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If you are always worrying what others are think of you and trying so hard to keep the peace, avoid conflict and stay silent, this episode is for you.

It's time to stop letting people take out their unprocessed pain on you and PROTECT your peace, from a place of self-worth, trust and leadership!

Confident women care more about being respected than being liked. They know that those who need approval the most get it the least. They are a natural magnet for the approval of others because they don't need it (such a powerful paradox).

Make this simple but powerful mindset shift and build the kind of magnetic confidence that attracts miracles.

In today's episode I share examples of how I've helped myself and so many clients overcome the need to be liked and build their resilience. Use these examples to empower you to set the boundaries that set you free!

Highlights:
- wanting to be liked vs needing to be liked
- why so many women stay silent and struggle to speak up
- needing to be liked comes from unmet childhood needs
- the high price you pay from prioritising the comfort of others over your own discomfort
- the 'let them' theory - why it's ok for others to judge, misunderstand or label you
- powerful reminder of why you are worthy of respect and being treated right
- steal my simple but assertive mantras for not letting opinions define you

Join me for an episode full of insights, inspiration and practical strategies to get started today. I promise you will feel instantly more empowered and energised!

As always, I love hearing your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com and let me know your thoughts!

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Soooo excited to meet some of you IRL!!!

If you are always looking outside of yourself to feel ok, this episode is for you. It's time to stop outsourcing your confidence and OWN all parts of yourself to build real, genuine and unshakeable confidence!

Take this one simple but powerful belief and build the kind of magnetic confidence that attracts miracles!

In today's episode I share lots of examples of how I've helped myself and many of my clients overcome outsourcing their confidence and how to feel ok exactly as you are so you can feel free to just be, exist and enjoy life!

Highlights:
- why my easiest month in business brought the highest sales month this year
- needing things outside of yourself to feel ok
- false sense of safety vs real safety that comes from within
- not letting your outer world control your inner world
- making peace with all parts of you
- you are 50% amazing and 50% a messy human being doing their best
- one simple strategy I use daily to build confidence that completely changed my life

Join me for an episode full of insights and practical strategies to get started today and a promise of feeling instantly more empowered and energised.

As always, I love hearing your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com and let me know your thoughts!

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If you are tired of always having to fake confidence and cover the inner chaos of fear, doubt and worry, today's episode is for you!!! It's time to stop chasing short term hits of confidence and start building real, genuine and unshakeable confidence today!

Learn what unshakeable confidence looks and feels like and break free from the need for external validation, approval and reassurance.

I share lots of examples of how I've helped myself and many of my clients overcome their fake confidence persona and how to step into unshakeable confidence so you can feel free to just be, exist and enjoy life!!

Join me for an episode full of insights and practical strategies to get started today and a promise of feeling instantly more empowered and energised.

As always, I looove hearing your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com and let me know your thoughts!

PS: Join the Unleash Your Inner Queen live event waitlist to be the first to get tickets when they go on sale, click here! This is a once in a life time, completely transformative event that you do not want to miss!!!!

Soooo excited to meet some of you IRL!!!!!

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If you are feeling stuck, stressed and obsessed with the opinions/approval of others - this episode is for you!!

Learn what Powerless Princess energy looks and feels like and how to break free from the prison of your old limiting beliefs and programming.

I share lots of examples of how I've helped clients overcome their powerlessness programming and how to step into Iconic Queen Energy so you can become a magnet for all that you desire!!

Join me for an episode full of insights, practical strategies to get started today and a promise of feeling instantly more empowered and energised. Would love to hear your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com.

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Soooo excited for the very first Women of Worth live event!!

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What if the cycle of perfectionism and depression could be broken? Join me after a three-month hiatus and tackle the challenging journey of overcoming severe depression and burnout.

Today's episode covers the links between perfectionism, depression, and shame (*trigger warning: talk of suicide). Discover the powerful lessons found in the darkest times and the importance of gentle recovery, offering hope and practical advice for reclaiming your personal power.

Learn how reading "Healing the Shame that Binds You" by John Bradshaw helped connect the dots between perfectionism and shame, allowing me to take back control of my out-of-control thoughts. You are not your patterns or coping strategies and it is ALWAYS possible to change them.

Finally, we'll discuss the liberating experience of embracing self-compassion. We'll talk about the importance of breaking free from the 'happy friend' persona and fostering genuine connections. Plus, get excited for our first live event, "Brunch and Breakthroughs," aimed at empowering women through live coaching and inspiring speakers.

Join me for an episode full of insights, massive vulnerabilities, and a promise of renewed hope. Would love to hear your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com.

(00:01) Navigating Perfectionism, Depression, and Growth
(16:08) Breaking the Perfectionism and Depression Cycle
(27:04) Empowering Self-Mastery Through Reprogramming
(34:39) Embracing Imperfection, Healing Together
(43:49) Planning Brunch and Breakthroughs Event
(51:53) Finding Freedom Through Self-Acceptance

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I'll never forget the day when I finally realized that the only validation I ever needed was staring back at me in the mirror.

That breakthrough moment led me on a transformative journey toward true self-confidence, which I'll share with you in this ep. I talk about my own struggle with self-doubt, the rocky road to self-acceptance and the tools that helped me build a rock-solid relationship with myself.

From the grips of past traumas to the liberation of self-trust, this is a candid conversation about the strategies that changed the game—not only for me but for numerous clients who have since found their own confidence and self-trust.

We're not just talking about good vibes here; we're digging into practical, actionable techniques to tame the chaos of the mind and find peace within.

Learn about the power of thought observation, emotional intelligence, and the daily practices like meditation and brain dumps that grant mastery over the whirlwind of thoughts and feelings.

I'll also discuss the path to emotional safety and the inner strength that comes from validating oneself, rather than seeking it externally.

This episode is more than just tips and tricks; it's a potent guide to nurturing that all-important friendship with yourself, which is the cornerstone of living with unwavering confidence.

Whether you're riding high or trudging through a tough spot, this is the pep talk you need to embrace the fullness of who you are and let your inner confidence shine.

Highlights:

life is 50% good, 50% bad
shaming yourself vs supporting yourself
If it's out of your control, it doesn't control your confidence
why unshakeable confidence comes from unconditional self-acceptance
building a really strong sense of self
why short term hits of confidence don't work
Step 1: Thoughts - kill your confidence. Observe your thoughts to own your confidence. How to overcome limiting beliefs creating a lack of confidence. Step 2: Emotions - how to sit with emotional pain and not push down emotions. Stop gaslighting yourself, start validating yourself. Turn inwards and stop running away from yourself. How I created emotional safety, even with my Complex trauma.
Step 3: Actions - consistency and keeping small promises to yourself!! So simple but so effective! Confidence comes from consistency - it is a skill.

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Ever wondered why a perfectly polished exterior doesn't always mean a peaceful interior? Prepare to unravel the complexities of authentic confidence as I share from real coaching experiences the stark contrast between the facade of the confident persona and the internal battle against anxiety and self-doubt.

This episode explains why "fake it till you make it" doesn't work and why true confidence stems from self-acceptance and trust. Together, we'll uncover ways to transform not just your outward persona but also your inner peace - enabling you to move through life with less doubt and a more presence in every moment.

This week, we dissect the critical role past experiences play in shaping our self-esteem and future outlook. We'll navigate the challenging process of reinterpreting our personal narratives through compassion and understanding, breaking the chains of fear that hold us back.

It's a journey to discover how to detach confidence from superficial measures of success and instead anchor it in a foundation of self-worth. By prioritizing health and happiness, we send the message that true achievement isn't about what you have or what others think, but about finding fulfillment and authenticity in your own story.

Highlights:

How avoiding pain and chasing pleasure creates problems
The confidence persona covering the inner chaos
Why we all want to feel confidence
How to not confuse confidence with arrogance
3 main reasons why people stay stuck in low confidence
Bad experiences and the beliefs that you create from them.
How to stop using externals to feel better internally
The easy vs hard way to go through life
Shadow work - what you don’t own owns you!
The power and freedom of showing up as yourself and trusting yourself.

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If you're always breaking promises to yourself and wishing you could just be more consistent then today's episode is going to blow your mind 🤯🤯🤯🤯

Listen in as I celebrate my 36th trip around the sun, feeling more content, calm and fulfilled than ever.

One of the biggest contributions to becoming the healthiest and happiest version of myself is my consistent daily routines.

Over the last three years of coaching, the struggle for consistency emerges as a really common theme.In today's ep I breakdown why so many struggle to achieve simple, consistent daily routines - despite its apparent simplicity.

Learn why consistency is simply commitment and why it's a superpower that will 10X your productivity and peace!

You'll also learn about the negative spiral that all-or-nothing thinking can trigger, and why consistency is more about simplicity than intensity.

And finally, you'll get my three foolproof strategies to help you build steady consistency, no matter how busy life gets.

Highlights:

Understanding the Concept of Consistency
information never been easier, implementation never been harder.
Mental fatigue and why the body leads and the mind follows
Overcoming All-or-Nothing Thinking
Creating a marathon mindset - smooth pace over sprinting.
Making the process more important than the product and being present on the journey.
Why consistency is 80-90% - correction over perfection.
Living is the extremes is the least efficient/enjoyable way of living
How consistency helped to cure my complex trauma and PTSD
Outsmart your survival brain (only cares about avoiding pain, chasing pleasure)

This is an episode you do not want to miss!

If I had understood the power of simple and sustainable routines sooner I would have saved myself so much overwhelm and burnout!

Tune in and let me know what you think!

I love hearing your takeaways and feedback, drop me a DM on IG or reply to this email after giving it a listen.

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FREE Masterclass Own Your Overwhelm linked here.

In today’s episode, I am joined by my very first guest ever! Ursula is joining me to talk about her incredible story and journey. She is here to help and inspire you to seek out a positive mindset. We talk about her choice to join my coaching program, what it was like, and her biggest takeaways. This episode is an inside look into the work we do and a sneak peek of the results that everyone deserves!

Why Coaching? [1:30]

I was always attracted to the idea of being positive- I started reading books like The Secret and I was in such a good mindset. [2:20]
During lockdown I had loads of time to work on myself, but when lockdown ended, it was the first time I was hit with anxiety. [3:30]
I had a knot in my chest and stomach that wouldn’t go away. [3:50]
Before the lock down we were so go-go-go, and we didn’t even know there was another way. In lock down, we worked on ourselves. When things started to reopen, we didn’t want to go back to the way things were. [4:40]

What is Coaching like? [6:00]

I didn’t let fear prevent my growth. [7:30]
I was trying to be grateful for the all the opportunities I was given but I was exhausted. That’s when overwhelm came in. That was where the work came in. [9:00]
During our time, I connected with my feelings and connected with my true selves. [9:50]
The biggest thing you taught me was to put myself first. [10:15]
I noticed that you really started to take your power back and get clear on putting yourself first. [11:10]
The only reason I ever did exercise was to lose the weight- it wasn’t enjoyable. Now I do it for my mental health. I’ve enjoyed it, I won’t look at exercise the same ever again. [12:00]
When we do things from a place of fear and lack, it’s not sustainable. When we do things because we love ourselves and our life, it’s a different energy. [12:40]
I have so much more time in the day since doing this. Before I didn’t allow myself time for me. [15:40]
I would be at home, waiting and resting to go back to work. That’s not living. [16:00]
What you don’t own, owns you. When you don’t own your emotions, they own you. [19:00]
When you connect with your authentic self, you have more energy. [21:00]
I’m really, really happy. For the first time in my life I feel so content going to work. I fell in love with it again. [23:15]
Coaching is all about the small steps that you can take to become the healthiest and happiest version of yourself. [24:30]

3 Steps Can Change Your Life [25:00]

Number one: Give yourself more time and be more organized. [25:30]
Number 2: Be grateful for the small things. [26:00]
Number 3: Give away the tasks that others can do for you. [27:00]

Find Your Blind Spots [27:30]

Stress is created by the stories we tell ourselves. [28:00]
I have started believing that I deserve a break and holiday. I am worthy of rest and deserve rest. I don’t have to earn it. [29:00]
Give yourself permission to live a stress free life without any of the guilt that goes with it. [30:10]
Life is meant to be enjoyed, not endured. [31:00]
Life is never going to be completely clear sailing, but knowing that I have the tools to deal with anything that may come up makes me free. [31:30]
Coaching is the best investment you will give yourself-and definitely look no further than Claire.[32:00]

Connect with Ursula

@Ursula_hairstudio

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***FREE OWN YOUR OVERWHELM MASTERCLASS LINK HERE. Ever feel like you're waging a war against the clock, where every tick tocks in tune with your rising stress levels?

Overwhelm doesn't just kill your productivity - it kills your peace, joy, confidence, relationships, success, and so much more!

But - here's the good news!! Overwhelm is actually a FEELING, NOT A FACT!

It's less about time/tasks management and much more about stress management.

Join me as I take you through the trenches of the tornado-to-potato (hyperactivity/burnout) cycle, sharing not only my own personal struggles with this painful pattern but also giving you 60-second strategies to reclaim your peace and skyrocket your productivity.

This week's episode peels back the layers of overwhelm, a sensation often mistaken for an unchangeable reality, and guides you toward recognizing the joy that awaits on the other side of stress.

In today's episode I peel back the layers of overwhelm—helping you to see it as a feeling, not a fact—and guide you through my most powerful 60-second strategies that brought me back to a place of peace, joy and efficiency.

We'll talk about the protective responses our bodies default to when faced with stress and how understanding this can free us from the debilitating 'tornado to potato' cycle that so many of us know all too well.

This episode is about embracing single-task focus and engaging in brain dump exercises to reclaim control of your mind's chaos.

At the end of the ep I invite you to my upcoming masterclass, where you will get the longer-term strategies to break the pattern of overwhelm - permananently.

Highlights:

Permanently breaking the perfection to depression cycle in 2023
Why stress is out and simplicity is in for 2024
What the overwhelm to shut down cycle looks like
Why overwhelm causes you to want to escape or avoid
How to outsmart your survival brain and overwhelm
Hyperindependece and fear of asking for help or reaching out
How living in high stress becomes a very harmful habit
Why you react rather than respond when stressed
What happens when your system is flooded with stress chemicals.
60 sec solutions that will give you instant relief.
The smart way to organize your tasks

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2023 was a wild one, but I've come out the other side with insights that are absolutely invaluable, and I couldn't wait to share them here with you. Through this years challenges with depression, financial pressures and the general day to day ups and downs, I've discovered this unbelievable resilience that I'm ready to unpack in today's episode.

I share the top life-changing lessons of the past year and how I'm emerging with a renewed sense of unshakeable self-belief and inner peace.

Simplicity became my north star in 2023. Simplicity isn't just for minimalist lifestyles—it really is the cornerstone of success. I share with you the beauty of simplicity in setting and achieving our goals and the epiphany I had this year that a successful life, and business, thrives on simplicity.

Narrowing my focus to three core priorities (daily, weekly, monthly and annualy) has revolutionized my life.

Stripping back the clutter and embracing effective systems, rather than endless goal-setting, has paved the way for maximum productivity, peace and purpose.

A simpler map leads to treasures far richer than a complicated quest ever could. Creating a less cluttered approach to life has brought a sense of calm to the tumultuous oceans of everyday life.

Finally, I'll share the practical tools and templates that have guided me to such a place of profound peace and happiness.

So, batten down the hatches and prepare to set sail into 2024, with an episode that's full of the power of self-compassion and courage in facing our imperfections with a heart full of fierce love.

I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as I enjoyed creating it x

PS: Last chance to join the early bird Pressure to Peace programme - stop stressing your way through life and start enjoying your life with infinitely more peace, productivity and purpose. Here's the link with all the info to sign up.

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Are you always going from problem to problem and putting out fires (that you didn’t even start!!)? Today's episode is for you!!

This is a really powerful conversation about how our mind is addicted to problems and how to train your brain out of survival mode and into serenity!

Christmas can be a really stressful time, especially when family dynamics come into play. But what if you could approach it from a higher and healthier perspective?

This episode is all about transforming how we view life and dealing with the familiar stressors in a healthier, more empowering way. I'll also share practical strategies to help you stay grounded, so you're observing rather than absorbing, and ultimately experiencing more peace and contentment.

The magic of perspective is life-changing, and we look at how this shift can help shrink problems and alleviate stress. You’ll learn how to 'zoom out' and focus on the bigger picture.

Life is not what happens to you, but how you handle it. It’s not WHAT you see, but what you TELL yourself about what you see.

You will recognize when your brain is in problem-solving mode, how it’s a way of trying to protect you from painful past experiences that you probably haven’t processed, and have the simple steps to shrinking your problems in seconds.

You are not a victim of your circumstances but the creator of your life - and it all starts with the stories you tell yourself. Get the inside right and the outside all falls into place.

Whether you're addicted to stress or simply craving more peace , this episode is packed full of insights to guide you back towards you happiest and healthiest self!

Highlights:(06:36) Staying Grounded During Christmas Stress

(11:51) Processing Past Pain and Living in Fear

(19:23 ) Living Life With a Long-Term Perspective

(24:19) Creating Happiness Through Higher Self Connection

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Are you exhausted from always putting yourself last? Today's episode is for you!!

This is such an eye-opening conversation about where self-abandonment comes from and how to stop the destructive habit of running yourself into the ground!

From my own personal and professional experiences, I want to help you recognize these subtle patterns, often rooted in childhood emotional neglect, and have the simple steps to start prioritizing your own health and happiness.

We will look at how a lack of emotional validation in childhood, leads to emotional immaturity and these destructive habits. The absence of emotional validation during childhood leads to an assumption that one's emotions and needs are unimportant.

This often results in seeking validation from external sources, leading to overcompensation and ultimately self-abandonment. I share my own journey with this and how learning to validate myself, even during the lowest lows, has increased my emotional maturity and overall health and happiness.

Nobody is coming to save you. Making your needs your number one priority is not selfish, it's smart. And it's what healthy, emotionally mature adults do.

Whether you're dealing with chronic self-abandonment or just want to improve your emotional maturity and overall wellbeing , this episode is packed full of insights and breakthroughs to guide you back towards you happiest and healthiest self!

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Are you really broken beyond repair? Or do you just have patterns that cause you to self-sabotage and feel like you are inherently damaged and unlovable? That question may seem provocative, but it's at the heart of our discussion in this transformative episode. In today's episode I take you on a journey through my own personal experiences with depression and learning to love the darkest parts of myself.

We'll explore the belief of being broken and the role of learned helplessness in seeking support. Instead of hiding from your imperfections, I invite you to listen to them with compassion, curiosity and love.

Self-improvement is important, but have you ever considered its downsides? In our quest for constant growth, we can face complete burnout. Learn how to address the parts of yourself you fear most and learn to love them unconditionally. Instead of trying to eliminate these parts, let's integrate them and witness the quantum healing that happens when we do.

Try this strategy for a week and prepare to be amazed by the positive impact.

Remember, your body is designed to heal from low self-worth, so let's harness that power by practicing unconditional self-love. This path leads to inner peace and freedom. To help you on this journey, we're launching our new program, "Pressure to Peace," designed to help you simplify your life, self-regulate, and prioritize what truly matters. Don't forget to join the waitlist for early access and bonuses. Join the waitlist here: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/a414bf82eb

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In this week's episode, we explore the impact of childhood trauma on our adult lives and the coping mechanisms we unconsciously adopt. I share some very personal stories that shed light on how unprocessed emotions can lead to perfectionism, and how it can massively impact our mental health.

I also share insights from a powerful therapy session and provide some practical techniques to help process emotions and heal those deeply rooted wounds.

We'll chat about the challenges faced by high achievers and the pitfalls of prioritizing work and others over self. I'll share the story of a client who felt overwhelmed and trapped by the pressures of life, which ultimately led to a breaking point and her big breakthrough.

We'll tackle the unhealthy beliefs about productivity that are often deeply ingrained in us, and talk about the significance of addressing emotions in the body as a way to break the cycle and bring about real lasting change.

Finally, we talk about the actual antidote to perfectionism - prioritizing self-care and simplifying our lives. I'll share some non-negotiable daily practices, which are key to building a strong sense of self.

Finally we'll chat about my upcoming program "Pressure to Peace" that's designed to teach skills like simplifying, self-regulation and the art of truly switching off, guilt-free.

This week's episode is a heartfelt conversation about healing, self-love, and happiness.

Give it a listen and let me know your thoughts! Love hearing your biggest takeaways from the pod ❤️

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Highlights:
(00:01) How Childhood Wounds Create Coping Strategies
(15:52) Overcoming Workaholism and Prioritizing Yourself
(26:47) The Real Antidote to Perfectionism
(39:36) The Importance of Simplifying

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*Join the Pressure To Peace waitlist here! Could your relentless pursuit of perfection be a response to deeply subconscious psychological trauma? This week, we're unmasking the connection between perfectionism and childhood trauma* and how, unbeknownst to many, it shapes our lives.

Join me on this intimate journey as I talk about my own struggles with perfectionism, a journey sparked by a life-changing conversation in a café.

We'll tackle how perfectionism manifests as an obsessive fear of flaws and an excessive need for control. We'll also talk about how it is often rooted in trauma that leads to a vicious cycle of stress and anxiety.

However, there IS hope. Together, we're going to explore how understanding these traumas and developing psychological flexibility can liberate us from this exhausting cycle. You'll start to see why perfectionism is actually a SOLUTION and not a problem!

We'll also delve into the impact of growing up in a chaotic environment, where praise was tied to performance, and how it results in an internalized obsession with achievement and the fear of never being good enough. We'll scrutinize how this fear translates into overthinking, overanalyzing, and an overwhelming responsibility for others.

But this isn’t just about understanding, it's also about empowerment. In this episode, I'll be sharing strategies to challenge limiting beliefs and build self-confidence - all aimed at empowering you to transform perfectionism into a tool for realizing your dreams. This is your call to rise above self-doubt and the fear of failure.

Let's learn to set healthy boundaries with ourselves and others and create the life we truly want and deserve.

Tune in, and let this be the **start of your own journey of understanding and healing from perfectionism.

Highlights:**

(01:16 ) Exploring Perfectionism With Compassion

(11:31 ) Transformation and Breaking Patterns

(19:15 ) Perfectionism's Impact and Hidden Traumas

(22:14 ) Parental Involvement's Impact on Emotional Well-Being

(27:58) Trauma's Impact on Mental Health

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Perfectionism is a wolf in sheep's clothing. It's not just about aiming for excellence, but rather a fear-driven state of hyper-arousal that can lead to a powerful sense of helplessness and hopelessness.

So, how can we battle this beast? This episode is a personal journey through the ups and downs of of perfectionism and depression, where I unravel the roots of my perfectionism, understand it's triggers and what it sought to protect me from.

Navigating perfectionism and depression hasn't been an easy journey for me. From the depths of my despair, I've uncovered the profound truth that depression is not simply sadness or an emotional low; it's a crippling sense of helplessness and hopelessness.

Far from the common misconceptions, it engulfs your life with a darkness that's hard to come out of. This isn't just my story, but a reflection of the battles fought by many who struggle with perfectionism and any other mental health struggles.

The paradox of being able to support others on their healing journey while struggling to keep my own head above water was something that I really struggled to understand. Peeling back the layers of perfectionism, I discovered a state of hyper-arousal fueled by fear, not ambition.

Yet, it isn't all doom and gloom. The mantra 'imperfect is the new perfect' has been a game-changer, and the key to sustainable productivity by calming our perfectionist parts and learning to stay present.

Together, we can flip the narrative, calm our anxieties, and celebrate the beauty of imperfection. Tune in for a deep, personal exploration and let's reframe our understanding of perfectionism together.

Let me know your thoughts! Love hearing your biggest takeaways from the pod!

If you haven’t already signed up for Pressure To Peace where you will learn how to let go of perfectionism permanently and get better results without the burnout, make sure to join here!

0:00:44 - Perfectionism and Overcoming Depression
0:03:36 - Understanding the Biological Aspect of Perfectionism
0:09:47 - My Biggest Breakthrough Ever With Perfectionism
0:18:06 - The Power of Coaching and Self-Awareness
0:24:08 - Understanding Patterns and Victim Mindset
0:27:42 - Understanding and Working With Perfectionism
0:32:48 - Managing Perfectionism and Overwhelm at Work
0:38:10 - Overcoming Perfectionism and Finding Safety
0:45:57 - Instagram Waitlist for Beta Round Program of Pressure To Peace

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Ever wondered what drives high achievers and what lies beneath the surface of success? This episode of The Women of Worth podcast takes a deep dive into this enigma. Uncover the meaning of high achievement and how to identify a high achiever. Delve into the psychology behind this drive, and discover the dual faces of high achieving – the blessings and the burdens. We will also unravel the patterns of overthinking, overscheduling, and overfunctioning, and how these can often overshadow inner success.

In the second half of our conversation, we transition towards the concept of being a conscious achiever. We illuminate the significance of aligning your identity with your purpose, setting intentions, and evading the trap of instant gratification. We guide you on a journey to achieve inner peace and contentment, asserting that happiness is not just a result of our circumstances but rather largely linked to our mindset. Prepare to embark on an exploration of the five steps of the permanent peace process and join us in our mission to understand the complexities of high achievement.

(0:00:02) - Understanding High Achievers (16 Minutes)

What does it mean to be a high achiever and how to spot one? We explore healthy and harmful high achieving, and why your ability to enjoy is more important than your ability to achieve. We discuss the theory of human motivation and the three needs that motivate people to do anything in life: the need for power, the need for affiliation, and the need for achievement and success. We also examine how success doesn't always equal inner success, and why it's important to understand what's underneath the surface.

(0:16:33) - High Achiever (19 Minutes)

We explore the psychology behind high achievers, and how it can be both a blessing and a burden. We discuss the dangers of overthinking, overscheduling, and overfunctioning, and how, when we are in alignment with our true selves, being a high achiever brings joy and fulfilment. We also examine why ambition is healthy in the right quantity, and how overachieving can lead to burnout and stress.

(0:35:47) - Power in Being a Conscious Achiever (12 Minutes)

We explore how to align who you are with what you're here to do. We discuss the importance of intentions and making the world a better place, and how to stay away from the need for instant gratification. We also examine how to achieve inner peace and contentment, and why happiness has little to do with our circumstances and more to do with our mindset. Finally, we discuss the five steps of the permanent peace process and invite you to sign up for the beta round.

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Are you constantly feeling like you're falling short, no matter how much you accomplish? Let's put an end to this unhealthy cycle. In this empowering episode of The Women of Worth podcast, we tackle the heavy concept of toxic productivity, the harmful myth that's driving us towards constant "doing" and making us miserable in the process. We'll discuss the detrimental effects of buying into these productivity falsehoods, and how they leave us feeling like we're constantly failing and not living up to expectations.

But it's not all gloom and doom. Join me as we dive deep into the concept of mindful productivity, a kinder, healthier approach to our daily tasks. Hear about my personal experience of challenging and overcoming toxic productivity beliefs. Let's redefine productivity together, and learn how to find joy in what we're doing rather than just ticking off tasks. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to reevaluate your productivity habits and take the first steps towards a healthier, happier life. Trust me, it's a journey worth taking.

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In today's episode join me on a journey of deep self-discovery as we explore how to love ourselves at our lowest, without sinking into the quicksand of shame. From overcoming mental breakdowns, navigating self-love, understanding depression, to healing from self-abandonment and finding peace, this episode is a deep and honest look at the trials and tribulations that come with personal growth. Discover the strategies I've used to experience breakthroughs and how they can be adapted to your own personal journey.

This podcast episode also includes a fascinating discussion on the concept of unconditional self-love and how powerful it can be in breaking down barriers of shame, guilt, and anxiety. I share personal stories and the experiences of my clients to demonstrate the transformative power of self-love. We'll explore how understanding our childhood needs can help unravel patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism, and how trust in the universe can help us cope with difficult emotions.

Listen in as we tackle the topic of healing from self-abandonment and the victim mindset. You'll hear about my personal journey of self-discovery, how I broke patterns of avoiding painful emotions, and how unconditional self-love brought me peace and joy.

Plus, I'll share insights from a book that's been inspiring me and provide practical steps you can take to start your own journey of unconditional self-love. By the end of this episode, you'll have a newfound understanding of your self-worth and the tools to love yourself at your lowest.

(0:00:02) - Loving Yourself at Your Lowest
(0:11:07) - Navigating Breakdowns and Self-Love
(0:21:26) - Understanding Depression and Overcoming Shame
(0:37:13) - Healing From Self-Abandonment and Victim Mindset
(0:41:25) - Overcoming Patterns and Finding Peace
(0:46:08) - The Power of Unconditional Self-Love

Enjoy! And as always, please let me know your biggest takeaways. I love hearing from listeners, it really inspires me to create more episodes like today's. Also, share this with somebody you love, they might need it more than you know x

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Alana's coaching journey will inspire you beyond words. In today's episode Alana talks about her journey

From:

starting her business at 18, buying a house and still not feeling good enough
looking to the big things for happiness
coping with shopping and spending £1k/month on clothes
never fully relaxing or letting her hair down
putting everyone else first, saying yes to everything and never listening to her gut
masking her emotions, always smiling and bottling everything up
feeling like you're at the bottom of the ocean and completely broken
rarely feeling present/fully connected with the people in her life

To:- feeling happy, whole and healthy without all of the external stuff
- living from her heart, not her head
- letting go of the past and getting into an upward spiral
- putting her own happiness first and never disappointing herself
- having zero self-doubt and fully trusting herself, even with big decisions
- things falling into place and happening so easily
- letting go of people who aren't really there for you
- spending her energy and time wisely with the people who lift her up
- feeling safe to feel her feelings
- celebrating every single small win

To follow Alana's amazing journey, because I know this is just the beginning and great thing lie ahead of her, go check out her IG @**alanamandersonxo

A massive thank you to Alana for sharing her powerful, and unbelievably inspiring transformation. I know it's going to help so many people believe that getting out of a downward spiral and into an upward spiral is SO possible!**

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Being constantly busy is a sign of something much deeper. In today's episode I help you understand what’s driving the never ending to-do lists, constant overwhelm and living life on the edge of exhaustion. Because when you get to the root cause, you get all of that sweet relief!

Are you constantly busy to:

Avoid emotions/numbing
Distract from deep down fears of not being good enough
Receive the love you didn’t receive in childhood
Spending too much time on sm and feeling less than

Here are three steps to break free from busy:

Get clear on your fears
Get clear on your priorities.
Protect your peace with better boundaries

Give it a listen and let me know your thoughts! Love hearing your biggest takeaways from the pod ❤️

PS: If you haven’t already signed up for next week's FREE masterclass where you will learn how to set boundaries confidently without the guilt!

In this brand new FREE- Better Work Boundaries in 90 Minutes Masterclass, you'll:

Understand the importance and all of the amazing benefits that come from better boundaries
See how not setting boundaries massively impacts your self-worth and why you struggle to set them
Identify the four main types of work boundaries you need to be setting
Let go of the 5 most common limiting beliefs that block you from setting healthy boundaries
Learn the 5 simple steps I use to help my clients know when to say no, listen to their gut and ditch the guilt FOR GOOD!

Where there is a lack of boundaries, there is a lack of peace. Learn how to protect your precious time, energy and peace in five simple steps!

Join us on Thur 1st June @ 6.30pm - replay available after when you sign up.

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Today's episode goes DEEP on what's holding you back from being your most rested, healthiest and happiest self (and how to finally take your power back and reclaim rest).

In this episode we'll explore:

defining what rest actually means (and why it's not just a good nights sleep!)
signs you're not getting enough rest (some of these will definitely surprise you)
how to more proactive, rather than reactive, with your time
the fears that drive compulsive doing and never ending to-do lists
overworking as a trauma response and being stuck in flight mode
why learning how to rest effectively is a skill that takes practice
small simple steps that you can start TODAY to feel more rested, relaxed and rejuvenated.

AND SO MUCH MORE!

Grab a cuppa and enjoy today's episode. Don't forget to share with a friend who also needs some of these strategies. We are so much stronger together.

Much love and happy resting x

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**If you feel guilty when resting, you’re not getting real rest (and this episode is for YOU!). It's SO common but also SO unhealthy! The only way we know how to switch off is scrolling. Life is worth so much more than being busy all the time!

In today’s episode we talk about the signs of productivity anxiety or 'productivitis' as I sometimes call it with my clients, the root causes and how to start breaking free from it!**

The secret to being your best is a daily ritual of rest. Rest is not a reward. It is a daily retreat from the demands of doing non-stop. It is an act of courage in a society that sells success as non-stop doing. Rest is restoring order to your being. It must be a part of your daily to-do list free from all reward attachments to work well done.

Settle in, grab a nice cuppa, and enjoy another episode of WOW!

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In this episode, I delve into the topic of failing forward and not staying down when faced with failure. Failure is a natural part of the growth process and can often be an opportunity for learning and personal development.

However, it can also be a source of discouragement and disappointment.

In this episode, I aim to provide listeners with practical tips and strategies for bouncing back from failure, embracing it as a learning opportunity, and moving forward toward success.

Key Topics Covered:

The importance of taking risks and stepping outside of one's your comfort zone
Understanding failure as a natural part of the growth process
Developing a growth mindset and embracing failures as opportunities for learning and personal growth
Implementing strategies for bouncing back from failure, such as setting achievable goals, seeking support from others, and reframing failures as lessons learned
Overcoming self-doubt and negative self-talk

Key Takeaways:

Failure is not the end but rather a stepping stone toward success.
Failing forward involves learning from failures and using that experience to move forward.
Embracing a growth mindset can help overcome failures and encourage taking risks.
Taking action, seeking support, and reframing failures are key strategies for bouncing back from failure.

Join us as we discuss the topic of "How to Fail Forward and Not Stay Down When You Fail" and discover ways to turn failure into a powerful tool for growth and success.

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In today’s episode, Sinead Hegarty discusses her highs and lows of 2022. She shares her personal story of how she used pain as a catalyst for personal growth. She also talks about the power of beliefs and how they can shape our perception of pain.

This episode is for anyone who has ever experienced pain and wants to learn more about how to use it as a tool for personal growth. Through Sinead's personal story and her insights, listeners will gain a deeper understanding of pain and how to use it as a valuable tool for self-improvement.

We talked about:

22 highlights - retreats, overcoming fear of public speaking and the importance of courage before confidence!
22 lows - going through a public break up, receiving a life-changing diagnosis, moving countries and why she's feeling so grounded and happy despite all of these obstacles
22 biggest lessons - the importance of loving yourself, having friends who are like family, the power of vulnerability, rejection therapy, not valuing yourself and doing things for validation
Therapy and how much it helps let go of shame that keeps you stuck in the past
Why believing you deserve love and happiness is key, comparing and competing with others is the biggest waste of time and how she learnt to love her body
Finally she answers some of your questions on manifestation and starting a business. She also talks about the power of clarity and finding what brings you joy and following it! Manifestation is not magic, thoughts create reality!

In this episode Sinead shares practical advice and tips for listeners on how to use pain as a tool for personal growth. For more ways to work with Sinead and get her Braveway meditation course here’s the link with everything you need: https://www.instagram.com/sineadheg/

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If you worry more about what others think of you than you do your own health and happiness then today’s episode is for you! In today’s episode, I dive deep into my journey from people-pleasing to purpose, peace and power!

You’ll learn how creating a vision for your life will make you value your life and time so much more. How you spend your most valuable resource, time, and who you spend it with will completely change!

Finally, I share three steps to building a stronger sense of self so that you can

You don’t need to take more action, you need to get into alignment with your authenticity. I promise you, as you start to do this you’ll become 10 X more purposeful, peaceful and powerful!!

So tune in and get ready to be inspired and let's make 2023 our best year yet together!

As always, I love hearing your feedback. Leave a review below or drop me a DM over on IG. Don’t forget to share this episode with somebody who needs this gentle reminder today. Help me to help more people take back their power and live life more fully!

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Welcome to my first podcast of the year. In this episode, I will discuss the most significant breakthroughs of my 2022 and how you can make the coming year, 2023, your best year yet.

In today's episode I highlight my top breakthroughs of 2022 and why it’s so important to look back before taking a step into the new year.

I cover how to set meaningful goals, create a plan to achieve them, and take aligned action to stay committed to your plan.

You will get my 3 Steps To Make 2023 Your Best Year. These are the steps I use in all of my coaching calls to help clients gain more clarity, confidence and contentment.

With these steps, you will be able to make positive changes and start your year off feeling more excited, empowered and energized.

So tune in and get ready to be inspired and lets make 2023 our best year yet together!

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How is this year almost over already?? In today’s episode, I want to share some strategies I’ve been giving my clients to have a more calm, content and conscious Christmas.

I’m super excited to share this episode! I’ve had a few coaching calls about triggers coming up to Christmas and toxic family members and all of those lovely things that Christmas brings. If that’s you, I’m so glad that you're here!!!

When times get hard we can get stuck in our heads and can make ourselves miserable with all of the very harsh and critical self-talk. Being your own worst enemy is just not an option this Christmas.

Listen to these tips and let me know which one resonates best with you!

I hope from the bottom of my heart that you have the most conscious, calm, and content Christmas ever this year. And if that’s not the Christmas you have, that’s ok too! Life is just a series of lessons disguised in the form of challenges. Find the blessings in each lesson and you’re ahead of the game!!

Settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of WOW!

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Over the last two years I’ve coached a lot of anxious achievers - those who achieve outer success and appear to have it all! The confidence, financial freedom and massive success. But they struggle with inner peace and prioritising connection over achievement.

In today’s episode, I share with you 5 Signs You're An Anxious Achiever (and how to start healing from it).

Anxiety and achievement are a deadly combination. Chasing success usually points to a deep down core believe that you don’t deserve it.

If you find yourself pushing, perfecting and people pleasing on your way to success you’ll love this episode.

Your only goal in life is to enjoy it. Don’t just do work that you love, live a life that you love!!

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Where are all my busy/burnout cycle huns?? Today’s episode is for YOU!!

Burnout is so common you wouldn’t believe it. Typically people who struggle with burnout gaslight themselves into believing that it’s just ‘normal stress’.

Everyone experiences it, but no one wants to talk about it.

I’m super excited to drop this episode where I talk about how normalized busyness and burnout culture is and how to break free from it.

In today’s episode you’ll learn the five fundamental tips for breaking free from this cycle of burnout culture. Some of these you may already know but I am 100% certain you don’t know all five!!

Grab your pen and paper and don’t just learn and listen but put these into practice! Information is not transformation, implementation is! Small steps lead to huge success!

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Welcome to Season 2 of the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

My 3-month break for the summer turned into 6 months! Whoops! I can't believe it's been 6 months since uploading a new episode and I really missed recording!

In today's episode, I share 3 things I would do differently if I restarted my self-worth journey.

I've learnt a lot of lessons this year and especially what "happiness" truly means to me. Self-worth really is at the core of success and happiness. I feel more passionate about that now than I ever have!!

Self-worth is the foundation for a healthy and happy life. Without feeling a solid sense of worth or value it is difficult, if not impossible, to enjoy this beautiful journey that we came here to have. Instead we get stuck proving our worth and hustling for external validation and approval!

Settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of WOW!

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today’s episode, we are celebrating 10,000 downloads, 25 amazing episodes, and the very last episode of season 1! I am so thankful for all of your support and I can't wait to join you soon for season 2.

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Thank YOU [1:00]

[1:00] Thank you so much for your support!
[2:15] Share your favorite episode so that we can reach and help more people.
[3:30] Join my free Masterclass!

Claire’s Biggest Takeaways [2:31]

[7:00] The biggest myth is that we have to wait for self doubt to go away before we can start. When I started my business, I was full of self doubt.
[8:00] I made my dreams bigger than my fear.
[9:00] You are made for so much more than just the day to day.
[9:15] Our biggest regrets in life are what we don’t do. It’s time to take action.
[11:15] Tears are a sign of bravery.
[12:00] Life is not a destination, it’s a journey.
[12:30] It’s about enjoying where you are, but feeling excited about where you’re going.
[14:30] When you step into a new version of yourself, it’s like a rebirth. It can bring up the sadness of realizing how long you’ve suffered.
[15:30] More work does not mean more success.
[17:00] When I put effort in, change is possible.

You can change what you’re not aware of [18:00]

[18:00] Journal Prompt: What do you say to yourself about yourself, whether it’s consciously or subconsciously?
[19:00] How you feel about yourself when you’re by yourself is the secret to success.
[20:00] It’s so powerful to be in the energy of a coach and of supportive women.
[25:30] Proximity is power. Being in the company of powerful people is lifechanging.

Ways to work with Claire this summer:

Masterclass: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/c64b184b31

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today’s episode, we are joined by founder of The Nail Tech Org, Amy Guy! We are so excited to share tips on starting your own business, creating goals, how to let go of what others think of you, and how to embrace how incredible you truly are.

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Find what you love and do it! [5:00]

[5:30] I was running my own business but I was still too scared to let go of that full time ‘good job’ that I had.

[6:00] Once I started doing what I love, I knew I wouldn’t be going back.

[8:30] What was important was people, and family, and knowing that you aren’t going through this alone.

[12:00] People always talk about how I’ve changed their life, but they’ve changed mine.

Celebrate Success! [13:00][13:00] Collaboration over competition. How can we help and support each other?

[17:30] If there something you want to do or achieve or a place where you can make a difference, you have to just back yourself and go for it!

[19:30] You can’t make a difference unless you take action.

[21:00] Fail your way to success! There’s no one who succeeded their way to success.

[24:00]A lot of people ask what time is the right time to take the leap, but it’s never the right time. Know that you will make it work because it’s what you’ve been put on this Earth to do.

[25:30] You think that people are judging you and not supporting you- prove them wrong.

[26:00] There’s nothing better than doing what you love. It’s freedom.

Focus on YOU [28:00]

[28:00] When you’re so focused on watering your own grass, and you’re focused on your own interests and passions, you don’t have time to sit and wonder what others are thinking.

[31:00] It blows my mind that we aren’t taught from a young age to sit down and figure out what you want within the next few days, weeks, months.

[35:00] Understand what works for you and what motivates you!

[36:00] The most important lessons you can learn are the ones about yourself.

[37:00] What one person’s version of happiness is, is another person’s version of hell. Don’t look at other people online and think that’s your path to happiness.

[38:00] Find out what your version of happiness is.

[40:00] Stop and be present in the moment. Celebrate everything you achieve.

[42:00] Surround yourself with people that want you to do well.

[48:00] Reach out and get the support! It makes such a difference.

[51:00] Spending time on my own, just to be still and take in what’s going around me, and actually think about how I feel is really powerful.

[54:00] It’s not good, it’s not bad, it just is.

[55:00] It’s so important to not be hard on yourself. This is a journey- all you can do is your best.

[55:30] The journey of life is all about understanding ourselves more and more.

[56:00] Amy’s book recommendation: Money by Rob Moore

[57:00] Your net worth is tied to your self worth, but your net worth will never exceed your self worth.

[59:00] Did you know butterflies can’t see their own wings? We are just like them. We just can’t see what we’re doing, the difference we’re making, and how amazing we are.

Get in touch with Amy:

Instagram: @amyguynailartist
The Nail Tech Instagram: @thenailtechorg
Website: https://thenailtech.org

Work with Claire:

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today’s episode, we are joined by the incredible Jamie Janko. Jamie is here to share the power of breath work, how she has transformed her life, and remind everyone to trust themselves every step of the way.

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

What is Breathwork? [3:15]

[6:00] It’s all about the mind, body, soul connection. If you don’t have internal peace, your external is a reflection of your internal.
[7:30] Breathwork is a very active energetic practice. It’s meditation or a passive practice, you’re in a conscious breath pattern that lets us slip into the subconscious mind.
[10:00] Start slowly. Book a one-on-one practice. Know that you’re in a very safe space.
[10:30] Starting with embodiment practices is a great way to begin as well.
[12:30] What really helped me was starting to spend time with myself.
[14:00] You are your own greatest healer. The best book you’ll ever read is the book you write yourself.

Jamie’s Message [17:30]

[18:00] I left my career when I should have been moving up in the company and I started something new.
[18:45] You’re never to old: to live you life, to live your dreams
[19:00] Your worth is not defined by your ability to be loved by someone else. Your worth is in you and you’re worthy because you are you.
[20:00] When I focused less on how my life looked and more on how my life felt, I felt more present.
[24:00] Health is a feeling, not a look!
[25:00] We think that happiness lies in looks, but it has nothing to do with the outside. It’s created on the inside.

Trusting Yourself [26:00]

[26:30] Find evidence of trusting yourself and build on evidence.
[27:00] Make small decisions instead of making it something big. You can look back and say, ‘Oh I did that!’.
[30:30] We all need to go through life knowing that we are the main character! We are not the side character for everyone else.
[35:00] Can I be okay where I am? Can I love myself where I am? Can I accept myself where I am? Can I make one step to go to the next place?
[37:30] Give yourself grace and separate yourself from the stories you're telling yourself.
[43:00] The more we’re able to live in our truest desire, the more radiant we become, the more our needs are met, the more abundance in every way comes in because we’re in alignment.
[48:00] Part of the human experience is struggle and mess. The more you can embrace that instead of making it something about you, that’s when life gets so much easier.
[51:00] You can be in paradise, but if your inner world isn’t paradise you won’t be able to enjoy it.
[54:00] There’s a difference between happiness and a distraction from sadness.
[55:00]If you can’t be grateful for a cup of coffee, how are you going to be grateful for anything else? If you aren’t grateful for yourself or the people in your life, how can you be grateful for a partner or anyone else?
[59:30] Things that happened yesterday don't control my peace today.
[1:01:00] How am I going to get depth if I’m not willing to go deep?

Jamie’s Book Recommendations:

Untethered Soul by Michael Singer and
The New Earth by Eckhart tolle

Get in touch with Jamie:

Instagram: @jamiejanko
Website: https://www.jamiejanko.com

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today’s episode we are taking a closer look at self doubt. Self doubt is not a “You” problem- we all deal with it. I am giving you 3 signs that self doubt could be holding you back, 10 tips for overcoming it, and a few journal prompts you can start using today!

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

What is Self-Doubt? [0:00]

[2:50] Self doubt is the anchor that keeps your ship from sailing.
[3:30] We all have self doubt. Self doubt isn’t the problem- it’s your relationship with self doubt.
[4:30] Make your dreams bigger than your doubts.

3 Signs that Self Doubt is Holding You Back [8:00]

[9:30] The first sign: You worry about things you can’t control.
[10:00] The more fear you have, the more you try to control your future. You have to make peace with not being in control.
[12:30] The second sign: Procrastination
[13:00] Self doubt and procrastination go hand in hand- it all comes from that feeling of not being good enough.
[14:30] The third sign: You care more about what others think than you care about yourself.
[15:10] No amount of external validation or putting others first could compensate for self worth, self love, self acceptance or self compassion.
[21:30] Women associate success with more negative consequences than men.

Top Tips to Overcome Self Doubt [23:30]

[24:30] #1 I identified my core values. When we don’t know who we are, we allow ourselves to be defined by others.
[27:00] #2 Identify your limiting beliefs. Your beliefs drive you thoughts. Your thoughts drive your emotions. Your emotions drive your actions. Your actions drive your behaviors.
[27:30] #3 Inner child healing. Self doubt is a sign of fear. A lot of times, it’s the fear our inner child has.
[29:00] #4 I detached my worth from approval, appearance, and achievements.
[30:00] #5 Stop comparing yourself to strangers on the internet. Social media is one of the biggest killers of confidence because we’re comparing our messy behind the scenes to everyone's highlight reel.
[31:00] #6 Detach and diffuse from your thoughts: Catch, challenge, and change them.
[31:40] Give me a better thought!
[32:30] #7 Action alleviates anxiety. Do not try to think your way into the perfect decision. There is no right or wrong decision- just a decision.
[33:00]Decisiveness is an outcome of confidence. Start making more decisions and take action.
[34:00] #8 Trust the universe. Trust that you’re exactly where you’re meant to be and that you’re being guided and supported. Faith over fear.
[35:00] #9 Build a toolbox with resources for yourself. Learn how to stop the spiral before you get into the spiral. In my tool box is to listen to a good podcast or Disney playlist, EFT, journaling, reaching out to a friend.
[36:00] #10 Daily nervous system regulation. Our mind is controlled by our nervous system. Regulate your system with daily meditation, breathwork, movement, and mindset work(like listening to a podcast or reading).
[37:30] Excessive self doubt comes from excessive fear.
[38:00] Self doubt is normal- we all have it! The only time it’s a problem is when we let it control us.
[39:30] Learn to love all parts of yourself.

Journal prompts [40:00]

What would your life look like with less self doubt?
If you got to turn the notch on your confidence from a 2 to a 7 or 8, how different would your life look? How different would you think, act, or feel?

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

After a month off, I’m back! This special episode consists of 2 different podcasts- one from before my trip and one from after. Listening back to the first half of this episode made me a little emotional because I was truly so nervous about what would come up while I was away. What I didn’t expect was how incredibly life changing traveling would be.

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Before the Trip [2:00]

[2:30] Your inner world is more important than your outer world.
[6:00] When life feels hard, and things are coming up to the surface, stop resisting it.
[7:00] When life is the hardest, we heal the most.
[8:30] A lot of times, stress is self created. It’s the stories we tell ourselves.
[9:00] Stress is disempowering. It takes us out of our circle of control.
[11:00]Sometimes your life needs to fall apart to fall back into place.
[12:00] I found I was always putting other people ahead of me. I masked all of my feelings and acted happy-go-lucky.
[15:00] When life feels hard, look for the lesson. What we don’t repair, we repeat.
[17:30] Feel the fear and do it anyways.
[18:30] Be at peace in the present- you are free to just enjoy life.
[20:00] There is nothing more powerful than a woman who knows her worth.

Post Trip Updates! [22:00]

[23:30] You don’t need a lot to be happy.
[24:40] I got caught up in the consumerism-what did I need to be happy? I fell into the trap of chasing success.
[25:00] I thought hitting certain numbers would make me feel better and solve all my problems- but it doesn’t.
[26:00] I want you to know that happiness and success does not lie on the top of the mountain. Once you get to the top, there’s another mountain to climb.
[29:00] I came to Bali to heal my mentality of not being good enough.
[31:00] Your worth is not in your weight, your appearance, your achievements, or the approval of other people.
[35:00] Nobody is better than you. Nobody is less than you. Everyone is at a different place in their journey.
[36:30] Your weight will change, your worth will not. The people around you will change, your worth does not. Your results in life will change, your worth does not.
[39:30] I don’t need to travel to be happy. I can be happy with myself.
[41:00] I am making more time for fun, rest, and sleep!

Becoming Magnetic [42:00]

[43:00] The Magnetic Confidence Movement created a community. It’s like minded people in a safe space where we can open up and share our struggles.
[44:00] Confidence is the belief that you are worthy, deserving, and capable.
[46:00] Change doesn’t have to be hard when you have support.

Work with Claire!

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

This week we will be chatting with relationship coach Lisa! Lisa is a motivational speaker and a relationship coach. She will be sharing her own life journey and what she has overcome.She shares how she deals with guilt, shame, relationship building and adjustment to the pandemic.

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

How do you help couples get back on track to seeing, hearing and validating each other? [3:40]

We chat and break down defenses [3:55]
Filling your own cup [4:00]
Bringing experts in [4:50]
Understanding love languages [5:30]
Relationship coaching & counseling experiences [9:00]
Regret and guilt around working on yourself [15:30]

How did you deal with regret and self coaching after working on yourself? [16:30]

Happened last night [17:00]
Shame and guilt cycle [17:20]
I am not going to let fear guide me [18:20]
We look at guilt and say “what can I change, what can I do and where can I forgive myself” [18:40]
What if you didn’t feel any guilt [19:15]
The biggest block to self work is shame [19:50]
My core beliefs (Lisa) [21:40]
Seek to understand rather than judge [26:20]
Learning that this has come for me at exactly the right time [27:00]
Instagram Persona [28:00]
The lockdown, grieving, thought process, adjustment [29:30]

What advice do you give to people who have been struggling with being out the other side of the lockdown? [33:50]

Have three statements in your back pocket [35:00]
Come to events with a whole heart [35:50]
I don't have time for that [36:00]
Check what normal was before the pandemic and is that really what you want to go back to [37:00]
It is the fear of the unknown [38:00]
We come first and we serve from a place of fullness and love rather than a place of need and approval [39:30]
You are your greatest investment [49:00]

Final Words of wisdom [49:20]

Do your love language test with yourself, your person, your kids and speak to them in their love languages [49:50]
Work on yourself and releasing attachment styles [51:30]
If you are in a relationship and it is stressful, remember that it can get better [53:00]
Think of the relationship as its own separate entity [53:20]

Follow Lisa on Instagram and feel free to reach out to her through messenger with any questions! Instagram link: relationship.coaching.ni Work with Claire:

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today's episode, you are going to hear part 2 of the incredible episode I recorded with Katie McKenna about childhood and trauma responses. We dive into why having compassion is so important on your healing journey. We want you to know that you are enough and that you don’t have to be anyone but YOURSELF!

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Bring Compassion [1:30]

When you connect with your inner child, you can’t not have compassion for a 5 year old you that was just trying to be seen, heard, and valued in the middle of chaos. [2:00]
When clients hear their story as if it’s someone else's, they have so much more compassion because it interrupts the pattern of dismissing your emotions and experiences. [2:40]
You need to have a balanced scale. So here is one side- generous, kind, compassionate, loving, empathic, and interesting. And if that is balanced with boundaries and express and my own wants and needs having my own preferences and having a felt sense of self, if that is in balance, that is okay. [5:15]

Childhood Development [5:50]

There is absolutely no blame or accountability to you in childhood. This was something that was pushed on you. [6:00]
It’s up to the parents to set healthy boundaries. [6:15]
These are survival responses. They served a purpose in childhood. You did exactly what you needed to do. [6:45]
Kids will have emotional meltdowns and teenagers are so impulsive because they can't think of the logical consequences. [8:40]

You are Enough [9:00]

You never have to be anything but yourself. [9:45]
You are your own greatest healer. [10:30]
I went on a mission to rescue other people, but I ended up rescuing myself. [12:00]
If you want to do something, don’t do it for praise. [16:00]
The most profound thing I did for my healing was sitting with myself. [17:00]
The wounds of emotional neglect is the death of a thousand cuts. [18:40]
Your core values are like your joy GPS. [22:30]
When you’re not being yourself, you don’t feel seen, heard and valued. [28:40]

Connect with Katie:Instagram:@ katiemckennapsychotherapist
Online: https://www.katiemckenna.ie
TikTok: @katiemckennatherapist

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today's special 2 part episode, I am joined by Katie Mc Kenna to get deep about our childhoods. In Part 1, we dive into the four responses, Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn, and how you can balance them to get rid of people-pleasing. We want you to know that you don’t have to be anyone but YOURSELF!

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Fight , Flight, Freeze, and Fawn [4:00]

Freeze is the first response to danger. We become still and quiet and assess the danger. [5:30]
Flight is the second response where you disengage or retreat from the danger. [5:55]
The third response, fight, ensures that we have good boundaries and can stand up for ourselves. [6:20]
The Fawn response is when a person responds to threat by trying to be pleasing or helpful to stall the attacker. [6:35]
We keep the past alive in our mind so vividly that we can get stuck in that state of survival and dysregulation.[7:40]
These responses are not bad unless we become stuck in one of them. [8:30]

How to Become Unstuck [12:00]

We will all make mistakes as parents [13:30]
I took accountability for my part of the issue- that’s the repair. [15:00]
Part of the healing journey is grieving those losses- it’s okay to be sad. Feel it and release it. [17:00]
Our most basic need as humans is to be heard, seen, and valued. That comes before anything else. [23:20]
The first step to change is always awareness. [24:30]
We have 2 fundamental needs as children: attachment and authenticity. [27:00]
When our emotional intelligence is restricted we often don’t know what we really want and consequently struggle with making decisions. [29:20]

Abandonment [31:00]

All behavior is to meet a need. [35:30]
Does it always have to go back to childhood? [37:00]

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In this week's bonus episode, I speak with Annie Lavin! She is a couples therapist, a singles coach, and a relationship educator! She has a wealth of information to share with us today! I ask questions and she answers! But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Being Single [5:21]

People often think love can only be found externally outside of themselves [5:30]
We often times glamourize intimate relationships [6:00]
People start to blame themselves when it isn't working out like they thought [6:15]

Overcoming “what's wrong with me”?[7:00]

We have to understand each person's unique patterns [7:20]
Bring compassion [7:40]
Not overlook love is available now within me [8:10]
Mindset of love and idea of eternal love [9:00]

Attachment styles [14:00]

Our relationships with our primary caregivers can have an impact on our daily life and relationships [14:30]
A great place to start is the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller [15:50]
Attachment styles are fluid and are not an identity [16:30]
People believe they need to work to get love and that they are undeserving of it [19:30]

Dating Apps [22:10]

When you are fatigued and frustrated it is time to come off of them [22:50]
I think the apps are a great place to practice relating skills [22:55]
It is all about your intention online [23:20]

Planning the Future [27:15]

Yes, women in particular [27:25]
We get to know people over time in a minimum of 0 to 3 months [27:30]
We need to give one another time [28:30]
It is all about your intention online [23:20]
If your only mission in dating is being with your forever person your life would lack a little bit of color [29:30]
People can lose sight of growth and transformation when they are in pursuit of a partner [33:30]

How much do you think Disney has messed us all up? [37:05]

Even when you think that pursuit and the energy involved [37:10]
Awareness of old stories rather than basking in the amazing things happening in our lives [38:00]
Triggers of not having that happily ever after [38:40]

Coaching clients on Jealousy [39:30]

We have to accept it [39:55]
We have to find compassion for ourselves [40:10]
Normalize the feelings of being happy for others and being jealous [40:30]
Shifting focus on things going on in your life [41:00]
Bring attention to the fact that we don't really ever know that much about other people's lives [41:20]
Jealousy sometimes is pointing out what it is that you really want [43:05]
Your feelings are feedback for your needs [43:30]

Struggling to let go [43:50]

Sit with how are you feeling with this person [45:20]
We have to allow for all of the pain to be felt, to move, shift and be there [47:00]
You also have to not feel shame in feeling the pain [48:30]
I would encourage a break from communication [49:00]
We are blaming and outsourcing our peace and ability to move one [50:30]
Give ourselves time [51:50]

Top Tips for dating in 2022 [57:40]

Get to know yourself and do that work [57:50]
Know what you need [59:00]
Be okay with rejection and know you’re worthy [1:01:20]
Know your intention in online dating [1:01:30]
There is nothing wrong with you and believe it [1:02:15]

Learn more about Annie on Instagram therelationshipcoach.ie

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In todays' episode we will talk about what a lack of confidence looks like, why confidence is so hard, and the confidence gap. I will be sharing with you a 4 step process that I have created to help people over the years of my work with clients and myself to build confidence. I want you to see that developing confidence is a skill and it is a process that is lifelong! I also want to discuss my NEW monthly group called Magnetic Confidence Movement!

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Confidence [3:00]

You feel less than others. [3:10]
You are not sure of what you think and believe. [3:20]
You talk yourself in and out of things. [3:40]
Untapped potential. [4:00]
You go through life being shy, defensive, perfectionist, and/or people-pleasing. [4:20]
Group Coaching (Master Your Mindset). [8:00]
Confidence is a Skill. [9:30]
Confidence is a positive feeling about yourself. [10:25]
Nobody is above or below you or me. [10:50]
Confidence is feeling pride about yourself and how you live your life. [11:15]
When you have confidence you value your health and your happiness. [12:30]
Studies show confidence is 50% genetics and 50% in your control. [12:40]
There is such a big gap between knowing and doing. [14:00]

Why is Confidence Hard [15:00]

We are in a compare and despair trap in our society and our personal lives. [15:40]
Luggage of Life. [17:45]
Confirming limiting beliefs from our childhood. [20:00]
Societal conditioning. [21:40]
Confidence Gap: waiting for a feeling to come before taking action. [23:25]
Wrong thought patterns. [25:00]

4 Steps to a More Confident You [26:00]

Identity: How you see yourself is how others see you! [27:15]
Exercise: Create/understand your core values. [28:10]
Integrate: Ignoring your problems, numbing, and avoidance. [38:00]
Exercise: Create space for your emotions to come through. [33:00]
Interrupting: Interrupting (your thoughts and fears) your 7 self-confidence saboteurs. [33:50]
Exercise: Acknowledge that they are there but do not let them drive the car (your actions). [34:46]
F.E.A.R. Acronym [35:20]
I want to share a massive win of a client [35:40]
Implement: We cannot think our way into confidence, we need to also take action [39:50]
Exercise: Keeping small promises to yourself every day [40:50]

NEW Monthly Membership Group Info: The Magnetic Confidence Movement [41:00]

Join HERE: The Magnetic Confidence Movement

Book Recommendations

The Confidence Gap - Russ Harris
The Happiness Trap - Russ Harris

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In this today's episode, I want to discuss the power of your nervous system. I want to talk about how you can regulate it and tap into the power of self-regulation. Having coached over 60 clients, I realized we all struggle with the same things and that is why I decided to do today's episode on stress regulation and your nervous system. By the end of the episode, you will be able to understand the importance of the nervous system, be able to identify the signs and symptoms of dysregulation. I will also leave you with simple strategies you can start today to self-regulate. There are also a few questions I will be answering from my followers at the end of the podcast.

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Master Your Mindset [1:55]

Not everyone can commit to weekly group coaching but you can do self-paced with workbooks [2:50]
The best book you will ever read is the one you wrote yourself about yourself [3:05]
There is a group set up with self-paced as a community, if you are interested there is a link in my bio and podcast [3:50]

Nervous System [6:50]

We do not choose anxiety or to live in fear [6:50]
Self-regulation helps you from going down into the downwards spiral [8:00]
What I did to self regulate after a bad night of anxiety and nightmares [8:30]
When we don't have the tools for self-regulation, we self soothe (outside resources, to numb or distract) [9:55]
The automatic nervous system is the unconscious control system of all of our bodily functions, systems, and organs [11:25]
The inner nervous system has two branches: Sympathetic & Parasympathetic [12:00]
The 21st-century living sets our nervous system to be sympathetic dominant [15:35]
Mental diet [16:30]
Long term stress [17:50]
Societal Values [18:50]
Compare and Despair [19:20]
Having a history of trauma, stress, heavy emotions [21:25]
Where we want to spend our time is on our window of tolerance [24:30]
We still feel stress we are just not overwhelmed by it [25:02]
Disclaimer [27:40]
Hyperarousal & Hypoarousal [28:30]
Everything works better when you are in balance [34:20]

6 Lifestyle Changes for Homeostasis [35:00]

Meditation: We do have control over our breathing which connects to our nervous system. Create a daily breathing practice. [35:20]
Guilt-free rest into your schedule: Get out of your to-do list because nothing is ever fully done. Schedule 2 hours a day of guilt-free rest. [36:30]
Good Sleep: Your sleep is so important to regulate your moods and your life rhythm. Create a sleep time routine. [38:25]
Movement: Movement keeps your energy inflow. Daily movement does not equal high-stress workouts. [39:40]
Diet: Your diet can put your hormones out of balance and I struggled with sugar crashes. Focus on foods that nourish your nervous system.[41:30]
EFT: Emotional Freedom Tapping. You can't always think your way out of stress. Your issues are in your tissues and EFT releases the body from the stress [43:40]
BONUS: Check your Beliefs: Are you living by societal happiness standards or your own. [45:30]

Questions: [48:00]

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today’s episode, I am joined by my first guest! Ursula is joining me to talk about her incredible story and journey. She is here to help and inspire you to seek out a positive mindset. We talk about her choice to join my coaching program, what it was like, and her biggest takeaways. This episode is an inside look into the work we do and a sneak peek of the results that you are worthy of.

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Why Coaching? [1:30]

I was always attracted to the idea of being positive- I started reading books like The Secret and I was in such a good mindset. [2:20]
During lockdown I had loads of time to work on myself, but when lockdown ended, it was the first time I was hit with anxiety. [3:30]
I had a knot in my chest and stomach that wouldn’t go away. [3:50]
Before the lock down we were so go-go-go, and we didn’t even know there was another way. In lock down, we worked on ourselves. When things started to reopen, we didn’t want to go back to the way things were. [4:40]

What is Coaching like? [6:00]

I didn’t let fear prevent my growth. [7:30]
I was trying to be grateful for the all the opportunities I was given but I was exhausted. That’s when overwhelm came in. That was where the work came in. [9:00]
During our time, I connected with my feelings and connected with my true selves. [9:50]
The biggest thing you taught me was to put myself first. [10:15]
I noticed that you really started to take your power back and get clear on putting yourself first. [11:10]
The only reason I ever did exercise was to lose the weight- it wasn’t enjoyable. Now I do it for my mental health. I’ve enjoyed it, I won’t look at exercise the same ever again. [12:00]
When we do things from a place of fear and lack, it’s not sustainable. When we do things because we love ourselves and our life, it’s a different energy. [12:40]
I have so much more time in the day since doing this. Before I didn’t allow myself time for me. [15:40]
I would be at home, waiting and resting to go back to work. That’s not living. [16:00]
What you don’t own, owns you. When you don’t own your emotions, they own you. [19:00]
When you connect with your authentic self, you have more energy. [21:00]
I’m really, really happy. For the first time in my life I feel so content going to work. I fell in love with it again. [23:15]
Coaching is all about the small steps that you can take to become the healthiest and happiest version of yourself. [24:30]

3 Steps Can Change Your Life [25:00]

Number one: Give yourself more time and be more organized. [25:30]
Number 2: Be grateful for the small things. [26:00]
Number 3: Give away the tasks that others can do for you. [27:00]

Find Your Blind Spots [27:30]

Stress is created by the stories we tell ourselves. [28:00]
I have started believing that I deserve a break and holiday. I am worthy of rest and deserve rest. I don’t have to earn it. [29:00]
Give yourself permission to live a stress free life without any of the guilt that goes with it. [30:10]
Life is meant to be enjoyed, not endured. [31:00]
Life is never going to be completely clear sailing, but knowing that I have the tools to deal with anything that may come up makes me free. [31:30]
Coaching is the best investment you will give yourself-and definitely look no further than Claire.[32:00]

Connect with Ursula

@Ursula_hairstudio

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today’s episode, we are taking on morning routines! I’ll be honest, I was not always a morning person, but as I began to work on my mindset I was able to transform from night owl to loving the morning! We are diving into why a great morning is more about mindset than mood. I’ll show you my best tips and questions that will help you to start your morning routine as well as strategies you can start to use today!

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Master the Morning [2:10]* “Tiny changes repeated daily lead to huge results and boosts in your energy and mood.” [2:50] * “The purpose of life is to enjoy it! That’s your biggest goal-everything else falls under it.” [3:15] * “It’s not laziness! Our body clocks are mismatched to the time that you need to sleep and get up at everyday.” [7:00] * “A morning routine that you perform the same, basic tasks in the same order everyday.” [7:35] * “Having a morning routine gives you control of your day. When you have control of the morning, you feel like you have control of the rest of the day.” [12:04] * “Having a morning routine isn’t just about waking up earlier or self discipline, it’s about mastering your self talk.” [14:20] * “My only regret about getting help is not getting help sooner.” [19:00] * “The signs you’re not getting enough sleep are irritability, complete lack of motivation, fatigue, brain fog, increased appetite.” [20:30] * “I thought a morning routine had to be this big thing- if I couldn’t do everything in my morning routine, I wasn’t going to do it at all. Who likes the feeling of failure?” [26:50] * “Have a menu of things to do in your morning. What do I need this morning? What will make me feel great?” [27:30] * “What is easy to do is also easy to not do.” [29:40] * “Separate you from your thoughts. I’m having the thought that…I don’t want to get up. I’m having the thought that…I’m exhausted.” [30:40] * “Get clear on the benefits.” [31:15] * “Switch from problem based thinking to solution based thinking.” [31:50]

Favorite coaching questions and tips [33:30]

“What if your mornings felt easy? What does that look like? What do you say to yourself? How do you feel? How are you acting?” [33:40]
“The biggest takeaway from a morning routine is confidence and improved self esteem.” [35:40]
“Tip #1 Stick to a sleep schedule.” [36:45]
“Tip #2 Exercise! Be physically tired at night.“ [38:50]
“Tip #3 Snooze you lose! When you snooze you teach your brain you don’t want a big block of sleep at night.“ [39:30]
“Tip #4 Have an evening routine.” [42:00]
“Tip #5 Start small and easy. Break it down for yourself and start with just getting up at a set time.” [43:30]

Perfection over Progress [44:00]

“We aren’t looking for perfection, we’re looking for progress!” [44:00]
“Bonus Tip! Morning mantras help to get rid of that bad mood.” [45:10]
“Say to yourself, ‘I am relaxed and my day unfolds with ease. I breathe in love and exhale fear. I take the day one small step at a time. I focus on progress over perfection. It doesn’t matter how slow I go, I don’t stop.” [45:40]
“A morning routine won’t be effective unless it’s consistent.” [48:30]
“If you are serious about mastering your morning, join our challenge!!” [49:00]

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today’s episode, I want to discuss a message I received, where the criticism comes from, and why you shouldn’t fear it. I share 4 practical strategies that you can use to build your confidence, resilience, and inner strength.

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Reflection on January [5:20]* I do not believe in failure I believe in feedback [7:30] * I have learned to separate my self-worth from my net worth [7:40] * How much I didn't bring in is not a reflection of how hard I have worked [8:10] * Wealth is only one form of abundance [9:00] * I decided that 2022 was going to be the year that I put my health, happiness, and healing first [10:25] * Zoom out and look at the bigger picture [12:30] * For me, fun and fulfillment over finances. Trust that the finances will follow [13:30] * Celebrate the not so obvious wins [15:20]

The Message [16:20]* The message, she started with “hi, love” [17:20] * My initial reaction was panic and, straight away, I reached out to two experts in trauma. [19:30] * Criticism is often someone else’s perspective and a lot of times it is someone else’s pain [22:25] * I sat with myself and checked in with myself so that I was replying in a place of love and compassion rather than my ego [23:10] * The most dangerous healers out there are people who haven't healed themselves [24:40] * I struggled and suffered in silence for a very long time and I had such shame around my inner world about what was going on- I was addicted to escapism [30:20] * Information empowers people[30:55] * What we worked on was changing the meaning [34:00] * Just because someone else's trauma is "worse than yours" and "more awful" does not mean that your pain is any less important [35:50] * What I will say about criticism is that it is much easier to scroll social media and criticize other people than it is to sit with your wounds and heal them- I am speaking from experience [36:00] * You don’t have to go through life triggered at every turn [37:05] * I am so so grateful for her message yesterday because it made me realize that I have surrounded myself with such strong women [37:45] * I am so grateful for that message because it helped me heal a little bit more of my own fear of rejection and criticism [38:25]

Four Practical Steps in Being Grounded in Who You Are [42:00]Get to know yourself [42:00]

Daily Journaling
Meditating
Identifying Core Values

Listen to and read people who aren't afraid of failure [46:10]

Untamed by Glennon Doyle
The Gifts of Imperfection Brene Brown

Give yourself permission to be wrong, to fail, to be imperfect, to be disliked [47:05]

Life is not meant to be endured it is meant to be enjoyed
Allow yourself to be wrong
It is their free will to have an opinion

Focus on Progress over perfection [48:45]

Set the bar so low that you just have to step over it
Celebrate every tiny win
Compassion will keep you a lot more consistent than criticism ever will

Q & AHow do I accept praise? [49:20]

How do you get past the feeling of failure of not meeting your weekly goals? [53:10]

Top tips for keeping energy consistent? [54:25]

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

This week we are diving into fear! I want to talk about what is fear, the difference between healthy and unhealthy fear, and signs that you are living in fear. I will also be giving you practical steps to overcome the fear that you can put into practice today! I will also be suggesting four amazing book reads at the end!

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Fear [5:00]

“A lot of times the only reason why we fear what people think is that we have put other people above us and it is a sneaky sign of low self-worth” [5:10]
Quote Share: “Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgment that something is else is more important than fear” -Ambrose Redmoon [6:20]
“The biggest mistake people make is to think once I am confident enough then I will take action, and it is actually the other way around” [7:40]
“Fear and excitement have the same physiological reaction in your body” [9:05]
“Fear is the word that we use to describe our emotional reaction to something that seems dangerous, and the danger does not have to be real and can be perceived”[9:20]
“The main purpose of fear is to get us out of danger so that we can fight or flee”[10:30]
“The more comfortable you can get with discomfort, the more comfortable you can get with fear, the more freedom you will have” [10:55]
“If we are not regulating our emotions and inner world, fear will keep you locked in the prison of your comfort zone” [11:55]
“The effect of fear on your mind” [12:45]
“Overcoming fear is about going from living in your head to connecting with your heart” [13:45]
“If I asked you to sit in silence” [14:10]
“Fear turns us into people pleasers” [16:05]
“We need to separate what's real from what is just my brain and body being on autopilot [17:05]

Healthy and Unhealthy Fear [17:30]

Quote Share:“Babies are born with two fears” [17:40]
“The earlier you were judged and rejected the more painful it is” [18:15]
“Fear is a practical organic human emotion”[18:40]
“Learned fear” [19:10]
“The size of your comfort zone is proportionate to the size of your life” [19:25]
“Feel the fear and do it anyway” [19:45]
“The opposite of healthy fear is hypervigilance” [20:00]
“I find that a lot of times it comes from low-level stress” [20:40]
“Danger is real, fear is not” [21:10]
“The Seven Why’s” [21:25]
“We don't need everyone to like us to thrive”[23:55]

4 Signs That You Are Living in Fear [24:15]

"Perfectionism: Mask’s that we wear to protect ourselves” [24:20]
“Settling: I value comfort and security more than I value..” [26:15]
“Procrastination: Delay tactic for those living in fear” [27:10]
“ Numbing: “The need of needing to numb through..” [28:00]

10 Steps for Overcoming Fear [30:00]

“Get to the root of your fear” [30:05]
“Remind yourself of your worth” [31:15]
“If somebody treats you badly, there is something wrong with them not you” [31:55]
“Start to choose who you spend your time with and how you spend your time” [33:20]
“Make it okay for other people to have opinions of you” [34:40]
“Look for the best in others”[36:55]
“Check how much you are judging yourself” [38:10]
“Take action: Implementation is transformation ”[41:45]
“Never put people in pits or a pedestal”[43:40]
“Zoom Out” [45:15]

Book Recommendations:
The Courage to be Disliked - Ichiro Kishimi

The Gift of Imperfection - Brene Brown

You are a Bad Ass- Jen Sincero

Untamed- Glennon Doyle

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today’s episode we are discussing healthy boundaries, the signs that you lack boundaries, and why setting boundaries feels scary. We are going to talk about the benefits of healthy boundaries for yourself and others, and managing and understanding the guilt that comes from boundaries. At the end of the episode, you will have 5 steps to set boundaries with the balance of giving and receiving in relationships.

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Boundaries [02:30]

“A boundary is a limit or a space between you and the other person, it is a clear place where you begin and the other person ends.” [03:10]
“The purpose of setting boundaries is to protect and take care of yourself. It is to keep you connected and protected.” [03:30]
“Sometimes the more you give, the more others expect and the less that they appreciate.” [04:05]
“When you need something and they are not there or not giving the way that you gave, it is damaging to self-worth.” [04:30]
Setting boundaries is such an important part of your overall health your well being and your self-worth.” [04:45]

Signs That You Lack Boundaries [05:00]

“The first is, difficult relationships or relationships with a lot of drama that are very draining.” [05:10]
“A sign that you lack boundaries is that you hate letting people down.” [05:30]
“A third sign that you lack boundaries is that you feel responsible for other people’s happiness.” [05:50]
“The fourth sign that you lack boundaries is that you feel exhausted all the time.” [07:20]
“Another sign of a lack of boundaries is over or under sharing of information.” [07:45]
“The last one is that you feel very connected but not protected, you do not feel like you can say no when you need to.”[09:05]

Three Reasons Why We Struggle with Setting Boundaries [10:00]

First: “If you grew up in a house where there were no boundaries.” [10:05]
Second: “The second reason why boundaries are hard for you is that our society glorifies self-sacrifice and it pushes that self-care is a luxury.” [14:20]
Third: “The last reason is having low self-worth. When you have low self-worth it is so appealing to get self-worth externally.” [16:20]
“One of the biggest boundaries I am working on for 2022 is work boundaries and having a balance between work and my personal life. I want to feel as excited about my personal life as I do about my work-life.” [18:40]
“We all have limited resources, our external resources are our time, money, and energy. Our internal resources are our attention compassion and vulnerability.” [21:10]
Quote share: “It is impossible to practice compassion from a place of resentment.” -Brene Brown [22:40]
“One of our most important human needs is the need to be seen, heard, and valued. That is what makes us truly connected to others and boundaries are such a good way to do that.” [23:15]
Quote share: “If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself.” -Cheryl Richardson[25:20]

Five Ways to Start Setting Boundaries [25:50]

Step One: “Get clear on the benefits of boundaries.” [26:00]
Step Two: “Pay yourself first. Plan into your week.” [29:30]
Step Three: “Set boundaries clearly and compassionately.” [33:20]
Step Four: “Have mantras.” [37:20]
Step Five: “The power of pause.” [38:50]

Q+A [40:20]

“How to identify damaging and negative people in your life? Heal from hurt treatment even when they’re still in your life?”

Book Recommendations:

The Gift of Imperfection by Brene Brown

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**Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!

In today’s episode we are decoding toxic positivity and why it doesn’t work. We are going to talk about how to handle life when things go to crap (even when you get Covid) and supply you with practical strategies to use. At the end of the episode, I am going to answer a few questions from listeners about guilt, healing, and regret- remember that you have to feel it to heal it.

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.**

What is Toxic Positivity? [02:00]

“Toxic positive is when we dismiss our emotions and try to just focus on the positives.” [05:50]
“When we suppress those organic, natural emotions, we are creating a lot of problems for ourselves. Those unprocessed emotions turn toxic.” [06:00]
“We go to our head because it’s safer and escape from our bodies. We escape to social media, overworking, let people treat us like crap so that we can escape from the unprocessed emotions of our past.” [09:00]
“Allow it and feel it, but don’t wallow in it.” [09:30]

5 Practical Steps for Protecting your Peace [10:40]

“Step 1: Acknowledge and Appreciate your Feelings. Feelings are just feedback and feelings in your body.” [10:40]
“I had to acknowledge that I was feeling lonely, that I was disappointed, and that I was really, really scared. But a huge part of acknowledging and appreciating your emotions is compassion. It was important to be kind to myself so I could feel and heal.” [12:20]
“Step 2: Remind yourself that your problems are never permanent or personal.“[15:00]
“I’m not going to feel this way forever. Feelings come to end and pass.” [16:10]
“If getting sick was here to help me, how would it be helping me? It encouraged me to really take my health seriously. If getting sick was here to help me, how would it be helping me? It reminded me that I need to slow down and work on my work life balance.” [17:00]
“Step 3: Meditation. Be aware of the stories you’re telling yourself.“[19:40]
“Meditation helps to ground and balance you. Take the first 15 minutes of your day to focus on your breath and connect to your higher self.”[21:00]
“Step 4: Get outside and move. Get out of your head, into your body, and move! It increases your endorphins.” [24:15]
“Emotions are energy. When you get up and move, you move that energy. When you stay on the couch all day, those emotions stay stagnant.” [25:00]
“Step 5: Connect and Get Support. When we have trauma we lose trust in ourselves and in others. You’re full of fear. Let love in and let that support in.” [26:00]

Q + A [32:00]

“How do I stop reliving the past, and heal from relationship issues? What could have been done differently?”
“How can I heal old wounds of not feeling good enough?”
“How do I get rid of guilt?”

Work with Claire:

https://www.clairefealy.com/master-your-mindset
https://www.clairefealy.com/mindsetmasteryminimind

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! Today is the final episode of our three part series that focuses on trauma.

In this final episode of our trauma series, we identify common myths that surround trauma. From who is affected by trauma to what trauma should look like, we are debunking 4 of the biggest myths and getting down to the truth. I am also sharing three things that you can start doing today to start on your healing journey.

This isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

The 8 Signs [01:30]

“We don’t just grow out of trauma- our issues are in our tissues.” [02:00]
“Childhood trauma is normal childhood experiences that we internalize to mean something about us.” [03:15]

Myths about Trauma [03:30]

“Myth #1: Trauma is a life sentence. You are not your coping strategies. Trauma has the power to both destroy and to resurrect. Use your trauma as a vehicle to get to where you want to go.” [03:30}
“My anxiety and my depression made me a good coach. I have turned my struggles into my strengths, and you can too.” [05:25]
“Myth #2: We can only experience trauma after a life threatening event. Remember that trauma means wound. There’s no scale that measures somebody’s emotional and psychological pain.” [06:20]
“Stop judging yourself and critizeing yourself. You will never criticize yourself into the happiest, healthiest version of yourself.” [07:30]
“Myth #3: If you’re strong, you can make it through trauma by yourself. Asking for help can be really, really hard, but it can save your life. The best thing I ever did was ask for help.” [07:45]
“Myth 4: Nothing good ever comes from a traumatic event. Experiencing growth after trauma is more common than PTSD. Thousands of studies have shown that 90% of trauma survivors eventually say that they have a renewed sense of life, empathic growth, and increased emotional maturity.” [09:47]

How to Overcome Your Trauma [12:30]

“Be at peace in the present” [12:50]
“Observe, don’t absorb. Everyone is on their own journey.” [13:00]
“Life is happening for me, not to me.” [14:00]
“Step #1: Move- move everyday for 30 minutes, preferably outside. When you’re moving, try to be present.” [15:00]
“Step #2: Connection- we feel safest when we connect with others. It changes the chemicals in our bodies. You need support.” [17:00]
“Step #3: Daily Grounding- Just like you do a daily task, look after your nervous system. This can be breathing, journaling, and meditation.” [18:10]

Q + A [22:30]

“Why are we so in denial of trauma over years before we need to face it and heal?” [22:30]
“How come some coping mechanisms in childhood are adaptive and maladaptive later?” [23:30]
“Is grief trauma, and how do you overcome it?” [24:30]
“Could my trauma be responsible for why I feel anxious in my job?” [27:25]

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! Today is episode 2 of a three part series that focuses in on trauma.

In today's episode, we are looking into the 8 Signs of Trauma. Trauma can look different for each and every person depending on their life-this is not a check list! This is an opportunity for you to look inward and stop asking “What is wrong with me?” and start asking “What happened?”. It’s time to turn your wounds into wisdom and your pain into power.

This isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

The 8 Signs [01:30]

“Nobody goes through the games of life without some form of trauma.” [1:45]
“The first sign of trauma is low self worth-this is especially true with childhood trauma. We don’t have a capacity for reasoning and logic, so we assume anything bad that happens is because of us.” [02:15]
“The second sign is intense fear of failure. Any small mistake, flaw, or weakness makes you feel overwhelmed.” [03:30]
“Unhealed trauma is like walking around with an open wound, trying to bandage it by numbing and distracting ourselves but it doesn’t work.” [4:00]
“The fear of success is the third sign. It is associated with early abandonment. It’s a fear of judgement and rejection.” [4:45]
“Number four is micromanaging. Planning everything to a tee, and having a need for control. If you go into panic when things don’t go as plan, it stems from helplessness. It can show up as hypervigilance.” [5:15]
“Number five is an inability to celebrate change. Our wounds cause us to feel unworthy.” [6:30]
“Number six is hurting yourself and others. Unhealed trauma causes you to isolate yourself, lose your temper, and react instead of respond.” [7:45]
“Number seven is an inability to ask for help. The fear of judgement and rejection stopped me from reaching out and getting help. Just know that not asking for help is not a sign of strength.” [9:30]
“The last sign is the inability to concentrate and be present. You overthink to avoid dealing with emotions. It pushes you to live in your head instead of feeling and healing.”[10:15]

You Are Not Broken [12:00]

“Just know that when people are projecting their pain, it’s not about you. Don’t internalize it!” [13:00]
“Observe, don’t absorb.” [13:40]
“You are not broken, you are wounded.” [14:30]
“Allow trauma to be your teacher. Suffering is school. Take the lessons.” [15:10]
“Turn your wounds into wisdom and your pain into power.” [15:40]
“It’s time to do the work. It’s time to feel safe in your body again.” [18:30]
“Create a life that you don’t need to escape from.” [19:00]

Work with Claire:

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! Today is episode 1 of a three part series that focuses in on trauma.

In today's episode, we take a deep dive into the truth about trauma. We are taking a magnifying glass to the different types of trauma, including childhood trauma. By the end of this podcast, you will know exactly what trauma is and be able to identify the eight signs of unhealed trauma. This isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.

You are NOT your Trauma [02:50]

“Diving into trama has been unbelievable, not just for my own healing, but in my coaching, I started to see profound transformations with clients.” [04:15]
“Therapy focuses on the past, whereas coaching is future focused.” [05:30]
“The third pillar of my coaching is consistent happiness, not happiness all of the time, because that's not realistic, but your default mode, making sure your day to day experience of life is a good one.” [06:05]
“Information gives us hit of dopamine. It's a temporary relief. It makes us feel good. Transformation comes from implementation.” [07:00]
“Trauma originally was the Greek word for wound- and that's exactly what trauma is.” [7:45]
“Stop asking, ‘what's wrong with me? Why am I like this? Why can't I be like somebody else?’ Because trauma is not what happened to you. It's how your body copes with that stress.”[11:20]
“The more I understood, the more aware I was of what was going on inside of my mind, inside of my body, my nervous system, the more empowered I was.”[12:10]
“We don't say people with broken bones have a broken bone disorder. If you have an emotional wound or a psychological wound, you do not have a disorder, you're simply hurt by what has happened.”[12:40]
“This is what I mean by people saying nothing traumatic happened to me. It is not what happened to you- it is what is going on inside of your body. Some people will fall in their bone, won't break. Other people will have a tiny trip and their bone would break.” [15:10]
“If your parents didn't learn how to respond to emotions during their own childhood, then it's not possible for them to pass that on to you.” [16:20]
“Feelings are just feedback.” [17:30]
“I am very, very careful about what I watch on social media, and even TV shows. I know what I'm putting into my body, not just food, but information, images, all of those things, has a profound effect on your wellbeing.” [20:40]
“Trauma teaches you to close your heart and armor up healing teaches you to open your heart and boundary up.” [24:15]
“Your issues are in your tissues. So when you don't process your emotions, your stress response, all of that, it becomes stored in your body.” [25:30]
“In order for us to heal it, we have to feel it. When it’s stored in our body and we haven't processed it, we become so backed up with unprocessed trauma, that the smallest things can seem life-threatening.” [26:10]
“In order to heal the psychological and emotional trauma, just like healing a bone, it takes time and it takes resting.” [27:50]
“The last part of healing trauma is rebuilding your ability to trust other people.” [28:45]
“The biggest thing about trauma is it leaves us feeling overwhelmed, and it also leaves us feeling isolated.” [32:50]
“We can't change the past. We can't change what has happened. We can only change the meaning that we give it.” [34:50]

Book Recommendations:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk
What Happened to you? By Bruce B. Perry

Work with Claire:

https://www.clairefealy.com/master-your-mindset
https://www.clairefealy.com/mindsetmasteryminimind

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! I am so excited to have you join me today to talk about how to make 2022 the best year of your life.

This episode covers all of those lessons I wish I could’ve learned sooner. I share my top 5 things I learned in 2021, as well as share 5 steps to help you make 2022 the year of YOU! We dive into my personal goals for the year, my 2022 daily non-negotiables, and some inspiration for your vision boards.

But this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to OUR podcast.

Turning 2021 to The Best Year of my Life [03:20]

“The biggest limiting belief we have is that we think that taking care of ourselves is selfish. It is not selfish- it is smart.” [03:30]
“You can’t give to others what you’re not giving to yourself.” [03:40]
“Making myself happy was the best decision I ever made.” [04:30]
“Where you are is not who you are.” [06:40]
“The only way I was able to turn my life around was by having compassion for myself.” [08:00]
“I finally realized that I was not going to get better speaking to myself like that. I wasn’t going to get better by hating myself.” [9:50]
“I overcame what other people thought of me. I prioritized being happy and healthy over being liked.” [13:00]
“You won’t live your life to the fullest if you’re only focused on what others think.” [14:30]
“Everything I did in 2021, I did scared.” [17:15]
“If you overcome fear in 2022, it will truly be the year of YOU.” [18:10]
“Goals are about growth, not about getting. Getting more will not make you happy.” [19:45]
“Who do you need to become to reach your goal? Once you find “who”, the “how” to reach your goal will be so much easier.” [22:00]
“Not caring about what others think is not the same as not caring about others.” [23:30]
“Confidence and success comes from keeping small promises to yourself daily.” [25:00]
“When you have inner success, that’s when you start to have outer success as well.” [26:10]
“You are your own greatest healer.” [27:30]
“Wake up worthy.” [29:55]
“I stopped trying to prove my worth and just started living it.” [30:40]

Make 2022 The Year of YOU [33:00]

“Write at least one page of all the things that went right in 2021 because you won’t ever attract more into your life if you don’t appreciate what you already have.” [33:15]
“Plan 2022 from a place of whole-ness. Don’t plan it from a place of wanting more, plan it around enjoying the journey and enjoying 2022.” [34:00]
“Get clear on what would need to happen for you to call 2022 an amazing year.” [34:50]
“Start with a big goal and reverse engineer it. Then take the steps and stay consistent.” [37:45]
“Get rid of bullsh*t beliefs. Your beliefs impact your behavior and stand in your way.” [38:50]
“Daily habits: Your goals should be broken down into things you can do everyday to maintain your health and happiness.” [40:40]
“Meditation, movement, mood: Make space for each of these every single day.” [42:00]

Claire’s 5 Daily Non-Negotiables for 2022 [45:10]

15 minutes of meditation
30 minutes of movement
Journal: on gratitudes, goals, things coming up
1 hour of Learning
Prioritizing sleep

Book Recommendation:

Untamed by Glennon Doyle
The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

2022 Quotes:

“I am worthy.”
“It is better to have a short life doing what you love, than a long life doing what you hate.”
“I am worth loving. I do not have to earn love. I am lovable because I exist.”

https://www.clairefealy.com/master-your-mindset
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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! Today we are building your core- and not at the gym! We are building your emotional core.

This episode is packed full of tips, recommended reads, and my best advice to harness the power of your emotions. Being able to master your emotions is life changing and learning to reconnect with them will lead you to a life of happiness and joy. Get out a notepad because you’ll want to jot down these notes on how to get out of your own way.

This isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.

Unlearn the Inner Critic [01:15]

“How do you think reaching your goal will make you feel? It’s not the goal you want, it’s the emotion.” [01:50]
“A lot of inner chaos comes from internal emotions.” [2:20]
“50% of people’s success comes down to their emotional intelligence- their EQ not their IQ.” [2:40]
“We are born innately knowing that our emotions are important because our emotions help us get our needs met.” [4:15]
“Emotions end. The feelings come up, it happens, and then it leaves again.” [6:00]
“We don’t attach feelings to emotions like hunger. We just take action on it. Emotions like tired we attach to stories like, “work is so stressful”, “I can’t be bothered”, “I can’t believe it’s not Friday”, feeding the emotion instead of just getting more sleep the next night or taking a nap.” [7:45]
“When we attach meaning to emotions, today’s emotions become a predictable tomorrow.” [8:40]
“When we suppress our emotions, it lowers our confidence because it drowns out our wisdom.” [10:00]
“Minimizing some emotions, minimizes ALL emotions.” [10:45]
“I feel happiness and joy and love so much better than what I did before when I suppressed my emotions.” [11:00]
“In coaching, I find it’s one emotion that hasn’t been recognized or responded to that causes the clients stress. It’s not the event on the outside or the meaning they’re attaching to it- it’s the struggle to get to the primary emotion.” [12:35]
“Emotional mastery is about getting our emotions to serve us-it is regaining control of your life by building a strong and healthy emotional core.” [13:00]
“Overwhelm can be helped with prioritizing what needs to be done and letting go of the rest. Once that happens, the feeling of overwhelm can pass through.” [15:10]
“Your emotions are an internal compass and they’re always guiding you back to wellbeing.” [16:35]
“What you focus on, you feel.” [17:40]
“Other people's emotions are their emotions.” [18:00]
“It’s important to learn how to observe, not absorb. Other’s emotions are not your emotions to feel or process.” [19:40]
“Check in with your body for the emotion and sensation- you can Google Wheel of Emotions to help you identify what you are feeling-not what your brain is telling you to feel.” [21:45]
“The better you get at feeling your emotions in the present, the more that you will integrate the unresolved emotions of the past.” [23:10]

Steps to building your emotional core [23:15]

“Step 1: Identify your emotions.” [23:50]
“Step 2: Acknowledge and appreciate your emotions.” [24:30]
“Step 3: Get curious.” [25:05]
“Step 4: Take action.” [26:00]
“Start a daily practice to check in with yourself and your emotions.” [27:00]

Books + Recommendations [28:20]

The Body Keeps the Score Bessel van der Kolk [28:20]
Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself Joe Dispenza [28:35]
The Presence Process Michael Brown [29:05]
Emotional Freedom Tapping(EFT) [29:30]

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! Today we are diving into the inner critic and everything you need to know to stop letting it control your thoughts.

This episode is packed full of tips, recommended reads, and guidance for stopping self sabotage. I walk you through how to identify your inner critic so you can face it head on instead of ignoring it. We will also talk about powerful strategies that you can use to start overcoming your negative inner critic and becoming the best version of yourself.

But this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the third episode of OUR podcast.

Unlearn the Inner Critic [01:10]

“One of the biggest blocks to unconditional self worth is our inner critic.” [01:20]
“It wasn’t until I switched out criticism with compassion that I really started to embody self worth.” [02:35]
“We all struggle with the same things. We all share the same pain. We all want to avoid inner pain and move towards happiness.” [04:05]
“We aren’t born with a really harsh critic- it’s a habit that’s been very hard wired and very powerful.” [05:25]
“You can unlearn the bad habits and re-learn the good ones.” [06:00]
“You don’t want to get ot the end of your life and think, “Crap, I spent my whole life criticizing myself, others, my life.’” [06:55]
“Your inner critic is that negative, internal running commentary in your mind. It’s made up of all of the judgement(or perceived judgements) that you have internalized to be true.” [07:30]
“It’s not what happens to us in life, it's the meaning we give to it.” [08:15]
“Your inner critic is driven by fear and it’s rooted in shame, and worry.” [10:05]
“When you see people acting out it’s coming from a place of unmet childhood needs. A huge part of that is where the inner critic became loud as a child.” [11:50]
When your core beliefs are formed from age 0-7, your brain has limited emotional cognitive and reasoning skills. That’s why we call these limiting beliefs-they were formed when we had limited access to our brain.” [12:45]
“Instead of changing the behavior, change the belief.” [13:30]
“Negative self talk coming from the inner critic will never give you the life you want-it will keep you stuck.” [14:25]
“Negative thoughts turn into facts if they’re unobserved.” [15:00]
“We can’t ever get rid of our inner critic. When we ignore it, it intensifies.” [16:30]
“Self doubt is actually self protection. Your inner critic tells you things because it believes you’re incapable of handling more psychological pain ”[17:05]
“When you build up your self worth and resilience and you’re in control not the inner critic, you have so much more freedom and energy.” [18:15]
“Your inner critic cares more about you belonging than it does about you having a big dream or passion.” [19:00]

Mental strength strategies [19:30]

Awareness-you can’t change what you’re not aware of. [21:10]
Meet your inner critic and reassure it that there is nothing to be scared of. [22:20]
Self judgement is not helpful, choose self awareness. [23:00]
Accept what’s in the moment and don’t attach meaning to it. [23:50]
Inner child healing EFT or Feeling unlovable EFT [25:50]
Catch it, Challenge it, and Change it [31:00]

Book Recommendations [32:00]

Homecoming John Bradshaw
Radical Acceptance Tara Brach
The Judgement Detox Gabrielle Bernstein

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! I am so excited to talk about one of the topics that truly changed my life- Self worth.

This episode walks you through the step by step process on how to build a foundation of self worth. I share answers to frequently asked questions, my favorite book recommendations, and practical strategies that you can start implementing TODAY so you can start to build unconditional self worth. Transformation doesn’t come from information, it comes from implementation.

But this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.

Forming a Foundation of Self Worth [01:30]

“Self worth is different from self esteem. Self worth is the idea that we deserve to be alive, be loved and deserve great things.’” [02:20]
“Confirmation bias is your brain saying, ‘I knew this was going to happen, I knew he would do that, I knew she would do that, I confirmed my belief, I am happy out.’” [03:50]
“It doesn’t matter what you have on the outside that either confirms your self worth or rejects it, if you cant determine your own unconditional self worth you will spend your life in survival mode.” [05:00]
“Then we fall to the coping strategies that very temporarily take away the noise of not being good enough- but because they don’t give us what we actually need, they reinforce that ‘What’s wrong with me?’ feeling.” [6:30]
“It doesn’t matter what we want in life if we don’t believe we are worthy of having it we either won’t attempt to go for it or when we get it we can’t let ourselves enjoy it.”[8:10]
“Why am I so unhappy? I have everything I ever wanted.” [8:50]
“Separate your self worth from the outside. You are worthy because you are born.” [9:35]
“I am worthy because I am here. I am not worthy because of how much I get done. I am not worthy because of my relationship status. I am not worthy because of how many followers I have or how many likes I get.” [11:20]
“It’s never too late, or too early, to develop that unconditional self worth.” [12:20]

Strategies for Self Worth Transformation [12:30]

“Step 1 is awareness. You can’t change what you’re not aware of.” [12:45]
“The only way you can start using your brain so it works for you, not against you, is awareness.” [13:20]
“I want you for 1 minute, before you brush your teeth, to do self awareness. You are noticing, observing, and not judging. Be the observer.” [16:50]
“Another thing that helps with self awareness is journaling. Just having a blank page and doing a brain dump.” [17:55]
“Another thing that helps with self awareness is talking to others.” [18:05]
“Catch criticism and turn it into compassion.” [18:50]
“Nobody’s life is made better by you being hard on yourself.” [19:50]
“Mirror Work: Looking yourself in the eye and giving yourself the approval, validation, attention and affection that you’re constantly looking for inside of yourself.” [21:25]
“Women of worth know that the only person that can define their self worth is themselves.” [25:00]
“Set the bar so low that you can step over it. Gain confidence and build momentum so you can be successful.” [25:30]

Book Recommendations [25:50]

The Mastery of Love Don Miguel Ruiz [26:00]
Heal Your Life Louise Hay [27:00]
The Gifts of Imperfection Berne Brown [27:25]
Radical Acceptance Tara Brach [27:45]
A New Earth Eckhart Tolle [28:15]

Q + A [28:55]

Best way to build up unconditional self love [29:00]
Tips on Doubt [31:00]
Switching from external validation to recognizing your self worth [33:30]

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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! I am so excited to have you join me today to kick off this amazing journey and dive into how I got to this place in life.

This episode covers how I got out of my own way, stopped self sabotaging and finally gave myself permission to be happy and enjoy life. I also answer a few questions from my incredible listeners and clients, as well as share how my journey helped me to embrace that I am truly a woman of worth.

But this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.

Claire’s Story [02:20]

“You are not your current circumstances. You are not your current beliefs. You are not your current thoughts about yourself.”
“I was exhausted. I was overwhelmed. I thought to myself, ‘I can’t keep doing this.’” [02:35]
“My gut and my intuition encouraged me to reach out to a life coach.” [04:15]
“I started realizing that the outside wasn’t the problem- it was actually my thoughts. It was what I was saying to myself about work, being on the hamster wheel, feeling stressed, feeling exhausted.” [04:45]
“What we focus on, we feel. I was focusing on all the things that weren’t going well and I was feeling like crap.” [05:05]
“I had to stop relying on the approval of others to be happy.” [07:45]
“Your low points are where you get the greatest lessons.” [08:30]
“A lot of my courage and faith comes from knowing that my brother is always with me and always supporting me.” [10:00]
“Be the girl that decided to go for it.” [12:20]
“We can’t change our past, but we can change the meaning of our past.” [13:10]
“If you don’t know your core values and priorities, you’re living by other’s values and priorities.” [14:50]
“We see people going after their dreams and goals, and we think it’s because they don’t have fear and are so confident, but we all have fear-it’s primal. The difference is that they control their fear, their fear doesn’t control them.” [17:00]
“Whatever your circumstances are today, they are just a reflection of the choices you’ve made.” [22:15]
“Life is not up and down because you’re weak or not doing life right, it’s because that’s the journey we’re meant to go on. We’re meant to have the low points so we can learn the lessons, get clear on what matters to us, and so we can appreciate the high points.” [24:25]
“When you reconnect with your self-worth and get rid of limiting beliefs, it is the most rewarding feeling ever.” [26:00]
“Outcomes and others won’t make you happy in the long run.” [28:50]
“My greatest achievement in life is my relationship with myself. Genuinely loving myself, genuinely feeling content and happy in myself. I get to help others do that.” [29:50]

Get in touch with Claire!

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