In part 3 of the book Attached, I talk about what I learned from the book on how to use effect communication and conflict resolution to help improve relationships. • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.