Mad.In.Love: Recent Episodes
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Join best-selling author and relationship expert Dr. David Hawkins as he unveils the truth about the complicated and challenging aspects of love and war in relationships. He addresses issues that so many couples are struggling with but are not able to get effective help for, things like narcissism, emotional, spiritual and financial abuse, secondary abuse and the church, trauma, sex addiction, divorce, separation and more. Tune in now to gain insight and practical advice on how to bring health and healing to your relationship.
In this episode of Mad.In.Love, Dr. David Hawkins sits down with special guest Dr. Stephanie Holmes, a psychologist and counselor specializing in neurodiverse relationships. Together, they explore the intersection of autism, neurodivergence, and emotionally abusive traits within intimate relationships.
Dr. Holmes shares insights into common patterns and challenges neurodivergent couples face, often misunderstood as emotionally abusive behaviors. She highlights therapeutic strategies, the role of empathy in bridging gaps between neurotypical and neurodivergent partners, and practical advice for fostering healthier, more understanding relationships. Whether you're navigating a neurodiverse relationship or looking to better understand these dynamics, this episode offers encouragement and tools for growth.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode of Mad.In.Love, Dr. David Hawkins is joined by Kent Darcie, founder of Adult Children of Divorce Ministries, to explore the lasting impact of parental divorce on adult children, especially in families with narcissistic or emotional abuse. Kent shares insights from his book Choose a Better Path: Overcoming the Impact of Your Parents’ Divorce and discusses how unresolved family dynamics affect relationships, parenting, and emotional well-being. Together, they offer practical advice for breaking generational cycles, building resilience, and finding healing. Don’t miss this insightful conversation packed with hope and strategies for overcoming the challenges of divorce and abuse.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode of Dr. Hawkins' Reacts, Dr. David Hawkins and Jonathan Glover join Katie Buckley as she reads real-life relationship stories found online. These accounts detail complex situations, and Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan weigh in to determine if there are signs of emotional abuse. With their expert analysis and compassionate approach, they break down the behaviors, offer insights into what emotional abuse looks like, and provide guidance for anyone facing similar challenges. This episode is an eye-opening and thought-provoking exploration of how toxic dynamics can manifest in relationships—and how to recognize them. Tune in for valuable advice and practical takeaways!
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode, Dr. David Hawkins is joined by Dr. Gregory Jantz, a renowned expert in mental health, to discuss the powerful intersections of anxiety, trauma, and social media. Together, they unpack how social media shapes perceptions of emotional abuse, often distorting reality and amplifying feelings of insecurity and fear. Dr. Jantz and Dr. Hawkins explore the ways anxiety and unresolved trauma can influence how individuals experience and respond to emotional abuse, as well as how the digital age complicates these dynamics. With practical insights and actionable advice, this episode sheds light on navigating these challenges in a hyperconnected world. Don't miss this timely and insightful conversation!
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode of Dr. Hawkins' Reacts, Dr. David Hawkins and Jonathan Glover tackle a heartfelt and thought-provoking email sent in by one of our listeners. Katie Buckley reads the email aloud, sharing the listener's personal story and struggles, prompting Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan to provide their expert insights and practical advice. Together, they unpack the emotional dynamics at play, addressing key questions about narcissism, emotional abuse, and steps toward healing. With their compassionate and informed responses, this episode offers listeners valuable tools for navigating high-conflict relationships. Don’t miss this candid and impactful discussion!
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this insightful follow-up episode, Dr. David Hawkins is joined once again by Lucas Forstmeyer to explore a high-conflict case through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Together, they dive into the complexities of navigating toxic relationship dynamics, breaking down how IFS can help uncover the internal parts at play in both partners. Dr. Hawkins and Lucas provide a detailed and compassionate analysis, highlighting how self-awareness and accountability are key to breaking the cycle of emotional conflict. Whether you’re new to IFS or looking for fresh insights on high-conflict relationships, this episode is packed with practical tools and profound takeaways. Don’t miss it!
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode of Dr. Hawkins' Reacts, Dr. David Hawkins and Jonathan Glover dive into a fascinating discussion as Katie Buckley presents fictional character personality traits for their analysis. Together, they explore whether these characters exhibit narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) traits or simply display toxic or emotionally abusive behaviors. Through their expert insights, Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan break down the complexities of narcissistic tendencies versus full-blown NPD, providing listeners with valuable tools for identifying and understanding these patterns in real life. Packed with humor, expertise, and practical takeaways, this episode offers a unique and enlightening perspective on the challenges of recognizing unhealthy traits in relationships. Tune in for an informative and entertaining conversation!
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode of the Mad.In.Love podcast, Dr. David Hawkins is joined by Lucas Forstmeyer, a renowned practitioner and course creator specializing in Internal Family Systems (IFS). Together, they explore the complex dynamics of narcissism, emotional abuse, and how specific patterns of behavior impact relationships.
Lucas and Dr. Hawkins dive into the nuances of the term "narcissism," discussing when it's helpful to label behaviors and when it might be more effective to focus on specific patterns instead. They explore the concept of "Protective Parts" within IFS, which are often responsible for seemingly negative behaviors as a means of shielding vulnerabilities or exiled parts of ourselves. Lucas emphasizes the importance of approaching these protective mechanisms with compassion while maintaining healthy boundaries.
The episode further unpacks the distinctions between the "Self," individual parts, and the "Healthy Adult"—a state that combines the Self with developed skills and mature aspects of one's personality. Lucas and Dr. Hawkins share practical examples and strategies on how this understanding can lead to better emotional regulation and healthier relationship dynamics.
Lastly, they address the role of inherent temperament, such as being naturally agreeable or disagreeable, and how these temperamental differences influence our perceptions of behaviors often associated with narcissism. Lucas offers insights on balancing respect for inherent traits while addressing problematic behavior patterns.
Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of how IFS can be used to navigate complex relationship challenges, and learn strategies for fostering compassion towards yourself and others.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this insightful episode of the Mad.In.Love podcast, producer Katie Buckley brings real-life stories and questions from Reddit to the table, all centered around the theme of success in therapy. Joined by Dr. David Hawkins and Jonathan Glover, Katie reads a variety of posts from individuals seeking clarity on what to expect from therapy and what success should truly look like.
Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan offer their professional perspectives, drawing from years of experience as clinicians, to react to these stories. They discuss the markers of successful therapy, realistic expectations, and the unique journeys that each client may experience. Whether you're currently in therapy or curious about what the process entails, this episode provides valuable insights and guidance on how to define and recognize success in your own therapeutic journey.
Tune in for a thoughtful discussion on what it means to achieve success in therapy and how to set yourself up for meaningful progress.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this engaging episode of the Mad.In.Love podcast, Katie Buckley is joined by Dr. David Hawkins and Jonathan Glover to dive into stories and comments shared by our listeners. Katie reads aloud a selection of heartfelt and thought-provoking stories submitted by our audience, prompting Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan to provide their expert insights and reactions. Whether you're looking for guidance or simply curious to hear different perspectives, this episode offers valuable takeaways for anyone navigating the complexities of love and relationships.
Tune in to hear Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan tackle real-life scenarios with empathy, wisdom, and a touch of humor!
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode of Mad.In.Love, Dr. David Hawkins explores the pervasive issue of loneliness in the modern world, a concern that has become increasingly prominent in the aftermath of the global pandemic. Joining him is Jack Eason, a seasoned speaker and advocate for the power of genuine human connections, who also serves as the Executive Director of Crossover CUPS Mission, making significant strides in bettering the lives of families and children across various countries.
Jack shares his extensive experience and observations on loneliness, addressing the common misconceptions about who it affects and highlighting its relevance in today's society, where digital interactions often replace face-to-face connections. The conversation delves into the evolution of friendship in the age of technology and the challenges it poses in forming meaningful relationships.
Dr. Hawkins and Jack discuss practical strategies for overcoming the barriers to true connection, particularly for those navigating the path to recovery from emotional abuse or managing NPD tendencies. They emphasize the importance of fostering authentic bonds and the transformative power of community and togetherness in combating the profound sense of isolation that many individuals face.
This episode is a deep dive into understanding loneliness beyond surface-level perceptions, offering hope and actionable advice for anyone seeking to rebuild their social landscape and embrace the warmth of genuine human connection.
If you're interested in reading books written by Jack Eason, please visit: https://www.jackeason.org/books
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode of Mad.In.Love, Dr. David Hawkins invites Kristen Jenson, the founder of Defend Young Minds and the acclaimed author behind a movement to protect children in the digital age. Kristen's commitment to safeguarding young minds from the dangers of internet pornography is both inspiring and essential in today's tech-savvy world.
Kristen opens up about the compelling reasons that drove her to address such a challenging topic through her literature, aimed at empowering children with knowledge and resilience. She underscores the importance of parents initiating conversations about internet safety early on, providing practical advice on how to approach this delicate subject without inciting unnecessary curiosity.
As digital devices become increasingly ubiquitous in children's lives, Kristen emphasizes the critical role of filters and vigilance in preventing exposure to harmful content. She also confronts the stark reality of pornography addiction among youths, drawing parallels to chemical dependencies and highlighting the broader spectrum of negative impacts, from psychological harm to the potential for increased aggression.
Delving deeper, Kristen explores the disturbing connections between pornography and grave issues like child sexual abuse and trafficking, offering insights into the dark underbelly of easily accessible online content. For parents facing the aftermath of exposure, she advises on constructive steps to mitigate the damage and fortify their children's mental and emotional defenses.
Kristen introduces the Brain Defense: Digital Safety curriculum, a comprehensive educational toolkit designed to arm children with the skills to navigate the online world safely. Beyond her books and curriculum, Kristen reveals additional resources available on DefendYoungMinds.com, aimed at supporting parents and educators in their quest to create a safer digital environment for children.
This episode is a must-listen for parents, educators, and anyone invested in the well-being of the next generation, offering valuable strategies, resources, and hope in the face of daunting digital challenges.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode of Mad.In.Love, we are honored to host Chuck and Ashley Elliott, a couple whose life work has touched many hearts through their engaging content and impactful collaborations with platforms like YouVersion and RightNow Media. As a pastor and a licensed counselor, respectively, their journey is one of faith, resilience, and profound insights into relational success and navigating grief.
Today, Chuck and Ashley open up about the inspiration behind their poignant book, 'I Used to Be___,' sharing personal stories of vulnerability, including their own experience with miscarriage, and the challenging path towards healing and trust in God amidst profound loss. They delve into the complexities of grief, addressing the deceptive nature of grief-induced lies, and offering solace through the power of God's Word.
The discussion explores the concept of 'switch theory' as a tool for managing grief, alongside practical advice for those struggling to find their way after a loss. Ashley provides professional guidance on supporting grieving loved ones, while Chuck shares pastoral wisdom on moving forward with faith.
Further, the Elliotts discuss the importance of vulnerability in healing, the impact of grief on intimate relationships, and the necessity of developing new skills to navigate loss. They emphasize the often-overlooked lasting effects of grief and provide listeners with strategies to recognize and address these impacts.
If you're seeking a path through grief or looking to support someone in their journey, this episode offers invaluable insights and encouragement. Chuck and Ashley's final words of encouragement and information on how to connect with them and access their book promise to leave listeners with hope and practical steps for moving forward.
Join us on Mad.In.Love for an episode that promises not just to inform but to transform your approach to grief and healing.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
Join us in another episode of Mad.In.Love with your host Dr. David Hawkins, alongside Jonathan Glover, Jill Stenerson, and producer Katie Buckley, as they delve into real-life stories sourced from Reddit. This episode focuses on the intricate dynamics of family boundaries, a topic that resonates with many. Dr. Hawkins, Jill Stenerson, and Jonathan Glover engage in a thoughtful discussion, offering insights into the importance of maintaining personal boundaries within family relationships. They provide practical advice and healthy strategies for responding to situations where these boundaries are overlooked or violated by family members. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that sheds light on navigating boundary challenges with wisdom and empathy.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode of Mad.In.Love, hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, we're thrilled to introduce Kimmy Seltzer, a renowned Confidence Therapist, Authentic Dating Strategist, and Image Expert. Kimmy's groundbreaking "confidence makeover" process has revolutionized the way individuals approach dating and relationships, helping countless people around the globe find true love and connection.
Join us as Kimmy delves into her unique methodology, sharing the development of "The Charisma Quotient" and offering actionable tips to enhance self-confidence and allure in dating and beyond. She explores the profound impact of personal style and wardrobe on one's self-image and appeal, shedding light on the pivotal role of body language and first impressions in social interactions.
Throughout the episode, Kimmy recounts her extensive experience as a speaker, dating coach, and matchmaker, highlighting key factors that forge lasting and meaningful bonds. She reflects on her journey to becoming a recognized authority in her field, from captivating appearances in media and publications to her engaging podcast, "The Charisma Quotient."
Drawing from her involvement in dating shows and radio segments, Kimmy reveals how these platforms have enriched her work and connection with her audience. In closing, she offers invaluable advice for those aspiring to invigorate their dating life and forge enduring relationships, along with recommended resources and strategies.
Don't miss this insightful episode, where Kimmy Seltzer shares her expertise on building confidence, navigating the dating world, and creating authentic connections.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode, we were honored to have Dr. Bob Burbee, a seasoned licensed psychologist with over 37 years of experience. Specializing in working with individuals, couples, families, and groups, Dr. Burbee brings a wealth of knowledge and insight into the dynamics of relationships.
As a key therapist at the Focus on the Family Marriage Institute (FMI), he leads both Group and Private Marriage Intensives, in addition to training other therapists in Focus Marital Therapy. His involvement in Intensive programs dates back to 2000, making him a pioneer in this area. Dr. Burbee has also been an educator, teaching both undergraduate and graduate courses in psychology.
Marriage and family issues are Dr. Burbee’s forte, and he frequently shares his expertise through seminars, retreats, and workshops. Alongside his professional endeavors, he and his wife, Mary Jo, are deeply invested in their church's children and family ministries, and they also facilitate adult education sessions. They are proud parents of four grown children and currently reside in Springfield, Missouri.
Join us in this enlightening episode as Dr. Burbee shares his invaluable perspectives on marriage, family, and the power of intensive therapy.
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Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In this episode of Mad.In.Love, hosted by Dr. David Hawkins from the Marriage Recovery Center, we welcome back Dr. David Clarke, a Christian psychologist with over 35 years of experience. Dr. Clarke joins us to discuss his latest book, 'Adult Children Who Break Your Heart,' a follow-up to his renowned work, 'Enough is Enough!'
Throughout the episode, Dr. Clarke delves into the intricate dynamics of dealing with adult prodigals. He begins by defining what constitutes a prodigal in today's context and explores the reasons behind the increasing number of adult prodigals. Addressing the challenges faced by many parents, Dr. Clarke offers insights into overcoming guilt and managing relationships with unsupportive spouses in the face of familial strife.
Dr. Clarke introduces 'Strategic Truth Statements,' a tool for parents to navigate the emotional and psychological challenges they face. The episode rounds off with an overview of the 10 specific prodigal scenarios covered in his book, providing listeners with practical guidance and hope for reconciliation and healing.
For anyone grappling with the pain and complexity of strained relationships with adult children, this episode offers a blend of empathy, practical advice, and spiritual wisdom.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
Welcome to the latest episode of 'Dr. Hawkins Reacts!' hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, alongside Jonathan Glover and our producer, Katie Buckley.
In this episode, Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan delve into compelling stories from Reddit that explore the intricate layers of family dynamics, the nuances of communication, and the challenges of judgment within relationships. They also discuss practical DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) tools, offering insightful ways to reframe conversations and enhance understanding in complex familial situations.
Join us for an engaging journey through real-life scenarios, where Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan provide expert analysis and helpful strategies for navigating the often turbulent waters of family interactions.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
Join us in Episode 9 of 'Mad.In.Love' with your host Dr. David Hawkins from the Marriage Recovery Center and Emotional Abuse Institute. In this episode, we welcome Sharmen Kimbrough, one of our distinguished clinicians, as we delve into the intricate and often misunderstood concept of 'Spiritual Bypassing.'
Sharmen brings her expertise and enthusiasm to the table, unpacking what spiritual bypassing truly means. Through a series of examples and anecdotal stories, we explore how this phenomenon can unintentionally hinder the counseling process and obstruct therapeutic change.
The discussion also navigates the differences between spiritual bypassing and spiritual abuse, providing clarity on these closely related yet distinct concepts. Additionally, Sharmen shares valuable tools and strategies for effectively confronting and dealing with spiritual bypassing.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the subtle complexities of spirituality within the therapeutic context. Tune in for an insightful journey into the realm of spiritual health and emotional well-being.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
Dr. David Hawkins and Jonathan Glover are back with Katie Buckley for another Dr. Hawkins' Reacts! episode!
Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan discuss how video game addiction (and other behavioral process addictions) can lead towards emotional neglect in relationships. Listen to Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan suggest helpful tips in how to engage in clear, vulnerable, and helpful communication.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In the latest episode of Mad.In.Love, we dove deep with our Core Program facilitators to explore the multi-faceted approach to emotional healing that is at the heart of the Comprehensive Core Program. Lee Kaufman, Jill Stenerson, Jonathan Glover, Dr. John Hudson, and Dr. David Hawkins gave us valuable insights into the progressive stages of this transformative program.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan Glover are back with another Dr. Hawkins' Reacts! episode to discuss boundary violations. Katie Buckley shares posts found on Reddit for Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan Glover to react as trained clinicians and provide valuable insight on how to handle difficult situations.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
Dr. David Hawkins and Dr. John Hudson are interviewed by producer, Katie Buckley, about their upcoming book! Listen in to hear their goals for the book and how it can fill the gap for resources those with NPD traits need for their healing.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
In Part 1 of the last Dr. Hawkins' Reacts! episode, Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan Glover discussed their reactions to ChatGPT's answers to the common question "Is there hope for my relationship if there's emotional or narcissistic abuse?". In Part 2, Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan discuss how financial abuse plays into the relationship. Listen to hear their reactions to what ChatGPT's information.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
Welcome to the Mad.In.Love podcast! For those who are new, I’d like to quickly introduce myself. I’m Dr. David Hawkins, I'm the Clinical Director of The Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute. I am passionate about helping individuals and couples overcome emotional abuse to engage in healthy relationships. Over the years as a therapist, I’ve worked with a lot of couples who struggle with emotional intimacy and sex addiction. My field happens to specialize in clients with narcissistic traits and I’m finding that a vast percentage of those clients tend to struggle with sex addiction. I want to spend some time today discussing this idea of Narcissism and Sex Addiction, so I’ve invited a special guest to help navigate this conversation.
Today we are joined by Dr. Greg Miller from the Faithful and True counseling center that specializes in the treatment of sexual addiction! He is the director of the Men’s Journey Workshops and is the host of the Faithful and True Podcast. Welcome Dr. Greg Miller!
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan Glover are back with producer Katie Buckley, for another season of Dr. Hawkins Reacts! a series in which they respond and react to stories of toxic relationships posted by real people on various forums like Quora and Reddit. We are starting this season off with something a little different by having Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan go head to head with AI!
Join us for a fun hour as Dr. Hawkins and Jonathan share their reactions to ChatGPT's answers to common questions that we get asked by people who call in to the Marriage Recovery Center.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
Welcome back to Season 2 of Mad.In.Love. I'm thrilled to be joined today by Ernest Hart, our Intervention Specialist at The Marriage Recovery Center. We are talking today about one of my favorite topics - interventions! Find out what an intervention is in the context of relationships, and why it is one of the most powerful tools we use to bring about transformative change in the most difficult and challenging relationships, especially in cases involving narcissism and emotional abuse.
If you would like to learn more about interventions and how it can help your relationship, visit our website www.marriagerecoverycenter.com or give us a call at 206-219-0145.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com
Please note that Mad.In.Love welcomes guests with diverse viewpoints. Their beliefs do not necessarily reflect our mission at the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, but we value open dialogue and exploration.
Dr. David Hawkins, Jonathan Glover, and their producer, Katie Buckley are back to discuss various stories shared on the internet from a therapist's point of view.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
RESOURCES:
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...
Dr. John Hudson joins Dr. David Hawkins to discuss the NEAI, an assessment they created together to be used as a tool in evualating behavorial patterns within relationships.
If you would like to try the NEAI, you can click here.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
RESOURCES:
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...
Dr. David Hawkins, Jonathan Glover, and their producer, Katie Buckley are back to discuss various stories shared on the internet from a therapist's point of view.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
RESOURCES:
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...
Welcome to Mad.In.Love! If you are new here, I’m Dr. David Hawkins from the Marriage Recovery Center! Today we are talking about Narcissism and Child Development. I’m excited to introduce Leigh Ann Fernandez, one of our newer clinicians at the Marriage Recovery Center who specializes in trauma therapy and EMDR.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
RESOURCES:
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...
Welcome to Mad.In.Love! We have a very special episode this week where we’ll be talking about the effects of emotional abuse and trauma on our physical body. To help facilitate this conversation today, Dr. David Hawkins is joined by his esteemed colleagues, whom you’ve seen before on Mad.In.Love, Sharmen Kimbrough and Dr. Lenne’ Hunt. To add to this topic, we also have a VERY special guest, Dr. Hawkins' son, Dr. Tyson Hawkins! Tyson and Dr. Hawkins co-wrote their book, In Sickness and In Health, about this very topic.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
RESOURCES:
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...
Join Dr. David Hawkins and Jonathan Glover of the Marriage Recovery Center as they react to stories on the internet regarding relationships presented by their producer, Katie Buckley. You'll hear them share their reactions and insight from a therapeutic perspective as they break down different scenerios presented to them. This week they'll be focusing on the topic of creating healthy boundaries.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
RESOURCES:
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...
Welcome to Mad.In.Love! Today we have a very special panel including some special guest speakers to help us talk about the topic of narcissism within relationships.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
RESOURCES:
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...
Welcome to Mad.In.Love! If you are new here, I’m Dr. David Hawkins from the Marriage Recovery Center! I am back in the hot seat for our fun little series, Dr. Hawkins’ Reacts! with my colleague, Jonathan Glover.
To learn more about Jonathan Glover, please visit his page on our website.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
RESOURCES:
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...
Welcome to Mad.In.Love! If you are new here, I’m Dr. David Hawkins from the Marriage Recovery Center! Today we have a special guest speaker on our podcast, Dr. David Clarke! If you haven’t already heard of him, he is a Christian psychologist of over 35 years and I’ve recently read his book, Enough is Enough! I am excited to discuss this book and your work! Welcome, Dr. Clarke!
If you would like to learn more about Dr. Clarke's book or information, here is information:
Dr. Clarke’s book, Enough is Enough, which you can find on Amazon.com or you can also visit his website, www.davideclarkephd.com to learn more about his work!
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
RESOURCES:
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...
Welcome to Mad.In.Love! If you are new here, I’m Dr. David Hawkins from the Marriage Recovery Center! I am back in the hot seat for our fun little series, Dr. Hawkins’ Reacts! with my colleague, Jonathan Glover.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
RESOURCES:
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...
Welcome to Mad.In.Love! Today we will be discussing what narcissists misunderstand about love and joining me for this conversation is Dr. Les Carter, a therapist who specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder, and host of the Surviving Narcissism podcast.
Join us as we dive into the topic of narcissists and love – is it even possible for these two things to coincide? If you were to ask a narcissist if they love their spouse, partner, child, parent, etc. they would answer “yes, of course!” but is their idea of love really love, or is it their own twisted idea of love? A narcissist’s idea of love revolves around being thought of highly, anything that makes them feel good, and having agreement and conformity. None of these things have anything to do with real love. We’ll talk about the 5 levels of relationship and what healthy love looks like.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, founder and director of the Emotional Abuse Institute and the Marriage Recovery Center, best-selling author, speaker and clinical psychologist for over 40 years. Dr. Hawkins is recognized as an authority on the treatment of narcissism and emotional abuse within the context of relationships and has written over 30 books on recognizing and navigating toxic relationships, including “Dealing with the CrazyMakers in Your Life” and “When Loving Him is Hurting You.” He is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors, writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com and has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio. He and his team of trained experts offer online and in-person treatment programs for narcissistic and emotional abuse recovery. To learn more, contact our office at (206) 219-0145 or info@marriagerecoverycenter.com.
Resources:
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Dr. David Hawkins
Has your spouse ever cut off your access to a bank account or credit card? Have you felt nervous, trapped, or truly frightened because of your spouse or significant other’s actions surrounding your finances?
There is help available.
I’m Dr. David Hawkins, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in couple’s crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotional abuse at the Marriage Resource Center (MRC). I’m hosting this episode of the Mad.In.Love podcast to help shed light on a form of abuse that is not as commonly talked about as physical or emotional abuse. Financial abuse can often be triggered by fear - fear brought on by early childhood trauma, for instance, if the abuser grew up in a financially unstable situation, experiencing homelessness or other life stressors stemming from money or lack thereof.
I’m joined today by Lee Kaufman, a skilled life and relationship coach who has been helping people help themselves for 20 years, including over 4,000 hours with the Marriage Recovery Center. Early in his career, he spent over a decade in the financial and legal industries. This has given him unique insight on how business, finances, and family are inextricably connected. If one of these systems break down, the others will shortly follow. Lee’s work is based on three main principles: Connection, Intellectual Understanding, and Emotional Understanding.
In this episode we will talk about several examples of financial abuse (most often, but not always) perpetrated by men against their wives. You may not even realize that you are in a financially abusive relationship, until you hear about some of the specific scenarios we discuss. Lee tells us about identifying what level of abuse is happening, how to address it therapeutically, and the paths available to de-escalating the abuse, or even extricating yourself from the abusive situation.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
Resources:
Lee Kaufman at MRC
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Are you living in a relationship where rage or silence cause you to return that behavior toward the person treating you that way? Have you been pushed so far, so many times, that you explode with anger toward the person pushing you? This is what we call reactive abuse. And its effects can transform you into someone you don’t recognize-someone you don’t want to be.
In this episode, I’m speaking about reactive abuse with Dr. Lenne’ Hunt, my colleague at the MRC. Dr. Hunt has spent most of her adult life helping others navigate life’s challenges. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and an M.S. in counseling. Lenne’ practiced as a licensed therapist for many years while also raising a generation of therapists through her role as an Associate Professor of Psychology. More recently, Lenne’ decided to take another “helping” path, laying down her therapeutic license in favor of life coaching and pastoral counseling. Dr. Hunt coaches from a perspective of an intimate relationship with the Holy Trinity and so believes that no person and no relationship is ever too far gone to be beyond hope. Dr. Hunt is the author of three books: The Fatherhood of God and the Sonship of Man, Prisoners of Hope, and One True Thing and has a teaching/discipleship ministry called Deep Unto Deep Ministries.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
Resources:
Dr. Lenne’ Hunt at MRC
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Do you recognize these personality traits in your spouse: being controlling, defensive, thin-skinned, entitled, superior, emotionally immature, and easily offended or affronted? You may not realize that this is in fact emotional abuse and is a form of trauma to your spirit and extremely damaging to your sense of self.
Welcome to another episode of Mad.in.Love. I’m your host Dr. David Hawkins, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in couple’s crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotional abuse at the Marriage Resource Center (MRC). I’m joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered counseling. Sharmen has been a counselor since 1995 and works primarily with women and couples who are struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and build healthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma including emotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bring hope and wisdom toothers struggling to make sense of their life and relationships.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
Resources:
Sharmen Kimbrough at MRC
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
I’m joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered counseling. Sharmen has been a counselor since 1995 and works primarily with women and couples who are struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and build healthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma including emotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bring hope and wisdom to others struggling to make sense of their life and relationships.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
Resources:
Sharmen Kimbrough at MRC
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Is a chauvinist a narcissist and vice versa? Is a narcissist a chauvinist and a misogynist? There are blurred lines between all these personality disorders and character issues. Join me as I talk with Dr. John Hudson, head of the core men’s program at the Marriage Recovery Center, about these and other characterological traits that all have emotional abuse at their core.
Dr. Hudson brings a wealth of experience and knowledge to the Marriage Recovery Center, having been involved in counseling professions, teaching, and ministries for over 35 years. Dr. Hudson enjoys working with individuals and couples who recognize the value of counseling and how it can facilitate better living, relationships, and personal spiritual growth. His approach to therapy is brief and solution-focused and emphasizes the strengths, needs, abilities, and preferences of the client through a collaborative model.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
Resources:
Dr. John Hudson at MRC
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Welcome to the inaugural episode of Mad.in.Love!
I’m your host Dr. David Hawkins, a LicensedClinical Psychologist specializing in couples crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotionalabuse at the Marriage Recovery Center (MRC). Has your spouse beengiven every opportunity to heal and change, perhaps even in counseling,and still refusing to acknowledge any wrong doing or personal responsibility? It may be time for you to withdraw from that relationship that is only offering your heart and spirit chaos anddestruction. In this episode, we will discuss the many ways that you can work toward healing yourrelationship, but we’ll also discuss what to do when you’ve tried a thousand ways to reach your partner to connect and heal and there is “nothing more to be done.”
I’m joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered counseling. Sharmen has been a counselor since 1995 and works primarily with women and couples whoare struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and buildhealthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma includingemotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bringhope and wisdom to others struggling to make sense of their life and relationships.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing andrestoration to thousands of marriages and individualssince he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage woundsand rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145.
Resources:
Sharmen Kimbrough at MRC
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Today I'm joined by my colleagues Sharmen Kimbrough and Dr. Lenne' Hunt as we discuss what it means to be invisible in a relationship. It means you are not heard, you are not given room to think and speak for yourself, and if you try, you are immediately shut down with criticism and made to question you own true thoughts and feelings. It's a case of "go along to get along." Especially for those in a narcissistic and emotionally abusive relationship, being invisible becomes a form of self-protection.
The Mad.In.Love podcast is brought to you by The Marriage Recovery Center and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, Ph.D, MBA, MSW, MA. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist and author of over 40 relationship books. He is a speaker and trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors, has been featured on Moody Radio, Faith Radio, CBN and Crosswalk.com.
Dr. Hawkins and his team at the Marriage Recovery Center offer hope and healing for those affected by narcissistic and emotional abuse. They can be reached at info@marriagerecoverycenter.com or (206) 219-0145. Visit www.marriagerecoverycenter.com for more info.
Follow the Marriage Recovery Center on social media for more helpful tips:
https://www.youtube.com/c/drdavidbhawkins/videos
https://www.instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenter
https://www.facebook.com/marriagerecoverycenter
In this episode, Dr. Hawkins is joined by fellow MRC therapist Jonathan Glover, in the first of a new series where we will read posts about emotional abuse found on platforms like Reddit or Quora, and see what Dr. Hawkins has to say about it.
Today’s post is from a man whose ex (a woman) was constantly provoking, taunting, threatening, belittling, and laughing at his insecurities and pain points, along with switching her affection from hot to cold without warning. Jonathan and Dr. Hawkins go through this very long post step by step and point out the things that are good, bad, and questionable about the situation.
Jonathan Glover, LICSW, SUDPT at the Marriage Recovery Center, specializes in the treatment of trauma, particularly in the context of relationships. He has 15 years of counseling experience in community behavioral health and private practice. His professional experience includes working with families and victims of abuse, as well as treatment of other complex issues such as personality disorders, emotional abuse, domestic violence, addictions, PTSD, and depression.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle, and virtually, nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145.
Discussion Points:
- A new idea for podcast episodes– reacting to posts online about emotional abuse
- Reddit and a post from “Throwaway_28900” (screen name)
- Dr. Hawkins's initial reactions:
- Good for this man who seems relatively self-aware
- “I know why they did it/do it” is not helpful
- An example of extreme trauma bonding – good and bad admixture
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Provocation on both sides
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Thought traps and thinking errors
- BOW (Breathe, Observe, Wait) before reacting
- As MRC therapist Sharmen Kimbraugh often says to couples, “What are you fighting for?”
- Playing the victim vs. being a victim
- Reactive a
Has someone reached out to you about being the victim of an emotionally abusive relationship? Did you believe them? Do you know how to recognize the signs of covert emotional abuse?
Welcome to another episode of Mad.in.Love. I’m your host Dr. David Hawkins, and my co-host again today is Sharmen Kimbrough. Today we’re speaking with Annette Oltmans, Founder and CEO of The Mend Project. Annette’s personal experiences of long-term emotional abuse in marriage and her extensive journey of recovery ignited her passion to found The M3ND Project in 2016.
While seeking the help of professionals and responders, Annette experienced Double Abuse® in the form of spiritual and institutional abuse when her cries for help were ignored or brushed away, or, she herself was blamed for the situation. In working to prevent and remediate such harm, Annette developed protocol models that are now being taught and implemented by therapists, churches, and professional organizations across the United States.
Join us for an eye-opening discussion around the responsibility of first responders, the damage that is done with “double abuse” or secondary abuse – when victims are not believed, and how The M3ND Project is training professionals how to recognize the red flags of covert emotional abuse.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle, and virtually, nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145.
Discussion Points:
- Annette Oltmans – intro and background
- Background and resources – The Mend Project
- The devastating physical and emotional effects of prolonged stress
- The maze analogy – interaction with an emotional abuser
- Covert emotional abuse and PTSD
- Humans seek attachment, children are taught to comply
- The importance of clarifying how a ‘normal’ conversation should look/sound
- First responders are the person an abused person first reaches out to
- If first responders don’t have training in how to recognize emotional abuse, they can end up heaping on more abu
I’m joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered Christ-centered coaching. Sharmen has been coaching with the Marriage Recovery Center since 2015 and works with individuals and couples who are struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and build healthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma including emotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bring hope and wisdom to others struggling to make sense of their life and relationships.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145.
Discussion Points:
- What do you see as the problem with the apologies of emotionally immature men/narcissists
- How men turn comments from their spouse into feeling offended/all about him
- She seeks a connection, and he just wants her to shut up and leave him alone
- We’ve all been taught from childhood, “You apologize right now, and say it like you mean it!”
- How “bad apologies’ only serve to make the woman feel small, and as if she is the one who needs fixing
- Asking “When will you forgive me?” - Is it ever appropriate?
- When a woman displays loyalty, “I’m still here, I still love you,” etc.. the man has a window of opportunity
- How should a “healthy apology” sound?
- How the MRC can help
Resources:
Sharmen Kimbrough at MRC
Psychology Today Article: “13 Fake Apologies Used by Narcissists”
Dr. David Hawkins at MRC
Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook
Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram
Marriage Recovery Center YouTube
Email the Marriage Recovery Center
Are you living in a relationship where rage or silence causes you to return that behavior toward the person treating you that way? Have you been pushed so far, so many times, that you explode with anger toward the person pushing you? This is what we call reactive abuse. And its effects can transform you into someone you don’t recognize - someone you don’t want to be.
In this episode, I’m speaking about reactive abuse with Dr. Lenne’ Hunt, my colleague at the MRC. Dr. Hunt has spent most of her adult life helping others navigate life’s challenges. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and an M.S. in counseling. Lenne’ practiced as a licensed therapist for many years while also raising a generation of therapists through her role as an Associate Professor of Psychology. More recently, Lenne’ decided to take another “helping” path, laying down her therapeutic license in favor of life coaching and pastoral counseling. Dr. Hunt coaches from a perspective of an intimate relationship with the Holy Trinity and so believes that no person and no relationship is ever too far gone to be beyond hope. Dr. Hunt is the author of three books: The Fatherhood of God and the Sonship of Man, Prisoners of Hope, and One True Thing and has a teaching/discipleship ministry called Deep Unto Deep Ministries.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145.
Discussion Points:
- Dr. Lenne’ Hunt’s background
- Reactive abuse can manifest like a shaken can of soda that is then opened
- What’s your definition of emotional abuse?
- Many women/clients “plead” for us to believe them, what does that stem from?
- The public vs. private persona of abusers
- How women question their abuse, “it is enough?” [to complain about?]
- Sulking or silent treatment– emotional neglect is also abuse
- Part of a therapist's role is to validate a woman’s claims
- Men who point to reactive behavior as “giving as good as she gets”
- The “emotional quicksand” that can crush the life out of you if you don’t extricate yourself [from abuse]
- Many so-called “helpers”- pastors, friends, colleagues - don’t recognize the context, or believe the public persona of the abuser
- Always assume you’re missing something– ask for more information or ‘data’
- Some abuse is so subtle, even therapists must dig for more information
Is a chauvinist a narcissist and vice versa? Is a narcissist a chauvinist and a misogynist? There are definitely blurred lines between all of these personality disorders and character issues. Join me as I talk with Dr. John Hudson, head of the core men’s program at the Marriage Recovery Center, about these and other characterological traits that all have emotional abuse at their core.
Dr. Hudson brings a wealth of experience and knowledge to the Marriage Recovery Center, having been involved in counseling professions, teaching, and ministries for over 35 years. Dr. Hudson enjoys working with individuals and couples who recognize the value of counseling and how it can facilitate better living, relationships, and personal spiritual growth. His approach to therapy is brief and solution-focused and emphasizes the strengths, needs, abilities, and preferences of the client through a collaborative model.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145.
Discussion Points:
- Welcome Dr. John Hudson
- Can you explain if there is a difference between ‘chauvinist’ and ‘narcissist’?
- The concept of male breadwinners, “man of the house” etc. is embedded in our culture for those of a certain age
- Every man we see at the MRC has issues with “superiority”
- Are chauvinists actually emotional abusers?
- Overt vs. Covert emotional abuse
- How can we recognize chauvinism in clients? How can we tell it apart from NPD?
- Should we be using the term misogyny?
- What the ‘family of origin’ dynamic has to do with NPD and chauvinism
- Men claim ‘everything was fine’ until my wife saw one of your videos- but the pain and suffering have been there all along
- “Characterological” traits can be embedded and difficult to change
Do you recognize these personality traits in your spouse: being controlling, defensive, thin-skinned, entitled, superior, emotionally immature, and easily offended or affronted? You may not realize that this is in fact emotional abuse and is a form of trauma to your spirit and extremely damaging to your sense of self.
Welcome to another episode of Mad.in.Love. I’m your host Dr. David Hawkins, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in couples crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotional abuse at the Marriage Resource Center (MRC).
I’m joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered Christ-centered coaching. Sharmen has been coaching with the Marriage Recovery Center since 2015 and works with individuals and couples who are struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and build healthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma including emotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bring hope and wisdom to others struggling to make sense of their life and relationships.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145.
Discussion Points:
- Sharmen’s journey through trauma that led to her training to be a therapist
- We are coming up with new definitions of emotional abuse all the time
- Labeling the behavior instead of the person
- We have ‘learned responses’ to bad behavior, and sometimes that means ‘hiding’ which feels like being abused
- What about women who are hypervigilant, ‘over functioning’ or monitoring everything – cell phones, mileage, calories, whatever?
- Many men, when asked why they love their wives, can only comment on her cooking or care for their children, they don’t “see” her personality
- Being loved means ‘being known’
- If your husband cares more about befriending and winning over your therapist, than working on your relationship, it might be time to step away
- A woman can deci
Has your spouse ever cut off your access to a bank account or credit card? Have you felt nervous, trapped, or truly frightened because of your spouse or significant other’s actions surrounding your finances?
There is help available. I’m Dr. David Hawkins, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in couples crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotional abuse at the Marriage Resource Center (MRC). I’m hosting this episode of the Mad.In.Love podcast to help shed light on a form of abuse that is not as commonly talked about as physical or emotional abuse.
Financial abuse can often be triggered by fear - fear brought on by early childhood trauma, for instance, if the abuser grew up in a financially unstable situation, experiencing homelessness or other life stressors stemming from money or lack thereof.
I’m joined today by Lee Kaufman, a skilled life and relationship coach who has been helping people help themselves for 20 years, including over 4,000 hours with the Marriage Recovery Center. Early in his career, he spent over a decade in the financial and legal industries. This has given him unique insight on how business, finances, and family are inextricably connected. If one of these systems breaks down, the others will shortly follow. Lee’s work is based on three main principles: Connection, Intellectual Understanding, and Emotional Understanding.
In this episode we will talk about several examples of financial abuse (most often, but not always) perpetrated by men against their wives. You may not even realize that you are in a financially abusive relationship until you hear about some of the specific scenarios we discuss. Lee tells us about identifying what level of abuse is happening, how to address it therapeutically, and the paths available to de-escalating the abuse or even extricating yourself from the abusive situation.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.
Discussion Points:
- Lee Kaufman’s background
- How to recognize financial abuse
- What are some examples of financial abuse?
- What should a healthy relationship around money look like?
- Using business or work scenarios to analyze your financial relationships
- Yo
Welcome to the inaugural episode of Mad.in.Love. I’m your host Dr. David Hawkins, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in couples crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotional abuse at the Marriage Recovery Center (MRC).
Has your spouse been given every opportunity to heal and change, perhaps even in counseling, and still refusing to acknowledge any wrongdoing or personal responsibility? It may be time for you to withdraw from that relationship that is only offering your heart and spirit chaos and destruction.
In this episode, we will discuss the many ways that you can work toward healing your relationship, but we’ll also discuss what to do when you’ve tried a thousand ways to reach your partner to connect and heal and there is “nothing more to be done.”
I’m joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered Christ-centered coaching. Sharmen has been coaching with the Marriage Recovery Center since 2015 and works with individuals and couples who are struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and build healthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma including emotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bring hope and wisdom to others struggling to make sense of their life and relationships.
The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books.
Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145.
Discussion Points:
- Emotional abuse is more often felt, than seen. Can you give us your definition?
- Speak about the ‘power differential’ that we witness when a couple is struggling with emotional abuse
- Most often suffered by women, emotional abuse makes one party feel small, and that person can become an empty shell
- How self-protection remains a barrier to connecting and healing
- Sharmen’s dialogue tool: “What are you fighting for?”
- How can a discerning counselor find out the answer to “What are you fighting for?”
- How does failure to take responsibility for wrongdoing play out in relationships?