Teaching Self-Government Podcast: Recent Episodes
Nicholeen Peck and Paije Baumert
Fun, light-hearted discussion and advice from internationally acclaimed parenting and relationship experts!
Nicholeen Peck, founder and CEO of Teaching Self-Government, and her daughter, Paije Baumert (a certified parenting mentor), discuss different aspects of parenting and relationships and life in general. Each episode is filled with examples from Nicholeen and Paije's lives that illustrate situations where their expert advice has originated and come in handy.
In this episode, Nicholeen and Paije discuss some of the intricacies of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), how challenging and frustrating it can be, and how TSG can address behaviors that are common with this diagnosis. Do you feel like your child is oddly distant? Do you wish they desired a better connection with you like you do with them? Listen in for great tips and insights on improving your connection with someone with RAD!
In this episode, Nicholeen and Paije go to the comments of Nicholeen’s YouTube channel and address a situation posed by a nanny, wondering how to navigate the complexities of “handling” other people’s children who don’t know the TSG skills. Are you a nanny or a teacher of some sort that spends a bit of time with other people’s children and struggle keeping them “in line” while they are in your care? Do you have no idea where to even start in those situations? Listen in for more understanding of your role in those positions!
In this episode, Nicholeen and Paije continue the “Meet the Mentors” mini series. Teaching Self-Government has so many amazing certified mentors and we wanted you to get to know them and learn from them. “Meet the Mentors” introduces D.D. Black, who shares about her experiences as one of TSG's earliest mentors, her family's growth and increased unity, and her thoughts and insights on freedom from emotional bondage.
Listen in to learn from D.D.!
In this episode, Nicholeen and Paije discuss seven signs that indicate emotions being stuffed or shoved down. Comments have been made that TSG is all about keeping emotions at bay, but that simply isn’t true! Do you sometimes feel like you struggle to process your emotions or don’t even realize you’re getting stuck in them until it’s too late? You’re not alone. Listen in for these seven signs and see if you could use some help!
In this episode, Nicholeen and Paije have some deeper discussion about pessimism and optimism, what they really mean, and how they affect us. Do you struggle seeing the “silver lining” in your daily situations? Are your children struggling with happiness? Listen in for some great insight and for a plan to become more optimistic!
In this podcast episode, Nicholeen and Paije go to the comments of Nicholeen’s YouTube channel and address a situation posed by a worried mother about conflict between her teen son and husband, wanting to know how to mend the relationship. Listen in to hear what Nicholeen and Paije have to say!
In this episode, Nicholeen and Paije continue the “Meet the Mentors” mini series. Teaching Self-Government has so many amazing certified mentors and we wanted you to get to know them and learn from them. “Meet the Mentors” introduces David Eggertsen, who shares about his experiences as one of the first TSG mentors and Nicholeen’s right-hand man in the business, having TSG keep his marriage together, and the skills and principles that have been so beneficial for his family. Listen in to learn from David!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije continue the “Meet the Mentors” mini series. Teaching Self-Government has so many amazing certified mentors and we wanted you to get to know them and learn from them. “Meet the Mentors” introduces Shilo Lindstrom, who shares about her family, her experiences as a parent, and her perspective on tone in the home and how important it is to keep calm and stay consistent. Listen in to learn from Shilo!
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In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije continue the “Meet the Mentors” mini series. Teaching Self-Government has so many amazing certified mentors and we wanted you to get to know them and learn from them. “Meet the Mentors” introduces Natalie Fluckiger, who shares about her family, her experiences as a parent, and her knowledge of roles and how to use them to help us advocate for and analyze with our children. Listen in to learn from Natalie!
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In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije continue the “Meet the Mentors” mini series. Teaching Self-Government has so many amazing certified mentors and we wanted you to get to know them and learn from them. “Meet the Mentors” introduces Monica Isaacson, who shares about her self-government journey, the things that have impacted her family and community the most, and how you can set your family up for success with the proper family structure and foundation. Listen in to learn from Monica!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije continue the “Meet the Mentors” mini series. Teaching Self-Government has so many amazing certified mentors and we wanted you to get to know them and learn from them. “Meet the Mentors” introduces Sariah Schmickrath, who shares about her family travels and experiences, teaching about keeping families together, even with tension present, and increasing emotional maturity. Listen in to learn from Sariah!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije begin a new mini series! Teaching Self-Government has so many amazing certified mentors and we wanted you to get to know them and learn from them. “Meet the Mentors” introduces Bryony Wilde, who shares about her experiences with families all over the globe and shares three key principles for successful parenting, no matter where you fall on the success scale. Listen in to learn from Bryony!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss more on the topic of discernment. How do you teach it to children? We’ve learned how to discern for ourselves in the previous episode, but now we need to teach it. Listen in for steps and tips to teach your children the skill of discernment!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it looks like to have discernment and how it impacts the family and the individual. Do you feel that there is something beyond what you’re seeing that is contributing to negative behaviors in the home, but just don’t quite know what it is or how to figure it out? Listen in for some deep thoughts and helpful suggestions!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it looks like when a house is divided and, on the flip side, what a house united looks like and how to become one. Do your family members struggle knowing who they really are? Do they have a hard time doing what they know they should do over what they want to do? Listen in for great tips and advice for healing your home!
In this podcast/class, Nicholeen and Paije discuss six steps to create an environment that is conducive to inspiring a change of heart. Do you struggle getting to the root of behavioral issues? Do you feel like nothing is going in the right direction? Listen in for those six steps and additional thoughts and tips!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how to help shy children have socialization. Do you have children that are more reserved and introverted? Do you wish that they were more sociable? Listen in for advice and tips for how to support your children in socializing with your family and with others.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how to use TSG in the classroom. Are you in charge of your church class? Are you a teacher at a public or private school and need help keeping order in your classroom? Listen in for five helpful steps and tips on how to teach self-government to children that aren’t yours outside of your home!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what to do when you’re wanting to implement Self-Government into your family, but you’re a single parent (or feel like you’re single parenting). Are you the only parent involved in your children’s lives right now? Are you struggling to get your spouse on board with a new parenting system? Whether you truly are on your own or just feel like you are, listen in for great insight and advice for how to skillfully navigate your situation!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how to handle situations where children (and other people in general) just aren’t grasping a topic or the environment in general and begin to get stressed. Do you find yourself saying, “Just figure it out!” or “You know exactly what to do! Don’t tell me you don’t.”? Listen in for personal life experiences and lessons to help you!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what parents do that is reactive and what parents should be doing that is proactive. Do you find that you try to emotionally control and manipulate a situation when something doesn’t go how you want it? Do you wish you knew how to teach your children what you want them to know and do without resorting to emotional reactions? Listen in to learn the difference and the skills needed to do just that!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the eight steps for helping children get and stay calm. Are you struggling to put all of the pieces together and keep them straight? Follow our recipe for help and success!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss skills and tips for getting children to go to bed and stay in bed. Do your children do all they can to stay up and out of bed? Do they have meltdowns before or sneak out after lights out? Listen in for help with those children who just won’t go to bed!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss tactics for getting children (and teens!) out of bed in the morning. Do your children struggle getting out of bed? Is it a constant battle to get children up and going? Listen in for tips and skills to help you get your children out of bed!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss guidelines and tips for “parenting” adult children. Do you have adult children and you’re just not sure what your relationship should look like now? Listen in for an inside scoop into how adult children view their relationship with their parents, vice versa, and how to navigate the waters of new adult relationships!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss their favorite movies, what they like about them, and why they recommend them. Are you struggling to find movies that are worth watching? Listen in for a great list of “Peck Family Approved” viewing media!
To get a pdf download of this list, click HERE.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the games that the Peck family loves and recommends! Needing some good games for family time? Do you have children of varying ages? Look no further! We’ve got so many good suggestions!
To get a pdf download of this list, click HERE.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss specific book recommendations by age and why they recommend them. Have you wondered which books would be good to supplement what you’re trying to teach your family through Teaching Self-Government? Here you go! Listen in for our list (which is not exhaustive!) and why we love the books we recommend!
To get a pdf download of this list, click HERE.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the difference between mediocre media and good, uplifting media, and why it’s important to know the difference and impact each have. Are you struggling to find wholesome entertainment for your family? Do you wonder if there’s even a point to being picky with your media? Look no further (right now, anyway)! We’ve got the “why” behind all the things you’ll need for your family to have fun time together!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss tolerances in a new light. Is it possible to be understanding and calm while still keeping tolerances low? The answer is yes! Listen in for some guidance and some great tips!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the importance of partnering tone with parenting and relationship skills. Do you find that you’re executing the skills perfectly, but it’s still not quite right? Are behaviors and feelings still negative, despite your efforts to master the skills? Listen in to hear how tone and skills are and should be compatible.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije are joined by Nicholeen’s youngest daughter, Londyn Peck, to talk about how to cultivate a healthy, happy, sisterly (or sibling in general) bond. Are there differing personalities between your children? What about you and your own siblings? Listen in to hear Paije and Londyn discuss their relationship growing up and how it has changed and matured, despite very different personalities.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how to teach someone to drop the subject and what it might look like in different life situations. Do your children tend to hold a grudge when they don’t get their way? Do they have a hard time letting something go? Do you find yourself becoming emotionally invested in something that doesn’t really matter? Listen in for some insight on dropping the subject and why it’s so important!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the ups and downs of parenting as a single parent. Do you struggle catching a break? Do you feel like a single parent, even though you have a spouse? Do you often feel alone in your parenting efforts? Listen in for some great tips to help you succeed in your parenting journey, no matter if you're by yourself or just feel like you are.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the nuts and bolts of Teaching Self-Government. Need a refresher? Wondering if you’re missing out on a few things that could be helpful for you and your family? Listen in for a crash course in the things we teach and share!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how important it is to establish an authoritative (Traditional Strict) parenting style as soon as you possibly can for reasons you might not think of or realize. Are your children struggling with grades in school? Do you feel like you keep telling them something, but they’re just not getting it? Listen in for a deeper look into the psychology behind parenting styles and the effects they have on all areas of children’s lives.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how to address children’s negative behaviors in public. Do you ever find that your child does something they shouldn’t have, but you don’t want to embarrass them in front of their friends? Is that something you even consider when it comes to correction? Listen in for some great tips for correcting negative behaviors in public!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the different aspects of mental health and how to help others that struggle with poor mental health. Does someone you love struggle getting out of a mental rut? Are you wondering what the root problem is for poor mental health? Listen in to learn more about what all goes into diagnosing and repairing mental health issues.
Book recommendation:
The How of Happiness
To access Nicholeen’s class titled “The Value & Mastery of Emotions,” click HERE.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije (and Clara!) discuss what to do to make bedtime a smooth success. Do your littles put up a fight about going to bed? Do your older children simply disregard bedtime altogether to do their own thing? Listen in for skills and insights to transform your messy bedtime!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what happens when there is media addiction in the home. Are your children lazy and unenthusiastic about life? Do they fight with each other all the time? Do they constantly ask to have screen time? Listen in for some great insight about setting some boundaries and helping your family get out of your media addictions!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss some of the reasons behind rude behaviors that teens tend to exhibit and share four tips for dealing with those behaviors. Do you know teens who or openly rebellious and selfish? Are these teenagers your own children? Are you at a loss to what could help them change? Listen in for these great tips to help the teenagers in your life become more respectful and prepared for later life!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what to do when there are two different types of parenting present in the same home. Does one parent allow children to walk all over them and is known as the push-over? Is the other parent the one that lays down the hammer and strikes fear into the hearts of everyone present? Listen in for some great advice on how to resolve the issue of 2-type parenting and how both kinds of parents can unite in one way!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the one magical ingredient that can have the biggest influence for good on your family! Do your children struggle in social situations? Do you have a hard time truly connecting with your family in general? Going to family therapy and wish you didn’t have to? Listen in for the one and only “magic pill” or “quick fix” that Nicholeen shares and recommends!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss three ways to help children understand what it means to be responsible and how to do it. Do your children just not care about taking care of or picking up after themselves? Are you annoyed because they seem to not learn anything you teach them to do? Listen in for these important ways and to be inspired!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how to deal with disappointing situations. Did your child lose a game and get angry because of it? Did you spend hours on a meal that didn’t turn out right and no one liked? Listen in for some great insight and tips on how to help your family!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what social anxiety is and how it’s affecting the family. Do you have social anxiety but don’t really know why or how you got it? Do you wish you could help your children overcome their social anxiety? Listen in for some great insight and awesome tips!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss social skills: how and where are they learned? What social skills should be avoided? What if you’re anti-social as the parent, but still want to teach your children good social skills? Listen in for great tips and inspiration!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss Nicholeen’s weight loss journey. Do you want to shed a few pounds, especially during the holidays? Is there more going on besides struggling to make good health choices? Listen in for Nicholeen’s ever unique perspective and for tips to help you reach your health goals!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the secret to perfect parenting! Do you ever find yourself in a situation where you reacted in a way that you wish you hadn’t, but feel it’s too late to do anything about it? Or do you feel like it’s too much effort to go back and fix an interaction? Listen in for some great insight and teaching on this amazing gold nugget of parenting!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the importance of seeking to understand others. Have you ever felt misunderstood and struggled to get your point across? Have you caught yourself spacing out when others were trying to make themselves understood by you? Listen in for some great tips on how to understand others better and help them understand you.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what should and shouldn’t happen in the dating world. Is “hanging out” bad? How should parents be involved in their children’s dating life? Listen in for some insight and ideas to be more connected with your children who are getting ready to date!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the prevalent harm that mere suggestions can have on us as a society, but, more importantly, the minds of our children. Have you noticed that a lot of people tend to believe whatever they hear without challenging it against true principles? Have you overanalyzed something because of something someone said to you? Listen in for additional knowledge and insight into subliminal suggestions that are inundating our society!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss a lot of the fun Fall traditions that have been a special part of their life. Why are traditions so important? Do they actually play a role in healthy family relationships? Listen in for some great family traditions you can incorporate into your own family and for the reason why traditions are important.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what goes into bonding with other people. Does it just happen all on its own? Or does it take work? What are the benefits of bonding with other people? Listen in for 5 tips on how to improve your bond with others.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how important it is to be able to adapt on all fronts. Self-government is being able to determine the cause and effect of any given situation and possessing a knowledge of our own behaviors so we can control them, is it not? Is this not the essence of successfully adapting? Listen in for some personal stories from Paije’s recent life that help illustrate this principle and how it applies to anyone.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what to do with children who have begun experimenting or formed a habit with lying. Does your child like to “tell stories” to improve upon or try and change the truth? Do you have a hard time trusting your child? Listen in for specific skill sets to help your child conquer lying and truly desire better behavior.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how your family roots affect you now and share 2 tips on how you can use your roots to your advantage. Do you struggle knowing how to overcome things your parents did in your family? Is it hard to guide your family the way you want to because of things in the past? Listen in for how to take charge of your family’s direction and growth!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss some of the underlying concepts behind consequences and how best to handle them to achieve happiness. Along with that, they discuss what’s happening to the current generation and how they’re being compared to zombies. Do you get confused with the differences between consequences and punishments? Do you feel like your children and becoming “hollow?” Listen in for a somewhat deeper-than-normal discussion to deepen your understanding of consequences and where our society is headed!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the process by which people learn social skills. Do you wonder where your children are learning their social skills from? Are you worried that they might not be influenced by the right sources? Listen in to learn what sources are most beneficial to give you child the social training they need to thrive!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss 8 tips to use when preparing to send your children (or yourself) back to school. Whether you’re in public school, private school, homeschooling, etc, these tips are universal and will make sure your family stays strong and united! Do you feel like your children bring school behaviors and attitudes home with them? Is school culture tainting your family culture? Listen in to be more prepared for the school year!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the topic of fairness and if it really plays a part in healthy, happy development. Is making everything fair important? Do you really know what “fair” means? Listen in for some great tips on how to achieve ultimate fairness in your family.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what to do when you’ve already done all you can to teach your children what they should do, then they choose another path. Did you do something wrong somewhere along the line? Do you feel like you failed or are failing as a parent? Listen in for some great tips of what you can do and for further understanding of your role as a parent!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the big and small things that matter when helping teenagers learn and master self-government. Do you have a teenager that struggles to see why they would want to be obedient and learn how to govern themselves? Do you think your teen is just too far gone? Listen in for some great tips and advice to use with the teenagers in your life!
Click here for a link to Dr Michael Platt's article and other Teaching Self-Government resources!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss just how easy it is to teach young children the principles and skills of Self-Government. Do you feel like you’re constantly reminding your little children of the skills you’ve taught them? Does it seem overly repetitive to have to keep teaching the same things over and over? Listen in on how you can deal with these situations and get you and your child on track!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the manifesting behaviors of laziness in your children…and yourself. Are you frustrated that your children are lazy and not doing what they should be? Are they constantly looking for the easiest way to accomplish a task and contribute to family work? Are you looking for ways to skirt around housework or your responsibilities? Listen in for clues into what might be going on beneath the outward appearance of laziness and how to fix it!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it takes to change negative behavior at the root of the problem: where someone’s heart is at. How do you inspire and teach a change of heart in your children and yourself? Listen in for a 4-step process to achieve relationships based on love!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the specifics of how a family begins to fall apart and become dysfunctional, step by step. It always starts small and on an individual level. Can you tell your family dynamic is headed in a potentially dangerous direction, but can’t really pinpoint the underlying issue that’s causing the problems? Do you know what is causing contention? Listen in for some super insightful tips and information that can help you turn your family around before you hit rock bottom.
THIS IS A FULL, FREE CLASS! In this podcast, Teaching Self-Government brings you an all-new class! The topic was requested by school administrators and parents who are worried about children being prepared to navigate this crazy world and defend themselves, and wondering just what it takes to do that. Nicholeen and Paije share 12 lessons to learn and teach to your children, which include book recommendations, family experiences, and time-tested skills and principles that help everyone be able to determine how best to govern oneself and conquer life’s complexities. Listen in for this amazing, brand-new content!
For the curriculum article that goes along with this class/podcast, click here.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the intricacies of the touchy subject of anxiety. Everyone experiences anxiety. It’s a fact. However, the way that it’s managed and dealt with heavily determines how well the person experiencing it thrives or survives. Do you need a better grip on your anxiety? Do you need more skills and tools to help someone you love with handling their anxiety? Listen in for how Teaching Self-Government can aid you in taking control of something that might leave you feeling out of control.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it means to gather the family together. Gathering means to assemble things and people together to prepare them for success. How is that done? How can success come from gathering? Listen in for tips on how to gather your children for the short term and the long term.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije share how knowing more about our family deepens our sense of who we are and why we are. Do you know about the people who came before you? If so, how does their story play into your story? Listen in for some wonderful stories from the Peck family and lessons learned from the past!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the negative effects of “good cop, bad cop” in parenting. Why is it bad to flip-flop from being a child’s friend to laying down the law? Isn’t that the only way to get things done and make the children understand? No! There’s a better way! Listen in for details on the ups and downs of these different parenting styles!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how choosing to serve and do good to others is a form of self-government. Do you feel like your children just don’t like doing things for others when they ask kindly? Are there entitlement issues in your family or that you’ve noticed in yourself? Listen in for some great tips and insight on what you can do to help the situation!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss mindsets that are becoming more and more popular as time goes on. There are times when people feel that they are the victim or the victor of certain situations and, a lot of times, this mindset is taught and pushed on others. Why is this? How can this be avoided? Listen in for some great tips and principles of truth!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss wonderful skills and principles to use and apply when dealing with someone who is dramatic. Do you know someone who seems to make the workplace or home life difficult because they cause and spread drama? Are you possibly that person yourself? Either way, having to live with drama is never fun and can be hard for you and others to deal with. But, solving the dramatic behavior or situation properly requires proper skills and true principles. Listen to learn what those are!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the difference between foundational truths, principles, and rules. These distinctions are so important to learn and know because teaching your children by principle and foundational truths is often more effective than “laying down the law” with the rules and do’s and don’t’s. How? Does it actually work? Listen in for some great answers and wonderful golden nuggets shared by Nicholeen and Paije!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it really means to be self-governed. Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to be self-governed sometimes? Why do we struggle with consistency and patience? More and more, there is a key element of self-government that is lacking in today’s families and individuals that makes such a difference in whether self-government can be achieved or not. Listen in to find out what it is!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how principles of self-government apply to making friends. Who knew?! Making friends requires actual planning on the parent’s part, but that doesn’t mean it has to be laborious and taxing. It’s definitely fun for the parents too! Whether your children are in public school, homeschooled, or anything else, these principles and tips are golden for making and keeping friends, for you and them. Listen in!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss reasons behind the challenges that adult children can present. A lot of people have expressed concern with their older children throwing a wrench into the family flow and disrupting family relationships. Do you or someone you know struggle with their adult children? How does one go about fixing the problems that arise? Is that even possible? Is it too late to help them? Listen in for answers to all of these questions!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the intricacies of what causes stress and how it can be decreased. Experiencing stress is never fun and is inconvenient to the flow of life. How can you get it under control? Is that even possible? Yes! Listen in for great tips and thoughts on how to get in control of your stress!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss principles, skills, and truths about the details of a strong fatherly bond with his children. Paije’s husband, Josef, was concerned that he wouldn’t have the bond and relationship with his children that he wants because he’s often away providing for the family and won’t be with them as much as Paije. Do you or your spouse have similar thoughts or fears? Listen in for some great insight! So many great perspectives were shared!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how individual strengths play a key role in understanding yourself and others. Once you know what your own strengths are, you know how you can change and what areas you can focus on and have an increase in. And, once you know what others’ strengths are, you can learn how to change to best fit their needs as well. What are your strengths? How can they best be incorporated into your Self-Government journey? Listen in to find out!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how micromanaging can be a big problem. Do you try to control everything your spouse or children do? Are there things that annoy you all the time? Do you annoy yourself? This podcast gives some great insight into why that might be happening and how you can address it properly. Listen in!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how TSG applies to grandparents and grandparenting. Whether you’re the parents and are struggling getting your own parents or in-laws on the same page as you or you’re the grandparents and want to have more structured time with your wonderful grandchildren, Teaching Self-Government has skills and advice for everyone! Listen in to see how you can involve your parents or your grown children in your self-government journey!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how important it is to know what the truth is and how to apply it personally to yourself, then share it with others. Have you ever lied to yourself? Did you want to stop lying to yourself because you knew it wasn’t true, but you had no idea how to get out of your own thinking? Listen in for great truths and principles to guide you to telling yourself the truth!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what love is and what it looks like between husband and wife and parent and child. The principles of love don’t apply to romantic relationships alone. Self-government and pure love go hand in hand. Are you struggling with feeling love for your spouse or your child? Listen in for some great tips and principles!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss principles of self-government that apply to families that have unique dynamics. It’s often that parents aren’t on the same page when it comes to parenting and handling children from previous family circumstances and a lot of parents in blended families are at a loss of what to do to blend the family together in unity. Blended family or not, the principles shared here will help you out!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss two related ideas: what is seen and what is not seen. People sometimes focus so much on what is seen that they don’t look for what is not seen and what could be the cause of what is being seen on the surface. There needs to be a balance of both perspectives. Listen in for some great tips on how to do that!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss mentor sessions and how they’re formatted, along with teaching good principles for mentoring yourself and others. Is there a difference between teaching and mentoring? Do you deliberately take time to mentor yourself and your children? Do you have goals for yourself? Learn how to help your children and yourself set goals and make plans and build the foundation needed to progress and thrive in life!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss principles from the book, “The How of Happiness” and share 20 principles of happiness to help you make a change for the better and change your perspective for an increase in joy. How much control do you actually have over your happiness? Are there really ways and things to combat depression and parts of your personality that don’t promote joy? Yes! Listen in for some great tips to jumpstart your year and the rest of your life!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the difference between emotions and feelings, how feelings can be communicated without emotional “vomiting,” and worldwide misconceptions about how emotions and feelings should govern us. Do you or someone you know feel like they have to dump their emotions in order to work through something? Not true! Listen in for some amazing tips to help you and others navigate and communicate the emotions that we come in contact with daily!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how self-government principles apply to Christmas and holiday times. Many personal traditions and stories are shared, along with one of their favorite Christmas stories. Traditions provide moments to anticipate and are what make certain days special. Need more ideas for traditions for your family? Listen in!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the difference between factions and families and why the family is under attack from factions, whether outside the family unit or from inside the family. Many global unifiers have been influenced by factions from many different groups. How can the family stay close together and not be affected by these groups? Listen in to learn of some skills to help your family survive today’s society!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how self-government applies to young children. Can babies and toddlers learn to govern themselves? Yes! Listen in for some great tips and skills for applying Teaching Self-Government with your little ones!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss why bonding is so important to self-government and three key components of improving your bond with those you love and have influence on. Also, what is “bonding,” exactly? Listen in to find out!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what the term “homeschool” really means. Whether you think you are or not, you’re a homeschooler. Do your children go to public school? You’re a homeschooler. Don’t believe it? Listen in to this week’s podcast to test your theory of homeschool!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss skills and mindsets to help you focus on what is most important and what actually isthe most important thing to focus on in different situations. Even if you’re someone who struggles to focus and govern your thoughts, these skills will help you take charge of your emotions and thoughts to help you achieve success in your relationships!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the possible correlation between cleaning the house and developing good problem solving skills. Are they actually related? What would be a reason that they could be? Is it a service or a disservice to do the cleaning for your children? Listen in to figure out the connection!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how self-government can apply to heated political situations. No matter your political stance, there’s bound to be someone who disagrees with you. When conversation gets heated, what goes on inside someone’s head? What are you going to do? Can self-government skills help keep things calm, even with differing thoughts and opinions? YES! Listen in to learn what happens to create political contention and how you can avoid it!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the common misconception that principles are the same as rules. What sets a principle apart from a rule? Can they be paired together? Why are people confused about these things? Listen in to learn about the relationship between rules and principles!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how the way a child is parented does, indeed, affect and influence their behavior, as well as their reaction to specific genetic predispositions and situations. Is there anything you can even do to help your child that has a genetic barrier? Would it even be worth it to try and teach that child skills? Or is it better to just give up because they were born that way and there’s nothing that can be done? No! There are things that can be done to help any child, no matter their diagnosis, have self-government and thrive! Listen in for some awesome advice and steps that can be taken to help!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the elements of friendship. Do people really need interaction with other human beings? Why or why not? What really is a friend? Are there different types of friendships that we don’t think of very often or consider? Listen in to see if it’s really all that important or if you want to know how you can be a better friend yourself!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss three different aspects of entitlement and how they relate to each other and to society. There’s obvious examples of entitlement, but there are more details pertaining to it under the surface. So, how do these three relate to society? And to each other? How does one fuel another? Listen in to find out!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the four levels of communication: what they look like, how to progress from one level to the next, why it’s important to do so, and what obstacles could arise in this process. Listen in for tips on how to “level up” in your communication game!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the need for good, more refined social skills, in today’s adults and teens. Is it possible to be deliberate about teaching and obtaining good social skills? Do we even know what good social skills are? What goes into the development and becomes a detriment to them? Nicholeen and Paije share a healthy list of what goes into developing good social skills, especially in these times.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the important and necessary element of calmness in everyday life. We dare you to be calm! Are you committed to being calm with yourself and with your family? Do you have what it takes? Of course you do! And even if you think you don’t, listen in to get instruction on how to be calm and achieve true self-government.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the importance of being prepared and “prepping” for future situations and family relationships. Important things take time to plan ahead! What skills does it take to be ready for the future of your family? Listen in for some great “prepper tips”!
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In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how social media affects family relationships, positively and negatively. Social media has become so integrated into daily life that we don’t always stop to analyze what it does to our relationships with others. Is it creating and strengthening bonds? Is it getting in the way of connecting with the people that matter? Listen in to learn some tips on how to use social media for your benefit!
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In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss seven ways to make the school year more exciting! There are mixed emotions when going back to school. “I can’t wait! I love learning!” “Ugh. I don’t want to go back to school.” No matter where you or your child fall in those range of emotions, there is a lot you can do to spice things up in your home! And, as always, they’re designed to bring you and your family closer together.
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In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the principle of Duty. What is duty, exactly? And, once we know what it is and how it benefits us, how do we teach our children to have a sense of duty? Duty is different from obedience. So, listen in to gain some awesome tips on how to teach and inspire duty.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss just how important it is to bond with other people, especially your family. Some people are natural "bonders," but others need a little help making connections with people around them. Are you one of those people that might need a little help? Listen in for some great tips on how to bond!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the effects of pornography on the adolescent brain and a form of exposure that is outside the realm of internet filters. There are places where pornography can be accessed by children that are considered “safe” and don’t attract the attention of adults who are concerned with protecting their children’s innocence. They also discuss government action that is being taken to further protect the consciences of children. Are you concerned about the safety of your children while they’re at school or the library? Probably not, because the systems there are considered “safe.” But, listen in to uncover some unnerving truth about popular, hidden places where children can access and be confronted by pornography.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the topic of humility and its not-so-pretty opposite, pride. There are so many avenues that humility and pride can take and so many behaviors that can be exhibited within each category. Is thinking solely about others prideful? Is saying nothing at all humility? Listen in to find the “ingredients” you need to make and perfect your own “humble pie.”
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it looks like to have free communication and what causes communicative bondage. So many areas of conversation tend to be rooted in an emotional investment in someone or something, and this can be destructive. How can that change? How can we make our communication liberating for all people involved? Listen in for some amazing tips, thoughts, and suggestions!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it is that motivates change, in yourself and others. Is your child misbehaving and you wish they'd just be obedient? Do you have habits and behaviors you wish you could change yourself? Nicholeen and Paije talk about 5 steps you can take to help you or someone else be motivated to make a change in their behavior and in their heart.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss different styles of praise and how praise should be given. Along with tips on how to properly praise anyone in any kind of relationship, they talk about what do to and how to recognize when praise is done wrong, which can happen. How does praise tie into everyday living? Does it actually help a relationship? Do you praise improperly? Listen to find out!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the importance of schedules for children of all ages and lay out specifics on what you can do to set up a successful schedule for you and your children. Schedules look different for different ages, at different times of the year, and different schooling systems. What do you do? How do you manage a schedule that's supposed to be stable, but that tends to change often?
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how to keep your family focused on their future and how it relates and ties into other aspects of life. Tips on achieving this focus are shared and the why of a family vision is brought to light. A focus on the future needs to be tangible, achievable. So, listen in to find out how to make that possible!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss good civil discourse, what it is, the difference between civil disobedience and destructive behaviors, what it all looks like, and how it affects the family and societal relationships. Not only is the problem discussed, but Nicholeen and Paije share 6 steps that can be taken to achieve good civil discourse.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss different problems that commonly arise in any relationship, whether it is romantic or not. These problems can be and are solved through different principles of self-government. Problems from bad communication to entitlement, the principles discussed in this podcast can help you with so many issues you might face!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss multiple questions that are common concerns and topics of debate among married or soon-to-be married couples. In answer to these questions, 10 key Self-Government skills are presented that help to answer and solve almost all marital questions, concerns, and problems. Do you feel like you struggle appreciating or maintaining a good opinion of your spouse? Do you feel like you aren't supported in your endeavors and don't know how to get your spouse to be more invested in you and your efforts? These, along with other questions, are addressed and discussed.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the details and "ins and outs" of criticism. This word isn't liked all that much in today's society. But, why is that, exactly? Why does it have such a negative connotation? Maybe it's because the real meaning of the word "criticism" isn't known or understood. Listen in to learn more about the positive side of criticism and other important lessons and life skills connected to it.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what real love looks and feels like in a family setting, how that love can and should be utilized, and the difference and similarities between romantic love and familial love. They touch on what it feels like when the proper love isn't present, along with skills that can be used to bring that proper, deep love into family relationships.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the difference between emotional bondage and emotional freedom, what they both look like, what common behaviors are with each, how to recognize and analyze them, and why it's so important to know the difference between the two.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss 10 ways that digital media is affecting our brains and, in consequence, our relationships with family and society. During times of increased isolation from physical contact, people tend to turn to screens and media to connect with others or entertain themselves. While there are advantages to technology and the tools we have, there are many downfalls when those tools are used incorrectly.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the need for boundaries in dating, courting, and romantic relationships. Not everyone knows what things to consider when it comes to setting boundaries, so this podcast sheds some light on a few things that might not have been considered previously. Also, a few fun personal stories from the lives of Nicholeen and Paije!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discover some of the struggles that arise and are present when trying to make and keep a daily schedule. Paije relates to this in many ways, which makes it possible for her to add some insight on how to overcome scheduling challenges and roadblocks. There are so many things that get in the way, but so many skills that can help aleviate the stress of scheduling!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what negative attention seeking looks like in younger children and in adults. What do you do when a child is purposely naughty to get your attention? Or when a friend of yours is passive-aggresive and degrading about a certain aspect of their life? Take a listen to find out the skills you can use to help your friends and family stop seeking negative attention.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss some of the problems parents have seen with the lack of responsibility their children have, what those issues could look like in your own home, and some of the solutions for parents to help their children (and themselves) assume and take on more responsibility. It's part of the natural growing and learning process.
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije talk about the history of the word "culture" and why it's so important to have a strong family culture. There are so many aspects to consider when wanting to strengthen and improve your family environment and traditions. Take a listen to know what they are!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what happens when children, or anyone of any age, puts up a "wall." Is it normal? Is it the child's fault or the parents' fault? Or is it both? What causes someone to put up an emotional wall and not open up?
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it looks like when someone isn't calm, what calmness really is, why calm people and behaviors are becoming more and more socially unacceptable, and 7 steps to help you achieve your own calmness, no matter your age!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the importance of having open communication in all different relationships and areas of life, what actual open communication sounds like, and how to achieve it with your friends, roommates, spouses, children, and anyone else!
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss components of any good relationship, the concept of TIME (along with the many aspects that come along with time), love languages, the difference between quality time and quantity of time, and share some fun family stories.
In this podcast, Nicholeen explains the nature, history, and intent of her podcasts and introduces her oldest daughter, Paije, to her listening audience. Nicholeen and Paije discuss the topic of confidence and how it applies to and appears in children and adults and what the opposite of confidence is.