I get to have lunch with my wife almost every day. That’s something that didn’t happen last year.
None of this is personal - it’s not being done TO YOU; it’s a pandemic and if you look at some of the newspapers from around the world, you’ll see that it really isn’t political.
Here are the key things to remember:
- You are strong
- You are courageous
- You are resilient
This is not about what you can’t have.
This is about what you can do, have, or be with you do have!
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Let’s talk leadership language. You wouldn’t blurt out something horrible about a baby to someone. It’s a curious thing that phrases like, “that’s the worst report I’ve seen” or “what are you thinking” are leaked into organizational conversations.
Be careful, because the organization could be one at home.
The language you use affects yourself and everyone around you.
What language do you use when you look in the mirror?
You wouldn’t let anyone else talk to you that way, so… what kind of subconscious messaging are you giving yourself, your kids, your partner, your teammates?
While cheerleading isn’t necessary, being deliberately uplifting is important. And if there’s a miss, it IS okay to note it.
“We agreed to xyz. That didn’t happen. It’s not here. I need this fixed.”
Whether it’s a report or dishes in the sink, “We agreed to xyz. The condition that I’m seeing is different from what we agreed to. Please fix it.”
The language you use both subconsciously and consciously influences the outcomes you get.
Whether you are looking in a mirror, speaking with a family member, or engaging a team member at work, choose the language of inspiration.
You’ll get better engagement when the positive is personal and the negative goes neutral.
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Two of the most UN-SEXY words you’ll ever hear: Tax Reform
Am I right? Yes, and yet this expert gives us insights in the taxes work AND in leadership. Personally, I learned A LOT in this interview and I’m happy to share Julio Gonzalez with you.
His top points relate to ALL OF US, and that makes this topic just A LITTLE MORE SEXY.
- He got into this niche because he thought he could Do Better: better for himself and better for his clients.
- He noted that it’s not just the Fortune companies that deserve a break, but the smaller businesses, the ones that make up the U.S., that need the breaks. (He used the word, “Deserve.” Small businesses deserve a break!)
- Tax Reform Laws don’t happen that often, probably only twice before in our lifetime. Now that we’re in a pandemic, there’s urgency to get help to businesses. If we’re $2 Trillion in debt with the CARES Act and going $3 trillion in debt with the Heroes Act, the question is, can we manage that?
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- By the way, $2 trillion is $2,000,000,000
- Julio advises the entire senate base (that’s 100 people)
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- There are 400 in the House, 100 in the Senate, and then there’s the President all of whom need to align to get Tax Reform done. Emergencies cause urgency and this pandemic has swung people to talking in ways they hadn’t in decades.
- Julio has several hundred employees and says that as the CEO he likes to hire great people and then get out of their way.
- And he encourages people to own their own business, “It’s great to be an entrepreneur!”
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Julie has 20 years of experience in learning and development, with a focus on Employee Engagement. She’s a podcaster, blogger, and on her way to becoming a blogger.
She overcame the thought of “you can’t do that” when she became an entrepreneur and began bringing her topics focused on employee engagement to a broader audience.
She says, “I never saw myself as an entrepreneur.”
She realized that she was never going to find her “perfect job” because she had to create it. And then she set out to find out if she could do it.
Now her focus is on lifting others and helping her clients become happy doing the work they love.
Find her PeaceAndPossibility podcast on your favorite listening platform.
Reach out to Julie via her website contact form at www.2PossibilityAndBeyond.com
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
This is simple - the ultimate cost is death. You can’t be all things to all people. If you try, you’ll wear yourself out. We’ve all encountered people that want to make things just right. They’ll annoy the heck out of you to make sure you’re okay. And if that’s you, stop it.
Pick your audience. Know how you’re going to show up in service to that audience, whether through a product or direct offering of service.
Do that thing.
It’s simple, but it’s not always easy. We want to make sure people get what they want.
The thing is, you don’t have to be the one to give it ALL to them.
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Five Cs to pay attention to:
Culture - you’re building that through your vision and you’ll catch people doing things right. It’s too easy to notice the stuff that’s out of place for you.
How clear are you about your vision?
How aligned with your vision are your actions?
Creating your culture starts with your clarity about values, creating a values-based vision, and living into and from that.
Catch ‘em - Catch them doing something right! You get more of what you focus on, so whether you’re dealing with a three-year-old or with a team who have ideas about the way things “should” be, when the direction and behavior are aligned with the values and the vision, notice it.
Celebrate - too much time usually passes between the good work and the recognition. People want to be recognized for their contribution. You’ll get more from your team when you celebrate with your team!
Communicate - It’s one thing if YOU know the values and the vision. It’s another for everyone around you to know them too. It gives them an opportunity to step up and step in or, if they’re not aligned, to step away. Communicate what you value.
Consistency - While slot machines payout randomly, leaders need to be consistent. You cannot show up one day espousing the values you believe in and show up another day completely out of alignment with them. That’s not leadership. It builds mistrust and people wait for what will be the next lie rather than evidence of living in integrity. Be consistent. Live in alignment.
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Your bottom line is affected by your values, your ability to identify what matters to you and to your business, and to live into those values authentically and in alignment.
You don’t have the same values you did a decade or so ago. Nor should you.
You’ve changed.
The world has changed.
When was the last time you did a values inventory?
When was the last time you let other people know what you value or believe in?
And are you certain that what you’ve claimed as your values are really yours and not someone else’s voice of influence?
You’re different from who you were.
What path do you want to be on?
The path of high performance as a DynamicLeader is one that starts with clarity and certainty.
Get clear about what’s IN and what’s no longer a part of who you are or how you are.
Communicate that through your words AND your actions.
When you get alignment, those around you align with you or the fall away. Either is good.
It’s a powerful path.
If you’d like a copy of my #1 Best Selling Book, The Significance Factor, you can find it on my website: www.WaynePernell.com - it’s my gift to you as a listener.
See you here next time!
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Most people are “allergic” to change. They like the idea of being different or having a different lifestyle, but getting there seems so out of reach.
It’s time to get comfortably uncomfortable. Like when you first start a new exercise program - it’s not easy and it might actually not feel all that great. What makes it easier? What happens that it becomes really good?
Three things to do -
First, listen. Listen to the voices in your head. You want something but these other voices compete and tell you that there are other more important things to do. Or, you hear (feel) that you might not be worthy of the end result. Or, you begin to question whether the work is worth it.
The question is whether the outcome is worth it.
Next plan. If you have a plan for gaining more customers (that means reaching out in a way you haven’t before), or shedding some pounds (set out your workout clothes, set an alarm), or whatever you’re after - you need to plan to do it.
And the third step is to practice. Do The Thing and do it again and do it again.
This is where it gets uncomfortable until, at some point, it’s no longer uncomfortable.
Whether you are building your business or growing yourself personally to trans-form is to cross to a new shape. That’s a new shape of your life. And, you’re worth it!
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Asa Leveaux is a gentleman who won’t be confined or defined by any role. He’s overcome A LOT while living in Oklahoma. Being a black man in the LGBTQ community hasn’t slowed him down because he only associates with those who would celebrate him, not just tolerate him.
He’s an entrepreneurial coach, the founder of the Oklahoma Black Business Expo, a best-selling author, a podcaster, and so much more.
Asa describes how in following others who are on big stages, he compared himself to them. In doing so, he knew he’d never be like them. “I was never supposed to be like them.” They became lights on his journey to become a light to others, by being himself, not by being anyone else!
He notes that “...to be realistic is to deny your complete self.”
He notes having grown-up short and says he was “too short to be scared.” He just had to step in. Resilience is key.
Look for this Entrepreneurial Bliss Coach on the House of Leveaux and find him at www.AsaLeveaux.com
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Happy Mid-Year! Yes, we’re halfway through and you get to acknowledge the gifts that you were given during the first half of the year!
You are resilient - the rules kept changing and you hung in
As a result, you built greater resilience AND courage! Think about how ready you are to take on “things unknown.” You’re different from who you were at this point last year. You’re stronger!
2020 wasn’t done TO you.
It’s not personal.
But what if it were personal? And what if it was done FOR you, not TO you?
Look at your gains. Look ahead to the rest of the year.
You get to decide what you value and how to put more of that in your life.
You get to decide what your days look like.
You get to decide how to stay focused and when to break.
YOU GET TO…!
Happy Mid-Year! Go crush the next six months!
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Lou Diamond is a keynote speaker, best-selling author, and the host of Thrive Loud an amazing podcast; he’s a business coach and the author of Master The Art of Connecting. He worked his way OFF of Wall Street after two and a half decades in sales, he recognized his super-power is really to be a super-connector. Lou is a master at relationship management, business development, and leadership coaching.
Key points of this amazing conversation:
- When you connect, you thrive!
- Start somewhere
- Question your frustration to determine, are you unhappy or unfulfilled
- There is HUGE power in Empathy
- Everyone has a favorite way to communicate. When you understand that, you can connect with them more deeply.
- The pitfalls of selling are in selling. You have to listen. Then you have to ask for the business.
- 5-step process: V-O-I-C-E to bring to any connection:
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- Vision
- Opportunity
- Identity
- Compassion
- Energy
Bottom line: Conversations matter!
See what Lou is up to at https://thriveloud.com
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Most leaders like to think they have everything under control and when they don’t, they pull in the reins, tightening the control, which often leads to more out-of-control-ness.
The three resources you’re managing badly are these:
- Your time!
- You’re treating the calendar page like it’s a bad thing and you look at the clock like it’s a threat.
- We all have 24-hours in a day
- Manage your projects, not your time. Treat everything from emails to meetings like projects. Give them time slots. Give your projects time slots for you to hunker down and focus exclusively on them.
- Your money!
- You may or may not be tracking cash flow. You might be misestimating what you need.
- Look at your projects
- Look at what each might require
- Look at your past production
- And again it’s back to project management with timelines and expectations for results
- You haven’t invested in yourself. I spend tens of thousands (over the years, it’s been hundreds of thousands) of dollars on my own personal development to be at my best for my clients. How much are you spending on you to sharpen who you are personally and professionally?
- Set dedicated funds aside to work with a solid coach!
- You may or may not be tracking cash flow. You might be misestimating what you need.
- Your people!
- You haven't really acknowledged that the work they’re doing is meaningful and matters to you and the company.
- The same holds true for your family. Focus, engage and let them know that they matter to you.
- You haven't really acknowledged that the work they’re doing is meaningful and matters to you and the company.
It’s really simple but funny enough, it’s not easy!
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Dr P interviews Dr G, and they talk TRUTH and cutting through to what matters most.
Dr Gathers, host of The Truth Prescription, is an emergency medicine physician who came through childhood trauma and debilitating illness to help others determine what matters most.
Gems from this interview:
- All there is me
- I have a choice
- Choice leads to action
- This matches Dr P’s book, Choosing Your Power where he talks about awareness leads to choice and choice leads to awareness.
- Life lessons get more subtle
- Patience is a life lesson
- Dr G shared another common theme shared by Dr P: There’s a difference between knowing and understanding. You can never really understand what someone else is going through; you might have empathy. Sympathy is profoundly different.
- Dr G’s next efforts will focus on his new short film production
Find out more at https://www.thetruthprescription.com
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
We’ve come to a place where we’re not sure that what we’re doing matters. Does it make a difference if you go into work, shower for the zoom call, or even greet a teammate since it’s remote?
We feel remote and that’s a problem. We simply feel disconnected.
When we’re not connected with our work or the people who are affected by our work, nothing really matters. As good humans, we want to know that our work is meaningful and that our contributions are valued.
The first person to give meaning to your work is YOU. The next person is the leadership at your work. And if you’re the leader, then call on your executive team - “does this even matter?”
And, be sure that they know that their work matters to you.
This goes for your family and friends as well: Hey, thank you. That conversation meant a lot. I really appreciate it.
Again, the concept is simple while the practice isn’t always easy.
Go make your meaning and be deliberate about uplifting someone today!
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
From civil engineer to Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach!
Jane reverse-engineered the health she wanted after crippling rheumatoid arthritis took her down. She kept metrics and followed through on processes that she researched. Though a critical thinker, she recognized the importance of mindset.
Pay attention to how the gut affects the brain!
Suggestions: Slow it down; relax and enjoy your food. Be grateful.
Use the Reticular Activating System to your advantage and visualize what you want, not what you don’t want (health is different from the absence of disease).
Leverage your Central Nervous System so that you’re not in fight/flight but in rest, relax, and rejuvenate.
Free morning guide and other info at www.JaneHoganHealth.com
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
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Who we were just a few months ago is far different from who we are now
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Even if we live with uncertainty, we cannot live in fear
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We have different values now; how will you nurture them moving forward?
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What is your relationship with yourself, with your family, with your co-workers and team? What is your relationship with Spirit? And, dare I ask, what is your relationship with money right now?
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What are you doing to be more fully expressed? How are you demonstrating your creativity in the world?
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What is The Number One Action Step you can take right now to make the biggest difference in your life?
Think about that… then take action!Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
- Leadership is different from management
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Leaders don’t rely on positional authority
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Real Leadership is based more on your Powerful Presence™ and how fully you engage with others
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The Powerful Presence™ Formula has five steps, from owning your space to communicating clearly. Understanding your values past, present, and future allows you to grow.
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Show up as YOU, unapologetic, without asking for permission (or seeking Likes)
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Discern What Matters – What’s “in” and what’s “out?”
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Choose one action step that’ll move the needle for you. And GO!
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Once a trainer of diplomatic attaches, she now helps high-level speakers connect with the right audiences, even in - perhaps especially in - these changing times!
On this podcast, you’ll hear Annette talk about:
- Radical self-responsibility
- Building stories while overcoming adversity
- What it means to “trust the process”
- Knowing deep down that we can each figure it out
- Getting over “imposter syndrome” to truly connect with people
- A connection is the “secret sauce”
- Deep belief/faith that It’s Going To Be Okay!
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
We’re a little frenzied right now as our roles at home blend with who our roles at work if there is any work. We feel like we’re falling behind and that we’re in a game of catch-up.
What to do?
- Recognize that you actually need distinct roles for work, home, and community
- Get control of your schedule for different projects
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- Be sure to include YOU on that project list
- Give yourself a little grace for what you can’t do because you’re doing a lot already
- Don’t wait to start new habits. The seeds of the habits you plant today will yield either results or consequences in a month or two down the road.
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
- Transformational coach, speaker, former dancer and dj
- Coming from a place of service makes a HUGE difference
- Leaders need to come back to humanity and open up lines of communication for their organizations - authentically, vulnerably.
- No one, NO ONE, has all the answers (but we might just have the ability to figure things out and get through)
- Show up in service to others - to your team, organization, family, and yourself!
- Cut through to what matters most - there’s A LOT of noise out there. Cut through the noise, get your information, and get off line before you’re inundated further.
- We’re used to stress in stages and we can handle that. We’re experiencing a stress marathon with messages changing all the time. Recognize that we’ll go through the ups and downs of hope and fear. Keep looking forward and point yourself in the direction of possibility
- www.PetraKolber.com
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Bob Lee is an author and international speaker. He’s the CEO of TrustLabs, based in the UK. On today’s show, we talk about leadership and management and the core teachings from his book, Trust Rules.
- Investing in employees isn’t wasting money; in fact, treating people well is essential.
- Perks and benefits don’t make the workplace great; Building Trust and genuine Relationships do.
- As a leader, be habitually available. Having an open door doesn’t always mean approachable.
- Keep the small promises - “I’ll get back to you” means just that.
- Everyone is a leader. (Not everyone is in a position to manage.)
- Treating everyone equally is NOT treating everyone fairly.
- Feedback has come to be such a negative word, but really it’s positive, negative, or focused on some improvement.
- Having fun at work means that you’re relaxed and essentially the same person at home and at work. Being relaxed equates with providing better service.
- Control the controllables. Let go of what you can’t.
- Don’t judge people by their appearances.
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- Fun exercise during introductions: state who you are, where you’re from, and something surprising.
- Trust becomes grown in the culture.
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Ari is the CEO of Quantum Media Group, LLC. and has been seen regularly on Fox News, CNBC, and CNN. He’s known for keeping his eye on the future and today, he talks about success.
- Business is personal.
- Relationships require giving more than you expect.
- Becoming trustworthy is a two-way street.
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- Be clear about your expectations.
- Model what you want to see in others.
- Toxicity is out there, so be dependable.
- Remember that success is both timing and luck; Being prepared for your luck helps a lot.
- Remember that success isn’t always about money; “I love what I do” and that’s a big component of success
- Humanizing others is huge (#StartsWithOne). Ari described an exercise I learned in early training back in the 80s. I’ve since used it in my retreats from time to time. He challenges people to hold eye-contact for a full minute and see what happens. (All I ask is that people hold eye-contact for two seconds, long enough to connect and register eye-color.) This eye contact thing - it’s harder than it looks. #Rehumanization #StartsWithOne
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Elated to have this award-winning director from NYC visit today! She’s danced with Barishnikov and brought talent together on numerous stages. Now, she runs The Big Talk, Speaker’s Salon, and Speakers Who Dare.
Tricia brings us these lessons:
- Desire must be clear and strong - a wish isn’t enough
- Live consciously - both ON Purpose and IN Purpose
- Open to greater possibility to serve the planet
- Keep in the human space of empathy
- Stay on your course; focus your direction
Free gift: Text TRICIA to 44222
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
What does it take to get through these uncertain times? I’m guilty of perhaps overusing the term “pivot.” And what does that even mean? What it comes down to is this:
- Recognize that uncertainty exists
- You do not have to have all of the answers for everyone
- Be VERY particular about where you get your information
- Make momentary decisions based on your new information
- Course correct based on new information
- Recognize you’ve been uncertain before and you’ve gotten through
- Know where you’re headed (that makes course correction a lot easier)
- Engage with wonder and curiosity. Doing so allows you to make peace with uncertainty.
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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
- Too many leaders are tied up trying to catch up
- Business has fallen back to the transaction and the “deal”
- It’s time to remember what matters most - the RELATIONSHIP you have with your organization, your team members, your customers, your vendors, the community, and your family
- Remember that Re-Lation-Ship means the state of coming together again. Who do you need to connect with, and how?
- Bringing your Powerful Presence is a must!
- There’s no 50/50 in a relationship. It must be 100/100 and even if the other doesn’t bring 100, you keep showing up.
- Dear leader, you lead the way; show up in the way that you want to have others follow or join you. Be clear, be compassionate, be uplifting.
- Know your values
- Set your strategy based on those values
- Communicate what you believe in and where you’re heading
Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword! Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading. www.WaynePernell.com/blog
One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.
This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental). You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way. This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied. Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking. But hey… look at you now! Listen in! Enjoy!
Who doesn’t want that, a powerful presence? What does that mean? In working with serious high performers, I’ll tell you that it’s not bravado. It’s not bullying. It’s showing up in a way that you engage others by lifting them and gain support from them.
Several tips are offered for stepping into your Powerful Presence, especially as you wind down at bedtime and when you awaken in the morning.
Set your tone for the day by stepping into your Powerful Presence.
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