We've all seen it and some of us have done it: the people or companies who show allyship during Pride month and then pack it all up at the end of June and store it away until next year, like it's a holiday. In this episode, let's explore what performative allyship is, why it is harmful, and how to avoid it.
Mentioned or related to this episode:
- Library of Congress: 1969: The Stonewall Uprising
- Rizing Tide Foundation: Identifying and Dismantling Performative Allyship
- IGLTA: Pride Calender
- Outright International: Pride Around the World
- Volvo Group: LGBTQ+ Flags and What They Stand For
- We Shape Tech: Performative Allyship: How to Spot it and Avoid Engaging with it
- Seventeen (video): What is Performative Allyship?
- Workplace: GLAAD's Recommendations for Corporate Allies
- Workplace (PDF): LGBT Great: Striving for More - Authentic Allyship Guide
Due to current events in the US:
- Rainbow Railroad
- TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
- Transgender Law Center Resources
Information for allies:
- PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
- GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
- Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
- Human Rights Campaign ally guide
Places to look for therapy and professional support:
- Psychology Today
- Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx
More transgender families:
- YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
- YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
- TikTok: TransitionTogether
- The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
- Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman
Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.
If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.