The Stoic Responder: Recent Episodes
Kristofor Healey
Welcome to The Stoic Responder Podcast, I’m your host Kristofor Healey. In my career as a Special Agent, Stoic philosophy provided the mindset edge that was the foundation of my professional success. My mission today is to share those ancient mindset lessons with you so that you can approach your career and life with a tactical advantage live your life with valor.
“The blazing fire makes flames and brightness out of everything thrown into it.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The transformative power of adversity is rooted in the idea that it provides us with invaluable lessons. Just as fire purifies and refines, adversity refines our character. It forces us to confront our weaknesses and to develop the qualities of courage, patience, and perseverance. And in the crucible of adversity, we often discover qualities and capabilities we never knew we possessed.
We talk about feeding the fire on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the universe.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
“Flow” is a state of deep engagement and absorption in an activity, characterized by intense focus, effortless action, and a sense of timelessness. Flow states can occur in sports, music, art, work, and hobbies. Whether it's playing an instrument, writing, or engaging in athletic pursuits, the experience of flow can lead to heightened performance, creativity, and overall well-being.
We talk about getting into the “flow state” on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“I don’t complain about the lack of time . . . what little I have will go far enough. Today — this day — will achieve what no tomorrow will fail to speak about. I will lay siege to the gods and shake up the world.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Our time on this earth is limited and finite, but we should never lament its scarcity. Rather, we should endeavor every single day to make the most of it, as Laurens did. When we challenge the status quo, seek opportunities and take decisive action, we can truly shake up the world and achieve things that echo in eternity.
We talk about a founding father who made the most of his short 27 years on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbor says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself, to make it just and holy.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The psychological phenomenon known as “conspicuous consumption” happens to everyone from everyday Americans to billionaires. It happens because, subconsciously, humans look at those around them for confirmation of their social and economic status. Where a peacock fluffs his feathers, we flaunt our “wealth” in the form of houses, cars, clothes, jewelry and other material possessions.
We talk about avoiding this kind of animal brain thinking on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“For a man to conquer himself is the first and noblest of all victories. ” – Plato
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Stories of overcoming adversity offer proof of the wisdom of Plato’s words. Yes, the enemy is out there, be it on the battlefield or in the arena. But the greatest victories we will ever win come from first confronting and defeating the limitations of our own hearts and minds. To conquer oneself is to transcend the limitations of ego, desire, and fear, and to attain a state of inner harmony and integrity. And that is, indeed, the noblest of all victories.
We talk about overcoming ourselves on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinion of himself than on the opinion of others.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
From a young age, we are socialized to seek approval from authority figures, peers, and society at large, internalizing external standards of success, beauty, and worthiness. Marcus Aurelius invites us to challenge this tendency and to cultivate a balanced perspective that honors both our intrinsic worth and the importance of social connection.
We talk about balancing the external with an internal standard on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
"There is only one thing for which God has sent me into the world, and that is to develop every kind of virtue or strength, and there is nothing in all the world that I cannot use for this purpose." – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
So-called ‘honor culture’ is often associated with traditional communities where social cohesion, reputation, and communal values hold significant importance. Individuals bound by the traditions of such a community are expected to uphold a certain moral and behavioral code, which usually includes concepts such as loyalty, bravery, honesty, and virtue. Failure to adhere to this code can result in social ostracism, loss of reputation, or even violence.
We talk about honor culture and integrity on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Viktor Frankl endured unimaginable loss and horror at the hands of the Nazis, but rather than become consumed by despair or resignation to a hopeless situation beyond his control, Frankl endeavored to cultivate resilience in himself, taking responsibility of his own emotional and mental well being and seeking meaning in every moment of living. His 1946 book, Man’s Search For Meaning, chronicling his survival story has sold more than ten million copies worldwide. In it he states that we can discover meaning in three different ways “(1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering.”
We talk about Frankl’s rules for resilience on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Take a lyre player: he’s relaxed when he performs alone, but put him in front of an audience, and it’s a different story, no matter how beautiful his voice or how well he plays the instrument. Why? Because he not only wants to perform well, he wants to be well received — and the latter lies outside his control.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The craving for approval is not limited to musicians and other artists; it's a universal human trait. And whether in our creative pursuits, professional endeavors, or personal relationships, we seek external affirmation and validation far too frequently.
We talk about setting an internal standard on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
There is an interconnectedness to this human experience. Just as we are quick to notice the faults of others, so too are they likely to perceive our own shortcomings. So instead of focusing on the perceived shortcomings of those around us, we would do better to turn our gaze inward and examine our own flaws and weaknesses.
We talk about the importance of judging ourselves first on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“So remember this principle when something threatens to cause you pain: the thing itself was no misfortune at all; to endure it and prevail is great good fortune.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Endurance athletes understand what we must all embrace: pain is not misfortune, but rather, an opportunity to endure and prevail. And to endure is the greatest gift of all.
We talk about the importance of learning to prevail over pain on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“A good man delights in receiving advice: all the worst men are the most impatient of guidance.” - Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Throughout your career you will receive copious amounts of unsolicited advice. And while it is tempting to tune it out, doing so can make the job more difficult than it needs to be and limits you to a single source for solving problems - you!
It's hard to admit that we're flawed or to acknowledge that we don’t have all the answers. But to foolishly believe that our ideas are better than anyone else’s allows pride to stand in the way of our progress.
We talk about the importance of seeking advice on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“If when he eats, he can be just, cheerful, equitable, temperate, and orderly, can he not thus eat acceptably to the Gods?” - Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The manner and means in which we consume food and alcohol is reflective of our character, and disposition. Do we demonstrate reverence and gratitude for the nourishment provided to us or do we gripe and complain? Do we take only what we need or do we indulge in excess, succumbing to our basest desires?
We talk about how we can turn our daily choices into practicing virtue on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Occupy thyself with few things, says the philosopher, if thou wouldst be tranquil.“ – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
From the moment we rise until we go to bed, we are deluged with expectation, information, and entertainment. And unless we learn to discern between the essential and the trivial, the meaningful and the superficial, and to invest our time and energy accordingly, we will lose the plot.
It is only by decluttering our minds and lives, that we can create space for clarity, purpose, and serenity to flourish.
We talk about the importance of tranquility on the podcast today.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Man conquers the world by conquering himself.” – Zeno
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Before dawn on June 5, 1944, General Eisenhower ordered his subordinates to proceed with Operation Overlord. Later that same evening, he scribbled a note intended for release should the landings fail. It read in part, “The troops, the air and the Navy did all that Bravery and devotion to duty could do. If any blame or fault attaches to the attempt it is mine alone." He underlined the words ‘mine alone’ for emphasis.
We talk about the importance of owning your decisions on today’s podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
"The flourishing life cannot be achieved until we moderate our desires and see how superficial and fleeting they are." – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
We all know the ambitious rookie with the lifted and murdered out diesel truck. After all, he’s a walking PD stereotype, living on Copenhagen and Monster in between trips to 24 Hour Fitness and his next overtime shift. If you’ve ever been an FTO, you’ve trained more than one of these dudes, and if you’re honest, there’s a good chance that you may have even been that guy at one point in your career. A lot of us were.
But true fulfillment and meaning on the job doesn’t come from a fat overtime check or the adrenaline rush of another felony arrest. No, it comes from a state of inner peace and tranquility. We talk about it on the podcast today!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Remember that you ought to behave in life as you would at a banquet. As something is being passed around it comes to you; stretch out your hand, take a portion of it politely. It passes on; do not detain it. Or it has not come to you yet; do not project your desire to meet it, but wait until it comes in front of you. So act toward children, so toward a wife, so toward office, so toward wealth.“ – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Hunger, like thirst, is biological, physical. Craving, on the other hand, is emotional, psychological. One is body-driven, one is head-driven. When we cling to fleeting moments or yearn for what has not yet arrived we operate without self-control - that is craving. Instead, we should remain present and patient, without undue attachment, expectation or desire for more. This principle extends beyond the dinner table to various other aspects of life, including relationships, work, and wealth. We talk about thunder and craving on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
E084: You Can Endure
“Nothing happens to anyone he can’t endure.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
During a game against the Houston Texans on November 8, 2018, Washington Redskins quarterback Alex Smith was sacked in the backfield. As he fell, his right leg was caught at an odd angle leading to a complex spiral and compound fracture of both his tibia and fibula. The gruesome injury was so severe that doctors considered it life threatening, and when the injury developed an infection called necrotizing fasciitis that caused sepsis, doctors warned that amputation might be the only option for the former number one pick.
In the face of such overwhelming odds, a return to the field seemed like an impossibility. But in October 2020, 17 surgeries and 693 days after the tragic event, Smith once again found himself under center.
We talk about Smith and the incredible power of endurance on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“What’s the point of having countless books and libraries, whose titles could hardly be read through in a lifetime. The learner is not taught, but burdened by the sheer volume, and it’s better to plant the seeds of a few authors than to be scattered about by many.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
While his achievements in conquering much of the ancient world are awe-inspiring, Alexander the Great’s story also serves as a cautionary example of the perils of unchecked ambition and the constant need for more.
Many of us fall into the same trap as Alexander, constantly seeking the next material possession, conquest or personal achievement, but to what end? When goals are simply based on attaining more, we end up unfulfilled and unsatisfied.
We talk about the importance of focussing on what truly brings us fulfillment on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
E082: Thoughts Shade the Soul
“The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The soul is our inner essence and character. It is not a fixed entity but, rather, one that is continuously molded and influenced by our thoughts. Through our thoughts, we retain the power to shape our perceptions, attitudes, and responses to the world, ultimately impacting the state of our soul.
We talk about the importance of “dyeing” your soul the right shades on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Define for me now what the “indifferents” are. Whatever things we cannot control. Tell me the upshot. They are nothing to me.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Stoicism is a philosophy of personal agency. It reminds us that while external events may unfold independently of our will, our judgments and responses are firmly within our grasp, and the power to choose our attitudes and interpretations, rooted in reason and virtue, is a source of profound freedom. Inherent in that notion is the freedom to be indifferent.
We talk about the importance of indifference on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Indifference is about recognizing what we cannot control.
- Embracing indifference can lead to personal freedom.
- Stoicism teaches us to focus on our responses, not external events.
- Emotional turbulence often arises from caring about the uncontrollable.
- Conscious indifference is a gift that enhances mental clarity.
- We have the power to choose our attitudes and interpretations.
- Indifference allows us to master what we can control.
- Not caring about external events can free up mental space.
- It's okay to have hobbies, but recognize their emotional impact.
- Indifference can help eliminate unnecessary stress in our lives.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself in your way of thinking.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
We live in a culture that equates happiness with comfort, wealth, success, and status. That’s not so different from the first century Rome that Marcus Aurelius came of age in. Still, in our time, just as it was in his, lasting fulfillment cannot be found in the pursuit of external accolades or possessions. Rather, it emerges from the cultivation of inner virtues such as gratitude, resilience, and acceptance.
We talk about what we really need to live a happy life on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Happiness is often mistakenly tied to external factors.
- True fulfillment comes from cultivating inner virtues.
- We should focus on what we can control for happiness.
- Happiness is not the absence of struggle, but finding meaning in it.
- Many people find themselves unhappy despite external success.
- Self-reflection is crucial in understanding our happiness needs.
- Material possessions do not guarantee happiness.
- The culture often misleads us about the sources of happiness.
- We can liberate ourselves from the tyranny of external validation.
- Regularly questioning our happiness needs can lead to greater contentment.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“There’s nothing worse than a wolf befriending sheep. Avoid false friendship at all costs. If you are good, straightforward, and well meaning it should show in your eyes and not escape notice.” — Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
There will be temptations in your life to associate with others who may not have your best interest in mind. False friendships lead to betrayal, manipulation, and emotional and professional harm.
We talk about the importance of guarding against the wolf in sheep’s clothing on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- One more individual we help is one less statistic.
- Marcus Aurelius cautioned against false friendships.
- The overlap between Stoicism and early Christian teachings is significant.
- False friendships can lead to emotional and professional harm.
- Be discerning about who you allow into your life.
- It's crucial to maintain genuine relationships outside of work.
- Time spent with people is our most valuable resource.
- Listen to your instincts about others.
- Avoid isolating yourself in an echo chamber of like-minded individuals.
- Strive to embody the qualities of a good friend.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“How sweet is the sleep that follows this self-examination” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
It is difficult to engage in an accurate self-assessment of our own worth. Most people underestimate themselves, their skills, or what they can achieve or, conversely, overvalue what they have already done. This is why Stoics like Seneca and Epictetus adopted a form of daily self-examination that originated with Pythagoras.
We talk about the we should be asking ourselves every single day on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Self-examination is crucial for personal growth.
- Daily reflection can lead to better decision-making.
- Seneca's teachings on self-assessment are timeless.
- Understanding KPIs can help manage personal goals.
- Preparation for disasters is essential for safety.
- Mental health support for first responders is vital.
- Engaging with Stoic philosophy can improve well-being.
- Awareness of one's actions leads to better outcomes.
- Reflection can reduce anxiety and improve sleep.
- Community support is important during crises.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In this episode, former DHS OIG Special Agent Kristofor Healey discusses the role of FEMA in disaster response, particularly in the context of Hurricane Helene. He explains FEMA's responsibilities as a secondary responder, the challenges faced during the recent hurricane, and the reality of the $750 emergency checks provided to affected individuals and what other funding FEMA provides after a disaster.
Healey also discusses the statutes that govern FEMA's operations and the systemic issues within the Department of Homeland Security that are impacting its effectiveness.
Takeaways:
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FEMA is not a first responder agency; they respond after the fact.
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The Stafford Act governs FEMA's operations and disaster declarations.
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FEMA's role is to funnel resources and money from the federal level to states.
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Hurricane Helene presented unique challenges due to its path and impact.
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The $750 checks are an initial emergency payment for those affected.
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FEMA's response time can be affected by terrain and resource allocation.
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State governors play a crucial role in requesting federal assistance.
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FEMA's effectiveness can be hindered by systemic incompetence within DHS.
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Local charities often provide immediate aid before federal resources arrive.
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Understanding FEMA's roles and responsibilities is essential for holding them accountable when they fail.
If you have questions I’ll do my best to answer!
Out of Role!
“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” - Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Marcus Aurelius didn’t have social media or 24-hour news networks broadcasting the chaos of the external world into his living room on a near constant basis. But that doesn’t mean the chaos didn’t exist. The same pressures existed in the second century that exist in the 21st century. Wars, pandemics, politics, economic turmoil and family issues.
We talk about the importance of maintaining calm in the chaos on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- The chaos of the external world can cause stress.
- Our perception of events is what causes us distress.
- We have the power to control our reactions.
- Stoicism provides guidance for chaotic times.
- Recognizing what is internal versus external is crucial.
- Taking a step back can help alleviate distress.
- Journaling can aid in self-reflection and understanding.
- Living with valor means acting with purpose and control.
- The teachings of Marcus Aurelius are still relevant today.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“What is divine deserves our respect because it is good; what is human deserves our affection because it is like us. “ – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
While the divine may inspire awe and reverence, it is our shared human experience that elicits empathy, understanding, and affection. It is only by recognizing and striving for the ideal represented in the divine while respecting our shared humanity, that we can live lives of virtue, compassion, and understanding.
We talk about the importance of recognizing our shared humanity on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Change can feel awkward, but it's an opportunity for growth.
- Embracing shared humanity fosters compassion and understanding.
- Faith traditions often share common values of goodness and respect.
- Recognizing our shared experiences can bridge divides.
- Compassion is essential in addressing societal issues.
- We are all part of a larger human experience.
- Acts of kindness can inspire others to do the same.
- Reflection on our differences can lead to greater empathy.
- Supporting organizations that help others is a way to act on our values.
- Daily reflection can help us recognize our shared humanity.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“In days of peace the soldier performs maneuvers, throws up earthworks with no enemy in sight, and wearies himself by gratuitous toil, in order that he may be equal to unavoidable toil. If you would not have a man flinch when the crisis comes, train him before it comes.” - Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Like the Minutemen we must drill and remain vigilant, ready to respond in a moment’s notice. And like the rattlesnake, we must remain peaceful until threatened - violent but under voluntary control.
We talk about the importance of maintaining a state of readiness on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Understand the reality of the world around us.
- Prepare for potential crises through mental readiness.
- The Stoics teach us to control what we can internally.
- Being prepared is a proactive mindset.
- Self-reflection is key to personal development.
- Community support is essential during crises.
- Training and preparedness can prevent panic during emergencies.
- The importance of mental health initiatives for first responders.
- Acta non-verba: actions speak louder than words.
- Regularly assess your preparedness for unforeseen events.
Until Next Time…out of role!
"Practice yourself, for heaven's sake, in little things, and thence proceed to greater." – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
There is a maxim in triathlon that says that amateurs train to their strengths and professionals train to their weaknesses. It’s how you end up with Ironman age groupers barely making the cutoff despite a sub five-hour bike split. Rather than focus on getting faster in the pool or grinding out another speed work session on the track, they opt to do the training that they enjoy the most and go for another ride.
This isn’t limited to triathlon, of course. Most of us prefer to do the things we are already good at rather than get better at a marginal skill. But it’s those marginal skills that make the difference and set us apart.
We talk about the importance of training to your weakness on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Focusing on little things can lead to greater achievements.
- Triathlon teaches valuable lessons about endurance and capacity.
- Professionals improve their weaknesses, not just their strengths.
- Every action, no matter how small, is an opportunity for growth.
- We should act rather than just complain during crises.
- Marginal skills can lead to significant improvements.
- Combining actions can facilitate personal growth.
- Stoicism encourages us to focus on our reactions to events.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“When force of circumstance upsets your equanimity lose no time in recovering your self-control, and do not remain out of tune longer than you can help. Habitual recurrence to the harmony will increase your mastery of it.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Self-control is not a static state. We all mess up from time to time. We skip a workout. We hit the snooze button. We lose our temper. We overindulge food or drink. To err, as the Alexander Pope poem reminds us, is human.
But while it is our nature to err on occasion, it is also within us to correct the course when we do.
We talk about the importance of showing up again on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Self-control is essential for maintaining balance in life.
- Recognizing when we are off track is crucial for improvement.
- Habitual recurrence to harmony increases mastery over self-control.
- It's natural to err, but we must correct our course quickly.
- Journaling helps in assessing our daily actions and behaviors.
- We should not let setbacks become the new normal.
- Discipline is required to get back on track after falling off.
- Recommitting to positive habits is a sign of strength.
- Philosophy should be practiced daily for it to be effective.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“The responsibility is all yours; no one can stop you from being honest or straightforward.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
A screenshot from a 2009 educational video posted to YouTube by Stephen Morris has become a popular meme showcasing how the ‘Domino Effect’ works. In the meme, users label the first tiny domino with some insignificant event like “skipping class today” and then the last, large domino, with a life changing event such as “becoming homeless.” It’s a humorous way to illustrate how a small step in the wrong direction can have lasting impact on our lives. This is especially true for law enforcement…Take Eugenio Pedraza, for example.
We discuss a real life example of the domino effect on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- The responsibility for honesty lies with the individual.
- Small actions can lead to significant consequences.
- Integrity is crucial in law enforcement.
- One bad decision can snowball into a larger issue.
- Marcus Aurelius's wisdom is relevant today.
- Recognizing the domino effect can prevent disaster.
- Personal stories illustrate broader truths.
- Every day is a choice between honesty and dishonesty.
- Identifying small issues can prevent larger problems.
- Support organizations that help first responders.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“That’s why the philosophers warn us not to be satisfied with mere learning, but to add practice and then training. For as time passes we forget what we learned and end up doing the opposite, and hold opinions the opposite of what we should.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In 1980, Marcinko hand selected an elite group of Navy SEALs and other special operations personnel and instituted an intensive six month training regimen to bring the unit online. Over the next three years, under Marcinko's leadership, they developed into one of the most effective counterterrorism units in the world.
To create his unit, Marcinko emphasized the importance of training under conditions that closely resembled real-world situations. He detailed his tactics in his book Rogue Warrior, and you have no doubt heard some of his pearls of wisdom from your own instructors, such as “Train like you fight, fight like you train,” or “The more you sweat in training, the less you bleed in combat.”
We talk about the importance of training for life on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Training is essential to prevent forgetting what we've learned.
- Stoicism is a lived philosophy, not just theoretical.
- Continuous learning must be paired with practical application.
- You don't rise to the occasion; you sink to your training level.
- Training should resemble real-world situations for effectiveness.
- The importance of tracking progress in personal goals.
- Raising the level of training leads to better outcomes.
- Philosophical teachings can be applied to everyday challenges.
- Support organizations that help law enforcement and first responders.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can't control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.” - Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
It’s an old media trick on Capitol Hill. Every time a politician gets caught doing something controversial, reporters seek comment from every passing Senator or Representative and use the responses to fuel the next news cycle.
Politicians love to talk, so they always take the bait, and soon the story evolves from news about an incident into the he said-she said sniping that keeps partisan viewers tuned in. But, what if they didn’t take the bait? What if they simply said, “I don’t have an opinion,” and then got on with the business of serving their constituents? We’d probably have a more effective government and a healthier public discourse.
We talk about the importance of ignoring the noise and getting on with your job on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- You always own the option of having no opinion.
- Not everything requires your input or opinion.
- Focus on the things you control.
- Not everything deserves your attention.
- You can choose to separate out that which is necessary.
- Participation in gossip can lead to unhappiness.
- It's important to filter what you pay attention to.
- Ask yourself when you took the bait today.
- Life is wasted when we focus on the unimportant.
- Practice saying 'I don't have an opinion' often.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“[It is] like seeing roasted meat and other dishes in front of you and suddenly realizing: This is a dead fish. A dead bird. A dead pig. Or that this noble vintage [wine] is rotted grapes… perceptions like that... latching onto things and piercing through them, to see what they really are… to strip away the legend that encrusts them.” - Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
What is the world around you when it is stripped of the values that you place upon it?
Your badge? A piece of stamped metal.
Your authority? Words on a piece of paper.
Fancy meals, designer clothing and the custom motorcycle you’ve had your eye on? Their value is created by your perceptions, judgements, emotions and societal norms. It’s all illusory.
We talk about the importance of overcoming the superficial and illusory on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Support mental health initiatives for first responders.
- The value we assign to things is often illusory.
- Understanding the true nature of desires is crucial.
- Authority is merely words on paper.
- Transcending societal constructs leads to personal growth.
- Emotional attachments can cloud our perception of reality.
- Virtue should be prioritized over superficial values.
- Self-reflection can help clarify our true desires.
- Practicing Stoicism can enhance our daily lives.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him. “ – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
We have sovereignty over a few things in this life - our choices, our attitude, our actions and our reactions. But we are quick to give away that sovereignty the moment our fragile ego is threatened by a perceived slight or insult. In those moments, when we let the anger rise and boil over, we surrender our agency and empower our tormentor. That is a choice. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
We talk about personal sovereignty on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- We have sovereignty over our choices, attitude, actions, and reactions.
- Allowing others to control our emotional responses is a choice we make.
- We can choose to respond with empathy instead of anger.
- Interpersonal conflicts often arise from miscommunication.
- Transcending emotional reactions empowers us to take control of our lives.
- Recognizing who disturbs our peace helps us regain agency.
- Practicing Stoicism can aid in emotional regulation.
- Empowerment comes from not allowing others to dictate our emotions.
- Self-awareness is key to emotional sovereignty.
- Daily practice of these principles can lead to a more fulfilling life.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“In prosperity it is very easy to find a friend; but in adversity it is the most difficult of all things” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
At the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center, the cadre at the Physical Techniques Division love to meter out punishment for minor transgressions. Students learn, in short order, that there is no benefit in standing out from the crowd and classes quickly band together to up level everyone’s performance for the good of the whole. Through this shared adversity, true friendships are built on principles of trust, empathy, and mutual support.
We talk about how shared adversity can make us greater on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Loyalty is tested in times of adversity.
- Unity is crucial when facing challenges together.
- Shared experiences create deeper connections.
- Adversity reveals true character and friendships.
- Building bonds through hardship strengthens relationships.
- Prosperity can lead to superficial connections.
- Engaging in difficult tasks together fosters trust.
- Reflect on your ability to support friends in tough times.
- Seek out opportunities for shared adversity.
- Cultivate a circle of friends who uplift each other.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“When a youth was giving himself airs in the theater and saying, “I am wise for I have conversed with many wise men,” Epictetus said, “I too have conversed with many rich men, yet I am not rich.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
To Stoics, the wise man is the ideal. And though it is the ideal, it is exceedingly rare and only born out of constant practice and humility. It is vital to seek the ideal, striving every day to gain perfect consistency of our rational faculties so that we may see the world as it is and act in accordance with nature, yet we often give ourselves too much credit for how far we have advanced.
We use recent comments from a prominent podcast host to talk about the nature of wisdom on the podcast today!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- The Stoic ideal emphasizes a balance of wisdom and strength.
- Wisdom is gained through experience and practice, not just conversation.
- Ego can cloud judgment and impede personal growth.
- Controversial opinions often stem from ignorance and bias.
- True wisdom requires humility and a willingness to learn.
- Social media can amplify misguided opinions and hot takes.
- Engaging with diverse perspectives is crucial for understanding.
- The importance of supporting mental health initiatives for first responders.
- Personal experiences shape our views, but they should not define them.
Until Next Time…out of role!
E065: Do Something
“When men choose to do nothing, they also learn to do evil.” – Cato
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Cato inspired our founding fathers with his steadfast integrity and fealty to the Republic. Like them, he understood that in the face of wrongdoing and injustice, remaining passive or indifferent could lead individuals down a perilous path of moral decline.
Law enforcement needs more men like Cato. In today’s hyper-political policing environment, the profession is plagued by too many officers who are willing to ‘go along to get along’ to avoid scrutiny and gain acceptance from their peers and supervisors.
We talk about the importance of choosing Cato’s path on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Taking action is crucial in preventing moral decline and perpetuating evil.
- Remaining passive or indifferent in the face of wrongdoing is a choice to allow evil to happen.
- In the law enforcement community, there is a need for individuals to stand against evil and not prioritize their own careers.
- Reflect on your own actions and make a commitment to do the right thing.
Until Next Time…out of role!
E064: Dust to Dust
“Alexander the Great and his mule driver both died and the same thing happened to both. “ – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Built during the Fourth Dynasty of the Old Kingdom period, around 2580–2560 BC, the Great Pyramid was commissioned by Pharaoh Khufu as a tomb, intended to house his mummified body and treasures for the afterlife. Historians estimate that the project took at least 20 years to complete and required the labor of some 20,000 full time workers supplemented by as many as 100,000 seasonal workers.
It is ironic then, that despite commissioning the decades long construction of a building that stood for 39 centuries as the earth’s tallest manmade structure, all but a few fragmentary details of Khufu’s reign, as well as his mummified remains, have been lost to history.
We talk about leaving a legacy that endures on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Support organizations that provide therapy services and mental health initiatives for law enforcement and veterans.
- Reflect on the perspective of mortality and the fleeting nature of life.
- Consider the legacy you will leave behind and the impact you have on others.
- Focus on living a virtuous life and building something that truly matters.
Until Next Time…out of role!
E063: Friction is Essential
“A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Picture a gemstone in its natural state. Raw, uncut, and hidden beneath layers of imperfection. Though full of potential brilliance, it remains obscured and unrealized. It is only through friction—the act of polishing—that its innate beauty becomes manifest.
We often think of friction as a bad thing, but we’ll talk about the benefits of friction on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Friction and adversity are essential for personal growth and character development.
- Engaging in voluntary adversity helps polish our character and prepares us for involuntary adversity.
- Friction is not an impediment but a catalyst for becoming a greater person.
- Our character shines through and allows us to navigate life's challenges with grace and dignity.
Until Next Time…out of role!
E062: Curb Your Desires
"Freedom is not procured by a full enjoyment of what is desired, but by controlling the desire." – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Our desires and attachments to external things are a significant source of our discontent and a potential obstacle to our freedom. Just ask Jonathan Trevino. In 2006, at the age of 22, Trevino, a Mission, Texas police officer, was placed in charge of a hybrid task force of Mission PD and Hidalgo County Sheriff’s Deputies called the Panama Unit.
Over the next few years, Trevino’s desires and attachments led to the unraveling of dozens of lives. We talk about the Panama Unit and the dangers of desire on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Controlling desires and attachments to external things is crucial for personal freedom and contentment.
- Losing track of self-discipline and self-control can lead to vulnerability and downfall.
- Recognizing that happiness and fulfillment do not depend on external possessions or circumstances is empowering.
- Taking an inventory of desires and practicing self-control can help avoid negative consequences.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Discipline yourself, and others won’t need to.” – John Wooden
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In other words, we get a whole lot luckier when we are consistently prepared. And that takes discipline.
Want to be luckier? Be more disciplined. We talk about luck and discipline on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Self-discipline and preparation are essential for achieving success.
- Luck is less important when we are consistently prepared.
- Asking, caring, and taking action can help prevent suicide.
- Supporting organizations like the Overwatch Collective can make a difference in the lives of first responders and veterans.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Shall any man hate me? That will be his affair. But I will be mild and benevolent toward every man, and ready to show even him his mistake, not reproachfully, nor yet as making a display of my endurance, but nobly and honestly.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
When faced with prejudice against our profession it can be easy to get defensive. After all, you didn’t do anything deserving of the enmity. But does that defensiveness win any hearts and minds? No. Marcus Aurelius invites us to, instead, consider the transformative potential of responding to hate with love and benevolence.
We talk about how to rise above hatred on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Responding to hate and criticism with love and benevolence can elevate one's character and profession.
- Showing empathy to those who hate you can help prove them wrong through your actions.
- Law enforcement professionals should prioritize their mental health and seek support from organizations like the Overwatch Collective.
- September is Suicide Awareness Prevention Month, and it's important to be aware of the mental health challenges faced by first responders.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Well-being is realized by small steps, but is truly no small thing.” – Zeno
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, is known for his work on habits, decision-making, and continuous improvement. In his writing he emphasizes the importance of small, incremental changes as the key to achieving significant and lasting progress in life, and advocates for the concept of continuous improvement as a way to make consistent and sustainable advancements.
We talk about the importance of sweating the small stuff on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Well-being is realized by small steps, but is truly no small thing.
- Small incremental changes and habits lead to significant and lasting progress.
- Celebrate small wins and learn from setbacks.
- Focus on the journey and continuous improvement rather than the end result.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
A vision board is usually a collage of images that represent goals and dreams. It can include cut-out pictures from magazines and words that help inspire you to manifest your dreams and get where you want to go. The primary goal of the board is to help us gain self-awareness and self-reflection on what is important to us, and many entrepreneurs and business mentors swear by the concept as a means to inspiring growth.
On the job, you may use a tactical plan to identify the target of an operation and plan for the deployment of people and assets. Like a vision board, a tactical plan helps you gain perspective and operational awareness so that you can execute the mission effectively. The tools are very different but the concept is the same visualize and execute.
We talk about the importance of laying out your vision on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Suicide prevention is important, and everyone can take action by asking questions, caring, and reaching out to resources.
- A vision board can help individuals gain self-awareness and inspire growth by visualizing their goals and dreams.
- Tactical planning, like a vision board, can help gain perspective and execute missions effectively.
- It's not enough to contemplate or speak about the person you aspire to be; you must take concrete steps to manifest your aspirations.
- Personal accountability and self-directed change are essential in shaping your own life.
- Kristofor Healey's book, 'Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man,' explores the concept of vision and tactical planning in more detail.
Until Next Time…out of role!
Things stand outside of us, themselves by themselves, neither knowing anything of themselves nor expressing any judgment.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The universe around us possesses no consciousness, nor does it pass judgments. It is fundamentally neutral and indifferent to our presence. It doesn't act with any particular intention or motive, whether to benefit or to harm us. Rather, it is our judgments and reactions to the world around us that assign value, meaning and emotional weight to events.
We talk about how to embrace indifference on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- The universe is neutral and indifferent, and it does not care about us.
- Our judgments and reactions assign meaning and value to events.
- Avoid assigning motives to the world and focus on our own actions, reactions, attitudes, and efforts.
- A victim mindset can handicap productivity and ability.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“He who laughs at himself never runs out of things to laugh at.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
So much is outside of our control both on the job and off, but one thing that is in our control is the ability to see the humor in the absurdity of it all. Through the lens of laughter we gain perspective and solace in the recognition that life is often as absurd as it is beautiful, and as unpredictable as it is profound.
We talk about how laughter can build resilience on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Humor and laughter can serve as coping mechanisms for law enforcement officers in a chaotic and high-stress environment.
- Finding lightness and joy amidst the darkness and vulnerability of the job is important for maintaining resilience.
- Reflecting on where we may be taking ourselves too seriously in our personal lives and injecting humor and lightness can be beneficial.
- Stoicism can provide a helpful perspective in navigating political issues.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“We advise a man to regard his friends as highly as himself, to reflect that an enemy may become a friend, to stimulate love in the friend, and to check hatred in the enemy.” — Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
A Stoic approach to relationships emphasizes the importance of cultivating virtue, fostering goodwill, and maintaining a sense of equanimity and reason in interactions with others while cautioning us against the dangers of hatred.
Seneca, like his first century contemporary, Jesus, regularly spoke on the corrosive nature of hatred, noting how it is often as destructive to the hater as it is to the hated. Better, he reasoned, to forgive those that have harmed you.
We talk about the corrosive danger of hatred on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Hatred is deeply corrosive and destructive to one's own well-being.
- Cultivating virtue and maintaining equanimity in relationships is essential.
- Forgiveness and letting go of grudges are crucial for personal growth and inner peace.
- The pursuit of revenge rarely brings any good and often harms one's own psyche.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“A man with white hair and wrinkles hasn’t lived long – he has just existed long” - Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The Stoics believed that time is our most valuable resource, and it is the only thing that we can never get back. Therefore, we must seek to constantly develop ourselves in the time that we have.
In Atomic Habits, James Clear tells the story of the British cycling team who took this theory to the extreme with impressive results when they hired Dave Brailsford as their performance director in 2003. At the time of Brailsford’s hiring, British cyclists had won just one gold medal at the Olympic Games since 1908, and no British cyclist had ever won the Tour de France.
On today’s podcast, we talk about how Brailsford created success in a fraction of the time by focusing on marginal gains!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Time is our most valuable resource and cannot be renewed.
- The British cycling team achieved great success by making small improvements in every aspect of their training and performance.
- We should focus on getting 1% better each day and maximizing the time we have.
- By making the most of our time, we can live a fulfilling and meaningful life.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“To improve is to change. To be perfect is to have changed often.” – Winston Churchill
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Improvement demands the courage to embrace transformation—to shed old habits, reevaluate strategies, and confront the unknown. It is the recognition that perfection is not a static state but a fluid evolution that transcends complacency.
Instead of envisioning perfection as an unattainable ideal, we should see it as a continuous journey and an expression of our willingness to adapt, learn, and evolve—often.
We talk about how to embrace transformative change on today’s podcast!
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If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Embrace change and continuous improvement to achieve growth and success.
- Recognize mistakes as stepping stones to greater success.
- Develop resilience in the face of adversity.
- See obstacles as opportunities for growth and self-improvement.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“The first thing a pretender to philosophy must do is get rid of their presuppositions; a person is not going to undertake to learn anything that they think they already know.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Presuppositions are the ideas, biases, and assumptions that we hold about the world based on our past experiences, beliefs, and cultural influences. They shape our perceptions of reality and influence how we interpret new information and experiences. However, clinging too tightly to these presuppositions can hinder our ability to truly learn and grow.
We talk about how Marine Corps leadership principles and Marcus Aurelius put an emphasis on seeking self-improvement through knowledge transfer on today’s podcast!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Get rid of presuppositions and be open to learning and growth.
- Leaders who know themselves and seek improvement are better equipped to make informed decisions and build authentic relationships.
- Recognize when someone's knowledge exceeds your own and be humble enough to learn from them.
- Intellectual humility allows for self-improvement and leads to greater respect as a leader.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“It’s unfortunate that this has happened. No. It’s fortunate that this has happened and I’ve remained unharmed by it—not shattered by the present or frightened of the future. It could have happened to anyone. But not everyone could have remained unharmed by it.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The Stoics believed that events themselves are neutral, and it is our responses and attitudes that shape their impact on our lives. Yes, there are unfortunate events that are inherently difficult and challenging, but we must never get trapped in a victimhood mindset over things beyond our control.
We talk about flipping the script on your obstacles on today’s podcast!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Adversity is inevitable, but our reactions and attitudes towards it shape its impact on our lives.
- Detaching our well-being from external circumstances allows us to navigate ups and downs with grace.
- Adversity can be seen as an opportunity for personal development and resilience.
- Reflecting on past unfortunate events can help us find strength and apply lessons to the future.
Until Next Time…out of role!
"No man is free who is not master of himself." – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Part of what makes Stoicism so fascinating is that its early adherents were representative of the extremes of both Greek and Roman society. Some, like Cato, Zeno of Citium, Helvidius Priscus and Seneca were wealthy merchants, Senators, playwrights and civic leaders. One, Marcus Aurelius, was the most powerful man on earth, rising to the position of Emperor of Rome. But on the other hand, many came from more humble origins. Cleanthes was a simple laborer, Chrysippus a runner, and Epictetus a slave. The varied lives of the progenitors of the philosophy show us that regardless of one’s station in life, some things are universally true.
When Epictetus said, "No man is free who is not master of himself," he conveyed a fundamental principle of Stoic philosophy that transcends class and caste, namely that inner freedom and self-mastery are the true source of liberty.
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Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- True freedom and inner peace come from mastering oneself.
- Self-mastery is not dependent on external circumstances.
- The Stoic philosophy transcends social strata and applies to everyone.
- Focus on what is within your control and practice the cardinal virtues.
- Reflect on your journey of self-mastery and strive for progress, not perfection.
- Support the podcast by purchasing the book, subscribing to the Substack channel, and sharing the content.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“The heart is great which shows moderation in the midst of prosperity.“ – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
How many of us have had a desire to do something audacious to change our lives, but convinced ourselves to quit out of fear of being judged? The new career path, the weight loss journey, the new hobby. We will abandon it all at the first hint of imagined whispers and disapproval from our friends, family or colleagues. But why?Because we allow our views of things to disturb us.
We talk about how Olympic sprinters keep their focus on the finish line and stay in their lane on today’s podcast!
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Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Do not allow the judgment of others to disturb you
- Prioritize self-awareness and personal accountability
- Focus on mastering your own mind and attitude
- Disregard the fear of judgment and stay focused on your goals
Until Next Time…out of role!
“The best answer to anger is silence.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The term HALT in Alcoholics Anonymous is a reference to the most common triggers for relapse - hunger, anger, loneliness and tiredness. The mnemonic device helps remind individuals in recovery to manage their emotional and physical states, as these can influence their vulnerability to relapse.
Anger can be the hardest of these triggers to overcome, and while there are times when anger is an absolutely appropriate response to a provocation, it can also lead to impulsive and destructive behavior that causes harm to our reputations and relationships. Silence, on the other hand, can have the opposite effect.
We talk about the antidote to anger on today’s podcast!
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Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Silence can be a powerful tool in managing anger and diffusing conflicts.
- Being aware of triggers for anger, such as hunger, anger, loneliness, and tiredness, can help in managing emotional and physical states.
- Choosing silence in moments of anger allows for calmness and clarity to emerge, enabling a wise and measured response.
- Practicing stoicism does not mean suppressing emotions, but rather harnessing them and choosing how to respond.
- Writing down triggers for anger can increase awareness and help in gaining control in the moment between trigger and reaction.
Until Next Time…out of role!
E047: Go Out and Get It
“God laid down this law, saying: if you want some good, get it from yourself.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
By the time he became a key figure in the American Revolution and played an instrumental role in drafting the Declaration of Independence and the United States Constitution Benjamin Franklin was already known worldwide as an author, satirist, scientist, publisher, inventor and statesman.
Franklin accomplished so much in his life because of his deep commitment to self-improvement.
We talk about Franklin’s self-discipline on today’s podcast!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Circumstances are beyond our control, so if we want something good, we have to create it internally.
- Consistency of purpose and effort over time can overcome humble beginnings.
- Knowing what we want from ourselves is crucial for personal growth and success.
- Taking action and practicing virtues daily are key to living a fulfilling life.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Don't explain your philosophy. Embody it.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The Stoics believed that philosophy was not merely an intellectual exercise or a set of abstract ideas but a practical guide for living a virtuous and meaningful life. It was not enough to engage in theoretical discussions or provide elaborate explanations of one's philosophical beliefs to a roomful of students. Instead, they encouraged individuals to embody their philosophy by integrating its principles into their everyday actions, behaviors, and attitudes.
Actions, as the saying goes, speak louder than words.
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Philosophy should be put into practice through actions, behaviors, and attitudes.
- Merely explaining one's philosophy without living it is superficial.
- Ask yourself if you are truly living and embodying your philosophy.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“The heart is great which shows moderation in the midst of prosperity.“ – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The humility shown by leaders like Calvin Coolidge and Marcus Aurelius is woefully absent in a modern world where politicians campaign on doing good, but, once in office, become far more interested in doing well. So too in the ranks of law enforcement.
To be a leader worth following, one must constantly ask themselves while ascending the career ladder, ‘Do I want this position to serve others or do I want this position to serve myself?’
We talk about what humble leadership looks like on today’s podcast!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Moderation in the midst of prosperity is a virtue emphasized by Stoic philosophy.
- Leaders like Seneca and Calvin Coolidge demonstrated humility and a focus on serving others.
- Modern politics and law enforcement often lack humility and prioritize personal gain.
- Aspiring leaders should constantly question their motivations and strive to serve others.
- Stoicism is a philosophy that must be practiced through actions, not just words.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth. – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In September 2021, images and videos circulated showing Border Patrol Agents on horseback confronting illegal immigrants from Haiti on the banks of the Rio Grande River outside of Del Rio, Texas. As a rush of Haitians attempted to illegally enter the United States, the agents worked to manage the crowd and push them back, using their long leather reins to control their mounts.
Unfortunately, still photographs of the incident were characterized by media organizations and the White House as showing the agents “whipping” or “strapping” people. It didn’t matter that video proved that characterization was an outright lie, the narrative, once established, drowned out the truth. And when the investigation into the agents' conduct eventually cleared them of any wrongdoing, there were no apologies from the smear merchants who had long since moved on.
This incident is a good reminder that we work in a dynamic environment where deceptively edited images and videos can create an anti-police fervor in the blink of an eye. And while we cannot control the actions of dishonest brokers who profit from spinning up societal outrage, we can take a lesson from how they operate: If they frame police conduct this way, what else are they manipulating?
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If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is perspective, not the truth.
- Media can manipulate incidents and create biased narratives that lead to societal outrage.
- It is important to engage in critical thinking, challenge our beliefs, and be fact-finders.
- We must be skeptical and curious, and not accept everything at face value.
- Support the podcast by purchasing the book, subscribing to the newsletter, or liking, sharing, and subscribing to the podcast.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“With the exception of wisdom, I’m inclined to believe that the immortal gods have given nothing better to humanity than friendship.” — Cicero
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In 2006, country music star Tracy Lawrence released the single “Find Out Who Your Friends Are” that featured the lyrics “Everybody wants to slap your back, wants to shake your hand when you're up on top of that mountain. But let one of those rocks give way, then you slide back down, look up and see who's around then.”
A few thousand years before Lawrence topped the charts, Roman philosopher, politician, lawyer and orator Marcus Tullius Cicero wrote his own treatises covering a wide range of subjects, including loyalty, fidelity and friendship. We dig into the importance of finding out who your friends are in today’s episode!
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Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways
- Your Friends can affect you or infect you
- Separate yourself from anyone who doesn’t help you improve.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl endured unimaginable loss at the hands of the Nazis, but rather than become consumed by despair or resignation to a hopeless situation beyond his control, Frankl endeavored to cultivate resilience in himself, taking responsibility of his own emotional and mental well being and seeking meaning in every moment of living.
We talk about Frankl and his incredible book Man’s Search for Meaning on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways:
- Resilience is crucial for overcoming challenges and adapting to change.
- Supporting mental health initiatives, such as those provided by the Overwatch Collective, is important for building resilience in the community.
- Developing resilience involves focusing on physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being.
- Viktor Frankl's book, 'Man's Search for Meaning,' offers valuable insights and strategies for cultivating resilience.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Someone bathes in haste; don’t say he bathes badly, but in haste. Someone drinks a lot of wine; don’t say he drinks badly, but a lot. Until you know their reasons, how do you know that their actions are vicious? This will save you from perceiving one thing clearly, but then assenting to something different.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In a world quick to categorize, cancel and condemn, the Stoic path invites us to inquire and seek the reasons behind actions before passing judgment. By adopting this mindset, we shield ourselves from the trap of seeing one thing clearly but then assenting to something different. We talk about it on the podcast today!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways
- Being disciplined in how we approach life and order our lives is a key theme in stoicism.
- Understanding the external from the internal and focusing on what we control can help simplify our lives.
- The Overwatch Collective is a nonprofit organization that supports mental health initiatives for first responders and their families.
- It is important to inquire and seek the reasons behind actions before passing judgment and making assumptions.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Occupy thyself with few things, says the philosopher, if thou wouldst be tranquil.“ – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
It is only by decluttering our minds and lives, that we can create space for clarity, purpose, and serenity to flourish. This requires discipline, self-awareness, and a willingness to embrace simplicity in our thoughts, actions, and possessions. We talk about it on the podcast today!
Resources + Links:
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways
- Occupying ourselves with fewer things can lead to greater tranquility.
- Simplifying our lives and detaching from unnecessary distractions can bring greater contentment and fulfillment.
- We have control over our thoughts, actions, reactions, attitude, and effort.
- Identifying and eliminating distractions and temptations can help us achieve tranquility.
- Supporting the podcast through Substack or purchasing the book 'In Valor 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders' can be ways to promote tranquility in our lives.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“To bear trials with a calm mind robs misfortune of its strength and burden.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Facing trials is an inevitable part of the human experience. Avoiding them is not an option, and attempting to do so only leads to further suffering. Worse yet, emotional responses to adversity often intensify the experience.
So what do we do instead? We talk about it on the podcast today!
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Sponsor Discounts:
Friend of the show Dan Hickman (@danieljasonhickman on Instagram) hosts the Competitive Edge Podcast and is a father, entrepreneur and hybrid athlete. As a MyZone Ambassador, Dan is offering The Stoic Responder Podcast listeners $60 off of a MyZone heart rate monitor using discount code TMZUS001-51445-60.
If you aren’t using a heart rate monitor to train, you’re missing out on critical data. Through accurate heart rate tracking and real-time feedback, all effort counts.
Takeaways
- Maintaining a calm mind is crucial in dealing with trials and challenges.
- Controlling our thoughts and emotions is essential for achieving success.
- Social media fame can quickly turn into a platform for controversy and backlash.
- Reacting with fear, anger, or despair only adds to the burden of difficult situations.
- By bearing trials with a calm mind, we can rob misfortune of its strength and burden.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Stop allowing your mind to be a slave, to be jerked about by selfish impulses, to kick against fate and the present, and to mistrust the future." – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Over time, stressors and the lack of relief can increase the chances of police engaging in unhealthy behaviors, such as overuse of alcohol. This overuse can lead to dependency or full blown substance abuse disorders and the associated behavioral, financial and legal issues that often come with them. Some studies suggest that as many as 30 percent of law enforcement officers have a substance abuse disorder.
But we don’t have to be slaves to the stressors we experience. We discuss stoic tips to stop bad behaviors before they start on the podcast today.
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Takeaways
- Law enforcement careers come with unique stressors and trauma that can lead to negative coping mechanisms.
- Identifying and challenging negative thoughts can help in managing stress and promoting healthier behaviors.
- Keeping a thought record and replacing negative thoughts with more balanced and realistic ones can lead to positive changes in mindset.
- Supporting the podcast through purchasing the book and subscribing to the Stoic Responder podcast on Substack helps in continuing to provide valuable content.
Until Next Time…out of role!
E037: The Power of Proximity
“The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
What we surround ourselves with is deeply influential to that which we become. Our associations matter more than we care to admit. It is the power of proximity. And this is especially true in law enforcement. We talk about the power of proximity on today’s podcast!
Resources + Links:
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Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
- The people we surround ourselves with have a significant impact on our lives and can either uplift us or drag us down.
- Choosing friends and colleagues who have integrity and add value to our lives is crucial.
- Proximity affects various aspects of life, including law enforcement and the fitness industry.
- Integrity is a habit that requires consistent choices and is easier to maintain when surrounded by people of integrity.
- Self-reflection on the influence of our peer group is important, and if necessary, it may be time to find a new group of friends or colleagues.
- Supporting mental health among first responders is essential, and organizations like the Overwatch Collective provide valuable resources and support.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Either teach them better if it be in thy power; or if it be not, remember that for this use, to bear with them patiently, was mildness and goodness granted unto thee.“ – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The concept of patience as a virtue is deeply rooted in religious and philosophical traditions. In Christianity, patience is considered one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit and is extolled as a virtue in the New Testament. The Stoic philosophers, too, emphasized the importance of patience in enduring life's hardships with equanimity and resilience. How can we implement this virtue in our modern lives?
Resources + Links:
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
- Patience is a virtue that is important in various aspects of life, including parenting, law enforcement, and personal resilience.
- We have a choice in how we engage with others, either by teaching and uplifting them or by practicing patience and tolerance.
- Reflecting on moments of impatience can help us identify alternative ways to uplift and educate others.
Until Next Time…out of role!
E035: Seize What Flees
“Let us therefore set out whole-heartedly, leaving aside our many distractions and exert ourselves in this single purpose before we realize too late the swift and unstoppable flight of time and are left behind. As each day arises, welcome it as the very best day of all, and make it your own possession. We must seize what flees.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The sand will run out on each of our hour glasses. What can we do to seize what flees? We talk about it on the podcast today.
Resources + Links:
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Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
- Courage is about seizing the fleeting moments of life and making each day count.
- The quote from Seneca reminds us to welcome each day as the best day and make it our own possession.
- Alexander Hamilton's life and work exemplify the philosophy of seizing what flees.
- We must take action now and not wait for the perfect moment.
- Support the Overwatch Collective and the podcast by purchasing their gear or attending their annual fundraiser.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In this special OUT OF ROLE episode, we discuss a recurrance of allegations of sexual assault and gross misconduct in the online health and fitness industry and provide guidance and resources for women who may have experienced such incidents while explaining the various legal options available to them.
If you believe you have been a victim of sexual assault, sex trafficking or sexploitation, the following resources are available to you:
Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN): RAINN offers prevention programs and operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673) and a confidential online chat. The RAINN website can be located at www.rainn.org.
National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence: This 24-hour hotline for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, confidential service offers crisis intervention and support, message service and re-ferrals. National Domestic Violence hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) or the National Sexual Assault hotline Internet at (1-800-656-HOPE). www.ncdsv.org.
Polaris Project: Polaris project works directly with victims, host tip and crisis hotlines and offers solutions to victims of human trafficking. National Human Trafficking Hotline, 1 (888) 373-7888. www.polarisproject.org. TEXT “BE FREE” 233733
VictimConnect Resource Center: is a referral helpline where crime victims can learn about their rights and options confidentially and compassionately. A program of the National Center for Victims of Crime, it combines: a traditional telephone-based helpline: 855-4-VICTIM (855-484-2846), an innovative online chat: www.chat.victimsofcrime.org and a web-based information and service referrals: www.VictimConnect.org.
National Suicide Hotline Prevention Line: This a United States–based suicide prevention network of 161 crisis centers that provides a 24/7, toll-free hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. After dialing 1-800-273-TALK, the caller is routed to their nearest crisis center to receive immediate counseling and local mental health referrals.
And if you are a man who wants to help spread awareness and stop physical and sexual violence against women, please check out the following:
Men Can Stop Rape: Men Can Stop Rape (MCSR) is the leading national organization mobilizing boys and young men to prevent all forms of physical and sexual violence, especially violence against women. Contact Men Can Stop Rape by calling 202-265-6530 or log on at www.mcsr.org.
Takeaways
- The health and fitness industry, particularly the online coaching space, has seen a recent uptick in allegations of sexual assault and misconduct.
- It is important for individuals in this industry to know their legal options if they become victims of such crimes.
- Understanding the difference between criminal and civil cases can help victims make informed decisions about pursuing justice.
- Resources such as RAINN, National Sexual Assault Hotline, and Victim Connect Resource Center provide support and information for victims.
- Men can also play a role in preventing sexual violence by supporting organizations like Men Can Stop Rape.
“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
We cannot dictate or change the world around us to fit our desires or expectations. And trying to control these external factors only leads to frustration, anxiety, and discontentment. So what do we do? We talk about it on the podcast today.
Resources + Links:
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Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
- True happiness comes from understanding what is within our power to control and releasing the anxiety of trying to control the external.
- When faced with disappointments, we have the power to choose how we respond and use them as opportunities for growth and development.
- Falling in love with the process rather than the outcome can lead to a happier and more fulfilling life.
- Recognizing what is within our control and what is outside of it allows us to live with greater contentment and peace.
Until Next Time…out of role!
E033: Get Off The Treadmill
"Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body." – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
There is a psychological theory called the hedonic treadmill that describes the tendency of humans to return to a relatively stable level of happiness or satisfaction following temporary changes in life circumstances. In other words, we can turn the speed of our happiness up or down with our pursuits of pleasure, but in the end, we just keep running in place.
So, how do we do get off of this treadmill? By focusing on eudaimonic pursuits over hedonic ones.
Resources + Links:
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Takeaways
- The hedonic treadmill describes the tendency of humans to return to a relatively stable level of happiness or satisfaction following temporary changes in life circumstances.
- Eudaimonic happiness, which focuses on living a life of virtue and meaning, can provide a deeper and more enduring sense of fulfillment than hedonic happiness.
- Persisting through difficulty and resisting the allure of short-term gratification can lead to personal growth and a greater level of happiness.
- Expanding one's comfort zone by embracing challenges and hardships can catalyze a deeper level of happiness and satisfaction in life.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Reason goes for nothing when once passion has been admitted to the mind, and has by our own free will been given a certain authority.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
While anger may be a natural and unavoidable emotion, our response to it is still within our control. By cultivating the habit of delaying our reaction to anger, we can, instead, harness the power of patience and restraint. We talk about it today on the podcast.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
- Taking a timeout when feeling angry can help disrupt impulsive reactions and prevent saying or doing things we will regret.
- Delaying our reactions to anger allows for a more balanced perspective and fosters healthier relationships.
- Cultivating patience, restraint, and emotional control can lead to greater virtue and peace of mind.
- Lowering the temperature and rejecting things we do not control can help us navigate through challenging situations.
Until Next Time…out of role!
Given my background as a Special Agent I have been getting a lot of questions about the Trump shooting on Saturday and my opinion on security failures, the Secret Service response, staffing issues and what comes next. I brought my friend and classmate Jeff Fields on to discuss this incident and provide some insight from two former Special Agents who have worked with (and investigated) Secret Service.
The conversation discusses the Trump assassination attempt and the role of the Secret Service in protecting the President and other high-profile individuals. We dive into the different divisions within the Secret Service and their responsibilities. We analyze the incident and the potential lapses in security that allowed the gunman to get within 400 feet of the President. We highlight the coordination between the Secret Service and local law enforcement agencies and emphasize the extensive training and vetting process that Secret Service agents undergo. We also discuss the criticism and misconceptions surrounding the female agents involved in the incident and address the training and skills of female agents, the challenges of using certain holsters, and the importance of communication and coordination during high-stress situations. The conversation also explores the allocation of resources and the limitations faced by the Secret Service in terms of hiring and budget and highlights the complexity of presidential protection and the need for a comprehensive understanding of the operational challenges.
The conversation explores the issues and challenges within the Secret Service including recruitment and retention problems, resource allocation, communication failures, and the need for accountability. while highlighting the sacrifices and challenges faced by Secret Service agents, such as constant travel and missed family events.
Finally, we dig into the potential separation of criminal investigative responsibilities from the Secret Service and the impact of being absorbed into the Department of Homeland Security while laying out what we hope to see for changes and accountability going forward.
“Live not as though there were a thousand years ahead of you. Fate is at your elbow; make yourself good while life and power are still yours.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
First responders understand the unpredictability of life better than most. Every call reinforces that our circumstances can change in an instant. This knowledge can be a gift, if we choose to accept it.
Resources + Links:
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
- Life is fragile and unpredictable, and we should not take it for granted.
- First responders have a unique perspective on the fragility of life and should use that knowledge to live in the present and take action.
- Procrastination and complacency can prevent us from making the most of each moment.
- Reflecting on our actions and priorities can help us avoid procrastination and live with purpose.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“The more we value things outside our control, the less control we have.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In the Stoic framework, things within our control are often referred to as “internal” things. These include our thoughts, beliefs, values, attitudes, choices, and actions. They are aspects of our lives that we have the power to influence and direct according to our own will. The more we focus on them, the more control we have.
Resources + Links:
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Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
- The incident involving former President Trump at a rally in Pennsylvania is still under investigation, and there are ongoing discussions about the lapses in security.
- In the aftermath of such incidents, online arguments and debates often arise, but it is important to focus on what is within our control and live in accordance with virtue.
- Taking a break from social media and directing our energy towards things we can control can help maintain our equanimity and improve as public servants.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Let us meet with bravery whatever may befall us. Let us never feel a shudder at the thought of being wounded or of being made a prisoner, or of poverty or persecution.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Stoicism acknowledges that suffering is an inherent part of the human experience. Rather than shying away from or fearing these trials, Stoics embrace them as opportunities for personal growth and the development of inner strength. We dig into Stoic sacrifice on the podcast today!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
- Adversity is an inherent part of the human experience, and Stoicism teaches us to embrace it with bravery and use it as an opportunity for personal growth.
- Seneca's life exemplifies the Stoic principles of facing adversity and standing on principle, even in the face of powerful opposition.
- First responders must be prepared to meet challenges with bravery and stand firm on their principles, even if it means sacrificing their careers.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Withdraw into yourself, as far as you can. Associate with those who will make a better man of you. Welcome those whom you yourself can improve. The process is mutual; for men learn while they teach.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The role of a Field Training Officer is crucial in helping new officers transition from the academic and theoretical aspects of police training to the practical and real-world scenarios they will encounter on the job. Unfortunately, for many rookies the only real world scenarios they encountered with an FTO was where to get a uniform discount at lunch time and the best place to catch a cat nap on duty. Let’s talk about how we be better teachers while also learning.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
- Continuous learning and teaching are essential in the law enforcement and first responder professions.
- Seek out colleagues and friends who inspire and challenge you to become better.
- Build your own network of mentors and mentees.
- Never stop learning and teaching.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“There is no such thing as good or bad fortune for the individual; we live in common. And no one can live happily who has regard to himself alone and transforms everything into a question of his own utility; you must live for your neighbor, if you would live for yourself. ” — Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In 1955, the Los Angeles Police Department held a contest to identify a motto that would express the ideals that the LAPD was dedicated to. The winning entry was the motto, “To Protect and to Serve” submitted by Officer Joseph S. Dorobek. Many departments have since adopted the slogan for themselves because of how succinctly it describes the relationship between police and the societies that they watch over. So what do the Stoics have to say about how we should protect and serve?
Resources + Links:
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
- Living for your neighbor and serving the community is essential for a harmonious and interconnected society.
- First responders play a crucial role in protecting and serving their neighbors.
- Prioritizing personal wellness is important for first responders to effectively serve others.
Until Next Time…out of role!
"Enjoy present pleasures in such a way as not to injure future ones." – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Asking oneself a single filtering question like "Will it make the boat go faster?" involves considering the potential impact of each decision or action on the desired outcome. It requires a focus on efficiency, effectiveness, and eliminating distractions. It encourages us to stay disciplined, make sacrifices, and prioritize the actions in the present that have the greatest potential to contribute to our future success. We dig into it in today’s episode!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
- The concept of 'Will it make the boat go faster?' can be applied to various aspects of life to guide decision-making and prioritize actions that contribute to desired future outcomes.
- By considering the potential impact of each decision or action on the desired outcome, individuals can focus on efficiency, effectiveness, and eliminating distractions.
- Having a clear goal or purpose and using a single metric or question as a filter can help individuals make better choices and stay disciplined.
- Applying the 'Will it make the boat go faster?' principle requires considering the long-term consequences of present actions and avoiding instant gratification that may harm future prospects.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“And as long as nothing satisfies you, you yourself cannot satisfy others ” - Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
It has been said by many a firearms instructor that an empty gun is little more than a poorly designed impact weapon. That’s why we practice emergency reloads and immediate action drills - so that we can get back in the fight. But what happens when your personal magazine runs dry?
Resources + Links:
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Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
- Taking care of oneself is essential in order to effectively serve others.
- An empty gun is useless, just like an empty cup or a burned-out individual.
- Taking breaks and engaging in activities that fulfill and rejuvenate us is crucial for mental health.
- Assessing our own well-being and taking action to reload and recharge is necessary for maintaining integrity and positive relationships.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“If a man knows not which port he sails, no wind is favorable.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
As first responders, we all like to think that we are rooted in principles of integrity, honesty, and compassion, guiding us to act with kindness and empathy towards others. But like the sailor in Seneca’s quip, without a clear destination or purpose, we can easily become adrift, tossed about by the currents of circumstance and chance. And just as a ship requires a destination to steer towards, so too do we need a sense of purpose and direction to guide our actions and decisions.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
- Death is not something in the future but is happening right now.
- Living in constant fear of death prevents us from living fully.
- We should pursue our passions and dreams without hesitation or reservation.
- Confronting our mortality allows us to appreciate the preciousness of life.
- We should make a meaningful impact in our lives and the lives of others.
Until Next Time…out of role!
"The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit. The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are." – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
To keep an untroubled spirit is to cultivate emotional resilience and the ability to withstand life's trials without being overwhelmed by negative emotions like anger, fear, or despair. But to succeed in this endeavor we must first be rational and reality-based in our thinking.
Facing reality directly makes us more effective problem-solvers. By understanding the true nature of a situation, we can devise thoughtful and pragmatic solutions and approach our challenges with serenity and insight.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | www.kristoforhealey.com
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
- Cultivate emotional resilience to withstand life's trials without being overwhelmed by negative emotions.
- Be reality-based in your thinking and focus on facts first.
- Detach yourself from false beliefs and illusions.
- Ask yourself, 'What is true?' in every situation.
- Support organizations that are helping the law enforcement community.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Your mind will be like its habitual thoughts; for the soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Every celebrity guru will sell you some version of the same mantra: “With my patented, proprietary method, you can change your thoughts and, thereby, change your life!” But long before Ted Talks were en vogue the Stoics had developed their own concept for changing their thoughts and improving their lives. They called it the inner citadel.
Resources + Links:
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Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
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Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
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Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways:
- The inner citadel is a concept developed by the Stoics to maintain tranquility and resilience.
- Practicing self-awareness, self-discipline, and aligning with virtues helps in developing the inner citadel.
- Mentally rehearsing positive thoughts and reminding oneself of what is within their control is important.
- Asking oneself three questions - What do I stand for? What are my values? What is my purpose? - can help in focusing on what is important.
- Support the podcast and companies that support law enforcement.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“This is our big mistake: to think we look forward to death. Most of death is already gone. Whatever time has passed is owned by death.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
We are all born with a terminal condition called life. When we live in fear of our natural and unavoidable death, we are paralyzed and prevented from living what remains of our life to its fullest potential.
It is only by confronting our mortality and accepting the inevitability of death that we can truly appreciate the preciousness and fleetingness of life. Rather than allowing fear to hold us back, we should seize each moment as an opportunity to make a meaningful impact, pursue our goals with determination, and to cultivate relationships and experiences that enrich our lives and the lives of others.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | LinkTree
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
- Death is not something in the future but is happening right now.
- Living in constant fear of death prevents us from living fully.
- We should pursue our passions and dreams without hesitation or reservation.
- Confronting our mortality allows us to appreciate the preciousness of life.
- We should make a meaningful impact in our lives and the lives of others.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“A weak mind must be constantly entertained and stimulated. A strong mind can occupy itself and, more important, be still and vigilant in moments that demand it.” – Ryan Holiday
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Panem et circenses is a Latin phrase that translates to "bread and circuses" in English. In ancient Rome, panem et circenses represented the political strategy employed by emperors and politicians to keep the population compliant. The government distributed free bread (panem) to citizens and organized lavish spectacles and entertainment (circenses), such as chariot races, gladiator fights, and theatrical performances, in grand arenas like the Colosseum. By providing basic necessities and diverting attention with extravagant shows, rulers aimed to prevent social unrest and maintain their power. Sound familiar?
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor | LinkTree
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on Substack | https://thestoicresponder.substack.com
Subscribe to The Stoic Responder on YouTube | The Stoic Responder
Buy your copy of In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, here!
Buy your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, here!
Book Kristofor for a speaking event, here!
Takeaways
- The media operates in a way that keeps people constantly entertained and stimulated, leading to distraction and complacency.
- Mindfulness practices such as breath work, meditation, and journaling can help individuals stay vigilant and focused.
- First responders need to be prepared and aware during times of social unrest and political events.
- Taking breaks from technology and focusing on self-care is important for maintaining mental well-being.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“It does not matter what you bear, but how you bear it.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Will Jimeno was a 33 year old rookie cop for the Port Authority Police Department on the morning of September 11, 2001. Shortly after American Airlines Flight 11 struck the North Tower, Jimeno and 19 of his colleagues boarded a commandeered bus and made their way towards the World Trade Center where they entered the mezzanine between the buildings. When the South Tower began to collapse minutes later, Jimeno, his colleague Dominick Pezzulo, and their sergeant, John McLoughlin were trapped in a freight elevator some 20 feet beneath the wreckage.
Jimeno and McLoughlin were two of only twenty survivors to emerge from the collapsed buildings. Their amazing story reminds us that even in times of unimaginable despair, it is within our power to control our mind, and bear the burden with resilience and courage. It reminds us that what defines our character is not the adversity we face, but, rather, the attitude with which we face it.
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Takeaways
- Supporting mental health services for first responders is crucial to their well-being.
- The 9/11 attacks had a profound impact on many first responders' lives and careers.
- The story of Will Jimeno and John McLaughlin demonstrates the power of resilience and mutual support in overcoming adversity.
- Controlling one's mind and bearing life's difficulties with resilience is key to personal growth and character development.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“In order to protect ourselves we must live like doctors and be continually treating ourselves with reason.”– Musonius Rufus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
One thing we learned during the pandemic is the difference between proactive and reactive care. We can take proactive steps to avoid infection or strengthen our immune system, but once infected, the treatment is reactive to the illness.
The Stoics viewed reason as proactive care for our mindset. Like a vitamin regimen or a workout schedule, we can take proactive steps to strengthen ourselves against infection.
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Takeaways
- Taking time away from our daily responsibilities can help us find creative energy and renewed purpose.
- Treating ourselves with reason is like taking proactive steps to protect our mindset.
- Self-examination, self-reflection, mindfulness, and a commitment to self-improvement are essential for living a more fulfilled and authentic life.
- Being open to learning and adapting our views and behaviors is crucial for personal growth.
- Treating ourselves with reason is a form of preventative medicine for our minds.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“The responsibility is all yours; no one can stop you from being honest or straightforward.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
A screenshot from a 2009 educational video posted to YouTube by Stephen Morris has become a popular meme showcasing how the ‘Domino Effect’ works. In the meme, users label the first tiny domino with some insignificant event like “skipping class today” and then the last, large domino, with a life changing event such as “becoming homeless.” It’s a humorous way to illustrate how a small step in the wrong direction can have lasting impact on our lives. This is especially true for law enforcement. We discuss a personal story about how this can go terribly wrong on today’s podcast.
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Takeaways
- One small decision can have significant consequences, especially in law enforcement.
- Being honest and straightforward is crucial to maintaining integrity and avoiding negative outcomes.
- Avoiding honesty and choosing to cover up mistakes can lead to a chain of lies and destructive actions.
- Taking responsibility for one's actions and being willing to admit mistakes can soften the blow of negative consequences.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Enter people’s minds, and you’ll find the judges you’re so afraid of — and how judiciously they judge themselves.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Imposter Syndrome is a psychological phenomenon characterized by persistent self-doubt and the fear of being exposed as a fraud, despite evidence of one's competence and accomplishments. Individuals experiencing this phenomenon often dismiss their achievements as luck, timing, or the result of deceiving others rather than acknowledging their own skills and qualifications.
At its core, Imposter Syndrome is a fear of being judged. But whose judgment, exactly, are we afraid of?
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Takeaways
- Imposter syndrome is characterized by persistent self-doubt and fear of being exposed as a fraud.
- The judgments we fear from others are often projections of their own insecurities and self-assessments.
- Use the fear of judgment as fuel for success and see others' success as a model rather than being jealous.
- Recognize the common human experience of seeking self-approval and free yourself from the tyranny of external opinions.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“One person likes tending to his farm, another to his horse; I like to daily monitor my self-improvement.” — Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
There are plenty of schools of thought on room clearing, but one universal truth is that thresholds are dangerous places, and how we approach them and negotiate them requires coordination and communication. That is why instructors encourage us to pause before crossing or entering a threshold. A quick pause, or ‘threshold check,’ allows us an opportunity to assess the situation before moving. It is, above all, an exercise in self-awareness. How can we apply this tactical concept to our personal lives? We discuss it on the podcast today.
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Takeaways
- Threshold checks are essential in both tactical situations and personal life to assess the situation and practice self-awareness.
- Pausing before crossing a threshold allows for better decision-making and reduces the risk of unnecessary conflict.
- Self-improvement requires self-assessment and identifying areas for growth.
- Practicing daily threshold checks can lead to personal growth and improvement.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Another person will not hurt you without your cooperation. You are hurt the moment you believe yourself to be.” — Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
For close to a decade there has been a movement by the academic set and their coddled Generation Z acolytes to claim that words are “literal violence” and that the debate of ideas, once a sacrosanct feature of American exceptionalism, is akin to placing lives in danger. We dig into the Stoic response to the “words are violence” crowd on today’s episode.
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Takeaways
- Words can't hurt you unless you allow them to. It is up to individuals to choose how they respond to words and not let them cause harm.
- The idea that words are literal violence is flawed and goes against the principles of free speech and debate.
- In a free and healthy society, no idea or issue should be above criticism or debate.
- Recognize that words alone cannot cause harm and practice resilience against hurtful words.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“Man is not disturbed by things but the views he takes of them.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
How many of us have had a desire to do something audacious to change our lives, but convinced ourselves to quit out of fear of being judged? The new career path, the weight loss journey, the new hobby. We will abandon it all at the first hint of imagined whispers and disapproval from our friends, family or colleagues. But why? Because we allow our views of things to disturb us. We talk about the solution to this problem on today’s podcast.
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Takeaways
- External judgment cannot disturb us unless we allow it to.
- Prioritize self-awareness and personal accountability to reclaim agency over your life.
- Focus on your own personal development and living with virtue.
- Ask yourself if you are disturbed by the judgment of others or your own reaction to it.
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“An angry man opens his mouth and shuts his eyes.” – Cato
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
As Cato notes, when we open our mouth impulsively, we often close our eyes to reason. And whether on the street or in the home, such blind rage leads to regrettable words and actions that can be like gasoline on a smoldering fire. Today we discuss the importance of opening our eyes before we open our mouths.
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Takeaways
- Verbal judo is a deescalation technique that emphasizes staying calm and professional in difficult situations.
- Impulsive and angry rhetoric can have negative consequences and should be avoided.
- Controlling emotions and words is especially important in law enforcement.
- Reflecting on past experiences with impulsive and angry rhetoric can help improve communication skills.
Until Next Time…out of role!
“If you yourself don't choose what thoughts and images you expose yourself to, someone else will, and their motives may not be the highest.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Social media algorithms aim to provide a personalized experience by showing users the most relevant and interesting content based on their past behavior, preferences, and interactions. The idea is to keep users engaged on the platform for longer periods of time. But the same algorithms that promotes your favorite sports team or hobbies can also send you down some dangerous rabbit holes. This isn’t a new phenomenon. Two millennia before social media existed, Epictetus identified the same dangers in the ‘human algorithm.’
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Takeaways
- Social media algorithms aim to provide a personalized experience based on past behavior, preferences, and interactions.
- Our personal human algorithm, the people and things we interact with, can also impact us and shape our thoughts and motives.
- It is important to be mindful of who and what we expose ourselves to, as they can have a significant influence on our lives.
- Reflecting on what we are feeding into our personal algorithm can help us make deliberate choices and create a healthier and more positive environment.
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"A well-governed appetite is a great part of liberty." - Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
It is a foundational principal of Stoicism that true freedom lies not in the absence of external constraints but in the mastery of oneself. This concept wasn’t limited to the Western world. In fact, the Toltecs, a Mesoamerican culture that dominated what is modern day Mexico 400 years before Columbus, had a similar philosophy.
We dig into it on today’s podcast….
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Takeaways
- True freedom lies in the mastery of ourselves, not in the absence of external constraints.
- Self-control is the antidote to the constraints that enslave us.
- Various cultures and philosophies, including Stoicism, the Toltecs, and the Japanese samurai, have emphasized the importance of self-control.
- Reflecting on what is enslaving us and practicing self-control can lead to true freedom and fulfillment.
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“No great thing is created suddenly.” – Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
We expect instant results, so we overestimate what we can do in a day, and underestimate what we can do in a year. But the journey to greatness is usually characterized by incremental progress, occasional setbacks, small victories, and countless hours of hard work and dedication. It is a journey fraught with challenges, and moments of doubt, yet it is also a journey filled with moments of triumph, growth, and self-discovery.
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Takeaways:
- True greatness is the product of sustained effort and unwavering commitment over time.
- Embrace the process of becoming great and fall in love with the pursuit, rather than expecting overnight success.
- Reflect on what could be accomplished with a year of dedication to the pursuit of greatness.
- Support the podcast by purchasing the new book, subscribing to the substack, and sharing the podcast with others.
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“It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it. Life is long enough, and a sufficiently generous amount has been given to us for the highest achievements if it were all well invested.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
In his classic essay On the Shortness of Life, Seneca explores the nature of time, the brevity of life, and the importance of living a purposeful and meaningful existence. His central thesis is that life is not actually short, but rather, squandered through frivolous pursuits, distractions, and preoccupations. On the podcast today we talk about making the most out of the time we have.
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Takeaways:
- Conducting a Time Audit: Investing Time Wisely
- The Value of Time: Prioritizing What Truly Matters
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“Assemble your life… action by action. And be satisfied if each one achieves its goal… No one can keep that from happening…Action by action.” — Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
On today’s podcast we use the example of the 2004 Boston Red Sox historic comeback in the ALCS from an 0-3 deficit to a seven game win streak to win their first World Series in 86 years as an example of how we can win in life and our careers by simply winning the present moment.
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Takeaways:
- Success is achieved through consistent and determined action, step by step.
- The 2004 Boston Red Sox's historic win serves as a powerful example of the impact of small actions over time.
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“If you live in harmony with nature you will never be poor; if you live according to what others think, you will never be rich.” – Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The Stoics also placed great emphasis on reason and considered it to be a fundamental aspect of our human nature. They believed that reason was the guiding principle of the universe and the key to living a virtuous and fulfilling life and that, as human beings, we possess the unique capacity for reason and rational thought.
As first responders, our ability to reason effectively is a key to career longevity and mental wellness. Reason is also a means to overcome irrational passions and emotional disturbances, and by cultivating it, we can gain control over our desires, fears, and other emotions and achieve a state of tranquility (apatheia) and inner equilibrium, even in the face of challenging circumstances.
On the podcast today we discuss reason through the lens of a common problem that we all share…an unreasonable concern about what others think about us…
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Takeaways:
- Reason is a critical skill for law enforcement officers, influencing their decision-making and mental wellness.
- Living in accordance with nature, as emphasized by the Stoics, involves aligning individual reason with a rational order that governs the universe.
- Success lies in focusing on internal control and not being overly concerned with external validation and societal expectations.
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In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The host shares the release of his new book, In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders, and explains its practical daily guide to using Stoic philosophy while emphasizing the book's relevance to first responders, its global distribution, and its role as preventative medicine for wellness in law enforcement.
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Takeaways:
- 'In Valor: 365 Stoic Meditations for First Responders' is a practical daily guide to using Stoic philosophy designed for first responders.
- The book is intended to serve as preventative medicine for wellness in law enforcement, providing tools for emotional control and regulation.
- Kristofor Healey emphasizes the relevance of Stoic philosophy to the daily lives and challenges faced by first responders.
- The book’s global distribution and availability in both print and Kindle formats make it accessible to a wide audience of first responders and law enforcement professionals.
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“Just that you do the right thing. The rest does not matter.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
Cicero believed that the ultimate goal of human life was to achieve happiness, but he defined happiness not merely as pleasure or hedonistic pursuits but rather as a state of moral and intellectual excellence that came from achieving summum bonum - “the highest good.”
In this episode we discuss what it means to aspire to the highest good.
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Takeaways:
- The highest good according to Stoicism is virtue, which is achieved through moral and intellectual excellence.
- Law enforcement officers and first responders should be guided by moral principles and act in accordance with reason.
- It is important to recalibrate one's personal compass towards the highest good and not get caught up in office politics or distractions.
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“Another useful point to bear in mind: What qualities has nature given us to counter that defect? As an antidote to unkindness it gave us kindness. And other qualities to balance other flaws.” – Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
We are all flawed to some degree. But nature has offered us a profound gift: the capacity to cultivate virtues that can counteract these defects.
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Takeaways:
- We are all flawed individuals, but we have the capacity to cultivate virtues that can counteract these flaws.
- Actively seeking to rectify our defects by cultivating opposing virtues is an ongoing process of self-improvement and inner growth.
- Writing down our greatest flaws and the corresponding virtues can lead us to personal growth and excellence.
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“Disgraceful: for the soul to give up when the body is still going strong.” - Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
The inspirational story of former NFL player Steve Gleason’s battle with ALS shows us what we can accomplish when we refuse to allow our soul to give up.
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Takeaways:
- Courage and resilience can help individuals face and overcome adversity.
- The story of Steve Gleason exemplifies the power of the human spirit in the face of debilitating diseases like ALS.
- We often give up too easily, allowing our souls to quit even when our bodies are still capable.
- Stoicism can provide a framework for managing challenges and pushing ourselves further.
- Supporting organizations like the Team Gleason Foundation can make a positive impact on the lives of others.
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“When a youth was giving himself airs in the theatre and saying, “I am wise for I have conversed with many wise men,” Epictetus said, “I too have conversed with many rich men, yet I am not rich.”
In This Episode, We Get Stoic About:
To Stoics, the wise man is the ideal. But though it is the ideal, it is exceedingly rare and only born out of constant practice and humility.
On today’s podcast we break down how constant practice and humility are essential for gaining wisdom and how ego can impede personal improvement and cloud one's perception of reality.
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Takeaways:
- Constant practice and humility are essential for gaining wisdom.
- Ego can impede personal improvement and cloud one's perception of reality.
- The Stoic Responder podcast aims to bring stoicism to the law enforcement community.
- Upcoming episodes will cover the cardinal virtues of wisdom, courage, temperance, and justice.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
In this episode, Kristofor shares his personal experience of becoming a full-time special needs dad to his daughter after their insurance provider denied their application for renewal of therapy services. He discusses the challenges and obstacles he faces in taking care of his daughter and explains how he is using this adversity as an opportunity to reevaluate and rebrand his podcast. The host reveals that he will be leaning more into topics related to law enforcement and stoicism, and plans to rebrand the podcast as The Stoic Responder Podcast.
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Takeaways:
- Facing adversity and obstacles head-on can lead to personal growth and new opportunities.
- Stoicism and the principles of resilience can be valuable tools for overcoming challenges in both personal and professional life.
- The law enforcement community can benefit from conversations and resources that address their unique experiences and challenges.
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In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
The conversation discusses the shooting of Dexter Reed in Chicago and the media reaction to it. The hosts analyze the body-worn camera footage and provide a factual assessment of the event. They highlight the importance of understanding the perspective of law enforcement officers and the challenges they face in high-risk situations. The conversation also addresses the media narrative that often focuses on controversial aspects of police shootings and overlooks the reasonableness of the officers' actions. The hosts emphasize the need to consider all the factors involved in a use-of-force incident and the limitations of body-worn camera footage. They also discuss the potential impact of media scrutiny on officers' decision-making and the negative consequences they may face even when their actions are justified. The conversation explores the complexities of police shootings and the challenges faced by law enforcement officers. It discusses the importance of considering the fact pattern and the totality of the circumstances in evaluating an officer's actions. The conversation also highlights the human element and the psychological impact on officers involved in shootings and addresses the media's role in shaping the narrative and the potential consequences for the officers involved. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the need for proactive policing and the potential outcomes of the case.
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Takeaways:
- Understanding the perspective of law enforcement officers is crucial when analyzing police shootings.
- The media often focuses on controversial aspects of police shootings and overlooks the reasonableness of officers' actions.
- Body-worn camera footage provides a limited perspective and does not capture the full environment and factors involved in a use-of-force incident.
- Officers may face negative consequences and second-guessing due to media scrutiny, even when their actions are justified. Consider the fact pattern and the totality of the circumstances in evaluating an officer's actions in a shooting incident.
- Recognize the psychological impact on officers involved in shootings and the need for support and understanding.
- Be aware of the media's role in shaping the narrative and the potential consequences for the officers involved.
- Understand the importance of proactive policing and addressing potential threats before they escalate.
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In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
In this episode, we discuss a police-involved shooting in Chicago and the media's role in creating a narrative around it. We provide insights from our experience in law enforcement and the media, explaining the use of force incidents and the governing laws. We emphasize the importance of understanding the Fourth Amendment and the reasonableness standard in evaluating use of force incidents, highlight the statistics and factors involved in police interactions and shootings and dig into the media's bias and agenda-driven reporting, using the example of the Michael Brown case in Ferguson, Jacob Blake case in Kenosha and the Dexter Reed case in Chicago.
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Takeaways:
- Understanding the Fourth Amendment and the reasonableness standard is crucial in evaluating use of force incidents.
- Statistics show that police interactions and use of force incidents are complex and vary based on factors such as location, criminal record, and environment.
- The media often pushes a narrative that focuses on race and creates a biased and incomplete portrayal of police shootings.
- The media's agenda-driven reporting can lead to public outrage, riots, and a fractured trust between law enforcement and communities.
- It is important to focus on facts and critically evaluate media coverage to gain a deeper understanding of police-involved shootings. The press often manipulates narratives to fit an oppressor versus oppressed framework
- They prioritize emotional storytelling over critical questioning and present a biased view of events
- The media focuses on race as the only issue that matters, even when it's not relevant
- People should stop consuming mainstream media and seek independent sources of news
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Luke Entrup, a men's coach and leadership coach, discusses his work coaching CEOs and senior leaders in high-growth companies. He also shares his passion for coaching men in relationships and helping boys become good men. Luke explains the importance of rites of passage and the impact of modern society on masculinity. He describes his father-son connection experience, which focuses on the transition from childhood to adolescence. Luke's philosophical foundation is rooted in the hero's journey, and he emphasizes the need for healthy masculinity and virtuous leadership. This conversation explores topics related to emotional regulation, recovering from relationships, fatherhood, and preparing the next generation of men.
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Takeaways:
- Coaching CEOs and senior leaders involves helping them scale their leadership, culture, and strategy.
- Rites of passage are crucial for boys to transition into healthy masculinity and become good men.
- Modern society's shift away from traditional gender roles has led to a lack of direction and isolation among men.
- Healthy masculinity is generative, life-giving, and focused on community.
- Boys need to be allowed to feel their full power and be taught how to harness it for good. Understanding and regulating emotions is crucial for personal growth and well-being.
- Recovering from relationships requires self-reflection and addressing personal shortcomings.
- Deciding whether to stay or leave a marriage should involve open communication and exploring all possibilities.
- Divorce can lead to personal growth and a deeper connection with children.
- Being present and actively involved in children's lives is essential for their emotional development.
- There are resources and programs available to support men in their personal growth and fatherhood journey.
- Preparing the next generation of men requires intentional effort and active participation.
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In this conversation, Kristofor and Lacy discuss the challenges they face as parents of a child with autism and severe physical disability. They explore the impact of autism on relationships, particularly the high divorce rate among parents of children with autism. They also discuss the difficulties they have encountered in finding suitable education options for their child. The conversation delves into their personal experiences and the resilience they have developed through enduring hardship. Kristofor and Lacy discuss various themes related to personal growth and success. They explore the concept of living in the comfort zone and the importance of embracing adversity. They also discuss their personal struggles with authority and middle-class mindset. The conversation delves into money mindset and the process of embodying success. They review their goals for the quarter and share their plans for the future, emphasizing the importance of focus and doing less better. They conclude by reflecting on the need to embrace change and become better equipped to navigate life's challenges.
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Takeaways:
- The divorce rate among parents of children with autism is high due to the stress and challenges associated with the diagnosis.
- Finding suitable education options for children with special needs can be a significant challenge, even in areas with large populations.
- Having prior experiences of overcoming adversity can provide a foundation for resilience in parenting children with special needs.
- Personal growth occurs outside of the comfort zone, and embracing discomfort is necessary for progress. Stepping out of the comfort zone is essential for personal growth and success.
- Recognize and address any issues with authority that may hinder personal and professional development.
- Challenge middle-class mindset and embrace a mindset of abundance and success.
- Work on money mindset and embody success to attract and maintain financial abundance.
- Voluntary adversity can prepare individuals to handle unexpected challenges.
- Regularly review and set goals to track progress and make necessary adjustments.
- Focus on doing less but doing it better to maximize productivity and success.
- Embrace change and uncertainty as opportunities for growth and learning.
- Continuously improve resilience and adaptability to navigate life's challenges.
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This episode explores the concept of generational trauma and how it can be broken. I share my personal experience of spending time with my father and realizing the impact of my father's conscious decision to break the cycle of generational trauma in our family. I discuss the biblical background of generational trauma and its effects on mental, emotional, and physical well-being and emphasize the importance of self-reflection, seeking support, educating oneself, practicing self-care, reframing the narrative, and giving oneself grace in breaking the cycle of generational trauma.
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Takeaways:
- Generational trauma can have long-lasting effects that are transmitted across generations.
- Self-reflection is key in identifying patterns of behavior and beliefs that may have been passed down through generational trauma.
- Seeking support from trusted individuals or professionals can provide perspective and help navigate generational trauma.
- Educating oneself about generational trauma and its impact can aid in understanding and breaking the cycle.
- Practicing self-care, setting healthy boundaries, and reframing the narrative are essential in breaking the cycle of generational trauma.
- Breaking the cycle of generational trauma takes time and requires giving oneself grace.
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In this episode, we discuss the difference between motion and action and the importance of focusing on action items that advance your main goals. We share personal experiences and insights on how to be more deliberate and protect your time, emphasize the value of setting specific goals, creating a tactical plan, and executing it. By eliminating motion activities and focusing on action, individuals can achieve more and live with purpose.
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Takeaways:
- Distinguish between motion and action in order to focus on the activities that truly advance your main goals.
- Set specific goals and create a tactical plan to achieve them.
- Protect your time and be deliberate in your actions.
- Say no or ask why when faced with motion activities that don't align with your main goals.
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Today on the podcast we talk about the four things that each of us controls and how remembering those four things is the key to approaching any situation with equanimity and a calm mind.
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In this episode, we share insights from our experience at the Houston Rodeo and remind listeners about the four things that they control: Attitude, Effort, Actions and Reactions.
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In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Background
- 03:24 The Five-Step Law Enforcement Interview Process
- 06:21 Building Rapport
- 09:46 Situational Awareness
- 13:42 Questioning Techniques
- 20:00 Summarizing the Conversation
- 25:04 Closing the Conversation
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In this episode, we share insights from our experience in law enforcement on how to make people feel seen, validated, and heard. We introduce the five-step law enforcement interview process and emphasize the importance of how we show up and present ourselves, as well as the significance of situational awareness and actively listening to others.
Takeaways
- The way we show up and present ourselves is crucial in making others feel seen, validated, and heard.
- Building rapport is essential for successful interactions and developing trust.
- Situational awareness helps us connect with others and find common ground.
- Asking open-ended questions and actively listening can elicit more information and create deeper connections.
- Summarizing the conversation and leaving a positive impression when closing the interaction is important.
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In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Background
- 01:38 Joining the Marine Corps
- 03:01 Not Deploying and Mixed Feelings
- 06:14 Connection and Brotherhood in the Marines
- 10:27 Opportunities and Experiences in the Marines
- 14:04 Transitioning to Document Storage Business
- 18:18 Advantages of Document Storage Business
- 22:40 Taking Over a Business and Succession Planning
- 42:40 Getting into Knife Making
- 46:31 Transitioning to Blacksmithing
- 48:00 Working as a Blacksmith
- 51:23 Starting a Full-Time Blacksmithing Business
- 56:27 Product Line and Future Plans
- 57:43 Selling and Custom Orders
- 01:04:26 Promoting Thacker Knives
- 01:05:07 Final Thoughts
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On the show today, Warren Thacker shares his journey from being a Marine to owning a document storage business and eventually becoming a knife maker. He discusses his experiences in the Marine Corps, the challenges of not deploying, and the strong bond among Marines. Warren also explains how he transitioned into the document storage business, highlighting the advantages of the industry and the opportunities it provided. He emphasizes the importance of succession planning and the potential for acquiring existing businesses from retiring owners. Finally, Warren delves into his passion for knife making and the resources he utilized to develop his skills and start his own business, Thacker Knives. He discusses the challenges and rewards of working as a blacksmith and the importance of networking and learning from experienced professionals. Warren also talks about his product line, including everyday carry knives and chef's knives, and his plans to expand into kitchen cutlery. He explains the process of custom orders and the value of in-person events for showcasing his work.
Takeaways
- The Marine Corps fosters a strong sense of camaraderie and connection among its members.
- Document storage businesses offer stability and recurring revenue, making them attractive options for entrepreneurs.
- Acquiring an existing business from a retiring owner can be a viable and less risky path to entrepreneurship.
- Exploring hobbies and passions can lead to unexpected opportunities for personal and professional growth. Transitioning to a new career or business requires careful planning and consideration of the market demand and personal skills.
- Networking and learning from experienced professionals in the field can provide valuable insights and opportunities.
- Having a diverse product line and adapting to customer preferences can help sustain and grow a small business.
- Building relationships with customers and providing personalized service can lead to repeat business and positive word-of-mouth.
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In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Personal Challenges
- 01:24 Description of Daughter's Autism Spectrum Disorder
- 03:11 Difficulties with Potty Training
- 04:15 ABA Therapy and Life Skills
- 05:13 Autism Spectrum Disorder and Individual Differences
- 06:06 Communication Methods for Non-Verbal Individuals
- 07:31 TV Show 'Love on the Spectrum'
- 08:55 Autism and Policing
- 10:22 Sensory Processing Disorder
- 12:21 Transitioning from ABA Therapy to School
- 13:49 Private Autism School and Challenges
- 15:45 Breaking the School Contract
- 17:08 Balancing Work and Caregiving
- 18:59 Parenting Choices and Sacrifices
- 21:56 Shoutout to Dads and Conclusion
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In this episode, Kristofor shares his personal challenges as a special needs parent and the difficulties of recording with a non-verbal child in the background. He describes his daughter's autism spectrum disorder and the unique challenges she faces, such as sensory seeking and communication limitations. Kristofor discusses the importance of ABA therapy and the life skills his daughter has learned through repetition and routine. He emphasizes the individual differences within the autism spectrum and highlights the TV show 'Love on the Spectrum' as a relatable portrayal. The episode also touches on autism and policing, sensory processing disorder, transitioning from therapy to school, and the challenges of finding the right educational setting for his daughter. He concludes by acknowledging the sacrifices and dedication of fathers in similar situations.
Takeaways
- Parenting a child with autism spectrum disorder can present unique challenges and require significant adjustments in daily life.
- ABA therapy can be instrumental in teaching life skills and addressing the specific needs of children on the autism spectrum.
- Autism is a spectrum disorder, and individuals with autism can have a wide range of symptoms and abilities.
- Communication devices, such as tablets with specialized software, can help non-verbal individuals with autism express their needs and emotions.
- Finding the right educational setting for a child with autism can be challenging, and parents may need to advocate for their child's specific needs.
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In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Career Background
- 03:19 Finding a Calling in Law Enforcement
- 08:10 Transitioning to a Larger Department
- 09:02 Attending the FBI National Academy
- 20:45 Challenges in Recruitment and Retention
- 25:26 Founding Blue Watch Foundation
- 30:20 Providing Resources for Law Enforcement
- 37:23 Events and Training by Blue Watch Foundation
- 43:04 Addressing Wellness and Success in Law Enforcement
- 46:54 Finding Blue Watch
- 48:22 Fundraising and Donating
- 49:20 Recommended Books
- 50:12 Taking Care of Mental Health
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On the show today, retired police chief Burke Swearingen shares his career journey from law enforcement to founding Blue Watch Foundation, a charitable organization dedicated to the professional, emotional, and spiritual development of police officers and their families. He discusses the challenges in recruitment and retention in law enforcement and emphasizes the importance of cultivating a calling rather than viewing it as just a job. Burke also highlights the need for resources and support for officers dealing with trauma, such as suicide and substance abuse. He shares his perspective on successful careers in law enforcement, focusing on personal well-being and maintaining a life outside of the profession. Burke discusses how to find Blue Watch on their website and social media platforms. He also mentions the resources available on their website and upcoming events.
Takeaways
- Blue Watch can be found on their website, Facebook, and LinkedIn.
- They have resources available on their website, including books that can be ordered for free.
- Fundraising and donations are important for Blue Watch's funding.
- Burke recommends two books for those in law enforcement: 'Winning in a Gunfight' and 'Suicide is Not an Option'.
- Taking care of mental health is crucial for law enforcement officers.
- Consider donating to Blue Watch to support their work in the community.
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In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Background
- 09:18 The Border Crisis and Record Numbers
- 12:53 The Real Threat at the Border
- 20:22 The Impact on Communities and Resources
- 28:46 The Intentional Policies of the Biden Administration
- 32:30 The Role of Media and Perception
- 36:10 The Stress Test on the System
- 38:34 Border Enforcement and Shutting Down the Border
- 39:52 Enforcing the Border after Law Enforcement Officer Deaths
- 41:20 Sanitization of Border Tours and Political Agendas
- 42:19 Conditions at Border Detention Facilities
- 43:13 Language and Terminology in Immigration Discourse
- 44:05 Credible Fear and Asylum Claims
- 46:18 Terror Watch List Apprehensions
- 48:32 Humanitarian Crisis and Border Enforcement
- 51:31 Political Motivations and Immigration Policies
- 53:01 Dangers of Crossing the Border and Border County Impacts
- 56:17 Impeachment of Alejandro Mayorkas
- 59:44 Anticipated Increase in Border Crossings
- 01:02:08 Impact of Unregulated Immigration on Communities
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In this conversation, Kris and Jeff discuss the current situation at the US-Mexico border and the challenges it presents. They provide insights based on their extensive experience in law enforcement and border-related crimes. The conversation covers topics such as the record numbers of illegal crossings, the impact on communities and resources, the intentional policies of the Biden administration, and the role of the media in shaping perceptions. They also highlight the strain on law enforcement resources and the need for effective enforcement and vetting processes.
The conversation delves into various aspects of border enforcement, the consequences of shutting down the border, the conditions at border detention facilities, the language used in immigration discourse, the credibility of asylum claims, the apprehension of individuals on the terror watch list, the humanitarian crisis at the border, the political motivations behind immigration policies, the dangers faced by those crossing the border, the impeachment of Alejandro Mayorkas, and the anticipated increase in border crossings as we approach the November election.
Takeaways
- The US-Mexico border is experiencing a crisis with record numbers of illegal crossings.
- The influx of people is overwhelming law enforcement resources and impacting communities along the border.
- The policies of the Biden administration have contributed to the current situation.
- The media plays a role in shaping perceptions and may not always provide an accurate representation of the border situation. Border enforcement can be reactive and the border can be shut down when necessary.
- Conditions at border detention facilities can be dire, with overcrowding and unsanitary conditions.
- The language used in immigration discourse can shape public perception and policy decisions.
- The credibility of asylum claims should be carefully evaluated to ensure the integrity of the system.
- The apprehension of individuals on the terror watch list highlights the potential security risks at the border.
- Unregulated immigration can have significant impacts on communities, including strain on resources and services.
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In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Background
- 06:28 Starting Blue Badge Coffee Company
- 08:23 Building a Brand and Supporting a Cause
- 13:16 Transitioning to the Coffee Industry
- 19:08 Challenges and Learning as an Entrepreneur
- 25:46 Target Market and Expansion Plans
- 31:58 Importance of Peer Support in Law Enforcement
- 38:26 The Need for Wellness and Peer Support Programs
- 40:17 Importance of Wellness Programs for Police
- 41:32 Being Proactive in Law Enforcement
- 42:24 The Impact of Reactive Policing
- 44:21 The Need for Peer Support in Law Enforcement
- 45:34 Supporting Law Enforcement Agencies
- 48:22 Blue Badge Coffee Company and its Mission
- 50:16 Premium Products and Supporting a Cause
- 56:34 The Importance of High-Quality Coffee
- 59:13 How to Get Involved and Support Blue Badge Coffee Company
- 01:00:33 Entrepreneurship and Personal Involvement
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Rick Lechleitner, founder of Blue Badge Coffee Company and active duty law enforcement officer joins us today to share his journey as an entrepreneur and the importance of peer support in law enforcement.
Rick discusses his background in business and the challenges he faced during the 2008 housing crisis. Rick explains how he started Blue Badge Coffee Company and the mission behind the brand and he emphasizes the need for a premium product and the importance of building a strong brand. Rick also highlights the challenges he faces as a one-man show and his plans for future growth and expansion.
In this conversation, Rick discusses the importance of wellness programs for police officers and the need for proactive measures to support their mental health. He highlights the impact of reactive policing and the role of peer support in maintaining wellness.
Rick’s business, Blue Badge Coffee Company, donates a portion of its sales to peer support and wellness programs for law enforcement. Blue Badge emphasizes the importance of high-quality, ethically sourced coffee and the premium products. Check them out at the links below…
Takeaways
- Entrepreneurship can be pursued alongside a full-time job and other responsibilities.
- Building a brand with a cause can help differentiate a business and attract customers.
- Peer support is crucial for the mental health and well-being of law enforcement officers.
- Law enforcement agencies should prioritize training and resources for peer support and wellness programs. Wellness programs are crucial for supporting the mental health of police officers and preventing issues such as suicide and burnout.
- Law enforcement agencies need to be proactive in addressing the mental health needs of their officers, rather than relying solely on reactive measures.
- Reactive policing, where law enforcement only responds to major incidents, can lead to a breakdown in community safety and an overwhelmed police force.
- Peer support is essential for law enforcement officers to have a safe space to discuss their experiences and seek help when needed.
- Supporting businesses like Blue Badge Coffee Company can contribute to the funding of peer support and wellness programs for law enforcement.
For more information on Blue Badge Coffee Company check them out online at:
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In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Personal Experience
- 03:18 Trends and Fads in the Fitness Industry
- 09:28 Discussion on 75 Hard Program
- 20:28 The Aggregation of Marginal Gains
- 30:54 Applying the Aggregation of Marginal Gains to Fitness Goals
- 41:19 Benefits of the Aggregation of Marginal Gains
- 43:14 Conclusion and Invitation to Men's Muster
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In this episode, we reflect on the trends and fads in the fitness industry and discuss the 75 Hard program and why it may not be suitable for everyone, especially those in their 30s and 40s with multiple commitments. We introduce the concept of the aggregation of marginal gains, which focuses on making small, sustainable improvements in various aspects of life. We provide practical examples of how to apply this concept to nutrition, exercise routines, sleep and recovery, consistency, lifestyle factors, and social support and emphasize the long-term benefits of the aggregation of marginal gains.
Takeaways
- The 75 Hard program may not be suitable for everyone, especially those with multiple commitments and responsibilities.
- The aggregation of marginal gains is a more sustainable approach to achieving long-term success in fitness goals.
- Making small, consistent improvements in various aspects of life, such as nutrition, exercise routines, sleep and recovery, and lifestyle factors, can lead to significant overall improvement.
- Seeking professional guidance and surrounding oneself with a supportive community can enhance motivation and accountability.
- The focus should be on continuous improvement and long-term sustainability rather than quick fixes and radical changes.
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In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Background
- 02:57 Mission and Services
- 05:21 Confidentiality and Funding
- 07:45 Dr. Arnell's Background and Journey
- 16:44 Mission to Heal Veterans and First Responders
- 17:39 NLP and EMDR
- 19:32 Difference in Approach
- 23:07 Trauma as an Injury
- 27:18 Different Trauma Experiences
- 30:39 The Name 22Zero
- 35:15 Confidentiality and Reporting
- 42:41 PTSI vs PTSD
- 46:34 Non-Clinical and Non-Invasive Approach
- 50:18 Healing the Whole Family
- 52:15 The Cost of Training and Retention
- 55:12 The Importance of Healing and Support
- 56:10 Addressing Trauma in Veterans and Law Enforcement
- 57:07 Increasing Studies and Funding
- 58:05 Finding Resources and Getting Involved
- 59:02 Contacting 22Zero
- 01:00:13 Testimonials and Impact
- 01:01:12 Future Studies and Collaboration
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On today’s episode, Dr. Pam Arnell discusses the mission and services of 22Zero, a nonprofit organization that provides trauma healing for veterans, first responders, and their families.
Dr. Arnell shares her personal journey and how she became the executive director of 22Zero. She explains the difference between post-traumatic stress injury (PTSI) and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), highlighting the belief that trauma is an injury that can heal.
The conversation explores the cost of training and retention in law enforcement agencies and the need for healing and support for first responders. It also discusses the importance of addressing trauma in veterans and law enforcement, increasing studies and funding, finding resources, and getting involved..
Takeaways
- 22Zero provides trauma healing services for veterans, first responders, and their families.
- Their approach is non-clinical, non-invasive, and focused on healing trauma as an injury.
- Confidentiality is a priority, and they do not report to the VA or employers.
- Healing the whole family is an important aspect of their mission. Training and retaining first responders can be costly, and the lack of support and healing can lead to high turnover rates.
- Healing and support are crucial for first responders to effectively serve their
For more information on 22Zero check them out online at:
www.22zero.org
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Background
- 06:28 Transition to Throttle and Thrive
- 11:45 Transition Point to Starting Throttle and Thrive
- 20:52 Challenges in Law Enforcement
- 25:08 Reluctance to Seek Help
- 31:07 Creating a Safe Space
- 35:48 Trauma and Addiction
- 42:10 The Dangers of Long-Term Medication Use
- 45:13 The Importance of Sleep
- 48:21 Treating the Problem, Not the Symptoms
- 52:28 Childhood Trauma and its Impact
- 56:05 Handling Withdrawal and Detoxification
- 58:31 Approaching Someone Struggling with Addiction
- 01:03:02 Spreading the Message and Seeking Support
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Co-host Jeff Fields (@soberfromsin) joins the show today for an OUT OF ROLE conversation with Shavonne Thompson, founder of Throttle & Thrive.
In this conversation Kris, Jeff and Shavonne discuss the challenges faced by law enforcement officers and the importance of mental health and addiction recovery in the field. Shavonne shares her personal journey of overcoming addiction and her motivation to start Throttle & Thrive. The conversation highlights the need for a safe space for law enforcement officers to seek help and the importance of addressing childhood trauma, vocational trauma, and addiction in their recovery process.
Shavonne shares her perspective on the importance of addressing the root causes of addiction and trauma in law enforcement professionals, highlights the dangers of long-term medication use and the benefits of holistic approaches to medical issues while emphasizing the need to treat the problem, not just the symptoms,
Takeaways
- Law enforcement officers often face challenges in seeking help for mental health issues and addiction due to fear of stigma and potential career consequences.
- Throttle and Thrive provides a safe space and specialized treatment for first responders and veterans struggling with addiction and trauma.
- Childhood trauma, vocational trauma, and addiction often intersect in the lives of law enforcement officers, leading to a need for comprehensive and holistic recovery programs.
- Addressing mental health and addiction in law enforcement requires a combination of therapy, support groups, and spiritual exploration.
For more information on Throttle & Thrive check them out online at:
www.throttleandthrive.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/throttle_and_thrive/
Until Next Time…out of role!
E201: What is Your Tactical Plan to Become Indispensable in 2024
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and New Year's Reflection
- 02:21 Tools for Achieving Goals
- 08:21 The Importance of Planning and Preparation
- 13:55 Implementing Goals and Resolutions
- 18:06 Goals for 2024
- 21:23 Introducing Guest Host Jeff Fields
- 24:14 Creating a Community for Men
- 27:31 Personal Goals for 2024
- 28:26 The Importance of Implementation
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Show Notes:
In this episode, we reflect on the new year and the importance of setting goals and implementing them. We emphasize the need for planning and preparation to achieve long-term goals and introduce the Men's Muster community, a space for men to support each other in their personal growth and goal achievement. We also update the audience on changes coming to the podcast in 2024 such as Jeff Fields becoming a regular guest host on the podcast. It’s time to take action and implement your resolutions. What is your tactical plan?
Takeaways
- Setting goals and implementing them requires planning and preparation.
- Joining a supportive community can provide accountability and help in achieving goals.
- Taking action and implementing resolutions is more important than simply making resolutions.
- Personal growth and goal achievement require discipline, dedication, and a supportive network.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
- 01:03 The Psychology of Crime vs. Technology
- 02:25 Starting an Online Business and Using ClickFunnels
- 03:48 The Importance of Devotion in Business
- 04:32 The Shift from Tech to Psychology in Consulting
- 05:28 The Importance of Building a Solid Foundation for a Brand
- 06:04 Creating Recurring Revenue and Focusing on Expansion
- 07:33 Reflecting on the Word of the Year: Automation and Devotion
- 10:08 Reflecting on the Word of the Year: Recognition and Refinement
- 20:29 Resolutions and Goals for 2024: Business
- 29:29 Resolutions and Goals for 2024: Personal
- 42:09 Predictions for 2024
- 43:52 Industry Predictions
- 48:13 Real Estate Investments
- 54:26 Economic Predictions
- 56:47 Regulation and Cleanup in the Industry
- 59:15 Expansion and Growth
- 01:00:29 Political Predictions
- 01:05:49 Preparing for the Future
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Show Notes:
In part two of our New Year’s conversation we discuss the importance of psychology in entrepreneurship, the process of starting an online business, and the significance of devotion in building a brand. We also reflect on our words of the year for 2023 and set resolutions and goals for 2024.We discuss their predictions for the year 2024 and touch on various topics such as industry trends, real estate investments, economic conditions, regulation in the industry, and political predictions.
Takeaways
- As in crime, in business psychology is often more important than the technology involved.
- Building a solid foundation and focusing on devotion are key to success in business.
- Automation can streamline processes, but personal connection and intimacy should not be sacrificed.
- Setting resolutions and goals can help guide and motivate personal and professional growth.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction and Technical Difficulties
- 01:21 Setting the Stage for the Year in Review
- 03:13 Lesson Learned in Business
- 12:18 Lesson Learned in Interpersonal Relationships
- 22:02 Lesson Learned as a Parent
- 29:37 Lesson Learned in Marriage
- 45:32 Navigating the Challenges of 2023
- 49:42 Reflecting on the Year and Looking Forward
- 50:35 Being a Disney Pass Holder
- 53:24 Tips for Visiting Disney World
- 55:04 Dealing with Trauma and Grief
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In part one of this conversation, Lacy and Kristofor reflect on the challenges they faced in 2023 and how they navigated through them. They discuss the importance of resilience and adaptability in relationships and how to grow stronger as a couple.
Takeaways
- Sometimes, in order to move forward, you have to go backwards and make necessary changes and refinements.
- Relationships require rupture and repair, and it is important to work through difficult times and disagreements.
- Parenting can be challenging, especially when dealing with difficult circumstances, but it is important to recognize and appreciate your own strength and resilience.
- Marriage requires ongoing effort and communication, especially during times of stress and trauma. It is important to prioritize your relationship and find ways to reconnect and support each other.
- Growth and personal development are ongoing processes, and it is important to embrace change and learn from past experiences. Resilience and adaptability are key in navigating challenges in relationships.
- Being a Disney pass holder offers a more relaxed and enjoyable experience at the parks.
- Before taking young children to Disney World, it's beneficial to visit the parks as a couple first to familiarize yourself with the logistics.
- Recognizing and understanding that feelings of trauma and grief may resurface in different situations can help manage and cope with them.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- 00:00 Introduction
- 01:57 Caution and Setting Realistic Goals for the New Year
- 04:07 Building a Life: Clearing the Lot and Grading the Land
- 06:34 The Process of Building a Custom Home
- 08:37 The Importance of Patience and Gradual Progress
- 10:05 Overcoming Setbacks and Challenges
- 11:35 Planning for the Future and Setting Goals
- 12:11 The Importance of Discipline and Habit Formation
- 13:28 The Tactical Plan and Steps to Success
- 14:23 Reflecting on the Previous Year and Planning Ahead
- 15:16 Flexibility and Adapting to Unexpected Changes
- 17:38 Participating in the Political Process
- 19:39 The Importance of Individual Freedom and Liberty
- 22:04 Active Participation in the Political Process
- 24:07 Participating in Primary Elections
- 26:34 Supporting Independent Candidates
- 30:17 Challenges for Independent Candidates
- 34:01 Participating Early in the Political Process
- 35:20 Conclusion and Well Wishes
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Show Notes:
In this episode, we discuss the importance of setting realistic goals and being patient in achieving them. We use the analogy of building a custom home to illustrate the process of personal growth and development and emphasizes the need for discipline, habit formation, and gradual progress. We also discuss the 2024 political landscape and the need for active participation in the political process, researching candidates and supporting them financially.
Takeaways
- Set realistic goals and be patient in achieving them.
- Focus on gradual progress and habit formation.
- Actively participate in the political process by researching candidates and supporting them financially.
- Live life with valor and embrace the challenges and setbacks that come along the way.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Guns and Yoga
- FLETC Reminiscing
- NYC to the Midwest
- The Hostile Takeover of INS
- From Fed to Detective
- Working Persons Crimes and Remembering the BTK Case
- Real People Are Behind the Badge
- Wellness and the Human Toll of Law Enforcement
- The Growing Emphasis on Mental Health and Wellness in Law Enforcement
- The Importance of Resilience Training
- Yoga and Law Enforcement
- Nervous System Regulation
- The Science Based Perspective of Yoga (It Isn’t Woo Woo)
- The Importance of Teaching Emotional Regulation to Recruits
- Doing a Threshold Check/Tactical Pause at Transition Points
- Learning How to Do Nothing - Slow Down!
- Warriors Are Skilled in Both Action and Non-Action
- Fascia Release and Restorative Yoga
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Show Notes:
Our guest today is Wendy Hummell. Wendy is a seasoned law enforcement officer with close to 25 years experience. She is a LEO spouse, mother, and wellness enthusiast. She knows first-hand the difficulties this line of work can bring.
For the past decade, Wendy has been exploring various ways to improve her emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical wellbeing. She continues to learn and has a passion for sharing these tools to improve the quality of life not only for herself and her family, but for all first responders.
Wendy is a certified yoga and meditation instructor. She teaches yoga, mindfulness, and resiliency to first responders at her current agency where she works as the Health and Wellness Coordinator. She also teaches throughout the state of Kansas and other national platforms.
Wendy retired from the Wichita Police Department in 2019 at the rank of Detective where she spent a majority of her career working persons crimes.
You can find Wendy online at:
https://gunsandyoga.podbean.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/guns_and_yoga_podcast/
Until Next Time… Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Patrick Mahomes and How Not to Lead
- What is Quiet Leadership?
- Influence vs. Authority
- Leading By Example
- Active Listening
- Empathy
- Humility
- Conflict Resolution
- Adaptability
- Mentorship
- Inclusivity
- Consistency
- Collaboration
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Show Notes:
Quiet leadership refers to a leadership style that is subtle, unassuming, and focused on influence rather than overt authority. Quiet leaders often lead by example, exhibit strong interpersonal skills, and prioritize collaboration and team-building. Today we talk about how you can gain influence and build better teams through quiet leadership.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- From SWAT to the Private Sector
- Creating a Lane For Yourself in Law Enforcement
- Special Operations and Narcotics Investigations
- Becoming an Expert
- The Pros and Cons of K9 Work
- Dogs Have Bad Days Too
- High Op Tempos and Violence Take Their Toll
- The Danger of Being Emotionally and Mentally Checked Out
- Becoming a LEO at a Young Age
- When Work Life Balance is Anything But
- PTSD and Operator Syndone in Law Enforcement
- Living in the War Zone
- Bonded Through Trauma
- Moving on From Law Enforcement
- What You Need to Know About the Brotherhood
- Transferable Skills From LE to the Private Sector
- Physical, Mental and Spiritual Wellness
- How We Self-Medicate
- Redeveloping a Relationship With God
- Relinquishing Control
- We Thrive in Chaos so We Create it at Home
- Moving Beyond the Trauma Loop
- The Maddox Initiative
- Helping Others From the Other Side
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Show Notes:
Eric Maddox is a former law enforcement officer with 13 years of experience. He specialized in street crimes, K9, and tactical operations (SWAT).
After leaving law enforcement for a career in the private sector, Eric has a strong passion to help people in the first responder career field who want to make a change.
Through his consultancy, Maddox Initiative, Eric provides 1 on 1 high level coaching and services to help his clients bridge the gap between their LE careers and the private sector so that they can achieve their “dream” life on their terms.
You can find Eric Maddox online at:
IG: @MaddoxInitiative
Website: www.MaddoxInitiative.com
LinkedIn: Maddox Initiative
Until Next Time… Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Recognizing How Your Experiences Can Help Others
- Remember That You Are Necessary
- Why I Love the Word ‘Indispensable’
- How to Make Yourself Absolutely Necessary
- The Importance of Being Indispensable
- Mindset Matters
- Process Thinking and Alabama Football
- Prioritizing Character Over Skill
- The Metrics Matter - The Gap vs. The Gain
- You Are Who You Surround Yourself With
- The Tone Comes From the Top - The Shackleton Example
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Show Notes:
I love the word “Indispensable,” but what do I mean when I encourage you to become indispensable? I mean you must become “absolutely necessary” to those you serve.
Today on the podcast we talk about the importance of becoming more indispensable and give you five tips on how to achieve it.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- How What We Did in 2013 Created the Circumstances for Where We Are Now
- Condo Update and Why We Bought Our New Place
- Fitness and Entrepreneurship
- The Importance of Choosing Adversity
- Building a Strong Foundation for Business Through Hard Athletic Pursuits
- Choosing How You Suffer
- It’s Not Lucky - It’s Resilience, Perseverance and Determination
- The Foundation You Build Today Will Serve You or Fail You Tomorrow
- What Energy Are You Showing Up With?
- How Dad Bod Energy Infects Everything That You Do
- Adversity and Mindset
- What Does the Taylor Swift Eras Tour Have to Do With You?
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Show Notes:
The roots of our entrepreneurial success came from the adversity that we cultivated through years of racing, coaching and failing at business. The foundation we built while racing Ironmans and ultramarathons and pursuing tough cases in law enforcement pay dividends today in how we show up in our businesses, for our children and for one another.
The roots create the fruit. What are you planting today and how is it going to help you succeed tomorrow?
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- From FAST Company to Entrepreneur
- What You Do Doesn’t Matter, Who You Are Does
- Having Your Priorities Straight: Being a Husband and Father First
- ‘The Ring Walk’ in Boxing and in Life
- Using a Threshold Check
- We’re Never in a Hurry to Rush to Our Deaths
- The Challenge of Working From Home
- Our Kids are Watching
- Adapting and Overcoming in Entrepreneurship
- The Chaos Sandwich or The Shit Sandwich
- Putting Chaos into Order in Your Life and Business
- The Tactics You Employ Get You to Your Long Term Goal
- Transitioning From a Structure Environment to Self Management
- Don't’ Be a 40-Year Old Working Out like a 20-Year Old
- The Holistic View of Strength in Your Life
- Aesthetics vs. Functional Strength
- Your Relationship with Food and Pattern Recognition
- Fixing Ancestral Issues with Health
- Lifestyle Change vs. Lifestyle Evolution
- The Aggregation of Incremental Gains
- Get Strong and Do Stuff
- What is the Return on Investment?
- Brandon’s Amazing Comeback Story and Mindset Tips
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Show Notes:
A self-described Man, Husband, Father, Coach, & Entrepreneur; Brandon Mancine joined the Marines out of high school, working in Special Operations as a machine gunner with FAST Company. After his enlistment, he started a career in Personal Training/Coaching. With over 20 years of experience, Brandon has helped thousands of men & women change their lives for the better. He also has an incredible comeback story that you won't want to miss.
Brandon is an online coach specializing in over 40 transformations. To connect with Brandon email him at "brandon@bmfcoaching.com" or follow him on Instagram @coachbrandonmancine & @bmfcoach
Until Next Time… Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Condo Update
- The C.O.P.S. Conference and Recent LE Shootings in Houston and Austin
- Why It’s Important to Meditate on Our Mortality
- The Lifespan Equation That Will Focus Your Mind
- The Benefits of Practicing Memento Mori
- Prioritize and Focus
- Living Mindfully
- Gratitude and Perspective
- Taking Action
- Personal Growth
- Reflection and Legacy
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
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How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
Remembering your mortality isn't about living in fear; it's about living intentionally. It's a call to make the most of the time you have, to appreciate life, and to make meaningful contributions to the world. We talk about it today on the podcast!
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Stoicism and Policing
- You Need to Be Able to Communicate
- What the Job Takes Out of You
- Understanding and Tolerance in Policing
- Finding Common Ground
- Stoicism as a Self Help Philosophy
- The Dichotomy of Control
- Obstacle Becoming Opportunity
- Facing Adversity Every Day
- The Importance of Rigorous Exercise
- Active Suffering vs. Passive Suffering
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy & Stoicism
- Not Letting Stuff live Upstairs
- Catching and Clearing Bad Thoughts
- The Perfect Sage Doesn’t Exist
- Recognizing and Rectifying Our Emotions
- True Ownership and True Freedom
- The Stoic Cop
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Bill Mauro is a 10 year veteran in law enforcement and the author of The Stoic Cop. He has experience in corrections, patrol, and investigative operations. In his spare time, he enjoys studying and applying different schools of thought and suffering through daily rigorous exercise. The Stoic Cop is available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle. And Bill provides tactical strength and conditioning training to individuals through his website tscfitops.com
This is a great conversation with a fellow law enforcement officer, author and practicing Stoic about how we can benefit in our careers and personal life from understanding the dichotomy of control and applying Stoic principles of voluntary adversity and equanimity to our daily interactions.
You can find Bill online at Instagram at @thestoiccop
Until Next Time… Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Policing and Autism
- Becoming an Autism Dad
- When Purpose Grabs You By The Throat
- The Importance of Understanding Autism as a LEO
- Serving Two Communities That You Love
- It Truly is a Spectrum
- The Risk of Not Training Police on Autism Response
- What is Stimming?
- Autism and Social Awareness
- It Can Be a Sensory, Intellectual, Communication and/or Social Disability
- Autism and Expressive Language
- Their Sensory Experience is Different Than Yours
- Introducing Your Special Needs Child to Law Enforcement
- Serving Those Who Protect and Serve
- Knowing How to Read People is Critical
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
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How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
Jerry Turning is a former police officer and K9 handler and the founder of Blue Bridge Autism Training for First Responders.
When Jerry’s son was diagnosed with Autism in 2007, Jerry realized that despite having participated in dozens of calls for service involving autistic individuals, he knew next to nothing about Autism.
Jerry began documenting his journey as an Autism dad in the blog Bacon and Juice Boxes and his writing began to resonate with other special needs parents around the world. After he revealed that he was a police officer, he began receiving hundreds of messages from other special needs parents who were concerned that their loved ones would be misunderstood by first responders.
Realizing the need for better education, Jerry began Blue Bridge Autism Training to train law enforcement around the world about Autism and best practices for responding to calls involving autistic individuals.
You can learn more about Blue Bridge Training at www.bluebridgetraining.com and you can find Jerry on social media at:
IG: @bluebridgetraining
Facebook: Bacon and Juiceboxes
LinkedIn: Blue Bridge Autism Training
Until Next Time… Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Engagement Farming After a Tragedy
- Lewiston, Maine and the Siloing of Opinion
- How to Deal With Anger
- How did Marcus Aurelius Deal with Anger?
- Being Angry is not a Strategy, it's a Mood
- Anger Leads to Irrational Behavior and Clouded Judgment
- Meeting Anger With Compassion
- Take a Breath
- The Space Between the Action and Our Reaction
- It Takes Two to Tango
- Fleeting Emotions
- Anger is Temporary and Transitory
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Show Notes:
We all get angry from time to time - emotions make us human. But the space between an action and our reaction offers us the opportunity to pause and consider our response.
In Meditations, Marcus Aurelius discusses anger in relation to the dichotomy of control and the Stoic virtues. On the podcast today we dive into the emperor’s best tips on dealing with anger.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- It’s Okay to Be a Cop
- Positivity in Policing
- Becoming a Street Psychologist
- High Crime Neighborhoods Appreciate the Police
- Policing in the Community You Grew Up In
- Learning About Gangs
- From Punk Rocker to Police Officer
- Proactive Policing & Community Interaction
- Establishing Relationships: Cops Can’t Just Parachute In
- How Zero Tolerance Policing Backfires
- The Power of Letting People Vent
- The Evolution of the Opioid Crisis
- Wholesale and Retail Dope
- Are We Communicating Well Enough?
- Picking the Right TFOs
- Gangs And Fraud
- The Disruptors Podcast with B.C. and Ski
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Show Notes:
B.C. grew up in a single parent home in the skateboarding and punk rock scene of the 1980s and 90s and ran from the police a little. After barely graduating high school, he did 4 years in the US Army and then graduated magna cum laude with a B.A. degree in Psychology and earning membership into Psi Chi, The National Honors Society for Psychology.
After college, B.C. joined a large police department in the South where he worked in patrol, detective division, gang unit, drug unit, aggravated assault unit, homicide unit, intel center, and supervisor of the violent crimes section, as well as being assigned to the FBI Task Force.
B.C. utilized his skills in psychology to communicate better with the communities he policed and became so skilled at gang investigations that he became a certified instructor who developed gang disruption, investigation, and awareness courses to educate other officers, agents, and deputies and criminal subculture courses to educate citizens.
B.C. is now retired from the force and works as a writer and a co-host on The Disruptors Podcast with BC & Ski where he continues to have interesting and engaging conversations with people from all walks of life.
You can find B.C. on Instagram at @the_disruptors_podcast
Until Next Time… Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Are You a Yes Man?
- Every Yes is Also a Corresponding No
- People Pleasing and FOMO
- Are You Solving Your Problems or Someone Else’s Problems?
- Being a Yes Man Actually Makes You Less Promotable
- Our Mental Health Suffers When We Don’t Establish Boundaries
- Know Your Priorities
- Practice Self Awareness
- Set Boundaries
- Pause and Reflect
- Be Polite and Direct
- Use “I” Statements
- Offer Alternatives
- Be Assertive
- Be Consistent
- Learn to Deal With Guilt
- Prioritize Self-Care
- Seek Support
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Show Notes:
If you want to feel less overwhelmed and become more productive, you need to say no more often.
And as hard as it is to say no, studies show that doing so is beneficial to your mental health because you feel better about yourself when you have healthy boundaries and standards in place that allow you to operate with greater efficiency on things that matter.
You need to start saying no more often if you want to achieve more of your goals. We give you tips on how to do so on today’s podcast.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- From Baseball to the Border
- The Ten Year Journey from Local Police to Federal Agent
- Being an Investigative Swiss Army Knife
- No Prior, No Hire?
- Working for a Small Agency
- The Politics of Federal Law Enforcement
- Screw Up, Move Up
- “Why Don’t You Make Some Cases First, Bro?”
- The No Accountability Culture in Law Enforcement Management
- The Things You Can’t Bring Home
- Mental Wellness Issues in Law Enforcement
- You’re More Useful Doing What You Love
- Are You in the Right Career?
- There’s No Mechanism to Help LEOs Internally
- The Psychological Danger of “Othering” Agents in Need
- Fixing Others but Not Fixing Ourselves
- Willpower Does Not Exist When it Comes to Addiction
- A Reasonable Fear of EPP
- Alcoholics Hide Their Addiction - And Cops Play the Game Well
- The Breaking Point
- How the Career Becomes Our Identity
- Hollywood Romanticizes Law Enforcement and Drinking
- Isolation is the Killer
- Don’t Strive to Be Great, Strive to Be Useful
- Mark 13:33 - Be Alert, Be Aware
- The Next Day is a New Start
- No One Will Care for Your Well Being More Than You Will
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Show Notes:
Jeff Fields is an accomplished law enforcement professional with over two decades of extensive experience at both local and federal levels. Across his career, Jeff has been a patrol officer, a TFO, a Special Agent and a high level internal affairs investigator who conducted highly sensitive and widely publicized investigations driven by Congressional motivation, focusing on executive-level government personnel and programs.
In addition to his law enforcement career, Jeff worked as a medico-legal death investigator in both New Mexico and North Carolina. He holds certifications as an active shooter response instructor from the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center and has received advanced training in executive protection, firearms, whistleblower/retaliation claims, and procurement fraud.
Currently residing in North Carolina, Jeff is working on his first book Sober From Sin, which delves into "A Law Enforcement Veteran's Self-Investigation Journey through Trauma, Addiction, Faith, and Redemption."
Today we talk about the toll our careers in law enforcement take and the way the job can exacerbate the problems we face at work and at home. Jeff’s story is one that many law enforcement officers face and his mission now is to share his story and be an asset and resource to others dealing with the same issues he faced across over two decades in the field.
You can find Jeff online at:
1333Consulting.com or via email at consulting1333@icloud.com
Until Next Time… Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Chris Harder on Getting Back in the Box
- Brad Lea on Using the Tools You Have to Build the Thing You Want
- Alan Watts on Letting the Muddy Water Settle
- Taoist Wisdom and the Theory of Wu Wei
- Remembering What the Stoics Say About Control
- Non-Interference as a response
- The Futility of Overthinking
- Finding Clarity Through Surrender
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Show Notes:
Alan Watts' quote, "Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone," invites us to embrace the art of non-interference and surrender. It encourages us to recognize the futility of overthinking and over-controlling, and to find clarity through patience and allowing things to settle on their own.
In a world marked by incessant activity and the pursuit of clarity through external means, Watts' wisdom offers a profound reminder of the power of stillness and the simplicity of non-interference in attaining the peace and clarity we seek.
On the podcast today we discuss the profound impact of surrendering to stillness.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- The Horror in Israel
- Chaos on Our Southern Border
- 61,000 Special Interest Aliens in FY23
- Are You Prepared for What is Coming?
- The Comfort Trap
- Cultivating Voluntary Adversity
- Better to Be the Warrior in the Garden
- The Eastern Rattlesnake, the Minutemen & the Samurai
- Cultivating Inner Strength
- Balanced Preparedness
- Resilience and Adaptability
- Mindful Living
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Show Notes:
Miyamoto Musashi, the legendary Japanese swordsman, and philosopher, presents a profound insight in his quote: "It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war."
The maxim encapsulates timeless wisdom about the dual nature of life, the importance of preparedness, and the value of a balanced approach to existence.
Today we discuss Musashi’s wisdom and the historical examples of men who took the same approach to life while taking a hard look at the evil terrorist attack in Southern Israel and the alarming security threat inherent in the chaos on our southern border.
Until Next Time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Maximizing your Thrift Savings Plan
- Knowing the Benefits and How They Work
- Best Tactics for Young and Old Employees
- Understanding FERS
- How You Can Use a Health Savings Plan
- Calculating When it is Time to Call if a Career
- Do You Want to Work Forever?
- What They Didn’t Teach You at the Academy About Retirement
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Show Notes:
Chris Barfield is a former Deputy U.S. Marshal who retired from federal law enforcement and founded Barfield Financial.
Barfield Financial exists to help current federal employees better understand their retirement benefits so they can make the best decisions for themselves and their families.
Chris provides one-on-one consultations and is available for hire by federal agencies to conduct their retirement seminars and TSP workshops.
You can get free resources and learn more about Chris and his programs at www.barfieldfinancial.com or on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn at Barfield Financial.
Until Next Time… Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Recapping The Weekend
- Announcing Our New Men’s Group
- What is Fabian Strategy?
- The Benefits of Incrementalism
- Patience, Practice and Gradualism Your Life and Career
- Throwing it Back to the Roman Republic
- How to Get More Persistent and Patient and…Still Win
- Lessons from the Second Punic War
- The Importance of Picking Your Fights
- Cautious, Gradual Market Penetration
- How Sam Houston Employed Fabian Strategy Against Santa Ana
- How to Employ Fabian Strategy in Your Life
- The Self-Discipline to Avoid Impulsive Decisions
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Show Notes:
What can the Second Punic War teach us about patience, persistence and the power of gradual and deliberate action? Quite a bit, actually.
On today’s podcast we talk about Roman General Fabius Quintus Maximus and how the military strategy he employed against Hannibal and the Carthaginians can be used in your daily life to help you achieve your goals.
By applying Fabian’s principles, you'll be better equipped to pursue your long-term goals with patience, persistence, and adaptability. This strategic approach can help you achieve meaningful, sustainable progress while minimizing impulsive decisions and unnecessary risks.
Until Wednesday…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Working with Veterans and First Responders
- Overcoming Childhood and Family Trauma
- Sports and Healing
- Faith and Military/Policing
- What Does Mighty Oaks Foundation Do?
- Staying in the Word, Staying in Prayer, Staying in Church and Reaching out to a Corner Man
- Sharing Doesn’t Make You Weak
- The Lies Cops Tell Themselves
- Two People Will Never Give up on You - God and Satan
- The Current State of Law Enforcement and Peer Support
- The Suicide Crisis in CBP and USBP
- Having a Positive Impact on Police
- Finding the Right Corner Men
- Remembering “I Am Second”
- Not Alone is a Game Changer
- Knowing When to Cut Off the Wrong Friends
- Being Accountable and Willing to Share
- If You Don’t Have the Failure, You Don’t Have the Hero Arc
Resources + Links:
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Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
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Show Notes:
John Davis works for Mighty Oaks Foundation. Mighty Oaks Foundation is a faith based non-profit that works with Military, First Responders and their spouses.
As a former Sergeant in the US Army 82nd Airborne John was a forward observer in the 319th Artillery Battalion. John was attached to the 3/504th Infantry Battalion for Operation Just Cause in Panama in 1989 and 1/17th Cavalry Division Scouts in Iraq as a Ground Laser Team Leader for Operation Desert Shield / Operation Desert Storm in 1991.
After honorably discharging from the US Army in 1993 he joined the Orange County, California Sheriff's Department where he worked in the county jail. In 1994 he transferred to Whittier Police Department where he worked as a Patrol Officer and as a member of the Special Occurrence Response Team and Entry Team. After being in three justified officer involved shootings John was medically retired in 2004.
After retiring from law enforcement John became a high school football, track and strength coach. John and his wife Quennie have 8 children and 5 grandchildren. Outside of Mighty Oaks Foundation, John and Quennie own a Carlson Gracie Jiu Jitsu Academy in Magnolia, Texas where John is the head coach.
You can get a copy of John’s book “Man on the Roof” on Amazon and learn more about his amazing story and journey of faith. You can connect with him online at:
www.mightyoaksprograms.org
@coachdaviscombatstrength
@carlsongracie_magnolia
Until Friday… Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- When You Realize You’ve Been Playing Defense Too Long
- Making the Shift From Reactive to Proactive
- The Storm Passed But You’re Still Sheltering
- The Tactical Plan You Need
- Objective (Clarify the Goal)
- Analysis (Surveillance, Preparation, Research)
- Assignments (Accountability)
- Contingencies (Adjustments - The McRaven Model)
- Execution (Consistency Over Complexity)
- Debrief (Review Your Performance, Good or Bad)
- What We Measure We Can Manage
- Getting the Defense Off the Field
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
We all have moments in our lives when the momentum gets stopped and we have to play some defense. The problem is that we sometimes forget how to get the offense back on the field.
Shifting from a reactive to a proactive position in life involves a deliberate change in mindset, habits, and behaviors. It's about taking control of your life, setting goals, and making conscious choices rather than simply responding to external events.
On today’s podcast I give you the tools and tactical plan to make that switch from reactive to proactive in all areas of your life.
Until Wednesday…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Financial Education and Coaching
- Daddy Daycare and Entrepreneurship
- From Sports Management to Financial Fitness
- Changing Careers and Chasing Dreams
- Financial Planning is Psychology and Math
- Assessing the Coaching Industry
- Personal Finance and Personal Training
- Dollars and Dumbells
- Coaching Young People With Money
- Watching Out for Predatory Coaches
- Entrepreneurs Need to Eat Their Vegetables
- Knowing BS When You See it
- You’re Hiring the Wrong People
- The Importance of Financial Education for Business Owners
- Understanding the Cost of Doing Business
- Investing in Yourself
Resources + Links:
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Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
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Show Notes:
Justin is the founder of Assist FP, a financial planning firm for online business owners. He is also the co-founder of the Intentional Profits community, a paid community of growth-minded business owners who are looking toIntentional build a business that emphasizes profit over revenue in order to serve their ideal lifestyle.
If you are an online coach or online business owner or aspire to be one, keep Justin’s contact information in hand. He’s a great wealth of knowledge on the online space, but more importantly, is a great source of knowledge on helping you grow your wealth and become financially independent.
You can find Justin on Instagram at @justingreenfp
Until Friday…Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Shifting the Focus on Failure
- Sometimes Heroes Need Help
- Struggling Outside of Work
- We Create Our Own Problems Through Bad Decisions
- There is No Life Academy
- We’re Training Guys on All the Wrong Things
- Problems Don’t Magically Get Better
- Taking a Proactive Approach to Life
- Sustainability and Ownership
- Action > Thinking
- Stop Identifying With the Negative
Resources + Links:
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Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
John is a 30-year veteran of law enforcement who has failed miserably at life on multiple occasions. An alcoholic, addict and adulterer, (that’s just the A’s) who has overcome the challenges of the career and homefront.
After retirement, John developed a life leadership & wellness program called “Sometimes Heroes Need Help” and has been presenting this program to agencies and conferences around the country.
John hopes to empower our first responders to take ownership of their lives, for them to realize that they hold the key to their own happiness and fulfillment.
You can find John online at www.lawenforcementlifecoach.com and on Instagram, LinkedIn and Facebook using the search term Law Enforcement Life Coach!
Until Friday… of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- You’re Consistent at Being Inconsistent
- A Matter of Prioritization
- Clarifying Values and Priorities
- Evaluate Your Consistency
- Embrace Positive Change
- Seek Balance
Resources + Links:
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Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
Being consistent alone is not a guarantee of success or fulfillment; it must be directed toward endeavors that contribute to our well-being and personal growth. And sometimes the problem is that we’re too consistent…at all the wrong things.
By evaluating and adjusting our consistency habits, we can make more intentional choices about where to invest our time and energy. We talk about it on the podcast today.
Until Wednesday…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Friday Debrief
- How Does Your Power List Look Today?
- Mediocrity is the Default Position
- Sheepdog Stories: Hard Core Rick Rescorla
Resources + Links:
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Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
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Show Notes:
Rick Rescorla was a remarkable figure known for his heroism and dedication, particularly during the tragic events of September 11, 2001. Rescorla's early life saw him join the British Army's Parachute Regiment and serve in Cyprus and Rhodesia. He then moved to the United States, where he joined the U.S. Army and served in the 7th Cavalry during the Vietnam War. Rescorla's service in Vietnam at the Battle of Ia Drang earned him several accolades for bravery and leadership, including the Silver Star and the Bronze Star.
After his military career, Rescorla pursued a career in security and became the head of security for Morgan Stanley at the company's offices in the World Trade Center's South Tower. His commitment to safety and security was unparalleled, and he conducted regular evacuation drills, which some employees initially found excessive.
However, Rescorla's foresight and dedication to preparedness proved invaluable on the morning of September 11, 2001. When American Airlines Flight 11 struck the North Tower of the World Trade Center, Rescorla immediately took charge of the evacuation process in the South Tower. He directed Morgan Stanley employees and other occupants to evacuate, even though the Port Authority initially advised them to stay put.
Rescorla's leadership and cool-headedness saved the lives of more than 2,600 people that morning. Tragically, after helping to evacuate most of the building's occupants, he re-entered the South Tower to search for stragglers and was last seen on the 10th floor. The tower collapsed shortly thereafter.
Rick Rescorla's selfless actions and unwavering commitment to the safety of others made him a hero during the 9/11 attacks. His story exemplifies courage, leadership, and the willingness to make the ultimate sacrifice to save lives. We talk about it today!
Until next time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Mentorship and Masterminds
- Building a Personal Brand
- Credibility Lending
- Shooting Your Shot
- Overcoming Fear and Regret
- Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone
- Creating Opportunities
- Learning and Adapting
- Building Confidence
- Fostering Positive Relationships
Resources + Links:
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Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
In life, opportunities come and go, and sometimes, all it takes to seize them is the courage to "shoot your shot." This phrase, commonly associated with sports and dating, refers to taking a chance, making a bold move, or pursuing something with determination, even in the face of uncertainty or potential rejection. While the concept may seem daunting, there are numerous advantages to embracing this proactive mindset.
In today’s podcast we will explore the benefits of shooting your shot in various aspects of life, from personal relationships to professional opportunities.
Until next time…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Mission, Task and Purpose
- The Next 90 Days
- Habit Stacking
- Being Deliberate in the Attention Economy
- We Gain the Strength of the Temptation We Resist
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Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
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Show Notes:
Ralph Waldo Emerson, a prominent American essayist, lecturer, and poet of the 19th century, is celebrated for his profound insights into human nature and the human experience. Among his many thought-provoking statements, one of the most compelling is, "We gain the strength of the temptation we resist."
In this podcast, we will explore the profound meaning behind Emerson's quote and how it encapsulates the essence of human strength and resilience in the face of temptation.
Until Wednesday…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Changes in the Medical Field
- Health Care vs. Sick Care
- Niching Down and Caring Up
- Putting Patients First
- Eliminating Insurance
- Working with Athletes
- Time Investment vs Monetary Investment
- Getting More Efficient in Serving Clients Online
- In Person to Online
- Entrepreneurship
- Building a Brand by Giving Away Value
- Staying Fit at Any Age
Resources + Links:
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How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
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Show Notes:
Today our guest is Paul Timler. Paul is a Physical Therapist and Strength and Conditioning coach with almost 30 years of experience in the medical field.
After increasing frustration working in the traditional medical system Paul co-founded Forge Performance Physical Therapy, along with his wife Megan. Based in Gainesville Florida, their mission is to help active people remain healthy and active through every decade of life by not only getting clients out of pain, but also resolving the underlying causes that keep chronic problems recurring.
Forge Performance Physical Therapy works with clients exclusively one-on-one, either in clinic or via virtual sessions. Sessions dig deep into medical history and movement assessment, then work to build a game plan for resolving underlying causes of problems for optimal results. Paul and Mecan specialize in work with Crossfit and martial arts athletes, but can work with anyone who wants to remain healthy and mobile into their later years.
You can contact Forge Performance Physical Therapy for a free Discovery Call at https://www.forgeperformancept.com/
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Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Maximizing the Shift Points
- Creating a Tactical Plan for the Season
- Life is Like the Ocean
- When The Perfect Storm Hits Will You be Ready?
- Becoming a Better Swimmer
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
The ocean won't become less turbulent, but you can always become a better swimmer!
On the podcast today we talk about the importance of personal growth, resilience, and adaptability for navigating the turbulent seas of life.
Until Wednesday…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- He Said She Said
- Disney Annual Pass Talk
- Traveling Solo or With Kids?
- Becoming Part Time Floridians
- Short Term Rental Niche-ing
- Broadening Our Business Base
- Do You Have a Brand or a Business?
- Brand Alignment and Authenticity
- Discernment and Investment
- Beware Boutique
- Don’t Buy a Teal Astrovan
- Never Hire Jimmy
- Location, Location, Location
- Commercial Real Estate Crash Course
- The Bachelor and Fitness Franchising
- The Cost of Friction
- The Importance of Knowing Your Business
- Selling The Hamptons
- Values and Drivers
- Knowing Yourself and Acting Accordingly
- Due Diligence Matters
- Be Like Tillman
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Lacy and I hit the microphones to discuss rental real estate and small business expansion and why it behooves you to know the ins and outs and ups and downs of the small business that you own.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Shift Points
- Seasons of Intentionality
- Training vs. Exercise
- Practice and Intentionality
- Recognizing the Flow of the Year
- Exercise Isn’t Time Wasted, but it Isn’t Training
- Mediocrity by Default, Maximization by Design
- What we Measure we Can Manage
- Using the Calendar to Your Advantage
- Understand the Season You’re in
- Getting Purposeful and Structured
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
There is a difference between exercise and training. Training is a targeted and systematic approach aimed at achieving specific goals, often with the guidance of professionals. Exercise is a broader concept encompassing various forms of physical activity that contribute to overall health and fitness.
Not every season lends itself to training. Sometimes you just need to keep yourself from backsliding. But, in order to maximize your life, it's important to capitalize on those times of year that give you the best environment to push your goals forward.
Until Monday…Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Working for the FDNY
- How Much Gear are Firefighters Really Carrying?
- Engine Companies vs. Ladder Truck Companies
- Everyone Has Their Role
- Fire Calls and Utility Calls
- Electric Vehicle Calls
- The Physical Aspects of Firefighting
- What Are the Most Common Types of Emergencies?
- The Demands of the Fire Academy
- The Legend of Orio Palmer
- Balancing Life and Family
- Staying Fit Throughout Your Career
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Today our guest is Lt. Mike Rogdakis, a 19 year veteran of the New York City Fire Department.
If you have ever wondered what it is like to be a firefighter in the biggest city in the United States, you’ll enjoy listening to this conversation. Mike has done it all with FDNY from firefighter to supervisor to academy instructor and in today’s episode we get into the job, the importance of physical fitness and how to balance personal life with your professional obligations.
Until Friday…Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Knowing What’s Important is Most Important
- The Daily Power List
- Energetic Capacity
- Two Buckets: Make and Manage
- Prioritize and Execute
- Are you Juggling Glass or Plastic?
- The Spinning Wheel
- Setting Priorities
- Decision Making
- Focus and Direction
- Time Management
- Relationships
- Personal Growth
- Fulfillment and Happiness
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
The phrase "knowing what’s important is most important" emphasizes the significance of prioritization and understanding the different energetic aspects of our lives. It underscores the idea that having clear knowledge of what truly matters in life is of utmost importance, as it guides our decisions, actions, and overall direction day to day.
This concept can be applied to various areas of life, such as personal goals, relationships, values, and time management. On today’s podcast we explore how we can use this concept to reduce chaos in our lives and get more deliberate in how we move the ball forward.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- When the Season of Trauma is Over
- How to Navigate a New Phase of Life and Business After a Loss
- The Lasting Impact of Losing a Loved One
- The Seven Figure Hangover
- Personal Brands and Identity Crisis
- The Physical Effects of Prolonged Stress
- Becoming the Don and Doña of Your Extended Family
- Solving the Problems That You Ignored During the Crisis
- The Dichotomy of Control
- Give Yourself Some Credit - Life is Hard
- When Pressure is no Longer the Motivator
- What is on the Horizon for Team Healey?
- Making Your Money Work for You
- Expanding Into Real Estate & Brick and Mortar Business
- Premeditatio Malorum and the Lessons Learned Over Two Years
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
A lot of people ask Lacy how she “retired her husband,” so we decided to spill the tea on the ins and outs and the ups and downs of my transition from Special Agent to Dadpreneur over the last two years.
In the third part of our three part series, we talk about the trauma response that comes after the trauma is over and how it impacts life going forward. We talk about how we recovered from the highs and lows of a wild 2022 and how we prioritized family and being present for one another as well as what we are doing to make our business work for us going forward.
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Parenting Reality Check
- Don’t Believe Influencers - It Isn’t Easy
- The Trauma of Success
- Your Bowl Just Has to Get Bigger
- Do You Suffer Well?
- The Physical, Mental and Emotional Aspects of Parenting Children With Special Needs
- The Pros and Cons of a Personal Brand
- Loss Takes a Toll
- How Much Can You Hold?
- What Happens When You Don’t Have a Mission, Task and Purpose?
- Ego Death and Subordinating Yourself to Your Spouse
- “Help Me Help You!”
- What to do When You Are in Freeze
- When Success and Loss are Married Together
- How Do You Prioritize Intimacy When You Live With Your Business Partner?
- Managing Your Small Business During Loss and Grief
- The Realities of Hospice Care
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
A lot of people ask Lacy how she “retired her husband,” so we decided to spill the tea on the ins and outs and the ups and downs of my transition from Special Agent to Dadpreneur over the last two years.
On the second part of our three part series, we talk about the highs and lows of 2022 - from unspeakable loss to the pinnacle of business success - and how we navigated the ups and downs of personal and professional life while trying to find an appropriate role for me in our family business.
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Our Plans vs. Life’s Plans
- The IMportance of Being Present
- Social Media Breaks and Mental Resets
- Retirement vs. Reality
- Navigating Loss and Growth at the Same Time
- Special Needs Parenting
- Plans and Pivoting
- The Dichotomy of Control
- Proactive LIfe vs. Reactive Life
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Join us for The Weekend: Bourbon Trail in Lexington, Kentucky September 29-October 2, 2023 | https://www.theweekendbourbontrail.com/
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
A lot of people ask Lacy how she “retired her husband,” so we decided to spill the tea on the ins and outs and the ups and downs of my transition from Special Agent to Dadpreneur.
On the first part of our three part series, we lay out the challenges we faced when we had to pivot from our plans and jump into an unexpected leadership role in our family while juggling entrepreneurship, transition, parenting and our relationship both in and out of our business.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- What can we learn from the Battle of Little Round Top?
- Fix Bayonets!
- Leading by Example
- Strategic Thinking
- Clear Communication
- Building Trust
- Emotional Intelligence
- Courageous Decision Making
- Continuous Learning
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram & Threds | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Joshua Lawrence Chamberlain's leadership at Gettysburg provides a wealth of valuable lessons in leadership, such as leading by example, strategic thinking, clear communication, building trust, emotional intelligence, courageous decision-making, and continuous learning. These principles are timeless and can be applied to various leadership contexts to inspire and guide others towards success.
We talk about it today on the podcast.
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Podcasting and the Men’s Movement
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Maximizing Value For Your Listeners
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Expanding Your Audience
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Following Your Passion
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The Art of Taxidermy
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Building a Business on the Side
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Processing and Preserving Your Animals
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The Importance of Shot Placement
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The Process Takes Patience
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram & Threads | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Become an Indispensable Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Our guest today is Colin Hornback. Colin has always had a love of the outdoors, and over the last decade, developed that love into a passion for hunting, fishing, conservation, and taxidermy.
Colin’s business is Mission Taxidermy. He has been operating since 2020 and primarily works on big game animals and European mounts.
Colin believes God intended for us to manage this world as stewards of His resources. His appreciation for God’s creation goes into every mount and drives the quality of his work so you can admire that creation for years to come.
Colin is also passionate about helping men become who God created them to be which led to him starting his own podcast, The Discipline of Manliness. It is a show specifically for men of faith who are seeking to become the men God created them to be, and how we can take many principles from the Bible and connect them with how we are to act in everyday situations. On the show he covers: Putting faith first, Building relationships, Physical conditioning, and Becoming a valuable member of society.
You can find Colin on social media at:
https://www.instagram.com/colin.hornback/
https://www.instagram.com/missiontaxidermy/
https://www.facebook.com/colin.hornback
https://www.facebook.com/missiontaxidermy
Until Next Time...Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Colonel John Boyd
- Observe, Orient, Decide and Act
- Being Someone or Doing Something
- When the Time Comes to Choose, What Will it Be?
- There is Always a Roll Call in Life
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Colonel John Boyd may be most famous for his skill as a fighter pilot and his creation of the OODA Loop, but his best advice has nothing to do with either. It had to do with character.
In the middle of a career that spanned three wars, Boyd was assigned to a post in the Pentagon. Surrounded by Generals and political climbers who had made their careers backstabbing and butt kissing, Boyd set about making his department more efficient and budget conscious - an outlier amidst all of the tax-payer funded largesse. But Boyd’s steadfast adherence to fighting fraud, waste and abuse weren’t without cost, as he regularly found himself in dust-ups with his chain of command, causing his name to be added to the top line of many General’s enemies lists.
While Boyd was disappointed that his rigid adherence to his conscience likely cost him the opportunity to rise above the rank of Colonel, he didn’t regret it, and made sure to tell young officers that they too would face a time for choosing sides.
In life there would be a roll call, Boyd would say. And at that roll call every one of us will have to make a decision to do something or to be someone. To do something, you might have to make a few enemies. To be someone, you might have to compromise your character.
When it comes to the pursuit of virtue, we must prioritize action. It encourages us to focus on becoming good individuals by embodying virtuous qualities and practicing moral principles rather than getting entangled in chasing the acclaim of others.
We talk about it on the podcast today!
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Advice to Young People on Joining Law Enforcement
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It Isn’t a Job or Career, It’s a Calling and a Noble and Honorable Profession
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Training and Recruitment Issues in Law Enforcement
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The Characteristics of a Good Law Enforcement Officer
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Inspiring Future Generations of Law Enforcement Officers
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The Two Types of People You Deal With in Law Enforcement
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Servant Leadership
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Putting Mental Health First
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The Warrior Mindset in Policing vs. the Militarization of Law Enforcement
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Become an Indispensable Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Our guest today is Andy Hughes. Andy is a second generation law enforcement officer with over 30 yrs of experience at the county, municipal and state levels.
After he retired in 2016 Andy has been working in the private security sector, providing training to law enforcement organizations through Performance Protocol and volunteering with an Alabama faith based organization called Blue Watch that ministers to law enforcement officers by providing them support through free or low cost seminars and training.
Andy has recently been pursuing a new purpose in life: inspiring future generations of law enforcement officers, law enforcement leadership and supporters of law enforcement who he encourages to “Bear the Sword.”
Andy is an inspiring leader and speaker and if you are a law enforcement officer, spouse or supporter or feel called to the profession, I highly recommend you connect with Andy through Instagram (@ahughes297) or on LinkedIn (Andy R. Hughes).
Until Friday….Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- The Marshmallow Test
- The Danger of the All or Nothing Attitude
- The Aggregation of Incremental Gains
- Maximizing Our Time With Self-Control
- Are You Making Deposits or Withdrawals From Your Future Self?
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
Connect with Kristofor on Substack | https://kristoforhealey.substack.com
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Have you ever seen videos of kids taking The Marshmallow Test?
The famous psychological test measures the child's ability to delay gratification and resist the immediate desire for a treat in favor of a greater reward in the future. The focus is on self-control, impulse regulation, and the ability to consider long-term consequences.
What does this have to do with you? We talk about it on the podcast today!
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Are you tracking your personal Key Performance Indicators?
- What We Measure We Can Manage
- The 30,000 Yard View
- Revisiting Ego is the Enemy
- Plus, Minus and Equals Training
- Using Humility as a Tool
- Challenging Yourself and Exposing Areas for Growth
- Plus: learn from someone with more experience than you.
- Minus: teach someone with less experience than you.
- Equal: engage and connect with someone with the same experience as you.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
MMA superstar Frank Shamrock developed a training system to help him become a more well rounded athlete in the octagon. You can apply Shamrock’s “Plus, Minus and Equals” training system to any aspect of your life where you want to see improvement. We talk about it on the podcast today.
Remember: “False ideas about yourself destroy you. For me, I always stay a student, that’s what martial arts are about, and you have to use the humility as a tool”. – Frank Shamrock
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Leaving Corporate America for a Job with Your Wife
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Finding Mission, Task and Purpose in Serving Your Family
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Masculine and Feminine Energy
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What Horses Can Teach You
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Humbling Yourself and Ego Death
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Everyone Wants to be Loved
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Embracing the New Masculinity
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Become an Indispensable Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Our guest today is Jeff Sabin. Eighteen months ago, Jeff left his career in construction management to work full time alongside his entrepreneur wife (@simplysadiejane) and be more present for his family as a stay at home dad.
On today’s podcast Jeff shares his story and the lessons he has learned along the way about family, relationships, entrepreneurship and embracing and leveraging masculine and feminine energies to be an effective business partner and spouse.
If you’re like Jeff and I and you have a spouse who is an online entrepreneur, you’ll want to listen to this episode and soak up some wisdom on how you can become a more effective asset in this new economic frontier.
You can follow Jeff on Instagram at @jeffsabin and learn more about his incredible spouse at www.simplysadiejane.com or on Instagram at @simplysadiejane or @simplywild.goods
Until Friday….Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Setting Clear and Specific Goals - Getting SMART
- Developing a Routine
- Prioritizing and Eliminating Distractions
- Starting Small and Gradually Increasing
- Monitoring Progress and Celebrating Milestones
- Embracing Discipline and Commitment
- Seeking Accountability and Support
- Learning from Setbacks
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
We got back from a week at the beach and after a week of inconsistency, chaos took over. Now it’s time to reintroduce some habits back into our lives to get back on track. Today on the podcast I give you some tips for getting back on your game after a vacation or break.
Until Wednesday…out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Writing a Letter to Yourself
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Maximizing Midlife
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The Importance of Facing the Shadows
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Life is Too Long to be Miserable
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The Self Improvement Reading List
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Living in the Present Tense
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Become an Indispensable Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Our guest today is Pat Lemieux. Pat is the Director of Marketing for C&L Aviation Group. In his professional career, Pat has more than a decade of experience building brand awareness and audience development for corporations and non-profits. In his personal life, Pat is a modern day philosopher, a devoted father and my long time friend and fraternity brother!
A few weeks ago Pat posted an excellent letter to himself on Facebook on the occasion of his fortieth birthday. The post caught my attention because of how much I identified with his story of struggling to find himself in middle age and the path he had taken to reimagine his life and pursue it on his own terms.
If you are in a midlife rut and could use some inspiration, pay attention to Pat’s story of living in the present tense.
Until Friday….Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Daylight Savings Time and Butterfly Migration
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Burning Man and the Veterans Community
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Mirroring Negative Experiences With Positive Experiences
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Entrepreneurship and Problem Solving
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Psychedelics and Healing Trauma
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The Healing Power of Cold Water Exposure
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Become an Indispensable Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Our guest today is Jason Stauffer, the Founder of Morozko Forge, LLC. Jason is a Phoenix native, Army combat veteran and Arizona State University graduate with his Bachelors of Science in Engineering in Civil, Environmental and Sustainable Engineering. He has a background in healthcare analytics, game theory and systems analysis and optimization. Jason's early civilian career in for-profit pharmaceuticals gave him intimate knowledge of the decreasing ability of synthetic medicine to treat the underlying causes of diseases of aging, chronic ailments and post-industrial afflictions of urban human society.
The Morozko Ice Bath is the first ice bath for sale that can maintain freezing cold temperatures. Unlike a cold tub, a cold plunge, or a cold shower, Morozko ice baths make their own ice. Water filtration and ozonation ensure that you enjoy crystal-clear cold water, empowering you to practice daily deliberate cold exposure year-round.
You can follow Jason on Instagram at @jason_morozko and learn more about his incredible creation at http://morozkoforge.com or on Instagram at @morozkoforge
Until Friday….Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Do You Love Winning or Hate Losing?
- Are You Allowing Life to Happen to You?
- Discipline Separates You and Your Dreams
- The Thrill of Victory
- The Agony of Defeat
- We Are All Agony of Defeat People, But Some of us Don’t Hate Losing Enough
- Using Defeat to Motivate You, Build Resistance, Set Higher Standards, Embrace Challenge and Gain Tenacity
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
People are motivated by two categories - the thrill of victory or the agony of defeat. It isn’t that anyone dislikes winning or that anyone loves to lose. No, what we mean is that the central motivation for why we compete is rooted in one or the other and how you derive your discipline and systems is generally rooted in what side of this dichotomy you land on. We talk about the power of losing and how to make it a key to your success on today’s podcast!
Remember: “I love to win; but I love to lose almost as much. I love the thrill of victory, and I also love the challenge of defeat.” — Lou Gehrig
Until Wednesday…out of role.
Today, in celebration of Police Week 2023 we are throwing it back to two episodes that I recorded last April that discuss the importance of Valor. The first is a quick solo episode on the second is an interview with retired HSI Special Agent Victor Avila who survived an ambush by the Los Zetas cartel in Mexico in 2011.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The chaos on the U.S.-Mexico border and the far reaching effects it has on all Americans.
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Staying alive and keeping your wits when everything around you is falling apart.
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Surviving and overcoming post traumatic stress.
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Living a life of service and committing to a cause greater than yourself.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Become an Indispensable Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
“This is Victor Avila from ICE! We are shot! We are shot! We are at a highway in Mexico; we’ve been shot and attacked on the highway!”
It was shortly after 2 p.m. on Feb. 15, 2011, and Avila’s partner, Homeland Security Investigations Special Agent Jaime J. Zapata, lay dying in the driver’s seat of their armored SUV while Avila, shot three times himself, desperately pleaded for backup.
The Chevrolet Suburban was under attack by the Los Zetas drug cartel’s hitmen and time was running out.
We are joined today by Victor Avila. Victor is a retired Supervisory Special Agent with Homeland Security Investigations (HSI) who was recognized by HSI for his exemplary service and professional accomplishments while serving as a Special Agent at the El Paso Field Office and as an Assistant Attaché assigned to the U.S. Consulate in Ciudad Juarez and U.S. Embassies located in Spain, Portugal, and Mexico City.
While on official assignment in Mexico in February 2011, Victor suffered multiple gunshot wounds and survived a violent ambush by the Mexican Los Zetas drug cartel where his partner, Special Agent Jaime Zapata, tragically lost his life.
On today’s episode, Victor and I have a frank discussion about our shared experiences on the U.S.-Mexico border, overcoming and surviving trauma, working for the U.S. government and the threats Americans face from the Mexican drug cartels who have operational control over vast portions of Mexico and the U.S. Southwest.
Victor and Jaime’s story humbled and inspired me at an early point of my career, and the shameful way that Victor and his family were treated by agency officials in the years following the attack continues to anger me.
For his part, Victor has turned back to service following his retirement from HSI, continuing to advocate for border security, immigration reform and human trafficking awareness, as well as for legislation to protect U.S. government employees serving abroad. Victor was instrumental in lobbying for the passage of the “Jaime Zapata and Victor Avila Federal Officers and Employees Protection Act,'' and recently ran for Texas Land Commissioner.
You can read Victor’s amazing story in his book “Agent Under Fire: A Murder and a Manifesto” which is available at Amazon or https://agentunderfirebook.com. You can connect with Victor on Instagram at @victoravilajr, on LinkedIn or Facebook, or on his website www.victoravilaspeaks.com
Today, in celebration of Police Week 2023 we are throwing it back to two episodes that I recorded last April that discuss the importance of Valor. The first is a quick solo episode on the second is an interview with retired HSI Special Agent Victor Avila who survived an ambush by the Los Zetas cartel in Mexico in 2011.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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A Warrior’s Hope
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The Four Cardinal Virtues
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What it means to live with Valor
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How cowardice isn’t the opposite of courage. Apathy is.
Resources + Links:
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Become an Indispensable Man
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Show Notes:
For our Monday Mindset this week we discuss what Tacitus meant 2,000 years ago when he wrote “In Valor There is Hope” and what it means to live your life with valor.
This week: Recognize what valor is and how you can live with valor in your day to day life. The opposite of valor is not cowardice as some might suggest. It’s apathy. It is choosing the easier wrong over the harder right. Valor is honest commitment to noble ideals. It is the belief that an individual can make a difference and that you can be that individual. Start living with valor by choosing the hard right over the easier wrong.
Until Next Week...Out of Role!
E152: Monday Muster - Inspired or Inspirational?
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Are you Inspired or Inspirational?
- Producers vs. Consumers
- Finding Your Creative Core and Leaning Into It
- Don’t Admire the Statue, Figure Out What Made the Man Worthy of a Statue and Emulate it
- Joining the Ranks of the Most Emulated
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
We reside in a world that can be divided up between those who are inspired and those who are inspirational and the line between the two often begins with whether you are a producer or a consumer. I believe we all have a producer in us, but it is up to us to find what it is in our core that drives us to produce things worth of emulating.
We talk about it today on the podcast!
Remember: “Let us also produce some bold act of our own—and join the ranks of the most emulated.” — Seneca, Moral Letters, 98.13b
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.
- Never trouble another for what you can do yourself.
- Never spend your money before you have it.
- Never buy what you do not want, because it is cheap; it will not be dear to you.
- Pride costs us more than hunger, thirst and cold.
- We never repent of having eaten too little.
- Nothing is troublesome that we do willingly.
- How much pain have cost us the evils which have never happened!
- Take things always by their smooth handle.
- When angry, count ten, before you speak; if very angry, a hundred.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Almost 200 years ago, in response to a letter from a man seeking advice for his son, Thomas Jefferson provided him what he called “A Decalogue of Canons for Observation in Practical Life”. The list of practical advice could have been just as easily authored by Seneca, Epictetus or Marcus Aurelius 18 centuries before, and is just as applicable in our modern world.
Today we discuss Thomas Jefferson’s advice on living a good life!
Remember: “No more of all this talk about what a good man should be, but simply be one!” Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 10.16
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Keep Showing Up
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Being Too Dumb to Quit
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Character Traits, Skill and Beliefs
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The Value of Coaching, Mentorship and Masterminds
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Get Uncomfortable or Get Comfortable Where You Are At
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Getting in the Room
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Johnny Takes on The Manly Round
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Doing Plant Medicine in Peru
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How Hiking is Like Life
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Designing the Man Within
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Making the Men’s Movement Accessible
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Calling Out the Man in the Mirror
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Understanding Trauma
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The Man as a Martyr
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Are you Living for Your Family or Dying for Them?
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Stella Barks at the Amazon Man
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Leaning Into What Challenges You
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Become an Indispensable Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Our guest today is Johnny Elsasser. Johnny is a former Special Operations U.S. Army Ranger from the 2nd Ranger Battalion and a former security contractor who protected the U.S. Ambassador to Iraq. After spending a decade working in and out of the Middle East, Johnny changed his focus to working on his own personal development journey and then to helping other men become better versions of themselves through his coaching programs, retreats, The Art of Masculinity podcast and, most recently, his new book – Design the Man Within.
You can connect with Johnny via his website, follow his podcast, The Art of Masculinity, check out his YouTube channel, or check out his Instagram to learn more!
You can get a copy of his new book on Amazon Kindle for .99 right now or pre-order a copy of the paperback.
Johnny is one of my close friends and a great voice for men’s personal development and I always take something away from our conversations.
I hope you gain as much from this episode as I did!
Until Friday….Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Modern Conveniences and Modern Problems
- Defining the Comfort Trap
- Tips for Avoiding the Comfort Trap
- Looking for Ways to Introduce Adversity in Your Life
- Using Adversity as Fuel
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Today, more so than ever—due to the advancement of technology and sciences—humans are moving at breakneck speed to discover quicker and easier ways to live. But are we really living better lives or are we creating more problems through our addiction to ease and comfort?
We talk about the comfort trap and how you can avoid it on the podcast today!
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Character is Not Personality
- Defining What Character is
- Character is Shapeable
- You Have Agency, You are Not a Victim
- Your Actions are the Greatest Determinant of Your Fate
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Character is an old fashioned concept with ancient Greek origins that, like honor, seems out of place in the modern age. Today we discuss the word character and why Greek philosopher and ethicist Heraclitus believed that character is the greatest determinant of what you will accomplish in life
Remember: “Character is fate.” - Heraclitus
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Learning About Texas Barbeque and Regional Styles
- Different Woods and Different Barbeque Flavors
- The Competitiveness of Texas Barbeque
- Cooking on an Open Flame is Part of the Human Experience
- Family Traditions
- How Barbeque Brings us Together
- Leaders Eat Last
- Bringing Texas Barbeque to Montana
- The Competition Circuit
- Entrepreneurship and Brotherhood
- Serving the Community Through Barbeque
- Getting Beyond the Fear
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Our guest today is James Percival. James is a barbeque business owner with an emphasis on service to community and to other men.
James created Percy's Barbecue to serve. His mission is to give his consumers the opportunity to serve proudly, not only by supporting first responders and Veterans, but by serving great tasting food to their families, friends and guests.
Today’s conversation is all about barbeque, brother and service to others.
You can find Percy’s Barbeque online at:
www.percysbarbecue.com
www.facebook.com/PercysBarbecue/
Until Friday....Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Applying the Dichotomy of Control to Everyday Chaos
- Eliminating and Mitigating Chaos
- Making Your Environment Less Chaotic Makes Life Less Chaotic
- Chaos Bleeds Over Unless you are Deliberate
- Default vs Deliberate
- Identifying and Enacting Anchor Points in Your Life
- How Getting up Before the Sun, Tracking Macros, Maintaining Hydration, Going to Bed Early and Practicing Active Recovery Have Allowed me to Control the Chaos Over the Last Month
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
The last four months have been a laboratory for me to test and practice the Stoic principle of the “Dichotomy of Control.” By controlling that which I could, and finding anchor points to set my life around during a period of chaos, I was able to regain control more quickly and hit the ground running to start a new week and month.
What are the anchor points in your life that you can lean into to help maintain control in times of chaos?
Remember:
“Some things are within our power, while others are not. Within our power are opinion, motivation, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever is of our own doing; not within our power are our body, our property, reputation, office, and, in a word, whatever is not of our own doing” - Epictetus
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- From Accountant to Entrepreneur
- Finding Passion in the Work You Do
- What was the NYC Jewelry Industry Really Like?
- The Power of Surrounding Yourself with Like Minded Individuals
- The Difficult Journey to Fatherhood
- Founding a 100% American Made Brand
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Our guest today is my friend Nick Buttiglieri. After spending years as an accountant with the hope of retiring early to gain his freedom, Nick began working as a jeweler in NYC and realized how much better life can be if you enjoy what you do. He moved down to Austin, Texas last year with the intention of surrounding himself with like minded individuals and started a 100% Made in America jiu jitsu brand.
For the past year Nick has been working on his own jiu jitsu apparel brand focusing on sourcing and manufacturing everything in the United States. Through this time he realized just how broken the system is and how many people say they are American companies, but do all of their manufacturing overseas.
Nick will be releasing his first products in June (rash guards and grappling shorts) and went above and beyond to nail the fit and construction!
Join the mailing list at www.tarantasport.com to be the first to get your hands on them!
Keep up with Nick and his brand on social media: @nickytaranta & @tarantasport
Until Friday....Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Obstacles and Opportunities
- Using Your Skills to Create a Business
- Finding a Niche
- Grizzly Proof Fabricated Products
- Flying or Falling
- Modeling Good Behavior for Your Children
- Entrepreneurship and Family
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Our guest today is my friend Dereck Hutzenbieler. Dereck is a father of four and the owner of a Wyoming based welding business that fabricates bear resistant products and hunting and camping gear such as panniers, dumpsters, food storage, tent stoves, and The Dandy Saw.
Dereck has an incredible story of overcoming adversity and leaning into his skills to create business that is gaining market share and giving him more freedom to serve his family.
You can find out more about Dereck and his fabricated, bear resistant products at:
Grizfab.com: GRIZZLY FABRICATION & WELDING - Dandy Saws
Instagram: @griz.fab
Facebook: Grizzly Fabrication & Welding, LLC - Home | Facebook
Until Friday....Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Residual Home Sale Trauma
- Balancing Family, Business and Home Showings
- Online Life vs. Real Life
- Feeling Overwhelmed
- Entrepreneurship and Lending
- Podcasting Through It
- How a Tough Year Impacted Team Healey
- Tips for Emotional Regulation
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Lacy and I break down our recent home sale, how being an internet entrepreneur impacts you in the real world and the variables involved in selling the place where you live AND work while still trying to live and work. Lacy breaks down the process of regulating your emotions during times of high stress in life and business.
This is a raw conversation about enduring the highs and lows while living and working together.
*If you’re in the Houston area or looking to relocate to the Houston area, check out Harrisburg Homes, Diamond Realty and BWC Lending. We highly recommend them!
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Acta Non Verba
- Deeds Not Words
- Action Over Excuses
- Focusing on Action Oriented Goals
- Are You Actually Putting in the Work
- Mediocre Effort Gets Mediocre Results
- Holding Yourself Accountable
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Acta non verba is a Latin phrase that translates to "Deeds, not words." It is a phrase that has been used by leaders, philosophers, and military strategists to emphasize the importance of taking action over mere words.
Do you want to be the kind of man who is committed to deeds over words? We talk about how on the podcast today!
Remember: “Waste no more time arguing about what it is to be a good man. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Historic Home Restoration
- What is a Well Built House?
- Lone Star Restoration on The History Channel
- The Stories that Millwork Can Tell
- Building a New House to Look Old
- 3D Modeling and Printing
- Learning by Doing
- How to Create a Podcast Network
- The Power of Podcasts for Educating and Networking
- Overcoming Paralysis by Analysis
- Using Podcasts to Learn More From Others
- Being a Father of Five
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Our guest today is my friend Bobby Flores. Bobby is a serial entrepreneur, founder of the Growler Media Podcasting Network, and currently runs a historic remodeling and “new old” custom home building company in Fort Worth, Texas.
Known to most as a “fixer,” you are just as likely to find Bobby rebuilding a blown head gasket or remodeling a bathroom as you are to find him building a website or 3D printing prototypes. Bobby and his wife Carri have 5 children and live in Arlington, Texas.
You can find out more about Bobby at:
Hull Homes
Growler Media Podcast Network
Until Friday....Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Pearson’s Law of Productivity
- Where performance is measured, performance improves
- What we measure we can manage
- Making sure the first domino falls
- What are your key performance indicators?
- How can you apply Pearson’s Law to your own life?
- Three wins today and three wins tomorrow
- Measure the gain, not the gap
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
If you want improved performance, you need to start measuring where you are so you can manage where you want to be.
Remember:
“When performance is measured, performance improves.”
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Health Care vs. Sick Care
- What is a Natropathic Health Expert?
- The Symptoms of Mold Toxicity
- Is Your House Killing You?
- No Amount of Mold is Acceptable to Live With
- Mold is a Homewrecker
- Men Need to Start Dealing with Root Issues
- Holistic vs. Western Medicine
- Semaglutide and Other Trends to Avoid
- If an Influencer Promotes Something for Fat Loss, Just Say No
- The Human Body is a Primitive Vehicle
- Health Trends Market to the Victim Mindset
- Turning Victims Into Exceptional People
- Are You Too Good to Be Great?
- Finding the Cause of Your Testosterone Problems
- Habits, Stress and Testosterone
- Situational Testosterone Response
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Our guest today is my friend Jacque Moser aka Doc Jacque. Doc Jacque is a Chiropractor turned Naturopathic Health Expert who turned to functional medicine to help his patients see better results and achieve their full health potential
Jacque works with patients around the world to help them maximize their health. He offers full hour health immersions to discover where patients may be dysfunctional or deficient and develops strategies to test and create individualized protocols for his clients. Jacque also offers free 15 minute calls to see if he’s a good fit to help you maximize your wellness.
Jacque is one of the smartest guys that I know and he’s a true champion for his patient’s well being. If you are seeking an experienced Naturopathic Health Expert to help you navigate fertility issues, gut health issues or mold toxicity exposure, you’ll want to pay attention to this episode and follow Jacque across social media platforms.
You can find Doc Jacque on Instagram; Facebook; YouTube; TikTok; & LinkedIn
Until Friday....Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Fortune vs. Luck
- You Won’t Know if You’ll Fall or Fly Until you Jump
- Don’t Feel Qualified? Nobody Does.
- There’s Nothing Lucky About Success
- Why Fortune is a Circumstance of Choice
- Are Your Choices Character Driven?
- Live With Good Character to Get More Successful
- Character is a Consequence of Choices
- Character is the antidote
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
You won’t know if you’re going to fall or fly unless you’re willing to take the leap. If you’re ready to create your fortune, don’t wait for lady luck to bless you, take the leap.
Live with character and you will make better choices. Make better choices and you will build better habits. Build better habits and you will have better outcomes. It begins with you. We talk about it today on the podcast!
Remember:
“True good fortune is what you make for yourself” —Marcus Aurelius
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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How People can Affect you or Infect you
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The Power of Surrounding Yourself with Positive People
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Are You Too Good to be Great?
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How Hard Are You Willing to Work for it?
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
I’ve had a series of uplifting encounters this week and it reminded me of the power of surrounding yourself with positive people. One powerful conversation even prompted a question that we should be asking ourselves regularly: Are you too good to be great? We talk about it today on the podcast.
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Affirmations vs. Action Taking
- Outworking Your Self-Doubt
- Recognizing Where Self-Doubt is Lurking
- Challenging Negative Thoughts
- Checking the Box
- Focussing on Your Strengths
- The Gap and the Gain
- The Value of Positive Feedback
- Eliminating Negative Influences
- Self-Care (...I’m Treating Meeee Right…)
- Taking Action Even if it is Messy
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
The best way to overcome self-doubt is to outwork it. Today on the podcast we give you actionable tips on overcoming those negative voices in the back of your head telling you you aren’t good enough.
Remember:
“You dont become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror. But by having a stack of undeniable proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self-doubt.” — Alex Hormozi
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Surrendering What You Do Not Control
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Amor Fati and Making the Best of Every Situation
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The Art of Acquiescence
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There is a Larger Plan for us
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How the Obstacle Becomes the Way
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Looking for Opportunities to Practice Acquiescence
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Stop Trying to Control Everything
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Anxiety vs. Acquiescence
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Not Every Fight is Worth Having
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The Importance of Keeping Your Powder Dry
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Acquiescence is the art of accepting or agreeing to something without objection or resistance. It can be seen as a form of compromise or submission, but it can also be a powerful tool for managing conflicts and building stronger relationships.
Remember: “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” - Marcus Aurelius
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Do Less Better
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Making the Main Thing the Main Thing
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The Dangers of Productive Procrastination
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7 Ways to Commit to Action Over Motion
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Strategic Vision vs. Tactical Plans
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Have you ever felt like you’re engaged in motion without action? That’s the danger of productive procrastination. We talk about the ways you can commit to action over motion in 2023 on the podcast today!
Until Tomorrow…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Take the Vacation
- Stop Tiptoeing Through Life
- Life is Short, Make the Most of it
- Memento Mori
- Stop Worrying About the Opinions of Others - No One Will Remember You in 100 Years
- What the Happiest Place on Earth can Remind us About the Impermanence of Life
- Legacy versus inheritance
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
In Meditations, Marcus Aurelius wrote “You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.” That was a personal reminder to continue living a life of virtue now, and not wait.
Today we are at Disney World - a trip we booked a few days ago. Life is impermanent and there is no guarantee that it will last another day. So while we are on this earth, Lacy and I intend to make the most of it and truly live our lives. That is how we create a legacy for our children and teach them to squeeze every drop of lived experience from the time taht they have.
If you need a reminder, here it is…
Take the trip. Race the race. Get the scars. Quit the job. Live your life.
Tomorrow is guaranteed to none of us, so live your life like the gift that it is.
We talk about it on today’s podcast!
Remember: “Let each thing you would do, say, or intend, be like that of a dying person.” —Marcus Aurelius
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- What Are Your Keystone Habits?
- The Disproportionate Impact of Keystone Habits
- Habits Run Downstream
- How Keystone Habits can Help you Prioritize and Execute
- Creating Ripple Effects With Good Habits
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Focusing on Keystone Habits in your life can help you prioritize and execute when things are chaotic. We talk about it today on the podcast!
Remember:
“Every habit and capability is confirmed and grows in its corresponding actions, walking by walking, and running by running… therefore, if you want to do something, make a habit of it.” —Epictetus
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- The Wisdom of George Patton
- Discipline is Determinative, Perfection can be Paralyzing
- Paralysis by Analysis
- Done is Better Than Perfect
- What the Video Cassette Wars can Tell us About Perfection
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Discipline is a virtue, but perfectionism can be a vice. We talk about the dangers of perfectionism on today’s podcast!
“A good plan violently executed today beats a perfect plan next week.” - Gen. George S. Patton
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Housekeeping: Podcast Schedule
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The Importance of Measuring Against Your Goals
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Will it Make the Boat Go Faster?
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The Power of Implementation Intentions in Achieving Your Goals
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
In anticipation of the 2000 Sydney Olympics, the British rowing team, who had not won gold since 1912, developed a useful strategy that changed everything for them. By asking themselves one simple question in advance of any decision, they went from being an average rowing team to winning Olympic Gold. The question? “Will this make the boat go faster?”
In psychology, this tactic is known as “implementation intentions,” and it is a tremendously powerful tool that can help you make the absolute most of yourself. We talk about it today on the podcast.
Until Tomorrow…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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How Can You Compromise Without Being Compromised?
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The Importance of Setting Boundaries
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How Chaos Leads to Compromise
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Prioritize Before You Compromise
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When we Compromise we Open up the Possibility that we may Lose More than we Gain
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Never Compromise Your Integrity
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Your Circle can Effect you or Infect you
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Integrity is a Habit
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What are Your Core Values?
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Weakness Invites Aggression
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The Neville Chamberlain Example
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What is True in Geopolitics and in Nature is True in Your Life
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Understanding Your Non-Negotiables and Communicating Them Clearly
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Compromise is often necessary in business and relationships. But compromise can also be a slippery slope and it’s important to have clear, bright lines that you are unwilling to cross so that you do not become compromised. How can you compromise without becoming compromised? We talk about it on the podcast today!
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Self-Control, Self-Respect and Courage
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Chaos is Contagious, but so is Discipline
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Wisdom from Thucydides
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
What does selling a house have to do with the history of the Peloponnesian War? We discuss it on the podcast today!
“Self control is the chief element in self respect and self respect is the chief element in courage.” -Thucydides
Until Thursday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- What is ChatGPT and How is It Impacting the Knowledge Economy?
- How Can You Use This Technology to Become Better?
- What Are Some of the Fallbacks of AI?
- Is This a Flash in the Pan or is it Here to Stay?
- How is the Knowledge Economy Changing the Way we do Business?
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
AI is going to be a permanent part of the knowledge economy whether you like it or not. Tools like ChatGPT, Otter AI and Bard are here to stay and can make you more efficient and better at your job if you learn how to leverage them. On today’s podcast I give you the 30,000 yard view of AI and how it is already changing the Knowledge Economy and creating new ways for business owners to become more efficient in their day to day operations.
We discuss Artificial Intelligence and how you can utilize it on today’s podcast!
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Housekeeping: Podcast Schedule
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We can choose to perceive events in a productive way, or a destructive way.
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Think Before You Act
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New Days Are New Beginnings
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The Importance of Acting with Purpose
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For Everything There is a Season
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Wherever You Are, You Are Already There
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Learning to Live in Gratitude in the Moment
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Gentlemen, when we find ourselves in a season of adversity, there are lessons that we can take from Stoic philosophy that will help us develop the mindset necessary to overcome. Patience is hard to cultivate and develop, but it’s a skill that can make you happier and more successful if you learn how to wield it. We talk about it today on the podcast!
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Service and Serving Others
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Setting the Pace for Your Family
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Entrepreneurship
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Fitness After 40
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Choosing Your Battles
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Never Pass Up The Opportunity to Keep Your Mouth Shut
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Leadership Lessons from a Retired Coast Guard Officer
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The Importance of Doing Things That Make You Uncomfortable
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The Perfection Trap
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Our guest today is my friend Eric Masson. Eric is a father, husband, veteran, attorney, entrepreneur and Ironman. Our conversation about family, service, leadership, fitness and business was one of my favorite conversations on the podcast thus far.
You’ll want to tune in to hear Eric’s story, perspective and wisdom. And if you’re an entrepreneur or small business owner needing legal advice on how to structure your business, reach out to Eric at eric@eskowlawgroup.com or connect with him on Instagram @ericmasson.esq
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Beating the Snooze Button
- Cultivating Voluntary Discomfort
- Two is One, One is None
- Understanding the Value of Adversity
- How to Be Hard When it Gets Hard
- Consistency is the Enemy of Chaos
- Suffering is the Ultimate Truth Serum
- Chaos Needs an Invitation
- Making Sure the First Domino Falls
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Monday is an opportunity to introduce consistency and adversity into your life in a way that will push chaos aside and help you overcome challenges. Want to be hard when it gets hard? We talk about it today on the podcast!
Remember:
“No man is more unhappy than he who never faces adversity. For he is not permitted to prove himself” - Seneca
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- What is Catastrophizing?
- How We Can Stop the Snowball From Gaining Momentum
- Worst-Case Scenarios Rarely Come True
- Fear, Uncertainty and Low Self-Esteem
- Big T Trauma and Little T Trauma
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Practicing Regular Mindfulness
- Maintaining Perspective
- Focussing on What You Can Change
- Positive and Negative Visualization
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Catastrophizing is when we assume the worst-case scenario or think things are much worse than they actually are. Also called catastrophic thinking, it is a form of distorted thinking or cognitive distortion.
Both children and adults can experience catastrophic thinking. Fortunately, certain techniques can help shift this way of thinking and prevent us from spiraling into negativity.
We discuss catastrophizing and how you can overcome it on today’s podcast!
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Wisdom of Marucs Aurelius
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The Importance of Cultivating Self Discipline
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How Stoicism Can Change Your Life
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
From April 14-17, 2023 Nick Trubee and I will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.” If you’re interested, message me or Nick on Instagram (@team_healey or @dr.nicktrubee)
Show Notes:
Our guest today is my friend Sean Sullivan. Sean and I connected through a men’s group we both participate in and I invited him on the show to talk about his embrace of stoicism at a young age and our shared appreciation for the wisdom of Marcus Aurelius.
Sean and I are from two different generations but have both found considerable wisdom in Marcus’ Meditations. If you haven’t read it, this podcast should peak your interest!
Until Friday....Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Being a Dad and an Athlete
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Getting Passionate About Health and Fitness
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Entrepreneurship and Fatherhood
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How to Regain Your Competitive Edge
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Become an Indispensable Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Today’s show is a “dualcast” that I recorded with my friend Daniel Hickman. You can catch this episode here and on his new podcast The Competitive Edge.
Dan is a former college and semi-pro hockey player who regained his passion for physical fitness and personal development after gaining weight and losing track of who he was. Now, in addition to being a father, husband and successful entrepreneur, Dan is a champion Hyrox and Obstacle Course Racing athlete who is helping other men regain their physical fitness and passion for life through his Hyrox coaching programs for dads and his new podcast The Competitive Edge.
You can connect with Dan on Instagram at @iamdanielhickman, check out his Linktree or catch his podcast The Competitive Edge wherever you listen to your podcasts.
Until Wednesday….Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- The Importance of the Friday Debrief
- Using the Past as a Teaching Tool
- Not Letting Fear, Anxiety and Worry Control You
- Using the Three Domains of Time
- The Value of Saying No
- Tips for Easing Anxiety
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Anxiety, fear and worry start and end within ourselves - in our own minds.
Anxiety, fear and worry are nothing but a roadblock. It is the emotional reaction of anxiety, fear and worry that afflicts us as opposed to those external events beyond our control that we are reacting to.
Today we talk about some ways to overcome these unhelpful emotions so that you can focus on being more present and more productive.
Remember:
“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” - Marcus Aurelius
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Housekeeping: Podcast Schedule
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Are You Acceptable at a Dinner Party & Invaluable in an Emergency?
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Being Physically, Mentally and Temperamentally Prepared
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The Importance of Situational Awareness and OODA in Day to Day Life
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Physicality and Mental Acuity Matters More Than the Size of Your Armory
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Becoming More Capable in All Areas of Your Life
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Strong Mind, Strong Body
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
If you want to uplevel your life, you need to surround yourself with other men on the same path. Join @dr.nicktrubee and I in Lexington, Kentucky April 14-17, 2023 for a fully catered men’s retreat that will help you build your tribe and create a network that helps you live your life with valor! DM me “Weekend” on Instagram for more information!
Show Notes:
Gentlemen, an Indispensable Man is one who is acceptable at a dinner party and invaluable in an emergency. You cannot be one or the other, you must be both. You must be the type of man who knows how to serve your family in all aspects of your life from the refined to the rugged.
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Importance of Building Your Own Economy
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Tax Consulting vs. Tax Strategy
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Being 10% Ahead of Your Students
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How AI is Impacting the Modern Business Environment
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What a Tax Strategist is and Why You Need One
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Setting up Strategy in Advance
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Making Your Wealth Work for You
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
David Perez, aka Mr. BYOE, is an entrepreneur, investor, small business owner, speaker, author and tax strategist who overcame childhood hardships to build his own economy.
After years as a small business owner in the hospitality and tax preparation industries, David told his story in his best selling book “Build Your Own Economy” and began working with other small business owners, entrepreneurs and high net-worth individuals to protect their assets, invest their money and grow their wealth.
David is an inspirational speaker and a brilliant businessman who understands the importance of independence and loves helping others legally and ethically protect their assets, reduce their tax burdens and create generational wealth that can allow them to live life on their own terms.
To get a free copy of David’s book head to his website www.davidaperez.com, to set up a free tax strategy discovery call with David, head over to www.taxplanexperts.com, to follow him on Instagram and get some great tax strategy tips, check @iamdavidaperez and to follow his YouTube show where he interviews some great guests, check out The BYOE Show.
Until Tomorrow…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Introducing The Weekend: Bourbon Trail
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Finding Your Tribe
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Trails and Tracks in Lexington
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Bourbon and Brotherhood
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
We’ve all had those group texts with our friends where we talked about taking a trip together like we used to do when we were younger. We go back and forth for days over schedules and destinations. We reminisce about the road trips in college and the last time we were all together. We talk about how fun it would be to have one more weekend with the boys. But before long, the conversation moves on and the planning dies on the vine. Nobody has the time to call the hotels, make the plans, contact the guides, rent the vehicles or organize the event. Life simply gets in the way. Isn’t that a shame?
But what if you had one friend who took the reins and actually put all of the plans in place for an epic weekend with the guys, and all you had to do was show up?
Well, gentlemen, we got tired of talking about “someday” and decided to make the group text a reality! The result? The Weekend - Bourbon Trail.
From April 14-17, 2023 we will be hosting an epic men’s weekend retreat in Lexington, Kentucky where you’ll have the opportunity to experience both the rugged and the refined as we give you a catered and guided taste of the nature, culture and cuisine of the “Athens of the West.”
And the best part? All you have to do is show up.
From your private room at the historic Campbell House Hotel you’ll be treated to the best of Lexington with a day of private guided hiking in the natural paradise of Red River Gorge, dinner, drinks and socializing in the downtown Distillery District, tour and tasting through major label and craft distilleries along Kentucky’s Bourbon Trail and, to cap it off, an afternoon at the world famous Keeneland where you’ll take in the sights and sounds of America’s most beloved thoroughbred racing venue during the heart of it’s 15-day spring stakes meet.
From hiking through the natural rock bridges and arches of the Red River Gorge to sipping bourbon and betting the ponies at Keeneland in your finest derby attire, we’ve designed a weekend that will capture both the rugged and the refined sides of the modern American man.
Our aim is to provide you with a fully catered and guided experience so that you can focus on enjoying yourself, growing your tribe and taking in the absolute best of the Bluegrass State.
We’re capping enrollment at the first ten men, so do not wait to sign up. This will be an intimate event where you’ll have the opportunity to break bread and share experiences with other men from all walks of life as you grow your tribe. You won’t want to miss it.
Our all inclusive weekend is $2,500. For more details and information contact Kristofor Healey or Nick Trubee. We can’t wait to see you in Lexington!
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Instincts and Emotions
- Involuntary Reaction vs. Passionate Response
- Fight or Flight
- The Limbic System
- Refining Your Primitive Instincts
- Amor Fati
- Stop Living in the Age of the Alibi
- Blame and Excuses Don’t Change or Improve Situations
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
We can split up all of our reactions between impulses and passions. Impulses are involuntary, mechanical and reactive, like point reference shooting skills. See target, shoot target.
Our passionate reactions to an event, on the other hand, are an act of will.
We cannot control our impulsive reactions, we can only refine them. We can control our passionate reactions to events through logic and reason.
We must train ourselves to act swiftly and cultivate involuntary and dispassionate responses to stressful and rapidly evolving situations. But we must also employ ration, reason and logic to control our responses to events that are beyond our control.
That is the balance, gentlemen.
Remember:
“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” - Marcus Aurelius
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- The Andrew Tate Phenomenon
- Why Young Men Are Turning to Charlatans
- The Importance of Fathers and Father Figures
- Other People Are Competing for Your Son’s Attention
- What is Being Modeled as Masculinity?
- The Gap Between Knowledge and Wisdom
- Iron Sharpens Iron
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Andrew Tate has monetized his athletic and reality television fame through his paid video subscription program "Hustler’s University," where he has amassed tens of millions of dollars and a legion of largely young male followers. But nothing that Andrew Tate is selling to these young men is healthy masculinity. Rather, it is a style of conceited, arrogant, misogynistic, hypermasculinity that can only be described as fatherless.
Fatherless masculinity is masculinity without virtue. It is about aggression without service. It is about attention without honor. It is about reactionary posturing without thought. It is about strength without valor. It is loud and brash and in your face.
Like many emotionally dysregulated individuals, Tate isn’t screaming to be heard, rather he is screaming to be seen. His intent is not resolution of the problem of 21st century masculinity, but rather, making others aware that they are "injured" and exploiting their pain for his financial benefit.
Tate, and others like him, inhabit the gap between a young man’s knowledge of the world and the wisdom he should be receiving from fathers or father figures. As a father you should be aware of who is competing for your son’s attention, and you should know that if you don’t bridge that wisdom gap for the young men in your life, someone else will.
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Overcoming Self-Imposed Limitations
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Tips for Breaking Through Barriers
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Challenging Yourself
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Voluntary Discomfort
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Self-Discipline and Leadership Through Fitness
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Stephen “Super Steve” Hooper is a Michigan based coach and personal trainer and the owner of The Stephen Hooper Corporation. The primary objective of The Stephen Hooper Corporation is to help men become better leaders through intense exercise, help women lower their body fat percentages and stress levels, and help maximize self-esteem in children through sports performance training.
Super Steve lived up to his nickname in 2022. He did 10,000 pushups in a single day, 100,000 pushups in six months and ran his first marathon as an accident. Stephen believes that all limitations are self-imposed and if you are willing to push yourself, then you will receive your freedom to dominate life.
On the podcast today, Stephen shares some tips and pointers on how to elevate your life and break through the walls you place around yourself.
You can follow Stephen on Instagram at Supersteve621 or connect with him by email at supersteveruns@gmail.com.
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- The Childhood Obesity Epidemic
- Pediatricians Are Now Advocating For Drugs and Surgery for Obese Teens
- Your Bad Relationship With Food is the Problem
- Your Children Are Learning From You. What Are You Teaching Them?
- Creating a Healthy Lifestyle for Your Kids Begins with Modeling
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Show Notes:
A study by the CDC last year found that child obesity levels in the U.S. have increased significantly - especially among 6-11 year olds who are most dependent on their parents for their food choices.
Obesity affects more than one in six children and childhood obesity puts their long-term health and quality of life at risk.
The study is the largest yet to look at obesity trends during the pandemic.
Among its chief findings:
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22% of children and teens were obese last August – up from 19% a year earlier.
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Children who were gaining a healthy average of 3.4 pounds a year, gained about 5.4 pounds during the pandemic.
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For moderately obese kids, expected weight gain rose from 6.5 pounds a year before the pandemic to 12 pounds after the pandemic began.
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For severely obese kids, expected annual weight gain went from 8.8 pounds to 14.6 pounds, according to the study’s findings.
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Obesity rates among kids ages 6 to 11 showed the most dramatic increase.
Yes, the pandemic appears to have worsened the nation's long standing obesity epidemic. But parents bear the blame first and foremost for what goes into their kid’s mouths, and parents are failing their children right now. Badly.
What are you feeding and teaching your kids, and how is it setting them up for future health issues or successes? Your food choices and modeling matter more than you know. And the data in this study should open your eyes.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Festina Lente
- Where Can You Slow Down to Go Fast
- Doing Less Better
- Making Space for Dialogue and Creativity
- Taking a Tactical Pause
- Before You Act Ask
- Making Haste Slowly
- Be Quick But Don’t Hurry
- Slow is Smooth, Smooth is Fast
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Show Notes:
The Roman emperor Augustus often chided his military commanders to “hasten slowly,” as he thought rashness was a dangerous quality for an officer.
A similar phrase, "slow is smooth, smooth is fast" echoed in my ears throughout my LE career as I practiced tactics and weapons manipulation. The phrase originates from the SEAL teams and translates roughly to “it’s quicker to do it right the first time.”
Consider, gentlemen, as you look to the New Year, where you might slow down and do fewer things better. Consider where you might go slow to get smooth so that you can go fast.
We talk about it getting smooth so we can get fast today on the podcast!
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Obstacle Course Racing
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Fitness, Family and Fatherhood
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How the Fitness Industry is Changing
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Training Smarter
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Taking on New Challenges and Staying Fit as You Age
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Steve Bubel is a 51-year-old father, husband, athlete, and small business owner with two bad knees and a penchant for tequila! He has been a personal trainer for over 25 years and has counseled hundreds of individuals - athlete and non-athlete alike - from a variety of backgrounds with skill levels ranging from weekend warrior to World Champion.
Steve is a competitive Obstacle Course Racer who has been in the fitness industry for his entire adult life. Steve has a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology and a Master of Science degree in Kinesiology from Texas A&M University where he also served as a graduate assistant in the Human Performance Laboratory.
You can follow Steve on Instagram @steven.bubel or train with him in person if you live in the San Antonio area.
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- The Dichotomy of Control
- Want to Achieve More in 2023? Learn to Say ‘Yes’ Less.
- If it Isn’t a Hell Yes, it Should be a No.
- Time is Finite. Start Acting Like it
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Show Notes:
Everybody can benefit from understanding why saying no is important to do in life. Humans are inclined to want to say yes in situations, whether it’s to not let someone down, or not let themselves down. It can be extremely hard to say no, but doing so more often provides significant benefits. Today we talk about ways to say no, while also understanding just how important it is.
Remember: “It is not that we have a short space of time, but that we waste much of it. Life is long enough, and it has been given in sufficiently generous measure to allow the accomplishment of the very greatest things if the whole of it is well invested.” - Seneca
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Living in the Age of Alibi
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The Importance of Discipline
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Persisting and Resisting
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Action vs. Motion
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What Could You Do in a Year of Perfect Discipline
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Temperance and Temperament
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Measuring and Managing
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The January Challenge: Resist & Persist
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Show Notes:
As 2022 winds to a close, I want to remind you that we are living in the age of the alibi. What does that mean? In my law enforcement career the word alibi had dual meanings. The word alibi meant excuse, as in when a suspect in a crime could provide exculpatory evidence that absolved them of responsibility. But it also had another meaning on the range where an alibi referred to unexpended rounds of ammunition, or “unfinished business.”
Gentlemen, we are living in the age of the alibi. Everyone has unfinished business and everyone is ready with an excuse for why they didn’t achieve what they set out to do. As the year comes to a close I want you to ask yourself “What is my alibi?”
- What are my excuses?
- What business remains unfinished?
In 2022 I accomplished many things I’d long hoped for and considered. Discipline gave me the ability to check many boxes. But lack of discipline left me with a good amount of unfinished business as well.
“Two words,” Epictetus says, “should be committed to memory and obeyed by alternatively exhorting and restraining ourselves, words that will ensure we lead a mainly blameless and untroubled life.” Those two words are ‘persist and resist.’
As 2022 comes to a close it is important to remember how far we have come, but as 2023 approaches it is important to recognize how far we might have gone had we made better efforts to persist and resist. Had we been more disciplined.
If you need help resetting your commitment to discipline in 2023, I am hosting a free 31 day “Resist & Persist Challenge” that invites you to do the following every single day in January:
- Prioritize - Tomorrow Begins Today. Plan Your Actions Each Night.
- Attack - Kill Your Snooze, Get up Early and Give Yourself the Time to Be Successful
- Lift - Push Some Weight Every Day
- Hydrate - 100 oz of Water per Day
- Skill - Pick a New Skill and Practice it Every Day
- Wisdom - Read a Stoic Quote Each Day
- Track - Track Your Macros Every Day
- Gratitude - Give Thanks Every Day
- Move - Get 8-10K Steps Per Day
- Assess - Grade Your Day Every Day
DM me on IG @team_healey and I will add you to the challenge.
Until 2023…Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
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Money is an Emotion and we Make Emotional Choices Around Money
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The Emotional Manipulation of Money
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A Lone Wolf is a Dead Wolf That Doesn’t Know it Yet
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Women are Better at the Money Game
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Why Partnering With a Good Woman is so Powerful
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We all Have Trauma and it Manifests Itself in our Relationship With Money
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None of us Come out of Childhood Without Scratches and Dents
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Money is Not Natural - It’s an Agreed Upon Fiction
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How Does Money Make You Feel?
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The Importance of Tribal Relationships in Your Finances
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The Identity Around Your Money Story
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
In the past eight years, Dylan Bain has gone from food stamps to financial sovereignty down a path that involved five jobs, four addresses, three degrees, two kids, and one vision of an amazing life. He has learned how to live, love, lead, and learn with his wife and raise their kids through all the challenges of those times. Now, in addition to working as a CPA, he runs Fiscally Savage, a financial coaching practice focused on the emotions of money, budgets as statements of shared values, and how to take control of your financial life and live free!
Fiscally Savage is a practice dedicated to creating a world of savages who live from their hearts by providing pathways to financial sovereignty. You can keep up to date on Dylan’s latest classes and workshops by signing up for his newsletter at FiscallySavage.com. You can follow Dylan on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter @FiscallySavage and can tune into the Fiscally Savage podcast wherever you get your podcasts!
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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What Did the Stoics Say About Forgiveness?
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The Fruit of This Life is Good Character and Acts for the Common Good
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What is Good for the Bee is Good for the Hive
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Adopting a Philosophy is Easy, Living it is Hard
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The Good, the Bad and the Indifferent
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Show Notes:
Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.
Forgiveness brings the forgiver peace of mind and frees them from corrosive anger, and many Stoic practices and techniques are well-suited to help us practice forgiveness in everyday life. We talk about it today!
Remember: ““You are like others and often do wrong yourself. Even if you abstain from some forms of wrong, all the same, you have the bent for wrongdoing….” - Marcus Aurelius
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Do You Do an Annual Debrief?
- Understanding the Dichotomy of Control
- Choosing Resolutions That You Control
- Self-Improvement is a Shared Desire
- Choose Important Goals
- Setting Intentions
- Being Better Every Day
- Resolve to Live With Virtue
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Show Notes:
How would the Stoics approach New Year’s Resolutions? We talk about it on today’s show and give you some pointers for becoming part of the eight percent of Americans who actually achieve their New Year’s Resolutions.
Remember: “When faced with anything painful or pleasurable, anything bringing glory or disrepute, realize that the crisis is now, that the Olympics have started, and waiting is no longer an option; that the chance for progress, to keep or lose, turns on the events of a single day.” - Epictetus, Enchiridion 51.2
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Hanlon’s Razor
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Fundamental Attribution Error
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Not Attributing Failures to Malice or Action’s to Personality
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The Benefit’s of Hanlon’s Razor
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How to Apply Hanlon’s Razor to Your Day to Day Life
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Recognizing Your Cognitive and Egocentric Bias
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Embracing the Principle of Charity
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Show Notes:
Hanlon’s razor is the adage that you should “never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity”. Applied broadly, this principle suggests that when assessing people’s actions, you should not assume that they acted out of a desire to cause harm, as long as there is a reasonable alternative explanation.
On today’s show we talk about how you can use an awareness of Hanlon’s Razor and fundamental attribution error to reduce friction, stress and emotional reactions in your life.
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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How a Billionaire Crypto Brow Set the Narrative
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Seven Ways to Influence the Narrative Around You
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Tell a Good Story
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Money Talks and Writes
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Flood the Zone With Content
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Credibility Loves Company
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Education > Advocacy
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Be The Human Mascot of Your Company/Project/Team
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Looks Matter - But Only if They Appear Authentic
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Today we break down an incredible thread/post by Lulu Cheng Meservy that discusses how FTX founder Sam Bankman-Fried (SBF) strategically manipulated the narrative around his company and created a sustained charm campaign to curry favor with the media, politicians and celebrities.
As SBF’s house of cards has collapsed, and he’s fled the U.S., he has continued to receive favorable coverage from the American media who are treating him like an ernest broker instead of a young Bernie Madoff.
We can all learn a thing or two about how SBF masterfully created a media narrative and how we can - ethically - use the same tactics to our own advantage.
Check out Lulu’s substack here for the full story!
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Don’t Quit. Success is Just Around the Corner
- Mediocrity is the Default, Maximization is Intentional
- How We Went From Failure to Seven Figure Revenue
- You Aren’t a Failure When You’re Defeated, You’re a Failure When you Quit
- Without the Valleys, the View From the Summit Isn’t as Beautiful
- Seeing Opportunity in Obstacle
- Stop Tiptoeing Around Failure. Embrace it for its Utility.
- The Importance of Adversity
- Don’t Avoid Emotion, Acknowledge and Use it
- Premeditatio Malorum and Contingencies
- What Are Your Values an Drivers
- Talent is Never Enough, Tenacity Makes the Difference
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we talk about how to recognize the things that are keeping you mediocre and give you tips to change your default position from mediocrity to accomplishment. Stop fearing failure and lean into what it takes to become a success.
Remember: “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all–in which case, you fail by default” — J.K. Rowling
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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How Does the World’s Richest Man Encourage Productivity?
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Avoid large meetings
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If You’re Not Contributing, Leave
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Ignore the Chain of Command
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Be Clear Not Clever
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Stop Meeting for Meeting’s Sake
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Use Common Sense
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Don’t Follow Rules, Follow Principles
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
How does the world’s richest man encourage productivity in the companies he owns? He employs a set of rules for conduct that make his companies more efficient and his employees work more productive. You can employ these same rules in your business, workplace or life today! Check out the list here!
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Pressure is a Privilege
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You Earn the Right to Feel Pressure
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Pressure Makes us Better
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Pressure Challenges us to Live With Integrity
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Pressure Helps us Engage With Life More Meaningfully
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“I Want The Ball” Feeling
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Better to Fail While Daring Greatly
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Pressure is often viewed as a negative force in our lives. Undue pressure can certainly be an enormous cause of stress, chaos and turmoil. But each challenge that comes along also presents opportunities to test our character, our leadership, and our commitment. The opportunity to perform under pressure, in the face of adversity, and to meet or exceed expectations is truly a privilege. We talk about why on today’s podcast!
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Hope and Fear are Polar Emotions
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Both Are Projections Into the Future That Prevent You Focussing on the Present
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Cease to Hope and You Will Cease to Fear
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Physiology Doesn’t Lie
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Manifestation Alone is Meaningless
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When to Leverage Hope and Fear and When to Focus on What You Control
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Hope and fear are both projections of a future that may or may not happen and, as such, are the same thing, only seen from a negative or positive point of view. Physiology doesn’t lie! They both cause anticipatory physiological responses which are uncannily similar, i.e. sweaty palms, excitement, and trepidation. The only difference is the fact that one outcome is desired and the other is not!
So, how do we leverage hope and fear when we are facing an uncertain outcome where we are not in control? We talk about it today.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Can You Get Out of Your Own Way?
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Don’t Let the Next Six Weeks Set You Back Six Months
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Explaining Gives Away Your Power
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Explaining Yourself is Seeking Others Approval
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Who Do You Really Need Approval From?
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Stop Seeking Validation From People Who Don’t Matter
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Explaining Demonstrates a Lack of Confidence
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Explanations Become Excuses
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Subjective Complaints Get You Nowhere
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Understanding Objective vs. Subjective Complaints
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No What You Control and What You Do Not
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
“Never Complain, Never Explain”: This pithy maxim was first coined by the British politician and prime minister Benjamin Disraeli, and adopted as a motto by many other high-ranking Brits — from members of royalty, to navy admirals, to fellow prime ministers Stanley Baldwin and Winston Churchill. The maxim encapsulates the stiff-upper lipped-ness of the Victorian age, but the timeless wisdom it contains has made it a guiding mantra of powerful, confident, accountability-prizing men up through the modern day.
Today we discuss why you should never complain and never explain.
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Where Does the Buck Stop?
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How President Truman Owned His Responsibilities
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Are You Passing the Buck or Taking Responsibility
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Taking Responsibility for our Choices is Liberating
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We Have to Clean up our Own Messes
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Recognizing What You Control and Cultivating Indifference to that Which you Don’t
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Show Notes:
"The buck stops here" is a phrase that was popularized by U.S. President Harry S. Truman, who kept a sign with that phrase on his desk in the Oval Office. The phrase refers to the notion that the President has to make the decisions and accept the ultimate responsibility for those decisions.
Taking 100% responsibility for cleaning up our own mess instead of engaging in pointless attempts to find other culprits is a powerfully liberating act and one we should spend more time contemplating and engaging in.
We must take responsibility for our own lives, recognizing that we don’t control events but only our responses to them, and that the entire leverage we have on the outcomes in life lies in these responses.
How are you passing the buck in your life and how can you start taking responsibility today?
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- The Graveyards are Full of Indispensable Men
- Acceptable at a Dance/Invaluable in a Shipwreck
- Strong Mind and Strong Body
- We Learn From History so That we May Perfect the Present
- Rule Your Own Empire
- The Warrior-Poet Ideal
- Being Peaceful Until Tread Upon
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
What do I mean when I talk about the importance of becoming an “indispensable man?” Charles De Gaulle once commented that “the graveyards are full of indispensable men,” meaning that we should never act as though we are irreplaceable. That may be true on its face, but it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t strive to be as indispensable as possible while we are here. De Gaulle certainly lived to that ideal.
J.F. Roxburgh, the first headmaster of the Stowe School, endeavored to make the boys he taught into men of good character and moral courage who would be “acceptable at a dance and invaluable in a shipwreck.” That is, perhaps, the best description of an “indispensable man” that I have been able to find.
We should strive to be the kind of men who exhibit strong minds and strong bodies. The kind of men who are equally well prepared for a black tie dinner or a stressful and rapidly evolving event.
Every day, we should remember examples from the past who lived to that ideal - Marcus Aurelias, Tecumseh, George Washington. We become indispensable by becoming virtuous men, driven by ideals and buoyed by strong minds and strong bodies.
Remember: “Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life. Seek to make your life long and its purpose in the service of your people. ” — Tecumseh
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Alexander the Great and Diogenes
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Rule Over Yourself
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We’re All Buried in the Same Dirt
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The Greatest Challenge is to be the Man You Are Meant to be
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You Don’t Become Wealthy by Getting More, you Become Wealthy by Wanting Less
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Do Better Tomorrow
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Journal Prompts to Rule Over Yourself
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On today’s solocast I talk about how you can have a great empire bby simply ruling over yourself.
Remember: “Would you have a great empire? Rule over yourself” - Publius Syrus
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Importance of Doing Your Civic Duty
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Being a Citizen, Not a Subject
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Moral Duty and Honor Culture
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Remembering Your Obligation to Others
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The Concept of Honor
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Your Personal Code of Conduct
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The Scout Law and Scout Code
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How to Be a Man of Honor
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
We all have a sense of moral duty that compels us to serve others. Today on the podcast we discuss the importance of moral duty, honor culture and living with something greater than your own self-interest in mind.
Remember: “Happiness and moral duty are inseparably connected.” - George Washington
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Importance of Guardrails in Our Personal Life
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Standards, Boundaries, Traditions, Discipline and Habits
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The Pence Example
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How to Decide Where to Set the Guardrails in Your Physical Life, Spiritual Life, Finances, Work and Relationships
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On the road, we have rumble strips and guardrails in place to keep us from straying into dangerous or off-limit areas. We should apply that same mechanism to our day to day lives to ensure that we are staying on the path and keeping our lives in balance. In fact, some of our biggest mistakes can be avoided or at least minimized if we apply personal guardrails.
Today we discuss the importance of guardrails and how to employ them in your personal life
Until Tuesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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How the Army is Moving From Mission First to People First
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Understanding the Basic Concepts of Organizational Leadership
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How Gen. Stanley McChrystal Used Ground Truth and Truth to Power to Lead
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What Does the U.S. Army’s Command and General Staff College Do?
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How the Army Defines Leadership
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Leadership vs. Management vs. Supervision
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Why People are Your Greatest Organizational Asset
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The Servant Leadership Model
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Lt. Colonel David Gladish is the Commander of the U.S. Army’s 7th Intermediate Level Education (ILE) Detachment in Grafenwohr, Germany. The 7th Intermediate Level Education Detachment educates United States and international field grade officers assigned or deployed to Army Europe, Army Africa, and Army Central, areas of responsibilities in order to build and lead organizations under Mission Command in Unified Land Operations.
In 24 years in the military, Dave has seen the evolution of the Army from Mission First to People First and is now overseeing professional education aimed at teaching the Army’s organizational leaders about the operational and strategic levels of war and national defense.
This is the first of several conversations that I’ll be having with Dave about the organizational leadership concepts that the Army is teaching that you can use in your personal and professional life to become a better, people first, leader.
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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What Standards are you Setting?
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The Importance of Follow Through
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How Stoic Virtues Create Better Leaders
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We Have to Work Hard to be Rational Beings
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Humility, Awareness, Self-Discipline and Leadership
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Operating With Equanimity
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Focussing on Effort Over Outcome
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Stoicism, centered around humility, awareness and control of your emotions, is a philosophy that is tailor-made for leadership. Living by stoic virtues creates mental toughness, helps you stay calm, helps you deal with crises, and encourages you to transform obstacles into opportunities.
Today we discuss how practicing stoic virtues can make you a more effective leader.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Intention > Discipline > Motivation
- Are you Practicing with Intention?
- Repeated Behavior Builds Habit, Not Skill
- Doing Reps Doesn’t Mean You’re Getting Better
- You Need to Practice the Right Way for as Long as it Takes
- John Wooden on Deep Practice
- The Best Way to Be Indispensable is to Become Exceptionally Good at Something
- You Become Extremely Good at Something by Being All In and Intentional in Your Pursuit
- It Cannot Just be About Showing Up
Resources + Links:
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How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
There is a difference between building a habit and building a skill. On the podcast today we talk about the importance of being intentional in our practices and practicing the right way for as long as it takes to improve our skill. To become truly indispensable, you need to become exceptionally good at something. And showing up simply isn’t enough. You must show up with intention.
Remember: “It is the hard work you do in practice after you are “all in” that improves your condition. Force yourself when you are tired.” — John Wooden
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Importance of Doing Hard Things
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Why You should Get Punched in the Teeth From Time to Time
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No One Knows What They are Made of Until They are Tested
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Tips For Tackling the Last Quarter of the Year
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Dan Crenshaw on the Importance of Learning to Endure
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Do Something Hard if you Want to Learn Something About Yourself
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Lessons from Ironman Texas 2013
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You Need Mental Reference Points of How Much you Can Endure
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
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Show Notes:
On today’s solocast I talk about the importance of doing something hard to learn what you are truly capable of. Navy SEALs, boxers and Ironman triathletes always have experiences in the back of their head that they can draw from to help them endure the current struggle. So, if you’ve never been pushed to the brink of breaking, how can you know what you can endure?
Remember: “No prize fighter can go in high spirits into the strife if he has never been beaten black and blue.” - Seneca
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Why You Should Do A Daily Muster
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Tomorrow Begins Today
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The Importance of Getting in Your Reps
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Habits Create Endurance - For the Good or Bad
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The Power of Counterbalancing Bad Habits with Good Habits
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Tips for Creating Good Habits and Breaking Bad Habits
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Habits aren’t good or bad…they just are. You get to choose whether the habits you create are going to be good habits or bad habits, so you may as well create good ones.
On today’s podcast we talk about how “habit” is a powerful instinct that can make or break you and offer tips on how to create good habits and overcome the bad ones.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Are You Struggling to Keep All of the Plates Spinning?
- How Matthew McConaughey Prioritizes His Life
- Define What Success Means to You
- When is the Last Time You Gave Yourself a Time Audit?
- Don’t Drink the Kool-Aid
- McConaughey’s Five Truths for a Maximized Life
- Ron Swanson on Half-Assing
- Marcus Aurelius on the Importance of Eliminating the Inessential
- Commit to What is Essential, Become Indifferent to What is Not
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
Are you overwhelmed by what’s going on in your life and find yourself having a hard time keeping all of your commitments in the black? Maybe it’s time to run an audit on your personal operations.
When I was a Special Agent, I had mandatory quarterly case reviews with my management team to make sure that my investigations were all progressing in a timely manner. It was an essential component of case management and one that has real world application as well.
This week I realized that it was time to run a “case review” on my personal and entrepreneurial projects to help me identify where my time and attention is going and how I can maximize my incomes and my outputs.
On the podcast today we talk about the concept of “time audits” and share wisdom from Matthew McConaughey, Marcus Aurelius and Ron Swanson that will help you become more focussed on the things that matter.
Remember: “Be brave. Take the hill. But first ask yourself, ‘What is MY hill?’”— Matthew McConaughey
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Importance of Taking a Break and Filling Your Cup
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Living and Working for the Experience of Life
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Life is More Than the Passing of Time
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The Importance of Living Your Life Now
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Enjoying the Fullness of Your Life
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
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Show Notes:
On today’s solocast I talk about the importance of work/life balance, living your life in the present and collecting experiences instead of things.
Remember: “Life is not just the passing of time. Life is the collection of experiences and their intensity.” - Jim Rohn
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Why You Should Do A Daily Muster
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The Importance of Modeling
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How Confident Parents Raise Confident Kids
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Insecure Parents Create Insecure Kids
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Bad Choices Are the Lifeblood of Average
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
This weekend I was alone with my kids and was thinking about the importance of modeling good behavior for them. A great thread on Twitter caught my attention this week that laid out tips for raising more confident children. We discuss it on the show today!
Remember: “Bad choices are the lifeblood of average” - Trevor Moawad
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- The Importance of Choosing the Right Goals
- Shifting From Strategic Vision to Tactical Goal Setting
- Stacking W’s Along the Way
- Picking Goals That you can Control
- Are You Showing Up Every Day?
- The Most Successful Care the Least About Winning - They Care About Being the Best.
- Don’t Overset Your Goals
- Is This Necessary?
Resources + Links:
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How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
How do you know you’re setting the right goals to match your strategic vision? Today we’re offering tips on choosing the right goals so that you will have the most impact.
Remember: “There is never a need to get worked up about things you can’t control.” —Marcus Aurelius
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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What Can Omar Little Teach us About the Importance of Having a Code?
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How Goals Give You Clarity and Focus
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How Goals Help You Assess Your Actions
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How Goals Keep Chaos and Procrastination Away
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Are You Training or Just Exercising?
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If You Don’t Know Your Destination, No Wind is Favorable.
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
It’s easy to get busy and get pulled off course by life. The emails come in, the apps on your phone ping, the kids or pets do something that requires your attention…and you get distracted.
Setting goals is an effective way to give you clarity and focus, help you assess negative and positive impacts or your actions and beat back procrastination and chaos.
Today we talk about the importance of setting goals if you want to live the life you’ve imagined.
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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What is Philosophy? It’s How We Live Our Lives.
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What Standard Does Your Personal Philosophy Set?
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Are You Deriving Authority From Your Title or Your Actions?
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A Man Must Have a Code
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How Setting the Standard Improves Your Ability to Accomplish Goals
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Excellence Requires a Standard
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To Live in a Consistent Way, You Must Have a Consistent Standard
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You Need a Plan or Else You’ll Plan to Fail
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The Power of Process Thinking
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
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Show Notes:
The best leaders don’t talk about how things should be done, they live in a way that sets the example. If you think about it, some of the best lessons that you have learned in life have come indirectly from the choices that others have made and the examples they have set for themselves. What is the lesson? By setting a standard, you can lead others far more effectively than if you rely on rank or title alone. And by living to a standard, you will be far more effective at achieving your goals in life.
“Never call yourself a philosopher, nor talk a great deal among the unlearned about theorems, but act conformably to them. Thus, at an entertainment, don’t talk how persons ought to eat, but eat as you ought.” - Epictetus
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- What is Your True North When Life is Chaotic?
- Do You Have a Port in the Storm?
- Remember What You Control and Hold Fast to it
- How to Maintain Composure to Maintain Control
Resources + Links:
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How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
When you find yourself in times of chaos, do you recognize what you control and how to use that “true north” to keep yourself moving in the right direction, or do you let chaos take over?
Today we are sharing tips on how to stay centered in chaotic times so that you can get back on track quickly when the storm passes.
Remember: “When thou hast been compelled by circumstances to be disturbed in a manner, quickly return to thyself and do not continue out of tune longer than the compulsion lasts; for thou wilt have more mastery over the harmony by continually recurring to it.” —Marcus Aurelius
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Programming Note/Housekeeping
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Five Stoic Tips to Fight Anxiety
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Knowing the Difference Between Rational and Irrational Worries
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Cognitive Decoupling
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Suffering in Our Imagination
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Are You Ever Really Present in the Moment
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
We have a change of format in the show this Wednesday as we drop a solocast offering up five potent tips for kicking your anxieties to the curb.
Until Friday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Shifting to Solution Oriented Thinking
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Exploring Solomon’s Paradox
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Rational Emotive Behavior
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Being a Stoic Problem Solver
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The Socratic Method and Psychological Distancing
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Solving Problems in the Third Person Perspective
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
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Show Notes:
Are you a problem focused thinker or a solution focused thinker? Today we talk about the Socratic method, the ideas behind Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy and “Solomon’s Paradox” and how you can use it to change your perspective from problem oriented thinking to solution based thinking.
Remember: “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” — Marcus Aurelius
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- If it All Ended Tomorrow, What Would You Leave Behind?
- Tips for Tying up Loose Ends
- Memento Mori
- Accepting the Unacceptable
- Death is the Great Equalizer
- The Importance of Estate Planning
- Online Tools You Can Use to Get Your Affairs in Order
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we talked about what it means to live a life well, die with courage and leave a legacy behind. But what about the loose ends that must be tied up when you’re gone? Have you prepared others for what happens when you’re gone?
Today, we’re focussing getting your affairs in order so you can focus on living well.
Remember: “Let each thing you would do, say, or intend, be like that of a dying person.” —Marcus Aurelius
Resources:
Lantern (lantern.co) is a free website with checklists and articles about end-of-life preparations.
Everplans (everplans.com) is a subscription-based online product for creating, organizing and storing your end-of-life plan.
The Conversation Project (theconversationproject.org) is a website focused on helping people talk about their wishes for end-of-life care.
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Healing Power of Food
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Eating Like You’re Supposed to
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Modeling Healthy Food Habits for Your Family
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OCR Racing and Pushing Yourself to New Boundaries
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
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Show Notes:
Chad Perrin is a certified nutritionist from Los Angeles who grew up in the Chicago suburbs. In addition to helping people with their nutrition and weight loss goals, Chad is the father of two young boys, an amateur musician, a fitness enthusiast, and is always on the path of self improvement.
Chad is a man with a great personal story who overcame health issues by learning how to fuel his body properly and now has a deep desire to help other people get, and stay, healthy and strong.
You can connect with Chad on Instagram @chaddperrin or at his website chadscoaching.com.
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Lessons in Courage From my Father in Law, Ed Landry
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
My father in law, Ed Landry, passed away yesterday.
When Ed was first diagnosed with a rare form of cancer last year, I drove him to MD Anderson downtown for a surgical procedure. On the way, he told me that the doctor had been clear about his prognosis and that he understood what he was facing. There were no tears and no complaints. He was resolute and accepting. His only concern was for his wife and children.
I talk and write a lot about my admiration for the Stoic philosophers of Ancient Rome, but Ed lived by their example, naturally.
A true Stoic believes that living well means dying well, too. He believes we live well through having a good character, and death is the final test of it. Ed embodied that challenge, facing his diagnosis with courage and character that I can only hope to show when it is my time.
As the end came near in recent weeks, Ed was in considerable discomfort, but I never heard him complain or saw him cry or lash out. Instead, he busied himself with the tasks of preparing his family and loved ones for his passing.
Death is a constant reminder of the fragility of life. It is a reminder of our existence and the time we have. Through death, we are reminded of why life is so valuable.
As Seneca wisely recommended, let us greedily enjoy our friends and our loved ones now, while we still have them. Ed understood this better than anyone, and we’re all better for it.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Would Your 21 Year Old Self be Proud of the Man You Have Become
- When An Obstacle Lands in Your Path Do You Take a Left Turn?
- Alignment Determines Assignments
- No Wind is Favorable if You Don’t Know What Port You’re Sailing Towards
- The Why Matters More Than the How
- When is it Time to Stop Going Through the Motions?
- Hoist the Black Flag, Gentlemen
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we discussed the importance of living optimally and knowing when it is time to look in the mirror, say enough is enough, and put your life back on the path that you can walk down with purpose. Obstacles are opportunities, but too many of us let the obstacles send us on a long journey away from our destination. Are you in alignment with your purpose? If so, the path becomes much clearer and easier to traverse, despite the obstacles.
Today, we’re focussing on identifying your purpose and reminding yourself of the man you wanted to become.
Remember: “If you don’t know to which port you sail, no wind is favorable.” - Seneca
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Operating at Your Optimum
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Hormones and Your Health
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Philosophy of Western Medicine
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Practicing Sick Care vs. Practicing Health Care
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Treating the Patient Not the Problem
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The System is Set to Help us Survive, Not Thrive
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Lion’s Lead
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Treating People as People, not Numbers
Resources + Links:
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How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
Steve Martinez is an Air Force veteran, former Firefighter, Ironman triathlete and a Physician Assistant who specializes in functional medicine. Steve’s passion is helping men increase their strength and energy through testosterone and peptide optimization therapies.
Originally from Washington state, Steve now makes his home in the Rio Grande Valley with his wife and son. He has a passion for endurance sports, and strength training.
Steve is an entrepreneur as well and is the owner of Restore Wellness RGV in McAllen, Texas and Groov Wellness in San Antonio, Texas. Steve recently launched a nationwide, all male, program called Lions Lead. The program is an all inclusive program that includes consultations, peptides, hormones, supplements and one-on-one coaching to help men become the strongest, most enthusiastic and best versions of themselves.
Steve is offering listeners of the podcast an opportunity to become members of Lions Lead. Exclusively for today, he is offering a one time $3000 off discount plus a 30 day bonus for those wanting to join ($4997).
You can connect with Steve on social media at:
Facebook: Steve Martinez, Lionslead, Restore Wellness RGV
IG: Steve.martinez.pac509, Lionsleadhealth, Restore Wellness RGV
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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When is Enough Enough?
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Hoisting the Black Flag
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Liberty is the Soul’s Right to Breathe
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The Importance of Taking Stock of Your Situation
Resources + Links:
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How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Show Notes:
“Every normal man must be tempted, at times, to spit upon his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats." - H.L. Mencken
One of my favorite books is Colin Woodard’s The Republic of Pirates that tells the tale of the Golden Age of Piracy and how the infamous Flying Gang revolted against the conditions they faced on the sea and on plantations and joined forces to form the western hemisphere’s first democratic republic.
The pirates weren’t what Hollywood wants you to see them as. They weren’t all bloodthirsty reprobates. They were rebels - free men - who said “enough,” and cast off their yokes to breathe free air. Their rebellion shook the foundations of the British and Spanish Empires and fanned the democratic sentiments that would drive the American revolution 50 years later.
The story always reminds me that men, at our core, across the generations, have always had the same yearning to throw off the shackles and forge our own path - free, independent and sovereign - not living by another’s leave.
We’re not that different in the 21st Century than those 17th Century rebels. We all yearn to live life on our terms. So…When do you say enough is enough and hoist your own black flag?
Gentlemen, you get one life. One shot to truly live free, to truly chase what’s yours and create a legacy. When will it be time for you to throw up your own black flag and choose to live life on your terms?
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
- Premeditatio Malorum
- The Importance of Finding the Edge
- How Far Can You Push Yourself?
- The Danger of the Comfort Trap
- Life is Going to Hit You Hard. Are you Prepared to be Hit?
- Preparing Your Mind and Body for the Battle of Life
- Seeking Out Challenges Make the Challenges of Life Less Challenging
- You Need to Be Hard When it Gets Hard
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we discussed the importance of standing up and helping others and the importance of finding your edge so that you can be hard when it gets hard. On Friday we recap the week and lean into the idea of Premeditatio Malorum, the Stoic concept of preparing your mind for the worst so that life doesn’t surprise you when it punches you in the mouth.
Remember: “Rehearse them in your mind: exile, torture, war, shipwreck. All the terms of our human lot should be before our eyes.” - Seneca
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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How Rangers Lead the Way
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Putting on Stoic Armor
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The Importance of Voluntary Discomfort
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Life in Service to Others
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The Value of Mentorship and Finding Friction
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Mindset Lessons from the Martial Arts
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Luis “Figgy” Figueroa is a former U.S. Army Ranger and Security Contractor who has spent much of his life in service to others on the front lines of the Global War on Terror.
Now, Figgy’s mission is to help other men learn to lead and grow by offering coaching and leadership services through his work with the Mpowered Brotherhood, Pointman, Inc. and his website Stoic Armor.
Figgy is a wealth of knowledge on endurance, leadership and living by the Stoic principles of wisdom, justice, temperance and courage and this conversation is packed with value that will help you live as a more complete man!
You can find Figgy on Instagram at dienekes2a3
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Remembering 9/11
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The Man in the Red Bandana
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What is Good for the Hive is Good for the Bee
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Living with a Servant’s Heart
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Understanding Duty and Service
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Living Each Day with Love and Gratitude
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The Importance of a Full Heart
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
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Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
“𝘏𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘢𝘭 𝘥𝘶𝘵𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥” - George Washington
Today is a good day to remember that our own welfare cannot be disconnected from service to others, and that seeking our best self means actively caring for the welfare of others.
Never forget the example of men and women like Orio Palmer, Moira Smith, Welles Crowther, Frank de Martini, Pablo Ortiz and Rick Rescorla. Men and women who, in the hardest moment of their lives, chose to give their last full measure in service to others.
That is selfless. That is duty. That is living for higher purpose. And that is what we should all strive for.
On a day when we rightly remember and mourn for those lost, and grieve with those left behind, let us also celebrate the actions of those who rose to their highest self, expressing love and service in their last moments. And let us strive to live our lives by their example.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Tips to Get More Consistent
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Understanding and Using Persistence and Resistance
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Setting Audacious Goals, Writing it Down, Eliminating Distractions and Putting Skin in the Game
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Putting Your Ass Where Your Heart Wants to Be
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
If you want to commit to become more consistent, here are four things you can do today that will help you fall in love with the process and reach your goals faster:
- Set an audacious goal with a defined date of completion. Give yourself a deadline to work with. Ex: “I am going to run The Woodlands Marathon.”
- Reverse engineer your schedule/training plan to meet the goal by the deadline. Write it down in a format that keeps you accountable.
- Eliminate distractions that don’t align with your goal. If possible, add motivators that do. Ex: find training partners.
- Make a financial commitment. Put some skin in the game. Ex: Sign up for the event, pay a coach, buy equipment, etc.
Remember: “There are two vices much blacker and more serious than the rest: lack of persistence and lack of self-control … persist and resist.” – Epictetus
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Entrepreneurship
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Taking Off the Golden Handcuffs
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Are You Digging for Gold or Selling the Pick Ax?
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Short Term Rental Markets and Trends in Airbnb
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Identifying Your Niche During a Downturn
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Trusting Your Spouse and Supporting Her Intuition
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Success in the Online Space
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How Would You Spend $50,000 - College or Business?
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Surrounding Yourself with High Achieving Men
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Visualization Exercises Work in Sports and in LIfe
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
In addition to being a fun, funny and freedom loving guy, Elliot Schwartz is an investor, speaker, and entrepreneur with a passion for building wealth with strategies that minimize tax liability.
Ellliot is creating a Luxury Airbnb fund specifically geared to hosting high level master minds and other high end experiences and tells his story on the Jacked & Happy Podcast.
This is a jam packed conversation with a fun and entertaining guy who will get you fired up about chasing down your dreams!
Elliot is also a great follow on Instagram at elliot_30 or jackednhappy
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Greek Concept of Eudaimonia
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Living Authentically
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Philosophy is not Meant to be Studied, it is Meant to be Lived
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The Triangle of Happiness
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Take Responsibility, Live with Virtue (Arete) & Focus on What you Control
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Finding the Divine Spark Within Yourself and Live Your Perfected Self
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
The easiest way to everlasting happiness is to live with authenticity with respect to your true daimon - Greek for “higher self.”
To be truly happy we must live to our fullest potential. We do this by practicing virtue, taking responsibility and remembering what we control.
Remember: “A good character is the only guarantee of everlasting, carefree happiness.” - Seneca
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Weekly Recap
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The Value of Friction in Your Life
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Rising Above Trials and Trauma
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How Adversity Reveals What you are Really Made of
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Focus on Solutions, Not on Problems
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
Some of the most successful people that I know have come from situations that would have derailed most people. How do we learn to rise above? We embrace friction and use it to empower us.
Remember: “A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials.” - Seneca
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Writing is a Sacred Honor
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The Power of Being Raw and Authentic
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Overcoming Fear and Living With Purpose
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Compounding Trauma
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The Cost of Sustained Hypervigilance
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Talking to God and Following His Path
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Taking a Chance and Writing Your Story
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How Police Can Win on the Job and Win at Home
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Brothers Are Built for Times of Adversity
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Adam Davis is a former law enforcement officer, nationally known speaker, and bestselling author of nine books. He is passionate about helping others win in the workplace and at home. Adam is also a writing and publishing consultant and has helped more than 40 individuals take their ideas and turn them into books, many of which have become bestsellers.
Adam is the founder of the Live Unconquered movement helping people discover the path to overcome adversity and live above defeat. His passion is helping others WIN in life and OVERCOME!
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Overcoming Adversity in Life and Business
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Efficient Energetics
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The Importance of Ego Death
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Gaining Perspective During Hardship
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Learning to Love Your Fate
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Letting Others Lead Without Guilt
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The Art of Aquiesence
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
For our Monday Mindset this week my wife and business partner @mycoachlacy (aka @iamlacyunleashed) stopped by to talk about how we’re working through a challenging time in our family and filling our roles as parents and business owners by getting hyper efficient with our energetics.
If you’ve ever wondered about the dynamics of our relationship and partnership, we explore that in this episode while giving advice on how to turn obstacles into opportunity, kill your ego to grow, get hyper efficient with your intention and take turns riding shotgun.
If you’re a parent, a business owner or a partner or spouse, you’ll find value in this conversation as we dig into the reality of running a business and a family when the road gets rocky.
Remember: “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” - Marcus Aurelius
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Weekly Recap
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Making a Point vs. Making a Difference.
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Virtue vs. Virtue Signaling
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The Comfort Trap
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The Best Revenge is Living Well
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
Are you busy making a point or are you busy making a difference?
Remember: “The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury.” - Marcus Aurelius
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Entrepreneurship
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Building and Selling Companies
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Learning to Fly
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Challenges in the Modern Workplace
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Marriage and Partnership
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The Importance of Personal Development
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
TK Herman is a father, husband, investor and entrepreneur who has founded multiple successful companies in the software industry. TK is married to his best friend Jill with whom he has five children. TK is also an avid pilot, earning his pilot’s license in 1997, an instrument rating in 2006, a multi-engine rating in 2010 and a helicopter rating in 2020.
TK is a tremendously interesting and successful guy who has made personal development and inner growth an important part of his professional and personal journey.
This is a great conversation with a humble guy who has truly been there and done that. If you’re a father, husband or entrepreneur, you’re sure to gain some insight from this episode!
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Why Calvin Coolidge Considered Tenacity the Most Important Character Trait
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What Our Kids Going Back to School Can Teach us About Tenacity
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Tenacity Outlasts Motivation
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Tenacity is Born from Consistency Over Time
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Read a free chapter at www.indispensableman.net
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
On our Monday Muster we set intentions for the week and identify a concept that will help you live your life with valor.
Tenacity is defined as persistent determination, something Calvin Coolidge considered to be the supreme character trait that one could possess, noting, “Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.”
Having tenacity means you're the kind of person who never gives up and never stops trying – someone who does whatever is required to accomplish your goals. And while some people are born with more tenacity than others, for most of us, it is a skill that develops over time through consistency of action and sheer force of will. It requires intensity and commitment, but more than anything it requires you to outwork your self-doubt, creating successful outcomes by practicing and refining a skill to a point where it would be unreasonable to fail.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Living Unconquered
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William Ernest Henley and How to Endure
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Being the Master of Your Fate and the Captain of Your Soul
Resources + Links:
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How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
What did poet William Ernest Henley mean when he wrote Invictus and how can you apply those lessons of endurance to your life?
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Value of Finding Other Men in Entrepreneurship
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Pivoting in Your Business and Finding Your Lane
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Fatherhood and Family
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Risk and Reward
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Helping Others Grow and Prosper
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Download a free chapter of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Get your copy of the book, here!
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Joel Eshelman is the owner of multiple businesses in the health and wellness space to include The Gym Mpls and Apex Personal Training.
As a father, fiance and entrepreneur, Joel is working to build businesses that serve him and his community while balancing the demands of fatherhood and family. During the pandemic, when gyms and personal training studios were closed, Joel pivoted to wholesale equipment sales and helped people create their dream gyms in their own homes. Joel approaches his industry like the “Batman of Business,” always looking for ways to help other people in the space and create new opportunities for himself.
In addition to being a great businessman and father, Joel is a funny guy to talk to and this interview kept me laughing throughout. You can follow Joel on Instagram at @joeleshelman @thegymmpls and @trainwithapex.
Until Friday…Out of role!
Monday Muster - Physical Fitness is the Gateway
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Importance of Physical Fitness
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How to Regain Your Trust in Yourself by Reclaiming Your Fitness
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How You Show up for Yourself Matters
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Physical Fitness is the Gateway to a Better Life
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You Control Your Physical Fitness and Need to Act Like it
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Read a free chapter at www.indispensableman.net
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
On our Monday Muster we set intentions for the week and identify a concept that will help you live your life with valor.
What is the easiest way to regain your own trust and set yourself on a path for greater success? Get your physical fitness in line. In the first chapter of my book Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man, I discuss how setting a goal and getting myself back in shape was the gateway to going from insignificant to indispensable.
If you can’t get out of your own way, how can you expect to be the kind of man that can take care of others? Physical fitness is the gateway to greater success in every aspect of your life. If it isn’t a priority for you, it needs to be.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Do You Keep Promises to Yourself?
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It’s Hard to Love Yourself When You Don’t Trust Yourself
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Using Micro Habits and Tactical Planning to Regain Your Trust With Yourself
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
It’s hard to like someone, let alone love them, when you don’t trust them. This is especially true when you don’t trust yourself.
We begin to trust ourselves by learning how to keep promises to ourselves.
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Taking a Guy’s Trip
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When was the Last Time you Poured Into Yourself?
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Entrepreneurship and Parenthood
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Getting in the Room With Guys That Make You Better
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Getting Promoted to Stay at Home Dad
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Finding and Engaging With Your Tribe
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become an indispensable man?
https://linktr.ee/krhealey
Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Kyle Depiesse is a husband, father and entrepreneur driven to create transformational experiences through once in a lifetime trips for high performing men. Kyle is the host of the Reaching Beyond Podcast and the author of the book Guy’s Trip: How to Refocus on What Matters Most.
You can follow Kyle on Instagram at @kyle_depiesse and check out his schedule of upcoming guy’s trips at his website www.reachingbeyondexperience.com. His book is available in paperback and e-reader on Amazon at Guy's Trip: How to Refocus on What Matters Most
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Epictetus and the Dichotomy of Control
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What Do We Control and What is Outside of Our Control?
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The Serenity Prayer as a Guiding Principle
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Knowing What You Have the Power to Change
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Personal Serenity and the Discipline of Desire
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become more indispensable?
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Get your copy of Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
On our Monday Muster we set intentions for the week and identify a concept that will help you live your life with valor.
The Serenity Prayer is a prayer written by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr in 1934. It is commonly quoted as:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
Niebuhr’s prayer is well known in the addiction and recovery community, but is also a perfect summation of the Stoic concept the Dichotomy of Control - recognizing what we control and what we do not, and the serenity that comes from that understanding.
Today we discuss the importance of knowing what we control, what we do not, and the peace of mind we gain by controlling that which we can and becoming indifferent to that which we do not.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Meditations 9.5
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Being Virtuous vs. Virtue Signaling
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Virtue is Hard, Virtue Signaling is Easy
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There is Injustice in What You Do and in What You Don’t Do
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Stop Talking About it and Be About it
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
In Meditations 9.5 Marcus Aurelius reminds us that “Injustice lies in what you aren’t doing, not only in what you are doing.”
What does this mean?
Said another way, you can commit injustice by doing nothing.
Virtue signaling is incredibly popular in our internet focussed society. You must emote on every current thing. You must be down for the struggle…nominally. As long as you don’t have to, you know, actually struggle.
Virtue signaling is a violation of the core Stoic practice of showing rather than telling. Virtue signaling is not virtue. Emoting does not make for a virtuous life. It is the same as doing nothing.
If we begin with a commitment to virtue, an earnest commitment to doing the right thing, to serving the common good, to philosophical ideals, it requires us to act when we see injustice, not to talk about it. Virtue signaling is easy. Virtue is hard!
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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When My Life Truly Began
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Insignificant to Indispensable
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My New Book and Who it is For
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On a special Wednesday solo episode we’re discussing my new book, Indispensable: A Tactical Plan for the Modern Man and how I chose to give up being insignificant and pursue a life of valor.
Until Friday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Meditations 8.33
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Marcus Aurelias and the Importance of Accepting and Letting Go With Diffidence.
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Do Not Take the Slights of the Day Personally
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Do Not Get Attached to Things That Are Fleeting
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The More You Want the Poorer You’ll Feel
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Show Notes:
On our Monday Muster we set intentions for the week and identify a concept that will help you live your life with valor.
In Meditations 8.33 Marcus Aurelias reminds us to NOT take the slights of the day personally. He reminds us to accept humbly and let go easily, to accept without arrogance and let go with indifference.
This lesson is pretty straightforward, but profound. When something comes your way—be it status, praise, or material things—accept it with humility, and be mindful that just because you’ve received that thing it doesn’t mean you are more important than anyone else. Do not attach yourself to what you’ve gained. That way, when you inevitably lose it, you are able to carry on unfazed.
To the Stoics, you could only control your mind and your soul. Therefore, spending your life in pursuit of worldly things, like material goods, wealth, social status, meaningless titles, and praise from others, was a road to misery and disappointment. After all, the more you want, the poorer you’ll feel.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Things That Outrage You Don’t Exist Unless You Allow Them To
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You Have The Power to Tune it Out.
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The Average American Spends 15-23 Years in Front of the Television.
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How Much Better Would Your Life Be if You Didn’t Participate in the Outrage Cycle
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Don’t Let the Algorithm Manipulate Your Life.
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
The common denominator in all your complaints is you.
Everything you complain about? It doesn’t exist without you there. You are the fuel. And the hard truth is, you don’t have to fuel things that don’t serve you. You don’t have to give away your energy. You are choosing this path.
Drama in the workplace? Arguments on social media? Panicked chyrons on cable news? Silly disputes with neighbors, colleagues, friends, or family? All of it. The common denominator is you. You are choosing to pour your precious energy into these things. You are fueling the fire. You are giving them your limited attention, your finite time.
Stop.
The average American spends an aggregate 15-23 years in front of a television.
Read that again.
American life expectancy is about 80 years. Subtract the first five years and the last five years when your free will is significantly reduced and you’re spending almost 1/3 of your conscious life staring at a box. Does that box enrich your life?
Imagine the problems in your life that could be solved by simply pouring less of your energy into that television? More time to read, to workout, to develop a skill, build a brand, spend with loved ones, travel.
More time to live.
In everything I do I am seeking to live with more responsibility. That means pouring my energy into things that give back, make me better or improve myself, my family, my community, and my life.
Does an argument on Facebook or hour of cable news serve me? Does it enrich my life? No? Then it serves no purpose and deserves none of my energy.
You have agency. You have responsibility. The common denominator for all your complaints is you. Stop pouring effort and energy into the things that cause you complaint and watch your complaints disappear.
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Making Every Heartbeat Count
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Living a Life of Purpose
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Remembering That it Could All End Tomorrow
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Marriage and Entrepreneurship
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The Positive Power of Social Media and Podcasting
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Finding and Engaging With Your Tribe
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
CJ Finley is a husband, athlete and entrepreneur who is the Founder of Thrive On Life and the host of the Thrive On Life Podcast where he makes it his goal to help other mission based people, brands and businesses thrive on life, love, health and everything in between.
CJ is a positive inspiration and a great follow on social media for tips, tricks and tools on maximizing your life and mindset. You can follow CJ on YouTube and Instagram or check out his podcast and websites at the following links:
YouTube: CJ Finley
Instagram: Thrive On Life Podcast; Thrive On Life and CJ Finley
Podcast: Thrive On Life Podcast
Website : www.cjfinley.com and www.thriveonlife.com
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Importance of Holding Space for Your Spouse.
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Does Your Wife Trust You Enough to Take a Weekend Off?
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You Need to Be Strong and Fit Enough to Hold Down the Fort.
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If Your Cup is Empty How Can You Pour Into Others?
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Partnership Means Giving Each Other Space to Recharge.
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Monday Muster we set intentions for the week and identify a concept that will help you live your life with valor.
I was a solo dad this weekend for the first time in a few months.
My wife needed some solo time to reset and recharge, and I was more than happy to oblige. Happy wife, happy life, fellas. This ain’t hard.
In her short absence I was reminded of how much work she does for our children. We are a team and we both play important roles. When one part of that team is missing, well, you have to pick up the slack. And that’s eye opening.
Parenting takes patience and persistence. But it also takes strength and endurance. And if you’re not able to keep up, you are increasing the burden your spouse has to bear.
My wife always feels confident leaving for a few days because she knows I am equal to the task. She knows I can carry her weight so she can recharge. And she does the same for me. That trust is the greatest compliment we can pay one another.
I don’t ever want her to feel like she can’t take a few days away because I’m not fit enough to manage on my own. I don’t ever want her to feel like she has to carry more of the burden than is fair or reasonable because I can’t keep up.
My commitment to her and what she means to my children and our family means that I need to stay fit and healthy. I need to pull my weight. We’re a team, and this team does not have a weak link. Don’t be the weak link on yours.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Jordan Peterson’s Definition of a Good Man
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Marcus Aurelias on Being a Good Man
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How the Minute Men of Lexington and Concord can Inform our Understanding of What a Good Man Should be
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If the Wolf is at Your Door Will he Find You Ready?
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Are you a Harmless Man or a Good Man?
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
"A harmless man is not a good man. A good man is a very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control" - Jordan Peterson
Jordan Peterson isn’t an American, but his quote about good men would be roundly applauded by our founding fathers.
The founders were deeply read in the classics and drew considerable inspiration from Greek and Roman tales of heroism. So much so that Ben Franklin advocated for the use of Hercules in our symbols of union as a reference to the hero’s tale and the growth of our young nation.
He was right to make reference to the heroes of the classical world after watching an army of laymen defeat the world’s greatest superpower. Like many heroes in antiquity, the Minute Men of Lexington and Concord were uncommon in their resolve. They were farmers and merchants, husbands and fathers, who answered a call when their homes and families were threatened by an invading army.
They were good men - well trained and dangerous - who remained under voluntary control until they were needed. They were like the native rattlesnake that Franklin also celebrated - Peaceful unless tread upon.
In Meditations, Marcus Aurelias reminds us to stop arguing about what it is to be a good man and to be one. In essence, he is saying that if you want to try to make the world a better place, there’s a lot you do, but the easiest thing you can do is to simply be a good man.
You wear many hats. Husband, father, friend, employee, boss, neighbor. A protector. A first responder. A sheepdog standing against wolves. But under all of the labels - at your core - you must first be a good man, not a harmless man.
And if you are not a good man, it’s time to look within.
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Importance of Being Your Family’s First Responder
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Stepping up in Your Community and Family
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Leading by Example
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Entrepreneurship and Fatherhood
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The Rights and Responsibilities of Firearms Ownership
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Becoming a By-Doer, not a Bystander
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Show Notes:
Gabriel Blackwell is a father, husband and entrepreneur who is working in his community to raise awareness about civic responsibility, firearms safety and tactical medical response. Through his company Black Well Training Group, Gabriel is bringing firearm training, fitness, medical training and security mindset to men and women who may not have interfaced with these fields before. Gabriel works with his students to promote knowledge, action, and the importance of repeating the process.
Gabriel is the kind of “indispensable man” who wants to be an example in his community and for his children and is leading by example to show them what it means to be a “by-doer, not a bystander.”
I really enjoyed this conversation and hope you do as well. I’m hoping to have Gabriel back on a future episode to talk again about the work he is doing with his family and community!
You can follow Gabriel on Instagram @gb.blackwell or on his business Instagram page, @black_well_training_group to see what he has going on and get in on a future training opportunity.
Until Friday...Out of Role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Pros and Cons of Herd Mentality
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Raising Red Flags When Emotion Drives the Narrative
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Separating Yourself From the Herd
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The Importance of Maintaining Your Individual Will and Sovereignty
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Show Notes:
On our Monday Muster we set intentions for the week and identify a concept that will help you live your life with valor.
Herd mentality describes how people can be influenced by their peers to adopt certain behaviors on a largely emotional, rather than rational, basis. The danger of herd mentality is that is caused when individuals subjugate their individual will, thoughts, and behaviors to the majority; the group or herd.
Herd mentality is why politicians place so much emphasis on vague “do something” exaltations after every tragedy. It’s why every public policy issue is framed as an emergency or an existential crisis requiring immediate expanse of government power over the individual. It’s why heated rhetoric says “We’re all gonna die” or “You’re literally killing people” during every policy debate.
That’s not rational. It’s emotional. It’s immature. And yet…it continues.
But we can change that by refusing to become part of the herd. We can change that by refusing to let corporations, politicians and the like weaponize our emotions. We can change that by slowing down and thinking rationally.
Slowing down and thinking rationally before seeking solutions is never to the advantage of a politician or group that wants to advance their power or control over the individual. Never.
And that is exactly why you should do it.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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How Your Social Circle Can Define Who You Become
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The Crab Mentality
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Your Social Circle Can Pull You Up or Drag you Down
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The Value of Cultivating a High Performing Circle Through Mentorship, Masterminds and Retreats
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
Throughout my law enforcement career I made a conscious effort to partner with hard workers and high achievers. I reasoned that partnering with driven individuals would push me harder and help me grow, and that we would hold each other to high performance standards. I was right.
Whether you seek to enrich your job performance, your wisdom or your personal development, you must consciously engage with those who motivate you, challenge you and hold you accountable.
By surrounding yourself with people who seek a higher standard of achievement, you gain perspective, knowledge, inspiration.
Seeking out peers isn’t always easy, but true growth never is. And every time I have made an effort to find deeper connections, it has paid immeasurable dividends. Whether through masterminds, communities or retreats, getting in the room with other men who hold a mirror up to me always makes me better.
Until Monday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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The Art of Communication
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Turning Obstacles into Opportunity
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Making the Best of the Hand You’re Dealt
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Sales and Entrepreneurship
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Family and Fatherhood
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Hayden Weichers is a father, husband and serial entrepreneur who has founded numerous businesses and helped numerous others grow by maximizing their sales and helping them identify, develop and land their dream clients.
After a high profile run in with the law in college ended Hayden’s D1 football career, all of the odds were stacked against him. He had two choices: road construction or finding a way to make something of himself. Through hard work and indefatigable determination, Hayden became a leader in door-to-door sales, online sales and one-one sales coaching while building several other businesses and growing his young family.
Hayden has a truly inspirational story about overcoming adversity and turning obstacles into opportunities and Lacy and I are blessed to call him a friend! I hope you enjoy this interview as much as I did!
You can follow Hayden on Instagram at @haydenweichers and reach out to him if you are in need of one-on-one sales coaching help!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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What You Accept Becomes Acceptable
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The Importance of Setting Boundaries in Your Personal or Professional Life
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You Have the Power to Create and Enforce Guardrails
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Show Notes:
On our Monday Muster we set intentions for the week and identify a concept that will help you live your life with valor.
Whether in your personal life or in your career, the behavior you accept becomes a baseline for what is acceptable behavior.
If you answer the phone on nights and weekends every time the boss calls, it becomes acceptable for the boss to call you on nights and weekends.
If you laugh when Junior throws Grandpa Chip’s war medals off a bridge, Junior will believe it’s acceptable to disrespect his elders.
This isn’t hard. You set boundaries at home and work for what is acceptable behavior and expect those boundaries to be honored. You wouldn’t let your boss or your kid step over those boundaries. So why do you let yourself?
When did what you accept become acceptable?
Don’t want to hate what you see in the mirror?
Don’t want to have poor sleep, low energy and no sex drive?
Don’t want to feel like a stranger in your own skin?
Stop accepting it.
Until Wednesday…Out of role!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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What We Can Learn from the American Bison
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Confronting Adversity is the Quickest Way Through it
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Asking Permission vs. Asking Forgiveness
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Show Notes:
The American Bison (Buffalo) has long been a symbol of the American West. But as iconic as the Buffalo is as a symbol, it is also known for its steadfast personality - particularly how it is wired to deal with adversity. When a storm is coming, as other animals take cover or huddle up, Buffalo take the storm head on, charging directly into its path. The Buffalo instinctively know, as we all do, that confronting adversity is the quickest path through it, and the worst thing we can do when confronted with a major challenge is to run from it.
As humans, we know we should confront our problems, but we rarely do. We procrastinate and dither. We put them off. We hide. And the fear worsens as the thing we’re avoiding takes up more space in our brain. But if we took on obstacles directly we would learn that perceived obstacles are often much less than we imagined, and the storm is over quicker when you charge through it.
What obstacle are you avoiding that you should be facing head on? A tough conversation with a friend or colleague? A growing debt? A nagging injury? An expanding waistline? A lingering trauma?
Face the storm and charge through it.
Remember:
“As fire is to gold, adversity is to strong men.” ― Seneca**
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Redefining Masculinity
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Being a Leader for 21st Century Men
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From Military to Civilian Life
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The Power of Mentorship and Brotherhood
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Refilling Your Cup by Building a Tribe
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What Does the Art of Masculinity Mean to You?
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Our guest today is Johnny Elsasser. Johnny is a former U.S. Army Ranger from the 2nd Ranger Battalion and a former security contractor who protected the U.S. Ambassador to Iraq. After spending a decade working in and out of the Middle East, Johnny changed his focus to working on his own personal development journey and then to helping other men become better versions of themselves through his coaching programs, retreats and podcasts.
You can connect with Johnny via his website, follow his podcast, The Art of Masculinity, check out his YouTube channel, or check out his Instagram to learn more about the programs and retreats he’s offering such as the upcoming Wildman Experience in Kodiak, Alaska! After attending two of Johnny’s Wildman Experience retreats, I can tell you he puts on a hell of an experience for me looking to connect with likeminded, high achieving men and expand their social and professional circles.
I hope you gain as much from this conversation as I did!
Until Friday….Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Willful Blindness is Conscious Avoidance
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Willful Blindness is the Cause of the Greatest Crimes we Commit Against Ourselves
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What are you Ignoring that is Causing you Harm Right Now?
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True Growth Comes From Owning Who you are Now.
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Show Notes:
There is a legal theory in federal money laundering cases called “willful blindness.”
Willful blindness is, in a word, lying to oneself. It is conscious avoidance.
Jordan Peterson calls willful blindness “the most common form of deception” and argues that it was responsible for the rise of fascism and communism and all of their attendant atrocities.
But, on a more personal level, he argues that willful blindness is responsible for the crimes we commit against ourselves.
Ignorance is not bliss. It’s deadly serious.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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How One Bold Decision can Change the Course of History
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Joshua Lawrence Chamberlain from Professor to Colonel
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How Chamberlain’s Leadership can Inform our Own
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Thinking on Your Feet with the Information at Hand
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
Today, on the 149th anniversary of the Battle of Gettysburg we are talking about Joshua Lawrence Chamberlain and the 20th Maine saving the Union flank at Little Round Top and how one bold leadership decision can change the course of history.
“The power of noble deeds is to be preserved and passed on to the future.”
― Joshua Lawrence Chamberlain
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Reclaiming Who You Are
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Getting Passionate About Health and Fitness
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Taking the Road Less Traveled
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Hyrox Racing and Becoming a Hybrid Athlete
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Entrepreneurship and Fatherhood
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Our guest today is Daniel Hickman. Dan is a former college and semi-pro hockey player who regained his passion for physical fitness and personal development after gaining weight and losing track of who he was. Now, in addition to being a father, husband and successful entrepreneur, Dan is a champion Hyrox and Obstacle Course Racing athlete who is helping other men regain their physical fitness and passion for life through his Hyrox coaching programs for dads!
You can connect with Dan on Instagram at @iamdanielhickman, check out his Linktree check out the Hickman Hybrid Method on YouTube, or shoot him an email to learn more about his Hybrid coaching programs for dads.
Dan was also kind enough to share some a discount codes for anyone signing up for a Hyrox event this season:
Discount code "danielh10" when signing up for Hyrox races:
http://www.hyrox.com/
You can help support Dan’s sponsors at:
- CBD https://vision1naturals.com/
- Heart rate monitor/community https://www.mhttps://www.myzone.org/yzone.org/
Until Friday….Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Chaos is a Choice
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Order and Chaos are Both Contagious
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Chaos is Compounding
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Outcomes are a Consequence of Your Choices, Don’t Choose Chaos
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Show Notes:
Chaos and order are both choices. When we choose order we remove and reduce friction, and friction is the biggest impediment between you and your goals. Reduce chaos, achieve more.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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What Can the Video Format War Teach us About Planning?
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The Perfect Plan vs. Messy Action
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Getting Off the X in Your Personal and Professional Life
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Observe, Orient, Decide and Act to Gain the Advantage in Business and Life
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Action vs. Reaction
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Executing Good Plans Violently
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
Today we are talking about action vs. reaction, executing good plans violently and how you can use the OODA Loop to get off the X and gain the tactical advantage in business and life.
Remember…
“A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan executed next week.” - George S. Patton
Until Monday…out of role.
E036: Adapt and Overcome as an Entrepreneur | Alex Sargent
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Finding Your Place in the Market
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Building Successful Partnerships
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Identifying Your Niche
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Finding the Best Solutions to Your Customers Pain Points
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Operational Excellence vs. Business Operations
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Leadership Lessons from the Marine Corps
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Our guest today is Alex Sargent. Alex is a father, former Marine and successful entrepreneur who owns two brick and mortar businesses - MiBox Maine and Local Muscle Movers. Alex built his businesses from his own basement using leadership and development techniques he learned in the United States Marine Corps and he is a case study in how to gain success and market share by first focusing on operational excellence and customer experience.
This is a great episode for anyone who is struggling with how to identify their place in the market, serve their customer’s pain points and create a business that can sustain long term success.
You can connect with Alex via email at alex@miboxmaine.com.
Until Friday….Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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What you Leave for Others vs. What you Leave in Others
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Your Legacy is far More Valuable Than Your Inheritance
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Your Kids are Watching - What you Model Matters.
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Did you Make Their Lives Better?
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Author and professional counselor Craig Lounsbrough said “An inheritance is what you leave with people. A legacy is what you leave in them.”
This quote has been heavy on my mind this week. Whether it is how we raise our children, or how we show up for clients, colleagues, and community, our legacies should clearly answer one question:
Did you make their lives better?
With children our legacy as parents is defined by the lessons we teach them - good and bad. Their relationships with money, food, work, physical fitness, studies, God, etc. all begin with mom and dad.
What is our legacy? Are we making their lives better with the examples we set?
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Weekly Housekeeping
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What it Means to be Indispensable
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Time, Money or Priorities?
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Startling Statistics on Obesity in America
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Prioritizing Your Health Prioritizes Your Family
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we talked about drivers and values and putting your family first. Today we talk about what it means to truly be an indispensable man for those who matter the most.
Remember…
“Of course I deprecate war, but if it is brought to my door the bringer will find me at home.” - James Garfield
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Finding Alignment in Your Career
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The RV Life
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Stepping into Entrepreneurship Full Time From a Corporate Career
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Being the Creator Versus Being the Integrator
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The Power of Brotherhood and Masterminds
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Outkicking Your Coverage
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Mike DeRose is a former New York City banker who left his 11 year career to join his wife, Jessica, full time at their company Digital Business Evolution, or, DBE as they call it.
DBE helps people build and scale online businesses through digital course creation and online marketing. In the fall of 2020 Mike and Jess left Manhattan New York, bought a motorhome, and traveled the country while scaling their business into multiple seven figures.
After 14 months, 26 states, 14 national parks, and a rescued dog named Montana, Mike and Jess settled in Scottsdale, Arizona.
Mike is a great example of what it looks like to truly lean into your calling and follow your entrepreneurial dreams.
You can connect with Mike and Jess on Instagram at @mike.derose and @iamjessicaderose or @thedigitalbusinessevolution. You can check out their podcast at The Digital Business Evolution and you can see what Mike and Jess have coming up at www.jessicaderose.com.
Until Friday….Out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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What are Your Drivers and Values?
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Defining What Your Principles are and What Intrinsically Motivates you
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Are Your Purpose and Your Mission in Alignment?
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Show Notes:
Man, according to Viktor Frankl, is pushed by drivers and pulled by values. Values are your principles and beliefs, your code. Drivers are what intrinsically motivate you.
We all have values and drivers in our lives. The things that set our guardrails and the things make us take that first step and keep us going. The values that pull me? Integrity, honesty, trustworthiness, courage, self-reliance, service and toughness. The drivers that push me? Commitment, self-development, success, status, challenge and family.
Take a moment to consider your drivers and your values. Write them down, keep them close and consider them in the things you choose to pursue. If it doesn’t fit your drivers and values, perhaps you’re on the wrong path and it’s time to adjust.
So much of our success in life begins with holding fast to that which gives us purpose. When you find alignment with your purpose, consistent action becomes much easier.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - How Roman Emperors and Championship Coaches use Process Thinking to win
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Marcus Aurelias - Meditations 8.32
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Nick Saban - Trust the Process
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Bill Belichick - Do Your Job
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Sun Tzu - “Every Battle is Won Before it is Fought”
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we talked about the importance of keeping your eyes on the summit and staying on the path. Today we’re going to tell you how to get there using Process Thinking!
“You can’t look back. We don’t talk about last year. We don’t talk about next week. We talk about today, and we talk about the next game. That’s all we can really control. The rest of it will take care of itself.” - Bill Belichick
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Pursuing your Dreams off the Grid
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Entrepreneurship and Marriage
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Fostering, Adoption and Faith
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Landing Planes Where They Don’t Belong
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Living in Alaska
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Adam Grenda is a father, husband and entrepreneur who loves hunting, trapping and landing airplanes where they don’t belong. From their base in Alaska, Adam and his talented wife Tana run a fitness, nutrition and excursion business that focuses on the needs of outdoorsmen and women who are preparing for hunting in challenging environments like the Alaskan bush.
Adam is also a man of principle and faith who has built his family through foster and adoption and is endeavoring to teach his children to be self-reliant and productive.
You can check out Adam on Instagram at @grenda89 and watch his hunts on instagram at @stuckntherut. You can follow his wife Tana on Instagram at @tanasue_fit, their retreats at @bristolbayretreats and their fitness coaching business at Bristol Bay Fitness. You can join the Stuck N The Rut community at Stuck N The Rut for exclusive content only available to members.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - The Importance of Keeping Your Eyes on the Summit
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Finding Inspiration from People on the Same Path
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Stop Listening to People with no Skin in the Game
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Show Notes:
There is a Hindu proverb about success. In essence, it reminds us that there are many paths we can climb to reach the top of a mountain, and all of the paths lead in the same direction.
The important thing isn’t the path you choose, but that you’re climbing.
And the only people wasting time are the ones running around and around the base of the mountain, telling everyone else that they’re on the wrong path.
The lesson is endlessly applicable.
In all aspects of your life there will be people who tell you that you’re going to fail. There will be naysayers who criticize and cast doubt as you climb.
If you listen and respond to those who tell you you’re on the wrong path, you’ll never make it to the summit.
Here’s a tip: if someone is closer to the summit than you, pay attention. If someone is closer to the base, tune them out.
You don’t get rich by taking advice from broke people.
You don’t get fit by listening to your buddy with the dad bod.
You don’t cross finish lines by looking behind you.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Being the Best King in Your Kingdom
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If you Want to be a Leader be Worth Following
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Servant Leadership
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The Shackleton Example
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we touched on a lot of topics to include the concept of being a servant leader within your own family.
Remember: “The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires but in his integrity and in his ability to affect those around him positively.” - Bob Marley
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Overcoming Injury and Maximizing Athletic Performance
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Training to be an Athlete in Everyday Life
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What Does Functional Weight Lifting Really Look Like?
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Consistency is the Key, the Key is Consistency
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The Power of Delayed Gratification
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Entrepreneurship and Marriage
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
Peyton Vickers, DC, is a chiropractor, entrepreneur and newlywed (formerly known as ‘Dr. Fiance’) who specializes in athletic performance enhancement, biomechanics, manual therapy and rehabilitation. He is the co-founder of Advanced Programming Systems alongside his talented wife Dr. Kelsi DeMelo and a health and nutrition coach whose passion for human performance is based in his own history as a Division 1 college athlete who had to overcome a broken neck and a broken back to perform at a high level in track and field.
Peyton is one of the smartest guys I know and this conversation touches on everything from athletic performance to overcoming injury to self-development to entrepreneurship.
You can work with Advanced Programming Systems via their website https://www.advancedprogrammingsystems.com or on Instagram at @advancedprogrammingsystems and you can work with Peyton via Instagram at @dr.pvick.aps
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - The Tactical Plan for the Modern Man
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Character, Accountability and Consistency
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Life is the Arena and the Tactics you Employ Matter
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Show Notes:
In my career as a Special Agent, when I prepared to execute a mission, I would, first, create a tactical plan. The plan, a written document, would incorporate the same basic elements for every mission. It would identify the objective, analyze the risks, threats and vulnerabilities, assign roles, review tactics and incorporate contingencies.
In law enforcement, tactics are simply an action or strategy carefully planned to achieve a specific outcome.The tactical environment is simply the arena, the battleground, where those tactics are going to be deployed.
Knowing what tactics were in my toolkit, knowing what I was facing in the arena, and knowing how to conquer the objective, gave me an advantage in my investigative career, and I soon came to recognize the tactical plan as an asset in my personal life as well. What I came to recognize, and what many modern men fail to understand, is that we live our lives in a tactical environment. Life is our battlefield, our arena. But far too few of us recognize it for what it is and have the tactics and the plan necessary to win the day.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - The Sheepdog Mentality
- How You Can Become Better Prepared to Face the Wolves
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week I’m taking a departure from recapping the lessons learned on entrepreneurship to talk about the importance of living your life as a protector and a sheepdog. In light of recent events, men have a choice to make about how we want to show up and who we want to serve. We can no longer afford to be sheep. We must be men of valor who live to protect those around us. As Edmund Burke said, The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” .
Remember: “The sheep pretend the wolf will never come, but the sheepdog lives for that day.”
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Mentorship and Masterminds - The Importance of Putting Yourself in the Room
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The Power of Proximity
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Using Your Gifts and Talents to Help Others
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Overcoming Fear and Uncertainty in Entrepreneurship
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Today our guest is Jim Carter. For over two decades Jim's passion for technology has shined through projects of all sizes and industries. After seeing first hand the power tech has to make a greater impact, Jim has dedicated his life to giving changemakers the tools they need to succeed and thrive. As a passionate Technology Coach, Jim uses his 20+ years of knowledge, expertise, and experiences to advise Social Impact organizations, brands and experts.
Jim is the owner of several businesses including the Fast Foundations Mastermind, a business mastermind and community for small business owners and entrepreneurs, and a founder of Carter & Custer, an agency providing growth and content services for purpose-driven brands and organizations of all sizes.
He's an Eagle Scout, entrepreneur, husband and father of two, public speaker & trainer in the industry. Jim resides in the Los Angeles Area, enjoys a fine cup of coffee, the occasional glass of whiskey and rocks a mustache with pride.
You can connect with Jim on Instagram at @causehacker or on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/causehacker/
If you want to connect with Jim and learn more about how he can help you grow your small business, Text GROW to (310) 496-3389
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - The Long Road of Entrepreneurship - The Importance of Setting Intentions
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Looking at the Big Picture
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Believing in One Another
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Who You Serve is More Important Than How You Serve
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Character Traits, Skills and Beliefs
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For our Monday Mindset this week my wife and business partner @mycoachlacy (aka @iamlacyunleashed) stopped by to talk about our journey in entrepreneurship from low budget running coaches to leading a seven figure business and hiring me away from the federal government.
Lacy had a vision for our business and had the character traits and beliefs to get there, but it took a long time to acquire the skills to make it profitable.
If you’ve ever wondered how we went from her biz bringing in $17K/year (and massive debt) to her being able to overtake my salary and hire me away from a stable career, we get into all of it in this episode as we share our story of passion, growth, failure and pivots over the last decade.
We talk about the hustle and grind, the setbacks and step ups and the attitude necessary to go from “jobby” to empire building.
Until Wednesday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - It’s a great life if you don’t weaken
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There’s no substitute for strength, and no excuse for the lack of it
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Your family is counting on you
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Taking care of them means taking care of yourself first
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What behavior are you modeling for the next generation
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The importance of strong men in tough times
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we talked a lot about strength and the importance of being strong - mentally, physically and morally.
Today we are talking about how your strength affects your ability to be an effective first responder for your family. They need you to be their hero…but how are you going to do that if you can’t even get out of your own way?
Remember: “Strong people are harder to kill than weak people, and more useful in general.”
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Strength and empathy - Being your family’s first responder
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Finding your passion and purpose
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Money mindset and entrepreneurship
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Turning trauma into physical energy
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The Power of Proximity
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Show Notes:
Will Grazione is CEO of The Educated Dieter, Inc., where he works with a team of coaches to provide the highest level of 1 on 1 nutrition coaching available. He is also the host of Hey Coach Radio, a podcast that discusses tips and information on living a healthy lifestyle.
Will is a man of faith, a husband, a father of four children ages 15- 1, a former college athlete and a pro natural bodybuilder, with a B.S. in Exercise Science.
He has worked with over a thousand clients teaching them the foundational skills of becoming an educated dieter. He has also taught hundreds of nutrition coaches his evidence-based methods creating an enormous and lasting impact in nutritional coaching globally.
My wife and I have been fortunate to call Will a friend, and to call him our coach as he has helped both of us achieve our fat loss and bodybuilding goals.
You can follow Will on social media @william_grazione or on his website, The Educated Dieter, and you can check out his show Hey Coach Radio! Wherever you get your podcasts!
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Every Day You Don’t Workout Someone Else Does
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Strong People Are Harder to Kill
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The Importance of Strength Training for Longevity
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Being Ready and Reliable When You’re Needed
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Show Notes:
For our Monday Mindset this week we discuss the importance of strength training.
Two things have stayed with me since my first law enforcement academy.
The first was a U.S. Marshals poster on the wall of the gym that featured a prisoner doing lat pull downs. It read: “Every day you don’t work out someone else does! Stay fit!”
The second was a banner on the wall in the weight room with a Mark Rippetoe quote across it that read: “Strong people are harder to kill than weak people, and more useful in general.”
I can’t begin to tell you how much external motivation I’ve drawn from those two posters over the years, especially the second.
I want to win the fight.
I want to go home to my family.
I need to be harder to kill.
I want to be more useful.
I should probably work out.
You should too.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - What it Means to Have Faith
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How You Live by Faith Every Day
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The Law of Attraction
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Journal Prompts I Use Every Day
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On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we talked a lot about faith and fear and the importance of living with faith and following your path. Today, we discuss faith from a secular perspective and discuss the law of attraction as popularized by “The Secret.”
Faith is simply having complete trust and confidence in things not yet seen. Every day, I choose to live with faith that the things I hope for and aspire to are within my reach and on my path.
Don’t underestimate the importance of faith in your life. Where you invest your faith matters.
Remember: “Every tomorrow has two handles. We can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith.”
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Following Your Faith
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Midlife Adjustments
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Not Worrying About the ‘How?’
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Leaning Into Your Purpose
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Show Notes:
Pastor Jesse Hardy has served in ministry for over 25 years, and spent more than 20 years at Magnolia‘s First Baptist Church located in Magnolia, Texas. He served as Kids Pastor for twelve years, Connections Pastor for eight years, and also the lead pastor for one of the worship services on campus. Jesse graduated with a degree in Christian Leadership from Ecclesia College in Springdale, Arkansas. He has a passion for connecting with people and calling them to a life discovering the good works for which they were created. He loves working with men and with families to deepen their impact in their personal spiritual lives. He has been married for 24 years to his wife Rachel. Together they have coordinated many small and large ministry events, launched a variety of family ministries, and established a foster/adoption community.
After spending their lives in the Houston area, Jesse and Rachel felt called to Questa, New Mexico where in 2021 they established River Community Church to glorify God and sacrificially serve families and their community.
You can follow Jesse and Rachel’s journey on Facebook at TX 2 NM - Posts | Facebook or through their website River Community Church: Home.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Being Scared vs. Being Afraid
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Faith is Greater Than Fear
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Gaining Strength Through Adversity
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Show Notes:
For our Monday Mindset this week we discuss the power of faith over fear.
It’s been said that the most repeated phrase in the Bible is “be not afraid.” Some version of the phrase is repeated 365 times. Once for every day of the year. A daily reminder that fear is the opposite of faith.
The Bible is clear that faith does not mature and strengthen without trials. Throughout the scriptures, adversity is God’s most effective tool to help believers develop strong faith. But whether you’re a Christian or not, there is a powerful lesson in the act of overcoming fear with faith and gaining strength through adversity.
Every day is a new opportunity to put faith over fear and shut down the illogical part of your brain that latches onto the worst possible outcome. Let’s lean into faith this week and tell fear to kick rocks.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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CBT and Stoicism
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Overcoming irrational beliefs
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Stop suffering in your imagination
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On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we learned about mental health and the importance of getting your mind right. Today, we discuss techniques and tools you can use to overcome irrational thoughts, emotions and rumination.
Remember: “We suffer more often in imagination than reality,” so it is important for us to put things in their proper perspective if we want to live in a state of mental well-being.
We can’t choose our fate, but we can embrace it and be grateful for it. And that can make all the difference in how we see the world around us.
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Money mindset - Money management and wealth planning
- Mental health awareness and suicide prevention
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Show Notes:
Larry Sprung is a Certified Financial Planner, entrepreneur and Podcaster who founded his financial planning practice, Mitlin Financial, Inc., in 2004 with a focus on prioritizing clients first. He and his team help clients make healthy financial decisions and offer a tremendous client experience that leverages today’s top tools and technology.
Outside the office, one of Larry’s greatest passions is raising awareness for mental health. Larry spent more than 12 years on the National Board of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, and sits on its financial and investment committees. With his wife, Denise, they raised more than $1.5 million for the organization through the Keith Milano Memorial Fund. The fund was created at AFSP in memory of Larry’s brother-in-law.
You can learn more about working with Larry at www.mitlinfinancial.com or visit www.mitlinmoneymindset.com to listen to his podcast, Mitlin Money Mindset.
Mitlin Money Mindset.™ is a podcast that’s all about getting your mind right when it comes to all things money. In every episode, Larry goes deep with engaging guests who provide tangible takeaways for improving your money mindset.
May is Mental Health Awareness Month, so take a few minutes to get you mind right and learn what you can do to take care of yourself and check in on those around you.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Mental Health Awareness Month
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Police suicide and Post Traumatic Stress in first responders
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Sobering statistics on mental health and wellness in federal law enforcement
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Tools you can use to check on yourself and others
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Show Notes:
For our Monday Mindset this week we discuss the importance of keeping tabs on your mental health and wellness.
May is Mental Health Awareness Month so it’s time to take care of yourself and check on your friends. Mental Health America has resources available at mhanational.org that can help you or a loved one screen for signs and symptoms of: Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar Disorder, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), Alcohol or Substance Use Problems; Psychosis; and Eating Disorders.
If you’re a LEO or first responder, you’re at a far higher risk of substance abuse, depression and suicide than your friends and neighbors - Take some time this week to check on your mental well being and that of your colleagues.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Why discipline equals freedom
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Self-discipline and setting boundaries
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How a strong foundation helps you weather the storm
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On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we learned about freedom and sovereignty and the importance of being a free man in your own right. Today, we discuss what Jocko Willink (and the Stoics) mean by “Discipline Equals Freedom” and how you can apply it to your daily life.
Remember: “Man conquers the world by conquering himself,” so it is important for us to first be self-disciplined if we wish to be free.
The greatest obstacles we face are often self-imposed. Self-discipline is the path to true freedom because it frees us from our own limitations that otherwise bar us from living the life we want.
Until Monday…out of role.
E012: Wellness + Wisdom In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Being a cog in the machine vs. protecting and serving
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How the last two years have changed our beliefs on health and wellness, autonomy and sovereignty
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The war on consciousness
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The importance of who you serve
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Spiritual suicide and following your path
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Show Notes:
Josh Trent (@joshtrentofficial) is the Founder of Wellness Force Media and host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast.
Josh has spent the past 19+ years as a trainer, researcher, and facilitator discovering the physical and emotional intelligence for humans to thrive in our modern world.
The Wellness Force Media Mission is to help humans heal mental, emotional and physical health through podcasts, programs, and a global community that believe in optimizing our potential to live life well.
Josh's life is dedicated to supporting humanity coming together as one. After publishing over 400 high-level interviews with some of the most respected minds in the health, wellness, and self-help industries, Josh has been spotlighted in major wellness media outlets such as Onnit, Spartan, SEALFIT, and Paleo f(x).
Josh holds a C.E.S certification from the National Academy of Sports Medicine, and is the creator of the BREATHE | Breath & Wellness Program: A 21 day guided breath and wellness program using ancient wisdom to boost your immunity, calm your mind, and give you freedom from chronic stress in the modern world.
Josh is also the CEO of Civilized Caveman, helping women and men live better through practical tools for wellness, personal development, and paleo-friendly recipes.
You can follow Josh on Instagram at @joshtrentofficial, check out his website https://joshtrent.com or follow the Wellness + Wisdom podcast wherever you get your podcasts.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Are you truly free?
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Physical freedom vs. Mental Freedom
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Choosing what thoughts and images you expose yourself to
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Show Notes:
For our Monday Mindset this week we discuss how easy it is to be externally free but internally enslaved, and we give pointers on how you can begin to free your mind..
This week: Remove yourself from the trap created by 24/7 media. Spend time with what is true and real. Identify and solve actual issues plaguing your life instead of those things that are put in your path by others.
Remember: “If you yourself don’t choose what thoughts and images you expose yourself to, someone else will.”-Epictetus
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Creating fortitude from adversity
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Recognizing where obstacles can become opportunities
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The importance of being able to take the reins in any situation
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Doing the harder thing with consistency
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On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we learned about what it means to be a good man, how little things can make a big difference in our fitness journeys and how the behavior we model for our children - good or bad - will shape their relationships with fitness, food, faith and family.
All of that begins with us, as husbands and fathers and leaders, taking the harder path over the easier path.
Remember: “The true man is revealed in difficult times,” so it is important for us to choose difficulty with regularity.
Modern men must get in the habit of choosing the more difficult option if we seek to perfect our lives. We must make it our choice to do the hard thing over the easy thing. Seeking out the challenge. Leaning into discomfort.
Let the impediment to action advance your action. Let what stands in the way become the way.
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - The importance of modeling healthy habits for your children - The transition from employee to entrepreneur
- Techniques for helping clients create healthy mindsets that can sustain them
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Show Notes:
Nick Trubee, Ph.D., CSCS is a husband, father, brother, son, and former university professor turned entrepreneur. Dr. Nick has a Ph.D. in exercise physiology where his research was focused on firefighters, police officers and military personnel. He has been a Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialist for the last decade and is the Owner and Founder of the online fitness platform Trubee Health where he focuses on creating sustainable fitness & lifestyle routines for those getting back into exercise, returning from an injury, or just wanting to lead by example for their friends and family.
Want to know more about working with Dr. Nick? Follow him on Instagram at @dr.nicktrubee, message him at trubeehealth@gmail.com or check out https://trubeehealth.com to learn more!
His podcast, "Fitness Lit Breakdown," takes the latest research in the world of exercise and fitness and reads between the lines for those hard-to-find take-away messages that can be used in your training. Want to dial in your fitness routine? Download wherever you get your podcasts.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - What it means to be a good man
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How our behavior is a model for our children - good or bad
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Leading by example in all areas of our lives
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Show Notes:
For our Monday Mindset this week we discuss Jordan Peterson and Marcus Aurelias on what it means to be good men.
This week: Stop talking about what it means to be a good man and start being one. Start living by example for your children. They are watching, absorbing, learning…from you. So, what are you teaching them?
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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What is in your power and what is not
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How your actions and reactions are what define you
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How to live with courage and make the best of the hand you’re dealt
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Show Notes:
On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we learned about the courage it takes to overcome tragedy and make the best of what is within our control. We talked about courage in our actions and courage in our reactions.
Remember: We cannot control what happens to us. But we can control how we react to what happens to us. As Epictetus said, “Make the best of what is in your power and take the rest as it happens.”
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - The chaos on the U.S.-Mexico border and the far reaching effects it has on all Americans.
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Staying alive and keeping your wits when everything around you is falling apart.
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Surviving and overcoming post traumatic stress.
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Living a life of service and committing to a cause greater than yourself.
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Show Notes:
“This is Victor Avila from ICE! We are shot! We are shot! We are at a highway in Mexico; we’ve been shot and attacked on the highway!”
It was shortly after 2 p.m. on Feb. 15, 2011, and Avila’s partner, Homeland Security Investigations Special Agent Jaime J. Zapata, lay dying in the driver’s seat of their armored SUV while Avila, shot three times himself, desperately pleaded for backup.
The Chevrolet Suburban was under attack by the Los Zetas drug cartel’s hitmen and time was running out.
We are joined today by Victor Avila. Victor is a retired Supervisory Special Agent with Homeland Security Investigations (HSI) who was recognized by HSI for his exemplary service and professional accomplishments while serving as a Special Agent at the El Paso Field Office and as an Assistant Attaché assigned to the U.S. Consulate in Ciudad Juarez and U.S. Embassies located in Spain, Portugal, and Mexico City.
While on official assignment in Mexico in February 2011, Victor suffered multiple gunshot wounds and survived a violent ambush by the Mexican Los Zetas drug cartel where his partner, Special Agent Jaime Zapata, tragically lost his life.
On today’s episode, Victor and I have a frank discussion about our shared experiences on the U.S.-Mexico border, overcoming and surviving trauma, working for the U.S. government and the threats Americans face from the Mexican drug cartels who have operational control over vast portions of Mexico and the U.S. Southwest.
Victor and Jaime’s story humbled and inspired me at an early point of my career, and the shameful way that Victor and his family were treated by agency officials in the years following the attack continues to anger me.
For his part, Victor has turned back to service following his retirement from HSI, continuing to advocate for border security, immigration reform and human trafficking awareness, as well as for legislation to protect U.S. government employees serving abroad. Victor was instrumental in lobbying for the passage of the “Jaime Zapata and Victor Avila Federal Officers and Employees Protection Act,'' and recently ran for Texas Land Commissioner.
You can read Victor’s amazing story in his book “Agent Under Fire: A Murder and a Manifesto” which is available at Amazon or https://agentunderfirebook.com. You can connect with Victor on Instagram at @victoravilajr, on LinkedIn or Facebook, or on his website www.victoravilaspeaks.com
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - A Warrior’s Hope
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The Four Cardinal Virtues
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What it means to live with Valor
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How cowardice isn’t the opposite of courage. Apathy is.
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Show Notes:
For our Monday Mindset this week we discuss what Tacitus meant 2,000 years ago when he wrote “In Valor There is Hope” and what it means to live your life with valor.
This week: Recognize what valor is and how you can live with valor in your day to day life. The opposite of valor is not cowardice as some might suggest. It’s apathy. It is choosing the easier wrong over the harder right. Valor is honest commitment to noble ideals. It is the belief that an individual can make a difference and that you can be that individual. Start living with valor by choosing the hard right over the easier wrong.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - What we learned this week: The power of humility
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It takes time to create excellence
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The importance of character traits, skills and beliefs
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There is no magic trick, just time under tension
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On our Friday Debrief we recap the week, talk about the lessons learned and head into the weekend with a tactical advantage.
This week we learned about the power of humility, what can happen when you lean into a new challenge and the character traits, skills and beliefs it takes to become excellent.
Remember: “It takes time to create excellence. If it could be done quickly, more people would do it.” So, set your intention, lean into your goal and commit to putting in the reps until it would be unreasonable for you to fail.
Until Monday…out of role.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - Everything you wanted to know about The Tactical Games
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How to humble yourself and try something new
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How attention to detail and being willing to train to your weakness can make you great
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Show Notes:
Jacob Heppner is a 5X CrossFit Games competitor, fitness industry entrepreneur and Tactical Games elite athlete. After three top ten finishes at the CrossFit Games, including a sixth place finish in 2019, Jacob pivoted first to amateur boxing and then to the Tactical Games, where he is now in his second season as an elite competitor.
Part fitness competition, part shooting sport, The Tactical Games were created to provide a platform to test the skills and readiness of athletes of all backgrounds and it has drawn in everyone from CrossFit competitors to law enforcement and military to shooting sports athletes to everyday men and women who want to try something new and challenging.
In this episode, Jacob tells us all about his transition from CrossFit Games competitor to Tactical Games competitor and teaches us all about the sport and the community that surrounds it.
Jacob’s willingness to walk away from a sport where he was among the best in the world, and lean into a new challenge required both humility and confidence. And if you follow his social media accounts, you will quickly see the real effort required to become elite at a sport that gives you plenty of opportunities to suck!
If you’ve ever wanted to know more about the Tactical Games, learn how to get involved and learn how to train for it, then this episode will answer all of your questions.
And if you’ve ever wanted a peak into the mindset and training habits of an elite atlete, this episode will give you plenty of takeaways!
You can keep up with Jacob and learn about his training programs at https://gritperformance.co or on Instagram at @jheppner66 and @heppner.training.
You can learn more about The Tactical Games at https://www.thetacticalgames.com or on Instagram at @thetacticalgames.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About:
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Training to your strengths vs. training to your weakness
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What you can learn after you know it all
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Great leaders stay great by recognizing that they always have room for improvement and becoming lifelong learners
Resources + Links:
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Show Notes:
For our Monday Mindset this week we discuss how humility can make you greater and how it's what you learn after you know it all that really counts.
This week: Set your ego aside and lean into something that you are weak at. Seek help, listen to critiques, accept constructive criticism and have an open mind about where you have room for improvement.
Remember: Even the greatest athletes of all time have coaches and mentors. They become great and stay great by being lifelong learners.
In This Episode, We Get Tactical About: - My background and why I chose a career of service
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How a test of my integrity and a test of my endurance helped me create the ethos that guides my life
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The importance of becoming an Indispensable Man to the community that you serve
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What you can expect from The Indispensable Man
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Become an Indispensable Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Show Notes:
Welcome to the very first episode of The Indispensable Man Podcast!
In this episode I am telling my story from choosing a life of service after 9/11 to the lessons I learned along the way in my career as a Special Agent, an endurance athlete, a father, a husband, and an entrepreneur.
Through 15 years as a federal agent, I gained leadership, mindset and tactical skills that helped me build and lead dynamic teams and take on some of the world’s worst criminal organizations. After leaving DHS in 2022, my mission now is to share those same skills and techniques with this audience to help men take ownership of their lives and become their family’s first responders.
You can join me Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays as I discuss issues of fitness, family, faith, and finance on both solo and guest interview episodes with the purpose of providing you the tools and tactics to shift your mindset and begin living courageously as leaders in your family, workplace, and community.
What does it mean to be an indispensable man? What does it mean to live with valor? We’re giving you an inside look before our official podcast launch next week, sharing an event in my career where I had to stand up to my own leadership and do what was right over what was easy. We’re so glad to have you joining us. Please subscribe so you are the first to know when our launch episode drops, and you get to hear the full story!
Resources + Links:
Connect with Kristofor on Instagram | @team_healey
How can Kristofor help you become the first responder for your family?
Become an Indispensable Man
Shoot us a message on Instagram with your biggest takeaway @team_healey
Welcome to The Indispensable Man Podcast, I’m your host Kristofor Healey. In my career as a Special Agent, I traveled the globe taking on some of the world’s most notorious criminal organizations. Along the way, I learned valuable lessons in leadership, mindset and tactics that were the foundation of my professional success. My mission today is to share those lessons with you so that you can approach your life with a tactical advantage and become an indispensable man for your family.
Several times per week I’ll share leadership and mindset tips, tools of the trade and conversations with inspirational guests that can give you the skills you need to win the day and live with valor.