The Teen and Tween Parenting Podcast with Dr. Nikki Neretin/AKA Figuring Shit Out!: Recent Episodes
Nikki Neretin
Ever wonder why our kids roll their eyes every time we ask them a question? Why we are the last to know when things go to hell? Why we are walking on egg shells? This podcast and my new book. "Shut Up and Act Dumb" will give you the tools you need to have closer connections, a lot more fun and end the fighting. I am Dr. Nikki Neretin, with many degrees, certifications and 30 years of parenting/life experience and I will be your cruise director through this tempestuous and beautiful journey I call Paren-teen-ing or Paren-tween-ing. I believe in your ability to transform your relationship.
Hello Friends,
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my goals and dreams. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
Avoiding your feelings in any way can lead to suffering. Whatever method you use to avoid them will determine the extent of your suffering. This could be through food, cigarettes, pornography, sex, disconnection, or leading a small life.
The solution is to allow yourself to feel your emotions more deeply. Here are five ways to do this:
1) Identify the specific feeling you are experiencing. 2) Observe the feeling objectively from a higher perspective. 3) Allow the feeling to persist without distraction. 4) Evaluate how well you are regulating your emotions and how much discomfort you are willing to endure in order to better understand yourself. 5) Seek assistance in processing your emotions, such as coaching, meditation, or breathing exercises.
If you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
or schedule a Figure sh*t out together session and feel 50% better quickly and see if you want to work together.
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Hello friends,My dad recently passed away, and I had to figure out a lot of shit quickly. Next line so of course and Dr. Nikki fashion I have the five steps of how to handle when somebody close to you dies. 1) Be compassionate with yourself and whatever decisions you made. 2) Break everything you need to do down into very tiny steps. 3)Don’t give up on an even tiny morning routine. 4) Let people help you. 5) Don’t fight with reality and allow yourself to have lots of feelings. You can handle hard feelings! I love you all Xo Nikki--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drnikkineretin/message
Hello Friends,
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my goals and dreams. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
ACIM lesson 37: My Holiness blesses the world
I believe it’s my loving responsibility to share what I know about relationships and closeness, everything I've learned in this world. I believe that everything is as sacred as I am, and vice versa. My true purpose in life is to spread light and knowledge, so that we may all grow together. I am like a rolling snowball, collecting valuable crystals along the way and sharing them with the world. I am like the sun, leaking photons of light to everyone and everything I come into contact with.
The 5 Tenets of Advanced Possibility Enlightenment:
Tenet 1: Sufficiency and Abundance
The foundation of Advanced Possibility Enlightenment lies in the belief that there is enough for everyone. By embracing the state of sufficiency, we recognize that scarcity is not the reality, and that abundance can exist in all aspects of life. This mindset allows us to approach challenges and opportunities with a sense of optimism and openness.
Tenet 2: Curiosity and Understanding
In order to foster deeper connections and promote growth, we must approach each other with a curious and open mind. Instead of judging or assuming, we strive to understand the reasons behind people's actions. By seeking to comprehend different perspectives, we can bridge divides and create a more compassionate and inclusive society.
Tenet 3: Embracing Possibilities
Advanced Possibility Enlightenment encourages us to explore all possibilities rather than settling for the easy or obvious choices. By fostering a mindset of creativity and curiosity, we can uncover innovative paths and solutions that may have otherwise been overlooked. This tenet encourages us to embrace alternative directions, allowing for flexibility and resilience in the face of change.
Tenet 4: Responsibility and Empowerment
Rather than succumbing to the circumstances and becoming victims, Advanced Possibility Enlightenment urges us to take responsibility for our own well-being. It empowers us to be proactive in shaping our lives, making conscious choices, and taking actions that align with our values and goals. By assuming ownership of our circumstances, we can cultivate a sense of agency and control, leading to personal growth and fulfillment.
Tenet 5: Setting the Tone
As individuals practicing Advanced Possibility Enlightenment, we strive to be the thermostat and not just the thermometer in our interactions and environments. This means that we take an active role in setting the temperature of the situation, rather than passively reacting to it. By maintaining a confident and positive attitude, we have the power to influence our surroundings, shape the narrative, and inspire others to follow suit.
In conclusion, Advanced Possibility Enlightenment is a transformative philosophy that invites us to embrace sufficiency, curiosity, creativity, responsibility, and leadership. By adopting these five tenets, we can cultivate a more abundant and harmonious world, where everyone has the opportunity to thrive.
If you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
or schedule a Figure sh*t out together session and feel 50% better quickly and see if you want to work together.
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xo Dr. Nikki
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Hello lovely friends,
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my goals and dreams. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
ACIM:36 “My holiness envelops everything I see”
Last lesson allows you to see yourself as an expression of GOD or holiness. Now you are asked to See the world through the eyes of source or the eyes of ego. Either divided or separate or together and whole.
Loving until it hurts without losing yourself:
1) Congratulate yourself on loving so fully and bask in the feeling that you have. Allow those feelings until you can even quantify what it feels like in your body. It is always great to be able to recall them when you want to feel alive and electric
2) Embrace your independence-keep your hobbies, interests and priorities going. Healthy relationships enhance your life and bring your authentic self.
3) Keep your friends and support system:
4) Communicate openly and honestly about what you want and your boundaries.
5) Practice self-care and don’t let it go by the wayside.
If you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
or schedule a Figure sh*t out together session and feel 50% better quickly and see if you want to work together.
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xo Dr. Nikki
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Lesson 36: Stop "should-ing" on yourself. Want or need.
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my goals and dreams. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
ACIM: lesson 35: my mind is part of god’s and I am very holy. If you envision yourself as a sacred and godlike being you will never feel separate and alone and will question those thoughts that keep us separate.
How to stop “Should-ing on yourself”
1) Identify when you say the word should in your vocabulary. Remember to look for other similar words. “ought to, have to etc.”
2) Decide why you want to do this action? See if it is truly your voice or the voice of family or society etc. Is this voice your own critical voice?
3) Identify the feeling that comes with it, guilt, shame, you will notice what kind of actions are propelled with those emotions. Notice prior results which didn’t get you to your “should” goals and identify what feeling were propelling these actions. Acting based on negative feelings usually produce the opposite results or a short-term result accompanies with a lot of resentment, burnout and buffering behavior.
4) See if you can find a compelling reason that speaks to you about why you “should” be doing this habit or action. Find a more motivating feeling to propel you into this action like, determination, confidents, curiosity and fascination.
5) Find some help to gain clarity, hire a coach, do some meditation or tapping, journal etc.
If you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
or schedule a Figure sh*t out together session and feel 50% better quickly and see if you want to work together.
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xo Dr. Nikki
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Hey Friends,
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my goals and dreams. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
ACIM lesson 34:
“I could see peace instead of this” Peace of mind is an internal matter. Has to begin with your own thoughts and extend outward. It is from your peace of mind that a peaceful perception of the world arises. Sometimes feelings of depression, anxiety or worry about a situation, person, or event, gently remind yourself that you can replace those feelings with peace.
5 steps to deciding what kind of time you are going to have,
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Reframe your expectations: Instead of focusing on past experiences, approach the songwriting camp with an open mind and consider it as a fresh opportunity to learn and grow as an artist. Embrace the challenge and see it as a chance to expand your creativity.
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Understand your own mind and your thought errors: Noone cool will be there, I wasn’t going to have a good time, there isn’t enough choice, the teachers aren’t as good etc. Do a thought download, identify the thought errors and either go deeper and string the thoughts along relating them to early thoughts and hurts or decide to create a ladder thought or a slightly better feeling and just as true thought.
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Set specific goals: Identify specific goals or skills you want to improve during the camp. By having clear objectives, you can focus your energy on achieving them and feel a sense of accomplishment, which can enhance your overall experience.
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Embrace the possibilities: Instead of assuming that the camp won't be fun, embrace the uncertainty and see it as an opportunity for growth. New experiences often bring unexpected joys, friendships, and insights that can make the camp not only enjoyable but also transformative.
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Do the work beforehand: Choose to approach the songwriting camp with a positive and optimistic mindset. Remind yourself that your mindset has the power to influence your experience and that a positive attitude can make any situation more enjoyable. Manage your mind and choose a just as real thought, run a tapping script.
If you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
or schedule a Figure sh*t out together session and feel 50% better quickly and see if you want to work together.
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xo Dr. Nikki
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Hello My Lovely Friends:
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my goals and dreams. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
Lesson 33 in a course in Miracles- “There is another way to look at the world”-recognize that you can shift your perception of the world both inner and outer.
Visited my mother and sat with a lovely 85-year-old woman who is still smoking. I am not dogmatic about what I believe people should do. I live my life as an example of what is possible about achieving health and well-being whether people will come along or not is their choice. She wanted to stop because she didn’t like it anymore and was having a hard time breathing but felt like she couldn’t because it was a habit and she had been doing it for so long. She couldn’t even imagine her identity without it. The idea of having to continue to do what you’ve always done.
Quitting for a smoker who has been smoking for 65 years:
1) Compelling why? You will have to come up with your own very important reason why you would like to quit that means so much to you that you are willing to continue to try until you achieve your goal.
2) Consult your future self: Ask your future self what they would like to see for you in the future.
3) Plan in advance: Write down everything you are going to smoke 24 hours in advance and stick with it.
4) Allow urges the way you would allow any feeling: Allow for an urge by fully feeling what it feels like in your body, visualizing size, shape, color, texture, etc. When you have allowed an urge without responding or answering it put a marble in a jar and watch them accumulate. Once you can allow for an urge you can do anything.
5) Get help if you need it: Consult a medical provider, coaching, tapping
If you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
or schedule a Figure sh*t out together session and feel 50% better quickly and see if you want to work together.
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xo Dr. Nikki
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Hello friends,
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
ACIM: lesson 32: I have invented the world I see.
When I join with the ego thought system, the world I invent is filled with struggle, victimhood and lack. I feel separate and alone. I feel like life is hard. Things don’t seem to go easy. It is filled with blame and guilt and tragedy. On the other hand, if I join with the Holy Spirit, the world looks very different.
Taking Charge of Your Mood: 5 Steps to Empower Yourself and take the power back to have the kind of day you want.
Have you ever noticed how one person's bad mood can affect an entire room? It's time to take control and not let anyone's negativity overpower the positivity around you. With these 5 simple steps, you can ensure that no one person's bad mood ruins the collective good vibes. Let's dive in!
- Understand what you are thinking.
You can’t really change anything when you don’t know what you are thinking. So if someone is in a bad mood and then you end up in a bad mood than something might need a re-evaluation! Consider doing a thought download or at least digging for the one dominant thought
- Decide what you might want to think on purpose:
Practice using slightly better thoughts and possibly move up the thought ladder.
- Practice Active Listening and Empathy:
When someone is in a bad mood, make an effort to understand their feelings without getting sucked into their negativity. Practice active listening and empathy, acknowledging their emotions while maintaining your own emotional boundaries. By staying emotionally grounded, you prevent their mood from affecting yours.
- Lead by Example:
Be able to manage your own mind and decide your mood if you want to. If you are a ticking time bomb waiting to explode we can’t expect others to change their mood to make us happy.
- Be ready to handle any feelings:
Remember feelings are sensations in your body and they won’t kill you. Allow yourself to have them and feel them and allow that for others.
Conclusion:
Remember, you hold the power to control your own emotions and influence the emotional atmosphere around you. By following these 5 steps, you can empower yourself ensuring that no one person's bad mood overshadows the collective good mood.
If you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
or schedule a Figure sh*t out together session and feel 50% better quickly and see if you want to work together.
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xo Dr. Nikki
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Hello Friends,
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become
A Course In Miracles Lesson 31: I am not the victim of the world I see:
Being a victim is usually replacing self-love with self-pity. These are just crumbs of what you deserve as a human.
The Steps to Become a Person Who is an Amazon Best Seller:
1) Became someone who could write a book in two weeks even when you don’t believe it is perfect;
2) Become someone who will come up with a list of people that will support you even when you think you don’t have many people,
3) Become someone that will ask them for help even if you don’t believe that all circumstances are perfect just because they know you and the trustworthy person you are
4) Come up with a plan that will start a few days before to remind everyone even if you believe that you are too much.
5) Be willing to continue until you hit your goal or get the lessons you need even in the face of hard feelings and possibly even welcome them as old friends trying to protect you.
Use these steps to become the person who accomplishes big goals.
f you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
or schedule a Figure sh*t out together session and feel 50% better quickly and see if you want to work together.
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xo
Dr. Nikki
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Hello Joy Seekers,
Commitment: : From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become
ACIM: lesson 30 God is in everything I see because God is in my mind
It is important to recognize that everyone has their own struggles and faults, and by forgiving them and seeing them as valuable individuals, we can also learn to do the same for ourselves. As a healthcare provider, I sometimes find it challenging to connect with patients who may have difficult medical histories or complex needs. However, when I choose to approach them with love, openness, and a willingness to listen, I am better able to provide them with the care and healing they need.
5 Steps to Not Betray Yourself While Still having Integrity:
1) Reflect on your values and aspirations to gain clarity on what's important to you.
2) Understand your wants and desires by consistently asking yourself what you want and being honest with yourself.
3) Remind yourself to value and respect yourself, regardless of others' expectations. Use techniques like tapping or journaling to support yourself.
4) Identify and allow yourself to experience all emotions and learn how to handle them.
5) Regardless of the outcome, choose to view every experience as either a success or lesson.
Remember, you are incredible just the way you are. Take a structured approach, focus on details, and promote a stable environment to achieve your goals with integrity. Trust yourself and offer practical solutions to any concerns. With attention to detail and patience, you can maintain harmony and dependability in your actions and thoughts.
f you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
or schedule a Figure sh*t out together session and feel 50% better quickly and see if you want to work together.
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xo
Dr. Nikki
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Hey Joy-Seekers,
I've been working in a new fishing village on the Bering Sea and the connectivity is poor but my connectivity with the folks in the village is better than ever!
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become
ACIM Lesson 29 “God is in everything I See”
There is a oneness, a purpose of the universe. Nothing is as it appears. With this idea of oneness, you can look on all things with love, appreciation and open-mindedness.
f you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
or schedule a Figure sh*t out together session and feel 50% better quickly and see if you want to work together.
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Dr. Nikki
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Hello Big Life Seekers,
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become
ACIM 28 Above all else I want to see things differently: (above all else means that you are willing)
If you approach things with an open mind, you can see them in a new light. Instead of defining them by past experiences, try to withdraw your own ideas and see the beauty and value that they hold. There is something special waiting to be discovered, full of happiness and hope. Beneath all of our preconceived notions lies the true purpose that the universe shares.
How to get anything done: Wrote a book in two weeks, feels hard to sit down and record a podcast
1)Do/Act: When embarking on new or significant endeavors, it is common to experience negative or doubtful emotions. However, it is important to make a commitment to proceed with the task regardless.
2) Feelings: Work on the feelings related to doing a new task.
3) Get ready to do B- work.
4) Schedule: Set up a very detailed schedule/obey your calendar. If it feels too overwhelming make the tasks smaller and spread out. All-or-nothing thinking will be too much and stop us from doing anything. Stop spending your whole day putting out fires. Celebrate every success.
5) Support: Find people to do it with you
f you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
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Dr. Nikki
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Hello Big Life Seekers,
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become
A Course In Miracles lesson 27: “Above all else I want to see” Seeing past the distress towards the light, seeing past all of our false illusions. Tired of being depressed, tired of holding resentments over petty issues.
It’s important to understand how and why things are going well instead of assuming it’s just luck. As if you tripped over the good feeling and can never get it back again. It is our brain that decides whether something is good or bad. I was in the car the other day driving to help my friend pick up her daughter and we were stuck in traffic.
1) I Never question my value as a human
a) High five myself
b) Tapping for self-love
c) Empathy with my younger self and remember that I was always good.
2) Go back to the young child that feels bad:
a) Travel back with present-day confident and older self, and all of the people around me and remind the little girl that she is good, deserving of love and respect, and that everything will be ok
3) Handle and allow feelings
a) When emotions arise, try to observe them from an outside perspective and take note of their characteristics such as color, shape, size, and physical sensations like temperature and location in the body. Allow the feelings to happen without judgment.
b) It’s important to keep in mind that experiencing emotions doesn't necessarily mean that something has gone wrong.
c) Keep in mind that our emotions are connected to your thought, over which we have some level of control.
4) Remember that thoughts are fleeting and malleable
a) Find a better feeling or ladder thought
b) Know what your thoughts are
c) Do a thought download
5) Have Fun with our thinking
a) Instead of getting upset, try to be curious about the thoughts your brain is offering. Remember that these thoughts will come and go, but being hard on ourselves will only make the suffering worse.
b) Find the silver lining or whatever is amusing about what you are thinking.
Check out my new book: Trouble Talking with your Teens?
You'll quickly figure out how to stay close and connected to your teens.
If you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
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Dr. Nikki
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Hey Big Life Seekers,
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give upon my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world ismine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making itjust right. That I was born worthy andloveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just thejourney to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or whoI will become
A Course in Miracles: lesson 26: “My attack thoughts are attacking my invulnerability” If I perceivevulnerability that is an attack on myself. That I am separate from my truenature and my true abilities. Attack thoughts will be projected you will fearattack. Makes you vulnerable in your own mind. You always attack yourself first, which weakens you in your own eyes. You’ve attacked your perception of yourself and you can no longer believe in yourself.
Steps to figuring out: What is the lesson here? What am I supposed to learn?Step 1) Consider both the worst-case and best-case scenarios equally.
Step 2) Reflect on what you can learn from the situation and what the lesson is.
Step 3) Take the time to deal with any negative thoughts that arise and try to focuson more positive ones. You can try journaling, tapping, or reaching out to mefor guidance.
Step 4) Come up with a plan to fix the situation, either through imagination oraction.
Step 5) Rinse and Repeat.
Check out my new book: Trouble Talking with your Teens?
You'll quickly figure out how to stay close and connected to your teens.
If you want to unfck your mind and figure sht out so you can live the passionate life of your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
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Hey Big Life Seekers,
Happy Mother's Day! Well, it's a week later but we can celebrate always.
Commitment:From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give upon my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world ismine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making itjust right. That I was born worthy andloveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just thejourney to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or whoI will become
ACIM 25 “I do not know what anything is for” If you associate every aspect of your life with your ego and societal expectations, it renders everything meaningless. However, by relinquishing the significance of certain things, you create space to discover their true purpose, your genuine wants, desires, and goals.To achieve your desired outcome, it's important to communicate effectively. Follow these steps:
Step 1) Take note of your initial response and save it for later.
Step 2) Take a moment to ground yourself and remain calm.
Step 3) Determine what result you'd like to see and identify any thoughts or emotions that may support that outcome.
Step 4) Respond with a thought that aligns with your desired result.
Step 5) Rinse and repeat.
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Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my dreams and goals. I choose to rememberalways that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone infiguring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whateverbrought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self andnot the sum total of who I am or who I will become/
A course in miracles lesson 24: “I do not perceive my own best interests”.- keep and open mind and be teachable.:
How to stay fully present:
1) Staying fully present in your life and not checkingout early. (No control of our childhood, or what feels unbearable.
2) Try not to buffer or numb your way through it.
3) Check into your feelings about what is going on:unbearable angst, fear etc.
4) Find the thought that is driving the feeling: Ican’t wait to get out of here, only one month left.
5) Consider a better feeling thought: I can do hardthings, when I stay fully I can notice when I am not doing as well as I should
6) Check in again with your feelings
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Hey Big Life Seekers,
Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, tonever give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the wholeworld is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out andmaking it just right. That I was bornworthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place isjust the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who Iam or who I will become
ACIM lesson 23: I can escape from the world I see by giving up attack thoughts
-the world I see is coming from my thoughts and I am the image maker/projector (eachof your perceptions of external reality is a pictoral representation of attackthoughts). Barrier to love closeness and connection. Creator only creates as themselves. Friends come in pain we don’t identify with the pain but are guided by the love of thefriend and give them the space to experience it and work through it. Trust their strength in figuring it out.
Knowing your compelling why and how it will change your life:
1) Choose something that you would like to work onbut feel frustrated about
2) Ask yourself why do I want to do this (be honestwith yourself)
3) Check in with your feelings and see what itbrings up-(excitement with a little fear, a lot of fear, indifference,determination, guilt, humiliation)
4) If the feeling is a negative one continue to askyourself why (sometimes you can ask future self if that is something they wouldlike to see happen.
5) Reassess if that goal or habit has to be paid attention to and havecompassion with yourself.
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Hey Joy Seekers,
Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, tonever give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the wholeworld is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out andmaking it just right. That I was bornworthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place isjust the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who Iam or who I will become
ACIM lesson 22
"What I see is a form of vengeance"
- Today’s idea accurately describes the way anyonewho holds attack thoughts in his mind must see the world. ²Having projected hisanger onto the world, he sees vengeance about to strike at him. ³His own attackis thus perceived as self defense. ⁴This becomes an increasinglyvicious circle until he is willing to change how he sees. ⁵Otherwise,thoughts of attack and counter-attack will preoccupy him and people his entireworld.
4 steps to stop people pleasing-
1) Awareness: Curiously and compassionately startwatching what you are doing (start building a different relationship withyourself.
2) Thought swapping: Find a believable thought, I’msafe to help your nervous system down. Know that they are survival thoughts
3) Curiousity what you want them to think aboutyou, or what are you trying to avoid feeling about yourself. Underneath peoplepleasing is some kind of reward
4) Pick a new intentional thought to practice in responseto what you want to feel so you can feel that way. I am a good friend in many wayseven if I don’t want to go to the show.
5) Rinse and repeat until it becomes your default method.
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Resilient Obstacle Over-comers,
Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, tonever give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the wholeworld is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out andmaking it just right. That I was bornworthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place isjust the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who Iam or who I will become
A Course in Miracles lesson 21: "I am determined to see things differently?
Here we are looking to not only see but consider the idea of seeing differently.
Say "Yes" to Joy and a big life!
No becomes a dominant voice in our heads acts like a diseaseshutting down our possibilities.
5 steps to making "Yes" the default setting for Joy, happiness and a big life!
1) Awareness: be aware if your first inclination is a “No”.usually that is put in place to protect us from being taken advantage of us or tokeep us in a dominant position so that we don’t feel like we are loosingcontrol.
2) Identify: the underlying thought that is causingus to say no and see if it truly related to the situation. Do thought downloadsto see if you can “mine” some other dominant thoughts.
3) Practice: saying Yes or even yes and in abrainstorming situation.
4) ReEvaluate: what comes up when saying these wordsand Identify the thoughts and feelings that come up.
5) Enroll Help if Necessary: Get some help in there with tapping on negativethoughts or first responses, do thought dumps or downloads, phone a friend, getsome coaching.
6) Rinse and repeat until that becomes the default.
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Hey Resilient Obstacle Overcomers,
Today we are talking about Figuring Sht Out for everyone who is beating themselves up for not having already figured Sht Out. Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, tonever give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the wholeworld is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out andmaking it just right. That I was bornworthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place isjust the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who Iam or who I will become
ACIM lesson 20
“I am determined to see”
Being determined means that you are able from a very positiveplace to continue to try.
Who am I talking to.
Figuring shit out related to the idea that I should have alreadyfigured it out. Than staying around criticizingthe fact that I hadn’t figured it out and beating yourself up for not having doneit and being upset at yourself which addto the suffering. Happens at all agesand stages. There is no Particular thing that should have been figured out andchange is inevitable no matter what, fighting with the reality of thesituation will make you lose 100% of the time.
5 steps to move forward even while beating yourself up for not already figuring it all out!
Decide nothing is wrong: Where there is no problem don’t createit.
Be curious about your thoughts and where they originally comefrom. Programming, society, family of origin or oppression. Don't get caught up in the blame game or who perpetrated or why it happened just be curious and understand that our pre-programmed ideas about this is not a true representation of reality.
Be compassionate with yourself about where you feel you need to dig deeper.
Change the discussion with yourself from should be doingsomething to figuring it out, Great that your trying something new or you are open to the idea.
Set up your life so that you are on a path of self discoveryTapping, meditation, coaching, therapy,
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Hey Joy Seekers,
When You believe someone is mad at you based on faulty evidence!
Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, tonever give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the wholeworld is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out andmaking it just right. That I was bornworthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place isjust the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who Iam or who I will become
ACIM lesson 19: I am not alone in experiencing the effectsof my thoughts.
Idea that anything that is private now is a fabrication andillusion. We are all of one mind and let go the thoughts of separation and isolation. Minds are joined. One more baby step towards my release fromlimitation.
How to deal with your thoughts that people are mad at you if they don't respond to your text.
1) Decide: that you are going to choose a reason that acutuallycould be just as true as the one that you are believing or thinking: ie: they have a lot going on, not in the mood to talk or depressed, forgot to hit send, driving or working, in social situations.
2)Check in: ask if everything is ok? If you get really gutsy you might ask if theyare upset with you but don’t freak out when they have no idea what you are talking about. If they are upset hopefully theywill tell you and you have the possibility to make it right or apologize ifneed be.
3) Be Curious: as to why you are having the thoughts that make you believe that they are upset because they hadn’t answered. When in doubt real curiosity is always useful. Everything is an opportunity to learn something new.
4) Compassion: be compassionate to your self in rememberingthat their upset or lack of response is not the sum total of who you are as aperson or your connection in the world. You are loveable and worthy.
5) Opportunity: Take the opportunity to use those feelings andwork on those placed in your life where you feel unloveable, alone or easilyforgotten. Journal, EFT tapping, call a friend, do something fun or helpful to others. start a gratitude list, notice the benignrealities around you.
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Hey Figuring Shit Outers,
You are going to love more and it's a win/win
5 steps to loving more for your own benefit:
1) Decide that you are going to lovemore-
2) Notice the feelings that get in theway
3) Imagine yourself as a young person,or the other person as a young person. If difficult imagination how innocent a puppy is etc.
4) Connect: engage in kind actsthroughout the day. Sweet conversation, compliment, active listening,
5) Compassion: be compassionate withyourself or others if you have struggles loving more. We have been programmed for protections andoften loving others fully wasn’t safe.
Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, tonever give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the wholeworld is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out andmaking it just right. That I was bornworthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place isjust the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who Iam or who I will become.
Lesson 18 a course in miracles:
“I am not alone in experiencing the effects of my seeing”
The idea for today is another step-in learning that thethoughts which give rise to what you see are never neutral or unimportant. Italso emphasizes the idea that minds are joined and if there is a falseperception about something and reinforced by someone else we hold onto the same. It’s colluding with someones pain or strugglescould validate then and sometimes reinforce it.
Changing how I experience something or someone is an act of convictionand a determination to place my attention on peace rather than on conflict. If I find this difficult, it is only because Istill have an interest in experiencing the conflict. When the interest fades, so too will the conflict.
I am not alone in experiencing the effects of how I see_____.
⁴I am not alone in experiencing the effects of my seeing.
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Hey Launching Joy Seekers,
Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
A Course in Miracles: Lesson 17: "I see no neutral things"
Because you have no neutral thoughts-there is always comparing and judging to previous ideas of how things should be. Because I can’t separate my thoughts and judgment I am still not always sure if the way I see the world is in alignment with my tru beliefs. Bring the past to the present. Our ideas are limited, can find everything tainted with limitations. We mis-create from fear. Notice when you make a misjudgment and what thoughts are not aligned with your real wants or beliefs. Ask yourself is another way of seeing it? Little steps toward freedom of really deciding what to think on purpose.
How to decide not to make something a problem:
1) Identify the negative patterned thought you are having about this event? You know if it’s a chronic recording or belief because if will keep coming back to you and dominate your thinking and create a feeling of unease. Some examples are: “They don’t love me enough or I am not important enough” You will be looking for evidence or rehearsing the perceived hurt over and over again.
2) Identify the feeling behind it: It will cause a sensation in your body: loneliness, anger victimization etc. Allow yourself to feel it fully, name it and identify all the sensations. What better feeling would you rather have and pick a thought that might give you that feeling. “Everybody is doing the best they can to keep themselves above water”
3) Decide to not make it a problem: Is there any other way you can look at it? Sometimes it is just as simple as deciding that there is no problem there.
4) Take responsibility for the solution rather than hoping that people will read your mind about what you want. What could you have done differently in order to make your desires or wishes known.
5) Opportunity to grow: Use feelings and repetitive thoughts that come up as opportunities to work on unresolved hurts and emotions that will continue to appear to be worked on.
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Hey Launching Joy Seekers,
Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
Lesson 16 a course in Miracles.
“I have no neutral thoughts”
Everything you see is the result of your thoughts. There is no exception to this fact. Thoughts are not big or little; powerful or weak. They are merely true or false.
A few times a day scan your thoughts and say:
This thought about _________ is not a neutral thought.
When you are irritated say.
⁶This thought about ____________ is not a neutral thought, because I have no neutral thoughts.
There is no throw away thought and if you believe it is meaningless then you lose the opportunity to see how it’s affecting you or not.
Every thought brings me peace or love, war or conflict.
I struggled sleeping the other night and figured out how not to be freaked out and decrease the sleeplessness.
When sleep doesn’t go as planned this is a start to figuring out how not to increase the anxiety.
1) Try not to freak out nothing has gone wrong, there is no certainty that you will be tired during the day or have a bad day.
2) Try to stay relaxed and use your awake time as a time to meditate, deep relaxation breathing or tapping. Even just relaxing will give your body the rest it needs to rejuvenate and you could even grow from it.
3) Don’t start watching TV or grab your phone.
The blue light emitted by your cell phone screen restrains the production of melatonin, the hormone that controls your sleep-wake cycle (aka circadian rhythm)(could take some melatonin)
4) Wake up at your normal time and do your normal morning routine to set your day up for success
5) Watch the critical self-talk about how you are going to be during the day and what the day will be like.
6) You can take your day a little slower and really stay present without rushing around.
7) Envision how well you are going to sleep the next night rather than worry if you will have another sleepless night.
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Hello Joy-Seekers,
Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
ACIM lesson 15-“My thoughts are images that I have made” the thoughts we have creates our visual perceptions and gets implanted in our brains as the images we see. Inner thoughts appear as outer images in order to validate the thoughts we are thinking made to look on error and not see past it.” Part of what we must begin to learn is to look past the bodily level, to begin to realize that what our eyes are showing us is not necessarily the truth. Our eyes are showing us only the errors of our own minds. Edges of light something there to be seen beyond the physical.
End racism because it is contradictory to my vision of society and not on behalf on other people.
1) Racism happens don’t go quiet:
a) Notice it
b) Name it
c) Interrupt it
d) Describe it
e) Make space for the person perpetrating to apologize without cancel
2) Meet People
a) Organize your life to meet people from different backgrounds
b) Give up the familiar, be uncomfortable
c) Join or develop projects and activities that bring you in contact with people of different backgrounds.
3) Engagement
a) Relationship is not a helping relationship just a connected friendship good for both
b) Communication not quizversation
c) Be prepared to stop talking and listen
4) Interrupt Domination
a) Don’t assume to know everything
b) Don’t have all the answers and solutions
c) Not be the one in charge
d) Not be the one to give directions
e) Not be the one to go first
f) Not have to be right.
5) Form Long Term Relationships
a) Aim for long term relationships
b) Be prepared for differences in lifestyle, value, beliefs etc
c) Stay in the face of discomfort
d) Find shared interest
6) Do not expect People of color to service us
a) Take care of you
b) Reassure you
c) Remind us that we are good
d) Do things for you
7) Mind your manners
a) Get names, pronunciations, and confusion about faces correct.
b) Don’t tell them about your other pgm friends who you got separated from, nanny or experience in someones culture
8) Make Mistakes
a) Acknowledge the mistake and clean it up
b) Ask what would be needed to repair
c) Resist the urge to explain or downplay the significance
9) Careful of invisibility where we’ve discounted a group
a) Notice when they are present
b) Make space for people to speak
c) Don’t walk over as if they are not there.
d) Interrupt patterns of racism-notice it, name it interrupt it. Explain what the racism is and support the person to repair the mistake rather than cancel. And back to square 1
10) Practice, practice, practice compassionately.
If you are not actively engaged in ending it you are complicit in it.
We Got This!
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Hey Friends,
Commitments: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
ACIM less 14: "God didnt create a meaningless world". This is the where we continue to give up our beliefs about the world as an unsafe place full of horrors and leave open the opportunity to create a new reality.
8 steps to staying relaxed with anticipated hardships:
1) Entertain the possibility that it might be ok or even easy. The truth is you don’t know if it is going to be hard or not. Give equal air time to the possibility that it is going to be ok.
2) Check in with the future feeling that you are trying to avoid by making the assumption about how hard something is and then allow the feelings. Though the processes you’ve learned before. Know you can handle any feeling
3) Take the situation one step at a time and try not manage a million things at once to avoid confusion paralysis
4) Plan or rehearse what you are going to do if the situation gets hard.
5) Prepare techniques to help you make it through a hard situation and get things done. Breathing exercises, positive intelligence exercises.
6) Make sure that you have your own caretaking routine in place before the situation happens.
7) See if you can enroll an ally to help you or be with you while you do hard things.
8) Is there any opportunity to have more fun with the possible hard situation. Infuse some fun or notice something funny about anything.
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Podcast 14: human doing vs human being
ACIM lesson 13 “a meaningless world engenders fear”
We have spent our whole lives ascribing meaning to anything and if we don’t know we feel fearful and ignorant. We are learing to step back and not give meaning to everything.
Story about Lili and upset around not doing or being smart enough.
But being a human being doesn’t mean that they don’t accomplish anything. To the contrary, human beings can be very successful, but unlike human doings, they can experience meaning, satisfaction, and joy in their achievements because they aren’t driven by need, but rather by their values and life priorities. In other words, human beings’ achievement efforts are an affirming expression of who they are. So, not only can human beings be successful, but just as importantly, they can be happy:
1) Change what you consider the level of success. Is it gaged on how much joy and peace you feel and how you treat other people vs how much you achieve. Expend energy and gain success at pursuing what you love with satisfaction from the pursuit of creative adventures and helping others.
2) Accept your humanity: no one is perfect: failure loses its power to harm your self esteem. No threat of self esteem because there is no perfectionism. You cannot fail at being.
3) Less doing and more being! Reduce your to do list.
4) Go with the flow and break out of rigidity
5) Have more fun-stop being so serious
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Hey Hey Joy Seekers,
The Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
a course in miracles lesson 12: I am upset because I see a meaningless world.
5 steps for managing overwhelm and getting Sh*t done.
1) Visualizeyourself on the other side and expect that you might have feelings along the way but know that your get there anyway. Don’t assume that the feelings will all be hard or bad.
2) Acceptancethat this is your journey and path and nothing has gone wrong. There is possibly a gift and opportunity to learn on the other side.
3) Allow for feelings and process them. Try not to use things that will buffer away the feelings because eventually you will have to heal from the fresh hurt and still have to deal with the feelings in the future.
4) NurtureYourself by putting things in place to help cope, journal, meditate every morning, find a yoga class, go for a run.
5) Focus attention on one thing at a time and not decide how hard things are going to be that haven’t happened.
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Hello Joy Seekers,
Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become
ACIM: lesson 11: My meaningless thoughts are showing me a meaningless world: first idea in correction reversal of the thinking of the world. It seems as if the world determines what you perceive. Today’s idea introduces the concept of your thoughts determine the world you see. The key to forgiveness and all change lie in it.
Begin with your eyes closed and repeat the idea slowly to yourself. Open your eyes and look around and say the theme of the day. Practice casually for a minute 3-5 times a day.
As I think of my thoughts as meaningless and as showing me a meaningless world, I realize that what I used to base every perception I have on, is an ego that wants to keep me focused in the ‘physical reality’ or dream state, where I am trapped into a roller coaster of emotions and events that leave me exhausted, desperate, confused, and frustrated. This is not a life. This is an absurd existence.
Capitalism is based on trying to sell us things that will make us feel better and there is no benefit to capitalism for us to be able to create our reality without some external lubricant.
7 steps to manifesting your desires.
1) Know your desire and put it out to the universe. This could just you thinking of it or telling someone else about it. Remember to be careful who you share this with if their energy is not one who believes in manifestation or can be easily discouraged.
Generally the manifestions that can be set in motion are for the great good either for yourself, someone else or the world.
2) Align your vibration for this manifestation to the world through relaxed meditation, journaling, kind acts to yourself and others etc.
3) Try not to give it a time limitation. if you don’t attach yourself to a time limitation your desires will generally come more quickly. When we decide there is a time constraint usually we act out of urgency, desperation and it makes us act and look weird changing our vibration and what we attract or what we can see.
4) Work on your early disappointments and discouragement that can make us believe that our desires are out of reach. Ask yourself: What is your earliest memory about being discouraged or disappointed. Take your adult self back and keep that little one company with your present self and remind her that she got here today and that everything was going to be ok.
5) If the manifestation didn't appear in the way we envision than find the lesson, gift or opportunity that we are supposed to learn in the process.
6) Make the journey as fun and meaningful as possible.
7) Rinse and repeat
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Hello Big Lifers,
The Commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.A course in Miracles: “my thoughts do not mean anything”
The first step is to loosen our identification with our thoughts because as long as we believe that our thoughts are our identity, we will resist changing them. We interpret changing our ideas as equivalent to death, because it means the loss of what we believe to be our identity. It is not surprising that there is great resistance to change.
It may seem personally insulting to tell ourselves all through the day, “My thoughts do not mean anything,” but in fact it is an important step in the process of freeing our minds from all false ideas
The thought for today is so valuable when we think about issues of unworthiness. All of those thoughts that we’ve collected over our lifetime mean nothing and all of those thoughts that tell us that we are unworthy — we don’t look good enough, we didn’t say the right thing, we didn’t do the right thing, we didn’t do it good enough, we shouldn’t have behaved that way. Recognizing these thoughts mean nothing leaves us with a clean slate
Live your life as if you have one year to live:
Ask yourself these Questions:
1) If I had a year to live what would I stop doing? worrying what people thought about me, parts of my job that aren’t in alignment with what I believe are for the greater good of my patients.
Doubting whether I was enough.
2)What would I start doing? incorporating more of my alternative thinking
3)What would I no longer care about? other peoples opinions of me. Whether I knew enough
4) What would I care about more?
5) why do my thoughts, feelings and actions change if I give myself a year to live.
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Hello Joy Seekers!
The commitment:
I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
Day 9: A Course in Miracles.
"I see nothing as it is now"
Look around the room and say: "I do not see this (thing, person, place) as it is now"
There is a leap of faith to practise without even complete understanding and trust that all of what we see is influenced by our past.
1) Notice that your response might be more intense than the actual situation and use it as a window to realizing it is a triggered, trauma response. Nothing has gone wrong this is just your brain trying to protect you from a possible recurrence of the old hurtful situation.
2) Thank your brain for trying to protect you and be extremely compassion on yourself rather than internally recreate the harsh situations that got you to that feeling to begin with.
3) Allow the feeling to wash over you and try not to react. When we start reacting from the hurtful feelings we start to do things that won’t serve us in the future ie get mad, drink or eat more than we should, overly apologize, remove ourselves from a social situation etc. This could be very quick or take a while but with more practice easier hurts and triggers will move through you quickly.
4) Consider journaling or talking to a friend that knows how to listen without interruption or judgement.
5) Practice visualizing the situation and practice deciding what you want to feel and what thoughts you would need to reach for to feel it. How would you want to show up?
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Hey Joy Seekers,
Love starting with the commitment write it down and keep it on you.
I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
A Course In Miracles: Lesson 8: "My mind is pre-occupied with the past"
The one wholly true thought about the past is it isn't happening now and therefore an illusion.
4 time a day name each thought specifically: ie I seem to be thinking about (person, thing or emotion) and conclude with "but my mind is pre-occupied with the past)
I'm getting a divorce!! Just doing a little, shallow dive into the online dating scene and found myself on spiritual singles. Yes this is more my jam than e-harmony. I talk about joy and struggle of figuring out what you want and find someone who is also a want match. I am also hoping to have a radical divorce with more connection than is usually possible.
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Hello Friends,
Happy New Year, a few weeks later but we are going to keep the manifesting going.
Bonus Person Here:
The commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
A course in miracles lesson 7: "I see only the past"
It is the reason why: nothing you see means anything,
-you have given everything you see all the meaning,
-you don't understand everything you see
-never upset for the reason we think
-see something that isn't there.
Everything that we think and see and whatever we ascribe to it is influenced by our past and everything related. It is all up for interpretation and our thoughts are plastic and ever changing.
We are starting to think about manifesting. This is where we start to ask for what we desire with the understanding that whatever is the highest good will come to me. When we put it out there we are send out the vibrational energy to the universe and whatever frequency we put out sets the ball in motion for the possibility.
Write down:
My desires is to manifest...
How does it make you feel?...
Create your manifestation statement.
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Hey Lovelies,
Bonus Person Here:
The commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
A course in miracles lesson 6: I am upset because I see something that is not there.
Do a quick thought download 1-20 minutes and identify the small upsets and put them into the phrase ie: I am worried about ____ because I see something that isn't there. Don't decide whether something is more meaninful or not so that you can actually be subjective about what you worrying about and allow to take over your thinking.
You can do this for a minute 4 times a day.
We talk about indecision as being a stealer of dreams and often not in alignment with what we really want. Often we know what we want but convince ourselves that we should be feeling or doing something else and employing any method we can find to make it bearable and feel ok. Once you make a decision you will have alot of feelings which doesn't mean that anything has gone wrong. Often there will be hard feelings that come up to be worked on but again nothing has gone wrong. My life has forever changed and I am scared and excited but also know that I have all the tools I need to know that I am ok. I know you have that ability also.
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Hello My Lovelies,
Young Adult Commitment: (Or anyone who wants to explore the possibility of a big future)
I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
A Course in Miracles Lesson 5:
“I am never upset for the reason I think.”
This lessons keeps open the possibility that our upsets, which take up so much brain space, are usually not upsetting for the reasons we believe but rather an accumulation of the events from our early childhood, societal expectations and normal and even intergenerational trauma.
Repeat to yourself : I am not angry at _______for the reasons I think
I am not worried about _________for the reasone I think.
Do this for a minute 4-5 times a day after surveying upsets, minor and major.
My daughter safely got back from Peru after finding herself in the middle of a revolution and protests and now my son is ready to start his travelling adventure backpacking, hitch-hiking and working in Argentina. I took off after college to study Mandarin and Acupuncture and teaching English in Taiwan. All of these were very different type of life evolving travel experiences and definite possibilities for your next life step if interested and not looking to get a "real" job. All figure outable and as inexpensive or expensive as you would like. Remember the possibilities are endless especially when you are able to manage your thoughts and emotions.
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Hello Lovelies,
This is an exciting episode where we go through the Self Coaching Model which is a tool developed by Brooke Castillo my teacher at The Life Coach School which will change your life with its ease and insight.
Young adult commitiment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
We also go through lesson 4 in a Course in Miracles-This starts the process of knowing that your thoughts are changable and optional depending if you chose to continue to practise them or not.
"These thoughts do not mean anything. They are like the things I see in this room, on this street, from this window, in this place.
- Unlike the preceding ones, these exercises do not begin with the idea for the day. ²In these practice periods, begin with noting the thoughts that are crossing your mind for about a minute. ³Then apply the idea to them. ⁴If you are already aware of unhappy thoughts, use them as subjects for the idea. ⁵Do not, however, select only the thoughts you think are “bad.” ⁶You will find, if you train yourself to look at your thoughts, that they represent such a mixture that, in a sense, none of them can be called “good” or “bad.” ⁷This is why they do not mean anything.
Spend a minute a few times a day going through this exercise and try to suspend belief that you have related to the value you subscribe to each thought.
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Hello lovelies,
So Many things in todays episode.
Put the young adult commitment in a place where you can always keep it with you.
Young adult commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
Day 3 in a course in miracles: Spend a minute every hour with this concept "I do not understand anything I see:" Clear your mind of all past associations to see things exacxtly as they appear to you now and to realize how little you really understand about them. Open mind, unhampered by judgement.
I talk about the idea of "fast tedious" where you do the hard things quickly the moment you start obsessing and thinking about them and be willing to do B- work and then enjoy the dopamine hit for the accomplishment and the rest of your day.
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Hey Lovely People,
I am recording this from the Miami Airport with Covid but that is life and that was my circumstance. Here we talk about the circumstance being neutral meaning that it doesn't have any meaning until we have a thought about it. Even me having covid is completely neutral. There are so many thoughts that we could have and my present thought is "finally a moment to rest and talk to you all".
We start with the young adult commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without conditions.
We go through lesson 2 in a course in miracles. I have ascribed all the meaning to this ... in front of me. Try that on as a concept to mix your brain up.
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In this episode we talk about feelings and how they are a true vibration with a real scientifical vibration. When we get a handle on what they are and how they can't kill us we can actually allow them to happen and watch from a objective, birds eye view rather than being stuck in it's vortex with no way out. There are generally 4 ways to handle a feeling and three of them will make your life much harder, reacting responding and avoiding. The fourth way, allowing ,will set you free with the ability to handle any hard emotion without beating yourself up or hurting yourself and "allowing" you to keep moving forward talks anything you want. Bring the emotions on.
We start with the young adult commitment: I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without conditions.
We go through lesson 1 in a course in miracles. What is in front of us is not real. Try that on as a concept to mix your brain up.
If you want to unf*ck your mind and figure shit out so you can live the passionate life or your dreams without jumping off the roof contact me at: nikki@drnikkineretin.com
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Hey Gen S ers,
Its Dr. Nikki your bonus mama helping young adults ages 22-30 figure sh*t out before wanting to jump out of a window.
Did you know that you can decide to think something different and change your thoughts if they aren't serving you? It is the only thing we have control over and the one thing that will help us change our results to go after your big dreams and stay hopeful about the future. Get out of confusion and get unstuck while gaining the confidence to live your life on your terms.
Please keep the young adult commitment close by and repeat it every morning and night.
I joyfully promise, from this moment on, to never give up my dreams and goals. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without conditions.
xo
Nikki
P.S.
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Everyone saying your 20's is the best time of your life? Than why are you feeling like you want to jump off a cliff?
It is a confusing and stressful time where you aren't sure about many things, where are you going to live, you are you going to be with, what kind of work are you doing, how are you going to make enough money, what is going to happen to the world?
Well if your confused and overwhelmed this podcast is for you. I am figuring it out as well and have been for the past 58 years! Get ready to be able to handle any situation and move your life forwards.
xo
Dr. Nikki
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Hey Lovely People,
This will be the last in our series of Never Have I Ever with me and Dr. Angi of Mom and Teen Reel Talkers. If you like this content please feel free to subsribe to that podcast where we are almost through Season 2. We are all about the fun and the talking.
We are in episode 9 and 10 of never have I ever and it is the season finale. Thanks so much for coming on this journey with us towards more joy and better communication than you ever thought possible. It is so much fun to be together and have these great conversations and understanding. It is the first step to staying close and connected to stop repeating generational trauma and high risk actions.
If you want a big, fun life with less worry, overwhelm and anxiety so that you can be super-connected with your children and really keep then close and safe DM or contact us and see how I can help.
If you want to know more about what it would be like to work together, get in touch for a free consultation. I can help you have the worry free big joyous life that will really keep your family safe through stronger connections.
For a joyous life and more conversations:
Contact Nikki
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As We Go You Go!
xo
Dr. Nikki and Angi
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Hello Lovelies,
We are diving deep into episode 7 and 8 of Never Have I Ever and talking about all the things.
Here are some questions to start asking yourself:
When you have a big secret or get called out about something do you try to become invisible and stay small or do you own up to it and see if there is something you learn and friends that you remember are on your side?
Is there room for more than one friend or additions to the friend group? Does it dilute the friendship or add to the group dynamic?
Where have lies sounded better than your real life? What kind of lies or embellishments have you told in order to sound more important?
Have you quit anything because of disappointment or discouragement?
What expectations do you have around birthdays and holidays?
If you want a big, fun life with less worry, overwhelm and anxiety so that you can be super-connected with your children and really keep then close and safe DM or contact us and see how I can help.
If you want to know more about what it would be like to work together, get in touch for a free consultation. I can help you have the worry free big joyous life that will really keep your family safe through stronger connections.
For a joyous life and more conversations:
Contact Nikki
Contact Angi
As We Go You Go!
xo
Dr. Nikki and Angi
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Hello Moms and Daughters!
We are continuing our series of Never Have I Ever so you can have those fun and meaningful conversations without any pressure. You can save your family from future generational trauma by keeping your family close in a fun way.
Come along with us for the fun and dramatic adventures of Never Have I Ever episode 5 and 6 where we dive into the different family dynamics of our beloved peeps. So great to get a look into their true feelings wants and desires. How fun to know Ben a little bit better with episode 6.
Pull up a piece of couch, grab a cozy blanket a fun snack and watch episodes 5 and 6. Than listen to the podcast and start a conversation about all the things.
If you want a big, fun life with less worry, overwhelm and anxiety so that you can be super-connected with your children and really keep then close and safe DM or contact us and see how I can help.
If you want to know more about what it would be like to work together, get in touch for a free consultation. I can help you have the worry free big joyous life that will really keep your family safe through stronger connections.
For a joyous life and more conversations:
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As We Go You Go!
xo
Dr. Nikki and Angi
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Hey moms and daughters,
We are continuing with season 1 and hoping you are getting great ideas about how to talk to your teens in a fun and relaxed way. Even if they don't watch with you the show is so mun and insightful.
Here is a special series where we are going through the first season of Never Have I Ever to really open up the conversation using these beloved characters rather than talking directly about our own personal struggles. We found it to be a fun way to broach very difficult topics and get to understand your kids as well as yourself better. It is so fun and relaxed.
Dr. Nikki and Angi are having so much fun watching Never Have I Ever and this week we are talking about episodes three and 4.
There is so much going on here and so many great topics to talk about:
Are there times and places that you don't feel like enough or that you belong? We all feel that way at points and it becomes even more pronounces if you are from a community that is marginalized or not of the dominant or mainstream culture.
When did you feel like you had to give up on your authentic self in order to fit in?
If you want a big, fun life with less worry, overwhelm and anxiety so that you can be super-connected with your children and really keep then close and safe DM or contact us and see how I can help.
If you want to know more about what it would be like to work together, get in touch for a free consultation. I can help you have the worry free big joyous life that will really keep your family safe through stronger connections.
For a joyous life and more conversations:
Contact Nikki
Contact Angi
As We Go You Go!
xo
Dr. Nikki and Angi
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Hey all,
Here is the funnest new podcast that Angi Solley and I are doing to really get the ball rolling in communicating together. The idea is watch the first two episodes with your teen of Never Have I Ever, on Netflix, listen to the podcast where we have amazing conversations and coach the crap out of these beloved and struggling characters and then you apply it to your lives. You will be talking and sharing in no time.
Dr. Nikki and Angi have moved onto the really fun new teen dramedy, Never Have I Ever. We dive into episode 1 and 2 talking about these lovable and struggling characters, relating it to our own experiences. Developing important insights into our own feelings and our relationships and figuring out new ways to communicate.
If you want a big, fun life with less worry, overwhelm and anxiety so that you can be super-connected with your children and really keep then close and safe DM or contact me and see how I can help.
If you want to know more about what it would be like to work together, get in touch for a free consultation. I can help you have the worry free big joyous life that will really keep your family safe through stronger connections.
Moms Contact Nikki
Teens Contact Angi
As We Go You Go!
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Dr. Nikki and Angi
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Hello Lovelies,
Allowing Urges and not responding, reacting, white knuckling or giving into urges is the cornerstone to be able to overcome addictions or habits that don't give us results we want. If you ask your tomorow self how they would like their mind and body treated, the decisions we make would more likely be in line with how we envisino our future and how we would like to show up.
An Urge is a feeling that follow a well practised thought like "I deserve to have that drink because I had a hard day" or "One piece of cake won't hurt me" with the feeling that there is little control of the outcome:
Allow that feeling to be in your body fully, which means:
-Feel the feeling.
-Imagine the color and shape.
-What sound would it make?
-What would it say or tell you?
-Experience the sensation of having that drink or cake.
-What would you feel the next day, next week, month and year
-When you get through an urge without answering, praise yourself and put a marble in a jar.
This is your URGE JAR
When you hit 100 urges you can do and handle anything.
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Hello lovelies,
Ever feel like a victim in your own life. So easy to do even when we chose our situations. Well victim no more!
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Happiness is figuring out how to overcome obstacles on the journey towards your own goal. The happiness and joy is happening while on the journey towards the goal and not only when the goal is reached. The goal is the excuse to go through the journey and grow.
Happiness and joy are available now!
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Hello lovely parents,
As you know my daughter Lili was cast in a nationally touring musical
In this episode we discuss how fear of the unknown affects how we show up and our ability to go for our hopes and dreams no matter what they are.
We also continue to dive into how to be able to feel a feeling and not be scared and allow our children to also feel their feeling while staying present, not taking it on as your own and not deciding something went wrong. We are unable to control the emotions of other humans, even our children, but if we can allow them to have their emotions and still ask for what you need it is a lot easier and more fun to parent.
If you want to see Lili in the New Hit Musical, Hits, Please check out the tour and say hi for me. We are get to feel the joy for each of our children's successes.
Hits the Musical Touring Dates
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Join me for all of the news. Lili is making it to the big time and we get to share in each others joy. Please if you are in any of the cities where my daughter is performing please visit her and say hi. It is great to all boost each other.
Go to HITS the Musical website for the tour schedule.
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Hey Lovelies.
In this bonus episode we watch Ms. Congeniality, 2000, with Sandra Bullock and do a deep dive into sexism, what feminism is and toxic masculinity in the work place. Pull up a couch and a fun mock-tail and watch Ms. Congeniality. Listen to the podcast and discuss.
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Question 1:
How easy is it for you to make a choice like hart did about moving to do the Heimlich on the russion
1) I make choices easily and quickly
2) I obsess over them for a long time and don’t make them
3) I never make the choice and stay in indecision
How do you get out your anger like Hart did on the punching bag after getting her partner shot
1) Punch a punching bag
2) Punch a person
3) Keep it all in and hold a grudge
4) Blame yourself
5) Yell
Are we expected exactly following orders if you feel that there is something wrong with the ask?
1) I follow orders to the letter
2) I follow them sometimes depending if I want to and don’t tell anyone
What makes a woman feminine? What is feminine. Hart isn’t and never thought about.
1) Wearing nice clothing and wear a bathing suit
2) Be part of a pageant
3) Being nice and compliant
Can you be a feminist and still be in a beauty pageant?
What is the definition of beautiful? What do you need to do to be beautiful?
1) Lose weight
2) Wear makeup
3) Dress up
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Hey Beautiful Humans, Today we take a little detour from Gossip Girl to have some fun with Amy Schumer's "I Feel Pretty". Join us for the important conversation with the brilliant Author and Tic Tok influencer, Kathryn Ver Brugge, to discuss the intersection of Sexism and fat oppression and where it completely derails our hopes and dreams and even our health. The same night we podcasted I was fortunate enough to go to the book signing and reading of Mecca Sullivan's new book "Big Girl" which really highlighted the intersectionality of sexism, racism and fat oppression which has it's own flavor and differences. Mom's and daughters pull up a piece of the couch and watch "I Feel Pretty" and discuss. The more adept we are at understanding oppression and the way in which it affects all of us the better we will be able communicate. If you want a big, fun life with less worry, overwhelm and anxiety so that you can be super-connected with your children and really keep then close and safe DM or contact me and see how I can help. If you want to know more about what it would be like to work together, get in touch for a free consultation. I can help you have the worry free big joyous life that will really keep your family safe through stronger connections without yelling or fighting. Contact Nikki xo Nikki and Kathryn
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Hi all,
Let's really get to know your feelings and the fact that you can handle any of them. Joy and connection is available to you know.
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Just home from the fishing village in the Bering Strait and this time I actually was able to change my perspective and had a much easier and joyful time. I also was worried about a Bear as I was hiking in the tundra and how to negotiate. Didn't have to use bear spray and honestly didn't even come in contact with the bear.
In this episode we talk about how changing perspective can change your experience almost immediately. It can happen and happen quickly which is very hopeful.
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Hello lovelies,
We start with a positive parenting rep while listening to your breath.
Then we explore the ways to raise an independent and joyous children which is different than the ways in which we were taught. Through closeness and being there while your children attempt hard things, staying close with failures and fears your children will feel secure and safe enough to explore the world.
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Hello all,
We start with a great breathing exercise segmental breath. 8 breaths in sipped through the mouth and exhale through the nose. do that for 3-11 minutes to cleanse out the system.
We also talk about the idea of not giving into the idea of "not knowing" which sounds simple enough but leaves us feeling like we don't have the answers and feels discouraged and hopeless. Let us switch the word to "I'm figuring it out" which leaves the possibilities open.
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In this episode we go over Sitkari Breath which is a cooling and cleansing breath.
Breath in through your teeth and breath out through your nose.
We go into depth about victim behavior and how it will only give you crumbs of attention and some self pity but not the love and true attention you have been craving and did without when you were young. Let's give up the victim identity and go for real self love.
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Tic tok phenom and influencer and I talk about the recent women's we went on in order to fight for birthing bodies autonomy. It was a great discussion about ways in which to stay involved and the thought work that will help to not get burnt out of feel hopeless. We talk about the feeling of hope and whether it is helpful to really keeps you moving forward or the belief that you have no control over the results and become hopeless if it doesn't happen.
There are so many ways to get involved but remember that perfection is the enemy of progress or action.
This is a grass roots organization where you can donate your time or money for you local cause. Abortion funds
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Today we are doing Lion's Breath which is a breath of fire with your mouth open and tongue out.
it will help with: Do it initially for 1-3 minutes and increase to 11 minutes. If you are pregnant or menstruating just do long deep breathing with mouth open and tongue out.
- alleviate stress and anxiety
- improve sleep quality
- enhance mindfulness
- lower blood pressure
- boost lung capacity
- increase cognitive function
- lessen cigarette cravings
We talk about Roe V Wade and our ability to feel whatever the feelings are related to it and allow those feelings and possibly after decide if those feelings will propel you into action and show up in a way that you think is useful and productive for your own evolution or the evolution of others.
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One Year anniversary and episode 52!!! We have been together for a whole year and loving it.
This weeks breath is Cannon breath which is like breath of fire a rapid inhale and exhale that is powered by the naval center with an open O mouth breath. It helps to cleanse the blood and activate the parasympathetic system of relaxation.
Start with 1 minute and work your way up to 11.
I also explore the idea of Frozen needs, which are ways in which our needs that weren't met when we were young end up becoming frozen at that same age when it was cemented and we spend our time looking for external people to try to heal them. It makes us needy, angsty and often acting out of desperation. I have a frozen need to want to be picked first because I spent my childhood trying to be picked first by my mom and am testing everyone, including my daughter, to confirm that I will be picked first. Our frozen needs can never be solved by anything external to us and will make us act in often desperate and confusing ways.
1) identify a confusing frozen need with whatever thought that is motivating it: My daughter should want to be with me
2) Identify the feeling associated with that thought: regret
3) Notice what actions you want to take and decide if it will truly give you the result of feeling more loved and wanted: I wanted to continue to call my daughter and make her feel guilty.
4) take that opportunity to really feel the feelings and to explore the feelings related to the frozen needs.
Everything needs to be held up to the light of thought work.
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Today we continue with out 5th breath of the series. a new type of breath called Sitali Breath where you turn your tongue into a straw and breath in through the open straw and than breathe out through your nose.
This breath is cooling during the summer and calms down high anger and anxiety. Reach for it when you are really upset or angry with your teen or practice it daily to prepare for the onslaught of big feelings.
We also talk about our internal critical chatter that makes us feel like we are in fight or flight mode all the time and are always running away from the saber tooth tiger but can never escape from out own mind. That would make anyone anxious and burnt out.
two methods to stop the chatter:
1) Awareness noticing them compassionately and not resisting or reacting but allowing
2) Think a slightly better and true thought that you believe about yourself. Imagine what your good friends would say about you and your abilities and believe them. Imagine what you would say to a 4 year old when encouraging them.
I don't know is not an option.
If you do these two simple techniques and the breathing you will quiet those judgmental voices and be able to think more creatively from a place of curiosity and determination rather than fear.
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Hello Paren-teen and tween-ers
In this episode we do the 5th breath in our continued breath series called Breath of Fire. which is a fast equal and exhale, 2-3 breaths per second like a panting motion with your mouth closed. It is powered by the navel point.do it for 1-3 minutes at a time and as many times as you like. If you are pregnant or on your period just do long deep breathing.
Be on the look out for my new book which will come out after the summer and the 10 tenets to having fun:
There's a new podcast coming your way from the Teen TV Drama Mamas, Angi and Dr. Nikki, that will help you have more fun and connection with your teens while delving into the psyche of our most beloved badly behaved Teen TV characters starting with Gossip Girl.
Breath of fire has these positive effects.
· Releases toxins deposits from the lungs, mucous linings, blood vessels and other cells.
· Expands the lung capacity and increases strength.
· Strengthens the nervous system to resist stress.
· Increases physical endurance and prepares you to act effectively
· Adjusts the subtle psycho-electromagnetic field of the aura, so that the blood becomes energized.
· Reduces addictive impulses for drugs, smoking and bad foods.
· Increases oxygen delivery to the brain, facilitating a focused, intelligent and neutral state of mind.
· Boosts the immune system and may help prevent many diseases.
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In this episode we explore another breath pattern so you have enough resource available to call on when necessary. Practice and make it become your go to rather than holding your breath.
We talk about what it is like to ask either one of your children or their friends for rent. Decide your reasons you are asking and how to communicate it. Know your reasons and the why and decide if you like them. If you do then continue down that road. If no then pivot and check in again.
Alternate Nostril Breathing:
How to do it: in this pranayam, the breath is always relaxed, deep and full.
· Have a the left hand in Gyan Mudra
· Use the thumb of the right hand to close the right nostril and the index or ring finger, to close the left nostril (often called the U breathing).
· Close the right nostril and gently and fully inhale through the left nostril
· Then close the left nostril and fully exhale through the right nostril
· Then inhale through the right nostril, close it, exhale though the left
· Continue repeating alternating the nostrils
Benefits:
· Creates a whole brain functioning by balancing the right and left hemispheres
· Is both integrating and grounding
· Purifies the ida and the pingala nadis gently
· Creates a deep sense of well-being and harmony on the physical, mental and emotional levels.
· Can help with headaches, migraines and other stress related symptoms
Inhale left, exhale right makes you calm and integrates unwanted negative emotions and stress, excellent by itself before bed.
Inhale right, exhale left gives clarity and positive mood, helps us to focus on what is important.
Breathing through the LEFT is associated with:
· Ida - the nadi which ends at the left nostril
· Apana - the cleansing energy
· The Moon energy - cooling, receptive
· Calmness - Empathy
· Sensitivity - Synthesis
Breathing through the RIGHT nostril is associated with:
· Pingala, the nadi ending in the right nostril
· Prana - the nurturing energy
· The Sun energy - warming, projective
· Vigor - Concentration
· Alertness - Readiness for action
· Will power
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Back in Nome for this episode and the 21 hours of light is amazing. The ocean and Tundra has melted and the weather is warm.
We explore a new type of breath called "suspending the breath in and out" This breath will help keep control and regulate the nervous system. When the breath is mastered than you are on the road to mastering your life.
Breath Retention on Exhale
- Inhale deeply.
- Bring your attention to the clavicle and upper ribs. Lift the upper ribs slightly and fix them in place.
- Relax the soldiers, throat and face.
- Pull the chin in.
- Become still and calm.
- If you feel the urge to exhale, inhale a tiny bit instead.
Breath Retention on Exhale 1. Start with a complete exhale. 2. Pull the naval point back toward the spine. 3. Lift the lower chest and diaphragm. 4. Let the upper ribs relax and compress. 5. Do not bend the spine and ribs when exhaling completely -- this would interrupt the action of the diaphragm. 6. Pull the chin in. 7. Become still and calm. 8. If the muscles start a reflux to inhale, consciously exhale a little more. This can extend the length of suspension significantly without any strain or struggle.
We also discuss racism in the context of parenting and corporal punishment. Historically the harshness of the outside world gets duplicated at home in order to protect your family, especially boys, from devastating brutality outside of the home. Often this pre-traumatic stress doesn't actually protect from the institutional racism but rather keeps families disconnected and angry which might create more vulnerability when confronted with a stressful and aggressive situation. Imagine what it would be like to double down on the joy, love and connection in order to prepare for the possible harshness outside of the home.
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Hi all,
In this episode with start with a long deep breathing exercise which will help get the day started, stay calm and healthy.
Ted and I got together before I headed back to Nome to podcast together. Podcasting together definitely helps us stay more connected and remember the great times we had as a family.
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Hello Lovely Parents,
In this episode we start by learning our first breath series. Once we master our breath we can control how we want to move through our day, our emotions and vitality. Seems like a tall order but I have 100 different breaths to work with so you get to chose the one that resonates the most.
The word of the day is FUN! When you start incorporating real fun, no just fun when buffering with external substances and addictions, your life swill become more joyous, big and connected. Let's learn this together.
We also go over ways to enjoy yourself with your kids in a restaurant in order to not have to be yelling all the time or sticking then in front of an electronic.
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In this episode we talk about my time at New Orleans Jazz-Fest and doing something every day to blow your own mind. Challenge you're thinking and embrace some discomfort to do big things.
We talk about how to allow your children to work on their hard feelings without attacking you. You will be able to handle any feeling and not take what is happening personally. No reason to react, respond, fix or decide there is something wrong. You will be the one who protects your family from using external self-harming behavior to feel better.
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Hello Lovelies,
I've been pushing the envelope and trying new things and found myself at an improv class. While hanging out after I asked the young adults do they tell their parents anything that is bothering them and across the bored they said no. When asked why? The response was "I don't want them to worry". One young person said that the unsolicited opinions of the adults were "disrespectful" because it discounted whether he had thought of the possibilities and what he tried previously. It was all related to their own experience and didn't take into account his own experience. It is great to get the experience of young people and easy to remember my own experiences.
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In this episode we never stop figuring stuff out. We talk about the difficult transitions of being a young adult and what an unsettled and confusing time it is even though everyone will tell you it's the time of your life.
We explore the power in the thoughts:
My destiny requires more of me than thinking about ... (fill in the blank)
Everything that irritates us about others leads us to a better understanding of ourselves.
Indecision is the stealer of your dreams. Spend your time trying it out rather than in deciding.
How to get over indecision:
1)Presented with idea
2) feel your feelings and decide yes or no
3) If yes decide quickly and if no say thanks and move on.
4) test out the decision and see how it works out.
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In this episode I talk about the new name of the podcast or at least the new subtitle called "Figuring Shit Out", which is really what we are all trying to do in this unpredictable world.
Just got back from my coaching mastermind in Austin Texas, should out to Brooke Castillo and The Life Coach School, and shared the pearls of wisdom that will help to make yours and your family's lives go better.
I explore the idea of "massive action". which is continuing to take action until you have a result and not just action for action sake and the idea of asking what your dreams would think about the actions that you are taking.
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In this episode we are still checking the temperature and bringing on the heat! I talk about the reason's why you take the emotional temperature in all situations and whether you like those reasons. If you are taking the temperature in order to feel safe and not deal with any. bad emotions you will often compromise your true self by people pleasing and avoiding. If you are check the temperature because of curiosity and interest in evolving the situation and yourself then it is most likely a reason you can feel confident with. Either way awareness is key.
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Hello Lovely Parents,
In this episode we talk about where we get to set the thermostat in our own home and not let other people or external forces change it. We get to have the truly only control we have which is over our minds. That is the most empowering thing ever. Watch everyone else climatize to your temperature while modeling how to manage your mind to your young people. This is what will keep you children close and connected and safe.
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Ted and I talk about a new habit that we are developing to help parents connect and be able to listen to each other.
The Shared 10 minutes will help create an opening and routine to working on your relationship. The system is being fleshed out through experience, trial and error, wins and losses. We want to share this with you all so that your life goes better and are able to work through hard or uncomfortable times.
Ted and I would love to help you with the structure and work it out until you are on autopilot.
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When our children are angry it seems like our connection is broke. In this episode we learn the how to stay connected and move past this difficult and unbearable situations. Check out the newsletter to get even more great nuggets so that you can stop worrying, and fighting so that you can have more fun and connection and ultimately keep your kids from risky behavior.
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In this episode I talk about supporting Lili in her hopes and dreams and figuring out how to navigate my own disappointment for similar dreams that never came to fruition. It is a journey to not either resent your children or try to live through them. There are so many opportunities to work on those disappointments that happened when we were young. Remember what I always say: The quickest way to relive your young sh*t is to have children. Take that opportunity to use all of the unresolved feeling that are dredged up to evolve into the best version of yourself and not pass on future generational trauma.
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Hello Lovely Parents,
This week I wanted to preview my recent interview that Rae Tsai did on her podcast the Asian Life Coach Collective. We really try to unpack the struggle that parents are dealing with for their teens and tweens and the special version of it that comes with how oppression and racism plays out within this society. It is a dynamic and heart felt discussion that will help you grow as a parent and release some of the deeply help beliefs about what parenting should look like.
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In this episode we explore the idea that all thoughts about possible future events are delusional and we can chose which delusion we want to direct our energies. For example: I have two possible thoughts: 1) my message is important and reaches far and wide or 2) no one is listening and it isn't helping anyone. I don't have all the evidence yet so I get to chose which one serves you and me the best and we have a winner! It is thought #1.
We talk about heartfelt goodbyes on my way out of Nome and heading to NYC and why they are so important in relation to your children.
We also talk about how our own early triggers direct our decisions when it come to parenting our children and they all should be held up to the light of thought work and mind management.
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In this episode I talk about the time in the fishing village and how I am vegan there.
I also discuss how there are more choices in our life if we are willing and able to risk feeling the emotions of discouragement and disappointment. When we are able to go towards the discomfort to ask for the things that we want, need and desire and can handle any emotion than we are unstoppable in going towards any of our goals.
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Come join me on a journey through a Nome wind storm, a few wonderful parent stories and the reason's to give up being right so that you can stay connected, curious and learn new things about your children, your family, yourself and the world. Head on the transformational journey that brings joy and fun through curiosity and not diffing your heals in and being right.
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In this episode of the teen and tween parenting podcast we talk about why harshness happens at home for communities which are marginalized and oppressed and the need to do the exact opposite at home with a warm, loving and fun environment so they are confident and secure enough to take on the challenges and equipped to change it. Otherwise they generally will feel angry, insecure and unsafe.
We also talk about coaching my much younger cousin in jail to manage his mind and know there are some things that he has control over even in that very volatile environment. He is able to decide how he wants to show up and who he wants to become.
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If we tell a child that what they are feeling is not real, or not that big a deal it sends a message that they are not believable or they can't trust their. experience in the world and sets them up for a lot of confusion. Our hope when we do it is to make the hurt go away but the hurt ends up staying and being wrapped in a ball of confusion that they can't figure out. Stay in and listen to whatever is being said and be curious. Dig deeper and find out what hidden worry they are really working on. It isn't our hurt as a parent so lets stay separate from it so we can be a true ally and help.
If you want to really keep your children safe I can help you "stop worrying so you can have a big/joyous life and keep the connection you need to really keep your family safe.
I'm offering the "stop worrying boot camp and three month coaching program" to 10 people (I'm working in remote AK so that's what I have time for now) for $2,500 dollar and I know it will help you have the big/joyous and connected life you have always been looking for.
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We continue family month to get the inside scoop on what it's like to raise children with my very new and continually evolving philosophy. Ted was really great at following my lead and trusting my progressive and different methods.
My newest song, Growing Old Together, won the best song for 2021 on WNIR and I wanted to include it on the podcast. It is a love song about daily struggle of being married for 25 years. Please enjoy.
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In this episode I talk to my son about what it was like for him growing up in this family with very alternative ideas. He talks about his theory about what makes him not have to lie and what he likes to see happen.
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My 20 year old daughter Lili talks about what it was like to grow up in our house with all of the traditional and non traditional parenting styles.
Lili tells all of our secrets and we disagree about whether she believes that I actually practiced what I preach.
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It's my birthday!!! Woohoo 57 years old and going after my biggest life possible and want to take you along with me.
Back from Nome and my whole family is Covid positive and quarantining and I have to find a temporary home. I am at my parents house which is the quickest way for me to return to the feelings of my early childhood. The other easy way to quickly return to the feeling of your early childhood is to have children. If given the right mind-set and coaching these can become opportunities to work on feelings and not repeat childhood and generational trauma.
I also talk about how every interaction we have has an impact that we can often not know or realize for a long time to come which means there is no "throw away" behavior and that we get to be intentional about how we interact with people.
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In this episode we talk about my recent trip to Shishmaref, a small fishing village in the Bering Strait, grounded airplanes, no showers and shitting in a honey bucket. We talk about true self-confidence which includes being able to handle any feelings, fail forward and having your own back which means that we don't trash talk ourselves when things don't go as we imagine.
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Hello lovely parents. In this episode we talk about real stories from the moms side and unpack it all. We talk about people pleasing and how often it can breed resentment and judgement and doesn't help us achieve the results we are looking for which is a loving and connected relationship with our children.
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In this episodes I share numerous stories from the "Mom's" side. We talk about why teens lie and how to harness our powers of empathy and curiosity to keep the lines of communication open. I talk about he 4 easy ways to talk to your teens in order to stay close and connected.
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In this episode I talk about what it means to be at the 18th episode from a Jewish numerology definition.
I talk about Mel Robbin's new book "The High 5 Habit" and how to start to do a High 5 practice daily. Take the free High 5 Challenge and start on the journey to cheering yourself on and becoming your best friend. We will High 5 each other in support through this important, wonderful and challenging work of paren-teen-ing.
Take these teachings with you through the holiday for a more peaceful and connected New Year.
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In this episode we discuss the fear of rejection when it comes to going towards your teens and tweens and believing that the boat has sailed and there is no going back. Our fear of rejection will lead to the double D's disappointment and discouragement which will shape the risks and behaviors in the future. I teach you how to allow any emotion and once you can handle any emotion there is nothing that you can't do or try. This will set you free.
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Hello Lovely Moms, Hope you are enjoying the new intro song, Come Swing With Me, which was on my last album called Elemental by Nikki and the Human Element.
Just came back from Hawaii and a scary surfing adventure which I pushed myself to ride the wave. It's important to try new things and push through discomfort in order to move our big lives forward. We can all ride the wave which we know as the human experience. There is no guarantee that hard things won't happen but we can try to move through them with some ease and flow as opposed to resistance which adds an extra layer of suffering to an already difficult situation.
We talk about people pleasing which is almost expected as a mom but it often comes with conditions, resentment and often being not truthful about what we want. If we learn how to be honest and compassionate with ourselves about what we want and that is actually the best for the whole family. It's like putting the oxygen mask on ourselves first.
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Hi all,
Don't know if you realized but the new intro music is a some from my last album called "Come Swing With Me" which is about how quickly we make friends when we are young and can just play, play, play. Would love for us to all assume that we are all friends without any expectations and that we have each other's back.
I am in Hawaii and want to make sure to keep in touch and record this podcast. Had a funny thing happen waiting for the sunset that never came. Turns out I was facing west and didn't realize it until I didn't see a sunrise. Live and learn!
I talk about the importance of a morning routine in order to start the day intentionally and not let unintentional thoughts and feelings take over how the day goes. My morning routine consists of a thought download, meditation and yoga and could be anywhere from 5-60 minutes. Be loving, forgiving and curious with yourself when starting the routine and don't let that mean old judge with the perfectionist fantasy make you decide you can't do it. Doing it once is already a revolution.
So exciting to have the transformational six step boot camp completely automated, available to everyone, and ready to make a huge impact on the relationship and trajectory of your family and future generations. The buck stops with you! You will not be passing on those generational trauma. In this way we will have the chance to sustain the world. Transformational 6 steps! What are you waiting for so sign up. You can change everything now and the time with your teens passes quickly and you lose your chance.
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In this episode we talk about that the only peace we truly find is the one within ourselves. We cannot control the people around us, although we really try, or the circumstances of the world but we can find peace within our own minds. Peace that will radiate out and then possibly create a more peaceful home.
I also talk about the importance of saying goodbyes and. not running away from them. It will set up the stage to decreasing the feeling of loneliness and feeling alone in the world.
So exciting to have the transformational six step boot camp completely automated, available to everyone, and ready to make a huge impact on the relationship and trajectory of your family and future generations. The buck stops with you! You will not be passing on those generational trauma. In this way we will have the chance to sustain the world. Transformational 6 steps! What are you waiting for so sign up. You can change everything now and the time with your teens passes quickly and you lose your chance.
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Hello lovely parents,
In this episode we talk about my difficulty sleeping and fear of flying while heading to my small fishing village on the bering strait, Shishmaref and how I deal with it.
I talk about young people's oppression as the first time in our lives where a bigger person has authority over a smaller person and how that sets us up for future oppressions and particularly how it relates to their inability to make money and finances. I give you a different way to thing about money topics with your teens at home while we explore our early money beliefs we grew up with.
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Trying out one of my songs "Come Swing With Me". off of my last album, Elemental, as an intro and would love to hear what you think. You can listen to the whole album on spotify which covers the 4 m's motherhood, marriage, menopause and medicine.As I Go You Go!
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In this episode we explore the feeling of worry and how to work on it so that it doesn't keep us crushed and small. We are going to learn how to become a Jedi warrior calm and capable in the eye of the storm.
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In this episode we discuss my return to Nome and the wildlife outside my window in the tundra. I am in love with Musk ox and ravens!
Understanding parents oppression and how it works to make the job of paren"teen"ing harder and how we were set up to not be able to live out and support our children, and ourselves, in their pursuit of hopes and dreams.
We discuss how trying to figure out the "how" of going after the dream and identifying the "obstacles" early actually make it hard to think big and continue on without a lot of confusion and doubt. The "how" is unknown when trying to develop new big ideas and goals and even if someone else has done a similar thing your teen and yourself still come have your different perspective and skills.
When working on new ideas incorporate the 10% rule, where there is at least 10% of something useful or telling in what everyone says and find that nugget. Then play the "yes....and" game where you find the 10% and says what you love about it and then add another suggestion to expand on the idea, not limit the idea with worries or constraints. Go back and forth with your teen in this way as long as you need to. This is the creative phase and you want to get as many ideas as possible. Than pick the ideas that are the most exciting and want to explore and for every obstacle or task make a to do list.
Don't get caught up with the thoughts, "I don't know how", "I am confused", "I won't be able to do it". These thoughts just leave or minds in confusion and discouragement and will never generate the feelings necessary to move forward. Those thoughts are never useful! Replace them with "I'm figuring it out", "I will find the help I need", "I will learn to do it" etc.
Then consult with your older and wiser self and ask them what they would want to see happen. Usually they know and they would never say I "I regret having tried a new thing"
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Join me, Dr. Nikki Neretin for a fun exploration into the importance of play not only for your teens but for yourself. Be a fun-lover and not a fun-crusher. Start a special time practice with your teens in order to build trust, open up the lines of communication and have some fun.
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In this episode we explore opinions and what makes us say them even if we don't get the desired results of a closer connection with our teens. I explain how our opinions come to be, where they can be detrimental and how to work on changing our communication to get closer to your teens and have a lifelong harmonious relationship.
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In this episode we are exploring the idea of being your teens main person. This doesn't mean that they want you to be with them every moment or not have other friends or will even tell you everything. What it does mean is that they know that they can come to you if things get really bad and that they won't have to worry about taking care of your worry, anxiety and feelings. It is usually what makes people not tell their parent's anything because they worry much more about taking care of the parents rather than really working on the problem and figuring it out in helpful ways. We will be able to manage our own minds and develop mental fitness so that we can listen, handle and bounce back from any situation. So glad you are on the journey with me. Please download my free ebook at drnikkineretin.com and start to head on the journey from hostility to harmony.
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Join me for continued uncovering of my life in Nome. If you see the youtube version I am wearing a kuspuk which is a traditional native women's blouse made by an elder in St. Michaels. I discuss my life in Nome and the wonderful support from the Shut Up and Act Dumb, parenting teen/tween community has shown.
This episode we delve into the difference between emotional childhood and adulthood and how becoming an emotional adult will be an important part of going from conflict to connection. Come join us while we head down the road of life and move from hostility to harmony with your teens and tweens.
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Hello lovely parents,
In this 6th episode of the parenting teens from conflict to connection podcast we take a deep dive into the definition of sarcasm and where it is meant to be cutting and mean and how it is taken by our teens and tweens. We discuss simple, fast and effective ways to interrupt it and why it is important.
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I am so excited to share with you my webinar replay which lays out the six quick, reliable and easy steps of going from Hostility to Harmony with your teens. This process will put you well on the way to a more connected relationship with your teens and tweens.
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Today I talk about my life and how I came to this work and the 50/50 experience of life.
We were never promised a life without upset or struggle and it turns out throughout time life is generally 50% positive emotions and 50% negative emotions. If you can really allow the feelings of the 50 %negative emotions to be worked through without resisting or buffering you can experience it as part of the full human experience and not suffer through it. When we resist or buffer the suffering becomes greater and the 50% negative increases and makes life more unbearable. Being able to handle the 50/50 will make us able to be present when our teen/tween shares negative emotions with us without jumping in the pool with them(identifying with it in a self indulgent way where you are living the experience as if it were your own), or thinking there is something very wrong.
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In this episode we talk about the self coaching model as developed by Brooke Castillo at The Life Coach School (LCS). I am a certified life coach trained at LCS, and found this model to always work in helping me re-evaluate my thoughts relating to the results that I want.
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R-results
Do a thought download every morning and pick a thought to put in the model.
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Join me when we explore the wonderful power of managing your own mind and intentionally choosing the thoughts that will help you see a clearer path to a calm home and relationship. The circumstance is neutral and your thought is what you have control and power over. It's gonna blow your mind how powerful you can be in making your home life go well when you manage your mind.
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You and your children are completely worthy and lovable no matter what you do and can never lose it. It is your birthright as a human on this planet! I want you to find a picture of yourself and your child/children from under the age of 12 and carry that around with you so that you can always look at the essence and remember the just right human being that you and your child/children are.
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