Maurice Harker defines an often vaguely used term. When couples understand what presiding really means they can better fulfill their God-given roles and experience a higher level of marital happiness. 

https://www.lifechangingservices.org/lazaruslectures (for both)

https://www.lifechangingservices.org/wmrw/(for wives) 

https://www.lifechangingservices.org/mmrw/ (for husbands)