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David Dubé
The quality of your relationships dictates the quality of your life. Relationships First is a podcast dedicated to anything and everything that directly relates to and impacts our relationships. Your host, David Dubé will share stories, tips, tools, and much more to help you improve your relationships. So stick around, subscribe, and join our community today!
There are a number of Red Flags in relationships, however, there is one that stands out above all the rest and that is the lack of Self-Love.
We are taught as a society that all our answers are outside of ourselves, however, this can't be further from the truth. We know what we like, dislike, desire, and dream about - the outside world does not know these things. Yet, we will often find ourselves searching for our fulfillment outside of ourselves leading us to choose relationships where it's our expectation that those around us are there to fulfill our emptiness with joy - and this is just not the case.
We must first find happiness within ourselves - and through this, we can sustain fulfilling relationships with others as we aren't relying on them to fulfill our needs, wants, and desires.
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Achieving self-mastery, or becoming the best version of yourself, is a lifelong journey that requires dedication, self-awareness, and continuous growth. Here are some steps you can take to work towards self-mastery:
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Practice Self-Reflection: Take time regularly to reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Self-reflection helps you gain insight into yourself, identify areas for improvement, and make conscious choices aligned with your values.
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Cultivate Self-Awareness: Develop a deep understanding of yourself, including your strengths, weaknesses, values, beliefs, and motivations. Self-awareness is key to making informed decisions, managing your emotions, and fostering personal growth.
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Commit to Learning and Growth: Embrace a growth mindset and commit to lifelong learning and development. Seek out opportunities for learning, whether through books, courses, workshops, or experiences that challenge you to grow and expand your knowledge and skills.
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Practice Mindfulness: Cultivate mindfulness through practices such as meditation, yoga, or deep breathing exercises. Mindfulness helps you stay present in the moment, manage stress, and cultivate a greater sense of clarity and focus in your life.
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Develop Emotional Intelligence: Strengthen your emotional intelligence by becoming more aware of your emotions, understanding their impact on your thoughts and behaviors, and learning to manage them effectively. Emotional intelligence allows you to navigate relationships, communicate more effectively, and make sound decisions.
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Take Ownership of Your Life: Accept responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Take proactive steps to create the life you desire, rather than waiting for external circumstances to change. Empower yourself to make choices that align with your values and goals.
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Set Clear Goals: Define specific, meaningful goals that align with your values and aspirations. Having clear objectives will give you direction and motivation in your journey towards self-mastery.
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Practice Self-Discipline: Develop self-discipline by setting boundaries, prioritizing your time and energy, and staying committed to your goals even when faced with challenges or setbacks. Self-discipline is essential for achieving long-term success and personal mastery.
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Seek Feedback and Support: Surround yourself with supportive individuals who encourage and challenge you to grow. Seek feedback from mentors, coaches, or trusted friends and family members who can provide valuable insights and guidance on your journey toward self-mastery.
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Embrace Resilience: Cultivate resilience in the face of adversity or setbacks. View challenges as opportunities for growth and learning, and develop strategies to bounce back stronger from setbacks. Resilience allows you to overcome obstacles and continue moving forward on your path toward self-mastery.
Remember that self-mastery is a continuous process of growth and self-discovery. Be patient and compassionate with yourself, celebrate your progress, and remain committed to your journey of becoming the best version of yourself.
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Dating a narcissist can be challenging because they often exhibit certain patterns of behavior that can be difficult to identify early on. Here are some signs that you may be dating a narcissist:
- Excessive Self-Importance: Narcissists typically have an inflated sense of self-importance. They may constantly talk about their achievements, talents, or possessions, and they often expect admiration and praise from others.
2. Lack of Empathy: Narcissists tend to lack empathy and have difficulty understanding or caring about others' feelings. They may dismiss or belittle your emotions and prioritize their own needs and desires.
3. Manipulative Behavior: Narcissists may manipulate situations and people to get what they want. They might use charm, flattery, or manipulation tactics to gain control or exploit others for their own benefit.
4. Sense of Entitlement: Narcissists often believe they are entitled to special treatment and privileges. They may expect others to cater to their needs and become angry or resentful when they don't receive the attention or recognition they think they deserve.
5. Attention-Seeking Behavior: Narcissists crave attention and validation from others. They may constantly seek praise, admiration, or approval and become upset when they feel ignored or overlooked.
6. Difficulty Maintaining Relationships: Narcissists may struggle to maintain long-term, healthy relationships because their self-centered behavior can alienate others. They may have a history of short-lived relationships or a pattern of hurting those close to them.
7. Grandiosity: Narcissists often have grandiose fantasies about their own success, power, or attractiveness. They may exaggerate their achievements or talents and expect others to admire or worship them.
8. Boundary Violations: Narcissists may disregard boundaries and personal space, both emotionally and physically. They may invade your privacy, ignore your needs, or try to control your actions and decisions.
9. Lack of Accountability: Narcissists often refuse to take responsibility for their actions and may blame others for their mistakes or shortcomings. They may also deny or minimize their faults and refuse to apologize or make amends.
10. Relationship Cycle: In relationships, narcissists may initially idealize their partners, showering them with attention and affection. However, over time, they may devalue and criticize their partners, alternating between extremes of adoration and disdain.
It's essential to recognize these signs and trust your instincts if you suspect you're dating a narcissist. In healthy relationships, there is mutual respect, empathy, and reciprocity. If you find yourself feeling constantly belittled, manipulated, or neglected, it may be time to reassess the relationship and consider seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist.
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Imagine life as an 18 oz glass set beside a gallon container of water, capable of accepting more liquid than it can hold. In this analogy, we'll explore how the capacity of this glass parallels our capacity in four essential aspects: time, physical endurance, mental acuity, and emotional stress. Just as the glass may overflow if filled beyond its limits, each of these capacities has its constraints, requiring careful management to maintain balance and avoid overwhelm.
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Picture the water level in the glass as the time available to us. Just as the glass has a limited capacity to hold water, we have a finite amount of time in our lives. We must be mindful of how we pour and use this precious resource, ensuring we don't overflow or run dry. Managing time effectively means understanding when to fill the glass and when to let it rest, allocating it wisely among various tasks and responsibilities. - Physical Endurance:
The glass itself symbolizes our physical body, fragile yet resilient. Just as we must handle the glass with care to prevent it from breaking, we must nurture and maintain our bodies to withstand the demands of daily life. Like the water in the glass, our physical endurance fluctuates, requiring replenishment through rest, nutrition, and exercise to keep us strong and capable. - Mental Acuity:
Think of the clarity and transparency of the water as our mental sharpness and acuity. Just as impurities can cloud the water, distractions and stressors can obscure our mental clarity. We must safeguard our minds, filtering out negative influences and nourishing our intellect through learning and problem-solving. Clear water represents a sharp mind capable of navigating life's challenges with precision and insight. - Emotional Stress:
The surface tension of the water illustrates our emotional resilience. Just as the water's surface can ripple with the slightest disturbance, our emotions can fluctuate in response to external pressures. We must be mindful of the weight we place on the glass, avoiding overwhelming it with excessive emotional stress. Like gently stirring the water to calm its surface, we must practice self-care and coping strategies to manage and alleviate emotional tension.
The process shared in the episode for clearing both mental and emotional space requires an empty sheet of paper or a journal and a pen. We will be covering 4 steps; The Event, How I Feel, How I Want to Feel, and finally, How I'll Use This Going Forward. * Event - what exactly are you referencing under the next three headings (ie. physically abused), * How I feel - here you will describe how that situation made you feel in great detail - the more detail you lay out the more clearing you'll be able to accomplish. * How I Want to Feel - here you will explore the opposite feelings and aim to release the negative thoughts and feelings you have mixed up in the event that you're writing out - the more you can move yourself to feeling more freeing emotions the less control that event can and will have on your life from this point into the future. * How I'll Use This Going Forward - here you want to explore how you will leverage your new found emotional freedom to either help you move in a more positive light into the future or use your lesson to help others who've gone through similar issues.
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The healing journey is one of many ups and downs. In this episode, David shares a model known as Ho'oponopono, and the steps involved with using it can also be found at https://www.wikihow.com/Practice-Ho%27oponopono
The book referenced in the show is titled "The Easiest Way" by Mabel Katz and can be found at https://amzn.to/3V3awd3
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Statistic shared in the episode can be found at https://www.forbes.com/health/dating/dating-statistics/
Being single should be about building yourself back up and not dwelling on the past.
David recommends picking up a journal and remembering the things you did before being in a relationship that made you feel alive; sports league, picking up an old hobby like drawing or photography, having a standing date with a friend or family member, reading again, and getting back into yoga again.
Being single should be a time of re-connection to who you are, the authentic version of yourself, and not a rush to join the dating circus again.
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Real relationship is defined as a relationship that's still growing, where each individual is still growing into the relationship vs a Comfortable relationship is a relationship that's easier to stay in the situation than to separate for whatever reason; marriage, for the children, convenience, etc.
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https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220831-situationships-why-gen-z-are-embracing-the-grey-area
https://www.forbes.com/health/dating/dating-statistics/
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The four attachment styles consist of
* Secure
+ a high degree of emotional intelligence
+ openly talks about problems
+ allows freedom within the relationship
* Preoccupied (Insecure-Ambivalent)
+ romanticize love because it's easier to form a fantasy love for someone else than to build something in reality
+ attracted to partners whom they can save or who can save them
+ over analyzing relationship
+ mistaken over turbulent relationship for passion
+ obsessive, demanding, clingy
+ struggle with low insecurities, low self-esteem, and establishing a strong sense of self. They grew up without healthy boundaries and little to no guidance on developing their individuality
* Dismissing (Insecure-Avoidant)
+ Emotionally distant in relationships
+ Come across as self-sufficient, independent, and can avoid true intimacy
+ Don’t want to be seen as vulnerable and will seek more alone-time
+ Shut down emotionally from connecting with another
+ Have very few close friends with others
* Fearful (Disorganized)
+ Unpredictable
+ Fearing being too close or too distant from their lover will often be unpredictable Often overwhelmed by their own emotions
+ They understand they need to be open to building relationships after a time they'll hurt them to avoid further intimacy or being hurt themselves
+ They fear being abandoned but struggle to put faith in their partner and rely on them
+ Fighting the inner conflict of wanting intimacy and resisting it
+ Have very few close relationships
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The Power of Words. The words we use in our everyday lives has a great impact on us, what we do, and how we perceive the world. By not realizing the power words have over us we often will become victims of those words.
We identify ourselves by our words. Who we are is often identified by how we either feel or by what we do, our jobs and/or career path. This impart, is because we hold much value in the definitions of what we say and do. To say "I'm an architect" is to say I've spent lots of money on school and am now someone of importance. To say, "I'm depressed" is to say I identify as someone who is being depressed.
However, there's a huge difference between someone saying, "have a blessed day" and someone sneering "you rac!st m0th3r f*ck3r!" Why is this so?
Well, there are several factors at play here;
First is your level of consciousness (go back and listen to the episode Why Some Relationships Should NEVER Workout)
The second is your allowance of authority those words have over you. If those words have little meaning to you, then they won't hold any power over you, however, if you value those words or the person who's wielding those words then you'll find yourself submitting to them.
Words only carry power only if we allow them to.
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Why your life sucks and what you can do about it.
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Why some relationships should NEVER workout otherwise stated as Making sure you choose the right relationship for you.
This all comes down to levels of consciousness. If someone you're in a potential relationship with isn't at the same level you are in conscious awareness then there always feels like there's a disconnect in the relationship. That disconnect, if you're at a higher level of consciousness, only hinders your long-term growth in life and the relationship.
From lowest to highest the levels are as follows: Against Us - at this stage, the person is living in survival mode. The world is against not only them but everyone. Life is a constant struggle for survival. * Against Me - it's me vs the world. You suck because you have more than me. I fight for everything and it still doesn't work out for me. Life is a constant struggle. * Because of Me - If it is to be it's up to me! This is the hustling lifestyle. When in a team, it's still about being the "star". It's about my talents, not yours. If you shine, I must shine brighter. You have that, well I have this! This is all about personal domination. * For Us - This level is about creating something with someone or someones. It's my team vs your team. We're number one. We fight together to create something but we're still fighting others. * Through Us* - Life happens through us and not for us. Life flows whether alone or together it's constantly flowing through us. We don't try to be happy we are just happy. Life grows as we grow and as life grows we grow.
When you know what level of consciousness you're living in and you perceive the level that others are living at, you will begin to understand why certain relationships work and why others do not.
This truly is a superpower when it comes to creating lasting relationships.
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How Pleasure is Ruining Your Relationships and Your Life.
We chase pleasure for two reasons; the first is in avoidance of pain and the second is to outright gain pleasure. Which of those two do you believe we are most often doing? If you said, to avoid pain, you'd be correct!
In avoidance of pain we are choosing what's called NEGATIVE PLEASURE.
Negative Pleasure is the control mechanism for the majority of us to feel some short-term pleasure in lew of long-term pleasure or happiness. These are often done through instant gratification: social media, buying online products, instant chatting, dating apps, video games, etc.
There are 5 major Pleasure Chemicals (DOSEA)
1. Dopamine - feel-good neurotransmitter - a chemical that transmits information between neurons in anticipation & achievement of the reward - instant hit of excitement
2. Oxytocin - hormone that acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain - "cuddle drug" - from touch, eye contact, creates social bonds (also strengthens repulsion of people outside our social bonds) watch a movie with someone - be with someone. Lowers stress, reduces cortisol, increases trust, kills pain
3. Serotonin - hippocampus & gut - made from the essential amino acid tryptophan - good/bad mood area of the brain - in the gut as well. Used in social ranking - raise - 90% comes from intestines: carbs, bananas, vitamin D
4. Endorphins - neurochemicals that have masking properties - Natural Painkiller: covers up any physical pain - ate a spicy taco your mouth is warm and you get a rush of endorphins. Laugh, cry & exercise - eat spicy foods. 'runners high'
5. Anadamide - messenger molecule that plays a role in pleasure.
There are ways of mitigating Negative Pleasure and that's done through limiting your time doing activities that are done in avoidance of things we know we NEED to do in lew of things that can bring us some short-term pleasure.
Pay more attention to those who take the time to be with you in person. Don't pull out your phone in the presence of someone else unless you feel it absolutely necessary (ie, important or expected phone call or message, etc).
Look around you and feel grateful for what's in your present reality.
Ask yourself, "Why am I looking for this (perceived) want?" Am I trying to avoid something or is it an actual need?
If it's a need, then go ahead with it and if not, then wait on making a decision about it.
In the podcast, I made mention of Andrew Huberman and his podcast can be found here https://www.youtube.com/@hubermanlab/videos
I also mentioned Jordan Peterson, and his podcast interview of Andrew Huberman can be found here
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-mJEZbHFLs
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Studies suggest that since the pandemic between 25-40% of people feel social anxiety of some sort. Relationships are everything, if we're to ask for the date, make the sale, have a difficult conversation with our partner, ask for the raise we want and deserve, etc we're going to have to deal with our social anxiety. So, how do we deal with Social Anxiety? Let's first talk about the critic that lives inside of our heads. I recall a time in 2021 where I went out with a friend to meet up with some other friends, one of which I hadn't met before. After the interaction, I began having a conversation with myself about how our interaction went and how I felt I missed some good opportunities, the kinds I wouldn't have missed had I been having more social interactions. Now, a lot of individuals would continue to berate themselves in their heads about the interactions but that's where my years of experience paid off for me and what I want you to get out of this. Instead of beating yourself up any more than you already have, grab a pen and paper and write down your thoughts on your social interaction. Write everything about the interaction you didn't like and what you could have done differently, then write down what you will do differently next time. Now you have a template of how you want to change your social interactions.
Okay, now, let's talk about how amazing you already are, how amazing we as humans are. We're so adaptable that we've become accustomed to our "new norm" of being socially separated. However, we need to reverse that and become more adept at being social again, and to do that we can plan out some of our future interactions. There are several ways we can do this in a fun and safe way; pick a friend whom you have fun with but also who's fun for others to interact with, then plan out some things you can do that are semi-social like golf, bowling, mini-golf, etc. These are interactions where you and a friend can go do where if you want to interact with others you can and if you just want to stick with your partner, you're able to.
Lastly, let's remove the label "social anxiety" you're not feeling anxious you're just feeling uncomfortable. If you're invited to a party are you actually "anxious" or are you just feeling a bunch of different emotions about the party? Anxiousness can come from the feeling of a bunch of emotions we just haven't broken down into their individual feelings. So, think of what are all the feelings you're feeling around the "event". This way you're able to confront each emotion on its own.
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New Year New You! Most people celebrate the new years as a way of moving on from the past and making a change for the new. In this episode, David Dubé shares a technique for creating a new version of yourself in the New Year. You should also note that you don't need a "new year" to create a New You.
The Breakup Part 2: Being Broken Up With. Breakups are never fun and sometimes they're downright awful. In this episode, David Dubé shares how to deal with a bad breakup.
The Break-Up Part 1: Breaking Up
We all experience break-ups, however, it doesn't always have to be difficult.
Of course, if you're in an abusive relationship, I do suggest making sure you remove yourself with assistance from others and suggest reaching out to legal counsel and possibly law enforcement. Whatever you do, use caution and follow your intuition when exiting an abusive relationship.
Love Languages!
The book the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman originally published in 2001 is all about how people love and want to be loved.
The 5 Love Languages:* Acts of Service * Quality Time * Receiving Gifts * Physical Touch * Words of Affirmation
Each one of those 5 love languages is a model for how your partner, friend, or family member loves to be shown you care.
Acts of Love are going out of your way to show them you care by doing something for them or including yourself in the chore of something they already have to do.
Quality Time is spending uninterrupted time with them, which means no distractions and not making that time all about you.
Receiving Gifts is paying attention to things they say they like, want, and consider buying for themselves but don't or haven't gotten around to and then purchasing an item off that list. If a gift is received and needs justification or it's not on their wanted list they feel like they're unheard or not understood.
Physical Touch is showing you care through your actions, mostly hugs, kisses, holding hands, and the like. It also means not neglecting them or putting off physical connection - this makes them feel not wanted or needed.
Words of Affirmation are all about giving encouragement, affirming them and their wants and desires through notes sent in a variety of ways. You could hide a note in their wallet or purse, a post-it note on their steering wheel, a random text message during their workday, or a well-placed card on their desk.
When you speak (what I'm really saying by "speak" is give your partner what they desire through their "language") their language you're telling them without ever saying it that you understand them.
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I hope I'm not the only one that thinks about relationships as my happy places.
So, how do we build long-lasting happy relationships?
The Unexpected
I think it starts with the unexpected... the things that are out of your control; ie, accidents, in-laws, death in the family, etc, and taking them in stride—allowing your partner to deal with those things on their terms and in their unique way. Sometimes their way is needing space or needing you more, and sometimes that requires extra communication.
Arguments and disagreements.
Sometimes we don't always get along but we can still go along. By this I mean that arguments are going to occur but depending on the incident, it sometimes isn't worth the fight. If it was your favorite shirt washed with the colors and it was not red when it was white, well, what's the actual significance of that shirt to the overall longevity and happiness of your relationship? If it's minimal, then don't make it into a mountain or a relationship crusher. One must take into account the disagreement in the context of the entirety of the relationship, if it's small, don't make it into something it's not.
Create Space
Space is necessary for a relationship. I've seen couples who've smothered each other at the beginning of their relationships that later when one needs the space, their relationship becomes destroyed. Create a relationship with space and boundaries, it's okay, in fact, I'd say it's necessary.
If you like to read a book, make time to read a book, if you like to play video games, make time to play... but whatever you like to do, do it on your own. Along with that, allow your partner the same kind of space. Maybe you go out with friends and they stay home and play video games, or vice-versa. Either way, make time for yourself in your relationship.
Date Night
Go out and have fun! DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT do dinner and a movie!!!! Sure, it's okay once in a while for that film your partner really wants to see and/or you really want to see, but do not do it often. Date night can be a fun afternoon going on a hike followed by your favorite brewery for drinks and dinner. You could do dinner at their favorite restaurant followed by some mini golf or a night out line dancing at their favorite country bar. What I'm getting at here, is to do activities that create fun memories of you experiencing things together. For dinner and a movie you can both still ignore each other, but for an activity out and about you cannot.
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With the End in Mind.
The idea behind this is to build up your life and your relationships with more depth and meaning.
In his book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" Dale Carnegie talks about thinking with the end in mind. If you were to imagine your funeral and the people speaking at it, what are the types of things you'd want to hear them saying about you? Imagine it and then consider what you might do, now, to make those words a reality.
Think of those you love; your family and friends, and what memories you'd like to share with them in the near future that can add meaning to their lives and begin to work towards that reality.
When you meet someone new, how can you compress time with them to make more impact with your short interaction?
These are what I urge you to think about and act upon.
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The end is closer than you think.
Nothing is promised to us, nothing! In this episode, David Dubé shares his story of how he knocked on Death's door to live another day and how that experience can help shape your life from this point forward.
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How to get someone to fall in love with you. In this episode, David Dubé shares the story of a couple of researchers that wanted to spark intimacy in people who knew little to nothing of each other and what it eventually turned into.
Sure, you might say poor communication is the destroyer of relationships but that's just one portion of what eats away at the fabric of our relationships. In this episode, David Dubé shares what really eats away at the foundations of our relationships and what you can do today to avoid making this mistake.
Sometimes you've got no choice... and you have to be around people you don't like or care for. Whether in a personal or professional situation, in this episode, David Dubé is going to share some tips, tools, and techniques one can use when having to deal with someone you may not like.
Dealing with conflict in your relationships. Triggered!? Have you ever been triggered or had a partner, friend, or family member triggered by a phrase, a name, or an event? Well, in this episode, David Dubé shares some tools and techniques you can employ to help get through triggering events.
What are the fundamental building blocks of a good and healthy relationship? In this episode, David Dubé shares what the building blocks are to creating a healthy relationship.
So many of us allow other people and situations to control us. How does this happen? Have you ever allowed this to happen to you? And if so, what can you do about it? You see, there's a superpower within you that you probably aren't aware of. In this episode, David Dubé shares what that superpower is and how knowing and understanding it will enable you to stop allowing other people or situations to control you, forever transforming your life.
Conflict has existed since the very first humans... and it's not going away anytime soon. However, we don't have to allow it to ruin our lives and our relationships. In this episode, David Dubé shares several techniques you can begin to use to help mitigate the impact of anger and hate that can come from conflict.
Have you ever thought about how your actions show others how to treat you? In this episode, David Dubé explains exactly how our actions tell the world so much about us and what you need to know and do about it.
How does my mindset change my past? That's a great question and one that David Dubé shares in this episode. Your perception of your past often shapes the vision of your future. When you alter your mind and the way you look at the world, your new vision of life will bring new clarity to your past and therefore change your future.
How do you find your identity? In this episode, David Dubé shares how we create our identity and then how we can decide to change it. You can be who you decide to be, you first must make that decision.
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Ever done, said, or experienced something you regret? Everyone has! The thing is though, most of us hold on to those regrets. We allow our past to haunt us telling ourselves how much of a failure we are or that we are not enough all because of one instance in our lives. We often measure our lives with a yardstick and the lives of others with a ruler; we hold ourselves to different standards and usually come up way too short. In this episode, David Dubé discusses the importance of self-forgiveness and its life-changing consequences.
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Our identities are directly tied to how we perceive our past... but what if we could change our past? Would that change our identity? In this episode, David Dubé shares a story about a man's shift in perception and how it effectively transformed his life.
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How we relate to ourselves is vitally important to understanding not only our identity but how we live our lives. In this episode, David Dubé shares what he calls 'timeline perception', a way of viewing our past that puts it into a framework that can be viewed whether physically or mentally. He then discusses how we use the events we place on that timeline as a relationship to our current and future circumstances and how this defines us. Join our private community at https://relationships-first.com
Relationship with Yourself Part 1: Pain vs Pleasure. The most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves, yet most people do not realize this and therefore much of life is left to chance. In this episode, David Dubé dives into the abyss of our relationship with ourselves, specifically that of our past. Here we begin with the 2 major life motivators; the avoidance of pain or the pursuit of pleasure.
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How to Create Deeper Relationships. In this episode, David shares a technique that can deepen and strengthen any relationship; whether it's your first meeting with someone new to a life-long friendship that you want to take to another level of connection and understanding. Join our private community at https://relationships-first.com
How do you find love? Most people search for what they feel they're missing from outside sources. In this episode, David shares a personal story of realization that helped his clients figure out what they needed in order to move ahead with their marriage.
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All About Trauma and PTSD If you want a fulfilling relationship we must, ourselves, be able to be fulfilled. This is cannot be done if we are constantly dealing with our past traumas. Here is where we begin to solve that issue. The first step to getting through trauma is understanding it... what causes it and then what to do about it. In this episode, David shares what causes trauma along with several stories of his own. Along with that, he shares a special gift that will help those struggling with trauma, hopefully, get through it! (and it's FREE!)
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Welcome to Relationships First, in this episode David shares the 3 versions of time in which people experience. All of us experience these versions, however, there are still some who often stay in the non-helpful versions for extended periods of time. Today, you will know the difference between the versions of time, how to know which one you and others are in, and hopefully be able to help move yourself and others into the most effective version of time.
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How do you know your relationship is built on a house of cards or a solid foundation? In this episode, David dives into the statistics and shares one of the major contributing factors to why modern relationships are built on a house of cards.
On the fence about your relationship? This is a fairly regular question I've received over the years and one that deserves a response. In this episode, David shares the questions you should consider answering before deciding whether or not to exit your current relationship.
Have you ever felt a pull in your relationship but you couldn't put your finger on what exactly was wrong? Well, in this episode David shares insights into the two directions we move in life and the reason you may have felt things were off.
What's the most important person or thing in your life? In this episode, David elaborates on what this answer really is and why knowing it is so important to you and all your relationships.
In this episode of Relationships First, David Dubé shares why Relationships First - why should you care, listen, and pay attention?