We Should Probably Talk About That: Recent Episodes
We Should Probably Talk About That
Do you find it difficult to talk about certain things openly with your friends or partner? Do you want to be more vulnerable in your life and live more authentically? Is there something you’re looking for advice on but don’t have anyone to ask who will understand? Well then, we should probably talk about that. This podcast is for women & men who NEED to bring more open, conscious conversations into their life to create BIGGER happiness and BETTER relationships. From how to ask your partner to initiate more sex to struggles with addiction, to raising kids, we're here to talk about it ALL!
Beige flags. People all over TikTok these days are talking about them, but what are they? A beige flag is something quirky you do that someone in your life may think is strange. Some people may even think it borders on red flag material. So what do beige flags look like? In today's episode we discuss what beige flags are, what some look like, beige flags that people have, and tons more.
After a break up, it's easy to think, "I'll just get back up on that horse!" You may wonder if finding your. next relationship will help you "get over" that ex, or you perhaps you tell yourself, "I need to prove to myself I'm lovable" and get back on the dating sites to distract yourself. But we're here to tell you that slowing down, focusing on yourself and healing the feelings you're dealing with will help set you up for a better relationship in the future. When you numb yourself from feeling loss or hard feelings, you also stunt your growth altogether. Remember, no one can unpack your emotional baggage... not even a new partner. Listen in for tips on how to examine the lessons you've learned in the break up and better yet, how not to repeat them!
If you have siblings, what was your relationship like as children? What is that relationship like today? The sibling relationship dynamic can ebb and flow, be close or distant, or even be toxic or nurturing. How has your dynamic shaped you as a person? Are there ways you can get closer as siblings or is it better to keep them at a distance? In today’s episode, we talk about what a sibling relationship can look like and how to set boundaries around them to grow and move into adult/sibling dynamics that serve you.
Whether it’s in a friendship or partnership, it’s important to get to know the person on a deeper level so the connection is more than superficial. But how do you ask the “difficult” questions easily, or how do you come up with them in the first place? Today’s episode is a bit of fun and a bit of insight, and it's about Lori and Andrea answering questions while playing a game about connection, communication and getting a deeper conversation flowing.
Bold game: https://www.amazon.com/Bold-Conversation-Question-Questions-Relationship/dp/B0BGYGGY2G
Life as adults can leave us feeling lonely and awkward. On the playgrounds it was so easy to meet friends and some of those friendships last a lifetime. As an adult, your time is precious—between splitting time at work, with family, and other areas in your life, you don’t have time to ‘play around’ (see what we did there?). Today’s episode is about building intentional relationships. Being brave and authentic are first steps to creating connections that are meaningful. We share more tips inside, so tune in!
Why is it that we stay too long in some relationships? Especially when we know they’re no good for us or we know they’ve run theircourse? Today’s episode is all about letting go of a relationship (this could be a friendship, a romantic relationship, or even a working relationship) for the right reasons and not beating yourself up for choosing yourself. Sometimes, people aren’t meant to be in your life forever, and that’s okay. Listen in as Lori and Andrea share advice on how to pay attention to your gut feelings about why you are staying and how to let go gracefully.
For our mom listeners out there, we want to wish you a Happy Mother's Day! We know, first hand, that this special day may not always go as you wished. And sometimes it does. No matter how your past Mother's Days have gone, it's okay to know that you can make this Mother's Day something special for you if you speak up. Whether you ask your kids to write you a special note or make you dinner, or you ask your spouse to give you a "day off," express your needs this Mother's Day. And don't forget the other mamas out there, too! A little gift can go a long way.
It's been a minute since we've done a listener questions episode, so today it's all about what YOU want to know. Learn what Lori and Andrea think about subjects like: What's the biggest mistake people today make in dating? What is your irrational fear? Have you traveled as a single parent with kids and what's your advice? Today's episode is filled with lots of laughs, a few tears, and great answers to your questions.
How do you feel about your body? No, really. What do you feel when you look at your body in a mirror? Women (and men) learn at an early age that an ideal body shape is the unattainable ‘perfect’ body in all of the ads we see. BUT, those images we see aren’t the norm. Instead of being hard on yourself and judging who you are and believing the stories you’re told’ all your life, start loving your body for exactly what is in the mirror: the beautiful, strong, capable body looking back at you. It’s time to throw the BS stories of ‘you’re not perfect’ away and start feeling amazing in your own body!
One of the main items women look for in a relationship is to feel safe and loved. Yes, even strong, independent women. Yet so many of us choose partners who keep us feeling unsure, not good enough, or even breadcrumb or gaslight us. Here's a fact: if a person does not feel safe, they cannot be vulnerable and open to REAL love. This is true for both men and women. Feeling safe in partnership allows you to share your soft side, your sad side, your messy side, and you don't have to 'hide' behind a facade or pretend you're someone you're not. Listen to today's episode for great insight on how settling will never get you the love you want, and learn more about ways the dates you go on may be telling you they're 'not safe' to date.
Your vacation was amazing. You're feeling relaxed and happy, and real life seemed a million miles away. BUT, now you're back at home, back into your routines, and back into the stress. How do you manage? How do your kids manage after spending time at the other parent's house? Today's episode is all about slowly getting "back to life, back to reality" and making it an easy transition. Post-vacation blues are a real thing, but they don't have to be a real problem. Listen in and learn how to manage your post-vacation stress with ease.
When was the last time you dropped everything and escaped your life? For a day, for a weekend, or for a week? We are so busy in our lives most times, we find it difficult to 'plan' a self-exploration trip. You're always last on your list, aren't you? Why are these self-discovery getaways so important? Listen in on today's episode as Andrea and Lori share some ideas and experiences about running towards yourself, escaping for self-care, and why it's so important to put yourself first and love who you are.
No more sitting on the sidelines. No more wondering 'what if?' We've heard it said that you only have one beautiful, amazing life, and sometimes life throws a curveball at you to make you realize that life is a gift. In today's episode, Andrea shares a story about her favorite Auntie and how her wonderful life has inspired her to live a life full of love, no regrets, and sharing her heart. In a moment, your whole world can change. Make this one life count.
Are you new to the dating scene? Or maybe you’re an “old pro” in the dating game, but you aren’t getting anywhere and you have to keep learning the same hard lessons over and over. Today’s episode is all about tips we’ve learned and advice others have shared on how to date smarter, keep your confidence in dating high, and how to be successful as you date. Listen in and learn more about the right way to date and how not to waste your time.
Do you believe that opposites attract? The idea of masculine and feminine energy and how each attracts the other is all over social media these days. So what exactly is the difference between these energies? Is there something wrong if the woman is more of a leader and the man is more of the follower? Does a relationship work better if the woman is in her feminine and the man in his masculine? Listen in and learn more about what being in feminine energy or masculine energy means and how you can incorporate these energies into your life if you want to attract the opposite sex!
Shame is an emotion that is familiar to many of us. When we think to ourselves, “I’m bad” or “I don’t deserve…” (fill in the blank), we are shaming ourselves into a place that we can remain stuck for days, weeks, months and even years. The thing about shame is that it lives in our minds, and it’s most likely been a thought planted because of someone or something else. Listen in as Andrea and Lori discuss types of shame, the difference between shame and guilt, and how to get out of the shaming cycle. Don’t waste another day shaming yourself and believing a BS story.
There are many different ways people show and feel love. In the early 90s, The 5 Love Languages book released to the public, and many people believe this book is the key to keeping your relationship fresh and connected. Have you heard of it? Chances are you have, and today Lori and Andrea are chatting about their thoughts on the 5 languages of love. Believe it or not, both of them don’t ‘love’ the book. Why, you ask? Tune in and listen to today’s episode and find out.
Chances are you don’t understand what codependency is or what it looks like. Codependency doesn’t mean you’re weak or incapable. It doesn’t mean you don’t know how to problem solve or function on your own. It means you put everyone else’s needs before your own in order to feel loved or validated. Surprised? We were too—so when we both learned we were codependent, we were both in complete shock. Listen in on today’s episode as we discuss things to look for in yourself to determine if you’re codependent, examples of this self-sacrificing behavior, and ways you can set boundaries and learn to put yourself first.
No one's perfect. Everyone's entitled to their own opinions... and Andrea and Lori have opinions! In today's episode, they discuss some 'hot button' topics like hearing the statement, "I can't believe you're still single," or do people have sex too soon to 'lock down' a potential partner? Tune in to see if you agree or disagree with some of their discussions.
Narcissism. It’s the new buzzword that everyone uses to describe their ex after a breakup. But have we thrown this word around so much that it’s losing its impact? What is a narcissist? What are the signs you should look for to determine if the person you’re with is a true narcissist? Join Andrea and Lori as they discuss what narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is, what to look for, why codependents are easy targets for these types of people, and how to leave a narcissist.
Our episode of A Stay-at-Home Mom’s Journey Through Addiction and Recovery has received tons of listens, and we’ve gathered lots of follow up questions on the episode. Some like, “Is Alcoholics Anonymous really free?” Or, “Did you think about your kids at all when you had suicidal thoughts?” Andrea’s answering listener questions on one of the hardest periods of her life on today’s episode. Don’t miss it.
Dead silence. More often than not, single people everywhere are experiencing the lovely phenomena of ‘ghosting.’ What is ghosting? Why do people even do it? And why is it so common now? Tune in to today’s episode of the We Should Probably Talk About That podcast as we dissect this behavior and discuss why some people choose to go dead silent rather than talk about where the relationship is going.
Brené Brown says, “The opposite of addiction is connection.” Addiction can affect anyone. Whether it’s a family member or friend, addiction doesn’t discriminate. If an addict is lucky, they have stories that follow addiction about their recovery and sobriety. And that’s what we’re talking about on today’s episode… It’s a big week here at the We Should Probably Talk About That podcast: Andrea is celebrating 4 years of sobriety, and she’s sharing her vulnerable journey from addiction to becoming sober with all of us. This episode is filled with sadness and hope, and it’s a must-listen for everyone.
Where are YOU headed in 2023? Do you have an idea of the direction you’re going or what your next steps are? Who do you want to become? What do you want your life to look like? Do you even know?! This year, we want you to build the life you really want, so we’re talking all things vision boards. Learn WHY it’s so important to see your life ahead of you (hint, you should visualize that life every day), why you need to have balance in your life, and how being broken can make you even stronger. Listen in to hear some killer tips on how to put your plan into action and how to make the life you want happen!
Ladies! Today’s episode of the We Should Probably Talk About That podcast is just for you! After we published our two episodes about online dating tips for men, we had tons of requests from women to get men’s perspectives on their dos and don’ts of dating apps. Andrea and Lori had so much fun in this episode and we learned so much from these gentlemen! There are tons of great tips inside for all the single ladies out there. From writing a great profile to what pics to post and how NOT to express your needs on the app, this episode is full of goodies you don’t want to miss!
2022 is almost in our rear view mirror, and a lot of us can't wait to move into 2023. What lessons did you learn? What current events made you stop and look at your life and think, "Wow, I can so relate to that?" In today's episode Lori and Andrea are discussing some of the big news stories of 2022 including relationship battles, tWitch's suicide, and why you should toss your New Years Resolutions right out the window. Listen in to learn more about suicide awareness and more, plus learn how to move into 2023 being the best you and embracing all you have in your life.
Of course when you're listening to a podcast, you find yourself asking follow up questions in your head. We've covered a lot of topics, and our listeners have sent in some of those follow up questions. Today, we're answering some of those questions, and we're giving opinions on a few things as well. Take a listen and hear answers to great follow-up questions like, "What do you look for when you make new friends?" "Do you want to eventually fall in love?" "Do you believe in soulmates?" and so much more.
Adult relationships aren't easy. People are so busy these days, and social media has become the place where everyone posts their "fake lives" and no one is connecting in real life anymore. So how do you make friends as an adult in a world filled with filters, posed photos, and fake all around us? Today's episode of the We Should Probably Talk About That podcast is all about friendship--how to make friends, how to keep boundaries in friendships and stay true to yourself, and tips on what to do and what not to do. Lori and Andrea also share the insider info on how their friendship developed--spoiler alert: it took them over 2 years to "click," and it was totally worth the wait, wouldn't you agree? Listen up and start making connections with new friends now!
Is manifesting the new "woo woo" word around town and what exactly is it? Can your brain really create all your dreams and more? An easy answer to this is, YES it can! But take note, the one must-do that goes hand-in-hand with manifesting is BELIEVING you will absolutely achieve the results you want, then acting as if you have the results already. It sounds complex, but it's easier than you think. Listen and learn tips to beginning manifesting, what to watch out for, and how to set yourself up for success.
If you've ever heard the phrases 'polyamory or 'ethical non monogamy' there's no doubt you've had questions. What does it mean to be polyamorous? Do ethically non monogamous people just use that phrase to hook up with other people? There are many misconceptions and misinformation that goes around these two titles, and Lori and Andrea are asking their guest, Dave (a polyamorous, married man) the right questions to better understand this multi-relationship movement that's becoming common--even among the neighbors next door. Learn what polyamory means, who it's for (and who it's not for), how it stays 'ethical' between partners and so much more on today's episode. Whether you are only curious, a bit judgmental about this unknown phenomenon and want to educate yourself, or perhaps you and your partner are considering this lifestyle, today's episode is a glimpse behind the curtain of polyamory.
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! In today's episode, we're talking about Helpful Holiday Survival Tips. The holidays can be a stressful time for everyone, whether you're married, divorced, or an empty nester. In this episode, we give tips on how to not feel lonely if you're spending the holidays on your own, Andrea shares her family's favorite tradition that helps her forget all the bad that may have happened during the day and give back, and we give you permission to say "no" to lots of things. Tune in to hear our survival tips, and learn how to slide through the holiday season in peace.
Wow we got a lot of feedback on our first Rapid Fire Questions episode! Thanks to all that have shared their comments with us! Because you all loved the first round, we've decided to do More Rapid Fire Questions for all of you. Take a moment and peek into the world of Lori and Andrea and ponder how you'd answer these questions. Check it out now!
It's time for the much anticipated Part 2 episode of the We Should Probably Talk About That Dos and Don'ts of Online Dating Profiles. During this week's episode, Lori and Andrea talk about being intentional with your time when you're on dating apps, how to decide when to take the conversation off the app and move on to texting, and they share valuable tips on how to start conversations with the people you match with that will grab their attention and leave an impression -- so you'll be the unforgettable one in their in-box.
Hold on to your headphones, in today's We Should Probably Talk About That podcast, Lori and Andrea are firing off questions at each other... it's a fun way to get to know your hosts. Find out everything from their dream vacation spots to what activities they'd likely be doing to get arrested in the local library. It's all about real talk and hysterical answers all on today's episode.
Are you the type of person who wants to be likable... to friends or to potential partners? Do you find you morph into "just the right person" so they will choose you? Do you even realize that you do this? On today's episode, Lori and Andrea are discussing chameleon behavior and what it looks like. From changing small things about yourself, like following a sports team because "he did" or eating sushi because "everyone else likes it" to Andrea's story of a 10-year path of self-betrayal and loneliness that she carefully disguised as a faith journey and a happy life. Take a listen and you tell us--are you a chameleon?!
On this episode, Lori and Andrea discuss today's online dating app culture. Listen in as they share the dos and don'ts of profile pics, learn how to write a profile to catch the attention of a potential date, and pick up a few tips for what to share in your bio. Along with all of these tips, they also share personal experiences they’ve each had in the world of online dating--some good and some… not so good. This episode is part one of two, so watch for part two in the coming weeks!
Welcome to the first episode of the We Should Probably Talk About That Podcast. In today’s episode, Lori and Andrea introduce themselves and share a little about who they are and their experiences. Tune in as they introduce their new podcast and explain where the idea to create the show came from. Their goal is to create a space where people can learn from others’ stories and feel safe sharing the experiences that have stuck with them and shaped them.