Wielding Legacy: Recent Episodes
Laura Payne-Stanley
The Wielding Legacy Podcast is designed for anyone desiring to remove those narratives, limiting beliefs and generational wounds that are keeping them stuck, and stopping them from creating a legacy life they love.
Find out what the three different aspects of legacy mindset that can be keeping you stuck, and what actionable techniques to implement to help you move to your next level.
Hosting every conversation is Laura Payne-Stanley, renowned Edutainer, TED speaker and expert who works with visionaries, empire builders and power couples as their coach and trusted advisor, as they create their legacy.
Welcome to today’s Wielding Legacy episode, where I discuss Legacy with someone who's a rebel, an anarchist - someone who has achieved so much in her life; success coach and creative Steph Zakas.
Find out in this episode about trusting in yourself, and trusting your gut instinct, and how to use this energy to create your legacy.
For more information on Legacy, ways to work with me and all the other episodes from Wielding Legacy, go to laurapaynestanley.com/legacy If you are interested in immersing yourself in your business for 1 to 2 days and coming out with a detailed plan on what to do next, email me at laura@laurapaynestanley.com or go to laurapaynestanley.com/immersion-waitlist to find out more And if you haven't yet seen, you can watch these Wielding Legacy episodes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/wieldinglegacy/playlist
Welcome friends to today’s Wielding Legacy Conversation and today I am welcoming a lady who really does bring the zest into business and any room she is in, an amazing visual brand specialist Nisha Haq.
In this episode Nisha and I discuss breaking family and cultural narratives and norms when it comes to creating a legacy that is true to ourselves, the power of tenacity and finding your passion at a young age .
Nisha is a multiple business owner and and founder of Nisha Haq Photography and Iggy and Line, and is an award-winning multiple business owner and people photographer based in Wickham, Hampshire and specialises in wedding, branding & portrait photography. She loves using vibrant colour in her work and is inspired by people's unique stories as well as drawing inspiration from the seasons. She loves spreading the joy with heartfelt striking images and feels that photography is all about creating images that empowers, excites and moves you.
Accolades include UK Young Freelancer of the Year 2017 Award, 4x regional finalist in the Wedding Industry Awards plus numerous publications & features of her work in magazines & blogs.
Nisha is passionate about the arts and encouraging enterprise, in particular, young females in the creative industries and being a confident businessperson. She has delivered various talks on entrepreneurship & freelancing at various universities and is also the only professional photographer to receive an Honorary Degree from a leading creative university, Solent University.
Welcome friends to today’s Wielding Legacy Conversation and today I am welcoming Melissa Anne to the podcast, who is a health and wellness blogger, mental health podcast host, and full service brand strategist for small businesses. All while raising a child single handedly.
This is another powerful episode this week as Mel shares with us her story of creating a new legacy, when at 26 you find yourself widowed, a single mom to a young boy and without the military career you’d dreamed of.
Melissa's biggest focus is getting to help others with her different skill sets and finding the best balance for the lifestyle she wants for her son and herself.
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For more information on Legacy, ways to work with me and all the other episodes from Wielding Legacy, go to laurapaynestanley.com/legacy If you are interested in immersing yourself in your business for 1 to 2 days and coming out with a detailed plan on what to do next, email me at laura@laurapaynestanley.com or go to laurapaynestanley.com/immersion-waitlist to find out more
And if you haven't yet seen, you can watch these Wielding Legacy episodes on my YouTube channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/wieldinglegacy/playlist
Welcome! In this episode of Wielding Legacy Conversation, I get to welcome two friends to the podcast, entrepreneurial couple and founders of a new concept in networking Kelly & James West from The ONLE Network, where we discuss legacy and family
It is an amazing insight into a couple who are creating their legacy together, very much like Mr P and I, and what happens when you have differing opinions.
Kelly & James are the husband and wife team behind ONLE Networking: the business network for people who like people.
Networking runs throughout their relationship, having met at a networking event and networking on their wedding day in New York. But they also believe that while networking can profoundly help all business owners by providing business opportunities and the meaningful connections which we need as human beings - the rules and protocols surrounding events excluded many people.
So in 2018, they launched ONLE, successfully moving it fully online at in 2020, and proving the power of online networking by continuing to expand the membership and launch groups across the UK in 2022, culminating in the ultimate online networking proof-of-concept: ONLE New York.
For more information on Legacy, ways to work with me and all the other episodes from Wielding Legacy, go to laurapaynestanley.com/legacy If you are interested in immersing yourself in your business for 1 to 2 days and coming out with a detailed plan on what to do next, email me at laura@laurapaynestanley.com or go to laurapaynestanley.com/immersion-waitlist to find out more
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In this episode of Wielding Legacy, I am joined by my client and extraordinary entrepreneur Daisy Amodio, a trailblazing business woman who started the whole proposal planning industry and is also an international event planner, planning events, catering for people from royalty to high profile personalities.
So, if you’ve ever had an idea to start a business, or for a new revenue stream and no-one thought you could do it, sometimes you just have to trust your gut...
For more information on Legacy, ways to work with me and all the other episodes from Wielding Legacy, go to laurapaynestanley.com/legacy If you are interested in immersing yourself in your business for 1 to 2 days and coming out with a detailed plan on what to do next, email me at laura@laurapaynestanley.com or go to laurapaynestanley.com/immersion-waitlist to find out more
Welcome to a potentially tough Wielding Legacy conversation. I say tough, because my amazing guest and fellow TEDx speaker today is Chris Williams, and we are discussing suicide, mental health and depression as you create your legacy.
This is a beautiful episode that may or may not challenge you, but I assure you that the learnings in this episode with Chris are plentiful.
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For more information on Legacy, ways to work with me and all the other episodes from Wielding Legacy, go to laurapaynestanley.com/legacy If you are interested in immersing yourself in your business for 1 to 2 days and coming out with a detailed plan on what to do next, email me at laura@laurapaynestanley.com or go to laurapaynestanley.com/immersion-waitlist to find out more
Welcome to today’s episode of Wielding Legacy Conversation where I am joined by Tigz Rice.
Tigz is a UK photographer who was voted the world’s leading female burlesque photographer, she is also an award-winning author and champions her clients to create personal branding images that perfectly portray their unique personality, style and values:
Come and listen to Tigz and I talk about about Burlesque and how creating your burlesque character & name can help to uncover your true values and brand personality as you create your legacy
And for reference: Boudoir - the term derives from the French verb bouder, meaning "to be sulky" or boudeur, meaning "sulky".
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For more information on Legacy, ways to work with me and all the other episodes from Wielding Legacy, go to laurapaynestanley.com/legacy If you are interested in immersing yourself in your business for 1 to 2 days and coming out with a detailed plan on what to do next, email me at laura@laurapaynestanley.com or go to laurapaynestanley.com/immersion-waitlist to find out more
In episode 4 of Wielding Legacy, I am joined by a joyous human, a lady I have known as a client for a very long time, someone who bucks industry trends and has decided to take her business to the next level from her hospital bed after her second child, it is the lovely luxury floral designer and star of Billionaire Blooms, Paula Rooney.
For more information on Legacy, ways to work with me and all the other episodes from Wielding Legacy, go to laurapaynestanley.com/legacy
If you are interested in immersing yourself in your business for 1 to 2 days and coming out with a detailed plan on what to do next, email me at laura@laurapaynestanley.com or go to laurapaynestanley.com/immersion-waitlist to find out more
In the third episode of Wielding Legacy - which I can only sum up as deliciously fun and sassy - my guest, Chelsea Abril, and I also delve into creating a legacy when you don’t see a cultural representation of the legacy you are looking to build.
Chelsea works with badass and spicy entrepreneurs who want to leave the BS behind to build peaceful, powerful, profitable businesses.
For more information on Legacy, ways to work with me and all the other episodes from Wielding Legacy, go to laurapaynestanley.com/legacy
If you are interested in immersing yourself in your business for 1 to 2 days and coming out with a detailed plan on what to do next, I currently have 1 space left for a 2 day session in Spain.
Email me at laura@laurapaynestanley.com or go to laurapaynestanley.com/immersion-waitlist to find out more
In the second episode of season 2, I'm talking with Elliot House; Head Marketer, Breath Coach and Yoga Teacher. As well as being an all-round inspirational person.
You are not going to want to miss this conversation as we gain insights from varying modalities such as coaching, Yoga, Buddhism, energy work and breath work and how those legacy narratives from our past can have a significant impact on our future - if we choose to let them.
We also talk about the ability of letting go.
For more information on Legacy, ways to work with me and all the other episodes from Wielding Legacy, go to laurapaynestanley.com/legacy
If you are interested in immersing yourself in your business for 1 to 2 days and coming out with a detailed plan on what to do next, I currently have 1 space left for a 2 day session in Spain. Email me at laura@laurapaynestanley.com or go to laurapaynestanley.com/immersion-waitlist to find out more
In the first episode of season 2 of Wielding Legacy, I'm talking with Jennifer Constant. A multi 6 figure entrepreneur, a mum to 2 and part of a Freedom Loving Nomadic Family.
In this episode of Wielding Legacy, we have lessons in creating a legacy that might be away from the common experience of your family and friends. I’ve known Jennifer for many many years and indeed our first conversation was filled with an experience of her nonconformist life.
What is so interesting about Jennifer is like many she has an outwardly successful life, Associate Director of Fundraising for 6 years, a nice house in an expensive city, nice cars and nice life – but she did something different.
Jennifer and her husband plus their 1-year-old son - at the time - sold their house and all their belongings, swapping it for a motorhome, travelled so far around 35 countries and also set up and built 3 businesses that today bring in revenue of multi 6 figures, and earns 10 times her yearly salary all whilst living a freedom life on her own terms.
For more information on Legacy, ways to work with me and all the other episodes from Wielding Legacy, go to laurapaynestanley.com/legacy
If you are interested in immersing yourself in your business for 1 to 2 days and coming out with a detailed plan on what to do next, I currently have 1 space left for a 2 day session in Spain. Email me at laura@laurapaynestanley.com or go to laurapaynestanley.com/immersion-waitlist to find out more
Ever wondered how to make vision boards the ultimate powerful part of your year planning. We are talking about vision boards, goals, dreams and legacy building in today's episode.
Covering in this episode:
- Why visions boards are great
- Vision is misleading
- Application of vision boards
- The missing ingredient
Connect with Laura:
Visit the website
Follow on Instagram
Connect on LinkedIn
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If you feel I can support you in creating your vision and legacy for the future, I have 2 ways to support you!
Firstly a 90 minute on demand session, and let’s create that vision for 2022 and beyond
Secondly a private accelerator day in person or on Zoom and 30 days of support, including 2 121 sessions. Dates are available from February onwards.
Come and let me know over on Instagram if you loved today’s episode @laurapaynestanley or any questions about working together.
We are talking about struggling. And when we are looking to achieve dreams and goals, whether in business or in life, we all have those days when we are struggling.
For me, there was one day when the tipping point to me yelling to the Universe “Really I’m struggling here” was when I was packing up one of the wardrobes for my upcoming year of adventure.
Here are the highlights of today's episode:
- My struggle started with an email
- What to do when in the eye of the struggle hurricane
- What was really going on
- How to decide to be instead
- And what to do next post struggle meltdown
Connect with Laura:
Visit the website
Follow on Instagram
Connect on LinkedIn
Follow on Facebook
Plus if you are struggling or feel I can support you, I have 2 offerings for you!
Firstly a 90 minute on demand session, for a super boost of top-line strategy for how to kick off your 2022 for success.
Secondly a private accelerator day in person or on Zoom and 30 days of support, including 2 121 sessions. Dates are available from February onwards.
This episode goes out to all those who feel a bit beaten up by this year and in reading the title of this episode identify that they are crawling or just looking forward for the year to be done.
I’ve got you and see you, friend.
Know that the rest of this year and next has the ability to be all that you dreamed of.
And if you want to set yourself up for an amazing 2022, then finish strong and that momentum will take
If you are craving or in need to finish the year strong or start 2022 for success I have a few offerings for you!
Firstly a 90 minute on-demand session, for a super boost of top-line strategy for how to kick off your 2022 for success.
Secondly a private accelerator day in person or on Zoom and 30 days of support, including 2 121 sessions. Dates are available from February onwards.
Come and let me know over on Instagram if you loved today’s episode @laurapaynestanley or have any questions about working together.
If you know of someone who would benefit from listening to Wielding Legacy, then do invite them to listen with us
When you’re ready to explore your legacy, success and impact on the world, here are ways to start the journey:
If you are looking to create a hugely impactful legacy, my one-to-one success coaching will change everything. Contact me to arrange a call to discuss how I can help you.
Or if you are a coach/ mentor or consultant a private accelerator day and 30 days of support, can be the ideal tonic to kick start your legacy creation.
This episode of Wielding Legacy asks a number of questions, including:
Are you looking for a disposable fix to make you feel good in the shortest time possible, such as buying an imitation print from Ikea to implementing a 30 minute make over hack to your walls.
Or are you looking to slow down and create something that has a soul, has depth and has a legacy that transcends you.
A legacy that isn’t linear with a predicted path, but rather cyclical in it’s approach for you never know when the hardships and work of today because the wisdom of the future.
So my question to you if you think of the present as a stewardship for the future, how are you using that stewardship?
Are you seeking the instant gratification that the present day you feels drawn to?
When it comes to reading the word perfectionist fantasies my long experience has shown me that 2 responses normally happen.
The nod, that somewhere in your stomach you know that this is something for you. Or the “I’m curious” but it doesn’t land with you straight away.
So what are perfectionist fantasies?
Before we dive in here, let’s go back a stage to what is the problem with having perfectionist fantasies? As such a perfectionist fantasy is a longed-for illusion that can keep you stuck in a negative benefit frustration cycle.
You believe that it is only your illusory perfect self who can accomplish goals, once perfection has been achieved.
Or you believe that only the perfect launch, perfect messaging, perfect USP, perfect copy, perfect audience build, perfect audience identification, perfect need qualify.. will lead to the results that you crave.
I have also seen this emerge with corporate clients and leadership coaching, whereby the client is:
- Looking for the perfect position with the perfect benefits, in the perfect location
- Looking for the perfect career trajectory within an organisatio
- Wanting to manage the perfect team
- Wanting to attract the perfect talent
In essence, the perfectionist fantasy can be linked to:
- Your whole life
- A perceived perfection of one aspect of your life
- As an entrepreneur to one element of your business
- In your career, your role
The conclusion from the article so far could be a net positive from your perspective, all traits that help you create the legacy you desire. Perfectionist fantasies can be self-motivating, a towards motivation to help you overcome challenges and achieve the success you crave.
When you’re ready to explore your legacy, success, and impact on the world, here are ways to start the journey:
If you are looking to create a hugely impactful legacy, my one-to-one success coaching will change everything. Contact me to arrange a call to discuss how I can help you.
Or if you are a coach/ mentor or consultant a private accelerator day and 30 days of support, can be the ideal tonic to kick start your legacy creation.
If you know of someone who would benefit from listening to Wielding Legacy, then do invite them to listen with us.
When you’re ready to explore yourlegacy, successandimpact on the world, here are ways to start the journey:
Join me for a 121 experience like no other in my Immersion Day experience. This is a powerful day, that is created specifically for you that combines coaching, hypnotherapy and other releasing techniques to enable you to move to the next level. But it is so much more than the day as you also get 1 month follow up support. Book a call to discuss further. Only 2 spaces left in 2021.
Be.Boosted 2022 if you are looking to elevate you and your business, early bird tickets available. Tickets here
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This episode can be triggering for some, as today we are talking about ‘Leaving a Legacy’ as a childless person, especially when childless not by choice.
I know this can be a terribly difficult topic for those who are part of the community of childless not by choice and those who know people who are, and don't know what to say.
If you know of someone who would benefit from listening to Wielding Legacy, then do invite them to listen with us mindset
When you’re ready to explore your legacy, success and impact on the world, here are ways to start the journey:
Be.Boosted - A virtual event to take your professional service business and life to the next level. Join me for 6 day immersive experience in November where you will leave with your business and you boosted. https://www.laurapaynestanley.com/be-boosted
- Join me for a 121 experience like no other in my Immersion Day experience. This is a powerful day, that is created specifically for you that combines coaching, hypnotherapy and other releasing techniques to enable you to move to the next level But it is so much more than the day as you also get 1 month follow up support.
I am very qualified to talk about, being visible as an introvert. When I talk about introversion, and being an introvert, people are often shocked. But you do: - TEDx talks - Host your own events - Network with industry leaders And yes that is all true, but I am an introvert to my core. How do I know? Think of it like this... Two people go to an event, for the introvert, they experience it as the battery draining down the more they are around people. For an extrovert, at the same event the battery is being charged when they are around people. This is really just a metaphor for what is happening at a neurobiological level with introverts and extroverts, and the fact they literally having different nervous systems.
I want you to think of it like this; before we can hold ourselves to a higher standard and take that extra step, we need to have the base line standard. Whether it is fitness or in business, do you know your base line? Do you know how many hours per week is your optimum to work? Do you know your preferred high intensity fitness duration? Which ever medium/ tactic/ or area of your life you are thinking about taking the extra step, do you know the base line?
I’m excited to dive into this topic because it is not talked about often enough. It can get weird and awkward very quick, from both you the business owner and the client when asking for the refund. It can bring up issues around our mindset and not feeling good enough. There are 2 camps for refunds, those (and you might be one) who’ve already received the request. Or those who are worried about it and what to do.
In this podcast we are talking about making money easily and the impact on building your legacy. How can you make money easily?
Often, inspired action occurs when you are following your heart and doing what makes you happy. It’s a response to situations when you are being yourself and not trying to control anything. If you really have the feeling of being and having your desire in the moment you think of taking an action, you are taking inspired action. If you still aren’t sure how to identify an inspired action take a listen...
Truth bomb – there is always someone there waiting for you to make the wrong decision, because it makes them feel safe when you stop changing and growing. You can’t control others, and you can’t convince someone your pivot or decision is great for you, if they don’t want to see that. All you can do is to pivot, evolve, and change through life – it's what we are meant to do.
So let me ask you, do you feel like your drive has gone? Do you feel flat and lethargic? Do you have thing to do, but don’t have the drive to get them done? So let’s talk about why mojo matters. Mojo is your drive, enthusiasm and motivation to get stuff done, consistently and persistently.
In this episode we are going to be looking at limiting beliefs that block money healing, identifying them and clearing them. The reality is that you may have done work before on this and not had success, and the question to ask is, is there any reason why you do not want to heal your money dam? Now limiting beliefs that block healing, are due to conflict or misalignment around goals and values. Take a listen for some key areas that come up around this.
Welcome to the latest Wielding Legacy and you’ve guessed it from the title, we are doing some deep work today on money dams. So what is a money dam? It is a set of narratives or beliefs that is keeping money from flowing to you, AND also from keeping money with you if you don’t have the right barriers in place. By understanding how you are actually blocking money, you can learn how to remove those dams, eliminate this self-destructive behaviour and rewire your brain with new thoughts and beliefs that will help heal your mind around creating wealth.
You need to then take the time to consciously evaluate the decision in terms of self-sabotage. Will the decision make you feel awesome, proud and positive for the duration or can you see the scope for negativity? Your evaluation means that you are in the position of conscious choice. An example of this from a client, who I was working with her on redefining success, which she had experienced in her business, yet her personal life wasn’t seeing the same level of happiness.
Imposter Syndrome is closely linked with perfectionism, with your ‘good enough’ never being ‘good enough’ to feel at one. More stress, and even more success, brings about even more heightened Imposter Syndrome. Seeing the cycle here. And if you are ready to break your cycle we are going to start by redirecting your attention back to what makes you awesome.
So what exactly is self sabotage? Well there are many definitions including when part of your personality acts in conflict with another part of your personality. It is said to be self sabotaging when your behaviour creates problems in our lives that interferes with our goals. The one that we are going to work with in this episode is actually related to attachments, which is a pervasive, largely subconscious tendency to seek out the negative or do things that cause you to be unhappy.
This episode should come with a potential trigger warning as we are going to be diving into whether you are actually creating your dream life, complete with legacy building business or are you creating a job under the guise of being an entrepreneur. And this is physically how you set up your business which has the underpinning of employee vs entrepreneur mindset.
The Streisand Effect... It has been labelled as a social phenomenon by “The Economist” that occurs when we attempt to hide, remove or censor information, it has the unintended consequence of amplifying it. So what has this got to do with your future legacy? Let me share with you a story from one of my clients about how the Streisand Effect showed up in her life.
By focusing on the end of our lives, we create a clarity around the magnetic pull that draws us forward. We can have crystal clear insight into our vision, our priorities and the next steps that we need to take to move towards that future. Lets dive in.
Let me share with you a story from my upbringing as to how defining our future legacy from the present moment can show up. I come from what would be categorised as a lower middle class family. We went on package holidays and stayed with relatives, but we didn’t stay in hotels and certainly not five star hotels.
In this episode we are going to be focusing on Past Legacy mindset that can be keeping you stuck, or is coming into the present. Specifically focusing on Ancestral beliefs or patterns. Do you have any thoughts, beliefs, values or patterns that you feel that you were born with? Is there a history or known ancestral trauma in your lineage?
In our first episode I’m going to talk about the 3L theory and why it’s so important to focus continually on the triad of all 3 parts. Legacy past, Legacy present and Legacy future