Should We Be Saying This?: Recent Episodes
Ashley Fagan & Meghan Malloy
Two therapists having honest conversations about therapy, relationships and more! We'll discuss multiple points of view from a client and therapist perspective. Catch our "is this f*cked up?" segment at the end of each episode!
This week's episode is a solo podcast with host Ashley! This week we're talking about New Year and how people typically go about resolutions. We get into goal setting, how laziness affects us again, setting up goals that are meaningful for us and if how we celebrate New Years Eve says anything about our next year.
On this week's episode Meghan and Ashley talk weddings and their traditions! Meghan and Ashley discuss what they think about weddings, videography, the cost of weddings, how weddings impact women's bodies and groom warriors.
In this week's episode, Meghan and Ashley discuss the topic of laziness. Laziness is typically a negative idea that often gets in the way of the real issue. Meghan and Ashley explore what areas in their life they've felt "lazy", what is often deemed "lazy", where they think this term comes from and challenging people to consider a deeper understanding before using the word lazy for themselves or others.
Welcome Meelo (Ashley's dog) and Abbi (Meghan's cat)! Get to know Ashley and Meghan's pets, why they decided to get them and how they've made an impact on their lives. These therapists talk about what positives having a pet can bring, what type of people would benefit from getting a pet and what might be a case where they wouldn't recommend getting a pet.
Meghan and Ashley's thoughts on dating! In this episode, Meghan and Ashley discuss their experience dating, casual versus long-term dating, when to stay and when to leave, and how age impacts the dating timeline for cis-women.
Meghan and Ashley discuss sibling position and how being the oldest affected them. The birth order of siblings can have positive and negative affects; listen to what often comes up as the oldest, middle or youngest sibling. This episode dives into family roles and how to navigate creating change within your family.
In the season of Thanksgiving, Meghan and Ashley discuss gratitude! In this episode, they discuss how gratitude has impacted their life, how it can be used in therapy and what positive changes it can bring to your life. Join us while you explore how gratitude could influence your life or acknowledge how it already has, whether you have a formal or informal practice.
This week's episode dives into the reality tv show Love is Blind. Whether you love it or hate it, Love is Blind provides unique scenarios where couples get engaged before ever seeing each other. Meghan and Ashley break down the first half of this season and go through their thoughts on how the couples interact in the pods, navigate challenges and prepare for their wedding!
Meghan and Ashley get intimate exploring the topic of sex when in therapy. They discuss the benefits about exploring how sex impacts your life, what it's like being both the client and the therapist and what to expect if you do discuss sex with your therapist and how that therapist should respond.
Meghan and Ashley have a fun conversation discussing all the things that come up when traveling with friends. After traveling together, with other groups of friends and with family there's a lot to navigate when it comes to traveling with others! A must listen before going on that next trip with your squad.
Meghan and Ashley use their experience in both being a therapist and finding their own therapist to discuss how someone finds a mental health professional, the differences in types of mental health professionals, expected cost, where to look to find less expensive therapy and what to expect when finding a good fit.
(0:15) Challenges of finding a therapist, (1:49) Ashley's experience finding a therapist,(3:30) Breaking up with a therapist, (7:36) Therapy is expensive..., (13:59) Where to look for a therapist, (18:21) Sharing a therapist with a friend, (22:45) Meghan's experience finding therapists, (24:30) Normalizing taking a while to find a therapist, (27:25) Finding the right fit, (30:00) Meghan and Ashley disagree about their preferences on the age of their therapist, (34:30) Discounted options for therapy, (36:30) Explaining therapist licenses, (40:15) Insurance vs cash pay, (44:00) Specific identities in therapy, (51:22) Is this fucked up?
Meghan and Ashley discuss body image and the impact culture has on cis women. They share personal struggles, how they approach talking about body image in therapy and discuss their differing views on altering the body with botox and plastic surgery.
In this bonus episode, Meghan and Ashley give their takes on the first two episodes of the new season of Kardashians. Listen to two therapists' thoughts on the Kardashian family, the psychology of Tristan Thompson, how resilient Khloe truly is, and how culture has impacted Khloe's relationship with her physical appearance.
(0:36) General thoughts on the Kardashians, (3:05) Episode 1: Kim's advice for Khloe, Kris' invalidating comments, and baby shower boundaries, (27:00) Episode 2: Khloe is resilient, Tristan's psychology, and bodies in the Kardashian family
Join us for our first episode where Meghan and I introduce ourselves, how we met, what to expect on this podcast journey, and the basics of going to therapy.
1:05 What we do for work, 2:54 How we met, 9:11 Why we are doing this podcast, 12:21 What you can expect from this podcast, 15:05 Topic: when to leave a friendship, 22:22 Telling people that you are a therapist, 31:19 Unpacking 'marriage and family therapy', 35:40 What we do when people ask us to give them therapy in the wild, 40:14 How you might be able to find a therapist, 41:00 Acknowledging barriers to getting therapy, 43:32 What we're interested in outside of therapy, 47:03 Is this fucked up?