Sidepiece Season: Recent Episodes
Enero
Met Laura via a mutual friend & we had a great conversation; here's the finale. We will undoubtedly speak again in the not so distant future. Like & Subscribe please! It helps the show to grow & it's FREE!
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Finally managed to have an interview with an insider/practitioner of consensual non-monogamy. Laura is sharp & kept me on my toes. She threw new terms & different ideas at me & I had a blast. Enjoy Part 1 of 2! Have questions that I haven't answered yet or interview ideas for the show? DM me on Instagram at sidepiece_season.
There are so many readily available distractions out there & sadly most of us are in a near constant state of poor focus. Stop blaming ADHD! The resulting lack of focus results from our lack of establishing priorities & then keeping ourselves accountable. There, I said it! Love to hear your thoughts. Anybody interested in cohosting an episode with me? DM me!
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There is a reason for everything that we do. It doesn't have to be high minded. Knowing the reason, establishing your boundaries, & adhering to your boundaries deliver the best results! Stop f@#king around out there on dating people that are not the right fit. (City bois/City girls excluded.) Drop me a line & tell me your craziest, strangest, or most disappointing dating stories.
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Businesses are generating incredible wealth from dating apps & yet loneliness has climbed to at all-time highs. That's strange right? Sure it is a multifactorial problem butter the apps helping or hurting? What do you think?
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In Speech it is crucial to know your audience. Communicating in relationships requires this, however it's even more critical to know oneself. Knowing yourself enables you to convey your messages clearly & with exactness. A great deal of discontent is spawned in the gaps of communication. Fix it & flourish!
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This question ruffles feathers for some reason. Folks get all emotional but really all that's being asked is "Do you have & can you show me your business plan?" The investment will be time & energy. They are asking for things that cannot be seen. You should have have an answer. If they don't like it - oh well. If you think your answer sucks - that's on you. I took it back to business school on this one. What are your thoughts?
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My take on 3 of your questions.
1) Should I give the person that cheated on me a second chance?
2) How do I make sure that I am not getting played in my relationship?
3) Is there is a love that lasts forever?
Have more questions? Want to dive deeper? Drop me a line.
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So you found yourself someone special. Seemingly the most awesome human on the planet - maybe ever. Fantastic! It's the love right out of your favorite songs. It seems like this is it, "THE ONE!" Well then, sit right down & talk about all the things that you hold dear to your heart & all of those you want from them! Time to be an open book. Are you ready for that?
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Hello there! I end up saying this a lot. & here we are again: NOBODY HAS TELEPATHY! You have to say what's on your mind. When it comes to sex there's too much that you could COULD be in to. I cannot guess. Nobody can. God will not give us divine revelation as to what really gets you off, sorry. Long term you not expressing that is going to cause more problems than it solves. FRFR
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As a man who has occasionally been on some b@llsh#t I feel completely confident in saying that if your relationship is not going well it's because YOU are on some bs! In this episode I explain why? DM me & let's make it a dialogue.
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Hey there friends! Just checking in to hoist responsibility for your underperforming relationship squarely onto your shoulders. Hear me out though...
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Sometimes we get rather cavalier with our time in our relationships & in our lives. That is one of the ways that we end up sabotaging ourselves & our relationships. What about it, is that you? Send me a DM.
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Where is your relationship heading? Are your goals aligned? Are you ready for whatever comes your way?
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Greeting all! This episode focuses on some of the major factors that lead to the demise of marriages & long term relationships. I'm still blaming individual & trash talking all the quick fix gurus out there being disingenuous. Send me a DM @sidepiece_season on IG. Thank You to everybody that followed & wrote a review last week; I appreciate you very much!
Somehow the notion that friends with benefit (FWB) are equivalent to serious relationships has taken hold. Additionally some folks use FWB as a distraction & delude themselves into thinking that they do not want more &/or cannot get more. I disagree. Dating is a dumpster fire these days, but that is no reason to abandon all hope. What is on your list of needs for/from long-term relationships? DM your list to @sidepiece_season on Instagram.
Episode 101 addendum. Here are a few things that I feel like I should have said.
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Last week I was asked to talk to this really smart kid after his first breakup. He is a teenager but this advice applies across the board. I was kicking around a name for this list. What do you think of the Sidepiece Five Piece? Let me on IG @sidepiece_season & if you like this episode send it to a friend. Thank You for your support!!!
For #100 I wanted to do something somewhat different from my normal show. There was an article about a man who hired killers to murder his sidepiece & her boyfriend. I had to dig around for facts that were less sensational & I found them on the KXAN website. Link to follow. I brought in some special backup for this episode. Enjoy it! https://www.kxan.com/news/crime/former-austin-car-dealer-tried-to-arrange-another-murder-after-arrest-us-doj-says/
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Sometimes we are disrupting the whole vibe & we don't even know it. Why? Because all of us have our own BS that we bring to the table. Sorry, you're NOT perfect. This episode was inspired by one off-hand remark from a fellow podcaster. Let me know what you think. DM me at sidepiece_season over on IG. I answer all my DMs. It's really not a bot!
7 May 2023 made it 2 years of Sidepiece Season!!! Today we talk about consistency & not once did I mention LOVE! Consistency is greater than Love! (Love is still dope though whenever it decides to show up.) Please Like & Subscribe!!! If you enjoyed the show tell a friend & tell an enemy it's great if you disliked it. Slide into my DMs with any questions or comments @sidepiece_season on IG. Be good to yourself & be good to others! Peace!
WARNING this episode contains a Domestic Violence story. Happened across this story on IG which triggered an investigation on my part. Take some time to search Charlie Newhart's story. Thanks to him for sharing the tale. His IG is iamcharlienewhart & he is wearing a gray shirt in front of a blue background. Check out the Community Service podcast #191 from 40:46 - 45:49 for more details. Let's talk about it! DM on IG! Please like, subscribe, rate, & review. They are all free!!!
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What are the MUST HAVES for long term success in relationships? LOVE is a "nice to have" but definitely not a must have. There I said it! I am going to do a miniseries on the MUST HAVES. Want to add yours? DM me on!
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Some thoughts that got stirred up after a screenshot was shared. Thanks for sharing!
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You can lie to yourself. We do it all the time. Self-limiting beliefs abound. Sometimes we make problems where none exist &/or ignore major issues altogether. Communication, emotional intelligence, & mindset all come into play. Tell me what you think. Add your thoughts. IG: sidepiece_season
Jordan D'nelle was passing through Arizona & stopped by to kick it in real life! Most of it did not happen where my gear was located so though we talked for closer to 7 hours this is all I have to show for it. Thanks Jordan!
IG: @jordandnelle @sidepiece_season
Jordan's podcast: Vaginas, Vulvas, & Vibrators
I worked with this guy at my last job & was curious what dating & relationships looked like from his viewpoint. I enjoyed this conversation & think that you will to. This was the first face-to-face recording that I have done; really has a positive impact on the energy! So cool!
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Hello Friends! Relationships always start off well but half of them crash. Let's have a quick talk about some of the reasons for this.
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Greeting & salutations friends! No this is not my chicken order but instead a list of 5 things that are vital to any great relationship. Check out the list & then DM me on my IG to add yours &/or discuss mine.
Talk to you soon!
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Last episode Katrina mentioned John Gottman's research (not by name) & I have read a few of his books. He has insights that resonate & so this episode I touch on some of his findings.
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This episode I interviewed Katrina. We work together & one day I overheard a portion of the story of her divorce while simultaneously battling cancer. It was jaw dropping & so I immediately asked her if she would share her story on the show. Nerves & all, she obliged. Thanks Katrina!
This episode contains comments regarding sexual assault. Be advised!
Paula from the podcast Talk Shit With P stopped by to record. The topics were broad & sparked many thoughts. There is a lot packed in to this one. Let me know how you enjoyed it.
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Just a little bit about attention. Too much & not enough are both problems. Attention from the wrong person of people is a problem. Sometimes it is your own personal desire for high levels of attention that ends up causing your woes. I'd love to hear from you with your comments & questions. DM me @sidepiece_season on Instagram.
I got a chance to catch up with Jay from The Congac Room Podcast. He spoke on his multiple marriages (3 to be exact) & some of the challenges with dating & marriage these days.
Find him at: @the_cognac_room_podcast on IG/Twitter
Go to https://grindcity.biz/ to watch his show if you have Roku.
I must give credit for this one to Bridgetta Giles (Say It To Me Nicepodcast) because I discovered @mrhoward365 via one of her IG story posts. He asks great questions designed to get a conversation started. They spark thoughtfulness & are fantastic for setting the stage to greater communication. You suck at actually communicating your deepest emotions, fears, & thoughts. His content helps with that! At some point we geeked out about all things A/V; I spared you all from that. Rob is on his game! Both his content & intent are valuable!
Check him out on everything @mrhoward365
On this episode Jordan & I talked about different aspects of being & having a sidepiece. We touched the tip of a few major icebergs. Make sure to check out her podcast Vaginas, Vulvas, & Vibrators.
IG & Twitter: @jordannelle
Website: https://jordandnelle.com/
James Bush LPC-MHSP graciously set aside some time for this interview. I was very excited to get another Mental Health Professional on the show. His credentials are cool but the fact that he has been through some shit (rough divorce) made him much more interesting & relatable. Add to that he has gained some great insights & you have another interview that I am proud to present.
He has offices in both Murfreesboro & Brentwood Tennessee. Call (615) 229-6205
or visit https://bushcounselingservices.com/ His podcast, Mind of A Man, is available wherever you listen to your podcasts.
Follow at: IG @mind_of_a_man_show Twitter @mind_of_a_man_
LPC = Licensed Professional Counselor & MHSP = Mental Health Service Provider
You are always prioritizing your life. Any area that you have not made a HIGH priority is, by default, LOW priority. Is that what you wanted? If not then take action on that!
Thanks again to Jordan for setting aside some time to appear on the show & also for pushing through my technical (sound) difficulties. She rocks! Catch her on her podcast: Vaginas, Vulvas, & Vibrators.
IG: @jordandnelle
Thanks again to Jordan for setting aside some time to appear on the show & also for pushing through my technical (sound) difficulties. She rocks! Catch her on her podcast: Vaginas, Vulvas, & Vibrators.
IG: @jordandnelle
This one has a toolkit for you. An entire list is included! Drop me a line on IG @sidepiece_season
This one has a toolkit for you. An entire list is included! Drop me a line on IG @sidepiece_season
Had the pleasure of speaking with Bill Maeda about his journey thus far & his relationship with himself & others. Great talk!
IG & TikTok: @billmaeda
YouTube: FitProHawaii
Brick & Mortar: FitProHawaii
Gremils be damned!!! Today has had its opportunities on display. Technical difficulties at each turn & then interenet connectivity struggles! But they can't stop the bumrush (IYKYK) - this episode is about your image & ego, ENJOY!
@Curttheconnector is his IG handle & this guy has an unique story. Curt is the first & only person that I have met that grew up in a juke joint! Enjoy!
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Matt mixes family & entrepreneurship & some complicated relationships. We only scratched the surface on this episode. I didn't really mention it in the show but he is an audio engineer by training. Check him out @iambigmoves in everything. Direct link to his podcast at pigmovespod.com
Just grabbed two stories that are happening in real time. I really do not want to use names so it may be a little muddled. To help clear up the Booty Call part let's call them A & B. A: threw away the marriage & when their plan did not pan out the offered clandestine booty calls to their ex. Wild right? I know. Anyway just a few things for you all to ponder.
Caught up with Hank Denson today. He's a great comedian but a more importantly a greater human & family man! Somewhere in the mix with all these things he also does advocacy work centered at better compensation for teachers over at Payteachersmoremoney.com AND he has a podcast for sneakerheads entitled Sneakers Unplugged! Sheesh! Relax & enjoy.
IG/Twitter: @hankdensoncomedy
LinkedIn: @jokedealersinc
Facebook: Hank Denson Comedy
Payteachersmore.com
YouTube: Sneakers Unplugged TV IG: @sneakersunplugged
A bit about the influence that's exerted by your peers, your circle, & your environment.
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On this episode I welcome Julius from the Toxic Tangents podcast. You all might have caught me on his podcast a while back, but now he's here for a longer conversation. It's tangential for sure but mostly we talked about substantial topics. Enjoy!
IG: @toxictangentspod (Major links are in his BIO)
Well now, Episode 69 has arrived! The teenager in me is having a field day with this one! Prepare for me to spit that hot fire!
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Marques Edwards is a straight shooter & he pulls no punches! This was a fantastic conversation that ranged over many topics. His POV is unique, maybe becasue he lived in Isreal for a time, & often hilarious! Great energy! Cool conversation! Enjoy!
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Here are 3 things that folks in bad relationships do to save what are actually fairly bullshit & exhausting relationships. I made this one because there is a bit of trend of people in bad relationships (relationships that increase stress & rob you of joy) DOUBLING DOWN in the face of the odds. WHY? Take an honest look at your situation. Quite a few relationships WILL NOT WORK OUT!
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Poet Obbie West joins me this episode. He is driven & passionate to say the least. His discovery of poetry changed his life & provided an entry point to his advocay work. Along the way he was married for a time, became a father, & served in the U.S. Army for 20 years. Hailing from South Central L.A. he has gone on to perform & present both nationally & internationally. I was fortunate enough to grab a few hours out his of day. Enjoy!
https://www.spokenadvocacy.com
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@obbiewest on FB/IG/Twitter
Obbie West Presents (Words of West) on YouTube
Not exactly what Cypress Hill was rapping about but it fits! When the conversation shifts to an arguement & the charged atmosphere takes hold - you need to be prepared, in advance, to successfully navigate that situation. When the shit goes down you better be ready!
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I met Mojo last year in a podcasting coaching cohort. He's an all around interesting guy; Canadian Navy vet, musician, ordained minister, & Stoic with several (3) podcasts. Imagine my surprise when he told me that he married his sidepiece! I had planned to have my entire cohort on the show anyway but that solidified Mojo's spot! Search for his podcast(s) wherever you like to listen to your pods.
The Wigglian Way (his spiritual podcast)
A Moment With Moj (his philosophical)
Everybody Speaks Music (musical)
Good things can come from failures & mistaked but we're here so that you can sidestep the same old mistakes that so many others have made.
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This time out the tables were turned. I was interviewing music producer/producer coach Matty the Chef when he started interviewing me. He asked some good questions as any great coach would. I had a great time talking to him!
Mattythechef.com
YouTube: MTC Music TV
Twitter: @MattyTheChefDC
Facebook: Matityahu McCaskill
Max Mupesse (moo/pessay) is a organizer/promoter of performances & shows, consultant, cultivator of emerging artists, author, & generally speaking a very thoughtful guy. Fortunate that our schedules finally lined up! I'm happy to have this interview which was recorded via Zoom while I was out of the house. Begger can't be choosers. Thanks for sticking with me! Check out Max via the following links:
IG/LinkedIn/Twitter/YouTube: @maxmupesse
Podcast: Infatuated Hustle
Safe 4th of July! Enjoy episode 60! Complacency destroys more relationships than sidepieces ever will!
I know that it sounds crazy but this fantastic little tweak really allows you to improve your relationship & stay on task. You will work harder at improving & maintaining your relationship if you are just doing it for yourself. Forget altruism; this works! For real, for real!
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Recently I was interviewd by Robb Smith on his podcast Chewing the Fat w/ Big Robb. We had such a good conversation I wanted to keep it going on my show & he obliged. We both share a focus on Mental Health so we got into that as it relates to individuals & relationships. Robb is a husband, father, & all around great guy, with an extensive background in radio, tv, & acting. Check out his show; I'm certain you'll enjoy it! (Oh I was on episode 6 of Season 2! Give it a listen!)
https://www.chewingthefatbr.com
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Speaking with,The Speaker's Mechanic, Jason Hall. Jason is an Speech Language Pathologist, Communication Coach, father, & entrepreneur. We discussed the tip of the communication iceberg. We will be back with more on this topic for sure!
If you have any questions about speech or communication you can find Jason here:
IG: @thespeakersmechanic
www.thespeakersmechanic.com
No I did not attend Wharton. But some principles from the business world apply & there you have it.
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Feel free to send me a DM with any concerns, questions, or interview requests.
What do you get from relationships? YOU specifically. What to relationships mean to you? What do they provide you & your life? What are the traits that you must have in a mate? What really matters to you? I know the Top Two most important things...
I kept it short & sweet.
If you know the book you might be wondering what it has to do with relationsips? Some of us are the tree & some of us are the boy. Hell some have played BOTH roles.
I wanted to talk about all of the different types on intimacy. Who better to cover this with than my friend Bridgetta Giles. Bridgetta is an Certified Family Life Educator, Sexuality Counselor/Educator, Mother, & as if that wasn't enough, a Podcaster. As is customary with our conversations there are some interesting & hilarious tangets. Wait for the hats; you'll see! Here's her information so that you can reach out, check in, & follow her.
Instagram & Twitter: @sayittomenicepodcast
Say It To Me Nice is available on all major podcast platforms: Amazon/Apple/Google/ Spotify/Stitcher
No matter what the endeavor your MINDSET is KEY. Mindset coach Bryn Drescher joined me via Zoom for a talk about mindset in relationships. Bryn works with professional & amateur athletes as well as entrepreneurs as a Mental Performance Coach. Coach Bryn is insightful, intelligent, & simply a great human! It was my pleasure to have her on the show! You will love episode 50! (I wanted to commemerate my 50th episode with something special & Bryn more than fills the bill!)
Follow Coach Bryn Drescher:
Instagram: @bryndrescher (Links in her Bio. Check out her 5-Day Take Your Mindset Pro Challenge)
Give her podcast a listen on Apple/Spotify/Stitcher: The Mental Advantage
Bryndrescher.com
YouTube: Bryn Drescher
When the relationship hits rough waters there is an impulse to pull back & go below deck til the storm blows over. This does not work! Distancing yourself can be used to great effect in some instances; THIS IS NOT ONE!!!
Recently I have been overly focused on the negative parts of relationships & so I wanted to come back with focus on the good parts.
A closer look at a trait that serves us in all aspects of life but so often goes overlooked in relationships. Take a deeper dive.
In the recent past things have been getting negative & tense. Who needs that? I wanted to catch you if you are giving in to that vibe or getting sucked in to that space. Hold your heads high! You will overcome!
This aspect of relationships (& life) goes by without being given a great amount of attention; it deserves to be understood & embraced. I decided to present this information so that you could get a sense of the real power & value of forgiveness.
There are lots of myths surrounding realtionships that make it hard to have a good relationship. They have people chasing these ideas that are not based in reality. This episode it the start of squashing them.
Sidepiece Science #2 is all about communication styles. It's a great start but is not exhaustive because the topic is much larger than this short podcast episode.
Doing my part to eradicate two bogus themes about relationships: 1) Your partner can be stolen unless you are on your game. 2) You can be trapped into a relationship that you don't want to be in.
My tips for exiting a toxic relationship. Just to get you pointed in the right direction...
Not all regrets are created equal. For me, the things that I had the ability to do but for whatever reason DID NOT DO - sheeeesh! Those are the regrets that really fux with me.
The whole point is to talk about all relationships in the realest & most nonjudgemental ways I know. This is a heavy one.
MACKING: talking to anybody with a goal in mind. Can it be sex? Yes. Is it only sexual? Not just naw, HELL NAW! Every conversation SHOULD be entered with an outcome in mind! MACK THE WORLD! Here's how!
Think about all the things that you do without thinking. Some of those patterns are fucking up your relationships. Let's talk about it!
Fears are limitless if you let them run unchecked in your head, & whatever you are greedy for cannot be satiated. Just human facts.
If you're a jerk to others (in thought or deed) there's a great chance that you're being a jerk to yourself as well. You should definately stop that!
Don't forget how this whole thing started; IT'S IMPORTANT!!! IT WILL END IN A FASHION SIMILAR TO HOW IT STARTED!!! It's real life NOT a fairytale!
The uncertain path to navigate between family/firends/sqaud & your boo. Spoiler Alert: not so clear cut!
In this episode I tell the late night creepers (I know some of y'all are doing it in broad daylight) how to double down on their primary relationship.
We are heading into Fall & people get weary; S.A.D. starts to kick in; it can get bleek. Just a reminder that the good things are still out there for you. Keep your head up!
It's that time of year & as a nod to all my friends that go off the deep end for Halloween, I brought a little Sidepiece Season to Halloween. Make it a great week! Enjoy (as always)
Looking back things were wrong from the start & I failed to fix what only I could fix...
Hello good people. In this episode I talk about six of thew ways Sidepiecing fucks with your life. I'm using "fuck" in the sense of upheaval. The ways it can change & drastically impact your day to day. There are more than six, but these are the most significant imo. Enjoy. As always, thanks for stopping by! Make it a great day!
So this guy at Guitar Center wanted to know what kind of shooting I talked bout on my show. I was wearing one of my shirts & assumed that this podcast was about shooting?!? Made me want to put some clarity out into the space & so this is just a quick re-introduction to the show.
Do you want to get geeky about sexual relationships? Well this is a supplemental series just for you! I will tell you the exact physiological events that are happening to you while you're doing the do. Everybody is a little different & so I will try to cover as many of the bases as possible. Enjoy! Like! Subscribe! Review!
Foundational concepts in communication. EVERY relationship you have hinges on effective communication to thrive & grow; STOP BEING SO LAZY!!! & ffs SHUT UP & LISTEN!!!
Talking about why sidepiece sex is so good & why your long term sex is not. Plus a little bit about the players!
Going down the list of the "Top 6 Reasons She Sidepieced Up" & doing some prep work for an upcoming episode called "Do You Even Know Why?"
Stress is a killer. We all have heard of the negative ways that prolonged stress harm our health, but not so much about how it harms our relationships. (The harm in not limited to your partner - ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE NEGATIVELY IMPACTED BY PROLONGED STRESS!)
If you're mad enough you seek retribution or vindication or both! Why are you mad though?
Taking a look at using loneliness to your advantage; spotting the signs that boundaries are lowering; improving the conversations that you have. Oh & a little bit on men & women being friends.
Part I - Overview on loneliness. Part II - How a sidepiece can benefit from loneliness. Part III - Actions to help prevent her loneliness.