Break the Mould with Anwyn Stekerhofs: Recent Episodes
Break the Mould with Anwyn Stekerhofs
Anwyn is a certified Hypnotherapist, NLP therapy Practitioner. She specialises in relationship coaching and is inclusive of all genders and sexualities. Break the mould delves into the real issues that come up in relationships and is about valuing everybody's stories. Because sometimes we don't fit "The conventional Mould"
Krista Bleich is a fellow Master Practitioner of NLP and Timeline Therapy® and Hypnotherapist from Evolve and Relaunch. She helps her clients who are in their Midlife to find their potential and new possibilities to create the life they love by being adventurous, expressing themselves creatively and bringing more joy. It was really interesting to have a new perspective on relationships from a divorcee, she discussed her learnings from that process. I think you will find it enlightening. You can find her via her website: https://kristableich.com/ My website is: https://awakeningswithanwyn.com/ And if you are interested in studying with Evolve and Relaunch either Neuro Linguistic Programming or Hypnotherapy this is their details: https://evolveandrelaunch.com.au/
Eliza is multi faceted in the area of Yoga and Mindfulness, which she has been doing for over 25 years. I have had the pleasure of being a part of the journey for a good half of that time and have grown as a result of her practice. She was a valuable resource during lockdowns in Covid. In this interview she shares her values and ways that Yoga and mindfulness has helped her in her relationship of nearly 40 years! I really like her metaphor of Meditation and Relationships - That if something is off kilter, bring it back, pause and bring it back on track.
She says Meditation is Life, we are living it right now.
Some questions she poses herself in relationships are:
What are we here for?
What are our values?
Why are we bothering to stay together?
What are we building here?
How are we growing?
What are we sharing?
These are very valuable and maybe you can think about these and ponder the answers that come up?
If what you hear today resonates please don't hesitate to reach out to me , maybe book a complementary session to gain some clarity about where you would like to be?
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For more information about me go to my website and find out more:
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In this interview I talk to the beautiful Catherine Bowyer, a holistic coach and life strategist. Having spent over 35 years specialising in mindset and human behaviour, she is passionate about what she does. I thank her for her vulnerability and she was happy to discuss anything in an open and honest way. We discuss her work and how she started in the corporate world until now, which involves skills to develop confidence, for her clients to reclaim their own power and celebrate their magnificence with an emphasis on happiness. Because let's face it we could all do with more of that. We also discussed forgiveness, after which I have decided to run a Forgiveness webinar on International Women's Day 8-2-2024, for anyone who is interested.The link is here:https://calendly.com/awakeningswithanwyn/forgiveness-webinarCatherine can be contacted through her website soon on:https://www.happiness-hive.com/And on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/happinesshive/If you would like to work with me, I can be contacted on my website here:https://awakeningswithanwyn.com/
How does music affect you? Do you remember a song when you met the love of your life?
How powerful music can be and music therapy shows so many ways to recover from trauma, address pain management, illness, injury, psychological, emotional and cognitive challenges. As well as communication and social needs. We live our lives with so much access to music now, it can have the ability to transform and heal so why not use it?
If this kind of therapy is of interest and you would like to contact Phil, his email is:
philipktkim@gmail.com
Here is the association that Phil Kim recommended:
https://www.austmta.org.au/
Also he mentioned these people involved in the development of music therapy that you might find interesting, they are listed below:
Diane Austin with humming and Toning:
http://dianeaustin.com/pdfs/Traumaar.pdf
Helen Bonny - Appalachian State University and the method of Guided Imagery and Music (GIM):
https://music.appstate.edu/academics/special-programs/bonny-method#:~:text=The%20Bonny%20Method%20of%20Guided%20Imagery%20and%20Music%20(GIM)&text=In%20GIM%2C%20the%20music%20serves,heights%20of%20the%20human%20experience.
An interview with Denise Grocke - RMIT on Guided Imagery and Music (GIM):
https://voices.no/index.php/voices/article/view/2277/2032
In this podcast episode of "Break the Mould with Anwyn" I interview John Santangelo who runs the L.A NLP training school @LANLPseminars His school is to empower people and promotes self esteem, according to John there is 6 pillars of Self esteem: 1. Live consciously 2. Accept yourself 3. Take responsibility 4. Assert who you are 5. Live purposefully 6. Maintain your integrityI ask him some questions in regard to Relationships and responsibility. We talk about emotional regulation.Also some questions sent in by my listeners, which you will find fascinating.I would like to quote @Brene Brown from Rising strong,"The trick to staying out of resentment is maintaining better boundaries, Blaming others less and holding myself more accountable for asking for what I need and want" Interestingly I found this quote after doing the podcast and found it to be synchronistic. It ties in with the responsibility topic. If we haven't filled our own cup, we can't help others.John has created a special Webpage for all my listeners, where you can find some really great resources on Relationships:https://lanlp.com/loveMy Website is:https://awakeningswithanwyn.com/
In this episode I speak to Michelle who is a mental health professional who specialises in PDST and Trauma. We talk about self love and healing trauma.What to do when self doubt comes up and how common it is to feel shame around not knowing. Some tools that can help to process trauma. How to set boundaries in our relationships and another level of communication. Some great core values that are important for Michelle parallel mine. I talk about my ADHD and the trauma associated with that and the way I overcame that which brought me on this journey of self discovery.Michelle can be contacted on her website:https://www.themichellepowell.com.au/She has a great resource for trauma as well there.I can be contacted for a consultation on my website:https://awakeningswithanwyn.com/
In this episode we talk about all things Menopause and hormones. Nicole is a Nutritionist, Health science and fitness Professional.We discuss topics such as Libido and menopause in long term relationships. Menopause symptoms including the affect of stress and sleep on the body. Weight gain and sexuality. Our body image and the Barbie phenomenon, those limiting beliefs brought about by external social pressure. Then one of the most important things how menopause can affect your relationship and what you can do about it. We both also share our relationship values.Nicole can be contacted on her website:https://nicoleforgionecoaching.com/programs/And her upcoming Programs:https://nicoleforgionecoaching.com/healthy-happy-hormones/And if you would like to work with me, I'm available on my website:https://awakeningswithanwyn.com/
In this episode I have brought back Lynn Rane and we discuss the hot topic of Jealousy. So it doesn't matter what relationship you're in, this is something that will definitely be relevant to you. Navigating this and finding the value in all our emotions is so important for the development of our intimate relationships and friendships for that matter. I really like what Lynn says, that it's just different not better with someone else. This is what a level of emotional regulation can bring to your relationship, which is something I delve into with my relationship course I'm developing.I hope you enjoy our candid conversation, because I feel that everyone is valid and I would like there to be no stigma around all sorts of relationships.Lynn can be contacted on :https://www.lightofexpression.com/She has some really beautiful meditations there you can listen to for free, which follows on from our discussion where I mentioned in Yoga there is the fifth Yama Aparigraha- Non -attachment or Non-grasping.As well the book Lynn recommended was Polysecure by Jessica Fernhttps://thornapplepress.ca/polysecure/I can be contacted on for 1:1 coaching session in person or online: https://awakeningswithanwyn.com/
The fascinating conversation continues......Anne O'Nomis or now known as Leonora Anne Weston is widely known for her work in the Dominatrix world after publishing her book "The history and arts of the Dominatrix". I was totally fascinated by this course and knew I needed to attend. It encompassed the Seven Realm Arts, which was a turning point in my life when I was able to take back my power. As an art historian with a particular interest in archaeology, she has gone deep into the research of the Dominatrix. Now her new research has lead her to the discovery of more stress responses than previously known. i.e. Flight, Fight and Freeze. She has come to an understanding of her clients needs under the influence of the power of a Dominatrix. Also this can be applied in any area of life in situations of stress or any power and how we respond. She has developed the "Ki" diagram - her own unique system to determine an individuals response. She has been speaking with Psychologists from all over the world and plans to use it as a healing process. I know you will find it fascinating. This is Part 1, as I didn't want to leave anything out! So stay tuned for the next riveting episode. Her Website is: https://historyofthedominatrix.com/?fbclid=IwAR3e6u64vGICW0I6JtoY5NHNluUgfIQ1B-bcrfKe3a1o6rQxPJNy4mOTsDA Her new Ki project can be found here: https://www.theki.com.au/?fbclid=IwAR0jsnOpAtw2hUYU6lSq0zCQpYPiNe28OCo07dsxp_iVS_m8k3zXOZfKfrkIf you are interested here is a link to the TV show Anne is featured in:https://www.express.co.uk/showbiz/tv-radio/1786020/Amanda-Holden-sex-show-new-role/amp?fbclid=IwAR29Fx0_YKWI077v1AN40PgRVaRDZJP_8UhuCHuBXYqD54Y8aHG1JyC9ADY For further information about how I can assist you, you can contact me on My Website: https://awakeningswithanwyn.com/
Anne O'Nomis or now known as Leonora Anne Weston is widely known for her work in the Dominatrix world after publishing her book "The history and arts of the Dominatrix". I was totally fascinated by this course and knew I needed to attend. It encompassed the Seven Realm Arts, which was a turning point in my life when I was able to take back my power. As an art historian with a particular interest in archaeology, she has gone deep into the research of the Dominatrix. Now her new research has lead her to the discovery of more stress responses than previously known. i.e. Flight, Fight and Freeze. She has come to an understanding of her clients needs under the influence of the power of a Dominatrix. Also this can be applied in any area of life in situations of stress or any power and how we respond. She has developed the "Ki" diagram - her own unique system to determine an individuals response. She has been speaking with Psychologists from all over the world and plans to use it as a healing process.I know you will find it fascinating. This is Part 1, as I didn't want to leave anything out! So stay tuned for the next riveting episode.Her Website is: https://historyofthedominatrix.com/?fbclid=IwAR3e6u64vGICW0I6JtoY5NHNluUgfIQ1B-bcrfKe3a1o6rQxPJNy4mOTsDAHer new Ki project can be found here:https://www.theki.com.au/?fbclid=IwAR0jsnOpAtw2hUYU6lSq0zCQpYPiNe28OCo07dsxp_iVS_m8k3zXOZfKfrkTo watch the series Anne was featured in go to :https://www.express.co.uk/showbiz/tv-radio/1786020/Amanda-Holden-sex-show-new-role/amp?fbclid=IwAR29Fx0_YKWI077v1AN40PgRVaRDZJP_8UhuCHuBXYqD54Y8aHG1JyC9ADYFor further information about how I can assist you, you can contact me onMy Website:https://awakeningswithanwyn.com/
Maria Bololia identifies as a lesbian from Lesbos, Greece. She has been an activist in the LGBTQI+ community for many years being an advocate for diversity and inclusion informing people of their rights and fighting many causes.One of which was the right for young people to earn a living under the age of 18yrs. She rallied for this taking young people to parliament in 1983 to speak to Bob Hawke and the National Press Club and won the right to earn a living. Because at the time she was homeless, under 18yrs and needed to survive. Below is a piece she wrote in honour of all LGBTQI+ people who have suffered. At the moment she is writing her memoirs.May We Never ForgetMay we never forget the torture, torment, abuse, harassment, rape, death, incarceration, abuse to civil rights and all the injustices that the LGBTIQ+ community has been put through for simply being who we are and trying to lead happy, healthy lives.May we never forget the leaders, the change makers, the activists who died for our community and made it that much better for us today.May we never forget those who are still being treated as sinners, criminals and despicable human beings in the 76 countries and continents including: Africa, Afghanistan, Iran, India, Lebanon, Russia Saudi Arabia, Singapore, Sri Lanka, Syria, Jamaica, Papa New Guinea, Samoa, Tonga where being LGBTQ+ is still illegal. Countries where my community is still being tortured, stoned to death, raped, imprisoned and killed by the millions.May we never forget that people are born LGBTIQ+. It is not a choice, a preference, a curiosity, defiance nor an anarchistic stand, abomination, a sin or a crime. May we never forget that LGBTIQ+ people have the right to be happy, to feel safe in their work place, environment, community and that not any one person should feel like they have the right to determine, vote or dictate otherwise.May we never forget that we are all, or should be, equals and not any one person is better by way of wealth, status, nationality, religion, colour, sex or gender identity. or should be any better or any more important than any other!!May we never forget that it took until 1994 for homosexuality to be decriminalised in this country.May we never forget that it took until 1997 for homosexuality to be decriminalised in Tasmania.May we never forget that it took until 2017 for same sex couples to be given the right to adopt in this country.May we never forget that it took until 2018 for same sex couples to be given the right to wed in this country.May we never forget that we the LGTIQ community are faced with the struggle of having to explain, justify, prove and debate who or what we are every day of our lives.May we never forget that we are what we are and that what we are needs no excuses.May we never forget the next time you ask an LGBTIQ person when did you come out to your parents would you ever ask that of a heterosexual person?May we never forget that LGBTIQ people come from all sorts of nationalities, hold all sorts of political and religious beliefs, professional and socio economic sectors and that more than 10% of the population make up the varied and diverse intersectionalities in or of the LGBTIQ communityMay we never forget that love is love, and that kindness, and compassion should be what matter when all is said and done!!If you’ve ever been silenced, felt powerless, insignificant, invisible, discredited, disrespected, told you’re being difficulty, quarrelsome, non compliant, anit-social, sacrilegious, harassed, bullied, manipulated, threatened or given ultimatums, and told that you’re not good enough then this is for you!!You are enough!!You were always enough!!You will always be enough!!Maria BololiaI strive to create a welcoming and safe environment that accepts all people no matter what their persuasionhttps://awakeningswithanwyn.com/Join in celebrating Castlemaine Pride week 28-4 to 6-5 for program go towww.castlemainepride.org.au
In this Episode I interview Juliet Lever from Evolve and Relaunch, the company I trained with in Neuro Linguistic Programming, Time Line Therapy® , Hypnotherapy and then later Master Practitioner of NLP and Time Line Therapy®.We discuss how you too can apply the work to your life and relationships. Especially around the subject of Shadow work and Projection, there's something for everyone and I'm sure you will recognise some of those traits in yourself and your partner with what we talk about. Plenty of nuggets to explore. If you would like to listen to Vishen Lakhiani's 6 Phase Guided Meditation Juliet mentioned here it is toohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EaRu14P9H84You can get $100 off any course with Evolve and Relaunch when you mention this Podcast by clicking the link below:https://evolveandrelaunch.com.au/I can be reached on my website below:https://awakeningswithanwyn.com/
In this episode I interview Euphemia Russell, a full spectrum pleasure coach. They have also published a book, "Slow Pleasure" a fabulous and practical read to find ways of tapping into your pleasure. As they say, " Micro dosing" or a " Remembering"It was a fascinating conversation we had and I'm sure you will enjoy listening to us discuss topics about Somatics, touch and connection and transitions. They are starting a new program called, Unfurling soon , all this information can be found on their Website:https://euphemiarussell.comTheir Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/euphemia.russell/Also in here is an interesting blog on having a relationship with death, as I talked about my recent experience with my mother's death.My new website is up and I can be contacted on: https://awakeningswithanwyn.com
In this episode I discuss Grief, in particular the death of my Mother. As I talk about, our relationship with our parents are the foundation to all our relationships. It is my journey, but it is a universal experience and there is something to learn from everybody's stories. Yes I did have a good relationship with her and yes she was an inspiration. But no she wasn't perfect, none of us are. But she was a rock of goodness to me.May you rest easy and sleep in eternal peace beautiful soulBelow are some resources:https://www.grief.org.au file:///Users/anniestekerhofs/Downloads/About%20Grief.pdfhttps://banksiapalliative.com.au/about-us/bereavement-support/Some wisdom from His Holiness the Dalai Lamahttps://twitter.com/dalailama/status/1607324053601386496?s=61&t=4aqsXwqKpgAfGUH37WNLwwhttps://twitter.com/dalailama/status/1596089808283394048?s=61&t=X_KHBp-Qq_4wasr9Dz-JhAA special thanks to my brother, three sisters, brother-in-law, niece and nephew for their input. Also to Shavleen Kaur again.You can find me on Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/a.stekerhofs on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/awakeningswithanwyn/ and on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anwyn-s-890b53a6/For the special offer I mentioned go to this link :https://calendly.com/awakeningswithanwyn/60min
In this episode I speak to a fellow Master Practitioner of Neuroscience Linguistic Programming and Timeline Therapy®, Shavleen. We discuss her Calm and Clarity Mindset Business and we talk about relationships. What is Calmness? What does it look like? How she has integrated it into her life and work. How that drives her business? One of the main topics that came up was Self- Esteem, so important to all of us.You can find Shavleen on : https://www.shavleen.com/https://www.facebook.com/shavleenIf you would like to contact myself for a complementary session go to : https://calendly.com/awakeningswithanwyn/discover-a-new-level-of-respect-with-introspect-for-5-people?back=1&month=2022-11Mentioned : The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes Podcasthttps://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499?i=1000582118646
In my latest Podcast I'm being interviewed by Gen of Mind Ya Head Program and we discuss how to find ways to look after your mental health. Also I talk about my work that I'm doing and my 7 Module RESPECT Relationship program that I'm developing.We also discuss some great tips for better sleep and how to remember your dreams.If you would like to receive a free google document on Sleep and dreaming please go to my Instagram page, where you can find a link to be delivered to your inbox.If you would like to book a complementary initial consultation with me go to link in bio and click:Discover a new level of respect with introspectMy Instagram page is:https://www.instagram.com/awakeningswithanwyn/Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/a.stekerhofs
Break the Mould Podcast is all about the important issues that come up in Relationships and Jeremy Forbes the founder of HALT - Hope Assistance Local Tradies talks on my show about their organisation that addresses mental health and suicide prevention and gives support to tradies on building suites and tafe institutions by bringing awareness to a very real problem that effect so many of us. I hope you enjoy this as much as I did.
To find out more about the Swinburne University study go to:
https://halt.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/HALT-Program-Report-2020.pdf
If you are struggling go to:
Lifeline 13 11 14
Mensline 1300 789 978
Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467
Beyond Blue 1800 512 348
Relationships Victoria 1800 050 321
Aboriginal Community Health Service 9411 9411
Q- Life for LBTQI Communities 1800 184 527
Headspace for young people aged 12-25 Victoria (03) 9027 0100
More HALT Resources:
https://halt.org.au/what-is-halt/
https://halt.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/HALT-Tool-Kit-1.pdf
And finally, if you would like to book a complimentary session with me go to my link in Bio on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/awakeningswithanwyn/
In this interview I talk with Tyler Mathews a Professional Companion or Sexual Surrogate. This profession has been around forever, maybe not so much for woman as we are often denied pleasure or we believe it is something we need to earn. Eroticism comes from mystery, because if we know too much about someone we assume a lot. So seeing an escort creates that mystery. We discuss Spectatoring - which is a process suggested by Masters and Johnson in 1970 (Sexologists) You can also find out more in the Netflix series " The Principles of Pleasure " Which has Dr Emily Nagoski Ph.D the author of " Come as you are " interestingly Tyler mentions. I also heard it mentioned on the "Dear Men Podcast" # 198 with Brian Ayers a sexual performance coach. We also talk about disability services- a very important component of sex work. I refer to Multiamory Podcast episode #364 We discuss many topics and It's important to note that we are both talking from our points of view and it is not indicative of the industry. If there is anything you would like to discuss further please let me know.
If you would like to find Tyler Mathews go to:
https://www.tylermathews.com.au
https://www.instagram.com/tylermathewsbrisbane/
I'm available for Relationship coaching at:
https://www.instagram.com/awakeningswithanwyn/
Email : awakeningswithanwyn@gmail.com
Other resources:
https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/multiamory/id913403767?i=1000554853732
https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/dear-men-how-to-rock-sex-dating-and-relationships-with-women/id1347811999?i=1000555932589
https://www.netflix.com/title/81137265
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are
Today I'm discussing my experience seeing an Escort over the last 10 years. I did this podcast to "Break the Mould", which is the way i live my life! I don't conform to what people think i should be, I follow my heart and express myself in the most authentic way as possible. I really believe that we can be the best, by being ourselves in our own individual way. Seeing a sex worker might trigger some people and excite others who are more curious. It's not for everyone, but it certainly makes my life fuller and enriching.
I help individuals with my Relationship coaching business, " Awakenings with Anwyn " I can be found on
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/awakeningswithanwyn/
Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/a.stekerhofs
Linkedin : https://www.linkedin.com/in/anwyn-s-890b53a6/
Email : awakeningswithanwyn@gmail.com
Vic Rajah is a family Lawyer of Vic Rajah Family Lawyers with a wealth of experience, but also cares about each individual client's needs, rights and entitlements and is compassionate as well. He was awarded Centenary of Federation medal for service to the community on youth issues and is Deputy chair of "Bestchance" an early childhood educational and family support program. He has also written a number of family law papers. If you would like to know more about his firm please press the link below.
In my interview with Vic he discuses family law and the significance on relationships, the impact of COVID19 ,the stigma behind seeing a therapist and the changes that were made last year in regard to the protocol around this.
https://www.vicrajah.com.au/?fbclid=IwAR0Pgt0A3qPwZONA_eiL0XSiza3hJBLmgET0J27rspD09XlR-Zl1FnUvX4Q
If you would like to contact me in regards to finding out more about NLP, Timeline therapy or Hypnotherapy, please feel free to book a zoom call on my Instagram link in bio
https://www.instagram.com/awakeningswithanwyn/
https://www.facebook.com/a.stekerhofs
So this Episode I interview Lynn who is in a Solo Polyamorous relationship. She talks about her life in a 23 yr committed relationship. How she embraces change and navigates her experiences of Ethical Non Monogamy. Some boundaries that have been set and others that have been established along the way.
She can be contacted o her instagram page:
https://www.instagram.com/_linith_/
If you are interesting in a complementary Initial consultation with me please contact me via my Link in Bio:
My Instagram page is:
https://www.instagram.com/awakeningswithanwyn/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/a.stekerhofs
So Cherri talks of their childhood and the different challenges that transitioning has brought up. Also some amazing and beautiful reflections she has had with coming out. She is still exploring what the future holds with the support of her community. This is a really important story to be told about relationships, which of course include the relationship with ourselves.
www.tgdbendigoandbeyond.org.au https://www.facebook.com/TGDBendigo https://www.facebook.com/groups/2389097031403121 https://www.instagram.com/tgdclothingswap/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Yu8BFwWbz4R4iLqABt7DA
Trans and Gender Diverse Bendigo and Beyond – Social support group
tgdbendigoandbeyond.org.au
https://chirp.org.au
https://www.lifeline.org.au
https://www.instagram.com/awakeningswithanwyn/
https://www.facebook.com/a.stekerhofs
This my first Episode delves into my past, where I tell a very personal story of abuse. I discuss how I found a light bulb moment about my experience. I talk about those discoveries and connections to my limiting beliefs. The purpose is to inspire people to have the courage to tell their stories too and to know they are not alone.
If you would like to contact me, go to my Instagram account @awakeningswithanwyn to book a free discovery call and find out more. Link in Bio
I'm a NLP Practitioner and Hypnotherapist specialising Relationships and couples. On my podcast I will delve into all diverse relationships and have very real and raw conversations with people from different backgrounds. I will be including guests sharing their perspectives on all sorts of relationships, this is an inclusive gender and sexual diverse space.