Untangle & Thrive Podcast: Recent Episodes
Angela McKinney
Angela is an addiction-recovery expert and speaker focused on habits, decision-making, and continuous improvement. Her 3-Step system of self-care, The Untangle Method™ combines research in the neurobiology of trauma with a playful, creative approach to improving the quality of life. The Untangle Method appears in her debut book, Untangle, which guides readers through this process with accessible, sensitive lessons and candid stories. Learn more: www.untangleandthrive.com
In this episode, we are going to peak around the corners of our desire for MORE. Many of us have shame with wanting more- we have acted out compulsively to buffer the pain of emptiness.
We can confuse an anorexic life for a recovering life. And although interrupting compulsive activities, like overdrinking, eating, shopping, sexing is a good thing we can become entrapped in the other extreme, that MORE is bad, dirty, or not available.
Learning to become safe enough to receive more from the world and give more to the world is where the medicine of healing shows up. Join me for a short, interesting conversation.
As Jung said, "Shame is the swampland of the soul."
Today, I share with you the faces of shame and what we can do to help discharge shame.
If you are stuck, often shame is lurking behind the corners of your psyche.
Often, we feel like we have to attack and fix our shame, but this punitive response only enslaves it.
Helping people learn to untangle shame's unconscious patterning and to find joy with becoming seen, just a little bit, is my life's purpose.
Join me!
Nature has so much to teach us. In today's podcast, I am going to share many lessons that I have learned from wrestling with my front yard Holly Tree. Let's learn how to access our innate nature to thrive with difficult challenges. Join me!
In today’s episode, I discuss the difference between fantasy and imagination. Fantasy is used to numb anxiety, helplessness, and powerlessness. In contrast, imagination requires us to work with reality and transform our struggles. When we are sensitive, overwhelmed, and immobilized by stress, we need more imagination. Listen today to learn how you can start using your imagination to see your problems differently.
Today we are going to talk about habits. Habits mean our nervous system has learned something, but NOT always consciously. Sometimes we develop habits that we are NOT even aware of until it becomes a problem or until we UNTANGLE it.
Habits are a big part of who we are, And what we do habitually determines who we become in the future.
We are going to talk about short-term habit formations and identity-based. Much focus in the self-help and behavioral therapy world is centered around behavior modification. However, the Untangle Method drills into the unconscious patterns of identity change to help create space for a more meaningful picture to arise.
Today we are going to talk about memories- traumatic memories and good memories. When we carry unprocessed trauma in our bodies, we often try leaving it all behind- the bad childhood, the horrible teacher, the bullying, the divorce, etc. But in our attempt to forget, we leave behind the good stuff.
Join me today as we discuss what forms of therapy help to process traumatic memories and why this is critistical. Also of importance is how to reclaim the good memories to help us realize our life more fully. This is such an important and meaningful episode.
In this episode, we are going to look at how we need a system that can handle all feelings.
Most clients I work with want to get rid of their negative feelings. Painful feelings suck, but we need to learn how to allow them, feel them, and move with them.
Let's end this challenging year with a sense of humanistic kindness and grace for all our imperfections.
Most of us have a difficult time celebrating ourselves, even more so out loud or with others.
A traumatized body doesn't allow receiving. It screams F*ck you. I can't. I won't. So imagine trying to get this body receptive to loving yourself, celebrating victories, and elevating worthiness. It can't. If anyone struggles with concepts, such as, Love Yourself, Let Go, and Be Proud, join me. As I walk you through the Untangle Method, we will recognize the part of us that can't receive and also locate the part of us that can.
Today I am discussing the difference between meditation practice and the Untangle Method. They are very different and yet, meditation helps create the space for the method to work. Join me as I break this down.
Today, I am going to talk about triggers and how they can do to help us heal. I know they are horrible, uncomfortable, and fraught with confusion, especially around the Holidays. But we can change our response to them, and by doing so find our songs of liberation, harmony, and joy.
In this episode, you will learn:
-How to take care of yourself during the Holidays
-Why you may be feeling more triggered this Thanksgiving
-Triggers are unresolved childhood wounds
-How to befriend our triggers so they can help us profoundly heal, love, and belong
In this episode we will discuss how marring enchantment helps fire creativity, helping us overcome obstacles. Often, we try to attack our problems from the head alone. Untangling is a process of peeking around new corners to locate resources that have us engage in a journey of reclamation. Join us!
In today's episode, we are going to explore healthy boundary responses.
Many of us assert boundaries from a place of desperation, overwhelm, and I can't handle it story.
We want to understand our automatic responses with boundaries so that we can provide a space of renegotiation but also one of thriving!
How do we become safe enough for a bigger life? Join me today as we talk about the science of hiding and how to build resources to strengthen courage and bravery!
In this episode, I break down 4 critical needs we need to meet resourcefully in order to thrive. When we don't know how to meet our needs in all our relationships we suffer. Learning to meet these 4 needs requires skills, artistry, and practice. Join me today as I help you build a framework to meeting needs in new ways!
Join me as we discuss how to alchemize a painful, dreaded experience into a neutral one and into a vibrant colorful one. Untangling is my method to alchemize. And I didn't realize until I shared today in a mastermind group that I had to alchemize my book in 3 Steps.
In this episode, I share my decision to travel to Costa Rica to facilitate a wellness retreat. How did I move from a NO to a YES. Was I happy with my decision? What was the travel experience like during Covid?
We unwind frozen states as we become safe enough to mobilize within a new experience. Join me as we engage in this critical conversation.
Welcome to this week's episode of the Untangle and Thrive Podcast!
In this episode you will learn:
What is emotional trauma?
How do we unwind emotional trauma?
And how do we build emotional resilience?
Take a listen!
In this episode, we are going to deconstruct purposeful living. We often need a new framework to realize our purposeful life. It is NOT a one-time event, but a process.
Often, when we are stuck or have unresolved relational trauma, we leave behind resources, skills, and talents that can serve us well today. Part of the job is remembering the good experiences from the past, not the traumatic ones.
Join me!
In today's episode, we are exploring how stuckness is deadness and what we can do to transform it. When we are dead, there is some part of us afraid to come back to life. Instead of fighting stuckness, let's create an environment to allow it to heal us. Join me!
My motherhood story started fraught with unresolved trauma. The insidious cycle of overwhelm tore me into pieces.
Many of us struggle with becoming moms for various reasons, but I find that often lurking behind things are opportunities for deep, rooted healing.
If you are struggling with being a mom, please know you are not alone. In this episode, I share my challenges and what helped me, continues to help me thrive with the experience.
In this episode, we are going to speak about the dance between certainty and uncertainty. How can met certainty in healthy ways that embrace the "uncertainty" of life.
Learning to let go, embrace emptiness, and embrace uncertainty can make many of us feel uncomfortable. Let like holding on. It gives us a sense of control. However, it also stunts aliveness, surprise, and richness with life.
Join me, as we explore our deeper waters. The part of that knows how to dance inside of more aliveness, take risks, and explore becoming more alive in all our relationships.
Today I am joined with Reiko Gomez, fiReiko (RAY-co) Feng Shui Expert and Interior Designer, starting her business Reiko Design in 1999.
As a trained interior designer from the Parsons School of Design, as well as an advanced Feng Shui specialist certified by the American Feng Shui Institute, Reiko has mastered an approach to physical space that helps clients to overcome obstacles and realize their life goals.
We are discussing how our homes offer a key to untangle and re-organize within our deepest nature.
We are all stuck home, confronting uncomfortable realities and struggles. Let's unite together to work with our space in ways the better ourselves and our place in the world.
You can find Reiko, www.Reikodesign.comT
o sign up for Reiko's 5 Day Challenge: https://reikodesign.com/feng-shui-challenge-2021/
How do we embrace our chaos and disconnection in ways that grow our becoming more in synch, whole with life? How do we develop a language of becoming to embrace the magical side of life?Join me as we navigate these waters together!
Space in-between Christmas and New Years' can be tricky for many people. I am keeping it short and sweet today. There is tremendous value in intentionally getting lost. It allows us to be surprised by unexpected joy, awe, and mystery. I am inviting all of us to "get lost" and create space to circle into your deeper nature. With that, wishing everyone a safe, wonderful holiday week!
When love is tangled, confusing, and triggering, we train ourselves to shut down quickly.
However, we stay stuck in life and in our relationships when we don't feel safe to open towards love in healthy ways.
Join me as we explore and navigate opening our hearts to love again and again and again.
Do you believe you are not creative?
How does creativity link confidence?
How can we build more creativity into our problems, clutter, and decision making?
Join me today as we discuss creativity in various ways to help up access more resourceful responses.
How do we use the Untangle Method to convert negative energy into creative energy?
How do we use the Untangle Method to convert negative energy into positive, creative energy?
It isn’t so much changing your thought pattern but uncovering, discharging, and re-organizing your relational body bond.
Join me today to learn more.
Join me today!
In this episode, we are discussing how to differentiate between unhealthy circles of hunger into healthy circles of hunger.
The Tangled Self is the part of us that becomes stuck in circles of the past. Instead of managing these circles, we want to gather their emotional intelligence.
The Creative Self is also part of the same system but accesses the part of us that wants to stand inside of bigger life circles.
How do we do that? What is needed?
Join me as a share.
In this episode, we are going to untangle the ways we get in the way of embodying our poetry.
Let's get out of Thanksgiving drama, or any drama, and set up an environment to thrive.
Let's find the little circles of poetry in our everyday life.
Join me as we navigate this meaningful journey and set up Thanksgiving just a little bit differently.
In today's episode, we are untangling the part of that whispers, "I Can't Handle It."
This part often calls the shots on our life with little to no insight.
As we learn to untangle our tripwires in our system, we create space to build a new experience, growing capacity to claim life powerfully.
Join me as we explore how to separate the I can't part from the part of us that can, the Creative Self.
We often need help re-remembering this part of us that can access creative resources to show up in dynamic ways we never imagined possible.
Join me!
How do learn from the aftermath of the election?
How do we reconcile we are divided completely as a Nation?
How do we get out of the noise of "the other" and join forces to unite polarizing views?
Our political landscape is bifurcated and unintegrated.
We don't become well in fragmentation. Now is a time to pick up the pieces, separate out what is real and what is not, and collaborate with each other.
Each side is terrified of the other side.
Each side is stubborn with their narrow, limited ideas.
Each side needs to language their unconscious threats, check them out, and decide to work together. And we can do this together.
Join me.
In this episode, we are going to talk about dirty pain and clean pain.
Dirty pain comingles with shame, ensnaring us into the chaotic waters of shoulding, self-hating, judging.
This pain collapses our Stabilizing Floor of Ok-ness, hunching our spines and carving out our heart caves in ways that exile courage.
Shame pain drains our creative resources.
On the other hand, clean pain is more interested in discovering the roots of what matters to us deeply—the intimate desires of not wanting to live small, under-earn, or hide anymore.
Clean pain activates urgency to make the necessary changes to alleviate suffering.
Without reaching into this pain, we keep ourselves lukewarm, comfortable, unavailable to change.
In this episode, we are going to create a space for the parts of us that want to come out and claim more from life.
We automatically censor parts of ourselves without even knowing it. We live in unconscious agreements to keep these parts away.
At one time, they may have caused us humiliation, neediness, shame, and regret.
We are in a war with our heads. The work is learning how to let them emerge again, take up space, and form our unrealized lives.
When we are punitive, abusive, and harsh with ourselves, we bifurcate ourselves. This creates chaos, dissonance, and isolation We misguidedly think once we get better we will become better.
Join me!
In this episode, we are going to talk about the power one word, one event, or one thing can have over your life.
I will share with you a word that was said to me by my father when I was twelve, the lasting impact, and what I did to transform it.
Join me, work the untangle method on one of your words, and please share your story with me.
Why are boundaries so difficult?
In today's episode, we are going to explore why we don't assert our boundaries, and what needs to happen to start asserting them in healthy ways.
Whether it is a boundary with self-care, bottom-line behaviors, or relationship agreements, we NEED a good relationship with boundaries.
Boundaries safeguard our, as well as secure our relationships.
Join me!
In times of interruption, old patterns rise to the surface. What had previously been submerged are now flying inside us and around us.
You might be finding yourself more anxious, impatient, acting-out, avoiding, or collapsing. Your body may feel like a siren.
Days may feel stuck, heavy, or foggy.
“Relaxing,” “calming down,” or “self-organizing” is not straightforward. What should feel relaxing might be aggravating.
What used to feel energizing might be exhausting. What was previously clear is now murky vagueness.
Interruption allows us the space to check things out, address unresolved issues, and become united within ourselves. Instead of fighting this COVID interruption, waiting for it to be done, let's dive into ourselves to access greater healing, creativity, and vision.
How do we embody greatness during difficult times?
How do we take inspiration from others and apply it to our lives?
How do we unite within the brokenness inside of us and with our world at large?
Let's join collectively. Let's dissent.
In a world where women are expected to comply, I dissent.
In a world where love has been kept in a box with rules, I dissent.
In a work where fiction is told as truth and facts are twisted into lies, I dissent.
Let's take the time to form our Dissents and build a vision for our life, family, and country we want to embody.
In this episode, we are going to talk about the fires devouring parts of our country as a metaphor for the internal fires of hate that fuels chaos and destruction.
How do we convert destructive rage into greater connection?
How do we access the deeper wisdom of nature to help teach us?
What are some simple exercises we can do every day?
Join me!
Artwork by rupi kaur
www.untangleandthrive.com
In today's episode, we are speaking with Frieda Edgette about how to harness skills to run your personal, business, or civic life more effectively.
Frieda is an award-winning leadership coach who formed Courage to Run, a nonpartisan running series and leadership community committed to being healthy to lead effectively in civic life today.
Join us as we discuss leadership skills on mindfulness, savoring, and vision to lead yourself into new experiences.
Frieda has a unique platform that merges a running with your body with your leadership spirit.
Download her free #CouragetoRun App in iOS.
It is full of 1 to 15-minute "tabatas" (quick, high-impact strength exercises) that build the mindset, resilience, vision, courage, and care needed to be healthy and lead effectively in civic life today.
Or visit her: www.couragetorun.org
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This week I have an amazing guest, GRAMMY-Nominated one-woman orchestra and harpist Deborah Henson-Conant.
Deborah is a force in her field. She is a performer, composer, mentor, coach, and innovator. Her signature is an 11lb carbon-fiber electric harp, designed specifically for her by the CAMAC Harp Company in France.
She is here to talk with us today about creativity and how we ALL need skills to access more creativity to transform our lives.
Even if you are not a musician, I know you can learn a lot from Deborah.
Deborah and I will be collaborating on an Untangle Workshop Sept 11, 12, and 13.
We will be combining music, movement, and imagination to gather an experiential UNTANGLE practice. This workshop is a FREE bonus for any HipHarp Academy student.
Details: www.hipharpacademy.com.
We are also offering it to ANY artists (musicians, dancers, illustrators, poets, vocalists, actors, writers, designers, etc)
Artists who are:
Sick of getting in their own way of greater success, visibility, and ambition.
Trapped in the weeds of I am NOT good enough or PERFECT enough.
Hide behind costume/technique/or emotionality and want to understand a new freedom.
Tired of under-earning and over-working.
Desire to emerge stronger from a crisis or a challenge.
Eager for kills to become “safe enough” to ask for their needs, assert their desires, and claim their purposeful belonging.
Join us.
www.untangleandthrive.com
I am going to explain why differentiating is critical to health, wholeness, and wellness.
Learning to differentiate the chaotic, disorganized part of you from the creative, synchronized part of you is s game-changer.
Instead of attacking our problems, we need to organize within a framework that can separate them, study them, learn from them, and decide which one we want to take us forward in life.
Differentiation leads to maturity, emotional healing, and thriving experiences.
Afraid you will miss something better if you commit to a decision?
Sick and tired of second-guessing yourself and living in your head's noise?
Ambivalence is a life stealer and yet so many of my clients live inside it entrapment. They struggle with responsibility and commitment.
Instead of confronting their unconscious fears, they stay on the fence of ambivalence.
Waiting for life to happen. Waiting to make the perfect decision. Waiting to be rescued. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting.
Join me as we explore this limited organizing structure and how to get out of it!
Stop hiding in ambivalence. Get safe enough to take risks, engage with the world, and commit.
In this episode, I am on fire. I want to scream Cut The Crap People!
We need to stop managing drama and trauma TODAY!
Many of us could be having a HUGE impact on our lives. But we are NOT!
We are hiding, avoiding, making excuses, and managing chaos.
It breaks my heart to see the amazing people I coach cut themselves off from their greatness!
My life has been dedicated to helping people gather a stabilizing floor to cut the crap standing in the way of their purposeful freedom!
Whatever that LOOKS like: getting sober, out of debt, divorced, avoidance, ambivalence, fear, disorganization!
We need to become safe enough to love, desire, and create!
We need to stop making excuses and managing disappointments!
We need to stop trauma bonding with commitment and responsibility. This means we need to get a good relationship with BOTH commitment and responsibility!
Join me and let's Cut the Crap Together!
Why is clarity so complicated? Why is it difficult for so many of us to become clear?
Greater clarity requires radical responsibility.
For many of us, our desires have created complicated issues so we have trained ourselves to disconnect.
When we spend all our time managing disconnection and emotional reactivity, we hide from clarity and spend our life in the disease of vagueness.
In this episode, I am going to help you meet and greet clarity. Without clarity, we cannot build thriving experiences.
Join me as we navigate why clarity is critical in difficult, chaotic times.
When times are challenging, how do you keep momentum?
Momentum is a very masculine word that can mean chasing power, money, and ambition.
But it can also mean someone is deeply connected to their purposeful vision. In this episode, we are going to tease out these differing experiences.
What does momentum look like for you? With your body, self-care, money, and relationships?
During challenging times, we need to recommit to what is important, set new goals, and become more responsible with our time, energy, and focus.
In today's episode, we are diving into the importance of art, flowers, and nature.
Why is it essential to put ourselves into experiences that blow our minds?
We are going to discuss amazing flowers.
Flowers have MORE senses than humans. They are able to remember, integrate, and respond to threats.
Let's talk about the gritty flowering capacity needed to convert a shame-based experience into a thriving one.
today I am talking about Harpist, Deborah Henson-Conant incredible grammy-nominated concert, "Invention & Alchemy".
In her concert, she uses stories and imagination to deconstruct the harp to ignite peace, freedom, and belonging.
And how we need to befriend chaos and tune into the instruments of our bodies.
When our bodies hold onto unconscious wars, they create chaotic symphonies.
We want to align within our body's chaotic forces in order to convert them into sublime harmonics.
Join me.
Receive a free ticket for her masterful concert! https://bit.ly/IA-RSVP
What is your relationship with the virus COVID-19?
In this episode, I am going to discuss threat responses with our Covid-19 relationship.
All our bodies have a relationship with Covid-19. For some people, it sparks outrage, others terror.
Whatever the case, it is critical to see how your relationship is impacting your life and organizing either resourceful or unhelpful behaviors.
Many of my clients have trauma bonded with Covid-19. As things start to reopen, the chaos of fear is creating barriers to move forward in healthy ways.
For others, it has sparked outrage, similar to BLM, whereas the government's response to COVID-19 is a system to be dismantled.
My job is not to take sides but to hold the middle space for inquiry, integration, and adaptability.
Many people are over-reaching rigid certainty which has them feel short term powerful but also powerlessness.
I refer to this system as an authoritarian and victim paradigm structure.
No one gets well in this system.
Everyone is trying to wake up the side that is sleeping, but NO ONE in this system is available for learning or awakened.
This system is the most chaotic. It organizes internal overreach and recreates victimization.
An integrated, growth paradigm structure is the optimal structure for health and well-being.
Whiteness is like an addiction: cunning, powerful, baffling.
Many of us are waking up from a Whiteness morphine drip. It is confusing, disorientating, and liberating.
I am working with the work Whiteness to help people locate their unconscious relationship with it.
When you think about it, none of our problems are technically difficult to explain.
Their difficulty resides in they are disconnected or in unconsciousness conflict.
In coherency, our creative powers are boundless.
When all of our organizing system (unconscious and conscious) can agree on what is important, what else might we achieve?
This is always the next question when we awaken to our power.
We are at a tipping point for systematic change. Let's continue to wake up and dismantle Whiteness and replace it with Humanity.
In this episode, we are going to look at how denial keeps a system in place.
I am going to talk about White Fragility and how we can hide behind the "good person", the "non-racist", the "one who has no problems" and YET we are in total denial.
I am gonna talk about how denial serves to keep us in a system that offers us an advantage. It also doesn't ask anything from us.
People, let's puncture denial. Let's greet reality even though it is messy, uncomfortable, and often shame-based.
Let's open our eyes, minds, and hearts to the problem of the day and align with dignity, grace, and equality for all.
I will be reading the preface of my book and part of the introduction of my book. I appreciate your feedback.
I am also including a link to receive a group coaching class with people from around the world sharing in the Untangle Work.
Let's do this together!
Let's talk about Southern Racism.
In this episode, I am sharing my Southern shame and the struggles of racism I had to confront within my family.
Let's talk about people who enable old systems fo racism to stay in motion.
Let's get uncomfortable and look are our own voiceless enabling.
Let's confront all the times we let racial slurs pass and said nothing, did nothing.
Let's come together behind the silence of shame and rattle awakening.
Let's form new voices that match our humanity's hearts to hear the cries of injustice.
Let's support Black Lives Matter until systematic reforms are integrated to support equality for all.
It is time to get uncomfortable people. It time to form assert voices that interrupt the old systems. It is time to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.
In this episode, we are diving into couple's shame and what to do about it.
Many times we stay stuck in the shame, not sure how to mobilize into a harmonious union again.
Things need to get addressed, issues need to be voiced in a healthy way, and space needed to help to discover each other again.
This episode is not only for the ladies, so gentlemen come to this space to gather some ideas of what you can do to move forward.
I must say, coaching couples is by far the most difficult space I hold for people. Triggering money issues and disastrous sexual trauma are difficult terrains to navigate.
However, it is possible to recover and thrive.
We have to become willing to put down our swords and pick up our hearts. We must be willing to meet somewhere new in order to discover each other again.
Sometimes it starts with a foot rub, a hand holding, a gesture of maybe. Whatever it is, lets start!
In this episode, I am going to teach you how to UNTANGLE a trigger.
Whether it is flight anxiety, asking for a raise, asserting your needs, whatever!
We need to get out of the Shark Water of emotional triggers.
We need to find new land to support our life more optimally.
Grab a piece of paper and pen to work the 3 Steps as a Triangle Formation.
Many people need the 3 Untangle Steps to be broken apart to better engage.
This Triangle Exercise has helped many! Stay with me, this is worth your time!
How do we unlock ourselves from shutting down or thaw a freeze?
Many of us, struggle to stay connected. We trained ourselves early in life to shut down or freeze to survive overwhelming sensations.
But that doesn't mean we need to build a life around a shut-down state!
We can learn skills to emerge out of a freeze and reclaim our lives.
It all starts with the body.
Join me as I walk you through my process to unwind from a freeze.
Let's talk about Mother's Day and the need for mothering.
Why do we become unavailable for mothering?
What is the difference between fixing ourselves and healthy mothering?
How do we cultivate healthy internal mothering to crawl us into new experiences?
Imagination is the ability to engage with present reality and form a mental image of something that is not perceived through the five senses.
Our imagination can hijack us in unhelpful ways or we can learn skills to master resourceful imagination.
Everyone possesses a certain degree of imagination ability.
Imagination makes it possible to experience a whole world inside the mind.
It gives the ability to look at any situation from a different point of view and to mentally explore the past and the future.
We need to create space in our lives to develop our imagination.
In this episode, we will explore our relationship to medicine.
What is your medicine?
Some of us try to find medicine in booze, pills, donuts, or shopping. This medicine is trying to buffer isolation, pain, confusion, disconnection.
Often, we try to control or dominate these behaviors because part of us is terrified to let them go.
Instead of managing the wars of self-hate and disconnection, we want to create space to explore our unconscious relationship with our medicine or with letting it go.
As we connect our unseen life with our seen experience, we access internal medicine to heal, thrive, and grow.
Here, we reunite with a deeper part of ourselves, a deeper part of life, a deeper belonging with life.
In this episode, you will learn:
How our response to a crisis or a difficult challenge is EVERYTHING.
How to gather clarity with our unconscious and why we need to understand it.
Why we need to wrap our arms around the Space of In-Between to transform our lives.
Instead of fighting with reality, we need to organize it differently to access a deeper organizing intelligence.
As we do, we create the conditions to thrive, no matter our external circumstances.
To learn more about our Untangle Programs: www.untangleandthrive.com
Purposeful freedom requires responsibility and commitment.
It requires we work differently to access clarity, energy, vision.
Without vision, we don't know what to do in the world.
We become stuck in the weeds of surviving everyday stresses, out of flow with life. H
ow we arrive to our committed vision is unique to each one of us.
In this episode, I am exploring this conversation from a spiritual and religious lens.
It is Passover. I want to draw forward elements of this holiday to engage in the conversation of how people unwind the bondage of slavery to access purposeful freedom.
To learn more, visit us:: https://www.untangleandthrive.com
In this episode, we reconnect our body's intelligence with time.
Time is not a heavy, complicated relationship. It is always there, always waiting for our undivided attention.
Many of us need to remember a time before the trauma of life and fear overtook our experiences.
Let's reconnect to the wonders of our body, of nature, of life.
Let's create time to support a harmonize life of connection.
Check out our Untangle Live Workshops: www.untangleandthrive.com
In this episode, we will explore how poetry and creative expression helps us connect in ways the mind cannot.
Why we all need stabilizing floors to access creativity
How poetry, dance, painting help us access aliveness, present reality, and connectedness
How we need to build skills to be with ALL of our feeling, the chaotic and terrifying as well as the profound and beautiful
Join us every Saturday for an Untangle Workshop, sign up here: www.untangleandthrive.com
You will learn:
How to locate creative ways to organize inside of a stressful time.
How to become more robust as we confront challenges in new ways.
How to work with your time, physical, emotional, and mental health actively
How to look toward nature, expand connectedness, and access stillness to stay sane, restore balance, and elevate our self-care.
During this global crisis, I am offering free Saturday Untangle Workshops.
Please visit: www.untangleandthrive.com to sign up.
II have been helping people convert crisis states into thriving states for over 20 years: financial crisis, addiction, divorce, loss, etc.
In this episode, we will learn why we need to regulate our response to systematic collapses in order to thrive in the face of difficulty.
The stock market collapse, the global shutdown, and our individual response will either drive more disorganization or create an environment of awakening.
Let's come together to strengthen connectedness, love, and consciousness.
Let's gather skills to identify areas in our life that need more of our attention, insight, and focus.
Let's stop indulging in rage, blame, and panic but rather create internal safety to use this time wisely to grow, learn, and restructure our personal, work, family, financial, and community systems.
Join us on the is journey.
We will be providing free online support to anyone who feels triggered and wants to learn skills to self-regulate, increase the capacity to thrive, and love even in the face of collapse. Email us at hello@untangleandthrive.com to receive a private link.
What you will discover:
What is the 100 percent commitment rule
How commitment terrified me for so long and what I had to do to untangle it.
How we waste so much time, energy living in the ambivalence of a 99 percent or 50 percent commitment.
Ambivalence consumes our energy without producing results.
In this episode, I want to help you locate your commitment block, untangle it, and jump into new water, paving the way for meaningful results.
For information regarding our Untangle & Thrive program, visit us here: www.untangleandthrive.com
What we will discover:
Our response to pain either creates more panic or neutralizes safety.
We are exploring the cycles of panic with the stock market, coronavirus, and global systems and how people, as well as the stock market, organize intelligence and data to establish a bottom.
What a bottom in the stock market looks like, and how it parallels to our bottoms.
In a time of uncertainty, we tend to either overreach into aggressive responses or disconnect by putting our heads in the sand.
Let's investigate how we can shift our responses to produce better experiences even in the face of collapse, crisis, or distress.
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What you will discover:
How unresolved trauma is recreated through family systems, which bleeds into organizational and political systems.
When we are threatened by another party or person, we struggle to locate the reality, cultivate present awareness, and create strong leadership.
When all our energy is going towards fighting unseen wars, we unconsciously create more massive battles.
The brain science of the Swing Voter and why we ALL need to become a Swing Voter for optimal brain health and organization. No more drama and trauma. No more attacking the other side.
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In this episode, you will discover:
- The Origins of our Money Story
- How much energy you waste by managing a broken money story
- How to locate your money story, understand their dynamics to change it
- Why connecting with your desires for money can create murkiness and confusion
We all worry in some ways. Many of us have big worries, others of us have smaller worries.
Many of us work to get rid of worry by over drinking, overeating, please pleasing, or avoiding. This only keeps the cycle of worry in play.
On the other side of worry is some really important information that you are going to want to access if your are planning to create the life you really want.
Instead of managing worry, we need skills to locate how worry is servicing us.
Worry is an emotion that invites examination. When we wake up to worry, we can awaken a part of us that is starving to become more fully expresses, seen, and unleashed.
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In this episode, we're diving deep into triggers. W
Why we avoid, deny, and fight our triggers and what we can do about it.
We'll talk about lessons from Kobe Bryant's air balls in 1997.
Kobe's response to this humiliating, embarrassing trigger allowed him to locate the weak spot to transform into success.
Often, we avoid our triggers because they are confusing, overwhelming, and uncomfortable. This has many of us pull away, isolate, or pick up the energy-draining fights.
In this episode, we will learn to look at our triggers with new eyes to see them differently.
As we get connect with our triggers, they no longer own us.
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What You Will Discover:
This is the 3rd Part of the Series.
When you are stuck in the past, you are locked away from your Creative Self System.
You are surviving sensations versus learning to belong to new sensations.
The Creative Self is the Part of us that can capture our freedom, the freedom to move, belong, and commit.
This Part of us integrates wholeness and peace.
This Part of us cultivates wellness by accessing the energy of joy, love, and harmony. , clears space from the Tangled Self system to locate attunement, and restore trust.
A creative technique to learn yourself into a new relationship that harmonizes your purposeful life.
I will teach you tips on how to access your Creative Self to expand connectedness, to play a little bit more, and take a creative risk.
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What You Will Discover:
The Organizer Self is the part of us that WAKES up to present reality, clears space from the Tangled Self system to locate attunement, and restore trust.
A creative technique to dissolve your mismatched message, unwind from it, and learn yourself into a message that harmonizes your purposeful life.
I will teach you tips on how to strengthen your Organizer Self by untangling a stressed, disorganized relationship in your life.
To Learn About Our Life Skills Program visit: www.untangleandthrive.com/program
To Learn About Our Life Skills Program visit: www.untangleandthrive.com/program
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
- How Punitive Self Talk creates trauma bonds. What is a trauma bond?
- How we become stuck in the mindset of “What the Hell is Wrong with Me Mindset?”
- We don’t build a life managing the symptoms of a disorganized system.
- The system producing our current life will NOT be the system to transform our lives.
- I will give you an example of how I unconsciously left behind my body over childhood trauma and didn’t even realize it until I was willing to go to the gym.
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What you will discover
- The basic premise of the "Untangle Method" and how it reflects the workings of the body and brain.
- How our limited capacities with connection leads us into disorganization.
- The system organizing our horrible results will not be the system which transforms them.
- Reorganizing system capacity versus changing our thoughts creates transforming results.
- How to locate and get safe with trying things and having your first experience.
- A quick meditation to receive pleasure and positive sensations.