In this episode, we’re throwing out the tired, generic style advice that’s been making women feel like they’re getting it “wrong” for years. You don’t need another list of “must-haves”, body shape diagrams, or colour rules – you need to start asking one powerful question:

“Is this me?”

Not:

• Does this flatter my figure?
• Is this the right colour for my undertone?
• Is this on trend for my age?

Those questions are rooted in shame, judgment and external rules. This conversation is about coming back to you.

In this episode, I talk about:* Why generic style rules are failing you (and why they feel so flat and boring) * The problem with shame-based advice like “does this flatter me?” * Replacing “Is this flattering?” with “Is this me?” as your core style filter * How your current wardrobe is already full of clues about your true style * What your home, decor and environment reveal about what you’re genuinely drawn to * How your upbringing, music, culture and memories quietly shape your taste * Why we’ve never been taught to trust our instincts with style – and how to change that * A simple process to start decoding your personal style from what you already own

You’ll learn: How to spot the pieces you actually* love versus the ones you “should” wear * How to use your wardrobe, your home and even your Pinterest saves as a style mood board * How to stop feeling like you’re “failing” at style and start feeling at home in your clothes * Practical questions to ask yourself when you try something on so you know instantly if it’s you

Try this after you listen: Go to your wardrobe and pull out the 5 things you wear on repeat * Ask: What do these have in common? Shape, colour, fabric, mood? * Then walk around your home and notice the same patterns in your decor * Start building your outfits from those* clues – not from someone else’s rulebook

If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your style to strangers on the internet and start trusting your own instincts, this episode is for you.

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