The Timms Take: Recent Episodes
Matt & Rachel Timms
Matt and Rachel discuss play, what it looks like and whether they're good at it. Together they start working towards a grand theory of play. Plus some mail from the deep end!
How do you play? Let us know by emailing us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Rachel's bubbly music: "Feels So Right" and "Everything's Right" by Matt Wertz
Rachel and Matt talk about the things they don't want to forget about this season, both things that Oliver and Julian are doing and things that they are feeling and experiencing themselves.
We're always looking for more mail! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Rich Roll Podcast with Jessica Lahey: Innoculating Kids Against Addiction
Matt and Rachel discuss the ways that having a second child has changed them from resignation to patience to introversion and all kinds of things in between. Plus, some things that haven't seemed to change at all!
Have you noticed any changes through the podcast? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Rachel and Matt do a snake draft of the services they subscribe to after some brief marital therapy induced by some recent sleepless nights.
Do you have a favorite thing you're subscribed to? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Chris Trager, the fine-tuned machine
- Getting Things Done by David Allen
- Our subscriptions:
- Todoist
- 1Password
- Spotify
- YNAB; referral link
- League Pass (Team Pass)
- Amazon Prime
- Refit
- Microsoft 365
- Google One
- Prose
- Pinboard
- CleanMyMac X
Matt interviews Rachel about her experience of instinctive decision making as a mom. Where do they come from? How does she discern when to pay attention and when to trust conventional wisdom despite them?
And stay to the end to hear about Oliver's own parenting techniques!
Have instincts of your own? A story where they worked out perfectly (or not so perfectly)? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com and we'll likely include your note in a future episode!
Matt and Rachel talk about the positive and negative pressures that get applied when they have to parent in public and the way so much of this reflects our own stuff far more than the parenting our kids need! Plus, Oliver on red dye.
As always, we welcome your own takes! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Sesame Street's "Good Night, World!"
- Beth Moore's memoir: All My Knotted-Up Life
Rachel and Matt talk about the value of studying the loves and passions of others in the family and some examples of ways they have done that for each other and with Oliver. Plus some brief weather talk and the challenge of working out what's going on with a five month old.
Have your own example? Or another family/friend philosophy? Email us and let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Some Favorite Dude Perfect Videos: Ping Pong Trick Shots, Ultimate Mini Games Battle
Matt and Rachel discuss the surprising lack of rules in their family, how that might be a healthy thing and how children (toddlers especially!) help relativize the importance of ironclad boundaries.
Have a favorite family rule? Or a personal hard line you will not cross? Email us and let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Raising Boys & Girls Podcast
- The Worry-Free Parent Miniseries (from the Raising Boys & Girls Podcast)
- Dude Perfect YouTube Channel
- Blues Clues & You: Storytime with Josh & Blue (Podcast)
Rachel and Matt hit a couple of quick highlights from recent days, and then dive deep on their love of reading, where it came from, how they've cultivated it and some favorites of this year!
Have a book recommendation? Or another favorite hobby you're dying to share with us? Email us and let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Wayside School Series by Louis Sachar
- A Series of Unfortunate Events
- Hardy Boys mysteries
- Ted Dekker
- Goodreads
- Robin Sloan on the Libby widget
- The Thursday Murder Club Series by Richard Osman
- Children of Dune by Frank Herbert
- Taylor Jenkins Reid (Daisy Jones and the Six, The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo, Carrie Soto is Back)
- Delighting in the Trinity by Michael Reeves
- I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet by Shauna Niequist
- Fourth Wingby Rebecca Yarros
Matt and Rachel lament their current four month regression with Julian and reflect on what it's like going back through this all a second time.
Whose analogy did you like better? It might be the only thing worth commenting on in this episode. Email us and let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Previous sleep regression episodes: Episode 20 ("I declared the regression was over..."); Episode 21 ("I was wrong...")
- "Look for the Light"
- Bell Sound Effect from Pixabay
Rachel and Matt talk about the guilt around certain areas that they carry with them about their parenting, how they process that individually and together.
How do you grapple with guilt, whether parenting-related or in another part of your life? We'd love to hear about it. Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Instagram Reel about "Soaking It All In"
- The Bear on Hulu
Matt and Rachel explore the question "what compelling or interesting things do you bring in your role in our family?" It leads to an interesting and encouraging conversation as they explore their dynamic and how that interacts with early expectations in marriage.
Have you had a conversation like this with someone? Inspired by this episode? We'd love to hear about it. Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- NYT Opinion on athletic groups replacing religion: "The Church of Group Fitness"
Rachel and Matt offer a whole episode of TV recommendations. Now that they can't just use Matt's parents' Netflix, they are watching shows one streaming platform at a time. So, if you only subscribed for a month, what do they think you should watch? Listen to find out.
We'd love to hear your recommendations. What are your favorite shows? What should we check out? Why should we subscribe to Paramount+? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Amazon Prime: Primo and Jury Duty
- Max (HBO): Newsroom and The West Wing
- Recap Podcast: The West Wing Weekly
- Hulu: Survivor and Modern Family
- Podcast: On Fire with Jeff Probst
- Apple TV: Platonic and Trying
- Netflix: Madam Secretary and Formula 1: Drive to Survive (bonus mention to The Diplomat)
- Disney+: Bluey and Andor
- Favorite Bluey episodes: Baby Race and Sleepytime
We're back! Matt and Rachel talk about the future of the podcast and share a few of the things that have happened recently including Julian's birth, Oliver's third birthday and how they feel about it all.
As we broaden the topics of the podcast, we're game for anything - send us a note about something you'd be curious to hear our "take" on! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Zingo, the game Matt and Oliver were playing.
No, it's not an update; just a couple of tired parents trying to not mislead listeners.
More to (maybe) come soon (maybe), we think (possibly)...
One month out from baby #2 and how are we feeling? Rachel and Matt reflect on what they are anticipating, how they've been preparing (and not preparing), and what this might mean for their relationship.
Plus an announcement of our upcoming plans (or lack thereof).
We welcome mail responses to episodes old and new! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Kate Bowler, "A Blessing for the Life You Have"
- In a fitting Easter story, the Chick-fil-A Side salad died, and then rose again.
This episode is all (and only) the other stuff featuring a new favorite fantasy series, newsletter, another (rival?) podcast and some of Oliver's recent sayings. Links below!
Plus Rachel asks for breakfast suggestions.
Breakfast suggestions? Future topic ideas? Send them to timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Chris Traegar from Parks and Rec
- The Legendborn Cycle by Tracy Deonn
- Craig Mod: Roden, Ridgeline, his website
- Bible Project Podcast on the Law
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about their recent summit conversation and the way it created a significant "before and after" moment for Matt.
How do you practice contentment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- "From the Summit" by Hannah (aka "Blog Crush Lady")
- Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
- Survivor is back!
- The Ember mug
In this episode, Rachel and Matt discuss screen time, how much Oliver gets it, and why it might be helpful for us to just relax a little (or more than a little).
Plus a mention of Oliver's first dentist experience.
Do you have thoughts on screen time? We know you do! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Emily Oster's Cribsheet
- "From the Summit" by Hannah (aka "Blog Crush Lady")
- Station Eleven by Emily St John Mandel
In this episode, Matt and Rachel rank Oliver's 22 stuffed animals, discussing their rankings in light of affection and emotional reactions, longevity, our personal connections to his animals, places they've been, and their heritage.
Disagree with these authoritative rankings? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Photos of Oliver's animals: Almost the Whole Gang; Some of the Top 10
- A poor substitute for Yaya that we hope we never have to buy.
- Bluey: Unicorse
In this episode, Rachel and Matt share many of the joys they experience as parents of Oliver including the magic of a toddler's head on your shoulder, seeing your child's sense of humor come alive, the funny things they say and much more.
We always love mail! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Bluey
- Ezra Klein Show: "This Is Your Brain on Deep Reading. It's Pretty Magnificent"
- Drew Holcomb & the Neighbors: "Family" aka "The Shoulder Song"
- The Mirror Visitor Quartet by Christelle Dabos
In this episode, Matt and Rachel explore some hopes for the new year (beyond getting potty training settled). They talk about enjoying this stage in Oliver's development, hopes for outside fun and Matt continues to revisit his unhealthy obsession with productivity.
What are your hopes for the New Year? We'd love to hear them! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
In this episode, Rachel and Matt debrief/vent about a tough week and Matt grapples with the difference between parenting in concept and parenting in reality.
Want to send some encouragement, any encouragement? We'd welcome it! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Jon McLaughlin: Red & Green
In this episode, Matt and Rachel go back and forth talking about what works and doesn't work for convincing Oliver to do what he's asked from preparing him for what's to come to offering a rational explanation to playing games along the way.
Have your own negotiating tactic? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Episode 59 on Gentle Parenting
- How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen by Joanna Faber & Julie King
- Big Little Feelings
- Dune the book (by Frank Herbert); Dune the Movie
In this episode, Rachel and Matt talk about their (ahem, Rachel's) toy philosophy and some toys laying around their house that fit into different categories like "best unexpected toy", "most regretted purchase" and more. Plus, stay to the end for a big announcement.
Have advice in light of that announcement? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Little Tikes Basketball Hoop
- Oliver's Plastic Guitar
- Melissa & Doug Cleaning Set
- Trip a Little Light Fantastic (from Mary Poppins Returns)
- Andor on Disney+
- Descript - Matt's podcast editing software (it's magical)
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about the mental toll of parenting including challenges at bed time, interrupted dinners, repeated songs, impossible-to-decode instructions and much more. Much, much more.
Got ways to help our mental fortitude? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Episode 67: The Physical Toll of Toddlers
- Nowhere To Go But Up & Can You Imagine That (from Mary Poppins Returns)
- DreamList
- The 1904 Olympic Marathon: The Memory Palace Episode, Wikipedia Article
- A Guide to Christmas Feasting by Matt Timms and Sam Gutierrez
In this episode, Rachel and Matt discuss the concept of the "default parent", where they've seen it in their own parenting, whether the term is helpful at all, and how they have (mostly) avoided this type of resentment. Plus, some Other Stuff that includes a cry for help from Rachel about lunch.
Seriously, what do you eat for lunch?! Email Rachel at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Chromecast with Google TV
In this episode, Rachel and Matt talk about the struggles of short-term family sickness including bad nights of sleep, the "quick kid recovery", germ overload and much more.
Have a story? Want to share a comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Photo of Oliver as Miguel from Coco
- ABLE Clothing (and their 360 Club)
In this episode, Rachel and Matt talk about what it's like to have time away from Oliver, how normal that feels, and the swirl of feelings and cultural expectations that around that. They also explore the positive side of "time away" that opens up a part of them that isn't just a parent. Oh, and they bring up some Other Stuff, of course.
Want to join the conversation? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Matt references a podcast where three Dads are talking about wanting time with their kids as they want less time with you. Here is that podcast: Dadville with Chris Shiflett
- "No Guilt Allowed! Why Parents Need Time for Themselves" by Brian Gresko
- Junior Bake Off
In this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss this quote: "Was this parenthood? That every second of joy would be atomically split with fear?" They talk about their own different experiences of wrestling with fear, anxiety and mortality in the context of parenthood and marvel at just how different two people can be.
We would love your feedback. Let us know your experience of joy and fear by emailing us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Ashley Gadd's newsletter
- Sinéad Gleeson's memoir Constellations
- The Daily (by the New York Times), particularly a recent episode on California's promise to only sell new electric cars by 2035.
In this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss the experience of Oliver preferring a particular parent, their feelings about this (and the relief of not always being the "chosen one"), how age plays a role and whether this is something to indulge or not.
We loved hearing from Marco on parental pride. If you want to chime into the conversation, reach out at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- From the New York Times: "Why Does My Kid Prefer My Partner?" by Jessica Grose
- From Big Little Feelings: "Managing Parent Preference"
- Lucy Huber's tweet (@clhubes)
In this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss the fascinating phenomenon of parental pride - where does it come from, what about it is natural, and when does it become unhealthy? They also discuss some postures that can offer a different way of appreciating kids.
You might not miss us, but we miss you. If you want to chime into the conversation, reach out at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
- Timeless on Hulu
- "Does My Son Know You?" by Jonathan Tjarks
In this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss the physical toll of toddlers on their parents, both the obvious ("collateral damage of play") and the more subtle. Plus some fun other stuff.
Have other physical tolls we didn't mention? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- A study on parental sleep (or lack thereof): "Long-term effects of pregnancy and childbirth on sleep satisfaction and duration of first-time and experienced mothers and fathers" by David Richter, Michael D Krämer, Nicole K Y Tang, Hawley E Montgomery-Downs, and Sakari Lemola
- The Address Book by Deirdre Mask
In this episode, Matt and Rachel come fresh off an argument to talk about the bests and worsts of vacations with a toddler including the extra travel time, afternoon siestas, and just how close Matt's vacation rhythm is to that of a toddler.
What are your bests and worsts of vacations? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- "Seventeen Hip Pack" aka Rachel's Re-Branded Fanny Pack
In this episode, Matt and Rachel share about a recent pool incident where neither of them wanted to be there and how we might think about doing things we don't want to for/with our kids. It quickly shifts and expands to a conversation about our expectations.
And as always, we welcome your feedback and thoughts - just drop a note to timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Bluey: Helicopter
- The Ezra Klein Show: "Relationships Are Hard. This Unusual Parenting Theory Can Help."
- Dadville with Andrew Peterson
- Mama Bear Video
In this episode, Matt and Rachel give an update on the state of the pod and take turns sharing defining characteristics of Oliver at the burgeoning age of 2. Enjoy!
And as always, we welcome your feedback and thoughts - just drop a note to timmstake@gmail.com.
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Karissa-recommended book: How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen by Joanna Faber & Julie King
- "The Pool Song" aka "The World es mi Familia"
- Oliver performing with backup dancer Balou
Matt and Rachel are on vacation this week but for a few brief minutes they're joined by the one who makes the podcast possible - Oliver! And then he leaves.
Anyway, we'll be back in a week with a normal episode, a recap of some travel, and some reflections on being a parent of a 2-year-old. Plus, we'll talk about the state of the podcast.
Want to weigh in about whether we should continue? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
In this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss what it means to be happy as a parent (and whether it's possible!). Prompted by recent ups and downs (including an Oliver/Matt meltdown), it's we enjoyed the conversation!
Plus, we end the episode with some favorite books in the segment "Quiet Play Companions."
Mentioned in this episode:
- Paul Bloom, "What Becoming a Parent Really Does to Your Happiness"
- The New One by Mike Birbiglia
- The Maid by Nita Prose
- City of Brass by S. A. Chakraborty
In this episode, Matt and Rachel share a host of parenting peeves. They've refrained from unburdening themselves to date but it comes tumbling out now! Here them go on (and on) about sippy cups, eating out with toddlers, and more.
Plus, I'm Not Just a Parent.
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Popcast with Knox and Jamie: The More You Know - Fixing Zac Efron and Parenting Snake Draft
- Notion (Rachel's note-taking app)
For the first time, it's Matt only. If you want to skip this one, we understand. He just tells you that we're delaying our episode a week because we're busy and asks you to send any good parenting resources to timmstake@gmail.com
You can give to the Timms Take GreenHouse Fundraiser here.
In this episode, Matt and Rachel share a couple of wonderful letters, explore the topics of hidden and competing goals in parenting and then give an update on Oliver's language in a segment called "Key Plays." It's a packed episode!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Donate to the GreenHouse any time of year here
- How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen by Joanna Faber & Julie King:
- 3 Powerful Types Of Parenting Goals That Will Change Your Life 2022 by Pamela Li
You can give to the Timms Take GreenHouse Fundraiser here.
In this special episode, Matt and Rachel talk with Rena Crocker, the Executive Director of the GreenHouse about parenting, introducing and practicing faith with your kids and the wonderful work being done at the GreenHouse.
Plus, an invitation to "pay it forward" with a Timms Take fundraiser (see link above).
Mentioned in this episode:
- Donate to the GreenHouse any time of year here
- A simple introduction to the Church Calendar
- Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi
- Transcendent Kingdom by Yaa Gyasi
In this episode Matt and Rachel discuss Matt's war against pollen and heat, the tenets of gentle parenting and what it means to have firm boundaries with a budding toddler! Plus a new segment: Quiet Play Companions.
Mentioned in this episode:
- “The Harsh Realm of 'Gentle Parenting'” by Jessica Winter
- The Ezra Klein Show: "Relationships Are Hard. This Unusual Parenting Theory Can Help."
- Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
- Beach Read by Emily Henry
- The People We Meet on Vacation by Emily Henry
- Book Lovers by Emily Henry
- Us by David Nichols
In this episode Matt and Rachel discuss how they've changed in light of becoming parents, plus Rachel brings a groundbreaking entry in the "Field Guide for Parents."
Mentioned in this episode:
- "If You Literally Feel Like a New Person After Having Your Baby, Here's Why" by Ambrosia Brady
- No Cure for Being Human by Kate Bowler
- Coffee & Crumbs Podcast: Gamechangers
- The Lazy Genius: "The 7 Date Night Mistakes You Didn't Know You Were Making"
Matt and Rachel talk about a recent study on preschool education and spin off into a conversation about the deep tensions between wanting what's best for your child and wanting to contribute to a more equitable and just world. Plus, the return of Smooch, Marry, Kill.
Mentioned in this episode:
- William Martin's "Do Not Ask Your Children to Strive"
- "A Top Researcher Says It's Time To Rethink Preschool" by Anya Kamenetz
- Harry Potter: Hogwarts Battle
- Allbirds Wool Pipers
Matt and Rachel talk about Oliver as the quintessential toddler and what it looks like to not determine parenting based on future outcomes. Plus a new segment, "What's On After 7?"
Mentioned in this episode:
- Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
- Formula One: Drive to Survive
- S3E9: "Man on Fire"
- The Rescue
Matt and Rachel talk about narrating the hard things of life as they discuss an essay by Abby Perry (see link below). Plus a mailbag from listener of the show, Andrei.
Mentioned in this episode:
- "Parenting as Narrating" by Abby Perry
- "When I'm Older" featuring an overly optimistic Olaf
Matt and Rachel talk about uncertainty, the significance of modeling and things in their life they would like to "Smooch, Marry, and Kill."
Mentioned in this episode:
- Bluey: Copycat
- Smooch, Marry, Kill segment comes with a big tip of the hat to the Popcast with Knox and Jamie
- Eddie Bauer Ladies Lounger Jogger
- The Gilded Cage by Lynette Noni
- Doritos Cheesy Gordita Crunch (substitute potatoes easily when ordering via the Taco Bell app)
In this episode, Matt and Rachel give a series of updates: about the podcast, about Matt's retreat, and about Oliver's recent sleep adventures.
As we embark on a new season of the podcast, we're looking for new segment ideas. Send some over to us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Abbey of Our Lady of New Clairvaux (where Matt went for retreat)
- Instagram: @takingcarababies
In this episode, Matt and Rachel confess that in the Christmas merriment (and chaos) they forgot to podcast. And so here they are saying hi, sorry, and we'll see you in the new year!
Want to convince Rachel to keep podcasting? Reach out to timmstake@gmail.com!
In this episode, Matt and Rachel share the results of Timms Take Trivia, discuss the merits of Disney as a vacation destination and recap their recent trip. Plus, stay till the end for a little tension on the podcast about the different ways Matt and Rachel approach post-vacation life.
Have your own opinions about Disneyland or DisneyWorld? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Confessions of a Midlife Travel Blogger: Why I’m Never Taking My Kids to Disney
- Mamison dishwashing gloves
- Bookshop.org
- The Bentgo Box we used for Oliver's snacks.
- Matt references his Cannarf experience with the Bentgo box. Learn more about the Cannarf Rating Scale here.
We made it! 50 episodes! To celebrate, Matt reflect on 50 episodes of podcasting, have a very special guest on and preview a listener quiz.
That's right, here it is - for you oh dear listener, CLICK HERE FOR TIMMS TAKE TRIVIA.
You can take this at any time, but if you want to be eligible for the Timms Take Prize Pack, be sure to complete it by Friday, December 10.
As always, thanks for listening and we love to hear from you. Shoot us a note at any time at timmstake@gmail.com!
In this episode, Matt and Rachel revisit their conversation about traditions, Matt issues a public statement and they share some "Key Plays" in Oliver's recent development.
We want to hear about your traditions! What has sizzled? What has fizzled? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Bible Ride (tragically out of print, but available on Ebay!)
- Shauna Niequist on Coffee & Crumbs
In this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss a packed work week for Rachel, how they think about Santa and the Tooth Fairy and offer some of their favorite things in "I'm Not Just a Parent!"
Tooth Fairy: Creepy or magical? You decide. Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- "The Tooth Fairy, Santa, Parents, and God" by Lydia Musher
- The West Wing Weekly
- Only Murders in the Building
- A very cute picture of Oliver dressed up as Daniel Tiger.
- Inspector Gamache Series
In this episode, Matt and Rachel make a promise to revisit traditions soon, discuss how to cultivate space for wondering about the world together and hear about Rachel's go-to places for Oliver's clothing. There's a lot packed in there!
Let us know how you maintain wonder in the midst of a full life by sending us a note at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Coffee & Crumbs
- "Stay Baffled" by Courtney Martin
- Target Baby Clothes
- H&M Baby Clothes
- Primary Baby Clothes
- See Kai Run Shoes: The link is to the Knit Walker which is what we have for Oliver.
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk a little about birthdays, traveling with toddlers and expectations before diving into a larger discussion about "good enough parenting." Stick around for a Field Guide for Parents and a bonus poem read by Rachel.
Let us know your thoughts how to let go of perfectionism and let your child be their own person at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Austin Kleon's website
- "The Good Enough Parent is the Best Parent" by Dr. Peter Gray
- Brave New Mama by Vicki Rivard
In this episode, Matt and Rachel revisit Rachel's travel preparations and their effectiveness (or not) and Matt brings an unexpectedly spicy take about holiday traditions. Yes, they will be working through what comes up in this episode for sometime.
Let us know your thoughts on family or individual traditions at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- The "Haters Gonna Hate" gif from Luke's email (thanks for the letter Luke!).
- Creating Your Own Traditions (Not Somebody Else's) by Traci Smith
- Goodreads
In this special pre-vacation edition, Matt and Rachel preview their upcoming trip and the steps they [editor's note: Read, Rachel] have taken to ready Oliver (and themselves) for traveling to the Midwest. They also wrestle with the risk this entails in a pandemic and how to be hospitable to others as they travel.
Think Rachel's plans were successful (or not). Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com! We'll follow up next episode. :)
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Jet Lag App. This has been rebranded since Rachel used it for Australia, but it's the same idea.
- The Allender Center Podcast Series on Summer Hospitality
In this episode, Matt and Rachel respond to some mail, discuss sleep training (and reflecting back on decisions you already made) and they premier a new segment: Instagram Unposted.
Have opinions about sleep training and the article we discussed? Read it (see link below) and reach out to us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Emily Oster, "Sleep Training: Is It Bad?"
- ParentData (Emily Oster's newsletter)
- You can find links to Emily's books at emilyoster.net
- Precious Little Sleepby Alexis Dubief
- The Modern Family episode featuring Cry It Out: "Up All Night"
- Rachel mentions that Matt is an Enneagram 1. Here's a summary of what that means for those unfamiliar with the Enneagram.
- Goat House Brewery
In this episode, Matt and Rachel recap their recent Yosemite modeling experience (and first night away from Oliver!), talk about hills they will and won't die on, and Rachel shares a favorite product in a new segment.
Have opinions about the blog post we discussed? Read it (see link below) and reach out to us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Odessa James Photo (our friend Shelby's insta - because that's what the cool kids would call it and we're cool models now).
- A few pictures of yours truly in Yosemite.
- Featured in the Timms Take: "Pick a Hill to Die" by Hannah BCL ("Blog Crush Lady")
- Capital Books in Sacramento
- Bringing Up Bookmonsters by Amber and Andy Ankowski:
- Product Placement with Rachel: The Ezpz Mini Mat
In this episode, Matt and Rachel reach into the mailbag, offer their takes and experiences with intensive parenting, expectations for a parent-child relationship in adulthood and share a significant Oliver milestone!
Have opinions about the article we discussed? Read it at the link below and reach out to us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- "Parents Are Sacrificing Their Social Lives on the Altar of Intensive Parenting" by Joshua Coleman
In this episode, Matt and Rachel give an update on the state of the podcast, respond to some mail, and talk about toxic positivity in our parenting language. Also, some field guide tips on managing toys!
Have opinions about narrating children's emotions or anything else we talked about? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Instagram Account: @biglittlefeelings
- Here are the particular posts we looked at for this conversation:
- "Your toddler is scared of the slide, or school drop off, or a purple crayon."
- "Has your toddler ever melted down over something absolutely, totally, ridiculous?"
In this episode, Matt and Rachel look back at the past year through the lens of wins, losses and draws. Want a full recap of Oliver's first year? Well, go back and listen to the archive. But want a glimpse into a few things that stand out? This is your episode!
As always, we'd love to hear from you, particularly if you know the latest about wipe technology. Reach out at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Popcast's Bachelor recaps is available at their Patreon.
- Precious Little Sleep by Alexis Dubief
- This is the kind of vacuum Matt was talking about.
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about Oliver's reaction to Matt's haircut, his general "sour patch" tendencies and what Rachel thinks of people who call each other "Mom" and "Dad". ;) Plus, we talk about some non-parenting related things in our segment "I'm Not Just a Parent."
As always, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Broadway’s Back with Lin-Manuel Miranda and Jimmy Fallon
- “What’s Missing in a Pandemic Marriage? Other People” by Abigail Rasminsky
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about their recent vacation, the challenge of loving Oliver well in hard seasons and some recent bathtub slips.
As always, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Here's what Matt and Rachel were trying to describe when talking about the ring stacking thingy.
- More info about TSA Precheck
We're on vacation this week! So no new episode today, but we promise we'll make it up to you with an episode coming later this week.
In the meantime, you can always build up our backlog of mailbag notes by emailing us at timmstake@gmail.com.
Talk to you soon!
In this episode, Matt and Rachel revisit some highlights from a packed couple of weeks including a date night at Golden One Center, a visit from the grandparents and Oliver's baptism.
Want to get on the ground floor of Rachel's Sellable Forms? We're accepting business inquiries at timmstake@gmail.com. And by business inquiries, we just mean regular mail/interaction. :)
Mentioned in this episode:
- Jenny & Tyler's "In Everything You Do"
- Want to revisit the early days right around that first grandparent visit. Check out our second episode: "It's Been A Week Folks..."
In this episode, Matt and Rachel reveal the winner of the guessing competition in our last episode, talk about Oliver's first visit to the church nursery (well, really Rachel's feelings around that), Oliver's squirming ways, the joys and challenges of mealtime and oh so much more.
Want to take a shot at that prize with an unprecedentedly good piece of mail? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com. Of course, we welcome all other quality of mail as well. :)
Mentioned in this episode:
- West Wing Theme
- Emily Oster talks with Virginia Sole-Smith about weight, kids, and the pandemic
- And more Emily Oster on picky eating
- First Foods Database
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about Oliver's recent 9-month appointment, unstructured play time, family pace and rest, and a couple of new hobbies for us! There's a lot in here. :)
Plus, can you guess what Matt was struggling with throughout the episode? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com to win a prize (I don't know what it is, but I'm sure it will be good).
Mentioned in this episode:
- Half Baked Harvest
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about Oliver's cannibalistic tendencies (mostly joking!), nap transitions, his Spring collection and the impact of a baby on the practicalities of our faith - what in the world does church look like without an open nursery and a 9 month old?
We had questions for you too - what have you done about traditions for your young kids? Do you have any good sustainable children's clothing tips? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com and be featured in a future mailbag segment. :)
In this episode, Matt and Rachel take a larger look back at the past year and some of the particular losses in light of the many complexities that came with it. But the episode ends on a lighter note with some mail!
As always, we would love to hear from you! You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com and be featured in a future mailbag segment. :)
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Bell Tower Podcast: Home, Grief, Practices
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about their big beach day, Oliver's noise at the dining table, and Rachel brings a spicy take about the recent toxic metals in baby food situation (okay, it wasn't that spicy).
As always, want to write in? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com. We'd love to hear from you!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Our new Baby Beach Tent (Oliver nap approved)
- Rachel's trusted voices:
- Emily Oster (general newsletter link; particular piece on Toxic Baby Metals)
- Dr. Mona (Instagram: @pedsdoctalk)
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about Oliver's personality and newfound movement abilities, Matt affirms Rachel's grocery cart challenges from last time and they offer a couple of cleaning recommendations.
As always, want to write in? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com. We'd love to hear from you!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Tody (Cleaning App)
- More info about Apple Family Sharing
- Mamison Quality Kitchen Rubber Gloves
If you try one of these things, let us know!
An apology: Phew boy, sorry for the audio here folks. Lots of heavy breathing and plosives hitting the mic. If you need to skip and move on, we understand. We'll have it fixed for next time, but there was too much good stuff here to just rerecord. So if you're willing to suffer through it, here's what you'll hear:
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about transitioning to their new home, Rachel's grocery cart challenges and Matt's incredible generosity in feeding his son (that's a joke).
As always, want to write in? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com. We'd love to hear from you!
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Lazy Genius: Instagram; Website
In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about baby giggles, a soon-to-come transition for Oliver, current events and work life. It's a packed episode!
As always, we'd love to hear from you! You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com.
In this episode, Matt and Rachel recap the last two weeks including shots, games with Oliver, and moving. They also offer two very different takes (it's worth listening to the end for Rachel's).
As always, want to write in? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com. We'd love to hear from you!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Jenny & Tyler, "In Everything You Do"
This week Matt and Rachel look back at the first six months of parenting and grant awards, from the Best 2-Way Player to the "When Doctors Don't Cut It" Award. We also talk about some small changes to the podcast going forward.
As always, want to write in? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com. We'd love to hear from you!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Our glider/chair/non-snuggle spot.
- Nurse Instagram Accounts for New Parents: @mommy.labornurse, @babytalk.birthnurse, @karrie_locher
- Some top comedies of the last six months: Brooklyn Nine-Nine (stream on Hulu), Ted Lasso (stream on Apple TV+), Schitt's Creek (stream on Netflix), Life In Pieces (stream on Prime Video).
Rachel and Matt talk about the twenty-fifth week of parenting, from a sweet greeting to a less-festive-than-expected curbside pickup.
Have a question or comment or feedback for the future of the podcast? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- "Bear cub climbs mountain to reunite with mama bear" (we found it with a single Google search)
Rachel and Matt talk about the twenty-fourth week of parenting and they get really, well, real, as they reflect on Matt's struggles and how their different personalities impacts their marriage and parenting.
Have a question or comment? Have an easy solution to all Matt's struggles? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Rachel and Matt talk about the twenty-third week of parenting, from missed naps (for Matt!) to how we think more intentionally about this next season of life.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Rachel and Matt talk about the twenty-second week of parenting, from Oliver's first solid food to railing against the tyranny of too many clasps on baby clothes.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Magnolia Lounge Wear
- Me Undies Men's Yoga Pants (apparently, to Rachel's point, actually called the Men's Lounge Pant)
- Travel Freely (remember, explore this responsibly, and definitely not if you have or are tempted to have credit card debt)
Rachel and Matt talk about the twenty-first week of parenting, from that ongoing sleep regression (it was not over) to crib life to buying a house!
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- IKEA's Sundvik Crib
- Solly's Crib Sheets
Rachel and Matt talk about the twentieth week of parenting, from the joy Oliver brings to the dreaded four month sleep regression.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Precious Little Sleep by Alexis Dubief
- Kendra Adachi's The Lazy Genius Way
Rachel and Matt talk about the nineteenth week of parenting, from high chairs to a holy poop explosion. Plus, we hear from a couple of listeners - one affirming and one filing a complaint!
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Peds Doc Talk episode: "Let's Eat! Introduction of Solids"
- Our Cuisinart Electric Griddler. (As I type this, there's even a coupon for about 10% off!)
- Mcbroken.com. Gamechanger.
Rachel and Matt talk about the eighteenth week of parenting, from a four month appointment to the highs and lows of a stricter evening schedule.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Mentioned in this episode:
- Odessa James Photography (Rachel's good friend Shelby - check her out!)
- Baby Geniuses in case you're interested without a recommendation.
- Book darts!
Rachel and Matt talk about the seventeenth week of parenting, from losing keys to a really hard day.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Photo: Welcome to Chez Olivier, a pop-up bistro featuring the owner.
- The Art In Life (Blog): "My Baby is Inconvenient"
Rachel and Matt talk about the fifteenth week of parenting, from Oliver's first word (not really) to the joys and challenges of friendships in this season.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Podcasts brought up (again): Dadville, Coffee & Crumbs
- Lemon-lime squeezer
Can't get enough Timms Takes? How about three more? In this bonus episode, Rachel and Matt are joined by their siblings(-in-law), Caleb, Lauren, and Joel.
Recorded two months ago, this episode gives both a fun glance back and a special look at the reflections of an uncle or aunt.
Want to send something into the mailbag? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Rachel and Matt talk about the fifteenth week of parenting, from Oliver's first word (not really) to the joys and challenges of friendships in this season.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode.
Mentioned (again) in this episode:
- Chocolate Peanut Butter Crunch Cake (just in case you missed it last week).
Rachel and Matt talk about the fourteenth week of parenting, from jury duty life hacks to parenting trackers.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. Our particular question for this week: How do you deal with transitions? Cold turkey? Or gradual change? Let us know!
Things mentioned in this episode:
- Chocolate Peanut Butter Crunch Cake (the to-be-made recipe for Rachel's birthday)
- The Huckleberry App
- The Starfish Surprise Swaddle (note: not really like a surprised starfish)
- Cixin Liu's Remembrance of Earth's Past Trilogy
Rachel and Matt talk about the thirteenth(!) week of parenting, from tummy time to Oliver's shifting relationship to car rides. Also, the return of mailbag (this time a physical edition).
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode.
Things mentioned in this episode:
- Dadville Podcast: Deep Lunges with Dave Barnes and Jon McLaughlin.
- Nespresso's information about sustainability and recycling.
Rachel and Matt talk about the twelfth week of parenting, from an almost-complete workout to the manipulative depths that short naps plunge Matt to. Plus, talk about dishwashers.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode.
Rachel and Matt talk about the eleventh week of parenting, from the end of Rachel's maternity leave to watching television and movies in chunks. Plus, there's a new segment in town: "I'm Not Just A Parent."
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode.
Rachel and Matt talk about the tenth week of parenting, from the challenges of being present to how much stuff a baby actually needs. Oh, and we even went on a hike. Kind of.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode.
Rachel and Matt talk about the ninth week of parenting, from post-vaccine wailing to world-stopping smiles.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode.
Things mentioned in this episode:
- Emily Oster's book Cribsheet
- Joy Eggerich Reed's Instagram account (for an example of what Rachel was talking about, see the saved story "Rita's Back!")
Rachel and Matt talk about the eighth week of parenting, from healthy bodies to laundry racks.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode.
Things mentioned in this episode:
- Episode 12: Motherhood and Body Image from Coffee and Crumbs (must be their Patreon supporter to access though)
- Matt's favorite drying rack (so good it's out of stock as of the publishing of this episode).
Rachel and Matt talk about the seventh week of parenting, from the mini cone incident to a visit with family.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode.
Things mentioned in this episode:
- The Little Book of Support for New Moms by Beccy Hands and Alexis Stickland
Rachel and Matt talk about the sixth week of parenting, from a particular hard day to Matt's existential battle with productivity. Plus, we have a new mailbag leader!
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Things mentioned in this episode:
- Baby Bjorn Bouncer
- Wonder Weeks App
Rachel and Matt talk about the fifth week of parenting, from bathing woes to almost smiles (or full smiles - it's the big question of the week). Plus, the mailbag opens up again!
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Rachel and Matt talk about the fourth week of parenting, from navigating a pandemic to getting some good sleep (thanks pacifier!). Plus, a mailbag segment.
Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!
Rachel and Matt talk about the third week of parenting, from caring for a new baby and making up stories to a rapidly deflating yoga ball. Plus, a mailbag segment!
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Rachel and Matt talk about the second week of parenting, from the highs and lows of breastfeeding to a baby who might be wound just a little tight.
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Rachel and Matt talk about the first week of parenting, from basic math skills to nurses to the moment Matt thought "I'm a Dad."
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