Buckle up Bitches! Real Life with Gina & Sheila: Recent Episodes
Gina Best & Sheila Weir
We are on the ride of our lives – life is one huge roller coaster. We celebrate the amazing and get through the touch stuff. In those tough times we have found the best way to get through them is meeting them head on. On Real Life with Sheila and Gina - We are going to talk about the stuff we aren’t “supposed “ to talk about. We don’t believe in that, so No topic is off-limits, from parenting, to control issues to boundary setting and everything in between, we are going to have candid, real conversations. There may be tears, there is definitely going to be laughter. And yes there will be cursing We are going to talk about the stuff that keeps you up at night, the things that are inside you, yet you don’t talk about them- the stuff that gets in the way of your happiness. We are going to have real conversations! Sheila, an ex-corporate superstar who gave up the 9-5 to coach women who are stuck & unhappy in their lives. She wrestles to keep a balance between her rebellious side and her people-pleasing side, while juggling being an adoptive mom of a special needs 18 years, a wife to an awesome guy who drives her periodically crazy and a recent move to be near her aging parents. Gina Best is a serial entrepreneur and a maverick coach with a penchant for pushing people’s buttons and compelling business owners to deal with their personal shit so they can attack their businesses with passion and authenticity. She speaks to and inspires audiences across the continent, and still find – rather make – time to be a mostly patient mom to two wild boys, a witty and wonderful friend, a shoe hoarder, and a bold and gracious mentor to new businesswomen in her community. Gina can be tough and gritty, has a huge heart and a unique view of the world which she brings to the conversations with Sheila. Sit back, buckle up for a wild ride.
We work hard to show up authentically for this podcast and talk about the things that we are encountering and struggling with in our daily lives. In today's episode, we really seem to be wrestling with Change - in all of its forms: dealing with loss and grief, dealing with aging and frail parents; dealing with siblings; dealing with downsizing ....we hit a number of topics but they all have one thing in common. Change is uncomfortable and doesn't ever seem to get easier. But, you know what? We can talk about it and if for no other reason than to reassure YOU, our listeners, that hard stuff happens and we all can get through it.
Maybe its not…who knows?! But we do know that there is something special to this 5-second rule (and no, definitely not talking about food safety here!!). Its tough to get motivated or stay motivated but there are so many reasons on HOW to get motivated and STAY motivated. Join us and see if there are new skills hiding right in front of you!
Last episode got us both thinking about language, the conversations we have with those around us and how we might be taking the easy road when needing to have difficult conversations. What could happen in our worlds if we put down our devices, looked people in the eyes again and started having the conversations that need to happen? And then, in typical Gina-Sheila fashion, we branch off onto a wild goose chase in a different direction. See if you can follow!
Do you play to win or play not to lose? It’s a good questions but it stumped us (maybe it stumped you too?!) Our conversation takes us quickly towards language, the experiences that we bring to understanding language and realizing that language might be the common theme that keeps people apa
The sudden realization that your parents are Aging (capital "A" aging) can be a chapter in your life that shakes you at your root. The awareness that they need your help, your input and your guidance can all seem a little overwhelming at times. We know - we are living that chapter too. In this episode, we share a little of what our experiences with aging parents looks like. Spoiler alert - we don't have any tips on how to get through this but we share in the uncomfortableness of it all.
January seems to be turning into a month where so many are in search of the same thing. Join us as we explore what that thing might be and why we feel it is so needed, especially at this time of year.
It happens whether we want it to or not - another year behind us, a new one ahead. Join us as we reflect, share our learnings and look forward to the year ahead with all its unknown possibilities.
Cher had it right when she sang about "If I could turn back time" because there are a dozen things I wish I could have shared with my younger self to make life easier or more fulfilling. Join us this week as we explore what messages we have for younger Sheila & Gina.
It happens to all of us - even those who say it never does! Its part of being human (although not an overly attractive part). And let's be perfectly honest, our judgement of others has way more to say about us than it does the person (or thing) we're judging. Dare ya to listen!
We struggled with this discussion - not because of any other reason except it’s a big one. Its about our state of mind; finding our passion, our purpose; its about feeling good….. And in the end, we concluded that it all boils down to one thing. Join us and find out where we ended up in our thinking.
Disconnection is such an interesting concept - we automatically think of our phones and the need to put them down (and that’s part of it), but it can really be about stopping in our daily lives and re-finding our core, our knowing, our Self and that is done through doing absolutely nothing. My A-type friends...let's get uncomfortable!
Change is the only constant and when we look at our aging parents, that change can often be felt in great waves. Whether they are slowing down physically, resting more, eating less or have less patience, it can be alarming to watch the gradual decline of our aging parents. We're not sure we have any answers if you are experiencing this stage in life, but we share in the painful process of realizing our parents won't live forever.
Don't underestimate the annoyance of pet peeves - these annoying little things are real and can create havoc with your day (and mental sanity!). Join our fun conversation as we review our top pet peeves where neither of us holds back on what really gets under our skin. We'd love to hear what hits the top of your pet peeve list!
Sometimes apologizing doesn't fix things, especially when we didn't actually apologize. How is that even possible? Join us as we review what makes for a good apology and find out the magic word that isn't so magical in an apology sentence. This might be the easiest solution to a common apology problem!
Ever notice that getting out of your comfort zone is anything but comfy?? Comfort zones are great but honestly, who wants to stay there endlessly? Not us - even if it hurts a little getting out. Join us as we look at comfort zones, what they are, why they're not great long-term strategies and even how to push the limits slightly and get out of them. Worth the listen!
You finally figured out your passion, but now the challenge is finding the time to do it!!! Actually, it feels like its hard to find time to do any of the things that we like to do. Why is that? Happens to us too (too often) but we've figured out a few tips to help wrestle this little gremlin down.
Why is it so hard to wrestle down JOY - the meaning of it, where to find it and what really is the difference between joy and happiness?? Join us as we explore our definitions and experiences with joy. Maybe we're just making it harder than it needs to be?
None of us like to admit it, but the ugly face of comparison can be worn by all of us, even those of us that know better!!! And when it does, there is only one thing to do: hit the "record" button and share the shit outta its messiness!!
We are a hurt society and although this may sound outrageous, the signs are everywhere. Our awareness may have increased and expanded, but our willingness to dive in is not there yet. What do we mean? Could it be true in your life? What you can do if it is?
Ouch! Things that happen to us can sometimes hurt, but do we actually tell people that our feelings are hurt? Probably not - but let's look at how we do respond. It tells us a lot of where we are at in our spiritual journey. And remember - no judgement! We are all just doing the best we can!
For your personal share: the podcast I referenced was: “How to Apologize & Why it Matters (Parts 1 and 2)” with Brene Brown and Harriet Lerner
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2jxcLXMB672u5dpc9YqDu9
We've been thinking about crying all wrong - and its time to adjust this unhealthy approach to one of the most cleansing and accessible coping tools in our tool bag. Let's share in our thinking about crying and explore ways to view it anew and what to do when we are in the presence of a well-deserved cry. Its all about Love!!
It might be the after effects of covid or maybe its because of social media….who knows! All we know for sure is that this social thing is getting harder and harder to do but we also know that it is a massive part of mental health. Let's get it anyway we can!
What if the key to happiness is actually about being present in the moment? Wait… maybe its about not taking yourself too seriously??? Maybe (according to Gina) its about doing things "good enough". We're not sure what you think but we know you'll find the answers within this podcast - we did!
Why oh why is it so difficult to be accountable to ourselves? We want this thing we want and yet, it is the hardest thing to get accomplished throughout the course of the average day! Argh! It happens to all of us - but maybe chipping away at it, small and slow, will get us somewhere. Oh...ya....we also dive into other topics too. Its a bit of a shit show.
Seriously, let's call it what it is: most of the things we tell ourselves is a bunch of malarky! You'd never say that to a friend or even a stranger so why do we say these things to ourselves? And the storytelling our brains do - whoa!!!! Let's dive in people.... time to make some change!
Celebrate!!!!! We managed to get through one of the busiest and most stressful seasons of the year and the fact that we managed to get HERE is outstanding!!!! But wait…. What happens now? The horizon might look bleak with nothing ahead and whether we want to or not, we are probably going to set resolutions that won’t get us into February. Ugh. Join us as we explore all of these feelings and share how we handle resolutions and goals for a new year.
Feel the calm in the air. Sense the peace flowing through your being. Ahhhh this is what Life could feel like so why doesn’t it? Maybe your thoughts are getting in your way? When our thoughts work against us, the Universe seems to answer back and its not always the answer we want returned to us. This week, we talk about manifestation, why it works and why it won’t. In fact, one of our own has been practicing it and the shift is noticeable! What a perfect gift for yourself this year!
We are weeks away from the largest holiday in the year and although the season is filled with love, family and blessings, its also filled with hectic schedules, planning and at times, huge amounts of stress. Join Gina and Sheila as we explore the holiday season and share in a few of our idea son how to get through the happiest time of the year!
When you sit for long periods of emotional stress and disarray, it starts to feel like emotional warfare and that makes sense – because it is. We sit with this today and explore the truth of this statement for both Gina and Sheila and look at how to navigate through, around, over – whatever method works for you that is healthy and productive. Our emotional health is no one’s responsibility but our own….look after yours.
Let’s be perfectly honest – we all have coping skills. Good ones and not-so-good ones and at the end of the day, it's about doing what’s best for you in any given moment. But there’s a benefit to sitting with silence and understanding the coping skills you employ the most. What are they really saying to you, about you? And when is the time to make some changes (yikes – that “C” word again!). Join us as we discuss this and Sheila needs to be accountable to her accountability partner for commitments she made last week. See how she did 😉
Often times, we know that change is needed – we feel it in our guts. (Hard to miss that gnawing feeling of misery or unhappiness, huh?) but what happens next? How do you KNOW which direction to move forward in or what to do next? We invite you to join us today if any of these thoughts are shared ones – let’s discuss what to do and the most effective (and easiest) ways to get there. Oh, and accountability comes into play too…. and Sheila finds herself with a new accountability partner!
Stop by and catch up with Gina and Sheila as they touch base over Gina’s recent European tour. Its amazing how a trip away can shed so much light on your life back here at home.
Ever have a catch up day with your bestie and it is crazy how many topics you can cover in a limited time? Yup, us too! Today we hit topics like transitions and heading back to school to almost anything that struck our fancy. We told you this was “real life” and we meant it: scattered, unedited and completely us.
Do you ever feel like you’re running to catch up and NEVER getting there? Or no matter how hard you work, you never seem to have time for the things YOU want to do? Sit down, sister, cause you need to know what we know about this!!! It’s time to re-write that Playbook – we only get one chance at this life so start making it about YOU.
Be honest – we’ve all done it. Me. You. All of us. Everyone shudders when they think they might be playing from a victim mode state of mind – it suggests a lack of control over their lives, but is that really the case? Tune in and find out….you might be surprised.
We realized one day that there have been so many things that we have learned or become aware of as the years have passed. Now, don’t think we’re calling ourselves old (We. Are. Not), but as we go through this journey of Life and the experiences add up, we are also getting smarter (we hope!). Join us as we both go through our top 5 “Things we’ve learned as we get a little older”… take this pause in your day.
Hey, don’t be embarrassed - Life has a way of testing us and sometimes we respond strongly with anger. Accept it – you are human! But what if that emotion is actually one of annoyance and not anger? What’s the difference for you and how does your body react? Does it change the way you move forward? More importantly, what is your anger saying about you? Dig in with us as we explore these questions and bare a little more of our soul’s with you.
People – you are important too! Your happy-cup is not running over and it shows in all areas of your world: home, work, relationships … like everywhere! Join us in this episode as we look at our best personal ways of filling up our cups and how we know (like really know) when its time to do so.
It may seems unimaginable but sometimes when we are working hard to practice self love, self care and self improvement, we can out grow those around us, especially if they are not practicing these same practices. So what do we do then? Stay small? Absolutely not!! Join us in this episode as we explore the times when we’ve had to ask ourselves these very same questions and why setting those boundaries can feel so good!
The thing about imposter syndrome is that we all have moments of it and none of us ever admit it. It's true – go on…admit it! Yup, we all have those moments of doubting our worth, wondering how long before we get busted and found out that we actually are not as perfect or all-knowing as we pretend to be. But let’s be perfectly honest – how will we ever move past this type of thinking unless we talk about it? Let’s do it!
Transitions have been given a bad-reputation as being huge, disruptive and utterly life changing but what about the small, baby transitions that happen daily? Dive in with us as we discuss why they’re necessary and even life-saving at times. Maybe its time to think of transitions differently?
Ever find yourself arguing with that voice in your head and then looking around your Life for someone – anyone – to validate those thoughts and feelings? Validation is really the new “V” word for Value, no wonder its so important to our view of Self (even if we don’t admit that openly). Join us as we dive into this concept a little further!
Disappointment - the collection plate of unmet expectations. But disappointments are epic as they have the power to completely alter our realities; affect and influence our perspective and quiet a dream in a moments notice. We’ve all had a moment that has brought this level of pain and sadness to our lives. It is crippling…. or can be. Join us as we share like never before and catch us in the real-est moment of our podcast lives thus far. There’s no where to go but up from here.
The world seems to be filled with moments of adversity and change. There is no running from it (we have all tried, haven’t we?!?!). Sometimes the best thing you can do is stop running, turn around and face it head on and that starts with talking about it. Join Gina and Sheila in this episode as we do just that: talk about adversity and, as always, try to share some thoughts, tips and tricks for managing it – or at least surviving it.
Some days you just need a good old chew and boy oh boy, is that what we did!!! Join us as we tackle some tough stuff and sort out our feelings on a variety of topics. Ya, it’s not super sexy (we get it) but it’s real and its life and today, that’s where we are at. Sometimes just showing up is a good start!
Feeling under valued can often times mask itself as resentment, anger, grief or frustration. Join us as we look at feeling under valued in our lives, how that emotion can mask itself and share some thoughts on what you need to do to begin breaking the cycle and taking your life back. Trust us, it is a journey but all you need to do is start.
Our New Year has begun and already it can be a challenge to keep the motivation high! Share some space with us as we explore our views on motivation, share our struggles and even provide tips to help us stay focused and ready for action. We don’t always see eye-to-eye on these things but we keep the laughs coming!
Is wine really the only thing that gets better with age? Let’s be serious, this aging thing is hard on the ego…. at least for many of us. Join us as we banter our way through the pros and cons of aging, how it's been affecting each of us and sit back as we give you our tips for dealing with aging. It’s an episode you won’t want to miss.
In 2021’s final episode of Real Life with Gina & Sheila, we create space to talk about goals, goal setting and the importance of being reflective. Join us as we both share our personal insights on these pivotal skills and you won’t want to miss our special guest performance taking us into the end of the year. Ahhh, the things we make our kids do!!! Happy Holidays all!
December is known as the “holiday season” and the fact that it can feel like a lot is as real as it gets! In today’s podcast, Gina and Sheila talk about the pressures felt during this busy time of year; the act of gift-giving in their respective families; and whether this really is the magical time of the year. Join us as we let some of our real emotions hang out during this week’s podcast on Real Life with Gina and Sheila!
This parenting gig is not for the weak at heart but raising a kiddo with hidden disabilities takes the fun to an all-new level. Join us as we explore life-raising teenager boys with hidden disabilities; what sort of challenges that presents for these got-at-all-together-chicks (hahaha) and see how we (try) to stay sane – or at least, partially functioning!
All around us in our given days are stereotypes – some as ridiculous as they can get. Find out which stereotypes Gina and Sheila face in their respective lives and let’s explore drivers for these and copying skills. How do you embrace your stereotype demons??!
It seems like most people are feeling stressed these days so of course we are talking about that plus we discuss a disturbing event that was in the news recently.
Warning: Some contents may be a trigger for those who have experienced trauma. Please be aware. Also be aware that we are two strong minded women and we have opinions and are not afraid to share them.
Like them or not they are needed. Boundaries are something people don't like to talk about so we are going to do exactly that.
So many issues with the word "control freak" and why women are labelled such a way and why we should revolt! No, seriously, let's take our lives back and stand tall in all our controlling type ways. Besides, I'm not a control freak.... are you???!!!