Most of us end up majoring in the “Mind” of the heart and abandoning the loves, the talents, the interests, the trusts, and the experiences of the full heart.

Out of many years of living with a shrunken heart, relationship styles with others are developed to become seriously unhealthy and self-protecting and damaging. The essence of these relationships are characterized by having one option in them; unhealthy relationships have only a single choice in relationships with other people.

On the other hand, healthy relationships have options; in-fact the essence of a healthy relationship is that it has more than one option. It has three options; A healthy relationship is dynamic, changeable and real. In every conflict that arises, in every discussion, we engage in, and every activity that we share with someone else, we can do these three things if we are healthy and have a healthy relationship. 1. We can submit to that other person. 2. We can resist that other person’s agenda and replace it with our own agenda. 3. We can separate from that other person.