For people on the outside of abusive relationships it can be very confusing to see survivors return to the person who has harmed them.

And it's often confusing for the survivor too, this desire or urge to go back to the person who has hurt them.

In this episode Saira examines why this might happen.

• Harlow YouTube Video - This is the monkey experiment that Saira talks about in this episode. Please note these you may find the experiments upsetting.
• ALEXANDRA STEIN Ph.D. Understanding Cults and Extremist Groups - storage - In her book Terror Love and Brainwashing, Alexandra Stein explains how in this confused state, this disorganized attachment that's created that we can't think clearly. And internally there's a conflict. That causes one to collapse mentally, and we're more easily prone to adopt what others around us are telling us, because psychologically it's just easier.

We hope this podcast has been helpful in your journey to understanding what has happened to you and provided some new insights and perhaps, hopefully even helped you feel less alone.

Any feedback, helpful suggestions or ideas on what you would like to hear more about are very welcome.

Please get in touch on email saira@mendality.com or via the website mendality.com

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