Enneagram-ish: Recent Episodes
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A podcast for people who are curious about how others manage their lives. A podcast for people who are kinda sorta interested in knowing more about this Enneagram thing they keep hearing about. And a podcast for people who are low or high-key obsessed with the Enneagram. On Enneagram-ish, hosted the by the ever-nosy Valentine, we’ll post weekly episodes that alternate between brief educational content and longer interviews with various Enneagram types.
In today's episode, I discuss the Repressed Instinct - what this means, how it shows up in our lives, and how we can begin to grow beyond it.
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For today’s episode, I chat with my friend Doug, an Enneagram Type 5 who leads with the Sexual, or one-to-one, instinct. We deep dive into fantasy, unlocking the relationship with the body, and how over-using the thinking center shows up.
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For our first bonus episode, I reflect on why travel is so central to my life and I review my TOP 3 North American cities - based purely on vibes.
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Today, I chat about the Fixations in the Enneagram - what they are, how they bias our worldview, and what they keep each type from seeing and accepting.
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Today’s episode is in conversation with Steph Barron Hall, a Sexual 3, and we chat about shape-shifting, growth, and our value beyond what we produce.
STEPHANIE BARRON HALL
Stephanie Barron Hall (M.A. Organizational Communication & Leadership) is a speaker, certified Enneagram coach, and author of the book, The Enneagram in Love: A Roadmap for Building and Strengthening Romantic Relationships. Stephanie founded her Instagram page, @NineTypesCo, in 2017 as a way to explore her own interest in the Enneagram, and it has since grown into a community of people who are learning about the Enneagram, themselves, and their relationships together. Stephanie specializes in bringing clarity to complex concepts and communicating the Enneagram in a way that is relatable and concise so that it can be transformative for all.
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Today, I chat with my friend Marta Gillilan, a Sexual 6, about being a counter-type, learning self-awareness, and supporting yourself and loved ones through the worst-case-come-true.
MARTA GILLILAN
Marta is a Pastor, Spiritual Director, Life Coach and mentor. She has taught in public and private schools both in the US and in Europe. Marta has a Master’s degree in Global Leadership from Fuller Seminary. She has over 25 years of experience in teaching, leadership teams, small group dynamics as well as individual spiritual direction and life coaching. Marta has extensive practical experience interweaving the complexities of spirituality into everyday life coaching for all types of people. Marta teaches Enneagram in classes, small groups and retreats but her passion is coaching and mentoring.
She is most interested in mentoring, spiritual direction and practices, teaching, retreat leadership, small group dynamics and relationship building, and leadership development.
Learn more about Marta at www.martagillilan.com
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In today's episode, I review what the Passions are in the Enneagram system, how they can keep us stuck, and how we can address them for our growth.
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Today, I chat with Enneagram teacher and business coach Dr. Beatrice Chestnut about subtypes, growth paths for Type 2, and how to know when you're ready for deeper healing.
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Welcome back (to me and you)!
In my return to Enneagram-ish, I share my intentions for Season 2. I talk about what I've been up to since last season's finale - how I've grown, struggled, and committed to a healing journey.
Thank you dear listener for being a part of this season – it’s been wild, beautiful, and so meaningful. Thank you thank you thank you!
In today’s episode, I reflect on how this podcast was born, all the things that went into its creation, and what surprised me most. The best part? I do this in conversation with Hannah, one of my dearest – and most insightful – friends.
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In this episode, I go over the concept of personality and how rethinking your understanding of who you are can be a powerful tool on your growth path. Using type 2 as a case study, I explore how a personality may develop to meet certain childhood needs, and why we may need to tweak certain things as adults.
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In today’s episode I’m joined by my amazing friend Hamza, an avid debater and travel blogger based out of Dubai. Hamza is an Enneagram type 8, and, in our conversation, we discuss conflict as adventure, moral compasses, and learning when not to fight.
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In this episode, I review growth lines and discuss how a multi-directional approach can provide important nuance. Using type 6 as a case study, I show how both our lines of integration and disintegration have important things to teach us.
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Today’s guest is my friend Martin, an educator, observer, and activist based out of California. Martin is an Enneagram 9, and in this episode we discuss noticing a room’s energy, creating boundaries with partners, and whether anger is ever good.
My favorite answered question: Where do we find beauty and hope in high schools? Listen in for more!
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In today’s episode, I go over stress lines and their important role in the Enneagram system. Using type 5 as a case study, I explore how our behavior can look so very different in various moments of our life and how we might notice and address these changes.
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My guest this week is my brilliant friend Tracian, a recovering academic and champion moderator based out of Amsterdam. Tracian is a 2 and, in this episode, we discuss mapping rooms, finding feelings, and making boundaries your thing.
My favorite answered question: Is Valentine secretly a type 2? Listen in for more!
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In today’s episode I review the concept of triads and the emotional center that each one is connected to. Using the instinctive triad, or gut center, as a case study, I look at what our triad can tell us about growth for our type.
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Today’s guest is my good friend Anja, a serial traveler, avid reader, and adventurous introvert based out of Germany. Anja is an Enneagram 7, and, in this episode, we discuss optimism as a choice, being the life of the party, and leaving the bubble you grew up in.
My favorite answered question: what to do when you find yourself on a 20-hour transcontinental train ride – and you have no food? Listen in for more!
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In today’s episode I go over the levels of health and how you might use them as a handy measuring stick. Using type 8 as a case study, I review how a person might behave at different levels of health.
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Our guest this week is my good friend Ayoo, a fantastic singer-songwriter, vocal coach, and impact producer based out of Nairobi. Ayoo is an Enneagram 6 and in this episode, we discuss safety, anxiety, and how to have fewer friends.
My favorite answered question: how to defend yourself when a friend tries to call you out? Listen in for more!
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In today’s episode I review what the three Enneagram subtypes are and how they’re distinct from each other. Using Enneagram Type 3 as a case study, I look at how the subtypes look different within the same type.
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This week’s guest is my wonderful friend Neima. A first-generation American and fellow Maryland native, Neima is an Enneagram 4 and in this episode, we discuss feeling different, self-medicating, and learning to have your own back. Trigger warning: descriptions of alcohol use and abuse.
My favorite answered question: How to turn your life around when you find yourself in the deepest of pits? Listen in for more!
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Today’s episode provides some general context about the Enneagram and reviews one of the aspects of the key system, the Enneagram wings. Using Type 1 as a case study, I look at how wings might show up in a personality and how they can be used to problem-solve an issue that you feel stuck on.
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Our very first interview guest is the effervescent Theresa P, an educator, small-business owner, and PhD candidate. Theresa is an Enneagram 1 and, in this episode, we discuss inner critics, dating as a 1, and tampons?
My favorite answered question: What to do when your partner loves to argue, but you think it just makes him sound like an asshole? Listen in for more!
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Life is hard and it doesn’t seem to get easier, just a different kind of hard.
In this first episode, host Valentine discusses how she came to the Enneagram, how it helped her through some tough times, and what she hopes it can offer other people, as well as her vision for Season One of the podcast.
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