Knowing the right thing is often easy, knowing the the right time and the right way to say it is hard.  If we are on social media or in person using our thumbs and tongues like chainsaws we will kill the patients that we are meant to heal.  Paul commands us, "to be gentle to all" and "to have nothing to do with stupid arguments," so that we can become like skillful surgeons.  Then people will actually listen to the things we have to say.  This message was given at a Men's event at Calvary Chapel Beaverton in Oregon.