Live and Lead for Impact with Kirsten E. Ross: Recent Episodes
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EP 312 Leslie Kuster
On this episode of The Live and Lead with Impact Podcast, Coach Kirsten is joined by guest, Leslie Kuster! Leslie Kuster is a successful entrepreneur whose goal is to guide women over 50 to find freedom and financial stability and fall in love with life again. Coach Kirsten and Leslie speak about how it’s never too late to create success, financial wealth and create a life of freedom.
Leslie gives us an insight into the seven master keys women need to unlock a successful, money-making businesses through the likes of principles, tools and steps that Leslie trialled and tested for over 20 years. Coach Kirsten and Leslie discuss how mindset is one of the key differentiators between entrepreneurs and successful entrepreneurs. Leslie speaks about how you have to start from the inside out by getting aligned with what authentic success means to you and figuring out what your attitude and relationship with money really looks like in order to build a 6+ figure business. Coach Kirsten and Leslie talk through the challenges Leslie faced regarding money, what she wanted and what she yearned for.
Coach Kirsten and Leslie also speak about a less commonly discussed topic when it comes to financial freedom and building a successful business: What does success do to your life? Leslie speaks about having imposter syndrome and fear of failure but also shares how she more so struggled with the worries of how becoming successful will change her life, affect her relationships and dealing with the change.
Coach Kirsten and Leslie speak about Leslie’s currently big challenge of learning how to delegate and chose the right people for your team. Leslie shares how she has been struggling to build great teams to help her run her women’s clothing brand, Back from Bali, so that she can focus on her new consulting business without Back from Bali having to suffer through the loss of her attention.
Leslie reminds us with her words of wisdom to those looking to start a successful business that success will look different for everyone based on what each individual wants and yearns for. Leslie states that you matter, you can and if you really want it then that’s you’re spirit talking to you and you have to listen as it’s not something everyone experiences!
You can find out more information about Leslie and her businesses, or get in contact with her through the following links:
https://www.lesliekuster.com
https://www.amazon.com/backfrombali www.lesliekuster.com/book
www.lesliekuster.com/7mistakes
www.instagram.com/lesliekusterofficial
https://www.facebook.com/LeslieKusterOfficial/
www.linkedin.com/in/lesliekuster
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBtp1gkqsNilja1ehn4NHHw
If you enjoyed this episode and want to gain a deeper insight into everything Coach Kirsten has to offer you, head over to the following websites:
www.FocusForwardCoaching.com/bookcall/
Ep 311 Donna Dahl
Please welcome Donna Dahl. She is an award-winning empowerment coach who has written six books. She was listed as one of the top 20 Empowerment Coaches in the world and her articles appear in print as well as online publications. She is the author of Lesson I Learned from the Tortoise a popular self-empowerment book.
Donna explains what it means to be an empowerment coach and tells us it’s for people who want to make that next step in their lives, whether it’s a career change, a promotion in their job or a new side hustle.
Donna opens up about how she was heavily bullied when she was in school which never allowed her to build any confidence in herself. She talks about how when she’d make a mistake playing piano at a recital, she’d feel awful for days. She also discusses a car accident she was involved in which shifted her entire world and forced her to reinvent herself. It’s these two life events which pushed her into being an empowerment coach.
Kirsten asks about the strategies Donna used to navigate through her personal transformation, as Donna tells us about her completing her master’s degree in educational psychology, where she focused on memory and self-learning. Later she was asked to write an article for a magazine and quickly after was encouraged to write a book, which launched her coaching enterprise.
If you think you might want to engage with Donna, some of the things you may be feeling like your current line of work isn’t a fit for you. You may ask yourself if you’re in the right field but looking for a new place to work which would fit better or perhaps you’re considering a whole new field.
Kirsten asks about a current challenge Donna is facing, and she tells us she is struggling to find leaders withing corporations which are in need of support. Kirsten recommends connecting to the people who work with leaders and recommends networking and connecting generally. She recommends not falling into the trap of quantity over quality and to go with authentic curiosity.
Donna finishes with her words of wisdom, where she recommends to take life as marathon, and spice it up with sprints.
You can find Donna’s book on Amazon which is called Lessons I Learned From The Tortoise and reach out to Donna and connect with her on her website donnapdahl.com
If you enjoyed this episode and want to gain a deeper insight into everything Coach Kirsten has to offer you, head over to the following websites:
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EP 310 Jeff Marconnette, Jr
On this episode of The Live and Lead with Impact Podcast, Coach Kirsten is joined by Jeff Marcontette Jr. Jeff Marcontette Jr. shares his incredible story of how one life altering moment shaped the man he is today and gave him an opportunity to help others make every second count! Jeff Marcontette Jr. is a transformational speaker, author, coach, youth mentor and host of Make Every Second Count.
Coach Kirsten and Jeff discuss the moment Jeff’s live changed forever when a semi-truck ran a red light and t-boned him, leaving him unconscious and leading to two weeks in a coma whilst many serious injuries including a traumatic brain injury that proceeded to affect his speech and movement. Jeff speaks about how he feels empowered when he gets the opportunity to speak to others and remind them why it's so important to make every second count, as not many people get a second chance at life but he is one of them.
Jeff shares how he began his transformation speaker career two years after his accident and how learned that mindset is the most powerful tool we can use. Coach Kirsten and Jeff talk about how we cannot control the events that occur throughout our lives and to those around us, but what we can control is our reaction towards these events and how we chose to move forward from them.
Coach Kirsten and Jeff work through some money mindset strategies and feelings of guilt that come with charging for your time and knowledge. Coach Kirsten reminds us that we must not de-value ourselves, even when doing what you do out of passion and not a desire for money. Coach Kirsten states that others cannot benefit and take value from sharing our experiences and life lessons if we don’t value then ourselves.
Jeff shares some inspiring words of wisdom for those who want to make an impact in the world and expresses how transformational affirmations have been in his life, but how they only work if you have a consistent routine in which you use them. Coach Kirsten and Jeff encourage you to take the opportunities and make the jump on the things you have been putting off because tomorrow is never guaranteed so you need to make every minute count!
To get in touch or find out more information about Jeff you can find him through the following links:
www.jeffmarconettejr.com
www.youtube.com/c/jeffmarconettejr
www.instagram.com/jeffmarconettejr
www.facebook.com/jefijr
www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmarconettejr
If you enjoyed this episode and want to gain a deeper insight into everything Coach Kirsten has to offer you, head over to the following websites:
www.FocusFowardCoaching.com/bookcall/
Ep 309 Denise Fawn Schroder
Denise is a top-ranked realtor in Oklahoma and the CEO of Schroder Real Estate Group with her husband, Troy. They have sold 650 homes in just 10 years and their mission and motto is "Serve like you are Chosen." Denise is a coach, speaker, marketing strategist, realtor and author of the new book, “Out of the Box”.
Denise begins by talking about her desires of becoming a real estate agent 20 years ago, but she was told she couldn’t do it by her ex-husband and father of her children. She left that toxic relationship and met a FedEx driver who she fell for. They blended a family of 5 teenagers, quit their jobs to became self-employed and got into the financial service industry, but some advice from a friend turned out to be untrue, so they left that industry and decided to move back to real estate.
Kirsten dives deeper into Denise’s past relationship, with Denise telling us she lost herself, but the new relationship changed her life in so many ways. She talks about the differences she gets between her current relationship and her previous one, and how much healthier she is now.
Kirsten talks about how faith-based people often see themselves as fixers to the detriment. Denise talks about how she didn’t want the unhealed parts of herself to hurt anyone else, so she was able to focus on healing herself. She also talks about how the people around her tried to fix her, but there’s no magic pill or cookie cutter method, you have to put in the work yourself and go on the journey
Denise also discusses her own guilt and shame and feeling like a failure, but found a place where her failures and mistakes gave her more credibility and to be a beacon of hope to others looking to find their way out of their own situations.
Kirsten asks Denise about her big challenge right now, as she explains with her publisher dying 4 days before her book came out, she feels quite overwhelmed with all of the things she has to do on top of her book. Kirsten recommends paring down what goes on her list of things to do, and recommends a 24/7 blend. Kirsten also gives Denise a few tips on mindset and how she can better adapt her thinking to save her from overwhelm.
Denise shares with us about her book, saying how she shares her unique
marketing approaches, using a social media presence that was really different to what everyone else was doing by using things like TV, media, press release, human interest stories and podcast guesting. She also shares her tips on how to make yourself vulnerable on social media.
Denise’s final words of wisdom are that no matter what phase of life we are in, God uses us every day, we’re all missionaries, so seek every opportunity to help others. We all have story, so share it with others because you never know what impact it could make, where she shares a wonderful story where a social media post of hers saved a life.
You can find the book on Amazon called Out of the Box by Denise Schroeder at just $4.99 on kindle so please feel free to leave an honest review. Make sure to check out her website www.deniseandtroy.com and her social media profiles: Instagram: www.instagram.com/Denisesellsoklahoma FB: www.facebook.com/tdschroder , Tik Tok: troyndenise
If you enjoyed this episode and want to gain a deeper insight into everything Coach Kirsten has to offer you, head over to the following websites:
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Ep 307 Gary Barnes
Gary Barnes is a High-Performance Business and Sales Strategist, National and International Speaker (over 1000 talks). A #1 International Amazon Best-Selling Author and been featured on ABC, CBS, NBC, Fox, PBS & TEDX.
In 1988 Gary was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and told he would be in a wheelchair or dead within 10 years.
He has flown a World War II P-51 fighter, flown on a trapeze, driven in a Destruction Derby and climbed 14,000 foot mountains. He’s a drummer & Police Academy Graduate.
Gary starts by talking about his adventures and how he actually dislikes the nervous energy beforehand, and much prefers the feeling after completing something, saying it’s a feeling of satisfaction. He also talks about the brainwaves of fear and excitement being the same, and with his police training he has been trained to run towards gun fire.
Gary tells an amazing story about going to see Zig Ziglar at one of his last appearances in Denver and how two ladies behind him were ragging on him after the show. This helped Gary realize that if Zig Ziglar couldn’t capture and entire audience, there was no hope for him, so his mindset switched to if he could help one person, that’s enough for him.
Later, Gary talks about getting on stage and when people ask him how it went he tells them to ask someone in the attendance because he doesn’t know what he said because he was in the moment. You’re looking for a relationship with audience and your conversation to be the same both on and off stage.
Kirsten asks Gary about training speakers and the impact he’s making. Gary explains that it was happy accident after the success of his financial planning firm. People began to ask him how he grew his business to such a high level and began trading his knowledge for hamburgers! He talks about how he blends life into his business coaching. Gary also talks about his style of coaching which is to ask a lot of questions and tailor it to the client, rather than telling them to do it his way.
Gary goes into detail about some of the issues he has with writing given his condition which doesn’t allow him to type quickly, where his brain moves much quicker. So instead he uses a software called Dragon which allows him to speak and it transcribes for him, so he was able to speak his book.
‘Make a difference’ is part of Gary’s mission statement, as well as to empower. He explains he isn’t looking to connect his power to you but to help you connect the power which is already within you. He goes on to talk about how when doing his chaplaincy he had to deal with his mortality through writing his own epitaph, which helped him have the mindset like Steven Covey said, ‘start with the end in mind’.
Later, Kirsten asks Gary what challenges he’s going through right now. Gary explains his challenge is with a word he adopted a few years ago which is expansion and the expansion of opportunity. She recommends breaking everything down into manageable chunks, having some patience and not comparing yourself to anything.
Gary shares his final words of wisdom, which came to him in a dream, which is ‘are you a spectator or are you a participant?’ There will be times when you’re a spectator and that’s ok, but it’s important to think about your engagement and whether your participating to the fullest extent.
For more on Gary, you can visit www.GaryBarnesInternational.com or check out his
Facebook page https://facebook.com/garycbarnes and his fan page https://www.Facebook.com/GaryBarnesInternational. He’s also on Twitter so you can find him at @GaryBarnesMax, and on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/speakersalescoachgarybarnes
If you enjoyed this episode and want to gain a deeper insight into everything Coach Kirsten has to offer you, head over to the following websites:
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Ep 306 Meena Kumari Adnani
On today’s episode of The Live and Lead for Impact Podcast, Coach Kirsten is joined by Meena Kumari Adnani. Meena Kumari Adnani is an international High Performance & Business Coach for women, a motivational speaker, and a best-selling author. She is a qualified solicitor in England and Wales and an attorney in New York. For 25 years she held senior-level positions in high-profile companies. Her amazing story is about losing all of the wealth that she made as a Lawer ever since graduation due to trusting the wrong person to manage money. Meena has managed to find strength, change her career and make the same money back in just two years, as an entrepreneur.
Meena starts by telling us her story, explaining how she has pivoted from practicing law and has focused on doing business development, sales and marketing for quite some time now. In 2016, Meena received a call from her financial manager saying she had lost everything, her multiple six figures went down to zero, leaving her with nothing. She talks about how it changed her forever and how it made her become more aligned with her higher self. Through hard work, she managed to build herself back up in 2 years to 7 figures.
Kirsten asks about what Meena found within herself during that period. She explains how her legal background helped her look at things in an objective way. She took personal responsibility for what happened and asked herself what part she played, rather than looking at others and blaming them or blaming circumstances. Meena says that if she had taken the time to understand wealth and taken the responsibility, she would not have had the belief she was good with money.
Talking about the impact she is making in the world, Meena explains how she works with women entrepreneurs, working one on one as well as having a personal empowerment program called Empowered Women Academy, which helps women shift their mindset. She also helps women build success and create wealth through building self-belief.
A challenge Meena is having right now is finding the right people to help the business grow, such as social media managers and virtual assistants, which she partly puts on herself as she has not given herself the time to look. Kirsten recommends leaders getting really clear about the tasks someone will be doing, and working out whether those tasks can live within one person. The once you have decided how many people you need, you can focus on what the specific skill set they need is.
Meena finishes off with some words of wisdom as she shares with us to never stop growing. In order for you to reach that next level, you yourself have to grow to that next level.
For more on Meena, you can visit https://www.strongandshine.com/ where you can find all the information you need, including her book and her programmes. You can also email her at meena@strongandshine.com or reach out via LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/meena-kumari-adnani/.
If you enjoyed this episode and want to gain a deeper insight into everything Coach Kirsten has to offer you, head over to the following websites:
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Ep 308 Drs. Michael and Barbara Grossman
For over twenty-five years, Drs. Michael and Barbara Grossman have taught thousands of couples practical skills to create a fulfilling romantic partnership. They have TV appearances on CBS, NBC, Fox, and CW. Tune in to this powerful interview to discover the secrets to having a fulfilling long-term romantic partnership with a genuine love that lasts forever through all the phases of life.
Michael starts by explaining to us he is an anti-aging longevity doctor, who has been practicing since around 1973, and he absolutely loves it. Barbara adds they work with families who are married who are experiencing challenges keeping it all together and keeping their romance alive, while balancing work.
Given Kirsten’s husband is 16 years younger than her, she is very interested in Michael’s longevity work! Michael talks about the dramatic effects menopause has on the woman’s body and how it can lower libido. Michael says he uses natural hormones which are bioidentical to help you live a healthier longer life, rather than synthetics, which can do the opposite.
Barbara goes into some detail about their workshops and some of the strategies they give to couples. Barbara talks about what couples need to feel valued in a relationship, and says she teaches couples how to talk and how to reinforce and create love.
Kirsten asks about what brought them together to do this work. Michael says the inspiration from the natural change which comes in a romantic relationship. He talks about how their relationship changed when Barbara went to graduate school and how they needed to pivot. Barbara also shares her perspective on that change and talks about how they decided to share their knowledge with others.
Kirsten asks them about challenges they have in their business and Michael shares that their main problem is they have so much content out and coming out very soon, they don’t know how to market it all or get out and do the events. Kirsten suggests finding the right people you can trust to be around and help make the key decisions. Kirsten also suggests a bunch more solutions such as looking towards people who are willing to put in the work and understanding the importance of it, as well as business owners who may be susceptible to life balance issues.
Finally, the guys share their words of wisdom, with Barbara sharing with us that no matter how you feel, there is a way to grow your relationship and have it be magnificent. Michael adds you need skills to make these things happen and most don’t learn them from their parents, so you need to go out a learn them for yourself.
Barbara shares with us that herself and Michael are competitive ballroom dancers and have a dance show where they incorporate the stages of development of a relationship into their routines.
You can check out Barbara and Michael’s new book called ageless Love: Prescription from Mind, body and Spirit, or their previous book, Secrets to Deep and Effortless Meditation which you can find at https://fallinginloveforever.com/. It’s also where you can all the information on their courses and classes if you’re interested.
If you enjoyed this episode and want to gain a deeper insight into everything Coach Kirsten has to offer you, head over to the following websites:
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Ep 305 Whitney Coupland
On today’s episode of The Live and Lead for Impact Podcast, Coach Kirsten is joined by Whitney Coupland. Whitney Coupland is a Certified Nutritional Practitioner and Life Coach. In her online coaching practice, she helps people with autoimmune diseases navigate the diet, lifestyle, and mindset aspects of healing so they can start feeling like themselves again.
Whitney goes into detail about how she got into the practice, starting all the way back when she was 12 years old when she went for a polar dip and realised her arms and hands were numb, which she found out was Raynaud’s Syndrome, and autoimmune condition. She also found when she was pregnant at 29 she had a second autoimmune disease called Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis. She explains her work in the world is to help people like her, and Kirsten relates with her son having PAONS.
Whitney works one-on-one with her clients right now, mostly with people from the US and Canada, but also expanding to some in Europe. She explains she helps people find joyful ways of eating which will help them heal their bodies. She also talks about how she sets herself apart from others by focusing on what her clients want to do and what they enjoy and working around that, as well as continuing with social media using a few techniques to keep up engagement.
Kirsten asks Whitney what is something which is standing in the way of her making a bigger, bolder impact. Whitney explains her current challenge is messaging and how she feels like she is missing a large portion of people who don’t realise their condition is autoimmune. Kirsten suggests targeting some particular symptoms of autoimmune rather than using that phrase to make people realise that’s what they have and get their attention with what their life could be like with autoimmune treatment
Finally, Whitney finishes off with her words of advice, which are realising it’s not about her. She explains how it’s more important to get the message out there and help people rather than how she looks or comes across.
To learn more about Whitney you can visit her website at whitneycoupland.com, head over to Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whitneycoupland_/, and check out her YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@whitneycoupland
If you enjoyed this episode and want to gain a deeper insight into everything Coach Kirsten has to offer you, head over to the following websites:
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EP 304 Shauna A. Wekherlien, Tax Goddess
On this episode of The Live and Lead with Impact Podcast, Coach Kirsten is joined By Shauna A. Wekherlien! Shauna A. Wekherlien, CPA, MTax, CTC, CTS, Tax Goddess is a highly sought-after Certified Public Accountant and founder of Tax Goddess Business Services, PC, established 2004. Tax Goddess is a global team of 65+ specialists that uses plain language (not tax code) to help business owners, investors, and entrepreneurs create plans of action to increase the business owner’s bottom line, reduce costs, significantly reduce taxes, increase cash flow, and perform what-if scenario options so that owners know what decisions to make and which paths are best suited to their particular situation.
Throughout this episode Kirsten and Shauna speak about what truly inspired and motivated Shauna to leave her astrology studies to become this amazing Tax Goddess who’s able to positively impact people lives daily. Shauna shares how her mom is her No.1 idol and after seeing her struggle with the IRS and seeing her mom feelings taken advantage of she decided it was her calling to help others in her mom’s position. Kirsten and Shauna also work through some challenges Shauna is currently facing that are preventing her from making bigger and bolder impacts every day. Kirsten creates some easy-to-implement strategies to help Shauna overcome the ‘quiet quitting/great resignation’ we’re currently seeing among all workforces. Kirsten encourages Shauna, and others in similar positions, to re-evaluate their hiring procedures: instead of telling people what you need from them, show them what you have to offer them – and commit to it!
Shauna expresses her passion throughout the entire podcast so it’s no surprise that her best advice to us listeners, is to quit what you’re doing if you’re not super passionate about it, find something else you’re interested in and if that’s not doing it for you, quit and find something else and continue to do that until you find something that makes you excited every day!
To learn more about Shauna and the amazing opportunities and strategies she has to offer head over to her website: www.Taxgoddess.com. You can also contact Shauna through all social media platforms @TaxGoddess
If you enjoyed this episode and want to gain a deeper insight into everything Coach Kirsten has to offer you, head over to the following websites:
www.FocusForwardCoaching.com
www.myimpactacademy.com/bookcall/
On today’s episode of The Live and Lead for Impact Podcast, Coach Kirsten is joined by Angela Gentile to discuss a multitude of insightful topics such as discovering the power in slowing down, changing the way we approach fitness and habits we can insert in our lives to help avoid burnout among many more!
Angela Gentile is the founder of the Sweat Remix wellness brand. Angela designed this brand with the intention of motivating you to start and sustain physical exercise, guide you towards greater self-awareness. Angela also provides keeping it real life coaching. With a variety of online fitness classes and her signature #ZenRageHeal process, she and Sweat Remix provide folks with an intentional approach to fitness with sustainable results. Her Inner Compass course helps clients with a full mind, body and spirit transformation to help folks be the badass they were meant to be in just 12 weeks. With an undergraduate degree in English from Fairfield University and a graduate degree in Educational Leadership from Western Governors University, she traded in her decade long teaching career to launch a business helping folks change their body, mindset and life through movement, meditation and mental health coaching. If you’ve been stuck and feel ready to move and grow, this trailblazer creates opportunities for folks to live strong, authentic and EPIC lives.
Kirsten and Angela discuss how her classes provide an open and honest space for people to be 100% who they are by beginning and ending each session with grounding exercises. Angela encourages us to view our lives as seasons instead of trying to be super successful in our everyday lives and gives us some advice on how we can stop putting so much pressure and expectations on our daily lives, to help avoid burnout. Kirsten also coaches Angela through imposter syndrome and people pleasing so that she can fully focus on being 100% who she is and spread her message to help others. Kirsten and Angela end the episode by sharing some fantastic advice on how you can commit to what your purpose is calling you to do by surrounding yourself with people who support and understand your vision.
To learn more about Angela and her fitness, mindfulness and life coaching opportunities head over to Instagram: www.instagram.com/sweatremix/
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Jack Ori is a transgender author who writes stories to empower other trauma survivors and coaches those that want to write their own books. He is passionate about helping people turn story ideas into finished books and believes everyone has a story the world needs to hear.
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Laura Patricia Martin is a Trauma specialist and founder of Healing to Happy, a global movement activating women to clear trauma & find freedom in mind, body, soul, & bank account!
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Phil is an entrepreneur, and the founder of SelectSoftware Reviews, a website dedicated to helping HR and Recruiting teams to find and buy the right software through in-depth, expert advice. Phil started his career working in venture capital before getting his MBA from Harvard Business School.
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Victoria Shaw is an intuitive Counselor and Spiritual Coach who combines her background and training in psychology and counseling with intuitive guidance to help clients heal, grow and realize their full spiritual and personal potential. She takes a holistic approach to counseling, addressing clients’ concerns on the mind/body/spiritual levels. She especially loves working with people who are committed to using their life experiences or struggles to fuel their own spiritual awakening. Victoria is the author of four self-help books for parents, children and teens, and the host of Intuitive Connection podcast.
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Claudia Miller is a sought-after Career Coach for Women In Tech and she's helped her clients land fulfilling jobs in less than 90-days. She also partners with companies and organizations in identifying rising stars within their organizations and providing strategy insights and support in developing a leadership and talent pipeline with a focus on Women and Women of Color. Due to her efforts she's worked with Top Fortune 500 Clients + has partnered with World Business Chicago in developing a Workforce Development strategy in coordination with the City of Chicago's efforts in decreasing unemployment rates for persons of color. She's also the Creator & Host of "Roadmap To The Executive Suite" podcast. Due to her clients success she's been featured multiple times in Forbes, MSNBC, Thrive Global and Business Insider put her in their top global list of Top Innovative Career Coaches.
Simon Severino helps business owners in SaaS and Services run their company more effectively which results in sales that soar. Trusted by Google, Roche, Consilience Ventures, Amgen, AbbVie. He created the Strategy Sprints™ Method that doubles revenue in 90 days by getting owners out of the weeds. TEDx speaker, Contributor to Forbes and Entrepreneur Magazine, member of the SVBS Silicon Valley Blockchain Society.
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Daniel has been gifted with the ability to communicate with archangels and spirit. With this information, he guides and assists others to fulfill their spiritual path.
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293 Rocky Buckley
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Rocky has been working with authors, experts, thought leaders, and influencers for 23 years, helping clients bring over $100 million in information products and training programs to market. Rocky is the creator of The Power Persona Project community and the Platinum Path coaching/consulting program, helping experts reinvent their business models to unleash their highest potential.
291 Fredrik van Huynh
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Freddie van Huynh is a Swedish-Cambodian award winning entrepreneur, selected as one of the Top 25 Swedish Entrepreneurs Disrupting Industries and Breaking Boundaries Around the World, dad, martial artist - Co-Founder of Absolute Internship - one of the world's largest internship programs for high school- and university students, as well as Host of the Fika with Rice Podcast.
Daniel Matalon, is producing a business model for The World Game, named by the design scientist Buckminster Fuller, as an objective to make the world work for 100% of humanity. Mr Matalon says it is a game that makes war obsolete as well. He is a co founder of Impact Launchpad, a social impact venture studio, and the founder of the #IsThereEnough campaign, a new conversation about wealth, survival and sustainability that he claims even a 5 year old can have. His upcoming book to be released at the end of the year, suggests that we have an even greater threat to humanity than climate change, and we are about to hear what he thinks that is...
https://YouTube.com/c/isthereenough, https://twitter.com/isthereenough_, https://www.instagram.com/isthereenough/, https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactlaunchpad
IsThereEnough.org,
TheFirstAgreement.com
As a best-selling author, Rich Dad Advisor and one-of-a kind teacher, his unique messages and unconventional style have supported business owners, entrepreneurs and leaders worldwide. His focus is to help them increase sales, build champion level teams and make huge differences in their industries.
Blair Singer Training Academy
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Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/blair.singer/
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LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/blairsinger/
Twitter - https://twitter.com/blairsinger
Books & Topics to Checkout:
Team Code of Honor
Rich Dad Poor Dad
Buckminster Fuller
285 Paul Glover
https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulglovercoaching/
https://paulglovercoaching.com/
Paul Glover is a C-Suite Performance Coach with 20 years experience as a Federal Court Trial Lawyer. He is a passionate storyteller who believes in the power of narrative to influence and educate in business, personal life and even court rooms. Member of Forbes Council and Author of “WorkQuake”, a playbook for leaders who want to navigate the future of work beyond traditional command and control models to more inclusive, engaging environments.
His approach is practical, hands-on, grounded in the realities of the real world of work and results oriented – all undertaken with a sense of humour and panache.
His workshops allows every member of the organization, from C -Suite Executives to Front Line Team Members, to understand the importance of resilience and how they can enhance their own resilience and positively impact performance and productivity throughout the organization.
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Natasha is not your average CEO. She sits at the helm of Entire Productions, the go-to experience design, event, and entertainment production company in San Francisco, and has been on the Inc. 5000 list of fastest-growing companies in America for three years in a row. Her passion and commitment to giving back drives invariable contributions and participation with numerous charitable organizations. Natasha also performs as a jazz vocalist and a trained classical violinist. Natasha is a proud graduate of Goldman Sachs 10,000 Small Businesses and has studied entrepreneurship at the Harvard Business School and MIT and is a member of The Recording Academy (Grammys), ASCAP, SF Travel, and Meeting Professionals International (MPI). She resides in San Francisco, CA as a member of the board of EO (Entrepreneurs’ Organization).
https://www.facebook.com/natashamillerEntrepreneur
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https://twitter.com/NatashaMillerSF
https://www.linkedin.com/in/natashamiller/
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281 Hamish MacDonald The Sovereignty Network
Originally from New Zealand, Hamish has been building medical software for nearly two decades around the world, including the US, Japan, Australia, New Zealand and South East Asia. His goal is to have people everywhere be able to get and control their healthcare data - including owning it as a personal asset so they can financially benefit from it.
https://www.linkedin.com/company/53207665/admin/ Linked In
@SovereigntyNet Twitter
https://www.facebook.com/thesovereigntynetwork
279 Becca Ribbing
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beccajoyribbing
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Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beccaribbing/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/beccaribbing
Becca Ribbing is the author of The Clarity Journal and has been a coach for over a decade. She's on a mission to help people break out of the cycles of uncertainty and struggle that hold them back. She helps women going back and forth with the big, seemingly endless question of what to do next—so they can stop going around in circles and finally figure out what they truly want and create the clarity and momentum they crave.
277 Liam Martin - Remote Rockstar
Liam runs one of the most popular time tracking and productivity platforms in use by top brands today - Time Doctor. He is also a co-organizer of the world's largest remote work conference — Running Remote.
Whenever possible, Liam encourages others to work remotely and actively promotes remote work. His products and services are defined by the concept of giving workers the flexibility to work wherever they want, whenever they want.
Liam has also co-authored a book - Running Remote - focused on remote work methodology. In this revolutionary guide, Liam and his co-founder, Rob Rawson, have unearthed the secrets and lessons discovered by remote work pioneering entrepreneurs and founders who've harnessed the async mindset to operate their businesses remotely in the most seamless, hassle-free, and cost-effective manner possible.
Liam holds an undergraduate and graduate degree in Sociology from McGill University.
https://twitter.com/liamremote
https://www.linkedin.com/in/liammcivormartin/
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275 Jeremy Slate
Command Your Brand
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https://www.youtube.com/c/Jeremyryanslatebiz
Jeremy Ryan Slate is an entrepreneur, media expert, author and CEO and founder of Command Your Brand. He studied literature at Oxford University and is a former champion powerlifter that helps visionary founders to impact the world and better mankind through podcasting and new media to create trust and opinion leader status. Podcast Magazine just included Jeremy on their 2022 40 under 40 in Podcasting list.
273 Cathy Cassani Adams - Zen Parenting
https://twitter.com/zenparenting https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting https://www.instagram.com/zenparentingradio/
Cathy Cassani Adams, LCSW, co-hosts the Zen Parenting Radio podcast and is author of Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World (Hachette, 2/22) and Living What You Want Your Kids to Learn: The Power of Self-Aware Parenting (2014) which won which won a Nautilus Award, National Indie Excellence Award, and an International Book Award. She is a clinical social worker, certified parent coach, former elementary school educator, and yoga teacher. Cathy teaches in the Sociology/Criminology Department at Dominican University, and she lives outside of Chicago with her husband Todd and their three daughters.
271 Melissa Keenan Melisa Keenan helps high powered female CEOs use their feminine energy as a 10X growth strategy. Her clients produce more while doing less by mastering their 'Feminine CEO.' She is a keynote speaker, USA Today Bestselling & International Bestselling Author, and the go-to intimacy expert for business women. Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2239709656292481
Www.melisakeenan.com
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269 Kimberly Gerber - Excelerate
As the Founder and CEO of Excelerate, Kimberly Gerber has developed a transformational coaching process that combines high-touch experiences with cutting-edge science and technology to deliver programs that accelerate the thinking, behavior and results of her clients and the companies they lead.
Prior to founding Excelerate in 2002, Kimberly was a Fortune 100 executive herself. She understands the unique responsibilities that come at the executive level and has created leadership programs to help executives think strategically, elevate their presence, finesse their communication, achieve their goals and provide sustainable business results in a productive environment.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlygerber/
https://www.facebook.com/kimberlygerberexcelerate
https://twitter.com/kimberlygerber_
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267 Kison Patel: Mindful Planning and Visibility
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https://twitter.com/DealRoomInc
Kison Patel is the Founder and CEO of M&A Science, with a passion to drive the M&A industry forward. He was an M&A advisor for ten years in which he sold larger companies such as commercial banks and hotel chains. In 2012, he noticed teams lacked efficient technology to manage deals and created DealRoom, an M&A lifecycle management platform. In 2016, he started the M&A Science podcast devoting his time to creating a platform where all the best practitioners could share their best practices and lessons learned from real-life deals. Kison then created The M&A Science Academy in 2020 to offer step by step training to those looking to master M&A featuring courses created by top level practitioners. Through developing technology, educational content, and industry training, Kison aims to bring better practices to an industry with growing market pressures, transaction values, and competition.
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265 Tom Finn: Deploy Support Anywhere
Tom Finn is the co-founder and CEO of LeggUP®, the first company to insure employee retention for their clients. Spending his entire career in the insurance industry, Tom possesses a wealth of experience in employee benefits, InsurTech, business development, and revenue strategies— all central to the company’s unique offering, Talent Insurance™. Talent Insurance provides a single platform for personalized professional development and mental health support for a fraction of the cost to small and medium-sized businesses.
https://www.facebook.com/LeggUPInc/, https://www.linkedin.com/company/leggup, https://twitter.com/leggupinc, https://www.instagram.com/leggupinc/?hl=en
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263 Josh Little: Meaningful Communication
https://linkedin/in/littlejosh
https://volleyapp.com
Josh Little is the founder of four tech companies–Maestro, Bloomfire, Quizzer, and Volley–that have collectively been used by hundreds of millions of people and featured in TechCrunch, Mashable, Entrepreneur, Inc, and Forbes. With two successful exits and a third anticipated, he’s currently on a mission to provide the world with a more meaningful way to communicate with his fourth creation, Volley–a video messaging app.
Do what you say or say something else.
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/4844148/
Center for Parental Leave Leadership
Dr. Amy Beacom is the founder and CEO of the Center for Parental Leave Leadership, the first full service consultancy in the US to focus exclusively on parental leave. She conceived of and began developing the field of parental leave coaching and consulting in 2006. Drawing on over 25 years in executive leadership development and coaching, Amy consults with Fortune 100 companies, international organizations, working parents, and more to transform the way our companies and our country engage with the parental leave transition.
Sue Campbell is a writer, author, and coach who has worked with the Center for Parental Leave Leadership since its early days, helping to communicate the transformative impact of their core mission. Her writing, often focused on issues important to parents, has been published in many outlets, including Prevention, Good Housekeeping, Scary Mommy, and Mamalode.
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EP 260 Health Insurance in the US Pre to Post ACA
Affordable Care Act or Obamacare
I’ve been purchasing my own health insurance for more than 20 years and also have an HR background – Want to share from my unique perspective some of what you might not realize
As it is with communication about all challenges today it seems that all anyone will do is talk about the negatives from either side in an attempt to “win”, tear the “other side” down.
I actually had an experience where an elected official was holding a virtual town hall. Topic was health insurance. I “raised” my hand to share my thoughts. I’m pretty sure I was vetted out. A staff member spoke with me before I was able to go live. They asked my thoughts and then told me they likely would not have time for me to comment. The town hall lasted for a very long time while constituents shared positive views only about the ACA.
So, here’s my personal, been there, done that perspective. As with all complex programs there are both positive and negative.
I’m not going to share a bunch of legal-eze. These are my personal thoughts, experiences, and opinions. I hope it will bring a balanced & realistic perspective.
Used to be able to join the Farm Bureau – or some other organization/group to receive a group rate. Able to personally purchase a plan with coverage similar to an employer plan.
Group Experience Ratings
Personal Experience Ratings
Pre-Existing Conditions – Insurer of Last Resort
Young Adult Ryders
Coverages – Childbirth, Mental Health, Substance Use Disorders
Required Coverage – Supposed to be a part of keeping coverage rates down. Assure that pool of covered included premiums from healthy. Low-users - My opinion- did more to increase profits
Deductibles - Negotiated Rates –
My opinion - Profits – High cost – high deductibles – Departments focused on denying coverage – Required Coverage to make sure the pool was healthy and unhealthy -
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/richkagan/
Last Minute Media Deals
Rich Kagan is the Founder and President of Last Minute Media Deals, an agency selling prime-time ad spots on TV, radio, and podcasts for up to 80% off. Shows would much rather sell these ad spots at a tremendous discount than not at all, and Rich founded Last Minute Media Deals for this exact purpose.
Cell number: 3104200490
EP 258 Examine Your Emotions Emotions are good. They give us information. But, they are different from fact. If your entire life is dictated by your emotions, you may be all over the road. An emotional roller coaster is not amusing for you or those around you. Moods and emotions can shift with more than just our circumstance. Sometimes we are just eating the wrong foods or lacking sleep. And without healthy boundaries in your relationships, your emotions can swing along with the people in your life.
Misaligned frustration taken out on a co-worker, family member or friend can lead to unnecessary conflict that may require you to go into clean up mode. And the emotion of anger can really wreak havoc. You probably already know this but anger usually is not the real emotion. More often you are actually scared, sad, disappointed, or your ego might be bruised
Anger can be a very toxic emotion. Too often we let it build up. One hundred tiny offenses left unaddressed to fester can create an atomic bomb size blow up. And the spew will be aimed at the offending party or an unlucky uninvolved recipient. It could be the woman working the drive thru window.
Or, perhaps your habit is to ignite huge anger for even the tiniest infraction. Small incidents made bigger can have you reacting and angry most of your day.
Recently, a family business client shared that when he visits one of their locations he makes a point to walk around and say hello to everyone. “Last Friday”, he continued, “my brother responded with ……an expletive.”
I looked at the brother and in a sarcastic tone he shared, “He walks around all cheerful saying, ‘good morning’ to everyone. It’s so annoying!”
The story he created in his mind generated an outburst not at all consistent with the mere facts.
You might read that and laugh but I ask, are there times when you are reacting bigger than you need to?
Anger takes energy and is not fun to be around. The waitress forgot your drink. Is that really worth the incensed, eye roll reaction? Maybe you can give her grace and move on with your day.
I ask clients to consider emotions objectively. Never stuff them but don’t treat them as fact. If your energy dips and you are having, “one of those days,” know that it is your choice to stay there or not. Here’s some food for thought to
- Is the focus of the feeling misdirected? Is there a reason beyond my current circumstance that generated this feeling? Have I been triggered by a past hurt, am I hungry or tired?
- Is there an alternative way to think about an incident? Maybe it’s funny rather than aggravating.
- Is that small error worthy of your energy or can you let it go and move on. I always say, “Don’t let anyone zap your joy!” Why let a small something put a damper on your day? You get to choose.
- Speak up when it’s warranted. Don’t let a build up of small things that could be handled one at a time to create a volcano. How many great days are you losing as you collect those annoyances rather than address them?
- Create a rule. If I’m not willing to talk about it must not be worthy of my energy to be mad. The bible reveals a similar sentiment:
Take Action Task
Where are you letting emotions get the best of you? Do you have anger you need to release?
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Stacey M. Gordon is a Veteran Advocate & Military Transition Coach on a mission to assist with transition and reintegration efforts and veteran suicide prevention initiatives. A former classroom teacher, Stacey teaches lessons on how to be confident, overcome your inner critic, identify your values, set goals, time management, and how to identify spark teams (support networks) to increase productivity, efficiency, and effectiveness for individuals and organizations, both military-connected and civilian alike. Named ‘the Mister Rogers of the Veteran Community’ by a Marine Corps veteran and “adopted” by Vets2Industry as a civilian ally and supporter, Stacey is passionate about providing support, friendship, mentorship, social connection, emotional intelligence, and resources and tools to help her clients create a clear vision and holistic strategy for success beyond service in academics, career, business, and life.
Stacy wouldn't be who she is today without her V2I Family and their love and support during her own "transition and transformation" from classroom teacher to military success coach, and we have only just begun!) Vets2Industry - https://vets2industry.org/ PEOPLE FIRST, VETERANS AND THEIR FAMILIES ALWAYS. This FREE resource library is for active duty, guard, reserve, veteran, military spouses, dependent children, Blue Star & Gold Star Families, and caregivers. Vets2Industry Foundation Inc. is a registered 501c3 nonprofit organization that provides knowledge, connections, opportunities, and more importantly, HOPE.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/stacey-m-gordon-9772b8120
https://staceygordon.com/
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255 Nathanael Garrett Novosel
The Meaning of Life
https://www.yourmeaninginlife.com
Nathanael Garrett Novosel is a professional researcher and advisor with over 20 years of experience studying individual and group behavior. Nathanael spent much of his career using the insights from this research to help the world’s leading executives solve their most pressing organizational challenges and create their strategic plans. Noticing the common drivers of success in all areas of life, he decided to devote his research, problem-solving, and advisory skills to helping people live the best lives possible.
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Relationship Renovation Roadmap
253 Dr. Paul White
Appreciation at Work
appreciationatwork.com
Dr. Paul White is a psychologist, speaker, and leadership trainer who “makes work relationships work”. He has written articles for and been interviewed by Bloomberg’s Business Week, CNN/Fortune.com, Entrepreneur.com, Fast Company, Fortune, FoxBusiness.com, U.S. News and World Report, the Washington Post, and Yahoo! Finance.
As a speaker and trainer, Dr. White has taught around the world, including North America, Europe, South America, Asia, and the Caribbean. His expertise has been requested by Facebook, Microsoft, NASA, L’Oréal, Caterpillar, Starbucks, Boeing, ExxonMobil, Textron, and numerous other multi-national organizations.
Dr. White is the coauthor of the best-selling, The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace, which has sold over 500,000 copies (written with Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the #1 NY Times bestseller, The 5 Love Languages) and has been translated into 27 languages. Based on their extensive research and expertise, Dr. White and Dr. Chapman have developed practical ways for leaders and employees to communicate authentic appreciation that leads to increased employee engagement, lower staff turnover, more positive work environments, and higher profitability.
Their Appreciation at Work training resources have been used by numerous corporations, medical facilities, schools, non-profit organizations, and government agencies, over 750 colleges and universities, and in over 60 countries. Additionally, their online assessment, the Motivating By Appreciation Inventory, has been taken by over 285,000 employees worldwide and is available in multiple languages.
Cited as a thought-leader in the area of developing healthy workplace relationships, his speaking style has been described as “world-class expertise providing practical, easily-implemented information with the right touch of humor.”
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251 Jesson Bradshaw - Serving the Community
Social Media:
https://www.instagram.com/energy.ogre/
https://twitter.com/EnergyOgre
https://www.facebook.com/energyogre
https://www.linkedin.com/company/energy-ogre/
Jesson Bradshaw is the CEO of Energy Ogre, an electricity management company that uses proprietary systems to ensure its customers are always getting the best prices on their energy electricity.
Energy Ogre has helped over 100,000 Texans save up to 40% on their electricity bills, over $150M since its founding.
Jesson hopes to bring attention to Texas’s deregulated electricity industry by discussing topics such as renewable energy, future technologies, and consumer services.
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249 Mo Barrett
https://www.facebook.com/LaughLearnThink/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/mobarrett/
Mobarrett.com
Mo Barrett is a self-diagnosed "successful failure" currently charting a course for people who want to laugh, learn and think (in that order). Mo is a storyteller at heart. Mo utilizes her unique perspective to deliver funny heartwarming stories. Mo’s stories truly connect with what makes us human.
Misha Rubin is a career educator and mastermind of the career elite method. Until recently Misha was a partner at a big 4 management consulting firm for 15 years. He managed over 100 million dollars of projects, advised countless number of clients, and guided hundreds of careers. His corporate experience, personal quest for meaning and fulfillment, and rigorous study burst the career elite method, a pragmatic, elevating, and actionable process designed for people to obtain clarity about their next career moves.
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@ThePartyGoddess (Insta and Twitter)
@TheProfitGoddess (Insta)
Link to mini course:
www.Mini.TheProfitGoddess.com
Marley is the CEO of The Party Goddess!, a full-service event planning company with A-List celebrity clients like Britney Spears and Pierce Brosnan, and author of But Are You Making Any Money? Heralded as a must-read for any entrepreneur, the book “makes you want to keep reading more.”
243 Tommy Mello - How Important is Culture?!
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https://facebook.com/thomasmello/
Tommy Mello is the founder of A1 Garage Doors, a $50 million-plus home services business with over 360 employees in 17 states. Tommy is a regular contributor to Inc., Entrepreneur, and other business publications on the topic of entrepreneurship and small business as well as a sought after podcast, radio and television guest.
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241 Tina Wells - Engaging Young Readers!
Tina Wells is an award-winning and best-selling author. She's the founder of RLVNT Media, a company she founded to focus on increasing representation in media.
Tina is very passionate about writing and reading! Her writing brings diverse characters to life for young readers who might not always see characters that look like them.
TinaWells.com
IG: @tinawells_
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Barbara Dalle Pezze, Ph.D. is an internationally recognized leadership coach, life strategist, facilitator, and author distinguished by her capacity to inspire and empower, and by her unique ability to connect and tune in with people from highly diverse cultures, ages and backgrounds. With over 18 years of global experience living and working in China, Hong Kong, Australia, Canada, Europe and The U.S., Barbara has partnered with global leaders, entrepreneurs, C-Suite Executives, and members of family-owned businesses, to help them make key paradigm shifts and breakthroughs so that they can effectively create large scale changes in society and the world.
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EP 238 How are Your Personal Stories Shaping Your Future?
Poker Face – You might think you have one. But, do you?
A few years ago we did a super fun family photo shoot! We laughed, created memories and captured wonderful pictures that still hang on our walls.
A portion of the photos were done in an area of a park where you can feed wild birds.
While my husband and boys looked like Disney Princes as they calmly gazed upon the birds eating from their hands, we discovered quickly that I was not capable of this response. The wonder and awe I felt as these birds landed on my hand showed on my face EVERY time. It was spontaneous, authentic and unavoidable for me. And it led to LOTS of laughter!
It gets me thinking about non-verbal communication. I CLEARLY am not capable of a good Poker Face. Some are much better at times but…the reality is, even with practice, our facial expressions, body positioning, voice tone and tempo give away more than we realize.
The reality is that our non-verbal communication constitutes more than 90% of our message! That’s why, contrary to how some coach or train, my communication coaching begins with a shift in story and mindset rather than just words.
The happenings in our mind transmit whether we want them to or not. I can tell someone what to say but that just isn’t enough. Practicing strategies to help you master
- your thoughts
- and the stories you tell yourself about your experiences and your relationships,
- the words you use in your mind
These all play a powerful part of our communication and ultimately your relationships.
So, notice first the message you are giving yourself within your mind. Think about how these words and thoughts will shape your emotions and actions. This shapes your response to life and those around you and how you craft the words you’ll use.
Are the words and stories that happen in your mind serving you, helping you feel empowered or are you constantly a victim, angry, defensive and feeling powerless to impact life circumstances?
I’ve helped many reshape thoughts about their lives and this has been the powerful beginning of reshaping their futures. Need additional help with this? Reach out! I’m here to help.
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237 Margy Feldhuhn
Interview Connections
instagram: @interviewconnections
Margy Feldhuhn is a podcast host and the co-owner and CEO of Interview Connections, the first and leading podcast booking agency. She and her business partner lead an in-house staff of over 25 full time employees in their (now virtual) Rhode Island office, and have successfully scaled the agency to multiple 7 figures.
In addition to being an entrepreneur, Margy is also an animal rescue advocate and personal development enthusiast. With her podcast, “We Get It, Your Dad Died,” Margy uses her own experience of losing her dad to suicide to transform the conversation around grief and show the joy that is possible on the other side of loss. Her show won First Prize in the Best Podcast Category of the 2021 Rhode Island International Film Festival.
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EP 236 Key Why’s & How’s of Celebrating Your Team
Summary: To create a great culture you must pair accountability with celebration, praise and recognition.
As leaders we and, as an extension, our teams, can become extremely task oriented, which is good. However, with a full focus on outcomes leaders can unintentionally miss opportunities to acknowledge progress or celebrate success. In this circumstance, the team just moves immediately from one task and project to the next and there’s lost opportunity to unite as a community, acknowledge accomplishments and celebrate.
Years ago, someone asked me what my definition of success was. At first it seemed like a really simple question. Once I started thinking about it, however, I realized it was more complex. In the end, after much contemplation, I arrived at a definition that has served me since. Success is best defined with a perfect blend of celebration for what you’ve achieved and some discontent that ignites excitement about what will come next.
Focusing on only what comes next leaves you constantly yearning for a future that hasn’t happened yet, always driving towards achievement to relieve your discontent.
Living with only celebration for what has already occurred, however, can leave you feeling unmotivated. I did that big thing. Now what? And it’s also a full focus on the past.
A healthy team needs a blend of both. Most often it is the celebration side of the equation that gets less attention. As we work to do more with smaller teams our busyness, understandably, has us hyper-focusing on task completion. And, when challenges, hiccups or emergencies arise we must shift our attention there for an immediate reaction and response.
So, be intentional about building in praise.
Celebration, recognition and praise can be simple and don’t have to require a lot of time or planning.
As you integrate celebration, make sure it is spread throughout the organization. Most teams engage in activities that require participation from individuals across departments. Some work behind the scenes while others are more front and center. No team functions well without the whole and every task is important.
There is a tendency to focus on the people or departments at the front of the effort and a missed opportunity to show gratitude for those working behind the scenes. This can create division within the organization.
Humans will work to win accolades, sometimes even subconsciously. Recognition that focuses too much on those at the front may motivate teams to prioritize their own work over where they can support from behind. The thought, “If I can focus on our team’s agenda perhaps we will be acknowledged.” This can delay important organization work. Instead make appreciation and acknowledgement abundant. Get teams working together towards common goals rather than working to meet their own departmental agendas first.
I believe that there is an innate human desire to be known, acknowledged and appreciated. When gratitude is a scarce resource you end up fostering a “what about me” syndrome. Any little crumb of acknowledgement or appreciation to one person leaves others thinking, “yes, but what about me?” Humans yearn for appreciation when it is lacking. For the good of the team, the goal is to spread gratitude abundantly but authentically.
Focus on looking for reasons to celebrate. From a perception perspective, our brains are miraculous! They are able to take in millions of pieces of data in every second. As humans, we are only able to focus on about 6 to 7 pieces of data at once, however. We train our brains to keep certain data available for ready access. We get to choose which data to notice, retain and act on. There are opportunities for you to thank your team. You just may not be in the habit of looking. If this is the case, re-train your brain by practicing. Seek out a set number of opportunities to appreciate someone weekly or daily.
Maybe you are unwilling to thank people for some reason. Some clients I’ve worked with are uncomfortable giving praise. If this is you, work on it or seek out a coach who can help you. Either way, choosing to look for things to celebrate will help you re-align your focus to the positive things happening. There are plenty.
Celebration is an important element to bringing a team together. Look how excited football players get during a game! Grown men high five and pat each other. Celebration motivates everyone towards a common goal. Set achievable goals and then celebrate when you achieve them. Celebration doesn’t have to mean party hats and champagne. It can be ringing a bell, playing a victory song, high fiving, sending out a congratulations email to the team, writing out a card, having a pizza lunch.
Individual acknowledgement can come in many forms. Employees who are asked to weigh in on an idea or participate in designing the roll out of a new program feel trusted and valued. You can also provide opportunities for team members to present at organization events or to your Board. New and special opportunities are a great way to help someone feel special.
Recommendations:
- Show plenty of appreciation to all. Make recognition abundant but authentic.
- Catch employees doing something good and let them know.
- Make sure that acknowledgments after events or program rollouts include both the front and center teams and the employees who worked in the background.
- Leaders, change your mindset. Be on the lookout for the good every day. Create specific goals daily or weekly to show authentic appreciation.
- Take a moment to acknowledge the cool things happening. Even if it’s in a small way. Hit a gong or bell or send out a group email when something goes well.
- Utilize “Wow” Boards, a place to showcase letters of appreciation from customers and thank you’s from employees to their team mates.
- Seek out ways to reward employees with special opportunities to represent the organization, speak at an event or attend or share at a Board Meeting. Time with you or other leaders in your team is also likely a coveted reward.
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Sherman is the CEO of The George Washington Institute, host of the Friends & Fellow Citizens Podcast, and a Communications Director. A graduate of King’s College London and Texas A&M University, he is an aspiring statesman and George Washington enthusiast who plans to run for office in the future.
Sherman is very passionate about politics and making a positive impact in the world. He loves sharing history and stories. Despite being in D.C. during the January 6th insurrection Sherman has high hopes for the future of the United States.
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EP 234 Key Tactics for a Smooth Transition from Manager to Leader
A few quick distinctions for context –
Manager – I see as direct overseer of tasks and specific outcomes
Task Master – more micro-managy, Sherrif of the organization –
eyes and ears on actions and outputs
Leader – vision – high level scope
High impact team each cascading the leader’s vision beyond
Increasing circle of influence by casting vision and providing autonomy to a skilled team
Surrounded by people with complementary knowledge, skills and abilities and allowing them to shine
Unifying the vision and focus and creating freedom to decide and act towards the common goal
Transition will always involve casting eyes higher – elevation of focus – wider influence.
Passion - your fuel and be ready to inspire by sharing - Get clear about why you do what you do -
Autonomy - Create bigger sandboxes - Release Control - Trust - Surround yourself with those you can rely on – great skill and trust them to do their great work
shift Your Focus Up - Eye on the Prize – Hands off the specifics, the processes, the day to day
Avoid these Common Tripups-
- Working with a team you don't trust - is it you or them? An important question to answer
Either way - figure it out - You can't increase your circle of influence by just adding team members - If you continue to be involved in every action or decision you will slow progress and action -
Is your lack of trust your issue? Work on that - is it them? Change your team
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Sharing information without being clear about your objectives -
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manager is more high control - team will be used to you making the decisions, solving the problems - you need to teach them to be creative, take initiative, etc.....
Have seen trip ups – My team thinks the conversation/debate is never done – Consequence of a collaborative leadership style w/o communicating who is making final decision and when that is done -
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Implement a quick definition structure that clarifies immediately - Sharing for FYI - Sharing for Collaborative Discussion - Sharing to Decide together
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Lacking clarity in Delegation - model it, teach it -
Using phrases like - When you Get around to it - when you get a chance –
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233 Michael Ashford - The Power of Stories
Michael Ashford is the Director of Marketing at The Receptionist, and he has transformed their business beyond 2020 expectations accruing $6.1M+ in revenue. Michael faced The Receptionist away from commercial spaces and toward logistics and supply chain. He believes good marketing is good storytelling.
Michael strives to connect and open up the world of leaders. He encourages selfless service and problem solving. He wants to create a reachable world rather than egoic leaders.
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EP 231 Julie Bartkus - Rise Up to the Challenge!
JulieBartkus.com
Julie Bartkus is the leading authority on workplace transformation. Over the past 20 years, she has helped leaders across the globe transform their workplace culture from negative and destructive to happy and productive. Her approach is a holistic one as her clients know that a personal transformation is required to achieve a total team transformation.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 229 Amy Lynn Durham - Spiritual Intelligence and Culture
Create Magic At Work™
https://createmagicatwork.net/
Amy Lynn Durham is the founder of Create Magic At Work™ and an international authority on improving workplace culture so employees and teams have better results with less drama and stress.
In addition Amy is:
A U.C. Berkeley Certified Executive Coach
Certified to coach in the 21 skills associated with Spiritual Intelligence (SQ) using the SQ21 Assessment.
A Certified Emotional Intelligence Practitioner
Amy loves to share tips and tools to help leaders put their ego aside and gain higher productivity with less stress in the workplace.
Connect with Amy!
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ever find it challenging to share project updates in Leadership Team Meetings or feel uncertain about who has decision-making authority during discussions? GOOD NEWS! This is a common cause of friction w/ many of my clients and the solution is simple!
HERE IT IS: Be clear about objectives and roles before you initiate a conversation.
Here are 3 common discussion types that really help you clarify your objectives and are simple to share with the team. Adopt them and create titles for each type that fit the culture of your team.
- I'm sharing this information as an...
FYI - Clarifying Questions = Yes, Weighing in with Suggestions that Dramatically Shift = No, Sharing means I get to help decide = No 2.
I'm sharing this to get feedback, insights, suggestions, ideas, perspectives, support in implementation - I Retain Full Decision-Making Authority. All of the Above = Yes, Grabbing Decision Making Authority by weighing in = No 3.
I'm Sharing this so we can discuss, collaborate and decide as a full team or specified subset - INFORMED ideas, opinions, feedback, suggestions all shared IN the meeting (No Back Hall Commentary/Politicking after the fact) Assure that key decision-makers are present to hear and participate in the full discussion. These simple tweaks have helped many of my clients. I hope they are useful for you! Have clarifying questions around these tips or something to share? Feel free to comment! If I can be of further service, reach out :)
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EP 227 Vikrant Shaurya
Bestsellingbook.com
Vikrant is the CEO & Founder of BestsellingBook.com, #1 Bestselling Author, sought-after Book Launch Manager, and an internationally recognized Digital Publishing Expert.
He has helped thousands of entrepreneurs and first-time authors actualize their dreams by joining them in their self-publishing journeys through his courses, coaching, and done-for-you services.
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defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
226 The Work of One Preparing for Conversations & Choices in Your Family Business
I Help Build Your High Performing Team and Make Your Bigger Bolder Impact
Get What You Need from Your Team – Even if they’re family
Important first step – family businesses can struggle with feelings of obligation or entitlement between the Now Gen and Next Gen
Often assumptions are what drive the path of the Next Gen into the business.
I’ve seen it so many times. A Next Gen feeling the weight of responsibility to run the business, generate profits that will support the employees, family members and Now Gen through retirement.
Often, underneath is a lack of confidence and an uncertainty about desire.
Most often family members fear and worry about what might be a difficult conversation. They have assumptions about how the conversation will go and the reactions of close family members.
It is especially difficult to have the tenacity required to initiate what might be a tough conversation if we aren’t clear about what we’re asking for.
When I begin working with a client who has not engaged in self-discovery there is usually knowledge about what they don’t want - Often – I don’t want what is – but no clear idea about what they do want.
And….they usually have not identified the key reasons WHY they don’t want the current circumstance.
Is it fear, lack of confidence, staying silent rather than speaking up, how they are being treated currently……
The list goes on.
Ideally, each family member will take time to clarify what he or she desires from the business. If they current circumstance is not what is desired learn why – all of this will help drive the conversation and path.
EXAMPLE – 2nd Gen – 30’s – Lacked Confidence – felt she didn’t want to be a leader or couldn’t be good at it.
Not interested in running the family business
No Creative Exploration – She saw only 2 paths – run the business – exit the business
Self Exploration =Loved CFO work. Did not want to run the business – Was a good leader – just needed to build her skills –
End result – CFO – hire a President – Build Leadership Skills
The Take Away Lessons from this example:
First Explore Why You don’t Want to go Down the Current Path
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Lack confidence
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Lack knowledge or experience
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Feel unheard
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Feel powerless
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Feel lack of life balance
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Building resentments
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Things feel unfair
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Unrealistic Expectations – you or others.
Create a Clear Path – to a new possibility – Identify in Detail
- Future Desires
- Strengths
- Passions
- How Do You Want to Spend Your Time?
- Where Do You Want to Live?
- What Do You Want?
- What Do You Need?
Get Creative
- Now that You’re Clear About What You Want – How Can You Get There
- Time to Get Creative
Creative Exploration
- Explore New Paths
- Consider Alternate Options
- Identify New Possibilities
- What If……….
- Could it Be…………
What do you do when you’ve achieved your goals yet you still don’t feel happy? Well, even though Rebecca Morrison was a happily married mom and lawyer with a two-decade career in BigLaw and Finance, she felt something was missing. That feeling led her on a quest to figure out whether it was possible to be both successful and happy. Now a Happiness Coach and Author of The Happiness Recipe: A Powerful Guide Living What matters, Rebecca helps high achievers live happier, lead happier and build happy businesses.
Untangle Happiness
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defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 224 Are Your Truths Assumptions or Facts in Your Family Business?
Families in Business have a shared history unlike co-workers in a non-family business.
The connection to the business
What Do You Assume to Be True about the Business Now?
* Who Does the Work of the Business?
- Who Makes Decisions for the Business?
- Who Owns the Business?
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Who Benefits Financially from the Business?
How Do You Know?
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Have these Truths Been Discussed, Decided & Documented
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OR - Are They Assumed?
Challenging Your ”Truths”
- Are These Truths the Only Possibility?
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Have Options Been Discussed & Explored?
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What Do You Assume to Be True about the Business FUTURE?
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Who Does the Work of the Business?
- Who Makes Decisions for the Business
- Who Owns the Business
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Who Benefits Financially?
How Do You Know?
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Have these Truths Been Discussed, Decided & Documented
- OR - Are They Assumed?
Challenging Your ”Truths”
* Are These Truths the Only Possibility?
- Have Options Been Discussed & Explored?
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Chris Wexler has had a winding career, starting on Wall Street, spending 20 years in advertising technology before he found his real calling - putting all that he has learned together to make the internet a safer place for children by fighting the spread of Child Sexual Abuse Materials via cutting edge technology.
https://www.linkedin.com/company/krunam/
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 222 Family Business – Motivation to Move You Into those Difficult Discussions
Too often we avoid the tough conversations. Our Lizard Brain gives us these reasons and exuses that feel like facts…….in working with family businesses for about 25 years I can tell – rarely are these facts. Here’s a few of the most common “Reasons” I hear…….
Reasons & Excuses that Feel Like Facts
- We’re Fine
- We’re too Busy
- We Love One Another
- I don’t Know What I Want
- It Will Never Happen Anyway
- We’ll Do Future Planning Soon
- I Don’t Want Them to Be Mad at Me
- No Need to Rock the Boat-All Will Be Fine
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We all Get Along Well – We’ll Work it Out Soon
Recently had a family business leader – Next Gen tell me “We’re Getting Along “
Which got me thinking……- But at What Cost?
* Assuming Rather than Asking
- Frustrations Not Addressed
- Ideas & Innovations Not Heard
- Personal Goals Not Shared
- Decisions Made w/o Input
- Boundaries Created
- Not Communicated
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Not Kept Disability
- Divorce
- Death
- Distress
- Disagreement The 5 D’s That Can Drive Business Direction if You Don’t
And, if you think it feels uncomfortable having these conversations at the time of your choosing – Imagine what it’s like having them in the middle of
Crisis
OR
Conflict
I, unfortunately, have seen it happen many times.
6 Siblings
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EP 221: Jonathan de Potter - Psychedelic Mental Transcendence
Jonathan de Potter is the Founder and CEO of Behold Retreats, a bespoke wellness service that facilitates journeys of self-discovery and transformation, supported by the scientifically proven benefits of plant medicine therapy. As a thought-leader in psychedelic plant medicine, his priority is to guide leaders and executives to maximize the benefits, and to raise education and awareness on the subject.
Jonathan’s retreats require weeks of preparation. Goals are planned before and implementation occurs after the event. Jonathan helps others discover their shortcomings and mental blocks. Plant medicine is just one aspect of the process. It is not the primary focus of the retreat. Jonathan puts his focus on shifting mindsets and releasing egoic desire.
Get in touch with Jonathan and checkout Behold Retreats!
Behold Retreats Website: https://www.behold-retreats.com/
Behold Retreats Ayahuasca Retreat in Costa Rica: https://www.behold-retreats.com/retreats/costa-rica
Behold Retreats 5-MeO-DMT Retreat in Mexico: https://www.behold-retreats.com/retreats/mexico
Behold Retreats Psilocybin Retreat in Netherlands: https://www.behold-retreats.com/retreats/netherlands
Jonathan de Potter LinkedIn: https://hk.linkedin.com/in/jonathan-de-potter-aaa9813
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Behold Retreats Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BeholdRetreatsJourney/
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Chris Hull is the Co-Founder and Chief Product Officer of Otus, a Chicago-based edtech company. After 13 years as an educator, Chris wanted to minimize the chaos of disconnected edtech tools for K-12 administrators, educators, students, and their families. Otus is one system to teach, grade, analyze, and plan. With Otus, school leaders can focus on student learning, not technology. Learn more at http://otus.com
As an educator, Chris struggled to collaborate with his peers. The faculty would struggle to piece together information on the performance of students. Instead of working on a solution the staff would spend time scrounging for different documents and notes. Moments like this inspired Chris to develop Otus!
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 217: Michael MacDonald- Basketball to Board Room
https://frombenchtoboardroom.com/
Michael MacDonald is the former executive chairman and CEO of Medifast. Before that, he was an Executive Vice President for Office Max, and spent 33 years in sales, marketing, and general management at Xerox, where he served as the president of the North American Solutions Group--a $65 billion division of the company. He also served on the Jimmy V Foundation for Cancer Research.
Michael was cut from his basketball team the first time he tried out. He eventually played on a scholarship from Rutgers. Michael learned many valuable life lessons through basketball. The sport taught him teamwork, perseverance, and the value of diversity.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 215 Neil Gordon
http://neilcanhelp.com
Neil Gordon works with executives, influencers, and thought leaders and has helped them get six-figure book advances, be seen on shows like Ellen and Dr. Oz, and double their speaking fees. Prior to becoming a communications expert, he worked on the editorial staff of Penguin Random House where he worked with New York Times bestselling authors. He has been featured on Forbes, Fortune, Inc.com., and NBC Palm Springs, and is a VIP contributor for Entrepreneur.
Before Neil helped leaders skyrocket their career's he worked nights for lyft. He struggled to write for more than 10 minutes at a time. He ghost wrote books and made very little until he started helping others improve their communication and deliver a bigger impact. Neil is an amazing story teller and he can help you achieve bigger and bolder accomplishments!
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 213 Paul Shepherd
https://paulbshepherd.com/
Paul Shepherd is a Sydney-based entrepreneur, coach, and creator of a unique system that helps leaders to live a life of purpose and meaning through a holistic 360-degree approach that nurtures the mind, body, and soul.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders defeat team drama to 4X productivity, wow their customers and improve their bottom line with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 210 Family Business 4 Key Questions - Clarify these to Resolve some Conflict
In more than 20 years of working with Family Business the most intense emotions arise around 4 basic topics.
There are nuances, yes, but as I look back they all fit in these categories. Sometimes this challenges land in more than one spot
2 Key Goals - Always
- Profitable Business
- Healthy Family
A real life example: From the family of 6 Next Gen who unexpectedly inherited the business – 2 working in 4 not – building resentment – all had = decision making
2 working in – building resentment – 4 not
– benefitting financially w/o work – decisions driven by the size of their checks.
Who does the work of the business – 2
Who makes decisions – 6
Who owns – 6
Who benefits – 6
Harder to Achieve if Conversations Happen During…..
- Crisis
- Conflict
4 Key Questions to Answer for ~ Now & Later ~
- Who Does the Work of the Business?
- Who Makes Decisions for the Business?
- Who Owns the Business?
- Who Benefits Financially?
Friction can happen when there is confusion around the answers to these questions
When the answers are not consistent –
When the answers pit one family member against the other from competing objectives – like the example I shared
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EP 211 Tony Martignetti- Unlock Your True Potential
https://www.inspiredpurposecoach.com/
Tony Martignetti is a trusted leadership advisor, entrepreneur, idea generator, and people connector. He brings together practical experience, formal training, and extreme curiosity, to elevate leaders and equip them with the tools to navigate through change and unlock their true potential.
Before becoming a leadership development advisor, he was a finance and strategy executive with experience working with some of the world's leading life sciences companies. Along his journey, he also managed small businesses and ran a financial consulting company.
Tony is the host of The Virtual Campfire podcast and the author of "Climbing the Right Mountain: Navigating the Journey to An Inspired Life."
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EP 208 Peace not War – a Poem I wrote in High School
I just ran across my little box of memorabilia from my school years. Even back then I used to write motivational stories, creative short stories and poems. At the time I was very concerned about war. I wrote this poem my Senior Year but it really seems to fit for today’s circumstances so I thought I’d share it now.
Peace Not War
A Poem by Kirsten Ross Vogel
Senior Year in High SchoolMany years ago : )
Struggling with our problems
Taking things in strife
The way we treat each other
You’d think we didn’t care for life
The time we live is oh so short
Why can’t the people see?
We’re in this world together
We share it equally
Let’s put our pride aside right now
There must be no delay
Why is the phrase, “I wish for peace”
So very hard to say?
Start living for the future and
Forget about the past
Work together to reach our common goal
Mankind has to last!
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EP 207 Jerry Brazie
Jerrybrazie.com
Jerry Brazie grew up poor in a family of 9 children. He got his first job at 11 years old. He’s had to steal food just to eat, and has lived on the violent streets before.
Jerry worked more than 20 jobs before starting his first business at age 28. Over the last 20 years his companies have generated over $450M in revenues, and a lifetime of experience.
A serial entrepreneur, he has had thousands of employees and has owned, bought and sold many businesses. His mission is to teach others what is possible, particularly people with a background like his.
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defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Cobus Visser \S/uperman of Africa
International Motivational Keynote Speaker
Teamculture and Firewalk Guru
Peak performance mental strength Consultant
Business & Marketing Strategist
With over a decade in executive and personal coaching, motivational speaking, and most importantly, real-life, in-the-trenches experience – Cobus Visser has shown how one can change your life around and meet greater heights with the correct methods, training, and guidance.
He is an author, motivational speaker, international trainer, life coach, and the only Master Firewalk Instructor in South Africa, dedicated to helping all individuals, be it business leaders, entrepreneurs or people with disabilities.
Cobus was diagnosed with Haemophilia as a child - he endured pain every day of his life since a young age but never has he had his condition define him as a person. In 2013 Cobus found himself in hospital – unable to move and in excruciating pain. But instead of giving up and succumbing to his situation Cobus decided there and then that he will not have his body imprison him for the rest of his life – instead he was determined to move his arms again one day, crawl again one day, and maybe climb to the summit of Mount Kilimanjaro one day. He did all of that. In 2018 Cobus conquered Mount Kilimanjaro and is already planning his next adventure: the Camino de Santiago, Everest base camp & Machu Picchu - Nothing to lose and a world to see..
His own mental strength and abilities have given him the skills and tools to help thousands of people every day to change their lives for the better.
To be born with Haemophilia is not an easy card to have been dealt in life - it involves waking up and going to bed every day in constant pain.
It involves days where he can not leave his bed.
It involves warming up his ankles a minimum of one hour every morning just to be able to move
It involves not knowing if you will wake up tomorrow morning and find yourself in a wheelchair for the rest of your life.
These are the constant physical and emotional battles a Haemophiliac struggles with. “The doctors recently told him that he will have to go for an elbow and two ankle replacements very soon - this all at the age of 37. he feels more like an 87 year old, and is scared to think what might happen to him in the future if these are the struggles at 37.”
However, he still regards himself as ‘lucky’ to be able to walk and move at his age, as many Haemophiliacs in their 30’s can not. he does however share a lot of the struggles and worries that so many Haemophiliacs have , ( the Haemophilia mutation occurs in about 1 of every 5,000 male births) such as providing for their families.
It is impossible for him to find physical work, even a ‘desk job’ is hard to keep as he finds himself unable to move and/or leave the house at least 4-8 days per month - now, which employer will be ‘understanding’ towards that? So not only are you in physical pain, but constantly worrying about the welfare of your family, your wife, your children. As he say “I have never been able to play ball with my children . I will never be able to run and play rugby with them. I feel sad every time I think about that. Not sad for myself, but sad that they will never experience having a father to do those simple things with’
That is why he is regarded as a real life Superman by so many across the globe. He might have been born with a disease that has influenced every single part of his life, but he NEVER let it define his life.
He shocked everyone, including his family, when he climbed to the summit of Mount Kilimanjaro in 2018.
He also shocked everyone when he trained and started conducting fire walks across the globe as a motivational technique.
https://solo.to/cobusvisser
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defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
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www.finniankelly.com, www.intentionality.com
As a sought-after speaker, event facilitator and executive coach, Finnian has been dubbed “the Business Mystic” because of his unique ability to put consciousness into business and inspire leaders to find new levels of meaning and purpose through their creative endeavours.
As an entrepreneur, Finnian built and exited two multi-million dollar companies in the financial industry. He’s the Creator and Chief Visionary Officer of Intentionality.com. Using the Intentionality framework, Finnian guides people to create their path, get on their path, and stay on their path to wholeness.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Aimee is a trusted profitability advisor to six and seven-figure business owners who are tired of being behind in their books and are ready to uncover blind spots and ultimately get more profitable.
Aimee also is a certified life and money coach and specializes with women who long to leave the 9-5 and create a business and build wealth on their terms.
http://www.myvirtualcfo.co
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 199 Gerry Valentine - Adversity to Opportunity
https://www.linkedin.com/in/gerryvalentine/
https://twitter.com/gerryval
https://gerryvalentine.com/book/
Gerry Valentine inspires people to build resilience, overcome setbacks, and understand that adversity can be a source of opportunity. Gerry’s an executive coach and public speaker, and author of a new book, “The Thriving Mindset—Tools for Empowerment in a Disruptive World.” With 27+ years of Fortune 100 leadership experience, he is a trusted advisor to corporate executives, entrepreneurs, and high-performance individuals of all kinds.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 197 Rachel Grant
Rachel Grant is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach and M.A. in Counseling Psychology. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse.
Based on her educational training, study of neuroscience, and lessons learned from her own journey, she has successfully used the Beyond Surviving Program since 2007 to help survivors of childhood sexual abuse who are beyond sick and tired of feeling broken and unfixable break free from the pain of abuse and finally move on with their lives.
https://www.rachelgrantcoaching.com
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 195 Sylvia Marusyk: Wellness in the Workplace
Sylvia Marusyk FB and LI, mindbody.works IG
http://www.mindbodyworks.ca
Sylvia Marusyk is an Activational Speaker, founder and innovative mind behind MindBody Works; a Canadian company focusing on creating and maintaining health and wellness in the workplace. As an Occupational Therapist with 30 years of experience and expertise in the field of health and safety, she emphasizes that prevention is the key to creating happy, healthy individuals, employees and businesses.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 193 Stacey Simms: Communicating and Connecting for Better Information
twitter.com/staceysimms, facebook.com/staceyrsimms, instagram.com/staceysimms
http://www.staceysimms.com
Stacey is the host of the long-running & award winning podcast, Diabetes Connections. She started writing and speaking about diabetes, just after her toddler was diagnosed with type 1, back in 2006. She's an author and a speaker and spent most of her career in local news.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Melanie Weller is a Medical Visionary with a paradigm-shifting process to access genius, health, and flow in your body and business using the vagus nerve as a portal to health, growth, and success. Melanie brings over 25 years of experience to her leading-edge systems where she leverages vagus nerve principles for visionary development, performance enhancement, and fine-tuning genius. Melanie is a Physical Therapist, Board-Certified Orthopedic Clinical Specialist, Certified Athletic Trainer, and a Certified Exercise Expert for Aging Adults.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
In this episode we will cover 20 ways to say no. It can be extremely difficult to turn down an opportunity or request. Sometimes we book ourselves to the point of overwhelm and stress! Stick up for yourself and be specific about what you fill your time with.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 189 Tara Eusebi - A New Way to Bless Others
Tara Eusebi is the Founder and Chief Blesser of Bless. In 2018, Tara stepped away from a successful career in corporate America to pursue her passion for helping others. This pursuit led to the creation and development of Bless, a mobile application that is bringing communities together to help one another in every part of the world.
https://www.bless-app.com
https://www.facebook.com/BlessMobileapp
https://www.instagram.com/blessmobileapp
https://twitter.com/BlessMobileapp?lang=en
https://www.linkedin.com/company/bless-mobile-app
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtvrYPn69BxZoGq7HZIzhvw
https://www.bless-app.com/blesssupply
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 188 3 Keys to Success When What You Sell is YOU
Key 1 Define your lane well.
Avoid trying to take over every task despite your skill level. You might not be providing the best value to clients. This might not be the best use of time. You want to commit full focus. Build a connection with other professionals that compliment your services. You build your value by bringing great referrals. Others can refer you for your specialty.
Key 2 Build your confidence first.
Part of the selling process is hearing no. Bring your skills to opportunities that fit. Provide value rather than sell aggressively to any and all.
Key 3 Dont take it personal
No does not always mean never. It might just not be the right time.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 187 Rick Rassier
https://rickrassier.weebly.com/
For 20 years, Rick Rassier used the “One Man Volleyball Team” platform in school assemblies to challenge students all over the country to set goals and be chemically free. In 2002 he built a Challenge Course on his property with a 60’ climbing tower and other high elements. Since 2010 he has taken the training entirely on the road working with over 250 teams a year. Rick has also been teaching since 1989. His mission in life is simple… challenging people in all walks of life to take their lives to the Next Level! He has always been passionate about what he does, but when he died five years ago for over 27 minutes, his new life theme became, "Every minute has a purpose"!
Book: Take it to the Next Level: Finding the Keys to a High Level Performance
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 186 3 Keys to Managing Remote Workers
Remote work has been around longer than you might think! Remote work saves office space and provides more flexibility. I worked from home while expecting my first son. I had an extra phone for dial-up. Looking back I was ahead of the game! Regardless, remote work is becoming more frequent.
If your employees are working from home there might be a huge shift in your approach. Set specific goals and deadlines to ensure productivity.
One particular image I have in mind is that of two mazes. One maze had a direct route to the finish. The other maze took all sorts of twists and turns. Which maze do you prefer? Appearing busy is less important than achieving goals! Remote work requires more short term goals. Define what progress is!
Remote work can be isolating. Bake in some extra time for team connection. I recommend some open office hours. Play some games online or have some social hours.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Pavel is a Videographer, author and presenter, Pavel is one of the most positive people you will ever meet!
http://www.curiouspavel.com/links
Book - How to Talk to Strangers
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 184 Increase Creative Problem Solving
Does your team lack creative problem solving skills?
You have the power to boost your team's skills. Your team might be trained to come to you to solve issues rather than take their own specific liberties.
Be specific with what your team can solve.
Visualize a sandbox. How much freedom is given to solve an issue. How much room do your employees have. Define what your team's sandbox is.
At zappos a customer service representative has complete creative freedom to solve an issue up to about 100 dollars.
Where does your team lack freedom to solve problems?
Has your team been trained, intentionally or unintentionally to go to leaders with issues.
What is the problem solving process in your business?
Require a few potential solutions when bringing up problems.
Celebrate moments of independent creative problem solving.
Missteps are an opportunity to learn.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 183 Francine Sinclair - Adapting to a Challenging Change
Francine Sinclair is the founder of Francine Sinclair Social Media. A social media strategist who works with small business owners 40+ years old, she helps her clients on average get 10x more engagement, visibility and leads.
The film American Gangster was about her father Frank Lucas - Drug Dealer late 60’s.
Denzel Washington portrayed her father in the film.
FrancineSinclair.com
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 182 3 Tricks For Time Management
- Look at your digital distractions
How much time do you spend following rabbit holes of information?
Are you getting reeled in by social media?
- Complaining about problems without problem solving
Are you spending too much time focusing on problems rather than solutions?
- Scheduling margins
Is your schedule so full that any mishaps completely derail your entire day?
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 181 Rona Lewis
http://www.playfulmindproject.com/shift-your-work
Rona Lewis is the co-founder and CEO of Playful Mind Project, a company that changes corporate culture and assists remote workers (at least during the pandemic!) to ignite engagement and explode productivity utilizing aspects of Purposeful and Attuned Play. She is a professional speaker and has over 10 years consulting experience and 20 years of corporate experience, ending with a VP of Ad Sales title. She’s an expert in “playing” with corporate employees for productivity and creativity, team building, brainstorming and more.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Increase productivity & ramp-up time w/ better on-boarding * Structured vs. Ad-hoc * Q&A Pressure * Learning Curve & Comfort * Accountability * Timely Evaluation, Feedback & Action
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 179 Lorena Tomasini - Life Insurance with a Passion
https://www.malmins.com
Lorena Tomasini is the co-owner of MALM Life and Health Insurance Agency. Together with her mom, they help families and business owners protect their financial future. They work virtually so you can be in the comfort of your home or office, even in your pjs, while taking care of these important matters. She also hosts the 12 Minute Talks Podcast featuring other Florida based business owners. for a free financial protection review, send a text message to 786-236-1792 with FPR.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
defeat team drama
to 4X productivity,
wow their customers
and improve their bottom line
with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 178 Strategies for hiring high performers
I hold this topic near and dear to heart
Retaining and hiring is key to scaling
They will give you results
To be a high performer you need aptitude and attitude. A person with knowledge and a bad attitude will not work.
They know the organization
They have unique knowledge
I cant find anyone better. What if i hire someone worse
I dont know what all they do
They have all the passwords
Document phone numbers addresses and info. Don't let a negative employee hold info hostage.
I’m going to cover a few stories in this episode.
The first occurred at a chiropractic office. The front desk worker had a negative attitude and would scare off customers and coworkers. She refused to let people walk behind her to access files. Plus, she was not that good at her job.
The second was an office manager that other employees and customers loved. She was pleasant and kind but likely stealing. Her boss was racked with guilt.He felt stuck with this employee
Next, there was a non- profit program manager who kept all the passwords. He had a negative attitude and constantly missed deadlines. No one wanted to get rid of him because they didn't want to lose the passwords.
If you have to accommodate negative attitudes and poor performance your high performers will be forced to pick up the slack.
What are the advantages of high performers
1 less training required. They come in with great skills
2 they use discretionary effort. They dont need to be told what to do. They do it.
3 higher productivity
4 creative problem solvers.
5 accountable
6 They care. They will improve your relationships with patients and customers.
What are some of the difficulties associated with high performers?
You need to create a strong culture that gives them the tools to succeed. If you are accommodating poor performance your high performers will feel frustrated.
When it comes to the hiring process leaders don’t always know what they are looking for.
I break the hiring process down into three steps.
Sourcing
Sifting
Selecting
Seal the deal
Assimilating
Post a job or search.
Put some extra steps in order to be considered. Have them answer some questions and or do a cover letter. It is so easy to apply for a job. Sift out people who are just applying for everything regardless of the field.
Select people who have the right skills and experience.
Ask why this position. Have them walk backwards through their resume. Find out why they left. Personality is not negotiable. Their behaviors will create the culture and experience. Know what kind of environment you want to create.
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. If you require great customer service skills ask them to share a story of their skill in the past.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 177: Brian Winch
https://www.cleanlots.com
Brian Winch is the author and creator of Cleanlots - America's Simplest Business. Brian has been involved in all aspects of the parking lot litter cleaning business since 1981. He can show you how to start and operate a simple business based from home and make money from a green service that's almost as easy to do as going for a walk!
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
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EP 176 3 Musts for Managing a Friend
There are so many problems that can occur when hiring a close friend.
Have you hired a friend and you are now second guessing the decision?
Working with friends is not certain to fail but complications can arise.
You don't want your friendship to be destroyed by work. There is more at stake!
Here are some ways I have seen friendships complicate work.
Our new employee isn't working out but he is the son of our best client...
My friend needed a job desperately but he isn't figuring it out or adapting...
We were such good friends when we worked together. I got a promotion and now our relationship has changed...
He treats the core employees way better than the rest of us...
We are in a small town and everyone knows everyone...
We became friends as coworkers. I got a promotion now we’re not...
I managed them and then we became friends…
Here are the three musts!
- commit to separation
- Communicate to keeping separation
- Keep it seperate
It's not easy but it is a must!
Don’t share info your friend shouldn't know.
Friction occurs when there is perceived or real preferential treatment.
Keep your at work time together at a minimum.
Keep outside work activity on the downlow - avoid posting pictures/ referencing time together.
Make sure not to give preferential treatment.
Acknowledge the relationship but clarify boundaries.
Assumed preferential treatment can still cause problems.
Transparency is critical.
If you are hiring a friend because they really need the work. Call it what it is. Calibrate the expectations accordingly.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 175 Shlomo Jesmer - Hope is Closer Than You Think
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwTweUdmukCYQJH9QpqCirg
https://www.instagram.com/shlomojesmer
www.facebook.com/groups/shlomojesmer
ClubHouse: @SchlomoJesmer
Shlomo is an aspiring entrepreneur, a relationship and mindset coach, currently getting certified as a holistic life coach. His coaching focuses on helping couples communicate effectively with one another. He is most proud of being a husband and a father to a beautiful boy and girl; he's also a beginner YouTuber.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
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EP 174 Size DOES Matter – In Hiring
Business growth is GREAT! It’s what you’ve been working towards. BUT….with more business comes the need to add team members. Again, a good challenge to have. BUT….
Finding and sifting through candidates to get to that perfect hire can feel daunting. So much can go wrong. And the stakes are high. Each new hire is an investment. There’s the cost of posting and time/money spent on sifting through resumes, interviewing and more.
Once you hire someone you are immediately investing in them. There’s the time spent to onboard them and start the training process. This includes the money you are paying them per hour or in salary and the wages you spend on the time for any current employees involved in training or answering their questions. And, in the mean time you are losing productivity while
They work to become fully functioning employees.
And, if you hire wrong you are back at it again. Lost momentum, lost investment and POSSIBLY……increased drama along the way. Employees who struggle to fit in, whether it’s a gap in knowledge or a personality that doesn’t fit the culture, DO NOT ALWAYS GO QUIETLY.
Often there is collateral damage of some kind……frustrated team members, customer service issues……
All of this means that the hiring process is even more critical to business success!
Over many years I’ve seen a hiring snafu occur over and over so let me alert you now.
Size Does MATTER!
Leading projects, making things happen, getting work done…………can look very different depending on the size of the organization.
In a very large organization leading a huge project like a software implementation, for instance, can sometimes mean nothing more than getting updates from a team of implementors or a bevy of Directors that report to you. As the VP you get credit but…..did you REALLY learn HOW to drive that project? Did you get your hands in the muck of it?
In a smaller organization overseeing a scale project almost always looks very different. It usually means wearing many hats, getting your hands into the details, prioritizing a wide variety of other important work while adding this huge extra project into your work….IT can mean learning on the fly, working directly with some outsourced pros but generally driving it home by your lonesome.
So…..what does this mean………as you interview make sure you are asking the right questions to learn the ACTUAL role the candidate played in those important projects.
Someone moving from a small organization to a larger one may have difficulty delegating or can become bored with just oversight.
The flip side….a person moving from a huge organization to your smaller one may not know how to get their hands down in the muck and, while on paper it appears they have top notch knowledge……the actual experience might not be where you need it. Oversight is way different than getting into the nitty gritty of a project. A Hands off approach rarely works in a smaller organization.
My name is Kirsten Ross, author, HR Pro and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders who want to make a bigger, bolder impact
- defeat team drama
- 4X productivity,
- And improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable leadership strategies, Courageous Communication BluePrints and mindset shifts.
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EP 173 Willem Gous - Start Today Have Money Tonight Building Careers in Africa
http://www.WillemGous.com
According to the world bank it costs on average $30,000 to create ONE job, that is not affordable in Africa. To fix this Willem created a program that brought this cost down to less than $3,000. Today he creates jobs in Africa by helping people build profitable businesses in a matter of weeks. Willem is an international speaker, trainer and consultant on Innovation, leadership and entrepreneurship.
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
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Do you have a tough time starting correction conversations?
According to what I hear – it’s most, if not all of you.
Over years I’ve listened as leaders share their frustration about employee performance followed by their excuses….Otherwise known as FEARS, about holding those same employees accountable.
The frustrations I hear. Do any sound familiar?
Why can’t they just do their jobs?!?
Why do I even have a team?
So many errors! I’m tired of cleaning up customer service issues!
They’re spending most of their day on the internet!
I try to MODEL appropriate work ethic for them – Why don’t they just follow my lead?
I delegate tasks but they never get done. I just have to do things myself!
Is it REALLY that difficult to show up for work on time?
I tried to implement a new piece of equipment to make life easier but no one will use it!
And then the Excuses….that sound like reasons but aren’t…..for why they haven’t had the conversation to correct behavior.
I don’t have time
They just get mad
It never works anyway
A real favorite of mine - I don’t want them to quit
I yelled at everyone 2 weeks ago and it made no difference
I believe in leadership in service – it’s a win-win if every employee can be successful.
A simple way to communicate this that also happens to be a powerful and simple way to ignite a great employee correction conversation are the 3 words
HELP ME UNDERSTAND
These 3 simple words can begin a conversation that puts you on the side of their success.
It communicates – “I want you to be successful. Let’s work together to figure out what needs to change.”
A woman just shared her story with me about why she quit her job. The boss’s wife was calling to very aggressively give her personal work to do. Both the calls and tasks took away time that she needed to do her job. Her boss did not know this was happening. He treated her poorly for missing work deadlines. Now, yes, she could have initiated the conversation and it is what I would have recommended had I spoken with her before she quit.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
DefeattheDrama.com/Call
EP 171: Vince De Benedetto - Empowering Employees Everyday
Vince De Benedetto, is an MBA and Founder and CEO of the marketing automation firm - Automated Dreams - in Portland, OR. He helps transformational leaders and businesses scale their positive impact in the world through automation, conversational marketing, and mentors leaders to work smarter not harder.
www.automateddreams.com
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
DefeattheDrama.com/Call
EP 170 Are You Fixing it for Now Or Fixing it For Good?
Client – in conference room. Light kept going off. Motion sensor. Several times during the hour he needed to stand up move away from the table and wave his arms to get it to go back on
The Simple Fix For Now……
How often are you doing this in your work? Dealing with the reoccurring issue and jumping to the quickest response vs. stepping back to Fix it for Good.
It seems minor – just stand up and wave your arms. But over the course of weeks, months, years……how much time might this business waste on pausing a meeting, getting sidetracked during an important conversation – possibly losing a train of important thought – relaunching a great discussion
How many people have uttered the words “Now, where were we?” in that room.
When the simple FOR GOOD FIX is likely to either re-direct the motion sensor, shift the timing of it OR, move the table.
The most obvious fix is not necessarily the best.
And we can accommodate small interruptions over and over without acknowledging how the minutes can add up.
Where are you re-creating the simple fix for now where you should be looking for the longer term Fix it for Good?
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
DefeattheDrama.com/Call
169 Mike Swigunski
https://globalcareerbook.com/
Mike Swigunski is a #1 bestselling author of Global Career: How to Work Anywhere and Travel Forever. He is a remote job and travel expert that has helped build multiple six, seven, and even eight-figure online businesses while traveling around the world to more than 85+ countries!
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
DefeattheDrama.com/Call
EP 168 3 Keys to More Productive Meetings
Excited –
Who here hates meetings?
Help you feel confident and empowered as a leader
My name is Kirsten Ross Vogel, author, HR Pro and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders who want to make a bigger, bolder impact
- defeat team drama
- 4X productivity,
- And improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems and mindset shifts.
Common Meeting Frustrations
- Meetings Starting and Ending Late – LOOK AROUND AND CONSIDER THE TIME AND…..MONEY BEING WASTED!
- People Not Attending or Not Prepared
- Feeling Like You are Wasting Time
- Unclear Objective ~ Why Am I Here?
- Including Unnecessary People in the Meeting – HIGH JACK MTG, IRRELEVANT OR NOT FACT BASED OPINIONS
- Dealing with Power Struggles and Undefined Roles
- Texting/Emailing During Meetings!
- Sidebar Conversations – OR BACKHALL AFTER THE FACT
- No Follow Through / No Progress
INSTEAD
- The Meeting Must have at Least 1 Goal
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A Real Goal – sharing info, discussing, deciding, sharing ideas? –quick updates among team members or departments Not just someone said we should have meetings
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A Meeting Must have the Key Players – if you need to make decisions but decision makers aren’t available – don’t have the meeting
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A Series of Meetings Must Create Progress
- Real Progress – if you decide in the meeting assign next steps – what will happen before the next meeting and who is accountable
Struggling with a Team or Family Business Challenge? Grab a spot on my calendar. You’ll get a Business Breakthrough in 15 minutes and we’ll talk next steps. DefeatTheDrama.com/call
EP 167 Tara Murphy
Tara is the mother of 2 children with autism and founder of the Parenting Frontier, a non-attorney advocacy which specializes in appropriate education for special education students.
Her legal struggle for her children provides hope and inspiration to many. Despite what others think Tara stands up for what she believes in.
Theparentingfrontier.com
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
DefeattheDrama.com/Call
EP 166 How to Pay to Retain High Performers
Welcome
Frustration that comes from holding on to a big vision and feeling like if you want something done right – or done at all you just have to do it yourself – have you ever asked yourself – why do I even have a team?
Many of my clients have been where you are……
In the right place – follow through accountability –
- A lot relies on hiring and retaining high performers,
My name is Kirsten Ross, author, HR Pro and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders who want to make a bigger, bolder impact
I’m going to share…….some compensation basics
Why you want to retain high performers
Pay can be a de-motivator but is not the most powerful motivator
More than one kind of pay
Hourly or annual salary rate – want it to be fair and close to pay external and internal – FAIRNESS big focus
Total Compensation – many don’t communicate it as a total and miss the opportunity to gain the full benefit – get employees thinking about total
These are Extrinsic Rewards
Intrinsic Rewards =- More important
Purpose
Opportunity
Feel a part
Positive environment –
People will leave for less money
If you’re ready to take action I have few spots left in my calendar this week for a free 30 minute leadership breakthrough consultation GO TO DefeatTheDrama.com/Call to claim yours now.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
- defeat team drama
- 4X productivity,
- And improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems and mindset shifts.
EP 165 Henry Daas: Don't Make the Same Mistakes... Make New Ones!
"Henry started his first biz in 1991 selling, installing, servicing and financing computers to large corporations. Since then he has founded a succession in firms in the e-commerce, finance, real estate and consumer products spaces. For much of the past decade, Henry has taken his experience as an entrepreneur and used it as a platform to coach other business owners and founders.
In addition, in 2019, He self-published a 432-page book on everything you need to know about how to grow and manage your money. He offers a 20-week course where he teaches it to you, one-on-one. He also runs curated masterminds on business and finance.
In his infinite leisure, Henry writes screenplays (for fun), plays golf, travels (when not on lockdown), plays Catan with his three boys, and does other fun stuff…" He offers free coaching for any and all for 3 months Helping people clear away the clutter and get focused on what matters. Seeing the transformation! Putting himself out there. His family understanding your motives and doing it anyway.
www.daasknowledge.com
If you’re ready to take action I have few spots left in my calendar this week for a free 30 minute leadership breakthrough consultation GO TO DefeatTheDrama.com/Call to claim yours now.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
I’ve been helping leaders just like you defeat their team drama for more than 15 years.
Again, If you’re ready to take action I have few spots left in my calendar this week for a free 30 minute leadership breakthrough consultation GO TO DefeatTheDrama.com/BookCall to claim yours now.
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 164 – Defend Your Dollars – Learn the 7 Key Causes of Workplace Drama
#3 in a Series If you haven’t already take a listen to episodes 160 and 162. You can find them easily by going to DefeatTheDrama.com and clicking on the podcast site.
DAY 3
Are you feeling even more motivated to Defeat Your Team Drama? Are you feeling lost, like where do I start?
No Worries! In this episode I’m going to share the KEY Causes of Workplace Drama that I’ve seen OVER AND OVER AND OVER in every industry – of ANY Size and Type – Privately Held, Family-Owned, Non-Profit – Small to HUMUNGOUS. It doesn’t matter. There is a Pattern to what creates Drama in a Team.
Today’s List will give you plenty of ideas for where to begin on your quest to Defeat Your Team Drama
I’ve been helping leaders just like you defeat their team drama for more than 15 years.
And, let me just say, I use the term Drama very loosely –
Because to me, when it comes to business, Drama is ANYTHING that shifts focus away from where it needs to be – You need a team laser focused on serving your customer, clients, or patients…….
Why have I made it my mission to help leaders Defeat Drama? Because passionate entrepreneurs, family businesses, and non-profits have important work to fulfill and too often drama stands in the way. Drama zaps energy, shifts focus AND WORSE – Costs WAY more money than you know!
- Drama Outside the Workplace
- Process Problems
- Moving Targets/Shifting Goals/Changing Priorities, Processes and
- Unfocused Time
- Inconsistency
- Inadequate Communication
- People Problems
Tolerating any of the Above
If you’re ready to take action I have few spots left in my calendar this week for a free 30 minute leadership breakthrough consultation GO TO DefeatTheDrama.com/Call to claim yours now.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
I’ve been helping leaders just like you defeat their team drama for more than 15 years.
Again, If you’re ready to take action I have few spots left in my calendar this week for a free 30 minute leadership breakthrough consultation GO TO DefeatTheDrama.com/Call to claim yours now.
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 163 Joseph Fung
https://uvaro.com
Joseph is a 4-time entrepreneur with multiple successful exits, the host of The Sellers Journey podcast, and is currently the CEO of Uvaro, the fastest growing tech sales bootcamp in North America. He helps people in career transition launch their careers in tech, and would love some help telling those stories! Joseph is also the CEO of Kiite, a sales enablement platform purpose-built to provide sales teams with the information they need when they need it.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
DefeattheDrama.com/Call
EP 162 – What is Drama Costing Your Business Beyond Dollars? #2 in a Series
This is #2 in a series. If you didn’t already listen, make sure to go to DefeatDrama.com and find episode # 160
So, did you use my simple calculation to learn the minimal amount you are investing in team drama
Weekly? Annually?
How does that feel??
I’ve been helping leaders just like you defeat their team drama for more than 15 years.
And, let me just say, I use the term Drama very loosely –
Because to me, when it comes to business, Drama is ANYTHING that shifts focus away from where it needs to be – You need a team laser focused on serving your customer, clients, or patients…….
Why have I made it my mission to help leaders Defeat Drama? Because passionate entrepreneurs, family businesses, and non-profits have important work to fulfill and too often drama stands in the way. Drama zaps energy, shifts focus AND WORSE – Costs WAY more money than you know!
In addition is the personal toll….and if you’re like any of my clients, you are likely feeling the brunt of this personal toll
The personal toll
Frustration
Overwhelm
Burn out
Resignation
But let’s dig even deeper into additional costs not factored into our very simple calculation:
These additional business costs are, perhaps, more challenging to calculate but can be huge, probably bigger than the cost of the lost time.
Increased liability – if your team isn’t functioning well there’s a higher probability of mistakes that can lead to poor outcomes. If a client, customer or patient suffers as a result there can be huge costs.
- An injury from a poorly constructed product
- Mis-information that causes a client to take missteps in their business.
- In healthcare a med error or procedural error could cost a life
Take a moment to think about your business. How could employee missteps, miscommunications, lack of focus impact those you serve?
So, maybe an issue doesn’t cause damage large enough to create a liability issue but each SERVICE service issue is costly: There’s the time to TAKE a Customer/Client/Patient Complaint. Then there’s the time to design and implement a satisfactory response. OR….there is no satisfactory response and you lose that customer along with anyone else they tell – PERSONALLY – or on Social Media.
Then there’s the Decrease in productivity – time overall is used less effectively……
How about the Increase in chaos as a team works confused, coping with issues, putting out fires, working against the clock.
So…..for today’s Action – I want you to think about what I’ve shared.
HERE’s a Simple One scenario – sales team – customer complaint – trying to fix things –
Drama
Time
Frustration
Ongoing bickering
If you’re ready to take action I have few spots left in my calendar this week for a free 30 minute leadership breakthrough consultation GO TO DefeatTheDrama.com/Call to claim yours now.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
I’ve been helping leaders just like you defeat their team drama for more than 15 years.
Again, If you’re ready to take action I have few spots left in my calendar this week for a free 30 minute leadership breakthrough consultation GO TO DefeatTheDrama.com/BookCall to claim yours now.
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Freddy Fri
courttimeevents.com
Freddy Fri is a life champion, entrepreneur, speaker, voice over talent, basketball coach, international underground hip hop artist and motivational lyricist/speaker. Freddy is a man that wears many hats that all fit under one umbrella - LIFE TRANSFORMER! Freddy is a master at transforming, reinventing and changing not only his persona, but the lives of others. He is known by many in numerous countries throughout the world as Playya 1000, hip hop artist extraordinaire, but he made a decision to reinvent himself and combine the power of speech, story, spoken word and hip hop to become the empowering life transformer Freddy Fri your PushaMan, whose mission is to help the masses make everyday a WINSday.
The reason he calls himself a life champion and is so passionate about making every day a WINSday is because, inspite of his mother passing away when he was four years old, growing up in a home with a mentally abusive, drug addicted step mom, being bullied in school, selling drugs as a young adult, raising four children as a single dad and not obtaining a bachelors degree until forty three. He found a way to persevere through the adversity and WIN, not only financially, but mentally as well. He delivers stories from his own personal experiences in several unique ways to captivate, empower and inspire people of all ages.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 160 – How Many Dollars Do You Lose to Drama?
This is the first in a 3 part series
Do any of these sound like you?
Are you hoping to get your team to JUST DO THEIR JOBS?
It seems everything gets done better and quicker if you do it yourself.
You try to do it all but constantly feel overwhelmed and resentful.
Fed up with all of the drama, bickering and complaining?
Ever feel like hiding from all of it forever?
That employee drama is costing you WAY more than your mood! Let’s talk Dollars!
I’ve been helping leaders just like you defeat their team drama for more than 15 years.
And, let me just say, I use the term Drama very loosely –
Because to me, when it comes to business, Drama is ANYTHING that shifts focus away from where it needs to be. You need a team laser focused on serving your customer, clients, or patients…….
Why have I made it my mission to help leaders Defeat Drama? Because passionate entrepreneurs, family businesses, and non-profits have important work to fulfill and too often drama stands in the way. Drama zaps energy, shifts focus AND WORSE – Costs WAY more money than you know!
Studies show that each employee wastes at least 2 ½ hours per week dealing with drama.
And I’ll place emphasis on AT LEAST here. Over the course of more than 15 years I’ve seen the collateral damage that happens around drama. But….let’s move forward with a simple calculation to illustrate the cost of drama at just an average of 2 ½ hours per week per employee.
Let’s keep it simple with a team of 25 employees making $18.00 per hour.
25 employees x 2.5 hours = 62.5 hours per week invested in team drama
Now, let’s multiply those 62.5 hours times an average hourly rate of $18.00 – Keep in mind, you are likely spending MORE than than per hour on at least some of your employees, if not all. We could also calculate an hourly cost of paid benefits…….But, again, let’s keep it simple.
So $18 multiplied by 62.5 hours gives us a grand total of $1,125 per week invested in team drama!
Soak it in for a minute. Is that where you want to spend your money?
But wait……It gets even worse. Let’s multiply that weekly expense by 52 weeks. How much is this hypothetical team spending on drama for the year? $58,500 WASTED on Team Drama!!
What could you do with an extra $58,500?
Keep in mind this is JUST what you’re spending on time invested in on the act of distraction. The total cost is MUCH higher if you add in lost productivity, less business, more customer service issues! And, if you have high drama, not only is your team investing more of your dollars into drama but they are likely driving away your good employees. Higher turnover means more dollars to replace people. And, your best people have more options and are more likely to get burned out.
This is hypothetical. I encourage you to do the same math for your organization. Use average hourly rate (turn an annual salary to hourly by dividing by 2080 hours) or use each person’s actual hourly rate multiplied by 2.5 and then 52 to give you the annual cost.
What’s your number?
If you’re ready to take action I have few spots left in my calendar this week for a free 30 minute leadership breakthrough consultation GO TO DefeatTheDrama.com/Session to claim yours now.
I’ve been helping leaders just like you defeat their team drama for more than 15 years.
And, let me just say, I use the term Drama very loosely –
Because to me, when it comes to business, Drama is ANYTHING that shifts focus away from where it needs to be – You need a team laser focused on serving your customer, clients, or patients…….
Why have I made it my mission to help leaders Defeat Drama? Because passionate entrepreneurs, family businesses, and non-profits have important work to fulfill and too often drama stands in the way. Drama zaps energy, shifts focus AND WORSE – Costs WAY more money than you know!
Again, If you’re ready to take action I have few spots left in my calendar this week for a free 30 minute leadership breakthrough consultation GO TO DefeatTheDrama.com/Call to claim yours now.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 159 Lyn Lindbergh
COUCH to ACTIVE https://www.couchtoactive.com
Lyn Lindbergh is the creator of COUCH to ACTIVE. She is an award winning author and host of the podcast, COUCH to ACTIVE. Lyn helps people finally conquer the couch and become the active person they've been longing for. Her heart is focused on the people who face unique health and personal issues that make exercise more difficult than the average person.
Lyn spent 20 years working in corporate and she was a single mom for 10 years. In her heart she knew she was an entrepreneur but felt stuck despite her success. Three weeks after starting the groundwork for Couch to Active she was laid off. lyn hopes to change attitudes towards exercise. According to the cdc 80% of people dont get enough exercise to stave off preventable diseases.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Congratulations on the choice to invest in you and your business
My hope is that you are taking in the information I share here and then getting in action
Digest
Ponder
Apply
Act
NO analysis paralysis
Today I’m going to cover……….a mindset shift strategy
The goal is that by the end of our quick time together you will have the motivation needed to hurdle into the discomfort of change and the specific steps to take if this area is a challenge for you
I know from questions I’ve received and work with thousands of leaders over years that increasing team follow through is a focus for many
Over the course of almost 30 years I have worked with MANY leaders who love to keep everyone happy – great goal – but it doesn’t always jive with leadership…..or parenting for that matter – and there are, ironically, some similarities
The goal is the find business success – and it isn’t always possible to achieve that AND keep everyone happy – that’s Reality
I always say, you are who you are in your work and in your life – we can work on one and we’ll impact both. This has tended to hold especially true when it comes to people pleasing -
Here are some clues that you might be avoiding conversations or messages that might make people mad
- You tell yourself that employees and volunteers should just know what to do.
- You’ve resigned yourself to the belief that if you want things done right – or done at all you just have to do them yourself
- You are constantly overwhelmed
- You have resentment building inside towards members of your team
- You are afraid to have performance correction conversations – OR – you tell yourself you don’t have time for the conversations…..excuses win – eventually you say….now it’s been too long it would be weird to bring it up now
- You stuff your feelings or are not even aware of them – Maybe you aren’t even certain what I mean when I ask about your feelings
You minimize your own wants and needs
You excuse or justify away your need to speak up
If this is you - you are not alone!
I can’t count the number of times I’ve had clients tell me, I just want everyone to be happy. I’m just really nice.
Generally, what are they doing to try to keep everyone happy? avoiding tough conversations, lying, withholding information, manipulating circumstances, saying yes to way too many tasks……which all lead to overwhelm, resentment, frustration.
And there are many unintended consequences, beyond the personal build-up of resentments, overwhelm, frustrations, disappointments, chaos that comes with trying to keep everyone around you happy so that you can feel okay. The lost energy spent to track modified messages, make things happen covertly, stuffing true feelings while plastering a smile.
Yes, beyond these personal consequences are these:
Unintended Consequences:
You Rob Others of their Opportunity to Excel – They have no idea you’d like them to do better or be different. By staying silent or complaining only to others you are robbing them of the chance to choose different actions.
REMEMBER employees want to feel like they are doing a good job – MOST want the TRUTH…..if you are telling them nothing OR – only telling them what they want to hear they are not sure if they really are doing a good job AND……
How often are you saying, I just don’t have time to have that correction conversation?
You are Effectively Allowing Employees to Make Decisions for the Business
If they show up late, leave early or take longer lunches they are setting work hours
If they fail to follow the processes you’ve outlined or use the new piece of equipment they are designing how work should happen
If they are staying on cell phones, having bad attitudes with your customers or patients, they are making those business decisions for you.
If they decide deadlines by missing yours – those are business decisions they are making
And it is highly likely that your employees
- Don’t have the same perspective, breadth of information, knowledge, insight that you do as a leader
- May not be putting the interest of the business ahead of their own…..
People can’t trust you: – Yep, that’s right! Whether it’s just a deep down feeling they carry or something they know to be true for certain, those around you can’t trust your words. You say you are fine, but are you really? You say you can help, but will you actually show? You say you’re happy with their achievements, but have they really done enough?
So many of my clients have been in this situation – in every instance once they started speaking up transformation happened – quickly
Angry employee story – resigned
Another instance – after some push back – during the period of transition when they thought they could still make the rules – employee got on board – productivity up! Investment in a good employee saved and ROI increased as work aligned with business objectives
Do you feel motivated to make the change that you must?
Here are 5 Steps to Stop Your People Pleasing
- Collect the Pain: Begin to notice where you feel resentment, disappointment towards others. Notice when you are overwhelmed and frustrated. Pay attention to all the times you put your agenda aside for someone else’s emergency or request. FEEL inward
- Determine What You Want/Need: It may have been a while since you thought about what you wanted. Practice doing some check ins throughout the day. Determine whether you are pretending to be happy or if you really are.
- Start Speaking Up: Begin having at least small correction conversations with your employees -cell phones out, lack of follow through on a small project…..no to requests where appropriate and start asking for help from others. Set clear expectations for your employees. Provide constructive feedback where necessary.
- Gather Successes: As you speak up have a correction conversation, ask for help or say no and get a good response, take note. Remember all the times that your feared outcome did not happen. Start with people who are easier to speak with. Then work towards tackling the tougher employees – the ones who use stay stuck strategies to design their own work - NOTE – be careful that you aren’t focusing on feedback to your rockstars too long though….Remember they take feedback well and it’s easier but if you stay in this phase too long they are frustrated.
- Build Momentum: Continue to speak up as you build enthusiasm and feel empowered. Enjoy the feeling and keep going!
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
DefeatTheDrama.com/DelegationSheet
Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 156 Help Your Team Hurdle the Challenges of Change
Thrilled you are here -
Congratulate you on – being here – embracing change yourself –
Ready to replace, eliminate and conquer the challenges you’ve faced with your teams.
Here’s the truth – to make your biggest, boldest impact in the world you need to get the most from your team you need a productive team
Breathe in the possibility and breathe out the doubt! I’ve had the privilege of doing this work for almost 30 years and have been witness to the transformation of teams in all kinds of industries……Often leaders are so much closer than they realize……change can happen swiftly with intentional action
The saying – Sometimes we are the most frustrated when we are just 3 feet from the gold.
I don’t think there’s ever been a time when we humans were bombarded with so much change. And this last year….well, how many times did we hear, it’s unprecedented?
Here’s a little stat – see if you can wrap your brain around this.
Over 2.5 quintillion bytes of data are created every single day, and it's only going to grow from there. It’s estimated that 1.7MB of data are created every second for every person on earth.
I don’t know about you, but I can’t even begin to fathom how much data that is? How much is a quintillion??
Clearly – change is a given – Before you start to feel stressed by this notion let’s stop to remember what our phones were like a few years ago. Depending on your age, you can think back all the way to when phones had a dial and were attached to the wall. A little farther back and an operator played an integral role in connecting you.
Look at all the change you’ve survived!
If you are old enough……you can recall a time when you had to go to the library to do research for a paper. And if your topic was extra technical you might even have to go to the basement to work with a special librarian who’d retrieve the musty, dusty reference you required from a locked room.
Look at the change you’ve maneuvered.
Ask someone to switch from Coke to Pepsi and you’ll witness change aversion in action.
My Change Story – Moving 45 minutes away
We recently moved and I was shocked at my own response to change. I hadn’t anticipated it. I always look objectively at my own reactions to marvel, assess and take note. I learn from my own experiences so that I can share with others.
The move was only 45 minutes away but that required learning a new area, finding the grocery store I liked, testing out times and routes to work around traffic. I no longer had routines in my home and, as an efficiency junkie I was struggling with decisions about where to keep things. Where should each item find its home?
I was tired and felt out of sorts. I found myself exploring my new area in a tight circumference around my home. No desire to expand my horizons until I had a good lay of the land close by.
It was unanticipated…..but this is what can happen when we move through change.
So, how can you help your team move through necessary change at work? Here are some key strategies:
Give Grace but don’t accommodate –
- to expect that all will happily move towards change is setting yourself up for frustration as a leader – A realistic expectation is that people will be challenged….
- It is innately difficult for humans to undergo change – some will have an even tougher time. Amygdala – Lizard brain function to keep all of life constant – doesn’t say no change – makes up reasons that feel like fact
Not trying to turn you into a counselor and don’t expect to fully take on the role of helping them get to a place where it’s comfortable….BUT acknowledging it’s NORMAL will help both you and them…..
So….acknowledge = empathize but move on -= the train is leaving…..
Do they have any relevant concerns
Get Input – Example IT department – end users trying to give me all this input during the training
Veterans – For yourself OR to share with your leaders - you may see the end result – have higher level ideas immediately – new less experienced may take longer to get there…..let them go on the journey with you – takes a little extra time but can build buy in
Give them the chance to give input – don’t jump on ideas as wrong immediately – let it play out = help them take the journey to where you are = teach –
Otherwise you may silence them – they will feel like their input has no value = And they DO have value -= new perspectives = make sure it’s not your challenge with change stopping you from considering alternative ideas
And……if you immediately think that idea is no good – is your Amygdala taking over?
Reality check initial thoughts about new ideas.
See this often in family businesses when the next generation enters – there is conflict between old school and the new generation who wants to make a mark – but may be bringing new and great ideas learned from school, outside experience – which hopefully they have had
Communication Back –
- thank them for input –
- AND share at least general details about what was decided and why – if their input could not be used – ideas not implemented – were they considered? Share that – share why they were not used or had to be tabled.
Review & Revise
- Prep for hiccups and future change – most change happens in waves – it does and it SHOULD…
Change should include a checkup – how is it going – hiccups are opportunities for more tweaks – often organizations skip that step too – Communicate up front to create the expectation that it will not all be perfect – expectations equals easier to deal with -
AND something you can say to quiet those with louder amygdales
Provide opportunities for feedback AND ideas
Whining is easy
Pointing out problems is easy
Saying this will never work is easiest of all –
Encourage or even require employees to provide solutions – if they see an issue, what ideas do they have to resolve it or make it better?
why decisions were made –
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
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Lyle Tard Episode 157
Serviceispower.org/aboutus
Lyle is a 19 year military veteran who has been fighting to discover significance his entire life. In 2018, he founded IMPACT Servant Leadership because he realized that true success in life is gained through unlocking the significance in others through Servant Leadership principles teaching that "Leaders lead best when they Serve."
Lyle was a military kid. His life was dictated to him as he grew. Then, he joined the military himself and was told what he should like, what he should do, who he should be.
He now realizes how important it is to be who you were designed to be and wants to help others make their own impact. His goal, help others become great servant leaders. He gains inspiration from Dan Rockwell, Leadership Freak.
The biggest challenge he’s had to overcome is the same challenge he helps others overcome; selfishness. Servant leadership requires something that is not innate to humans, selflessness.
He also shares that you should never be afraid to fail and quotes John Maxwell, “Failure is your fuel.”
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 155 Susie Reynolds Reece
Susie is the founder and executive director of Suicide Prevention Allies a non profit that formed from community grass roots efforts geared at preventing suicide. Reece is no stranger to the desperate need for suicide prevention. Having dealt with major depression stemming from multiple traumas suffered during her early childhood. She shares her story of childhood trauma and losses to inspire others to speak about our most difficult human issues
Reece is a proud southern fried Asian A.K.A. Korean Arkansan style, published author, national speaker, and mental health advocate. As well as a seasoned suicide prevention strategist and consultant.
https://susiereece.org/
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
EP 154 3 Keys to Retaining Your Rockstars – OR The Triple A Method
You Can NOT compensate your way out of a bad work environment….you can for a period but….it’s a downward spiral and eventually your rock star will be recruited away either for more money - after all, in the end they were only with you for money – they loved what you were up to but the environment was intolerable……
Or….they’ll be recruited away for a better opportunity – maybe even for less money…..
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Key Foundational Assumptions – You’ll hear me say this over and over – all
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Feel like they are doing a good job
- Known, Acknowledged, Appreciated
- Feel like their life is part of something bigger than themselves
Here’s the Triple A Method (AAA)
Appreciation
- See them
- Thank them
- Give them special attention – too often I see leaders worried about employees feeling bad if they aren’t getting recognition. PLEASE do NOT design your recognition program in a way that minimizes discomfort for your non-performers…..Do that and guess who is feeling uncomfortable. Yes, of course, your rockstars! Who work hard and then feel invisible.
You want an environment where authentic praise and recognition is abundant. If an employee desires to have more recognition help them strategize about how they can modify their work or behavior to EARN what they desire.
Accountability
Take one quick minute to visualize your lowest performing employee – I know you know who they are – now visualize what your business, office, department would run like if everyone performed at their same level – Yes, this is where I get the uncomfortable laughs……
what would happen?
Guess who is picking up the slack for their poor performance - Assuring that what you just envisioned DOES NOT happen….Likely YOU – And….Your Rock Stars – and they are building resentment and beginning to burn out – and guess who has more opportunity out in the world
- Your Rockstars are jumping up and down at least figuratively and possibly literally when they see you hold people accountable
- When your leadership style lacks accountability your rockstars are likely part of the formula that sustains the business - the ones picking up the slack
- Too often rockstars are held to a higher standard – Here’s what I see far too often – A leader starts thinking…..hmmmmmmm…I haven’t had any correction conversations with people in a while – well guess who’s easiest to talk to – the Rockstar who appreciates constructive feedback BUT – if you start talking to them too often about the miniscule thing they did wrong while you let the low performers slide – they will start to build frustration, resentment and more….and you’ll have them walking out the door.
Your high performing employees will leap for joy if you start holding people accountable! You don’t need to start everyone on a discipline path. Just hit a reset. Put everyone on notice that these are the expectations and you need everyone the team to hit the bar you set. If some continue to fall short, and they will until they realize you are serious, you’ll sit down individually to communicate the gap you are seeing and create a plan for improvement. If the issues continue then start to walk the discipline path.
Advancement
High performing employees love to achieve. Give them plenty of opportunities to Advance as they work for you – Otherwise their motivation to grow can have them walking out the door. If you lead a smaller, flat organization, Don’t worry, there are ways beyond a promotion to help someone advance.
- Advance Skills – what skills could take them to the next level? What skills would they love to learn? What skills will they need in the next position? Map it out and help them build those skills
- Advance Coaching or Mentoring Opportunities – align them with a personal resource that can elevate their work and life game. Rockstars have high aspirations and coaching and mentoring can help them gain clarity and overcome personal barriers to achieving.
- Advance Chance to Train Others – Finding these opportunities can create a real win win – Your Rockstars have mad skills and will feel honored that you trust them to share their knowledge with others. A little caution here, however……I encourage you to give a monetary bonus or some other compensation to reward them if they’ll be doing a lot of training. Resentments can build if they perceive you are benefiting from their skill without rewarding them.
- Advance chance to Shadow
- Advance chance to meet leaders in your organization – Or network with industry leaders outside the organization =- in other words, networking. Pay for their membership, give them time to attend and pay for some events.
- Advance chance to Represent the Organization – Events, Booths
- Advance in the company - Promotion
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ready for some individualized help for your leadership challenges? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s discuss how I can help you transform your leadership and your team.
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Phillip Andrew Barbb
www.PhillipAndrew.co
Phillip Andrew is an Emmy-Nominated Los Angeles-based television producer who has been asked to speak around the country educating and encouraging High School and College Students through high energy entertainment and unforgettable storytelling.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Episode 152
Life Lessons from My Random, Radical Tree
Recently, I was gazing into my backyard and noticed this large tree that has grown through a decorative garden barrel. And as I looked out at it it brings to mind some life lessons. You see, I remember when that tree was very small. It grew from the seeds of a nearby tree. The first few summers I would think, "I need to pull that out of there. Then as it grew, "I need to get the shears and cut that out of there." The thing is....I never did either. And NOW...it's this big full grown tree that would require a chain saw to take it down.
My first thought....."Oh my gosh I'm getting old! You have to be to see a tree grow like that!
Then I think...WOW does time fly!
But then the life lesson hits: How often do we intend to use that simple solution to take care of an issue but then put it off too long while the problem becomes bigger?
Yep....that's what I've done. And I guarantee there were other issues I intended to address but didn't. Lesson today....Don't put off what you can simply solve. At some point, time may create an emergency that will require your focus at an inconvenient time.
BUT…..then a second thought hit me and I was grateful for that tree. You see, I believe that I actually chose well. My kids got my time when we were in our backyard. We played in the pool, talked, laughed and enjoyed. Yes, I didn’t keep up with the gardening back there but man did we make some great memories!
Yes, time does march on. Be intentional about how you use it. Trees grow and so do your kids!
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Ep 151: Kevin Eastman
Kevin was in the U.S. Airforce with over 20 years of service including stints as a drill instructor and a recruiter. He is also the author of the book Don't Gamble on Life Improvement Until You Shift the Odds. Kevin has faced many obstacles and has been fortunate enough to overcome them. Now he is on a mission to help others do the same, by simplifying those obstacles. He believes the simpler things are made to appear the easier they are to understand and overcome.
Kevin is motivated by sharing his personal experience, in order to help others. He has overcome bad relationships, low self confidence, and repeating the same mistakes over and over. He believes an obstacle is only as large as you make it in your head. Perception is a key aspect to his success. He mentors and coaches others to see problems as they are rather than what we think they are.
Kevin mentors many younger people. He gives them the tools they need to be successful young adults. He believes you are never too old to be mentored. He always tells people “ it is not too late and you are not too old.” In order to accomplish a goal you have to be willing to go over, under, around, or even through, any obstacle in your way.
A link to Kevin’s book:
https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Gamble-Improvement-Until-Shift-ebook/dp/B078RXTHSP
A link to Kevin’s website:
https://kevineeastman.com/
http://defeatthedrama.com/
http://podcast.defeatthedrama.com/
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Isolation vs. Solitude Ep 150
Isolation
the process or fact of isolating or being isolated.
"the isolation of older people"
- an instance of isolating something, especially a compound or microorganism.
plural noun: isolations
- denoting a hospital or ward for patients with contagious or infectious diseases.
Done to you – not a choice – Often activated for the protection of others
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an act or instance of isolating.
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the state of being isolated.
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the complete separation from others of a person suffering from contagious or infectious disease;quarantine.
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to set or place apart; detach or separate so as to be alone.
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Medicine/Medical . to keep (an infected person) from contact with noninfected persons; quarantine.
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Chemistry , Bacteriology . to obtain (a substance or microorganism) in an uncombined or pure state.
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a person, thing, or group that is set apart or isolated, as for purposes of study.
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Psychology . a person, often shy or lacking in social skills, who avoids the company of others and has nofriends within a group.
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Biology . an inbreeding population that is isolated from similar populations by physiological, behavioral,or geographic barriers.
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Also called language isolate. Linguistics . a language with no demonstrable genetic relationship, asBasque.
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something that has been isolated, as a by-product in a manufacturing process:
Solitude
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the state of being or living alone; seclusion:to enjoy one's solitude.
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remoteness from habitations, as of a place; absence of human activity:
the state or situation of being alone.
"she savored her few hours of freedom and solitude"
A choice – positive connotation – something to savor…..look forward to – a way to invest in one’s self – find peace, calm become centered. Connect with nature.
Ultimately it really is about your state of mind. Solitude is about savoring, embracing, enjoying, your alone time.
When you find your quiet time will you call it isolation and feel alone or will you embrace the solitude and use it as a time to reflect, rejuvenate, rejoice?
I look forward to mine
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Martha Blessing
Freedom By Design
www.marthablessing.com
Martha G. Blessing is an author, speaker, body-mind and holistic wellness-expert, as well as a life/career coach. She is a sought after speaker and workshop presenter delivering visionary principles that inspire listeners to open to new possibilities for their lives. Martha devoted 25 years to mainstream medicine as a Registered Nurse in the specialties of Community Health, Hospice Care, and as director of an Alzheimer’s Unit.
After healing herself from cancer, over 10 years of chronic pain, three back surgeries, and living in a wheelchair, Martha knew that her greatest challenges had immersed her in accessing her life's purpose...to lead others out of dis-ease and into their greatest potential.
Martha is an RN who had 3 back surgeries and ended up in a wheelchair. She was told that she’d never walk again. She was not willing to accept that so she started looking for alternative solutions. Within 9 months she was out of her wheelchair and off the prescriptions.
Now she teaches empowering strategies to others to help them deal with anxiety, depression, insomnia and more. Help them get freedom from meds.
Her biggest challenge was overcoming her negative self-talk. She had to learn to stop being in agreement with her inner critic. Release feelings of shame and unworthiness. And she helps others do the same.
She starts her day in her meditation room. She finds energy and instantly connects. That first 30 minutes helps her start with a good tone for the day.
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Episode 148
Two Key Components to Living with Tenacity
Tenacity is a key component to success. We must have it to reach our goals. It’s the fuel that keeps us moving through the inevitable challenges. But how often do we take the time to stop and think about what tenacity really is? Let’s spend a minute to figure out what tenacity looks like and how we can create it to use to our advantage.
When I’m working with clients I often use the analogy of getting your screaming baby strapped into a car seat to illustrate tenacity. Because, if you have kids, you have experienced tenacity! When you are putting your child in their car seat your purpose is to make your baby safe. Your baby hates to feel confined and wants nothing to do with it. You cannot reason with a baby or explain your logic so you must just make it happen. And, there is nothing worse than hearing your baby scream. It’s so difficult to hurdle the challenge of lovingly strapping them in as they arch away from the confinement and scream with all of their might. Your tenacity, however, dictates that the car will not move until the child is fully secure.
The dictionary has this definition: strength of will, strength of purpose. And in the car seat example, your strength of will is equal to your strength of purpose. You must have both to be tenacious.
A strong purpose without will or strong self discipline and you get nowhere. You’re like a race car in park, all the potential to move efficiently but you have no forward momentum.
On the other hand, strength of will without clear purpose and you are in constant motion seeking to achieve but in all different directions, more like a bumper car.
If I am wishy washy about my desire to reach a goal because I lack the fire of purpose I will be easily stopped by any challenge. I can tell myself that “it doesn’t really matter”, or, “this must be the sign that I am to work on something different.” It’s also easier to make excuses, “I just didn’t have time for it” or, “other things just seem more interesting.”
When I was in college it took me a long time to pick a major. So, while I was definitely driven to get my degree, I did not have a vision for the kind of impact I wanted to make in the world, so no specific purpose. It was, thus difficult to determine which classes I should take. It was a painful time. I would literally close my eyes, flip through the course catalog (yes, it’s been THAT long!) and drop my finger down on the page. If the class sounded remotely interesting, would get me closer to graduation and was at a convenient time and location, I signed up. I guarantee there were some missteps. And that feeling that comes with uncertainty and lack of direction was uncomfortable at best.
In contrast, once I had my specific vision of helping others to create more purposeful, fulfilling, balanced work, I was on fire and anxious to make my class selections each semester. Time, location, duration became much less important. The only thing that mattered was what I could glean from a class to use to fulfill my mission.
Where is your lack of purpose and mission robbing you of tenacity? What is driving your decisions? Are you living your life like you’re floating on a lazy river, just bumping along with the flow of what’s around you, or are you grabbing those paddles to accelerate and steer with all of your might?
My hope is that you will take the time necessary to get as clear as possible about your purpose and that you’ll utilize whatever accountability structures you need to create the self-discipline to do what’s necessary to get where you need to get. You have important work to do in this world – get to it!!
Learn the Delegation Strategies I’ve shared with THOUSANDS and get your team to do what you need! Grab a copy of my EBook, The Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
Brian DiNapoli Interivew
He was severely bullied as a child and turned to alcohol. He is now speaking
www.briandinapoli.com
A Husband, Son, Brother, Godfather, Independent, Public Servant, Toastmaster, Speaker, Coach, Georgia Bulldog, who is passionate about telling his story of overcoming bullies and drinking and want to help you do the same.
Brian was severely bullied as a child. He was small and not athletic. He began to drink and soon was drinking too much. It was impacting his life. He stopped drinking at 28. It took a while to learn how to fit in as a non-drinker. He had to learn to engage without the buffer. Learn how to go to a football game and have fun. Drinking gave him a false sense of confidence and lowered his inhibitions so he could dance and talk with people. How could he do all that without drinking?
He soon learned that life is great without drinking. And he is sharing that message with high school and college students. There is life without it. And, he shares strategies to help kids overcome bullying. How can you feel safe at school?
He wants kids to learn to never let anyone else let you feel small.
Tiger Woods recently won the Masters again after his rough personal challenges with addiction and major health challenges. He was not able to walk. His story will become an inspiration for years to come.
A link to Brian’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Walk-Rising-Above-Bullies-Drinking-ebook/dp/B00EW3N5JO/ref=nodl_
The link to the political organization that Brian is involved in with a focus on uniting!
https://www.nolabels.org
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
- defeat team drama
- to 4X productivity,
- wow their customers
- and improve their bottom line
- with simple, actionable strategies, systems, communication hacks and mindset shifts.
In this episode Kirsten covers job share strategies that can help you and your potential partner achieve success in every aspect of work. This episode covers several topics involving communication, teamwork, distribution of responsibilities, and even the application process.
Ruchi Singh says, "I own my life and I help others to Own theirs". She says Violence changes something deep within us. But we have the power to decide what that change will be. Ruchi made a choice to take complete ownership / responsibility for her life. She gave a voice to herself and by doing so she has given a voice to countless others. She started giving talks to create awareness about domestic violence combined with the message that we humans have resounding power within us to transform and recreate our life. She is an inspirational speaker, mindset coach and a content creator. Currently, through her story, videos & coaching, she has empowered people from UK, India, Australia, Singapore, USA, South Africa, Canada and still counting.
Connect with Ruchi Singh on social media:
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I went through this same process years ago. I was pregnant with my first child and decided that I really wanted to work part time. Was I nervous? Yes! But, did all work out well. You bet! He’s in college now so it’s been a few years but I still remember the moments leading up to my conversation followed by the exhilaration of the positive response I got. It was so validating. I felt valuable! And I was excited to find a way to balance work I loved with family time.
What flexible work arrangement would help you balance your work and family obligations along with your focus on impact? What would you like to do with your current role? Set some goals. Do your research.
There are many different options available today and they are far more prevalent now than when I asked for my new arrangement! I say all that to say, there is hope!
Here are some to consider:
- Flexible Schedule: longer hours for less days, changing up your start time to earlier or later so you can get some life or impact activities out of the way before or after work.
- Work From Home, also sometimes known as telecommuting. You still need to devote the hours but can save those commute minutes towards impact.
- Job Sharing: with the right partner this flex work option can be amazing for employees and employers. Fill a full time job seamlessly with two people for a wider range of skills and built-in coverage for vacations or other time off.
- Part Time
If you want to go part time, how will that impact your take home pay? Remember, there are variables other than paid hours that you need to consider. Will your dry cleaning bill go down? What will happen to your transportation costs? Once you know what you are looking for, start putting together a presentation and formal written proposal (if you think you will need it). Start by anticipating what the issues will be for your boss. Make a list and address each item in writing prior to the meeting. Be very specific. These items will become your proposal. I would not reference having children at home in the proposal. You can, however, talk about your desire to balance your rewarding career with your outside responsibilities and pursuits. Here are some topics to keep in mind when thinking about potential issues. Purpose: retention, increased productivity, decreased burn-out, increased effectiveness Schedule: Outline the days you plan to work from home and what hours and/or what your total schedule will be (full or part time). If job sharing, who will work what hours? Communication: How will your co-workers and customers contact you while you are working from home? How will you communicate the change? How will you access email and digital information from home? If you will work part time, will you be available for emergencies? Or, if you will job share, how will you and your partner communicate to provide seamless full time work? Physical Set-up: What will your home office set up be? Will you have a separate room away from home and family distractions? Do you have the office equipment required? Evaluation: Set a timeframe during which you and your boss can re-evaluate whether or not the new schedule is working. 3-6 months with time scheduled for interim evaluation with opportunity to discuss any problems and resolve them. Indicate that either party can terminate the arrangement at the end of the trial period. Job Duties: Make a list of the job duties that can be performed seamlessly from home. Provide details of how it will be transparent to customers where applicable. Or, if you will go part time or job share, how will work be redistributed? Conclusion: List examples of any departments in your organization who already allow telecommuting, part time, job share, flex time. Indicate that you feel that you have the same work ethic, etc…and are committed to making this a success. Discuss that many organizations are now using this kind of work arrangement for recruitment and retention of high quality employees. Discuss the decreased stress and added productivity that will result from working from home (think of examples of distractions at work that will not be present at home)
Kathryn Brett Goldman Interview
https://thecybermaniacs.com
Episode 143
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Kate is the CEO and founder of Cybermaniacs, an innovative new cyber awareness company. With over 20 years in the IT trenches, Kate brings a unique perspective from all sides of the IT/Business/Vendor equation. She has worked as the Director of a successful IT leadership consultancy, run global BRM for a major civil engineering firm, did a stint with Gartner and worked in a variety of trailblazing technology companies in the noughties. She is also a NED and Advisor to startups in the UK and US, acts as the Director of Development for the Ladies of London Hacking Society, and speaks internationally on leadership, cyber security, and technology change topics.
Her goal is to make what can be a scary topic lighter, or maybe even a bit humorous.
Cybersecurity poses a threat to all of us. Smaller companies have been popular targets. Often they have not done enough to guard against attacks and the cyber criminals know it.
She offers training services to companies to provide information in a humorous way that she hopes will inspire people to interact with their technology in a new way.
As an impact-maker, her biggest challenge has been juggling the duties of being a mom to 3 young kids while bootstrapping her start up.
To stay motivated through tough times she builds a well of positive stories. She celebrates both large and small victories.
Fix Your Focus
- In every moment opportunity to choose what you focus on – Hit will millions of pieces of data through all of our senses –
- Notice your butt in your chair – weren’t paying attention – now you are
- How do your feet feel in your shoes or in your socks?
- We tell our brains what to focus on – what to leave at the ready for quick access – EVER forget to tell yourself to remember where you parked your car? It’s in there – you just didn’t file it close
- Walking in the forest – can focus on the dirt and the soggy now rotting fallen leaves from last year - or look up to see the sun glinting through vibrant green leaves. – It’s a moment in time and we have each of those perspectives available to us. – Same is true for all moments of our lives -
- Tony Robbins – Race Car – look at the wall – hit the wall
- Focus on solutions not problems
- Focus on what energizes you not what tears you down
- Make challenges small and quick in your mind – don’t dwell on them
- Look for what is in your control and focus there – capture your creativity – focus on the problem = zaps energy and you lose the opportunity to problem solve.
Sons young – No structure – no bedtime – didn’t focus on what was out of my control – the frustration – the mama bear wanting to come out – instead focused on a solution -
F it for Impact Fend off Fear and False Beliefs (4-5)
- Amygdala – can’t stop it – don’t have to listen
- Son – afraid of thunderstorms
- Not just fear of actions – talking to a stranger, calling someone, speaking in front of the room
- Fear of
- disappointing others,
- not looking good,
- failure
- Feeling useless
- Making someone angry or sad
Micheal Turpin
https://www.linkedin.com/in/mikeyt13
A proud father of one, Marine Corps combat Veteran, Indianapolis Firefighter, mental health advocate, peer support specialist, with a mission to bring hope to the hopeless. Through his lifetime, adversity and turmoil strengthened and equipped him with experiences understand the misunderstood and love the unlovable.
Michael’s mom passed away when he was in 3rd grade. His aunt signed paperwork so he could join the Marine Corps. Right out of high school.
He has lived through some very tough experiences and had a period where he felt that gave him license to make bad choices and be bad. He says he had a victim mindset that infected his whole life. He had difficulty with substance use and came very close to taking his own life. He felt hopeless and isolated.
He still works to keep the victim mentality at bay. He has a plan and people he can call if he’s not feeling well. His go to people are real and tough but also let him be heard and have empathy. He also found God and turns there when times are tough.
Michael now provides that for others as a Peer Support Specialist for the firefighters he works with.
His words of wisdom for others: process your emotions. Embrace the struggle and then move forward. Lose the victim mentality. Instead of asking why me ask, what can I learn?
When you go for something go all in. Screw it up with confidence. Be intentional and learn from your mistakes.
Be a person who follows through on commitments. It will require you to be more intentional about what you say yes and no to.
If you give yourself wiggle room it is easy to say an immediate yes and then figure it out later on the fly. You can end up overwhelmed and filled with remorse as you hide from those you've let down.
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Khalil Thompson
Empowered Readers Literacy Project
Empoweredreaders.org
Khalil is a husband, father of 2 girls and a serial Enabler of Good. He was born in Oakland, came of Age in New Orleans, and became an adult in Atlanta.
Khalis is on a mission to help families build strong reading rituals. Not teach people to read, but grow people who are excited about reading. Give parents the tools to build the fun of reading into daily life by providing fun activities and also access to diverse books. They focus on families with children from birth through age 8.
Khalil’s daughter is the inspiration for his work. She came home from kindergarten one day feeling very sad that some children couldn’t read. She was heartbroken that some kids didn’t have access to quality books. Khalil and his wife tried to explain that every family is different. His daughter didn’t like this answer.
When Khalil and his wife started researching the issue they learned that literacy was directly tied to stats for time in prison. Two thirds of children who are not reading well by the third grade will end up on welfare or in jail. And the school dropout rate is high. And, that prisons actually plan for jail space based on the dropout rates for an area.
Now they too were inspired to do something about this issue! And that’s how Empowered Reader’s was born.
They are now encouraging reading in 3 main ways:
Books on the Green – outdoor reading or theatre depicting stories.
Educate Parents about fun reading activities. Help to create reading rituals before age 3.
Books for Kids through free neighborhood libraries, books into homes through pediatrician offices and also Books for Kids by Kids in the neighborhood.
Khalil shared that he had just taken the leap of faith by turning in notice with his employer so that he could fully focus on the nonprofit.
His words of wisdom for others, “You can either let tough times box you in or be the wind that moves you. Have a vision and you can get there.”
If you are leading for impact you are not working for someone else. No one will stand over your shoulder and tell you what to do. And, you may be working from home where the laundry and dishes beckon, the tv sits there, neighbors are near and invites call.. It's important to create structure that builds in accountability.
Girl Boss Sports - An Interview with Sarah Wolfer GirlBossSports.com
Sarah Wolfer is the CEO and Founder of Girl Boss Sports - a Greater Seattle area soccer company that is devoted to female athletes and coaches. Sarah is also a Professional Tackle Football Player with the Seattle Majestics (#29) and is working on a book centered on women in leadership and sports in 2019.
As a female soccer player a turning happened when a male soccer coach got in her face and was very aggressive. She started crying and was kicked out of practice. She quit playing for a while and is not determined to encourage more women to become soccer coaches. And, she wants even more girls to play the game. She uses the sport to teach beyond the techniques. She teaches leadership and other life skills from the field.
A key to success, she says, is to have a great support system. Her husband and teammates are part of her strong support team. She also has an accountability call every Tuesday night. It’s also very important to engage in good self care. Get good sleep, find ways to feel inspired, listen to great music.
It’s okay to be scared! She was terrified before her first football practice. She did it anyway! One strategy she strongly recommends is the Power Pose that she calls the Fearless Girl Stance. Spend 2 minutes in the pose while saying positive affirmations and you’re ready!
GirlBossSports.com
F it For Impact - Fuel Your Fortitude #1 In a Series
- Commit and just don’t quit – Don’t give yourself the out – Table the Decision – don’t waste time pondering
- Every day I learn new things
- It will get easier
- I will find a way
- I haven’t tried all the possible ways yet
- Play it like a game - have fun while you try new things – see what you can make happen
Here are the trip ups to avoid to help you fuel your fortitude
- Know that Perfect Timing is a Myth – Sometimes you have the commitment BUT – you need to commit to action – NOT just committing to commit – Don’t delay action until you feel ready – get in research mode- feel like you have to have it all figured out first - you won’t know everything until you just do it – It’s okay to figure things out as you go – unitl the kids are back in school or the sun begins to shine - WRITING MY FIRST BOOK
- Instant Gratification is Mostly a Myth
- Bill Gates said, “Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in 10.
- Impact takes time – commit to the specific steps you must take daily, weekly, monthly and just keep going.
- If you have kids you know you had to wait for that first smile – that first little positive reinforcement while you fed, changed, burped, walked…..
- Blogging, podcasting – anything where you are working to connect with people – can feel like it’s going out into a black hole – invisible – but…often people are watching, noticing….it takes time
- Most famous people had years of struggle before you knew them. Much of what you see is the end result of years of sacrifice – to US it’s instant fame but that is rarely the reality
- Your Why – I have my Objectives – WHY I participate in Network Marketing – Not heart centered – more practical – and then my WHY – Objectives also help and can be good when speaking to people – different things to pull from:
- Solo Preneur 15 years – provides a team of goal oriented people into personal development – hard to find – NM provides that environment
- Help More People – Coach, Speak, Motivate
- An additional Stream of Income –
And then the WHY – Heart Centered – More than money – what that money or time freedom can do – MUST include an element of serving others – When speaking with others they need to feel that a part of your purpose is about them – This will also have you speak in a way that gives them freedom to say yes or no – to decide for themselves if it’s right for them.
- Run Your Own Race – don’t compare -
- Burn the Boat – Remove other options - earn the auto bonus, get the car
- Downturn in the economy – single mom and business owner – started also looking for a job – realized – needed full focus on biz – couldn’t get my heart into working for someone else – my time and energy was divided – full force – highest earnings to date that next year
We Are More Similar than We Know – He’s On a Mission to Ignite Unity Through our Stories
An Interview with Kenneth Williams Jr.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kenneth-j-williams-jr-m-a-b8263266
Kenneth recently graduated from Michigan State University with a Master's degree in Public Relations and a specialization in Nonprofit Fundraising.
In the fall of 2017, Kenneth was selected to be a Forbes under 30 Scholar.
Kenneth earned his Bachelor's Degree in Communication with a minor in Leadership and Integrated Learning from Michigan State University in May of 2016. He has extensive experience in various sectors of Public Relations including nonprofits, technology and crisis communication. Additionally, Kenneth has studied abroad in Mexico, Belize and China whilst also being a published author. He was also on MSU’s Homecoming Court.
He contributed a section to an anthology published by the MSU libraries.
Kenneth’s mission is to connect people through story telling. He is passionate about the power of shared experiences. He has spent his life writing and sharing stories and learned early that, even when people seem very different, they can connect when they see themselves through someone else’s experiences.
One of his biggest challenges was dealing with the loss of his grandfather, who was always his biggest cheerleader. He also struggles to maintain a good sense of his worth. He works to know his value without feeling arrogant.
To overcome tough times he prayers every day. His favorite verse is Luke 12:32. He knows that he should not have fear. God seeks to bless him beyond what he can imagine.
He encourages others to learn to love themselves and says that no one should curb their brilliance out of fear of fueling someone else’s insecurities. –Be Boss-
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Do you set goals and fall short of meeting them?
Do you make promises to co-workers or volunteers and then fail to follow through?
Are daily choices inconsistent with the outcomes you say you’d like to create in your work or life?
You are not alone. Whether it’s a New Year’s resolution to get to the gym 4 times per week or a commitment to an employee that you’ll be better at delegating tasks with a reasonable amount of lead time, we humans have a tough time breaking bad habits and implementing the new and improved.
We have great intentions. We just get stuck. And before we know it 5 months have passed without any noticeable change or personal growth.
So, based on the title of this episode you might be thinking, “oh yay! She’s going to tell me it’s okay. Everyone does it anyway. Move on and just be okay with how things are.”
Sorry. That’s not the emphasis today.
Yes, I will still encourage you to stop beating yourself up when you fail to meet a goal or a deadline. However, the reasoning is different. If you’ve been listening for a while or have worked with me you know that I’m all about defeating drama. Beating yourself up is just a waste of time. And it shifts your focus away from meeting your objective.
You see, when you are calling yourself names and mentally berating yourself, where is your focus? On you and how bad you are.
Is this motivating? No.
Is this time spent on creating a new plan that DOES move you towards your goals? NO.
Beating yourself up is just self-induced drama. It shifts your focus away from where it needs to be; on making the plan you must implement to meet your objectives.
And, too often our berating tends to lend the opportunity to give ourselves a pass. Do any of these sound familiar?
- I do this every time. I’m just not cut out to be successful.”
- Why bother even trying? I’m just setting myself up for failure.
- I have no will power.
- I’m a complete loser!
- I suck
Our mental beat down can become an excuse, a long term justification.
And how motivated do you feel while engaging in this kind of negative self talk? Get over yourself and get on with it!
Now, I don’t want you to completely skip over the feeling of disappointment or the loss of what could have been. Experience the pain to motivate you to new momentum. So, notice it quickly but don’t park there. Don’t let a disappointment become a long term beat down.
When a client shares their story of a missed deadline or failed commitment my first question is always, “how does it feel?”
If it’s a failed commitment to another person I also want them to think how that person might feel or what their team might be saying to each other. I also ask them to think about how they might feel if someone failed to follow through for them in the same way.
This helps build the motivation for change. The goal is to reignite the commitment.
From there we move quickly to, “Now, what do you want to do about it?”
- What did you learn? This is an important question. Perhaps you can glean some additional information about structure required to pull off the change. Are there ways to build in hourly, daily or weekly accountability? Do you need a tracking system? A notorious strategy for dieting is to keep a food journal so that dieters are conscious fo what’s going in their mouths. A tally of calories can be an eye opening experience. Information and facts are so helpful to maintain motivation.
- Is there any clean up you must do as a result? Any apologies or acknowledgements to make? Is trust eroding or disappointment building between you and others? Acknowledgement and an apology go a long way to rebuilding trust and igniting hope.
- How will you reaffirm your commitment to yourself or others to create accountability?
- What actions will you take to keep your commitment?
- What do you need to create logistically to succeed?
- What progress, if any, did you make? Was there any forward momentum? Any positive steps? If so, take a moment to celebrate.
If you’re like most of my clients you have big dreams and a hearty list of goals to tackle. You have a vision for the difference you want to make. Don’t get in your own way. Break those goals into manageable stepping stones and create the positive mindset that you WILL make them happen one daily choice at a time.
And, if a bump in the road happens caused by you or something out of your control you’ll keep on keeping on. Your plans are too important to give up on!
Remember, the world needs your unique impact! Go do it!
www.traceymaxfield.com
Tracey Maxfield is a nurse with over 36 years’ experience. She experienced her first episode of clinical depression in her twenties and lived with chronic depression ever since. However, nothing prepared her for the acute depressive episode she experienced in 2015. After enduring years of intense work place stress, harassment and bullying, she plummeted into an abyss of darkness, hopelessness and despair the likes of which she had never experienced before.
Encouraged by a psychologist, Tracey started a Blog, Escaping the Rabbit Hole: my life with depression, to better help her friends understand her depression. Over time, Tracey began to heal and found that out of the darkness and despair, there is hope, there is life after depression.
Since the release of her book, Escaping the Rabbit Hole: my journey through depression (www.traceymaxfield.com), Tracey has become a staunch advocate for Mental Illness and Mental Health Awareness and Bullying and completed the course, Bringing Mental Health to Schools. She has met with teenagers ages 11 to 15 years to talk about bullying and mental illness and has appeared on numerous podcasts in the USA, Canada and UK, live radio shows and ABC KOMO News 4, KSHV 45, and NBC News 6 television shows. In June, Tracey was featured in a series of articles by HelloCare magazine in Australia. In September, Tracey embarked on a new life journey, she sold her home, donated most of her possessions to various charities and made a commitment to try and make a difference in the world and is spending six months traveling in the USA, talking about mental illness and bullying in children and teenagers. Her philosophy is to Engage children and teenagers, to Educate them about mental illness and bullying and to Empower them to develop confidence and skills to continue to move ahead in their own life journey. Tracey completed the Global 7/7 Challenge and recorded 7 days/7 videos on mental illness www.traceymaxfield.fyi.to/changingthefaceofmentalillness and bullying in children and teenagers www.traceymaxfield.fyi.to/helptraceystopbullying. In February, Tracey is heading to Kansas and Florida to appear on TV/radio shows and give talks at local schools.
She is also one of the ‘Break Out’ presenters at the TEACH 2019 Conference in Jacksonville, Florida on March 2, 2019.
So often when I’m working with clients they share the list of things they’d love to make happen in their lives….. closely followed by all of the excuses for why they cannot start. Often the excuse list can be boiled down to one short phrase, “The timing is not perfect.”
If this is you, I hate to break it to you but, as for perfect timing….…there is no such thing!
If you want to live and lead for impact, you’ve got to know this to your core! If not, you’ll waiting a long time for your impact and so will the world!
I have a good friend who is a project manager for a large, international company. They pull the best of the best of the best to work on their projects….the best minds, best talent, best resources from across the world. And, even they have never found the perfect time or had the perfect launch.
I look back on my life and there were MANY times when I just pushed forward rather than pressing pause when timing was far from perfect and I can say with certainty I have no regret about starting when I did for any of them
For instance, I remember deciding to write my first book.
At the time, I knew nothing about writing or publishing. I didn’t even know how many words or 8 ½ x 11 pages in a Word document would equal enough pages for a book. I had to call a friend who’d recently had a book published through Wiley, Corey Perlman. I asked him….so, how do you know when you have enough content?
He shared the number of words he’d been given as a goal and the number he’d ended up with. Based on the information he shared, I decided I’d celebrate as soon as I hit 25,000 words. When I did and still had plenty more to write about I knew I had a book!
I still had a lot more to figure out beyond the word count too: Self Publish or look for a traditional publisher, editing, covers, formatting, indexing and more.
I was also a single mom with 2 young boys. None of this made it the optimal time.
So, I just started. I didn’t focus on any of the end of project tasks and instead just made a commitment to get up every morning at 5:30 AM to write.
My first book came out in 2010, the next, 2012, then 2016 and 2017. And, each time it has gotten easier and easier because I’ve learned so much along the way that I wouldn’t have if I hadn’t just started.
Similarly, when I was part of a team starting a ministry we talked about delaying launch until we did some more research, tweaked a bit more. But, the truth was, there really wasn’t more to learn from research. Many of our questions could only be answered by doing. There would never be a perfect time.
And then when I think about starting my coaching business almost 15 years ago. Talk about not the perfect time…and yet, I’ve loved every minute of it and know that I’ve positively impacted so many people and companies.
I started that business on the heels of an abusive marriage! I’d spent years being berated and told I was worthless, lazy and a sham. I was about to be a new single mom and had no family support. The income from my new business needed to support myself and two young boys.
My ducks weren’t in a row, they were all over the place!
And, yet….I started. I had spoken to a few trusted advisors in my life and they had helped me identify my unique abilities. I took a self study course, created a business name and website and launched!
A couple of years ago I added a second business as an extra income source. It’s well aligned with what I was already doing and I loved that I would have the chance to spend time with motivated, goal-oriented people, something that I miss, at times, while working for myself.
My kids were both going through major health challenges. Once again, it was not the optimal time to launch a new endeavor or meet a new team. But….I jumped.
These are just a few examples. I’m sure I could share more. But you get it.
I can tell you that in not one instance do I regret moving forward during a time when things were far from perfect.
And, I know I’ve made an impact on this world each time I moved past discomfort to start or create a new something when it wasn’t the perfect time.
What if I’d robbed the world of my impact while I waited for all the stars to align?
What have you been pressing pause on? Is it something for you, your family or your health? Maybe it’s something you’d like to learn or train for, a trip you’d like to take. Is there a new business on your brain?
Whatever it is just start! The Perfect time will never happen. Why is today’s barrier to perfection any worse than the one you’ll have tomorrow?
Don’t rob the world of your plan, don’t rob your life of your plan.
To what will you commit to today to put your plan in action?
Today commit to taking the first step and tomorrow take one more. Before you know it you’ll be well on your way and looking back with a feeling of satisfaction and a smile. Impact made or lessons learned. Either way a life enriched by a chance you took.