Welcome to Healing From Within I am your host Sheryl Glick Reiki Master Energy Teacher and author of my newest book in a trilogy A New Life Awaits which offers stories and messages from Spirit which show us our challenges are not simply economic political or societal but a divide or disconnect from our inner soul wisdom. In today’s show I am delighted to welcome Claudia Gold M.D. a pediatrician and Ed Tronick, a psychologist, authors of The Power of Discord to help us recognize that though people think perfect harmony is the defining characteristic of healthy relationships the truth is human interactions are messy, complicated and confusing but are crucial to social and emotional development.
As listeners of Healing From Within have come to expect over the years Sheryl and her intuitive and insightful guests and I share an understanding of the challenges of a physical three dimensional life and also grow to appreciate the many spiritual tools and gifts we possess and learn to share in order to improve the human and divine condition through relating to challenges with full awareness of who we are why we chose a physical life and how to improve all relationships through awareness and higher consciousness. Life is both a physical and energetic force.
In today’s episode of Healing From Within Dr. Claudai Gold and Dr. Tronick will share with listeners how the mind body and emotions from childhood affect our perceptions and behavior and working through the inevitable dissonance of human connection is the path to better relationships with romantic partners, family friends and colleagues.
When Claudia is asked to think back to her childhood and remember a person place or event that might have signaled to her or others around her what lifestyle work and values she might pursue in adulthood she immediately tells us her mother possessed a positive outlook on life and was a child psychologist who practiced from home and Claudia saw it as important work and was inspired by her mother’s efforts. On the other hand her father who was a Holocaust Survivor was somewhat shut down and didn’t discuss problems so she feel her full range of emotional content was not allowed to expand or be expressed. Our parents do set up a course of behavior as we model many of their fears or behaviors.
Dr. Tronick’s work and the “Still Face” experiment has brought about a game changing shift in our understanding of human development. The experiment shows that our highly evolved sense of self makes us separate, yet our survival depends on connection. The authors go on to tell us how we can gain confidence in learning about one another’s desires and correct the mistakes and misunderstandings that arise.
The authors describe why they wrote this book and write,” How is it that some people enjoy a range of satisfying intimate social connections while others suffer from painful feelings of disconnect and loneliness? Why are some human beings sad, withdrawn and lacking in self-esteem whereas others are angry, unfocused and brittlely self-assertive and still others are happy, curious, affectionate and self-confident. How is our ability to feel a sense of belonging and attachment to other people linked with the way we develop our individual sense of self?” ‘The answers to these questions is why the authors wrote this book.
In answering these questions, the doctors became aware that pediatricians it seems get little education in the critical foundational role of relationships in growth and development. DW Winnicott turned psychoanalyst in post -World War 11 England discovered mothers were thought of mainly as providers of basic care feeding bathing and dressing and it was this way in western culture as well. Children often were separated from parents for long periods of time.
Winnicott was among the first to introduce a new way of thinking about child development. He expressed the term “true self” and described how parent’s won issues may cloud their...