Narcissists are very controlling people, and your narcissistic mother is no different. This makes talking to her very difficult and frequently frustrating. As a child, you had little control over your narcissistic mother’s manipulative techniques. As an adult, you can exercise control over how and when you communicate with your mother. While it can sometimes be advisable to go no contact with a narcissistic mother, you may not want to or be able to do that. In that case, you’ll need to exercise some control to make the communication you have with her more meaningful.