29 – Dance a Little and Take a Nap

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Links

• https://www.headspace.com/
• https://www.happier.com/blog/5-tips-for-surviving-a-really-bad-day/

Summary

1. Make sure you get a good night's sleep, a good meal before your tough conversation, and that you pack all the essential things that you're going to need that day so that you don't have to worry about anything else But having a great conversation,
2. Make sure you cheer yourself up by playing your favorite music, by playing the rocky theme. Whatever it is, that will get you excited to have this tough conversation. Make sure you burn off your energy. Dance around the room. Get some exercise or go for a walk outside. It's essential to go in there with the proper mental framework.
3. Identify harsh thoughts. Ensure that if your thinking goes astray, and you start having very negative thoughts that use the Noting system to push them away. Also, use breathing techniques to help you relax to be in the right frame of mind.
4. Make sure that you don't jump on the other person for the conversation. You warm them up. You talk about the fact that we're going to have a tough conversation. But whatever you do, don't just bring them out to dinner and then jump into the conversation without warning.
5. Pick a good location. Pick the proper time of the day. Give yourself a mental phrase to repeat in your head. That is the most important thing that you need to remember in the course of this meeting. Be strong. Talk slowly.
6. No one to get help, Whether that's a mentor, a friend, someone to vent to, or professional counseling.

Challenge

• Try to pick a day that is just going to be stressful for you. In general, you don't even have to have a tough conversation. It's just something that's maybe not your favorite day. Try some of these packing techniques, playing happy music, going for a walk in the woods, or noting your negative thoughts. See if those are the kinds of things that will help clear your mind so that you're in the right frame of mind to have your stressful day, your challenging day, or maybe just any day. But you want to start learning before you have these tough conversations. What really helps you to calm down, have a good outlook, and have the right energy.