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It's important to make your Monday awesome because the momentum generated on that day translates directly to the rest of your life. If you're looking to be successful, happy, productive, wealthy, etc., you have to get Monday right. I believe you're designed to be extraordinary and getting Monday right is a vital part of expressing that extraordinary ability!
Isn't being wrong the worst, yet the best? There is nothing worse that that cold chill followed by complete embarrassment when your deepest conviction, the one that you vocally and passionately supported, was found to be completely wrong. There is also nothing better because you have dropped an incorrect habit or belief from your practice. This week I wanted to discuss how you can leverage the fact that other people think radically different than you to your advantage.
There is nothing quite like a good romp around social media to see how great, beautiful, ripped, wealthy, successful, attractive, happy, vacationing everyone is and how we are lonely loser who isn't doing, or doesn't have any of those things. We all know what it feels like to compare yourself to someone else and how small and miserable it can make us feel. Is there anyway to stop it? Is there anyway to prevent this chronic comparison with others? That's the topic of today's episode
Dan Sullivan of Strategic Coach - you should really look him up if you’re an entrepreneur - has a concept he calls “The Gap” or being in ‘the gap.’ The gap is the mental space you fall into when you have something in mind that you want to achieve yet you’re not there yet. The gap is described as that feeling associated with the frustration of not having achieved your end result while feeling like you’re a failure because there is so much left to go. I was reminded of the gap just yesterday, while doing the thrusters that were programmed for me in my training, how easy it is to feel like you’re not enough and you will never get there. Of course when I turn around and look at all the good things I’ve done since the last open I feel proud of myself, but if you’re not trained to do that, it’s normal to get discouraged and quit. Enjoy -Dr. Kresimir Jug
I love that the idea of self love, self esteem and self care are becoming more and more popular and talked about. I love that people are aware of the mental health struggles that we are having as a society and that they inherently recognize that we need to care for ourselves and that it’s ok to love and value yourself. But how do we do that? On today’s episode I discuss what I did to make the largest leaps in my feelings of self worth and self esteem. Enjoy -Dr. Kresimir Jug
Are you a step ahead or are you step behind? If you’re like me then you are both. Some days I’ve got it figured out and then other days I feel like I want to hop on plane and never come back. One of the things that I’ve noticed has made a huge impact in enjoying my days is my ability to prepare for the day ahead. If I’m able to do that, it makes a massive impact. But how do you that? I know there are various ways, on this episode I’ll share what I do. I hope it can help. Enjoy -Dr. Kresimir Jug
Am I the only person who was the best, most knowledgable parent in the world, before I had kids? It’s funny how experience is a great and humbling teacher. I wanted to share something, a way of thinking, that has been very helpful as a parent and I’m hoping you can take it and use it. The idea is not sacrificing the long term for the short term. What does that mean? For example, my children eat too much junk food for my liking. And every time their grand parents give them junk food I get a visceral reaction to it. I don’t believe my response is correct; I want to tell them (passionately) that it’s unhealthy and they shouldn’t eat it. But then I think, if I do that, what would be the long term affect of that action over time? My answer - probably a negative emotional association to food - A very bad problem to have. My simple point - be conscious of the big things that you want your children to learn from you and don’t let the ‘in the moment things’ get in the way. Enjoy -Dr. Kresimir Jug
Am I the only person who was the best, most knowledgable parent in the world, before I had kids? It’s funny how experience is a great and humbling teacher. I wanted to share something, a way of thinking, that has been very helpful as a parent and I’m hoping you can take it and use it. The idea is not sacrificing the long term for the short term. What does that mean? For example, my children eat too much junk food for my liking. And every time their grand parents give them junk food I get a visceral reaction to it. I don’t believe my response is correct; I want to tell them (passionately) that it’s unhealthy and they shouldn’t eat it. But then I think, if I do that, what would be the long term affect of that action over time? My answer - probably a negative emotional association to food - A very bad problem to have. My simple point - be conscious of the big things that you want your children to learn from you and don’t let the ‘in the moment things’ get in the way. Enjoy -Dr. Kresimir Jug
Pretend your life is one room with only one door leading in and out. The only way anything - a person, a career choice, a partner - can enter your life is through that one door. Likewise the only way they can exist is through that door. At the door stands a door man carrying a list. On that list is a set of your values and nobody is allowed to get through the door and into your life unless they are on that list, meeting your values. We’ve all had people, or things, in our lives, that we knew at the very beginning we shouldn’t associated with or let into our life. They don’t mesh well with us and they have brought pain an suffering. I’m not saying they are necessarily bad people, just not right for us. The best way to avoid these things happening is to block these people from getting into your life in the first place. Use the door man principle to help. Enjoy -Dr. Kresimir Jug
It’s been a hard week. I had to say goodbye to a close family member. Someone I grew up with, had many experiences with and will miss tremendously. During the whole process I noticed how the grief, trying to come to terms with the situation, and saying good bye, affected me. I was anxious, more judgemental, edgier and would do things - like bicker with my wife - for no good reason. I also notice that when I was alone I would listen to music much more. I would want to hear songs that were familiar to me, that I knew the words to… and then I realize why I was doing this. I was using music as something to ease my pain, to make me forget, to shift my focus, I was using it like a drug to help me cope, and I also realized that I’ve aways used music in that way. Enjoy -Dr. Kresimir Jug
If you’re old enough to remember the classic Seinfeld episode where Jerry Makes a reservation for a car rental you’ll quickly understand the most important point of this video. In the episode Jerry is disappointed because the rental that he made, and was confirmed by the rental company falls through since the car is not there. The classic line was “Your great at taking a reservation, not so much at keeping the reservation.” The same can be said with New Year’s Resolutions; it’s easy to make them, harder to follow through with your New Year’s Resolution, which is the topic of today’s video. Enjoy -Dr. Kresimir Jug
It’s true that New Year’s is just a date and that you don’t need a certain date to set goals you can start anytime. It’s also true that you’ll probably fail at your New Year’s Resolutions, but this doesn’t stop me from loving this time of year. I believe that quiet time, reflection, and planning (all qualities of a rational, reality oriented mind) are good whenever they happen, if the changing of calendar inspires you to do those things - then so be it. This year I have a challenge for you, instead of picking a bunch of things that you would (better bod, more cash) how about you make a resolution to become the person you need to be to get those things, and then check in with yourself on a regular basis to see how you’re doing. I’ll explain more in this episode… Also, I’m taking some time off and I’ll be back on the week of January 9th, so Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and have a safe and Happy New Year. -Dr. K
Have you ever had a goal that you wanted to start pursuing? Maybe it was creating a product, launching a business or even going to the gym and getting fit? You had this massive excitement built up, but then, when it was time to pull the trigger and execute you just couldn't do it? Eventually, you stopped altogether and then (this is worst part) you started telling yourself a story, I'm lazy, I just procrastinate, etc. Lately, I've noticed for myself, that if I lack clarity on a task or goal, I am much less motivated and inspired to accomplish this task. That's what this week's episode is all about. -Dr. K
Have you ever had a week where something unexpected threw a massive wrench in your plans, vision and goals? That was last week for me. Something, completely out of my control, has sucked up most of my time, focus and energy and the worst part is that dealing with it is not getting me closer to my goals. So what should you do? I don’t know much, but I have been alive long enough to know that things are always going to get in the way. In fact, the bigger and better you get, the bigger and meaner the obstacles will become. There is a tendency to think that one day you’ll get ‘there’ and you won’t have to work as hard - the opposite is true - when you get ‘there’ you’ll have to work harder to keep going. This week I wanted to remind you to never lose focus of what it is you’re chasing, and always prioritize time to keep pursuing it. Does this mean becoming more organized and working harder? You bet! But it will be worth it. -Dr. K
As the holidays are approaching and the conversation moves to “Ari what do you want for Christmas?” I find myself torn a little bit. On one hand I want to be able to buy my children everything that I possible can for them. After all I love them, I want their lives to easy and filled with abundance. Then, on the other hand, I know what’s necessary for success in life. I know that I grew up in a family where the answer was always yes and I know how hard it was in life when I had to adapt to the fact that life tells you “no” a lot more often than yes. In fact when I look at my life right now, the biggest blessings I had were the times when I struggled to figure things out for myself. The real issue is not buying gifts or buying gifts, the issue is where do we as parents, or where do you believe we should be drawing the line? -Dr. K
The biggest leverage for me right now is to waste less time, increase my focus and get more work done with the time that I already have allotted to the tasks I do. I hope that made sense. I don’t believe there is anything magic about productivity, I believe it’s like everything else and the same principles that apply to being productive apply to weight loss, or strength gain etc. The biggest gap for me right now is using the time I have to the best of my ability, I doing that by leveraging the journal Rachelle bought me, I’m excited to let you know how it’s been going. -Dr. K
This past week was my 39th birthday and as with all birthdays I was in a reflective spirit. I was thinking about the last year and I asked myself “what was the one thing you did over the past year that has the biggest impact on your life?” It was a hard question to answer. First of all I don’t really recall my specific birthday from last year and second there are so many things that I’ve tried over the past year it was hard to get just one. However, after some thought the answer was reading and applying (that’s the key) David Hawkins book on ‘Letting Go.’ It’s help me find more joy and be at the most peace I’ve ever had before. Let me know what you think. -Dr. K
Getting Your Focus Back When It’s Gone With Dr. Kresimir Jug Have you ever had something happen that just completely busted your focus? What about those days where focusing your mind just felt impossible? I’ve been there, but I’ve had enough. After an incident that happened in my practice this past week I had enough of something, other than myself, taking control of my mental focus. I’m far from an expert at this, so I asked around, and I learned what people who are much better at focusing have been doing. This week’s episode is all about what I’ve learned from them and what I’ve been, successfully, applying. I believe this conversation will be of benefit to you Let me know how it goes. -Dr. K
Don’t be afraid of taking a step back in order to get what you really want in life. I say this, because I know it’s true, yet there are plenty of areas of my life where I still harbour a lot of fear that’s getting in the way of me getting to that next level. Don’t be afraid to try, especially if it doesn’t result in the way you thought it should be. If you’re happy and don’t care about ‘the next level’ then don’t change a thing, keep being happy and that’s awesome. But if you’re unhappy, then be ok with it going wrong, or not finding the correct formula right away. That’s advice that I needed to hear today, hope it helps. -Dr. K
It's not enough to know what you don't want. I don't want to depressed, I don't want to feel anxious, I don't want a crappy marriage, I don't want to be fat, etc. It's much better to be able to frame your goals and vision in the positive. I want great mental healthy, I want to love my body, I want an amazing marriage, etc. It might sound like it's semantics, but it's really not. For example if you're 'not depressed,' that's better than being depressed, but it doesn't eliminate anxiety, psychosis, mania and other negative mental states. However, if the goal or target is great mental health - then that assumes no depression, no anxiety, no mood swings, etc. I might sound like a little difference, but in my experience it's these little changes in the way we say it or want it that make the biggest difference.
Today is an important day for me. October the 17th, 2018 marks my 9th wedding anniversary. My wife is my top value and I’m thrilled and proud that I’m able to celebrate this occasion and the fact that we’ve been together for 18 years in total. It also go me thinking, since it hasn’t all been one smooth ride over 18 years, if I could go back and give myself the talk, what would I say? What have I learned over those years, and how could it be helpful. That’s what this episode is all about. -Dr. K