Podcast #508 STAYING CONFIDENT WHEN NOTHING IS WORKING
Life can feel massively unfair, and like everything is working against you. If you've found yourself ever feeling like nothing is working, or like things are happening for everyone but you, then this episode is for you. Learn how to reframe unfairness and stay confident when you feel discouraged or are losing faith. You'll also get the top 10 new thoughts you can practice thinking that will help you curate belief for when you feel down or discouraged. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/508 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
Staying confident when nothing is working, and when life just feels massively unfairHow to reframe unfairness in a way that allows you to embrace the duality of feeling good and not feeling good as simply part of life10 thoughts to curate belief for when you feel down
THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF…
-Everyone else is getting pregnant, and you're struggling with infertility.
-All of your friends are married and you don't even have a boyfriend.
-Their business is taking off, and yours isn't
-They got their dream job and you can't get a second interview.
-Your best friend got into her dream school, and you've got 5 rejection letters.
-Your friend got a trust fund and a ridiculous starting salary and your parents have no connections
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HOW TO DEAL WITH WHAT FEELS UNFAIR
Life isn't fair.
Fair is a four-letter word in our family.
Fair is not a useful concept.
However, much of the "unfairness" that happens in the world is not within our control. And if that's the case, how productive is it to dwell on what's fair and unfair?
Unfairness creates victimhood. Viewing yourself as a victim tends to keep you in the past and promotes a sense of powerlessness.
Maybe you wish you had a different family
Maybe you wish you had a different body
Maybe you wish you had a different brain
Maybe you wish you had a different personality
Maybe you wish you had a different struggle
I was stuck in unfairness for years - and as a result, I missed out on much of the sweetness and blessing that I did have.
It felt unfair to come from a family with struggles.
It felt unfair to have to struggle with body image.
It felt unfair to be from a small town and have a dad who is a plumber.
It felt unfair to not be the girl the boys chased.
It felt unfair to not have a person to fall in love with until I was 30
It felt unfair to have someone squat on my property and make me lose thousands of dollars I didn't have.
Everyone here is a victim of life's unfairness.
This life is so unfair that we are being brought to this life without our consent, and as well die without death asking for our permission before taking us away.
The moment you start thinking about why life is hard for you, that's when you start being unfair to yourselves. Accept the fact that you can’t always be happy, winning, or not getting sick.