It amazes me that we humans reject certain things and only accept them after paying a heavy price. When we have to accept what we rejected before is a big question why not then have not then accepted from the beginning?

Change goes in four main stages. These are rejection, resistance, acceptance, and demanding what we initially rejected.

Change happens but at a heavy cost. Like two warring countries rejecting a compromising solution and going to war both suffering heavy losses. Only then, do they accept what they initially rejected?

The question that we need all answer is can we accept change from outside even if we do not accept ourselves and suffer from self-rejection?

Self-rejection happens when we accept what others think of us and we sink into the belief that we are worthless. When we face self-rejection, we fall into despair. We lose hope and may reach a stage of depression.

It is a reverse cycle of normal change. It is accepting the low evaluation of others in us to reject ourselves.

The antagonist becomes us more than the antagonist from outside who demean us. Can be there any hope to make a meaningful change before defeating the antagonist inside us?

My answer is no. We can only walk our way in life if we first accept ourselves. By doing so, we gain self-esteem. We gain self-confidence. We become more aware of our authenticity. We become self-supporters.

When we accept pain, we can change. We save our energy and resources to move forward rather than draining them and becoming even less self-accepting.

Change has a story that tells us unless we accept ourselves we cannot deal with changes from outside. We fail to adapt and lose our agility. We reject ourselves like people who reject the wrinkles of time. They spend their effort on fighting time. Eventually, they realize that the only way forward is to accept themselves with their wrinkles.

Accepting what we rejected before can be very costly. Let us accept who we are.