Ginger and James explore the things that make relationships wonderful, maddening, beautiful and complicated. Learn how to better relate to your partner, your friends, your family, and your co-workers. And please, laugh at James’s jokes. Want to leave a voicemail for Ginger and James to answer on the show? Call us at 913-428-9729.
All of us have sexual values, and all of those values come from somewhere. Whether it was your parents, Sunday School, Cosmopolitan, or fooling around under the bleachers of a high school football game, our origin stories really matter as we think and talk about sex. Quinn and James give examples from their own lives and help you start to think about interrogating yours.
BONUS: All Patreon subscribers get access to a free worksheet to work through the issues raised in this episode!
This is the second (and last!) of two episodes that will be FREE on this podcast feed. To get access to all eight episodes of this mini-season, get cool merch, consider supporting us on Patreon: www.patreon.org/supertogether. For $5 a month, you’ll get access to the whole season. If you support us at $15, you also get a dope sex-positive sticker we designed. If you’re able to contribute more, you can also get access to some e-courses James and Quinn have developed on communication and intimacy.
For more about the show, and to listen to the dozens of episodes from season 1, visit www.supertogether.org.
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James’s Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/jamescochrancounseling/
References:
Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters- And How to Get It, by Dr. Laurie Mintz
How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy, by Jenny Odell
This is the first of two episodes that will be FREE on this podcast feed. To get access to all eight episodes of this mini-season, get cool merch, consider supporting us on Patreon: www.patreon.org/supertogether. For $5 a month, you’ll get access to the whole season. If you support us at $15, you also get a dope sex-positive sticker we designed. If you’re able to contribute more, you can also get access to some e-courses James and Quinn have developed on communication and intimacy.
For more about the show, and to listen to the dozens of episodes from season 1, visit www.supertogether.org.
Quinn’s website: https://www.QEMCounseling.com
Quinn’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/QEMCounseling
James’s website: https://www.talkingwithjames.com/
James’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamescochrancounseling/
To stay up to date with what Ginger is doing, head to compassionfix.com.
To stay connected with James, check out talkingwithjames.com.
If you’re looking for an incredible audio producer, check out Melody’s info at melodyjrowell.com
Check out Quinn's course on sexual and emotional intimacy here: convergecourses.com/intimacy.
Use the promo code NEWYEAR and get $5 off the course AND my course on connection-oriented communication for $0.99!
Ginger and James talk about their favorite things! From holiday movies to adult beverages to resources for personal development, hear the things that make them not feel so bad when they're bitten by dogs or stung by bees!
Super Together listeners can still get a 10% discount on Quinn Eggesiecker-Mack's new Sexual and Emotional Intimacy course by using the code SUPER at checkout. Buy the course here!
Go to www.convergecourses.com/intimacy to purchase Quinn Eggesiecker-Mack's new course on sexual and emotional intimacy. Since you're an awesome Super Together Listener, you get 10% off when you use the promo code SUPER at checkout.
Ginger and James consider what it means to help our partners feel seen, heard, and known through the use of validation. Also, parking.
James breaks down the nature of gratitude, the things that make it difficult, and how we can be more intentional about being more grateful. There is also a bonus mindful meditation at the end of the episode!
The CDC has some helpful recommendations on staying safe during holiday gatherings: https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/holidays.html
Check out our facebook community, where our listeners will be trying to come up with ways to connect creatively over the holidays: https://www.facebook.com/groups/supertogetherpodcast
Ginger mentions this awesome practice that we think gives you good foundation when making decisions in a relationship: https://www.compassionfix.com/practices-main/making-a-decision
Super Together's new home on the web is www.supertogether.org. Tell your friends!
Ginger's Compassion Fix Community can be found here: www.compassionfixcommunity.com
To take a deeper dive into cooperative self-care with your partner, you can purchase James's course on the topic at www.convergecourses.com/conspire.
James mentioned a video and worksheet focused on politics and relationships, which you can find here: www.convergecourses.com/politics
James is also offering a meditation during an Election Eve Vigil. You can find more information about this at www.werisenow.org
We want to hear from you! Remember to call us to submit a listener voicemail: 913-428-9729.
Ginger and James discussed the enneagram. Check out Episode 12 where James discusses it with fellow therapist Michelle Worley.
Michael Shahan, another KC area therapist, also has a lot of enneagram resources check out his website here. he’s got a free ebook!
Ginger and James discuss another of the Big Five personality traits: agreeableness. What does that have to do with the presidential debates? Listen to find out!
Ginger and James explore another of the Big Five personality traits: conscientiousness, or the degree to which we tend to be organized and dependable.
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Ginger and James begin a five-part mini-series focused on the Big Five personality traits and how the differences show up in couples. This week, they look at the extroversion / introversion spectrum.
Ginger and James ask a lot of questions…and invite you to consider the answers…about the way social media has an impact on relationships.
Engage in the Compassion Fix Community: www.compassionfixcommunity.com
Check out James’s CONVERGE course: www.congergecourses.com
Ginger and James explore the realities, and the fictions, of being rejected. Ginger discusses why she doesn’t like getting too close to the microphone.
Ginger and James head to Pawnee, Indiana to explore some relational lessons from the NBC show Parks and Rec.
It’s Ginger and Rob’s turn! They sit down and discuss what they wish they’d known 21 years ago, before they got married.
In this special episode, James is joined by his wife Lyndsay as they consider the things they wish they’d known about relationships when they first started out.
Behold, the very first episode Ginger and James ever recorded. This episode pre-dated the pandemic, so enjoy a trip back to a simpler time!
Ginger and James discuss Act II (gesundheit) of that obscure musical no one has ever heard of and the relational lessons to be learned therein.
Ginger and James talk about an obscure musical no one has ever heard of and the relational lessons to be learned therein.
Ginger and James discuss how intuition shows up in relationships. They also make some lame jokes about intuition.
Tino Herrera is back (again!) to talk with James about Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s concept of the Beloved Community, and how we can be a part of cultivating it within our sphere’s of influence.
Ginger and James know a lot of things, but they don't know ALL the things. They spend this week's episode considering the things they’re learning in this unique historical moment.
For more information about Samara’s work: https://www.schoolsmartkc.org/
For details on the eight policies that can limit police violence: www.8cantwait.org
Tino Herrera invites us to spend eight minutes and forty six seconds considering our togetherness.
Ginger and James break down what the heck intuition is, how it’s been conditioned out of us and how we can get it back. Part II next week!
In a brief, holiday-week interlude from our usual format, James reflects on the bewildering nature of death.
Ginger and James talk about in-laws, the bane of our…actually they’re not that bad. But maybe boundaries?
Tino mentioned Ibram X. Kendi, who you can find more about here: https://www.ibramxkendi.com/
James mentioned Robin DiAngelo, who you can find more about here: https://robindiangelo.com/
Ginger and James discuss how couples can approach differences in their experiences of faith…and how make the right peanut butter choices.
Ginger and James consider what it means to help our partners feel seen, heard and known through the use of validation. Also, parking.
Learn more about Clare’s church work at http://www.heritagepresolathe.com and Clare’s pig work at http://www.lunaacres.com.
Ginger and James talk about how we restore right relationship with effective apologies and get into mild spoiler territory by discussing the fate of Alexander Hamilton.
Ginger and James talk about politics so you don’t have to…or so that you can do so without fighting.
Complete the survey: https://forms.gle/oXsLnrdqtU5bJNgm9
An article about the painting James referenced (The Creation of God) and its artist, Harmonia Rosales: https://www.buzzfeed.com/michaelblackmon/god-is-a-black-woman
James is joined by Rev. Tino Herrera to discuss the ways grudges disrupt our relationships as well as our individual sense of well-being. They also discuss whether or not James is secretly Littlefinger.
Ginger and James spend some time thinking about what it means to date your partner - both in and out of quarantine.
Ginger and James consider how we can invite grace to be more present in our relationships. Also, what is grace?
The epic saga comes to a conclusion and Ginger and James explore the final episodes of the Netflix series Love is Blind. We had to bleep Ginger three times!
Ginger and James offer some meditation practices to help you breathe a little deeper during this time of social distancing. We’re coming to you from outside the studio for this one, so excuse the garage-quality audio.
Ginger’s practice: www.compassionfix.com
James’s Practice: www.talkingwithjames.com
The CDC’s guidelines on steps to prevent the spread of COVID-19
The Johns Hopkins University Coronovirus Dashboard
Learn more about Ginger’s practice www.compassionfix.com.
Learn more about James’s practice at www.talkingwithjames.com