Coming Out Late: Recent Episodes
Robin Douglass
Coming Out Late Podcast is the go-to podcast for all things coming out later in life. Which means, if you’ve ever wondered, “Am I gay?”, or, if you’ve ever laid awake in bed at night, and fantasized about being in a same sex relationship, then this podcast is for you. Whether you are in your 30’s, or even your 60’s, or anything in between, and have either “always known” you are gay but because of comphet or a strict religious upbringing, you could never do anything about it. Or maybe you are just-now “awakening”, later in life, realizing that your true calling, the true you has been wanting to explore this side of yourself that has been stuffed and buried deep below the surface of heteronormativity and internalized homophobia for years. Then this podcast is for you. Through real, raw, and vulnerable conversations, we cover all-topics related to Coming Out Late in life from the beginning to the messy-middle to being “on the other side”. We have conversations with real women who have had their “Aha!” moments when they said to themselves, “Holy Sh!T! I’m Gay!”. We get vulnerable with couples, with married women, with their children, and sometimes even with their spouses about what do we do now; how do we co-parent, should we get a divorce, can I afford to live on my own, and dealing with the immense feelings of guilt and shame for making such an enormous life-change, upsetting and shaking-up our family units. Come take a listen. Here you will find community, support, solace and hear real stories SO similar to your own. Subscribe and like your next favorite podcast, Coming Out Late Podcast.
In this follow-up episode to last week, Robin continues to answer a few more questions which were submitted by members of her Coming Out Late Facebook Group. In today’s episode of “Your Queer Questions Answered”, Robin discusses the following topics:
- Dividing up your marital assets don’t always have to be 50/50.
- Go over ALL of your expenses with a fine-tooth comb!
- Do you know what it costs to live in the housing you’re currently living in?
- Should you get rid of the house? Or budget even tighter and get a second job?
- What does it mean to ‘live below our means/?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian
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In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues being interviewed by Greg Sowell, host of his own podcast called, “Why Am I?” Greg’s premise behind his “Why Am I?” podcast, is that he likes talking to interesting people and tries to trace a path to where they were to where they find themselves today. Nonetheless, Robin makes an excellent guest on his show, because clearly her path to where she was to where she finds herself today is quite an unlikely path indeed.
In this episode, you will hear Greg interview Robin and learn . . .
- How and why Robin became a solopreneur, and what that means. (Hint: an unexpected and abrupt - and illegal - ending to her marital alimony suddenly had Robin scrambling to support herself.)
- Why Robin thinks we are all going through a metamorphosis throughout our lives, explaining why it’s important we embrace change and impermanence, because nothing stays the same - change is inevitable.
- Robin says, “...I always knew there was something more for me to do, to accomplish…always wanting to know my purpose in life…”
- How Robin followed the breadcrumbs along a 10-year journey.
- Recuperating from her nearly three-year divorce and how two and a half years after her divorce, she was faced with a very difficult financial and legal decision.
- How Robin freed herself from being beholden to her ex-husband, wanting to be fully self-sufficient and independent - depending only on herself.
- Theories on why there are droves of people coming out late in the last 4-7 years; and how many come out near their 30th, 40th, 50th, 60th, 70th+ birthdays.
- Coming to terms with being gay and how we choose to express ourselves (as gay people), publicly, AND, reconciling that expression of our gayness.
- Fear paralyzes us. When you’re feeling the fear, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” Feel the fear and do it anyway.
- What roles do ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS TO RESOURCES:
Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian
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In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Greg Sowell, host of his own podcast called, “Why Am I?” Greg’s premise behind his “Why Am I?” podcast, is that he likes talking to interesting people and tries to trace a path to where they were to where they find themselves today. Nonetheless, Robin makes an excellent guest on his show, because clearly her path to where she was to where she finds herself today is quite an unlikely path indeed.
In this episode, you will hear Greg interview Robin and learn . . .
- How and why Robin became a solopreneur, and what that means. (Hint: an unexpected and abrupt - and illegal - ending to her marital alimony suddenly had Robin scrambling to support herself.)
- Why Robin thinks we are all going through a metamorphosis throughout our lives, explaining why it’s important we embrace change and impermanence, because nothing stays the same - change is inevitable.
- Robin says, “...I always knew there was something more for me to do, to accomplish…always wanting to know my purpose in life…”
- How Robin followed the breadcrumbs along a 10-year journey.
- Recuperating from her nearly three-year divorce and how two and a half years after her divorce, she was faced with a very difficult financial and legal decision.
- How Robin freed herself from being beholden to her ex-husband, wanting to be fully self-sufficient and independent - depending only on herself.
- Theories on why there are droves of people coming out late in the last 4-7 years; and how many come out near their 30th, 40th, 50th, 60th, 70th+ birthdays.
- Coming to terms with being gay and how we choose to express ourselves (as gay people), publicly, AND, reconciling that expression of our gayness.
- Fear paralyzes us. When you’re feeling the fear, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” Feel the fear and do it anyway.
- What roles do ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS TO RESOURCES:
Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian
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Some of us went a lifetime having ‘no clue’ we were attracted to women until much later in life. Others, on the other hand, always knew they ‘liked girls’, but stuffed it down, way down. Internal homophobia, deep-seeded homophobic denial, and compulsory-heteronormativity all played a huge role in delaying, and denying, our journey to discovering and embracing our true selves. One thing we late-bloomers know for sure is, if we were straight, we sure as heck wouldn’t be asking ourselves if we weren’t! But don’t take our word for it, keep listening to the Coming Out Late Podcast and hear the similarities in our stories.
In this episode, you will learn about…
-How Robin figured out she’s gay, (using her unique ‘research technique’)
-How many of us get to the point of: “Ok. Enough is enough already. I have to figure this out! Why am I feeling this way toward women? ”
-So this IS a ‘thing’. It isn’t just me.”
-Robin’s theory on her own deep homophobic denial
-A few podcasts and books specifically for women questioning their sexuality
LINKS TO RESOURCES:
Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian
A few books I first read when I was questioning my sexuality were: Fleisher, Joanne, Living Two Lives: Married to a Man & In Love with a Woman, and Waters, Dawn Elizabeth, Switching Teams: What Coming Out Later in Life Taught Me About Love, Conquering Fear, and Accepting Change, and McCoy, Robin, Late Bloomers: Awakening to Lesbianism After Forty.
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How does one “follow the bread crumbs” to discover and/or confirm if they are gay or not? Great question! Married to a man for nearly 30-years, Robin had her “Aha!” moment literally on her 54th birthday. (No. That’s not a typo. She came out to herself at 54-years of age!) Robin takes you on her journey from those first vague and sporadic inner stirrings she felt about women to finally figuring out “what was wrong with her”. Robin shares with us how she cracked-her-case that had been plaguing her and brewing within her for decades - yet seemingly laid dormant throughout her lifetime.
In this episode, you will learn about…
- What you can expect from this and future episodes of the Coming Out Late Podcast
- Robins’ coming-out story and how she eventually came out to herself
- The events and clues that led-up to Robins’ “Aha!” moment
- Compulsory-heteronormativity and internalized homophobia
- How did Robin figure out she’s gay? (Cliffhanger Clue: My Secret Research Project, explained in Episode #210 of the Coming Out Late Podcast.)
LINKS TO RESOURCES:
Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates:Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian
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In this week’s episode, Robin talks about the keys to living a serene and fulfilling life. Robin puts on her philosophical beret and covers topics such as “acceptance”, “surrendering”, “expectations” and “letting go” and what in the world does that have to do with coming out late?
- Give yourself permission to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently; because we can!
- Nothing changes if nothing changes.
- We ALWAYS have options and choices to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently.
- It’s how we respond to adversity, to challenge, that defines our character.
- We must accept we have no control over people, places, things & situations.
- The key to life, to serenity, and to living a fulfilled life is ACCEPTANCE.
- We learn how to accept by learning how to surrender; we learn how to surrender by learning how to LET GO.
- We need to learn how to let go of - and live free-from - ‘desired outcomes’ and ‘expectations’.
- The myth about chasing ‘ideal outcomes’. What’s the probability of catching our ‘desired outcomes’? What’s the cost of chasing our desired outcomes?
- We’re not in the CONTROL business - that’s codependency’s job!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS TO RESOURCES:
Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates:Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
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In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin broaches a subject - a question really - that she hears almost more than any other topic or question. And that is, “Who Am I? (Since Coming Out Late)”. Maybe we’ve ‘lost ourselves’ in our marriage, or in our careers; maybe we’ve never really ‘been on our own or lived alone’ - ever! “Who Am I?” outside of my marriage, nuclear family and friendships? Do I even know what I’m passionate about?
- Who Am I Since Coming Out Late? That is the single most asked question among people who have, or are, coming out late.
- What does it mean, “Life is a journey, not a destination.”
- The process, (the journey), shapes us more than the outcome does.
- If we’re only focused on the finish line, we can miss out on our actual life.
- The meaning of our journey comes from who we become along the way — not what box we end up checking.
- There is no final, perfect endpoint.
- Your journey is the life you’re living - right now!
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS TO RESOURCES:
Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates:Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
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The holidays are upon us and we have only been ‘out’ for a short while; or maybe we haven’t quite come out to everyone yet; or maybe our soon-to-be-ex ‘outed’ you to his entire family. In this episode Robin and Chris talk about the upcoming holidays and how we plan ahead, prepare for and protect ourselves from some seriously uncomfortable holiday experiences.
- Keys to successful holidays: transparency, openness and honest communication.
- Use a lifeline if you need one, and have an exit plan
- Be ready for provocative questions by having a few pre-prepared responses.
- Develop a self-care practice/routine, (e.g., nourish all your senses
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
- If you want more conversations around navigating the holidays when you’ve come out late, check out the previous “Coming Out Late” Episode #205.
LINKS TO RESOURCES:
Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
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ON HIATUS UNTIL JANUARY - Happy New Year!
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The holidays can be particularly challenging for those who’ve just come out. Robin shares how to handle difficult situations with care and the importance of keeping lines of communication with your children and/or family as open as possible. Robin also discusses why the New Year is a perfect time to prioritize self care!
In this episode, you will learn…
- How to handle the holidays with your significant other or former significant other
- You don't have to spend an uncomfortable holiday unless there are children involved.
- Suggestions for how to manage difficult feelings in the same space with others
- Advice for asking your children what they expect on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day
- Try to be the one that initiates cohesiveness and togetherness and connectedness.
- The sooner our children realize and can adapt to and embrace change as something that just simply happens, and it's not something to be feared is good.
- The importance of making self care your number one priority
- Encouragement to let go of toxic relationships—no matter who they’re with
- We're gonna learn how to love ourselves or we're gonna learn how to shed our codependency because it's a new year.
Links to resources:
Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin makes a few Coming Out Late Announcements and clarifies a few things about where to find the special Premium Interview episodes.
In this episode, you will hear Robin announce…
- First Premium Interview - Ep. #200: Kristin Key. Purchase it, ($5), at: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/466637
- Second Premium Interview - Ep. #204: Alayna Joy. Purchase it, ($5), at: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/476490
- MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Monday, 55 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp via Buy Me A Coffee. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Register using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
- THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHER Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp via Buy Me A Coffee. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Register using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
- THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes, 12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, $10pp via Buy Me A Coffee. Wed. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, (June 4-7, '26); For more details, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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In this episode, Robin announces the next evolution of the Coming Out Late podcast: Monthly Premium Interviews featuring some of the most inspiring, hilarious, and thought-provoking voices in our queer world.
In this episode, you will learn…
- How you can access these Premium Interviews:
- Monthly Subscriber: Become a paid Monthly Subscriber to access the ”Premium Interviews” via Buzzsprout, ($4/month). Link to join: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/subscribe
- One-At-A-Time: purchase only the Premium Interviews you wish to hear, (one-episode-at-time), thru Buy Me a Coffee, ($5/episode).
- Kristin Key Link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/466637
- Alayna Joy Link: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/episodes/18153682
- Announcing the new, FREE, monthly Queer & Sober podcast — open to everyone, not just those living sober, (accessed wherever you find the Coming Out Late podcast).
- Links to access the new, monthly podcast — Queer & Sober:
- Ep. #199b: (QS.01): “Announcing — A Brand New Community, Retreats & Support Circles”, (Oct. 3, 2025); https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000730020799
- Ep. #203: (QS.02): “Queer & Sober — Finding Belonging”, (Oct. 31, 2025); https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000734364173
- Find the Queer & Sober Facebook Page here: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581399773746
- Join the “Queer & Sober Community” Facebook Group here: www.facebook.com/groups/4196389017301591/
- If you’ve been listening, learning, and growing from the Coming Out Late podcast, then please express your appreciation and support Robin by buying a “virtual” coffee. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes; 12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 1, 2026, Virtual Retreat); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, (June 2026); For more details, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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In this special monthly episode of “Queer & Sober”, (a special offering thru the Coming Out Late podcast audience), Chris and Robin talk about one of the most universal parts of being human — belonging. Chris and Robin's honest and personal reflections on what it's like to navigate recovery as a queer person and to find or build your own communities.
In this episode, you will learn…
- The difference between fitting in (performing for acceptance) and belonging (rooted in authenticity)
- How queerness and sobriety both ask us to live in truth — and how that truth can feel lonely without community
- Why belonging is biological, not just emotional: how co-regulation, safety, and connection heal our nervous systems
- Reflections on forgiveness, courage, and community repair — how we hold each other when we don’t get it perfect
- The power of “We” over “I” — moving from isolation to connection, from illness to wellness
- The birth of the Queer & Sober community — an invitation to bring your full self, without apology or performance
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
QUEER & SOBER COMMUNITY & RETREATS:
-RETREATS - Contact Chris: genderexpansiveyogi@gmail.com
-COMMUNITY - Contact Robin: comingoutlater@gmail.com
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MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
EVERY Monday Evening - 60 minutes.
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Monday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; No meeting on Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 22, or Dec. 29. Next Meeting: Jan. 5. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Wednesday - 60 minutes
12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Wednesday Meeting Dates: Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12,; Dec. 3, Dec. 17;
No meetings on: Nov. 26; Dec. 24, or 31. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
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THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Tuesday - 60 minutes
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Tuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
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2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, June 2026; Charlotte, NC (September 10-13. For more details, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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In this week’s episode Robin shares with us her perspective on the frequently asked question, “Am I Less Gay Because I Was, (or Am), Married to A Man?”. Robin also answers the question, “How did you know you were gay? Did you waiver? Did you need ‘an experience’ to know for sure?”
Some of the topics you’ll hear Robin share with you are:
- Contempt prior to investigation; and how does that relate to being newly gay?
- What is ‘sexuality’? And could it really be fluid?
- Your truth is yours to define; if you say you’re gay, you’re gay! No one else gets to weigh-in or decide for us.
- “The fears we don’t face become our limits.”
- Heterosexual women do not lay awake at night fantasizing about other women.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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Monday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; No meeting on Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 22, or Dec. 29. Next Meeting: Jan. 5
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Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes
12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Wednesday Meeting Dates: Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12,; Dec. 3, Dec. 17;
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THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Tuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30.
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2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, (June 2026); Charlotte, NC (September 10-13). For more details, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin talks about feeling all the feelings while going through the coming out late journey. Consider this a pep-talk if you will
In this episode, you will learn…
- How we are expected to know things we never knew before; do things we’ve never done before.
- How to accept, acknowledge & be with financial insecurity, loneliness and grief.
- Taking a look at how much we’ve grown, learned & handled over the year.
- Acknowledging to yourself that you are exactly where you are supposed to be right here, right now, in this moment
- Why it’s dangerous to allow ourselves to idealize our pasts.
- Purchase a copy of the 1-hour Interview with Kristin Key! https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/466637
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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SUPPORT GROUPS:
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EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
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Monday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; No meeting on Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 22, or Dec. 29. Next Meeting: Jan. 5
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Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes
12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Wednesday Meeting Dates: Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12,; Dec. 3, Dec. 17;
No meetings on: Nov. 26; Dec. 24, or 31.
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Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
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THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Tuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30.
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2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, (June 2026); Charlotte, NC (September 10-13). For more details, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin & Chris announce the beginning of a brand new Community - Queer & Sober: Community and Retreats. Who is Queer & Sober for? And what is Queer & Sober about? It’s about co-creating a safe, affirming community where every voice matters, joy is shared and together we thrive.
Have a listen and learn more . . .
- What is a Queer & Sober Community?
- Who is this Queer & Sober Community for?
- Is it just a ‘Community’?
- If you’re sober and queer, how would this Community help you?
- What are Queer & Sober Retreats? Where are they held?
- What defines someone as living a ‘sober’ lifestyle?
- What does ‘queer’ encompass? Who does it include?
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Tuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, 21; Nov. 4, 18; Dec. 2, 16;
No meeting Dec. 30.
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Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes
12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Wednesday Meeting Dates: Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12; Dec. 3, 17;
No meetings on: Nov. 26; Dec. 24 or 31.
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2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar so far, and they are: (1) Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); (2) Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); (3) San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); (4) Lake George, NY, June 2026; (5) Traverse City, MI, (Up North Pride, Sept. ‘26). For more details, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin & Chris discuss the depth and breadth in which attending Coming Out Late Support Groups are of vital importance to us on this journey of coming out later. In this episode, you will learn . . .
- Why do support groups matter, and make them feel so safe and supportive?
- Support Groups are where you can share your story and show up as your honest and vulnerable self; then,y our deeper purpose begins to emerge.
- Support Groups are non-judgmental spaces where you’ll quickly feel relief from isolation and resilience.
- Additional benefits from attending support groups are: emotional regulation and resistance; accountability & growth; skill building in real time;
- The three Coming Out Late Support Groups serve as a weekly or bi-monthly anchor, therefore providing you with ongoing inspiration and hope.
- Support Groups afford you the opportunity to benefit from the shared wisdom, peer support and real life insights from women who are walking the same road.
- In Support Groups your identity is not just accepted - it is affirmed & celebrated.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: ON HIATUS UNTIL SEPT. 17th
2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, June 2026; Traverse City, MI, (Up North Pride, Sept. ‘26). For more details, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin and Chris invite two very special guests, barbers Wallace and Jess. Wallace & Jess are romantic partners, business partners and Owners of Locket Barber Shop in the Olde Kenzo part Philadelphia, PA.
In this episode you will learn . . .
- How did Jess & Wallace meet? And, how did they get into barbering?
- What has surprised you most about running a business while also being together as a couple?
- Has being queer has helped or hindered their business?
- What is a queer-affirming haircut? And are there distinguishable nuances between a femme versus masc cut?
- What’s the difference between a Barbershop and a Salon?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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LOCKET BARBERSHOP:
Owners, Jess & Wallace (@wallacethebarber)
Instagram: @locketbarber TikTok: @locketbarber
Email: locketbarbershop@gmail.com
**Locket Barbershop, 1733 North Second Street, Philadelphia, PA (Olde Kenzo)
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EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
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Monday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; Not meeting: Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 122, or Dec. 29. , Dec. 5
No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.
Temporary financial assistance available. Email me.
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THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes
12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Wednesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 17; Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12,; Dec. 3, Dec. 17;
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Temporary financial assistance available. Email me.
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THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: - BEGINNING: SEPT. 23rd
Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Tuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30.
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In this episode, Robin introduces a particular topic or theme or idea that she hopes will help us all think a little deeper, feel a little more awakened and possibly even inspire us to act a little differently as we navigate through this journey of life and of coming out.
In this episode you will consider the possibility of ‘impermanence’ and learn . . .
- What is the meaning of ‘impermanence’, and why is it important?
- How does ‘impermanence’ affect us: Emotionally? Socially? Intellectually? Mentally? Spiritually? Physically?
- Does the knowledge of ‘impermanence’ affect our daily lives?
- Does ‘impermanence’ impact our mindfulness and being present in the moment?
- What are the benefits of accepting ‘impermanence’?
- What can happen if we do not accept the idea of ‘impermanence’?
- By embracing ‘impermanence’, we learn acceptance and that ‘change’ is inevitable.
- How does the intersection of ‘impermanence’ and ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
- MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: - BACK ON SEPT. 15
EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
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Monday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; No meeting on Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 22, or Dec. 29. Next Meeting: Jan. 5
No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.
Temporary financial assistance available. Email me and let’s chat.
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- THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: - BACK ON SEPT. 17
Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes
12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Wednesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 17; Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12, No meeting on Nov. 26; Dec. 3, Dec. 17; No meeting on Dec. 24, or 31.
No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.
Temporary financial assistance available. Email me and let’s chat.
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- THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: - BEGINNING ON SEPT. 23rd
Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting
Tuesday Meeting Dates:Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30.
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In this episode, Robin reminds us of the significance and importance of us not only hearing other women’s coming out stories, but also telling our own. We grow, we learn and we heal every time we share or hear coming out late stories. Robin reads to us the story of one particular woman who can recall always being attracted to women for as long as she could remember - but knew she had to suppress those thoughts and feelings. (Thank you social norms and comphet!) After being married to a man, and hitting 40-years old, she made a promise to herself that the second half of her life was going to be on her terms. After that inspiring story, Robin also talks about the rate or speed at which you should proceed on your journey of coming out. And, at the end of this episode, Robin will share with us the responses from a variety of late bloomers, to this statement: “My first kiss with a woman was…”!
In this episode, you will learn…
- How do we find ourselves and live in our truth?
- Going from three kids and 2 marriages to men later - how one woman went from miserable, depressed, angry and anxious to flourishing in life!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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Please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode, Robin picks up where she left off in last weeks’ Episode of: “The Catalyst, Part One”, by first reminding us that catalyst relationships can and DO have one of the most significant impacts on us during the early stages of our Coming Out Late journey. While there is a certain amount of mystery and excitement surrounding a catalyst experience, Robin reminds us to proceed with caution, IF we are to proceed at all. Robin also outlines for us several necessary assumptions and considerations to think about, (preferably), before we ever even meet our catalyst. In “The Catalyst, Part Two”, Robin covers what our options are after we’ve met our catalyst, and why it is so important not to lose ourselves in this, or any future relationship(s). Examining the catalyst experience can be a very deep and complex process, and in this episode, Robin only begins to scratch the surface as to why catalyst relationships tend to be so confusing, complex and volatile. Robin also covers a variety of things that need our consideration before considering to act-on the allure of a catalyst.
In this episode, you will learn…
- What purpose does a catalyst serve?
- What assumptions must be considered BEFORE we meet our catalyst?
- Some of the key considerations that can impact an experience with our catalyst.
- The three most common “types” of catalyst experiences.
- How to take personal inventory at all stages of our coming out journey, but especially prior to revealing ourselves to our catalyst?
- The #1 best way to deal with and handle the dreaded catalyst break-up!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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Catch up by listening last week's Part 1 of: Ep. #192: Coming Out Late - the Catalyst Experience, Part 1. https://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/episodes/17632873
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In this episode, Robin talks about The Catalyst and shares some insight as to WHAT a catalyst is . . . HOW the catalyst relationship is different from all other future same sex relationships . . . and WHY it’s important to understand your part, your ‘role’ in this very important, very intense first relationship with a woman. ALL women-to-women relationships are important, but there’s to be nothing like our first (catalytic) same sex relationship. There are no “silver bullets” in catalyst relationships, but understanding the nuts ‘n bolts of them, can help soothe the soul if/when our catalyst relationships end. Stay tuned for “The Catalyst: Part Two” next week.
In this episode, you will learn…
- What IS a catalyst in a woman loving woman relationship?
- That “catalysts” are not always a person.
- The significance of the popular quote circulating among Women Loving Women circles: “You’ve never really had your heart broken until you’ve had your heart broken by a woman”.
- Not everyone who comes out (late) has a catalyst.
- What happens when your catalyst relationship starts to go south, and why?
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In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin discusses the topics of fear and confusion as they relate to the coming out late process. Robin explains, “...fear and confusion have been pervasively popping-up in a variety of forums where people gather for support and conversation regarding their coming out late journey’s. We need to have open and honest conversations about the common fears we experience and the mind-blowing confusion we’re hit with when coming out later in life.”
In this episode you will learn…
- above all else, you are not alone! What you are thinking and feeling and experiencing is not only common and ‘normal’, but temporary as well.
- ways to dispel some common concerns and ‘arm’ you with some understanding of the coming out process, in order to help ease your overtaxed nervous systems.
- that we all share similar feelings of uncertainty, self-doubt, confusion, self-loathing, and a deep, deep visceral fear of the unknown at various points along our coming out transformation.
- there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to approach our coming out; there is no ‘right way’ to confront and resolve the relationships affected by our coming out. In fact, in many cases, we choose not to even act-on our awareness of our awakened queer identities - that for some - simply acknowledging that side of ourselves and possibly sharing that knowledge with a loved one is ‘enough’.
- fifty to one-hundred women, a WEEK, are requesting to join our ‘Coming Out Late’ FB Group.
- Worry is another form of fear. Worrying is a waste of our energy and a misuse of our imagination. “Worrying” is like praying for something that you don’t want. (What we focus on grows). Worry is also just a way to attempt to control something we have no control over.
- NO amount of worry is going to change the future - none. So, why worry? And if no amount of worry is going to change the future, then no amount of REGRET will change the past.
- But ANY amount of gratitude that you can muster-up during this phase of our awakening, WILL change the present. Any amount of gratitude WILL change the present.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
In this episode, Robin continues to break the mold in the world of LGBTQ podcasting by introducing us to one of her listeners, Michelle, hailing all the way from Australia. Robin was so struck by a note she received from Michelle, that she knew she had to share it with her listener’s, with MIchelle’s consent of course. Robin also knew that the impact of Michelle’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Michelle herself. So, Michelle agreed to read her own letter to Robin, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.
Whether covered directly, or implied, this episode touches upon topics which get us thinking about . . .
- The universal nature of coming out late, no matter where in the world we live.
- The effect of women in non-traditional, but male-dominated occupations.
- Is it a woman’s responsibility to help make a man feel ‘whole’ if he feels emasculated or threatened by a woman?
- Being with men, cutting off bits of myself and making myself smaller in order that they would feel like men.
- Many of the late in life stories include complex arrangements and rearrangements of marriage and children and Incredibly courageous and challenging journeys. This guest doesn’t have children, and is not married.
- There is more to “identity” than just our sexuality.
- A life lived out of other people's expectations is a life dominated by fear and resentment.
- Being honest with other women, from the very start.
- Am I an “L”? A “B”? Or maybe a “P”? Do we need labels? How do I flirt with a woman?
- Do I now need to dress differently and wear beanies?
- Which life-lived is my real reality? Everything feels completely flipped upside-down, or sideways, or completely averse.
- Sexual identity versus cultural conditioning; internalized homophobia, people pleasing and the female anatomy.
- It seemed that the rainbow world offered many possibilities for stepping out of one cage and into another.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this week’s episode, “Things to Consider When Coming Out Late”, Robin shares with us a smattering of subject matters and insights that relate to coming out late.
The five insights that Robin shares with us are:
- There’s power in the pause.
- Don’t compare yourself to other people.
- Your coming out late journey is yours; it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.
- Participating in Pride Events.
- Expect the unexpected and be prepared for the highs ‘n lows.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: ON HIATUS UNTIL Sept. 15, 2025
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: ON HIATUS UNTIL Sept. 16, 2025
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: ON HIATUS UNTIL Sept. 17, 2025
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
If you are interested in attending the last retreat of the season, to Grand Junction, CO (Sept. 4-8), then email Robin ASAP while there are still spots available. Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
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Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP:
If you are AFAB, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
Our coming out journey can be fraught with challenges, loss, little victories, followed up with more stress, anxiety, shame and guilt. What does our society think about these kinds of feelings and reactions? Are they considered trauma-responses? Or are we supposed to just ‘get over it’ or cope with it, independently.
In this episode, you will learn . . .
- About the differences between Big “T” and Little “t” trauma.
- How both Big “T” and Little “t” trauma were perceived decades ago, as compared to how society views and distinguishes them ‘today’.
- What were the few things that were considered Big “T” trauma?
- What is ‘trauma-informed care’?
- What does it mean if someone suffers from ‘cumulative stressors’?
- Holistic & integrated approaches to the rescue!
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SOMATIC HEALING w/Chris
Take Care of Your Healing and Self-Care journey by purchasing a packet of 6 sessions of Chris’ Somatic Healing Series. It will be offered six times on Saturdays, (at 10am EST), beginning June 28, and six Tuesdays, (at 12 noon EST), beginning July 1st. Purchasing a 6-pack of sessions for $120, allows you to attend any six sessions listed. To Register, email Chris at: Genderexpansiveyogi@gmail.com
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 25-27
-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-8
In this week’s episode, Robin talks about the keys to living a serene and fulfilling life. Robin puts on her philosophical beret and covers topics such as “acceptance”, “surrendering”, “expectations” and “letting go” and what in the world does that have to do with coming out late?
- Give yourself permission to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently; because we can!
- Nothing changes if nothing changes.
- We ALWAYS have options and choices to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently.
- It’s how we respond to adversity, to challenge, that defines our character.
- We must accept we have no control over people, places, things & situations.
- The key to life, to serenity, and to living a fulfilled life is ACCEPTANCE.
- We learn how to accept by learning how to surrender; we learn how to surrender by learning how to LET GO.
- We need to learn how to let go of - and live free-from - ‘desired outcomes’ and ‘expectations’.
- The myth about chasing ‘ideal outcomes’. What’s the probability of catching our ‘desired outcomes’? What’s the cost of chasing our desired outcomes?
- We’re not in the CONTROL business - that’s codependency’s job!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for these or future retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 24-27
-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7
In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues her conversation about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives; especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina, another late bloomer themselves, share their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences, not from any kind of ‘expert’ stance. Whether you are in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world.
In this episode you will learn…
- What IS a “Money Mindset”? And how/why does that affect YOU?
- Three steps in budgeting: (1) try to save 10% of your income, (2) know what your monthly fixed expenses are and try to keep them at 50-60% of your income, and (3) put aside about 30% for “spending” or your “fun money”.
- You can only cut-back your expenses so much, but, can you renegotiate your big, big fixed expenses, (i.e., auto insurance, homeowners insurance, your mortgage to a lower interest rate, rent, etc.); the next question is, can you increase your income at all?
- Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, work part time, or even full time, know what value you bring to your marriage and be willing to fight for your value!
- Know what the rental market is in your area and determine what your income needs to be in order to move out and live on your own.
- If neither you and/or your spouse cannot afford to move out, then you both need to ask the question, “...how can we meet our needs within the marriage. Are you ok with me seeing someone else and you seeing someone else…?” (a.k.a., ethical non-monogamy).
- Whether or not you stay in the marriage, there will always be trade-offs. The questions are: What are you financially able to trade-off? And, what are you comfortable trading-off?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-22, 2025 - ONE SPOT STILL REMAINING
-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 25-27
-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7
Robin has a casual but critical conversation with late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset; especially as late bloomers on our coming out late journeys. Whether in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world.
In this episode you will learn…
- What is a “money mindset”? How do you develop a mindset around money? How does it affect you and your future?
- What's your relationship with money? What has your journey with money been throughout your life? How did your relationship with money first get formed? Do you think you are capable of handling money?
- What are the 'stories' you tell yourself, [surrounding money], and the automatic reactions you have in your body, [as it relates to money matters.]
- To develop a healthy money mindset, we must first go through three steps: 1. bring awareness-to our own beliefs around money; what are we telling ourselves about money? 2. Where do my beliefs around money come from? How did your parents talk about money? Were they spenders or savers? 3. Then ask yourself, "Are those beliefs still serving me in my life now?"
- Improving your money mindset, and becoming proactive about your awareness and understanding of money matters can incrementally impact your future financial security.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-22, 2025 - ONE SPOT REMAINING
-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 25-27
-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7
A NEW COMING OUT LATE OFFERING:
“Quieting the Mind & Finding Stability in Your Coming Out Late Process”.
A gentle, body-centered somatic healing series, led by Chris, our seasoned Somatic Worker & Yoga Therapist. TWO Saturdays remain.
Saturdays: May 31, and June 7. 10am-11am EST.
Drop-In Fee: $25/class.
Use this links to sign-up: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/398482
In this episode, Robin announces her upcoming celebration of not only another trip around the sun, but also her 10-year Gay-Aversary! Robin can’t believe it’s already been 10 years since coming out to herself over Memorial Day weekend in 2015. You’ll hear about 10 things that Robin learned over the course of these past 10 years and share some personal stories with you as well.
In this episode, you will learn . . .
- We are not the same person we were when we first came out to ourselves.
- We are going to make mistakes and have heartache along the way.
- The importance of “Strategy” and “Timing” on the Coming Out Late journey.
- Why creating a “Dream Team” is integral to your safety and sanity!
- Why “Navigating Family Dynamics” and “Boundaries” are important.
- Education, Self-Acceptance, and Timing are key factors on this journey.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
A NEW COMING OUT LATE OFFERING:
“Quieting the Mind & Finding Stability in Your Coming Out Late Process”.
A gentle, body-centered group yoga series,, led by Chris, our seasoned Yoga Therapist.
6-Consecutive Saturdays: May 3, 10, 17, 24, 31, and June 7. 10am-11am EST.
Cost: $120/person for 6-week series; PLUS: Bonus 1:1 Intake Assessment w/Chris
or Drop-In Fee: $25/class.
Use this links to sign-up:
-Drop-In Link: ($25pp/session)
https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/398482
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-22, 2025
-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 24-27
-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7
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In this Episode, “Quieting the Mind & Finding Stability in Your Coming Out Late Process”, Robin invites Chris Blais on to talk about a new offering to Robin’s Coming Out Late Community.
When you sign up for Chris’ 6-week yoga series, you will learn . . .
- the difference between yoga and yoga therapy
- the importance of self-regulating and how to find stability
- how to quiet the mind and develop emotional regulation tools
- how to regulate catastrophic thinking by connecting our mind & bodies
- the importance of routine + regularity + repetition
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
A NEW COMING OUT LATE OFFERING:
“Quieting the Mind & Finding Stability in Your Coming Out Late Process”.
A gentle, body-centered group yoga series,, led by Chris, our seasoned Yoga Therapist.
6-Consecutive Saturdays: May 3, 10, 17, 24, 31, and June 7. 10am-11am EST.
Cost: $120/person for 6-week series; PLUS: Bonus 1:1 Intake Assessment w/Chris
or Drop-In Fee: $25/class.
Use these links to sign-up:
-6-Week Series Link: ($120pp/6-sessions) + BONUS Comp. Assessment
`https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/398385
-Drop-In Link: ($25pp/session)
https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/398482
Chris Blais: Genderexpansiveyogi@gmail.com
Robin Douglass: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-22, 2025
-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 24-27
-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7
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In this Part 2 Episode of “Queer Clergy Talk About Love, Sex, and the Bible”, you will hear the unique perspectives of queerness and religion from about half a dozen members of our Coming Out Late Facebook Community, who also happen to be Clergy.
- Patriarchy, language, pronouns and “mansplaining”..
- “Doubt the defaults”, Rev. Eyde Mabanglo
- Is God gendered?
- The idea of “transactional preaching” versus “transformational preaching”.
- Should we be saving the church?
- Knowing your queer black history: Bayard Rustin, Audrey Lorde, Pauli Murra; knowing that Compton Cafeteria came before Stonewall, etc.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-22, 2025CONFIRMED
-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 24-27TENTATIVE DATE
-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7CONFIRMED
A NEW OFFERING: “Quieting the Mind & Finding Stability in Your Coming Out Late Process”. A gentle, body-centered group, led by Chris, our seasoned Yoga Therapist.
6-Saturdays: May 3, 10, 17, 24, 31, and June 7. 10am-11am EST.
Cost: $120/person for 6-week series or Drop-In Fee: $25/class.
Use these links to sign-up:
-6-Week Series Link: ($120pp/6-sessions)
`https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/398385
-Drop-In Link: ($25pp/session)
https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/398482
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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In this Part 2 Episode of “Finding Your Community at Coming Out Late Retreats”, you will hear the conversation continue between Robin and about half of the group that attended the Nashville Retreat earlier this month.
Listen-in as you will hear and learn all about Coming Out Late Retreats, told firsthand by the folx who just returned from the Nashville Coming Out Late Retreat:
- So, what happens at these Coming Out Late Retreats?
- “Vulnerability is the only bridge to build connection.” -Brene Brown
- What touched the Retreat-goers the most?
- What is ‘Queer Joy’?
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED;
-PHILADELPHIA, PA: AugustTENTATIVE;
-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: early September TENTATIVE
SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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In this episode, Robin enjoys a casual conversation with a gaggle of gays from the recent Coming Out Late Retreat to Nashville, TN.
Listen-in as you will hear and learn all about Coming Out Late Retreats, told firsthand by the folx who just returned from the Nashville Retreat:
- So, what happens at these Coming Out Late Retreats?
- “Vulnerability is the only bridge to build connection.” -Brene Brown
- What touched the Retreat-goers the most?
- What is ‘Queer Joy’?
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED; -PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 24-27TENTATIVE; -GRAND JUNCTION, CO: September 4-7 CONFIRMED.
SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin shares with us a second conversation she had with a group of queer clergy-folx from her FB Group, “Coming Out Late”. Robin recorded four hours of epic clergy conversations, two of which you heard in Episodes #75 & #76 back in March. The final two hours of those recordings are here, in Episodes #96 and #97.
- The Rev. Wilda C. Gafney, Ph.D., also known as Wil Gafney, (born 1966) is an American biblical scholar and Episcopal priest. She is a specialist in womanistbiblical interpretation, and topics including gender and race.
- Rev. Rufus A. Strother Jr., The Rev. Rufus A. Strother Jr. led a predominantly African-American congregation in northern Westchester County for 38 years and was noted for his work to foster understanding between races and to improve community relations, particularly during the years of the civil rights movement.
- The documentary, “Mama’s Boy” on HBO Max, by Academy Award Winning Screenplay Writer, Dustin Lance Black.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED; -PHILADELPHIA, PA: AugustTENTATIVE; -GRAND JUNCTION, CO: early September TENTATIVE
SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Support the show
In this episode, Robin and Chris discuss the essay Robin read in last week’s episode, written by her nomadic traveling friend, Gila. Robin and Chris break down the essay, line-by-line, and compare how Gila’s insights and words seamlessly dovetail with our experiences with coming out late in life.
Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear Robin & Chris explore…
- "We are shaped by our experiences. Without both the challenges and the joyful moments, there is no path for growth.” -Gila Melamed
- How can ‘joy’ be a catalyst for growth?
- Remember also, ”The point of change [growth] comes when we can no longer stay the same.”
- ‘Hard’ doesn’t have to mean ‘bad’.
- The day will come for all of us when we realize we can no longer stay the same.
- It’s difficult to have a compassionate heart when you’re in fear.
- The beauty of forgiveness lies in the freedom it gives us.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED; -PHILADELPHIA, PA: AugustTENTATIVE; -GRAND JUNCTION, CO: early September TENTATIVE
SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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In this episode, Robin shares the other blog post from her late blooming nomadic traveling friend, Gila Melamed. With this blog post, Robin and Gila force us to take a look at both that which brings us joy, and that which challenges us and makes us realize that without both there can be no growth. And without growth - we die - inside and out.
Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear discussed…
- "We are shaped by our experiences. Without both the challenges and the joyful moments, there is no path for growth.” -Gila Melamed
- The day will come for all of us when we realize we can no longer stay the same.
- The ‘road’ to inner peace and liberation is not all unicorns & roses - Gila describes their path like this: “.. .Even though I knew with all my heart, that following my heart was the right thing for me, my other parts were fighting me, trying to dim my shining light, reflecting their fear so profoundly, that at times, I was on my knees with agony..
- People are doing their best - unfortunately it doesn’t always align with our needs for safety and comfort or our desires.
- Our emotional health and personal growth is contingent upon our own willingness to get curious and honest while exploring our emotions and feelings.
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THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. -KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025; -PHILADELPHIA, PA: July or August; -GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Early September
SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
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In this episode, Robin talks about a special friend she met over two years ago - a single, female, nomadic traveler who journals her travel experiences in a blog. An intermittent reader of her blog, Robin happened across two entries in particular that she wants to share with you; one this week, and one next week. Enjoy!
Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear discussed…
- "In life, there is time for everything."
- The struggles with loneliness are real.
- In admitting our fears aloud, to trusted friends, we learn that we are not alone.
- Lessons of forgiveness, time well-spent and friendships.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
MY NOMADIC TRAVELING FRIEND: “In Life, There Is Time for Everything.”
SUBSTACK: https://substack.com/home/post/p-150225058
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NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
-NASHVILLE, TN: April 4-7, 2025FULL
-KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED
-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July or AugustTENTATIVE
-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: OctoberTENTATIVE
SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
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In this episode, Robin interviews Gender Expansive Yoga Therapist, Chris Blais. They discuss why we must learn to practice 'courageous love' - if we are to thrive, not just 'survive' these tumultuous times!
You will learn about…
- Practicing courageous love.
- R.A.I.N. - Recognize, Allow, Investigate & Nurture.
- Healing & honoring all our feelings.
- What a strong back and a soft front mean.
- “May we be safe. May we be happy. May we be healthy. May we live with ease. May all beings have these things.”
- May we all “be the change we wish to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi
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RESOURCES:
GENDER EXPANSIVE YOGI, Chris Blais
Instagram: @genderexpansiveyogi Email: Genderexpansiveyogi@gmail.com
EP. #164: MERCY & COMPASSION FOR ALL LGBTQ+ PEOPLE:
Re: Bishop Mariann Budde
https://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/episodes/16494276
BISHOP MARIANN BUDDE:
Book: How We Learn to Be Brave: Decisive Moments in Life and Faith
Book: Receiving Jesus: The Way of Love
TARA BRACH:
The link to: Meeting these Times with Courageous Love
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In this episode, Robin acknowledges the crazy political climate we're currently in and how that impacts our new gay lives. She asks the question, “Should we go back in the closet after just coming out late?”
You will learn about…
- The urgency with which we each need to get into action - as much as we can while remaining safe..
- How our ‘governmental structure’, ‘democracy’, ‘freedoms’ and sense of being a ‘united nation’ are all lies and illusions.
- How to care for yourself during these stressful, anxiety-ridden times .
- How our public reactions and a direct approach communicating to our elected officials DOES really have an impact!
- The Rachel Maddow Show (transcribed from 2/20/25) https://www.happyscribe.com/public/the-rachel-maddow-show/maddow-to-block-trump-s-agenda-help-republican-politicians-find-their-spines
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
Handsome Podcast LIVE Tickets - buy here: www.ryman.com
https://www.ryman.com/event/2025-04-06-handsome-live-tig-notaro-fortune-feimster-mae-martin-at-7-pm
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? Be one of 6 late bloomers who meet for 90-minutes, in 6 sessions in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in March '25. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
Pertinent Links:
-Heather Cox Richardson: https://heathercoxrichardson.substack.com/
She can also be found in Facebook, Youtube and Instagram: @heathercoxrichardson
-Rachel Maddow: www.rachelmaddow.com
“The Rachel Maddow Show”, MSNBC
-House.gov
-Congress.gov
-The Capitol Switchboard: (202) 224-3121
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In this episode, Robin selects a social media thread from one of her favorite Facebook Groups. The Admin. starts what turns out to be, one of the most meaningful and “therapeutic” threads that overwhelmingly aligns with Robin’s core Coming Out Late values that she simply HAD to share it. Robin strongly believes that the initial post, and the thread of comments and solicited advice that follows, could be used as a Coming Out Late handguide. The overall theme, “It Is Ok”, addresses feeling the feels, the emotional roadblocks, and thinking versus feeling, to name a few!
In this episode, you will learn…
- “It is ok” to be afraid, to not know what you are doing, and to ask a lot of questions.
- “It is ok” to still want to be with men, or to not want to leave your marriage.
- It's okay to be a lesbian. It's okay to be a bisexual. It's okay to be Trans. It's okay to be non-binary. It's okay not to know what you are and/or choose no label at all!
- We are all on different journeys, and our paths and perspectives are built on our own life experiences.
- Lean-in to your feelings. It’s okay to feel those. Feeling your feelings is ALL you need to do. Feel and breathe.
- There is no urgency to do anything, just BE.
- Take the time to process the changes!
- There is no right way or one-way to do any of this. YOUR path is the right one.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added).
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
Handsome Podcast LIVE Tickets - buy here: www.ryman.com
https://www.ryman.com/event/2025-04-06-handsome-live-tig-notaro-fortune-feimster-mae-martin-at-7-pm
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS: Be one of 6 late bloomers tackling some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program. Email me your interest at Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added).
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
Handsome Podcast LIVE Tickets - buy here: www.ryman.com
https://www.ryman.com/event/2025-04-06-handsome-live-tig-notaro-fortune-feimster-mae-martin-at-7-pm
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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In this episode, Robin discusses the recent interview Rachel Maddow did on MSNBC with Bishop Mariann Budde. Bishop Budde spoke directly to Trump and Vance, during the National Prayer Service, about showing mercy for the vulnerable people targeted by his policies and Executive Orders.
You will learn about…
- The key principles of Bishop Budde’s plea aimed at Donald Trump.
- What is moral leadership?
- What is the importance of compassion and mercy?
- What did Bishop Budde mean by, “I filled a space that hadn’t been occupied in a while.”?
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added).
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
Handsome Podcast LIVE Tickets - buy here: www.ryman.com
https://www.ryman.com/event/2025-04-06-handsome-live-tig-notaro-fortune-feimster-mae-martin-at-7-pm
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
RACHEL MADDOW’S MSNBC INTERVIEW w/BISHOP BUDDE: Here’s the link to watch the viral video of Rachel Maddow’s interview with Bishop Mariann Budde at the National Prayer Service: https://www.msnbc.com/rachel-maddow/watch/full-interview-rachel-maddow-talks-with-th
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MONDAY WAS THE PRESIDENTIAL INAUGURATION - HERE'S WHAT I'M THINKING:
- It's going to be a looooong, hard four years. But? We've all done hard things, for a loooong time. We've got this!
- Don't allow the current political climate deluge your future.
- Build your queer community and go where the good feelings and support are.
- Detach from all the external negativity and focus inward on being compassionate to yourself and your family; practice daily grounding techniques and surround yourself with positive, supportive queer friends.
- Build community and nurture new queer friendships.
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In this episode, Robin shares different responses of people reflecting on the past year and the power of embracing the changes you experience!
In this episode, you will learn about…
- Exciting updates about the upcoming year for the Coming Out Late Community in Facebook.
- Finding the light at the end of the tunnel if you’re in the messy middle.
- Reflecting on the most significant difference in your life from this time last year.
- How Robin is changing her language to reflect her current journey of launching a small service business?
- Remembering it’s better late than never because it’s never too late.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added).
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
Handsome Podcast LIVE Tickets - buy here: www.ryman.com
https://www.ryman.com/event/2025-04-06-handsome-live-tig-notaro-fortune-feimster-mae-martin-at-7-pm
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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HERE ARE SOME THINGS I LEARNED:
- I learned to take as much time as I need when making a decision, (like choosing my word for the year), that greatly impacts my self-esteem, my serenity and my self-compassion.
- I learned to pay attention throughout my day, to WHAT messages my body is whispering, (and sometimes screaming), to me; AND pay attention to how my disposition is showing up - and HONOR & ACKNOWLEDGE those messages & feelings. Don’t push those feelings aside - instead use them as clues for how to proceed,
- I learned that I feel WAY better when I strive to keep my mindset as positive as possible, eliminating negative self-talk and incorporating more compassionate and supportive encouragement to the words I choose to speak - especially the words that the voice in my head uses.
- I learned that the words we choose and use really do matter. From where I’m sitting, there’s an enormous difference between DISCIPLINE and INTENTIONALITY.
- And lastly, I also learned that the temperature of the Atlantic Ocean in January is WAY, way colder than the temperature of the cold water streaming from the shower head in our homes!
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In this episode, Robin wishes you a Happy Queer Year and invites us to ponder what WE want our own new year to look like for 2025.
In this episode, you will discover…
- “What the new year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year,” by Vern McLellan.
- If we bring or allow dysfunction into a relationship or a situation, then that's exactly what we're going to get in return.
- Exercise your choices that align with the best version of yourself.
- Take the time and space, (quiet space), to reflect on how you moved through last year and how you want to move forward in the new year.
- What tiny changes can you make in your day to day that can help you move forward toward how you want to feel most of the time.
- How can we help ourselves take more responsibility in what we bring to our new year.
- Routinely ask yourself, “Is this what I want?” “What do I want in this or any situation?”
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added).
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
Handsome Podcast LIVE Tickets - buy here: www.ryman.com
https://www.ryman.com/event/2025-04-06-handsome-live-tig-notaro-fortune-feimster-mae-martin-at-7-pm
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:
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In this episode, Robin shares with us some examples of the types of comments we could possibly and most likely WILL receive as we slowly OR quickly come out to people all around us. Knowing what questions may be asked during your coming out process is half the battle - at least that way you can prepare for them, right?
Robin also shares with us some possible retorts to these questions, and maybe a few retorts that she really wouldn’t advise you saying, but ones SHE would love to have you say in these oftentimes rude, intrusive scenarios. Sometimes ‘knowing’ what to expect when we’re navigating the coming out process IS half the battle!! Hopefully you won’t need ANY of these responses - but be prepared and decide how YOU want to respond should you be asked a personal, intrusive question.
In this episode, you will learn…
- What are some of the common questions we ARE asked when we’re coming out to others - or even if we’re NOT coming out and we’re simply in a social setting among other not-straight women.
- How to handle rude and inappropriate personal questions when faced with “curious” people questioning YOUR sexuality, for you.
- Should you respond? Should you respond snidely? Should you confront their blunt rudeness? It all depends….
- Being prepared and expecting the unexpected is usually a good tactic to take!
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
- SUPPORT GROUPS:
- MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
- THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
- NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
- 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added).
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025 - SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
- SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:
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In this episode, Robin invites Chris back to chat with her about the “C”-word - compassion! Discover why compassion practices are so important, how we can do them virtually anywhere, and why do we need them?
In this episode, you will learn…
- What compassion is and how is it different from empathy?
- Why is compassion important and how is compassion related to our coming out late process?
- What does ‘doing the work’ mean? Some examples of ‘doing the work’ are: seeking support, self inquiry, getting quiet and listening inwardly.
- The importance-, and examples-of, Compassion Practices.
- The mental, physical and emotional benefits from practicing compassion..
- To believe, in this moment, that we are exactly where we are supposed to be.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
LINKS to RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added).
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
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In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin discusses the topics of fear and confusion as they relate to the coming out late process. Robin explains, “...fear and confusion have been pervasively popping-up in a variety of forums where people gather for support and conversation regarding their coming out late journey’s. We need to have open and honest conversations about the common fears we experience and the mind-blowing confusion we’re hit with when coming out later in life.”
In this episode you will learn…
- You are not alone! What you are thinking, feeling and experiencing is not only common and ‘normal’, but temporary as well.
- How to ease your over-taxed nervous system.
- We all share similar feelings of uncertainty, self-doubt, confusion, guilt, and a deep visceral fear of the unknown during our coming out late process.
- There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to approach our coming out or to confront & resolve the relationships affected by our coming out.
- Worry is another form of fear; it's a waste of our energy and a misuse of our imagination. “Worrying” is like manifesting what you don’t want. (What we focus on grows). Worry is also just a way to attempt to control something we have no control over.
- NO amount of worry is going to change the future - none. And if no amount of worry is going to change the future, then no amount of REGRET will change the past.
- Any amount of gratitude you can muster-up, WILL change the present.
- Please support our “Coming Out Late” podcast and buy Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com); more locations will continue to be added.
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
SMALL GROUP COACHING: Struggling to make sense-of and manage your Coming Out Late journey? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers who will tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com **to learn more.
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Robin responds to comments, questions and topics from different social media outlets that address coming out late; and she shares her personal perspective about common issues.
In this episode, you will learn…
- You win some, you lose some—acknowledging relationships may change after coming out.
- Remember—it’s not about sexuality, it’s about toxicity and toxic people don’t need to be in your life.
- Girlfriends?—understanding how women loving women relationships operate and establishing clarity.
- The Big Freeze—”gay panic” and why we get nervous when we like someone.
- Flirting—knowing what crosses the line and communicating with your partner.
- Mutual respect and mutual love is always important.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added).
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS: Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my Small Group Coaching Information Sheet.
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The holidays are upon us and we have only been ‘out’ for a short while; or maybe we haven’t quite come out to everyone yet; or maybe our soon-to-be-ex ‘outed’ you to his entire family. In this episode Robin and Chris talk about the upcoming holidays and how we plan ahead, prepare for and protect ourselves from some seriously uncomfortable holiday experiences.
- Keys to successful holidays: transparency, openness and honest communication.
- Use a lifeline if you need one, and have an exit plan
- Be ready for provocative questions by having a few pre-prepared responses.
- Develop a self-care practice/routine, (e.g., nourish all your senses
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
- If you want more conversations around navigating the holidays when you’ve come out late, check out the previous “Coming Out Late” Episode #115.
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THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!
To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added).
-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
PRIVATE & SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
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In this episode Robin shares with you a ‘coming out late’ story submitted by one of her podcast listeners. Now 60-years young, this former Evangelical preacher shares their coming out late journey in her own words.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: The 2024 Coming Out Late Retreat season wrapped up with 3 nights and 4 days of gay fun and deep conversations in Traverse City, MI. Keep an eye and an ear out for when and where we’ll be retreating to in 2025. Thank you to ALL who attended this year! Please Note: Provincetown, MA: CANCELED.
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
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In this Part 2 episode Robin continues the conversation with Chris of “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late” and covers the letter “B”. She and her partner Chris discuss the importance of this life skill, how we should use this life skill and gives real-life examples of this “B”-word in action!
Today, you’ll hear Robin cover things like:
- Setting boundaries is not easy because it can often feel very uncomfortable.
- How the technique of “the broken record” can be used to help us set boundaries.
- Being clear is kind and being unclear is unkind, (e.g., sharing a marital bed).
- How Chris & I have been navigating boundaries in OUR relationship lately.
- Finding the balance between being codependent and then being rational and reasonable.
- Boundaries need to be simple, yet firm, with a graceful, neutral tone.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: The 2024 Coming Out Late Retreat season wrapped up with 3 nights and 4 days of gay fun and deep conversations in Traverse City, MI. Keep an eye and an ear out for when and where we’ll be retreating to in 2025. Thank you to ALL who attended this year! Please Note: Provincetown, MA: CANCELED.
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
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In this Part 1 episode Robin continues the theme of “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late” and covers the letter “B”. She and her partner Chris discuss the importance of this life skill, how we should use this life skill and give real-life examples of this “B”-word in action!
Today, you’ll hear Robin & Chris cover things like:
- What is a boundary and what are they so important? What are the three different types of boundaries?
- Why healthy boundaries need to be flexible yet firm.
- Boundaries help protect our well-being and help us to live up to our core values. Boundaries also offer us the opportunity to practice self-inquiry, self-awareness and self-care.
- Boundaries are about clarity; helping others clearly understand how they can/should interact with us.
- In all your human interactions, ask yourselves: “Is this okay? Or is this not okay?”
- P.A.U.S.E.: Possibly Another Unknown Solution Exists. (You won’t know unless you “pause”. J.A.D.E.: Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: The 2024 Coming Out Late Retreat season wrapped up with 3 nights and 4 days of gay fun and deep conversations in Traverse City, MI. Keep an eye and an ear out for when and where we’ll be retreating to in 2025. Thank you to ALL who attended this year! Please Note: Provincetown, MA: CANCELED.
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.fa
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This week in the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin & Chris finish up their conversation about “Acceptance” and the relevance it has to our coming out late journey. Stay tuned for future episodes in “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late” series where Robin will pick up with, “B” is for _______. Any guesses?
Today, you’ll hear Robin & Chris discuss:
- The power of cultural conditioning; AND, we do not have to accept any particular type of cultural conditioning if we don’t want to - we have choices!
- Acceptance is a mindset, a state of mind. It’s where we can acknowledge and embrace reality without judgment.
- The opposite of acceptance is resistance. And what we resist always persists; so stop resisting, and allow acceptance into your life.
- Acceptance is a practice. So, how do we practice that art of acceptance? Step 1: become aware of what feels unacceptable; Step 2: allow those feelings to be.
- The Serenity Prayer for Acceptance: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: If you are interested in attending any or all of the Coming Out Late Retreats in 2025, and want your name on the 2025 Retreat Master List for next year, then please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
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In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin boldly opens with the first of a series she’s calling, “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late”. As we all know, coming out late is not for the faint of heart, so this week Robin begins the ABC’s of Coming Out Late with the letter “A”, standing for, well, you’ll have to listen to the episode to find out. Robin and Chris talk about what “A” is, why it’s important in life and how it relates to coming out late!
In this Part 1 episode, you’ll learn:
- Food for thought on topics and tools to consider using on your coming out late journey, starting with the ever important “A” is for acceptance!
- What does the formula Suffering = Pain x Resistance mean?
- What is the difference between resigning and accepting?
- What do they mean by “what we resist persists’?
- How is ‘acceptance’ a state of mind? And why is acceptance so important?
- Ways in which we can cultivate more acceptance into our lives.
- What is the “Serenity Prayer” and its significance?
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: The 2024 Coming Out Late Retreat season wrapped up with 3 nights and 4 days of gay fun and deep conversations in Traverse City, MI. Keep an eye and an ear out for when and where we’ll be retreating to in 2025. Thank you to ALL who attended this year! Please Note: Provincetown, MA: CANCELED.
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
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In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris continue their conversation with nearly all who attended the Coming Out Late Retreat to Portland, OR last month. You’ll hear firsthand the life-changing effects that this retreat had on everyone who attended.
Today, you’ll hear more stories and awakenings from the retreat attendees reflecting-on and discussing the following:
- Overcoming our fears - even our fear of attending a retreat!
- How vulnerability + connection = community!
- Taking care of ourselves by asking for what we need.
- The importance of remaining open and flexible.
- The Coming Out Late Retreat to Provincetown, MA has been canceled!
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. Spaces are limited, so act now! The dates for the last Coming Out Late retreat are: Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: CANCELED. Email Robin to Register NOW: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris facilitate a virtual discussion with nearly all who attended the Coming Out Late Retreat to Portland, OR last month. You’ll hear firsthand the life-changing effects that this retreat had on its attendees.
Today, you’ll hear retreat attendees reflecting-on and discussing the following:
- How ‘connection’ and ‘community’ play such a vital role in experiencing and walking through this coming out late journey!
- How we find comfort and growth in hearing other’s stories and realizing, helping us to realize, “I’m not alone!”
- How, (if at all), did they feel differently between the pre-retreat zoom gathering, and the post-retreat zoom gathering?
- How, through mindful meditation and journaling, did we answer the question, “How would I be different if I were not impacted by social conditioning?”
- How simply ‘showing up’ immediately helped us all feel ‘grounded’!
- The Coming Out Late Retreat to Provincetown, MA has been canceled!
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
RESOURCES:
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MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. Spaces are limited, so act now! The dates for the last Coming Out Late retreat are: Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: CANCELED. Email Robin to Register NOW: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
Some of us went a lifetime having ‘no clue’ we were attracted to women until much later in life. Others, on the other hand, always knew they ‘liked girls’, but stuffed it down, way down. Internal homophobia, deep-seeded homophobic denial, and compulsory-heteronormativity all played a huge role in delaying, and denying, our journey to discovering and embracing our true selves. One thing we late-bloomers know for sure is, if we were straight, we sure as heck wouldn’t be asking ourselves if we weren’t! But don’t take our word for it, keep listening to the Coming Out Late Podcast and hear the similarities in our stories.
In this episode, you will learn about…
How Robin figured out she’s gay, (using her unique ‘research technique’)
How many of us get to the point of: “Ok. Enough is enough already. I have to figure this out! Why am I feeling this way toward women? ”
“So this IS a ‘thing’. It isn’t just me.”
Robin’s theory on her own deep homophobic denial
A few podcasts and books specifically for women questioning their sexuality
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THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. Spaces are limited, so act now! The dates for the last Coming Out Late retreat are: Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: CANCELED. Email Robin to Register NOW: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin re-gather with the over dozen late bloomers who joined her in Philadelphia, PA for the second Coming Out Late retreat of 2024.
Today, you’ll hear retreat attendees discussing their retreat experiences firsthand, like:
- What is the #1 feeling that every retreat attendee says they walk away with?
- How, (if at all), did they feel differently between the pre-retreat zoom gathering, and the post-retreat zoom gathering?
- How the expression, “Feel the fear and do it anyway” applies to these retreats.
- How simply ‘showing up’ immediately helped us all feel ‘grounded’!
- The Coming Out Late Retreat to Provincetown, MA has been canceled!
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. Spaces are limited, so act now! The dates for the last Coming Out Late retreat are: Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: CANCELED. Email Robin to Register NOW: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this BONUS episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin talk about the differences between ‘making plans’ and ‘planning the outcomes’ of those plans. And why having emotional attachments to those outcomes negatively affects our lives and relationships.
Today, you’ll hear Robin discuss:
- What is the difference between ‘making plans’ and ‘planning the outcomes’?
- Why is ‘planning the outcome’ so detrimental to us?
- What is an emotional attachment to an outcome?
- Only a few spots remain for the upcoming Traverse City, MI Retreat, September 26-29, 2024. To register & attend, email Robin ASAP to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. Spaces are limited, so act now! The dates for the last Coming Out Late retreat are: Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: CANCELED. Email Robin to Register NOW: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris discussing the purpose and power of setting intentions, particularly how setting our intentions most definitely relates-to, and impacts our coming out late journeys.
Today, you’ll hear Chris and Robin discuss:
- What is an intention and what is the purpose of setting one?
- Examples of intentions that were set by recent retreat goers.
- What is the power behind setting intentions?
- Why the Coming Out Late Retreats are the perfect safe space to be learning how to set your intentions, and putting them into practice in real-time!
- Only a few spots remain for the upcoming Traverse City, MI Retreat, September 26-29, 2024. To register & attend, email Robin ASAP to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. Spaces are limited, so act now! The dates for the last Coming Out Late retreat are: Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: CANCELED. Email Robin to Register NOW: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris being interviewed by Stevie Inghram, on her podcast called, “Queer Storytime the Podcast”.
Today, you’ll hear Stevie ask Chris and Robin questions about:
- How do we, as late-arrivals and new members of the LGBTQ+ community, overcome the burden of cultural conditioning and this complex stress and trauma that we've had to navigate throughout our lives, and since coming out?
- What are some of the practical tools Chris & Robin use to move from this darkness into experiencing the joy of your identity and the lightness and expansiveness of your identity?
- Chris speaks of yoga as a healing modality, using movement, inquiry and kindness to move through their life - through good and bad times.
- How finding and joining ‘community’ can be vital to one’s healing and growth.
- Several spots remain available for the upcoming PHILLY, PA Coming Out Late Retreat; August 22-25; Email Robin ASAP at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
RESOURCES:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (Aug. 15-18); Philadelphia, PA: (Aug. 22-25); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris being interviewed by Stevie Inghram, on her podcast called, “Queer Storytime the Podcast”. Robin and Chris’ initial conversation with Stevie can be found in Ep. #130 & #131 of this “Coming Out Late” podcast.
Today, you’ll hear Stevie ask Chris and Robin questions about:
- Chris & Robin tell their own personal coming out stories.
- What does Robin mean by the phrase, “...there’s something in the air…”?
- There’s an expectation that everyone is heterosexual or cisgender.
- How can we use our suffering for good in the world?
- How and why does the queer community continue to grieve and mourn?
- Several spots remain available for the upcoming PHILLY, PA Coming Out Late Retreat; August 22-25; Email Robin ASAP at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Send Robin an email NOW to be put on the PROVINCETOWN, MASS. Coming Out Late Retreat, October 16-20. Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (Aug. 15-18); Philadelphia, PA: (Aug. 22-25); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS. Send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
QUEER STORY TIME, the PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/introductory-episode-of-queer-story-time-the/id1711367302?i=1000630941312
IG: @queertransthriving; @Future.nmd.yogi
Email: queerstorytimethepodcast@gmail.com
In this episode Robin is joined by guest host Chris, and together they dive deeply into the value and gems of attending a Coming Out Late Retreat.
You’ll hear Chris ask Robin questions such as:
- What was the inspiration behind you wanting to start hosting Coming Out Late Retreats?
- What is the overarching mission and vision of your Coming Out Late Retreats?
- What kind of experience can be expect to have on a Coming Out Late Retreat?
- ONE hotel room remains available for the PORTLAND, OR Coming Out Late Retreat; August 15-18; Email Robin ASAP at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Several spots remain available for the upcoming PHILLY, PA Coming Out Late Retreat; August 22-25; Email Robin ASAP at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- A few spots remain available for the TRAVERSE CITY, MI Coming Out Late Retreat; September 25-29; Email Robin ASAP at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Send Robin an email NOW to be put on the PROVINCETOWN, MASS. Coming Out Late Retreat, October 16-20. Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (Aug. 15-18); Philadelphia, PA: (Aug. 22-25); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this Part 2 episode Robin picks up where last week's cliffhanger left off, finding out what Daine decided to do with their hair. You’ll also hear how the other folx relate to their own head of hair, recalling past experiences as well as current day reflections.
You’ll hear the group members discuss topics such as:
- “...Cutting my hair shorter and shorter was a reclaiming of myself; a claiming of myself.”
- Hair is an essential aspect of our personal identity, self expression, and confidence, and that the right haircut can allow people to showcase their individuality.
- Going to a salon versus a barber: what’s the difference?
- “I wanna go by she/they, but a lot of people in my life don’t understand, because I look feminine. My hair has always been long; I love my hair long, and I don’t want to cut it, BUT, I wish my hair looked more like I feel on the inside.”
- So many of us received negative feedback from the males in our lives when we wanted to cut our hair shorter; so we grew to love our hair long.
- Feeling dysphoria about our hair from a gender aspect, AND an aging aspect. “I don’t want to dye my hair anymore - I want it to go grey!”
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (Aug. 15-18); Philadelphia, PA: (Aug. 22-25); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this week’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin offers us a rare peek into a conversation she has with members of her private weekly support group - The Gender Expansive Edition. With full consent Robin initiates a discussion about a facet of our humanness that is near and dear to all our hearts - our head of hair!
You’ll hear the group members discuss topics such as:
- Hair is an essential aspect of our personal identity, self expression, and confidence, and that the right haircut can allow people to showcase their individuality.
- The value people place on their head of hair is complex, and includes an interplay of cultural, psychological and personal factors. It is also deeply ingrained in both our societal norms and our individual identity.
- Has their relationship with their hair changed at all, since coming out?
- Why do other people say to us, “your hair looks great, but I could never do that…”?
- “Stepping out of the male gaze”, and having long hair for our family members and the men in our life.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Philadelphia, PA: (Aug. 22-25); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this week’s episode of Coming Out Late, Robin & Chris continue their conversation with Jules Heron, Founder & Owner of Hair for Humans. Hair for Humans is a hair salon in Portland, OR and Jules, (who goes by they/them), is a stylist who specializes in gender-affirming hair cuts.
Today, you’ll hear Robin, Jules & Chris talk about:
- The “in’s” and “out’s” of taking “T” - testosterone.
- Does Jules feel like their insides match their outsides better now?
- What does Jules mean when they say, “No, no, no, no. I’m not a part of your crew. I’m different and we’re not the same.”
- Medical and non-medical ways to visibly increase the look of a masc (masculine) physique.
- Hair is an essential aspect of our personal identity, self expression, and confidence, and that the right haircut can allow people to showcase their individuality.
- Not all licensed hair designers are created equal in Oregon.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
HAIR FOR HUMANS
Jules Heron, Founder - hairforhumans@gmail.comhttps://www.hairforhumans.com/ IG: @hairforhumans Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hairforhumans
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:
https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Philadelphia, PA: (Aug. 22-25); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet b/c I 'get you" and have been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP:
If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this week’s episode of Coming Out Late, Robin & Chris talk with Jules Heron, Founder & Owner of Hair for Humans. Hair for Humans is a hair salon in Portland, OR and Jules, (who goes by they/them), is a stylist who specializes in gender-affirming hair cuts.
Today, you’ll hear Robin, Jules & Chris discuss:
- Scoring a Hair for Humans cut appointment.
- How does Jules identify and what is their story?
- Top surgery, losing sensation, and gaining sensation.
- What is dysphoria and dysmorphia?
- What happens when our bodies align with how we feel?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
HAIR FOR HUMANS
Jules Heron, Founder - hairforhumans@gmail.com
https://www.hairforhumans.com/
IG: @hairforhumans Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hairforhumans
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:
https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Philadelphia, PA: (Aug. 22-25); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP:
If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this week’s episode Robin shares with us her perspective on the frequently asked question, “Am I Less Gay Because I Was, (or Am), Married to A Man?”. Robin also answers the question, “How did you know you were gay? Did you waiver? Did you need ‘an experience’ to know for sure?”
Some of the topics you’ll hear Robin share with you are:
- Contempt prior to investigation; and how does that relate to being newly gay?
- What is ‘sexuality’? And could it really be fluid?
- Your truth is yours to define; if you say you’re gay, you’re gay! No one else gets to weigh-in or decide for us.
- “The fears we don’t face become our limits.”
- Heterosexual women do not lay awake at night fantasizing about other women.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:
https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP:
If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this week’s episode, “Things to Consider When Coming Out Late”, Robin shares with us a smattering of subject matters and insights that relate to coming out late.
The five insights that Robin shares with us are:
- There’s power in the pause.
- Don’t compare yourself to other people.
- Your coming out late journey is yours; it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.
- Participating in Pride Events.
- Expect the unexpected and be prepared for the highs ‘n lows.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:
https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP:
If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this week’s episode Robin continues fielding questions from her partner Chris about what it was like for Robin, to come out gay, nine years ago. Robin reveals that it had really been a ten year process before that; a process of noticing the breadcrumbs, ignoring the breadcrumbs, then noticing more breadcrumbs - over and over again - until ultimately finding herself standing in her garage with a proverbial full loaf of bread in her basket, saying to herself, “Holy Sh!t! I’m Gay!”
You’ll hear Robin respond vulnerably to topics like:
- Robin embraces the belief that her journey happened exactly as it was meant to; that it was divine-timing.
- Take advantage of ALL of the resources available today: podcasts, books, Robin’s Coaching, therapy & Robin’s 3 weekly Support Groups.
- Expect the unexpected during the coming out process AND divorce.
- Create a small tribe of trusted people who can love and support you.
- Do you come out to everyone, or keep it to yourself for a while?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: fF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. Spaces are limited, so act now! Retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING: Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this week’s episode, “Wait, what? I’m Gay? Why Didn’t Anyone Tell ME?” Robin continues the conversation and walks us down memory lane, recapping the deeper details of her own coming out late process as Chris asks her some deeper, vulnerable questions. Listen and follow along as Robin & Chris take you on her coming out late journey which is full of twists, turns, breadcrumbs and potholes galore!
Chris asks Robin some deeper, more vulnerable coming out late questions like:
- The point of change comes when we can longer stay the same.
- How did you know you were gay? How did it feel? How comfortable were you and are you with your identity as a queer person?
- How did you know for sure? How long did it take to accept yourself as gay? How did you come out?
- Did you tell anyone right away? If so, who? And how did that go? If not, why? Who did you feel supported and accepted by?
- Which came first? Robin’s queerness? Or a declining and eroding marriage?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. Interested in attending? Email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. Spaces are limited! Retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP:
Join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .
In this episode of “How Living Out & Proud Changed My Life”, Robin reminisces and reviews her journey to coming out to herself. Why now? Why this week? Because it was this time NINE years ago nearly-to-the-day that she said those infamous words aloud to herself, “Holy Shit! I’m Gay!” Listen to how living her life out and proud has changed her and what she’s learned along the way. Spoiler Alert: Robin is STILL learning about herself, with each passing year! Enjoy!
In this episode, you’ll hear Robin talk about some of the things that she has learned about herself since coming out 9 years ago…
- Just how much better Robin’s life has been since coming out.
- All the ways in which coming out has helped shape and inform and educate Robin along the way.
- Has Robin, or anyone, ever regretted coming out late?
- Coming out is hard, usually comes at a cost, involves heartbreak and tears - so is it worth it?
- Wat does loving-kindness, compassion and tolerance have to do with coming out late?
- Robin and all of her previous phobias.
- Growth can only occur through changes; and if nothing changes, nothing changes.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:
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THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:
https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
In this Part 2 episode Robin and Chris continue their conversation with Stevie, who is Host of her own podcast, “Queer Story Time, The Podcast”. Stevie, a queer, trans femme yoga therapist, and gender & sexuality educator, together with Robin & Chris, discuss how cultural conditioning has shaped our lives and what's required of us to healing & liberate ourselves.
In this episode, you will learn…
- The importance of having a more solid understanding of who we are and being okay with it.
- That finding that thing that gives you that inner spark and deep level of connection to yourself is all a part of establishing a solidness to your being.
- How our coming out journey is one of ‘uncovering’, ‘discovering’ and ‘recovering’ our true nature, our highest selves.
- Yoga is the cessation of the movement of the mind; we use yoga to liberate ourselves from our suffering by finding space between our thoughts.
- Each of us can play a part in reducing my own suffering.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
A PUBLIC APOLOGY:
I wish to publicly apologize to BOTH Dr. Michelle Cromwell & Dr. Jampa Wurst, two of Stevie Inghram’s guests from her podcast, (Queer Story Time), who were both mentioned by Chris & I in this 2-part episode of Coming Out Late. We accidentally and incorrectly misgendered them both by using the incorrect pronouns. BOTH Dr. Michelle Cromwell & Dr. Jampa Wurst go by They/Them pronouns. My deepest, heartfelt apology to you both, AND to you Stevie!
HOW TO FIND STEVIE INGHRAM:
Queer Story Time the Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/introductory-episode-of-queer-story-time-the/id1711367302?i=1000630941312
Instagram: @queertransthriving; @Future.nmd.yogi
Email: queerstorytimethepodcast@gmail.com
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).
In this episode, Robin and Chris have a heartwarming conversation with their new friend, Stevie Inghram, Host of her own podcast, Queer Story Time, and a queer, trans femme yoga therapist, and gender & sexuality educator. They discuss a broad range of topics - all with a common thread of how cultural conditioning has shaped our lives.
Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!
In this episode, you will hear us explore…
- The hundreds of legislations and Bills being proposed and passed by cis-gendered, heterosexual individuals.
- What do we mean by the ‘dominant narratives’ in the world?
- What do we mean by the phrase, “cultural conditioning”?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee
Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP:
EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes
7:00pm EST/ 4:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee
Register each week using this link:
https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes.
12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee
Register each week using this link:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 15-18, 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
HOW TO FIND STEVIE INGHRAM:
Queer Story Time the Podcast
Instagram: @queertransthriving and, @Future.nmd.yogi
Email: queerstorytimethepodcast@gmail.com
In this episode, Chris decides to take the podcast reins AND the microphone from Robin and asks her some “Who Is More Likely” questions, allowing Coming Out Late listeners to gain some new perspectives about Robin AND her relationship with Chris. They hope to keep it silly, yet informative, with a few deeper questions sprinkled in there too. No judgment! Robin hasn’t seen the questions ahead of time - so you’ll be hearing them in ‘real time’ when Robin does.
Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!
In this episode, you will hear Chris ask Robin these questions and more…
- Who is most likely to stay up late?
- Who is most likely to lose track of time?
- Who is most likely to strike-up a conversation with strangers?
- Who is more likely to enjoy DIY projects?
- Who is more likely to hit the ‘snooze’ button in the morning?
- Who is more likely to fall asleep during a movie?
- Who is more likely to buy a dildo or a sex toy?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
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In this Part 2 REPLAY of the “Coming Out Late In A Hetero Marriage” episode, Robin jumps right back in with her first-ever conversation with husband David, and his wife and late bloomer, Monique, who are actually going through Monique’s Coming Out Late process in real-time, and SHARING their experiences with us! There’s LOTS to absorb, take-in and learn!
In this episode you will …
- “Kroger Parking Lot Therapy”, and having those REAL HARD conversations and asking one another the big scary questions, and discussing the really big issues.
- What does David mean by, “...the grass is greener where you water it…”
- Discussing the “pie-chart” of an entire relationship, and which parts are in need of attention.
- Looking at our pasts and getting real and getting honest with one another. Doing our shadow-work - together.
- Women dealing with sexual obligation to please their husbands.
- The Key to Relationship Progress? Communication! Communication! Communication!
- Before throwing the baby out with the bathwater, try problem-solving through creative experimentation and mutually agreed-upon creative solutions.
- Is your marriage worth working on? Are you willing to go to any-length to “save” your marriage, AND, work together on incorporating “her” newfound queer sexuality?
- David & Monique answer Robin’s questions: (1) What has been the hardest part, (so far), in Monique’s Coming Out Late process? (2) What’s been the scariest part of Monique’s Coming Out Late process, so far, for each of you?
- Monique and David also answer: (1) What advice would you give to your younger self, knowing what you know now? And, (2) What advice would you give to others on the brink of a similar path?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
Thirty-three years ago, 16-year old David, the new kid in high school, bravely squished his way through a wall of Monique’s cliquey of high school friends, (congregated around her locker in the hallway), and asked a mutual friend to introduce him to Monique - in front of everyone. That brave move earned David the intrigue and attention of Monique; AND earned David the honor of walking with her to their next class together. It also earned them both the distinct pleasure of nearly three decades of marriage, built on a deep, deep bond of friendship, love and mutual respect. Their lives together were not immune to the typical stressors of married life - but nothing could have prepared either of them for the curveball that life would throw at them in 2019, and the years that followed..
In this Part 1 REPLAY of “Coming Out Late In A Hetero Marriage”, you will learn …
- The importance of gay-representation in our upbringings - no matter the level of affluence we grew up with.
- We learn how Monique & David’s lifelong friendship and soulful connection were the building blocks of their thirty-plus year relationship. But is their solid foundation of love and alignment enough to sustain their marriage through Monique’s Coming Out Late journey?
- Learn about the depth and breadth of research that Monique and her husband David have done, and continue to do, (both individually AND together), in order to learn as much as they can about how other couples navigate ‘Mixed Orientation Marriages'.
- Learn the unique ways in which Monique & David are blazing their own path when it comes to reinventing their sexual intimacy and desires.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
See Episode #80 for MONIQUE & DAVID’S RECOMMENDED RESOURCES
In this episode, Robin and Chris continue their exploratory conversation about the language and meanings behind gender identity, gender fluidity and sexuality as it pertains to our journey of coming out to ourselves, and ultimately coming out to others. Robin & Chris do not profess to be experts on these topics, but simply want to share with you their explorations and findings about their own identities up to and including present day. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!
In this episode, you will hear Robin & Chris talk about…
- What do we mean by “following the breadcrumbs” as it pertains to our coming out late journey?
- Androgyny, nonbinary, intersex…what does it all mean? And how do you identify? Who are you at your core?
- What does Chris mean by “two spirits”? And is a third gender ‘real’? Or even possible?
- Are the terms androgynous and nonbinary the same?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
In this episode, Robin invites her girlfriend Chris back on the podcast to talk about and explore the language and meanings behind gender identity, gender fluidity and sexuality as it pertains to our journey of coming out to ourselves, and ultimately coming out to others. Robin & Chris do not profess to be experts on these topics, but simply want to share with you their explorations and findings about their own identities up to and including present day. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!
In this episode, you will hear Robin & Chris talk about…
- What IS gender identity? What does gender mean to each of us, personally?
- Do you know the date you came out? Let’s all celebrate our re-birthdays!
- Do we need labels? How important are they to you?
- Are we truly a binary society?
- WHat has been Chris’ gender journey so far?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
Robin picks up the conversation from last week with Sex & Pleasure specialist, Whitni Miller, in this Part 2 episode of Coming Out Late. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!
In this episode, you will learn…
- The #1 question that Whitni gets asked, A LOT! (Hint: it’s about sex!)
- What is “sexual desire discrepancy”?
- Be upfront about how important sex is to you w/potential new partners, ASAP. Know yourself and the depth of your sexual appetite/desire.
- Don’t think that ‘attraction’ to each other is going to make your libidos match - that’s not going to work. You can be highly attracted to each other, but desire and the arousal that fuels all of that desire is way more nuanced than just being attracted to one another.
- How do you feel about sex? How do you feel about yourself? And, how do you feel about yourself having sex?
- Our sexual desires are NOT our partner’s responsibility - they are ours!
- The difference between ‘spontaneous desire’ and ‘responsive desire’ - and that neither is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, AND, that you can be both!
- What’s more important than desire and arousal? (The answer is SO simple, yet so true!)
- What is ‘sexual temperament’?
- Everything affects our sexual desire - what are some of those things?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
If you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
WHITNI MILLER - BDE MOVES:
WEBSITE: www.bde-moves.com
INSTAGRAM: @bde.moves
TIK TOK: @bdemoves
In this Part 1 episode of Coming Out Late, Robin talks with Whitni Miller about sex, pleasure and reducing our inner shame as we navigate our tender coming out late journeys!
In this episode, you will learn…
- Who is Whitni Miller and what does she do for our community?
- What is Intentional monogamy? And poly-saturated?
- Not paying attention to the physical & emotional signs of our queerness IS detrimental to our health!
- What is “pleasure coaching”? According to Whitni, pleasure is, “...that only the person in the body perceiving the sensation can say whether it feels good or not.”
- In order to ‘give’ in relationships, we must first learn how to receive; how to prioritize feeling good.
- The importance of finding our way back home to ourselves.
- ‘Shame Culture’ prohibits us from exploring/experimenting with our bodies.
- Performance sex versus pleasure sex.
- Whitni’s exercise for reducing inner shame, two columns: What are my limiting beliefs around sex? And, where did these limiting beliefs come from?
- Shame is self-judgment and curiosity is creativity.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
WHITNI MILLER - BDE MOVES:
WEBSITE: www.bde-moves.com
INSTAGRAM: @bde.moves
TIK TOK: @bdemoves
In part-two of this “Life Is Relationship” episode, Robin continues chatting with Chris about the revealing nature of relationships, and how they are the source of getting to know ourselves on deeper and deeper levels. THey also discuss!
In this episode, you will learn…
- What happens when we make our relationships ‘conditional’?
- Try BEING the love you seek in other people.
- When we attach ourselves to the ‘outcomes’ of our desires, we end up disappointing ourselves.
- Grasping-for and clawing-at what we desire is looking outside ourselves.
- When I am ‘ok with me’, I can show up-for and be ‘ok with you’.
- What can I bring to this relationship? How can I show up as my best self?
- Community, connections and support are vital to our growth.
- You’re NOT ALONE - join your tribe in our Support Groups!
- Everything is about slowing down!
- Most importantly, don’t grasp for your first WLW relationship, instead, find a small circle of trusted people you can confide in and who can support you.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
In this first of a two-part episode, Robin not only reveals who her mystery guest was from Ep. #117, but also makes an even GREATER reveal by having that guest back on. Together they discuss the ever-popular topic of ‘relationships’!
In this episode, you will learn…
- What is meant by the brilliant comment, ‘we learn ourselves in relationship’?
- What does it mean to ‘come into more conscious, mindful intentions around relationships’?
- Understanding the benefits to pausing the process of seeking intimate relationships. It’s critical to take the time to create a relationship with yourself first, before seeking romantic, intimate relationships.
- Listen to your gut and listen to your intuition when you sense something doesn’t feel right! Don’t ignore the red flags you feel, see or hear!
- Once WE have our “Aha!” moment and come out to ourselves, how important it is to use discernment with how quickly we come out to others, with whom and how many people we come out to at first. Allow time for you to process, and your initial loved ones to process.
- It is essential for us to sit in the pain of waiting to ‘act’ on our knowing that we’re gay; to give ourselves and others the proper time to process.
- By seeking external validation, we're still looking for something outside of ourselves to confirm to us what we already know to be true within ourselves.
- Ask yourself, “can I be the source of the love I seek?”
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer Dawn Noble about the core elements of PACT, a form of therapy she uses while coaching her queer clients in their relationships. Dawn helps her clients recognize their own trauma responses, what their attachment style is, and how to best co-regulate in their relationships.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Remembering you don’t have the power to change anybody but yourself.
- Understanding the importance of our own attachment theories, how we co-regulate and recognizing our own personal trauma responses.
- How PACT therapy differs from other forms of therapy.
- Understanding relationships require agreements that allow you to connect, disconnect, and repair so resentment doesn’t stay.
- Recognizing your partner’s triggers: the bigger the response, the older the wound.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
Dawn Noble Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/Dawnanoble/
Click here to book a FREE 15-minute Consultation with Dawn: https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=24623606
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
Robin talks with late bloomer Dawn Noble about the influence of her religious upbringing, how she finally embraced who she really is and the loving relationship she’s found now, and details about her work helping other couples connect with PACT therapy.
In this episode, you will learn…
- How being raised with 12 siblings in a Latter Day Saints home impacted her
- How Purity culture taught her to keep her cards to herself about being gay
- Confessing her first gay experience and then abstaining from women for 10 years
- What led Dawn to eventually pursue the life she wanted for herself
- Rushing into her first gay marriage and balancing joy and grief
- Setting boundaries, shifting into a new relationship and healing her inner child
- Remembering you don’t have the power to change anybody but yourself
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
Dawn Noble Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/Dawnanoble/
Click here to book a FREE 15-minute Consultation with Dawn: https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=24623606
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
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In this week’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with her Mystery Guest about their coming out journey and how it has impacted her family. I’m hopeful that you’ll hear lots of good information to take with you on YOUR coming out journey! Here is a sampling of what you will hear in today’s episode:
- How she and her husband told their kids about their separation.
- Sharing big family news doesn’t have to be long and drawn out; in fact, it can be in small bites-sized pieces of information.
- They shared a small amount of information: (a) we’re getting separated, (b) we’re not going to be ‘husband & wife’ anymore, and c) this is what it’s going to look like for you.
- The concept of ‘nesting’ and what that looks like.
- All kids really wanna know is, “How is this change to our family going to affect me?”
- What has Robin been up to since her hiatus from podcasting?
- What does a “Leave of presence” mean to Robin?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
Robin is back from her podcasting hiatus and ready to bring you content sure to educate, inform, entertain and make you think and hopefully grow! Robin returns with a special Mystery Guest, and together they talk about pleasure and pain, and how ‘hard’ doesn’t have to be bad. Here is a small sampling of what you will hear in today’s episode:
- How we are ALL ‘recovering’ from something in our lives.
- That our minds are “addictive”. Our minds are constantly seeking pleasure.
- Our desires are fleeting and don’t always bring us joy; our desires can also bring us pain, especially when seeking them in obsessive, intense ways.
- Our resistance to suffering and pain only brings on more pain & suffering.
- Hard does not have to be bad!
- Knowing we’re gay before we’re ten years old.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. Also, the dates for the “St. Pete (FL) Retreat” changed from April to May. St. Petersburg, FL: (May 24-27, 2024); Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024). Possible additional Retreat locations include: Pocono Mountains, PA, San Diego, CA, Los Angeles, CA.
Robin shared in last week’s episode that she plans to take a 4-week hiatus from ‘most’ of the “Coming Out Late” work that she does. And since then, she has decided to ‘come clean’ about how she’s spending these next four weeks (and the months & years beyond) - it’s not what you think she’s doing!
After years of actively working her 12-Steps in one recovery Program, Robin recognized it was ‘time’ now to devote that same level of commitment to her 12-Step ACA, (Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families), Recovery Program. It is NOT for the faint-of-heart and her work will take her far beyond the next four weeks, but it is her desire, through this podcast in the next 4 weeks, to share with you some broad concepts of the ACA Program, the importance of doing this ‘work’, and what she is learning as she embarks on this journey in a deeper, more meaningful way than she has.
If this is not your cup of tea don’t worry, ‘regular’ coming out late podcast episodes will start back up again in January.
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
PLEASE DONATE TO THE PODCAST:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN OUR PRIVATE FB GROUP: “COMING OUT LATE”
Use the following link to join our private Facebook Group, “Coming Out Late”. Answer ALL of the required registration questions, then wait to have your request approved. https://www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS & DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES
If interested in learning more about ACA, use the following link to find resources, zoom meetings and more. www.adultchildren.org
The holidays can be particularly challenging for those who’ve just come out. Robin shares how to handle difficult situations with care and the importance of keeping lines of communication with your children and/or family as open as possible. Robin also discusses why the New Year is a perfect time to prioritize self care!
In this episode, you will learn…
- How to handle the holidays with your significant other or former significant other.
- You don't have to spend an uncomfortable holiday unless there are children involved.
- Suggestions for how to manage difficult feelings in the same space with others.
- Advice for asking your children what they expect on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.
- Try to be the one that initiates cohesiveness and togetherness and connectedness.
- The sooner our children realize and can adapt to and embrace change as something that just simply happens, and it's not something to be feared is good.
- The importance of making self care your number one priority.
- Encouragement to let go of toxic relationships—no matter who they’re with.
- We're gonna learn how to love ourselves or we're gonna learn how to shed our codependency because it's a new year.
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
PLEASE DONATE TO THE PODCAST:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN OUR PRIVATE FB GROUP: “COMING OUT LATE”
Use the following link to join our private Facebook Group, “Coming Out Late”. Answer ALL of the required registration questions, then wait to have your request approved. https://www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
Robin continues her conversation with Holly and JJ in this Part Two “Coming Out Late & Trans” episode on the Coming Out Late podcast. about what it means to be transgender, the challenges of navigating relationships and gender reassignment, and why being honest with yourself and embracing who you are should always come first.
In this episode, you will learn…
- What does it mean to be transgender?
- The challenges of navigating relationships.
- Should you or shouldn’t you? Gender reassignment is the question.
- Encouragement to be open to possibilities when it comes to your sexuality
- The joy of transitioning and being accepted for who you truly are
- The importance of being upfront about your identity after you come out
- Advice for those worried about coming out to lean into your authentic self
- Everybody’s body is different, medical support is crucial for your transition journey
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thursday Evening
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
MEETING SCHEDULE:
December 4, 18
JJ (Jessica Jarrard), Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Owner of Rainbow Counseling & Consultation, a group private practice serving the LGBTQ community. www.rainbowcounselingservices.com
Robin talks with Holly and JJ about what it means to be transgender, the challenges of navigating relationships and gender reassignment, and why being honest with yourself and embracing who you are should always come first.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Holly’s experience of feeling like a prisoner in her body and what it means to be transgender
- The importance of a supportive and accepting environment for transgender children
- Being in a double-closet and underdressing to alleviate pain of gender dysphoria
- Understanding which terms represent gender identity
- Holly’s heterosexual relationships and feeling like an imposter
- What it was like for Holly to finally come out as transgender at age 50
- Gender reassignment and gender affirmation surgeries
- Reflecting on coming out: Don’t worry about the reaction of others, fear manifests in many ways, don’t try to hide it because it’s not going to change
- Encouragement to be open to possibilities when it comes to your sexuality
- The joy of transitioning and being accepted for who you truly are
- The importance of being upfront about your identity after you come out
- Advice for those worried about coming out to lean into your authentic self
- Everybody’s body is different, medical support is crucial for your transition journey
Links to Resources:
JJ (Jessica Jarrard), Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Owner of Rainbow Counseling & Consultation, a group private practice serving the LGBTQ community. www.rainbowcounselingservices.com
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
MEETING SCHEDULE:
November 6, 20; December 4, 18
In this replay of episode #55, Robin introduces us to one of her listeners, Michelle, hailing all the way from Australia. Struck by a note she received from Michelle, Robin knew she had to share it with her listener’s, with Michelle’s consent of course. Robin also knew that the impact of Michelle’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Michelle herself. Michelle agreed and read her own letter, aloud to us.
This episode touches upon topics which get us thinking about . . .
- The universal nature of coming out late, no matter where in the world we live.
- The effect of women in non-traditional, but male-dominated occupations.
- Is it a woman’s responsibility to help make a man feel ‘whole’ if he feels emasculated or threatened by a woman?
- Being with men, cutting off bits of myself and making myself smaller in order that they would feel like men.
- Many of the late in life stories include complex arrangements and rearrangements of marriages and courageous and challenging journeys. This guest doesn’t have children, and is not married.
- There is more to “identity” than just our sexuality.
- A life lived out of other people's expectations is a life dominated by fear and resentment.
- Am I an “L”? A “B”? Or maybe a “P”? Do we need labels?
- Do I now need to dress differently and wear beanies?
- Which life-lived is my real reality? Everything feels completely flipped upside-down, or sideways, or completely averse.
- Sexual identity versus cultural conditioning; internalized homophobia, people pleasing and the female anatomy.
- It seemed that the rainbow world offered many possibilities for stepping out of one cage and into another.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
MEETING SCHEDULE: November 20; December 4, 18
In this episode, Robin invites Samantha Fox back to her Show. Samantha is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist AND Lesbian Curiosity Coach. Today, they talk about the dynamic flow of our sexual attraction and desires…and SO much more!
In this episode, you will learn…
- What is a stone-top? A stone-bottom? A switchy? And why is it important to know what YOU are?
- What it means to pick the best ‘external partner’ versus the best ‘internal partner’.
- How does ‘compulsory heterosexuality’ affect how we feel about our own sexual energy? What does society teach us to think and feel?
- That there really are lots of ways to be a sexual human.
- To think about, “...What am I attracted to? Androgynous women? Women with masc-energy? Women with fem-energy? Something in between?”
- Why “vulnerability” is vital to great a great flow of sexual energy between you and your partner.
- Why communicating about your sexual desires with your partner is critical to a healthy sex life.
- That sexual energy and sexual desire shouldn’t be “heavy” topics; have fun, play, experiment and explore these sides of you.
- The importance of doing the work on ourselves regarding “internalized homophobia”!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
SAMANTHA FOX:
Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com
Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at:www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode, Robin invites Samantha Fox back to her Show. Samantha is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist AND Lesbian Curiosity Coach. Today, they talk about the dynamic flow of our sexual attraction and desires…and SO much more!
In this episode, you will learn…
- What IS “dynamic flow”?
- How does dynamic flow affect my sexual attraction and desires?
- What is YOUR sexual energy? And why is sexual energy important?
- What is a stone-top? A stone-bottom? A switchy? And why is it important to know what YOU are?
- What it means to pick the best ‘external partner’ versus the best ‘internal partner’.
- How does ‘compulsory heterosexuality’ affect how we feel about our own sexual energy? What does society teach us to think and feel?
- That there really are lots of ways to be a sexual human.
- To think about, “...What am I attracted to? Androgynous women? Women with masc-energy? Women with fem-energy? Something in between?”
- Why “vulnerability” is vital to great a great flow of sexual energy between you and your partner.
- Why communicating about your sexual desires with your partner is critical to a healthy sex life.
- That sexual energy and sexual desire shouldn’t be “heavy” topics; have fun, play, experiment and explore these sides of you.
- The importance of doing the work on ourselves regarding “internalized homophobia”!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
SAMANTHA FOX:
Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com
Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at:www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this week’s episode, Robin talks about the keys to living a serene and fulfilling life. Robin puts on her philosophical beret and covers topics such as “acceptance”, “surrendering”, “expectations” and “letting go” and what in the world does that have to do with coming out late?
- Give yourself permission to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently; because we can!
- Nothing changes if nothing changes.
- We ALWAYS have options and choices to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently.
- It’s how we respond to adversity, to challenge, that defines our character.
- We must accept we have no control over people, places, things & situations.
- The key to life, to serenity, and to living a fulfilled life is ACCEPTANCE.
- We learn how to accept by learning how to surrender; we learn how to surrender by learning how to LET GO.
- We need to learn how to let go of - and live free-from - ‘desired outcomes’ and ‘expectations’.
- The myth about chasing ‘ideal outcomes’. What’s the probability of catching our ‘desired outcomes’? What’s the cost of chasing our desired outcomes?
- We’re not in the CONTROL business - that’s codependency’s job!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
MEETING SCHEDULE:
October 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18
**This week Robin continues her conversation with the late bloomers from her most recent Coming Out Late Retreat to Traverse City, MI. As you’ll be able to glean from the banter, this group has grown quite close to one another, had a GREAT time, and shared a lot of very special moments and memories. Many who attended have later shared with Robin that their Retreat experience was life-changing for them. That makes my heart sing! I know this Coming Out Late Retreat had an enormous impact on ME as well!
Robin’s Coming Out Late Support Groups and Retreats are quickly becoming one of the fastest ways to make new friends and build your community and tribe within this fast-growing late blooming sector of the LGBTQ+ community. Over seventy-five percent of the Phoenix Retreat attendees made their way to Michigan to attend the Coming Out Late Traverse City Retreat. Keep an eye out in Robin’s “Coming Out Late” FB Group for announcements regarding upcoming Retreats in 2024.**
- Feeling seen and being heard.
- Deep conversations, vulnerable shares, laughing & shenanigan’s in a safe space is all a part of coming INTO ourselves!
- So many “firsts” and so many more to come!
- Learning and practicing the fine art of flirting, (from 2 very different approaches)!
- Nearly 25 late blooming strangers met in Michigan & had the time of their lives.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
MEETING SCHEDULE:
October 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18
This week Robin invites the attendees from her most recent Traverse City, MI Retreat to come on the show and share their enthusiasm and experiences. Robin’s Coming Out Late Support Groups and Retreats are quickly becoming one of the fastest ways to make new friends and build your community and tribe within this fast-growing late blooming sector of the LGBTQ+ community. Over seventy-five percent of the Phoenix Retreat attendees made their way to Michigan to attend the Coming Out Late Traverse City Retreat. Keep an eye out in Robin’s “Coming Out Late” FB Group for announcements regarding upcoming Retreats in 2024.
- The magic of vulnerability.
- Building new friendships in our 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and 60’s.
- Experiencing our true selves when we feel safe, seen and supported.
- Nearly 25 late blooming strangers meet in Michigan and have the time of their lives.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:
- https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
MEETING SCHEDULE:
September 11, 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18
Robin shares details about her online support group “Women Loving Women”. She also dives into the powerful responses she received after posing the question “What do you wish you knew then that you’ve known now on your journey” to the women of the group.
In this episode, you will learn…
- You can take care of yourself—you can do hard things.
- Fear of the unknown is the common thread that holds so many back in life.
- Finding the inner strength to say “Yes, I’m gay” and learning to trust yourself.
- There’s nothing better than living your truth.
- Coming out is not horrible and difficult for everyone.
- Feel the freedom of coming out to yourself—You don't really need to know 100% with certainty that you for sure are gay and you're coming out as gay. Just give yourself permission to explore those thoughts.
- Live your life and find your truth.
- To support Robin & Hugo, go to: www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
MEETING SCHEDULE:
September 11, 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
In this episode, Robin reads a post written by a member of her “Coming Out Late” community about feeling stuck and sad while in the beginning stage of the messy middle. Robin also shares with us the outpouring of beautiful and practical support and encouragement. Grab your pen and paper because you are going to want to write down some of the really useful suggestions, as well as some of the poignant positive affirmations that the authors’ responders shared with her.
In this episode, you will learn…
- The necessity of taking care of yourself first during this time of coming out.
- Why it is critically important during this journey to always protect yourself first.
- The importance of setting goals and making lists and why you should start with small goals for yourself first.
- That by setting goals and achieving them, no matter how small they are (and the smaller the better in the beginning), you will begin to feel a lot less stuck!
- That now is a good time to go back to school or obtain additional training so that you make yourself more marketable when seeking employment.
- That you need to become as financially literate as possible; and open up a separate bank account, (in your name only), in a different banking institution from any joint accounts you share with your partner.
- The importance of seeking 2-3 free consultations from a few different divorce lawyers - with the sole purpose of knowing and understanding what your legal rights are for the particular state you reside in.
- Seek therapy, (a queer therapist if possible), and encourage your partner to seek his own therapist as well.
- That crying and breathing - as much as you can - really IS therapeutic!
- That by staying committed to “kindness”, you and your partner have a better chance of going through this journey amicably and communicate effectively.
- That every day will come with its different feelings and those will change constantly. It is OK to feel however you’re feeling in that moment and the importance of ‘feeling ALL the feels’.
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
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WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
MEETING SCHEDULE:
September 11, 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
“Coming-Out-Late Grief: It’s Real”
‘Life' is full of uncertainty, discomfort and pain, as well as joy, peace and freedom. It is when we master the art of being comfortable with discomfort and uncertainty, that we have mastered the art of living life - not just surviving it.
Why should our coming out late journey be any different? It is in the discomfort, the uncertainty and the grief in which our growth can occur and our souls may soar. Grief is not only an expected part of ‘life’, but it will also be an expected and painful part of our coming out late process! This journey you are on is not easy - - but it is well worth it all, in the end. And the good news is - - everyone will survive the grieving process and your coming out late journey - - it just takes time - - a lot of time and patience!
In this episode, you will learn…
- That your grief, sadness and pain is very real, and to be expected. That mourning and grieving during your coming-out journey is ‘normal’, and doesn’t just happen once, but does lessen over time. Give yourself plenty of love, grace and space to simply ‘be’.
- That you are going through a metamorphosis of sorts; you will be shedding old ‘skin’ and rebirthing a new identity. With those significant changes come intense feelings; heavy, deeply-felt feelings. Feel them all. Feeling them all gives them credence and in doing so allows them to ‘pass through you’ more freely and quickly.
- Why it’s critical that you cry - and cry often! Let your tears flow, and flow freely and flow often. Crying is not a weakness - it is a necessary and natural process in the release of toxins and emotions that simply must come out - just like you must come out.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
MEETING SCHEDULE:
September 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18
In this follow-up episode to last week, Robin continues to answer a few more questions which were submitted by members of her Coming Out Late Facebook Group. In today’s episode of “Your Queer Questions Answered”, Robin discusses the following topics:
- Dividing up your marital assets don’t always have to be 50/50.
- Go over ALL of your expenses with a fine-tooth comb!
- Do you know what it costs to live in the housing you’re currently living in?
- Should you get rid of the house? Or budget even tighter and get a second job?
- What does it mean to ‘live below our means/?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
MEETING SCHEDULE:
September 11, 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18
In this part 2 episode Robin continues to celebrate her monumental milestone of producing 100 episodes of “Coming Out Late” with two very special guests - her two adult millennial daughters! For the first time ever, the three of them sit down and discuss their Mom’s coming out journey and how it impacted their lives. They discuss…
- What did “Gay Awareness and Representation” look like from two twenty-somethings growing up?
- Sexual stereotypes and what those looked like then, versus now.
- Reflecting on the ‘messages’ they received about homosexuality from their family of origin.
- Robin’s daughters reflect on inclusivity, learning about gay people growing up, and how their own personal views have evolved over time.
- “Sexual Fluidity”, what it means and how hard it is to wrap our heads around it.
- For the first time ever, Robin tells her ‘coming out’ story to her two daughters.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
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WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
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Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
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https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
In this episode of “Coming Out Late”, Robin celebrates her 100th episode with two very special guests - two Millennials - who also have experience with friends and family members coming out of the closet! “Don’t touch that dial” and stay tuned-in as the three of them talk about the LGBTQ+ community in general and about their own experiences with the LGBTQ+ community and having queer loved-ones. They discuss…
- At what age or grade did you first become aware of ‘gay’ people?
- Was there any/much representation and awareness growing up?
- Were any of their classmates openly gay and ‘out’?
- Are there any universal telltale signs or stereotypes imposed upon, about the LGBTQ+ community?
- Are there ‘outside’ pressures, from society, that contribute to the Patriarchy? To gay culter? dissasociate gay people away?
- How do you think it is possible that someone can feel male for one part of their lives and then non-binary?
- Discussing the differences between sexuality, sexual identity, gender identity.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
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WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
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Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
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In this Part Two episode of “Coming Out Late” Robin continues talking with Resiliency coach Michelle Dickinson about using ‘resilience’ as a lifestyle and lifelong tool.
- We think that all of the answers we seek are external to us - when they’re not.
- If we didn't have challenges, we would never realize our capacity to overcome them. Challenges really are the compass to our expansion.
- Trust the ‘journey’ and believe that life is always unfolding for your highest good.
- Also, ask yourself, “...Are you committed, or are you attached…?”
- Self-love is a journey - it is not a destination.
- Neediness and a longing are the worst things that the universe will tolerate. The only way to not have neediness is to realize that you are whole and complete and you need to connect with you and go and do the work.
- The only two things you can control are your effort and your attitude.
- Michelle leaves us with this invitation: “...realize that the practices you're doing or not doing, (every single day), you're either filling your emotional wellbeing bucket or you're taking away from it.”
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
MICHELLE E. DICKINSON - “Resilience Coach & Visionary”
Website: https://www.michelleedickinson.com/
Instagram: michelled_resilientlifestyle
Youtube: @burnouttobrilliance
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/michelle.dickinson.146/
SUPPORT GROUPS:
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Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
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Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
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In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin talks to a dear business friend, Michelle Dickinson. Michelle is many things, but her forte is coaching people to lean into resilience as a lifestyle, and embrace the journey of personal expansion. In this episode, you will learn:
- that ‘resilience as a lifestyle’ is not something that you have to go and get through adversity - it’s something that you nourish.
- how to stop being our own worst enemy by getting out of our own way.
- what is at the heart of resilience?
- how our belief system and our personal narratives are affecting us.
- what to do to shift out of toxic thinking?
- what questions do we need to ask so that we can feel as good as possible?
- the importance of “...fanning the flame within them [us] to do the things that bring us joy….”
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
MICHELLE E. DICKINSON - “Resilience Coach & Visionary”
Website: https://www.michelleedickinson.com/
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/michelle-e-dickinson-mm-🧠♥️-7882013
Instagram: michelled_resilientlifestyle
Youtube: @burnouttobrilliance
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/michelle.dickinson.146/
SUPPORT GROUPS:
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Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
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Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
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Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
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In this Part 2 Episode, Robin picks up the conversation with the group of queer clergy-folx from her FB Group, “Coming Out Late”. Robin recorded four hours of epic clergy conversations, two of which you heard in Episodes #75 & #76 back in March. The final two hours of those recordings are here, in Episodes #96 and #97.
- Patriarchy, language, pronouns and “mansplaining”..
- “Doubt the defaults”, Rev. Eyde Mabanglo
- What is “monotheism? According to Google, monotheism is the belief in the existence of one god, or in the oneness of God.
- What are “clobber passages”, “clobber texts”? “Although the Bible does not mention sexual orientation, there are a few passages where a biblical author mentions sex between people of the same gender. These texts are often termed the “clobber passages” due to the way they have been wielded against queer people…”. (Source: www.wordmadequeer.com)
- The idea of “transactional preaching versus transformational preaching.
- Should we be saving the church?
- Knowing your queer black history: Bayard Rustin, Audrey Lorde, Pauli Murra; knowing that Compton Cafeteria came before Stonewall, etc.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
There is a $5 cover charge to attend each meeting. Register weekly for these and all Support Groups via the Buy Me A Coffee links below:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL: 2024, May 31 - June 3, 2024
**Look for the “Out & Wild Women’s Festival” Facebook Group.
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL - WEBSITE:**
https://www.beoutandabout.co.uk/out-wild-festival/
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin shares with us a second conversation she had with a group of queer clergy-folx from her FB Group, “Coming Out Late”. Robin recorded four hours of epic clergy conversations, two of which you heard in Episodes #75 & #76 back in March. The final two hours of those recordings are here, in Episodes #96 and #97.
- The Rev. Wilda C. Gafney, Ph.D., also known as Wil Gafney, (born 1966) is an American biblical scholar and Episcopal priest. She is a specialist in womanist biblical interpretation, and topics including gender and race.
- Rev. Rufus A. Strother Jr., The Rev. Rufus A. Strother Jr. led a predominantly African-American congregation in northern Westchester County for 38 years and was noted for his work to foster understanding between races and to improve community relations, particularly during the years of the civil rights movement.
- The documentary, “Mama’s Boy” on HBO Max, by Academy Award Winning Screenplay Writer, Dustin Lance Black.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
There is a $5 cover charge to attend each meeting. Register weekly for these and all Support Groups via the Buy Me A Coffee links below:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL: 2024, May 31 - June 3, 2024
**Look for the “Out & Wild Women’s Festival” Facebook Group.
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL - WEBSITE:**
https://www.beoutandabout.co.uk/out-wild-festival/
In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with Pleasure Education sexpert Whitni Miller. Casting aside timidness and insecurities around the topic of sapphic sex, members of Robin’s weekly “Not Straight Support Group” participated in a thoughtful, compassionate and consented conversation about pleasure, sex and intimacy for the purposes of this podcast.
In this episode you will learn…
- The difference between “performative based sex” and “pleasure based sex”.
- What’s ‘spontaneous desire’ versus ‘responsive desire’.
- What impacts your sexual temperament?
- Why do we have limiting beliefs around sex & ask ourselves, “Where did that belief come from?”, and “How is each limiting belief serving me and why?
- About the importance of needing to use our words in all situations, and in ALL types of relationships; and just learn to say, “I'm feeling a certain way.”
- In previous heterosexual experiences, it’s likely you’ve experienced coercion. If you feel those familiar sensations that you're being coerced, that's a red flag.
- You don't ever owe somebody your body to pay for the space that you take up. Sex and any intimate practices should never be transactional.
- In order to experience all levels of ‘pleasure’, we must be present in the moment.
- Self-pleasure is simply pleasure - it’s NOT guilty-pleasure.
- Most think that great sex comes from the other person; sex comes THROUGH your body, therefore, great sex comes through you, not ‘from’ the other person.
- People with vulvas can have arousal, non-concordance, which means the mind is turned on and the body's not, or the body's turned on and the mind is not.
- When we end relationships, we are NOT supposed to manage our partner’s emotional state of being; we’re not responsible for regulating other’s emotions.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
WHITNI MILLER - Sex Educator & Pleasure Coachwww.bde-moves.com
Whitni’s work can be found on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok. In fact, on Tik Tok, her channel has undoubtedly become an important source of sexual health information, and pleasure empowerment for thousands of folx.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
There is a $5 cover charge to attend each meeting. Register weekly for these and all Support Groups via the Buy Me A Coffee links below:
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WOMEN LOVING WOMEN:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
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https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL: May
In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin invites the infamous social media sexpert Whitni Miller to be a Special Guest at the weekly “Not Straight” Support Group. Casting aside timidness and insecurities regarding talking about sex, all the members of the support group participated in a thoughtful, compassionate conversation about pleasure, sex and intimacy.
In this episode you will learn…
- How do we flirt with women? How do we let them know we’re interested in them?
- People-pleasing and the patriarchal society.
- “I hope they like me”, is a scarcity mindset and an unhealthy mindset.
- Dropping heteronormative cultural stereotypes.
- Don’t allow the ostracism, shunning and suppressive behavior from lifelong lesbians.
- Once you get into queer circles, you have to redefine what “sex” even means.
- “Lifelong” versus “newly out” folx.
- Public displays of affection - right or wrong?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and really ‘gets you’. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
There is a $5 cover charge to attend each meeting, each week, and you must Register for these and all Support Groups every week, through Buy Me A Coffee, using the links below:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
Meeting Schedule:
Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time):
July 13, 27; August 10, 24; September 7, 21; October 5, 19; November 2, 16, 30; December 14, 28.
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL: 2024, May 31 - June 3, 2024
**Look for the “Out & Wild Women’s Festival” Facebook Group.
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL - WEBSITE:**
https://www.beoutandabout.co.uk/out-wild-festival/
In this Part 2 episode Robin continues chatting with this group of Out & Wild Women's Wellness Festival goers. She culminates the conversation by asking everyone to describe one memory that has stayed with them long after they’ve returned home.
In this episode you will hear the Festival attendees reflect-on…
- What is ONE word that describes your experience at the Out & Wild Women’s Wellness Festival? And why?
- Who were you before the Festival, but more importantly, who were you and how were you feeling AFTER the Festival was over?
- Name the one memory or experience you have taken from the Festival that stands out in your heart and in your mind above all the other possible memories?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL: 2024, May 31 - June 3, 2024
Look for the “Out & Wild Women’s Festival” Facebook Group.
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL - WEBSITE:https://www.beoutandabout.co.uk/out-wild-festival/
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life, then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. I 'get you', hear you and understand you. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
There is a $5 cover charge to attend each meeting, each week.
You must Register for all Support Groups through the Buy Me A Coffee links below:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP: Beginning JUNE 29th.
Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
Meeting Schedule:
Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time):
July 13, 27; August 10, 24; September 7, 21; October 5, 19; November 2, 16, 30; December 14, 28.
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS: Beginning JULY 6th
Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
5pm PST / 8pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
Meeting Schedule:
Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time):
July 6, 20; August 3, 17, 31; September 14, 28; October 12, 26; November 9, 23; December 7, 21.
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
In this unconventional Bonus episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues telling the tale of her experience getting to the Out & Wild Women’s Wellness Festival in Wales. Three flights, four different train changes, one questionable cab ride and a thoughtful car lift TO the festival was “all it took” for Robin to eventually arrive at Out & Wild! Listen to Part 2 to the crazy ups-n-downs of Robin’s journey to Wales!
In this episode you will learn…
- You are stronger, wiser and more resilient than you give yourself credit for.
- Be accountable to yourself, and take responsibility for your actions.
- Smile and say “please” and “thank you”. Have gratitude and show it.
- Ask for help. (Most people really do want to lend a hand!)
- Cry when needed; then blow your nose and go to Plan B.
- Don’t give up on yourself. Growth occurs within the experiences of adversity.
- Trust the process. You are exactly where you are supposed to be.
- Drop ALL expectations!
- Feel the fear and do it anyway.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of your COMING OUT LATE journey, then send me an email and request the Info Sheet for my 1:1 coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like me who really ‘gets you’, and who has been through it. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Here's the Support Group Weekly Schedule:
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
MEETING SCHEDULE:
Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time):
June 29; July 13, 27; August 10, 24; September 7, 21; October 5, 19; November 2, 16, 30; December 14, 28.
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:
Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
MEETING SCHEDULE:
Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time):
July 6, 20; August 3, 17, 31; September 14, 28; October 12, 26; November 9, 23; December 7, 21
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
EVERY Wednesday, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
In this 2-part Episode Robin describes what the Out & Wild Women’s Wellness Festival is all about, describing the facilities, offerings, and venue. THEN, Robin invites 15 of her closest UK-friends to join her in a recorded zoom gathering to talk about THEIR experiences at the Festival.
In this episode you will hear the Festival attendees answer…
- What is ONE word that describes your experience at the Out & Wild Women’s Wellness Festival? And why?
- How has the Festival transformed you, after it was over?
- Name one memory from the Festival that stands out the most?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching.Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
There is a $5 cover charge to attend each meeting, each week, and you must Register for these and all Support Groups every week, through Buy Me A Coffee, using the links below:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP: Beginning JUNE 29th.
Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),
6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783
Meeting Schedule:
Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time):
June 29; July 13, 27; August 10, 24; September 7, 21; October 5, 19; November 2, 16, 30; December 14, 28.
FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS: Beginning JULY 6th
Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),
5pm PST / 8pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024
Meeting Schedule:
Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time):
July 6, 20; August 3, 17, 31; September 14, 28; October 12, 26; November 9, 23; December 7, 21.
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL: 2024, May 31 - June 3
OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL - WEBSITE:
https://www.beoutandabout.co.uk/out-wild-festival/
In this unconventional episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin takes a casual, unscripted approach this week, sharing with you a recent ‘thing’ she did. She did a ‘gay’ thing and she wants to share with you her ‘gay thing’ experience, AND share with you the things she learned about herself along the way. These ‘things’ Robin learned about herself are universal lessons we can all benefit from. She also hopes to recruit many of you to join her next year, to do this ‘gay thing’ together in one big happy gay group! Stay-tuned for Part 2 THIS WEEK!
In this episode you will learn…
- You are stronger, wiser and more resilient than you give yourself credit for.
- Drop ALL expectations and ‘life’ will run like a Swiss watch!
- Be accountable to yourself, and take responsibility for your actions.
- Be yourself, and everything else will fall into place.
- Smile and say “please” and “thank you”.
- Have gratitude and show it.
- Ask for help. (Most people really do want to lend a hand!)
- Cry when needed; then blow your nose, pick yourself up and go to Plan “B”.
- Don’t give up on yourself.
- Trust the process. You are exactly where you are supposed to be in this time and place.
- Nothing changes if nothing changes.
- Feel the fear and do it anyway.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.
In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with Late Bloomer Adriana and her co-parent and current husband, Darius. You’ll hear how they walk us through their process of managing their marriage, their families and their futures during and after Adriana’s recent awakening of her sexuality. For reference, Adriana no longer identifies herself as a heterosexual woman.
In this episode you will learn…
- Wanting something more for yourself, or something different for yourself, doesn’t mean leaving what you have is ever easy.
- Who leaves the house when a ‘separation’ is the next step?
- How do ‘things’ FEEL in your body? Your body never lies to you - it just takes getting very still and very honest with yourself to ‘feel the truths’ it offers.
- We ALL have those, “...what the hell am I doing?” moments. All of us!
- If you’re not sure about ‘separation’ - try moving into a spare bedroom, or set up a space and a place for you to sleep other than the marital bedroom you share.
- Continuing the strong post-marital bond long into the future, and how do future partners fit into that scenario?
- “...Leaving for a feeling and a thought…? What am I, crazy?”
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian
In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin welcomes the married duo of Adriana and Darius to talk about how Adriana’s recent awakening to her sexuality has impacted their marriage, how they have navigated this journey together, and how they plan to move forward.
In this episode you will learn…
How important it is to listen to those little whispering voices inside us.
* The vital nature in which “communication” really does play a role in the success of all relationships.
* Take things slowly, and talk things out - talk everything out!
* Be true to YOUR needs and boundaries - even if it costs you your marriage.
* Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass*
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian
In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with her newest group of Coming Out Late Retreat attendees in a conversation they had immediately following their return from “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE.
In this episode you will learn…
- What happens when we “don’t wear the uniform”?
- What IS ‘the uniform’?
- An insider’s / attendees perspective on Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE.
- Volunteer at queer events - its a safe and less scary way to meet new people.
- “...I realized at the Retreat, I’m still me. Being gay is just a part of who I am. It doesn’t change who I am as a person.”
- Dealing with Imposter Syndrome - and what it is.
- What happens when you combine ‘pack mentality’ and ‘alcohol’ at a very large event.
- The need and value of a “safe word”.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian
In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has gathered with the newest group of Coming Out Late Retreat attendees immediately following their return from “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE. You’ll hear from most everyone who attended the retreat with Robin.
In this episode you will learn…
- Some who attended the retreat opted not to participate in the Recap gathering because, despite being in their first same sex relationship, they are not out to most people in their lives, nor divorced yet, and chose to sit this one out.
- An insider’s / attendees perspective on Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE.
- Volunteer at queer events - its a safe and less scary way to meet new people.
- “...I realized at the Retreat, I’m still me. Being gay is just a part of who I am. It doesn’t change who I am as a person.”
- Dealing with Imposter Syndrome - and what it is.
- What is meant by “wearing the uniform”?
- The need and value of a “safe word”.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has a casual but critical conversation with another late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives - especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina broach the “Money Mindset” subject from their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences.
In this episode you will learn about and hear Robin and Sabrina discuss…
- What IS “Money Mindset”? And how/why does that affect YOU?
- Three steps in budgeting: (1) try to save 10% of your income, (2) know what your monthly fixed expenses are and try to keep them at 50-60% of your income, and (3) put aside about 30% for “spending” or your “fun money”.
- You can only cut-back your expenses so much, but, can you renegotiate your big, big fixed expenses, (i.e., auto insurance, homeowners insurance, your mortgage to a lower interest rate, rent, etc.); the next question is, can you increase your income at all?
- Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, work part time, or even full time, know what value you bring to your marriage and be willing to fight for your value!
- Know what the rental market is in your area and determine what your income needs to be in order to move out and live on your own.
- If neither you and/or your spouse cannot afford to move out, then you both need to ask the question, “...how can we meet our needs within the marriage. Are you ok with me seeing someone else and you seeing someone else…?” (a.k.a., ethical non-monogamy).
- Whether or not you stay in the marriage, there will always be trade-offs. The questions are: What are you financially able to trade-off? And, what are you comfortable trading-off?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.
https://www.bu
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has a casual but critical conversation with another late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives - especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina broach the “Money Mindset” subject from their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences, and not from any kind of ‘expert’ stance. Whether you are in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world.
In this episode you will learn about and hear Robin and Sabrina discuss…
- What is a “money mindset”? How do you develop a mindset around money? How does having a ‘money mindset’ affect you and your future?
- Have you ever thought about your relationship with money and what your journey with money has been throughout your life? How did your relationship with money first get formed? How do you feel about money, and handling money? How does ‘money’ make you feel? Do you think you are capable of handling money?
- Currently, what is your mindset around money? How is your relationship with money?
- Having a “money mindset” begins with, “...starting to notice the invisible scripts going on in your head, [surrounding money], and the automatic reactions you have in your body, [as it relates to money matters.]
- Stop and think about: What do you tell yourself about money and your abilities around handling money? Do you tell yourself, “...I'm bad with money..”, or, “...I'm a right-brained person, I wasn’t born to be good with money…” Or do you tell yourself, “... money is the root of all evil…”? Do you tell yourself, “...money doesn't grow on trees…”? Or, are you in a more positive frame-of-mind about money?
- To develop a healthy money mindset, we must first go through these three steps: First, we must become aware-of, and bring awareness-to our own beliefs around money. In order to understand our own psychology, beliefs and personal relationship with money, we must first become aware of the dialogues and scripts swirling around in our own minds. What are we telling ourselves about money?
- Second, after the “awareness” step, we must then ask ourselves, “...Where do my beliefs around money come from…?” For example: How did your parents talk about money? Did your primary caretakers talk to you about saving or investing? How did your primary caretakers talk to each other about money? Did your mom pay the bills or did your dad take care of everything? Were your parents spenders or savers?
- Once you’ve developed an awareness-of your money belief system and explored where your money beliefs come from, then lastly, it’s time to ask yourself, “...are those beliefs still serving me in living my best life…?”
- Improving your money mindset and becoming proactive about your awareness and understanding of money matters can incrementally impact your future financial security.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LA
In this Part 2 episode of “Coming Out Late in Phoenix, The Retreat”, Robin continues the conversation with her group of not-straight women who braved the queer wilderness in Phoenix, Arizona to attend the very first “Coming Out Late” Retreat! Mostly on their best-behavior, you will hear just how much each person grew, appreciated and reaped in the benefits of meeting and retreating in-person.
In this episode you will hear Robin and the Coming Out Late Retreat group informally talk about their experiences and touching moments from the Phoenix, AZ Retreat:
- What are the benefits of attending an in-person Retreat with other folx who are, or have, come out late?
- How did the “introverts” do on this group retreat of 10-13 queer folx? What was one of the main components of the Retreat weekend that they found to be enormously helpful as introverts in SO many brand new, crowded scenarios?
- The value of in-person connections and support.
- Building your tribe and the importance of community.
- The importance of feeling and being safe with your gay circle of friends.
- What elements are valuable and critical to feeling comfortable in gay social circles.
- Manifesting the courage and strength to dive deep in personal growth.
- Wanna join other like-minded not-straight women in future Coming Out Late Retreats? Send Robin an email, requesting to be put on the Coming Out Late Retreat email list. Email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.
BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:
Have I Got A Deal For YOU!
The Coming Out Late podcast is teaming-up with BARB, a queer-owned & operated brand of hair styling products for people with short hair, like ME. BARB is a pomade, and is sold at select salons and Barbershops across the US, but is ALSO conveniently sold online as well. So, as part of their new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, BARB is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.
THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
More dates and locations for new Coming Out Late Retreats will be announced next week.
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In this highly anticipated episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin re-gathers with the group of not-straight women who braved the queer wilderness in Phoenix, Arizona to attend the very first “Coming Out Late” Retreat! Robin instigates the banter and conversation with her new forever friends as they each discuss what the Retreat meant to them. Mostly on their best-behavior, you will hear just how much each person grew, appreciated and reaped in the benefits of meeting and retreating in-person.
In this episode you will hear Robin and the Coming Out Late Retreat group informally talk about their experiences and touching moments from the Phoenix, AZ Retreat:
- What are the benefits of attending an in-person Retreat with other folx who are, or have, come out late?
- How did the “introverts” do on this group retreat of 10-13 queer folx? What was one of the main components of the Retreat weekend that they found to be enormously helpful as introverts in SO many brand new, crowded scenarios?
- The value of in-person connections and support.
- Building your tribe and the importance of community.
- The importance of feeling and being safe with your gay circle of friends.
- What elements are valuable and critical to feeling comfortable in gay social circles.
- Manifesting the courage and strength to dive deep in personal growth.
- Wanna join us at Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE this weekend? We have to beds available 2 blocks from the beach. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.
BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:
Have I Got A Deal For YOU!
The Coming Out Late podcast is teaming-up with BARB, a queer-owned & operated brand of hair styling products for people with short hair, like ME. BARB is a pomade, and is sold at select salons and Barbershops across the US, but is ALSO conveniently sold online as well. So, as part of their new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, BARB is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.
THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:
Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”
To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the these Retreats, (Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Coming
In this Part 2 episode of “Coming Out Late In A Hetero Marriage”, Robin jumps right back in with her first-ever conversation with husband David, and his wife and late bloomer, Monique, who are actually going through Monique’s Coming Out Late process in real-time, and SHARING their experiences with us! There’s LOTS to absorb, take-in and learn!
In this episode you will …
- “Kroger Parking Lot Therapy”, and having those REAL HARD conversations and asking one another the big scary questions, and discussing the really big issues.
- What does David mean by, “...the grass is greener where you water it…”
- Discussing the “pie-chart” of an entire relationship, and which parts are in need of attention.
- Looking at our pasts and getting real and getting honest with one another. Doing our shadow-work - together.
- Women dealing with sexual obligation to please their husbands.
- The Key to Relationship Progress? Communication! Communication! Communication!
- Before throwing the baby out with the bathwater, try problem-solving through creative experimentation and mutually agreed-upon creative solutions. If they don’t work? Pivot, and try something else. (i.e., “naked-time” and “snuggle-time”)
- Is your marriage worth working on? Are you willing to go to any-length to “save” your marriage, AND, work together on incorporating “her” newfound queer sexuality?
- David & Monique answer Robin’s questions: (1) What has been the hardest part, (so far), in Monique’s Coming Out Late process? (2) What’s been the scariest part of Monique’s Coming Out Late process, so far, for each of you?
- Monique and David also answer: (1) What advice would you give to your younger self, knowing what you know now? And, (2) What advice would you give to others on the brink of a similar path?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.
BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:
Have I Got A Deal For YOU!
The Coming Out Late podcast is teaming-up with BARB, a queer-owned & operated brand of hair styling products for people with short hair, like ME. BARB is a pomade, and is sold at select salons and Barbershops across the US, but is ALSO conveniently sold online as well. So, as part of their new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, BARB is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.
THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
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Thirty-two years ago, 16-year old David, the new kid in high school, bravely squished his way through a wall of Monique’s clique of high school friends, (congregated around her locker in the hallway), and asked a mutual friend to introduce him to Monique - in front of everyone. That brave move earned David the intrigue and attention of Monique; AND earned David the honor of walking with her to their next class together. It also earned them both the distinct pleasure of nearly three decades of marriage, built on a deep, deep bond of friendship, love and mutual respect. Their lives together were not immune to the typical stressors of married life - but nothing could have prepared either of them for the curveball that life would throw at them in 2019, and the years that followed..
In this episode you will …
- The importance of gay-representation in our upbringings - no matter the level of affluence we grew up with.
- Hindsight really IS 20/20, when looking back, Monique can definitely identify signs of stereotypical queerness in her young childhood experiences.
- In the words of Glennon Doyle, “...I knew how to be desired, I didn’t know desire.” How has that quote come into play in Monique’s Coming Out Late story?
- The kissing scene in the movie “Bad Moms” awakened something in Monique.
- Despite their staunchly different backgrounds and upbringings, we learn how Monique & David’s lifelong friendship and soulful connection were the building blocks of their thirty-plus year relationship. But is their solid foundation of love and alignment enough to sustain their marriage through Monique’s Coming Out Late journey? That question is definitely addressed.
- Learn about the depth and breadth of research that Monique and her husband David have done, and continue to do, (both individually AND together), in order to learn as much as they can about how other couples navigate ‘Mixed Orientation Marriages”. They are reading books and articles; they’ve joined ‘Mixed Orientation’ support groups and Monique has joined Robin’s weekly “Not-Straight Support Group”, and Robin’s “Coming Out Late” Facebook Group as well as other lesbian groups; they’ve watched movies and videos; listened to podcasts and youtube interviews, and together, through a mutual dedication to “communication” make the time to talk together about what they’re learning and how, if at all, do they want to try integrating any of what they’re learning into their relationship to one another.
- Learn the unique ways in which Monique & David are blazing their own path when it comes to reinventing their sexual intimacy and desires.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always onl
In recognition of International Transgender Day of Visibility last week, Robin dedicated this week’s podcast episode of “Coming Out Late” entirely for the purposes of exploring what “identity” and “representation” looks like through the lens of gender non-conforming and transfeminine artist/poet/performer/activist - ALOK.
In this episode you will …
- be exposed to the work ‘spoken’ word of ALOK, a gender non-conforming, transfeminine artist, poet, and activist.
- Learn how ALOK dealt with childhood bullying and racism..
- How ALOK used poetry and style to interrupt other peoples’ assumptions, challenge shame, and declare themself on their own terms..
- Alok's performance style is known for their stream of consciousness. They are also known for soundscapes, political comedy, and quite the emotional range.
- For Alok, performance is about world-making; making worlds where the audience can relate to one another with "a commitment to vulnerability, play, interdependence, and magic". —ALOK
- Alok is committed to challenging what they call "the international crisis of loneliness" by creating public spaces for processing pain and establishing meaningful connections. This work includes re-imagining a conduit for intimacy.
- They challenge Western rationalism and an emphasis on reductive categories and instead insist on the complexity and enormity of everyone and everything.
- They challenge Western rationalism and an emphasis on reductive categories and instead insist on the complexity and enormity of everyone and everything.
- The fact that even though gender non-conforming people are the most visible in public, they still remain the most neglected by the mainstream LGBT movement.
- “...why so many mistake injury as identity; calcified grief as a personality; and pain as a virtue.” —ALOK
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:
BARB is a brand of styling products for people with short hair. They launched their first signature Barb clay pomade in 2021. Queer owned and operated, Barb is not only committed to making the best styling products around, the brand is also working to evolve the hair and beauty industries to a more inclusive and expansive space where we can all express and celebrate our own individuality and show up in this world as we want to. Barb is available at select salons and Barbershops across the US, and is conveniently sold online as well. As a part of a new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, Barb is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.
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In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin explores two commonly asked questions that most of us ask ourselves at ‘some’ point along our coming out late journey’s - and those are: “What if I’m NOT Really Gay?” “And, What If I’m Wrong? We want assurances and certainty in life that we aren’t going to blow-up-the-family, be disowned by our parents and/or siblings, be fired at work or be ghosted by our children IF, by some chance, we are wrong about our sexuality.
In this episode you will …
- NOTHING is going to give you a truer, more deeper understanding of you, yourself and your sexuality than YOU.
- all of the answers you will ever need to guide you, direct you, and fulfill your every need and desire reside right inside you.
- Living Two Lives: Married to A Man, But In Love with A Woman, Written by, Joanne Fleisher, (2005, 2012).
- A partial description of what to expect in Joanne Fleisher’s book, Living Two Lives: “In 1979, Joanne Fleisher was leading the life of a typical suburban wife and mother. That is, until she fell in love with a female friend and her world was turned upside down. Living Two Lives is a guide for women grappling with the difficult process of coming out while being married to a man.
- Switching Teams, Written by, Dawn Elizabeth Waters, (2019).
- Relatable excerpts from the book, Switching Teams, describing Dawn’s realistic rocky road to coming out late: (a)“Dawn's comfortable existence…disappeared as soon as she came out as a lesbian”, (b) “...it would be one of the most difficult experiences of her life, it would also be one of the most liberating…”, (c) “...at long last…[she] was comfortable in her own skin, even as she realized everyone around her was thrown into chaos…”, (d) “even as she realized everyone around her was thrown into chaos…”.
- What is “The Masterdoc”? “The Lesbian Masterdoc” is actually a common nickname for the original document titled, “Am I A Lesbian”, written by Angeli Luz, a life coach and reiki healing specialist. The 30-page piece first appeared as a Google Doc on her Tumblr page back in 2018, and then later showed up as a PDF in various sub-Reddit’s and since, swept through Tik Tok over the last 2-3 years.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:
BARB is a brand of styling products for people with short hair. They launched their first signature Barb clay pomade in 2021. Queer owned and operated, Barb is not only committed to making the best styling products around, the brand is also working to evolve the hair and beauty industries to a more inclusive and expansive space where we can all express and celebrate our own individuality and show up in this world as we want to. Barb is available at select salons an
In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin discusses the topics of fear and confusion as they relate to the coming out late process. Robin explains, “...fear and confusion have been pervasively popping-up in a variety of forums where people gather for support and conversation regarding their coming out late journey’s. We need to have open and honest conversations about the common fears we experience and the mind-blowing confusion we’re hit with when coming out later in life.”
In this episode you will learn…
- above all else, you are not alone! What you are thinking and feeling and experiencing is not only common and ‘normal’, but temporary as well.
- ways to dispel some common concerns and ‘arm’ you with some understanding of the coming out process, in order to help ease your overtaxed nervous systems.
- that we all share similar feelings of uncertainty, self-doubt, confusion, self-loathing, and a deep, deep visceral fear of the unknown at various points along our coming out transformation.
- there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to approach our coming out; there is no ‘right way’ to confront and resolve the relationships affected by our coming out. In fact, in many cases, we choose not to even act-on our awareness of our awakened queer identities - that for some - simply acknowledging that side of ourselves and possibly sharing that knowledge with a loved one is ‘enough’.
- fifty to one-hundred women, a WEEK, are requesting to join our ‘Coming Out Late’ FB Group.
- Worry is another form of fear. Worrying is a waste of our energy and a misuse of our imagination. “Worrying” is like praying for something that you don’t want. (What we focus on grows). Worry is also just a way to attempt to control something we have no control over.
- NO amount of worry is going to change the future - none. So, why worry? And if no amount of worry is going to change the future, then no amount of REGRET will change the past.
- But ANY amount of gratitude that you can muster-up during this phase of our awakening, WILL change the present. Any amount of gratitude WILL change the present.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:
BARB is a brand of styling products for people with short hair. They launched their first signature Barb clay pomade in 2021. Queer owned and operated, Barb is not only committed to making the best styling products around, the brand is also working to evolve the hair and beauty industries to a more inclusive and expansive space where we can all express and celebrate our own individuality and show up in this world as we want to. Barb is available at select salons and Barbershops across the US, and is conveniently sold online as well. As a part of a new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, Barb is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://<
In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with her first panel of late blooming clergy folx who all found one another within Robin’s Coming Out Late Facebook Group.
In this Part 2 episode you will hear Robin and her panel of late blooming queer clergy discuss…
How for most of us, it simply never occurred to us to explore our sexuality.
- What do our queer clergy folx say to people who condemn them for being gay?
- Southern Baptist versus Northern Baptist - what is the difference? Was there a difference? Is there a difference today?
- Should we engage in conversations about religion and homosexuality with people outside the gay community? When is it safe to? Is it ever safe to? When is it worth our time and energy to engage in deeper religious conversations with homophobic people?
- What IS “perfectionism”?
- “What advice do you have for someone that still occasionally struggles with feeling like “I’m sinning or disappointing God” by embracing my homosexuality?”
- “I exist in a family who does not believe that one can be homosexual and not be ‘living in sin’. How are you able to reconcile your religious beliefs with who you know yourself to be?”
- “What do you say to those that condemn you being gay?”
- “What does God/the Bible actually have to say about being gay?”
- “I'm getting ready to move and want to find a church that is lgbtqia+ friendly. I've found in searching in my current area that dome churches will say they are affirming, but once I've gone once or twice they try to convert you back to heterosexuality in very backhanded and sneaky ways. I guess my question is, how can I go about finding a church that will respect me as a person and love all of me? It has definitely caused me to question my faith.”
- “My ex’s family believe that homosexuality is not how God made us, but rather that it is a sin. How can I respond to this?”
- “What does God say about pleasure and sensuality?”
- Why we need to ask ourselves, “...Who benefits from this system?”
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
RESOURCES MENTIONED in PART 1 & 2 Episodes:
Pamela Lightsey, Our Lives Matter: A Womanist Queer Theology
Wil Gafney, Link to her Blog and to her Womanist Midrash; https://www.wilgafney.com/
Sonya Renee Taylor, Best-selling author, world-renowned activist, thought leader on racial justice, body liberation and transformational change, as well as International artist, Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/the-body-is-not-an-apology
A great read and interesting criticism of “biblical marriage.”https://www.patheos.com/blogs/keithgiles/2023/02/same-sex-love-celebrated-in-the-bible/
ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men<
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin introduces us to the beginning of nearly four hours of recorded conversations with late blooming queer clergy folx who all found one another within our Coming Out Late FB Group.
In this Part 1 episode you will hear Robin and her panel of late blooming queer clergy discuss the topic of being queer and being Pastors, as well as, together, answer questions submitted by members of Robin’s Facebook Group, “Coming Out Late”…
- “What advice do you have for someone that still occasionally struggles with feeling like “I’m sinning or disappointing God” by embracing my homosexuality?”
- “I exist in a family who does not believe that one can be homosexual and not be ‘living in sin’. How are you able to reconcile your religious beliefs with who you know yourself to be?”
- “What do you say to those that condemn you being gay?”
- “What does God/the Bible actually have to say about being gay?”
- “I'm getting ready to move and want to find a church that is lgbtqia+ friendly. I've found in searching in my current area that dome churches will say they are affirming, but once I've gone once or twice they try to convert you back to heterosexuality in very backhanded and sneaky ways. I guess my question is, how can I go about finding a church that will respect me as a person and love all of me? It has definitely caused me to question my faith.”
- “My ex’s family believe that homosexuality is not how God made us, but rather that it is a sin. How can I respond to this?”
- “What does God say about pleasure and sensuality?”
- Why we need to ask ourselves, “...Who benefits from this system?”
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
**Links to resources:
RESOURCES MENTIONED in PART 1 & 2 Episodes:**
Pamela Lightsey, Our Lives Matter: A Womanist Queer Theology
Wil Gafney, Link to her Blog and to her Womanist Midrash;
https://www.wilgafney.com/
Best-selling author, world-renowned activist, thought leader on racial justice, body liberation and transformational change, as well as International artist, Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/the-body-is-not-an-apology
A great read and interesting criticism of “biblical marriage.”
https://www.patheos.com/blogs/keithgiles/2023/02/same-sex-love-celebrated-in-the-bible/
ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:
(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023
(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”
In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues her conversation with friend and Lesbian Curiosity Coach, Samantha Fox, to keep talking about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx.
In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . .
- A very big part of our coming out process IS awakening to our own sexual desires, our sex drive and defining our own sensuality.
- The taboo of self-pleasuring, masterbation and why no one talks about it.
- Objectification: being the object of the male gaze.
- Is our outlook upon men determined by WHEN you came out? Are lifelong lesbians LESS likely to be objectified by men? Are their relationships with men different than women who come out late?
- The different emotional conditioning for men versus women.
- Sex was an obligation they did ‘for’ their husbands; it wasn’t something they liked, enjoyed or even wanted to do.
- What was wrong with me? Feeling ‘broken’ in our hetero relationships and in our marriages.
- Working through the cultural ‘learnings’ and ‘traumas’ to heal our perceived brokenness.
- NONE of us are ‘broken’. We are just deeply buried under layers and layers of cultural, societal, religious conditioning that needs to be undone; but NONE of us are broken.
- Have experiences so that you can “collect the data” about yourself and get to know WHO you are!
- ‘Lesbian Bed Death’ is NOT exclusive to just lesbians - it occurs in ALL unhealthy relationships.
- Get to know your own sex drive and sexual needs and be true to your needs.
- Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! Not doing so in your relationships is like taking a tourniquet to your relationship and cutting off the blood supply.
- “Fantasizing” is such a great way to get in touch with what you like.
- Dispelling the Myth: Lifelong lesbians may not be better at sex than we are.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
SAMANTHA FOX - THE LESBIAN CURIOSITY COACH:
Website-https://www.lesbiancuriositycoach.com
TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach
Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/
YouTube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ
ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:
(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023
(2) Rehoboth
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin invites back to the podcast friend and fellow Coach, Samantha Fox, to talk about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx.
In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . .
- The coming out late journey is fraught with potholes, messy-middles, and a multitude of emotions. But, what about what happens AFTER you’re through the messy middle - what then?
- Post the messy-middle, we are still faced with dealing with feelings and ‘people’ when we begin to date women. Just because we’re now dating women doesn’t mean we are immune from ‘relationship challenges’ and no longer have to deal with ‘personalities’.
- Peeling back the layers of not only comphet, (compulsory heterosexuality), but also patriarchy, misogyny, and capitalism, to realize that most, if not ALL, of our beliefs and traditions and cultural ‘norms’ need to be reinspected by each of us - least of which is the concept of monogamous relationships; or, that there is just “one person” out-there for us; or that, once in a committed relationship, that it is ‘for life’ - it may not be.
- To be open to the possibility that being in a relationship is an opportunity to learn and grow from within - to heal our wounds and grow. And that once a relationship may have run-its-course, that perhaps it was an experience in our life to purposefully teach us a needed lesson. “Relationships” can, and possibly should, be looked upon as a beautiful string of experiences with all different kinds of people.
- How “expectations” are the death to every and all relationships and experiences. Let go of expectations and allow yourself to experience the joy and wonder of that particular moment, and then the next moment, and the next.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
SAMANTHA FOX - THE LESBIAN CURIOSITY COACH:
Website-https://www.lesbiancuriositycoach.com
TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach
Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/
YouTube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ
ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:
(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023
(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”
To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the these Retreats, (Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutla
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin sits down to chat with the 2023 Rehoboth Beach, DE “Women’s Fest” Co-Chairs.
In this “Women’s Fest” episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you'll learn . . .
- That the Coming Out Late Community is organizing a Retreat to Women’s Fest ‘23, located in Rehoboth Beach, DE April 27-30th, 2023.
- The importance of “community” when coming out later in life - finding “community” at safe lgbtq+ events, like, Women’s Fest.
- The history of Women’s Fest and Camp Rehoboth.
- What can we expect to do from Thursday through Sunday at Women’s Fest ‘23.
- From Singles Speed Dating, to an all-female vendor expo, to dances, music, comedy and entertainment, and sports, there are TONS of ways to make new memories, forge new friendships and be out and proud - whether it’s your first time at a gay women’s event, or you’ve been going to them for years - Women’s Fest sure seems designed to provide lots of opportunities for fun-in-the-sun at the beach!
- Learn all about Camp Rehoboth by visiting their website at: www.camprehoboth.com.
- If you have any questions regarding Women’s Fest, feel free to email either of them at: (Teri) Teri@camprehoboth.com, or (Karen) Karen@camprehoboth.com.
- To join the Coming Out Late Retreat, attending Women’s Fest in April, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:
(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023
(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”
To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the these Retreats, (Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
“WOMEN’S FEST” RETREAT, REHOBOTH BEACH, DE
For more information about the details of the “Women’s Fest” weekend itself, keep an eye out for their updated information to be available by the end of February. They are slowly adding information to their website as their event details get solidified; you can go to: https://www.camprehoboth.com//womensfest.
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FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:
@late.blooming.lesbian
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Support Groups are coming back for 20
In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues her conversation with Krista, a 49-year old late bloomer. Krista never really used any labels for herself regarding how she felt about boys and girls, men and women - but she did know she was never really enamored with ‘guys’, when all of her female school friends were! After a secret relationship with a girl in high school, (they even went to the high school Prom together), Krista moved out of state for college and married a man when she was quite young. The minute she left that 3-year marriage, (and around the time of her college graduation), her very first thought turned to - you guessed it - WOMEN! But, not knowing where to find her community of gay women or how to even begin to date a woman, Krista’s attention was distracted by a very nice young guy, who she would ultimately marry.
In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will hear Krista talk about . . .
- WHO and HOW she was outed to her husband.
- Does anyone, besides us, have the ‘right’ to out us to people we know/love?
- Krista’s plans for her future: divorce? Move out?
- Learning to NOT JUDGE someone when they’ve had an affair. “Acceptance” and “kindness” is always the better way to go, versus ‘judgment’.
- What constitutes an ‘affair’? Is the thinking around ‘affairs’ also an old construct that needs to be re-thought and re-visited?
- Letting go of an unhealthy catalyst relationship.
- Am I still gay if I’m no longer with my catalyst?
- Making gay friends is soooooo important! Building healthy friendships and building a gay community should be the priority over a relationship.
- Recognizing unhealthy self-soothing behaviors (i.e., ‘shopping’), and recognizing codependent behavior!
- Get outside in nature; get to know yourself more - spend alone time w/yourself.
- How 1:1 private Coaching w/Robin has helped Krista out enormously; Robin has helped her with her catalyst experience, the messy middle, and moving forward.
- If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:
(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023
(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”
To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
“WOMEN’S FEST” RETREAT, REHOBOTH BEACH, DE
For more information about the details of the “Women’s Fest” weekend itself, they are slowly adding information to their website as their event details get solidified; you can go to: https://www.camprehoboth.com//womensfest.
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In this Part 1 episode, Robin interviews 49-year old late bloomer, Krista. Krista was originally from Nebraska and New Mexico before her family moved to Texas where she lived until graduating from high school. Krista never really used any labels for herself regarding how she felt about boys and girls, men and women - but she did know she was never really enamored with ‘guys’, when all of her female school friends were! After a secret relationship with a girl in high school, (they even went to the high school Prom together), Krista moved out of state for college and married a man quite young. The minute she left that 3-year marriage, (and around the time of her college graduation), her very first thought turned to - you guessed it - WOMEN! But, not knowing where to find her community of gay women or how to even begin to date a woman, Krista’s attention was distracted by a very nice young guy, who she would ultimately marry.
In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will hear Krista talk about . . .
- Her early upbringing, and whether or not her parents and siblings were religious or not?
- Krista’s recollection of how she felt about ‘guys’ growing up..
- Krista’s ‘secret’ relationship with a girl in high school, and how was it that they even went to the Prom together!
- Krista married a guy quite young, pretty much at the start of her college career.
- What were Krista’s first thoughts after the dissolution of her first, brief marriage?
- How did Krista finally confirm her fondness for women?
- If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:
(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023
(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”
To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:
@late.blooming.lesbian
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from either 7pm to 8:15pm EST or 8pm EST to 9:15pm sharp. If group members wish to stay longer than the allotted 75 minutes, Robin will leave the Zoom Room open f
In this Part 2 episode of “Life After Coming Out Late”, Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer and Women Loving Women support group friend, Cheryl. Cheryl left us hanging in Part 1, as to what her life looks like now, now that she has settled-into her own place and helping her daughter get settled and adjusted as well. Having no previous experience ‘being’ with a woman, let alone ever having dated a woman, Cheryl was in no rush to get herself ‘out there’ on the dating scene. Instead, she found so much comfort and value in getting to know herself more deeply, and being available to her daughter. Through this conversation with Cheryl & Valerie, once again, Robin shows us the importance of “representation” and how vital it is for us to share our coming out late stories with one another. When others hear our stories, (especially others questioning their own sexuality), they learn that they are not alone, and that there IS hope. What a gift we can give one another, simply by sharing our stories.
In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . .
- Who Valerie is, and what HER ‘Coming Out Lte” story is.
- How Valerie did not necessarily see or find “representation” either, and there really wasn’t anyone around to talk about what she was feeling & experiencing.
- Once Valerie WAS around other queer people, how easy it was to slip right into the group, feel accepted, and understand herself WAY more clearly!
- About Valerie’s very brief and underwhelming experience on the dating apps, and why she chose to take a break from them.
- How Valerie & Cheryl met and what their life is like now.
- Are long distance relationships worth it?
- What are the pluses and minuses of dating someone from another country?
- If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.
There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:
(a) Florida in March: Jacksonville Beach, FL; March 16, 17, 18, and 19, 2023,
(b) Phoenix / Scottsdale, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023
c) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”
To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held
In this episode, Robin meets back up with an old Women Loving Women Support Group pal, Cheryl. It’s been a little over a year, and Robin wants to know what Cheryl has been up to since coming out late. Robin asks Cheryl to share with us what her life was like BEFORE coming out, how DID she realize she was gay and come out, and what ‘life’ has been like since surviving the dreaded messy middle. Through this conversation with Cheryl & Valerie, once again, Robin shows us the importance of “representation” and how vital it is for us to share our coming out late stories, so others hearing our stories who are possibly questioning their own sexualities, won’t feel so alone, and know that there IS hope beyond our compulsory heteronormative lives!
In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . .
- How the lack of talking about emotions and ‘things’ in Cheryl’s upbringing led to figuring ‘things’ out on her own.
- How one can be an open-minded, liberal, “feeler”, (and thinker), but without representation, how is one able to understand and learn about LGBTQ+ topics? “Being gay wasn’t really a thing - everyone was hetero and that was that…”
- How making “safe choices” in life, particularly early in life, turns out NOT necessarily to be “the” way to proceed with life!
- How lockdown during Covid forced us ALL to look inward; there were no more distractions or ways to stay super busy - forcing us to look within!
- What tools you can use to help with self-reflection and going inward.
- This Late Bloomers’ reaction to her own coming out - her “Aha!” moment.
- What to do next when we realize: “...I’m not living the life that I should be…”
- To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.
There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:
(a) Florida in March: Jacksonville Beach, FL; March 16, 17, 18, and 19, 2023,
(b) Phoenix / Scottsdale, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023
c) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”
To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:
@late.blooming.lesbian
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from either 7p
In this episode, Robin sets the tone for 2023 - not only for herself - but she challenges us all to think about setting some conscious intentions for our lives in 2023. Robin asks us to ponder and select one word that will be our battle-cry for all of 2023.
In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . .
- What is conscious awareness?
- Why is it important to be consciously-aware?
- What does it mean to ‘set-intentions’?
- What are the benefits of setting intentions?
- How can setting-intentions help you on your coming out journey?
- Why you should listen to your body & heart, instead of your mind.
- How focusing on one word can help with personal growth and progress
- To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:
@late.blooming.lesbian
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from 8pm EST to 9:15pm sharp. If group members wish to stay longer than the allotted 75 minutes, Robin will leave the Zoom Room open for as long as you all wish to stay, but Robin will be leaving the group at 9:15pm EST. For more details and to be added to the Support Group Wait List, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. PLEASE NOTE: One Wednesday will be the “Women Loving Women” support group, alternating Wednesdays with “Fifty Plus & Fabulous”, for women close-to 50 years old and over. ANYONE can join the “Women Loving Women” Group.
BISEXUALLY SPEAKING: SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION MEETS WEEKLY:The weekly group, “Bisexually Speaking” continues to be available for anyone who identifies as gay, AND of course, for anyone who identifies or thinks they are bisexual. We do not turn anyone away who wishes to try attending a small group discussion, questions where on the gay spectrum you fall, or simply needs a support group.
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:(a) Florida in March,
(b) Arizona in mid-April, and
c) “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE.
To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
In this episode, Robin again breaks the mold in the world of LGBTQ+ podcasting by introducing us to yet another one of her listeners, via a letter she received from Helen. Like the previous letter read in last season’s Episode #55 by Michelle in Australia, Robin received a letter from Helen, outlining her very painful and difficult 2022, complete with Helen’s coming out story. Robin was so struck by Helen’s vulnerability, the pain she is working through, the self-discovery she is experiencing, and of course, her beautiful coming out story, that she knew she had to share Helen’s story with us. In fact, Helen shared her story with Robin as an offering for it to be read on the podcast. But Robin knew that the impact of Helen’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Helen herself. So, Robin asked and Helen agreed to read her own letter, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.
Helen’s real, raw and relatable story shares with us the following . . .
- How grief, gender dysphoria, autism, intersex, bisexuality, and ultimately, butch lesbian ALL came to light in Helen’s world in 2022!
- How Helen has to deal with the guilt that SHE has survived and is now free to turn away from her deceased husband, after 34 years of marriage, and move on with her life. And, with him now being gone, and her alone, she must now choose a different path to her future than the one in which they had originally planned for themselves together. After all, “Life” is for the Living, is it not?
- What is gender dysphoria? “Gender Dysphoria” is defined as: a term that describes a sense of unease that a person may have because of a mismatch, or incongruence, between their biological sex and their gender identity. This sense of unease or dissatisfaction may be so intense it can lead to depression and anxiety and have a harmful impact on daily life.
- What it means to be Intersex: Intersex describes naturally occurring variations in biological sex characteristics. These differences may be apparent at birth or may not be recognized until later in life. Oftentimes, a person will go through life fully unaware that they have an intersex variation. Intersex is both a biological state and, in recent years, a group identity for people who have been historically stigmatized for being born with bodies that do not align with the binary definition of "boy/girl," "man/woman," or "male/female."
- The realization of masculine secondary sexual characteristics such as: the need to shave her facial hair, a deeper voice than ‘typical’ of females, and a more muscular physicality.
- Helen’s initial declaration of being bisexual, only later to publicly announce and acknowledge her lifelong butch lesbian inclinations.
- Her realization that, at the moment, ‘living her dream’ has nothing to do with attracting others, but it’s about at last learning how to love and accept herself for who she truly is, AND enjoying being that person.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, HELEN FLACK:
Thank you Helen for sharing your story full of your experience, strength and hope with us, and for taking the time to write and record this episode for us.
To learn more and/or to make a donation in Simon Flack’s name, please visit: https://sitran.org/support-us/how-donate/. The Sheffield Institute for Translational Neuroscience (SITraN) is known for their groundbreaking research into ALS or MND. Within their website, there is another link, which when visited, provides details on how American taxpayers can claim a tax deduction for gifts made to the "University of Sheffield in America". Sincere thanks
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FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:
@late.blooming.lesbian
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! But they are not going to be called “Support Groups”, they will be called Small Group Coaching Sessions with a 3-month, weekly commitment expected and paid for in advance. The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from 8pm EST to 9:15pm sharp. If group members wish to stay longer than the allotted 75 minutes, Robin will leave the Zoom Room open for as long as you all wish to stay, but Robin will be leaving the group at 9:15pm EST. For more details and to be added to the Small Group Coaching Wait List, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. PLEASE NOTE: One Wednesday will be the “Women Loving Women” small group coaching session, alternating Wednesdays with “Fifty Plus & Fabulous”, for women close-to 50 years old and over. ANYONE can join the “Women Loving Women” Group.
BISEXUALLY SPEAKING: SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION MEETS WEEKLY:The weekly group, “Bisexually Speaking” continues to be available for anyone who identifies as gay, AND of course, for anyone who identifies or thinks they are bisexual. We do not turn anyone away who wishes to try attending a small group discussion, questions where on the gay spectrum you fall, or simply needs a support group.
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to somewhere in Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix, or Scottsdale, Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
In this Part Two episode, Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer and LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach AND Spiritual Mentor, Kari DeWitt. Robin picks back up with the challenging question for Kari, “...how do we help our LGBTQ+ coming out late community overcome debilitating feelings of selfishness while they’re navigating their new trajectory in life as a gay person…?” Kari’s answer may surprise you. Likewise, Robin and Kari also look back at how much about themselves and about their lives have changed, in just one short year.
In this episode you will also hear Robin and Kari talk about . . .
- How Kari’s look has changed over the past year; how she identifies today, as opposed to a year ago, and what she ‘labels’ herself as today.
- There are no rules when it comes to who you are ‘supposed’ to be.
- Give yourself permission to play with the way you look, the way you wear your hair, the way you sound and how you talk. Experiment and play around and when something feels right or you say, “Ooh, I like the way that looks. I like the way I feel when I wear my hair this way…”
- Stand in your power and simply ‘be’. It’s OK to just ‘be’.
- When we act, and live-in authenticity, we give everyone else who hears and sees us living authentically, permission to do the same.
- In accepting ourselves, our queerness, we are taking one step closer in accepting that ‘things’ change in life; things change all the time in life.
- ‘Things’ don’t happen TO-us in life; ‘things’ happen FOR us in our lives.
- We all need to learn to ‘let go’ and trust that we’re always taken care of and everything that’s happening in our lives is happening for us.
- Kari reveals HER secret to living an authentic and soulful life - it’s all in the STARs: Surrendering, Trusting, Allowing, and finally, Releasing.
- Learn to love yourself first; we simply cannot fully love another human being until we learn how to love ourselves first.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, KARI DEWITT:
To learn more about Kari DeWitt and her LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach, AND Spiritual Mentor offerings, go to: https://www.karidewitt.com
TO LISTEN TO EPISODE #5, MY NOVEMBER 2021 CONVERSATION w/KARI DEWITT, GO TO:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000540356354
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to the western coast of Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix, or Scottsdale, Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
In this episode, Robin talks with Kari DeWitt, an LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach as well as a Spiritual Mentor. This is not Robin & Kari’s first rodeo or podcast episode together - Robin interviewed Kari back in Episode 5 of the “Coming Out Late” podcast in November of 2021, as her first-ever podcast guest. Back then, they chatted with one another about all-things LGBTQ+, sharing bits ‘n pieces of their own coming out late stories, as well as talking about the enormous growth each were experiencing in their own private Facebook groups, Kari’s “Late Bloomer Lesbians + Support Group”, and Robin’s “Coming Out Late” group. A year later, they pick up where they left off, continuing to address LGBTQ topics, but this time perhaps, in more broader terms as they zoom-out from their microscopic views of simply coming out late, and explore the deeper realms of what their queer awakening may really mean.
In this episode you will hear Robin and Kari discuss . . .
- How has Kari’s coming out late journey changed in the year that passed since Kari was last on the “Coming Out Late” podcast?
- What has Kari learned about herself and about her sexuality in the last year?
- Has the “landscape” of coming out changed at all, in the last year?
- What has ‘spirituality’ have to do with my gayness, my coming out?.
- This is bigger than our sexuality; our awareness and declaration of our queerness is a stepping stone to something greater for each of us.
- What is the difference between ‘woke’, and ‘being awake’?
- Awakening to our true ‘beingness’ also gives space for other doors to open and for you to get curious in your life.
- We each have a purpose here. We came into this life as this particular human to have this particular experience, to learn a specific lesson.
- What is the kryptonite for ‘shame’ and ‘guilt’? Helping women get closer to their authentic self, which is soul - that which is greater than ourselves.
- Getting quiet with yourself long enough to be able to have a relationship with this inner being.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, KARI DEWITT:
To learn more about Kari DeWitt and her LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach, AND Spiritual Mentor offerings, go to: https://www.karidewitt.com
TO LISTEN TO EPISODE #5, MY NOVEMBER 2021 CONVERSATION w/KARI DEWITT, GO TO:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000540356354
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to the western coast of Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix, or Scottsdale, Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
In this episode, Robin interviews late bloomer and emotional wellness coach, Dee Burrell. Robin and Dee’s chemistry and easy-conversation style make it easy to ponder the possibilities that our thoughts are not who we are - that they’re just thoughts. Likewise, the two discuss and disclose what it was like to realize you are gay at the age of 5 but living in the south being raised a staunch southern baptist. After four children, eight years of clawing her way out of the closet and fourteen years of a hetero-normative marriage, it is obvious to Robin’s listeners that Dee IS finally living her best life.
In this episode you will hear Robin and Dee talk about . . .
- What does it mean when Dee says, “...we are not our thoughts?”
- What external factors impact and affect our inner knowing?
- How adult questioning, when we’re young, can be SO off-putting and presumptuous. For Dee, something didn’t fit their line of questioning.
- Dee recalls thinking, “...I’d grow out of it, I’d marry a man, I’d have kids…you know, I’d do all the things that were expected of me…”
- Choosing the men we are to marry: “...you’ll do just fine; you’re smart, you’re attractive…we’ll have adorable babies…you know, like, this is what I’m supposed to do…” We convince ourselves that THIS is where we’re supposed to be.
- Our lives, and our marriages, they were definitely NOT what they appeared to be; people looking from the outside in, idolized what they thought we had.
- Typically, NONE of the ‘things’ that we are terrified will happen, ever happen at all. They are all just thoughts in our minds, stories we tell ourselves that don’t even exist.
- Using personal development tools to get through familial betrayal.
- Allowing ourselves to feel ALL the feelings. Do not resist the hard feelings. What we resist, persists.
- Our power is latent in us all; we just need develop the courage to tap into it.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, DEE BURRELL:
To learn more about Dee Burrell and her emotional wellness offerings, go to: https://www.sapphiccoaching.com
THE 2023 VISION BOARD WORKSHOP:Take advantage of the special Presale Offer to join the year-long, 2023 Vision Board Workshop by registering before January 1st in order to snag the $249 presale deal. Starting January 1st, registration into this one-of-a-kind Workshop goes up to $299 per person, for the year-long Workshop. To find out how you can Register and pay NOW, please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” in Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode, Robin debuts a new segment of her podcast called, “Consider the Possibility”. In “Consider the Possibility”, Robin introduces a particular topic or theme or idea that she hopes will help us all think a little deeper, feel a little more awakened and possibly even inspire us to act a little differently as we navigate through this journey of life and of coming out.
In this episode you will consider the possibility of ‘impermanence’ and learn . . .
- What is the meaning of ‘impermanence’, and why is it important?
- How does ‘impermanence’ affect us: Emotionally? Socially? Intellectually? Mentally? Spiritually? Physically?
- Does the knowledge of ‘impermanence’ affect our daily lives?
- Does ‘impermanence’ impact our mindfulness and being present in the moment?
- What are the benefits of accepting ‘impermanence’?
- What can happen if we do not accept the idea of ‘impermanence’?
- By embracing ‘impermanence’, we learn acceptance and that ‘change’ is inevitable.
- How does the intersection of ‘impermanence’ and ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.Get on the waiting list for the March 2023 Coming Out Late Retreat to be held in the Phoenix or Scottsdale, Arizona area by emailing ARIZONA to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
THE 2023 VISION BOARD WORKSHOP:Get on the waiting list for the January, 4-week Vision Board Workshop. Cost includes instruction and guidance, assessments, four, weekly 90-minute Workshop sessions and three additional quarterly, hour-long accountability meetings throughout the year. To be added to the Waitlist and for more information about the workshop, please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Greg Sowell, host of his own podcast called, “Why Am I?” Greg’s premise behind his “Why Am I?” podcast, is that he likes talking to interesting people and tries to trace a path to where they were to where they find themselves today. Nonetheless, Robin makes an excellent guest on his show, because clearly her path to where she was to where she finds herself today is quite an unlikely path indeed.
In this episode, you will hear Greg interview Robin and learn . . .
- How and why Robin became a solopreneur, and what that means. (Hint: an unexpected and abrupt - and illegal - ending to her marital alimony suddenly had Robin scrambling to support herself.)
- Why Robin thinks we are all going through a metamorphosis throughout our lives, explaining why it’s important we embrace change and impermanence, because nothing stays the same - change is inevitable.
- Robin says, “...I always knew there was something more for me to do, to accomplish…always wanting to know my purpose in life…”
- How Robin followed the breadcrumbs along a 10-year journey.
- Recuperating from her nearly three-year divorce and how two and a half years after her divorce, she was faced with a very difficult financial and legal decision.
- How Robin freed herself from being beholden to her ex-husband, wanting to be fully self-sufficient and independent - depending only on herself.
- Theories on why there are droves of people coming out late in the last 4-7 years; and how many come out near their 30th, 40th, 50th, 60th, 70th+ birthdays.
- Coming to terms with being gay and how we choose to express ourselves (as gay people), publicly, AND, reconciling that expression of our gayness.
- Fear paralyzes us. When you’re feeling the fear, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” Feel the fear and do it anyway.
- What roles do ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: A Conversation with Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More”, and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne & Lena Schwen.You can purchase the RECORDING from this Speaker Summit by sending $27 to either Venmo: @comingoutlater or PayPal: @NovareInternational, THEN emailing Robin at Comingoutlater@gmail.com, to request your copy of the Recording.
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:
Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137
Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST
(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Abigail, a relatively new, self-proclaimed pansexual, and Host of her own podcast all about relationships called, “The Manic Pixie Weirdo”. The week before this episode aired with Robin, Abigail did a solo episode on her podcast called, “My Relationship with Coming Out”, and therefore wanted to interview Robin to learn more about her own relationship with coming out, and what Robin’s process was like.
In this episode, you will hear Abigail interview Robin and learn about . . .
- My “Aha!” moment, at 54 years young!
- My ten-year span of ‘awakening’ after a lifetime of heteronormativity.
- There’s no puttin’ the genie back in the bottle once she pops out!
- There are two camps of women: those who ‘knew’ but for external societal reasons had to stuff it down; and those of us who stuffed it so far down, (due to implicit societal reasons), that it took decades to ‘know’.
- How inexplicable, confusing infatuations back then, make complete sense now.
- Do we need ‘labels’? Do we want labels?
- Married women liking women: oh my gosh, this IS a ‘thing’!
- How do you know for sure you’re gay, having never been intimate with a woman?
- Is it ‘normal’ to feel resentments about NOT coming out sooner?
- In what ways have I, and do ‘we’, personally grow, since coming out?
- I’ve come out late in life, so, what else don’t I know about myself?
- Everything in my life happens FOR me, not TO me!
- Hetero-dating versus same-sex dating - who makes the first move? How do you flirt?
- Indoctrinating yourself into the gay culture; ask for guidance if you need it.
- When in doubt, just use “ya’ll” for everyone’s pronouns.
- Coming out later: is self-care selfish?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THE FIRST “COMING OUT LATE” RETREAT OF 2023:
Come join Robin and your coming out late peers at the very first retreat of 2023 in March, in Phoenix Arizona. To be added to the Phoenix Retreat waiting list, email Robin your name to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: A Conversation with Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More”, and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne & Lena Schwen.You can purchase the RECORDING from this Speaker Summit by sending $27 to either Venmo: @comingoutlater or PayPal: @NovareInternational, THEN emailing Robin at Comingoutlater@gmail.com, to request your copy of the Recording.
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:
Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137
Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST
(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
In this episode, Robin takes us back into an inside look, (“Part Two”), into several really poignant conversations that took place in one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group this particular week, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners.
In this Part Two episode, you will hear and learn about . . .
- We pick up the conversation with the idea that ‘feeling uncomfortable’ and ‘feeling uncertain’ are simply aspects of life that we must accept. That we must get comfortable with being UNcomfortable; that we must learn how to be comfortable while also feeling uncertainty.
- We talk about how “we don’t HAVE to make this moment, or this situation tolerable for everyone else just so that I can tolerate it.”
- We collectively agreed that we WISHED someone would have said to us, as young girls, that it’s ok to disappoint people - that they’ll be ok. We shared what the magnitude of that conversation would have had on our young lives, and beyond, had we been told that it’s ok to disappoint others.
- How much growth and ‘riches’ exist in the sitting-in the unknown, and sitting in the discomfort.
- We learned how to manipulate and control as a result of feeling out of control growing up; those tactics and auto-responses come with us into our adult relationships.
- Learning to feel safe and trustworthy within ourselves.
- As children, we learned coping mechanisms to conform and ‘not disappoint’ in order to keep the peace. As adults, we need to shed these coping mechanisms that no longer serve us when we learn to trust ourselves.
- THIS is it! A declaration - no longer a question!
- Staying (in my marriage or hetero-relationship would have been easier. Easier for who? What IS “easier”?
- Don’t look back(wards). Appreciate the experiences that made us into who we are today. We are the sum of ALL of our experiences!
- Our lives unfold precisely how they are meant to unfold.
- Our lives, our stories do NOT have to look like everyone else’s.
- What does “gay” look like today? How do you represent? If you’re very femme, how do you let others know you’re gay?
- Some Bonus conversation about Episode #55, and if/how we should come out to elderly parents and grandparents.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: How to Handle the Holidays Before, During or After Coming Out!!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Register for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:
Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137
Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST
(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode, Robin shares with us an inside look into one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group, on this particular day, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners.
In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .
- We initially opened the conversation by pondering the following comment/question: “Do you find that it’s much more intense dating women than men?”
- Discussing that first question then morphed into us discussing THIS question: “Have you found it hard to not get caught up in the ‘new relationship energy’ feelings? What are some tools you would suggest to help with those intense ‘new relationship energy’ feelings?”
- Feel the feelings. Feel ALL the feelings. BUT…do NOT let new relationship-energy cloud your judgment!
- What is New Relationship Energy? (NRE)? And is it something to avoid, fear or dive-into?
- How do recovering people pleasers handle the intoxicating feelings from new relationship energy? Are there tools to deal with new relationship energy?
- How do you transition, within a relationship, from ‘new relationship energy’, to something more sustainable? From obsession to success & sustainable?
- The importance of our female friendships and their ability to tell us with loving kindness the difficult things we need to hear about ourselves.
- Setting realistic expectations for yourself, AND within a relationship.
- The value in maintaining personal autonomy within your relationship.
- While sounding cliché, the critical nature of communication in ALL of our (close) relationships.
- Trusting our feelings and our intuition.
- Tools for our personal growth.
- Having everything, but still feeling, “...is this it?”
- If somebody would have just said this to me when I was a little girl . . .
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: Handling the Ho-Ho-Ho-mophobia During the Holidays!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Register for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:
Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137
Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST
(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode, Robin is being interviewed by Annie McKinnon, creator and Host of “Talking All Things LGBTQ”. With a full year under her belt, since starting her own podcast and coming out to the world in the first few episodes, this is an interesting inside look at Robin’s recount of her story a year later, as well as her reflecting on the many lessons she has learned along the way. One thing she knows for sure, is that loving a woman has been a beautiful journey and “easier” for her, than loving and being involved with a man, but? It is not always easy either!
In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .
- Sleep-walking through life, then married with children for 28+ years - but the Universe was whispering a different message to me.
- Compulsory-Heteronormativity and deep social conditioning.
- Fearing the unknown; we fear what we do not understand.
- What is homophobia? Is it innate? Is it real? Is it suppressed? Learned?
- Stuffing down and numbing the feelings.
- Unconventional research to figure this sh*t out! And meeting the women who gave me absolute affirmation, confirmation and validation.
- The “Aha!” moment; and how did that feel - in the moment?
- The painful Messy Middle, dealing with my divorce and telling my children.
- That moment when I knew my life, (moving forward), was never going to be the same.
- Coming clean to my loved ones - regardless of their potential reactions.
- Through self-assessment and self-reflection, you will learn your attachment styles, love languages, and self-love.
- Learn by doing: educating ourselves with every interaction and every relationship we have, and asking yourself: are you well-aligned with this person in all aspects of being human?
- Book:, “Attachment Theory: by Joan
- Our awakening to our sexuality is our super power!
- Unlearning old values and beliefs. Is that MY belief or someone else’s ‘voice’?
- Q: “When can I put all this (difficult stuff) behind me?” A: “When you take the time to put it in front of you.”
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:
Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137
Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST
(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:
For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!
In this episode, Robin discusses the in’s and out’s of relational compatibility, emotional EQ, timing, chemistry and of course, ‘curiosity’ with friend, colleague and Lesbian Curiosity Coach herself, Samantah Fox.
In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .
- Figuring out chemistry: even with video-chatting, and audio-texting constantly, ‘chemistry’ may be evident for some, and not for others; everyone processes at their own pace and in their own way.
- The importance of understanding each other’s ‘intentions’ for meeting, AND, being open and honest about your wants, needs, intentions and expectations. The importance of gaining CLARITY!
- The importance of understanding your own “triggers” and what makes you put your guard-up and what you can do to avoid misunderstandings and miscommunications.
- The importance of REALLY recognizing when you and another person are misaligned. It is SO common, (and SO unhealthy) for us to, (all along the course of getting to know someone), hope and dream for ‘her’ and for ‘things’ to be a certain way, when they really aren’t.
- The necessity of self-assessment and self-awareness in order to figure out what you want and need in a relationship; AND, be open to the possibility that those things you think you need and want may change and evolve.
- How much it matters that two people are, (as much as possible), in very similar points in their lives as they try to enter into a relationship with one another, (i.,e., just divorcing, the messy middle, new to dating, been out for several years, in an open marriage, not out to anyone yet, etc.).
- No matter where you are in the “Coming Out Late” journey, the necessity of learning who you are; being rigorously honest with yourself and others.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THE LESBIAN CURIOSITY COACH - SAMANTHA FOX
website-https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com
TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach
Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/
YouTube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:
Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137
Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST
(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:
For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!
In this episode, Robin continues to break the mold in the world of LGBTQ podcasting by introducing us to one of her listeners, Michelle, hailing all the way from Australia. Robin was so struck by a note she received from Michelle, that she knew she had to share it with her listener’s, with MIchelle’s consent of course. Robin also knew that the impact of Michelle’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Michelle herself. So, Michelle agreed to read her own letter to Robin, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.
Whether covered directly, or implied, this episode touches upon topics which get us thinking about . . .
- The universal nature of coming out late, no matter where in the world we live.
- The effect of women in non-traditional, but male-dominated occupations.
- Is it a woman’s responsibility to help make a man feel ‘whole’ if he feels emasculated or threatened by a woman?
- Being with men, cutting off bits of myself and making myself smaller in order that they would feel like men.
- Many of the late in life stories include complex arrangements and rearrangements of marriage and children and Incredibly courageous and challenging journeys. This guest doesn’t have children, and is not married.
- There is more to “identity” than just our sexuality.
- A life lived out of other people's expectations is a life dominated by fear and resentment.
- Being honest with other women, from the very start.
- Am I an “L”? A “B”? Or maybe a “P”? Do we need labels? How do I flirt with a woman?
- Do I now need to dress differently and wear beanies?
- Which life-lived is my real reality? Everything feels completely flipped upside-down, or sideways, or completely averse.
- Sexual identity versus cultural conditioning; internalized homophobia, people pleasing and the female anatomy.
- It seemed that the rainbow world offered many possibilities for stepping out of one cage and into another.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:
For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:
Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137
Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST
(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode, Robin continues the candid and informative conversation with the members of her weekly Women Loving Women Wednesday evening support group about Online Dating and Internet Safety with former Detective Sergeant Becky Rodgers. They talk about, and engage others to discuss, how and what it means to stay safe in AND out of the online dating apps as well as in and around the internet in general. This conversation was recorded with permission by ALL participants who attended this support group. Our Women Loving Women Wednesday night support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different feelings, emotions, challenges and celebrations associated with Coming Out Late in ‘today’s’ hetero-world AND gay environment. This casual, open discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.
In this episode, you will learn . . .
- The common patterns & tactics that catfish and scammers use on us.
- To develop the ability to know what to look for and listen-for.
- Where and where not to go on a first ‘date’ with someone you’ve met online..
- Safety tips and tricks to use when you DO go out on that first date.
- How long should you wait before suggesting to meet in-person?
- What kinds of homework you should be doing, before meeting/engaging w/someone online.
- The consequences of sending/sharing nude & suggestive photos.
- Internet safety for your children.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:
For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:
Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137
Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST
(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode, Robin invites the members of her weekly Women Loving Women Wednesday evening support group to join her in a candid and informative conversation with former Detective Sergeant Becky Rodgers. They talk about, and engage others to discuss, how and what it means to stay safe in AND out of the online dating apps as well as in and around the internet in general. This conversation was recorded with permission by ALL participants who attended this support group. Our Women Loving Women Wednesday night support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different feelings, emotions, challenges and celebrations associated with Coming Out Late in ‘today’s’ hetero-world AND gay environment. This casual, open discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.
In this episode, you will learn . . .
- How to spot/identify predators, scammers and catfish.
- To develop the ability to know what to look for and listen-for.
- To be able to identify red flags and not fall into traps.
- How to become a harder target.
- Why do the various predator tactics work on us?
- How to conduct self-assessments, making ourselves a harder target.
- The psychology behind why we get scammed.
- How to spot and understand our own exploitable vulnerabilities.
- How to catch our own catfish.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:
For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet SPeaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:
Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137
Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues the conversation with the people in her weekly Bisexually Speaking support group continuing to discuss what it’s like to not only come out late, but come out late AND bisexual - it’s a complex journey. Robin’s weekly support group, Bisexually, is not always recorded, but we collectively agreed that it was time to record this conversation in an effort to begin dispelling the many myths surrounding being a bisexual, and coming out late today. The Bisexually Speaking support group gives participants the chance to talk-out and tell their stories regarding all of the different ways that coming out as bisexual can look in ‘today’s’ gay world - all in a virtual, private, safe, and supportive environment. This pre-recroded, casual, roundtable discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, lots to reflect on, and reveals just some of the many challenges a woman might face if coming out late, AND coming out as bisexual.
In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . .
- What DOES “being bisexual” mean?.
- Why are ‘veteran’ lesbians so judgmental and opinionated toward late blooming bisexuals?
- To ‘label’, or not to ‘label’? Who’s decision is it anyway?
- Can I give myself permission to fall in love with whomever I want to fall in love with?
- Are there different “attraction” categories too?
- Should we react-to and stop “outside forces/strangers” from labeling and boxing-in our young children with hetero-norms?
- The multitude of myths about bisexuality.
- Was there any gay sexuality representation when you were growing up? If not, would it have made a difference in your coming out journey?
- Is “representing” your gay sexuality important to you?
- In what ways do YOU “represent”, or show-up-for your sexuality?
- What is the “default” and do we need to get away from it?
- Ask ourselves: how do I want to GIVE myself to another person?
- What are the different categories of attraction?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:
Mark your calendars and plan to join us Virtually on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality and Compulsory Heteronormativity. ALL ARE WELCOME!!
EARLY BIRD SAVINGS ends on 9/21/22!!!
CAN’T ATTEND “LIVE”? Purchase the recording for $27. Learn how by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
Here’s the link to Register and pay IF attending it LIVE:
https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID’s and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode, Robin invites the members of her weekly Bisexually Speaking support group to join her in a candid and complex conversation about what does it mean to be bisexual in 2022-2023, AND, what is it like coming out late AND coming out as bisexual. Recorded with permission, the Bisexually Speaking support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different ways that Coming Out as Bisexual can look in ‘today’s’, gay environment; as well as what are some of the challenges a woman might face if coming out late, AND coming out as bisexual. This casual, roundtable discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.
In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . .
- How and why bisexuality is NOT the same as ethical nonmonogamy or polyamory.
- Reconstructing what your marriage looks like versus leaving your spouse/partner.
- Why ‘change’ doesn’t happen overnight.
- As a bisexual, where do I ‘belong’ in terms of “community”?
- What is my ‘relationship capacity’?
- Will my husband agree to me dating a woman, outside my marriage?
- Is bisexuality ‘real’?
- The multitude of bisexuality Myths.
- What is the difference between bisexuality and pan-sexuality?
- When your husband doesn’t want you to fall in love with a woman, (but it’s ok if you have a physical relationship with a woman).
- WHat are the different types & styles of relationship models?
- Will my husband be comfortable with me dating a woman?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:
Mark your calendars and plan to join us Virtually on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality and Compulsory Heteronormativity. ALL ARE WELCOME!!
EARLY BIRD SAVINGS ends on 9/21/22!!!
CAN’T ATTEND “LIVE”? Purchase the recording for $27. Learn how by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
Here’s the link to Register and pay IF attending it LIVE:
https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID’s and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin introduces you to two new friends of hers - Rebecca and Issy, the co-founders of YES!, via an episode of one of their very own podcasts. YES! is a nonprofit educational organization that provides sex-positive, intersectional, consent-based, sexuality education to people of ALL ages. Yes! stands for Your Empowered Sexuality. They offer anti-oppressive and shame-free educational programs using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums - both virtually and in-person. And YES! has their own podcast too, called, What Is Sex?
So, why does Robin want you to listen to an episode of YES!’s podcast today? To get you familiar with this incredible non-profit, because the Co-Founders of YES! have accepted our invitation to be our guest speakers at the upcoming virtual Coming Out Late Speaker Summit on Wednesday evening, September 28 at 7pm EST. They are joining us on September 28th to talk with us about comphet, (compulsory-heterosexuality), a topic which affects us ALL in the LGBTQIA+ community.
In the meantime, Robin thought it would be fun for you to listen to one of their podcast episodes appropriately called, “How do you know that you’re gay?”, which originally aired in S2:E4 of What Is Sex?, on October 11, 2020.
In this episode of What Is Sex?, “How do you know that you’re gay?”, you will hear YES! Co-Founders Rebecca and Issy talk about . . .
- The question behind the question, “when do you first remember wondering if you are gay?”
- Did you ever think about women/girls romantically? If so, when?
- Why are feelings for women so different and confusing compared to feelings toward men?
- If I’m not feeling aroused from kissing a woman, am I allowed to still say I’m attracted to women? Is it maybe because I’m kissing straight girls/women?
- Gay Gossip; the Gay Straight Alliance (GSA).
- The CompHet Speaker Summit: the link to purchase your ticket to attend the Speaker Summit Live is posted here, (as well as in these Show Notes below).
- Here’s the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3
- If you cannot attend the Speaker Summit Live, not to worry, we got you - you can purchase a recording of the 2+ hour long event by using the email below.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT: COMPULSORY HETEROSEXUALITY
Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!
Our expert guests are from YES! - Your Empowered Sexuality - a non-profit organization dedicated to providing intersectional, consent-based, shame-free sexuality education to all people using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums. Check them out at: www.yourempoweredsexuality.org
The EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!
Here’s the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3
Can’t attend the Speaker Summit Live? You can purchase the recording of the entire evening (2+ hours) by submitting your name for the Recording Wait List, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID’s and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY”
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called the Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details.
NOTE: To be put on the Waiting List to join the NEW “Coming Out Late Community”, email Robin the word “COMMUNITY” to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
In this Part Two episode of Coming Out Late & Scared to Date, Robin picks up the conversation where she left off last week. Last week Robin initiated an impromptu group discussion recorded in Zoom, around a topic that seems to be on everybody’s mind lately - navigating dating after coming out late. Whether you are newly out and have never dated a woman, or have had your share of dating experiences, this two-part series titled, “Coming Out Late & Scared to Date”, Robin asks her guests four basic foundational questions, as well as together, venturing off into a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.
In this episode, you will hear other late blooming women talk about . . .
- Why do you want to date? What’s motivating you to date?
- Being ‘Ok’ sitting in silence with yourself.
- All human relationships are complex; and can we learn from one another?
- Are you someone who “has” to be in a relationship all the time?
- Looking for that person who gets me, understands me and doesn’t just like the “theory of dating me”, but actually likes dating me-for-me.
- Is this the right time for you to be dating? Are you going through enormous life changes? Does your job exhaust you? Are you physically available to date?
- What is scary to you about dating?
- Do you fear someone really ‘seeing’ you in this authentic new version of yourself, when newly dating?
- How would it feel or what would it look like if we dated ourselves?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:
And the winner is . . . . . . Compulsory Heterosexuality!
Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!
Our expert guests are from YES! - Your Empowered Sexuality - a non-profit organization dedicated to providing intersectional, consent-based, shame-free sexuality education to all people using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums. Check them out at: yourempoweredsexuality.org
The EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!
Here’s the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID’s and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY”
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called the Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details.
NOTE: To be put on the Waiting List to join the NEW “Coming Out Late Community”, email Robin the word “COMMUNITY” to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
In this episode, Robin ventures into new territory and initiates an impromptu group discussion recorded in Zoom, around a topic that seems to be on everybody’s mind lately - navigating dating after coming out late. Whether you are newly out and have never dated a woman, or have had your share of dating experiences, this two-part series titled, “Coming Out Late & Scared to Date”, addresses four basic foundational questions we ALL should be asking ourselves, as well as a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.
In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . .
- Have you tried dating yet? And if so, what was that experience like?
- What does “dating” mean to you? How do you define “dating”?
- If you met yourself on a dating app or “in-the-wild”, would YOU date “you”?
- What are the red flags you should concern yourself with and how/when should you handle them?
- Dating is never a waste of time, and shall always be looked upon as gaining experience and insight into yourself.
- How much of your past relationships and experiences and childhood impact your approach to dating and the kind of girlfriend you make?
- What are some basic questions we should be asking ourselves and our dates, before and upon-entering into the “dating arena”?
- One late bloomer’s categorization of the various types of women who are putting themselves “out there” and claiming they’re ‘ready’ to date.
- And so much more in this riveting two-part series on “Dating”.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:
And the winner is . . . . . . CompHet!!!
Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!
EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!
Here’s the link to Register and pay:
https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID’s and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
FIREFLY RETREAT:
Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours
STAY TUNED: A NEW “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY”
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called the Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details.
NOTE: To be put on the Waiting List to join the NEW “Coming Out Late Community”, email Robin the word “COMMUNITY” to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
In this episode, Robin reads from a particularly heartwarming AND painful social media post that covers one woman’s first-time love, (and catalyst), with a woman. Jennifer’s social media post is raw, real and relatable on so many levels. And her vulnerable, courageous and inspirational share is met with an outpouring of love, support, and shared emotions and experiences.
In this episode, you will learn…
- That by sharing our stories and sharing our experiences - that even the painful ones - in fact, especially the painful ones, can be cathartic and healing for EVERYONE involved.
- Why this woman wanted to break her anonymity in sharing her story with us, because, in her words, “...it tells people that I’m real. This was a real person with real feelings in a really hard situation…”
- Why, “...maybe we ought just to be grateful that we got to meet these people at all. That we got to love them. That we got to learn from them. That we got to have our lives expand as a result of having known them…” (A quote from the movie, “Call Me By Your Name”).
- Why Jennifer says, “...But I don’t want to be responsible for someone else’s happiness…”
- How knowing and understanding your pain does not necessarily spare you from it - but also knowing that that’s ok.
- Why, after loving and losing love, we still need to take time to recover and take care of ourselves for a while.
- The the name and origin-of of the poet and his poem which summarizing why it’s better to love, than not at all.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:
And the winner is . . . . . . CompHet!!!
Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!
EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!
Here’s the link to Register and pay:
https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID’s and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
FIREFLY RETREAT:
Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours
STAY TUNED: A NEW “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY”
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called the Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details.
In this episode, Robin interviews Dr. Cecily D. Havert, M.D., who is a big LGBTQ+ ally and physician at Northern Virginia Family Practice Associates (NVFP), a family medicine practice that offers full-service concierge health care in the Northern Virginia area. Dr. Havert specializes in women’s health with an emphasis on the LGBTQ+ community. Robin and Dr. Havert discuss the reasons why you should ‘come out’ to your healthcare provider and what the benefits of doing-so are.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Should we or shouldn’t we ‘come out’ to our healthcare provider(s)? The if, why and how you should come out to your healthcare provider.
- HOW do we ‘come out’ to our Primary Care Physicians?
- What are the unique and important considerations that queer folks must take into account when assessing their overall health and their mental health?
- What signs to look for when assessing if your healthcare provider is LGBTQ-friendly?
- How Dr. Havert approaches getting to know her female patients: screening, creating a safe place, and empathic communication.
- How does our mental and emotional well-being affect our physical well-being?
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
FIREFLY RETREAT:
Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Join our nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group, OR our daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group, both in Zoom, by emailing Robin a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM/RobinDouglass
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY”
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called The Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more details.
DR. CECILY D. HAVERT, M.D.
Cecily D. Havert, M.D., who is a huge LGBTQ+ ally and physician at Northern Virginia Family Practice Associates (NVFP), a family medicine practice that offers full-service concierge health care in the Northern Virginia area. Dr. Havert specializes in women’s health with an emphasis on the LGBTQ+ community. Website: www.nvafamilypractice.com
In this episode, Robin reads a post written by a member of her “Coming Out Late” community about feeling stuck and sad while in the beginning stage of the messy middle. Robin also shares with us the outpouring of beautiful and practical support and encouragement - something we all need at some point along this turbulent and unpredictable journey of coming out late in life. Grab your pen and paper because you are going to want to write down some of the really useful suggestions, as well as some of the poignant positive affirmations that the authors’ responders shared with her.
In this episode, you will learn…
- The necessity of taking care of yourself first during this time of coming out.
- Why it is critically important during this journey to always protect yourself first.
- The importance of setting goals and making lists and why you should start with small goals for yourself first.
- That by setting goals and achieving them, no matter how small they are (and the smaller the better in the beginning), you will begin to feel a lot less stuck!
- That now is a good time to go back to school or obtain additional training so that you make yourself more marketable when seeking employment.
- That you need to become as financially literate as possible; and open up a separate bank account, (in your name only), in a different banking institution from any joint accounts you share with your partner.
- The importance of seeking 2-3 free consultations from a few different divorce lawyers - with the sole purpose of knowing and understanding what your legal rights are for the particular state you reside in.
- Seek therapy, (a queer therapist if possible), and encourage your partner to seek his own therapist as well.
- That crying and breathing - as much as you can - really IS therapeutic!
- That by staying committed to “kindness”, you and your partner have a better chance of going through this journey amicably and communicate effectively.
- That every day will come with its different feelings and those will change constantly. It is OK to feel however you’re feeling in that moment and the importance of ‘feeling ALL the feels’.
- To prioritize your well-being like a training Olympian!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
FIREFLY RETREAT:
Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY”
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called The Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members by the end of the summer, and for Early Bird Members by mid-September. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by late-September. Stay tuned for more det
In this episode, Robin invites Samantha Fox back to her Show. Samantha is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist AND Lesbian Curiosity Coach. Today, they talk about the dynamic flow of our sexual attraction and desires…and SO much more!
In this episode, you will learn…
- What IS “dynamic flow”?
- How does dynamic flow affect my sexual attraction and desires?
- What is YOUR sexual energy? And why is sexual energy important?
- What is a stone-top? A stone-bottom? A switchy? And why is it important to know what YOU are?
- What it means to pick the best ‘external partner’ versus the best ‘internal partner’.
- How does ‘compulsory heterosexuality’ affect how we feel about our own sexual energy? What does society teach us to think and feel?
- That there really are lots of ways to be a sexual human.
- To think about, “...What am I attracted to? Androgynous women? Women with masc-energy? Women with fem-energy? Something in between?”
- Why “vulnerability” is vital to great a great flow of sexual energy between you and your partner.
- Why communicating about your sexual desires with your partner is critical to a healthy sex life.
- That sexual energy and sexual desire shouldn’t be “heavy” topics; have fun, play, experiment and explore these sides of you.
- The importance of doing the work on ourselves regarding “internalized homophobia”!
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
SAMANTHA FOX:
Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com
Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY”
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who are, or have, Come Out Late in life. (It will likely be called The Coming Out Late Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with approximately 12-15 Founding Firefly Members in August, and for Early Birds at the end of the summer. The Coming Out Late Community will be available to ALL Coming Out Late Women by early September. Stay tuned for more details.
In this episode, Robin selects a social media thread from one of her favorite Facebook Groups - “Late Bloomer Lesbians + Support Group”. One of the Admins., Cariann Moore, starts what turns out to be, one of the most meaningful and “therapeutic” threads that overwhelmingly aligns with Robin’s core Coming Out Late values and opinions that she simply HAD to share it. Robin strongly believes that the initial post, and the thread of comments and solicited advice that follows, could be used as a Coming Out Late handguide. The overall theme, “It Is Ok”, addresses feeling the feels, the emotional roadblocks, and thinking versus feeling, to name a few!
In this episode, you will learn…
- “It is ok” to be afraid, to not know what you are doing, and to ask a lot of questions.
- “It is ok” to still want to be with men, or to not want to leave your marriage.
- It's okay to be a lesbian. It's okay to be a bisexual. It's okay to be Trans. It's okay to be non-binary. It's okay not to know what you are and/or choose no label at all!
- We are all on different journeys, and our paths and perspectives are built on our own life experiences.
- Lean-in to your feelings. It’s okay to feel those. Feeling your feelings is ALL you need to do. Feel and breathe.
- There is no urgency to do anything, just BE.
- Take the time to process the changes!
- There is no right way or one-way to do any of this. YOUR path is the right one.
- Ready to meet other Fireflies “in-the-wild”? Sign-up NOW for the Inaugural Firefly Retreat to occur on October 9-13, 2022 in Escalante, Utah. We have room for 3- or 4-more Coming Out Late “Fireflies”, so don’t delay! Go to: www.womenoutwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
FIREFLY RETREAT:
Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW “COMING OUT LATE COMMUNITY”
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. (It will likely be called The Firefly Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with 20-25 Founding Firefly Members at the end of the summer. Stay tuned for more details.
In this episode, Robin picks up where she left off in last weeks’ Episode of: “The Catalyst, Part One”, by first reminding us that catalyst relationships can and DO have one of the most significant impacts on us during the early stages of our Coming Out Late journey. While there is a certain amount of mystery and excitement surrounding a catalyst experience, Robin reminds us to proceed with caution, IF we are to proceed at all. Robin also outlines for us several necessary assumptions and considerations to think about, (preferably), before we ever even meet our catalyst. In “The Catalyst, Part Two”, Robin discusses what our options are after we’ve met our catalyst, and why it is so important not to lose ourselves in this, or any future relationship(s). Examining the catalyst experience can be a very deep and complex process, and in this episode, Robin only begins to scratch the surface as to why catalyst relationships tend to be so confusing, complex and volatile. Robin also covers a variety of things that need our consideration before considering to act-on the allure of a catalyst.
In this episode, you will learn…
- What purpose does a catalyst serve?
- What assumptions must be considered BEFORE we meet our catalyst?
- Some of the key considerations that can impact an experience with our catalyst.
- The three most common “types” of catalyst experiences.
- How to take personal inventory at all stages of our coming out journey, but especially prior to revealing ourselves to our catalyst?
- The #1 best way to deal with and handle the dreaded catalyst break-up!
- Ready to meet other Fireflies “in-the-wild”? Sign-up NOW for the Inaugural Firefly Retreat to occur on October 9-13, 2022 in Escalante, Utah. We have room for 3-more Coming Out Late “Fireflies”, so don’t delay! Go to: www.womenoutwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
FIREFLY RETREAT:
Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s for : Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. (It will likely be called The Firefly Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with 20-25 Founding Firefly Members at the end of the summer. Stay tuned for more details.
In this episode, Robin talks about The Catalyst and shares some insight as to WHAT a catalyst is . . . HOW the catalyst relationship is different from all other future same sex relationships . . . and WHY it’s important to understand your part, your ‘role’ in this very important, very intense first relationship with a woman. ALL women-to-women relationships are important, but there’s to be nothing like our first (catalytic) same sex relationship. There are no “silver bullets” in catalyst relationships, but understanding the nuts ‘n bolts of them, can help soothe the soul if/when our catalyst relationships end. Stay tuned for “The Catalyst: Part Two” next week.
In this episode, you will learn…
- What IS a catalyst in a woman loving woman relationship?
- That “catalysts” are not always a person.
- The significance of the popular quote circulating among Women Loving Women circles: “You’ve never really had your heart broken until you’ve had your heart broken by a woman”.
- Not everyone who comes out (late) has a catalyst.
- What happens when your catalyst relationship starts to go south, and why?
- You can still purchase the recording from the June 25th Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit - all about “Relationships”. PayPal or Venmo me $27 (and send me an email so I can email you the recorded file, to Comingoutlater@gmail.com). My PayPal is: @NovareInternational, and my Venmo is: @Comingoutlater. I need your email address to send it to you.
- Ready to meet other Fireflies “in-the-wild”? Sign-up NOW for the Inaugural Firefly Retreat to occur on October 9-13, 2022 in Escalante, Utah. We have room for 3-more Coming Out Late “Fireflies”, so don’t delay! Go to: www.womenoutwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours.
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
FIREFLY RETREAT:
Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s for : Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. (It will likely be called The Firefly Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with 20-25 Founding Firefly Members at the end of July 2022. Stay tuned for more details.
In this episode, Robin shares with us a hybrid of stories coming from women who are ‘stuck’ and/or in limbo in the infamous “Messy Middle”. She talks about what that can feel like, being stuck in the limbo space of the messy middle. Robin also shares with her formula of “ABC’s” to help us all navigate through those disorienting and confusing days of the Messy Middle. This process is not for the faint of heart, and it IS very much a marathon, not a sprint - but Robin outlines ways in which we can incorporate self-care in order to help us get through these days.
In this episode, you will learn…
- What are some of the common signs letting you know you ARE indeed in the “messy middle”.
- Whether you are living with the hetero partner you are ultimately leaving, or living all alone…there ARE ways in which you can diminish the damage done to your nervous system, mind and heart.
- What to do even if you are in the “best of situations” at home, but not yet ‘free’ to be your true gay self.
- You can still purchase the recording from the June 25th Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit - all about “Relationships”. PayPal or Venmo me $27 (and send me an email so I can email you the recorded file, to Comingoutlater@gmail.com). My PayPal is: @NovareInternational, and my Venmo is: @Comingoutlater. I need your email address to send it to you.
- Ready to meet other Fireflies “in-the-wild”? Sign-up NOW for the Inaugural Firefly Retreat to occur on October 9-13, 2022 in Escalante, Utah. We have room for 3-more Coming Out Late “Fireflies”, so don’t delay! Go to: www.womenoutwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours.
- Book: “The Artists Way”, By, Julia Cameron. The Artist's Way: 25th Anniversary Edition Paperbackhttps://www.amazon.com › Artists-Way-25th-Anniversa...
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
FIREFLY RETREAT:
Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only 5 slots available - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. (It will likely be called The Firefly Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with 20-25 Founding Firefly Members at the end of June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.
In this episode, Robin shares with us some examples of the types of comments we could possibly and most likely WILL receive as we slowly OR quickly come out to people all around us. Knowing what questions may be asked during your coming out process is half the battle - at least that way you can prepare for them, right? Robin also shares with us some possible retorts to these questions, and maybe a few retorts that she really wouldn’t advise you saying, but ones SHE would love to have you say in these oftentimes rude, intrusive scenarios. Sometimes ‘knowing’ what to expect when we’re navigating the coming out process IS half the battle!! Hopefully you won’t need ANY of these responses - but be prepared and decide how YOU want to respond should you be asked a personal, intrusive question.
In this episode, you will learn…
- What are some of the common questions we ARE asked when we’re coming out to others - or even if we’re NOT coming out and we’re simply in a social setting among other not-straight women.
- How to handle rude and inappropriate personal questions when faced with “curious” people questioning YOUR sexuality, for you.
- Should you respond? Should you respond snidely? Should you confront their blunt rudeness? It all depends….
- Being prepared and expecting the unexpected is usually a good tactic to take!
- The Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2
- Ready to meet other Fireflies “in-the-wild”? Sign-up NOW for the Inaugural Firefly Retreat to occur on October 9-13, 2022 in Escalante, Utah. We have room for 5-more Fireflies, so don’t delay! Go to: www.womenoutwesttours.com Hover your cursor over “Our Tours” tab, and from the drop down menu, select “Specialty Tours” and in there you will find information about the upcoming (and potential future) Firefly Tours!
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
FIREFLY RETREAT:
Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only 5 slots available - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. (It will likely be called The Firefly Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with 20-25 Founding Firefly Members at the end of June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.
In this episode, Robin reads to us from a three-part social media post, whereby the author introduces herself as a 35-year old cis woman married to a man for 13 years. Together, they have five children, (under the age of 12). She describes her STBX-husband as pretty conservative and considers the process of her coming out to him as an act of cheating on him.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Navigating a rocky coming-out when the husband is pretty conservative and making things really difficult from the start.
- Identifying as bi-sexual for a few years, but now questioning that label.
- That social media and messaging IS a “thing” among women who just meet up either online, or in person at a bar, (as was the case for this firefly).
- Recognizing that distance and differences could very well NOT be the perfect ingredient for a sustainable relationship - or is it?
- What would it be like to have a sexual encounter with a woman? The firefly author was worried she wouldn’t feel anything or be aroused - see what she found out about that.
- A creative way to have your significant other meet your kids and have your kids meet “Mommy’s new friend”.
- Seeing an opening and coming out to my son.
- The Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
FIREFLY RETREAT:
Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only 7 slots available - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.
In this episode, Robin celebrates PRIDE month by showcasing a very special group of young people from a Los Angeles-based non-profit organization called RAINBOW LABS. Rainbow Labs creates a series of after-school programming (both in-person and online), seeking to mentor and support underserved Queer and Gender Non-Conforming (QGNC) youth ages 12-18. The idea of Rainbow Labs, launched in 2020, was to address the unique challenges faced by queer and gender nonconforming youth. The content of the labs are designed by QGNC youth for QGNC youth, led by a team of mentors who are trained in trauma-informed care, cultural competency, and youth development. Rainbows Labs is essentially a safe space to explore identity, life skills and empower QGNC to participate in real-world applications. The Mission of Rainbow Labs is to embolden Queer and Gender Nonconforming youth to discover, curate and experiment with the elements of a fulfilled life through community building and the lived experiences of mentors. Their Vision is a world in which all Queer and Gender Nonconforming Youth see themselves as co-creators of an equitable, and progressive society.
In this episode, you will learn…
- The importance of youth having queer representation to meet, know and work with; as well as the importance of LGBTQIA+ just being kids, and not always having to be “on” as advocates protesting or picketing.
- Why we, as newly queer youth and queer adults, want and need to be recognized and accepted as queer in all of our respective communities.
- Why acceptance from our loved ones and close friends is critical to us.
- How damaging and harmful it can be when we’re told by family members, parents, siblings, that, “it’s ok to be queer, but just don’t tell anyone, keep it to yourself.
- The similarities and the differences that BOTH of our generations face in the challenges of coming out and living our authentic selves.
- Queer youth coming-out to their parents; and queer moms coming-out to their (queer) children.
- What does QGNC stand for? Queer & Gender Nonconforming.
- The Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2
Links to resources:
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.
RAINBOW LABS:
www.rainbowlabs.org
In this episode, Robin announces her latest collaboration with Women OUT West Tours whereby Robin will lead and facilitate in-person “Firefly” Retreats in Escalante, UT. The inaugural Firefly retreat is October 9-13, 2022. But that won’t be the last, so if you cannot make it on October 9, there will be plenty more to sign-up for. What an opportunity to be out in nature and have deep, meaning facilitated, and non-facilitated conversations with other women who ‘get you’! In this episode, Robin also touches upon a little bit of Gay History when she discusses the Stonewall Riots, the book, “Game Changers: Lesbians You Should Know About”, and her new favorite podcast, “Making Gay History”, by Eric Marcus. “Making Gay History’s” unique format, historic context and non-celebrity interviews make for an entertaining AND sobering way to learn about the mind-blowing prejudices and harassment our gay brothers and sisters endured, and oftentimes didn’t endure, before us.
In this episode, you will also learn…
- The importance of knowing our Gay History. As a Late Bloomer herself, Robin describes how little she knew about the Stonewall Riots that took place on June 27, 1969, and decided she wanted to learn more about her gay brothers and sisters who came before her.
- The importance of PRIDE month and little ways you can feel and show your Pride during the month of June.
- The the Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2
- The only way to get your hands on a copy of the book, “Game Changers: Lesbian You Should Know About” is to go to: www.lesbiangamechangers.com
- How one lesbian, Donna Hitchens, a recent law school graduate changed the lives of hundreds, maybe even thousands, of lesbians first, by forming, (with some help from Equal Rights Advocates in San Francisco), The Lesbian Rights Project, which later became the NCLR, (the National Center for Lesbian Rights).
- How the birth of “Curve” magazine came about, thanks to the former bookstore clerk and magazine Founder, Frances “Franco” Stevens. First and foremost, “Curve” was a celebration of the women shaping our community.
Links to resources:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.
Resources mentioned in this podcast include:
Bloomers Society
Julia Ruiz Hoffman and her Bloomer’s Society can be found at: www.bloomerssociety.com
The “Lesbian Chronicles” podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life/id1468550568?i=1000563115527
“Making Gay History” podcast by Eric Marcus: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-gay-history-lgbtq-oral-histories-from-the-archive/id1162447122
Book: “Game Changers: Lesbians You Should Know”, by Robin Lowey, Go to: www.lesbiangamechangers.com
For more Gay History, check out Youtuber: Kathy Baldock Visit: www.CanyonWalkerConnections.com for insights into the intersection between faith and sexual orientation and gender!
In this episode, Robin sits down with not one, but two late-in-lifer’s. She invites recent podcast guest Lori back for a chat about “relationships” with Robin’s friend and repeat podcast guest - Samantha Fox. Samantha is a lesbian curiosity and sexuality coach and a licensed family and marriage therapist in New York who also happens to be a late bloomer herself. Today, Samantha, Lori & Robin take a deep dive into some specific relationship issues that come up for late bloomers once you’ve started dating. Take notes, there’s lots to learn in this episode about women dating women!
In this episode, you will learn…
- The importance of knowing thyself before really diving into serious relationships - it will help you better navigate the sometimes choppy waters!
- The importance of communication between you and your partner BEFORE you embark on a night out on the town! Understanding each other’s boundaries, what to possibly expect and WHO to possibly expect at any function you may attend together.
- That just because we are coming out later in our lives does NOT necessarily mean that all the other late blooming gay folx have done the inner work on themselves before diving into the dating pool! Beware, not ALL queer women are created equal - nor have they been working on themselves!.
- The Women Loving Women Speaker Summit #2 has been announced and is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Early Bird tickets are on sale now thru midnight on June 3rd. For the link to Register, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. And guess who our Keynote Speaker is? Samantha Fox!!! https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2
- To join a Women Loving Women Support Group, (on Tuesdays at 12:30pm EST or Wednesday at 7pm EST), please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
Links to resources:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
You can find Samantha Fox at:
Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com/
Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach?lang=en
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curiousquestioningcomingout/
Youtube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ
In this episode, Robin sits down with fellow firefly late bloomer, Lori, to talk about her long journey from being in the closet, to a 5-year lesbian relationship at 17 years old, (that lasted FIVE years!), to going back in the closet for 30+ more years. Lori was married to a man for 27-years and is blessed with one daughter. Along the journey, Lori manages to ‘find herself’ and walk through the open doors that people invited her to walk though. Through the conversation, Robin & Lori talk about the depth of growth we experience when we come out later, (we were both in our 50’s when we came out), the necessity of UN-learning SO many ‘things’, and how do we go about re-building our lives once we finally do come out!
In this episode, you will learn…
- The importance of reflecting back on all our growth and milestones so far
- The critical necessity of UN-learning SO much of what we’d been conditioned to think, feel and do!
- Unpacking the suitcase of our lives, and getting to decide this time, what stays, what goes, and what gets donated to a worthy cause! (Lol).
- Ask yourself, “What have I always wanted to do that I’ve never done before?”
- The Talking Stone: let your secrets out - they will set you free!
- To get the $27 Early Bird Price for the WLW Speaker Summit #2 (June 26, 2022), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
- To join a Women Loving Women Support Group, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
Links to resources:
Please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching June 2022
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
Resources mentioned in this podcast include:
The “Lesbian Chronicles” podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life/id1468550568?i=1000563115527
“Making Gay History” podcast by Eric Marcus: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-gay-history-lgbtq-oral-histories-from-the-archive/id1162447122
Book: “Game Changers: Lesbians You Should Know”, by Robin Lowey, Go to: www.lesbiangamechangers.com
For more Gay History, check out Youtuber: Kathy Baldock Visit: www.CanyonWalkerConnections.com for insights into the intersection between faith and sexual orientation and gender!
In this episode, Robin reminds us of the significance and importance of us not only hearing other women’s coming out stories, but also telling our own. We grow, we learn and we heal every time we share or hear coming out late stories. Robin reads to us the story of one particular woman who can recall always being attracted to women for as long as she could remember - but knew she had to suppress those thoughts and feelings. (Thank you social norms and comphet!) After being married to a man, and hitting 40-years old, she made a promise to herself that the second half of her life was going to be on her terms. After that inspiring story, Robin also talks about the rate or speed at which you should proceed on your journey of coming out. And, at the end of this episode, Robin will share with us the responses from a variety of late bloomers, to this statement: “My first kiss with a woman was…”!
In this episode, you will learn…
- How do we find ourselves and live in our truth?
- Going from three kids and 2 marriages to men later - how one woman went from miserable, depressed, angry and anxious to flourishing in life!
- Manifesting the things we’ve always wanted by NOT living a life that other people want and expect from us.
- To get the $27 Early Bird Price for the WLW Speaker Summit #2 (June 26, 2022), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
- To join a Women Loving Women Support Group, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
- WLW Retreat October 10-16, 2022 - Provincetown, MA - “Women’s Week”
Links to resources:
Please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching June 1, 2022
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
Julia Ruiz Hoffman and her Bloomer’s Society can be found at: www.bloomerssociety.com
Robin addresses two important topics that arise from our Coming Out Late journey: first, navigating our first, or first couple-of queer relationships. After the trauma has subsided, what can we do to ensure our next relationship will be 10x better than the last? And, second, Robin shares with us some examples of responses the husbands, partners or significant others say to us when we come ‘out’ to them for the first time. Some are simply unbelievable, while others are unthinkable and unacceptable! In addition to covering these two important topics, Robin also shares with us two very meaningful quotes that we ALL need to remember and embrace!
In this episode, you will learn…
- Some of the differences between being in a relationship with a late blooming lesbian versus a woman who has been out and lesbian her whole life. BOTH types of women are coming at it from (at least) two very distinct places in life.
- There are certainly pros and cons to dating a late bloominglesbian and a lifelong lesbian. Somehow, we manage to make these relationships work - or not! What to look out for and how to stand your ground!
- That the end of our first-, or first-couple of queer relationships can be gut-wrenching; but there are PLENTY of ‘things’ we can we learn from them.
- Recognizing ‘red flags’ in relationships and what to do about them.
- Co-Dependency: What is it? Do I have it? And what can I do about it?
- Robin is starting a brand new Women Loving Women (paid subscription) Membership Community in Circle.so in JUNE! Happy PRIDE everyone! It promises to be chock full of inspiration, support, enlightenment, education, and FUN!
- What to expect when we tell our significant others/partners/husbands that we’re gay? You won’t believe some of their responses!!
- To join a Women Loving Women Support Group, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
- WLW Retreat October 10-16, 2022 - Provincetown, MA - “Women’s Week”
Links to resources:
Please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching June 1, 2022
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
Robin addresses a recent post written by a woman coming out later in life - in fact - she just came out at the age of 57! Robin highlights the small-, medium- and large-hurdles that we, at ANY age are likely to face during our coming out late journey. In addition to reading and sharing this very vulnerable and relatable post, Robin also shares the compassionate and encouraging responses the author of the post received.
In this episode, you will learn…
- This Coming Out Late stuff is TOUGH! It is NOT an easy journey. But it IS worth it - I promise!
- In addition to the healing properties of hearing other women’s coming out late stories, SHARING our own stories can be incredibly healing as well.
- Navigating our new identities as lesbian or queer or bi is really tough.
- That it’s normal to feel awkward and unsure of ourselves in this process.
- A few helpful books/resources she read that helped her.
- What decisions need to be made once you tell your significant other that you are coming out as ‘not-straight’.
- Am I a baby-gay or an imposter?
- WLW Retreat October 10-16, 2022 - Provincetown, MA - “Women’s Week”
Links to resources:
Please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching June 1, 2022
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
RESOURCES: “Dear John, I Love Jane: Women Write About Leaving Men for Women”, Author: Candace Walsh. “Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love & Desire”, Author: Lisa M. Diamond
Julia Ruiz Hoffman, MA, MFT, Counselor & Coach. Founder of Bloomers Society. www.bloomerssociety.com
Robin shares a beautiful reminder that good things are possible and your life will work out no matter when you decide to come out…
In this episode, you will learn…
- Reflecting on three years post coming out, post moving out, post freaking out
- Encouragement to feel all your feelings and do the work vs. push emotions down
- Understanding it all works out and that how it works out looks different for everyone
- Details about Julia Ruiz Hoffman’s Bloomer’s Society and coaching services
Links to resources:
If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
I mentioned and highly recommend Julia Ruiz Hoffman, MA, MFT, Counselor and Coach for women coming out later in life. Julia specializes in sexual awareness, divorce guidance & co-parenting coaching, issues with young children and straight spouse support. Julia and her new website can be found at: www.bloomerssociety.com
Robin addresses a recent post about fears surrounding being married and questioning your sexuality and why open lines of communication, honesty, and courage are key to exploring who you are…
In this episode, you will learn…
- Coming out doesn’t mean everything about your life must change instantly
- Remember you can be courageous or you can be comfortable—you can’t be both
- Fear is a killer: Ask for time, communication, and soul searching
- Don’t stay for the wrong reasons and don’t leave for the wrong reasons
- The importance of listening to your body and understanding we can’t be afraid of what we don’t know
- Advice to find a therapist and to be fully transparent and trust they can help you
- All relationships require nurturing—don’t settle for something unfulfilling
- It takes courage as well as permission to find out who you are
Links to resources:
If you weren't able to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit? You can purchase a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
I mentioned and highly recommend a superb queer coach and counselor - Samantha Fox:
Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach
Insta: https://www.instagram.com/curiousquestioningcomingout/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ
Robin explores the idea of change and what change means for us on our coming out journey. She talks about social conditioning as it relates to how we formed our roles in life and how we have lived our whole lives under social conditioning. Robin asks the question — how do we go about living our lives now, and how do we embrace change? She also shares some quotes about change, growth, life, and strength.
In this episode, you will learn…
- About the value of joining Robin's Women Loving Women and Women Helping Women weekly support groups on zoom.
- Ways to purchase the recording of the Women Loving Women summit held on March 30, in case you missed it.
- Staying in a space that is safe, familiar, and comfortable is not necessarily 'living'.
- Learning to come out of your comfort zone and embrace change.
- Living life as an adventure and being true to yourself, so you can thrive, not just survive.
- The need to address and expose homophobia, social conditioning, and heteronormativity if we want to see less of it.
- Personal growth is not a matter of learning new information but of unlearning old limits.
- Change is inevitable, but there are also opportunities for growth and progress.
Links to resources:
Weren't able to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit? You can purchase a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Robin talks with Holly and JJ about what it means to be transgender, the challenges of navigating relationships and gender reassignment, and why being honest with yourself and embracing who you are should always come first.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Holly’s experience of feeling like a prisoner in her body and what it means to be transgender
- The importance of a supportive and accepting environment for transgender children
- Being in a double-closet and underdressing to alleviate pain of gender dysphoria
- Understanding which terms represent gender identity
- Holly’s heterosexual relationships and feeling like an imposter
- What it was like for Holly to finally come out as transgender at age 50
- Gender reassignment and gender affirmation surgeries
- Reflecting on coming out: Don’t worry about the reaction of others, fear manifests in many ways, don’t try to hide it because it’s not going to change
- Encouragement to be open to possibilities when it comes to your sexuality
- The joy of transitioning and being accepted for who you truly are
- The importance of being upfront about your identity after you come out
- Advice for those worried about coming out to lean into your authentic self
- Everybody’s body is different, medical support is crucial for your transition journey
Links to resources:
JJ (Jessica Jarrard), Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Owner of Rainbow Counseling & Consultation, a group private practice serving the LGBTQ community. www.rainbowcounselingservices.com
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Robin addresses the common confusion many feel after coming out late and reminds us why it’s never too late to live a life full of love, authenticity, and support…
In this episode, you will learn…
- Encouragement to attend the Women Loving Women weekly meetings and upcoming Speaker Summit on March 30th
- Coming out late doesn’t negate your previous heteronormative life or relationships
- Recognizing what it’s like having a supportive spouse you don’t want to hurt
- We’re not on this earth to be mediocre; we’re meant to have adventures and love our lives and love ourselves
- Understanding what other people think and feel about us in none of our business
- Put yourself first and know your family can be configured however you want it
- Suggestions for getting help via support groups and therapists or coaches
- Coming out late isn’t wrong; you’re going to feel pain and guilt so make your apologies and move on
Links to resources:
Register to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit on March 30th. FIVE LGBTQ+ Coaches and Counselors will be speaking with us about all-things coming out and being gay and how to handle the stress and anxiety of it all! Can't attend? You can reserve a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com. If you CAN attend, here is the Link to Register: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Sexuality Coach and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Samantha Fox speaks with Robin about her coming out late journey, helpful advice for managing family challenges after coming out, and why it’s okay to be curious about your sexuality.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Samantha’s experience of coming out late at the age of 32 in 2002
- How 9/11 prepared Samantha for her coming out late catalyst
- Being in the best place you can ever be while being in the worst place you can be
- Advice for managing emotions and relationships when you don’t get to see your kids every day after coming out
- Life after divorce: Going back to school, finding her tribe, and dating challenges
- How shared experiences can help you feel less threatened
- Addressing the shame, guilt, and anxiety of coming out late
- How curiosity can help break the chains of compulsory heterosexuality
- Recognizing we are born with seven core emotions, including sexual excitement
- Letting yourself be curious and understanding every journey is different
- Details about Samantha’s coaching programs
Connect with my Guest, Samantha Fox:
Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach
Insta: https://www.instagram.com/curiousquestioningcomingout/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ
Links to resources:
Register to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit on March 30th. FIVE LGBTQ+ Coaches and Counselors will be speaking with us about all-things coming out and being gay and how to handle the stress and anxiety of it all! Can't attend? You can reserve a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com. If you CAN attend, here is the Link to Register: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Life coach Sarah Ott joins Robin to shed light on her own coming out late experience and why she believes in the power of authenticity and being the best version of yourself.
In this episode, you will learn…
- How Sarah grew up feeling like she just always felt different
- Following the path she thought she should but still feeling unfulfilled
- Deconstructing her religious programming and connecting the dots about her sexuality
- Shifting from couples therapy to individual therapy to coming out
- Why it’s so important to listen to your body and stop ignoring what you feel
- How Sarah is the best version of herself now, even after she finally broke
- Letting fear go and the difference between surviving and thriving
- Sarah’s experience of keeping her divorce separate from her sexuality
- Sarah’s current relationship status and what led her to start a coaching business
- The power of being aligned to fulfill our purpose in authenticity
Links to resources:
Sarah Ott - Email: sarah@sarahottcoaching.com
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahottcoaching
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahottcoaching/
Website: sarahottcoaching.com
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Happy Birthday to Women Loving Women! Robin shares exciting news about the upcoming Speaker Summit, opportunities to be a guest on the Coming Out Late podcast, and helpful advice for online dating and long distance relationships.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Happy 1 Year to Women Loving Women!
- Top 3% news and request for podcast sponsors, logos, and branding ideas
- Details about the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit
- Addressing internalized homophobia and how it impacted Robin’s life
- Upcoming podcast topics and call for parents willing to have their children on the show
- Red flags of online dating apps and how to avoid scammers
- Questions about long distance relationships and advice for managing them
Links to resources:
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!
Robin talks with late bloomer Dawn Noble about the influence of her religious upbringing, how she finally embraced who she really is and the loving relationship she’s found now, and details about her work helping other couples connect with PACT therapy.
In this episode, you will learn…
- How being raised with 12 siblings in a Latter Day Saints home impacted her
- How Purity culture taught her to keep her cards to herself about being gay
- Confessing her first gay experience and then abstaining from women for 10 years
- What led Dawn to eventually pursue the life she wanted for herself
- Rushing into her first gay marriage and balancing joy and grief
- Setting boundaries, shifting into a new relationship and healing her inner child
- Remembering you don’t have the power to change anybody but yourself
- How PACT therapy differs from other forms of therapy
- Understanding relationships require agreements that allow you to connect, disconnect, and repair so resentment doesn’t stay
- Recognizing your partner’s triggers: the bigger the response, the older the wound
Links to resources:
Dawn Noble Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/Dawnanoble/
Click here to book a FREE 15-minute Consultation with Dawn: https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=24623606
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!
Robin welcomes late bloomer Kristie Brassard to share her exploration of being gay, coming out late, and living a life of authentic love.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Kristie’s experience of growing up with a lack of representation
- Recognizing the complicated programming of what we think we should want in life
- Kristie’s research phase of being gay and coming out to her therapist
- Acknowledging the support and guilt Kristie felt during her separation
- Mental gymnastics of coming out and why you should grieve your past life
- Understanding your transformation will have pain, but beautiful things can come from it
- Give yourself permission to feel your feelings and honor them
- How moving through discomfort led Kristie to the genuine, authentic life she has now
- Reminder that you’re never too old and it’s never too late
Links to resources:
Kristie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lateinlifeguide/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelateinlifeguide
Website: https://lateinlifeguide.com/
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Julia Ruiz Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, a safe community to gather and meet other women who are also coming out later in life: https://www.bloomerssociety.com
Melisa and Alli of The Lesbian Chronicles Podcast found wherever you listen to podcasts!
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!
Late bloomer Kathy Kiger joins Robin and shares her incredible story of coming out late, how her family reacted, and what her life is like one year later.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Kathy’s religious upbringing and when the gay started to creep up
- Avoiding her inner voice and what it was like raising 4 kids after divorce
- How her business mentorship led to a beautiful revelation
- Acknowledging the mental gymnastics of internalized homophobia and trying to Christian harder
- The incredible experience of coming out as a family and supporting each other
- Kathy’s dating life since coming out and using different dating apps
- How identifying as gay has impacted Kathy’s life and appearance
- Details about Kathy’s coach and coming out while on a zoom call—in a closet
Links to resources:
For all-things Kathy Kiger, go to her website at: https://www.BetterLateThanStraight.com or https://www.instagram.com/betterlatethanstraight/
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)
Robin talks with Julia Ruiz Hoffman, founder of Bloomer’s Society, about her growing online community and how she is living her one wild and precious life.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Details about the Bloomers Society and Robin and Julia met
- The beauty of connections both online and in person
- Julia’s coming out story and growing up the good girl
- How Julia ended her marriage and where they are now
- Life is not linear and there will be a lot of hiccups and bumps along the way
- The power of making the right decision for yourself
- Collaborative divorce and throwing up rainbows
- Recognizing the vulnerability of your partner before, during, and after separation
- The need for breaks: Takeout, Netflix, and NO feelings
- Julia’s coaching and counseling experience and how she’s adapting retreats
Links to resources:
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Julia Ruiz Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, a safe community to gather and meet other women who are also coming out later in life: https://www.bloomerssociety.com
Melisa and Alli of The Lesbian Chronicles Podcast found wherever you listen to podcasts!
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)
Robin shares a Late Bloomer’s coming out story that captures different stages of her confusion, acceptance, devastation, and guilt and how ultimately she just wants to be happy, along with the ones she loves.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Growing up without realizing being gay is an option
- Acknowledging the heartbreak of first crushes
- Realizing the Haunting of Bly Manor is the first healthy lesbian relationship she’s witnessed
- I am super gay but it’s too late since I’ve been married for 30+ years
- Her sister’s response when she finally shares that she’s gay
- The blessing of finding a supportive community after the devastation of telling her husband
- What it was like to finally end her marriage and how it feels to salvage their friendship
- Remembering hurting someone you love sucks but it doesn’t mean you deserve to take on shame or guilt
Links to resources:
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)
Robin shares a common challenge of finding the right time to embrace your truth and the importance of knowing you’re never alone in this journey!
In this episode, you will learn…
- The problem of not wanting to put your children through a divorce
- Recognizing there is no perfect time to be true to yourself or to teach children that people change
- From delaying hurt and confusion to having people survive and thrive
- Don’t stay trapped or unhappy for anyone, especially your kids
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10 Key Takeaways from this story:
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Our stories are relatable, sharing is imperative to feel hope and inspiration
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None of us are ever truly alone in this journey, no matter how it might feel
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You are all stronger than you believe you are
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It will get better, no matter how impossible it may seem today
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Freedom and happiness does lie ahead
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Know that you’re not alone (yes, it’s worth repeating)
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The unknown is scary but the leap is so worth it
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You’re not alone (I really want you to get that message)
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You have an amazing community of supporters
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We are all in this together and we will all come out on the other side, no matter what the other side looks like
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An invitation to climb to the top of Mount Fear
Links to resources:
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)
BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com
Robin shares different responses of people reflecting on the past year and the power of embracing the changes you experience!
In this episode, you will learn…
- Exciting updates about upcoming guests, Facebook group and Bloomer’s Society
- Finding the light at the end of the tunnel if you’re in the messy middle of coming out
- Reflecting on the most significant difference in your life from this time last year
- How Robin is changing her language to reflect her current journey of launching a small service business
- Remembering it’s better late than never because it’s never too late
Links to resources:
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
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BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com
Cosmos Kumar shares the power of embracing your truth, nurturing relationships and being okay with knowing the only constant in life is change.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Cosmos’ background and why she calls herself a Universalist
- Nobody deserves to be in pain and nobody should be in a situation where they’re unhappy
- Why Cosmos loves synchronicity and following nature
- When Cosmos began to feel inklings about her identity and sexuality
- Advice for those coming out to themselves during the pandemic
- Give yourself permission to be who you want to be and trust yourself that you know who you are
- How Cosmos’ son, friends and family reacted to her coming out
- Appreciating other people’s lifestyles instead of shutting them down
- Owning your truth and knowing it can change whenever you want
- Understanding bisexuality and confusion about the LGQBTI+ spectrum
- Details about Cosmic Soul Coaching
Links to resources:
Cosmos/Meenakshi Kumar, MD: you can find Cosmos and her Bio and ALL of her coaching services at: Link tree: https://linktr.ee/docmk; FB: https://facebook/groups/docmk; Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/docminx/; Art: internalescence.etsy.com Blog: https://wonderwomansearches.com/. Dr. Kumar, MD, also mentioned the book, "The Fountainhead", by Ayn Rand: One of the 20th century's most challenging novels of ideas, The Fountainhead champions the cause of individualism through the story of a gifted young architect who defies the tyranny of conventional public opinion.
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)
BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com
Happy 2022! Robin dives into the New Year with encouragement to find your one word for the year and why it’s important to get clear on the life you want for yourself.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Details about available support from Women Loving Women Group and Monthly Dinner Club
- Challenge to approach 2022 with a new way of thinking, feeling and doing
- Why Robin’s one word for the year is COURAGE
- Encouragement to determine your one word for 2022
- Acknowledging codependency and ignoring red flags
- Get out of your head and into your heart and into your body
- Release your feelings and make time to get honest about what you want in life
Links to resources:
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)
BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com
Robin responds to comments, questions and topics from different social media outlets that address coming out late and shares her personal perspective about common issues.
In this episode, you will learn…
- You win some, you lose some—acknowledging relationships may change after coming out
- Remember—it’s not about sexuality, it’s about toxicity and toxic people don’t need to be in your life
- Girlfriends?—understanding how women loving women relationships operate and establishing clarity
- The Big Freeze—”gay panic” and why we get nervous when we like someone
- Flirting—knowing what crosses the line and communicating with your partner
- Mutual respect and mutual love is always important
Links to resources:
I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)
The holidays can be particularly challenging for those who’ve just come out. Robin shares how to handle difficult situations with care and the importance of keeping lines of communication with your children and/or family as open as possible. Robin also discusses why the New Year is a perfect time to prioritize self care!
In this episode, you will learn…
- How to handle the holidays with your significant other or former significant other
- You don't have to spend an uncomfortable holiday unless there are children involved.
- Suggestions for how to manage difficult feelings in the same space with others
- Advice for asking your children what they expect on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day
- Try to be the one that initiates cohesiveness and togetherness and connectedness.
- The sooner our children realize and can adapt to and embrace change as something that just simply happens, and it's not something to be feared is good.
- The importance of making self care your number one priority
- Encouragement to let go of toxic relationships—no matter who they’re with
- We're gonna learn how to love ourselves or we're gonna learn how to shed our codependency because it's a new year.
Links to resources:
OMG, OMG...super excited to have just set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first 11 Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I pay $400 every four episodes just to get it produced...and I'm not making a single cent on it to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!
With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/
Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.
Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!
Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)
Robin and Leanne share why it’s better late than never to come out and live the life you are meant to live with no blame, guilt or shame. Leanne also gives insight to how our brains process emotions and anxiety, and how we have the power to change our lives!
In this episode, you will learn…
- What an neuro linguistic programming (NLP) practitioner does
- Change requires willingness and the right attitude for change.
- Understanding anxiety and 2 pathways to anxiety: cortex-based, thoughts vs. amygdala-based, reactions
- Strong emotional experiences become your body’s emotional history, which then condition how you feel and react to situations.
- Stop listening to the stories in your head—we recall stories based on perspective, not reality.
- How Leanne works with clients to change their language and programming
- Worry is nothing more than predicting chaos.
- Remembering we have limited years, don’t waste them living unauthentically.
- Advice for how to tell your significant other about your sexuality
- Fear is nothing more than False Evidence Appearing Real.
- A label is nothing more than an explanation for society—be who you’re meant to be
- The power of working through negative self beliefs
Links to resources:
Leanne Jones is a leading LGBTQ+ women's anxiety recovery coach and therapist, and owner and founder of BRAVER WOMEN. Leanne is based in the UK, but has a worldwide client base. With her program BRAVER WOMEN, Leanne specializes in providing LGBTQ+ women with the tools to stop anxiety and to raise self-esteem, to live with more passion, pride and purpose. Her BRAVER WOMEN website is currently being developed and can soon be found at: www.braverwomen.com. In the meantime, follow this link to request to join Leanne's amazing FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/359069712192635/
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com
Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)
Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.
Robin shares the story of her first queer wedding—she was the queer at the wedding. Her story also describes the awkwardness she faced of being the only gay couple at the wedding and how her girlfriend came to her rescue and made her feel comfortable, as well as some of the issues they faced during the event.
In this episode, you will learn…
- We can survive and thrive doing difficult and scary things.
- Her relationship with her daughters after she came out about her sexuality
- Learning to let go of others’ opinions and thoughts—they don’t know your side of the story.
- The messy middle of coming out to yourself
- The reality is never as bad as all that is going on in our brains.
- Things like anxiety will come up—just focus on how you want to feel through that event.
- People will have different opinions about you because you’re gay—smile and hold your head high—you’ve not done anything wrong.
- Don’t conform to what other people think or want for you—you know what you want—just be brave enough to go out there and get it.
- Move forward in your life and do the things that make you happy.
Links to resources:
By taking bloomers society off Facebook and moving to a private platform, we've created a robust and interactive community filled with stories, interviews, and resources, all at your fingertips right when you join. https://bloomerssociety.com
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com
Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)
Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.
Robin talks to Anne-Marie Zanza and her wife, Tonda McKay, about the impact of religion on people coming late out as gay and their journey of accepting and embracing their sexuality.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Anne and Tonda’s backstory
- How isolation impacts your dating life
- The journey of accepting and embracing their sexuality
- Unpacking the patriarchy and understanding why certain things are just wrong
- Jesus’ teachings are far from what the church does
- Bridging the divide between the binary of male and female
- Existence of same-sex relationships in the eighties.
- Different schools of thought on acknowledging sexuality
- The reaction of family and friends when they came out
- Same-sex relationships and the constraints of religious institutions
- Finding a community that suits you as a member of the LGBTQ family
- Coming out as gay and redefining who you are
- Deconstructing how you were taught your faith
Links to resources:
Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity. (Please fill out ALL the registration questions.)
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Coming Out Coach, Anne-Marie Zanzal can be found at: www.annemariezanzal.com. Her podcast, "Coming Out and Beyond" tells the story of the later in life community and can be heard wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. And Anne-Marie's memoir, "Authentic Peace", speaks to anyone who is in a transitional stage in life and who are called to reinvent themselves. Her wife, Tonda McKay is an award-winning, professional, architectural photographer. Tonda's work and contact information can be found by visiting: www.tondamckay.com.
Robin talks to Cathy about helping women so that their lives can be changed and creating the cycle of wealth and success among women around the world. It's an inspiring conversation, so here's some inspiration from her!
In this episode, you will learn…
- Cathy’s journey of becoming a financial planner
- Knowing about your likes and dislikes
- Making big changes in your life by leaving a toxic situation
- Creating a community that allows women to find their voices and strengths
- Midlife awakening helps you to live a better life
- You can’t move forward unless you’re honest with yourself
- The pros and cons of COVID
- Listening to your gut to follow your intuition
- Women have put themselves on the back burner for so long that they have almost forgotten what they want to do
- The impact we can have by helping others
Links to resources:
Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity. (Please fill out ALL the registration questions.)
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Cathy Derksen is a wealth & success coach as well as a 5-time Amazon best-selling author and International Speaker. You can find more information about Cathy and the programs and services she offers by visiting her website at: www.inspiredtenacity.com
Today, Robin is sharing some of the topics that she and her support group - Women Loving Women - chat about weekly. The conversations are incredible, so she’s bringing some of that magic here to you!
In this episode, you will learn…
- Some suggested dating sites that have worked well for the women in the support group.
- How tough it can be to use dating sites and apps.
- Some exciting new social mixers that are in the works!
- Thoughts on newly living together with your new girlfriend.
- What it’s like to have a skeptical partner who is worried about dating a late bloomer.
- The power of staying in the moment.
- Dating or living with someone who does not have children when you do.
- Advice for when you’re trying to blend two families.
- How true it is that once you start coming out to people, you might start feeling like a sixteen-year old boy!
Links to resources:
Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity. (Please fill out ALL the registration questions.)
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com.
Julia Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, has created a robust and interactive private community of late bloomers, filled with stories, interviews, and resources, all at your fingertips right when you join. https://bloomerssociety.com
Lesbian Chronicles is a podcast for people who’ve realized their true sexual identity later in life. Find Lesbian Chronicles at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life/id1468550568?i=1000541058765
Robin shares details about her online support group “Women Loving Women”. She also dives into the powerful responses she received after posing the question “What do you wish you knew then that you’ve known now on your journey” to the women of the group.
In this episode, you will learn…
- People don’t own each other—no one could or should tell you how to live your life.
- Women are selfless but are often made to feel selfish.
- You can take care of yourself—you can do hard things.
- Fear of the unknown is the common thread that holds so many back in life.
- Finding the inner strength to say “Yes, I’m gay” and learning to trust yourself.
- There’s nothing better than living your truth.
- Coming out is not horrible and difficult for everyone.
- Feel the freedom of coming out to yourself—You don't really need to know 100% with certainty that you for sure are gay and you're coming out as gay. Just give yourself permission to explore those thoughts.
- Live your life and find your truth.
Links to resources:
By taking bloomers society off facebook and moving to a private platform, we've created a robust and interactive community filled with stories, interviews, and resources, all at your fingertips right when you join. https://bloomerssociety.com
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com
Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)
Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.
Robin and Kari take a stroll down memory lane, sharing and retelling their stories of coming out later in life, as well as exploring the ‘opportunities’ that come with this journey. They discuss the ‘snow globe’ theory, facing our fears, naming and labeling ourselves, and learning from our break-ups, to name a few.
In this episode, you will learn…
- Kari’s coming out story. “Three years ago I came out to me, and me only!”
- You are not alone. You are not the only one!
- Don’t be afraid of the unknown. Get excited about the new opportunities.
- The importance of support. Who am I? I just don’t know who I am!
- Should I immediately jump into a relationship? Or should I wait, remain single, and ‘work on me’ first?
- Feeling the feels. Feel all your feelings. Sit with them, and acknowledge them.
- To label or not to label? It doesn’t matter because it’s up to you. There are no rules to what we call ourselves - if anything at all. Saying ‘those words’ out loud.
Links to resources:
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com
Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)
You can find Kari DeWitt on nearly all the social media platforms like Instagram and Tik Tok, (@KariDeWitt), as well as on her hugely popular private Facebook Group, Late Bloomer Lesbians: www.facebook.com/latebloomerlesbians. Kari’s website is: www.karingtransformation.com
Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.
“Coming-Out-Late Grief: It’s Real”
‘Life' is full of uncertainty, discomfort and pain, as well as joy, peace and freedom. It is when we master the art of being comfortable with discomfort and uncertainty, that we have mastered the art of living life - not just surviving it.
Why should our coming out late journey be any different? It is in the discomfort, the uncertainty and the grief in which our growth can occur and our souls may soar. Grief is not only an expected part of ‘life’, but it will also be an expected and painful part of our coming out late process! This journey you are on is not easy - - but it is well worth it all, in the end. And the good news is - - everyone will survive the grieving process and your coming out late journey - - it just takes time - - a lot of time and patience!
In this episode, you will learn…
- That your grief, sadness and pain is very real, and to be expected. That mourning and grieving during your coming-out journey is ‘normal’, and doesn’t just happen once, but does lessen over time. Give yourself plenty of love, grace and space to simply ‘be’.
- That you are going through a metamorphosis of sorts; you will be shedding old ‘skin’ and rebirthing a new identity. With those significant changes come intense feelings; heavy, deeply-felt feelings. Feel them all. Feeling them all gives them credence and in doing so allows them to ‘pass through you’ more freely and quickly.
- Why it’s critical that you cry - and cry often! Let your tears flow, and flow freely and flow often. Crying is not a weakness - it is a necessary and natural process in the release of toxins and emotions that simply must come out - just like you must come out.
Links to resources:
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian
Email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com
Looking for your coming-out late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook/ComingOutLateCommunity (You must fill out all the registration questions.)
Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.
“You Are Not Alone: Q’s Read from FB”
Your journey is just that - YOUR journey - no one else’s!
IF you choose to ‘come out’, (and how and when), it is 1000% completely YOUR decision! Whether you’ve always known you are gay, or just now figuring out that you may be bi-sexual, pansexual, demisexual, lesbian, or embrace no label at all, that is your business. If you are questioning your sexuality, it is only your business to explore and figure out. And there’s no rush in figuring this out either - this is not a race, in fact, it is definitely not even a sprint - our exploration and self-reflection is more of a marathon. Take it slowly and deliberately. Take your time, and reach out to other like-minded women in the Facebook group, Coming Out Late Community.
In this episode, you will learn about…
- How hearing other women’s ‘coming out later in life’ stories can provide such relief, and realize that you are not alone - that there are so many women like ‘us’!
- The many, many different forms of how a family can look after coming out - and that it’s you and your husband/stbxh/partners’joint decision to choose the ‘look’ and logistics that work best for your situation!And know that nothing is set in stone - if it’s not working out, make modifications and try something different.
- How keeping the lines of communication wide-open, and ongoing, between you and your (male) partner is vital during this new journey that you (both) are going through.
- How other women feel and deal with their own awakening and coming-out process when Robin reads and comments on several FB posts and questions from some of the different ‘coming out late’ Facebook groups. Again, you won’t feel alone after hearing the stories, comments and “Aha!” moments from other women!
Links to resources:
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian
Looking for your coming-out late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook/ComingOutLateCommunity (You must fill out all the registration questions.)
Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.
Some of us went a lifetime having ‘no clue’ we were attracted to women until much later in life. Others, on the other hand, always knew they ‘liked girls’, but stuffed it down, way down. Internal homophobia, deep-seeded homophobic denial, and compulsory-heteronormativity all played a huge role in delaying, and denying, our journey to discovering and embracing our true selves. One thing we late-bloomers know for sure is, if we were straight, we sure as heck wouldn’t be asking ourselves if we weren’t! But don’t take our word for it, keep listening to the Coming Out Late Podcast and hear the similarities in our stories.
In this episode, you will learn about…
How Robin figured out she’s gay, (using her unique ‘research technique’)
How many of us get to the point of: “Ok. Enough is enough already. I have to figure this out! Why am I feeling this way toward women? ”
“So this IS a ‘thing’. It isn’t just me.”
Robin’s theory on her own deep homophobic denial
A few podcasts and books specifically for women questioning their sexuality
Links to resources:
The podcast that inspired me to become a Life Strategist for the late-blooming Community is The Lesbian Chronicles Podcast at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life/id1468550568
Another awesome, private and safe Facebook group to check out is, Late Bloomer Lesbians at: www.facebook.com/latebloomerlesbians
A few books I first read when I was questioning my sexuality were: Fleisher, Joanne, Living Two Lives: Married to a Man & In Love with a Woman, and Waters, Dawn Elizabeth, Switching Teams: What Coming Out Later in Life Taught Me About Love, Conquering Fear, and Accepting Change, and McCoy, Robin, Late Bloomers: Awakening to Lesbianism After Forty.
Take care of your mental health and book an appointment now with Pride Counseling at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.
Looking for your coming-out late community? Ask to join Robin’s private Facebook group at: www.facebook/ComingOutLateCommunity (You must fill out all the registration questions.) Once approved, you’ll find flyers announcing the ever-popular Women Loving Women zoom room.
How does one “follow the bread crumbs” to discover and/or confirm if they are gay or not? Great question! Married to a man for nearly 30-years, Robin had her “Aha!” moment literally on her 54th birthday. (No. That’s not a typo. She came out to herself at 54-years of age!) Robin takes you on her journey from those first vague and sporadic inner stirrings she felt about women to finally figuring out “what was wrong with her”. Robin shares with us how she cracked-her-case that had been plaguing her and brewing within her for decades - yet seemingly laid dormant throughout her lifetime.
In this episode, you will learn about…
- What you can expect from this and future episodes of the Coming Out Late Podcast
- Robins’ coming-out story and how she eventually came out to herself
- The events and clues that led-up to Robins’ “Aha!” moment
- Compulsory-heteronormativity and internalized homophobia
- How did Robin figure out she’s gay? (Cliffhanger Clue: My Secret Research Project, explained in Episode #2 of the Coming Out Late Podcast.)
Links to resources:
You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian
Looking for your coming-out late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook/ComingOutLateCommunity (You must fill out all the registration questions.)
Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to be taking care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling at: Take care of your mental health and book an appointment now with Pride Counseling now at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.
COMING OUT LATE PODCAST covers topics all-things coming out late, through intimate, small-panel discussions, one-on-one interviews with licensed therapists, and coming out late coaches; through family meetings; conversations with new, budding, late blooming couples, and finally, by fielding your personal questions in our Q&A portion of the podcast. No matter the format, COMING OUT LATE PODCAST covers a broad range of topics with great specificity. Some of the topics you can expect to hear discussed are: “Realizing You’re Gay, Now What?”, “Telling Your Spouse or Significant Other You’re Gay”, “Options Other Than Divorce”, “How to Tell Young Children You’re Divorcing AND You’re Gay”, “The Late Blooming Dating Scene”, “The Catalyst”, “Women Loving Women Break-Ups”, “The Lesbian UHaul: Fact or Fiction?”, etc.
- “Later in life” is self-defined by each individual woman’s personal journey and life experiences. Coming out late can occur in your 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, and beyond.