Matchmaker Matchmaker: Recent Episodes
Aleeza Ben Shalom & Rabbi Yisroel Bernath
Join Netflix Jewish Matchmaker Aleeza Ben Shalom and "The Love Rabbi" Rabbi Yisroel Bernath as they handle the toughest questions about dating and finding your soulmate. Nothing is scripted. These are real questions from people just like you answered by two of the worlds most well known matchmakers.
In this episode, I sat down with Rivkah Fox, the matchmaker behind Blind Fate. What started as a playful Instagram game turned into real marriages.
✨ Highlights:
🎲 Anonymous bios + audience votes → real matches & babies
🎉 Creative Philly events with fun stations & late-night vibes
💪 Special events for singles with physical challenges
🌎 A Brazilian man who quarantined in Mexico just to date in NY
💼 A yeshivish guy + a Forbes 30 Under 30 woman = true love
💡 Takeaway: Love shows up when you’re willing to play the game differently.
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In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, I sit down with my dear friend Laurie Young the Seattle Shadchan and the reason I ended up on Jewish Matchmaking on Netflix.
We share gratitude, lots of laughs, and her bold love story that began with a note on a windshield and turned into 42 years of marriage. Plus, we talk about Zoom dating for 55+ singles, why momentum is the key to dating success, and how anyone can make a match.
We talk about:
📞 Passing on Netflix for herself and passing them my number instead
💍 The “hold him for me” story that led to marriage
✈️ Turning long-distance dating into real life dating
🥂 Zoom dating events for 55+ singles and her easiest match ever
🔥 The #1 killer of a match and how to keep sparks alive with momentum dating
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🎙️ In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, I sat down with Gina Samuels from Australia — a warm-hearted volunteer matchmaker. She’s made nine matches so far (including her brother!) and shared what it’s like to help people date in a small community where everyone knows everyone. We talked about her own love story, the beauty of organic setups, and why singles should also help make matches. It’s real, it’s inspiring, and it’s a reminder that love takes effort — and a little help from someone who cares.
💬 We talked about:
✡️ Dating in small communities like Melbourne and Sydney
❤️ Gina’s personal love story
🫶 How singles can make matches too
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In this episode, I sat down with Rabbi Leo and Aliza to explore what it means to rebuild a life and open your heart after deep loss.
💬 We talked about:
Going from unimaginable grief to hope and healing
The decision to date again after tragedy
Aliza’s 25-year journey of saying “yes” in dating
Why authenticity and connection go hand-in-hand
How the most unexpected match became the right one
💡 My favorite reminder from this episode:
Possibilities exist especially when you lead with honesty, hope, and heart.
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In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, we’re talking about a different kind of love language: business matchmaking!
I sat down with Brian Spivak of Barzel Media in Tel Aviv, and we explored how every match romantic, professional, or even a new home can change someone’s life.
We talked about:
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How one casual intro turned into a full-time job
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A real wedding that started with a Shabbat lunch match
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Why showing up (even when you don’t feel like it) matters
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Flipping the script on rejection and making bold moves in dating
💡Bottom line? Connection is everything. Whether you’re making a match in love or in life, it counts.
Want to connect with Brian and learn more about what he’s building?
📲 Instagram: @spibri85 | @barzel.media
🌐 Website: barzelmedia.com
📧 Email: brian@barzelmedia.com
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The Three-Match Club: Jenny's Matchmaker Journey
In this heartwarming episode of Matchmaker, Matchmaker, I sit down with the fabulous Jenny Sved an organic connector, community builder, and now... official member of the “Three Match Club!” 💫
Here’s what we schmoozed about:
🧩 How Jenny made her own match (yes, it counts!). 🪑 The wedding seating switch that led to a marriage (and three kids!). ✈️ A LaGuardia Airport spark that took years to ignite but was totally worth it 🚌 Our spontaneous idea for a matchmaking bus! (Seriously, call me if you want to sponsor it.). 💬 Why timing matters, why you shouldn't give up on a match, and why it’s okay if more than one person gets credit
We laughed, we dreamed, and we even redefined the rules of matchmaking (because someone has to and it might as well be me 😉).
🕊️ Whether you’ve made one match, three, or none yet you’ll walk away inspired to help create more love in the world.
✨ Let’s all aim for that “matchmaker mitzvah addiction” – because more love means more light in the world.
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In this episode, I sat down with the incredible Irit Esses psychologist, matchmaker, and leader of a powerful matchmaking community in Mexico City.
We dug into:
💫 Irit’s journey from dating struggles to 24+ successful matches
🛠️ The power of knowing your non-negotiables
👶 Inspiring stories, including matches that led to babies and cross-border love
❤️ Be a “vitamin person” uplift the singles in your life before pressuring them to date
Talking to Irit felt like talking to myself, we have so much in common! Her wisdom, spunk, and vibrant energy are changing lives and I hope her story inspires you to be part of the change too.
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In this episode, I’m joined by Shirel a digital nomad with Indian-Israeli roots, a spicy palate, and a heart full of Jewish values.
We talked about one of my favorite philosophies: “Date ‘Em Til You Hate ‘Em” giving people a real chance, staying open, and learning about yourself in the process.
Shirel shared:
• Her dating journey across Tel Aviv and Philly
• How October 7th deepened her Jewish identity
• What she’s looking for: someone kind, curious, and adventurous (hot air balloon optional 😉)
💌 If you know someone who might be a match for Shirel, send them our way. Because we believe anyone can make a match.
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In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, I introduce you to Andrew a kind, thoughtful, and very real single man in his mid 30's from Philadelphia 🐾💬
We dive into his dating story, and here’s what we covered:
Why family values are at the heart of what he’s looking for ❤️
The role cultural compatibility plays in lasting love
His love for dogs and why shared interests matter 🐶
Why he’s focused on finding someone in Philly or close by 🏙️
His take on dating timelines and how soon is too soon to talk engagement 💍
💡 I also offer some insights of my own and as always, I invite you to be part of the matchmaking magic.
💞 Know someone who might be a match for Andrew?
Watch, share, and tag them below you just might help create a love story 🫶
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This episode is full of ruach (spirit), inspiration, and classic Jewish geography the kind where one introduction leads to another and suddenly, the world feels small and deeply connected.
I sat down with the radiant and talented Maskit, sister of Tair, from Jack’s Jewish Journey to hear her story of spiritual growth, creativity, and finding clarity in the chaos of modern dating.
✨ In this conversation, we talk about:
🌏 Growing up between Israel, Australia, and now NYC and what each place taught her
🎬 Her love for film, media, and using storytelling to bring light into the Jewish world
✡️ What sparked her return to observance and how Shabbat changed everything
❤️ Her honest reflections on dating non-Jews, finding her “why,” and choosing a Jewish future
🧭 What she’s looking for now: someone who’s grounded, God-conscious, and ready to build
🗽 Life in New York City and how she’s navigating the fast-paced dating scene with grace and clarity
And yes she’s single, she’s glowing, and she’s ready to meet someone who’s growing in the same direction.
🎯 We also dive into modesty, mitzvot, and what it really means to grow into observance without pressure just purpose.
This episode is full of energy, laughter, emunah (faith), and real talk about choosing a partner and a path.
💌 Want to be introduced to Maskit? Reach out through me maybe you’re her next match 😉
👉 Listen, share, and let’s keep building this global Jewish matchmaking movement one meaningful conversation at a time.
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In this episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with not one but two amazing guests: Jason Pfeiffer, Editor-in-Chief of Entrepreneur Magazine, and Jen Miller, New York Times journalist and author. Not only are they accomplished professionals, but they’ve also been happily married for 13 years. We dive deep into the heart of their relationship and what it means to truly build a life and a legacy together.
💬 Here's what we covered:
💑 How they met on OkCupid after both navigating long-term breakups
🧠 The beauty of collaborating on writing projects and giving each other feedback
🎯 Why they created a mission statement for their marriage (yes, really and I love it!)
🕊️ How they keep their individual passions alive while working toward shared goals
✡️ Jen’s beautiful idea to start a “Shabbat Club” and connect with their Jewish roots
💬 Honest talk about compromise, communication, and maintaining your own identity in a thriving partnership
This conversation is full of gems whether you're single, dating, or deep into a committed relationship. Jason and Jen model what it means to be partners not just in love, but in life and purpose.
👉 Tune in, take notes, and share this one with someone who believes in love and big dreams.
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In this episode, I’m joined by Linnea, the host of a unique Jewish dating game show in New York City, where singles are matched live on stage at the Caveat Theater and other venues. Linnea gives us an inside look at the matchmaking process, which emphasizes genuine connections and the importance of community.
We dive into:
🎤 The behind-the-scenes of the dating game and how it really works
💘 How the live audience plays a crucial role in the matchmaking experience
🤝 The thrilling blind dates that unfold between two main contestants each show
❤️ Linnea’s personal love story with her husband, Paul, and their joint involvement in the show’s production
We also explore Jewish culture, the challenges of matchmaking, and the importance of creating meaningful, lasting connections.
🔔 Tune in for a fascinating episode that brings the world of live matchmaking to life in NYC.
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In this episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker Podcast, I sit down with the incredible Howie Danao—a soulful Jewish musician and convert with an extraordinary story. We first met by chance in Germany, and I knew right away his journey needed to be shared.
Howie opens up about:
🌍 Growing up with a Filipino mother and being adopted by a Jewish family in Israel
🕊️ His identity struggles and powerful conversion story
🎶 How music became his mission and a tool for healing
❤️ His dating journey and the kind of partner he’s looking for
📺 His new project, The Love and Faith Show, born from his personal journey
✡️ Why faith, storytelling, and connection are at the center of his life
This conversation will move you, uplift you, and remind you that every story matters. Whether you're searching for love, faith, or your own purpose—there’s something here for you.
👉 Watch the full episode and share it with someone who needs to hear this story. You could be the reason they find clarity, connection, or even love.
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In this heartfelt episode, I chat with Jack and Tair from Melbourne, Australia—an inspiring couple whose love story began in the most unexpected way: as lockdown roommates! Now, Jack is on a powerful path toward converting to Judaism, and their journey together is nothing short of remarkable.
We talk about:
🏡 How a global pandemic turned two strangers into partners
🕊 Jack’s spiritual awakening and what led him to pursue Judaism
🤝 The support and connection they’ve built through shared religious growth
🛡 The challenges Jack faces as a convert—including anti-Semitism—and how community gives him strength
This episode is all about love, identity, and finding where you truly belong.
🔔 Tune in for a raw and uplifting conversation—and follow Jacksjewishjourney on Instagram for more!
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🎙 500 dates with comedian Eric Neumann
In this episode, I sit down with comedian Eric Neumann to explore his unique dating experiences and perspectives on love and relationships. Eric opens up about his journey, including his extensive history of over 500 dates and the valuable lessons he's learned along the way.
We discuss:
💔 The complexities of dating and the importance of avoiding infatuation
⏳ The benefits of taking things slow in relationships
🎯 Aleeza's Five Date Challenge to help deepen connections
🎤 Eric’s standup comedy career and how social media has shaped his success
This episode is a deep dive into the intersections of dating, comedy, and personal growth.
🔔 Tune in for a fun, enlightening conversation that blends humor with heart!
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In this episode, I sit down with New York-based comedian and “Up Dating Show” host, Brandon Berman. He shares how a single photo led him from pandemic dating to a serious relationship—nearly an engagement!
We cover:
📸 A photo that sparked real connection
❤️ Balancing differences in relationships
🌿 Managing anxiety with love and support
🧩 The beauty of slow, intentional dating
🎤 How men can handle rejection and date with clarity
👉 Tune in for a heartwarming and hilarious take on finding love where you least expect it.
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In this special episode, I sit down with my in-laws, Fran and Sid Schwartz, who have been married for 63 years! We dive into the secrets of a long-lasting marriage, the importance of shared values, and the lessons they’ve learned along the way.
We talk about:
💍 The humorous way Sid proposed
💡 How background and values play a role in a strong relationship
❤️ The key to navigating roles, responsibilities, and communication in marriage
👩❤️👨 Advice for younger couples looking to build a lasting partnership
I also reflect on the impact they’ve had on my own life and family—because when it comes to love, experience speaks volumes.
🔔 Tune in for heartwarming stories, timeless wisdom, and plenty of laughs!
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🎙 Love, Music, and Taking a Chance with Yoni Z & Ashley Eden
In this episode, I sit down with Yoni Ziegelbaum , better known as Yoni Z, a popular singer, and his fiancée Ashley Eden, who works in FinTech. Freshly engaged, they share their love story—full of unexpected twists, big decisions, and the persistence it takes to find "the one."
We talk about:
🎤 Yoni’s journey in music
✈️ Ashley’s bold decision
❤️ The challenges they faced early on and how they finally connected
Their story is a reminder that love doesn’t always follow a straight path—but when it’s meant to be, everything falls into place.
🔔 Tune in for an episode filled with inspiration, gratitude, and the magic of finding your match!
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🎙 Finding Love in the Social Media Age with Libby Amber Shayo
In this episode I’m joined by newlywed Libby Amber Shayo, who shares her love story—how she met her husband through her social media presence and her now brother-in-law.
We chat about:
❤️ Tips for dating influencers
📱 How she balances social media and her relationship, OY!
⏸️ Why taking breaks from dating can actually help
Whether you wanna date an influencer or are just curious about love in the digital age, this episode is for you.
🔔 Tune in now—I can’t wait for you to hear this one!
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In this episode, I sit down with Ilana and Jake to chat about their relationship journey—how they met, what keeps their connection strong, and the little things that make love last.
We dive into:
💘 Their Hinge love story and first date moments
🎟️ The creative ‘date card’ activities and spontaneous trips that keep things exciting
😂 A hilariously awkward first kiss story (and how Elana made theirs unforgettable)
🗣️ The power of communication, fun, and support in a relationship
🎙️ Ilana’s insights as a podcast host and dating coach on vulnerability and authenticity in dating
This episode is full of laughs, love, and real talk about what makes relationships truly work.
🔔 Tune in and get inspired to bring more fun and connection into your own love life!
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In this episode, I sit down with Chloe Hechter, a Jewish influencer whose hilarious TikTok content has taken the internet by storm. But behind the viral videos, Chloe shares what it’s really like to date as a public figure—from painfully awkward first dates to the challenge of finding someone who sees past her online persona.
Here’s what we dive into:
✔️ The worst first date of Chloe’s life (trust me, you’ll cringe!)
✔️ My Five Date Challenge—can it help her find real connection?
✔️ Why dating as a Jewish influencer in NYC is way more complicated than you’d think
✔️ The search for a deep, intellectual partner who’s more into books than TikTok
If you’ve ever struggled with dating in a digital world—or just want some juicy dating stories—you need to hear this one.
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In this episode, I share my journey—from Jewish Matchmaking on Netflix to real-world impact—and the power of community-driven matchmaking. I’m joined by Danielle Selber from Tribe 12, a Philadelphia-based Jewish nonprofit that has successfully integrated matchmaking into its offerings.
We dive into:
💡 How our matchmaking careers evolved
🤝 The importance of community support in dating
🔄 How societal shifts are shaping today’s relationships
❌ Common dating deal breakers and how to navigate them
🎧 Listen now! "The Power of Community Matchmaking & the Future of Jewish Dating"
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In this episode, I welcome back Remy and Jonathan, married for just over four years. Remy, host of You're Allowed to Hate Your Husband.
We explore quantum physics, manifestation, and positive thinking as real, practical tools for life and relationships. Jonathan brings in the power of faith and gratitude, showing how showing up positively attracts more blessings.
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In this episode, Pam Wisnitzer shares her journey as a 39-year-old navigating love and relationships in New York City. We explore breaking free from societal timelines, making time for intentional dating, and reimagining what family can look like.
🎧 Tune in for an honest, empowering conversation about modern dating and the search for something real.
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Is it ever too late to find love? Absolutely not! In this episode, renowned makeup artist Laura Geller shares her experience stepping into the world of online dating at 66. Laura also reflects on her incredible career, her passion for beauty, and what she hopes the future holds—both in love and beyond.
🎧 Tune in for a heartfelt and entertaining conversation about love, reinvention, and embracing new beginnings.
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In this episode I catch up with Harmonie from Jewish Matchmaking for an exclusive post-show update! She shares surprising news about one of her matches—while opening up about her own dating journey, personal growth, and pursuit of motherhood.
Also, guess who’s now a matchmaker! You won’t believe who she’s working for.✨
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In this episode, I sit down with Becky Tahel—award-winning content creator—to talk about love, identity, and the transition from ‘me’ to ‘we.’ We explore how her sister’s interfaith marriage sparked a deep personal transformation, shaping her views on relationships, marriage, and family.
Want to build a strong, lasting relationship? We share tips on making intentional choices, creating meaningful traditions, and keeping the spark alive—yes, date nights matter!
🎧 Tune in now for practical advice and inspiration!
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In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom introduces Remy and Jonathan Stern, a couple married for four years with a truly unique love story. Remy is the host of the podcast You're Allowed to Hate Your Husband: A Modern Day Love Story. They discuss their unconventional beginnings, how Jonathan's admiration for Remy went beyond his "typical type," and the evolution of their relationship.
Remy also reveals a secret that she never told Jonathan!
Together, they delve into the importance of personal growth, realistic expectations, and sustaining individuality within marriage. Tune in for a heartfelt, humorous, and insightful conversation on modern love and what it takes to build a lasting relationship.
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In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom steps into the world of matchmaking with Kami Salman, a 28-year-old opera singer whose Israeli roots and love for tradition shape her journey to find lasting love. From New York’s vibrant energy to Philadelphia’s potential matches, Kami shares her experiences in dating, the significance of shared values, and how her priorities shifted after October 7th.
Join Aleeza and Kami as they delve into the intricacies of modern relationships, navigating cultural alignment, and overcoming the unique challenges of creating harmony in love. With insights from Kami’s social media polls and deeply personal reflections, this episode uncovers what it truly takes to find a meaningful match.
✨ Don’t forget to check out Aleeza’s NEW book, Matchmaker Matchmaker: Find Me a Love That Lasts! ✨
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Looking to find love? In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom & Rabbi Yisroel Bernath talk about what a matchmaker really is and the importance of one! Did you know a matchmaker doesn't necessarily have to be a professional? You can even be your own matchmaker.
Rabbi Yisroel Bernath also breaks down the three key components of a successful matchmaker: an introducer, a mentor, and a fixer.
1) The definition of a matchmaker
2) The three parts of a matchmaker
3) Whether or not you need to hire a matchmaker.
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On this week's episode, your expert dating coaches, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss if physical appearance should really be the determining factor in your dating life. Stop basing your expectations on movies and understand what real-life dating is all about. To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
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In this enlightening episode of the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath dive deep into the core reasons and behaviors that make a relationship happy for a lifetime. Rabbi Bernath passionately argues that trust is the bedrock of any lasting relationship, though it’s not always identifiable at the start. Trust must be built over time through small, consistent acts that demonstrate reliability and integrity.
Aleeza brings a unique perspective, suggesting that kindness, while important, could be replaced by another crucial element. She highlights the importance of giving, noting that love flourishes when partners engage in selfless acts, leading to a deeper understanding and connection. Both Aleeza and Rabbi Bernath agree that curiosity is essential for continuous growth and learning in a relationship, as staying curious about each other fosters a dynamic and evolving bond.
Join Aleeza and Rabbi Bernath as they explore these foundational elements of a happy, lifelong partnership. They invite you to share your thoughts on what you think the root of trust is by sending a voice note on their socials or dropping a message on their website.
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Get ready for another exciting episode of "Matchmaker Matchmaker," featuring Netflix's own Aleeza Ben Shalom and the dynamic "Love Rabbi," Rabbi Yisroel Bernath! This week, they dive into the intriguing question: "What's the difference between a good guy and a kind guy?"
Aleeza and Rabbi Bernath reveal that a good guy isn't just nice—he's also fun, engaging, and genuinely interested in getting to know people. In contrast, a kind guy is simply polite and agreeable, but may lack that engaging spark.
Don't miss the video version of this insightful discussion at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos. Got a burning question for a future episode? Submit it at www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastWatch
In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Rabbi and Aleeza welcome back Janine to share another wild and unexpected tale from her dating adventures. This time, Janine recounts a bizarre experience with a man she met online who made an unbelievable claim about having a glass eye, only to later reveal it was a joke. The trio talks about the importance of honesty and humor in the dating world, exploring where the line should be drawn.Key Takeaways:The Importance of Honesty:Trust is crucial in any relationship. Janine's story shows how a lack of honesty can quickly become a deal-breaker.Understanding Humor in Dating:Humor can be a great ice-breaker, but it's important to know where to draw the line. Jokes that are misleading or confusing can harm a budding relationship.Communication is Key:Clear and open communication helps avoid misunderstandings. Janine's experience highlights how miscommunication can lead to awkward and uncomfortable situations.Red Flags and Gut Feelings:Trust your instincts. Janine noticed several "orange flags" but was willing to overlook them until the glass eye incident. Recognizing and acting on red flags can save time and emotional energy.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastWatch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdUtaMTM0rzqa4R2eZWyA9Q
In this week's episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Aleeza and Rabbi are joined by a regular listener Janine, who shares a humorous and perplexing dating experiences that highlight the complexities of modern relationships. The trio explores the boundaries of friendship between men and women, the importance of clear communication, and the persistence often found in romantic pursuits.Key Points:Crazy Dating Stories: Janine shares her personal experiences with a longtime friend who repeatedly tries to turn their friendship into a romantic relationship, despite her clear rejections.Clear Communication: The episode emphasizes the importance of direct communication in dating, illustrated by Janine's bold approach of telling her friend she would "vomit" if he flirted with her.Persistence vs. Stalking: The discussion delves into the fine line between being persistent and becoming a stalker, with insights on when men should recognize and respect a clear 'no'.Friend Zone Dynamics: They examine whether men and women can truly have platonic friendships, especially when one party has romantic feelings, concluding that it often leads to misunderstandings and complications.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastWatch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdUtaMTM0rzqa4R2eZWyA9Q
In this episode, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss a listener's question about how to inspire couples to get engaged and married quicker, reflecting on personal experiences and cultural trends. The discussion the topic of marriage timelines and societal perceptions of marriage. They also talk about the challenges and benefits of marriage, emphasizing the importance of positive messaging and community support.Key PointsCurrent Trends in Marriage:Aleeza and Rabbi talk about how getting married has become less popular, with many people focusing on careers and personal goals first.Being Positive Role Models:They emphasize the need for married couples to share the good parts of their marriages openly. This can help inspire others to see marriage as a positive and worthwhile step.Balancing Challenges and Benefits:The discussion covers both the challenges and the benefits of marriage, including practical perks like tax breaks and the personal growth that comes from having a life partner.Changing the Conversation:Aleeza and Rabbi plan to create and spread positive messages about marriage to counter the negative ones often seen in media. They believe this can help change how people think about getting married.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastWatch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdUtaMTM0rzqa4R2eZWyA9Q
In this episode, Aleeza and the Rabbi talk about a listener's question about the unique challenges of dating as a middle-aged Jew in the rural South. Rachel, a listener from Virginia, shares her experience of connecting with another Jewish divorcee from North Carolina and the complexities of their new relationship. Aleeza and the Rabbi discuss the pressures of long-distance relationships, the difficulty of finding Jewish partners in small communities, and the importance of giving potential relationships a fair chance despite geographical and social hurdles. They also invite Rachel and her match to share their journey on the podcast.Key Points:Long-Distance Relationship Dynamics: The hosts talk about the intensity and challenges that come with long-distance dating, including managing communication and expectations.Scarcity of Jewish Partners in Small Towns: Aleeza and the Rabbi explore the pressure of dating within a limited Jewish community and the fear of settling due to a lack of options.Importance of Real Connections: They stress the need to tell the difference between feeling forced into a relationship due to limited options and recognizing a genuine connection.Giving Relationships a Fair Chance: The hosts suggest a "five date challenge" to allow time for a real connection to develop before making a final decision and highlight the potential blessings in having fewer dating options.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastWatch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdUtaMTM0rzqa4R2eZWyA9Q
In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Rabbi and Aleeza tackle a big question from a listener named Shoshana, who has been single for ten years and is struggling to understand why finding a life partner is so hard. The discussion looks at both the spiritual and practical sides of finding a match, exploring the balance between divine intervention and free will. Rabbi emphasizes that the challenge of finding a soulmate is part of God's plan and talks about how time and effort in relationships are crucial for their longevity and success.Key Points:Divine Intervention and Free Will: Rabbi explains that while God is involved in matchmaking, humans also have free will, which means the process requires their active participation and decision-making.The Importance of Effort: Both hosts agree that the difficulty in finding a partner is intentional, designed to make individuals value and work hard for their relationships, ensuring they are cherished and maintained.Multiple Potential Soulmates: Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the idea that there isn't just one perfect soulmate for each person; several individuals could potentially fulfill that role, which can alleviate some pressure and open more possibilities.Practical Advice and Hope: The episode concludes with practical advice, such as Aleeza's "Mystery in Your History" course, which helps individuals re-evaluate past connections, and a hopeful message encouraging patience and perseverance in the journey to find a life partner.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastWatch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdUtaMTM0rzqa4R2eZWyA9Q
In this episode, Aleeza and the Rabbi answer a question from Judith, a widow in her 50s. Judith notices that many divorced men she meets blame their failed marriages on their ex-wives' emotional issues, which they say come from being raised by Holocaust survivors. The episode looks into whether this is a real pattern or just an excuse. The Rabbi and Aleeza also talk about how the Holocaust affects later generations. They give Judith and others advice on dating.Key Points:Recurring Theme in Divorce Reasons: Judith sees that many divorced men say their ex-wives are emotionally unavailable because of their Holocaust survivor parents.Holocaust's Lingering Impact: The Rabbi explains how the trauma from the Holocaust can affect the children of survivors, shaping their emotional and relationship issues.Pattern Recognition and Self-Reflection: Aleeza and Rabbi suggest that Judith think about why she sees this pattern and how her own background might play a role.Advice for Change: They recommend that Judith try dating outside her usual community to find someone who is emotionally available and a good match.Watch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdUtaMTM0rzqa4R2eZWyA9QTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Join us for another episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker where your hosts, Aleeza and Rabbi, dive into a heartfelt query from Yosef, who is facing the challenge of unrequited love with a friend. The episode explores the delicate balance of maintaining a friendship while dealing with romantic feelings that aren't reciprocated.Key Points:Respecting the Friend's Decision: Aleeza stresses the importance of respecting the friend's feelings and decision to remain just friends, highlighting how essential it is to honor these boundaries.Timing for Reapproaching: Aleeza advises waiting at least six months before considering to express feelings again, suggesting a gentle approach to see if the dynamics might have changed, without applying pressure.The Importance of Moving On: Rabbi emphasizes the necessity for Yosef to focus on moving forward, recommending that he explore other romantic possibilities instead of waiting for his friend’s feelings to change.Taking Time for Self-Reflection: Both hosts agree on the benefits of Yosef taking some time away from the friendship if needed, to mitigate emotional pain and to make space for new, reciprocative relationships.ShareWatch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdUtaMTM0rzqa4R2eZWyA9QTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Aleeza and Rabbi respond to a listener who is struggling with self-criticism after a past relationship. They discuss the importance of forgiving oneself and using mistakes as learning opportunities for better future relationships. The conversation offers practical advice on personal growth and emotional recovery post-breakup.Key Points:Normalizing Mistakes: Aleeza points out that making mistakes is a common part of all human interactions. She likens it to how children stumble when learning to walk, illustrating that errors are essential for personal development.Timing of Conversations: Aleeza shares a personal tip about managing emotions during conflicts. She advises waiting until you're calm to discuss sensitive topics to ensure the conversation is constructive.Shared Responsibility: Rabbi highlights that problems in relationships are usually not one-sided. Recognizing that both partners may contribute to issues can alleviate unnecessary self-blame.Constructive Reflection: They offer advice on how to reflect on past errors effectively, which includes stopping negative behaviors, expressing regret, clearly stating intentions for change, and making plans for improvement.
In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the challenges people face when dating after a divorce. They offer advice on dealing with public perception, the best time to share your divorce history, and learning from past relationships to improve future ones. This conversation provides practical tips for those looking to find love again.Key Points:Stigma Around Divorce: Aleeza explains that being divorced is more accepted today than before. She suggests that having been married shows you're serious about relationships, which can be a plus when dating again.When to Share About Divorce: The hosts talk about the right time to tell someone you're dating that you've been divorced. They emphasize being honest and confident about your past.Learning from the Past: It's important to reflect on previous relationships and understand what you can do better. Knowing what went wrong helps you prepare for a better relationship next time.Owning Your Story: Aleeza and Rabbi encourage taking responsibility for your part in a past relationship ending. They say this shows maturity and can make you more attractive to potential partners.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
This week, your hosts tackle the listener's question about the meaning and implications of requesting a "phone break" in a relationship. Aleeza and Rabbi discuss various scenarios and motives behind such a request, providing insights into communication dynamics in modern relationships. In this episode, they cover:Understanding the Request: Exploring what a "phone break" could signify, whether it's a need for space, a sign of feeling overwhelmed, or a desire to shift the mode of communication.Assessing Relationship Intensity: How frequent and intense communication can lead to one partner feeling smothered, prompting the need for a break.Positive vs. Negative Implications: Discussing when a phone break might be healthy and necessary for personal processing, versus when it might signal deeper issues within the relationship.Navigating the Break: Strategies for effectively communicating about the break, setting clear expectations and timelines, and ensuring both partners are on the same page to maintain relationship health.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Welcome to another episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast where your hosts, Jewish dating experts Aleeza and Rabbi, discuss this week's listeners' question: 'What do you do when a girl doesn't want you But you know, she loves you?' They break down emotional dilemmas, historical perspectives on marriage, and the practical aspects needed beyond love to build a sustainable relationship.Key Points Discussed:Discussion on why love might not be sufficient for marriage, emphasizing compatibility and shared life paths.Exploring how the concept of marrying solely for love is a relatively modern development, contrasting with historical reasons such as financial or social advantages.The importance of aligning on life goals, values, and personal habits is discussed as essential alongside love for a healthy marriage.Evaluating whether love itself can sustain a marriage and what other elements are crucial for a lasting partnership.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Welcome back to another episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker Podcast. On this week's episode, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the complexities of physical attraction in dating and relationships. They go into the question of what to do when someone attempts to set you up with a person who is considered a great match, but you don't find them physically attractive. The hosts explore the nuances of this situation and provide insights on how to approach it.Key Points:The Importance of Physical Attraction: Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the significance of physical attraction in relationships, acknowledging its role while also exploring its limitations.Handling "Hard No" Situations: The hosts provide advice on how to navigate situations where there is an immediate lack of physical attraction and when it's appropriate to decline a potential match outright.Giving It a Chance: Aleeza and Rabbi share anecdotes and examples of instances where initial lack of physical attraction evolved after giving the relationship a chance, emphasizing the value of getting to know someone beyond their appearance.Patience and Decision-Making: The episode concludes with a blessing for patience and wisdom, underscoring the importance of taking time to make the right decision after a few dates and allowing both the heart and mind to align.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Join us this week on "Matchmaker Matchmaker" as Aleeza and Rabbi discuss trust in relationships. They explore the time it takes to establish trust, the link between commitment and the growth of trust, and the impact of personal insecurities and past traumas on trust-building. Throughout the episode, they share practical perspectives, stressing the importance of open communication to navigate challenges related to trust. Tune in to unravel the layers of trust and its pivotal role in the journey of love and commitment.Key Points:The hosts emphasize the time it takes to develop trust, highlighting that true trust often takes years to develop, as supported by research findings.Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the correlation between commitment and the growth of trust, emphasizing that trust evolves with the level of commitment within the relationship.The impact of personal insecurities and past traumas on the timeline for establishing trust is addressed, with the hosts stressing the importance of open communication to navigate these challenges.Throughout the episode, practical perspectives are shared, shedding light on the significance of consistency, reliability, vulnerability, and personal integrity in building trust within relationships.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Welcome back to another episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, where Rabbi and Aleeza discuss whether women fall in love faster than men. They challenge this common assumption, sharing personal stories and emphasizing the importance of clear communication in relationships. The hosts also touch on the role of matchmakers in guiding relationship milestones and share insights into surprise proposals.Key Points:Challenging Traditional Assumptions: Rabbi and Aleeza question the belief that women fall in love faster than men, offering personal stories that challenge this idea.Redefining Love: The hosts advocate for a more intentional and proactive approach to emotional connection, emphasizing growth and mutual understanding over the terminology of "falling in love."The Role of Communication: Stressing the importance of open communication in relationships, the hosts share personal stories to highlight understanding each other's perspectives and preferences.Proposal Insights: Rabbi and Aleeza discuss surprise proposals, emphasizing the significance of understanding individual preferences and the potential role of matchmakers in guiding relationship milestones.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Join us today on the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast as Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the common doubts and challenges individuals face in finding the right partner. They explore the importance of asking the right questions and reframing the search for love. The conversation also goes into the significance of non-negotiables in relationships and the varied importance of specific traits in different individuals' search for a partner.Key Points:Aleeza and Rabbi emphasize the need to reframe one's mindset from "Is there something wrong with me?" to more proactive inquiries when searching for a partner.The speakers discuss the concept of non-negotiables in relationships, highlighting the difference between essential traits and desirable bonuses in a potential partner.They share insights into recognizing the existence of desired traits in others and the common experiences of individuals who struggle to find someone who embodies the qualities they seek.The discussion also touches on the role of humor and compatibility in relationships, shedding light on the varied importance of specific traits in different individuals' search for a partner.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
In this episode, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the common scenario of being mistaken for being married and how to respond to such assumptions. They share playful and humorous ways to handle these situations, emphasizing the importance of using humor to break the ice and creating relational opportunities. relationship status.Key Points:Using Humor: Aleeza and Rabbi advocate for responding to assumptions about being married with playful and humorous remarks, utilizing humor to diffuse tension and create a lighthearted interaction.Relational Opportunities: The hosts emphasize the abundance of relational opportunities in everyday life, from nonverbal interactions to casual conversations, highlighting the potential for unexpected connections in daily encounters.Embracing Playfulness: They encourage listeners to embrace humor and playfulness in responding to assumptions, viewing such moments as opportunities for engagement and connection.Positive Responses: Aleeza and Rabbi stress the importance of responding in a way that promotes positivity and opens the door to potential connections, emphasizing the value of seizing relational opportunities in various interactions.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Join us In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmerk where your hosts, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the challenging task of rejecting someone kindly in dating situations. They explore the use of technology, particularly Chat GPT, as a means to craft considerate rejections while emphasizing the ethical and responsible use of such tools. Key Points: Challenges of Kind Rejection: Discussion on the difficulties of conveying rejection kindly without being overly blunt.Role of Matchmakers: Exploring the potential role of a matchmaker in handling rejections in the dating process.Technology as a Communication Tool: Exploring the use of technology, particularly Chat GPT, as a helpful tool in communicating sensitive messages, emphasizing the ethical and responsible use of such tools.Ethical Considerations in Technology Use: Touching on the ethical considerations when leveraging technology in the dating and rejection process, integrating modern tools with traditional values within the context of Judaism.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Join us this week in the Matchmaker Matchmaker Podcast, where Rabbi and Aleeza discuss a listener's question that's all too familiar: Am I in the friend zone? They unpack what it means to be in the friend zone, the signs to look out for, and how to deal with the uncertainty of a relationship that might be stuck in friendship territory. Whether it's fear of ruining a good friendship or simply not feeling the spark, our hosts share their views on how to work this tricky situation.Key Points:The 'Friend Zone' Reality: Discussing whether true friendships can stay just that or if they're always a stepping stone to romance.Friendship as a Relationship Cornerstone: Exploring how friendships can be the starting point for a strong romantic relationship.Taking Chances Beyond Friendship: The pros and cons of moving past the friend zone and how to take that leap.Deciding Between Friendship and Romance: Advice on choosing whether to pursue a romantic relationship with a friend or to keep the friendship as it is.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Welcome to another episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast, where your hosts, Jewish matchmakers Aleeza and Rabbi, go into the intricacies of dating and relationships within the Jewish community. Today's question comes from a listener who is perplexed by her date's annoying habits, such as repetitive phrases, and his decision-making, like letting her walk home alone and splitting the bill for coffee. Is she being too picky, or are these legitimate concerns? Aleeza and Rabbi dissect these behaviors, offering insights into communication, social etiquette, and when to speak up in a budding relationship.Key Points:Communication Habits: The conversation opens with the issue of repetitive phrases. Aleeza suggests that it could be a self-soothing mechanism for nervousness, while Rabbi points out the possibility of the date being oblivious to social cues. They both agree that it's something that can be worked on, especially if it's just a symptom of initial dating jitters.Safety and Courtesy: The man's decision not to walk the listener home after a late-night date sparks a debate about safety and common courtesy. Aleeza firmly believes in the responsibility of companions to look out for each other's safety, while Rabbi discusses how direct communication could solve this concern.Splitting the Bill: Aleeza and Rabbi explore the complexities of splitting the bill. They recognize that while this might be a contentious issue, it's important to understand each other's perspectives and expectations. It could also be an indicator of deeper values and how they align.Focus on the Positives and Deal-Breakers: Rabbi emphasizes the importance of weighing the good against the bad. If the listener finds more positives in the relationship, it may be worth addressing these concerns directly. Aleeza advises that if the negatives are too overwhelming, it might be a sign to reassess the potential of the relationship.
Jump right into this episode where Rabbi and Aleeza get real about a question many of us have after a date: why don't they call back like they said they would? They break down the reasons behind the silence after a date and get into the nitty-gritty of dating do's and don'ts today.Episode Highlights:Spotting the Signs: Aleeza gives it to you straight on how to tell if someone's just being nice or if they're actually into you.Not About You: Rabbi chimes in to say that sometimes it's not your fault at all – the other person might have their own stuff going on.Who Should Call Who?: They hash out if it's cool to stick with the old ways where guys make the first move, or if it's time to shake things up.Don't Give Up: They both agree – keep on dating and don't get down when things don't work out. The right one will come along and make the effort.Got ghosted? Confused by mixed messages? Rabbi and Aleeza have got some stories, advice, and a good dose of humor for you. Tune in to get the lowdown on why that second date might not be happening, and why that's totally okay.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss the impact of the October 7th massacre on the Jewish community's approach to dating. They go into the heightened urgency and motivation to find a life partner following the tragic event, comparing it to the sense of urgency felt during the COVID-19 pandemic. The hosts explore how this event has led to a shift towards a more focused and intentional search for a Jewish life partner, noting changes in the diaspora and Israel. They also touch on the challenges faced in Israel due to the ongoing crisis and innovative ways individuals are seeking connections, offering a shared blessing for listeners to find their soulmates amidst these challenging times.Key Points:- The profound impact of the October 7th massacre on the Jewish community's approach to dating- Comparison of urgency post-massacre to the urgency felt during the COVID-19 pandemic- Shift towards a more focused and intentional search for a Jewish life partner- Challenges faced and innovative ways of seeking connections in the Jewish community, particularly in IsraelTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast#JewishDatingShifts#CommunityReflections#DatingPostTragedy#NavigatingChange#LoveAmidstChallenges
In this episode, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss the importance of dressing for dates and share their perspectives on finding the right balance between personal style and making a positive impression. They share personal experiences and provide practical tips for choosing an outfit that reflects your true self and matches the dating environment. The key topics covered in this episode include:- The significance of dressing in a way that represents your regular self- The impact of attire on creating the right impression- How to integrate self-expression while being mindful of the dating context- Discussing the appropriate time to showcase different sides of your personalityTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Aleeza and Rabbi are back for another episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker this week. They're tackling a listener's question: "What's the difference between a good guy and a kind guy?" They explain that a good guy is not only nice but also has a fun and engaging personality and is genuinely interested in getting to know people. On the other hand, a kind guy is someone who is simply nice, polite, and agreeable but may not be as interesting or engaging as a good guy. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Have you ever wondered why divorce rates in the Orthodox Jewish community remain remarkably low? On this weeks episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast, Rabbi and Aleeza explore this intriguing question, shedding light on the factors that contribute to the resilience of marriages within this community. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Join your dating experts on a brand new episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker. Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the question 'Why am I attracted to bad boys'. They explore the reasons why people are attracted to bad boys, even though they know they are not good for them. They also offer some advice on how to shift your desires to something that is actually good for you.Key Points:- People are attracted to bad boys for a variety of reasons, including their physical appearance, attitude, and behavior.- Bad boys often play mind games with their partners, which can be both exciting and addictive.- People who are attracted to bad boys may have had a negative experience in their past that made them feel comfortable with this type of person.- It is possible to overcome the attraction to bad boys, but it requires a deep understanding of yourself and your needs.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Questions for Discussion:
* What are some of the challenges of dating someone who has had a near-death experience?
* What are some of the rewards?
* How can you support your partner if they have had a near-death experience?
* How can you learn and grow from your partner's experience?
Join Aleeza and Rabbi as they talk about how to avoid ending up just as friends when you want something more in a relationship. They have different views on whether guys can put women in the friendzone, but they agree that being honest about your feelings is key. They suggest a few practical tips, like being upfront about your emotions, not being afraid to ask someone out, and not hanging around if it's clear the other person isn't interested.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Welcome back to another episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker! In today's show, Aleeza and Rabbi are here to chat with you about what might be holding you back in the dating scene. They'll talk about the importance of looking inward and asking for advice from others. Plus, they'll share some practical tips to help you get out of that dating rut, like finding a mentor or coach. Key Points:The first step to getting unstuck is to identify what's holding you back. This may require some introspection and self-reflection.Once you know what's holding you back, you can start to brainstorm ways to overcome it.Getting feedback from others can be helpful in identifying your blind spots.There are many resources available to help you get unstuck, such as mentors, coaches, and online courses.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast
Questions for Discussion:
* What are your thoughts on dating someone who's not your type?
* Have you ever dated someone who wasn't your type? What was your experience like?
* What advice would you give to someone who is attracted to someone who's not their type?
Questions for Discussion:
* What are your thoughts on awkward silence on a first date?
* How do you handle awkward silence?
* What are some tips for breaking the silence if you need to?
* What are some things to avoid doing during awkward silence?
Questions for Discussion:
* What are some of the challenges of asking someone out on a date?
* How can you overcome these challenges?
* What are some of the things to keep in mind when choosing a date activity?
* How can you follow up after a date to let the other person know that you had a good time?
Questions for Discussion:
* What are the challenges of dating someone with a pornography addiction?
* How can you support your partner through their recovery from pornography addiction?
* What resources are available to help people with pornography addiction and their partners?
Additional Information:
Al Anon is a support group for people who are affected by the addiction of a loved one.
* Lifeline is a Jewish organization that provides resources for addicts and their families.
* The National Institute on Drug Abuse* provides information about addiction and treatment options.
Questions for Discussion:
1. What are some of the challenges of dating someone with an addiction?
2. What resources are available to help people who are dating someone with an addiction?
3. What factors should you consider when deciding whether or not to stay in a relationship with an addict?
Join Aleeza and Rabbi in this insightful episode as they address a common question from listeners: "What should I do if my partner isn't listening to me?" As dating experts, they provide valuable tips on how to enhance communication in your relationship and effectively deal with this challenging situation. Discover practical advice to create a stronger connection and understanding between you and your partner.Key Points:Check the timing. Are you approaching your partner when they're busy or distracted? If so, they may not be able to give you their full attention.Talk in person. Don't try to have a serious conversation from different rooms or over the phone. It's important to be able to see each other's facial expressions and body language.Be respectful. Don't interrupt your partner when they're speaking or talking over them. This will only make them feel unheard and disrespected.Be patient. It may take some time for your partner to learn how to listen to you better. Be patient and understanding, and continue to communicate your needs.Additional Thoughts:Ask for help from an outsider. If you're struggling to communicate with your partner, you may want to consider talking to a therapist or counselor. They can help you learn how to communicate more effectively and resolve any underlying issues.Remember that everyone is different. What works for one couple may not work for another. It's important to find what works best for you and your partner.Overall, the key to communicating effectively with your partner is to be respectful, patient, and understanding. If you can do these things, you'll be well on your way to resolving any communication problems you may be having.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Additional Information:
Some of the factors that people may want to consider include:
+ Values: What are your core values? How do they align with your partner's values?
+ Lifestyle: How do you like to live your life? Do you have similar interests and hobbies?
+ Goals: What are your long-term goals? Are your partner's goals compatible with yours?
+ Communication: How do you communicate with your partner? Are you able to openly and honestly discuss your thoughts and feelings?
+ Conflict resolution:* How do you handle conflict? Are you able to resolve disagreements in a healthy and productive way?
* It is important to note that this is not an exhaustive list of factors to consider. Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to make a long-term commitment is a personal one. There is no right or wrong answer, and what is important is that you feel comfortable with your decision.
In this episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss the difference between love and infatuation. They define love as an emotion based on giving, while infatuation is an emotion based on wanting. They also discuss how love takes time to develop, while infatuation can happen at first sight. Finally, they emphasize the importance of being able to tell the difference between love and infatuation in order to make healthy relationship decisions.Key Points:Love and infatuation are two different emotions, but they can be difficult to distinguish.Love is based on giving, while infatuation is based on wanting.Love takes time to develop, while infatuation can happen at first sight.Love is based on reality, while infatuation is based on fantasy.It is important to be able to tell the difference between love and infatuation in order to make healthy relationship decisions.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Join Aleeza and Rabbi on a very special episode of the Matchmaker Podcast as they go into the significance of aligning goals and dreams in a relationship. Drawing from her personal experiences, Aleeza shares how she and her partner went through a working role reversal within their own dynamic. The duo offers some insights on effectively communicating goals and dreams with your partner, as well as finding common ground. Throughout the episode, they underscore the importance of flexibility and compromise as indispensable pillars of a thriving relationship.Key Points:Similar goals and dreams play a crucial role in fostering a healthy relationship, enabling couples to work towards shared aspirations.While it is possible to harbor different goals and dreams within a relationship, honesty and open communication are vital in ensuring understanding.By engaging in conversations about individual goals and dreams, couples can discover opportunities for mutual support and identify areas of alignment.Flexibility and compromise emerge as essential qualities for cultivating a successful relationship, allowing partners to accommodate each other's aspirations while maintaining a harmonious balance.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Coming up in this week's episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss how to tell if you're being used in a relationship. They believe that if you're asking the question, you already know the answer. They both go on to talk about the patterns that people who are being used often fall into, such as having a history of being in relationships with narcissists. They recommend taking time to reflect on your past and identify these patterns so that you can break them and create healthier relationships in the future.Key Points:If you're asking the question "How do I know if I'm being used?", you already know the answer.People who are being used in relationships often have a history of being in relationships with narcissists.It's important to take time to reflect on your past and identify the patterns that have led you to this point.Once you've identified the patterns, you can start to break them and create healthier relationships in the future.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Join Rabbi and Aleeza on this exciting podcast as they delve into the realm of relationship arguments and share valuable insights on how to handle them effectively. While disagreements are inevitable, the key lies in maintaining focus and addressing the core issue at hand. Discover why fighting on topic is crucial for healthy conflict resolution, how to avoid fighting dirty by staying on track, and the significance of addressing the present moment. Learn from the experts and enhance your relationship communication skills to foster growth and understanding.Key Points:The Importance of Fighting: Arguments are an essential part of relationships as they provide an opportunity for growth and understanding. The notion of never arguing can be a red flag, indicating the absence of healthy communication and a willingness to address challenges.The Right Kind of Arguing: Not all arguments are created equal. It's essential to engage in productive disagreements that focus on the specific topic at hand. By avoiding personal attacks or bringing in unrelated issues, couples can create a space for constructive dialogue and problem-solving.Fighting Fair: Fighting fair involves several aspects, including staying on topic, refraining from meanness or sarcasm (unless both partners are comfortable with it), and aiming to uplift the relationship rather than tear it down. The objective is to address the issue and find resolutions while respecting each other's perspectives.Seeking Help when Needed: If an argument becomes an existential issue or a recurring theme that affects the overall relationship, seeking professional guidance, such as couples therapy, counseling, or mentorship, can provide valuable support and facilitate a significant shift in dynamics.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
In this podcast, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss the issue of people who are "married to people in their head" - people who are unable to move on from a past relationship, even though the relationship has ended. The Rabbi and Aleeza offer advice on how to let go of a past relationship and open yourself up to new possibilities.Key Points:- Acknowledge your feelings. It's normal to feel sad, angry, or even guilty after a breakup. Don't try to bottle up your emotions. Allow yourself to feel them, and then let them go.- Focus on the present. It's easy to get caught up in the past, but it's important to focus on the present moment. What can you do today to make your life better?- Open yourself up to new possibilities. Don't close yourself off to new relationships just because you're still hurting from a past one. There are plenty of great people out there who are waiting to meet you.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
In this episode of the podcast, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss whether it is okay to size someone up at first sight. They argue that it is normal for people to make snap judgments about others, but that these judgments should not be taken too seriously. They also discuss the importance of giving people a chance to get to know you before making any final decisions about them.Key Points:It is normal to make snap judgments about others, but these judgments should not be taken too seriously.Give people a chance to get to know you before making any final decisions about them.Attraction is often based on familiarity.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
In this episode, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the pros and cons of long distance relationships. They talk about the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who is far away, as well as the benefits of being able to focus on your career or education without having to worry about a relationship. They also offer advice on how to make a long distance relationship work.Key Points:Long-distance relationships can be very rewarding, but they also require a lot of effort and communication.It's important to be honest with yourself about whether or not you're willing to put in the work.If you're both committed to making the relationship work, it can be a great way to grow closer and learn more about each other.There are a number of things you can do to make a long distance relationship work, such as:Communicating regularly, both through text, phone, and video chatPlanning regular visitsTrusting each otherBeing patient and understandingCheck out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
In this episode, the hosts Aleeza and Rabbi, discuss the topic of knowing when it's time to end a relationship. They introduce the concept of "soulmate clarity" and explain a system for evaluating relationships based on values, fears, and irritants. By ranking these factors against personal values and assessing how much the other person triggers and irritates, one can determine the potential of the relationship. The hosts emphasize the importance of having clarity to avoid looking back with regret and to prevent choosing the wrong person. They also touch upon the idea of avoiding divorce by entering engagements with confidence. Episode Highlights:Introduction to the concept of "soulmate clarity" and a system for evaluating relationships based on personal values, fears, and irritants.The significance of having clarity to avoid regrets and making wrong choices in relationships.Exploring the idea of preventing divorce by entering engagements with confidence and certainty.The challenges of creating an automated system for soulmate clarity due to the need for accuracy and the value of mentorship.Advice on dating until a clear "no" is established and shifting the focus from love at first sight, to love that lasts over time.Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Join Rabbi and Aleeza as they address a listener's question regarding a partner's annoying habits and catchphrases. The hosts stress the significance of open communication, expressing preferences, and seeking professional guidance when necessary. They shed light on the role of matchmakers in relationships, suggesting the involvement of a "fixer" matchmaker to provide support. Overall, the episode provides valuable insights and practical advice for navigating repetitive behaviors in early relationships while fostering understanding and connection.Key Points:- Importance of open communication and expressing preferences in relationships.- Highlighting the role of matchmakers in providing guidance and support.- Suggestion to involve a "fixer" matchmaker to address the issue.- Emphasizing the value of seeking guidance and support from professionals.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Welcome to another exciting episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, where your hosts Aleeza and Rabbi, the ultimate dating experts, tackle this week's question - 'Is it fair that Men are allowed to be pickier than women'?You'll get to hear about a real-life story of a woman who was unapologetically specific about her dating preferences and how that worked out for her. Plus, you'll learn about the different types of decision-makers in relationships - I decision-makers, WE decision-makers, and YOU decision-makers - and how it impacts the dating game.And if that's not enough, Aleeza and Rabbi also share some valuable insights on knowing your own personality type and finding a compatible partner who complements it. So don't miss out on this eye-opening episode and be sure to stick around for the conclusion and key takeaways.Key points: - Discussion about whether women are judged more harshly than men for being picky in datingStory of a woman who knew exactly what she wanted and was particular about her list- Explanation of the different types of decision-makers in relationships: AI decision-makers, we decision-makers, and huge decision-makers- Importance of knowing your own personality type and finding a compatible partner who can complement it- Conclusion and key takeawaysCheck out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
In this episode, Aleeza and Rabbi talk about the three core reasons or behaviors for a relationship to be happy for a lifetime. They discuss the importance of kindness, humor, and honesty, but Aleeza wants to replace kindness with something better. Rabbi believes that trust is the most important thing in a relationship, but Aleeza argues that it's not identifiable enough. They then discuss giving and curiosity as the other two core reasons for a relationship to be happy for a lifetime. Join in this conversation by letting us know what you think the root of trust is. You can send a voice note to our socials or drop us a message on our website below. Key Points: - Trust is mentioned as the number one thing that cannot be identified at the beginning of a relationship, but can be built over time through small acts of trust.- Giving is mentioned as the second important factor for a happy relationship, as love grows from giving and developing a deeper understanding of each other.- Curiosity is mentioned as the third important factor, as it promotes continued growth and learning in the relationship.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
In this episode, Rabbi and Aleeza offer guidance to a listener who shares her painful experience of being blindsided by a breakup after a seemingly promising start to a relationship. Your dating experts then reflect on the importance of taking things slow and not being too emotionally vulnerable or physically intimate too soon in a relationship, especially in the early stages. They highlight the need to build a solid foundation of emotional connection before moving to a physical level. They also emphasize the importance of self-care, seeking support from friends, family, or professionals, and taking the time to process and heal after a sudden breakup.Aleeza also shares about their dating detox program, which helps individuals navigate the challenges of dating and breakups, providing practical steps and support for moving on and healing. You can find more information about this program on the Matchmaker website linked below. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
In this Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast episode, Rabbi and Aleeza tackle a tough dating question: How should someone handle dating when suffering from financial issues due to job loss or other unforeseeable events? Is it a good time to date, since it could be a litmus test to see if your soulmate will stick around? Is it important to be happy, healthy, and confident before dating, regardless of financial circumstances? Aleeza believes that the best time to date is when you are in a good position, have self-confidence, and are employed, whether you like the job or not. However, if someone is burdened by financial loss, pain, and stress, dating may not be the best idea. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
In this episode, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss the topic of conflict avoidance in the context of dating and matchmaking. They explore how conflict avoidance is a personality trait and can affect relationships, and suggest ways to navigate this issue in dating.The hosts discuss the Big Five personality traits and how conflict avoidance is a part of one's personality type. They also emphasize that personality is inherent and cannot be dramatically shifted, but can be gradually adjusted over time.They suggest that if conflict avoidance is a problem for someone, they should look for a partner who is less conflict avoidant and more comfortable with engaging in conflict resolution. The hosts also emphasize that there are plenty of people who are not conflict avoidant and that it is possible to find a compatible partner.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
This week's episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker covers the scenario of a partner losing interest whenever starting a relationship.Your dating experts, Rabbi and Aleeza suggest that the person might not be choosing quality humans and is just being receptive to whoever chases her. They advise the person to be more discerning about who she likes and not just be responsive to anyone who shows interest in her. Aleeza also suggests that women should use their own intuition to find a partner who matches their values and desires. Additionally, they acknowledge that dating can be a game with rules and strategies for success, but emphasize the importance of authenticity and honesty in finding a partner.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Your hosts, Aleeza and Rabbi disagree with the phrasing of the question, as they believe that once someone gets married, their partner becomes their soulmate. However, they acknowledge that some people may struggle with letting go of certain non-negotiables when searching for a partner. They suggest that at least 70% of the things a person wants in a partner should align with their values and fears, including how the person triggers them or irritates them. Have caution against settling for someone who is less than what a person wants, but acknowledge that people must learn to accept some irritating habits in their partners. The key to finding one's soulmate is to have clarity and choose a partner who aligns with one's values and who one can accept and tolerate over time.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Rabbi and Aleeza share their valuable insights on today's dating life. The world is big and now with so many opportunities to date, it can be overwhelming. They'll also discuss how to be approachable if you are in a happy relationship as well as how to seek for help if you are needing it. -How to be approachable-How to share your message-Not to give up-If you're having trouble with your relationship to seek out help-Analysis Paralysis-The world is big and there are many options-You should be a positive role modelCheck out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
This episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker is all about the importance of vulnerability in relationships. Aleeza and Rabbi discuss how being vulnerable can help you move on from negative experiences and be open to new experiences. They also offer advice on how to be vulnerable. This is a must-listen for anyone who wants to improve their relationship experiences!The importance of vulnerability in relationshipsHow being vulnerable can help you move on from negative experiencesDon't Generalize your experiencesCheck out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
If you're looking for advice on how to find a healthy relationship and get married, this is the podcast for you. In this episode, your favorite relationship coaches Rabbi and Aleza offer their advice on how to find a happy and healthy relationship. -The importance of finding a happy and healthy couple to model your relationship after, especially if you come from a divorced home.-How we can learn from other couples, especially ones that have a happy and healthy relationship.-If we come from a divorced home, we need to make sure that we understand it's not our fault and that we can find a happy couple to model our own relationship after.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
This episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker offers listeners an important perspective on the importance of being truthful about your age. Too often, people lie about their age in an attempt to find someone who is a better match, but does this work in the long run? Aleeza and Rabbi Yisroel both have conflicting opinions on this topic.1. The importance of being truthful about your age when looking for a soulmate2. The debate of whether or not it is okay to date someone more than 10 years apart in age3. The importance of having other qualities in common besides age in order to have a successful relationshipDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Looking for love but feeling self-conscious? It's time for an intervention! On the latest episode of Matchmaker, Matchmaker, host Aleeza and Rabbi Yisroel offer advice on how to present yourself to other singles and matchmakers. She stresses the importance of being honest about who you are and what you're looking for, and offers tips on how to make the most of your dating profile. So if you're ready to find love, tune in to Matchmaker, Matchmaker and1. How to focus on undefined2. How to present yourself to others3. How to be less self-consciousDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
This episode of the Matchmaker, Matchmaker podcast provides excellent advice for those getting married for the second time. The podcast features experts who discuss the importance of choosing the right partner. Aleeza Ben Shalom explains that people often want one of two extremes: someone who is easy to get along with or someone who is exciting. However, neither of these options is ideal. Instead, she suggests choosing a partner who is similar to you in some ways but who also has some differences that create conflictHow to give advice to someone getting married for the second timeThe importance of choosing the right partnerHow to find a balance between similarity and difference in a partnerDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Listen to this episode of Matchmaker, Matchmaker to learn what you can do to fix a relationship with a matchmaker. This episode will talk about your own emotions, working with a matchmaker, and finding the right matchmaker for you. What it means when a matchmaker says someone is difficult to work withWhy the matchmaker is the easiest person to blame for a failed relationshipHow to be ambitious and hungry for your dating futureDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
If you're struggling looking for love, you need to listen to the latest episode of Matchmaker, Matchmaker. In it, Rabbi Yisroel and Aleeza discuss the importance of taking a dating vacation. They explain how the modern 'swiping' dating system is not designed for long term relationships and that you need to pace yourself to avoid burnout.1) The importance of knowing yourself before you start dating2) How to find out if someone is a good match for you3) How to avoid burnout while datingDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
Looking to find love? In this episode, your dating experts talk about what a matchmaker really is and the importance of one! Did you know a matchmaker doesn't necessarily have to be a professional? You can even be your own matchmaker. Rabbi Yisroel also breaks down the three key components of a successful matchmaker: an introducer, a mentor, and a fixer.1) The definition of a matchmaker2) The three parts of a matchmaker3) Whether or not you need to hire a matchmakerDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org
On this episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast, your dating experts tackle the tough question of what to do when someone who loves you, doesn't want to be with you. While it is difficult, sometimes it is necessary to walk away from a potential relationship that is not healthy for either party. -The importance of being 100% sure that the person you are with is the right person for you-How to explore your doubts about a relationship before making any decisions-How one side may be more invested than the other, and how this can lead to pain-The importance of finding a good matchmaker, therapist or life coach to deal with trauma and moving forward.Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org.
If you're looking for advice on how to know if someone is good marriage material, this episode of Matchmaker, Matchmaker is a must-listen. In it, the experts discuss the importance of taking the time to get to know someone before thinking of commitment. They also advise that it is important to be aware of your own values and personality traits to ensure that you are compatible with your partner. Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show.For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org.
On this week's episode, your expert dating coaches, Aleeza and Rabbi Yisroel discuss if physical appearance should really be the determining factor in your dating life. Stop basing your expectations on movies and understand what real-life dating is all about. Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show.For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org.
Aleeza and Rabbi Yisroel give some advice on dating someone who may be less or more religious than you. Giving real-life examples of when it has and hasn't worked, what you should be mindful of and some questions you should ask yourself before moving forward. Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show.For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org.
On this first episode of the Matchmakers Matchmakers podcast, your hosts Aleeza and Rabbi Yisroel share their thoughts on love at first sight. Is it true love or is it just desire? Should you know 'they're the one' from the first date? Join us on this episode to find out why we all should dig a little deeper. Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org.