Reflections by Kunal Gupta: Recent Episodes
Kunal Gupta
As I stood up from Wayne's chair, I felt lighter, not just because of the weight of the hair that had been cut, but due to gaining some additional clarity on how to live.
The knowledge of my mind mixed with the experience of my body created this wisdom that I can do things I don’t know how to do or know much about.
My journey, like most others, has been often fraught with challenges and uncertainties.
Bill Gates once said something about choosing a lazy person for a tough job. Why? They'd find the easiest way to do it.
The journey of paddleboarding, much like the journey of life, is fraught with challenges.
I find myself wanting to understand my grandparents better, to appreciate their struggles and their triumphs, to honor their memory.
As I stood there, I realized that this perfect day I had was a reminder about the journey, not the destination
Life continues to change me. I don’t need to control or direct the change. I can learn to allow it to happen.
The way I learned to dance was by doing it, whereas before I had been trying to think it.
As I stared at my empty hands, it took me a split second to acknowledge what had just happened.
It mattered less about where we were, what we ate or what we did, but rather who we were with and how we were with each other
Seeing the moon up close last night sparked something inside of me. It was a reminder to shoot for the moon. Permission to dream.
When I am in flow with time, choices become easy. When I am attempting to force time, everything feels difficult.
Life is not about trying to be right. It is about learning to live in harmony with my reality. To know it, accept it and thrive in it.
Being Canadian is a feeling, a silent commitment to universal values, and a quiet pride that needs no validation.
The power of compounding in life is a testament to the value of consistency, patience, and long-term commitment
The realization that I understand myself more deeply than anyone else has been both liberating and empowering
My personal currency of inspiration serves as my compass, guiding me through major and minor life decisions
A life void of risks is akin to a stagnant portfolio—destined for a slow decline due to inflation
It's a perspective shift, understanding that death is not the antithesis of life, but its culmination
Taking the leap and following my heart meant leaving the safety of my comfort zone behind.
It's important to recognize that while I've benefited greatly from my passport, it's something that I didn't earn.
A vacation with my sister in Greece highlighted the differences between our personalities shaped by both nature and nurture, allowing me to accept myself and appreciate the role of both in shaping who we are.
The world will keep changing. Those around me will keep changing. I will keep changing. However, I do not need to force any of it. It is in
The more I appreciate the value of space, the more I understand its necessity in moving through life.
Last week, I had a remarkable experience that left me feeling deeply moved and inspired.
I recently announced a new CEO for my technology business and that I have moved into a board role. For me, it marks a profound shift in my professional identity. Since founding the business 15 years ago, in my early 20s, I have been known to my external world as a CEO. This is no longer the case.
I recently got new bed sheets. The morning after sleeping on them for the first time, I lay in bed, awake, curious about their impact on me.
The first thought that raced through my mind was, 'did I sleep better with these new bed sheets?'. I then started to wonder how I would be able to tell.
Would my Oura ring pick up the difference in my sleep data? Might my energy level in the morning be noticeably different? I quickly concluded that there are far too many variables related to my sleep for me to isolate the impact of bed sheets.
Tired of thinking, I observed how comfortable the sheets felt on my body. I was really enjoying the sensations on my skin of these new sheets. I had a desire to stay in bed longer, even if I was awake.
Then a frightening thought arose. What if these sheets were worse for my sleep, even though I seemed to enjoy them?
My mind is capable of imagining the ideal scenario, for practically everything. It assumes the ideal conditions and circumstances by default.
This past week, I got to spend time with the most inspiring person I have ever met in my life.
For nearly a decade, I have had a New Year ritual to pick one single word as my intention for the year ahead.
When I observe for a moment my daily lifestyle, an abundance mindset guides my choices, without a doubt.
If I wanted to feel more relaxed, more often, my default thesis was that I need to make more time and space for relaxing activities.
Very few of my friends know what I do, and even those that do don’t seem very interested in knowing more.
It was one year ago today that I moved to Portugal and it has been an incredible first year in this new continent, country and culture.
Earlier this week, I was complaining to my therapist about how I wanted more spontaneity in my life.
Flowing with waves of desires arising and disappearing is how I will continue to swim through life.
Every choice, action or word is part of a chain of cause and effect. I appear to be more the effect than the cause in my life, and that feels disconcerting to say out loud.
The love of a parent towards a child is said to be unconditional. It could also be said that the love of a parent towards a child is annoying.
I have observed in life that the benefits of practicing trust often outweigh the risks of feeling disappointed.
There is a piece of real estate that I have discovered to be the most valuable in the world.
The desire to pick the best available option, be it a movie, a restaurant, a picture, or anything else in life, is also a fear of making a poor choice.
My conditioning has been to believe there are no limitations to my time, and that I can do anything, and everything.
There is an expectation that my motivation and interest in some thing, some one or some place, remains constant. Like a straight line that is trending slightly up, my interest should be increasing over time.
There is a conflict with my desire for the new, and my conditioning to expect efficiency in every part of life.
It may often feel like you must have it all together and figured out in life. That you must know exactly where you are going, how to get there, and to be on your way.
The moments I have experienced the most stress, anxiety, anger, frustration and disappointment have been when my expectations were many
I have learned that the most important decision is not where to go, but how to get there.
Last week I found myself back in New York, for the first time since leaving abruptly in March 2020, and I was scared about going back.
To see, want or expect only what I desire is to collect one-sided coins. One-sided coins do not exist, which means that I am only fooling myself if I am searching for them.
For a long time, I naively believed that once my current desires were fulfilled, I would feel happier, or that my life would be better.
In every situation I am faced with, especially those with the unknown, I can choose to respond with fear or belief.
Along my journey through life, there are many moments when fear arises, usually associated with some unknown.
Living in a different country, continent and culture over the past few weeks has both inspired me and challenged me in unexpected ways.
Yesterday while on a walk through the downtown core of a city, my attention was drawn to all of the scaffolding, cranes, trucks and construction happening everywhere that I looked.
When I reflect on my life in chapters, each chapter has been defined by a primary motivation that I had been in pursuit of.
I recently decided to get a car and found the process to make a decision surprisingly difficult.
Fear generally has a negative association with it. Our culture encourages me to become fearless, to conquer fear and to not talk about fear.
To connect with others in physical proximity has become a unique experience for the better part of a year.
What I am discovering is that, unlike the currency used to trade money, I have my own currency in life, unique to me, as do you
This is a question of knowing versus thinking. The pursuit of intelligence is a pursuit of learning.
Fear seems to have a gravitational field, capable of sucking in everything that comes into proximity with it.
There is a desire that I often feel to let go of the bird in my hand, in the hope that there will be two in the bush waiting for me.
Many decisions, big and small, will be made over the next few months that will influence the direction of my life over the next few years.
This morning while on a walk with my father, I asked him innocently ‘how are you similar to your parents?’.
To know what it is that I uniquely believe does not come automatically. It is much simpler to figure out what I should believe.
To try to know is like chasing clouds. I cannot actually do it for very long, as everything changes.
Everything changes. I know this to be a fact of life. However there is often a strong resistance to change.
In the past year, I have uncovered surprising and unexpected discoveries about myself. The world had to turn upside down first for me to turn my mind upside down and begin to look at my life differently than I may have before.
I have a confession. I am an aspiring perfectionist. I may always have been, and might always be.
It is in my nature to be in balance. That is what I have now learned. The moment that I strive for balance, I am out of balance.
Yesterday, I took a walk by a frozen river while a fresh coat of snow fell gently to the ground. At one moment, I paused and heard something I had not heard for a while. It was the sound of utter and complete silence. No people walking. No cars driving. No birds chirping. No water flowing. No wind blowing. I stood there, quietly, in awe of the power of the sound of silence.
A few days ago, I held my newborn nephew for the first time and I noticed how my attention was immediately captivated, unlike ever before.
Mindset is the bridge for me to move from surviving to thriving. And one that I have to continue to cross, as it’s a two way bridge.
The truth is that my journey through life is unpredictable. The question is whether I am willing to see and accept the beauty in this truth.
I see now that the reason that I believe this is because that is the culture and society in which I have grown up in. We all have.
As I have begun to notice what I notice, I have seen my curiosity for understanding why I believe what I do grow.
While on my own path, there are some big decisions and many small decisions that inform where I go.
This is a sacred time of the year for me, more important and powerful than even my birthday.
I woke up one week ago today with no electricity and no water in the place I was staying.
Imagine a world where we place as much, or possibly more, value on imagination than we do on knowledge. That is a world that sounds inspiring to me.
Similar to the playing hide and seek, in the game of life, I am seeking solutions to many problems.
All of the frustration, anxiety and nervous tension that I feel is when I want reality to be different from what it is.
Gratitude is a deeply personal experience. It is not only a state or feeling that I get to experience privately, it is also entirely up to me how I choose to express it.
There is a magical space where life feels effortless to me and where I feel most alive.
It is my own shadow that ironically gets in the way of me being able to see the fullness of my life at times.
The human condition is to want what others have, believing that it is better than what we have. It is to feel dissatisfied with our current reality, and hope or expect a brighter, stronger and happier future.
I feel lost in the current movement on racial equity. It has triggered a deeper reflection on the influence of culture and society on my own identity.
My empty spaces are filled with information, possibly the most valuable information and definitely the most relevant information that I have access to.
The company that we keep, the content that we consume, the contemplations that we explore, all shape our values.
In the pursuit of individual independence, we have run away from one another, and perhaps even run away from ourselves. Our pursuit of individual independence may have gone too far.
A fourth crisis is beginning to emerge. It is a result of the cumulative intensity from the health crisis, the economic crisis and the social crisis.
Just when we thought Facebook might have been turning a corner, it is clear now that this is one dog that does not want to learn new tricks.
I have been one of the lucky few, who somehow slipped through the cracks of a society and a system designed to discriminate against so many.
In my role as CEO of Polar (www.polar.me), for the past few years, I’ve published a quarterly State Of Digital Media report that captures the hundreds of conversations that I have regularly with leaders at publishers, agencies, brands and platforms from all corners of the globe. Unlike what you read in the industry trade publications, these reports have been filled with insights and opinions that reflect what my peers are thinking about but may not want to share publicly yet.
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There is a difference between working a lot and being productive. We may be working a lot, especially in this time, that does not mean that we are being productive.
The many social inequalities that we are witnessing are but symptoms of a different issue.
The state of lockdown that we are in would have been completely unimaginable and absurd to talk about, even 100 days ago.
The most epic spring cleaning of my lifetime, and yours, is now in motion. Our spaces, lifestyles and beliefs are evolving as a result of the constraints the health pandemic and resulting economic crisis has introduced to everyone.
Perhaps, only once we each find balance within ourselves, will we learn how to restore a new balance for each other and for the future of humanity.