In honor of Pregnancy & Infant Loss Remembrance Day/Week, we sat down for a conversation with local bereavement doula, Ashley Rainey, of Nurtured Foundation Doula Services. A helpful listen for anyone experiencing a loss, and insightful info for all so that you can be prepared if this happens to you or someone you know and love.

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DS 009: Miscarriage and Infant Loss with Bereavement Doula Ashley Rainey

SHOW NOTES:

• 1:10 Expectful - Expectful – We are proud to share with our listeners a great resource – Expectful: A guided meditation app for your fertility, pregnancy and motherhood journey. Sign up for a free two week trial at www.expectful.com/delivering.

• 3:30 – Candace What’s Up

• 5:30 – Anna What’s Up
• 8:53 – Ashley What’s Up
• 9:30 – Ashley Bio
• 13:10 – Anna’s experience with two miscarriages
• 19:45 – Bereavement clients – where they come from for Ashley
• 21:08 – What a bereavement doula does
• 25:30 – At what point would someone contact a bereavement doula?
• 26:50 – What kind of training is involved in becoming a bereavement doula?
• 27:41
  • About Sufficient Grace Ministries - http://sufficientgraceministries.org/support-sufficient-grace/
  • Sufficient Grace Book - http://sufficientgraceministries.org/sufficient-grace-the-book/
  • Regional Support - http://sufficientgraceministries.org/find-support/
  • Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/SufficientGraceMinistries/
  • Training http://sufficientgraceministries.org/sgm-perinatal-loss-support-training/
  • Tuesday, October 24 – Birth Story Circle with a Focus on Loss Awareness at Mother Rising – https://www.facebook.com/events/101311337266080/
• 30:30 – Statistics of miscarriage and loss
• 31:45 – Reducing the stigma of talking about this topic, waiting to tell people you’re pregnant until 12 weeks
• 35:10 – Waiting to tell people you’re pregnant until you’re 12 weeks, knowing what to say if someone tells you that they’ve experienced a loss
• 38:05 – Passing judgment on someone who’s grieving
• 39:35 – Ways to keep your baby’s memory alive – balloon releases, toy donation drive, knitting hats, etc.
• 40:13 – Rainbow babies
• 42:34 – Moms going through a rainbow pregnancy might need some extra support
• 43:17 – Support groups – Sufficient Grace Ministries - http://sufficientgraceministries.org/northeast-ohio/
• 44:15 – Events at Circle of Life Birth Services in Lakewood http://www.circleoflifebirthservices.org/events/
• 45:03 – People who have experienced loss will likely be struggling through pregnancy
• 47:41 – Emergency ultrasounds and care providers – care providers are typically supportive of fitting you in
• 47:08 – Typical recommendation that labwork only be done after 3 miscarriages?
• 49:42 – What kind of questions do you get as a bereavement doula?
• 51:25 – What can someone expect when someone experiences a miscarriage?
• 52:21 – What is a D&C?
• 53:14 – What can you do with what you pass?
• 54:52 – Recommended books: (all of them listed on this page)
• 55:58 – Does someone have to have religious affiliation to be supported by Sufficient Grace Ministries?
• 56:17 – How do you feel like you’re Delivering Strength to the families in NEO through what you do?

• Find Ashley Online:

  • Sufficient Grace Ministries:
    • http://sufficientgraceministries.org
  • Nurtured Foundation Doula Services:
    • Website: https://nurturedfoundation.com
    • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nurturedfoundationdoula/
    • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nurtured_foundation_doulas/
• • 59:18 Power provider link on our website: https://deliveringstrength.com/portfolio-items/nurtured-foundation-doula-services/
• Delivering Strength: Find Us Online
  • Website – deliveringstrength.com
  • Facebook – facebook.com/deliveringstrength
  • Instagram – instagram.com/deliveringstrength
  • Facebook Community – facebook.com/groups/DeliveringStrength/

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