The Family Captain: Recent Episodes
John Michael Clark
Lead your family with strength and love. Become the greatest man they've ever known. Have incredible sex with your wife.
What does it really mean to have sexual integrity as a man of God?
Chris and JM unpack the hidden struggles many Christian men face, even beyond internet addiction, and expose the subtle compromises that keep men from true freedom.
JM shares his personal story of confession, breakthrough, and leading his family with strength and purity.
Together, they challenge men to move from playing defense against temptation to running a mighty offense in faith, purpose, and leadership.
If you’ve ever wondered how to walk in real victory over lust, shame, and mediocrity, this is the episode you can’t afford to skip.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:58 Sexual integrity struggles
6:12 Guarding your thoughts
14:20 Why your burdens are blessing you
19:22 Guardrails?
28:02 Where to start
35:54 This is impacting your marriage
44:32 Full and true freedom
56:00 Prayer
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
What if your wife actually WANTED more intimacy...and you were the man she couldn’t resist?
In this episode, Chris and JM dive into 10 (of 34) proven ways to have more sex with your wife.
From tracking her cycle to leading yourself like a man on a mission, they reveal practical and biblical strategies that build real attraction.
This isn’t about cheap tricks. it’s about becoming the man your wife longs for in every way.
Stick around to the end, because these insights will completely reframe how you approach leadership, marriage, and the bedroom.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:42 #1 Track Her Cycle
8:30 #2 Don’t Pout
18:24 #3 Send Flirty Texts
24:30 #4 Never Ask Again
34:25 #5 Love God More Than Her
43:12 #6 Be a Man on Mission
49:49 #7 Stay Groomed & Fit
57:42 #8 Quit Internet Trash
1:00:30 #9 Make Her Feel Beautiful
1:05:33 #10 Give Her Rest
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Something is stirring in America, and it’s bigger than politics.
Chris and John Michael dive into the surprising ways Jesus is being proclaimed at the highest levels of government and why it matters for your home.
From the White House to your house, this episode explores how to ride the spiritual momentum sweeping across the nation.
Along the way, they tackle cynicism, margin, family leadership, and boldness in sharing the gospel.
Get ready for practical wisdom, fiery encouragement, and a challenge to step up as the man your family needs right now.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:06 White pill maxxing
7:03 Comparing post-9/11 unity vs. today
9:31 Don't be a cynic and don't squander this
18:39 Creating margin for family discipleship
31:48 Momentum
38:55 Lighting your household up
43:50 Exactly how to share the Gospel
58:43 A personal story on bold obedience
1:04:02 ANNOUNCEMENT!
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Last week, Charlie Kirk’s life was cut short by an act of evil.
In the days since, countless stories have surfaced - not of controversy, but of a man marked by conviction, grace, and an unshakable devotion to his faith and family. His friends, colleagues, and even opponents testify to a rare combination: courage to speak truth without apology, and restraint to meet hostility with patience.
In this episode, we reflect on what Charlie’s life and death reveal about legacy, the cost of truth, and the quiet strength of a husband and father who left behind more than a movement.
If you’ve ever wondered what it means to live boldly, love deeply, and lead with faith in a world full of noise, this conversation will give you both challenge and hope.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:13 The very impressive Charlie Kirk
8:13 Legacy vs. noise
10:22 Family as your calling
16:33 Noise that kills legacy (and grief)
24:43 Can you build a "comfortable" legacy?
28:50 Christians and politics and Charlie Kirk
30:11 Is there such a thing as to much truth?
36:55 The gift of restraint
43:15 Preparation behind boldness
47:55 Being a truly great man
55:22 Martyrdom, conviction, and preaching the gospel daily
1:00:21 God goes before us
1:04:22 Closing prayer
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
We have a very special episode today, because JM's wife Natalie Clark joins us again for the second time.
This is another peak behind the curtain to give you the information you won't find anywhere else when it comes to becoming a godly, masculine leader who builds a great family with a respectful, submissive wife.
Find out what Natalie thought JM did wrong in the early days, why submission is actually beautiful to Natalie, how to get your kids to do chores, how to support your discouraged wife, and much, MUCH more.
Every Christian man who wants to build an even better family needs to listen to this one.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:42 The Clark's
6:31 Early marriage (before we knew any better)
9:48 When things start to shift
16:18 Submission...a dirty word?
18:11 What your wife feels like when you start leading well
21:12 Godly parenting dynamics
28:48 Parenting when you have littles
33:28 Getting kids to do chores
39:08 What to do when your wife is discouraged
47:33 Raising young men into adulthood
51:10 Kids' sports?
58:43 Screen time?
1:05:46 How to start building a Godly family culture
1:10:06 Family Captain Dating App
1:15:04 Prayer
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Mentioned:
Our first episode with Natalie: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hxB9Y9OiUXw
Endurance by Alfred Lansing: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0465062881/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Stop settling for a "good enough" marriage.
There's a myth that a "stable", "decent" marriage is the end goal.
We're here to tell you that there is SO much more.
You might think you're a 7/10 right now and be okay with it, but we want to show you that by getting to 10/10 you'll learn that it actually goes to 100. And once you're a 100/100, you'll find out that it actually goes to 1000.
Things. Can. Keep. Getting. Better.
Like to a degree you will hardly believe from where you're at right now.
I'm not even talking about crisis marriages...I'm talking about most of the guys we work with who have "pretty good" marriages.
Guys. There's so much more.
Find out what it looks like and how to get there in this episode.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:57 Good enough is NOT good enough in marriage
8:33 Let us shake you awake...
12:51 What's TRULY possible in marriage
27:11 The power of a supportive, godly wife
33:13 Do "good enough" marriages make it through the storms?
38:04 Playing defense isn't enough to win
46:14 Action
48:47 Multi-generational legacy
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
A family captain is compassionate.
A family captain takes responsibility.
A family captain has...
Authority.
(This is where the shrieking starts and everybody and their cat tries to cancel us).
It's just Biblical guys, and we're not sorry for it.
In this episode we break down exactly what we mean by authority and power, and how to use it effectively as the third, and often missing, leg of leadership.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:30 Authority in family leadership
8:44 Why do guys shy away from of authority?
11:45 Neglecting your power
18:33 Where to start if you're "too far gone"
26:06 If your wife says you're only the leader in certain areas
28:57 Does this mean you have to be 100% in charge of everything?
33:55 When your ship is growing
42:11 Diffusing overwhelm and anger
50:42 Overstepping delegation
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
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Too many guys are asleep at the wheel, not even living as the main character in their own life.
God put you here for a reason. Your wife and kids are looking to you.
You CAN actually live a life that you want to binge more than whatever show, or sport, or video game you're living vicariously through right now.
Let this episode help you do it.
Become the main character.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:58 What does it mean to be the Main Character?
4:42 Why you matter
8:25 When the NPC wakes up
13:54 Stop living vicariously
16:57 Why guys finally wake up
28:04 The dark side of waking up and leveling up
40:07 Careful who you listen to
47:57 TRULY Surrendering
53:35 What story do you want to tell later?
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
The 4 Pillars of the Family Captain - Admiral's Orders. Captain's Actions. Seamanship. Course charting.
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In this episode, we dive deep into what the Family Captain Ethos is, explaining the 4 Pillars that guide everything we do.
This is the most in-depth breakdown of the Family Captain Elite program we've ever done, and should give you two things:
- The framework to start building toward in your own life
- An inside look at what it's like actually working with us
Some brothers will figure it out on their own with the help of the podcast and local mentors, and that's great.
But after working with 400+ men at this point, we know it's a fact of life that there are guys just like you that we've successfully helped turn their life, family, and marriage around. And if you're one of those men, we'd love to help you.
So listen in and get the framework to start aiming toward, but also take a real look in the mirror, and consider if this is the moment you need to stop being passive, and start taking action to build the future you know God has called you to.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:05 The 4 Pillars of the Family Captain Ethos (The Family Captain Philosophy / Ethos - Biblical Headship is not outdated)
4:43 Useful family systems
7:55 Pillar 1: Admiral's Orders
16:38 Pillar 2: Captain's Actions
25:11 Pillar 3: Seamanship
34:07 Pillar 4: Course Charting
41:56 The next step
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
This episode will change your entire outlook on sex in marriage.
We explain why your wife feels like the keeper of the sex...
Why you're not having as much sex as you want...
How to turn the tides and have as much frequency and freedom as you want in your sex life...
Why and how to decline low quality affection and set standards in your life...
Essentially, we take everything you've been learning from The Family Captain, and apply it VERY specifically to sex in the marriage bed.
The thing is, it works in the bedroom.
But you'll find pretty quickly that all of this actually improves your entire life.
Let's dive in.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
0:58 Why does sex feel so high pressure in marriage?
4:14 What to do if things don't feel light, playful, and intimate
7:20 How to lead when life is heavy
13:20 The big thing to change to level up your sex life
20:45 When she's not really into it (but is a people pleaser)
29:33 Stop treating your bedroom like your office
36:20 Go find stuff to upgrade
42:42 Are you a man of high standards?
48:34 Decline low quality affection
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Are you just a super compassionate leader?
Or is it passivity in disguise?
We see so many men being "nice guys" instead of kind men, because they're overwhelmed, afraid of conflict, unsure what to do, obsessed with comfort...whatever the reason, it's causing grief in your family.
In this episode we talk about why you might actually be patting yourself on the back for something that isn't actually compassionate, and how to fix it.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:17 When everything falls apart, even though you're being "nice"
4:26 Misplacing compassion
7:25 Values drive right action
12:59 Gaining leadership when you've been too "compassionate"
20:47 Justifying overwhelm and passivity
28:40 The cost
36:50 What might you still need to surrender?
51:37 The next move
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
What on earth is a golf course marriage, you say?
It's one of the best analogies we can use to explain how to start improving your marriage.
We'll give you the overview, the principles to focus on, how to start building the life and marriage you want today, regardless of where your wife is at with it, and give practical examples to help you level up.
Oh, and happy anniversary to Mr. and Mrs. Clark! 18 years, let's go!! Drop some love in the comments!
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:10 The Golf Course Marriage
6:19 Principles to build your golf course
13:35 Focus on today
15:36 1.0 Husband and beginning to level up
22:18 Golf courses are not conflict free
27:55 What if she asks you to take out the trash?
36:03 Disrespect or intensity?
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
We haven't talked much specifically about provision, and that's where this conversation started.
JM and Chris dive into one of the keys to making more money, gaining influence, and increasing your upward mobility.
This topic is like the gateway into advancement in work, in social settings, and in life.
And, obviously, it's not a sleazy sales tactic or manipulation.
We find most guys totally miss this, and it's holding them back.
Not only in their career, but in their witnessing and making disciples.
Let's dive in.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:22 How to get people to know, like, and trust you
5:04 Where most guys get stuck at work
9:37 Overdelivering
12:19 Likability
17:25 The $200M CEO offer
25:48 The gift of curiosity
37:28 Frame control (change the way you operate at work)
48:50 Leading with humility
1:00:20 How to reach out for advice without "picking your brain"
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Are you overwhelmed with fatherhood?
Being a dad isn't meant to be an absolute grind. It takes effort, yes, but fatherhood is also a natural, God-given thing. There IS a path forward, filled with principles that seem to have been lost over the decades, that make it more peaceful and effective.
Discover how small steps - pausing a movie to talk about values, launching rites of passage, reclaiming phone-free moments - actually form the backbone of consistent, intentional fathering. By learning to operate proactively (offense, not defense) and leading your wife to be consistent with consequences, you’ll begin shaping spiritual legacy one baby step at a time.
If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this conversation is your invitation: take that next small step toward becoming the captain your family needs.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:33 Is parenting easy?
7:14 Leading kids' souls is hard work
17:20 Intentional fatherhood
20:04 Reactive leadership
24:37 Rites of passage
29:30 Discipline (so Mom doesn't lose her voice)
40:40 Intentional nurturing and training
46:19 On the phone with kids around
56:00 Letting them help you
1:00:42 The one thing I'd do if the worst happened...
Mentioned:
Raising a Modern Day Knight by Robert Lewis: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1589973097/
King Me by Steve Farrar: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0802433197/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
There are 4 lies that keep men STUCK, on the sidelines, and falling further behind where it matters most.
Today we'll dive into each of those lies and help you defeat it so that you can become a man whose default is to take action, become the family captain we know you can be, and start reaping the good fruit that the Lord has for you.
If you haven't actually taken action and started building your family life as a leader, this might be the encouragement you need.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:47 Lie 1: "I don't have time!"
5:41 Lie 2: "I don't have energy!"
17:39 Solve your screen
20:28 Lie 3: "It's not gonna work!"
32:28 Lie 4: "If I change now, they won't believe it!"
37:35 Let consistency do the talking
41:08 The spirit of cynicism
45:46 Is there a perfect time to start?
55:59 Accountability to reject the lies and get moving
Mentioned:
Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07D23CFGR/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
This is the number one spiritual rhythm in the Clark household, and it's SO foundational that JM almost took it for granted.
In fact, it wasn't until he spoke to hundreds of guys through the Family Captain, that he realized almost NO ONE was doing this as their #1 spiritual leadership rhythm, which is crazy.
We'll dive into what that rhythm is, and WHY it's so vitally important, so that by the end of this episode, you'll have something to lock and load moving forward TODAY, no matter where you live and what you're dealing with.
Start here, and everything else flows out of it.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:17 JM's most consistent family rhythm
4:05 What if you can't find a good church?
19:13 Where you attend church is life and death
22:04 Going to a small church as a big family?
28:45 Don't pick a church because your kids like it
32:40 You can still grow in an imperfect church
44:25 Gathering with the saints is an assumption and command in the NT
52:14 Starting your day with the presence of God
58:49 How to grow
Mentioned:
Sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310361176/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Guys, sex is not a bad, dirty thing.
God is not surprised that it's pleasurable and wonderful within the confines of the marriage bed.
We've got to re-program what we think about sex, number one, and number two, we have to apply Family Captain leadership to this area.
That means we see it as NOT merely physical. It means we REJECT the idea of our wife being the "Keeper of the Sex". It means we lead and build attraction in our marriage, and STOP apologizing for wanting to partake of God's good gift (that, by the way, strengthens your marriage).
Dive in and learn how to become the Captain of your married sex life.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:30 Why sex is not just "scratching an itch"
6:01 Why sex shouldn't be selfish
10:07 Sexual baggage
12:17 Shame
15:15 Married sex should be erotic
17:18 What about trauma?
32:28 How to flip the script you've bought into
45:31 Renouncing past connections
48:18 Song of Solomon + Prayer
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Everything changes when your wife gets pregnant...should your leadership change, too?
This episode is a deep dive for all of our brothers who are navigating the sometimes-choppy waters of pregnancy.
Should you go get her ice cream at 2 AM?
Should you ever expect to be intimate again?
Should you lay off the leadership for awhile so you can all adjust?
Prepare to learn exactly how to show up like a Family Captain and lead your family through a pregnancy so things actually improve, instead of stay stagnant or get worse.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:39 Leading Through Pregnancy
10:53 When It Doesn't Feel Reciprocal
15:47 Leading In Health
20:06 Taking Back Leadership From A Toxic Culture
24:21 Managing Her Anxiety
33:49 Boundaries
38:49 Lust and Temptation
44:10 How Much Should We Let Things Slide?
58:23 Sacrifice
1:05:25 How To Thrive NOW
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
It's hidden in plain sight.
In books, in media. Unfortunately, often times in the pulpit.
It's the idea of "Biblical Feminism".
Is that even a real thing? No of course not, BUT, it's deceiving many women (and men!) into building mis-ordered relationships, thinking they're following God's Truth.
In this episode, JM and Chris go through a chapter of a popular "Christian" marriage book, showing exactly why the idea of "Biblical Feminism" is so wrong, so dangerous, and so rampant...and how you can defend your marriage against it.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
3:10 Feminism in a highly-regarded Christian book
9:14 Not loving your wife like Jesus does?
14:05 Are we in need of "Biblical Feminism"?!
24:40 Actually read your Bible!
33:14 How to lead so you and your wife don't end up deceived
43:13 Why men shouldn't do ballet and women shouldn't play football
50:59 Does Genesis 1:27 really mean that?
1:00:25 Practical application
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
We talk a lot about leading your family - being the head - in the Family Captain, because it's your God-given role.
But what if your wife is totally against you taking up the mantle of leadership?
First of all, it's not a surprise, so don't try to go all tyrant and take control with a heavy hand.
Second of all, there is a way through this, and it's not any more complicated than any of the other hurdles on your way to family leadership.
Brush up on the fundamentals, get your mindset right, and hear some actual roleplaying to help you understand what a strong, capable, godly family leader actually sounds like, when his wife is giving him a hard time.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:34 What if your wife doesn't want you to lead?
4:26 Fundamentals are VITAL
7:44 The fruit of the fundamentals
16:14 What are the fundamentals?
22:38 Staying steady when you're not being recognized
36:14 Is this all just for sex?
44:17 Stop overexplaining
51:47 Confidence
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
This is the most practical revelation, diagnosis, and fix for a man looking to level up his entire life.
Most guys walk around as 1.0 guys.
We need to get you to a 2.0 and eventually a 3.0 man, husband, and father.
There's levels to family life you can't even fathom if you faithfully walk the path the Lord has laid down for you.
This episode will wake you up, give you practical wisdom to get started, and point your family toward greatness.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:08 The Difference Between Husband 1.0 and 2.0
7:03 A Lack of "How"
9:03 Usual Avenues
16:52 The Difference Between 1.0 and 2.0 Sex
20:46 Self-Leadership
23:15 2.0 Fatherhood
27:13 The Church
35:20 Cringe Ministry Advice
41:50 How To Level Up
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Mentioned:
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004C438CW
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Are you slowly destroying your family by managing them instead of leading?
It's a trap too many men find themselves in.
Dealing with the small things.
Rearranging the deck chairs, while the ship sinks.
You're supposed to be the captain! That means getting out in front of the chaos.
Leading. Showing the way. Providing direction and optimism.
Learn how to apply the art form of leadership to your household to start leading and building an amazing marriage.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
3:00 Managing chaos, or leading?
4:50 Comparison
13:00 The art form of leadership
15:37 How to start leading, not managing
22:09 What gets you stuck in management?
29:22 Leave the right legacy
35:53 Are you just looking for status?
43:21 Novelty
Mentioned:
Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0739PYQSS/
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Apathy is the slow killer. You don't care. You've never seen what ambition looks like. You silently tell your family "this is as good as it gets".
We don't want that for you, brother. There are huge risks! You're setting your kids up to lose, at the bare minimum.
In this episode, we'll dive into how to conquer apathy and become a godly, ambitious family leader who seeks greatness and finally lives a life full of faith.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
3:00 Passivity, Apathy, and Becoming Ambitious
7:22 Waiting For The Right Time
10:43 Action Creates Ambition
19:09 Risk Averse?
24:46 Take Big Leaps, Not Incremental, Fearful Growth
39:48 Sowing, Reaping, and Obedience
44:08 Apathy and Addiction
52:59 Live A Life That Requires Faith!
56:10 Make Your Next Move
Mentioned:
10X Is Easier Than 2X by Dan Sullivan: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BGK74SR5/
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Boredom is a killer in marriage.
Your wife could make a great meal one day, but if she makes it every day for the rest of your life, you'll get pretty sick of it, right?
Same thing goes in your life, your marriage, your walk as a father.
And guys, let's talk about where the rubber hits the road here...intimacy with your wife.
Boredom is a silent poison in your home, and it's time you took charge and became the greatest man your wife and kids have ever known. We'll show you how, in this episode.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:15 How To Kill The Boredom In Your Marriage
5:01 How To Build
7:29 Giving Away Your Masculinity In Marriage
14:55 Isn't Being Pretty Good Enough?
20:05 When Christian Men Are Still Blinded
31:29 Reviving A Sexually Dead Marriage
46:11 What To Do Next
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
You've heard us talk about family leadership, but I know some of you are wondering...
"What does his wife ACTUALLY think about all this?"
Well, why don't I let her answer that question herself?
My wife, Natalie Clark, is our special guest on today's podcast.
You'll hear exactly what she thinks about what I'm teaching you (to prove it works), and get her insights as a wife that'll help you navigate your own marriage better.
Let us know if you liked this, and we'll get her back for round 2.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:15 How can a wife respectfully disagree, while still being under his leadership?
9:32 Making big decisions together
15:25 Who to be so your wife relaxes when you're around
22:23 Issues wives struggle with when following
26:05 How to go from boy to man
38:21 How JM stepped into entrepreneurship
44:00 The power of a wife's cheerleading
53:04 If your wife is checked out
1:00:24 How to take action
1:06:35 Prayer
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
How do you lead your wife when she doesn't even know how to follow or submit to your leadership?
First, hold up, gentlemen...
Everything starts with you and your self-leadership. So, don't think we're here to blame your wife.
But...
This is a common thing we see in marriages, and we're here to unpack it and help you lead, even if she doesn't know how to follow.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:44 Your Wife's Flesh Naturally Opposes Being Led
6:34 How Our Upbringing Impacts Our Marriage Dynamics
11:05 If You Think Marriage is 50/50...
19:00 Giving Your Wife Veto Power
24:42 Domineering and Passivity
30:53 How To Respond If Your Wife Says, "You Hurt My Feelings"
39:51 Reclaiming Your Leadership
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
This episode is all about how a family leader should navigate in-law dynamics.
Whether you're being a nice guy and siding with your mom, or your wife is venting to her parents about things in your marriage, we cover a wide range of common in-law issues and how a godly, mature, masculine husband should deal with them in order to build a deeply satisfying marriage.
Remember, it's you and your wife vs. the world...EVEN if that means your parents and in laws are on "the world" side.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:40 HUGE Win From A Brother
3:03 What Leaving and Cleaving Actually Means
6:09 If Your Wife Is Still More Connected With Her Parents
14:18 The Damage Of Sharing Spousal Grievances With Your Parents
19:50 How To Lead Your Wife Into No Longer Venting To Her Parents
27:27 The Phrase Every Couple Should Agree On
32:26 Defending Your Wife From Your Own Parents
39:12 How To Build A Marriage Where It's TRULY You and Your Wife vs. The World
42:11 How To Tell If It's You and Your Wife vs. The World
48:01 Getting Help With YOUR Unique Scenario
Mentioned:
Little Women by Louisa May Alcott: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0147514010/
Little Men by Louisa May Alcott: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0141366087/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Most men are surviving — few are truly providing.
In this episode, we dig into what it means to be a real provider, why your family needs more than just a paycheck, and how stepping into this role brings peace, safety, and softness to your home.
Get ready to have your assumptions about financial responsibility challenged, and get the encouragement you need to take the next step to Kingdom-building wealth.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:13 Fear of Being The Sole Provider
7:01 The Shift From Thinking About Finances The Way Your Parents Did
17:44 Faith To Thrive (and...the time I didn't tell my wife I got laid off)
30:03 The Peace of God versus Pro-and-Con Lists
31:50 If You're Making Good Money Now...
39:03 Generosity At Every Level
41:47 It's Ultra Masculine To Provide
46:18 The Power of Vision (and Bringing Your Wife Home)
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Mentioned:
The Four-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002WE46UW/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Man, it can rile a guy up if he's a hard-working guy with an amazing work ethic to see his kids acting lazy.
"You don't get that from ME!"
But what's really going on here?
Is your kid lazy?
Or is there something going on under the surface that has to do with you...as the father?
Find out in this episode, and figure out how to navigate the feeling of seeing your kids being lazy or slacking off.
(Plus, wait till the end for the wimpy Pastor Melvin rant from JM 😂)
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
0:52 HUGE Win From The Family Captain Elite Program
3:58 Lazy, Unmotivated Kids...and Our Reactions
7:56 Anger From Seeing Laziness Because Dad Has A Good Work Ethic
12:51 What Labels Are You Putting On Your Kid?
17:26 How To Correct Kids Without Crushing Them
30:10 Where Do You Turn If You Didn't Learn This From Your Dad?
33:37 What Your Kids Are Probably Missing If They're "Off"
37:33 The Pastor Melvin Rant
42:08 The Family Captain Elite
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Mentioned:
Vid Angel: https://www.vidangel.com/
Wild at Heart by John Eldredge: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400225264/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
It's hard to captain your ship when you're not training your boys to be captains themselves.
You can sort things out with your wife, but if your house is still run by disrespectful kids that you aren't training, life can't be sweet and joyful.
Thankfully, the answer is straightforward (if not easy)...
The answer is fatherhood.
In this episode, we'll break down how to raise your boys into strong men.
We discuss both ditches that dads can fall into - both passivity and being too harsh - and give a lot of ways that you can start training and leading well, wherever you are along the way.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:47 Boys Are Wild
5:15 How To Raise Strong Men In A World That Loves Passivity And Weakness
8:12 The Two Things To Teach Your Boys To Help Them Mature Well
12:21 Are Your Boys "Behind"?
15:17 If You're Coddling Your Son...
20:04 Kids Are Not A Burden
35:03 If You're Too hard On Your Son...
38:51 Loving Them The Way They Need To Be Loved
40:38 If Men Are Left Unchecked, Women Don't Flourish
44:16 The Solution If You're Not Where You Want To Be
49:40 The Jonathan Edwards Family Legacy Blueprint
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Anger is one of the most common issues husbands and fathers face.
Some of it is justified and normal. Kids are chaotic and you can't fully control them, and sometimes our love for them even comes out in anger if they're being unsafe.
But what if you're living with a constant underlying anger? You're 2 degrees away from boiling at all times. It's destructive...but what can you do?
This episode is all about anger, understanding how to start taking control of your life in a way that brings peace and joy and gratitude and love, and restores the peace of Christ in your life.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:40 Chris' Anger Story
4:57 Why Does Anger Feel So Automatic, Yet Justified In These Situations?
8:12 How To React Properly If You're Always Almost Boiling Over
12:52 If You're Flying Off The Handle...
15:38 How Your Anger Impacts Your Marriage
18:10 Repent in the Moment?
22:07 Repentance for Nice Guys
24:28 Anger When Your Kids Sin Against Your Wife
30:07 When Mom Gets Between You Disciplining Your Kids
40:29 Negative Motivation
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
It is one of the worst feelings in the world when it feels like your wife doesn't want you.
Especially when you've started doing some work, started growing, started leveling up...
And you still get nothing.
In this episode, we're going to cover what might be going on here, how you can navigate this as a godly family leader, and most importantly...
What to do to become the man she wants to have more sex with.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:21 I Want To Have More Intimacy With My Wife...Where Do I Start?
6:12 The Mental Toll This Takes On Men
10:05 What Can Happen If You're Feeling Rejected
12:57 When You're In A "Standoff"
18:42 When Lack of Sex Leads To Temptation And Lust
21:20 How Lack of Intimacy Hurts Your Leadership
25:16 How To Find Accountability When It Can Get Awkward With Friends
29:31 How To Start Stacking Wins
36:20 Should You Just Show Your Wife The Scriptures?
41:08 When You've Started Growing But Nothing's Happening
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Brotherhood and strong male friendships are like jet fuel to a man's development in self leadership. Yet most guys don't have a solid group of men around them, often because they've never heard of the insane benefits, or because they've bought the "lone wolf" lie.Guys, consider this the episode you need to fast track your success in leadership, marriage, and manhood. Brotherhood changes lives. We're not designed to do this alone.
👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:25 Why Do Dudes Choose Isolation Over Brotherhood?4:31 The Pitch for Brotherhood7:41 Why Not Join Brotherhood?15:20 Healthy Masculinity Exposes27:11 Don't Let This Be What They Say At Your Funeral34:00 Skin In The Game37:52 How To Audit Your Current Brotherhood45:08 You Get What You Tolerate51:18 How To Start Building Your Brotherhood and Friendships55:28 Accountability
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Men, your wife wants you to lead.
Are you willing to step up to the plate?
Or are you going to risk your entire marriage, as your passivity gets the best of you, and your wife starts making plans to leave?
In this episode, we talk about the weight of responsibility, the first steps into family leadership, the bad advice out there by so-called Christian influencers, and why the solution to your marriage problems are actually really simple.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:20 First Time Feeling Weight of Leadership
6:47 How To Identify Your First Step Into Leadership
9:41 Why Men Hesitate To Lead
13:23 Where You Might Be Perverting Your Desires
17:30 Is Leadership A "Personality Trait"?
18:23 When Your Wife Is "More Spiritually Mature"
22:36 John Delony's Bogus Marriage Advice and What To REALLY Do
35:16 Why Start Small
45:42 Imperfect Action (Don't Be A Podcast Bro)
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Passivity is one of the biggest killers of intimacy and leadership in marriage.
If you let life happen to you, or find yourself making excuses...
Chances are, you're going to benefit from listening to this episode.
Learn where passivity stems from so you can cut it off at the root, plus hear a ton of real-life example so you can start to take action immediately.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:03 The Root of Passivity
5:27 The Levels of Passivity
12:23 Fearful Motivation
17:15 The Difference Between Passivity and Delegation
22:14 You...Or Your Wife?
35:29 The Difference Between Passivity and Gentleness
38:49 You Can Still Be Passive If You're Angry
41:26 Good Cop vs. Bad Cop Parenting Dynamics
52:59 The Cost Of Inaction
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
A "good" marriage is fine. But wouldn't you rather be ECSTATICALLY married?
Most "good" marriages are really just getting a C+.
In this episode, you'll learn the 5 keys required to level your marriage up to an A+.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:17 Is Happily Married The Enemy of Ecstatically Married?
5:28 Lack of Attraction
10:02 What If Your Upbringing Set The Bar Low?
13:51 Submission In An Ecstatic Marriage
19:39 Joyful Provision
25:05 Raising Sons as Sons
28:00 Vision
37:50 Frequent and Passionate Sex
46:19 The ONE Thing That Takes A Marriage From Good To Great
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Mentioned:
Good To Great by Jim Collins: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0712676090
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
How much influence do you REALLY have at home?
And more importantly...do you know WHY you have that amount, and how to increase it?
Leadership capital, baby.
Being a great family leader means your family actually has to follow you.
Do you have the leadership capital required for your wife to follow your lead?
Listen to this episode to learn what fosters trust, submission, and engagement.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:25 What Do You Mean "Leadership Capital"?
5:36 Bonus Masterclass on Submission and Leadership Capital
18:14 The Silent Killer of Your Leadership
22:13 Destructive Media
28:19 How To Build Leadership Capital From The Ground Up
34:25 Public Leadership vs. Private Leadership
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Marriage counseling doesn't usually work...
But it's not for the reason you think.
Before you make your marriage even worse by going to a marriage counselor who isn't going to help you become the man the Bible directly tells you to become, listen to this episode.
Then, start taking REAL steps to build an amazing, godly marriage.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
0:50 The Ridiculous Realities of Posting Online
5:46 The Disappointment of Most Marriage Counseling
9:24 Where Should The Bar Be For Your Marriage?
14:25 The Lie of Marriage Counseling
22:04 Common Problems Guys Face
29:15 How To Choose The Right Next Step In Your Marriage
39:49 What To Do Next
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Building masculine confidence is important to lead your family well.
BUT...there's a huge risk in putting your confidence in the wrong thing.
There's also a huge risk in destroying your kids' confidence if you don't build some of your own.
You're going to get the full meal deal with this episode, because John Michael and Chris discuss everything from the CORE of confidence, to practical ways to build it, to showing up as the father who raises confident and faithful kids, to the stumbling blocks laying in wait for you.
If you want to confidently become the greatest man your wife and kids have ever known, hit that play button.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
4:00 Where Confidence Comes From
7:56 Building Confidence In Your Kids The RIGHT Way
11:47 How To Build Confidence If Your Didn't Get It From Your Dad
15:57 How To ACTUALLY Raise A Strong Christian Boy (Without Crushing Their Confidence)
23:14 Overcoming An Imperfect Dad and Finding Joy In Christ
34:01 Raising Boys Who Surpass You
36:25 The Right Order Of Skill and Mastery in Confidence
48:51 The Slippery Slope of Accomplishments
56:00 How To Actually Build Skill and Mastery (And Business)
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Mentioned:
The Art Of Manliness: https://www.artofmanliness.com/
The Only Skill That Matters by Jonathan Levi: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1544504349/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
If your home is more like a war zone than a sanctuary, listen up.
In this episode, you'll learn how to become the type of husband who never gets drawn into fights, who brings peace, conviction, and leadership into the home, and who can withstand his wife's strongest emotional hurricanes.
That all leads into the bigger picture, though, which is how you go from suffering as Husband 1.0 to Husband 2.0 and eventually crushing life as Husband 3.0.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:00 Fighting Less At Home
6:00 How To Lead During Conflict
12:30 How To Recover When You Blow It
16:20 How Long Does It Take To Rebuild Leadership In Marriage?
23:02 Becoming The Best Husband Ever (HUSBAND 3.0)
38:14 Why You Have To Take This In Stages
40:55 90 Second Review
Mentioned:
JM's Homeschool Example of Leadership Without Fighting
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
How do you create a family vision and leave a legacy...especially if you never had this passed down to you?That's what this episode aims to answer.It all starts with finding bedrock truth and building on a firm foundation.At the end of the episode, we walk through 2 examples of the 7 Layer Exercise to build your family vision, so make sure to listen to the end!
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:47 How Far To Cast Your Family Vision
5:08 How To Start Building Your Vision (From Scratch)
9:31 From Dream To Reality
13:40 Should You Like Your Job?
18:35 Fatherhood Goals For Raising Kids
25:05 What's Distracting You From Building Your Family Culture
32:20 The 7 Layer Exercise
Mentioned:
Previous Episode on Letting Your Kids Date: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eEFYfIME5jw
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
What does letting your kids date have to do with your legacy?!
Pretty much everything.
OK maybe not EVERYTHING, but it sure is a microcosm of your values, and if you play this one issue out over the course of your life, chances are you're going to miss your one shot at leaving a legacy for the Lord.
Come for a Christian definition of legacy...
Stay for John Michael yelling about parents who let their kids date...
Leave with a deep conviction that this legacy stuff matters way more than you thought...PLUS some practical steps to get started righting the course of your family ship.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
0:57 Legacy Isn't What You Think It Is (A Christian's Definition)
7:26 What To Do Now, To Prepare Future Generations
13:19 Parenting For A Kingdom Legacy
15:35 Interlude: Letting Your Kids Date Is Dumb
27:33 Conviction Leads To Legacy
40:22 How To Parent Toward Legacy If You're Just Surviving The Chaos of Your Family Life
54:40 Prayer
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Going through something difficult? Here's how to lead through it.
We live in a fallen world, brothers.
Life gets hard. We go through seasons of suck...getting fired, challenges with the kids, health complications, you name it.
But here's the reality for us men as Family Captains.
We still have to lead.
You still have to lead.
You're the head of your wife. Your kids are looking to you for guidance.
You don't have the luxury of packing it in and moping forever.
So, how do you lead through the most difficult seasons of life?
We'll answer that today with practical, tactical advice in today's episode.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:53 Real Life Example of Leading Through A Rough Season
11:29 To the Guy Who's IN IT Right Now
18:05 When You're In A "Dry Season" With God
26:20 How To Still Show Up For Your Wife and Kids During The Suckfest
34:32 Navigating Stress Without Burdening Your Wife With It
46:35 The Second Time I Got Fired
52:50 How Chris Led His Wife Through Investing In The Family Captain Program
1:01:04 Prayer For The Man Battling
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
There are a TON of things that get in the way of you leading your family well.
One of the biggest threats is wasted time, especially in the culture of distraction we live in.
From scrolling to working too long to sports...there are a lot of ways to waste your time, get distracted, and completely miss your own life.
If this is happening to you, we've got to start asking the tough questions...
As the captain of your family ship, don't you have a big enough vision to keep you from being distracted? Isn't your responsibility so big and so joyous that you have no room for anything else?
This is not a fairy tale, gentlemen. This is reality for intentional Christian husbands who are done with a mediocre family and sex life.
In this episode, we talk common threats and distractions, what to do about them, and why this simple values framework could solve all these problems.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
3:15 The threat of wasting time as a family captain
4:57 What if you're exhausted?
9:23 How to rest responsibly and avoid distraction
14:19 Navigating life in seasons
23:59 Learn this lesson about values from JM's "you're a psycho" homeschool story
34:01 How to escape distraction and become intentional
37:54 Managing distraction and scheduling intentional refreshment
43:04 For the dad who isn't present
48:27 What if you are NOT pumped up to be spending time with your family?
Mentioned:
Choosing To Cheat by Andy Stanley
Alpha vs Beta Episode
ScreenZen
Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti by Bill & Pam Farrel
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Don't feel too bad about hitting the play button on this episode, brother.
There are many, many thousands of men stuck in the same position you are.
You settle for infrequent pity sex, you feel bad about it, you start becoming resentful, and you have absolutely no idea how to get yourself out of this mess.
You may even have an excuse or two in your back pocket, ready to justify the fact that your sex life is mediocre.
But...
We believe Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives, and if you can handle the initial discomfort of owning up to WHY you're here in the first place...we can help you get unstuck and turn your marriage bed back into a place of desire, passion, and deep connection.
Get ready to learn how to toss the pity sex and have your wife deeply attracted to you again.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:14 How couples end up having "pity sex"
11:35 How to lead your wife through periods where sex might start to feel (or become) transactional
14:33 Prayer to improve your sex life?
22:26 The Martha Stewart Interlude (men's vs. women's egos)
29:00 How to reconcile with the fact that you're responsible for the current state of your sex life
32:23 Stop putting limitations on God
37:11 Dealing with your victim mentality
40:37 Beating p*rn addiction with an aggressive offense
46:00 Getting off the couch and into the arena
Mentioned:
Extreme Ownership by Jocko
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
"Servant Leadership" is redundant. A leader IS a servant.
So, why are so many men obsessed with making sure everyone knows that they are specifically a SERVANT leadership?
Because we have collectively believed the Satanic lie that leadership is bad, authority is bad, husbands shouldn't be the head of their wife...the list goes on.
We think the only way to lead in our families is to be a lap dog. To say "yes, wife". To ask, "how high?" when your wife says "jump!".
Whether you're too scared to call her out for being lazy and selfish, or whether you're the one acted lazy and selfish by abdicating leadership to her, it's time to start giving a rip about your family and about the fact that you're accountable to God for your household.
This episode tears down the reasons why you might find yourself in this situation, AND gives you practical tools and advice for righting past wrongs and starting to captain your ship.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:08 What guys get wrong about servant leadership
3:45 Should "Leaders Eat Last"?
7:15 The consequences of taking "servant leader" way too far
10:31 How to show servant leadership without losing strength
15:26 What to do if your wife is walking all over you
25:19 The solution to your emasculation problem
31:17 The secret hack...
33:53 What sales training can teach you about being a man worth following
Mentioned:
Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek
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Was Jesus alpha or beta when he was letting people spit in His face and punch Him?
Was He alpha or beta when He was rebuking the Pharisees?
Gentlemen...Jesus shows us so clearly that He was the right thing at the right time.
And if we're going to be following King Jesus as godly family leaders...we've got to be the same:
The right thing at the right time.
There's a ton of nuance in the alpha/beta conversation that gets lost amidst childish emotions and immaturity. This episode will help you avoid ditches on either side of the debate, while also giving you a way out of toxic tendencies to operate in one extreme or the other.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:33 Antarctic explorers and captaining your ship
7:20 Alpha vs. Beta
11:26 Should I lean into being an Alpha to be more like Jesus?
18:53 But what if my wife is a "strong woman"?
24:11 Don't be self-centered
26:48 What to do if you're a "nice guy"
38:23 Is the extreme Alpha a Beta in disguise?
42:41 Is it wise to give your wife "the little things" to decide, while everyone understands you make the big decisions?
Mentioned:
Endurance: Shackleton's Incredible Voyage
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
This is Biblical Masculinity 101.
What is it?
What are the lies most men believe about masculinity?
What does it look like applied to married husbands?
How do you leave passivity behind and start leading confidently?
This is a MUST listen if you want to get value out of anything else we talk about. Without the basic revelation about what God says about a man and husband, nothing else will make sense, and you'll never have the confidence or tools to lead your family well.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:10 True Biblical masculinity
5:00 What lies about masculinity do Christian men need to look out for?
8:34 What does it mean to be a Family Captain?
11:40 Common ways most men fall into passivity
18:58 How to stop abdicating leadership
24:15 Coaching through a real time example of passivity
30:57 How to pray for and start living with Biblical masculinity and leadership
39:29 Closing prayer
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Welcome to The Family Captain Podcast...relaunched and revamped.
This podcast is designed to help Christian husbands grow in family leadership and sex in marriage.
Today's episode will frame what you can expect from the show moving forward, introduce you to your host John Michael Clark and his co-host, Chris Farrell, and start to tease out a few pillars we'll be unpacking over the coming months that'll change your family's life.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:54 How I'd start to fix your marriage
7:20 Are you honest enough to admit you want your wife to respect you?
13:05 What to expect when you "get" what we're teaching here
14:32 The Family Captain origin story
20:38 Turn your masculinity back online
28:36 The biggest excuses men make to justify their crappy sex life
31:12 Why am I being walked over by my wife and kids?
32:57 I feel lack of purpose...why?
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
There are three obvious enemies that keep men from leading in a way that causes families to thrive. In this episode JM reveals them and shows you how to beat each one.
“Nice” guys defer to others- not because of their deep love for others, but because of their fear of the displeasure of others. “Nice” guys have no standards. “Nice” guys submit to their wives and make themselves and their wives miserable in the process. They seek comfort in the moment at the expense of real satisfaction and health long-term. Learn to be a good guy who does what’s best, instead of a nice guy who does what comfortable.
John Michael’s son Brock joined him for this episode where they talk about rites of passage and JM tells you how to create “catapult” moments to move your kids (and especially your sons) through meaningful and maturing moments.
We sift through The Mindful Attraction Plan by Athol Kay to find practical ways to build sexual attraction.
Author Zach Garris joins us to discuss his book "Masculine Christianity" and the authority that God has assigned to husbands.
We finish "Endurance" as we continue to learn from Shackleton's incredible Antarctic voyage, and his wise, compassionate leadership.
Ernest Shackleton's Antarctic ship was crushed in the ice. Now we learn family leadership lessons from him as we watch him work to save his 27 men. Book: Endurance
We explore the book Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin as we look at a husband's responsibility to lead.