Divorce Club's Podcast: Recent Episodes
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A short podcast covering all aspects of divorce. We will look at everything from the serious (how to look after your mental health, legal information, co-parenting), to the humorous (how to co-parent a pet). Lots of experts to ensure high quality information to give you the confidence to get through your divorce and come out stronger.
Bella, AKA 'A Kid With Two Homes' offers the kids' point of view when it comes to divorce.
In her talk to the Divorce Club members she explores how being a respectful co-parent can impact your kids' lives. Bella's 21 years of first-hand experience will give you insight into the kids' perspective that will be pivotal to how you move forward with your divorce.
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Bella Duncan: akidwithtwohomes@gmail.com
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Don’t go through divorce alone!
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Helping children through divorce:
HelpGuide.org: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/parenting-family/children-and-divorce.htm
Child Mind Institute: https://childmind.org/article/supporting-kids-during-a-divorce/
LifeLine (Australia): https://www.lifeline.org.au/
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Fair result have won several awards including divorce firm of the year.
They are unique in how they approach divorce proceedings. For a start they are run by a lawyer and accountant.
Listen to the podcast to see how they are trying to improve divorce proceedings.
If you like the sound of them, visit their website and give them a call to discuss your situation. Fair Result - Fair and Equitable Divorce Settlements (fair-result.co.uk)
During this session Mortgage advisor, Annie Young, will share important ways you can empower yourself to understand your current financial situation.
She will provide an overview on mortgages including affordability, what lenders like to see and some common myths associated with being able to qualify for a mortgage.
She will advise on some typical options when it comes to leaving the marital home or dividing assets when going through a divorce.
After the talk Annie will try to help answer as many of your questions on your current situation and you will be able to hear from others too.
At the end of this event you should expect to know:
Some practical tips on getting to understand your current financial situation
Key areas to consider financial planning
Getting to know your mortgage options
Are you trying to end your marriage in a civilised, even amicable way? Does it feel like the divorce process is turning you into enemies?
Have you considered mediation?
Mediation is a way of sorting any differences between you and your ex-partner, with the help of a third person who won’t take sides. It facilitates the resolution of issues involving family breakdown, separation, divorce and its financial consequences, arrangements for children and any other kind of family dispute.
In this talk divorce mediator and coach, Jane Mace, will explain what mediation is (and what it isn’t). She will also dispel some common misconceptions and answer your questions about mediation, how it works, what to expect and any other aspect of mediation you have a query on. At the end there is a Q&A.
The Co-Parent Way is the UK’s only Co-Parent Coaching Practice. Its director, Marcie Shaoul is a thought leader in co-parenting and is responsible for developing a unique coaching methodology that enables parents to get to a place where they can co-parent together effectively after separation. Benefit from her wisdom on this podcast.
Co-Parent Coaching enables those who are separating to find a way of being secure enough to work together to create an unbroken place to raise their child even though they are not together. Using bespoke methodology based on ten years of research, The Co-Parent Way works with parents to ensure that they are able to see past the reasons for the relationship break-up and focus with their co-parent on how to best raise their children.
Divorce invites us to look at all areas of our life. This will include our careers. Perhaps you need to start working, or possibly your job is part of your unhappiness. Careers coach Fiona Reith gives advice on how to go about trying a new career, and reassures us that it really is never too late.
If you are divorcing, it is possible that you will encounter some challenging behaviours as your children struggle to adjust.
Parent with confidence by learning some very new techniques with Janell Bitton, top parenting coach from the US (www.parent2parentcoaching.com). Jannell came to study parenting after traditional techniques weren't working for her. She had to develop new ways to parent and in doing so not only helped her family, but became certified to help others.
This event is for anyone who interacts with children or provides parent support and wants to learn effective, respectful, non-punitive, positive parenting teaching tools and strategies that reduce stress and build deeper connection with their children.
Confidence can take a knock during a divorce process. Especially if you were the one who was left. At the same time, as your confidence is at its lowest you are being asked to live a whole new life, meet people and eventually even date again. Daunting as this may seem, most people end up being more confident than before!
Getting your confidence back will be a gradual process and requires effort. The basic psychology is that we want to avoid things we aren’t familiar with. To get confident, you have to feel the fear and anxiety of new actions, embrace it, and move ahead and do them anyway.
In this session Dr Isabelle Hung shares research on ways you can make your confidence grow again including the basic steps to getting there.
Many of us feel that past relationships are a sign of failure or a waste of time and energy spent with the wrong person. However, relationships can help us grow and there is much wisdom that can be taken from these experiences. Instead of trying to understand why it ended, it’s better to focus on the lessons that can be learned in order to move on and form new relationships.
In this session, Clinical Psychologist and relationship therapist, Dr Isabelle Hung, will discuss how we can learn from past relationships.
You will learn:
- How the time spent on a failed relationship was not time wasted.
- How valuable skills in life come from every failure.
- How to embrace these failures and use them as a springboard to a better future.
Dr Isabelle Hung is a co-founder of divorceclub.com and a clinical psychologist. Having got through her own divorce, she is now remarried and happy to report that divorce really is an opportunity for growth and positive change.
About Divorce Club:
Divorce can be challenging, but it is also a real opportunity for personal growth and change. Both Lucy and Isabelle co-founded Divorce Club back in 2016 for one simple reason – we know that no one should go through divorce alone! It's now the largest Divorce Club in the UK.
Co-parenting can be difficult. It depends on good communication and organisation. If you and your ex did not have this, it can be tricky. This is where an app like Family Wizard can help. We will discuss this app, with James Evan, who is the lead for Our Family Wizard .
Mindfulness is a very hot topic at the moment. In this session Isabelle will be joined by clinical psychologist Dr Julia Sinclair, who will be discussing how the practice of mindfulness can help people going through divorce by releasing negative thought patterns.
In this session we will:
- Discuss what mindfulness is
- Look at the health benefits
- Dispel some common myths
Dr Julia Sinclair is an experienced Clinical Psychologist with over 15 years working in the area of mental health in the NHS.
She is experienced in working with a variety of psychological models such as cognitive Behavioural therapies; Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Person Centred Approach, Narrative Therapy, Compassion Focused Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy and Mindfulness based cognitive therapy.
Julia believes in being flexible and adjusting these approaches to best suit the person’s needs according to their physical health, age, culture factors, psychological outlook and social environment. Her focus is on empowering people to take an active part in the management of their health and to optimise their inner resources.
Is you soon-to-be-ex hiding money from you, saying they have none, or have they (or a relative) made strange purchases or property deals recently? Lighthouse forensic accountants have seen it all. They will tell you how forensic accountants work, present some cases and then answer any questions you might have.
It is safe to say that you will feel a degree of anger after divorce. It is a common myth that we must “forgive” but do we need to forgive? Should we forgive? We will use this discussion to look at the research around forgiveness and hopefully come to a conclusion about what is right for you.
Joanna Toch, a family law barrister, set up Family Law Cafe as an ethical way to navigate from problem to solution in family matters, offering emotional and practical support, mentoring by dedicated lawyers, and access to a network of experts. Most people cannot afford expensive legal fees but they also know this is a complex area and they will struggle to self-represent.
Family Law Cafe’s value driven approach puts you in the centre of decision making with a support team around you to leave confusion behind and work to solution. Added to this are the emotional and practical issues of dealing with the opposing views of someone with whom you have previously been in an intimate relationship. Even if those views are only slightly different and still reasonable it is a tough call to do this without bespoke knowledge about your legal and factual situation and expert support.
Learn how this amazing organisation can help expedite and organise your divorce for you. Questions and answers follow .
Laurie Frazier has enough of people being in the victim role and devoid of power. No matter how bad your marriage and spouse, Laurie believes that if you can be accountable for your part in the marital breakdown, then you are in a better position to take control and grow.
We speak to her about relationships, responsibility, power and growth. We hope you will shed some light on difficult (but lovely and empowering) changes for you to make right now!
Dr Isabelle Hung and Author/Creator of Home Sweet Homes, Fiona Kong, will be discussing what to expect from children when divorcing and how to support them.
Fiona will be discussing the creative way she came up with to co-parent her son, while helping her adjust to having less contact with him. This led to the creation of her beautiful co-parenting journal. https://www.homesweethomesjournal.com/
The two biggest assets most people own are their house and their pension.
It’s important to make sure you have your fair share of both when you get divorced.
For those who are not particularly financially savvy, it can be daunting to understand where to start when it comes to pensions: what do I need to know? how do I find it out? what is fair? what do I need?
For others who are more aware of their money, other questions can arise about how to divide up the assets, and whether there is a way they can divorce fairly without diluting their pension or complexities around their particular pension pots.
We are delighted to welcome Katie Nutting, a chartered financial planner at Schroders Personal Wealth, who will join us to talk about this important and misunderstood asset and answer your questions.
Katie is an associate member of Resolution, specialising in financial planning for individuals who are going through the divorce process. She works with solicitors, mediators and divorce coaches to ensure assets are split in the most appropriate way, taking into account an individuals financial position and future plans.
Experts, Rachel Oaks and Claire Colbert from Family Mediation & Mentoring talk to us about different types of mediation so you can think of what will work for you. Different and common mediation dilemmas will be discussed from 2 women who have seen virtually every scenario. We hope that this can reassure you that mediation can work even in really hard cases.
Dr Erica Slotter co-wrote a book called “F*ck Divorce”. Finally people have looked at all the science around divorcing, and most importantly, rebuilding after a breakdown and sorted it all out for you in this great book.
Dr Erica will be confirming to us with science that while Divorce is rubbish, the rebuilding can really leave you better off.
Dr Slotter will be specifically doing a talk on self-care and then allowing you some time to ask any questions.
Erica Slotter is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Villanova University. She received her Ph.D. from Northwestern University in 2011. Dr. Slotter’s work focuses on the social factors that influence identity. In particular, she examines how various social role transitions influence both the content and clarity of people’s self-concepts.
In this episode, Divorce Club meets Available author Laura Friedman Williams. This talk also had the wisdom of Rachel New, dating coach.
We are all very different individuals who have found love after a divorce and dated, and have seen others date.
We discuss the book and share dating advice. We all agree that we must learn to date on our terms in the first instance at least to get our confidence back.
Bella Duncan has started a blog trying to help parents see the perspective of children having to deal with divorced parents and having two homes. What makes her stand out is that she herself experienced her parents divorcing (acrimoniously) at a young age. She shares her tips on co-parenting and supporting children in living in 2 homes, from what to say to your children, to what to buy for both homes. How to manage birthdays and Christmas is also discussed.
Learn about how social workers and contact centres can become a part of divorce and how best to work with they systems. Nadine is a social worker and training to become a lawyer. She also trained to be able to help children have their say in court. She has seen it all and can share her experiences.
Experienced Divorce Mediator Jane Mace explains how mediation can help with regards to children.
If you are having a difficult relationship with your ex about how to divide up custody, or are struggling to get your kids on board, this talk is for you.
About Jane
When her marriage ended, followed by a successfully mediated divorce, Jane was so impressed by the mediation process that she decided to take up the profession herself, and now mediates online and in person.
Jane mediates in children and financial cases, online and in person across Greater London and the South East. She is a member of the Family Mediators Association and the Family Mediation Council.
Divorce is an opportunity to change your life to be exactly the way you want it. In the (often painful) process of uprooting and ending a relationship that isn’t working, you can also lose restrictions and norms that held you back from doing the things you love. Maybe you are having to return to work after raising a family.
In this session with Fiona Reith, the UK’s only accredited Designing Your Life coach, take some time to give some great pointers as to how to go about changing your career. You will be inspired by all the possibilities.
“A Designing Your Life class has become one of Silicon Valley’s most popular courses… Two academic studies have now proved its ability to cut anxiety on the career front and help people reach their goals whatever their age… Crucially, your life is not a problem to be solved. It’s an experience, and the fun comes from designing it”
– Christina Patterson (Daily Mail)
Fair Result was started after hard earned money, which could have gone to the family, was instead spent on an expensive divorce. This led to Chris and Pete deciding to transform the way financial settlements are done so that they cost less, are over quicker and reduces the stress.
Jan James, head of Parental Alienation talks to Divorce Club about what parental alienation is and what you can do about it.