HOW MY PARENTS RAISED ME: Recent Episodes
Dawn Chitty
What was childhood like for you? Were you allowed to be you? Authentically you? Were you shown love, kindness & care? Or did you feel worthless, abandoned, unsafe or worse? Our childhood experiences can set us on a path to a beautiful life or they can lead us on a lifelong journey to find the broken pieces & put ourselves back together. In these open & honest conversations I chat with everyday humans about the profound impact their parents had on their lives. To reduce generational trauma we must speak & share truth. If you love to connect with real & raw stories there is so much wisdom here.
This week on the HEAL blog 3 Ways To Stop A Fight.
Melissa Lyon West personifies strength and resilience like no other. From a young age, she was entangled in a cult, dominated by her father's controlling influence. Up until she turned thirty, every aspect of Melissa's life was dictated by strict rules. There was no room for personal choice in this cloistered environment where men held all the power, and women were relegated to a subservient role.
However, a series of events gradually chipped away at the foundation of her beliefs, leading Melissa to question the life she had been forced to lead. The turning point came when she boldly declared, "I'm not going to lie anymore." That single decision marked the beginning of her quest for truth, the catalyst for her healing journey.
With unwavering determination, Melissa embarked on a path to freedom, breaking free from the shackles of the cult's control. Every step she took brought her closer to reclaiming her autonomy, as she refused to be bound by oppressive rules any longer.
Now, our story finds Melissa at a pivotal moment in her life. Having endured a lifetime of conformity, she stands firm in her decision to sever ties with the cult once and for all. No longer willing to be part of something that stifles her spirit, Melissa takes a courageous stand and embraces her newfound freedom.
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Bekki's upbringing unfolded within the walls of a toxic household. Her mother's highly toxic behavior, coupled with her father's abusive and intimidating nature, created a volatile environment where Bekki and her siblings fought to survive. Tragically, Bekki often found herself on the receiving end of her mother's abuse, leaving her bewildered, traumatized, and fearful from a very young age. Despite the challenges, Bekki took on the role of protector, doing her best to shield her mother from her father's abuse. Yet, at any given moment, her mother could turn on her, leaving Bekki devastated.
Toxicity inevitably permeated the entire family unit, as everyone lived in survival mode. Becky endured immensely difficult times and embarked on a long journey of healing, to understand the events that had shaped her life. In this episode, Bekki generously shares her experiences, insights, and lessons learned, offering a profound opportunity for those on their healing journey to find solace, understanding, and hope.
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On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 8 Crucial Reasons You Should Take A Mental Health Day
The reason you don’t feel happy is because you’re living your life to please other people. Growing up in chaotic and traumatic environments conditions us to prioritise pleasing others as a means of ensuring our own safety. However, choosing to live life on your own terms is the most empowering decision you will ever make. In this quick chat episode Michael Unbroken discusses his journey of breaking the cycle of chaos within his family and embracing a life that aligns with his true self.
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On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 8 Crucial Reasons You Should Take A Mental Health Day
Barbara Lane believes the largest factor to the continuation of child abuse, is secrecy. From a very young age we are taught to keep secrets. We are silenced and we are shamed. It is generational. Barbara’s story is extraordinary and she is determined to tell it so that others might have a different experience. One of eleven sisters, Barbara’s mom simply walked out one day and never came back. Barbara was three years old and she remembers the love and deep care her sisters gave her in the orphanage. She remembered that love and care throughout all the years she lived in a foster home filled with abuse and despair.
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Generational trauma
On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 3 Steps To Heal From Devastating Childhood Neglect.
In this quick chat episode we are looking at how trauma is passed down your family line. Whatever has happened to your parents, your grandparents and beyond can have a huge impact on your life simply as a result of what is shared within that family line. Systemic Theory looks at the family system as a whole and how this affects you today. My guest is Johanna Lynn, and she works in the field of epigenetics. Johanna explains that whilst we might be born with trauma from past generations, it doesn’t belong to us.
Johanna is amazing! You can find her at https://johannalynn.ca/ and on instagram https://www.instagram.com/thefamilyimprint_institute/
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I am worthless
On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 3 Steps To Heal From Devastating Childhood Neglect.
From her earliest memories Victoria felt worthless. Her brothers and sisters were significantly older and the messages she got growing up were ‘we don’t want you’. At school Victoria was bullied and rejected. Such was her lack of self worth, Victoria never looked in the mirror because she didn’t like what she saw. As an adult, Victoria believed that if she achieved all the award and accolades, she was worthy, but there were years of depression and finally, Victoria found herself sitting on the end of her bed with a bottle of pills. How did Victoria turn her life around? This is Victoria’s journey from hopelessness to living a full and incredible life. Victoria is now The Heart Healer and she is helping women find their self worth.
You can find Victoria Finch The Heart Healer on her WEBSITE and on Instagram HERE
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Toxic mother
On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss Five Steps To Break Free Of Generational Family Patterns
Alex Scott is a Narcissistic Abuse Healing Coach. She knows first hand what growing up with a narcissistic mother is like and how that relationship can lead to adult relationships with narcissists, because the abuse is familiar and normal. In this quick chat episode, Alex shares the signs your parent was narcissistic and includes her own experiences of growing up with a narcissistic parent.
You can find Alex Scott on INSTAGRAM and via her WEBSITE.
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Self love
On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss Five Steps To Break Free Of Generational Family Patterns
Dr Heather Browne's Mom had Schizophrenia. She was a truly magical woman, but she was also deeply unable to cope. Heather cared for her Mom in a way nobody else could, and when Heather's Mom took her own life, Heather was hurting and in such deep pain, she knew she needed to find the strength to move on, she just needed to figure out how. It was dark times and it was hard, and Heather learnt so much on that journey. Heather is now known as the Reframe Queen of Orange County, because she has a gift for looking at a situation and finding the possibility for growth and change.
You can find Dr Heather Browne at her WEBSITE
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I Am The Scapegoat
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It usually only takes one toxic parent to change the entire dynamic of a family. One toxic parent means everyone in the family is scrambling to be in the good books. Nobody wants to be the scapegoat. Nobody wants the entire family turned against them. In this quick chat episode Bailey is talking about how living in fear led to telling a lot of lies in order to stay safe. How she felt so alone and in so much pain from a very young age and how all of her siblings were turned against her.
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Teen trauma
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Do you remember being a teen? For many of us, it was a tough time. You're no longer a kid and you are not an adult either. Our culture has us believe that teens are trouble, but in reality a teen's brain is wired to start to individuate. We are not supposed to follow our parents and do as they say forever. Teens are meant to question, change and grow. Teen Coach Lainie Liberti, works with teens to help them have a better experience than she did. Lainie’s mom was narcissistic and her teen years were filled with anger, loneliness and self sabotaging behaviours. We are left with so many deeply limiting beliefs about ourselves from childhood and Lainie wants us to understand it is totally possible to reprogram those limiting beliefs and heal the generational wounds that have been passed down to us.
Meet Lainie Liberti, Teen Mentor, Confidence Coach, Community Builder. You can find Lainie at her WEBSITE
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Gaslighting and manipulation
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Adriana's narcissistic mother was abusive, toxic and abandoning and kept Adriana in a tiny world with very few outside connections. Adriana describes herself as a pawn baby and was used in a game by her mom to manipulate her Dad. When Adriana finally decided to leave it took more than one attempt because the manipulation and gaslighting were in full force.
Adriana is now creating beautiful healing spaces for anyone recovering from narcissistic abuse. You can find Adriana on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/letsgetyourshifttogether/ and please checkout her online community here https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/
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Finding love after trauma.
On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 5 SIGNS OF A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY
Lynetta and Mark are the Soul Mate Coaches. Both have had significant trauma in their lives and both have struggled in previous relationships. By the time these two met, they had both done years of healing and work on themselves and they now had the tools to create an incredible soul mate relationship. So much of what Lynetta and Mark are sharing will resonate with your own relationships and they are sharing plenty of tips around how to do your relationships better. The Soul Mate Coaches are helping people like you to find their Soul Mate by helping you heal the triggers, stories and trauma that are holding you Do The Worback. You can find the Soul Mate Coaches via their WEBSITE and purchase Lynetta's book Do The Work, Five Steps To Transcend Trauma HERE.
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On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER 9 FACTS
If you struggle with setting boundaries, people pleasing or putting yourself first, your core belief is "I am not enough just as I am" and that belief affects your friendships and relationships too! How your parents modelled relationships for you affects how you form bonds, what you will accept from your friends and your ability to have balanced relationships. My guest is author, blogger and therapist Erin Falconer.
Erin Falconer is the author of How To Break Up With Your Friends. You can find her HERE.
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How I became an alcoholic
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In Part 2 of Dr Constance Scharff's story we hear about her incredible road to recovery. Please listen to Part 1 first to understand the full story.
Dr Constance Scharff grew up in a home where the trauma from her abusive father saw her turn to alcohol at age 11. Somehow she understood that alcohol would negate her need to feel anything. By the time she was in college, Constance was drinking two litres of hard liquor a day. She believed at this point she didn’t have long to live and friends said she would not make it through her twenties. As a small child, Constance was abandoned and uncared for. She was lost in a family who did not protect her or keep her safe. She believed she drank because she was scared of her father, but when her father died, she realised she couldn’t stop. Dr Constance Scharff is the Founder of the Institute for Complementary and Indigenous Mental Health Research, an author and speaker and since becoming sober 25 years ago, she is passionate about the topics of addiction, recovery, mental health and sharing her story. You can find Dr Constance Scharff on her WEBSITE and on INSTAGRAM You can find her BOOKS HERE.
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What helps heal emotional trauma?
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What are the key steps to heal your emotional trauma? Melany Oliver grew up with a narcissistic mother. Her basic needs were met, but she received no love, and there were years of abuse. Melany was traumatised and she searched endlessly for how to heal. It wasn't until she got to the heart of her emotional wounding that she was really able to turn her life around. Melany Oliver is an Emotional Healing Coach and she will lead you back to truth, love and healing. You can find Melany on Instagram or Linktree
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How I became an alcoholic
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Dr Constance Scharff grew up in a home where the trauma from her abusive father saw her turn to alcohol at age 11. Somehow she understood that alcohol would negate her need to feel anything. By the time she was in college, Constance was drinking two litres of hard liquor a day. She knew she didn’t have long to live and friends said she would not make it through her twenties. As a small child, Constance was abandoned and uncared for. She was lost in a family who did not protect her or keep her safe. She believed she drank because she was scared of her father, but when her father died, she realised she couldn’t stop. Dr Constance Scharff is the Founder of the Institute for Complementary and Indigenous Mental Health Research, an author and speaker and since becoming sober 25 years ago, she is passionate about the topics of addiction recovery, mental health and sharing her story. You can find Dr Constance Scharff on her WEBSITE and on INSTAGRAM You can find her BOOKS HERE.
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Childhood grooming
On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss Eight Ways A Controlling Environment Leads To Trauma.
What does child grooming look like? Jan Broberg was just twelve years old when she was abducted by a friend of the family. Her abductor's entire life revolved around planning and executing this kidnapping. He manipulated everybody... Jan, her family, her sisters, the church community. They all believed he was a good guy. But he was a sociopath and he went to extreme lengths to achieve what he set out to do, groom a child to sexually abuse her. One in four girls and one in six boys have been sexually assaulted by someone who is familiar to them. These are terrifying statistics and it is the reason Jan continues to share her story to bring awareness to how deeply manipulative and easily missed this abuse can be.
Hear the full story in Jan's book The Jan Broberg Story and her podcast The Jan Broberg Show.
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I am not good enough
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On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss Eight Ways A Controlling Environment Leads To Trauma.
Jana's trauma began in the womb. Her father would beat her mother as Jana grew inside. As a newborn, the trauma continued for Jana as her very young mother was unable to feed her. In fact, Jana would go on to tick all 10 boxes on the Adverse Childhood Experiences test, a measure of trauma in childhood. But a life changing, out-of-body experience at age twelve gave Jana an incredible insight. In that moment she found her voice and spoke up for the very first time. She found an understanding into why she was here and who her parents really were. Jana has spent a lifetime learning how to heal herself so that she can teach others how to heal and everything she shares is deeply valuable. Jana is the author of Wise Little One, her story of healing from childhood trauma. You can find Jana's book HERE. You can connect with Jana via her website or on Instagram.
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I don't want kids.
On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss My Mother Had Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Mandy was a little girl lost. She went through more trauma than most humans will ever understand. And Mandy decided that because of her own experiences she would never have kids of her own. But at some point this changed and Mandy had two children who she adored. But despite years and years of sitting in talk therapy, raising her own children meant deeply held trauma reared its ugly head and Mandy was devastated. She felt triggered, angry and at times, out of control. That’s when Mandy discovered somatic healing and began her journey of healing trauma through the body. If talk therapy has only taken you so far on your healing journey you need to hear what Mandy is sharing. You can find Mandy on Instagram Facebook and her Website.
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Why do I feel less than?
On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss My Mother Had Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Christina grew up in a good family. They loved each other and she was cared for. But as the middle child, Christina never felt good enough. Her older sister was the golden child and her brother was the exceptional younger child. Her siblings seemed to excel at life and yet nobody placed any expectation on Christina who was struggling with undiagnosed ADHD. Christina's family were deep into the church and believed following all the rules made them good people. Meanwhile Christina felt like a prisoner inside her own head. Even her thoughts felt unsafe in a religious environment where there were rules around what you were allowed to think. There are so many reasons we feel less than and this story shares how Christina overcame hers. Christina is a Certified Life and Energy Coach, Specializing in Self Relationship. You can find Christina's websiteHERE and she is on instagram HERE
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Somatic healing and the nervous system.
Get your ACE score (Adverse Childhood Experiences test) HERE.
What is self sabotage and why does it happen? In this quick chat episode I am speaking with Jamie McCoy, Psychotherapist and Trauma Coach. In her twenties, Jamie was literally bed-ridden with brain fog, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia and eventually received a diagnosis of Lyme disease. Jamie healed herself by healing her nervous system. When you engage in self-destructive behaviors, it is not necessarily because you're not trying hard enough or you don't want it badly enough, it's because in your nervous system, you may not feel safe to have what you want. You can work with Jamie by contacting her via her Instagram and you should definitely take a look at her course The Nervous System Reset
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Does a parent's trauma affect their children?
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Azzah grew up in Australia with parents who were from Russia and who had survived the war. They were traumatised. It could be a beautiful, sunny Australian day and her parents were reacting to things that had happened decades before, in a different country, in a different time. And that’s the thing about trauma. It doesn’t matter what’s happening in the here and now, it stays with us and changes our lives forever. Azzah says she was born a therapist. She needed to fix and save and she would swing back and forth between loving her parents and hating them. She felt unloved, unsupported and at times suicidal. Azzah has a refreshing take on healing and some unique insights into trauma and healing that you will definitely find helpful. You can find Azzah on HER WEBSITE.
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The long term effects of child sexual abuse
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What happens after a traumatic childhood? We are left to pick up the pieces… and that can take a lifetime. Diane spent her life putting on a happy face. Creating a facade. Being the kind of person nobody would ever suspect of struggling behind closed doors. But Diane had been sexually abused between the ages of 12 and 16 years and this had caused deep struggles with her mental and physical health as well as years of numbing the pain with alcohol. The effects of abuse in childhood are all consuming for many and this quick chat episode gives an insight into what life after abuse can look like.
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Narcissistic mother
On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss My Mother Had Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Michaila Tyson is a Motherwound Healing Coach. I spoke with Michaila in Episode 44 of this podcast, when she had only recently gone no contact with her covert narcissistic mother. Since then Michaila has made the conscious decision to live the life of her dreams. After years of playing so small she felt unable to make even the most simple of decisions without asking for everybody's input, Michaila and her little family have left their home in the UK to travel the world, live where it suits them and ensure their kids are running around barefoot and free. Michaila has had some incredible healing experiences along the way and what she has to share with you will inspire you to open up to the possibilities within your own life.
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Toxic mother.
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There was no big plan. One day Sharon decided she'd simply had enough and she was done with a Mom who had displayed years of toxic behavior. Sharon finally decided it was in the best interests of herself and her kids to go no contact with her mother.
Sharon has been through a great deal of trauma in her lifetime and she has written a book on her journey to healing called Unmasking The Pastwhere Sharon explains how much she has overcome through the power of resilience. Sharon also holds beautiful art retreats for women to create & relax together.
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Get to know your true self with the enneagram.
DO THE TEST! DISCOVER YOUR TRUE SELF HERE
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How does the enneagram help you discover your true self? I am chatting with Samantha Mackay, Enneagram Coach, who says your personality is actually a defence mechanism that is hiding your true self. You are not your personality. Your personality is a psychological structure designed to keep all the trauma and wounds hidden and protected from view. As a child this is an important survival strategy. As an adult we have the capacity to function differently, however we have forgotten that we are using these survival strategies because it has become our normal. The enneagram tells us which survival strategies we are using so that we can break through these survival strategies, find our true selves and live as our true selves.
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Is forgiveness important?
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Do you need to forgive the people who have let you down, caused trauma, unwellness, abandonment, abuse? Shalina doesn't think so. Abandoned by her father at birth, Shalina was told over and over she must forgive in order to heal. In this quick chat episode, Shalina explains she now understands that her inability to forgive doesn't make her a bad person and forgiveness isn't necessary for her to move on and heal.
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Healing generational trauma patterns.
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Rev’s mom struggled. Her mental health was deteriorating. When Rev was 14 her mother had her first panic attack. Later, she was diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder. There were alter personalities and there were regular suicide attempts. Rev was just a kid. She took it all on and was determined to save her Mom… but it proved impossible. When Rev lost her Mom, she decided her life would be different. She would live the life she dreamed for herself. But over time, Rev found herself struggling, just like her Mom did. This is the story of generational cycles of trauma in Rev’s family and how she is breaking them.
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Tips for Parents of LGBTQ+ Youth.
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Dr Lu Lu spoke with her father as a young child and told him she liked girls. Her father told her this was just a phase and she would get over it. Dr Lu Lu went on to get married and have a family and it wasn’t until her marriage ended in divorce that she took the opportunity to explore this part of her sexuality. Dr Lu Lu’s child went to Princeton University and Dr Lu Lu heard the pronouns they/them for the very first time referencing her own child at the Graduation Ceremony. Dr Lu Lu struggled to understand what this meant for her child and to accept it and she realised if she struggled with this concept as an LGBTQ+ herself, many parents would also be struggling. Dr Lu Lu is an award-winning LGBTQ+ educator and she is teaching parents who are struggling with accepting their LGBTQ+ child what are the steps they need to take toward becoming the parent their LGBTQ+ child needs. You can find Dr Lu Lu at HERE and you can get her 7 Mistakes Parents Make Even When They Want to Accept, Affirm & Support Their LGBTQ+ Children.
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How To Let Go
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Latarsha had been through hell. She was betrayed by the one person she loved the most, her father. And as Latarsha describes, she was continuing to attract the brokenness that had been passed down to her from generations of trauma on both sides of her family. In this quick chat episode, you will hear Latarsha describing the moment she decided enough was enough. She decided that she deserved a better life. She was not going to spend another moment as a victim within her own story. Latarsha's story displays the strength of the human spirit in all it's glory.
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Repressed childhood trauma in adults.
On the HEAL BLOG this week THE SCAPEGOAT -V- THE GOLDEN CHILD
What happens when you experience deeply painful trauma as a young child? It is possible that you will repress those memories. It is a survival mechanism and survivors of childhood abuse can recover repressed memories much later in life. Lynn Crook is the author of a book called FALSE MEMORIES: THE DECEPTION THAT SILENCED MILLIONS Lynn began recalling memories of child sexual abuse in her forties which resulted in Lynn's decision to take her parents to court. Lynn shares her experience of standing up and speaking her truth at a time when the False Memory Syndrome Foundation was accusing survivors of lying about the memories they were recovering.
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Narcissistic partner
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Erin was born into a chaotic family. Her mother was manipulative. It was toxic her entire life and Erin wanted out. Erin left home when she found a man who she wanted to make a new life with. But this man and his family were part of a cult. When you come from manipulation your entire life, you are conditioned to manipulation. It is familiar to you. In this quick chat episode, Erin is talking about what happened in the cult and how the chaos and manipulation continued.
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Self healing journey
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At 205 pounds Lauren was insecure, stressed about money and holding so much trauma and unworthiness. And she was chronically unwell. Suffering childhood trauma and sexual trauma, Lauren was carrying so much weight on her shoulders and she hit many rock bottoms. Now, Lauren is free from all of that. Lauren has healed her chronic illness, she has healed a motherwound and a fatherwound and she has come home to her true self. In this episode Lauren shares her journey to healing and wellness and her belief that anything can be healed.
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Finding your self worth
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Megan was adopted at birth and from a very young age she was acutely aware that her situation was different. She knew her life had involved a transaction and her younger self was stuck in trying to understand what that meant. What was her worth? Did she offer value to her parents? And, like so many of us, Megan spent a lifetime not seeing her own value and allowing others to dictate her worth. Megan explains how it's up to you to choose your own value. You can find Megan at https://www.instagram.com/officialmeganhenry/
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Embodied healing.
ON THE HEAL BLOG THIS WEEK 16 Signs You Are Still Trying To Be The Good Little Girl
Andrew was the kid at school who was bullied. He was teased. People would slap his books down in the hallway. He would sit alone at lunch, he would be picked last in gym class, and life became pretty dark. Andrew started fantasising about suicide and revenge and he sat in this victim mentality for years. Until one day he decided he really needed to figure this out. He wanted a good life. He wanted to be happy. He tried every modality, every type of healing. And after a decade of making some progress but not breaking through, Andrew created Cinesomatics. Cinesomatics uses video and movement to help you see the unconscious patterns that run your life and it teaches you how to face, feel and heal those patterns through your body. It’s fascinating!
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Narcissistic mother
NEW ON THE HEAL BLOG 17 Signs You Are A People Pleaser
Theresa spent years as the family scapegoat. Her narcissistic mother dominated within a family who never put Theresa first, never saw her struggling, never gave her love, kindness or care. Theresa decided she was done. She left and hasn't looked back. In this quick chat episode, Theresa explains how it felt to be the scapegoat within her family.
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Dark Night Of The Soul
NEW On the Blog this week 17 Signs You Are A People Pleaser
WHAT HAPPENS when your mother gets upset about something you supposedly said and all of a sudden you see your entire life in a new light? All the years of trauma and abuse you have blocked out come flooding back and your life changes. Suddenly you recall a thousand times your mother behaved the same way and you accepted it. You were numb to it. The times she didn’t listen, the abuse you told her about and she ignored. The manipulation, the gaslighting. Everything becomes so clear and you can’t stand to be near her, you can’t see her, you’re done. And all because, in that moment, when you were ready to apologise once again, you realised you were still being manipulated and something desperately needed to change.
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Physical abuse. Emotional abuse.
ON THE HEAL BLOG This Is Why You Should Never Spank Your Child
Keila doesn't remember one ounce of love or care from a mother she describes as psychopathic. Beaten daily, starved and racially vilified by her own mother, Keila was desperate and broken from as far back as she can remember.
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Fatherwound. Motherwound.
ON THE HEAL BLOG This Is Why You Should Never Spank Your Child
What happens to us when we are disconnected from our parents? Karina grew up without a father, and with a mother who was emotionally disconnected. Karina was essentially parenting herself. Karina left home as soon as she finished high school and realised it was her own responsibility to create the life she dreamed for herself. But growing up without a connection to either parent, Karina found herself gravitating towards men that she couldn't connect with either. Karina is now living a beautiful life, selling luxury real estate, and has written a book called Choosing Magic where she tells her story of growing up and surviving life with no real parenting and how she has been able to turn her life around. You can find Karina at Choosing Magic and if you go to this page and navigate to the end you can get access to Karina's 12 Simple Tools To Enrich Your Daily Life
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Generational toxicity in mothers
How Does A Narcissistic Mother Manipulate Her Child? Out now on the HEAL Blog HERE
Richelle suffered a lifetime of narcissistic abuse from her mother. And with the understanding she now has, Richelle can see that her grandmother was also a narcissist. Playing favourites. Golden child syndrome. Manipulation. Lack of boundaries. Parentification. Cycles of abuse. Love bombing. Richelle's Mom would disappear for weeks at a time and Richelle would be left in the care of her grandmother. It was Richelle's normal but as Richelle says she always felt something was not right. Richelle's story is the story of so many women living with generational narcissism.
You can find Richelle on Instagram and her blog
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The trauma of human trafficking.
On the Blog this week, A Big Warm Hug - The Benefits Of Sleeping With A Weighted Blanket For Trauma Survivors https://howmyparentsraisedme.com/blog-childhood-trauma/
There are more than 25 million victims of human trafficking worldwide on any given day and 20% of those are children.
But this episode is not about statistics. This is about a human life. What happens to a child growing up that leads them to become a victim of human trafficking? Lena grew up in Ukraine in a very unsafe, dysfunctional home. One of the most common reasons a child ends up being trafficked is a dysfunctional family. A child who is not protected and connected.
Lena has written a book called Miraculous: My Journey from Hell to Heavenhttps://amzn.to/3Z1iJNr Connect with Lena via her website https://loveandbloved.com/ and her podcast Love&Bloved https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-bloved-with-lena-cebula/id1556116036
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The trauma of spanking. Bodily autonomy.
I Am Anxious All The Time! How Can I Minimise My Anxiety? is available now on the HEAL blog https://howmyparentsraisedme.com/blog-childhood-trauma/
Bodily autonomy simply means my body is for me; my body is my own. It’s not something most of us were ever educated about as kids. Tom grew up in an evangelical christian family who believed, as many within the church and also outside of the church do, that parenting includes spanking children. Spanking has been accepted as the only kind of discipline that will produce godliness and "well-trained" children. For Tom Spanking completely overwhelmed his nervous system and along with the fear and pain, there came arousal. It was the most horrible mixture of shame, pain, fear and confusion.
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Children of parents with a mental illness. Breaking trauma patterns.
So Triggered! What Is A Trigger & How Can I Stop Getting Triggered? available now on the HEAL blog https://howmyparentsraisedme.com/blog-childhood-trauma/
Growing up was confusing for Lisa. Her father was living with a mental illness and her Mom was in denial and struggling to cope. Her father would try to condition Lisa into believing ideas that were not necessarily what the rest of the world believed. And Lisa was subjected to community abuse and nicknames simply for being his daughter. This chaotic home life led to Lisa's 27 year marriage to an older man she believed loved her, but looking back Lisa now understands she mistook control, manipulation and fathering, for love. Lisa has been on a huge healing journey and she now works with her clients to help them break the trauma cycle, because it is only through awareness and understanding the cycles of trauma that we can change the lives of ourselves and our children.
You can find Lisa at http://www.causeandeffecttraumahealing.com/ and contact her via email on lford@causeandeffecthealing.com
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When you heal yourself, you heal your children, and theirs too.
Go to HEAL my mental health and healing blog for WHAT IS A TRAUMA INFORMED THERAPIST & WHY DO I NEED ONE?
Emma is a healer. She is healing herself, her kids, their kids and beyond. And it's a journey. There is nothing easy about deciding to be the cycle-breaker in your family. But when you hear Emma describe the beauty and the joy. The glimpses she sees of the future she is creating by doing this work and feeling into the pain. Sitting with the truth. Allowing herself to feel and rage and just be. It is all just so incredibly beautiful.
You can find Emma on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/emmawarrenskies Please follow!
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Recognise and overcome childhood emotional neglect.
Go to HEAL my mental health and healing blog for 15 Signs You Are The Victim Of Gaslighting & What To Do About It.
What happens when your Mom was never given nurturing, love or care, because her mother passed at a young age? What happens when your Dad grew up in an authoritarian household where kids didn’t have a voice and must follow all the rules? The combined trauma from each of those family lines will be passed down to you because your mother and father were unaware of their trauma or the effect it would have on you. And their inability to acknowledge or express emotions becomes your emotional neglect. You will carry grief and abandonment. You may be a people pleaser and have low self worth. You may experience depression or a feeling of being stuck.
This is Tracy's story and in order to understand her own story Tracy wrote a book called Running Away From Home https://amzn.to/3YwOlun which allowed her to unravel so many thoughts and feelings that she had never understood growing up. You can find Tracy's coaching here https://tracyburger.com
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Loving yourself after trauma.
30 Important Things You Can Do For Good Mental Health is available now on the HEAL blog https://howmyparentsraisedme.com/blog-childhood-trauma/
Kavita was abandoned to boarding school at six years of age. Her mother was living with an undiagnosed mental illness and her parents were simply unable to cope. It wasn't until Kavita had her own child that she really understood the depths of the trauma she had experienced. In this quick chat episode, Kavita explains how so much of her healing journey has been about learning self love and acceptance, about being gentle and kind with herself and holding her own hand.
As a Parenting Coach, trained by Dr Shefali, Oprah’s go-to parenting expert, Kavita has now come full circle as she teaches parents how, by embracing ourselves, we can create a beautiful partnership with our child. You can find Kavita on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/conscious.parent/ and her parenting articles at https://www.khaleejtimes.com/lifestyle/parenting
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Narcissistic mother.
Go to HEAL my mental health and healing blog via this link howmyparentsraisedme.com for 15 Signs You Are The Victim Of Gaslighting & What To Do About It.
This is the story of a girl who grew up with a mom who was abusive, manipulative and abandoning. It’s the story of a girl who, despite all that was done to her from a very young age, still cared about her mom. Still loved her. Wanted to take care of her and worried whenever she was angry or didn’t approve of her. Who says “I just wanted to help her”…. until the moment she’d had enough. After a lifetime of abuse, backing herself, stepping away and saying NO MORE. I’m absolutely done. Having the courage to walk away, and doing exactly that. Maybe this is your story too. Please join me now for Natasha’s story.
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Why do we play small?
Go to HEAL my new mental health and healing blog via this link howmyparentsraisedme.com for 21 Ways To Spot A Narcissist and the 20 Books you must read To Heal From Childhood Trauma.
Shorina was only 14 when she left home to move in with her 18 year old boyfriend. This older boy was highly manipulative. He isolated Shorina and made her believe that nobody else cared and that if she left him, she would be completely alone. Shorina didn't believe that even her mom cared, even though her poor mom was beside herself with worry. Shorina found herself alone, self harming and suicidal and went through some very dark times. The impact of this trauma left Shorina playing so small in her life, that many years later, Shorina ended up in labour for 5 days with her first child completely unable to speak up for herself to the hospital staff.
You can find Shorina on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/mindfulsoulcollective and via her website https://www.mindfulsoulcollective.com
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What is trauma bonding?
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When Nathan Spiteri was 8 years old his life changed forever.
Nathan was a happy kid from a good family but an event at his local swimming pool on a hot summers afternoon changed Nathan’s life forever. Attacked by a pedophile, this one sickening event turned into manipulation, brainwashing and Stockholm syndrome that lasted for five years. Nathan’s eight year old self believed the lies and manipulation. He became very detached from family and friends, very quiet and solitary and more and more attached to his abuser.
For many years Nathan never told a soul and kept everything deeply hidden as his life spiralled out of control and into drugs, alcohol and other destructive behaviours.
Nathan has written a memoir called Toy Cars. You can purchase your copy here https://amzn.to/3Px91z5
The statistics for child sexual abuse are terrifying and Nathan has been working for years now to get himself to a place where he can use his story to educate and inform others, and bring about much needed change.
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Abusive parents
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There was so much abuse in Sean's family from a father who had suffered terrible abuse himself. Sean never felt any love from his father, only abuse, anger, rejection. But regardless of the abuse, Sean was able to find love. His older sister became the loving leader of the family and his older brother-in-law took Sean under his wing and showed him love and care like he'd never experienced before. His brothers and sisters learnt to band together and support each other when their parents were unable to. In this quick chat episode Sean explains how that the love that came from people other than his own parents, literally saved his life.
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What is trauma?
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Dr Reshie Joseph seemingly had it all before his life fell to pieces. Reshie grew up in England. He had an upper middle class upbringing, attended the best schools and universities. He graduated medical school and was essentially living an incredible life. But within nine years of graduating, Reshie was living as a street junkie in a London bus shelter...how does that even happen?
That’s the exact question Reshie asked himself, once he got sober and drug free. Reshie couldn’t understand how he found himself in such a downward spiral, and he started looking for answers. It wasn’t until Reshie uncovered research around the connection between childhood trauma, addiction and other behaviours that he really began to understand his own story.
Dr Reshie Joseph has just released his incredible new book A Beginner's Guide to Trauma. It is everything you need to know about trauma in simple terms. You can purchase your copy here https://amzn.to/3FDsWaL
Dr Reshie Joseph is sharing some incredible insights into trauma and I can guarantee you will learn things about trauma you have never heard before.
You can find Dr Reshie Joseph at https://livingfree.today/
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Thankyou for being on this journey of healing and community with me.
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Christmas can mean very different things to different people. The most important part is love.
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The wisdom and beauty of 2022.
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We have been so deeply blessed to have connected with the most incredible humans who have laid their souls bare for us in 2022. They invited us in and shared their stories. They allowed us to see them and hear them whilst being seen and heard ourselves. They allowed us to FEEL. Their journey is your journey, is my journey. And we learnt so much! We tapped into their wisdom and had thousands of life-changing lightbulb moments between us. This episode is a celebration of every single guest I spoke to this year.
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What is a covert narcissist?
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This quick chat with Mother Wound Coach Michaila Tyson gives us a little window into growing up with a covert narcissist. If you’ve ever struggled with someone in your life and it’s just been confusing and different to any other relationship and you can’t quite put your finger on what’s going on or why and you feel like you are living in a parallel universe, you may be dealing with a covert narcissist. This narcissist type is not big, loud and confident. They are very low key and yet highly manipulative all at the same time. You may receive microscopic doses of love and then as soon as you see the love, and as soon as you begin to lean into the love, it's taken away again and it’s just living in a state of confusion.
You can find Michaila at https://www.tiktok.com/@iammichailatyson
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What does it mean to live a life of freedom?
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Melissa was born to parents who ran, what Melissa now understands, was a fundamentalist christian cult. The rules were so extreme that from three years of age Melissa believed her heart was black, she was a sinner, she was broken and evil and if she begged god to save her, he would wash her clean and take her to heaven. As a woman her purpose was to have as many babies as possible. Her position as a woman was at the bottom of the food chain. But one day Melissa saw a tiny crack of light from the outside world and she started asking questions. This is a journey from complete and utter control to incredible freedom and Melissa is now helping women, just like you, to live the next stage of their lives empowered and free.
You can find Melissa at https://melissalyonwest.com/ and on instagram www.instagram.com/melissalyonwest
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How do you somatically heal?
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Tracy had a mother who was absent, physically and emotionally. Her mother didn't connect with her, even as a tiny baby. As a kid, Tracy's mother never questioned where she was or what she was doing. She just didn't care. And the trauma from those experiences made Tracy very sick. Over many years Tracy tried everything to get better. It wasn't until Tracy found somatic experiencing therapy that she was able to heal. Somatic experiencing is healing trauma through the body, as opposed to talk therapy which is healing via the brain. This quick episode is an insight into the power of somatic healing work.
The Body Keeps The Score by Dr Bessel Van der Kolk https://amzn.to/3NFwSvA
You can find Tracy on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/tracyprincipi/ and her website https://tracyprincipi.com/
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How to overcome trauma with Michael Unbroken
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Michael was born into deeply entrenched generational trauma. Whilst carrying Michael in her womb, his mother was doing drugs and alcohol. There was domestic abuse, violence and poverty and Michael was basically on his own, fighting to survive for as long as he can remember.
Michael hit rock bottom after rock bottom. But something within him made him FIGHT. He decided he would not be a victim. And that decision has taken him from complete hopelessness to a life of passion and purpose. He is now creating community for survivors, writing books, producing a podcast, coaching, speaking to some of the most incredible humans on the planet, and living life fully on his own terms. Michael wants to make a difference and his goal is to end generational trauma in his lifetime.
Michael decided he would not live the life his ancestors carved out for him. And he is creating the life he knows he deserves.
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Please go and connect with Michael at Think Unbroken https://www.thinkunbroken.com/ and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/michaelunbroken/
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The psychological effects of controlling parents.
What happens when your entire world is controlled? Micah grew up in a very controlled, religious environment. Church was three times a week. Discipline was militant in style and there were so many rules and beliefs that Micah had begun obsessively washing her hands by the age of 5. Later she developed an eating disorder and flip flopped between dissociation and hypervigilance. This is an insight into the trauma of a father passed down to his daughter as she fought for control over every aspect of her being.
Micah is a Trauma Midwife and a Psychedelic Guide & Integration Specialist. You can find her at https://www.instagram.com/micahsugarfoot/ and her website http://www.micahstoverconsulting.com/micah-story
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What is epigenetics?
A fascinating look into how much genetics and trauma affect our lives.
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Johanna Lynn works in the emerging field of epigenetics. When you have traumatic experiences, that trauma can leave a chemical mark on your genes, which can then be passed down to future generations. This mark doesn't cause a genetic mutation, but it does alter the way that gene is expressed. This alteration is not genetic. It is epigenetic. Not only do parents pass down their DNA, it’s what happened to your grandparents & parents and the affect of those experiences on their DNA that is passed down to us.
Johanna is amazing! You can find her at https://johannalynn.ca/ and on instagram https://www.instagram.com/thefamilyimprint_institute/
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hitting rock bottom
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Jewels had never had stability her whole life. And life had not been straightforward either. As a child, Jewels just adored her Dad. But he really wasn’t coping and a violent incident meant that Jewels and her mum had to leave quickly. Her world would never be the same again. Thrown into an unsafe situation it would be decades before jewels could even begin to recover from those experiences. Jewels was off the rails for many years addicted to drugs and alcohol and yet the rock bottoms never took her down.
You can find Jewels on instagram https://www.instagram.com/jewelsthemakingofawoman/ and purchase the book https://themakingofawoman.com/purchase/
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How do you end a relationship with a narcissistic mother?
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Adriana is a coach who is empowering survivors of narcissistic abuse to heal, set boundaries and live life on their own terms. Adriana grew up with a mother who was confusing. She loved her mom and she also hated her and the older she got the more fractured the relationship became. Adriana's mom was abusive, toxic and abandoning and kept Adriana in a tiny world with very few outside connections. Adriana describes herself as a pawn baby and was used in a game by her mom to manipulate her Dad. Her mother manipulated the relationship she had with her Dad so much, she eventually became completely estranged from her father. Adriana is now creating beautiful healing spaces for anyone recovering from narcissistic abuse. If you have ever had a narcissist in your life, you need to hear this.
You can find Adriana on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/letsgetyourshifttogether/ and please checkout her community here https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/
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Childhood trauma has a huge impact on the nervous system. It can cause generalised anxiety, constant fight, flight, freeze or fawn responses and can be as severe as panic attacks. Mireya survived in a family with little love or care. Her mother was abandoning and she was never told “I love you” or given a hug. A destructive early relationship was a setback, but Mireya met her soulmate and finally understood what is was like to be loved. However, the anxiety from her childhood and teen years remained. In this quick chat episode, Mireya tells us what she does each day to manage her anxiety.
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Childhood Emotional Neglect
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Jade was born to a mom who was an addict and a dad who wanted nothing to do with her. Unable to care for her, Jade’s biological mom decided to put her up for adoption. Left in a home until she was 3 years old, Jade was finally adopted by a family surviving their own version of chaos. A mother who seemingly had no interest in connecting with Jade, a brother with mental health issues and a father who appeared to be her only protector but was ultimately living a terrible lie. If you are in need of some inspiration, you must hear Jade’s story. At times desperate and suicidal Jade was gifted the most incredible humans to guide her on her path and her resilience and determination to break the generational cycles of abuse and abandonment are deeply moving and are a testament to the strength of the human spirit.
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Generational trauma examples
Generational trauma is the traumatic events that have a ripple effect across generations. What happens to one person has an impact on their children and that impact continues to affect generation after generation until somebody sees it and heals it. Today I am sharing a quick chat with Nita which clearly shows how trauma is expressed and shared through families. Nita’s Mom went through incredible trauma as a child and her feelings of abandonment meant she was never able to connect with Nita’s needs and emotions. As a family they never acknowledged the terrible things that happened and they never spoke about anything. The belief was, that if we ignore it, it will go away and so Nita abandoned her own needs and the cycle is perpetuated.
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What are the signs of a narcissistic mother?
As kids we have no idea that what we are experiencing is abuse. We can't label a mother a narcissist because she is simply our mother and we don't know anything different. I have heard from so many women who never understood the toxicity of a parent until decades later.
Alex's mother was narcissistic. Subject to abuse and manipulation her entire life, Alex felt that SHE was the problem. It wasn't until, as an adult, Alex found herself in a highly toxic relationship and whilst looking for answers, discovered that not only was this boyfriend a narcissist but recognised all the signs in her mother too.
Narcissistic Abuse & Trauma Healing Coach Alex Scot is an incredible wealth of information on the narcissist. She is now helping women to heal and thrive in healthy conscious relationships. You can find Alex at https://www.instagram.com/thealexscot/ and please go buy her short courses, join Healing Heart Hackers or get coaching here https://www.alexscot.com/talktome
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How to support a friend emotionally.
We all know we should support a friend or family member who is struggling, but what should we actually do for them?
So much of the time we feel helpless in how we can offer assistance when it's clear somebody we care about isn’t coping. But how can we help?
The answer is often very simple. Actively listening. Actively inviting that person to share what they are going through and hearing them.
The value of having one person in your life that cares enough to listen can never be underestimated.
This quick chat with Aunia Khan is a look into the power of that one person. When you are a teen and you have lived your entire life in trauma and you have nobody there for you, Aunia talks about how life-saving the connection with her school counsellor was. How it gave her a sense of safety that she felt nowhere else in her life and how as a kid in trauma she still, to this day, feels grateful for the time and energy this man was able to invest in her at her lowest point.
Aunia Khan is an incredible artist and you can find her here at Create For Healing https://www.instagram.com/createforhealing/ and here https://www.instagram.com/auniakahn/
Signs of unhealthy friendships
I came across Erin Falconers book How To Break Up With Your Friends and I thought it would be so valuable to chat with Erin about adult friendships. The way we are raised by our parents, the trauma we are exposed to and the way our parents interacted within their own friendships, has a profound impact on how we create and maintain friendships throughout our lives. Friendships are critical to our overall health and wellbeing and yet we are never given any real guidance around friendships. And then if a friendship is past it's use-by date, how do we go about breaking up with a friend? There should be no shame in needing to let go of a friendship because it is no longer serving us and Erin has some great tips on navigating our adult friendships.
Please purchase your copy of How To Break Up With Your Friends here https://www.amazon.com/How-Break-Your-Friends-Establishing/dp/1683648137 you can read first chapters of the book here https://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/how-to-break-up-with-your-friends/ and you can find Erin on Instagram here https://www.instagram.com/erinfalconer/
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What is codependency in a relationship?
This quick chat with Shannon is a great insight into what happens to kids who grow up in a chaotic home environment. Shannon’s grandfather was abusive to her mother and her grandmother. And Shannon was a constant witness to the abuse. She took on the role of taking care of everybody. And that’s where co-dependency begins. Kids in homes where there is abuse or addiction issues learn to neglect their own needs in order to meet the needs of those around them. They become the primary caregiver to the adults in their lives. They find emotional fulfilment through making others feel happy, regardless of their own needs. The focus is always on other people and they have difficulty expressing emotions or what they deeply need because they’ve not learnt to look out for themselves in that way.
If you are struggling with co-dependency seek professional help so that you can begin to recognise the signs of codependency, learn how to set healthy boundaries, overcome people pleasing and learn how to reconnect with who you are.
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Can you ever recover from narcissistic abuse?
Melany grew up with a mom who gave her everything she needed. Except for love. Except for care. Except for kindness. Melany’s mother was narcissistic and whilst all of Melany's basic needs were met there was abuse, abandonment and gaslighting. There was a complete lack of love. And whenever Melany pushed back, her family members believed that she was to blame. Melany's life fell apart for a while as she searched endlessly for how to heal. It wasn't until she got to the heart of her emotional wounding that she was really able to turn her life around.
Melany is now an Emotional Healing Coach. She gets to the absolute core of your emotional wounding so that you can heal at the deepest level. Melany is an expert, having been on this journey herself, and she will lead you back to truth, love and healing. You can find Melany on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/melany.oliver/ and please take a look at how you can work together via her website https://melany-oliver.com/ or linktree Linktree https://linktr.ee/melany.oliver
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low self-esteem low self-confidence people pleasing
MARK grew up desperate for love. He wanted nothing more than for his mom to wrap her arms around him and tell him "I love you". But it didn't happen. And when he was just five years old Mark's Dad told him "Don't call me Dad". What happens when a child feels unloved? This is a story that will strike a chord with many listeners. It's a story of growing up without that feeling of love and connection with a parent that we desperately want and need.
If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au. I would LOVE! to connect with you.
Harrowing true story of the Broberg family. A Friend Of The Family
Jan Broberg was kidnapped by her neighbour, Robert Berchtold, under the watch of her parents.
Robert Berchtold was a sociopath, perhaps even a psychopath. He lived in a fantasy world and he manipulated EVERYBODY. His entire life revolved around planning and executing this kidnapping and then incredibly, after they were caught and brought home, he abducted Jan a second time.
One in four girls and one in six boys have been sexually assaulted by someone who is familiar to them. Only three percent are attacked by what you would call a stranger. For ninety-seven percent of victims, it’s someone that is acquainted with the child or with the family. These are terrifying statistics and it is the reason Jan continues to share her story to try and bring awareness to how deeply manipulative and easily missed this abuse can be.
Please support Jan in her quest to educate on this important topic by purchasing her book, The Jan Broberg Story https://www.amazon.com/Jan-Broberg-Story-Abducted-Brainwashed/dp/1957616113/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=jan+broberg&qid=1663002808&sr=8-1 Listen to her podcast, The Jan Broberg Show www.thejanbrobergshow.com and if it resonates, you can find her community for child abuse survivors, called Thrivivors here www.janbrobergfoundation.org
Also just released, is a new Peacock limited series called A Friend of the Family starring Anna Paquin, Colin Hanks and Jake Lacey which tells Jan's entire story over 9 episodes. https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=384474613832473&ref=sharing
If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au. I would LOVE! to connect with you.
Repressed anger. Not allowed to be angry.
KIMBERLY grew up in a house where anger wasn't modelled.
Her parents never fought. If she was upset or angry her parents would ignore her. By the time she got to college she didn't recognise anger or how to express it and she behaved in ways that appeared strange to others.
Growing up in an environment where anger is frowned upon means you never learn how to express what you are feeling. And being unable to express yourself can lead to a lack of self worth and confidence.
In this quick chat episode, Kimberly explains how she is learning to value herself by giving herself permission to put up boundaries and express what she needs.
If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au. I would LOVE! to connect with you.
Jan Broberg kidnapping. 'A Friend Of The Family'.
Jan Broberg was kidnapped by her neighbour, Robert Berchtold, under the watch of her parents.
Robert Berchtold was a sociopath, perhaps even a psychopath. He lived in a fantasy world and he manipulated EVERYBODY. His entire life revolved around planning and executing this kidnapping and then incredibly, after they were caught and brought home, he abducted Jan a second time.
One in four girls and one in six boys have been sexually assaulted by someone who is familiar to them. Only three percent are attacked by what you would call a stranger. For ninety-seven percent of victims, it’s someone that is acquainted with the child or with the family. These are terrifying statistics and it is the reason Jan continues to share her story to try and bring awareness to how deeply manipulative and easily missed this abuse can be.
Please support Jan in her quest to educate on this important topic by purchasing her book, The Jan Broberg Story https://www.amazon.com/Jan-Broberg-Story-Abducted-Brainwashed/dp/1957616113/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=jan+broberg&qid=1663002808&sr=8-1 Listen to her podcast, The Jan Broberg Show www.thejanbrobergshow.com and if it resonates, you can find her community for child abuse survivors, called Thrivivors here www.janbrobergfoundation.org
Also just released, is a new Peacock limited series called A Friend of the Family starring Anna Paquin, Colin Hanks and Jake Lacey which tells Jan's entire story over 9 episodes. https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=384474613832473&ref=sharing
If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au. I would LOVE! to connect with you.
What is narcissistic manipulation?
Narcissists exert control over others by manipulating their emotions. They thrive on it.
Dr Melanie Salmon's mother was a narcissist and when Melanie was a child her mother told her a secret. A secret she was to tell nobody. And this secret allowed her mother to exert control over Melanie and her emotions for many years!
You can connect with Dr Salmon via her website https://qecliving.com/
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What are the signs of a toxic family?
Bailey is only twenty. And she is right there in the middle of all the confusion and all the hurt from childhood.
When Bailey was born her mom wasn't able to be there for her. And the grief of just that one piece of the puzzle is enough to change a person’s entire life.
But then there was more grief, and more heartbreak. There was abuse and total abandonment and absolutely no understanding from anyone in her life, of why Bailey was becoming more and more out of control.
Bailey is an incredible young woman. She is smart and kind. And throughout everything that has happened it's clear that all she needed, was love, care and kindness. And nobody was able to give her that.
If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au. I would LOVE! to connect with you.
Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Trauma is confusing. We can spend years of our life having no idea we are suffering from childhood trauma.
It can be so severe that we might actually be experiencing a whole range of mental and physical health effects from it, but because it has always been our normal to feel this way, it can lead us down a path of just using a million different coping mechanisms to get through.
In this quick chat episode, I am hearing from Sara who is a CPTSD Survivor, about how to spot complex trauma symptoms, what dissociation feels like and what are flashbacks.
Find out what Sara is offering to support you via her linktree https://linktr.ee/saraaird and her instagram https://www.instagram.com/breakingdowncptsd/
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Can you heal from childhood neglect?
For much of Mandy's childhood, she was completely alone. Abandoned by a mother who was working and trying to put food on the table, Mandy was left in some very unsafe situations. And it got worse. Mandy was a little girl lost. She had absolutely nobody on her side. And when Mandy decided it was time to finally speak up for herself the consequences were dire. Mandy has been through more trauma than most humans will ever understand. At her lowest point she was suicidal and yet her spirit was strong. Mandy spent years in talk therapy but felt she was not healing in the way she wanted to. When Mandy finally sought out Somatic Experiencing Therapy, which is healing through the body, she was able to spend a couple of years really processing the anger that resulted from her boundaries being constantly broken, of not being cared for, of not being seen or protected. Mandy says spending two years in Somatic Experiencing was equal to twenty years worth of talk therapy. TRIGGER WARNING THIS EPISODE CONTAINS THEMES OF SUICIDE AND SEXUAL ABUSE*
You can find Mandy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mandylharvey/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mandy.harvey.3551 and her website https://mandylharvey.com/
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Spanking Children
Over the generations, hitting children has been the go-to method of keeping them 'under control'. Punishing and controlling instead of teaching and guiding. What are the effects of physical abuse on a small child? How does it affect them later in life? LeeAnn Summerfield tells her story of growing up in a physically and emotionally abusive household and how those effects last a lifetime.
If you want to share your story on this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au. I would LOVE! to connect with you.
Can you heal from childhood neglect?
For much of Mandy's childhood, she was completely alone. Abandoned by a mother who was working and trying to put food on the table, Mandy was left in some very unsafe situations. And it got worse. Mandy was a little girl lost. She had absolutely nobody on her side. And when Mandy decided it was time to finally speak up for herself the consequences were dire. Mandy has been through more trauma than most humans will ever understand. At her lowest point she was suicidal and yet her spirit was strong. Mandy spent years in talk therapy but felt she was not healing in the way she wanted to. When Mandy finally sought out Somatic Experiencing Therapy, which is healing through the body, she was able to spend a couple of years really processing the anger that resulted from her boundaries being constantly broken, of not being cared for, of not being seen or protected. Mandy says spending two years in Somatic Experiencing was equal to twenty years worth of talk therapy. TRIGGER WARNING THIS EPISODE CONTAINS THEMES OF SUICIDE AND SEXUAL ABUSE*
You can find Mandy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mandylharvey/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mandy.harvey.3551 and her website https://mandylharvey.com/
If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au. I would LOVE! to connect with you.
How do you reach out to a friend who is struggling?
It takes just ONE person to make a difference. ONE person to connect, understand, offer kindness, care and love.
When Amanda was 16 she was already at rock bottom. She had grown up in a home where she was abandoned by her mother and physically abused by her step-father. She had been suicidal and self-harming. She was taking drugs and alcohol and had run away from home. In this quick chat I am hearing how a kid who was totally lost, abandoned and alone, turned her life around through the kindness of ONE person.
You can find Amanda on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kickasswithbothfeet/ and facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheRealAmandaGold
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How to heal from trauma.
Trauma affects everything. In this very important episode I am speaking with Jamie McCoy, Psychotherapist and Trauma Coach. In her twenties, Jamie was literally bed-ridden with brain fog, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia and eventually receiving a diagnosis of Lyme disease. Jamie healed herself by healing her nervous system. If you experienced childhood trauma your nervous system was affected by that trauma. From your earliest days as a baby, if you were crying a lot and your parents didn't come to tend to you, hold that space for you or let you know they were there for you? You will have shut down and gone into a mobilised frozen state to protect yourself from that pain. And once you have shut down, your immune function is affected. Your digestion is affected. Everything goes into energy conservation mode. Everything is slowing down. And then over time, different neuronal connections you are supposed to make in your brain don't develop in an organised fashion. So the left and right parts of your brain aren't necessarily communicating as they should. And when that happens, you will have gaps in your development, a lower capacity for stress and the way you tolerate life changes in general.
You can work with Jamie by contacting her via her Instagram https://www.instagram.com/myintegrativetherapist/ and you should definitely take a look at her course The Nervous System Reset here https://www.myintegrativetherapist.com/apply
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How can you move forward? How can you let it go? In this quick chat episode I am hearing body mind and somatic healer Sarah Harvey talking about some of the realisations she had when she first began healing from her trauma. Sarah was chronically ill for many years and she describes a point in time where she began to let people in, and she heard from these new teachers and guides about her purpose, her personal power and the choices she could make for herself in order to heal and live an empowering life.
You can find Sarah via her linktree https://linktr.ee/iamsarahharveyInstagram and instagram https://www.instagram.com/iamsarahharvey/
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Who is most likely to sexually abuse a child?
Diane grew up on a farm. There were ponies and music lessons and she loved the animals and being outside in nature. Diane's parents were incredibly busy with four kids and running the farm and Diane felt she only got their attention when she was really good or really bad. Unseen and unheard Diane didn't feel love or connection as a child. And at the age of 12 a family member began to sexually abuse her. He told her they were in a secret relationship, he made her feel special and grown up and as a child, Diane believed what she was told. And she didn't tell anybody. It wasn't until many years later that Diane was able to share her secret and start getting help. This has been a long and difficult healing journey. 93% of perpetrators of CSA are known to the child. This is a staggering statistic. It is not men in white vans. It is most likely somebody within the family.
You can connect with Diane on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/ffs.trauma/
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How can you tell if someone is a narcissist?
I asked this question of Nicole who is a Narcissistic Abuse Expert and she tells us everything we need to know in this quick chat episode.
You can find Nicole on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/coaching_with_nicole/ and her website Healingthewound.org
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Who is most likely to sexually abuse a child?
Diane grew up on a farm. There were ponies and music lessons and she loved the animals and being outside in nature. Diane's parents were incredibly busy with four kids and running the farm and Diane felt she only got their attention when she was really good or really bad. Unseen and unheard Diane didn't feel love or connection as a child. And at the age of 12 a family member began to sexually abuse her. He told her they were in a secret relationship, he made her feel special and grown up and as a child, Diane believed what she was told. And she didn't tell anybody. It wasn't until many years later that Diane was able to share her secret and start getting help. This has been a long and difficult healing journey. 93% of perpetrators of CSA are known to the child. This is a staggering statistic. It is not men in white vans. It is most likely somebody within the family.
You can connect with Diane on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/ffs.trauma/
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What trauma does to a child.
It shouldn't hurt to be a child. But it so often does. Children everywhere, just scraping by. Just surviving emotionally, physically, mentally. In chaotic homes. With traumatised parents, mentally ill parents. Parents who were narcissistic, drug addicted, alcoholic, abusive, manipulative, who didn’t care whether their child lived or died. Who never put them first.
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Should I go no contact with my mother?
Sharon's father left when she was a baby and her mother brought up four kids. Sharon remembers her relationship with her mom growing up as okay. But the relationship deteriorated rapidly when Sharon became an adult. Sharon has lost two brothers and she has grieved their loss. Her mother is alive and well, but she has also grieved the loss of her mother because Sharon decided that it was in the best interests of herself and her kids to go no contact. Sharon has been through a great deal of trauma in her lifetime and she has written a book on this journey to healing called Unmasking The Past https://unmaskingthepast.com.au where Sharon she explains how much she has overcome through the power of resilience. Sharon also holds beautiful art retreats for women where she holds a calm space to create & relax https://artfulnessretreats.com.au/retreats-workshops/ You can also find her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/artfulness_retreats/ and facebook https://www.facebook.com/ArtfulnessRetreats
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When life is hard, what do you crave? To lessen the pain? To make it feel better again? A glass of wine? Some chocolate? Shopping therapy?
What do cravings ACTUALLY mean?
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How to overcome fatherlessness
Shalina was just 15 months old when her father left. And that moment changed her life forever. Shalina was now fatherless. And that was heartbreaking and traumatic and overwhelming. It changed what she believed about herself. She felt deeply abandoned, worthless and disconnected from so many things. And the same questions continued to haunt Shalina throughout her life... Why did he leave me? Why didn't he choose to stay? Did I do something wrong? Shalina has come so far since those younger struggles, but the hurt is palpable and real and raw. Fatherlessness comes in many forms and all of them are grief for what has been lost and what could have been.
You can find Shalina on facebook https://www.facebook.com/shalinalodhia Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sed8_/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/SED8official/about
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Why are people ashamed of their mental health struggles?
Welcome to this new style bi-weekly episode of the podcast - a 5 minute deep dive into topics close to my heart.
This week I am discussing the judgement and shame we feel subject to as survivors of childhood trauma.
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How to overcome fatherlessness
Shalina was just 15 months old when her father left. And that moment changed her life forever. Shalina was now fatherless. And that was heartbreaking and traumatic and overwhelming. It changed what she believed about herself. She felt deeply abandoned, worthless and disconnected from so many things. And the same questions continued to haunt Shalina throughout her life... Why did he leave me? Why didn't he choose to stay? Did I do something wrong? Shalina has come so far since those younger struggles, but the hurt is palpable and real and raw. Fatherlessness comes in many forms and all of them are grief for what has been lost and what could have been.
You can find Shalina on facebook https://www.facebook.com/shalinalodhia Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sed8_/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/SED8official/about
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What does it mean to be triggered?
The world is full of highly triggered people. Maybe you live with one. Maybe you work with one. They can have a huge impact on our lives. Join me for this chat about standing in your power around highly triggered people.
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How does abuse affect the life of a survivor?
PART TWO OF LATARSHA'S STORY
Latarsha and her Dad were super tight growing up. She remembers so many fun times. Ice cream sundaes, riding her tricycle and Latarsha adored her Dad. But things didn't remain this way. There was a lot of moving around. Staying with one relative after the next and this is the story of a little girl who fell through the cracks. Nobody had her in their sights and she had nobody to turn to. Latarsha was depressed by the age of nine years old. But worse was yet to come. By age 14 Latarsha was to experience the greatest betrayal of all. **TRIGGER WARNING: This story includes sexual abuse. But Latarsha is such an inspirational woman. She has been through hell and she has survived and she now thrives as she uses what happened to her in childhood as her purpose to help others to heal and find self love. You don't want to miss this episode!
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Latarsha and her Dad were super tight growing up. She remembers so many fun times. Ice cream sundaes, riding her tricycle and Latarsha adored her Dad. But things didn't remain this way. There was a lot of moving around. Staying with one relative after the next and this is the story of a little girl who fell through the cracks. Nobody had her in their sights and she had nobody to turn to. And Latarsha was depressed by the age of nine years old. But worse was yet to come. By age 14 Latarsha was to experience the greatest betrayal of all. **TRIGGER WARNING: This story includes sexual abuse. But Latarsha is an incredibly inspirational woman. She has been through hell and she has survived and she now thrives as she uses what happened to her as her purpose to help others to heal and find self love. You don't want to miss this episode!
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Erin was abandoned in every possible way. From as far back as she can remember. By a mother who was cold and manipulative. She was neglected, unloved, controlled. She was never seen or heard. She was treated like a piece of trash. By her own mother. Erin says "I wanted to believe that I belonged. That somebody could love me or that I was worthy of being loved. And my mother made it so confusing for me because what was worthy of love one day, it wasn't the next. So I was constantly questioning how do I get that love? And with the cult I was like, so you're telling me that if I just do these things that I'm going to be loved and accepted? that's easy". Kids don't get drawn into a cult for no reason. They don't leave home for no reason. They don't live on the streets for no reason. Kids are looking for the love they are desperate for. This is Erin's story.
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Erin was abandoned in every possible way. From as far back as she can remember. By a mother who was cold and manipulative. She was neglected, unloved, controlled. She was never seen or heard. She was treated like a piece of trash. By her own mother. Erin says "I wanted to believe that I belonged. That somebody could love me or that I was worthy of being loved. And my mother made it so confusing for me because what was worthy of love one day, it wasn't the next. So I was constantly questioning how do I get that love? And with the cult I was like, so you're telling me that if I just do these things that I'm going to be loved and accepted? that's easy". Kids don't get drawn into a cult for no reason. They don't leave home for no reason. They don't live on the streets for no reason. Kids are looking for the love they are desperate for. This is Erin's story.
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Kaytee Gillis is a licensed clinical social worker and therapist who specialises in working with survivors of family trauma, family dysfunction, and abuse. Kaytee shares some of her own story as a parentified child and how deeply that affected her life. We also discuss the 10 ways childhood trauma shows up in our relationships as adults. These tips will give you some great insights into the reasons we behave the way we do in our relationships because of our childhood conditioning.
Kaytee has released a book called Invisible Bruises https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Bruises-Understanding-Patterns-Survivors/dp/1737551578 and you can find her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/claras__voice/
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Is you soul screaming at you? Is it telling you there are things that need your attention?
The beliefs and stories you run in your subconscious mind can be making you play small, do as your mother told you, be the good girl. And so you find yourself living a life that is detached from who you really are. If you are just not feeling life right now, please join me for this episode.
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Megan was adopted at birth into a family where she felt loved and cared for. But from a very young age Megan was acutely aware that her situation was different. She knew her life had involved a transaction and her younger self was stuck in trying to understand what that meant. What was she worth? Did she offer value to her parents? And, like so many of us, Megan spent a lifetime not seeing her own value and allowing others to dictate her worth.
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The idea of self love is everywhere right now. But what does it actually mean? Is it important? And how DO you love yourself?
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Teresa grew up in a family she describes as narcissistic. Growing up was hard. This family was all about appearances and Teresa was struggling big time. Struggling with what was expected of her. And struggling with being undiagnosed neurodivergent in a neurotypical world. Her parents had started down the path of getting her a diagnosis for autism but pulled out. Teresa believes her family felt the diagnosis wouldn't fit with the image they were trying to portray to the world. Her parents believed Teresa just needed to get involved with 'normal' things and she would be fine. In all those years Teresa was never able to be her true self. It was suffocating and damaging. If you would like to connect with Teresa you can find her at https://www.instagram.com/trock91/
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Teresa grew up in a family she describes as narcissistic. Growing up was hard. This family was all about appearances and Teresa was struggling big time. Struggling with what was expected of her. Struggling with manipulation, gaslighting. And struggling with being undiagnosed neurodivergent in a neurotypical world. Teresa's parents had started down the path of getting her a diagnosis for autism but pulled out. Teresa believes her family felt the diagnosis wouldn't fit with the image they wanted to portray to the world. Teresa's parents felt she just needed to get involved with 'normal' things and she would be fine. In all those years Teresa was never able to be her true self. It was suffocating and damaging and Teresa came to a point in her life where she realised she needed to cut ties with her family for her own mental wellbeing. If you would like to connect with Teresa you can find her at https://www.instagram.com/trock91/
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Whether you are judging or being judged, JUDGEMENT is a deeply ingrained part of our lives. At every level. We are judged by others from a very young age. We are taught to judge. It is generational and so we barely even notice we are doing it. Judgement is destructive and it keeps us small and stops us from being our true selves. Let's create a judgement free world!
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Who are you actually? Do you have any idea? Or are you living from a program of other people's expectations, judgements and trauma? Growing up in trauma can create a real disconnect from who you were born to be. You become trapped in layers of stuff that doesn't belong to you and it becomes so normal that you never discover who you really are. What you really think. What you really came here for. And living in that space also means you never experience real joy.
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Keila was born in Brazil. Her father left before she was born and she doesn't remember one ounce of love or care from a mother she describes as psychopathic. Beaten daily, starved and sexually abused with her mothers permission this story is as bad as it gets. Keila is telling her story and you may find it triggering in parts. But this is her truth. And it needs to be heard. *CONTENT WARNING this podcast episode includes discussions of childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse and emotional abuse and may be triggering to some.
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Keila was born in Brazil. Her father left before she was born and she doesn't remember one ounce of love or care from a mother she describes as psychopathic. Beaten daily, starved and sexually abused with her mother's permission this story is as hard as it gets. Keila is telling her story and you may find it triggering in parts. But this is her truth. And it needs to be heard. *CONTENT WARNING this podcast episode includes discussions of childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse and emotional abuse and may be triggering to some listeners.
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One of the most important things you will ever do for yourself is to put really strong boundaries in place in your life. It isn't easy if you were trained to people please and disregard your own needs. As kids we can be taught that we must be pleasing to a parent. We must always do as we are told and that our feelings and deepest needs are unimportant. We abandon what we need to be accepted and loved. So we don't see boundaries as a choice. Let's talk about how you can start pleasing yourself and getting your needs met in this episode.
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When I started this podcast I wanted to bring awareness to childhood trauma and generational trauma because it is one of the least talked about topics. Because it's hard. Because it's scary, confronting, complex. What happens in families behind closed doors is terrifying. And I believe most of the mental health and chronic physical health conditions that plague our world come from our childhood trauma. Today I want you to know how much power you hold. How much power you hold in changing everything for your family, your community and the planet.
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PART TWO
Jewels remembers the good times. As an only child living with her mom and a dad she adored, she remembers early childhood as a fun and happy time. But when Jewels was just 7 years of age the events of one night changed everything and her life was never the same again. What happens to a little girl when nobody is paying attention, nobody is loving her, nobody is listening to her, is frightening. And the journey she has been on was a fight for survival that would have crushed others. Jewels is the author of an award winning memoir called The Making Of A Woman from the inside out, a deeply honest account of a life lived reaching for the light despite the darkness.
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Jewels remembers the good times. As an only child living with her mom and a dad she adored, she remembers early childhood as a fun and happy time. But when Jewels was just 7 years of age the events of one night changed everything and her life was never the same again. What happens to a little girl when nobody is paying attention, nobody is loving her, nobody is listening to her, is frightening. And the journey she has been on was a fight for survival that would have crushed others. Jewels is the author of an award winning memoir called The Making Of A Woman from the inside out, a deeply honest account of a life lived reaching for the light despite the darkness.
You can connect with Jewels on https://www.instagram.com/jewelsthemakingofawoman/ and please go and purchase her book at https://themakingofawoman.com/
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How would you rate your self worth? Are you enough? Or have you spent a lifetime feeling less than, small, contained in a box of acceptability? Do you feel lovable or unlovable? good or bad? worthy or unworthy? In this new style episode I am talking about why unworthiness affects millions and give you first steps towards understanding and self love.
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Part 2 of Generational Narcissism.
Richelle suffered a lifetime of narcissistic abuse from her mother. And with the understanding she now has, Richelle can see that her grandmother was also a narcissist. Playing favourites. Golden child syndrome. Manipulation. Lack of boundaries. Parentification. Cycles of abuse. Love bombing. Abuse. Richelle's Mom would disappear for weeks at a time and Richelle would be left in the care of her grandmother. It was Richelle's normal but as Richelle says she always felt something was not right. And you can feel the deep longing that all Richelle wanted in all of this was to have a mom that loved her unconditionally. So many second chances. So much heartache. Richelle's story is the story of so many women dealing with generational narcissism. Please join me for this very important episode.
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Richelle suffered a lifetime of narcissistic abuse from her mother. And with the understanding she now has, Richelle can see that her grandmother was also a narcissist. Playing favourites. Golden child syndrome. Manipulation. Lack of boundaries. Parentification. Cycles of abuse. Love bombing. Richelle's Mom would disappear for weeks at a time and Richelle would be left in the care of her grandmother. It was Richelle's normal but as Richelle says she always felt something was not right. And you can feel the deep longing that all Richelle wanted was to have a mom that loved her unconditionally. So many second chances. So much heartache. Richelle's story is the story of so many women dealing with generational narcissism. Please join me for this very important episode.
You can find Richelle on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/motherless.mothering/ and her blog https://motherlessmothering.com/
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An opportunity, in our last episode for 2021, to take a look back at some of the amazing wisdom and beauty that has been shared on the podcast this year. Thankyou so much for being on this journey of healing with me. I so appreciate you being here.
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(Part 2). We heard Emma’s story earlier this year and at that time she was experiencing real revelations around her past trauma. Since then Emma has taken her healing to the next level and has experienced so much growth in these past few months. Emma speaks about how she never took her trauma seriously. She made light of things because ‘it wasn’t that bad’. She came from a good home after all. She had everything she needed. Who was she to complain? If you are on a healing journey, you need to hear what Emma is sharing. It’s extremely powerful. (Part 1)
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We heard Emma’s story earlier this year and at that time she was experiencing real revelations around her past trauma. Since then Emma has taken her healing to the next level and has experienced so much growth in these past few months. Emma speaks about how she never took her trauma seriously. She made light of things because ‘it wasn’t that bad’. She came from a good home after all. She had everything she needed. Who was she to complain? If you are on a healing journey, you need to hear what Emma is sharing. It’s extremely powerful. (Part 1)
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PART 2 (please listen to Episode 51 before this episode).
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Kavita was six years old and her sister was four when they were sent to boarding school. It was total abandonment and Kavita was in complete trauma. Her mother was living with an undiagnosed mental illness and her parents were simply unable to cope. It wasn't until Kavita had her own child that she really understood the depths of that trauma. In this episode Kavita is sharing her story and all of her wisdom. As a Parenting Coach, trained by Dr Shefali, Oprah’s go-to parenting expert Kavita has now come full circle as she teaches parents how, by embracing ourselves, we can create a beautiful partnership with our child.
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Kavita was six years old and her sister was four when they were sent to boarding school. It was total abandonment and Kavita was in complete trauma. Her mother was living with an undiagnosed mental illness and her parents were simply unable to cope. It wasn't until Kavita had her own child that she really understood the depths of that trauma. In this episode Kavita is sharing her story and all of her wisdom. As a Parenting Coach, trained by Dr Shefali, Oprah’s go-to parenting expert, Kavita has now come full circle as she teaches parents how, by embracing ourselves, we can create a beautiful partnership with our child.
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The toxic mom doesn't have to be angry and abusive. She can be absent and neglectful. She can be unloving, disconnected and cold. She can abandon you and barely speak to you. She can give you the silent treatment for days. And she can send you on a very self destructive path. Tracy's mom didn’t bond with Tracy as a baby and continued to neglect her throughout her life. Tracy has spent a lifetime feeling the effects of this abandonment, going off the rails as a teen and becoming a young single mom. Tracy now helps others to go no contact with toxic parents and shares somatic experiencing which has had a hugely positive impact on Tracy's life and something she is now teaching others.
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Control can be at the very heart of a traumatic childhood. Parents with unhealthy and unattainable standards, unreasonable rules and regulations. Parents using punishments and controlling behaviour. Micah grew up in a very controlled, religious environment. Church was three times a week. Discipline was militant in style and there were so many rules and beliefs that Micah had begun obsessively washing her hands by age 5. She also became very controlled with food, absorbing the messages she was being given about what sort of a person you were if you ate too much. Such a difficult start for a little girl. Micah Stover is now a psychedelic guide and trauma midwife, working with the power of psychedelics to help others in trauma to go back and rescue that younger self and bring her home.
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(PART 2) Shorina was only 14 when she left home to move in with her first boyfriend who was over 18. This older boy was manipulative and tried to isolate Shorina, telling her that nobody else cared and if she left him she would be completely alone. Shorina didn't even believe her mom cared, even though her poor mom was beside herself with worry. Shorina ended up very alone, self harming and suicidal and went through some very dark times. But Shorina moved on from those experiences and has been able to turn her life around in the most amazing ways and now helps others to do the same.
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Shorina was only 14 when she left home to move in with her first boyfriend who was over 18. This older boy was manipulative and tried to isolate Shorina, telling her that nobody else cared and if she left him she would be completely alone. Shorina didn't even believe her mom cared, even though her poor mom was beside herself with worry. Shorina ended up very alone, self harming and suicidal and went through some very dark times. But Shorina moved on from those experiences and has been able to turn her life around in the most amazing ways and is now helping others to do the same.
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Anxiety is the uncontrollable and often irrational anticipation of future threats and one of the most commonly diagnosed mental health conditions. It is your brain working on overdrive to keep you safe from all the things your mind sees as threatening. And childhood trauma can play a huge part in whether you develop anxiety as an adult. Mireya Lopez was born to a very young mother who was unable to give her the love she needed and was absent for much of her life. Raised by a grandmother who was also unable to show any real love or affection, Mireya’s story is full of abandonment on many levels. By the time she was a teen, Mireya was sadly left with the feeling that she shouldn’t be here at all. Anxiety ran through Mireya’s life as a coping mechanism and as an adult she is still managing her anxiety daily. Mireya has an important story to share with you and some great tips on how to have a good day every day for anxiety sufferers.
You can find Mireya on instagram at www.instagram.com/motheringanxietypodcast and https://www.instagram.com/anxiousbutmagicalmama/ and her podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mothering-anxiety/id1526016335
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Sean Keyes is sharing his story of growing up in violence and abuse, the highs and lows and how he is choosing to live his life now. He searches for answers. He educates himself constantly. All to ensure he is growing and healing and living his best life. Sean is sharing with us his journey with BPD and how he is taking his power back over his mental health. This is a truly inspirational journey. Here is the conclusion of my chat with Sean. (Please listen to Part 1 first)
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Sean grew up in an extremely violent and chaotic environment. His father was alcoholic and abusive, his mum depressed. He remembers feeling no love at all growing up. Sean's mom was still a kid herself when she started having kids. By the age of 23 she had five children. And Sean's mom had come from a traumatic childhood and so had his Dad. Two children of trauma coming together, continuing the cycles of alcoholism, violence and abuse towards their eight children. Generational trauma is real and Sean has spent a lifetime suffering from its affects. Diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder Sean has struggled big time, including many suicide attempts. But he is now actively taking control back of his mental health and sharing his journey on his podcast You Me and BPD. Our chat begins this week and continues next week in Part 2.
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Aunia had no voice. Surviving in a home heavy in generational trauma she felt completely unseen and unheard. Trauma at home and trauma at school. There was very little light or shade. Deep in trauma Aunia attempted to take her own life. By her twenties Aunia was living with an undiagnosed chronic illness. Forced to give up study she turned to art to get her through. To work through the trauma. To make sense of it all. Unable to come into contact with her beloved paint and pencils due to her illness she turned to digital art and flourished. And there were so many co-incidences in who she met and where her art took her that you can see the deep purpose in this journey. Our trauma is so often the link to our purpose and when you see all the things that Aunia is doing in the world it is so obvious this is what she came here to do. To bring beauty to the world and teach others how to heal through art and creativity and colour. Aunia Kahn is a multi-faceted creative entrepreneur and a globally awarded, collected, and exhibited artist/photographer, graphic/web designer, the host of the Create & Inspire Podcast, a published author, as well as a teacher and an inspirational speaker. For years her art was based on survival. Now, entering another phase of her life, her work has transitioned into a narrative of personal evolution and highlights how grateful she is to still be alive. Aunia is teaching us how to heal through art. Please come and hear what she has to say.
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This is the story of growing up with a vulnerable narcissistic mother. The vulnerable narcissist isn't as obvious in the way they operate as other types of narcissists. They are more subtle. But the underlying control and guilt can become magnified once they feel you are slipping out of their control. So as Michaila grew up and became more independent, the behavior got worse and worse. Michaila speaks of the deep guilt and responsibility she felt for her mother, which she always saw as completely normal. The effects of a narcissistic mother can be lifelong and Michaila has been working through the layers and healing and has so much wisdom to share with you on this topic.
Michaila is a Maternal Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach. Please reach out to Michaila on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mother_herselfandme/and facebook https://www.facebook.com/michaila.tyson.7/
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The framed picture of the happy family. Mom, Dad and the kids. Living their best lives. Baby on Dad's knee. A wonderful family. That's what we present to the world anyway right? Because what goes on behind closed doors can be so different. Can be another story. So many children taught to show the world a happy face. To keep secrets. To save face. So many children trapped with no-one to talk to. Erika is a beautiful soul who has been through more than any human should. She was abused and beaten. By her step father. In her home. Where nobody came to help her. Nobody said "stop" "enough". Nobody took her hand and told her she was beautiful and worthy and lovable. Everything was hard. Erika moved to a new country and she didn’t look like the other girls. She didn’t know she was black. She just knew she was a person. And her realisation that her skin colour would determine the way people saw her is heartbreaking. And as she grew into a woman, Erika remembers desperately not wanting to get attention with clothes and all the things young girls want. Because attention was unsafe. Attention meant abuse. Erika is now a healing coach who is helping women who have been through trauma to heal and she has so much to share with us.
You can find Erika on www.instagram.com/emotional.freedom/ and her websitehttps://www.thepersonaldeveloper.com/
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Did you know that childhood trauma can start as early as in the womb? Imagine that a young woman of eighteen becomes a mother and because of the short traumatic life she has lived, she has no idea how to connect with her own emotions, let alone those of a tiny baby. Because she abandoned herself long ago, she is unable to be present for this child’s needs. Because her own body has been used and abused, she is unable to take out her breast to feed a crying, screaming child. And because she is highly traumatised she is unable to provide a space in her womb that is free of trauma. This is Dr Melanie Salmon’s story. Please come and listen to what she has to say. It's the story of growing up with a mother who has narcissistic personality disorder. Dr Melanie Salmon’s story meant that she has spent a lifetime recovering from the trauma of childhood. She spent many years in talk therapy and when she realised this was never going to fully get to the root of her issues, she developed her own healing modality where she is changing lives. If you are suffering from the effects of childhood trauma you need to hear this episode.
You can find Dr Melanie Salmon on her website https://qecliving.com/origins/ and her book There Has To Be Another Way isout soon.
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Sara felt lost. She felt like she had missed the memo on how to do life. She was confused and wasn’t even sure what the questions were, let alone where to find the answers. It turns out that Sara had CPTSD and it took her 9 years to find somebody that could actually tell her this. And at no time did she think that this journey was about her childhood, about what had happened to her as a small child. What she did have was a bunch of missing pieces. And that’s how Sara describes complex trauma. Survivors become so fragmented, so broken up into a million tiny pieces, each piece trying to figure things out in order to survive. It's a network we build of protection and safety to survive the trauma. And it leaves survivors in a very dark and difficult place. Sara has an amazing instagram page called https://www.instagram.com/breakingdowncptsd/ where she is sharing her own journey and offering hope and resources for anyone who needs it.
You can find Sara on instagram https://www.instagram.com/breakingdowncptsd/ her website https://www.saraaird.com/aboutme-1
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The mother wound can be like a gaping hole in the middle of your chest that started in childhood and has never been able to heal. It starts in the womb where you are influenced by your mothers dream of life. Your mother is your first archetype of love and whoever your mom is and however she sees the world will have a profound impact on you. Everything she says and does as you are growing is being absorbed by you. How she handled relationships, how she responded to things, your interactions with her, everything. All of it will impact you, your emotions, your feelings, confidence, self love, self worth. And if this relationship has been impacted in negative ways, this wound might stay raw and angry for a lifetime. Kerri’s relationship with her mom had some early setbacks which left deep feelings of distrust. These feelings affected Kerri’s life and relationships for decades. But the healing journey has been profound. Please join me in hearing Kerri’s story.
You can find Kerri on instagram https://www.instagram.com/kerri.hummingbird/ her website https://kerrihummingbird.com/
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As a young girl Lauren felt pressure to look pleasing to those around her. To look perfect. To fit in. And as she got more into her love of acting, the pressure only got worse. Constant analysis of looks, weight. Perhaps you should lose a few pounds? Your voice isn’t great. Picking away at the very core of her soul. This is a story of a beautiful passionate young girl who had a dream. To be successful. As an actor. But the unrelenting drive to be perfect took its toll. The anxiety, the panic to always be what everyone else wants you to be is, in the end, untenable. Life comes crashing down around your ears and as you try to take that one last chance at the dream, you realise that life is guiding you in a different direction. Lauren's story is compelling listening. There are so many twists and turns to this story as Lauren gets lost along the way. But every single word is truth. And a good reminder that sometimes trauma can show up in our pursuit of perfection.
You can find Lauren on instagram https://www.instagram.com/lauren.lipson.rozen/
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Do you feel stuck? Do you feel like you’ve done all the things. You’ve tried so hard to heal and you’ve made so much progress. But there’s still something in the way. And you can’t figure it out. You know what you want, but you just can’t get there. It’s sabotaging the life you want for yourself. But what is it? I’m chatting with Amanda Monnier Energy Healer and the answer? it could be all about energy. Amanda’s parents divorced when she was just six years old and like many kids of divorced parents, Amanda took on those emotions and was left with the belief that what had happened to her family was her fault. As an empath and intuitive Amanda was picking up on everything that was happening around her, absorbing the low vibrational energy and all of the chaos. And this was a belief she carried with her for many years. It sabotaged her adult relationships and finally Amanda experienced her dark night of the soul which saw her begin to turn things around. Amanda is now an energy healer and helps women to find the resistance we hold from our family history, our beliefs and our emotions and teaches us how to rewire all of that to create the life we have always dreamed of.
You can find Amanda on instagram https://www.instagram.com/amandamonnier/ facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefiercefeminine her website https://amandamonnier.com/
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I found Nicole from The Living Well and knew we needed to connect. Nicole is a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and she has a wealth of knowledge on the narcissist. Having been in relationships with narcissists and also raised by narcissistic parents, Nicole has suffered at the hands of narcissists her entire life. And she did hit rock bottom. And she did contemplate checking out. But instead, Nicole took the road to recovery and healing and she is now sharing all the knowledge she gained on how to heal and begin again after narcissistic abuse with as many women as she possibly can. Nicole has set up the School of Narc Abuse including programs, coaching and support groups to support women and men and change lives. If you have any questions about narcissists or recovery they are sure to be answered here. Please join me for this very informative episode.
You can find Nicole on instagram https://www.instagram.com/healingthewoundinc/her website https://www.healingthewound.org/one-on-one
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Shanon is a beautiful soul. I connected with her on Instagram where she has an amazing following of trauma survivors who are finding connection and community @survivingchiildhoodtrauma. And Shanon’s story is one of the hardest there is. Shanon never met her Mom. She died whilst giving birth to Shanon. And Shanon was raised by her father. Under his care she was abused by her Grandfather. At five years of age Shanon began asking people outside of her home to hear her. Because even at five she questioned what was happening. But nobody listened. Nobody. There is so much more to this story of childhood trauma and healing and the only person who can tell it, is Shanon. It’s vital you hear Shanon’s story.
You can find Shanon on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/survivingchildhoodtrauma/ and her website https://survivingchildhoodtrauma.com/
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Are you ever deeply confused as to why your life seems to be in a perpetual cycle of chaos? Do you feel there is something wrong with you but you have no idea what it is? Why you can’t seem to get it together? Why things turn out badly over and over? If so, you need to hear Tanner’s story. Tanner grew up in a household where one parent was abusive and the other parent was unavailable. For years Tanner was presenting to the world as the one who had it all together. She was voted the person most likely to succeed in her graduation class. She studied at Stanford and appeared to have a wonderful life. But behind the scenes, things were messy and confusing. And then she hit rock bottom. Tanner's husband sat her down one day and told her he didn’t think he could be married to her any more. And that moment was devastating. And life changing. Tanner felt there was something wrong with her but she had no idea what it was. And so she set out on a mission to find answers. I am chatting with Dr. Tanner Wallace, Professor of Health and Human Development and she is leading a survivor-led trauma recovery revolution. You are going to love everything Tanner has to say because it is truth. It is raw and real and it is shared straight from the heart.
You can find Dr. Tanner Wallace on instagram https://www.instagram.com/drtannerwallace/ and her podcast https://relationalhealingpodcast.com/
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When Amanda was growing up she felt she was never good enough. Coming from a family whose language revolved around negativity and limiting beliefs and with a history of depression, Amanda struggled at school and felt disconnected. Regardless she did all the things. Finished school, went to uni, got a degree, got married, had a child, ticking off all the boxes required for a 'successful life’. The life and the path we are led to believe will bring us happiness and fulfilment. But does it? Because whose dream are we living? Our parents? Societies’? Amanda was living the dream but was in such a negative headspace she describes her days as one endless Pity Party! And she knew things needed to change. In this episode we are chatting about who am I really? How do I find me? Because the narrative you are running in your head from childhood and what you believe about yourself will be creating your reality now. Amanda Ryall Hill is the author of I CHOOSE ME. She is also a podcaster and teacher. She is passionate about teaching us how to heal our inner wounded child and show up to be the joyful, creative humans we were born to be. Please join me to hear Amanda explain how to choose you and live the life you crave.
You can find Amanda on her website https://amandahryall.com/about/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/amandaryallhill/ and her podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-choose-you-now/id1561739457
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PART 2. Please listen to Part 1 before this episode.
Domestic abuse is at epidemic proportions across the globe. How does this happen to so many women? In the story I am sharing with you this week the path is clear. Nita grew up in an environment that was unsafe. She spent many years doing the very best she could to make this environment work for her as she learned to people please and abandon herself over and over. Control and expectation ruled and so when Nita escaped into her marriage she thought she would be saved from an abusive childhood. However, as Nita describes it, she ended up in a marriage that was just like 'home'. Abusive and controlling. A repeat of everything that had been so familiar to her. And this is the story of so many women. Because when your self esteem is so low and you are living your life to make everyone else happy you can absolutely learn to live with being treated in the most abusive of ways. And so it continues from childhood through into adulthood. Nita's life changed the moment her 9 year old daughter, with tears streaming down her face, said, "Momma, daddy loves you, he just shows it by being mean." A day that changed everything. Nita is now a coach using her power as a survivor and everything she has learned to help others in the mental health awareness space. We had so much to chat about that Nita's story will be broken up into two parts. Here is Part 2.
You can find Nita on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/a_glimpse_into_the_moment/ her podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-glimpse-into-the-moment/id1495739533 her website https://www.aglimpseintothemoment.com/
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Domestic abuse is at epidemic proportions across the globe. How does this happen to so many women? In the story I am sharing with you this week the path is clear. Nita grew up in an environment that was unsafe. She spent many years doing the very best she could to make this environment work for her as she learned to people please and abandon herself over and over. Control and expectation ruled and so when Nita escaped into her marriage she thought she would be saved from an abusive childhood. However, as Nita describes it, she ended up in a marriage that was just like 'home'. Abusive and controlling. A repeat of everything that had been so familiar to her. And this is the story of so many women. Because when your self esteem is so low and you are living your life to make everyone else happy you can absolutely learn to live with being treated in the most abusive of ways. And so it continues from childhood through into adulthood. Nita's life changed the moment her 9 year old daughter, with tears streaming down her face, said, "Momma, daddy loves you, he just shows it by being mean." A day that changed everything. Nita is now a coach using her power as a survivor and everything she has learned to help others in the mental health awareness space. We had so much to chat about that Nita's story will be broken up into two parts. Here is Part 1.
You can find Nita on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/a_glimpse_into_the_moment/ her podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-glimpse-into-the-moment/id1495739533 her website https://www.aglimpseintothemoment.com/
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Our world is filled with unwellness. The rates of chronic illness are through the roof. The pharmaceutical industry is pumping out medications to fix diagnoses and bring us relief from thousands of chronic health symptoms every day. How did we become so unwell? Is there a better way? Sarah Harvey believes so. Sarah has spent her life fighting a myriad of chronic health issues. Always unwell. Always struggling. Until a trip to India showed Sarah another way to think about what was happening to her body. The mind body connection is real and when we have experienced childhood trauma, that trauma is held in our body and shows up in our health. As we solve one health issue, another appears and we can end up on a merry-go-round, never being well and never solving the problem. Trauma causes chronic health issues and we have the power to heal and thrive after living with symptoms for years. If you have been chronically sick, you must take a listen. Sarah has so much to share with us on this topic.
You can find Sarah at her website https://www.theselfhealerssociety.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/iamsarahharvey/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theselfhealerssoc YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9HneJRC69TjIye_zFOKI4Q
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Our mother wound is often our grandmother wound. It’s our ancestral trauma. Passed down from mother to child down the line until somebody decides to raise their hand and say ‘this stops with me’. It’s a strong and courageous move to be that person. The one that decides to break those generational patterns. Because you are stepping outside of the framework that has been taught to you. And you risk losing those closest to you by going down a path with no support. I’m chatting with Victoria on the podcast this week and Victoria is a cycle breaker. Victoria’s parents married very young, orchestrated by her grandmother. Not only did Victoria’s mother become unhappy in this marriage but she never got the time to experience life as an adult before she married and had kids. And the ensuing divorce was difficult for all. The effects of generational trauma is real and Victoria has done a lot of healing and she has had to remove some family members from her life altogether. It is not easy to take this route but there is so much strength in being that person. Please join me in hearing Victoria’s story.
You can find Victoria at her website https://www.stregalunafarm.com/ and her two instagram accounts https://www.instagram.com/victorious.trauma.mama/ and https://www.instagram.com/strega.luna.farmvt/
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This week we are taking a deep dive into childhood trauma. What is it? where does it come from? How does it affect us and how can we heal and grow and live the life we wish for. My guest this week is Joanna Filidor a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specialises in the treatment of trauma. Joanna is passionate about helping survivors to heal their trauma, build resilience and belonging. She has worked with many, many clients and is a wealth of information on this very important topic. You will definitely learn something from this chat.
You can find Joanna on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theresilientself/ and her website https://www.joannafilidormft.com
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Justin Connor’s relationship with his Dad was turbulent. Growing up in a home with a father who was alcoholic and out of control at times, Justin learned to parent himself at an early age. When his parents divorced Justin and his brother were caught in the middle of a bitter custody battle. Justin has spent many years on a healing journey looking for self love and understanding. After many years estranged from each other, Justin was able to connect with his father on his death bed, offer forgiveness and compassion and connect with him in a way he never had before. Justin has written and directed The Golden Age a movie about this journey to healing. You can find links to the movie and music below. Please join me in hearing Justin’s story.
Film: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08M98K6NJ
Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tozcS1RShdc&t=7s
Soundtrack: https://lnk.to/tgafilm
Social: https://linktr.ee/justinconnor
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Our mothers are our nurturers, gatherers, protectors. They bring us into the world and we rely on them for everything. And so when that relationship becomes toxic, it is one of the hardest things to bear. Marci's Mom and Dad had a difficult relationship from as far back as Marci can remember. There was always tension, anger, fighting. And when her father left, Marci thought her Mom's behaviour would improve. But unfortunately for Marci it just got worse. Bi-polar and narcissistic, Marci's relationship with her mother deteriorated. For many years Marci continued to tolerate toxic behaviour but it wasn't until her Mom turned this destructive behaviour towards Marci's children that Marci had no choice but to cut her out of her life. Marci has spent many years healing and being the mother to her kids that she never had herself. Please join me in hearing Marci's story.
Marci recommends Everything Is Figureoutable https://amzn.to/3bb3ifd The Alchemist https://amzn.to/3vLIrqK Big Magic https://amzn.to/3h8eywT
You can find Marci at her podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/2jdUtUA62v6xLhn4GmKqyf Facebook https://www.facebook.com/marci527/ and her website where you can purchase her books https://marcibrockmann.com/ Permission to Land her book https://amzn.to/3xVr6xm Permission to Land Personal Transformation Through Writing
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Paulina was born in Poland. Her grandmother was just 19 when World War II broke out. It was a traumatic time and her grandmother was forced into hiding to avoid the concentration camps. At one point she was made to hide in a bread oven. The deep anxiety carried from those years was eventually passed down to Paulina’s mother and finally to Paulina who has struggled with anxiety for most of her life. At 14 years of age Paulina was anorexic and at her lowest point she was 35kg and about to be hospitalised. Anorexia eventually turned into bulimia and the toxic cycle of an eating disorder was extremely difficult to break. Generational trauma runs deep in this story and is palpable. Please join me in hearing Paulina’s story.
Paulina recommends Complex PTSD: From surviving to thriving https://amzn.to/3dYz6Wq The Body Keeps The Score https://amzn.to/3e3v3IF Reasons To Stay Alive https://amzn.to/3xGtN67
You can find Paulina at Instagram www.instagram.com/paulinatenner Twitter twitter.com/paulinatenner Clubhouse @Paulinatenner Her website paulinatenner.com where you can find information on her book LAID BARE: What the Business Leader Learnt from the Stripper.
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Having a narcissistic mother can be a living hell. It can change everything. Manipulation, gaslighting and abuse are an everyday occurrence. Mostly as kids we have no idea what is going on. There can be so much confusion as we try to change our behavior to meet the narcissistic mother's expectations. We believe that if we can just do the right thing, please her, be the person she wants us to be? reach the dizzying heights of what she wants from us? that we will finally receive her love. Finally, she will love us, accept us, be there to understand us and hug and hold us when we cry. But it's just not possible. Because the narcissist doesn't understand empathy or emotion. She operates from a sense of entitlement where her view of the world is the only view and nothing else is considered. There is no love or understanding. There is only manipulation and blame and this behaviour is there for a lifetime. I am chatting with Terry on the podcast this week. Terry had no idea her mom was a narcissist as she tried to mould and change herself to be loved. But once Terry understood, she knew she would eventually have to cut ties with this destructive force in her life. Terry is an Executive Coach and author of Winning The Game of Work. Please join me in hearing Terry's story.
Terry recommends The Art of Selfishness https://amzn.to/3sgLWTT and Courage is a Three Letter Word https://amzn.to/3tmbzE3
You can find Terry at www.linkedin.com/in/terrybmcdougall. Her book Winning The Game of Work www.tinyurl.com/gameofworkbook
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Did you ever wish you had a family where everyone was calm and happy? There were no raised voices. There were no angry words. Your parents provided a good home with home cooked meals and a warm bed and you always knew you were loved? It feels like you would have everything you needed right? But what about real, deep connection? What about real communication? What about when parents don't connect with you on a deeper level? And what happens when you leave home and get out into the world and realise that you don’t know how to deal with emotions like anger from others because you never saw it. It was never modelled at home in a positive or negative way. You don’t know how to create boundaries because you’d never had to use them. And you don’t understand the emotion of anger within yourself because you can’t recognise it. Kimberly grew up in a home that gave her so many great things. But when there are emotions that you are never allowed to express, there comes a time when you begin to recognise that something is missing. Please join me in hearing Kimberly’s story.
Kimberly recommends Untamed by Glennon Doylehttps://amzn.to/3tkXjLA
You can find Kimberly on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/letyour9shine/
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Between the ages of 0 - 5 years we are absorbing everything. Like a sponge. We are 'trained' by the world around us to take on the same beliefs, understandings, ideas as our caregivers. The way we do life is learnt and assimilated. And if we grow up in an extremely religious environment, this way is our normal. It's the only world we know. Luis grew up in the Jehova's Witness faith. He didn't celebrate birthdays, holidays or halloween. He wasn't allowed to mix with kids who were not Witnesses. And as a very young child he would preach to kids at school about how celebrating halloween would send them all to armageddon, because this was what he knew to be true. The fear and control around a young life within a strict religion is unbearable. And when you realise that something completely forbidden, being gay, is who you are, what happens then? I am chatting with Luis this week and he gives us a very clear look into growing up in this type of environment and how damaging it can be. And how do you create a life for yourself which is nothing like the one your parents expected for you?
Luis recommends A Child Called It https://amzn.to/3ubNikp and Toxic Parents https://amzn.to/3wabZzc
You can find Luis on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thescreenkid/ YouTube https://youtu.be/1Pub8yvCVrQ
IMDB https://m.imdb.com/name/nm2215083/?ref_=m_ttfcd_wr2
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Emma was always described by her mom as a good kid. Never in trouble or acting out. She was so good! But what does good really mean? That you are obeying all the rules? suppressing all the emotions? playing the perfect role? Appearing to the world like the perfect child? And does burying who you really are, never having permission to express an emotion, create trauma? Can that trauma affect your whole life and you never even see it? Is it there driving everything but it's so buried you can’t even acknowledge it? Emma’s parents were good humans. Emma adored her Dad and was so well cared for by her mom who ensured her every daily need was met. But as a sensitive kid, Emma felt everything deeply. When life was happening all around her, Emma learnt that sharing how she felt wasn’t acceptable to her mom who was unable to deal with the triggers of those emotions. And so Emma learnt to be silent. To bury. And a dark incident when Emma was four years old left her feeling very unsafe but she never shared it with another soul. This is the story of how Emma has been on a journey of understanding. Her journey includes a battle with cancer and a diagnosis of ADHD, revelations about the cycle of behaviours in families and a deep desire to give her own two kids a different way to be in this world. Please join me in hearing Emma’s story.
Emma recommends Untamed by Glennon Doyle https://amzn.to/3tkXjLA
You can find Emma at www.instagram/emmawarrenskies
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Emma was always described by her mom as a good kid. Never in trouble or acting out. She was so good! But what does good really mean? That you are obeying all the rules? suppressing all the emotions? playing the perfect role? Appearing to the world like the perfect child? And does burying who you really are, never having permission to express an emotion, does this create trauma? Can that trauma affect your whole life and you never even see it? Is it there driving everything but it's so buried you can’t even acknowledge it? Emma’s parents were good humans. Emma adored her Dad and was so well cared for by her mom who ensured her every daily need was met. But as a sensitive kid, Emma felt everything deeply. When life was happening all around her, Emma learnt that sharing how she felt wasn’t acceptable to her mom who was unable to deal with the triggers of those emotions. And so Emma learnt to be silent. To bury. And a dark incident when Emma was four years old left her feeling very unsafe but she never shared it with another soul. This is the story of how Emma has been on a journey of understanding. Her journey includes a battle with cancer and an adult diagnosis of ADHD, revelations about the cycle of behaviours in families and a deep desire to give her own two kids a different way to be in the world. Please join me in hearing Emma’s story.
Emma recommends Untamed by Glennon Doyle https://amzn.to/3tkXjLA
You can find Emma at www.instagram/emmawarrenskies
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Ali was adopted at birth by a mum and dad who were desperate to provide a loving home to a baby. And that’s exactly what they did. Both very loving, very giving parents who gave Ali a really wonderful childhood. And right from the start Ali was aware she had been adopted. There were no secrets or big revelations. But what happens when you begin to see that you are not quite the same as everyone else in your family? You look a little different, you think a little differently and you have this deep, deep need to reconnect with the mother who birthed you into the world? For Ali it meant suppressing many emotions over many years. Not really understanding the emotions or being able to put them into words and never wanting to upset her adoptive parents Ali's physical and mental health suffered. Ali has been on a long healing journey to find self love and understanding and she has so much wisdom to share with us. Please join me in hearing Ali’s story.
Ali recommends The Untethered Soul https://amzn.to/2OcGtzJ The Defining Decade https://amzn.to/3rB7VW1 Spirit Hacking https://amzn.to/3ciVWpK Primal Wound https://amzn.to/2OIe3x4 Peace Is Every Step https://amzn.to/3lgLy6d
Ali is launching an Adopt Yourself Group Mentorship Program this month and you can find this and her Adoptee Support Group on her website alijameson.com Ali is on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/ali.leigh.jameson/
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Leslie knows all too well how alcoholism can run through families. Growing up with parents and an older brother who also drank, Leslie was alone and lonely much of the time. Leslie's mom worked hard in the house during the day but once 6pm rolled around she declared she was 'off duty', began drinking and Leslie would often spend the evenings alone. When Leslie was ten years old a horrible accident left her feeling shattered. A child of alcoholic parents can feel abandonment, rejection and neglect and these are all a part of Leslie's story. Leslie is so fabulous and vibrant and positive and her mission is to help women to live their best possible lives. She wants to help you understand that you have the power to change your life. To break those cycles. And that there are people out there who have your back.
You can find Leslie on instagram https://www.instagram.com/girltribefitfunandsexy and facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/girltribefitfunandsexy.
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Do you have a deep sense of who you are? Do you always show up as your authentic self? Voice your opinions regardless of whether they are popular? Walk into a room and have no cares about who is there and what other people think about you? Jonathan was a talented kid with a love of sport. From a very young age Jonathan learnt to put on a mask. To be and say what others wanted. To show up as an actor in his own life and walk into a room and play the part. He was a sensitive kid and all the emotions and pressures were hidden to ensure he appeared strong and on top of his game. But what happens when you can’t deal with everything you’re holding inside? When you really aren’t coping with the pressure of life and the elite sporting scene? When you just want to shout out "I'm not this kid!". In Jonathan’s case you turn to alcohol. After taking his first drink at just 12 year's of age, Jonathan’s life became a never ending battle of continuing to present to the world as strong and capable, whilst drinking more and more and spiralling down into alcoholism. After many years of trying to turn his life around Jonathan is now able to share what it felt like to be that struggling little kid. He now knows that the only way to turn up in this world is as himself, his real self. And that’s a journey towards self worth and self love. Please join me in hearing Jonathan’s story.
You can find Jonathan on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/teamshirudo/ and also his Unity Clothing Brand https://www.instagram.com/watzup.organisation/
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Shannon is an Intuitive Energy Healer. She can read energy, is highly sensitive and uses her psychic gifts to connect in with her clients. As Shannon says herself, you teach what you know and Shannon has had a lifetime of experience reading the energies of her highly volatile family members just to survive. Shannon's mother is bi-polar and she and Shannon's Dad met when they were both 14. When Shannon was ten years old her mother left home for 3 weeks and nobody knew where she went. Shannon started caring for her family then and has continued to do that ever since in a very co-dependent way. Shannon is a beautiful soul. She has the wisdom of a life filled with the most amazing stories. Please join me in hearing Shannon's story.
Shannon's Book Recommendations:- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay https://amzn.to/2KUOw2l . You Are Enough by Panache Desai https://amzn.to/2LjFJqn The Inner Matrix by Joey Klein https://amzn.to/3obTIND . Loving What Is by Byron Katie. https://amzn.to/2JF6up1 . Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping https://amzn.to/2MplhVH
You can find Shannon at https://www.instagram.com/airstream_oracle/. podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/adventures-of-the-airstream-oracle/id1523463868 website www.shannonpinkston.com
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Mel grew up with a Mom and Dad who were very young and still enjoying the party life. Mel's earliest memories are of fun mixed with chaos. She had to grow up fast, trying to be a part of this adult world whilst also trying to find a way to control it. And then over time Mel's Dad became alcohol and drug addicted. He would sometimes be the fun and funny Dad and sometimes his behaviour would be completely unpredictable and he could spiral out of control and this was a pattern that continued for many years. Being a pivotal support person to her struggling Mom and taking on a huge amount of responsibility within the family at a very young age, Mel's home life was extremely hard. And then a tragic incident in Mel's teen years changed everything. Mel's story is a window into the life of a kid growing up with a parent who is also an addict.
Mel recommends Boundaries by Dr Henry Cloud https://amzn.to/3tz3nRv
Mel is a coach and counsellor. She helps you to find clarity, healing & fuel to dream again. You can find Mel at https://www.instagram.com/manna.and.hive/
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Kim didn't feel the love growing up. Her mother felt Kim was too sour and serious and there was a disconnect between mother and daughter. But Kim's mother was dealing with a series of miscarriages and so much loss and grief. And Kim's mother's mother was in active grief for many years when Kim's mother was a child. And that's generational trauma right there. Where we find a pattern of coping and doing the best we can with the emotional baggage passed down to us by our parents. After her parents divorce Kim was often left to fend for herself, never receiving love or praise or even acknowledgement, spending many hours alone. The one saving grace in this childhood story is Kim's wonderful paternal Grandmother. With Gram she never felt judged or less than. She felt the love unconditionally. And when Gram died seven years ago her parting words to Kim were simply to "enjoy your life". And it has been these three words that have been completely life-changing for Kim. Please join me in hearing Kim's story.
Kim recommends The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks https://amzn.to/3auodcc
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/unbelievablefreedomwithkim/ . Journaling unbelievablefreedom.podia.com/blank-page-bliss.
Website https://www.unbelievablefreedom.com/ Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unbelievable-freedom-with-kim-smith/id1523522829?uo=4
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Bianca describes her family as typically Italian. Lots of aunties and cousins with everyone up in everyone else's business, giving their opinions freely about how you were meant to live your life. Except when there were more serious issues involved. Like mental health, depression or the inability to cope. These things were usually swept under the carpet and actively not shared or discussed. Bianca's relationship with her mother was difficult. She felt from a young age that she was not good enough, that her brother was the favourite child. She felt distant from her mom who spoke of her in glowing terms publicly but was detached and demeaning in private. The mother daughter relationship can be so complex and Bianca's story is a true testament to that.
Bianca recommends A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle https://amzn.to/2KPM4Ko
Bianca is a Body Image Consultant, Confidence Coach and Mentor. You can find Bianca on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/biancahurstcoaching/
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Amanda's parents were divorced when she was five years old and Amanda's mom raised her two kids alone. Painfully shy, Amanda had to attend a new school every year as the family moved often. She was regularly left at home alone with her little brother and increasingly felt responsible for her mother's changing moods. There was anger and abuse at home and this only accelerated when her new step-father came on the scene. By the time Amanda was ten years old the abuse was so bad, she was suicidal. By sixteen she was drug and alcohol addicted. This is the story of when a child's home life sends them spiralling out of control. And it's so important for all of us to understand that a kid like Amanda? she had absolutely no-one to help her out of a living hell.
You can find Amanda on Instagram. https://www.instagram.com/kickasswithbothfeet/ facebook https://www.facebook.com/amandagoldtattoo
Books that Amanda recommends You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero . https://amzn.to/3sAL5in. . The Fear Cure by Lissa Rankin https://amzn.to/39HwdWI. . The Artists Way by Julia Cameron https://amzn.to/3qAN8kq
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How would you feel if at 12 years old your parents were talking to you about getting married to a complete stranger within the next few years? How would you feel if at 15 ? you began meeting prospective husbands who were 30 years old? How would you feel if by 19 there was so much pressure to be married you just had to choose someone because you felt there was no way out. This is Hana's story. Hana was born in the US to Middle Eastern parents and this is what they decided was best for her. Hana had no voice. Her opinions were not acknowledged. What she thought, wanted or needed were unimportant. And she jumped from this childhood into a marriage where she was also controlled and voiceless. Please join me in hearing Hana's story. You won't want to miss this one.
Hana is a Transformational and Life Purpose Coach. You can find Hana on instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_hana_effect/
Hana recommends The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer https://amzn.to/3b3s3e0. The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown https://amzn.to/3ihClsQ. I Thought It Was Just Me by Brene Brown. https://amzn.to/3ieBtoF
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Sari's experience of growing up was wonderful. Her parents encouraged many hours of creativity and play including art, drama and music, neighbourhood friends, board games and a no TV household! Sari says herself that when you have amazing role models who encourage you to be yourself and do what you are passionate about, you want to be around them and you want to make good choices. We even get to meet Sari's five year old self from The Academy of Pretend!
Sari's love of creativity and thinking outside of the box has led her to creating The Academy of Pretend. You can find Sari at https://www.facebook.com/theacademyofpretend https://www.instagram.com/theacademyofpretend/
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Sarah Reilly is a highly successful International Performance Coach for leaders who want to become untouchable. And she is an expert on the narcissist. Having grown up with a narcissistic mother and also having been in a relationship with one, she has a huge amount of wisdom and insight to share on this personality disorder. So if you know you are going to be spending time with a narcissist over the holidays or you are having issues with a narcissist in your life right now, this episode is a must!
Sarah's Book Recommendation: Claim Your Power by Mastin Kipp https://amzn.to/3b3UiJu
Sarah is THE coach for breaking the limitations of your current reality and mastering your inner game. Go to www.instagram/sarahreillycoaching
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Sandy was born with some health issues that left her feeling less than. She dreamed of being the beautiful princess who married her handsome prince. When Sandy met the man she believed to be her prince, there were some red flags right from the start. But in love with this man Sandy went on to have three children whilst her husband developed a drug addiction. After a terrifying incident, Sandy and the kids had no choice but to go into hiding. How do kids cope with a drug addicted father? What is it like for kids who are on the run from their own Dad? This is a story of deep heartbreak, incredibly tough times and above all, the kind of resilience born out of necessity.
Sandy's website: www.sandyj.com.au Tiaras Tears and Triumphs Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/tiaras-tears-triumphs-sandy-j-podcast-helping-victims/id1527213561 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0qnOM91FtQp7ts0ikw4P4D Podbean: https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-ztw2f-e72caa Iheart radio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-tiaras-tears-and-triumphs-70652311/ Complimentary Coaching Call: https://calendly.com/sandy-jandthetiarastearsandtriumphspodcast/tiaras-tears-and-triumphs-podcast-interview
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This is the story of a strong, creative, articulate, well-read, funny, authentic and kind human. She is also a survivor, growing up in a family with secrets. Leaving home before she had finished high school to escape the chaos and going on to graduate college, travel the world and create a life for herself there is so much wisdom and deep inner strength to be shared here. But how can you fully move on from such difficult beginnings? How do you relate to such a disconnected and fractured family? How can you be at peace when you are so broken? Please join me in listening to this week's story because everything said here deserves to be heard.
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Rita Pira grew up in a family from a Middle Eastern background with strict cultural rules and boundaries. Attending a regular local school in Chicago, Rita found it difficult to fit in when she was unable to socialise and enjoy the freedom other kids did. Making friends was hard and Rita soon found herself being brutally bullied on a daily basis. Rita's parents had very strict ideas around what was acceptable based on their Assyrian culture and this included what Rita should wear, how she should behave, that she should get married and have children as soon as possible and to ensure her husband was also Assyrian. This is Rita's story of what childhood was like in a suffocating environment and how she has managed to break free and live the life she has always dreamed of. You can find Rita on instagram https://www.instagram.com/rawveganrita/ on apple podcasts shorturl.at/sNPQ2 and spotify shorturl.at/fqE18
Rita's book recommendations:- The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein https://amzn.to/3odCBey A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson https://amzn.to/3pBxm8G
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Annette is a super smart mom running her own money mindset coaching business, but life wasn't always this simple. Born to parents who were only 17 at the time and barely out of childhood themselves, life was chaotic, unpredictable and scary. When two of the people closest to Annette were taken away from her at just 7 years of age, Annette was left feeling confused, lost and very alone. When there is no-one able to explain what is happening and when you don't understand how to grieve, the impact can last a lifetime. Please join me in hearing Annette's story.
You can find Annette on her website thefinsavvymom.com on instagram https://www.instagram.com/thefinsavvymom and facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/financiallysavvymoms https://www.facebook.com/thefinsavvymom
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Carolyn Edge grew up in a loving family home, with three brothers and memories of playing with the neighbourhood kids, spending summers at the pool and some great fun times. But by the time Carolyn hit the teen years, life became confusing. When there is no deep connection with anyone in your family, when you feel that no-one will hear you and when your feelings are not acknowledged, who do you turn to for connection? Who do you rely on to help you get through the difficult times of growing up? We don't need to come from a completely dysfunctional home to feel that we are alone and Carolyn has so many things to share about her life that demonstrate how disconnected we can become with the people who are meant to support us the most.
Please go and check out EdgeCraft, Carolyn's gorgeous paper quilling art at https://www.edgecraftatx.com and Instagram.com/EdgeCraftATX and Facebook.com/EdgeCraftATX
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Michelle was raised in a physically, verbally and emotionally abusive home. Her mother suffered from severe depression and her step-father was a narcissist. From her earliest memories, Michelle remembers anxiety and fear. Feeling highly responsible for her struggling mother and in constant fear of her step-father, Michelle took the courage to reach out for help only to have it backfire making her situation even worse. Michelle is now the Emotional Resilience Coach on Instagram and uses a lifetime of experience to help others to find their lightbulb moments on their journey to healing. You can find Michelle on instagram https://www.instagram.com/emotionalresiliencecoach/ or YouTube bit.ly/emotionalresiliencecoach please reach out.
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What happens to a child who endures sexual abuse at the hands of a family member? What happens when complete dysfunction is your normal? I invite you to hear Jessica Mroz speaking about her extremely tough, challenging and complex childhood which resulted in Jessica's adult search for answers and a deep need to heal and find self worth and self love from the broken pieces of a fractured childhood. Jessica is a strong woman who is not afraid to share her story. Thank you for taking the time to hear it.
Jessica Mroz continues her quest to help others heal from trauma in the most inspirational way. You can find Jessica at The Get Better Place website https://www.thegetbetterplace.com on Instagram www.instagram.com/thegetbetterplace and Facebook www.facebook.com/groups/894167824398879
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Almost 50% of marriages end in divorce. But what about the kids? They move back and forth between homes and they might need to deal with new marriages, siblings and the sadness of never having both parents in their lives at once. Andrea Heyman remembers her young childhood as a really happy time but once her parents separated she had to learn to cope. Divorce has a lasting impact on kids and Andrea's story recounts some beautiful memories alongside feelings of abandonment and heartbreak.
Andrea Heyman has an amazing podcast showcasing stories of food and family in Adventures in Feeding My Fam. Podcast link https://www.buzzsprout.com/1300594/5102938. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/adventuresinfeedingmyfam/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/277424513335241
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Adopted at birth Emily O'Neil's story is one of feeling like an outsider, lonely and disconnected for much of her childhood. Whilst there were happy times, the need to belong and to be seen and heard were strong. Emily's voice is full of wisdom now as she recounts her childhood story including, sadly, a deep desire to end her own life at the age of just 13.
Emily has a fabulous podcast called Dogs Are The Best Friends. Here is the link https://dogsarethebestfriends.com/podcast/ You can connect with Emily at https://www.instagram.com/dogsarethebestfriendscom
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