The Parent Pivot Podcast: Recent Episodes
Steve and Julia Cummings
We are Steve and Julia Cummings and we are empty nesters who desire to maintain healthy relationship with our adult children. We have found that something needs to change in us, the parent, when our child becomes an adult. We need to ”pivot” from parenting, to partnering. What does that look like? When do I say something and when do I not? Why won’t they listen to me? We address these questions and host more in a real, raw an vulnerable way in real time. Tune in each week as we help you become a partner to your adult children. New podcast weblog
When your kids were growing up, so much of life revolved around them.
School. Sports. Schedules. Problems. Decisions. Launching them into adulthood.
And then one day, they’re gone—and you look across the room at the person you started this whole thing with.
Your spouse.
On this “Best of The Parent Pivot Podcast,” Steve and Julia talk about something that’s easy to lose sight of while we’re trying so hard to navigate relationships with our adult children:
Our marriage still matters. A lot.
In fact, one of the healthiest gifts we can give our adult kids is a marriage that continues to grow.
So today, we’re going back to the archives to keep the main thing…the main thing.
This week on The Parent Pivot Podcast, we’re reaching back into the archives for one of our favorite conversations: “Be a Better Version of Yourself.”
As parents, we spend a lot of energy trying to help our children grow, mature, and make better choices. But sometimes the most powerful change in our family begins when we stop focusing on fixing them—and take an honest look at ourselves. More is caught than taught - especially with adult children.
What would it look like to become a healthier, more intentional version of you?
Be sure to check out Steve and Julia's book, The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children, a practical guide for moving from authority figure to trusted partner.
And if you’ve already read the book, would you take a moment to leave an honest Amazon review? Your review helps other parents discover it.
Need someone to process or dump on about your adult child and what's going on? Text Julia at 714-392-2060 to set up a virtual counseling session or visit her website at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
What happens when concern for your adult child crosses the line into control?
In this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Julia shares how one worried text to her 35-year-old son quickly turned into a family-wide intervention he never asked for—and what happened next.
Steve and Julia talk honestly about helicopter parenting, owning your mistakes, and why repairing small relational ruptures can protect the relationship with your adult child.
They’ll also share more about their book, The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children, a practical guide for moving from authority figure to trusted partner.
And if you’ve already read the book, would you take a moment to leave an honest Amazon review? Your review helps other parents discover it.
Need someone to process or dump on about your adult child and what's going on? Text Julia at 714-392-2060 to set up a virtual counseling session or visit her website at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
What if one of the greatest gift you could give your adult child isn’t advice, correction, or another solution—but your blessing?
“The Lord bless you and keep you;
the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace.”
Numbers 6:24-26
These verses from the Old Testament are known as "The Blessing" and are the focal point of this “Best of The Parent Pivot Podcast.”
Steve and Julia revisit the power of intentionally speaking words of love, value, and affirmation over our children. Even when they’re grown, they still need to know they are seen, accepted, and deeply loved—not because of what they accomplish, but simply because they belong.
Listen to "The Blessing" by Kari Jobe
Contact Steve and Julia at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
Need to talk to someone about your adult child situation? Contact Julia at: julia@meadowbrookcounselingga.com
Get a copy of Steve and Julia's book, "The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children." Available on Amazon.
This week on The Parent Pivot Podcast, we’re continuing our conversation with our long-time friends, Jon and Cherie Talbert, on Multi-Generational Family Living.
In Part 2, we go deeper into what it looks like to build a family culture where multiple generations are connected, supported, and invited into each other’s lives.
Jon and Cherie share more wisdom on the practical realities, the relational challenges, and the beautiful kingdom opportunity of living with legacy in mind.
If you missed Part 1, go back and listen — then join us for this encouraging second half of the conversation.
This week on The Parent Pivot Podcast, we’re going back to one of our favorite conversations with our long-time friends, Jon and Cherie Talbert on Multi-Generational Family Living.
What happens when adult children, aging parents, grandparents, and grandkids begin sharing more than just holidays together?
Jon and Cherie help us think through the beauty, challenges, boundaries, and blessings of multi-generational family life — and how God can use it to shape legacy, deepen relationships, and strengthen the family.
This is Part 1 of 2, and we’ll re-air Part 2 next week.
Grandbaby #7 is arriving and Steve and Julia will be back next week with new content. Please enjoy this "Best of" episode.
It's bound to happen. Your adult child is hurt by something they see their grandparents do for their sibling and not for them. Do you get involved? Ignore it? Take sides? Explain it away?
In yet another "real time" episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia walk through a situation that just happened that involved their adult child and their grandparent. How do you navigate this one when there's so many paths to take? Be listening for some practical, loving counsel that will strengthen your relationship with your adult child.
Contact Steve & Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Resources by Steve and Julia include:
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children." by Steve and Julia Cummings
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"The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Idnetity and How to See God Clearly Again" by Steve Cummings
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a disagreement with your adult child?
Maybe it's about parenting, career choices, relationships, faith, or simply how they're living their life. The disagreement itself may seem small—but over time, it can create distance neither of you intended.
In this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia explore how unresolved disagreements can slowly become disconnection, and why preserving the relationship matters more than winning the argument.
And at the end of the episode, Steve shares how his book, The Father Eclipse, can help parents understand the powerful influence they still have in their adult children's lives—and how to keep that influence from becoming an obstacle to connection.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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"The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again" by Steve Cummings. Available on Amazon.
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"I Know a Guy" Podcast with Steve Cummings. A 5-min daily podcast for men who are tired of performing. Available on Apple, Spotify and all podcast platforms.
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Need to talk? Book some time with Julia by sending her a text at 714-392-2060 - or go to MeadowbrookCounselingGa.com.
What happens when you stop holding on and start trusting God with your adult child?
In this special episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down with their daughter, Jamilyn, to hear her side of the story—from mission trips as a teenager, to the World Race, to discovering her identity, hearing God's voice, and finding her calling.
Along the way, she shares one powerful truth every parent needs to hear:
"Your adult child will never become your answered prayer if you're holding on to them."
If you're struggling to release your adult son or daughter, this conversation may give you the courage—and hope—you need.
Please share this episode on social media, rate and review us so other parents of adult children can find us.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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When It Seems Hopeless: Interview with Jamilyn Upchurch - Apple podcast link. Spotify link.
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia Cummings
What happens when parents stop trying to protect their adult children from every risk and start trusting God with their future?
This week on The Parent Pivot Podcast, we sit down with Seth Barnes, founder of Adventures in Missions and The World Race, to talk about launching adult children into purpose, faith, and real-world responsibility.
We discuss fear-based parenting, why young adults need challenge and adventure, the power of listening prayer, and how some of the greatest growth happens when parents learn to let go.
If you're navigating the transition from parenting to partnership with your adult child, this conversation will encourage and challenge you.
Join us for this powerful discussion with Seth Barnes.
There comes a time when you have to take a step back from life for a bit and take a deep breath. Life gets crazy fast, doesn't it? It's all about balance.
Summer break is finally here—and for many pivoting parents, that brings a mix of excitement, opportunity, and maybe a little anxiety too.
In this "Best of" The Parent Pivot Podcast re-air, Steve and Julia talk about how to make the most of the summer months with your adult kids and grandkids, creating meaningful memories instead of simply surviving the schedule changes.
As we record this, we're excitedly awaiting the arrival of our 7th grandbaby, and it reminds us just how quickly these seasons pass. We hope this conversation encourages you to slow down, be present, and make the most of the gift of family this summer.
What if the young man you’re worried about is still becoming who he was created to be?
In this deeply personal episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia talk honestly about boys, brain development, unmet expectations, parenting fear, and why so many parents panic too soon. From the science behind the prefrontal cortex developing around age 26… to the emotional impact parents can unknowingly have on their sons… this conversation is filled with hope, wisdom, and practical encouragement.
Steve also shares part of his own story behind his new book, The Father Eclipse, and how fathers can unintentionally shape a son’s identity for decades and block his view of the Father.
If you’re parenting a teenage or young adult son, this episode will help you breathe, step back, and love him well through the journey.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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The Parent Pivot Podcast, "I'm Going to the Sidelines" - When It's Time to Take a Step Back: Interview with Jackson Cummings
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"The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthy Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again" by Steve Cummings. Available on Amazon.
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I Know a Guy Podcast - 5-minutes each day. Real talk for men who don't do small talk.
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"Stop Fixing Her: Why Your 'Help" is Killing Connection" Episode 126 of I Know a Guy Podcast with Steve Cummings
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YouVersion Bible Plan - "The Heart of a Warrior: Before You Can Become the Warrior, You Must Become the Beloved Son." with Michael Thompson
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"The Heart of a Warrior" book by Michael Thompson.
Pivoting is not easy. It never is. You have to be intentional to change your trajectory. When it comes to pivoting from being a parent to a partner, we need to start with us - Mom and Dad.
What's the key to pivoting and becoming the healthy partner to your adult child?
On this "Best of " The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia walk us through ways we can achieve a healthier balance in life which in turn will create deeper relationship with your adult child. Don't miss this one! (I know, we say that all the time. But this time we REALLY mean it!)
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
Mother’s Day can bring up a lot more than flowers and brunch reservations.
For many moms of adult children… it brings disappointment, loneliness, fear, and the painful question: “Am I still needed?”
In this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia talk honestly about the struggle of releasing your adult children without losing your identity in the process.
From unmet expectations around holidays… to learning how to let your kids fail, grow, and find their own way… this conversation is full of encouragement, honesty, laughter, and hope for parents navigating this difficult season.
If letting go feels harder than you expected… this episode is for you.
Resources:
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Email us at parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com.
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Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia Cummings.
What do you do when your relationship with your adult child isn’t what you hoped it would be?
In this powerful episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we sit down with Dr. Kathy Koch to talk about the real struggles parents face—grief, distance, conflict, and conversations that don’t have easy answers.
You’ll hear how to love your adult children without controlling them…
how to hold onto truth without compromising…
and why “being sad before you’re mad” might change everything.
If you’ve ever felt confused, hurt, or unsure of your role as a parent of adult children—this conversation will meet you right where you are and give you hope for the road ahead.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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www.CelebrateKinds.com
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"Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children: Strategies and Conversations that Work" by Dr. Kathy Koch.
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"Raising Gender-Confident Kids: Helping Kids Embrace Their God-Given Design" by Dr. Kathy Koch
What do you do when you look back on your parenting and wish you had done something differently?
In this deeply honest episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share a powerful conversation sparked by a true story film—and the emotions it brought to the surface. Together, they explore the weight of regret, the reality that “you didn’t know what you didn’t know,” and how shame can quietly follow parents into their children’s adult years.
You’ll hear real stories, raw reflections, and practical wisdom on how to release yourself from guilt, extend grace to your past, and take meaningful steps toward healing—whether that includes a conversation with your child or work in your own heart.
If you’ve ever replayed parenting moments in your mind and wondered “what if…”—this episode is for you.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia Cummings.
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Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
What if the way you’re trying to help is actually hurting your relationship with your adult child?
In this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia say something that’s hard to hear—but incredibly freeing: you might not be helping.
They talk about the tension every parent feels—wanting to step in, fix it, protect them and why that instinct, if left unchecked, can actually get in the way of their growth.
Because failure isn’t the enemy. It’s often the very thing that shapes who they’re becoming.
So how do you know when to speak and when to stay quiet?
When to step in - and when to trust and let go?
If you’ve ever thought, “I’m just trying to help…” this conversation might change how you see everything.
Got something you'd like Steve and Julia to talk about? Email them at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com.
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
Get a copy of Steve and Julia's book, "The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children."
What do you do when your adult child is already carrying something heavy… and everything in you wants to correct, fix, or pile on?
In this episode of the "Best of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we’re talking about a trap so many parents fall into—adding pressure when our kids are already overwhelmed.
There’s a better way.
A way to stay connected… to lead with wisdom instead of reaction… and to become the kind of parent your adult child actually wants to come to.
If you’ve ever felt that tension between speaking truth and protecting the relationship—this episode is for you.
Listen now and learn how to pivot when it matters most.
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia Cummings.
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"Doing Life with Your Adult Children" by Jim Burns.
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Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
Your child just got engaged. You’re excited… maybe emotional… maybe even a little anxious.
Because suddenly—you’re not in control anymore.
There are new voices. New opinions. New dynamics. And if you’re not careful, this season meant to bring joy… can quietly create distance.
So how do you stay close to your son or daughter…without overstepping, controlling, or damaging the relationship?
In this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we’re talking about how to navigate the engagement season with wisdom, humility, and love—
Because this isn’t just about a wedding. It’s about the future of your relationship.
Watch Steve and Jamilyn in their Father-Daughter Dance - Boomer vs. Millennial.
Most parents don’t lose connection with their adult children because they stopped loving them. They lose connection because they won’t stop trying to control them.
In this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we sit down with Miriam Groom, Founder & CEO of Mindful Career, to unpack one of the biggest tensions parents face: How do you let go without losing your relationship?
We talk about what your adult child actually needs from you right now—and it’s probably not advice. It’s being seen. It’s curiosity. It’s learning how to stay connected without controlling the outcome.
If you’ve ever felt the tension of wanting to guide your kids - but not push them away - this episode will change how you show up—starting today.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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Truity Career Aptitude Test https://www.truity.com/test/career-personality-profiler-test
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VARK Learning Styles Questionnaire https://vark-learn.com/the-vark-questionnaire/
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Morning Pages (The Artist’s Way) https://juliacameronlive.com/basic-tools/morning-pages/
Being an empty nester doesn't have to be a sad season of life. It CAN be a hoot! Just ask comedian Jeff Allen.
On this "Best of The Parent Pivot Podcast," Steve and Julia Cummings interview Jeff as get his life experiences of being an empty nester. You'll also get a chance to see the personal side of Jeff as he shares about his new book, "Are We There Yet?" (Available on Amazon).
It's an inspirational account and at times laugh-out-loud story of how God rescued him from alcoholism and despair through the book of Ecclesiastes.
See Jeff Allen on tour at: https://www.jeffallencomedy.com/tour
What happens when grandparents want to help… but they’re running out of energy?
In today’s episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we tackle a real-life tension so many families face— grandparents stepping in to help with the kids… and parents who don’t want any screen time.
It sounds simple… until real life hits. Aches. Fatigue. Rainy days. And a toddler who never stops moving.
So how do you honor your adult child’s parenting… without burning yourself out in the process?
We’re talking about communication, boundaries, and how to have this conversation without damaging the relationship that matters most.
If you’re a grandparent—or you will be someday—this one’s for you.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia Cummings.
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"Doing Life with Your Adult Children" by Jim Burns.
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Legacy Coalition Grandparenting Summit.
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Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
The season of becoming a new empty nester is finally here. As author and speaker, Jill Savage says, "It can be either a time of 'boo-hoo' or "WOO-HOO!"
You might find yourself caught between grief and delight and full of questions, hopes and regrets. How can we make sense of it all?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia interview Jill and get her wisdom, encouragement and ideas for thriving in this next season of life. Don't miss it!
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
"Empty Nest, Full Life" - by Jill Savage
Other books by Jill
Empty Nest Retreat and Course
Marriage Intensives
What if the “difficult” daughter-in-law in your family… isn’t angry at all?
What if she’s just alone?
In this week’s episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we unpack a powerful reflection called the “Angry Daughter-in-Law Theory.”
We talk about what really happens when someone marries into an established family system — the inside jokes, the unspoken rules, the old loyalties — and how easy it is to label someone as “too sensitive” or “too much” instead of asking deeper questions.
If you have married children — or hope to one day — this conversation might change the way you see your in-law forever.
Because pivoting from parent to partner sometimes begins with empathy.
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
What do you do when your adult child costs you a boatload of money?
A wrecked car.
A bailout.
Another “can you help me just this once?”
As parents, we want to be generous. But what happens when generosity turns into enabling? And how do you pivot when your adult child needs more than grace — they need growth?
In this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we talk about a powerful moment from a recent workshop where a mom admitted she hadn’t always been the parent her son needed… and decided it was time to “go full Miyagi.”
We unpack tough love, ownership, financial boundaries, adult children living at home, and why clear communication matters more than control.
Sometimes the most loving thing you can do… is teach discipline with humility.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re being too generous — or not generous enough — this conversation is for you.
Sometime just have a conversation with someone to process with brings validation and relieves those feelings of guilt, anxiety and frustration. We are here to help. Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com.
Also - pick up a copy of "The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia. Available for $9.99 on Amazon.
What do you do when your adult child starts parenting in ways you completely disagree with?
Maybe it’s gentle parenting. Maybe it’s food rules. Bedtime. Discipline. Screen time. And you’re sitting there thinking… “We would never have done it that way.”
Here’s the harder question:
Do you want to be right… or do you want a relationship?
In this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia talk honestly about biting your tongue, respecting your adult child’s authority, avoiding triangulation in their marriage, and learning how to pivot from parent to partner.
If you’re a grandparent — or you will be someday — this conversation could save your family from unnecessary fractures.
Listen now and learn how to stay connected without stepping over the line.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children"
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Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
Let's face it . . . not only is there NOT instructions handed to new parents by the doctor explaining "what to do" when you leave the hospital and take your baby home.
The same can also be said when your adult kids leave home. Where's the "partner manual"? Where do you go to find out how to make the pivot from parent to partner? We got you on this one!
On this "Best of The Parent Pivot Podcast," Steve and Julia interview Gill Tillmann, author of the book, "Pour the Wine: We're Talking About Our Adult Children . . . Again".
Sit back, relax and pull up a chair and join us for this delightful conversation about "life after parenting."
Links:
https://www.instagram.com/fished.my.wish/?hl=en
Pour the Wine - book
Looking back at raising your kids brings both joys and sorrows. Often times we see how we could have done things better - or maybe how we messed up.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia give us some practical counsel on how we can do some repair work to strengthen our relationship with our adult kids.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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"I Know a Guy" podcast with Steve Cummings - a ministry for men from www.BringingKingdom.org.
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Subscribe to Steve's free Substack newsletter here.
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
On the next Parent Pivot Podcast, Dr. James Banks joins us with a story every parent needs to hear. He opens up about his son Geoff — a bright, likable kid who spiraled into addiction and walked far from faith… and the raw, hard years his family lived through as they prayed without giving up.
Dr. Banks shares what it really looked like to trust God through fear, anger, shame, and unanswered prayers — and how, through grace and love, Geoff not only came back — he discovered purpose and now serves in ministry alongside his dad.
If you’re carrying hope for a prodigal — or praying for a relationship that feels lost — this conversation will encourage your heart and renew your faith that hope really does lie ahead.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"Prayers for Prodigals" by Dr. James Banks.
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"Hope Lies Ahead: Encouragement for Parents of Prodigals From a Family That's Been There" by James Banks & Geoff Banks
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www.jamesbanks.org
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Other books by James Banks.
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
One of the pains of our hearts is when we hear from our listeners that their is a broken relationship with an adult child. Maybe they have cut-off all communication and Mom & Dad are left wondering, "What can we do?"
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia welcome Dr. Ken Canfield and his wife Dr. Michelle Watson-Canfield to the podcast to dive deeper into this subject and bring hope to hurting pivoting partners.
If you have an adult child who is not speaking to you, or know someone who is going through this, this podcast is for you/them. Please share it, rate it, and write a review.
[Podcast production note: We apologize for the change in audio about halfway through. We lost internet connection to our recording platform and had to use our laptop speakers as mic's.]
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"Let’s Talk: Conversation starters for Dads & Daughters" by Dr. Michelle Watson-Canfield.
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"Forgiving the Unforgiveable" by Beverly Flanagan
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For a FREE copy of the 6-step process Dr.Michelle mentioned on today's podcast - A PROCESS FOR FORGIVENESS - send us an email: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com and we will send it to you
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
Background on today's guests:
Ken Canfield PhD, is a nationally-known leader and scholar, and has committed his life to strengthening fathers and families. He founded and is president of the National Center for Fathering (www.fathers.com), as well as the National Association for Grandparenting (www.grandkidsmatter.org), and continues to engage in several organizations dedicated to improving family well-being.
Michelle Watson Canfield, PhD, LPC, is a national speaker, author, professional counselor of 30 years, and founder of The Abba Project, a nine-month group forum for dads whose daughters are in their teens and 20’s. She writes guest articles regularly for journals and magazines as well as her own bi-monthly Dad-Daughter Friday blog, and is the host the award-winning The Dad Whisperer Podcast.
If you've ever wanted to be a "fly on the wall" of a real-life, real-time, intimate conversation with pivoting partners and their adult child - this is the podcast you will be glad you heard.
The tables get turned on Steve and Julia on this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast when their daughter Jamilyn interviews them about a variety of issues she is facing as their adult child living under their roof. Real life conversations with adult children in real time!
Don't miss it - and then share it with your adult child.
Mentioned on the podcast:
18 year-old Jamilyn does Dance Dares in the Airport.
https://www.instagram.com/heyitsjamilynjoy/
https://www.youtube.com/@heyitsjamilynjoy
Quote from Jim Carrey on depression: “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.”
A new year has begun—and so has a new season of The Parent Pivot Podcast.
After a season of loss, reflection, and hard conversations, we are back with a powerful reminder for parents of adult children.
Today we talk about grief, legacy, forgiveness, and what really matters when the noise fades.
How do you stop majoring on the minors?
How do you keep short accounts with your adult kids?
And what kind of parent do you want them to remember when you’re gone?
This conversation will challenge you to pivot—from control to connection, from parenting to partnering. If you want healthier relationships with your adult children in 2026, this episode is for you.
Pivoting from "Mamma parent" to "Mamma partner" can be one of the toughest things you'll ever have to do - especially if you have an adult son.
On this Best of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia discuss the unique dynamics of the Mother/Son relationship and what you want that to look like as they start their own life without you as the #1 woman in their life. It's not a sad story and doesn't have to be. Find out how to see the joy in this next season.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"A Tale of Two Brains - Men's Brain Women's Brain" - Mark Gungor.
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"The Parent Pivot" - by Steve and Julia Cummings.
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
It happens to all of us at some time. Our kids become adults. Leave home. Get married. And all their stuff from childhood remains in our basements and garages.
What does that have to do with pivoting from parent to partner?
On this Best of The Parent Pivot podcast, we get an insightful look at how Julia faced this recently and what this "emotional torture" taught her in her pivot to partner.
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
One dynamic that comes into play as we pivot from being a parent to a partner is: What is the balance between financially helping our adult child(ren) - and enabling them?
Whether it's paying for college, a car, a down payment on a new home, or childcare for the grand babies, how much is too much? Especially when you aren't seeing any grateful hearts and expectations begin to take over because, "Mom and Dad will cover it."
Can you relate?
On this "Best of" editon of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sort that tension out for us and provide wisdom to help you have the right conversation with your spouse about how generosity plays out for you with your adult child(ren). Don't miss it!
For a free copy of "The Treasure Principle" by Randy Alcorn, text Steve at 714-742-9625 or email parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
In the Cummings' kitchen is a wooden plaque that says, "Simplify." We often get overwhelmed in life trying to balance, juggle, and learn new things. Don't you wish you could just simplify life more?
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia help us simplify how we can focus on a few things on the road to becoming a champion partner to our adult children.
Resources mentioned on this "Best of" podcast:
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"How We Love"by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
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Take the Enneagram Test here
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"The Road Back to You" for understanding and insight.
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
“The Lord bless you and keep you;
the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace.”
Numbers 6:24-26
These verses from the Old Testament are known as "The Blessing" and are the focal point of this "Best of" edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast. Steve and Julia share how it's not to late to change generational "stuff" and see what God does in the lives of your adult children, and their children's children. Don't miss it!
Listen to "The Blessing" by Kari Jobe
Email Steve & Julia your story at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
This Thanksgiving, families gather, memories surface, and… so do the opinions.
On this week’s episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we’re leaning into the heart of the holiday—gratitude, connection, and the power of choosing peace.
Join us as we share fun family memories, talk about how to stay unoffended around the dinner table, and give you practical ways to steer conversations away from hostility and toward harmony.
Whether your family is calm, chaotic, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you navigate Thanksgiving with grace, humor, and a whole lot of love.
So before you pass the mashed potatoes, hit play on this special Thanksgiving edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast—and make this holiday one your family will actually be thankful for. 🦃✨
Email Steve & Julia your story at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
Pivoting from parent to partner isn't easy. It's a road of what seems like constant change. But! . . . the intentional effort you put in, will reap a stronger, deeper and more healthy relationship with your adult children.
On this "Best of" episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how we can have a lasting legacy that will strengthen your relationships with your adult children for a lifetime.
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship?
Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or email her at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we're talking about the legacy you’ll one day leave—and how to be intentional about it now. As parents, we don’t just pass on our DNA; we pass on values, wisdom, traditions, and faith. Today, we walk through how to create a simple "Legacy List"—a thoughtful inventory of the lessons, stories, and blessings we want to pass down to our kids and grandkids.
Join us as we explore practical and meaningful ways to invest in the next generation so your influence endures long after today. Your legacy isn’t about what you own—it’s about who you are and what you share. Let’s build that on purpose.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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"Resilient: Restoring Your Weary Soul in These Turbulent Times" by John Eldridge.
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One-Minute Pause App.
Whether it’s hours of Fox News, CNN, or scrolling through heated headlines, constant news consumption can shape our attitudes, heighten emotions, and unintentionally create relational distance with our adult kids.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia tackle a challenge many pivoting partners may be facing today—navigating the tension that can arise when our over indulgence of media habits can alienate our adult children.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships With Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia Cummings. Available on Amazon.
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Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or email her at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
It’s easy to brag about one of your adult kids — especially when you’re proud of who they’ve become. But what happens when your other kids feel overlooked or compared?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia unpack why bragging (even the innocent kind) can damage family relationships and how humility, gratitude, and biblical wisdom can keep everyone feeling valued.
Learn how to celebrate each child’s story without creating competition — and how to keep your family connected for the long haul.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Or email her at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com or visit: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
The holidays are here and can be a LOT of stress as we try to negotiate the plans to be made when our adult kids are married. What do you do when you have traditions that have been going on for decades and now you have a new member of the family?
How do we navigate this season when there are so many emotions pulling us in different directions?
On this "Best of" episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share some of their own experiences and help us use the holidays as a turning point in developing richer, more meaningful relationships with our adult children. If you've ever struggled with what to do with the holidays and your traditions, be sure to listen.
Tell us your story! Contact Steve and Julia at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
Need someone who "gets it" to talk to? Text Julia at 714.392.2060 for a free consultation - OR visit her website to schedule a virtual session at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
Are you sighing instead of speaking? Dropping “harmless” hints instead of having the hard conversations?
This week on The Parent Pivot Podcast we're unpacking the oh-so-common (but rarely productive) dance of passive-aggressive behavior with our adult children. Why do we do it? What’s it costing us? And how can we pivot to healthier, more honest communication?
Tune in if you’ve ever said “I’m fine” when you definitely weren’t — and wished your adult child could just read your mind.
Real talk. No judgment. Just tools, insight, and maybe a little humor to help you show up as the parent you want to be — not the one who texts with a guilt trip.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
Culture Apothecary Podcast: "Why Family Estrangement Happens & How To Fix It | Dr. Joshua Coleman, PhD" with Alex Clark
Need someone to talk to about your adult child relationship? Call or text Julia at 714-392-2060 for a FREE consultation. Email her at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com or visit www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
Raising kids was one adventure — but parenting adult children brings a whole new set of challenges… and blessings. In this week’s episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings dive into “Finding Joy in Your Adult Kids.”
Discover how to celebrate who your grown children are becoming, find contentment even when life doesn’t go as planned, and rekindle joy in your relationship with them. Whether your adult kids are thriving, struggling, or somewhere in between, this conversation will encourage your heart and remind you that God’s not done writing their story—or yours.
Learn how to experience genuine joy in the journey of parenting grown-up kids.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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Need someone to talk to about your adult child? Visit Julia's website to schedule a session at: www.MeadowbrookCounselingGA.com
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Sign-up for "Grand Monday Nights" and watch Steve and Julia as they help grandparents have healthy relationships with the next generation.
ParentPivotPodcast #ChristianParenting #FindingJoy #FaithFamily #LegacyCoalition
We impact our kids in so many ways as we raise them, and often without without knowing it, we can end up favoring one child over another. Quite frankly, it can be a an unaddressed blindspot.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia help us sort through what how we can navigate this tricky path we may have inadvertently created to healthier relationships with all our adult kids.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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"Grand Monday Nights"
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Child" by Steve and Julia Cummings.
If your adult child has cut you out of his or her life—whether for a long or short time—it is a gut-wrenching experience. It often provokes deep feelings of shame, guilt, bewilderment, and hurt, all of which can easily turn to anger.
On top of that, it can also arouse people’s worst suspicions ("Surely, the Smiths must be terrible parents for their daughter to cut them off like that!") and leave you feeling judged, even by friends and family.
On this "Best of" The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia help you navigate how to reconnect with your adult child and begin the healing process.
With the national news event of the past week that occurred in Utah, how can we as "pivoting partners" to our adult kids navigate this issue and still maintain a healthy relationship?
That is today's subject on The Parent Pivot Podcast with Steve and Julia Cummings. Like - Share - and Subscribe and help other parents pivot to choosing relationship over being right.
Your adult child has done or said something that you feel needs to be addressed. But . . . how do you go about having that conversation?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia help us navigate how to prepare ourselves as pivoting partners to have difficult conversations with our adult children.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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Wild at Heart podcast "Having Difficult Conversations - Part 1"
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Wild at Heart podcast "Having Difficult Conversations - Part 2"
Life transitions are never easy whether you move to a new city, lose a loved one or are going through a divorce.
Essentially . . . life happens.
The same can be said when our adult kids head off to college, move away from us to start a career in another city, or becomes engaged.
If pivoting parents aren't careful - these transitions can cause tension in the parent/adult child relationship that when control and expectations get in the way and pivoting to partner is halted.
That's today's topic of conversation on The Parent Pivot Podcast with Steve and Julia Cummings
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia Cummings
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Check out the 10th Anniversary of the Grandparenting Summit here!
When communication and conversations with your adult child keep ending up in arguments and you feel like you're just spinning your wheels, how do we pivot from parent to partner?
On this "Best of the Parent Pivot Podcast", Steve and Julia discuss Parent Pivot Principle #1: Let them vent, as they provide 4 practical ways to do that to grow a healthier relationship.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Check out their new book, "The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children"
Steve and Julia Cummings guide parents through the essential shift from authority figures to trusted partners in their children's lives. Drawing from their popular podcast, The Parent Pivot Podcast, they provide practical tools, conversation strategies, and mindset shifts to help parents move from instructing and directing their children to walking alongside them with trust and respect.
This book equips parents to navigate the transition from parent to partner, offering insights on fostering open communication, strengthening relationships, and supporting their adult children without overstepping—ensuring deeper connections and a thriving family dynamic.
As parents of 4 married children, Steve and Julia Cummings bring their educational and counseling backgrounds along with their own life experiences as parents, to help others navigate The Parent Pivot: From Parenting to Partnering.
On this replay of their inaugural podcast, it's time to hit the pause button and pivot as you shift how you relate to your adult children.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Check out their new book, "The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children"
Steve and Julia Cummings guide parents through the essential shift from authority figures to trusted partners in their children's lives. Drawing from their popular podcast, The Parent Pivot Podcast, they provide practical tools, conversation strategies, and mindset shifts to help parents move from instructing and directing their children to walking alongside them with trust and respect.
This book equips parents to navigate the transition from parent to partner, offering insights on fostering open communication, strengthening relationships, and supporting their adult children without overstepping—ensuring deeper connections and a thriving family dynamic.
The kids are gone and a new season has arrived. You and your spouse suddenly have all this time on your hands. Now what?
On this "Best of" episode of "The Parent Pivot Podcast," Steve and Julia open up about ways they have been able to pivot and share them with you as you enter this next season of life with your adult children.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
The Cambridge Dictionary defines the word "disrupter" as:
"A person or thing that prevents something, especially a system, process, or event, from continuing as usual or as expected."
Buckle up, Parent Pivoters! On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings show us how we can be that "disrupter" with our adult kids - in a non-aggressive way, of course!
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
- "The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Healthy Relationships with Your Adult Child" by Steve and Julia Cummings
We all do it. We mask up to protect our hearts from shame, judgment and criticism and it's all based on fear. The Enemy wins because we don't want anyone to know the real me.
Guess what? That one dynamic prevents us from having a deeper relationship with our adult children.
On this "Best of The Parent Pivot Podcast," Steve and Julia openly share how being authentic about our lives with our adult kids builds a stronger, deeper tie that will last a lifetime. Trust us - it's worth the 26min length of this podcast to listen. Give it a shot!
Resources mentioned on the podcast:
"The Heart of a Warrior: Before You Can Become a Warrior, You Must Become the Beloved Son" by Michael Thompson. Get a copy here
Contact Steve and Julia on all social media platfoms @ParentPivotPodcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
Football season is in full swing and you've likely seen a runner get stopped at the line of scrimmage and gang tackled to the ground. Five or six guys against one all piling on.
What does that have to do with pivoting from a parent to a partner, you ask?
On today's edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, we are re-airing this subject as Steve and Julia bring us some sound counsel on what to do when we find our adult child - no matter the age - is struggling with life.
What's a PARTNER to do? Find out on today's podcast.
Contact Steve and Julia on all social media, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok @Parent Pivot Podcast
Email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
For a copy of Steve and Julia's new book, "The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Healthy Relationships with Your Adult Child" - get a copy on Amazon.
If you have a prodigal son or daughter who is not talking to you and you're wondering, "God, where are You?" . . . there is hope.
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia interview Kari Trent Stageberg and her dad, Dr. John Trent, author of the book, "The Blessing." "Broken to be Blessed" is the story of a prodigal daughter and her redemptive story - and pivoting parents who spoke truth and blessing into her life.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"The Blessing" by Dr. Gary Smalley, Dr. John Trent, and Kari Trent Stageberg.
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"Your Journey from Broken to Blessed: Finding the Love You Didn’t Receive." By Dr. John Trent and Kari Trent Stageberg.
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StrongFamlies.com
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KariTrentStageberg.com
Whether it's Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas or the 4th of July - pivoting parents can be left alone on the holiday. How do we navigate that when we yearn to be with our kids and grandkids?
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast - Julia openly walks through her recent 4th of July weekend and how she and Steve were able to manage the loneliness of being away from their kids with authenticity and vulnerability.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"13 Principles for Building Healthy Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve & Julia Cummings
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If you love Fellowship of Christian Athletes - you're invited to make a monthly donation to our son in Reno, NV, Campbell Cummings.
Doing life with your adult children can bring up issues from the past that now affect your relationship as a pivoting parent to partner. Left unaware of how to take the necessary steps toward healthy relationships will make life with your adult kids more difficult.
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Julia and Steve openly share their own struggles they experienced and how they used those mistakes to move to a place of healthy relationship with their four adult kids.
Technical note: We apologize for the low audio (Turn your volume up). We record in our sunroom and had to turn on the floor AC unit.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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"Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better" by Brant Hansen
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Healthy Relationships with Your Adult Child" by Steve and Julia Cummings
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IdentityExchange.com
According to AI: "'Therefore'" is an adverb that means 'for that reason' or 'consequently.' It indicates a logical conclusion based on a preceding statement or situation. In essence, it signals a cause-and-effect relationship."
Parents of adult children: There is a "cause-and-effect relationship you have with your adult kids.
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia provide the biggest "Therefore" there is to pivot well to becoming a loving "Partner" to your adult children.
WARNING: It will require a humble heart, a short memory, and a constant willingness to forgive.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
- "Doing Life with Your Adult Children" by Jim Burns
2, "Empty Nest, Full Life." by Jill Savage
- "13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia Cummings
Your son or daughter has just gotten married, or is about to. What does it look like to pivot from parent to partner with your new in-law kids?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down with their daughter-in-law, Ashleigh Cummings, for a transparent and insightful interview from her perspective on marrying into a different family than the one she was raised in.
You'll hear from her heart as she shares about what she needs from her in-laws, especially around having kids, and how we can become healthy partners for our adult in-law kids.
Summer is here and family vacations are in full swing!
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia reflect on their week hosting their oldest son and his family of 3 kids and what they learned about themselves during those 7 days.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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Practicing the Way with John Mark Comer.
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The One Minute Pause App
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"13 Principles for Building Healthy Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia Cummings
The pivot from Parent to Partner goes more smoothly when we "keep our mouths shut and the welcome mat out" - the main theme of Jim Burns' book and The Parent Pivot Podcast.
Okay - but what is the balance between keeping our mouths shut - and dealing with our own emotions and resentment that pops up with our adult kids?
On this "Best of" podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings help you navigate what this looks like to help strengthen your communication and ultimately your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren).
Resources mentioned in today's podcast:
For a FREE copy of Randy Alcorn's book, "The Treasure Principle" - send your name and address to: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
Order a copy of "How We Love" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich here.
Get your free copy of Soul Words.
For a copy of "The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children."
Helping our adult kids out when they are struggling financially "can" bring up additional issues, especially with their siblings.
What is fair when maybe not all of your adult kids have the same struggles? What can you do if your generosity is being taken advantaged of?
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia reflect on this and what they went through as kids, how they managed it when raising their own family, and how they practice generosity in their family as one way to get the conversation going with your spouse.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
Practicing the Way with John Mark Comer
We all love family get-togethers where there is laughter and everyone is having a good time remembering stories from the past, right? Nothing wrong with that . . . or is there?
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia use their EQ to let us in on something we may be missing that can be a downer with our adult kids. It's an "awareness check" that we all need to file away and remember to pull it out and use it when the family jokes start flying around.
Resources mentioned of this podcast:
Get a copy of Steve and Julia's new book, "The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children."
As we grew up as kids ourselves, we may or may not have good memories of how we were celebrated on our birthday. Then we get married and our spouse's experience plays into how we choose to celebrate our own kids birthday.
Now they are adults. Whether you realize it or not, there "could be" some underlying issues your adult child is facing that aren't known when it comes to their birthday.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia look at their own upbringing - how they did birthdays in their family - and provide some insightful wisdom for navigating this path of the parent pivot you don't want to miss!
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
- "The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children"
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." Often the season of the empty nest can leave us dealing with a number of issues. How can you make sense of it all?
On this re-air episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share some raw and vulnerable feelings about their relatively new journey as empty nesters and provide some hope for you to navigate this new season you're facing.
There are instances where parents can get stuck making the pivot from raising a child as a parent - to releasing them into the world as an adult and becoming a partner.
Today on The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia - after getting distracted again by the wildlife in their backyard - deliver a major symptom that prevents parents from pivoting well.
Using some current sporting news and T.V. shows to make their point, you will be able to get a clear picture to enable you to overcome getting stuck in your pivot to partner.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"Stop It!" with Bob Newhardt
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children"
Pivoting from "Mamma parent" to "Mamma partner" can be one of the toughest things you'll ever have to do - especially if you have an adult son.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia discuss the unique dynamics of the Mother/Son relationship and what you want that to look like as they start their own life without you as the #1 woman in their life. It's not a sad story and doesn't have to be. Find out how to see the joy in this next season.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"A Tale of Two Brains - Men's Brain Women's Brain" - Mark Gungor.
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"The Parent Pivot" - by Steve and Julia Cummings.
Ever feel like you're walking a difficult road with a wayward adult child?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down with author and licensed parent-family educator, Lori Wildenberg, as she offers practical grace- and truth-filled ways of navigating your relationship with a detoured child—whether they are rejecting faith, dabbling in sin, or wholeheartedly embracing sinful behavior.
Steve, Julia and Lori want you to know, there IS hope. After all, their struggle isn’t really with you—it’s with God.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"Messy Journey: How Grace and Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home" by Lori Wildenberg.
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"The Messy Life of Parenting: Powerful and Practical Ways to Strengthen Family Connections" by Lori Wildenberg.
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"The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children" by Steve and Julia Cummings.
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Legacy Coalition
Probably THE hardest thing a partner of an adult child faces is when their child goes through some sort of suffering. It never changes because we never stop being Mom and Dad. We all feel deeply it and our knee-jerk reaction is to:
- Step in and fix it
- Make the pain go away
And in the process - we make it worse.
SO - what are we supposed to do? What is the healthy way to deal with our adult child who is struggling in their marriage?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia walk us tenderly through this subject offering grace, wisdom and compassion for you to lean into.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children by Steve and Julia Cummings
Does it seem like your adult child ignores you, talks down to you, or treats you in a negative way somehow? Maybe it even feels like you're walking on eggshells?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia provide some insightful wisdom on how we can navigate that path with confidence toward a healthier relationship with our adult kids.
"One" is a song by American singer-songwriter Harry Nilsson that was made famous by Three Dog Night back in the 60's.
You may be parents who have one adult child and may not realize there are some unique dynamics that play into what your pivot looks like.
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia look at those dynamics after hearing from some adult children who are the only child in their family.
We long for relationships to be joyful and life-giving, right? So why do they often leave us wounded, broken and exhausted?
If you're looking to break the cycles that hurt your relationships with your adult kids and hold you back - you won't want to miss this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast. Steve and Julia sit down with Justin and Trisha Davis about their new book - "One Choice Away from Change."
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"One Choice Away from Change" by Justin and Trisha Davis.
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RefineUs Ministries
You pour your heart and soul into raising your family. You kids grow up and become responsible adults and often times find their mate and get married.
That's what we want, right partners of adult kids?
Something that can suddenly impact and throw off your "Disney fairy-tale ending" often begins at the wedding. TWO families coming together and dynamics enter and things can change abruptly! THEN - the grandkids come and grandparenthood can quickly get sideways.
How do we handle relationships with our adult kids and grandkids when in-law relationships make it messy? That's today's topic that Steve and Julia address on The Parent Pivot Podcast.
Pivoting to healthy relationships with our adult children requires:
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Diving
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Reflection
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Processing
Picture an iceberg. That's ALL we see in a person is what's above the surface. Unbeknownst to us is the other 90% brewing beneath the surface that stirs up our emotions and thoughts as we try to make sense of ANY situation or conversation.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Julia opens up about her core wound and openly shares how she recently was triggered by it and how she handled it.
It's an impacting conversation to help us interact with our adult children and forge more healthy relationships. Get your mirror ready, partners!
Dads: What if you were told that "doing" LESS as a father when your kids turn 20, would actually raise your stock (i.e. respect) i their eyes? Would you listen?
It certainly goes against the grain of what we have been taught, shown and modeled in our culture - even the traditional church.
On this special edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve talks to dads straight from the heart and shares his own pain, struggle and anxiety trying to be a good father to his adult children.
If you're a dad of adult children, you don't want to miss this authentic and vulnerable look at how we can actually become the hero in their lives.
Mentioned on this podcast:
"Guardian Angel" by Skip Moen
"I'm Going to the Sidelines" PPP Interview with Jackson Cummings
Bringing Kingdom - Steve's men's ministry
The One-Minute Pause App by Wild at Heart
"Heart of a Warrior" by Michael Thompson
"King Me" by Michael Thompson
For a FREE copy of either of Michael Thompson's books, email Steve at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
Let's face it . . . not only is there NOT instructions handed to new parents by the doctor explaining "what to do" when you leave the hospital and take your baby home.
The same can also be said when your adult kids leave home. Where's the "partner manual"? Where do you go to find out how to make the pivot from parent to partner? We got you on this one!
On this edition of the Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia interview Gill Tillmann, author of the book, "Pour the Wine: We're Talking About Our Adult Children . . . Again".
Sit back, relax and pull up a chair and join us for this delightful conversation about "life after parenting."
Links:
https://www.instagram.com/fished.my.wish/?hl=en
Pour the Wine - book
We recently posted some TikTok short videos on a variety of subjects to see what would stick to the wall. One particular issue touched home with over 11,000 hits! (Huge for us!)
Adult children and parents all chimed in with their hurt and pain seeking healthy answers to this question: "What do you do when relationship between parent and adult child is cutoff?"
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia (Boomers), get some help from their Social Media Director (Millennial) and daughter, Jamilyn - and respond with Truth, love, compassion and tough love to each question.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
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"Unoffendable" by Brant Hansen
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One-Minute Pause App by Wild at Heart
Your son or daughter is heading off to college - or currently in college - and you're finding it extremely hard to let go. It can be painful to not be needed as much as you used to. How do you make sense of this new season of life?
Steve and Julia have a few small steps you can begin to take down this new road and start to make "the pivot" from parent to partner.
Dads: This is for you, too! Join us for another edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast!
It's easy to keep the focus on "how" our adult children are doing and who they are becoming, right? This podcast is designed to come alongside you as make the pivot to partner and validate, encourage, bring awareness and equip with tools to have healthy Partner/Adult Child relationship.
But there is more to pivoting to partner than this. The sanctification journey for us as partners.
With a humble heart, you can step back and ask yourself, "God, what do you have for me to learn about MYSELF?" The end result? Be transformed and find peace and freedom as you release your adult child(ren) to the Father.
That's the subject Steve and Julia will address on this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
- "Prayers of Blessing Over My Adult Children" by Bruce Wilkinson and Heather Hair.
- "Sacred Parenting" by Gary Thomas
- Relationship Coaching with Steve or Julia: 3 sessions for $299. Actual value $600. Email us at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com to schedule your coaching sessions.
It's happening more and more these days to pivoting parents and we are hearing about it more and more. When WE left the nest - breaking off relationship with parents really wasn't a thing. Today? Our adult kids have been swamped by an ideology that life is all about them.
What's a pivoting partner to do? How can we re-establish relationship?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia address this difficult subject and provide some hope to get through the silence.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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Relationship coaching for PPP listeners for 50% off. Email us at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com.
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Grandparenting Summit 2025:
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The One-Minute Pause App
Remember the old adage, "How do you eat an elephant?" One bite at a time?
Well, the same also holds true with improving our relationships with our adult child(ren). There are so many things to remember it can be overwhelming. But what if you just chose ONE to work on this year?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share their list of 14 ways you can take a small step forward in improving your relationship with your adult children - and even take advantage of a special Parent Pivot Podcast offer for relationship coaching.
Mentioned on this podcast:
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Grandparenting Summit - February 21-22. Details at: https://www.legacycoaltion.com/summit
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Relationship Coaching: Contact Julia at https://www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com/ or via email at parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
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Information on A Weekend to Remember: https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember
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Marriage Intensive: https://hoperestored.focusonthefamily.com/save-my-marriage
Passing on a spiritual legacy to our kids is every Christian parent's dream. It says so in the Bible, right?
But what happens when you've done everything "right" and they grow up to become adults and don't want any part if it? What then?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve is joined by his daughter, Jamilyn Upchurch, and together they share their own journey of what they went through and how it ended up.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
"Space at the Table: Conversations between an Evangelical Theologian and His Gay Son" - by Dr. Brad Harper and Drew Harper
Find Jamilyn on Instagram: @heyitsjamilynjoy
We have a tendency to think that we have to do extraordinary things to change things about ourselves. That's a lie and it prevents us from growing in every aspect: physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia lay out for us what it looks like to improve these area's of our lives in small increments of whole-hearted living. The results allow us to lead healthier lives as partners to our adult kids and open up new avenues of relationship.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
"The Gift of Being Yourself" by David Benner
"Emotionally Healthy Spirituality" by Pete Scazzero Grandparenting Summit 2025
The holidays are upon us and that can mean stress when we gather with extended family, right? Our past experiences for Thanksgiving can bring great, family memories - or stressful conversations, especially when alcohol is involved and everyone is sharing their opinions.
Pivoting from parent to partner just went to the next level. How do we steer clear of the volatile conversations?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia - (okay, mostly Julia) provide some ways to "keep your mouth shut and the welcome mat out" while loving your family well. Be sure to watch this one!
Resources mentioned:
Grandparenting Summit 2025
None of us like a detour. It messes up our timing, our plans, and causes stress and anxiety. Can I get an "AMEN!"?
Detours are never convenient. They take us out of our way, and they are LONGER than than we originally planned to travel. "But God . . . "
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve shares what has helped him by his Bible Apps and Dr. Tony Evans that will help you see these detours as something God is using to develop us as good "pivoting partners." #detours #tonyevans #youversionbibleapp
Check out the Grandparenting Summit:
Now that we have your attention, there IS a path toward healthy social media use that can actually draw your adult kids closer to you.
WHAT??
It's true. When it comes to how we use social media, there are some changes in how we use it that requires a pivot as well.
On this podcast of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia outline what those changes are, that they personally went through, to help us make a good pivot to thoughtful social media use. Your adult kids will thank you!
Resources mentioned: "The 40-Day Social Media Fast: Exchange Your Online Distractions for Real-Life Devotion"
Grandparenting Summit 2025 - February 21-22, 2025.
You know that feeling. The one that causes your chest to puff out when someone tells you something about your character they like or something you did that was AMAZING, right? We were given respect and what did that do to the relationship? It enhanced and deepened it. Why?
Respect is so important in relationships because it helps us feel safe and express ourselves, while building trust and wellbeing in relationships.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia walk us through what that looks like and the many rewards and benefits that are out there for us to enjoy as partners with our adult "offspring." Be sure to watch, subscribe and share in your social media channels.
Resources mentioned on the broadcast:
"Holidays, Traditions and Change: How Do We Navigate This Season"
Often times life can get so busy, hectic, and burdensome it feels like we aren't really making progress. Ever felt this way? Maybe you do now.
God never intended us to live this way.
When it comes to making a good pivot from parent to partner, there is one key aspect that makes that pivot smoother: Grace.
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast Steve and Julia guide us down this path and how as Partners - we can gain respect while celebrating our adult kids - never mentioning anything about ourselves, but keeping our mouths shut. They even give us a homework assignment to get us started.
Resources mentioned on the broadcast: Tim Keller podcast, "Marriage in Christ"
When we've been hurt by a parent or by our adult child, the natural reaction is to protect our heart. We will either withdraw, fight, freeze for flee. We only have control over our own response. So when a family relationship is fractured, repairing it can be difficult.
On this edition of the Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia bring their years of combined wisdom, counsel, empathy and words from Scripture to help you begin your journey of repairing the relationship.
As mentioned in today's broadcast - to book time with Julia to discuss YOUR personal relationship issue, text her at: 714-392-2060 or email her at parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com.
When pivoting parents don't pivot to partner well and don't accept your choice of who you married (or are dating) - it can cause issues on so many fronts! If this is where you find yourself today on either side of the issue, this podcast is for you.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia carefully walk both adult kids and pivoting parents down multiple scenarios toward acceptance and healing in their relationship. It's a 5-star podcast you won't want to miss!
Relationships are hard enough in-person but when we use our phones to text our adult kids, fracturing a relationship is always one text away.
As we pivot from being a parent after 20-30 years, we also need to pivot to healthier texting as partners.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia give us some healthy tips and boundaries on texting communication that will help improve how we respond to our adult kids - especially in an emotionally charged situation.
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Resources mentioned on this podcast: "The Social Dilemma"
The pivot from parent to partner is a life-learning process that includes many facets. One facet we don't often think is related to pivoting to being a partner to our adults kids, is our long-term health choices.
On this edition of the Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia bring to our attention the truth behind the foods we eat and how they are creating life-long disease that can end up crippling and limiting our time with our kids and grandkids.
Resources mentioned: "Good Energy - The Surprising Connection Between Metabolism and Limitless Health" by Casey Means, MD - available on Amazon.
Legacy Grandparenting Summit - February 21-22, 2025. Attend in-person or online at legacycoalition.com/summit
Mom and Dad may be a "tad" slow making the pivot from being a parent to a partner and you're not quite sure how to communicate with them any more. Life with them seems so frustrating, and may feel like your relationship will never be the same.
Can you relate?
Guess what?
There's hope. Steve and Julia usually talk to parents of adult children, but on this edition of the Parent Pivot Podcast, they are here to help you, the next generation. Be listening as they share 4 critical tools you can start using today to bring you healthy relationships with your "Partners."
Being an empty nester doesn't have to be a sad season of life. It CAN be a hoot! Just ask comedian Jeff Allen.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings interview Jeff as get his life experiences of being an empty nester. You'll also get a chance to see the personal side of Jeff as he shares about his new book, "Are We There Yet?" (Available on Amazon).
It's an inspirational account and at times laugh-out-loud story of how God rescued him from alcoholism and despair through the book of Ecclesiastes.
See Jeff Allen on tour at: https://www.jeffallencomedy.com/tour
You have pivoted - or ARE pivoting from Parent to Partner - and you find yourself with adult children who have left the nest, gotten married and now are on their own.
Now what?
On this edition of "The Parent Pivot Podcast" Steve and Julia share 4 ways you can begin this new season of life built around this verse from Isaiah 43:19, that says:
"Be alert, be present, I'm about to do something
BRAND-NEW. It's bursting out! Don't you see it?"
The season of becoming a new empty nester is finally here. As author and speaker, Jill Savage says, "It can be either a time of 'boo-hoo' or "WOO-HOO!"
You might find yourself caught between grief and delight and full of questions, hopes and regrets. How can we make sense of it all?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia interview Jill and get her wisdom, encouragement and ideas for thriving in this next season of life. Don't miss it!
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
"Empty Nest, Full Life" - by Jill Savage
Other books by Jill
Empty Nest Retreat and Course
Marriage Intensives
No matter how well we pivot and become a great partner to our adult children, keeping a heart of humility is key.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve shares about a recent family matter that occurred with his four adult married kids that shows us how to choose relationship over being right - no matter the extra airfare cost. Don't miss this one!
It happens to many families and it goes unnoticed for decades and without attention - it gets passed on to our adult children with out even knowing it.
What is this blindspot?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia expose a common relationship issue that occurs with parents and in-laws of pivoting partners. They shine the light on the pathway to healthy relationship with OUR own parents while nipping it in the bud with our adult children and stopping this generational curse.
Your young adult child heads off to college and the rebellion begins. Drug and alcohol abuse that leads to an arrest you never imagined could happen in your family.
Sometimes the pivot from parent to partner can take some drastic turns before God can step in and start the healing process.
That's what Suzanne Roragen faced with her son Nick and she joins Steve and Julia on this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast to talk about her journey and her book, "Unconditional."
Like anything we do in life, there can be an "art and a science" to it. Pivoting from Parent to Partner is no different.
On this re-air of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia take the in-depth time to personally respond to a loyal listener who invited them into her pivot about her college grad daughter and some things that aren't quite turning out the way she thought they would.
Steve and Julia provide some "art" AND "science" on making this pivot well from parent to parter. Make it a point to download this episode and listen and refer back to it later.
One dynamic that comes into play as we pivot from being a parent to a partner is: What is the balance between financially helping our adult child(ren) - and enabling them?
Whether it's paying for college, a car, a down payment on a new home, or childcare for the grand babies, how much is too much? Especially when you aren't seeing any grateful hearts and expectations begin to take over because, "Mom and Dad will cover it."
Can you relate?
On this re-air of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sort that tension out for us and provide wisdom to help you have the right conversation with your spouse about how generosity plays out for you with your adult child(ren). Don't miss it!
For a free copy of "The Treasure Principle" by Randy Alcorn, text Steve at 714-742-9625 or email parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
Your adult child is battling depression, thoughts of suicide, and has rejected your faith. That's enough to send any parent into high anxiety, control and worry.
On this re-air of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia faced this exact situation with their young adult daughter, Jamilyn. This is a podcast you dare not miss! Hear her story of God's faithfulness and the joy that came out of the ashes.
Enjoy some encouragement and laughter and check out Jamilyn Joy's YouTube channel: Joyful Entertainment and Encouragement
Watch the EPIC Father/Daughter Wedding Dance Battle: Boomer vs. Millennial
You have a college student who is an adult. You have pressed hard into this young man/woman and now things are fracturing and getting worse. What's a mother or father of an adult child to do?
On this re-air episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast you will hear a very touching and transformative father/son story of healing for both of them - with the son being the teacher to Dad's own relationship with his father. It's a 3-generation story of God's goodness and redeeming work.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
The pivot from Parent to Partner goes more smoothly when we "keep our mouths shut and the welcome mat out" - the main theme of Jim Burns' book and The Parent Pivot Podcast.
Okay - but what is the balance between keeping our mouths shut - and dealing with our own emotions and resentment that pops up with our adult kids?
On today's podcast, Steve and Julia help you navigate what this looks like to help strengthen your communication and ultimately your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren).
Resources mentioned in today's podcast:
For a FREE copy of Jim Burns book, "Doing Life with Your Adult Children" or Randy Alcorn's book, "The Treasure Principle" - send your name and address to: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com.
Order a copy of "How We Love" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich here.
Get your free copy of Soul Words.
Enjoy this replay of The Parent Pivot Podcast where Steve and Julia sit down with Dr. Jim Burns, President of HomeWord and author of the book, "Doing Life with Your Adult Children."
Be listening for how you can get a free copy of Jim's book from Steve and Julia.
There comes a time when you have to take a step back from life for a bit and take a deep breath. Life gets crazy fast, doesn't it? It's all about balance.
Summer 2024 is here and it's time to relax, reflect and enjoy this short season. Steve and Julia will be doing that themselves and have some suggestions for you while they are away.
Be sure to circle AUGUST 6th on your calendar when they will be back with some fresh interviews with partners who have some great stories to tell to help you pivot from a parent to a partner!
Pivoting from parent to partner can seem like there's more negative than positive going on. It takes a shift in thinking and relating to your adult child in an entirely different way.
But in this new season as you pivot, there is joy to be found. You just have to look for it.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share two different views of how you can find joy on this season of pivoting.
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Grandparenting website
FamilyLife Marriage Conference
Hope Restored:
The pivot from parent to partner is not easy. It's not a "one and done." It's not even about "checking the box." Pivoting can be hard for some parents and the question that comes up often is:
"How can I tell if I'm stuck in parent mode?"
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia get real and vulnerable about being aware of some things that may keep you from the pivot to becoming a healthy partner to your adult child(ren).
Do you struggle with anxiety about how your adult child(ren) are living their lives? It could be the job they've chosen, or maybe they're struggling to make it on their own. You're left feeling weary and asking yourself the question: "My adult child isn't living the life I'd like them to. What's a parent, I mean . . . what's a PARTNER to do?"
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, you'll hear some honest, open and vulnerable talk from Steve and Julia and what they've been through themselves, as well as helping other parents pivot to becoming a "Prodigal Partner." Get a cup of coffee and sit back and let this podcast soak deep into your heart. It's worth every minute.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
"The Problem of Anxiety" podcast with Tim Keller
Dwell app
"The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children" by Stormie Omartian
"The Return of the Prodigal Son" painting by Rembrandt
If you've ever wanted to be a "fly on the wall" of a real-life, real-time, intimate conversation with pivoting partners and their adult child - this is the podcast you will be glad you heard.
The tables get turned on Steve and Julia on this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast when their daughter Jamilyn interviews them about a variety of issues she is facing as their adult child living under their roof. Real life conversations with adult children in real time!
Don't miss it - and then share it with your adult child.
Mentioned on the podcast:
18 year-old Jamilyn does Dance Dares in the Airport.
Quote from Jim Carrey on depression: “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.”
What do junior high ministry, bluegrass music and long-distance grandparenting have to do with pivoting from a parent to a partner?
You'll find out when you listen to this week's Parent Pivot Podcast as Steve and Julia interview Wayne Rice. Don't miss this hearing how you can have an impact on your children's children - even when your adult kids set hard boundaries.
Throwback link to the 60-70's: Watch Brush Arbor on Johnny Cash.
Legacy Grandparenting Summit 2025
Get a copy of Wayne's book, "Long Distance Grandparenting: Nurturing the Faith of Your Grandchildren When You Can't Be There in Person"
We spend so much of our lives constantly trying to avoid the inevitable challenges that come along from the difficult circumstances that our very own choices have led us to be in.
What buffaloes do is very unique for the animal kingdom.
What does this have to do with being the parent of adult children? Steve and Julia have a unique way to get their point across about the tough struggles and trauma we have faced and how we can find freedom and healing while deepening healthy relationships with our adult kids.
Buffalo Charge the Storm Story by Rory Vaden
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
Will the Circle Be Unbroken?: A Memoir of Learning to Believe You’re Gonna Be Okay
We all do it. We can't help it. We choose hills to die on that we regret later and we ask ourselves, "Was it worth it?"
Choosing to bite our tongue and have relationship with our adult child(ren) over being right is key to pivoting well from "parent" to "partner."
Join Steve and Julia on The Parent Pivot Podcast as they help us navigate the minefields that come up when our adult children like or do things we may not agree with.
Pivoting from a parent to a partner comes with a mixture of emotions. You might feel down, lonely, or a bit unsure about what to do with all the new free time you suddenly have. It's a big change, after all. Your job as the parent has shifted, and now it's time to watch your adult children make their way in the world.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia shed some light on how we can navigate this season of life and become a help to our adult children at the same time.
Be sure to check out the resources these recommended resources:
- The Pause app.
- Dwell app
- Abide app
- "Seven Desires: Looking Past What Separates Us to Learn What Connects Us" - by Mark Laaser.
Life used to be so simple. You grew up. Went to college. Got married. Bought a house. Raised your family. Worked for 30-40 years in the same place. Retired. Got a gold watch. Played golf until you died. We called it "The American Dream."
Today - life looks VERY different and fitting into this mold is no longer possible for 90% of the population. Pivoting to being a partner who speaks life into their adult children and their spouses just got more complicated and confusing.
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia welcome their son-in-law, Taylor Upchurch, to hear his story and how we can become an advocate for our in-law adult kids as they navigate life in a different culture than we grew up in. (Psssst! Don't miss this one!)
Resources mentioned on the podcast:
"Guardian Angel" by Skip Moen.
Anxiety and control go hand in hand to destroy relationships and often times we are unaware of how our anxiety impacts our relationships with our adult child(ren).
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia reflect on what we can do to decrease our anxiety so that we can maintain healthy relationships and pivot well from parent to partner.
If you google, "How to deal with an antagonistic adult children," quora.com will tell you:
Avoid them. They're grown. You have no control over them or their behavior. Focus on things you can control. Take good care of. yourself.
Good thing you have The Parent Pivot Podcast to listen to!
On this episode, Steve and Julia will help you pivot with your antagonistic adult child in a way that shows them love and acceptance mixed in with a splash of curiosity and a dash of ownership to their childhood experiences.
Resources mentioned on today's podcast:
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"How We Love" by Miles and Kay Yerkovich
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Take the RHETI Enneagram Test
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"The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron & Suzanne Stabile
Your son or daughter has just gotten married, or is about to. What does it look like to pivot from parent to partner with your new in-law kids?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down with their daughter-in-law, Ashleigh Cummings, for a transparent and insightful interview from her perspective on marrying into a different family than the one she was raised in.
You'll hear from her heart as she shares about what she needs from her in-laws, especially around having kids, and how we can become healthy partners for our adult in-law kids. Don't miss this one! (I know we say that a LOT, but we really mean it this time!)
Pivoting well from parent to partner often times means taking a deeper look at things.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia tell us first-hand about the highly sensitive person and what that looks like to help us pivot well to being a partner. If your adult child is an HSP, and 20% of the population is, you won't want to miss this podcast.
Get a copy of "The Highly Sensitive Person" by Dr. Elaine Aron.
It was bound to happen sooner or later. We simply can't avoid it. Our kids grow up and become adults and soon we find ourselves in an "empty nest." Now what?
For some couples, one can make the transition quickly and the other one struggles greatly.
How can we approach this new season of life and really, the rest of our lives, and make it as enjoyable as possible?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how we can reinvent our relationship with our adult children and become the partners our adult kids need. Don't miss it!
Get a copy of Jim Burns book, "Finding Joy in the Empty Nest,"
Check out Jim's course on "Doing Life with Your Adult. Children."
Pivoting is never easy to do no matter what you're pivoting from and to. It takes intentionality, courage, stepping outside your normal mode of thinking, and seeing life from a different perspective.
Pivoting from parent to partner with your adult children is no different.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says,
"There is a time for everything, and a season
for every activity under the heavens."
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia remind us that sometimes pivoting can take longer that we think or want. What do we do when it seems our adult children are "taking too long to ___________?" (fill in the blank).
Make it a point to listen and get some encouragement for your pivot!
It happens to all of us at some time. Our kids become adults. Leave home. Get married. And all their stuff from childhood remains in our basements and garages.
What does that have to do with pivoting from parent to partner?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot podcast, we get an insight look at how Julia faced this recently and what this "emotional torture" taught her in her pivot to partner.
Are you considered a "Type A" personality? Maybe you have some of these common characteristics. You are:
- outgoing
- ambitious
- rigidly organized
- highly status-conscious
- impatient
- anxious
- proactive
- concerned with time management.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve opens up to share his story of being a "Type A Parent" and how he has become aware of the impact it had on raising his kids. Make it a point to hear how he made changes to pivot to being a healthy partner to his adult kids. It's a story you won't want to miss.
To learn more about the Enneagram and take the test, click here.
Process your results by picking up a copy of "The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile.
It's very subtle and it can go undetected for years and wreak havoc on your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren). Becoming aware of it and the "why beneath the what" can propel you to a joy-filled life of being a healthy Partner.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share their own story about how our identity and the worth we receive as "Mom and Dad" plays a foundational role in making a healthy pivot to being the kind of Partner our adult child(ren) need. Make it a point not to miss this podcast!
For more about Jamie Winship and his ministry on identity, go to www.identityexchange.com
Listen to Jamie's story that will blow your heart wide open to understanding how God sees us:
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Like anything we do in life, there can be an "art and a science" to it. Pivoting from Parent to Partner is no different.
On today's episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia take the in-depth time to personally respond to a loyal listener who invited them into her pivot about her college grad daughter and some things that aren't quite turning out the way she thought they would.
Steve and Julia provide some "art" AND "science" on making this pivot well from parent to parter. Make it a point to download this episode and listen and refer back to it later.
"Put the Spotlight on Me?" Wait. What??!! How does that help me pivot from a Parent to a Partner?
Easy. Parenting was all about teaching our kids and instructing them on how to live a responsible life. PARTNERING is all about what is "caught, not taught."
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how shifting the spotlight to us and the changes we are personally going through creates healthier relationships with our adult child(ren). Don't miss this one! (We say it all the time, but we really mean it!)
The pivot from Parent to Partner goes more smoothly when we "keep our mouths shut and the welcome mat out" - the main theme of Jim Burns' book and The Parent Pivot Podcast.
Okay - but what is the balance between keeping our mouths shut - and dealing with our own emotions and resentment that pops up with our adult kids?
On today's podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings help you navigate what this looks like to help strengthen your communication and ultimately your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren).
Resources mentioned in today's podcast:
For a FREE copy of Jim Burns book, "Doing Life with Your Adult Children" or Randy Alcorn's book, "The Treasure Principle" - send your name and address to: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com or text Steve at 714-742-9625.
Order a copy of "How We Love" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich here.
Get your free copy of Soul Words.
One dynamic that comes into play as we pivot from being a parent to a partner is: What is the balance between financially helping our adult child(ren) - and enabling them?
Whether it's paying for college, a car, a down payment on a new home, or childcare for the grand babies, how much is too much? Especially when you aren't seeing any grateful hearts and expectations begin to take over because, "Mom and Dad will cover it."
Can you relate?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sort that tension out for us and provide wisdom to help you have the right conversation with your spouse about how generosity plays out for you with your adult child(ren). Don't miss it!
For a free copy of "The Treasure Principle" by Randy Alcorn, text Steve at 714-742-9625 or email parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
Starting a new year can often be overwhelming making a list of "resolutions" to improve your life - like, eating better, exercising, or paying off debt. Where do you start?
When it comes to pivoting from parenting to partnering with your adult children, Steve and Julia believe you can start 2024 with ONE simple step. Don't miss he next episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast!
Got a podcast topic you want Steve & Julia to talk about? Text them at: 714-742-9625.
2023 is over and here comes another year. Are you ready? What's in store in 2024? (Oh wow! . . . that rhymes!)
Once again, coming at you in real time, Steve and Julia open the new year of The Parent Pivot Podcast with something they recently faced that caused them to look inward at themselves and how they are coming across to their adult children. You'll laugh a little, maybe not cry, but you'll definitely find their words of wisdom super helpful to your transition from parent to partner.
Show notes: To find out more about the "Dwell" app mentioned on today's podcast, click here.
Got a podcast topic you want Steve & Julia to talk about? Text them at: 714-742-9625.
In the Cummings' kitchen is a wooden plaque that says, "Simplify." We often get overwhelmed in life trying to balance, juggle, and learn new things. Don't you wish you could just simplify life more?
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia help us simplify how we can focus on a few things on the road to becoming a champion partner to our adult child(ren).
Get a copy of "How We Love" mentioned in today's podcast.
Take the Enneagram Test here and get a copy of "The Road Back to You" for understanding and insight.
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You've been there before. You're introduced to a group of people and you begin to feel a positive connection with one or two people - and soon you become fast friends.
What is it that caused that to happen?
On today's episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how the "gravitational effect" can actually propel you to pivot much faster to a partner than anything else - and your adult children will love it!
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“The Lord bless you and keep you;
the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace.”
Numbers 6:24-26
These verses from the Old Testament are known as "The Blessing" and are the focal point of this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast. Steve and Julia share how it's not to late to change generational "stuff" and see what God does in the lives of your adult children, and their children's children. Don't miss it!
Listen to "The Blessing" by Kari Jobe
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For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
So your kids are having a baby! You're going to be a grandparent! Whether it's your first or another in a long line, the baby showers, pregnancy checkups, and gender reveals dominate your days. All of it these events are memory makers that last a lifetime.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia zero in on one aspect of your grandchild's birth that could upset the apple cart for years to come with your adult child: The naming of your grand baby. Be sure to listen!
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
Pivoting from Parent to Partner can be fun, impact others and develop a deeper connection with your adult child. It doesn't always have to be confrontational or stressful. There are some things you can do that will have a life long impact.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how serving together with your adult child(ren) can end up blessing the recipient of your generosity, your adult kids, and you. And in the long run - you leave some lasting memories and closer connection.
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
Pivoting from parent to partner isn't easy. It's a road of what seems like constant change. But! . . . the intentional effort you put in, will reap a stronger, deeper and more healthy relationship with your adult children.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us how we can have a lasting legacy that will strengthen your relationships with your adult children for a lifetime.
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
The holidays are here and can be a LOT of stress as we try to negotiate the plans to be made when our adult kids are married. What do you do when you have traditions that have been going on for decades and now you have a new member of the family?
How do we navigate this season when there are so many emotions pulling us in different directions?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share some of their own experiences and help us use the holidays as a turning point in developing richer, more meaningful relationships with our adult children. If you've ever struggled with what to do with the holidays and your traditions, be sure to listen.
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
In every family tree, addiction can wreak havoc destroying family relationships for generations to come. The mere mention of the word, addiction, often strikes fear in our hearts.
But, it doesn't have to be that way.
On the this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia will show us how you can actually grow closer to your adult kids and bring a halt to addiction in your family, while deepening your relationship with your adult child.
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
Pivoting from being a parent to a partner requires an awareness of the difference between our tribes, and tribalism.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia show us what it means to care for our tribes as a partner, while pointing our the dangers of tribalism and how that impacts our relationships with our adult children.
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
When our kids were little our #1 goal as parents was to raise responsible adults. Responsibility is a core value in raising kids, Amen?!
When they become adults, one of the hardest things to do to pivot from a parent to a partner is to release responsibility. It's not easy. We want our kids to succeed in every sense of the word in life and when they don't, we can often blame ourselves.
Listen up Partners! That's a lie that Steve and Julia want you to be aware of on this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast. Don't miss it!
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
Pivoting is not easy. It never is. You have to be intentional to change your trajectory. When it comes to pivoting from being a parent to a partner, we need to start with us - Mom and Dad.
What's the key to pivoting and becoming the healthy partner to your adult child?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia walk us through ways we can achieve a healthier balance in life which in turn will create deeper relationship with your adult child. Don't miss this one! (I know, we say that all the time. But this time we REALLY mean it!)
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
Football season is in full swing and you've likely seen a runner get stopped at the line of scrimmage and gang tackled to the ground. Five or six guys against one all piling on.
What does that have to do with pivoting from a parent to a partner, you ask?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia bring us some sound counsel on what to do when we find our adult child - no matter the age - is struggling with life. What's a PARTNER to do? Find out on today's podcast.
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
We all do it. We mask up to protect our hearts from shame, judgment and criticism and it's all based on fear. The Enemy wins because we don't want anyone to know the real me.
Guess what? That one dynamic prevents us from having a deeper relationship with our adult children.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia openly share how being authentic about our lives with our adult kids builds a stronger, deeper tie that will last a lifetime. Trust us - it's worth the 26min length of this podcast to listen. Give it a shot!
Mentioned on the podcast - "The Heart of a Warrior: Before You Can Become a Warrior, You Must Become the Beloved Son" by Michael Thompson. Get a copy here
Contact Steve and Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at: parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
For speaking engagements on marriage, parenting, men's and women's identity issues, contact Julia at: www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com and Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org
The "American Dream" our culture has sold us for generations is changing. Watching our adult children struggle to get sustaining jobs and buy a home is becoming increasingly harder to attain, multiple studies have shown. Aging parents to care for are also on the rise.
Is there another option for families to survive in this world today?
Steve and Julia believe there is, and there is hope for families! Be sure to listen to today's Parent Pivot Podcast for Part 2 of "Multi-Generational Family Living," with their friends, Jon and Cheri Talbert.
Find out more about Forte: https://www.getforte.com/
Contact Steve & Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at:
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www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
The American dream and landscape isn't what it used to be when Boomers got married. Multiple studies are now showing that our adult children are struggling with being able to buy a home. On the other end of the generational pendulum, elderly parents need a safe place to live when other options aren't viable.
Maybe you find yourself in a similar life situation and you're wondering: Is there another option?
Join Steve and Julia on today's Parent Pivot Podcast as they reunite with their friends, Jon and Cheri Talbert, to talk about "Multi-Generational Family Living" and what that can look like. Make it a point to listen this week and next week for Part 2 for what may just become the "norm" for families to survive today in the U.S.
Find out more about Forte: https://www.getforte.com/
Contact Steve & Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Have you ever noticed there's one essential ingredient missing in most of our relationships? And, Steve and Julia believe it's the single most important factor in order to pursue healthy relationships with our adult children.
What is this powerful catalyst?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia remind us as parent what life was like when we were young adults. It's a podcast you won't want to miss!
Download The Pause app here: https://www.pauseapp.com/
Contact Steve & Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
If your adult child has cut you out of his or her life—whether for a long or short time—it is a gut-wrenching experience. It often provokes deep feelings of shame, guilt, bewilderment, and hurt, all of which can easily turn to anger. On top of that, it can also arouse people’s worst suspicions ("Surely, the Smiths must be terrible parents for their daughter to cut them off like that!") and leave you feeling judged, even by friends and family.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia help you navigate how to reconnect with your adult child and begin the healing process.
Contact Steve & Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Whether we realize it or not, or even BELIEVE it, shame can affect our relationships with our adult children. It seeks to destroy our identity as a parent and replace it with a damaged version of ourselves. The good news is: we don't have to continue to live this way.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia unpack how shame can be overcome and you can begin to have that healthy relationship with your adult children you've always desired and didn't know how to get there.
Contact Steve & Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Every day it seems it's getting harder and harder to make it in this world. If you have hard-working adult kids struggling to get sustainable jobs and housing, you're not alone. What can we do as partners to help them?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings share their own story of being struggling newlyweds and having kids and how they were able to survive only to now watch their own adult kids struggle. Be listening as they share some trends they are seeing that will provoke your thinking and bring hope.
Contact Steve & Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Summertime is a good time to watch a good movie and laugh with your mate. Sometimes laughing at other people can bring home some valuable messages to evaluate how you are doing.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share about some recent events they went through, and how a popular movie they watched again can help you are a partner of an adult child.
Videos to watch mentioned in this podcast:
Jamilyn tell her husband she's pregnant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDyMUAwH_TI
Jamilyn tells her family and friends:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UT2IHsEDtt0&t=1s
Many young adults today are in no hurry to grow up. They are meandering toward responsibility and life's most important decisions, while wearing t-shirts jokingly complaining about "adulting."
Does that sound like your adult child?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia shed some light on how you can come alongside your "emerging adult" with curiosity and how creating a safe space for them with you will strengthen your relationship.
Contact Steve & Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
It's bound to happen. Your adult child is hurt by something they see their grandparents do for their sibling and not for them. Do you get involved? Ignore it? Take sides? Explain it away?
In yet another "real time" episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia walk through a situation that just happened that involved their adult child and their grandparent. How do you navigate this one when there's so many paths to take? Be listening for some practical, loving counsel that will strengthen your relationship with your adult child.
Contact Steve & Julia on Facebook at The Parent Pivot Podcast, or via email at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Your husband's relationship with your adult child is heading south fast and causing tension in the family. Or maybe it's your wife's relationship. Your adult child comes to you because you're safe and now you're in the middle. Now what?
If this resonates with you, you'll want to be sure to listen to this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast. Steve and Julia Cummings provide some helpful counsel and wisdom to navigate this scenario as you pivot from parent to partner with your adult children.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
An estimated 2.7 million grandparents in the United States are taking the lead in raising their grandchildren. More than 6.1 million children under 18 live in their grandparents' households.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia bring some helpful insights and counsel to help you have healthy partner relationships with your adult children as grandparents.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Pivoting from parent to partner requires intentional action. If you're reacting to your adult child all the time, chances are your relationship is struggling. It's only a matter of time before it completely fractures.
What can we do in the moment when our heart is racing, our gut is tense and worry, anxiety and fear are overwhelming us?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia have just the thing you need: The Three B's to healthy communication.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Pivoting from parent to partner is hard enough on its own. But what happens if you have an adult child away at college, a high schooler at home, AND your elderly parent living with you? That a LOT to handle day in and day out. How do you navigate all of that when it can be so overwhelming?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia recount a recent situation and with grace and wisdom walk you through some ways to get the help you need.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
You have a college student who is an adult. You have pressed hard into this young man/woman and now things are fracturing and getting worse. What's a mother or father of an adult child to do?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast you will hear a very touching and transformative father/son story of healing for both of them - with the son being the teacher to Dad's own relationship with his father. It's a 3-generation story of God's goodness and redeeming work.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Your adult child is battling depression, thoughts of suicide, and has rejected your faith. That's enough to send any parent into high anxiety, control and worry.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia faced this exact situation with their young adult daughter, Jamilyn. This is a podcast you dare not miss! Hear her story of God's faithfulness and the joy that came out of the ashes.
Enjoy some encouragement and laughter and check out Jamilyn Joy's YouTube channel: Joyful Entertainment and Encouragement
Watch the EPIC Father/Daughter Wedding Dance Battle: Boomer vs. Millennial
Your adult child is spiraling, going through a difficult time, or maybe he/she can't seem to get their head above water and it's hard to watch. What is a PARTNER of an adult child to do?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, you'll hear Steve and Julia talk about a fresh experience in real time of feeling helpless, and through their journey provide a path for us to maintain healthy relationships with our adult children.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Parenting can be hard enough when you have a large family, and often times your oldest kids are off to college while you still have ones at home.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia provide some helpful insights to help you navigate being a Parent one minute and a Partner the next - all at the same time. Sound crazy? Listen in today for some practical tips to stay sane.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Your adult child is getting married soon. Maybe it's your first, or maybe you're well into being an in-law. Life is about to change dramatically. It can be full of tension and stress, or freedom and peace. You hold the key.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia provide three guiding principles you can put into practice today to maintain a healthy relationship with your adult child and spouse.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
All of us have a story. As parents of adult children, no two kids will have exactly the same story. Recognizing this sooner than later will go a long way to breaking those "molds" we can create for our kids.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia welcome their second oldest adult child, Campbell, as he shares his journey to find himself and a life partner. It's a unique story you won't want to miss.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Death, cancer, infidelity, infertility, alcoholism and more would cause anyone to be bitter, angry and not someone you'd want to be around. But when you "choose" to see life as a glass that is half full, your life will be richer and more meaningful. Not only that, you are creating a solid legacy for generations to come.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share what they see is the "gold standard" for what it looks like to pivot from parent to partner. This is a podcast you won't want to miss!
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
Parenting is hard enough when you're married, and for single mom's and dad's it can be an uphill road. Then the kids grow older and leave the nest and now you find you need to pivot to being a partner, but what does that look like for you?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia bring their wisdom and love to come alongside single parents of adult children with some helpful tips to bring you life for this season of your journey.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down for a much anticipated interview with Dr. Jim Burns, President of HomeWord and author of the book, "Doing Life with Your Adult Children."
Be listening to today's podcast for how you can get a free copy of Jim's book from Steve and Julia.
Contact Steve & Julia at:
parentpivotpodcast@gmail.com
www.meadowbrookcounselingga.com
www.bringingkingdom.org
When your adult child has a different viewpoint than you, the pivot from Parent to Partner just got a whole lot harder, didn't it? Especially in this day when identity is being defined by our sexuality and it's constantly in our faces and on our screens! What's a Partner of an adult child to do?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia admonish us to avoid "poking the bear" and provide practical wisdom and insight for navigating this potentially tumultuous issue. Don't miss it!
The house is quiet. The life that was once there is gone. It's changed dramatically and will never be the same again. Pivoting from being a parent to a partner is hard, no doubt.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia walk us through the importance of grieving this season of life that we are moving out of. It’s a healthy, very needed process in order to pivot well into the role of being a partner to your adult children. Grieving isn’t always about tears. Moments of joy also provide healing in this transition. Don’t miss Steve and Julia’s admonishment to embrace the strength that grieving brings to our hearts.
Pivoting from being a parent to a partner when you have adult children can be overwhelming at times. There are so many issues hitting you from all sides it can be hard to process and make sense of it all.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia want to make sure we don't miss "the main thing." If this is in place and thriving, partnering with your adult child becomes healthier and more rich as you come alongside them.
Your adult child is not following through on the boundaries you've set up. How do you pivot from being a loving Parent to a Partner that launches them well to be a responsible adult in society?
On Part 3 of their Boundaries series, Steve and Julia will help you navigate that tension between love and grace on the next episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast.
Pivoting from Parent to Partner has it's challenges especially when it comes time to set some boundaries for your adult child. How do you balance love with responsibility?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia walk through one scenario with principles that will guide you through that process for any situation.
Your anxiety is up as you watch your adult child make poor choices, or maybe he/she is too slow to see what the "right" decision is. How do I pivot from being a parent to becoming a partner?
Steve and Julia have been down this road many times, and still struggle with this. On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast they provide us with the #1 principle for navigating this new season with your adult child.
The kids are gone and a new season has arrived. You and your spouse suddenly have all this time on your hands. Now what? On this episode of "The Parent Pivot Podcast," Steve and Julia open up about ways they have been able to pivot and share them with you as you enter this next season of life with your adult children.
How do you know if you're pivoting from parent to partner? On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia interview their Meadowbrook House Church of 20 and 30-somethings about how they have viewed their parents as they moved into adulthood.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." Often the season of the empty nest can leave us dealing with a number of issues. How can you make sense of it all?
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share some raw and vulnerable feelings about their relatively new journey as empty nesters and provide some hope for you to navigate this new season you're facing.
Baby Boomer parents listen up! Having heart-to-heart conversations, even after 10 years, can bring healing and strength to your relationship with your adult child.
On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia interview their oldest son, Wes, and what that looked like for them recently, and walk you through the steps.
Conventional parenting wisdom says, "Do everything you can to make SURE your child succeeds in everything in life." On today's podcast, Steve and Julia urge you to not buy into that lie. In fact, they will help you navigate how, as parents of adult children, we should actually let them fail and surrender them to the Father. It's not easy to do as a "parent," but it is the right path for a "partner" to love their adult child well and have a healthy relationship.
How do you navigate tough conversations where emotion is flying and it seems you're getting nowhere with your adult child? On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia provide a practical key to remember and help you rise above it.
When communication and conversations with your adult child keep ending up in arguments and you feel like you're just spinning your wheels, how do we pivot from parent to partner?
On today's podcast, Steve and Julia discuss Parent Pivot Principle #1: Let them vent, as they provide 4 practical ways to do that to grow a healthier relationship.
As parents of 4 married children, Steve and Julia Cummings bring their educational and counseling backgrounds along with their own life experiences as parents, to help others navigate The Parent Pivot: From Parenting to Partnering. On this inaugural podcast, it's time to hit the pause button and pivot as you shift how you relate to your adult children.
What is this Parent Pivot Podcast all about? If you are the parent of an adult child you may be experiencing:
1. A loss of purpose
2. Are you missing your kids?
3. Frustration over a lack of control
4. Finding it hard to shift from being a parent to being a partner?
As parents of adult children, we need to "pivot" from parenting, to partnering. What does that look like? When do I say something and when do I not? Why won't they listen to me? We address these questions and more in a real, raw an vulnerable way. Tune in each week as we help you become a partner to your adult children.