REAL Talk with Ophelia: Recent Episodes
V. Ophelia Rigault
REAL Talk with Ophelia is a solo podcast series hosted by TV Host, Speaker, Grief Transformative Educator and Sassy Trinidadian-Canadian V. Ophelia Rigault. REAL is an acronym for (Resiliency, Equity & Authentic Leadership). Ophelia speaks directly to the transformative power of grief and its intersectionality with race, gender, culture, spirituality and how it is presented in the everyday. These conversations are bite-sized snippets and are about 5 to 15 minutes in length.
In this episode, I shine a light on the impact of a quiet, yet powerful leadership as I share how my dad, Errol Joseph Dixon, had a lasting impression on my leadership style.
You will learn how his strength in listening and his unwavering support for my dreams resonates as a reminder that true leadership isn't about being the loudest voice, but about the impact of compassion and understanding.
TOP CAREING TAKEAWAYS:
- Breaking Stereotypes of Black Men: "When my dad entered my life, I was about twelve years old. He brought with him a sense of contentment that eliminated many of the negative stereotypes that are often associated with Black men. In a world where misconceptions prevail about Black men, my dad stood out as a beacon of positivity, kindness, and an unwavering support for my dreams."
- The Impact of Quiet Strength: "In a society that often values loudness and boldness and this sense of showmanship, this sense of aggression, my dad was a quiet strength that embodied empathy and that spoke volumes."
- The Power of Presence in Leadership: "The greatest gift that you can give to them is being a witness, being that witness. Where your presence is there, but your words are not saying much, but your presence speaks volumes."
- The Essence of True Leadership: "Remember that true leadership isn't always about being the loudest person or the loudest voice in the room, but it's about the impact that you will make and that you will do through your compassion and understanding."
About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
- Compassionate
- Authentic
- Resilient
- Equity-focused
- Intentionally inquisitive
- Nurturing-Neighbourhood and having a
- Growth Mindset
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
- Follow and listen to the podcast on this platform
- Connect or send me a message via my website
- Download a free chapter of The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership
- Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
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In this special highlight episode for Black History Month, I am celebrating leaders who inspire me with their leadership style.
Today, I shine a light on Martha Williams an entrepreneur whose unwavering determination and commitment to creating an inclusive community have made her an inspiration.
Martha is the proud founder and owner of Pedal Works Café & Studios in Kingston, Ontario, and her story is a testament to perseverance and passion. Joinme as we explore Martha's journey and the valuable leadership lessons we can learn from her inspiring example.
About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
- Compassionate
- Authentic
- Resilient
- Equity-focused
- Intentionally inquisitive
- Nurturing-Neighbourhood and having a
- Growth Mindset
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
- Follow and listen to the podcast on this platform
- Connect or send me a message via my website
- Download a free chapter of The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership
- Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
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In today's episode, we spotlight the incredible Pamela Sylvan, known as the Mojo Coach for Black History Month Leader Highlights.
I share about her legacy of unwavering curiosity, resilience in the face of resistance, and the power to create change as an inclusive leader.
I also share how her "velvet rope" can help you to mentality remember, as you aim for profound change, resistance is a sign that you are on the right path.
TOP CAREING TAKEAWAYS:
- Embrace resistance as a sign that you are challenging the status quo and making a meaningful impact.
- Recognize that not everyone will like you, but it's important to stay true to your mission of creating profound change.
- Set boundaries by creating a "velvet rope" for yourself and be selective about who you allow into your space.
- You don't need everyone to like you. You are not in it to be liked.
- For greater insights, check out episode 108 for my highlight interview with Pamela
About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
- Compassionate
- Authentic
- Resilient
- Equity-focused
- Intentionally inquisitive
- Nurturing-Neighbourhood and having a
- Growth Mindset
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
- Follow and listen to the podcast on this platform
- Connect or send me a message via my website
- Download a free chapter of The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership
- Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
Learn more about Pamela by visiting her site at https://www.pamelasylvan.com/
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In this special episode for Black History Month (BHM), I highlight influential leaders who have inspired me, to be a CAREING LEADER.
Today, I share a deeply personal story of how my mother's CAREING leadership style and words of wisdom, "Don't let nobody steal your joy," have guided me through challenging times and continue to profoundly shame my leadership approach.
Drawing from her own experiences, I encourage you to resist and find joy in your resistance, especially in the face of adversity.
Listen in now on how my mother's message of resilience can inspire you not only during Black History Month but throughout the year.
TOP CAREING TAKEAWAYS:
- Stay True to Yourself by embracing your authenticity as a leader.
- Build Resilience in Your Adversity by overcoming challenges with strength and fortitude.
- Embrace a Growth Mindset by learning to grow and evolve from every experience.
- Value Your Worth by learning to recognize your value and worthiness at all times even when others do not.
- Embody a Joyful Resistance by choosing to maintain your joy and positivity amidst setbacks, resistance and rejection.
About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
- Compassionate
- Authentic
- Resilient
- Equity-focused
- Intentionally inquisitive
- Nurturing-Neighbourhood and having a
- Growth Mindset
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
- Follow the podcast on this platform
- Connect or send me a message via my website
- Download a free chapter of The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership
- Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
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Systemic racism is alive and well!
In this powerful episode, I address the crucial role of white parents in teaching their children about racism. I challenge the desire to shield children from the reality of racism - as you don't want to steal their "innocence".
Well BIPOC and racialized children do not have that luxury, so your children, can't have it as well. For us to have an antiracist world, white parents, you have to do your part. I share with you a real-life experience, of a white parent whose child used the N-word and how they handled it with guidance.
TOP CAREING TAKEAWAYS
- As an inclusive leader, and as a parent, you can use your influence on your children to create a community of belonging. Listen at: [00:00:25 → 00:00:36]'
- You as a White Parent are not excused from your child not realizing our world is racist. Listen in at: [00:01:48 → 00:02:10].
- Racism cannot be only addressed through empathy - ACTION must also be part of the equation. Listen in at [00:02:55 → 00:03:21].
- Using the reasoning that we are all of the "human race" to not address racism is not acceptable, because race is a social construct - that was constructed for us as humans to believe that certain groups of people, based on the way they look, etc., were deemed less than.
About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
- Compassionate
- Authentic
- Resilient
- Equity-focused
- Intentionally inquisitive
- Nurturing-Neighbourhood and having a
- Growth Mindset
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
- Follow the podcast on this platform
- Connect or send me a message via my website
- Download a free chapter of The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership
- Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
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In this episode, I dive into the concept of authentic leadership. I break down what it truly means to be an authentic leader, emphasizing the importance of integrity, transparency, and genuine interactions.
We discuss the misconceptions and realities of authentic leadership, highlighting the key attributes such as self-awareness, vulnerability, and the ability to build meaningful relationships. I also emphasize the role of authentic leaders in creating inclusive environments and inspiring others to work towards a common goal.
Tune in to explore the qualities of authentic leadership and be inspired to lead with authenticity and care.
The CAREING Episode Takeaways
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Authentic leadership is about being true to oneself and leading with integrity. It involves aligning your actions, values, and beliefs while fostering genuine interactions with those around you.
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Authentic leaders are self-aware, embrace vulnerability, and build meaningful relationships. They listen actively and are genuinely concerned about the well-being of their team and community.
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Authentic leaders demonstrate a strong sense of purpose, have a clear vision, and lead by example. They create a safe and inclusive environment where individuals feel respected and valued.
About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
- Compassionate
- Authentic
- Resilient
- Equity-focused
- Intentionally inquisitive
- Nurturing-Neighbourhood and having a
- Growth Mindset
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
- Follow the podcast on this platform
- Connect or send me a message via my website
- Download a free chapter of the
The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership - Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
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Episode 108: Not Everyone Is Going to Like You & That's OK - Insights with Mojo Coach Pamela Sylvan.In this episode, I sit down with Pamela, a Mojo Coach, as we have a transformative and lively conversation about being authentic in your leadership - and why it is essential for your self-care and growth. We dive deep into the uncomfortable topic of wanting to be liked by everyone and the importance of authenticity. Pamela emphasizes that being a leader means staying true to yourself, even if it means not pleasing everyone - or even being disliked. By embracing authenticity, you can attract community and live your best life, creating a sense of purpose and passion in being an inclusive leader. About Pamela: Pamela Sylvan is a highly accomplished personal development 'whisperer' primarily for midlife women who know they are 'not done yet' and would like to express and flow more vibrancy in their lives.With over 35 years of experience in the field of self-improvement, Public Relations, training and development and leadership, Pamela has established herself as a respected expert and sought-after speaker. Pamela's journey began with her own personal transformation, overcoming challenges and adversity that began with debilitating messages from within her own family to emerge as a confident and booming individual. Inspired by her own growth, she embarked on a mission to help others unlock their mojo, spiritual energy, vibrancy and inner strengths and achieve their dreams.To learn more about Pamela visit her website at https://www.pamelasylvan.com/--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/v-ophelia-rigault/message
Rebroadcast episode from my REAL Talk Podcast. It's not my Responsibility to Make you Feel Comfortable about Your Privilege. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/v-ophelia-rigault/message
In this episode, we'll be discussing seven examples of what being an ally really looks like. Ophelia shares 7 examples in order for you to better understand how we can be effective allies.
Being an ally is about actively supporting and advocating for marginalized groups in order to create an inclusive environment.
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In this episode, we discuss the 7 Types of Allies based on Karen Catlin's book, "Better Allies." Join in to uncover which type of ally you are and learn more about the importance of being an ally.
If you haven't listened to Episode 104: What is allyship and why is it needed?" - take a moment to revisit the concept of an ally, which I discussed in detail. Tune in now to become a better ally!
The CAREING Leader is a podcast dedicated to exploring the various aspects of inclusive leadership and how you can foster communities of belonging in all areas of your life.
About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
Compassionate, Authentic, Resilient, Equity-focused, Intentionally inquisitive, Nurturing, and has a mindset for Growth
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
- Connect to Ophelia via her website
- Download a free chapter of the The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership
- Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
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In this episode, we dive into the definition of what is allyship and why it is needed to bring equity to the places you live, work, and play. About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is Compassionate, Authentic, Resilient, Equity-focused, Intentionally inquisitive, Nurturing, and has a mindset for GrowthLET'S STAY CONNECTED Connect to Ophelia via her website at www.vopheliarigault.comDownload a free chapter of the The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership GroupWhether you’re a seasoned leader or new to your role, this podcast will help you develop the skills and strategies necessary to become an inclusive leader who truly cares about the people you lead.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/v-ophelia-rigault/message
In this episode of The CAREING Leader, we discuss the importance of acknowledging grief during the holiday season and provide 10 powerful questions for inclusive leaders to consider. By asking these questions and fostering a sense of belonging, we can create a supportive community during this time. Join us as we explore the impact of grief and ways to provide support. Learn more about Opehlia - visit her website at https://www.vopheliarigault.com/Follow Ophelia on Social Media:LinkedIn Facebook:Learn more on how you can strengthen your skills in being an inclusive leader by joining Ophelia's Private Leadership Group - DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging at https://www.facebook.com/groups/973370966172005 #InclusiveLeadership #HolidaySeasonSupport --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/v-ophelia-rigault/message
On today's "The CAREING Leader" podcast, Ophelia explores the concept of compassion and how it relates to inclusive leadership. It is the first pillar in her CAREING Leadership model.
She defines compassion as more than just feeling sorry for someone, but rather as a combination of empathy, understanding, and taking action. True compassion involves connecting with others and actively doing something to help them.
Stay tuned to learn more about how you can grow your compassionate leadership skills.
About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
Compassionate, Authentic, Resilient, Equity-focused, Intentionally inquisitive, Nurturing, and has a mindset for Growth
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
- Connect to Ophelia via her website
- Download a free chapter of the The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership
- Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
Whether you’re a seasoned leader or new to your role, this podcast will help you develop the skills and strategies necessary to become an inclusive leader who truly cares about the people you lead.
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The CAREING Leader is an Inclusive Leadership model that explores the seven key pillars of inclusive leadership that can transform organizations and communities.
The CAREING leader is Compassionate, Authentic, Resilient, Equity-focused, Intentionally inquisitive, Nurturing, and has a mindset for Growth.
Whether you’re a seasoned leader or new to your role, this style of leadership will help you develop the skills and strategies necessary to become an inclusive leader who truly cares about the people you lead.
Because in our world we need CAREING leaders.
About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
Compassionate, Authentic, Resilient, Equity-focused, Intentionally inquisitive, Nurturing, and has a mindset for Growth
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
- Connect to Ophelia via her website
- Download a free chapter of the The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership
- Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
Whether you’re a seasoned leader or new to your role, this podcast will help you develop the skills and strategies necessary to become an inclusive leader who truly cares about the people you lead.
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In this episode of The CAREING Leader podcast, EDI Educator V. Ophelia Rigault interviews Sylvia Morrison, a Life Mastery Consultant and humanitarian. Sylvia shares her inspiring journey of creating a non-profit organization that co-creates libraries in rural villages in Ghana.
She emphasizes the power of taking inspired action, even if you don't have the full solution, and highlights the importance of As an inclusive leader, you will discover how taking one step at a time and focusing on what inspires you can create communities of belonging. Get ready to be inspired by Sylvia's story and learn valuable lessons about taking action.
Tune in to learn more about inspired action and creating communities of belonging.
Ophelia’s 7 takeaways from the episode:
Here are seven key takeaways from Ophelia's inspiring conversation with Sylvia:
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Design a life in harmony with your Soul's purpose: As an inclusive leader you need to lead your life with what aligns with your deepest calling.
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Take inspired action: You don't need to have all the answers, just take one step forward based on what inspires and challenges you.
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Find inspiration in your world: Identify what brings you joy, what challenges you, and what inspires you in your community. Then act on it.
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Progress one step at a time: Break down your goals into manageable steps and consistently take action towards them.
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Foster communities of belonging: Through inspired action, you can create communities where everyone feels a sense of belonging.
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Start with what excites you: Identify a problem or passion in your community and take the first step towards addressing it.
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Avoid overwhelming yourself: Instead of seeking the complete solution, focus on the power of inspired feelings and take action from there.
Tune in to this episode to gain valuable insights from Sylvia's inspiring story and learn how to make a positive impact in your community through inspired action.
Connect to & Support Sylvia's Work:
- Learn more about Sylvia at https://sylviamorrison.com
- Support Sylvia’s dream of bringing a t 1,000 copies of Grace’s Lunch to children in Ghana this December at https://linksacrossborders.org/donation/
- Purchase Sylvia's book "Grace’s Lunch" at https://www.amazon.ca/Graces-Lunch-Sylvia-Morrison/dp/1998816559
- Learn more about Sylvia‘s humanitarian organization, Links Across Borders at https://linksacrossborders.org/
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Join Ophelia, as she dives deep into the world of you can cultivate your compassionate leadership skills. This episode builds on episode 101, where Ophelia defines compassionate leadership.
You will discover how the power of reflection, the thrill of seeking new experiences, and the secrets to building emotional intelligence will help to build your compassionate leadership skills.
About the CAREING Leader Leadership Style:
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
Compassionate, Authentic, Resilient, Equity-focused, Intentionally inquisitive, Nurturing, and has a mindset for Growth
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
- Connect to Ophelia via her website
- Download a free chapter of the The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership
- Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
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The CAREING Leader Podcast is hosted by V. Ophelia Rigault EDI Educator, TV Host, Author and Community Collaborator.
The CAREING leadership style has seven key pillars that inclusive leaders and organizations can utilize to transform organizations and communities. The CAREING leader is
Compassionate, Authentic, Resilient, Equity-focused, Intentionally inquisitive, Nurturing, and has a mindset for Growth
LET'S STAY CONNECTED
Connect to Ophelia via her website
Download a free chapter of the
The CAREING Leader - Mastering the 7 Pillars of Inclusive Leadership Grow your leadership skills by joining Ophelia's private DARE TO BE AN INCLUSIVE LEADER & Create a Culture of Belonging Leadership Group
Whether you’re a seasoned leader or new to your role, this podcast will help you develop the skills and strategies necessary to become an inclusive leader who truly cares about the people you lead.
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This podcast episode is inspired by the quote by Audre Lorde: “Black and Third World people are expected to educate white people as to our humanity. Women are expected to educate men. Lesbians and gay men are expected to educate the heterosexual world. The oppressors maintain their position and evade their responsibility for their own actions. There is a constant drain of energy which might be better used in redefining ourselves and devising realistic scenarios for altering the present and constructing the future.”
It is not the responsibility of BIPOC people to make those in privileged and powerful positions feel comfortable. It is the responsibility of those with your privilege to understand why they are feeling uncomfortable and challenge themselves to dive deep into those feelings in order to create communities of belonging.
Listen to Episode 23 - What is Belonging & Why it's Important to learn more.
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In this episode, I share a personal story of when I was six-year-old that was my first introduction to unconscious bias and how my teacher did not make me feel that I belonged.
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In this spotlight episode, Ophelia interviews Chantal Fraser on her not-so-seamless transition from being a veteran to starting her own business and how these experiences helped her to create her IDEAL life. Through her company, Empowered Path Inc. Chantal Fraser (She/Elle) acts as a Thought Partner, sharing practical tactics and strategies to help people discover their ideal jobs. Chantal also helps employers learn how to create more inclusive workplaces, so that they can attract and retain a more diverse workforce.
Brought to you by BPW Canada, Real Talk Solutions, and the Canadian Coalition to Empower Women.
Learn more about Chantal at https://www.empoweredpath.ca/meet-chantal
Podcast Transcript available in French and English - see links below:
English: https://ccew.ca/images/Podcast_translations/Spotlight_Episode_1_-_with_Chantal_Fraser_-_How_to_Create_an_IDEAL_Life_TRANSCRIPT-Final_EN.pdf
French: https://ccew.ca/images/Podcast_translations/Spotlight_Episode_1_-_with_Chantal_Fraser_-_How_to_Create_an_IDEAL_Life_TRANSCRIPT-Final-F.pdf
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Belonging is a feeling of being happy, comfortable and feeling authentic while being a part of a particular group. It is a feeling that you are welcomed and accepted by the group members. Having a sense that you belong is a fundamental need of being a human being.
It is essential for leaders to understand it and work towards creating a culture of belonging in order to create a space where people want to stay and participate.
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As a leader, you need to have a ROADMAP to manage grief when it comes to the workplace. Because it will. In this episode, I share tips on how you can support and lead your people through grief.
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Grief is an emotional response to any kind of loss. This loss could be a loss of a loved one, a job, your health, a relationship, a pet, your home, a dream, etc.
The total annual cost of employee grief is $75-$100 billion annually. When one looks deeper, the costs of grief are often hidden under the statistics. For example, the cost of mental illnesses to the Canadian economy is estimated at over $50 billion annually, with $20 billion of that stemming directly from workplace losses. Grief impacts more than $6 billion in lost productivity from absenteeism and turnover.
For more tips check out my Linkedin article at https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/ten-ways-support-grieving-employee-v-ophelia-rigault?articleId=6370835661099986944
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Do Let Them Hut Yoh Head, is a Trinidadian saying/wisdom that I grew up with, to mean, don't let people stress you to the point that you are feeling emotionally unwell.
Historical Note:
The official language of Trinidad and Tobago is English, and the most commonly spoken languages are Trinidadian and Tobagonian Creole English which uses a large number of local words and expressions. Many of these have non-English origins - these derive primarily from French and French Creole, Spanish, various West African languages, and the Indio-Trinidadian Hindustani (Hindi-Urdu), Bengali, Telugu, and Tamil, Trinidadian languages.
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I grew up with my mother telling me when I would get involved in "adult conversations" to "mind my business". I knew instantly that I was overstepping into an area that did not concern me. Drink Water and Mind Your Business is a song about focusing your energy on yourself rather than being overly involved in other people's lives. In this episode, I break down the spiritual and physical meaning of this song.
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Self-care can be such a buzzword these days - and sometimes gets confused with self-soothing.
In 1988, the words of the African-American lesbian writer Audre Lorde became a rallying cry:
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
Self-care is necessary in order for us to deal with a world that hates us because of our race, gender, religion or cultural affiliation.
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Peace love and light,
Ophelia
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Today, we’re taking looking at how Grief is More than Five Stages - it is also about Continuing Bonds
Let's dive in.
The five stages of grief are ingrained in our cultural consciousness as the natural progression of emotions one experiences after the death of a loved one. However, it turns out the model does not describe most people's experiences, and was never even meant to apply to the bereaved.
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A child may go from crying one minute to playing the next. It's essential to be developmentally appropriate when supporting them. Throughout the pandemic, millions of children are experiencing grief due to the death of a loved one from COVID-19.
Children are also grieving vicariously from watching their parents experience loss of their businesses, careers, financial security, mental health decline, and generally a sense of normalcy and consistency. There is also a sense of collective grief that is felt globally, and children feel all of this, even if they do not express it outwardly.
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Sidney Poitier, Oscar-winning actor and Hollywood's first Black movie star, dies at 94. When I heard this news, instant memories of watching Sidney Poitier's movies with my mother came rushing back. I remembered her speaking of him with awe and admiration. In this episode, I reflect on the "Meaning of Sidney Poitier" in my life as a Black woman.
Learn more about his life at: https://www.cnn.com/2022/01/07/entertainment/sidney-poitier-death/index.html
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“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” Revelation 21:4
The above verse has been what has helped me to heal my deep grief. There were many days that I was pissed at my God, but I had a deep-rooted belief that my mother’s grief had to have meaning. If in life she meant so much to me – then in death, I needed to figure out that meaning as well.
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In this episode, I discuss what is REAL Talk and the purpose behind the podcast.
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The word disappointment originates from the Old French word désappointer which means “to deprive of an office or position.” In relationships, when we feel disappointed in a person - we are feeling we have been deprived of the potential (the hope) we had in them and for them. This is the grief of disappointment.
We had hope in that person, and they did not live up to our idea of who they should/can be. Is it about them, or is it about YOU?
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I have no problem with you seeing the bright sides of things, or being optimistic or having a positive personality. I am a very positive person. However, when we don't let others sit with their pain, share their pain - and rush to put a fancy bow on their pain - we are 'SILVER-LINING IT".
We do this for a variety of reasons. When we insist on finding the silver lining to a deep sorrow in someone, we are actually robbing ourselves and of the opportunity to build connection and empathy - instead, we build disconnection and distrust.
“Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another and feeling with the heart of another.” – Alfred Adler.
“You can only understand people if you feel them in yourself.” – John Steinbeck.
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” – Mother Teresa.
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It’s not about saying the right things. It’s about doing the right things.
All loss is tragic however, there are some that are horrific, sudden and unnecessary.
For example:
The murder of a family member.
The genocide of a community.
Natural Disasters such as earthquakes, hurricanes, plane crashes, and building collapses.
The World is shocked. We ask ourselves "How does this happen?"
We are overwhelmed by the graphic nature presented to us on the news.
Then all of a sudden we pull away - and go back to our world - because to think of it - to sit in it - makes us feel vulnerable.
Grief is heavy - and it needs to be witnessed not fixed.
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As Martin Luther King, Jr. reminded us more than 50 years ago, “a riot is the language of the unheard.” Reports of hate crimes are surging in Canada during the COVID-19 pandemic and are on the rise in Muslim, Asian and Jewish communities. Indigenous Communities are dealing with another deep wound of finding over 335 murdered children. Black and Indigenous people are disproportionately amongst the victims of police deadly shootings than White People. We view these stories on social media and the news - we are shocked - we are disgusted - we can't believe it - we become uncomfortable - and then what do we do? We send our thoughts and prayers and get on with our day.
It's time to do more.
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She tried to embarrass me for wearing my headwrap. I had a choice to make. Should I believe her words or believe my truth.
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Yes, you. The problem in supporting a griever is most times, those who are providing the support. You tell people "it's time to get over it" and you say things like "they wouldn't want to see you crying so much". Most times, the problem isn't that people in grief are too much or they feel too much the problem is that grief makes you uncomfortable. It brings up feelings of vulnerability and fears and it may even remind you of your own grief and the people that you are missing. This episode will give you some tips and how you can support a griever with compassion, patience, understanding and love.
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Gaslighting is a type of emotional manipulation where one person manipulates another person into questioning or doubting their own reality. Gaslighting occurs in the workplace, in relationships and even occurs when someone is grieving. It's when people say:
“Calm down, it did not happen that way.”
“Stop being so sensitive or You are overreacting.”
“You’re turning this into a bigger deal than it is.”
All of these are examples of gaslighting statements. The speaker is intentionally or unintentionally undermining your confidence, which makes you question your perception of reality.
Gaslighting is destructive and it is a type of emotional manipulation that is based on power and control.
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Vicarious grief refers to grieving and experiencing pain and loss that is stimulated by someone else's loss. It is generated by another individual's loss who is the actual griever, but you are also "feeling" the pain "vicariously". It's real and it's normal.
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Not everyone is having a 'Hallmark Card' moment on mother's day. It can be challenging for many.
Some are missing their mothers this Mother's day due to death, illness and/or distance.
Some children did not have a positive experience with their mother so is rough.
And then there are those who are celebrating having a good mother.
No matter where you fall on the spectrum - no you are loved.
Blessings,
Ophelia
www.vopheiarigaut.com
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Dealing with the reality of racism is not easy. It is profound. It's a profound hatred by society for those who are Black, Indigounes and other People of Colour. In this snippet episode, I talk about the soul grief of racism and how it tries to make you believe you are not worthy of being your great self.
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Thank The Grief It's Friday" is a solo-podcast series hosted by TV Host, Speaker, Grief Educator and Sassy Trinidadian-Canadian V. Ophelia Rigault. Ophelia speaks directly to topics of race, mental health, belonging, and other uncomfortable topics in short snippets 5 - 15 minute episodes.
It will be a space on Friday nights where you can explore how grief and loss have impacted and transformed your life. As we come to the end of the week, our regular routines come to a close – and we are left with a void – a quiet time on Friday night, where grief becomes that uninvited dinner guest. We will have an open and brave conversation on what grief recovery and healing "really" looks like and how you can find ways to move through grief and loss and how to transforms your pain into purpose.
Starting May 7 - Each episode with drop at 11.30 PM EST.
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