Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos

In today's episode, we have our special guest Daniel, a -17-year-old A-level student, with us again. Today is the day 16-year-olds in the UK find out their GCSE results and this could be a turning point in their life. One year ago today, Daniel himself experienced this and he is here to tell you all about that experience and how he shaped his life choices today. Plus Ian talks about how other people's judgements could have shaped his life if he allowed it.

We live in a world where expectations are set by society, peers, and even ourselves. These expectations can be motivating, propelling us toward success. Yet, they can also be daunting, causing stress and disappointment when unmet. 🚀😔

And then there's the thorny issue of judgements. We all make them, often unconsciously. These judgements can shape our perceptions, relationships, and even self-worth. But are they guiding us down the right path? 🤔📝

💡 Here's the twist: Instead of letting expectations and judgements dictate our lives, we have the power to navigate their influence consciously. Here's how:

Awareness is Key: Recognize when external expectations are driving your choices. Pause and ask, "Is this aligned with my authentic self?"
Flip the Script: Transform negative judgements, whether self-imposed or from others, into opportunities for growth. 💪
Embrace Your Journey: Success isn't solely defined by meeting external standards. Embrace the twists, turns, and detours as part of your unique path.
Choose Empowerment: Challenge societal norms that don't align with your values. Forge your own definition of success, happiness, and fulfilment.
Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the kindness and understanding you deserve, especially when facing setbacks.

🌈 Remember: Expectations and judgements are like currents in a river. You can either let them sweep you away or skillfully navigate to your destination. The choice is yours! 🚣‍♀️✨

This is a great one to tune into.

As we wrap up today's episode, remember that expectations and judgements are inevitable parts of life, but we have the power to shape our response to them. By cultivating self-awareness, practising self-compassion, and redefining our versions of success and self-worth, we can navigate these forces with resilience and grace. Thanks for tuning in to Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos Podcast - until next time!

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe to our podcast on your favourite podcast platform my YouTube channel!

Remember to leave us a review and share this episode with your friends. Stay tuned for more thought-provoking discussions, and remember, the journey is yours to define.

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, despite the ups and downs, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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Today, we are talking about what it takes to transform your life whether you are 17 or 47?

We have a special surprise guest, Daniel Fleming. He is a 17-year-old A-level student, and also Ian, my co-host's son.

He brings his unique perspective on why he finds it so hard to change some things, whilst he changed some other things easily!

This is an insightful conversation that will benefit you whether you are 17 or 47, as it contains the main principles of change anyone can apply at any stage of their life.

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One of the ways you can experience change easily and effortlessly is to focus your attention on things you already have and are grateful for in your life.

You can do so with this simple gratitude audio in just 8 minutes a day. I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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In today's episode, we will explore a common challenge many of us face—how to quieten our inner voice. Our thoughts can sometimes become overwhelming, leading to anxiety, self-doubt, and stress. Join us as we uncover effective techniques to silence that inner chatter and find inner peace.

Here are some points that might help you

Understanding the Inner Voice:
- We begin by delving into the concept of the inner voice or self-talk. This is the constant stream of thoughts and dialogue that goes on within our minds throughout the day.
- Acknowledging that the inner voice is a natural phenomenon and an essential aspect of human cognition.
- Differentiating between positive, constructive inner voice and negative, self-critical thoughts.
- Recognizing Harmful Inner Dialogues:
- Identifying the patterns of negative self-talk that can hold us back from achieving our full potential.
- Discussing common thought distortions such as overgeneralization, catastrophizing, and personalization.
- The Impact of the Inner Voice on Our Well-being:
- Exploring the psychological and emotional impact of constant inner chatter on our mental health.
- How self-critical thoughts can lead to low self-esteem and hinder personal growth.
- Mindfulness and Awareness:
- Introducing the practice of mindfulness as a powerful tool to become aware of our thoughts without judgment.
- Learning to observe our inner voice as an outsider and creating space between ourselves and our thoughts.
- Challenging and Reframing Negative Thoughts:
- Discussing strategies to challenge negative thought patterns and replace them with more positive and empowering beliefs.
- The role of affirmations and visualization in reframing the inner voice.
- Practical Techniques to Quiet the Mind:
- Breathing exercises and meditation practices to calm the mind and reduce mental chatter.
- The benefits of incorporating regular mindfulness or meditation routines into daily life.
- Engaging in Creative Activities:
- Exploring the therapeutic impact of engaging in creative pursuits like art, writing, or music to quiet the inner voice.
- Expressing emotions and thoughts through creative outlets as a form of self-expression and release.

Conclusion: In conclusion, mastering the art of quietening your inner voice is a process that requires patience and practice. By cultivating mindfulness, challenging negative thoughts, and engaging in creative activities, we can take steps towards a quieter, more peaceful mind. Remember, it's essential to be kind to yourself throughout this journey of self-discovery. Embracing our inner voice with compassion allows us to harness its potential for personal growth and self-improvement.

Tune in to the next episode, where we'll continue to explore fascinating topics in personal development and well-being. Thank you for listening, and until next time, stay mindful and keep growing!

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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Welcome to Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos podcast, where we embark on a fascinating exploration of the question, "What future are you experiencing?" In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the dynamic nature of time and the profound impact our present actions have on the unfolding future. Join us as we explore the concept of living in the moment while being conscious of the path ahead.

1. Understanding the Fluidity of Time

We explore the concept of time as a dynamic and ever-changing force.
Discussing the interplay between the past, present, and future.
How our perception of time influences the future we experience.

2. Mindfulness and Being Present

The importance of mindfulness in fully experiencing the present moment.
Tips and techniques for cultivating mindfulness in daily life.
The connection between living in the present and shaping a positive future.

3. The Impact of Our Actions

Exploring the concept of causality and how our actions shape future outcomes.
Understanding the power of intention and its role in creating our reality.
Inspiring stories of individuals who have experienced transformative change through conscious choices.

4. Navigating Uncertainty and Change

Discussing the inevitability of change and uncertainty in life.
Strategies for embracing change and adapting to new circumstances.
How to maintain a sense of direction amidst the unknown.

5. Personal Agency and Empowerment

The significance of taking ownership of our experiences and future.
Empowering ourselves to overcome challenges and seize opportunities.
Interviews with individuals who have transformed their lives through self-empowerment.

6. Letting Go of the Past

Understanding the role of past experiences in shaping our present and future.
The art of releasing regrets and embracing growth.
Techniques for healing and moving forward.

7. Envisioning Your Ideal Future

The power of visualization in manifesting our desires and dreams.
Creating a compelling vision for the future we wish to experience.
Practical exercises to align actions with future aspirations.

As we conclude this enlightening episode, we invite you to consider the question, "What future are you experiencing?" Remember, the future is not merely an abstract concept but an ever-changing canvas that we co-create with our actions and intentions in the present. By embracing mindfulness, empowerment, and conscious choices, we can shape a future that aligns with our deepest aspirations.

Tune in next time as we continue our journey of self-discovery and explore more profound topics that expand our understanding of life, time and the possibilities that lie ahead. Remember to subscribe and share this podcast with others seeking to embrace the fullness of the present while shaping a purposeful future. Until then, stay present, stay empowered, and embrace the incredible journey of life!

Before you go:

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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In this thought-provoking episode, we delve deep into the power of storytelling and how the narratives we construct about ourselves can significantly impact our lives. We explore the fascinating concept of "How is Your Story Shaping Your Life?" and uncover the ways in which your stories influence your beliefs, choices, and personal growth.

Defining "Your Story" - I provide a clear understanding of what we mean by "your story." It encompasses the collection of experiences, memories, beliefs, and emotions that shape our identity and perception of the world.
The Power of Perception - The discussion revolves around the profound impact our narratives have on our lives. Our beliefs about ourselves, whether empowering or limiting, can shape the paths we take and the outcomes we achieve.
Identifying Limiting Narratives - I share valuable insights into recognizing and rewriting narratives that no longer serve us. The importance of self-awareness, journaling, and seeking professional guidance is highlighted as a means of initiating transformative change.
Success Stories from powerful inner stories - Listeners will be inspired by real-life success stories where individuals have reshaped their stories to overcome challenges and unlock their true potential.
External Narratives and Social Influence - The episode explores the role of external narratives, such as societal expectations and cultural norms, in shaping our beliefs. Strategies for critically examining and redefining these external stories are discussed.

In this enlightening episode, I shed some light on the profound impact of our stories on personal growth and self-awareness. By understanding and reshaping our narratives, we can break free from limiting beliefs and embrace a more empowering and authentic life journey. Join us on Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos podcast as we continue to explore the intriguing facets of personal development and self-discovery.

Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos is available on all major podcast platforms. Remember to subscribe and leave us a review to help others discover the transformative power of storytelling in shaping their lives. Stay tuned for our next episode where we'll delve into another captivating topic related to personal growth and empowerment. Thank you for listening!

Before you go,

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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Two days before the schools break up in the UK and you get ready for the summer holidays, it is a great reminder to let go of all the unnecessary expectations of yourself so that you don't end up burning out before you even go on holiday.

We touched on what questions you can ask yourself to best navigate the pre-holiday burnout so that you don't have to spend half your holidays recovering from the weeks leading up to it.

You might find the Life Balance Workbook a helpful tool to ask yourself where in your life you are out of balance.

Have you ever stopped working for a minute or looked up from your phone, to consider how balanced your life is right now?

When is the last time you took a break from ‘doing things and going through the motions of daily activities in autopilot and had a good look at yourself; your life and how things are going?

If you are listening to this podcast, it means that there is a part of you who believes that there are some areas of your life that are not working as they should. The good news is, I have just the thing for you!

You can now discover how balanced your life is in 7 essential areas with my FREE Life Balance Workbook!

Just go to: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/thelifebalanceworkbook-podcast

and download this workbook for absolutely FREE now!

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This is the 100th episode of Finding Serenity In The Midst of Chaos Podcast!

In this episode, we talk about where and how this podcast started and why we still keep going!

We are here to help you find Serenity in the Midst of all the Chaos in life whether it is a lockdown, school holidays or in the middle of a midlife crisis!

Our conversations are designed to give you a different and more helpful perspective in life and as a result change your experiences not just when everything is going well, but even when things are going 'wrong'

If you've been a loyal listener, thank you!

If you are a new listener, then welcome!

We appreciate you!

Have you ever stopped working for a minute or looked up from your phone, to consider how balanced your life is right now? Yes, really, have you?

When is the last time you took a break from ‘doing things and going through the motions of daily activities in autopilot and had a good look at yourself; your life and how things are going?

If you are listening to this podcast, it means that there is a part of you who believes that there are some areas of your life that are not working as they should. The good news is, I have just the thing for you!

You can now discover how balanced your life is in 7 essential areas with my FREE Life Balance Workbook!

Just go to: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/thelifebalanceworkbook-podcast

and download this workbook for absolutely FREE now!

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GUILTY AS CHARGED?

The mum guilt that is!

The one that

💔 creeps up every time you are called to a work trip

💔 eats you up when you are out with friends

💔 makes you check your phone every five minutes when you are out on a date night with your husband, just in case the babysitter called.

💔 makes you feel like you are the worst person in the world if you put your kids in front of the IPad for 30 minutes for a bit of peace and quiet!

💔makes you want to eat your own body weight in chocolate to 'deal with' the emotional overwhelm.

Just because you are doing something that is good for you and makes you feel better (not the chocolate) doesn't mean you are guilty!

Remember-

❤️To practice your choices/free will- If going away for a night hurts so much, don't.

❤️By interacting with other people you are teaching them to be social and 'emotional intelligence'.

❤️ To trust that they will be OK without you for one evening.

❤️ By taking time out for yourself, you are allowing to BE present with them.

❤️ To LOVE yourself so that you don't abuse your body every time you feel a negative emotion.

If you have been carrying some guilt then the only way to let go is to have more compassion for yourself and love yourself more. You might even want to repeat: I forgive myself, I love and accept myself.

Love yourself without guilt, Love yourself despite your shortcomings, and then you'll see your life change for the better, quicker.

Your kids want a happy mum, not a guilty one!

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Patience is often considered a virtue because it involves the ability to wait calmly and persistently in the face of challenges, delays, or obstacles. It allows for thoughtful decision-making and the ability to tolerate discomfort or uncertainty. Impatience, on the other hand, is a state of restlessness or frustration that arises from wanting immediate results or outcomes. and the latter seems to be the case in today's society where you want the results, and you want them now.

Impatience can be problematic when it leads to impulsive actions, hasty decision-making, or a lack of consideration for others. It can hinder your ability to think rationally, plan effectively, and adapt to changing circumstances.

In today's episode, we talked deeply about how both play out in your life and why impatience steal your peace and slow down your journey to the outcome you want.

Impatience can indeed slow you down in some cases. For example, if you are working on a complex task or pursuing a long-term goal, impatience can lead to shortcuts or a lack of attention to detail, ultimately affecting the quality of your work.

Patience allows you to persevere through challenges, maintain focus, and make well-thought-out decisions. Patience enables you to take the necessary time to learn, improve, and grow. It fosters resilience and helps you navigate setbacks or delays with a positive mindset.

Ultimately, finding a balance between patience and a healthy sense of urgency is important. Recognizing when patience is needed to achieve long-term success and when a timely response or action is required can help you navigate different situations effectively.

Consider where in your life you have been impatient with the outcome you wanted. Consider how it makes you feel and notice how much it focuses your mind on the lack of the outcome, rather than the outcome you actually want.

Enjoy!

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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Where does confidence come from? Do you already have it or do you have to 'gain' it?

This was what we discussed on today' podcast episode.

As usual, Ian came up with his own point of view of what confidence means for him and as always, it was a great one.

Confidence means 'with faith' in very simple terms, and when you really think about it, it makes a lot of sense.

It is about taking a brave action with faith that it'll work out.

Sometimes knowing deep inside (having the faith/confidence) that it is working out, regardless of whether they are going in the way you wanted them to go. Things are always working out.

On the other hand, confidence can also mean being competent at doing something such that you do it without thinking, it comes to you easily and as a result, you are 'confident' in doing that certain thing.

Of course, I had an entirely different interpretation of what confidence means and this is what we elaborated on today. Listen to the full episode to find out my interpretation of it!

I would love to know your thoughts, send me a message here at: tulay@tulaymasseycoaching.com

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Today, we talk about one of the most popular topics of our podcast: Uncertainty.

In this episode, we delved into two types of uncertainty:

Uncertainty of what next step to take
Uncertainty of what happens when you take the first step.

We covered what gets in your way of taking that first step.

I also shared how to overcome uncertainty and embrace the possibilities that you don't even know are available to you right now with this one simple action.

Tune into this episode on your favourite podcast platform to find out more!

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...because as you already know, you cannot attract what you want, if you are not grateful for what you already have!

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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What you want also wants you and it is waiting for you on the other side of the fear, uncertainty and inaction!

Just remember that everything you created was once a thought and an idea in your head and somehow you managed to turn it into reality.

Don't let the uncertainty steal your peace, because it is an illusion. It is not real, it is just resistance from your brain stopping you to move towards something it considers unsafe because it's not familiar with it!

I have seen this in so many of my clients and in myself, even for little things and it is mind-blowing when you start to recognise it.

What you want isn't just possible, it is inevitable and the fact that you are even asking yourself:'What do I want in my life' means that you are so clear on what you don't want anymore.

So, ride with the excitement of the uncertainty...Let go of the 'how' and focus on 'why' you want something different..and who you get to become during the process

'How' is not your responsibility. Leave that to the Universe!

Just focus on what you don't want anymore and why... what you want will become crystal clear...

If you want clarity on your purpose and want to create the life you want from the inside out with inner peace, balance and joy, then book a call with me to secure your 1:1 coaching spot with me for 2023!

You can secure this year's price when you book your call before the 21st of December!

Book your call now by going to https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/CALL

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On today's podcast, I answer the million-dollar question!

Is it about the journey or the destination?

You probably heard it before it is not about the destination but about the journey!

If you ask me, it is about neither and it is about both all at the same time!

Listen to this episode to get the full explanation!

If you are a regular listener, you probably already know that I am doing a FREE 5-day experience called Master Your Mindset and Learn to Stop Living in Chaos Now, with the Serenity Method™

We are on day 4 of 5 of this experience and there is still time to join!

You will love this experience because

😍 it'll give you the freedom to choose when you watch the 10-minute videos

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😍 It'll give you at least ONE thing you can implement each day and see a difference immediately!

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Today's episode is a very practical one.

I am going to give you a simple mind hack that will make you feel better in an instant once you have taken these 3 simple steps!

Mind hack- Your thoughts create your feelings. When you feel bad it means you are thinking bad thoughts and the chances are most of the time they are not even true.

So next time you feel bad, do this instead:

Stop yourself to interrupt the pattern and ask what am I thinking right now?
Say what you are thinking out loud- this is when you will realise it is not true
Shift your attention to another thought that makes you happy- a great example is something that you are grateful for.

The more you practice this the quicker it will become automatic and you will essentially be teaching your brain to automatically think good thoughts!

If you find gratitude difficult then you will love my heartfelt gratitude audio, which you can download for completely free!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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Here are the 4 things that will help you find the ultimate inner peace:

Have a clear purpose to live for that is bigger than you
Let go of the need to control things, outcomes, people and processes and surrender! Detach from the outcome and control the process
Be mindful of where we keep your attention
Be in gratitude and focus your attention on the abundance you are surrounded by each and every day.

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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Of course, it is. Inner peace has nothing to do with the outside world. It is totally to do with your inner state.

I get it, most people find this hard, and it requires a certain amount of awareness and mental mastery to do this. The world we live in right now is designed to distract us, and put us in fear because when we are in fear we can make irrational decisions and that could work in favour of companies who are selling products. They want us to be in fear so we cannot think for ourselves.

You have the power to choose the thoughts you focus on which will affect how you feel and how you respond/react to the outside world.

In today's episode, I talked extensively about how my recent journey to Turkey was the perfect test for me to practice and embody having inner peace during an unexpected series of events that resulted in my missing my connecting flight.

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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Welcome back to the third instalment of the Inner peace series. In the last two editions I talked about what inner peace looks like when you have it and delved into the 3 things that steals your inner peace every day without you even knowing.

Today I will talk about why it is important to have inner peace.

So just why is it important to have inner peace?

Well, because it is the only way you can reach your full potential and live your life to the full as you are meant to.

What is the alternative? Not having inner peace. That means you are constantly living in a reactive mode to the external world, and you cannot survive mentally by constantly reacting to what happens outside of you.

Perhaps you might be feeling the heaviness and burden of this yourself.

You cannot help anyone else when you are in a state of fear, despair and helplessness!

The more you react to external events, the more your brain will learn to react automatically this way, making it a habit.

It is not your fault. Everything outside of you, especially media and social media are designed to keep you living in fear. This is why in the past two years alone the number of adults experiencing mental health problems has doubled due to the pandemic, isolation and fear of uncertainty*.

When you don’t have inner peace, you are not living your purpose, instead, you are constantly distracted by things that are outside of you that you have no control over.
You end up becoming a person people do not want to be around because you are constantly reacting to everything - this affects your relationships and your own personal and professional growth
You are constantly seeking external validation, so you live in the work hard-achieve-get validated-burn out repeat loop with no real purpose or fulfilment!

But you can do something to change this and that is exactly what I am going to talk about in the next instalment of the Inner peace series…

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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In the second instalment of the Inner peace series,

I am going to talk about 3 things that steal your inner peace

Control - Your need to control everything, everyone, every outcome and all the outside events which you have no control over is the no 1 thing that steals your peace. Because the more you lose control the more panic, fear and anxiety you experience. When you let go of the need to control you will feel so much better and you will reduce the overwhelm you might be feeling as well.
Complaining (not being in gratitude)- focusing our attention on the wrong thing Most people fall into this trap because they constantly compare themselves to people who -seemingly- have more or do more than them. There will always be people who are better off than you are in every area of your life, but there are also people who are not as fortunate as you are. The amount of inner peace you have will be directly proportional to where you focus your attention. When you focus on the lack, what you don't have, how bad you feel, how behind you might be and constantly complain about lack, then that is inevitable you will feel more. Try focusing your attention on being grateful for something you have today and see how that makes you feel instead.
Attachment- As Buddha said, Attachment is the greatest form of suffering. Imagine how you feel when you lose something or someone you love so much or you are dependent on. This causes suffering. But attachment to how certain things are done, and how they need to manifest in our current reality is also the biggest form of suffering. In fact, most people don't get what they want mostly because they are too busy thinking it is not going to happen, because they don't know all the steps to get there. What if you stopped worrying about how to get there and start focusing on what you want and why... You will find that you will feel so much better internally and what you want will manifest so much more easily.

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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Welcome to the Inner peace series. In the next 5 episodes, we will be talking about Inner peace!

What does it look like, and how do you know when you have it?

What steals your inner peace

Why is it important to find inner peace

How do we find inner peace

Is it possible to find inner peace even in the world we live in today?

Today we are talking about how will you know when you have inner peace and what does it look like in real life?

Inner peace looks like when you can get back to sleep even when you wake up thinking about something, knowing that it will all be OK.

It looks like being able to smile even when things are going wrong in life.

It looks like knowing everything is working out, even when they are not seemingly working.

When you are late for a meeting at work because of someone cutting in front of you, instead of swearing and getting upset, having a deep sigh of relief and repeating to yourself- I am exactly where I need to be right now! You might find as you go past the junction there was a big pile up and if that car hadn’t cut in front of you to stop you at the light, you might have got involved in the pile-up yourself!

It might also look like...

Making decisions easily without having to ask so many others, but just trusting your gut!

Being able to have gratitude for what you already have even if it may not be so much right now.

Doing what makes you happy without worrying about what others might think of you

Taking personal responsibility for your own life instead of being a victim of your circumstances.

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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If you are like most people, you might find making decisions hard, especially when it comes to decisions about yourself and your life.

This might be even harder when other people like your spouse, your children, your work etc are involved.

Most people find it hard to make decisions because they are too busy thinking and worrying about the impact it has on other people.

You see, regardless of the processes you might use, written or otherwise, there is only one way you will actually make decisions and that is from your subconscious. Your subconscious emotional drivers affect your every decision without you even knowing.

If you want to stop overthinking, mostly to please other people, then learn what your subconscious emotional drivers are!

You can start now with this very powerful guide that worked for me and my clients for only £17 today instead of the usual £27. Just enter the code SELF10 before you pay!

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Who are you showing up for today?

...

A question that stopped me on my tracks and reconnect with my purpose!

Here is my answer to the question:

I am showing up today for the version of me 12 years ago...

who knew she had so much to bring to this world but didn't yet know what and how...

Instead, she settled for living a mediocre life day in and day out with a big empty heart for far too long🤍

without realising what it was doing to her mental and physical health...

let alone the effects she had on her young family...

If this is how you are feeling right now...

then listen

You don't have to settle for...

A mediocre life that doesn't light you up

Working hard, achieving and end up burning out just to prove your worth to the world

Other people's beliefs and opinions of how your life should be at a certain age!

I am here for you today!

and this is why I show up every day!

When is the last time you took a break from ‘doing things and going through the motions of daily activities on autopilot and had a good look at yourself; your life and how things are going?

If you are listening to this podcast, it means that there is a part of you who believes that there are some areas of your life that are not working as they should. The good news is, I have just the thing for you!

You can now discover how balanced your life is in 7 essential areas with my FREE Life Balance Workbook!

Just go to: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/thelifebalanceworkbook-podcast

and download this workbook for absolutely FREE now!

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Struggling to get what you want in life?

Always looking for the next challenge?

Can't (won't) celebrate your achievements?

Then this episode is for you!

The reason why you are struggling to get what you want in life is because of where your attention is!

You are focusing on the wrong thing!

You created this amazing aspirational goal in your mind (great start, we must set goals, right?)

But no matter what you do, how much you work you can't seem to get there!

Well, because after you create the great aspirational goal you constantly focus on not having it, not being there yet, what you are doing wrong etc...

without even knowing!

Whilst you are aspiring to reach the amazing goal, you are loathing yourself, hating where you are, and complaining about your life...

In other words...showing ZERO gratitude for everything you ALREADY have!

and the universe gives you it back! It is simply the law of attraction!

You attract what you focus on. In this case, lack, doubt, uncertainty wrongdoing, scarcity etc.

If you want to STOP struggling to get what you want in life then start focusing on the right thing!

Gratitude for what you have, the abundance you live in already!

It will bring you everything you want and more!

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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This week we talk about when you should stop caring about what others think of you and why this is a good idea to do so. Listen to the full episode here. If you'd like to stop caring so much about what others think of you and let this rule your life, then book a clarity call now on: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/clarity-call-questionnaire

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If you have been a regular listener of this podcast, it is obvious to you why you (your brain) will always try and keep you in your comfort zone...

But have you ever wondered why you keep struggling and never seem to be able to get out of it?

You see, it is still to do with that familiarity, comfort and feeling of safety your brain seeks and it will do whatever it takes for you to stay there, even if this means you continue to struggle.

Here are the 3 main reasons why you continue to stay committed to struggle:

You are conditioned to automatically think of the worst-case scenario and see the limitations of the society
You keep focusing on what you lack rather than what you already have
By constantly focusing on what you lack, you re-recreate it... and the unhelpful loop continues!

If you want to put a stop to this unhelpful vicious cycle and are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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I don’t believe in coincidence, but I do believe we create our own reality with our thoughts and the feelings those thoughts create.😍 Just the night before my new phone had gone wrong for the first time, I was sitting in my garden and thinking: ’I should really put it down and stop scrolling so much and allow more space for silence’. Well, there you go, the universe gives you exactly what you want when you clearly articulate it and detach from HOW it will happen. 🤯🤯🤯 You see, I didn’t like to phone, I wished I wasn’t using it so much and in the end, the Universe found a way for me to get rid of it!😍🥰😉 You might be wondering what happened to it. I got a full refund!😅😍 So, if you want to stay in your peace no matter what the circumstances are: 1. Detach form how the outcome you want is going to manifest itself 2. Surrender (to God, the Universe, whatever higher force you believe in) that it will get sorted in the best way possible. 3. BE in gratitude for what is right in front of you at this moment (instead of focusing on the event that is taking your power away) And remember, things are always working out, even when they are not working!🤗

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

P. S. In celebration of the amazing summer we had in the UK, I am bringing back the SUMMER22 offer. When you apply to work with me 1:1 you will get 22% of your full investment. Just book a free clarity call here https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/clarity-call-questionnaire to find out all the details and to see if you are a good fit. This offer will end on September 30th!

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Why is it so hard for some people to get what they want? and how was it so easy for my kids to manifest exactly what they wanted?

The answer was easy and when I really thought about it, had 3 main elements:

They KNEW exactly what they wanted.
They described it and imagined it in detail.
They had no attachment to not having it because they had NO DOUBT that they would get it! and it was that easy.

Listen to the full episode to discover exactly what my children manifested and how this will relate to you manifesting what you want in life. Put it into practice over the coming weeks and reach out to me about the results on tulay@tulaymasseycoaching.com

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This is one of our most popular episodes and I am putting out again in case you missed it.

Whether you realise it or not you spend most of your life/days attempting to get your needs met!

Most of your behaviours and feelings, as a result, come from having your needs met or unmet.

The more you understand about yourself and what is important to you the more likely you will be able to choose positive ways to meet your own needs.

If you are feeling a lack of balance, meaning and purpose in your life, then the chances are you have some unmet emotional needs and you have been using your work to fulfil this. Only to end up feeling more frustrated and unfulfilled or even burnt out.

Tune into this episode and discover what it is you really need and what you can do to learn to meet those needs yourself without burning out or looking outside of yourself.

When is the last time you took a break from ‘doing things and going through the motions of daily activities in autopilot and had a good look at yourself; your life and how things are going?

If you are listening to this podcast, it means that there is a part of you who believes that there are some areas of your life that are not working as they should. The good news is, I have just the thing for you!

You can now discover how balanced your life is in 7 essential areas with my FREE Life Balance Workbook!

Just go to: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/thelifebalanceworkbook-podcast

and download this workbook for absolutely FREE now!

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The truth is, perfect doesn't exist. Your idea of perfect will be different to my idea of perfect.

If you are constantly trying to be perfect, all you are really doing is trying to prove your worthiness to the outside world- because deep down you don't believe that you are worthy and as a result no matter how hard you work, what job title you might have or how many possessions you acquire, you will never feel perfect.

In fact, I worked with someone who felt exactly like this. This is her story:

“When I started, I felt restless, overwhelmed. I was exhausted, felt anxious and was overthinking my every move.

"I spent too much time on working and achieving and paying attention to other people’s thoughts and judgements, but didn’t realise this was draining me, and holding me back because I was leaving my own success to other people’s judgement!

I was working really hard to prove that I was good enough and worthy; I was waiting to be 100% sure, know everything or “perfect” before I started things.

I had forgotten to take care of myself!”

“No matter how much I achieve and what job title I have I will never feel good enough! I was seeking credibility, legitimacy and approval of others.”

I am so pleased to say after 8 weeks of intense transformational work, this is what she said:

“Now, I feel at peace with myself. I found who I really am inside and it is liberating!”

I am not trying to fit the mould anymore!

I am myself!

Choosing to BE the person I am, forgetting people’s judgement or criticism, is bringing me closer to the legacy I want to leave to this world.

I know:

what I am feeling,
what I want,
what my values are,
what my boundaries are
and I have now the courage to express those to people around me.

This transformation is possible for you too.

The doors to my intimate group coaching programme are OPEN.

😍 You too will learn to BE happy from the inside out and FEEL happy at any time you like.

Because you will:

❤ Get the Clarity of your vision with a clear Purpose,

❤ Have a clear process to move forward and achieve it, without holding yourself back with self-sabotage.

❤ Be able to Focus on your goal with confidence instead of being crippled by the fear that comes with it.

Plus, I am so confident that this will work, It comes with a 90-day money-back guarantee. If you don't see the results you wanted 90 days after completing the programme, then you can have your money back (T&Cs apply).

So join this amazing journey

🔥🔥🔥 BEFORE July 31st and get %22 off the full investment 🔥🔥🔥

knowing that you will have an amazing transformation waiting for you at the end of Summer!

We start on September 6th!

I can't wait to be with you on this journey!

Join before JULY 31st to get 22% off the full investment! using this link: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/offers/FyKKUxuV?coupon_code=SUMMER22

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I am not available to get phased by life's little inconveniences!

...

We walked into school this morning and realised I forgot to make packed lunches!

So I had to go back, make and take them to school.😅

Before we left for school, I put my earphones in their little case in the glove compartment with my phone so I could listen to my book on my morning walk...

Opened the compartment: Picked up the phone but the red case with earphones is nowhere to be seen🙄 Just disappeared. 🤯-

I had my breakfast and a nice cup of tea whilst watching a nice webinar.

Then I came down to make my coffee... and realised the kettle stopped working🤦‍♀️🙄 . Thank Goodness we have a microwave, so I boiled the water in there instead!🥰

...

This is my last working day before my holiday

I had all my day planned out...

and after a very productive day yesterday, despite the heat,

I was determined to get everything done...

The universe had other ideas obviously...

But I am not falling for it!

I am choosing to stay in my peace no matter what!

these are little things that can easily be solved.

They are not worth my energy to get worried or angry about

They definitely don't deserve to take my power away.

All is well and everything will work out!

I am choosing to stay in my power and get on with the rest of my day!

How many times did you give your power away to little things like these and lost control of the rest of your day?

How much is your inner peace worth to you?

You see, it is easy to give your power away to things you have no control over, or lost control over because you are too focused on other things...

It is not really a matter of controlling what goes on, but a matter of how you respond to situations when they arise and seeing what is it trying to tell you.

Everything is happening for you, not to you! When you see this, your life will be so much easier!

You can do this with my help and in the company of just a handful of other powerful women in my group coaching programme starting September 6th 2022.

This will be an 8-week process in an intimate group setting

By the end of the 8 weeks

💥 You too will learn to BE happy from the inside out and FEEL happy at any time you like.

Because you will:

💡 Get the Clarity of your vision with a clear Purpose,

✔ Have a clear process to move forward and achieve it, without holding yourself back with self-sabotage.

🔎 Be able to Focus on your goal and not the fear that comes with it,

You might be thinking, "How will I know this will work for me?"

I know this will work for you when you do the work as all my clients will tell you.

Plus, I am so confident that this will work, It comes with a 90-day money-back guarantee. If you don't see the results you wanted 90 days after completing the programme, then you can have your money back (T&Cs apply).

So join me before July 31st and get %22 off the full investment with this link: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/offers/FyKKUxuV?coupon_code=SUMMER22

I can't wait to welcome you and help you in your transformation!

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The no 1 cause of all failure, fallouts and burnout is Expectation!

Expectations you put on yourself, the outcome and the other people!

It is not the work that causes you the burnout, but the expectation of the work to be done in a certain way by yourself and others, at a certain time (especially before holidays) and the outcome to turn out in a certain way.

and if any of those deviate from the expectations you set, then you name it as a failure. it will cause fallout with your friends, family or colleagues, and it will almost certainly cause you to burn out again and again because you are too busy trying to meet an expectation that you inevitably neglect yourself!

I am sharing this episode from this time last year, which is one of our most listened to episodes again today before you switch off for the summer holidays!

It is nearly time for the summer holidays...☀⛱

Before you turn off for the summer, I have something very special to put your mind at rest 🥰

...

If you are a high-achieving professional woman struggling to find a balance between your work and home life and it feels like you are constantly busy spinning your wheels only to end up not being enough for either...

Then listen, I can help! 🤗

💥 I have an amazing offer I created just for you!

Imagine for a moment...

✅ Being calm, happy, joyful, rested & present

✅ Saying goodbye to overwhelm & chaos for good

✅ Having a fulfilled life with purpose & the ultimate work/life balance

... despite the constant chaos outside of you

What would it feel like to have

❤ Certainty in your heart and the reassurance from the universe that what you want already wants you?

❤ Pride in your achievements and create an environment of peace and joy at home without guilt?

❤ No fear or worry about what others think of you because you know your own value?

You see,

Inner Peace, Balance and Serenity are possible for you.

Mastering the Serenity Principles is the fastest and most effective way to find inner peace!

When you master the principles I teach using the proven method you will move from chaos into peace and Serenity in just 8 weeks!🤯 (I know it blows my mind too, every time).

But don’t take my word for it, see what Gila said about her transformation:

“I am a million times calmer and more relaxed, starting to enjoy my life and have more! I am definitely more relaxed with my children and have given them back responsibility for their emotions, and problems whilst supporting them to make their own choices.

I now get to consciously choose what to focus on. I feel more confident within myself and now reward myself for what I achieve. I stopped looking or waiting for that external validation.”

This will be an 8-week process in an intimate group setting

By the end of the 8 weeks

💥 You too will learn to BE happy from the inside out and FEEL happy at any time you like.

Because you will:

💡 Get the Clarity of your vision with a clear Purpose,

✔ Have a clear process to move forward and achieve it, without holding yourself back with self-sabotage.

🔎 Be able to Focus on your goal and not the fear that comes with it,

You might be thinking, "How will I know this will work for me?"

I know this will work for you when you do the work (my clients' transformations are the proof)

Plus, I am so confident that this will work, It comes with a 90-day money-back guarantee. If you don't see the results you wanted 90 days after completing the programme, then you can have your money back (T&Cs apply).

So join me before July 31st and get %22 off the full investment.

Just go to https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/offers/FyKKUxuV?coupon_code=SUMMER22

knowing that you will have an amazing journey waiting for you at the end of Summer!

We start on September 6th!

P.S. There will be some surprise bonuses when you join!

I cannot wait to be by your side on this journey ❤ 🥰 ❤

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"The cause is hidden and the effect is visible to all" Ovid 💥

How many of these do you experience being every single day?

😩 A short-tempered mum who snaps at everything your kids say

😩 A tired wife who pushes her husband away with neediness and constant bad mood

😩 A hard-working boss who checks emails every Sunday night just to make sure everything will be OK at work tomorrow

😩 A woman who crashes on the sofa with a glass (or two) of something each night, just to numb the thought of going through it all over again the next day.

😩 An ambitious woman who runs from one achievement/job title/project to the next.... just to feel worthy

😩 A person who is drained of every last bit of her energy from running on empty all day long with a big smile on her face 🎭

...

It is hidden even from you 😲

All you and others see are the effects

No one else sees the cause but you feel deeply inside:

It is that emptiness

anxiety

uncertainty

fear

restlessness

...

All caused by not knowing your PURPOSE

Why YOU matter

How WORTHY you really are as a WHOLE BEING

This is why you constantly seek it outside of yourself,

from the approval of others,

The job titles, the achievements, the certificates...

Yet still, feel empty, unfulfilled!😔

I get it. I lived like this for 10 years!😢

You might not have 10 years!

Don't waste any more minutes of your precious life trying to do all the things to fill that gap!

Your purpose wants you.

It is waiting for you patiently and when you finally realise it EVERYTHING will fall into place!

But nothing will change for you until YOU DECIDE to change!

It is almost time to decide.

The doors to my intimate group coaching close at midnight on July 7th.

You can still watch the recording of this Masterclass after this date by registering at https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/masterclass-jun29

Book a free call now to discover other options to work with me here:

https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/clarity-call-questionnaire:

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In this episode, we talk about how powerful we are and the very thing that makes us so powerful: That is our ability to make a decision and stick to it- the power of our mind.

Your brain fits your external reality to the beliefs you hold. The beliefs you hold are essentially the decisions you made about yourself based on some experiences and interpretations of those experiences at an early age (3-6) before you can start to think for yourself. Once you form this belief you create stories about yourself and your life... and you take all your decisions based on that one belief about yourself without even realising.

this is why it is so important to question your beliefs. Do you want to know what your beliefs are? Just look at your life now. Just look at what you created. All of that was created based on what you believe about yourself and about the world.

And it is now obvious if you want to create something different, you need to change something. yes, you guessed it, YOU.

This was the topic of my Masterclass yesterday. If you missed it, you can still register to receive the recording.

Register here for free: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/masterclass-jun29

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How easy do you think it is to create what you want?

What if it was easy?

It is easy and in fact, you do it all day long, you just don't realise it, for other things- things you don't have resistance to in your life like going on holiday, getting your dream wedding.

But when it comes to bigger things like having your dream home, dream life a million-dollar car etc. it might seem a little unreachable (to your brain), and that's exactly why it becomes impossible (in your mind) to reach.

In this episode, we delve into her reasons why this happens more specifically, how we get in our own way to stop this from happening.

Change is the only thing that remains constant!

...

Whether you like it, hate it, realise it or not!

It is always happening.

But despite the constant change in circumstances on the outside...

Nothing will change for you until YOU change on the inside!

If you are wondering 'How will I change?'

You are already focusing on the wrong question.💥

It is not a matter of HOW will you change🤔

It is a matter of WHAT needs to change😲

and this is exactly what I will be sharing in my brand new Masterclass on June 29th at 12.00 pm BST

Register now on: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/masterclass-jun29

In this Masterclass, you will learn

❓ What causes you to constantly react to the outside world and seek external validation

❓ What you can change now to stop living this way

❓ How you can grow and develop quicker by being in your peace

It will be obvious to you why

🤯 You may be feeling so overwhelmed with all the stuff outside of you

🤯 You never have time or the energy for the things you enjoy

🤯 You never feel fulfilled no matter how much you achieve in your career.

You will leave this Masterclass knowing

✅ The Principles to start living in Serenity

✅ The Process to leaving self-sabotage behind

✅ How to start living your life as a 'Heart Centered-Creator' and finally find inner-peace

Plus

🤩 You will be excited by the possibilities that are available and…
🤩 You will be ready to make a change in your life, for good!

Register now on: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/masterclass-jun29

See you on the inside!

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Change is the only thing that remains constant!

...

Whether you like it, hate it, realise it or not!

It is always happening.

But despite the constant change in circumstances on the outside...

Nothing will change for you until YOU change on the inside!

If you are wondering 'How will I change?'

You are already focusing on the wrong question.💥

It is not a matter of HOW will you change🤔

It is a matter of WHAT needs to change😲

and this is exactly what I will be sharing in my brand new Masterclass on June 29th at 12.00 pm BST

Register now on: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/masterclass-jun29

In this Masterclass, you will learn

❓ What causes you to constantly react to the outside world and seek external validation

❓ What you can change now to stop living this way

❓ How you can grow and develop quicker by being in your peace

It will be obvious to you why

🤯 You may be feeling so overwhelmed with all the stuff outside of you

🤯 You never have time or the energy for the things you enjoy

🤯 You never feel fulfilled no matter how much you achieve in your career.

You will leave this Masterclass knowing

✅ The Principles to start living in Serenity

✅ The Process of leaving self-sabotage behind

✅ How to start living your life as a 'Heart Centered-Creator' and finally find inner-peace

Plus

🤩 You will be excited by the possibilities that are available and…
🤩 You will be ready to make a change in your life, for good!

Register now on: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/masterclass-jun29

See you on the inside!

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Anything you desire is possible,

and if you are like most people I work with, the chances are the only thing that is really getting in your way of getting what you want is YOU!

It is how you treat yourself, and how you speak to yourself.

You might be thinking 'What is how I speak to myself got anything to do with what I want?

Try speaking to your best friend or the person you most love the way you speak to yourself just for a few days and see what happens!

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE YOU!
...

Until you decide to save yourself!

It is all down to you!

❌ You don't need anyone's permission

❌ You don't need anyone's approval

❌ You don't need anyone's judgement (or your own for that matter) or opinion

💡 You just need to put one foot in front of the other from a place of empowerment and possibility.

If you focus on your limitations and seek constant validation from others you will be sure to perpetuate a vicious cycle of

😖 frustration,

😔 dis-empowerment

😞 and a lifetime of disappointment.

💥 You are the only one who is responsible to create the life you desire!

Read that again:

💥 You are the only one who is responsible to create the life you desire!

You either do it by accident (because you are not aware of what the true cause is) or

You get to create it consciously knowing exactly what you want and WHO you need to be!

For now, save the date for a very special Masterclass coming to your screens on June 29th, more details to be revealed next week.

You will not want to miss this! It will revolutionise the way you look at yourself and your life!

In the meantime, here is another chance you can have a good look at your life with my free LIfe Balance Workbook.

Just go to: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/thelifebalanceworkbook-podcast

and download this workbook for absolutely FREE now!

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The number 1 thing that separates you from the rest of the living beings is your FREE-WILL, your ability to choose! Every single moment of every day you have the opportunity to make a choice about what you will or will not do and who you decide to be in any given situation. Everything you do is a choice. Everything you have is a choice (money, good or bad relationships etc.) Every emotion you feel is a choice. and is a result of the meanings you choose to put onto any given situation. Whether it is conscious or unconscious. Today's episode how you can choose meanings that are helpful to you or how you become a victim to those meanings and circumstances. If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen... Did you know that you can have 😍 A better mental and physical health 🤗 Enhanced compassion 😊 Feeling of calm and peace 😴 Better sleep 😎 Improved self-esteem. just by making gratitude a habit? Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day. It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation. I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE! Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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'You cannot solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it'- Albert Einstein

'What got you here, won't get you there'- James Wedmore

'If you are willing to be uncomfortable, you get to see what you are capable of' -Brooke Castillo

These are three profound quotes that I live by since I started my transformation journey

Transformation is 'not easy' some might say.

Looking deeper into yourself, digging into what is not working in your life and why getting yourself to think about what you truly want is not easy!

I would ask, compared to what?

Some might even say it is a struggle, as it requires discipline, consistency, bloody-mindedness, integrity

You see, everything is relative.

I don't know about you but I would rather push through the initial struggle of looking deeper, learning new things about myself and becoming aware of what is holding me back any day knowing at the end of I get to experience the life I really truly want!

Yes it will take time and it will need you to

💥 BE a different person than you have been;

💥 THINK differently to you have done before and

💥 DO the things that may well be uncomfortable for a while...

BUT it will be worth it in the end, because what got you here, won't get you there for sure!

This is why I created the self-study version of my 8-week transformational coaching programme!

✔ You get access to exactly the same homework study material and audios my high ticket clients go through when they work with me 1:1

✔ You have instruction videos each week explaining what you need to do.

✔ You get to do it at your own pace for a fraction of the investment

PLUS- you get to have the opportunity to work with me at the end if you choose to and your investment for the self-study will be deducted from your investment for the coaching.

What's not to love?

Join now and start your transformation with the self-study version of the Serenity Principles for Life Programme at:

https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/serenity-principles-self-study

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What you focus on grows within you and creates your external reality.

It is easy to get caught up in daily struggles and forget about being present in the moment.

Today we bring this back to life with real examples from our own life and discuss the importance of focusing on what is right in front of us rather than what we don't have.

To really appreciate what we have in life, it is important to make gratitude a daily practice.

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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You can be comfortable, and still be unhappy!

This is not another article I will be banging on about the comfort zone, because you probably heard enough of that!

This is about contentment, aka, good old happiness!

So, you might be comfortable in your job, in your home, in the external environment you are in and can still be unhappy!

You see, happiness is an inner state!

It doesn’t depend on external circumstances, even though most people believe, act and make it about that!

In fact, no external circumstance will result in happiness, until you decide to become happy on the inside first!

How many times did you say to yourself any of these or something similar…?

I will be happy when…

I finish my presentation

The kids grow up

All of this [lockdown, a launch, a significant event…} is over

I book my holiday

I have kids…

The list goes on.

Listen, happiness is not a destination (as cheesy as this sounds, it is true) but most of us treat it that way and this is why you one day, expect to arrive there…

This causes you to fail at being happy in 2 ways

You constantly wait for a condition to be fulfilled before you can BE happy
When you arrive at the condition and find yourself still NOT HAPPY, you get disappointed and become even more unhappy!

You can see now what a broken way of thinking this is, can you not?

It is not your fault though; this is what you have been conditioned to do from as early as age 3 (remember the when…then technique all the parenting gurus are teaching you?)!

You have been taught to have live conditionally- when I have this...then I can have that!

And whilst it might ‘work’ for your 3-year-old (for a short while), it is not a sustainable strategy for a happy life!

Because you will not be happy on the outside until you DECIDE to be happy on the inside.

NO matter how comfortable, successful, rich, famous [insert desire] you might be!

The good news is that when you are happy on the inside FIRST, all the other external conditions you have been hoping, wishing, and expecting to happen WILL actually happen much more easily.

Sometimes though, being comfortable but not content can be a good thing!

Because it shows you are becoming aware of a misalignment in your life and are on the verge of a breakthrough!

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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Hear me out before you think I am crazy!

I get why you think knowledge is power! This is the paradigm we all grew up with!

In fact, I spent 21 years of my life just studying to know all I could know about a given topic, and further 18 years in an environment where I could apply that knowledge.

But all that knowledge didn’t give me any power! In fact, it made me powerless, because after a while I made having certain amount of knowledge a measure of how good I was!

Which inevitably, I thought, that if I didn’t have enough knowledge, I was not good enough!

Not realising for years… that my value didn’t actually come from my knowledge (or lack of it) but it came from how courageous I was to apply and embody what already knew!

If you resonate with any of the above, then read on (and share this article with someone who would benefit from reading it)

Here are the 3 beliefs that is causing you to become powerless

Knowledge = Power—WRONG!

You can have all the knowledge in the world about a specific topic or many topics, but if you don’t know your own value first, you will keep sitting on the side lines without sharing what you know with anyone! You won’t have the courage to apply, embody or share It with the world! Knowledge that is not shared and just rotting in your head and is worth NOTHING!

Knowledge = Your Value—WRONG!

Because you determine your own value by how much you know, this becomes your reference point to compare yourself to others (most likely) who know more than you. So instead of celebrating and sharing what you know and standing in your own value, you constantly compare yourself to others and create a reason to de-value yourself. This becomes your daily (negative) self-talk that you are now immune to, and you don’t even realise how toxic it actually is (Try talking to your best friend the way you talk to yourself for half a day and see how long your friendship lasts).

More Knowledge/Achievements = More Respect/Approval/Appreciation from others-WRONG!

This belief leads you to learn more, chase more titles, achievements… and before you know it, you are overwhelmed with all the learning you ‘have to’ do and constantly chasing your tail to keep up with the expectations you put on yourself. All in the name of getting the respect, approval and appreciation externally.

You give your power away to those who don’t appreciate you by getting angry, frustrated and end up working harder which keeps you in this broken cycle forever!

You probably already know where this leads to = burnout!

STOP it!

Like I said many times before, until you realise your own value because of who you are; courageously embody it and share your knowledge with the world as you are…

No amount of learning, knowledge, job title or external validation will give you the value, peace and fulfilment you are seeking.

Don’t take my word for it, see what one of my clients said after working with me:

“Before I started coaching with Tülay, I was confused and losing focus. I was struggling to accept that my priorities and identity had changed - I kept looking for the next challenge/qualification/ project/job without considering where these were leading, and how they supported my journey towards my ultimate goal - because I could not see that goal clearly. I was so focussed on the mechanics and ‘the how’ that I was losing sight of my vision**”

“I now feel much calmer, content and at peace. I am clearer at laying down boundaries. The biggest change is clarity of my goal and my commitment to it and accepting that the rest is just details. Also knowing that if I remain focused on my goal, the universe will provide, and that is where fulfilment actually lies - not the places I was looking in before.”

If you would like to hear more about this topic, head over to today’s podcast episode here.

When you are ready to let go of giving your power away to knowledge/job titles/achievement and step into your ‘KNOWING’ to find peace and fulfilment, book a call with me. Let’s chat about what is the real driver in all of this.

I have 3 spots left for my 1:1 coaching this month and I would love to help you realise the power you have within.

Book your call now and reserve your spot here:https://calendly.com/tulaymasseycoaching/30min

Have you ever stopped working for a minute or looked up from your phone, to consider how balanced your life is right now? Yes, really, have you?

When is the last time you took a break from ‘doing things and going through the motions of daily activities on autopilot and had a good look at yourself; your life and how things are going?

If you are listening to this podcast, it means that there is a part of you who believes that there are some areas of your life that are not working as they should. The good news is, I have just the thing for you!

You can now discover how balanced your life is in 7 essential areas with my FREE Life Balance Workbook!

Just go to: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/thelifebalanceworkbook-podcast

and download this workbook for absolutely FREE now!

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Are you staying awake wondering what is going to happen next?

Is the worry of uncertainty causing you so much anxiety?

Have you considered if the uncertainty can be a good thing?

In this episode, I argue that it, in fact, is!

You see if you already knew what was going to happen, you would have already lived it and made it happen.

Everything in life is uncertain, but you create certainty through your daily habits and create a little comfort zone which gives you a false sense of security/certainty.

If you want to create something new there is always a big uncertainty associated with it, but it is a good thing because it actually helps you keep an open mind for the possibilities you could not even think of.

So today, just let the uncertainty be a good thing and just take a moment to be grateful for the journey that you are on to create whatever exciting thing you are about to create.

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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DO YOU FEEL LIKE SOME PEOPLE PUSH YOUR 'BUTTONS' ALL THE TIME?

You may even be:

🙋‍♀️ Feeling overwhelmed with the demands of your life and walking around like a 'ticking time bomb'?

🙋‍♀️ Unable to say “no” because you would rather please others to feel your 'self-worth'

and

🙋‍♀️ Allowing other people to get in the way of taking better care of yourself?

The chances are, you are not alone!

and I don't have to be the one to tell you that if you continue living your life in this pattern, something will eventually give!

Until you decide to change something...

you see, anger is your greatest gift.

And so are your other emotions!

You might be thinking: ‘Have you lost your mind?’

I get it.

I understand why you think being angry (or ‘emotional’) is a bad thing.

We are socially conditioned to believe that anger & rage are a bad thing; and they are when they are outwardly expressed to the detriment of others, worse still to yourself!

So how could your worst emotion and your weakness of flying into rage possibly be your greatest gift?

…because they are here to show you something that you are not consciously aware of, yet!

Every time you have a repeated pattern of anger/rage/sadness/frustration it is a sign of something deeper and it is coming up to make you aware of what it is! and when you become aware of the cause, it is much easier to let go! In fact, you will no longer be a slave to that emotion (i.e. reacting each time it comes up and making a scene).

How do you think the great leaders like Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Oprah, [insert your favourite business leader], got to where they are? It was by mastering their biggest emotions (what most people would consider weaknesses) and turning them into their greatest gifts, which propelled them all to massive success.

Why did they do the inside work first to achieve this? Because they were smart enough to recognize that their greatest challenges created the greatest growth in their lives.

So, what are the 3 reasons why anger is your greatest gift?

It sends you to sign for you to become aware of something that is NOT working well
If repeated enough it will cause you to take action to move forwards
When you take the right action, it will help you turn them to your advantage and get what you want in life more easily. Battling to get what you to want will become a thing of the past!

Growth and transformation is not a destination, it is a journey and that journey starts with awareness. Being aware of what your triggers are and how you can overcome them gives you the golden key to unlocking your personal growth and bringing everything you deserve into your life. Ultimately enabling your own transformation.

You too can start your transformational journey by first identifying your deepest emotional drivers (aka triggers) using my simple workbook.

'What drives you? self-evaluation workbook' will help you discover exactly what your emotional drivers are and challenges you to go deeper into situations where you can use them to your advantage instead of being constantly triggered and fuelling your anger.

You can access it here for just £7.77

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How to use the power of your intention to achieve anything you desire!

What is your intention?

Do you know the power of your intention and how to use it?

I didn't until I experience the power of it myself!

'Being intentional' was a phrase I heard a few years ago in my corporate job.

I didn't KNOW what it really meant or how it really applied to me, to be honest.

It wasn't until I set my own INTENTION to find my life's purpose and watch things happen around me because of it that I came to know the meaning of it!

Most recently I got to apply this to my everyday life and watch some amazing things happen!

Tune into today's episode to discover what they were and how you can apply this in your life too.

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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The Comfort zone is an illusion and it is keeping you trapped. I understand why you might think that your comfort zone is ‘comfortable’ and it keeps you safe. And perhaps that is true to some extent. Because the ‘comfort zone’ as we know it is created by your brain to keep you safe. It is your reptilian brain, the lowest part of your brain, trying to keep you safe from ‘danger’. This is the same part of the brain that helps you escape dangers like being chased by a lion, or a bus is speeding towards you. It is the one that triggers a fight or flight reaction.

But the trouble with your reptilian brain is that it doesn’t know the difference between the ‘real danger’, as in a lion running towards you; and a ‘perceived danger’- like having to do something really unfamiliar or different for the first time and it sends the same sort of signals to your body, like beating your heart really fast, sweaty hands, increased adrenalin etc.

But, of course, doing this on a regular and consistent basis is not healthy for your body, so the brain wants to create a sense of comfort and familiarity and in time you kind of sink into this sense of comfort and familiarity

On

the other hand, as human beings, we are here to grow and evolve. Especially if you are a skilled professional you want to grow and develop as a person. This is kind of the higher part of your brain, your analytical brain, your inquisitive side pushing you to become better than you were yesterday and last year etc. and

This is where it gets tricky. Because in order to grow, evolve and be better than you were yesterday, the year before… you need to do things you haven’t done before, you need to try new things, you need to dip your toes in cold water, you need to get out there and show up for yourself and do something completely different! And that means getting out of your comfort zone, going out and doing things that are ‘uncomfortable/unfamiliar’ and we now know what happens when we want to do that right? Yes, the reptilian brain kicks in, the heart rate goes up, the anxiety comes, you are filled with fear etc…so you get the picture.

And you go right back where you started! The comfort zone, the familiar. It, gives you this ‘sense’ of satiety in a way and comfort, but only for a short time until you see someone else going and doing exactly what you wanted to do for years. Until you see someone else deliver the presentation you were longing to do but never really had the courage to do it; until you see someone else wearing that nice dress that you didn’t quite feel brave enough to wear. I mean the examples are endless. Anything that is out of the ordinary, your brain pulls you right back into that comfort/safety/familiarity zone!

You can now see how this becomes a battle of the two brains and a battle in your head that keeps you trapped exactly where you are.

But like I said, we are here to grow and evolve. We crave for it, we live for it. It gives us sense of purpose and a sense of importance. All you need to be able to do is to break through that initial barrier of fear and unfamiliarity. And, indeed, you can do that. There are so many examples of people in the world who do that to achieve great things in life. Do you think that Susan Boyle would win Britain’s Got Talent if she didn’t get up on that stage and sing? Of course not!

But how do you find the courage to get out of that safety, comfort, familiarity zone to be able to do what you want to do? That's where I come in. I am here to help you make the unconscious conscious so that you can conquer your own mind and make choices that will help you rather than becoming slaves to your 'have to do' lists!

In today's episode, we talk about how telling your brain everything is OK and there is no danger will actually help you conquer this illusionary fear that your brain creates and help you create the life you want despite to fears your brain might present you with.

If you want my help, you can still enrol in my 8-week coaching programme here:https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/spl-group-coaching

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On today's podcast, we talk about the real reason why you keep heading towards burnout without even realising it!

This is for you if you:

🙋‍♀️ You feel overwhelmed, stressed and burnt-out with constant demands on you.

🙋‍♀️ You have no energy or time for yourself and what brings you joy!

🙋‍♀️ You feel like no matter what you do for everyone else, you are never good enough!

By the end of this short video, you will discover

✔ The real reason you experience burnout
✔ What life without burnout might look like
✔ How to start living your life from a place of joy, peace and balance

I also go so much deeper into this in my FREE live training that took place on March 23rd. You can still register to get the recording here:

https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/finding-serenity-in-the-midst-of-chaos-training

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Life is the Mirror No One is Looking at!

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

It is not a trick question.

Of course, you see a reflection of yourself. If it is a bad hair day, you see a person with bad hair; If you had a bad night’s sleep, you see a person with a tired wrinkled face; If you are happy and glowing (inside), you see a glowing, happy face in the mirror etc… you get the point.

Now; what do you see when you look at the world, specifically the 'world' you created immediately outside of you - Your Life, your job, the people you are surrounded by... Each and every one of these things reflects back to you who you are on the inside.

However, sometimes it is not so obvious to you what it is your life is reflecting back to you because you have the 'blinkers' on and you can only see what you want to see, what you believe without questioning.

Today we talk about this in more context and how it can affect your life. More importantly, what you can do about it.

Plus on Wednesday, March 23rd I am running a FREE LIVE Training that will delve much deeper into this. Register for this training here: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/finding-serenity-in-the-midst-of-chaos-training

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I lived the past few years of my life being angry!😡😡😡😡

...

There was always someone to be angry at...

My boss(es)

My husband

My colleagues

My children

The 'system'

The society

The circumstances...

It was always someone else's fault...😡

Until I realised it was NOT!😮

...

It was ME all along! 💡

I was not taking responsibility!💥

I was reacting to everything OUTSIDE of ME...

because I was angry on the inside

with myself!

I was judging myself for the things I haven't done!

and constantly comparing myself to others...

Little did I realise that I was expecting

everything/everyone else and circumstances to change before I changed!💥

It was only when I spent 8 weeks in bed hating everyone and everything around me that realised

I had to change FIRST before anything else changed in my life 💡

...

That was a mere 4 years ago (feels like a lifetime ago)

now not only my life is different

I also get to share the details of the insight from this experience with other people to help change their lives!🔥 😍 ❤

If you are still reading this, then chances are there is a part of you that might be feeling the same...

Please don't wait any longer!

Because the Change Starts With YOU!❤😍

You might be wondering what do I need to change?

You see, you make choices and decisions from your values.

Values are the thing that drives your every move...

Some values serve you and some don't.

When you know what your values are and where you use them in your life everything will change for you just like it changed for me...

This is why I have created this workbook for you: 'What Drives you self-assessment'

Download it now for just £7.77 and let amazing things change inside and out😘

https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/offers/Wr7fc4Zi

You can also join my FREE LIVE TRAINING on March 23rd at 12 pm GMT to learn my proven method on how to find serenity even in the Midst of Chaos.

Register for that FREE TRAINING here:

https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/finding-serenity-in-the-midst-of-chaos-training

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Protect and empower women and girls in Ukraine by learning to look after your own mental health! Because it all starts with you!

You cannot help anyone else when you are in a state of fear, despair and helplessness! Yet this is where your mind goes when faced with chaos- real or perceived going on outside of you.

The more you react to external events, the more your brain will learn to react automatically this way, making it a habit. You can stop this!*

With so much chaos going on in the world right now, it is more important than ever to learn the tools to look after your own mental health first before you can even begin to help others.

Many women and girls in Ukraine are fleeing to freedom whilst leaving behind their men, husbands, fathers. You can help them now by joining a special Masterclass to teach you the exact blueprint and tools I use myself and teach my clients for just £10**.

* In the past two years alone the number of adults experiencing mental health problems has doubled due to the pandemic, isolation, fear etc. The chances are you might also be feeling the heaviness and burden of this yourself

*All proceeds will go directly to UN WOMEN Charity to support women and girls in Ukraine.*

Register with this link now: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/serenity-for-Ukraine

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Are you in the significance trap?

When will you know you will be good enough?

This Episode relates to you if you are the kind of person

🙋‍♀️ Constantly focuses on the next achievement

🙋‍♀️ Never celebrate or acknowledge your last achievement

🙋‍♀️ Always want to talk about your accomplishments rather than yourself.

You will love this episode because at the end of it you will discover

✅ The real reason why you want to be significant

✅ How you can free yourself of the significance trap

And until you believe you are good enough just as you are; you will never feel good enough no matter what you have, how much you achieve or how many people think you are good enough!

If you are finding it hard to recognise what is it about you that is already good enough, you might want to consider starting a daily gratitude practice. The easiest way to do that is to download for FREE my heartfelt gratitude audio that will help you do that in just 8 minutes a day.

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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No 1 reason why you are constantly sabotaging your success without even knowing!

Are you letting yourself off the hook,🤔...again?

💭 I'll do that later!🤨

💭 Check that one last email!😟

💭 I will meditate another time (fell asleep watching Netflix instead🙄😴)...

💭 I know it is important to look after myself... but it is more important that I finish this last slide before I go to bed because I promised my boss😮

💥💥That right there is what the real problem is 👆👆👆

✔ You keep to the promises you give to other people (great! this shows you have integrity)👍

But...

❌ You keep letting yourself off the hook when it comes to the promises you made yourself (you have little/or no self-integrity)😞
You might be thinking: "Well that's ok I will do it eventually, it wasn't that important anyway"💥💥💥

Listen, every time you break a promise that you made to yourself you are telling yourself (subconsciously) that:

❌ You cannot be trusted
❌ You don't matter (others matter more)
❌ You cannot finish what you started!

So without even knowing you self-sabotage every project, every new attempt to do anything.

Is it no wonder that you can't bring yourself to even think about what you want, because deep down you believe you will not get it anyway😟😞😞

You are not alone! I get it, I have been there...

😍 But I also know you can change this when you know how...
There is hope and there is help...

Start today with fulfilling a promise that you made to yourself because you know that you matter!

Dig deeper and ponder on

Where in your life do you break your promises to yourself?

How many times do you break your promise to yourself?

You see, there might be a pattern you notice and the chances are there is a deeper reason why you keep breaking the promises you make to yourself including the goals you set for yourself at the start of each year.

Are your SMART goals leaving you EMPTY and feeling like a failure year after year?

...

You are not alone!

80% of people fail most of their goals (especially the personal development ones)…

Because the traditional goal setting doesn’t work, no matter how SMART (your goals) or you are.

This leads to constant frustration, leaving you feeling like a failure year after year!

I get it, I have been there, too!

and it is NOT because of what you do, don’t do…

Most of the time you are judged on ‘how you do something’ and not surprisingly you get stuck on the ‘how’ too.

and when you don’t know how to do something…you tell yourself you might as well not start!

What if there was a whole new way of setting your goals?

A way that will help you not just get started but keep going until you achieve them.

Well, you are in luck! I have created a simple goal setting guide for you to use for setting and achieving any goal.

Use this guide to set your goals and watch your results change!

You can download it for FREE on

https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/goal-setting

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Today we talk about my experience with Covid and how that can apply to many things we do in life.

Often how you experience something is very much determined by what you believe about that specific thing.

Most people let the external circumstances determine how they experience certain things, without even knowing. This inevitably can make them a victim to their circumstances. We talk about how by living in your circumstances, you repeat them. We also talk about the concept of creating your own life merely by the way you think and the things you attract as a result.

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have

😍 A better mental and physical health

🤗 Enhanced compassion

😊 Feeling of calm and peace

😴 Better sleep

😎 Improved self-esteem.

just by making gratitude a habit?

Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.

It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.

I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

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Control is an illusion and it is stealing your peace.

Buddha Says: Attachment is the greatest cause of suffering'

In this episode how attachment to control causes you and others around you to suffer.

Are your SMART goals leaving you EMPTY and feeling like a failure year after year?

...

You are not alone!

80% of people fail most of their goals (especially the personal development ones)…

Because the traditional goal setting doesn’t work, no matter how SMART (your goals) or you are.

This leads to constant frustration, leaving you feeling like a failure year after year!

I get it, I have been there, too!

and it is NOT because of what you do, don’t do…

Most of the time you are judged on ‘how you do something’ and not surprisingly you get stuck on the ‘how’ too.

and when you don’t know how to do something…you tell yourself you might as well not start!

What if there was a whole new way of setting your goals?

A way that will help you not just get started but keep going until you achieve them.

Well, you are in luck! I have created a simple goal setting guide for you to use for setting and achieving any goal.

Use this guide to set your goals and watch your results change!

You can download it for FREE on

https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/goal-setting

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I Don't Know How To Do It - So I Won't Even Start!

When you don't know how to do something or want to do something for the first time, your first reaction is probably to fight, flight or freeze.

If you are like most people I work with the chances are you probably already experienced this in your life!

The problem is you end up doing nothing and guess what the result will be when you do NOTHING?

You guessed it right, nothing will change. The reason why you do this is that you (your reptilian brain) thinks the worst and tells you to stop and hide instead (as this is easier). Listen to this entire episode to discover how to get out of this trap.

and use my goal setting guide to help you set goals you never fail, because you will NOT be focused on the HOW anymore!

Are your SMART goals leaving you EMPTY and feeling like a failure year after year?

...

You are not alone!

80% of people fail most of their goals (especially the personal development ones)…

Because the traditional goal setting doesn’t work, no matter how SMART (your goals) or you are.

This leads to constant frustration, leaving you feeling like a failure year after year!

I get it, I have been there, too!

and it is NOT because of what you do, don’t do…

Most of the time you are judged on ‘how you do something’ and not surprisingly you get stuck on the ‘how’ too.

and when you don’t know how to do something…you tell yourself you might as well not start!

What if there was a whole new way of setting your goals?

A way that will help you not just get started but keep going until you achieve them.

Well, you are in luck! I have created a simple goal setting guide for you to use for setting and achieving any goal.

Use this guide to set your goals and watch your results change!

You can download it for FREE on

https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/goal-setting

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Who Do You Think You Are?

If you are like most people, your answer will be along the lines of:

I am a mum

I am an entrepreneur

I am a manager

I am an engineer

I am a director of...

I am a scientist

I am a [insert job title]

...

There lies the problem. When you are asked who you are, you often describe what you do! not who you are.

Join today's conversation to discover why this is so detrimental to you as a person both in your career and in your life!

Have you ever stopped working for a minute or looked up from your phone, to consider how balanced your life is right now? Yes, really, have you?

When is the last time you took a break from ‘doing things and going through the motions of daily activities in autopilot and had a good look at yourself; your life and how things are going?

If you are listening to this podcast, it means that there is a part of you who believes that there are some areas of your life that are not working as they should. The good news is, I have just thing for you!

You can now discover how balanced your life is in 7 essential areas with my FREE Life Balance Workbook!

Just go to: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/thelifebalanceworkbook-podcast

and download this workbook for absolutely FREE now!

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As a child, you probably heard a few times: ‘I want doesn’t get’ or ‘I want never gets’, especially if you were raised in Great Britain.

You were probably also explained that the reason for this was that ‘you have to ask for things in a more polite way and say I would like, may I please have etc. It's often used with children when they ask for things in, what is interpreted as, a rude way.

And the chances are your 5-year-old self took this as ‘I mustn’t ask for what I want’.

Unfortunately, as you grow older this deep-seated belief shows up in many aspects of your life without you even realising it. I want this, but I can’t ask for it.

This little phrase ‘I want never gets’ used to really trigger me and I used to tell people ‘If you don’t ask you don’t get’!

But most recently I had a whole new perspective on this. As I understand more and more about our brain, our thoughts and how they create our reality I realised something really ground-breaking!

The truth is ‘I want’ does NOT get you what you want, because you don’t believe in it. You don’t believe you deserve the thing you want. This is one of the main reasons you hide behind ‘I don’t know what I want’. What you are really saying is that ‘I don’t believe I deserve it, what I want is impossible, I am afraid I won’t get it, I am afraid I might lose it!’

And here is the bombshell: I want doesn’t get you want, because in your mind I want = I don’t have it.

Which means you are still focused on NOT HAVING it! As you already know, what you focus on, grows within you.

So how do you get what you want in life?

The simple answer is: Focus on ‘already having it’.

You might be thinking: ‘How can I focus on something I don’t have? How can I pretend I have it?’…

Well, you do this all day long, without even realising.

Think about all the ‘unwanted’ scenarios that you create in your mind when you fear something when you are uncertain about the outcome? They are not true, have not yet happened, but you create/go through every detail in your mind as if it were true.

If you can do that about something negative/unwanted, you sure can do that about something you want. It is like daydreaming, something you have the innate ability to do so and yes something you believe you must stop doing, because it is not good for you (told the teachers when you were 5. 6. 7 etc.)

How do you get what you want in life? Knowing what you want and BE-ing who/what you want before you even have it. If you want to find out more exactly how to do that… just book a clarity call with me now using the link below:

https://calendly.com/tulaymasseycoaching/30min

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Happy New Year!

How have you been?

If you are like most people you might be going into the New Year full steam ahead: New Year, New Me, New Goals... etc.

🛑 STOP!

You and I both know that going into the new year full steam ahead with new goals, aspirations etc. never really works...

because 80% of people with new year's resolutions flop and fall off the wagon by week 3 (more on the reasons for that later).

Just consider for a moment, is this really what you need right now?

Is this the thing that is going to serve you best?

You see, your brain will seek comfort, safety, familiarity just as soon as it perceives danger (change, new goals, overdrive etc.).

and it will drive you towards behaviours that will find that comfort and perceived safety...

whether that is overeating, drinking, overworking or altogether avoiding what needs attention.

So why not do yourself a favour today and ask yourself: 'What do I really need right now?'🤔 - we talked about this in Episode 22.

Then ask yourself who do I need to be, what do I need to change that is manageable so that I can achieve it?

This Episode talks about why you fail most of your goals and why you should stop setting new year's resolutions!